A lot of people say: "Find something you love doing and make that your job." Problem is: I like too many things and when I do anything for an extended period of time, I start to lose interest and get bored. even if I thought it was the coolest thing ever when I started.
How about some thing in the world of consumer advice? Especially if the things you like cost a lot? You can switch between products in categories as your interest changes.
I don't really enjoy doing anything enough to commit my life to it. I have a remote job doing something I'm good at but find uninteresting and unchallenging (data analysis). I have free time to do random things throughout the day (chores, TV, crafts, reading, etc,), and energy to have a social life after work. It's perfect for me. I think sometimes we don't need a job that's AWESOME, we just need a job that gives us a little freedom outside the constant 9-5 grind, and a job where eyes aren't on us all day questioning why we're not working nonstop.
Hello I want to venture into data analysis I am an undergraduate student in the final year of my studies. Could you please provide a list of resources where I can start of with please it would be of great help. I don't like programming much even though mines a CSE degree. I wanted to give this field a shot
@@harshadeshpande8364 I don't have a list of resources, but learning an analysis tool like Power BI or Tableau is key. The programming that you'll need is SQL, which imo is not very difficult compared to object oriented programming.
I'm 27 and got diagnosed this year. I feel like its too late for me and i already wasted my life. Seeing that you started your journey at 50 with this level of energy is inspiring. God bless you. (U also look a lot younger)
RECAP at 13:40 - 1. Finding what you love starts with thinking about the things you've always loved, things that light you up and give you energy 2. It has to be something where you enjoy the process as much or more than the outcome itself 3. It has to be something you're willing to do imperfectly and show up again and again whether or not you're ever gonna get a big payout because you love doing it that much 4. Give yourself the self-trust and permission to explore, and know that some things will be for you, some things will not be for you, and that's ok, just keep pushing forward. What stuck in my head - - Something that lights you up and gives you energy - Something you're willing to do and fail at / be bad at initially because you enjoy the *process* so much - Give yourself *permission* to pursue the thing; work on *trusting* yourself - Throw away the *I never follow through* on anything narrative - you follow through on things all the time, if you didn't you'd be lying in a ditch somewhere - If you don't know what lights you up, you need to reflect more deeply - what did you love doing as a kid, outside of school, in school? What podcasts do you listen to? What books do you read? What topics do you enjoy talking about?
Thank you so much for this. I was so interested in the subject, but just couldn't make myself sit through the whole video. So, I started scrolling comments and found what I needed from your recap. This was perfect for my current attention span! ❤
I have always said we should do what interests us for work otherwise we’ll just keep quitting our jobs. We simply cannot do things we hate for work, our brains won’t allow it. I’ve found this has plagued every ADHD person I know. People say “we all have to do things we don’t like”…… not us, we literally can’t!
The last phrase resonates so much! My friend has been telling me that for a couple weeks because I’ve been off work for a month now but I’m desperate to find a job that suits me and my interest cause I can’t keep up with some jobs! When I do, I burn out once I’m out.
@@-vickyspit- sorry that you see life like that. Everyone has a different level of “hard” they can endure. Ones trauma is maybe not the others trauma. Everyone is different! And actually taking time off to heal and understand myself rather than putting pressure is way more effective than the dread of being a bad employee etc. Cause we are not dumb, we know very well when we aren’t doing the best we could. Understanding, accepting and validating ourselves with love attention and kindness is the way to go. It takes time and isn’t easy to have no guilt but the guilt is what kills us. I’m all for taking time off but only if you plan on doing better and taking care of one’s self so they bounce back better to work a life time.
I've found that what I'm working on matters less then how I'm working. I love collaborating on projects and helping people. Any job that includes that is good.
Every single job has its pros and cons. If you are in a job that you don’t like, only you are capable of doing the reframing necessary to figure out what you do like and focus on that. And while it sounds a little bit mean, each person’s failure to do this is gonna drag other people down with you, whether you become a financial drain on your family or on society in general when there are literally tens of millions of you. That’s just not right. So figure it out. If you can’t pull yourself up by your own bootstraps, (yes I know that’s a silly phrase), you need to find someone to help you do it. I don’t care if the only thing you like about your job is driving to it and from it, Because you don’t have to do house work or your job during the commute. I don’t care if it’s just lunch break that you care about. I don’t care if it’s wearing pajama bottoms because you’re telecommuting. You need to get yourself in a better frame of mind to meet the future anyway, so why not do it now?
