I love this video so much. I just discovered I have ADHD at 61 years old. I was a flight attendant for 33 years and recently was let go for an accident I had in training. It was very difficult for me, but now I understand from your videos and other coaches that my ADHD probably had a lot to do with it. It certainly had a lot to do with how I feel in that particular industry. 20 years at one airline was perfect. This one at 13 was challenging. Thanks for enlightening me and hopefully I will land in my next career that I love just as much, with your help.
2 months I am already bored , I am always asking what's New today, show me this New part of homede software even if not related what I have to do the same day!!
I just started a new job and I already want to leave sooo bad. I JUST WANT SOME MONEY TO LIVE. I HATE pretending that I enjoy work. I just want to be free.
a confirmed diagnosis of adhd qualifies for disability insurance through social security, must provide medical proof, this at least provides some income, there are limitations though
I wish recruiters and employers understood this! I usually feel like quutting after two years. I hate monotony and being hamstrung from adding my creativity.
AuDHD here - I’ve never been able to hold the same job for more than 3 years. It just never works for me regardless of the job. It always feels like I was born in the wrong body, world, and hell…universe most days. None of this makes any sense to me and never has. Now that I’m close to 40 I feel even more confused and alone.
24 year old here. I recently chose a good paying career path but am now not sure if I even like it. I love the freedom of being able to move around the country at a moments notice but I just signed a 1 year lease only three months ago. I feel trapped yo
✋️ Seasoned adult here lol. Diagnosed at 47 after I lost my dream job for chronic tardiness. FFwd 5 years and an autoimmune disorder later, I am struggling to define the career I can do physically and mentally that also keeps my squirrels happy. YOU Caren are the canteen in my desert! Tons of knowledge delivered succinctly with a sprinkle of humor and the girlfriend vibe that makes us all wanna go out for cocktails with you 😊 THANK YOU for all you are doing! ❤
My job too has issues with me being late and don't want to be flexible it's very frustrating because I work so hard and don't take my full breaks sometimes. I work the full hours im supposed to work and have worked late before and havent minded as long as i know im making work easier for everybody and helping people. Now theres coworkers saying I want to set my own hours and i do a bad job and it was heartbreaking for me even though i dont want to care so much about what the toxic coworkers have to say aboht me . so much workplace gossip They want to make everyone the same. Like clones of each other
@@britndayzjust some advice, get your doctor to sign an accomodations form... It's saved me so much, and they have to figure out a way to accommodate you. ADHD is a disability and is covered under the Americans with Disabilities Act
Moving jobs every 18 - 24 months is a valid career strategy to increase experience and salary. See how far loyalty gets you when the big headcount reduction comes around.
Fair point however only if you stay in the same career field. Otherwise you won't necessarily get a higher salary since you're a junior again. Also, you'll have to come up with a clear explanation at the interview to avoid looking like a habitual career hopper
When you're not overstaffed you don't have to worry near as much about headcount reduction. The small business I work for can easily (well, maybe not EASILY) replace me, but no way in heck can they eliminate the position. But I will say it's a lot more difficult to take days off as well. Can't have it all I guess.
Yes, I'm trying to decide what career I want to pursue next and I'm already thinking of why I'll hate each one. I don't even want to commit to anything anymore because I know I can't stick with it when it becomes boring. I think I have to figure out how to start my own business.. so many good ideas but can't get any of them done
I'm on my 2nd business idea and while this one I actually took to production I'm now getting bored and have many other ideas I want to pursue but know fully well I'll never take anything to the point of being proud of it if I continue this way.
I have my own basic service business as well and its honestly a lifesaver. I struggle to work under others but I am so motivated to work for myself. have been self employed for 7 years
for the last couple of months I've been thinking I have ADHD, but when I think of myself as a kid, I remember myself being introverted, shy and maybe too quiet (I don't really remember tbh), but then I find videos like this one and it resonates a lot. I've quit all my jobs, I'm impulsive (not as much as before), I find it impossible to do basic chores and I don't know why, my mind is working 24/7 like crazy, I get bored easily, I find it difficult to concentrate, indeed I find it crazy that I need to work in busy places like Starbucks in order to be productive, etc...
Same! What is it about the buzz around us that makes us work better? Is it that we retreat within because the chaos around us makes us zone out? There must be a scientific answer to this. I work alone at home and always put on a walking tour of some busy city to hear all the noise.
I’ve been like that too when I was a kid and I am more than 100 % sure I have adhd, now on my last part of my diagnosis. For women it shows a bit different, our adhd is more internalized. Basic chores are the worst, I fully agree with everything you said!
41, Chronically late job hopping rage quitter here. When you said consciously didn’t have children I cried that’s me, not because I don’t want but because my brain is broken 😂. I just started watching these videos. I just always felt I couldn’t manage myself and have kids. Anyway, I work in an industry that’s horrible for ADHD, advertising. I’ve been trying to get out for years. Thanks for these videos I’m going to beat this and be a millionaire before I die!
@@aliciabodington3272 I assume there are some creative roles that work for some people but to answer your question: staying organized, tight deadlines, constant multiple competing priorities, my poor ability to set boundaries and saying yes to everything, taking vacations is a death sentence so I just work until I’m burned out, certain entities within the industry are unreasonable because they control the purse strings so there is a lot of valueless busy data entry type work that could be better organized but there is no standardization across the industry where it matters, and after going hard for a year or so I struggle to get my mojo back and end up depressed and questioning the purpose of life.
for me a really big one is when i start to feel like i'm getting overworked or taken advantage of. when my positive emotions about a job and the direction it's going are positive i'm 110%. but as soon as i start to feel taken advantage of or feel like you cant keep your side of the bargin i'm all out and miss alot of work
I worked for a company for 25 years, at a job I really hated, because they keep pushing "we're a family." The pandemic started and they eliminated my position at every branch. I have been at my current job for over two years and my ADHD has told me it's time to bounce. The days of loyalty to jobs are over.
I'm glad my company never says that. Even though I've been there 17 years and my supervisor and I have seen each other's kids grow up. We got families at home. We don't need them at work. We can be friends though.
I had that too. Except before pandemic, and at my 5th year of working there. The "family" kicked me out because I and my manager were very different people. I have a PTSD from it, seriously. Since then I'm very cynical about any ideologies
Thank you for this! I have a lot of guilt and shame around my job history and my longest job was one I could decide the day of if I felt like working 😂.
the only way for me to put an end to my job-hopping which lasted a decade (from 1981 to 1990) was to consult a psychiatrist. I explained my situation to him and I asked him if he could prescribe me a sick leave that would allow me to get through the period of instability that I was going through then. that's what he did: after 15 days off I went back to work until I retired 27 years later.
@@kashifrana6798 I did nothing except let time pass (don't they say that time is a great healer): in this situation, I combined the fact of not losing my job by choosing the radical solution of resignation with the exciting prospect of returning to work after reaching the end of the tunnel. it was a way to limit the devastating effects of frustration - loss of individual freedom, pleasing others through false self-sacrifice, need for recognition from others, etc, etc, -. I thus learned not to constantly repeat the same mistakes: to make rash decisions whose consequences extended to people other than me and then to start all over again from the beginning in the quest for a new job. for 27 years I did not work at the same pace as the others but as my work was essentially framed by a calendar I always finished on time and I managed exceptions by establishing to-do lists. I would have liked to have an individualized workspace but as it was not possible and therefore I was distracted all the time, I accelerated the pace of work when I was alone.
@@CarenMagill in fact, it was a kind of tactic: when I left my job I was in a kind of euphoric state for 2 or 3 days because I had the gripping sensation of having regained my freedom but on the fourth day the reality and common sense kicked in and I found myself on the starting line with a blocked perspective and I had to admit that I had made a very bad decision. I had made the same mistake 4 or 5 times in a row in 10 years. so I said to myself that I had to find a happy medium: neither resignation nor depression but a median situation in which I would limit the anguish of the loss of work and all the consequences of a socio-economic order and the solution was the sickness leave issued by a psychiatrist (sick leave issued by a psychiatrist was generally not subject to medical supervision by the social insurance fund).
The longest jobs I’ve had are places that I quit and returned to several times! Also, I’m a nurse so I was able to work two jobs at a time also, one part time and one per diem, at the same time so I could have flexibility. Idk what it is but taking time off from each job made me more focused when I came back. Weird huh? My resume is ridiculous after 40 years of nursing.
Caren, I love you. Thanks for being you. Wow, you are describing me. I am 63, undiagnosed with ADHD. I never stayed at a job more than 2 years. I just got fed up with Management, co-workers, the surroundings and lousy pay. I did finish college, but not in 4 years. I chose not to have children and I have never married. I have moved all over the country out of the need for change and in search of a better job. I do better in jobs where the boss gives specific things to accomplish, but with minimal management. I hated that we are a team BS at work. I always got unsatisfactory marks in school as a child for "Listens well and follows directions." I am often so super focused on some things that the day can go by, and I wonder where it went. I always felt so stressed out and impulsive in my youth and never fit in with people. As I am older and look at people in society, I wonder WTF.
Teaching! That's the niche specifically suited for ADHD/ADD. Were bad at studying things that don't interest us directly. Teaching is the thing that works very well for ADHD, since we are easily prone to dopamine through teaching others, it's one of the few sustainable dopamine rushes apparantly that ADHD brains don't get bored of. So if u have a hyper obsession of focus for topics that u might not even realize, note that down, make a list, find skills that people can use, teach it to others, the more skills u can combine together in a course or profession the better, finding something that directly hits ur interest is important, but its almost necessary, to people with ADHD/ADD.
Thank you for this video and advice. I graduated with my Bachelors in psychology and have been feeling lost and overwhelmed with what I want career wise. I have ADHD and I'm constantly jumping around from Job to Job. I Recently got a job offer but realized it was not a good fit. I am currently exploring and learning about myself, in hopes to find a good career fit.
There's people who deeply dislike ADHD people, perhaps people full of complexes or psychopats that like to bully others, but in every job I've been I've found at least one of those who have no issue in attacking you till you think about leaving the job not to bear with their abuse. There's something about adhd (innocence, perhaps) that triggers bullies and horrible persons.
man, it took my loooonnnnngggggggg time to realize this. I realized i can't change who I am so no book or meditation, etc. is gonna "cure me" I just accepted it's who I am and no longer worry about starting and stopping jobs/hobbies. I do it until I don't like it anymore and as long as it doesn't hurt myself or my family, I move on. Live is about experiencing everything we can imo in these few trips we have around the sun
I lose interest in my job (I'm a self-employed graphic designer) when I don't get as much projects to do as I wanted... I tried to design my own products, but they never sold. I tried new things like book binding, baking, but with no success. I keep on failing, and I just don't know what to do to get out of that rut. I've been recently diagnosed with ADD, I'm 34... now everything makes sense to me.
I’ve been feeling very lost with my career lately. Work has almost always been something that I just try to “get through” so I can go home and do what I want. These were great questions. Thank you for sharing this.
I did Walmart 6 years many roles my favorite was the 3 years as asset protection manager- I got adrenaline rush when I got to catch thieves and work derailed cctv cases but also could change task if I got bored with cctv I could work on data analysis or a creative class I wanted to teach associate or make a cute safety board etc everyday was different and in retail you plan to have your plans interrupted. Currently doing transportation logistics- each order is different/needs etc so I tend to hyper focus and time flies
This is the best video I've seen on this! I have recently come to terms with the fact that i probably have adhd, still seeking diagnosis as I'm out of work currently. I quit my retail management job about 6 months ago because I finally burned out and I've been trying and for the most part failing to get my "freelance design business" going. I have been paralyzed by doubt over what direction to go in and bot sure why i cant figure out how to get started when i have all the skills and tools i need. This video has made things SO clear to me. I quit things a lot when theyre about 80% through and i am scared that I'll do the same once i get going on this too. But your tips have been SO insightful. I'm going to apply this and follow you forEVER! Thank you so much for your advice!
I'm one of those who did stay at jobs due to fear of homelessness. I don't know what I am good at doing....I worked for the USPS for 24 years and now I drive delivery for an auto parts company. I try to change things up by taking different routes back to the store.
Finding your channel things are beginning to make sense. Connecting the dots backwards I was diagnosed at 30 by a very good doctor…now I am ready to accept this as truth and have tools and knowledge from those who have navigated issues with success to help me see rather than blindly getting my butt kicked daily, yearly decade after decade. I too have a degree in psychology and my social media is full of personal growth, spiritual growth, physical growth and so on …channels. One area that I think I would be a good fit for regards cptsd and trauma coaching but I don’t want to be a therapist per se …currently I am in trucking and I have stability but it’s killing me so I have to find a way to do it that works for me. Otherwise it’s back to the instability cycle. Thank you !!!
It's important to note job fields can have the same types of personalities. Pointing fingers and saying people with ADHD may play victim if their bosses sucked isn't helpful. People with ADHD do get bullied and picked on in the workplace, as anyone with a disability can. The better question to ask is this: Are you choosing the same types of jobs which in turn will have the same types of personalities running the department? I.e. narcissists, energy vampires, or other toxic traits that can drain the joy from the job! I stayed in places I loved, with the worst bosses and gave myself chronic illness from abuse. Know when to leave, know why you keep picking the same jobs, understand what your triggers are, make different choices if/when possible.
Totally agree 💯, I have ADHD and always meet bosses that are narcissistic or plain cruel. My last ex boss was a manipulator and a bully. He gave me a medication I was allergic to without asking if I had any & when I told him about it after I swallowed the pill he said it was in my head, but I had to rush to the ER. He was super ambiguous, a poor communicator, giving me task without specific instructions. Once he made me push 10 heavy boxes down a steep slope backwards without helping(I’m a petite girl) with a heart condition. When I told him I felt chest pain he said that is normal. After my heart surgery I was entitled to 14 days hospitalisation leave but I never took, he force me to go down to a client site to do strenuous activity. I didn’t dare to take a single medical leave because he threaten me not to take any AL for 6 months, even after I pass my 3 months probation. I can hardly keep a job for more than a year. My 2nd previous boss was a boomer who refuse to listen to my ideas, and made my life harder at the work place hence I became more assertive. The last 2 places I worked at didn’t have anyone in the office, I felt super bored as I prefer to work with people, so I can talk to them. It sucks to work alone. I’m an 100% extrovert. I had like 12 jobs over the past few years, I’m 26. My boyfriend calls me a job hopper which I’m not.
I have 2 completely sleepless nights due to anxiety over this job I'm 3 months in to. I'm ready to run because of the crazy work loads we're given (EVEN AS NEWCOMERS), and I already have serious PTSD when I pushed myself into total burnout 3 years ago and it took me a year and a half to bounce back. I'm not putting myself in that situation again. I thought I was making a good decision because the one job I stayed at for 5 years also had to do with cars but I feel so stupid for getting suckered into another well paying position that didn't require a 4 year degree. I feel like society hates me and wants to starve me out of any future.