I'm finding it's less about doing the job you love, and more doing a job with enough stimulation and with good colleagues. I recently changed jobs. Not obsessed with the topics or area it's in but it's HIGHLY stimulating. My ability to switch my attention so easy comes as a high advantage, as is my ability to hyperfocus. There's also a structure, a common goal, close knit team with lots of support. Before there was less of a team, boring work that wasn't stimulating and very repetitive. It caused me to procrastinate because it wasn't important.
@eileen02 oh I somehow got a job managing the diary of a ceo in the public sector. And their diary is back to back with meetings, in person, virtual, with some domestic and international travel so very intense and detail heavy. Honestly having colleagues that are supportive is the best because it's an intense job but I love the changes and intensity. If meetings get cancelled or need to move, I react quickly. If there are technical issues or I need to collect someone from reception, I can switch gears pretty well. It's not a iob for someone who likes things easy! I have a very hyperactive and curious mind, always want to do better and learn. Thankfully the team are really nice with reminding me to have lunch and breaks because of the hyperfocusing! I forget to eat, drink water and go to bed, the main downfall lol. So maybe not suitable if you're less hyperactive but a job where there is variety, interacting with different teams, structured, one common goal and lively might help. Something involving a production, coordination, like in media production or events management just to give you an idea!
The team you work with is 100% the biggest difference! I can love doing a thing to high hills, but if I’m not working with a team I mesh with? I can’t stick with it.
I wholeheartedly agree. It's about those who surround you while you work! People who ACTUALLY mean it when they ask "How are you doing?" And they may even look you in the eye. I'm a creative. I went to school for graphic design decades ago then went into administrative work which I thoroughly enjoyed mostly because of the family feel of the company I was lucky to have found. There were fun activities and comeraderie and 75% of the team were happy to be there and talked to each other. The company was bought out and we all were laid off. This led me back to school for marketing certificate and a couple more years with HIGH paying admin work after but I HATED it because of the people. Narcissistic boss who had everyone under his thumb, particularly HR. They wouldn't even help me when I told them what he had done to me. The money kept all the mouths there shut tightly. Now, I'm a floral designer and I love the creativity and freedom I have in most of my days, but I do miss having a great team. Still and always looking to improve my environment in my work life. Great video!
Realistically, the best jobs for ADHDers are those that do the time management for us. If you're a clerk, or a doctor, or a financial consultant, you have a schedule and you keep receiving people and tend to their needs. You do not have a long term project that forces you to plan your time, because that's a recipe for disaster.
I think with enough interest or... consequence? Enough desperation for the big project to succeed? Then ADHDers can be very successful despite the need to plan ahead. See all the ADHD TH-camrs like the coach who's channel we're watching now. She built a whole business as an entrepreneur. She completes the projects of these videos. No one else is deciding everything for her in these cases. It's more common than you think.
For me its the opposite. I work terribly when my schedule is decided for me because it causes anxiety about being late, or I have to break my good focus to go to lunch on time, or be required to push through when I am in a bad mental spot. I enjoyed work much more when I could do my own schedule, take breaks when I needed to, and simply had overall goals to meet in a day. My productivity was better too when I could do my own schedule.
I worked retail for many years and was very successful at it but it was so demanding of me. I would get burnt out and get an office job that was more laxed but it would quickly get boring and I was bad at managing my time and being a self starter. What retail did give me was exactly what you said.. a set schedule and customers that came to me and kept me busy. But after I became a mom the retail schedule was definitely something I could no longer do so I got a license and now I'm self employed. It's reallyyyy hard for me to feel focused and motivated. So yeah I'm trying to find my place.. somewhere that gives me flexibility and I feel fulfilled. Does it exist?
My favorite job pays so poorly that I can’t do that job regardless of how much I loved the job. My current job, I’m appreciative to have, but it feels like an ADHD nightmare, but it pays my bills.
Hey, just a note to say your videos have been the most uplifting and actionable videos on ADHD that I’ve found. You are doing great ! Thank you so much !
at this point I am not asking for a career that lights me up so much as a job that doesn't drain me so badly that I can't muster up the energy for my creative projects (but i will still watch the video and learn)
I guess we are not all the same. Finding what you love is good advice ..... but.... :) I have found that I put a lot of energy in and things go well, then, I get good at that thing. As soon as I get good at it, I start losing interest in that thing, it becomes work and I dont like doing it anymore. I dont love it anymore. Just me?
Yep… love music .. got a job as A&R for Polydor and then lost my love of music. Then started a photography magazine which is really successful but I’ve lost my love of photography. Everything you do as a job, becomes a job.
Feel the same. I’ve been writing blogs and books for myself and a small audience, now that I’m on my 5th book and trying to make a living as an author, I am afraid I will begin to hate writing. I don’t want to have to work for my basic needs anymore. We could do UBI if you wanted to…
I’m the same. I ended up doing therapeutic massage and it is holding my attention because I can always learn new modalities and techniques. There is also no end to what you can learn about anatomy and physiology.
Im a 57 year old entrepreneur having been one for 33 years. I am only now on the process of getting diagnosed with ADHD though i have known since childhood (my mother refused to put me on Ritalin). So lots of coping and masking. And for a long time with the use of systems and assistants I was an effective entrepreneur and my untreated ADHD was a weird badge of honor. But as I have gotten older my systems seem less effective and other issues are popping up. So happy to have found this channel. And i know I'm in the company of others that have ADHD and are dealing with it. For those wondering how you can tell if a channel has folks with ADHD just look at the length of all the comments and the... READ MORE truncations. Imagine if we were all actually talking! In
ADHDers are wildly overrepresented in the UX industry (e.g. user/usability/market research, design and copywriting). Like coaching, you're pulling bits of behavioural science and psychology and using interviews to figure out how to make things better for your users. These are fun, varied roles that can easily be done remotely - and when you find the right job, you never have to work a day in your life.
@Flopsi80 I've been doing a design degree but I'm worried there won't be work for me when I eventually graduate because of AI image generation, ChatGPT and web design platforms like Squarespace 😓 it's very discouraging.
Thank you for this video. I have worked a corp tech job for the last 8 years, and the more I climb the career ladder the more misery it brings into my life. I've recently been diagnosed with adhd, which explains so so much about me! Videos like this are so informative AND empowering!
I teach piano. Im ADHD. I love it! It's never the same but it has a routine. Im always learning and feel like i have a purpose. I was a very bad pianist but it taught me how to be a great teacher. Over 2 decades teaching but I will never retire!! 😊
I just discovered your channel and am in LOVE. I so appreciate you as a person and your outlook on ADHD. I have never been diagnosed with ADHD but I have strong adhd tendencies. Most videos I watch from ADHDers make me sad and frustrated but your attitude is so validating and encouraging.
I actually haven't got in a bad mood in my career since I started using Dmt_rogerr this month I don't experience pains,Bipolar,PTSD,depression,anxiety and other mental disorders. She gives the best diagnosis and psychedelic
At 31 I found out what I wanted to do after job hopping for years. I'm 33 now and am going stronger than ever, I work every day and love what I do and wanted to expand on what's been said/offer some things that I tell fellow adhd friends. When finding what you "should" be doing, consider this; what would you do everyday even if you didn't get paid to do it? What do you love to do that much? Also, you need to find something that is stimulating enough that will keep you interested without effort- this usually involves some sort of creative expression, although just having a job that allows you to be on the move or allows you to get involved in projects or varying duties will do the trick as well. The key is to avoid the mundane and make a career out of your most sincere interests...you have to be willing to take the leap and give yourself permission to fail over and over whilst making progress, be seen as foolish, and not take criticisms to heart.
I rarely comment but this video really spoke to me. I was in a high paying corporate role following the FIRE principle but I hated it and got to the point where I just couldn't do it anymore. This year I hit coastFIRE (full FIRE at 50), then got my ADHD diagnosis and then decided this was it. It's time to take the risk. I'm not earning anywhere near as much as I was anymore and I'm still early days of setting up my own leadership coaching business but I no longer feel stressed and anxious and miserable all the time. This is the change I need and hopefully I can keep pushing to make it my successful second career.
Love the video. Unfortunately I, (which seems to happen 99.9% of the time with all major life decisions and impactful "things," ie; college, career, etc), love my career, but it's set up in such a toxic way, it has an extremely negative impact with the rest of life and has my physically and mentally running in circles like a rendition of the movie Groundhog Day.
@@CarenMagill thank you Caren. I have been trying my best to do this. My biggest road block recently has been my consistency in staying positive while doing this, and not "freezing," and ruminating upon the negativity of job, and field. Metaphorically speaking, if I'm in quick sand and I can see a branch of a tree, even if it's far away, even if the integrity of it holding up when I'm close enough to finally try to grab it is very suspect, there is some, slight, sliver of hope. However, for the first time in my life, at 43 years old, during this past year, it very much seems that there are no branches in sight , and I'm treading to stay a float in that quick sand, but I'm slowly sinking. While all this is happening, I'm trying my hardest to mentally fend off the mental and physical freezing episodes due to the ever increasing amounts of building apathy and anhedonia, which at times seems almost insurmountable.