I am going to get evaluated for ADHD at 31… My 10 year old was just diagnosed and I related to everything her doctor said. I am a preschool teacher so it is constant chaos which I thrive in. I love building up the misunderstood child. I am also giving the freedom to be creative without being judged. I ended up majoring in Child Development after years of trying to work in an office.
OMG, we need more energy like that in the classroom. Especially building kids up and being an advocate for neurodivergent kiddos!!!!! Teachers are heros IMO
I have this brain structure but the recession made me unemployed and then pandemic I lost my job. Hence, why I have been anxious to leave but I ended up saving so that I can have a backup since I have been traumatized from the unemployment and underemployment. However, the jobs I have had up to today have allowed me to travel between work locations and I was never stuck in the same place, so in a sense I was able to have a change of scenery for my ADHD brain. Though I do desire to leave but I do need a challenge because I am not learning anymore.
This definitely translates to college. 6 years ago, fresh out of high school, I didnt even make it a full semester before I dropped out. I was failing, dropping out of classes one by one till finally I just left altogether. Thankfully I left before I changed my major 50 thousand times and went into any debt, as I'm sure that's what would have happened if I had stayed. I said id go back if I ever figured out what I wanted to do but it never happened. My interests change too much. Anyway, thank you for this video! I never understood why I couldnt just settle on a career like my friends did. I thought I was just picky and indecisive. ❤️
That’s me and for a long time I’ve wondering why! Now I know and I understand myself more when I’ve learn about woman with ADHD. I am now starting my new business and I will fight with my brain to keep this sustainable. 😊
Here because I feel like a failure at my job. Inattentive medicated me can't move as fast as the unmedicated hyperactive folks that seem to be the most valued where I work. Coupled that with working in retail pharmacy where I am constantly overstimulated (no time for bathroom, no breaks, and it can take hours of non stop ringing up folks before I can drink a sip of water) and so brain fried I haven't showered in weeks It's like any time I find a job I feel strongly about, I end up feeling like I'm not enough anymore.... I've only ever quit jobs due to moving away, though, cause I can't let myself quit no matter how toxic.. I don't even know what to do cause I feel so beat down by not living up to my expectations and the expectations I feel like others have for me....
@@ElinWinblad Not sure how I never saw the notification for this. Was at a major retailer, but the job was very very structured so it didn't allow for that variety. It is something I am looking for in next job, though 🥰
I don't have ADHD and I still wouldn't mind quitting work. I've been at the same place for over 17 years though. It helped having a really HORRIBLE job before my current one, so I knew I was in a place where the grass was much greener, even though nothing will ever be as green as a funded retirement. But I'll never have that much money, which is why I keep working.
I switched careers more times than I can count. However, I noticed that I was always the most successful when I just jumped into long-term commitments. The military was a pretty impulsive move, but it locked me in for years, obviating the risk of job-hopping. I meandered about adulthood until deciding to go to medical school. The massive student loan debt again kept me from job-hopping because I had no choice. Honestly the best move I've ever made. Of course I'm a lot older getting out of residency than most folks, but I love what I do and it's a stimulating career that's locked me in. I now just use my hobbies to puddle-hop through life, leaving behind myriad abandoned endeavors. lol
I am 37 years old in my whole life I never had hold a job more 3 month max I quit because of boredom.I never finished college and even my school life when I was 10 i didn't want to go to school never complete my homework but interested in video games and I can dedicate my attention for 12 hours long sessions.I recently found out something about me that I have dissociation disorder as well my disassociation was keeping me to find about myself.Its recent that I found out I have problems since childhood.
The word "career" sends a cold shiver up my spine. At every job I've been on, I've never been able to see myself making a career out of it. I can't even wrap my head around the concept of someone even being in the same job field for 10+ years. Let alone being at a single company that long. That being said, reality is a hefty over-sized roadblock. Meaning, that what it would take to do the things I love doing as a job is just not feasible. Wasn't when I had kids at home and isn't now. The latter requiring a long explanation and I won't do here.
Thank you so much for this video and your tips, I really needed to analyze this and needed hope today. I’ve been struggling with this for years and feel like an alien when compared to my friends and family members who tend to be stable. I’m so glad to know that there are tools to help people like me and that there is a community just like me that can function in society.
The only time I stayed in a job longer than 2 years was when my role within the company changed regularly. 13 years until my health forced me to retire! Is there some kind of ADHD prize for that? I feel like there should be a prize.
Haha Ive had sooo many jobs.... Im not diagnosed with ADHD yet..... but I get bored after 2 years, and exit 4th or 5th year. I think I thrive on having a mixture of jobs
Carreer is a bad word these days. Nothing seems to last more than 3 to 5 years ! I don’t even want to have to do the same thing everyday , how mundane and unmotivating ! My dream would be to have multiple Jobs each week , all that are based on my passions and have a partner or assistant to help grow each of the businesses ! 😊
Job jumping. Mostly I couldn't remember my job duties and gave me anxiety which made my memory more difficult. Because I got bored after I learned, time would drag. I'm retired now. Pheww
Not having kids is way too giant of a sacrifice in a lifetime, imho. I had kids and confirmed for me that all the time before kids was wasted time. I also believe that the greatest gift you can give to a child is a sibling or two.
I wish half of the day was novelty and the other half routine. Have been RN for 20 years, 10 jobs over all. Before that I always felt bored after one year at minimum wage jobs. I always wondered why I could never stay at any one place for long. But healthcare is draining and I want out.
I’ll draft this resignation letter - only to see what it looks like/get the thoughts out of my head, obvs…. did I just press send?! It’s such a relief to realise other people have this going on - and the issues of shame around it. Thanks for sharing your expertise. I’ve only recently started to wonder about ADHD (or low needs autism). In the past I’ve had observations from family members who’ve noted that I can’t hold down jobs or relationships - and put it down to childhood bullying. I’ve personally put it down to depression (or just bad choices in the case of relationships) - but now probably too late in life I wonder if something else is going on.
Omggg my ADD symptoms & social anxiety contradict each other.. Amm actually screwed lol. Basically an extrovert with social anxiety that needs lots of stimulation. What a disaster mix!
Very interesting topic. I will dive deeper into it when feeling better. Thank you Caren. Just a note: Having my children has been such a blessing in my life, their company has helped me in indescribable ways, appart from the love and warmth I've received, I value my life in a deeper way because of them. I have been able to have stability in my life that I wouldn't of had otherwise. They've been the best medicine 🥰
I can relate to your comment. I feel like my kids saved me. They brought light into my world and gave me the confidence to reach my highest potential in this life. I always say that I wish I had them sooner.
I have failed 4 grades in school until I finally dropped out, have been fired from every job ive had, three divorces and no Friends and my family looks down on me..I am convinced that I am a natural born loser
Cool except "victim mentality" isn't always a mentality. Sure, maybe sometimes, but it may be an adaptive trauma response or a legit realization that your work environment/colleagues are toxic! You can try to mentally reframe it all you want, but be careful not to gaslight others/yourself in the process if you actually have been victimized....
But if it’s at every job, then you have to look at the common denominator. ADHD is not understood nor “accepted “ in most corporate jobs. If you have a victim mentality, you will attract toxic behavior. You have to realize that you are in control of your reactions to change the outcomes in anything you do. Not dismissing you at all because I have seen this behavior displayed towards those that are considered “inept “ within their positions. Only to realize once they were let go or left, how much they held it together.
I love this video. I am trying to line up my way of being with my choices. I do have children and their father passed away. He was the one that helped me with motivation and he was so consistent that I was able to be less so. Now my difficulties are really becoming overwhelming, so also dreaming up solutions. Creative solutions. Like moving in with my family for a few months to get help with kids and developing 3 month work projects. Rotating country, home and work. Thats my solution for this year. We'll see how it goes.
I haven’t yet done an apprenticeship, let alone studied something. I’m glad I got through school. But that makes the job choices I have not the best. I want to better myself but I’m so scared whatever I start again I’ll fail.
My dream job fell out of the sky when i wasnt looking. A job as Fabricator Welder on the prototype line at Koenigsegg Automotive. I passed my interview with flying colors and am now booked for a two day work test. I am 62 i am just having my first ever bout of Shingles ( vericella zoster ) and i have also been notified by my doctor that i need a hip replacement as i have Osteonecrosis. What a bummer...😭
Undiagnosed ADHD, the longest job Ive ever had was driving a bus for 2 years and that was because I wasn't working closely with people at the job. My second job was front desk and I lost that one when I start interacting with the coworkers. It's my behaviors and my attitude. I don't think with the right side of my brain. I tried to get diagnosed but they always diagnose me with depression but they never asked me why Im depressed. I had to figure everything out on my own and Im sure it's ADHD cause they symptoms are relatable. I'm now more aware of myself and have found that meditation, exercise, breathing techniques and shadow working has helped but Im still feeling lost as far as finding my passion as far as job and entrepreneur interests. This has been a painful and isolated journey for sure.
This was an amazing video for me to watch❤ you just showed me the groundwork I need to start about what career path I need to take (currently working fast food and have ADHD)
I really enjoyed this video. Caren, you threw out so many interesting questions for each of us to ask ourselves. I wish I had been asked these questions in my 20's!
I have the opposite problem. I have had one job for 12 years. A retail job. I’m too afraid to quit. I watch people get hired at a rate more than mine even though I have the most experience and I still stay. I have put in so many applications and no one is calling me back. I feel stuck especially since my fiancé said I need to make a certain salary before we can get married. 😢 idk
I’m 33 and have been struggling to stay motivated at work/job my current job isn’t the best hot long hrs they work you like a robot. I feel disappointed doing the job every day and burnt out. I feel like I’m done doing hard laboring jobs because my body won’t last forever. so currently trynna find something new that’s not as intense but gives me excitement and fulfillment I just would like a job I don’t hate in a months time
Unfortunately, I'm an extremely consistent *volunteer* . 😭 Do you know how broke that makes someone? I've quit volunteerism since this realization. More happy, AND more work for retired folk to indulge themselves in 😊 _Be my guest as you continue to collect your pension/ SS... I ain't mad atcha_ But seriously, it's criminal how orgs conveniently find reasonable workloads when they're paying some contractor to do the work.
Im 32, diagnosed at 5, ive had over 30 jobs since i was 20 and the last thing i want to do is go back to ritalin. I hate this, i wish i was like everyone else so it wasn’t so difficult to make a living.
I had a job I enjoyed before the pandemic hit. I would have stayed longer if there wasn't for the change of CEO, whose values didn't align with mine, and even more inexperienced than the former CEO. After quitting, I took a course to upgrade myself. Even then, I'm having trouble re-entering my former industry, and the industry I took my course in. All this before I even considered I might have ADHD.
Well, in a more or less qualified area you'll need about a half a year just to learn the new environment enough to be confident in what you do at the new job. The company gives you this time to learn and pay you in hope you'll last for more than one year. So yes, if you quit quickly. it's hard to consider you a reliable employee. I would not consider you even a reliable colleague cause the training I gave you will be wasted, even I totally understand your eager for a new and challenging stuff.
I have allowed myself to have been stuck in a career field I have HATED for the last 20+ years, even changing jobs hasn’t helped at this point, I hate it Sooo much that I want to quit any new job before i even start it!! Healthcare is AWFUL
Shout to anyone watching this who just started a new job and immediately realized, ohhhh shit, this was NOT a good choice lol. Pray for me inattentive gang. 😂
I haven't been able keep a job for more than 3 months without having a mental and body breakdown. I feel so bad. Even if I really like the job, I always come to a point in which I started to get depressed. I quited my job again. I got very sick and depressed. I feel so immature for a 40 yo woman with a kid. 😢😢. It's so confusing. I applying for a teaching job. I love teaching kids, I love people. I just hope my body won't collapse again.
It's my favourite part of any job - leaving
I love this video so much. I just discovered I have ADHD at 61 years old. I was a flight attendant for 33 years and recently was let go for an accident I had in training. It was very difficult for me, but now I understand from your videos and other coaches that my ADHD probably had a lot to do with it. It certainly had a lot to do with how I feel in that particular industry. 20 years at one airline was perfect. This one at 13 was challenging. Thanks for enlightening me and hopefully I will land in my next career that I love just as much, with your help.
Saaaaaaameeeee
Yes... lunch time and clocking out...lol
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oh my god you exposed me.
My brain gets bored once it’s figured out the job once it becomes repetitive I quit.
2 months I am already bored , I am always asking what's New today, show me this New part of homede software even if not related what I have to do the same day!!
So how do you coup?
What then do you do?
I just started a new job and I already want to leave sooo bad. I JUST WANT SOME MONEY TO LIVE. I HATE pretending that I enjoy work. I just want to be free.
Omg this comment sums up what im feeling good to know im not alone
I'm happy that I'm not the only one!!
a confirmed diagnosis of adhd qualifies for disability insurance through social security, must provide medical proof, this at least provides some income, there are limitations though
@@knitsnloopswhat country are you in?
I wish recruiters and employers understood this! I usually feel like quutting after two years. I hate monotony and being hamstrung from adding my creativity.
Same attention span for me. I got about two years in a job and I'm ready to fly
For me I left some after 3 month when there was something I just could accept, I also cannot just keep going. It’s done then.🤷🏼♀️
Unfortunately they don't care. They just want to find the cheapest person who can do the job well enough
They Will NEVER understand this...
I just do creative stuff at home. It helps me keep up the boring stuff at work.
Minimalism and reducing responsibilities is key for ADHDers.
AuDHD here - I’ve never been able to hold the same job for more than 3 years. It just never works for me regardless of the job. It always feels like I was born in the wrong body, world, and hell…universe most days. None of this makes any sense to me and never has. Now that I’m close to 40 I feel even more confused and alone.
Me too
3 years is also my cut off 😂
24 year old here. I recently chose a good paying career path but am now not sure if I even like it. I love the freedom of being able to move around the country at a moments notice but I just signed a 1 year lease only three months ago. I feel trapped yo
3yrs???😮 I cant even last for 3mos
✋️ Seasoned adult here lol. Diagnosed at 47 after I lost my dream job for chronic tardiness. FFwd 5 years and an autoimmune disorder later, I am struggling to define the career I can do physically and mentally that also keeps my squirrels happy. YOU Caren are the canteen in my desert! Tons of knowledge delivered succinctly with a sprinkle of humor and the girlfriend vibe that makes us all wanna go out for cocktails with you 😊 THANK YOU for all you are doing! ❤
aw, thank you so much!!