If u love your career what specifically about it causes the negative impact on your life? Those two assertions seem incongruous. And if it’s set up in a toxic way, how so, and is it possible to change the way it’s set up to make it more enjoyable?
I just started a job two weeks ago and I didn't mind sucking at first. My issue I'm having is having the trainer or is training me degrades me. Talks down to me and expects me to be fast when I just learned something a day ago. I feel like I'm a huge burden. So now I'm miserable. I decided to apply for a different job that allows me more freedom. To allow me to make mistakes without being afraid to make them. I currently feel like I cannot make a mistake right now due to the horrible criticism I get. There is a difference between degrading and constructive criticism. I cannot be in an environment where im Constantly feeling like I'm a failure.
@@karengifford899 yeah I did and ended up being worse . I ended up leaving and much happier now. Now I am being a caregiver with my own hours and my own boss. Started a adhd podcast and doing so much better. Sometimes we need to take ourselves out of bad situations that don’t serve us.
Please I spit out my water when you said "you're 22 years old and you havent tried enough stuff" because I'm a 22 year old who has become intimately aware of not having tried enough stuff!!! lmaooooo gave me a good chuckle thank you, amazing video!!
Thank you so much for this video! I'm in the midst of a career change after 21 years as a flight attendant. I've been at such a loss as to what to do next and feel so stuck. Your thoughts really resonated and I took many notes and have some new things to consider now. On a completely unrelated note - you look amazing! Your skin is beautiful! Can you do a video about how someone with ADHD manages to look so polished? 🤷❤️😁
Glad the video resonated! Take the good from your current career and bring that forward. Thanks for the compliment on my skin. I have really good lighting in my studio that makes it look better than it does IRL.
Love I found u! I am 71 & just got officially diagnosed last year. Am actually just researching what it means & feel so relieved others understand .This is such an awesome teaching!
@@morganjane1710 So sorry just responding. Don't know why I didn't see the notification before. Anyway... The job is great for people with ADHD in some ways, but really challenging in others. The challenges for me included things like always having to be "on." No escape from people. Sensory overwhelm in the airports. Coworkers that never shut up sometimes. REALLY irregular sleep schedules and long days. I completely burnt out and after I quit I basically slept for three months. The good points of it were the flexibility (unless you were on call/reserve), constant stimulation from new people/places, and decent pay after you've been there about five years. The first few years suck for pay and scheduling control. At the airline I worked for, when I got tired of flying, I would volunteer for assignments working with the union or some other project. So its good in that when you get tired of it you can take a break. Or do something else on the side entirely. Many FAs go to school, nurse, real estate or some other part time interest. It's probably one of the best jobs I had as someone with ADHD, but my recommendation is to be vigilant about taking care of yourself and not letting yourself get burnt out. Once you get burnt out, you're miserable. I knew it was time for me to leave when I was in my favorite city, on a long layover, and I couldn't muster the energy/enthusiasm to leave the hotel room. Working with people can be exhausting. If you're rejection sensitive I would say a hard NO.
Thank you very much for this video, I find it extremely helpful and very real. one factor pointed out by my therapist was the cultural context in which I grew up: as the eldest child of immigrants (1st generation), there was no place to thinking of a career in the arts or culture, the emphasis was placed on "real jobs that pay well" because of a (understandable) need to socially evolve in a very unfair capitalist society ; which led me to pursue a career that I do not enjoy and a desk job that triggers my ADHD terribly, everyday. Thank you SO MUCH for your words and creating a safe space in the comments to learn from each other. (I am french I apologize for my english).
I also relate to your comment. As eldest sibling my parents want me to take a job which is financially stable and support me. But I am right now a college graduate and is in that route where i have to make important decisions.
Is it possible that you can make a shift back to the previous culture? In the same or a different location? On the plus side, I’m sure you have plenty of skills To bring to a new position. Volunteering can be a great way to bridge between an old career and a new one as well.