@@CarenMagill just discovered your channel and thank you for what you do - you probably have no idea how many people you’re helping!
My job too has issues with me being late and don't want to be flexible it's very frustrating because I work so hard and don't take my full breaks sometimes. I work the full hours im supposed to work and have worked late before and havent minded as long as i know im making work easier for everybody and helping people. Now theres coworkers saying I want to set my own hours and i do a bad job and it was heartbreaking for me even though i dont want to care so much about what the toxic coworkers have to say aboht me . so much workplace gossip They want to make everyone the same. Like clones of each other
@@britndayzjust some advice, get your doctor to sign an accomodations form... It's saved me so much, and they have to figure out a way to accommodate you. ADHD is a disability and is covered under the Americans with Disabilities Act
Hello! (I see you, comrade.)
Moving jobs every 18 - 24 months is a valid career strategy to increase experience and salary. See how far loyalty gets you when the big headcount reduction comes around.
Fair point however only if you stay in the same career field. Otherwise you won't necessarily get a higher salary since you're a junior again. Also, you'll have to come up with a clear explanation at the interview to avoid looking like a habitual career hopper
Strategy is the key word there - as in intentional moves with a specific goal and path mapped out and even a plan B in place. Huge difference
When you're not overstaffed you don't have to worry near as much about headcount reduction. The small business I work for can easily (well, maybe not EASILY) replace me, but no way in heck can they eliminate the position. But I will say it's a lot more difficult to take days off as well. Can't have it all I guess.
Yes, I'm trying to decide what career I want to pursue next and I'm already thinking of why I'll hate each one. I don't even want to commit to anything anymore because I know I can't stick with it when it becomes boring. I think I have to figure out how to start my own business.. so many good ideas but can't get any of them done
I'm on my 2nd business idea and while this one I actually took to production I'm now getting bored and have many other ideas I want to pursue but know fully well I'll never take anything to the point of being proud of it if I continue this way.
I really wanna find out how to “stack” myself as an entrepreneur instead of ruining every sandcastle I build after I’m over it….
Exactly 💯
True story 👏😂 I’m the same
Same here I'm very sad
I have my own business working with dogs and it helps massively
I have my own basic service business as well and its honestly a lifesaver. I struggle to work under others but I am so motivated to work for myself. have been self employed for 7 years
for the last couple of months I've been thinking I have ADHD, but when I think of myself as a kid, I remember myself being introverted, shy and maybe too quiet (I don't really remember tbh), but then I find videos like this one and it resonates a lot. I've quit all my jobs, I'm impulsive (not as much as before), I find it impossible to do basic chores and I don't know why, my mind is working 24/7 like crazy, I get bored easily, I find it difficult to concentrate, indeed I find it crazy that I need to work in busy places like Starbucks in order to be productive, etc...
you may be both autistic and ADHD
Same! What is it about the buzz around us that makes us work better? Is it that we retreat within because the chaos around us makes us zone out? There must be a scientific answer to this. I work alone at home and always put on a walking tour of some busy city to hear all the noise.
I’ve been like that too when I was a kid and I am more than 100 % sure I have adhd, now on my last part of my diagnosis.
For women it shows a bit different, our adhd is more internalized.
Basic chores are the worst, I fully agree with everything you said!
41, Chronically late job hopping rage quitter here. When you said consciously didn’t have children I cried that’s me, not because I don’t want but because my brain is broken 😂. I just started watching these videos. I just always felt I couldn’t manage myself and have kids. Anyway, I work in an industry that’s horrible for ADHD, advertising. I’ve been trying to get out for years. Thanks for these videos I’m going to beat this and be a millionaire before I die!
Why is advertising not good for ADHD?
@@aliciabodington3272 I assume there are some creative roles that work for some people but to answer your question: staying organized, tight deadlines, constant multiple competing priorities, my poor ability to set boundaries and saying yes to everything, taking vacations is a death sentence so I just work until I’m burned out, certain entities within the industry are unreasonable because they control the purse strings so there is a lot of valueless busy data entry type work that could be better organized but there is no standardization across the industry where it matters, and after going hard for a year or so I struggle to get my mojo back and end up depressed and questioning the purpose of life.
I'm 40 and chronically late job hopping rage quitter describes me perfectly as well! 😆
I have to start my own businesses. Just can't stick with anything and have messed up my life so much I have to get out of that first somehow
Mine is 3 weeks to 3 months... A Year would be an achievment.
for me a really big one is when i start to feel like i'm getting overworked or taken advantage of. when my positive emotions about a job and the direction it's going are positive i'm 110%. but as soon as i start to feel taken advantage of or feel like you cant keep your side of the bargin i'm all out and miss alot of work
I worked for a company for 25 years, at a job I really hated, because they keep pushing "we're a family." The pandemic started and they eliminated my position at every branch. I have been at my current job for over two years and my ADHD has told me it's time to bounce. The days of loyalty to jobs are over.
I hate that "were a family" shit too. I have never received a Xmas or B Day card from my former employers.
I'm glad my company never says that. Even though I've been there 17 years and my supervisor and I have seen each other's kids grow up. We got families at home. We don't need them at work. We can be friends though.
I had that too. Except before pandemic, and at my 5th year of working there. The "family" kicked me out because I and my manager were very different people. I have a PTSD from it, seriously. Since then I'm very cynical about any ideologies
Thank you for this! I have a lot of guilt and shame around my job history and my longest job was one I could decide the day of if I felt like working 😂.
You are not alone.
the only way for me to put an end to my job-hopping which lasted a decade (from 1981 to 1990) was to consult a psychiatrist.
I explained my situation to him and I asked him if he could prescribe me a sick leave that would allow me to get through the period of instability that I was going through then.
that's what he did: after 15 days off I went back to work until I retired 27 years later.
What you did in 15 days? And how it ended the problem
@@kashifrana6798 I did nothing except let time pass (don't they say that time is a great healer): in this situation, I combined the fact of not losing my job by choosing the radical solution of resignation with the exciting prospect of returning to work after reaching the end of the tunnel.
it was a way to limit the devastating effects of frustration - loss of individual freedom, pleasing others through false self-sacrifice, need for recognition from others, etc, etc, -.
I thus learned not to constantly repeat the same mistakes: to make rash decisions whose consequences extended to people other than me and then to start all over again from the beginning in the quest for a new job.
for 27 years I did not work at the same pace as the others but as my work was essentially framed by a calendar I always finished on time and I managed exceptions by establishing to-do lists.
I would have liked to have an individualized workspace but as it was not possible and therefore I was distracted all the time, I accelerated the pace of work when I was alone.
I'd love to hear more about that as well. Was it just time off that you needed all along?
@@CarenMagill in fact, it was a kind of tactic: when I left my job I was in a kind of euphoric state for 2 or 3 days because I had the gripping sensation of having regained my freedom but on the fourth day the reality and common sense kicked in and I found myself on the starting line with a blocked perspective and I had to admit that I had made a very bad decision.
I had made the same mistake 4 or 5 times in a row in 10 years.
so I said to myself that I had to find a happy medium: neither resignation nor depression but a median situation in which I would limit the anguish of the loss of work and all the consequences of a socio-economic order and the solution was the sickness leave issued by a psychiatrist (sick leave issued by a psychiatrist was generally not subject to medical supervision by the social insurance fund).
The longest jobs I’ve had are places that I quit and returned to several times! Also, I’m a nurse so I was able to work two jobs at a time also, one part time and one per diem, at the same time so I could have flexibility. Idk what it is but taking time off from each job made me more focused when I came back. Weird huh? My resume is ridiculous after 40 years of nursing.
Caren, I love you. Thanks for being you. Wow, you are describing me. I am 63, undiagnosed with ADHD. I never stayed at a job more than 2 years. I just got fed up with Management, co-workers, the surroundings and lousy pay. I did finish college, but not in 4 years. I chose not to have children and I have never married. I have moved all over the country out of the need for change and in search of a better job. I do better in jobs where the boss gives specific things to accomplish, but with minimal management. I hated that we are a team BS at work. I always got unsatisfactory marks in school as a child for "Listens well and follows directions." I am often so super focused on some things that the day can go by, and I wonder where it went. I always felt so stressed out and impulsive in my youth and never fit in with people. As I am older and look at people in society, I wonder WTF.
So relatable
I literally quit my job 2 days ago😅 I picked up a seasonal job so I won't feel stuck since I'll be done in September hahaha
Teaching! That's the niche specifically suited for ADHD/ADD. Were bad at studying things that don't interest us directly. Teaching is the thing that works very well for ADHD, since we are easily prone to dopamine through teaching others, it's one of the few sustainable dopamine rushes apparantly that ADHD brains don't get bored of. So if u have a hyper obsession of focus for topics that u might not even realize, note that down, make a list, find skills that people can use, teach it to others, the more skills u can combine together in a course or profession the better, finding something that directly hits ur interest is important, but its almost necessary, to people with ADHD/ADD.
Thank you for this video and advice. I graduated with my Bachelors in psychology and have been feeling lost and overwhelmed with what I want career wise. I have ADHD and I'm constantly jumping around from Job to Job. I Recently got a job offer but realized it was not a good fit. I am currently exploring and learning about myself, in hopes to find a good career fit.
There's people who deeply dislike ADHD people, perhaps people full of complexes or psychopats that like to bully others, but in every job I've been I've found at least one of those who have no issue in attacking you till you think about leaving the job not to bear with their abuse. There's something about adhd (innocence, perhaps) that triggers bullies and horrible persons.
Just found you and I want to cry. I feel at home here. Thank you
Welcome home👋
Welcome home! I'm right there with you.
man, it took my loooonnnnngggggggg time to realize this. I realized i can't change who I am so no book or meditation, etc. is gonna "cure me" I just accepted it's who I am and no longer worry about starting and stopping jobs/hobbies. I do it until I don't like it anymore and as long as it doesn't hurt myself or my family, I move on. Live is about experiencing everything we can imo in these few trips we have around the sun
I lose interest in my job (I'm a self-employed graphic designer) when I don't get as much projects to do as I wanted... I tried to design my own products, but they never sold. I tried new things like book binding, baking, but with no success. I keep on failing, and I just don't know what to do to get out of that rut.
I've been recently diagnosed with ADD, I'm 34... now everything makes sense to me.
I’ve been feeling very lost with my career lately. Work has almost always been something that I just try to “get through” so I can go home and do what I want. These were great questions. Thank you for sharing this.
I did Walmart 6 years many roles my favorite was the 3 years as asset protection manager- I got adrenaline rush when I got to catch thieves and work derailed cctv cases but also could change task if I got bored with cctv I could work on data analysis or a creative class I wanted to teach associate or make a cute safety board etc everyday was different and in retail you plan to have your plans interrupted. Currently doing transportation logistics- each order is different/needs etc so I tend to hyper focus and time flies
Both of those jobs sound very adhd-friendly.
I worked at walmart for 10 years and had adhd but what kept me going was that they would send me to different departments everyday
This is the best video I've seen on this! I have recently come to terms with the fact that i probably have adhd, still seeking diagnosis as I'm out of work currently. I quit my retail management job about 6 months ago because I finally burned out and I've been trying and for the most part failing to get my "freelance design business" going. I have been paralyzed by doubt over what direction to go in and bot sure why i cant figure out how to get started when i have all the skills and tools i need. This video has made things SO clear to me. I quit things a lot when theyre about 80% through and i am scared that I'll do the same once i get going on this too. But your tips have been SO insightful. I'm going to apply this and follow you forEVER! Thank you so much for your advice!
glad it's helpful!
Pen to paper is so valuable for ADHDers. This is a great video!
Totally agree! and thank you!
What’s “pen to paper”?
I’m already looking for job #5 in less than two years. It’s embarrassing but I can’t help it. Friends & family don’t get it.
I have never been diagnosed with ADHD but I sure have left many good careers and jobs.
I'm one of those who did stay at jobs due to fear of homelessness. I don't know what I am good at doing....I worked for the USPS for 24 years and now I drive delivery for an auto parts company. I try to change things up by taking different routes back to the store.
Finding your channel things are beginning to make sense. Connecting the dots backwards I was diagnosed at 30 by a very good doctor…now I am ready to accept this as truth and have tools and knowledge from those who have navigated issues with success to help me see rather than blindly getting my butt kicked daily, yearly decade after decade.
I too have a degree in psychology and my social media is full of personal growth, spiritual growth, physical growth and so on …channels. One area that I think I would be a good fit for regards cptsd and trauma coaching but I don’t want to be a therapist per se …currently I am in trucking and I have stability but it’s killing me so I have to find a way to do it that works for me. Otherwise it’s back to the instability cycle. Thank you !!!
It's important to note job fields can have the same types of personalities. Pointing fingers and saying people with ADHD may play victim if their bosses sucked isn't helpful. People with ADHD do get bullied and picked on in the workplace, as anyone with a disability can. The better question to ask is this: Are you choosing the same types of jobs which in turn will have the same types of personalities running the department? I.e. narcissists, energy vampires, or other toxic traits that can drain the joy from the job! I stayed in places I loved, with the worst bosses and gave myself chronic illness from abuse.
Know when to leave, know why you keep picking the same jobs, understand what your triggers are, make different choices if/when possible.
Totally agree 💯, I have ADHD and always meet bosses that are narcissistic or plain cruel. My last ex boss was a manipulator and a bully. He gave me a medication I was allergic to without asking if I had any & when I told him about it after I swallowed the pill he said it was in my head, but I had to rush to the ER. He was super ambiguous, a poor communicator, giving me task without specific instructions. Once he made me push 10 heavy boxes down a steep slope backwards without helping(I’m a petite girl) with a heart condition. When I told him I felt chest pain he said that is normal. After my heart surgery I was entitled to 14 days hospitalisation leave but I never took, he force me to go down to a client site to do strenuous activity. I didn’t dare to take a single medical leave because he threaten me not to take any AL for 6 months, even after I pass my 3 months probation. I can hardly keep a job for more than a year. My 2nd previous boss was a boomer who refuse to listen to my ideas, and made my life harder at the work place hence I became more assertive. The last 2 places I worked at didn’t have anyone in the office, I felt super bored as I prefer to work with people, so I can talk to them. It sucks to work alone. I’m an 100% extrovert. I had like 12 jobs over the past few years, I’m 26. My boyfriend calls me a job hopper which I’m not.
I have 2 completely sleepless nights due to anxiety over this job I'm 3 months in to. I'm ready to run because of the crazy work loads we're given (EVEN AS NEWCOMERS), and I already have serious PTSD when I pushed myself into total burnout 3 years ago and it took me a year and a half to bounce back. I'm not putting myself in that situation again. I thought I was making a good decision because the one job I stayed at for 5 years also had to do with cars but I feel so stupid for getting suckered into another well paying position that didn't require a 4 year degree. I feel like society hates me and wants to starve me out of any future.