At least you were not 1 st generation immigrant such as myself. Doing the jobs which are beneath your level of competence and intelligence while battling with immigration and living pay check to pay check. Then doing a degree you have no interest in just to be able to qualify for a work permit all while fearing you will be kicked out of the country and returning to a war zone. Doing sensible jobs which guarantee a steady job is not just an immigrant thing but a working and middle class thing. Only the very wealthy can pursue their interests and study history of art and acting , when they have no bills to worry about
@@hautecouture2228 - I've got a number of friends in your position, including one juggling an educational visa (though she is ok with her college choices). Others had to leave professional credentials behind, and are working way "beneath" them, and long hours in order to survive. My grandmother worked as a hotel maid for years when she came here. In today's internet world, though, we can study just about anything, read all the classics for free, even if it is for just a few minutes a per day. I've learned to love all of life whether my job was washing dishes in a school cafeteria, practicing my profession, or trying to sell things door-to-door.
I always knew I wanted to be a Doctor . Because I have to be doing something interesting with my hands otherwise I get distracted and bored. But there was not medicine school in my city . My parents didn’t have enough money and told me to study Accounting. I finished the bachelors degree… only 1 year working behind a desk and I was so bored 😐. I studied English language and came to U.S and I am now working with patients in hemodialysis as a technician but after 3 years I don’t like it anymore. I realized I love working with blood and doing things with my hands so I think surgery is the job I would never get tired or doing.
I have a degree in surgical technology. Took a lot of hard Focusing to get it which did not come easy at all. My final clinicals made me realize I would never be able to do this. Surgery is very task focused and basically memorizing a surgeon’s way of doing things. You need to know what the surgeon will want and anticipate it. Kinda hard to do when shiny ball syndrome is hitting you every 5 seconds
I moved from real estate to technology in my 50's and have been thrilled with the change. The more work I have, the happier I am. My lightning brain just dashes to solutions and it's awesome. My son was so impressed that he left a career in logistics and went into software engineering. His lightning brain does the same thing - he is killing it at work. I let myself be steered in the wrong direction for me as a young person and am so glad that my son was able to avoid that. I wouldn't do my "life journey" again, but the destination is awesome because the skills I acquired in other careers put me WAY ahead of others in my field that have never done anything else. Also, I'm picking up my old childhood interest like making electronics. Even though I didn't study electrical engineering and computers in college, they politely waited for me to get around to pursuing them. :)
Software engineering is the way to go!! I love that tech is constantly evolving, there are thousands of things to learn and there's never a point where you've figured everything out.
The timing of this video to pop up on my feed was perfect. Recently Dx with adhd at the age of 46. Went through divorce right before COVID. Failed engagement right after with someone else. Bounced between tech jobs. Took a small role at a startup as a sabbatical of sorts to rebuild my life based on this Dx. Now on Monday I was laid off. But this video is encouraging me to go after a career pivot into a pure sales role. I have big time imposter syndrome and always worried about external labels and factors which is why I was never happy in my past roles. I was not doing what I know I am good at and passionate about. Thank you.
When I was 48, I found my perfect job as an art technician at a school and stayed there for 15 years. Up until then, I had job-hopped and hadn't stayed in a job longer than a year. I think I've had about 40 different jobs.
Girlfriend, you are knocking it out of the park. Thank you for all you share. I'm binging on your videos now. I'm really impressed with how you make them and teach them. I feel like you're definitely in your zone of genius here and your Angels are so proud of you!! :) Bring in the woo - they like it and I like it too! I'm glad my Angels guided me to your channel. I never thought of myself as having ADHD before. But listening to your videos and feeling like I've been suffering from burnout and exhaustion for a while now, this makes a lot of sense. I'm getting a lot of a'ha moments. I'll have to chew on this a little more. I work as an admin assistant for an Engineering firm and I've been wanting to get my entrepreneurial business going for a while now, but I get shiny object syndrome and have a hard time focusing after my job to work on my side hustle; on things I should be. I appreciate all the tips you share. Much love
While I understand your point of view and I don't disagree with it IF FEASIBLE, the issue is that many people are stuck in miserable low end jobs where they have no path for growth to a position where FIRE is possible, and their passion will never bring them any money, like a guy I met working in construction who has a music degree and is a passionate bass player in a local group that has to PAY VENUES to be able to play there rather than the opposite....
Almost 48, I found out my diagnosis at 40. My life passions have evolved but are aggregated in building on everything else up to that point. What I do is something others laughed at, but now years later have apologized because they just couldn't get it, but now they do. Pay attention to your heart, and just keep looking!
What if what you love doesn’t matter, due to societal and financial road blocks? I love climbing and would love to teach a beginner climber course. However I’m a 43 year old overweight AuDHD, single mom. Getting hired is difficult as a result, because people judge me based on my labels, rather than my passion for climbing. Furthermore, I need a job that makes enough money to support my boys.