I am going to get evaluated for ADHD at 31… My 10 year old was just diagnosed and I related to everything her doctor said. I am a preschool teacher so it is constant chaos which I thrive in. I love building up the misunderstood child. I am also giving the freedom to be creative without being judged. I ended up majoring in Child Development after years of trying to work in an office.
OMG, we need more energy like that in the classroom. Especially building kids up and being an advocate for neurodivergent kiddos!!!!! Teachers are heros IMO
I don’t even make it 6 months at any job I get now , since I quit a job I was at for 8 years
I have this brain structure but the recession made me unemployed and then pandemic I lost my job. Hence, why I have been anxious to leave but I ended up saving so that I can have a backup since I have been traumatized from the unemployment and underemployment. However, the jobs I have had up to today have allowed me to travel between work locations and I was never stuck in the same place, so in a sense I was able to have a change of scenery for my ADHD brain. Though I do desire to leave but I do need a challenge because I am not learning anymore.
This definitely translates to college. 6 years ago, fresh out of high school, I didnt even make it a full semester before I dropped out. I was failing, dropping out of classes one by one till finally I just left altogether. Thankfully I left before I changed my major 50 thousand times and went into any debt, as I'm sure that's what would have happened if I had stayed. I said id go back if I ever figured out what I wanted to do but it never happened. My interests change too much. Anyway, thank you for this video! I never understood why I couldnt just settle on a career like my friends did. I thought I was just picky and indecisive. ❤️
That’s me and for a long time I’ve wondering why! Now I know and I understand myself more when I’ve learn about woman with ADHD.
I am now starting my new business and I will fight with my brain to keep this sustainable. 😊
Here because I feel like a failure at my job.
Inattentive medicated me can't move as fast as the unmedicated hyperactive folks that seem to be the most valued where I work.
Coupled that with working in retail pharmacy where I am constantly overstimulated (no time for bathroom, no breaks, and it can take hours of non stop ringing up folks before I can drink a sip of water) and so brain fried I haven't showered in weeks
It's like any time I find a job I feel strongly about, I end up feeling like I'm not enough anymore....
I've only ever quit jobs due to moving away, though, cause I can't let myself quit no matter how toxic..
I don't even know what to do cause I feel so beat down by not living up to my expectations and the expectations I feel like others have for me....
If you are in a big box store like Walmart I suggest switching role to one where daily tasks change to keep your attention ❤
Oh I see you also work at CVS 😅
@@coffeeinvasion Scarily accurate. Was a rx tech at the corner of anxiety and depression 😅
@@ElinWinblad Not sure how I never saw the notification for this. Was at a major retailer, but the job was very very structured so it didn't allow for that variety. It is something I am looking for in next job, though 🥰
I have ADHD and I have quit a lot of jobs. It sucks.
Got fired after trying so hard
:( haha. Life is hard but we are resilient us adhders!
I don't have ADHD and I still wouldn't mind quitting work. I've been at the same place for over 17 years though. It helped having a really HORRIBLE job before my current one, so I knew I was in a place where the grass was much greener, even though nothing will ever be as green as a funded retirement. But I'll never have that much money, which is why I keep working.
I just get very overwhelmed and I just don’t want to go anymore. Like on the spot, I know this is going to ruin my career 😢
I switched careers more times than I can count. However, I noticed that I was always the most successful when I just jumped into long-term commitments. The military was a pretty impulsive move, but it locked me in for years, obviating the risk of job-hopping. I meandered about adulthood until deciding to go to medical school. The massive student loan debt again kept me from job-hopping because I had no choice. Honestly the best move I've ever made. Of course I'm a lot older getting out of residency than most folks, but I love what I do and it's a stimulating career that's locked me in. I now just use my hobbies to puddle-hop through life, leaving behind myriad abandoned endeavors. lol
8:54 Novelty and connection but I need to pay my bills 😭
9:14 helping others and being with people
I am 37 years old in my whole life I never had hold a job more 3 month max I quit because of boredom.I never finished college and even my school life when I was 10 i didn't want to go to school never complete my homework but interested in video games and I can dedicate my attention for 12 hours long sessions.I recently found out something about me that I have dissociation disorder as well my disassociation was keeping me to find about myself.Its recent that I found out I have problems since childhood.
My longest job was just about 4 months
Normal, working is absolutely boring for most jobs
I have a boss who has ADHD. Rather than being understanding, he targets me.
The whole time I'm thinking, "Why is the grabby cup on that closet door mounted so low?"
The word "career" sends a cold shiver up my spine. At every job I've been on, I've never been able to see myself making a career out of it. I can't even wrap my head around the concept of someone even being in the same job field for 10+ years. Let alone being at a single company that long. That being said, reality is a hefty over-sized roadblock. Meaning, that what it would take to do the things I love doing as a job is just not feasible. Wasn't when I had kids at home and isn't now. The latter requiring a long explanation and I won't do here.
"Trucking it out"... I'm a truck driver we quit jobs every two or three years to go to another company.
Thank you so much for this video and your tips, I really needed to analyze this and needed hope today. I’ve been struggling with this for years and feel like an alien when compared to my friends and family members who tend to be stable. I’m so glad to know that there are tools to help people like me and that there is a community just like me that can function in society.
Oh my lord!
A Caren worth listening to😮
Thank you so much for your videos! Your first one on this topic totally changed my outlook and it finally clicked why I quit so much.
I learned a lot about me today, thanks to you!!! Thank you 😄
The only time I stayed in a job longer than 2 years was when my role within the company changed regularly. 13 years until my health forced me to retire!
Is there some kind of ADHD prize for that? I feel like there should be a prize.
LOL, there should be! That's awesome.
Haha Ive had sooo many jobs.... Im not diagnosed with ADHD yet..... but I get bored after 2 years, and exit 4th or 5th year. I think I thrive on having a mixture of jobs
I have had numerous immediate walkout jobs😢
Much to my chagrin.
I’d love to have a forever job tbh.
I've told people to take their jobs and stick it!
Cant lie "dont have kids so you can disappear in the night" is not gonna cut it for me but ill keep listening 😂
Carreer is a bad word these days. Nothing seems to last more than 3 to 5 years ! I don’t even want to have to do the same thing everyday , how mundane and unmotivating ! My dream would be to have multiple Jobs each week , all that are based on my passions and have a partner or assistant to help grow each of the businesses ! 😊
Job jumping. Mostly I couldn't remember my job duties and gave me anxiety which made my memory more difficult. Because I got bored after I learned, time would drag. I'm retired now. Pheww
You are such a gem! Thank you for this!
Not having kids is way too giant of a sacrifice in a lifetime, imho. I had kids and confirmed for me that all the time before kids was wasted time. I also believe that the greatest gift you can give to a child is a sibling or two.
I wish half of the day was novelty and the other half routine. Have been RN for 20 years, 10 jobs over all. Before that I always felt bored after one year at minimum wage jobs. I always wondered why I could never stay at any one place for long. But healthcare is draining and I want out.
I’ll draft this resignation letter - only to see what it looks like/get the thoughts out of my head, obvs…. did I just press send?! It’s such a relief to realise other people have this going on - and the issues of shame around it.