What if you could do it and write about your experiences in like articles or talk about it in videos to help other people with the same thing? That's one way to monetize it? Easier said than done to get there lol but idk, I guess I am curious about doing the same thing except it's not rock climbing for me.
Maybe there’s a way you can incorporate more climbing and teaching into your life in a (financially, emotionally) sustainable way. Do your boys like to climb, too? How many other people like you are out there needing to hear from you, needing to hear how great climbing can be for their bodies and minds? ❤ Hang in there!
If it something you are interested in - there must be others like you. I am 53 and overweight and would feel comfortable in learning from someone who is like me, rather than the GI Joe doll with kyung fu grip that is in amazing shape. Sometimes we need to be the person that opens the door for others to try for themselves. Maybe you can put up flyers or work with a local city recreation department to offer classes to others? I did that with a self-defense class for women, so they can see anyone can defend themselves - you don’t have to be the big guy who is super string and in the Green Berets.
Show people you don’t have to be a size zero and muscular to do it. Show it can be done by anyone. If you’re doing it for fun just film yourself and put it on social media
What if you held an event at a climbing gym for people like you? I’m also overweight and I KNOW how people can judge. But if I saw an event like, “Climbing 101 for Bigger Bodies,” I’d be there in a flash, knowing I wouldn’t be singled out or judged. It’s not a job, but if you build a community, you can build a business around it.
Hey there! I’m 47 and I just discovered that I LOVE DJ’ing! I’ve ALWAYS loved music, but can’t play instruments. I also have always been into audio…sooo BAM! Now I’m gig’ing and FREAKING LOVE IT! I plan on doing some YT videos as well.
I would love to do something physical that would allow my mind to wander all day. Instead I stare at screen and pretend to be concentrating and then feel huge shame and guilt for not being productive.
Having worked physical jobs all my life, trust me, it's overrated. I'm still young and my body is broken from repetitive strain and other workplace injuries that I was never compensated for. I now find myself approaching middle age with no savings because these jobs never paid much, and no career to fall back on, because they were all dead end jobs. I wish I had an office job, instead I have crippling anxiety and depression 😓 The grass is always greener huh.
I completely understand this. I had the exact experience for 10 years as a Pricing Analyst. I switched to aircraft loading and had much easier time, but found it boring (except the days where I filled in as a team leader, which were a bit too stressful). I did find the short deadlines (1.5 hours max) very helpful. I feel like I need to creatively problem solve to be happy in a career. Or maybe I need a job where I negotiate with people.
Jesussssssss caren.. you summed up my life.. ive been doing something poorl imperfectly over years and years unable to give up.. i have learned alot through it now its easy... goshhh i still make mistakes but so much better...... no one has talked about this.. you are amazing
I don't know what I like enough to do it every day. My jobs have never been led by what I like, it's only about what I can afford to live on. I job hopped because my jobs became too stressful to continue as my adhd self had messed up work relationships and made every day a horrible anxiety ridden mess. I think the idea that we should just follow what we love and explore stuff etc. is a bit ignorant to the fact that many of us have no savings, nothing to fall back on, rising living costs and basically 0 networks or experience in the areas we might want to get into. At age 30 I can't actually afford to take the time or money to start moving in the direction I might want to be in, because I am broke, burnt out and work full time in a job that actively forces me to not be adhd. I think it's great if you have the OPTION do explore and find what things light you up etc. but for the rest of us it's a bit of a sh*t show.
Yeah I'm almost 30, going back to school, never made more than $30k a year. Trying out new things and failing is a luxury, because if I try a new job and fail I could end up homeless. And what if the job I love and want also doesn't provide enough to live on? Should I just give up on the idea of one day having a house and a family?
Caren, thank you for you light. I am just meeting you, but I am a big consumer of content about adhd, autism, self improvement and trauma healing. You have a light that very few coaches give away this easily and effectively. I'd compare it with Matthew Husey and Lisa A. Romano. I am happily subscribing and looking forward to more of your contagious joy, while giving excellent explanations ❤ Thank you very much!!
Wow - so many parallels - I had a point in 2008 where I Googled 'financial independence' and found Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University. I was able to work in my State career, buy a home, and buy enough years of service to retire at age 65 then move back to California and buy a home. I learned that the politics in a job are motivation killers. But I hung in there and kept my nose down and tail up - doing good work to make them all miss me when I was gone. Now I have a pension and Social Security for life that basically supports me. Thank you for this Caren!