Thanks for sharing your expertise. I’ve only recently started to wonder about ADHD (or low needs autism). In the past I’ve had observations from family members who’ve noted that I can’t hold down jobs or relationships - and put it down to childhood bullying. I’ve personally put it down to depression (or just bad choices in the case of relationships) - but now probably too late in life I wonder if something else is going on.
Omggg my ADD symptoms & social anxiety contradict each other.. Amm actually screwed lol. Basically an extrovert with social anxiety that needs lots of stimulation. What a disaster mix!
Very interesting topic. I will dive deeper into it when feeling better. Thank you Caren. Just a note: Having my children has been such a blessing in my life, their company has helped me in indescribable ways, appart from the love and warmth I've received, I value my life in a deeper way because of them. I have been able to have stability in my life that I wouldn't of had otherwise. They've been the best medicine 🥰
I can relate to your comment. I feel like my kids saved me. They brought light into my world and gave me the confidence to reach my highest potential in this life. I always say that I wish I had them sooner.
I have failed 4 grades in school until I finally dropped out, have been fired from every job ive had, three divorces and no Friends and my family looks down on me..I am convinced that I am a natural born loser
Cool except "victim mentality" isn't always a mentality. Sure, maybe sometimes, but it may be an adaptive trauma response or a legit realization that your work environment/colleagues are toxic! You can try to mentally reframe it all you want, but be careful not to gaslight others/yourself in the process if you actually have been victimized....
But if it’s at every job, then you have to look at the common denominator. ADHD is not understood nor “accepted “ in most corporate jobs. If you have a victim mentality, you will attract toxic behavior. You have to realize that you are in control of your reactions to change the outcomes in anything you do. Not dismissing you at all because I have seen this behavior displayed towards those that are considered “inept “ within their positions. Only to realize once they were let go or left, how much they held it together.
I love this video. I am trying to line up my way of being with my choices. I do have children and their father passed away. He was the one that helped me with motivation and he was so consistent that I was able to be less so. Now my difficulties are really becoming overwhelming, so also dreaming up solutions. Creative solutions. Like moving in with my family for a few months to get help with kids and developing 3 month work projects. Rotating country, home and work. Thats my solution for this year. We'll see how it goes.
Thank you for your video, I actually really did your exercises 👀
I haven’t yet done an apprenticeship, let alone studied something. I’m glad I got through school. But that makes the job choices I have not the best.
I want to better myself but I’m so scared whatever I start again I’ll fail.
My dream job fell out of the sky when i wasnt looking. A job as Fabricator Welder on the prototype line at Koenigsegg Automotive. I passed my interview with flying colors and am now booked for a two day work test. I am 62 i am just having my first ever bout of Shingles ( vericella zoster ) and i have also been notified by my doctor that i need a hip replacement as i have Osteonecrosis. What a bummer...😭
Did she say a year or two? I wish. Try 3 months. The longest job I have had has been 6 months and I’m now 36 years old. Let that sink in 👀👀👀
The longest I stayed with a job was 4 years, kinda hard to just quit the navy. But now I am having a very hard time even finding a job.
Undiagnosed ADHD, the longest job Ive ever had was driving a bus for 2 years and that was because I wasn't working closely with people at the job. My second job was front desk and I lost that one when I start interacting with the coworkers. It's my behaviors and my attitude. I don't think with the right side of my brain. I tried to get diagnosed but they always diagnose me with depression but they never asked me why Im depressed. I had to figure everything out on my own and Im sure it's ADHD cause they symptoms are relatable. I'm now more aware of myself and have found that meditation, exercise, breathing techniques and shadow working has helped but Im still feeling lost as far as finding my passion as far as job and entrepreneur interests. This has been a painful and isolated journey for sure.
This was an amazing video for me to watch❤ you just showed me the groundwork I need to start about what career path I need to take (currently working fast food and have ADHD)
I really enjoyed this video. Caren, you threw out so many interesting questions for each of us to ask ourselves. I wish I had been asked these questions in my 20's!
What I enjoyed most? Paid time off to do whatever I want. 😂😐😭
I have the opposite problem. I have had one job for 12 years. A retail job. I’m too afraid to quit. I watch people get hired at a rate more than mine even though I have the most experience and I still stay. I have put in so many applications and no one is calling me back. I feel stuck especially since my fiancé said I need to make a certain salary before we can get married. 😢 idk
Hey there, can you negotiate a pay rise with your employer? Seems like it’d be well deserved for your loyalty and experience!
I’m 33 and have been struggling to stay motivated at work/job my current job isn’t the best hot long hrs they work you like a robot. I feel disappointed doing the job every day and burnt out. I feel like I’m done doing hard laboring jobs because my body won’t last forever. so currently trynna find something new that’s not as intense but gives me excitement and fulfillment I just would like a job I don’t hate in a months time
OMFG I feel like this! I have ADHD and get so bored with work.
Unfortunately, I'm an extremely consistent *volunteer* . 😭 Do you know how broke that makes someone?
I've quit volunteerism since this realization. More happy, AND more work for retired folk to indulge themselves in 😊 _Be my guest as you continue to collect your pension/ SS... I ain't mad atcha_
But seriously, it's criminal how orgs conveniently find reasonable workloads when they're paying some contractor to do the work.
Thank you for this, I thought it was just me!
Im 32, diagnosed at 5, ive had over 30 jobs since i was 20 and the last thing i want to do is go back to ritalin. I hate this, i wish i was like everyone else so it wasn’t so difficult to make a living.
I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD since I was five years old😢
I had a job I enjoyed before the pandemic hit. I would have stayed longer if there wasn't for the change of CEO, whose values didn't align with mine, and even more inexperienced than the former CEO. After quitting, I took a course to upgrade myself. Even then, I'm having trouble re-entering my former industry, and the industry I took my course in. All this before I even considered I might have ADHD.
Well, in a more or less qualified area you'll need about a half a year just to learn the new environment enough to be confident in what you do at the new job. The company gives you this time to learn and pay you in hope you'll last for more than one year. So yes, if you quit quickly. it's hard to consider you a reliable employee. I would not consider you even a reliable colleague cause the training I gave you will be wasted, even I totally understand your eager for a new and challenging stuff.
what if you want to try something new always but your brain freeze under pressure or you have anxiety that will i be able to manage it… ADHD+ anxiety
I am 37. Enjoying ADHD since I was born 😇 I never feel bored. LOL
This is the best video on this topic that ive come across. You are awesome 😎! My adhd brain thanks you 😄❤
I have allowed myself to have been stuck in a career field I have HATED for the last 20+ years, even changing jobs hasn’t helped at this point, I hate it Sooo much that I want to quit any new job before i even start it!! Healthcare is AWFUL
Shout to anyone watching this who just started a new job and immediately realized, ohhhh shit, this was NOT a good choice lol. Pray for me inattentive gang. 😂
So helpful and enlightening! Thank you!!
Hi, thanks for the video. Where can I find the worksheet mentioned? I can’t seem to find it in the video description unless I overlooked it. Thank you
Thank you for this video. It is so affirming and empowering!
I haven't been able keep a job for more than 3 months without having a mental and body breakdown. I feel so bad. Even if I really like the job, I always come to a point in which I started to get depressed. I quited my job again. I got very sick and depressed. I feel so immature for a 40 yo woman with a kid. 😢😢. It's so confusing. I applying for a teaching job. I love teaching kids, I love people. I just hope my body won't collapse again.
This was a very very helpful. Thank you!