First time the algorithm brought me to your channel. Serendipitously, I have ADHD and am (still) looking for career fulfillment. I've done a lot of work to manage my emotional attachment. I'm not waiting for magic, just trying to feel integrated in society. Thanks for the insights!
Your videos have been of immense value to me lately. But honestly, one of the greatest helps is seeing how many others face the exact same struggles i do.
I love love love that you talk so much about the narratives and identities that we build around ourselves. That shit is so important. Anything difficult that I've done was attached to an identity of a person who did that thing. Quitting smoking is a good example, I was never able to stop as long as I identified as a smoker. You're putting out really good content and as an adhder I really appreciate it.
While I love the message being conveyed here, some of us are older and have obligations. Some of us are single moms or dads with children who rely solely on us for a decent salary and so can't make the switch. And with the economy the way it is right now, making a switch to a different career is even harder. Maybe when my kids are older and have graduated college, but for many of us doing it right now is absolutely unfeasible.
Thank you for doing what you're doing, Caren. I'm 28M this year, do not know if I've ADHD but I've not dared to commit to a job for a full year because of my fear of being unable to commit and eventually disappointing my managers so your advice about following through (as well as all the other parts) really resonates with me. I pray to God and the universe to give myself the insight to look within myself and hopefully I'll be able to land a job and do it well soon!
Question! Sorry, I’m not through the whole video but you mentioned that you essentially were financially stable enough to retire early, then now work a lot because you’re doing what you love. The thing is, I feel like what stops me is the stress and worry about financial stability. What I’m doing right now is okay enough for the pay, but I still need to drag myself to work 😭
Oops forgot to actually ask the question haha. How you do give up financial stability for something that you may or may not love in the future (being ADHD and all lol)?
What Carin says is figure out how to create enough financial stability to try something else…cut down your expenses perhaps which means prioritizing, maybe get a roommate to share expenses, eat out less, spend less where u can, in other words save money or create another income stream that allows you to try something else without fear or panic.
Great mesage Caren, thank you. I'm just realising that I love creative writing. I love the process and I can handle criticism. Its taken me until the age of 60 to give myself permission to do this.
Thank you Caren! One of the best videos out there on this topic. I am still on that career struggle bus but I tell friends in the same position exactly what you said "it starts with getting to know ourselves deeply." I just started this work last year!! I've always been an introspective person, but I never really sought to understand my values/my needs/what lights me up etc. That's when I realized last year I did NOT want to be an entrepreneur (opposite to many). I always tried to get successful doing my hobbies (art/music) but I didn't enjoy it because I felt like I always had to be thinking about what to do next. I want a stable 9-5, but in an environment I love doing something I love for a company I love! I just don't know what that exactly that looks like yet...
I just discovered you today. I am a 52 year old gay adult male who has been recently diagnosed November of 2023 (with ADHD (combined type,but lean toward inattentive distractable), OCD, and ASD with a VERY HIGH ability to mask, which may be why I wasn’t assessed sooner. Your channel, so far from the three or four videos I’ve watched today has been EXCEPTIONAL and probably the most helpful of all the TH-cam channels I’ve found/followed. I wish I found your’s first! But I just wanted to thank you for doing what you do. You have a fantastic personality and presence which I enjoy, I already subscribed! I want to comment on how much your energy and enthusiasm comes through the screen. That is not a common thing for me to experience. I can see content creator’s passion in their videos, but your’s feels like it is beamed right into the room with me, and it is motivating me in ways most TH-cam channels don’t. So thank you for choosing this path. I’m sure I’m not the only person you are reaching this way!
Thank you madam. Career is something I have struggled with due to constantly fluctuating interests. ADHD keeps me demotivated. By the way You look a little younger than your age.
I've found that my cashier job suits me really well. I work different registers depending on my shift, get to learn about all sorts of stuff (I work at a Home Depot), and get to divert to small side tasks here and there.
This video was great! I also want to recommend the book A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD. Chapter 5 talks about this exact topic and has questions throughout it that really get you thinking about what you should do with your life. The whole book is full of great information and really gets you thinking about all the negative self-talk and assumptions that we have about ourselves. If you really read this book and do the journaling prompts you will have a different view of yourself by the end of the book.
I just looked it up and apparently there is a real version as well as a fake version that's been plagiarized. So if you plan to purchase, double-check to make sure the correct authors are listed: Sari Solden (MS) and Michelle Frank (PsyD). If we do come across the fake version, the actual authors ask that we report it to the seller so the seller can take action.
I appreciate this video and so looked back at all the work I had done deciphering my values, what I used to enjoy, all the things! I can't for the life of me connect any of it (I've been doing this for years). And love doing something? I don't think I would ever describe anything I've done as something I loved to do (I'm 46 and haven't worked for 13 years due to illness). I do enjoy the energy you bring to this topic. Hope you'll do more!
Thank you for your insights. 41-42 has been an enlightening period for me. On my way to 43 with a path to early retirement and work that serves others and fulfills me. I've been able to dedicate to art and uplifting communities.
I'm going to have to binge watch all your videos because everything you said hit home on something that I felt nobody has ever truly understood about me. I'm 34 and have been a homemaker my entire adult life, but always felt unfulfilled and without a true purpose. I'm searching hard for that now but I need guidance and I think you might be the right person to help me along.
This is great. I'm 39. I left the workforce to care for my small children and daycare priced me out of working. So now... I'm looking ahead to days when my kids won't need me all day. So I really need to take that best first step back into working and honestly I do not want to just get into a grind. I feel like I need to start the call rolling now so by the time I can really get going I'll be able to and I'll be established. Just not sure what that is and what avenues and resources to take. I do love writing. I do love homesteading and herbalism. I could see myself writing but I'm clueless as to where to begin writing for a living.
You could start a blog and write articles on homesteading and herbalism. You could set a goal to write 1-2 articles per month at first and then ramp up as you get used to writing articles. You could earn income through ads on your blog and affiliate links to products you may recommend in your article. There’s definitely a market for this! I hope you pursue your passion!
Thanks for the video, a lot of food for thought. You’re so right about needing meaningful work. I’m currently close to getting a job I would absolutely love (dream job level in terms of my interests and skills), but I’m in such a cushy job now in terms of pay, ability to work from home, part-time, etc that everything about the new job will be a downgrade, BUT I can’t shake the idea that I need to go for it - everyone thinks I’m mad for considering it. Hoping to go into negotiations and show how passionate I am to try to negotiate the best terms I can because I need this change!
I agree with what you had said about not being afraid of doing something that you love to do imperfectly until you get it right. I had experienced shutting down mentally due to the person training me to do a task at my new assignment is very impatient and take it out on me or if the trainer did not properly trained me or show me how to do the task.
I'm glad I stumbled on your video. This video is very motivating and you explain it so well. I'm 22 and got ADD and I have just quit my job and I'm looking for something better for me. The only thing that's in the way right now is long-covid, that has made me so tired. I've already been dealing with it since last december, but now I kinda relapsed. I'm not gonna work for a little while and I'm gonna see a doctor who can help me deal with it. I hope I can find a job that's good for me eventually! Also, great tip to think about what you loved doing or playing with as a kid. That helps to figure it all out just a bit more.
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I wish I could find the lightbulb moment. I despise my job, and I tried to get accommodation to get a new position....they want to 'try to modifications for 2 mths." i"m like lady, I just told you this job is the problem...im not going to last here that long. LOL If i could deal w/ more ADHDers I might feel better.
I really struggle with this advice, especially when it comes from someone who has already achieved FI (good on you btw). If I could pursue anything I'd go into acting or public speaking, but right now I just need a job! Having job hopped so much in my 20's I am not in a financial position to do the things I love.
Caren, I listen to you religiously. This is the best content for me to date. Question though… currently I’m looking for work and I’ve been in sales my entire life pretty much. Don’t love it but feel that’s all I have and just do again bc quite frankly. I need money. So yeah I would love to experiment but I simply can’t afford to. How do I overcome this? And also your link to bison and action doesn’t work. Gives the 404 error. Love to get my ands on that baby. Thank you for being you and adding tremendous value to my life.
Thank you for all the kind words!! I appreciate it. In terms of your career, you can do what you need to do now for the $$, but then reduce your "burn rate" so that you can open yourself up to more options. What else appeals to you? Sales is such a transferable skill. Here's the link to Vision to action. Thx for calling that broken link out! bit.ly/3XEAYZc
This is a great video, thank you for helping with some perspective! You know the thing i really struggle with is how to transfer into another career whilst managing bills and financial responsibilities, because there's always that risk - that always stops me making moves in the right direction :(
My issue is that when I’m being honest with myself, I know what I like. I would love to just sing karaoke, write my daydreams, do yoga, dance to live music, ask people loads of questions, etc. but I won’t be able to live off that so then I go back to the drawing board and get discouraged because I cannot bring myself to sell people shit they don’t need and that is 99.9% of all jobs. sell, sell, sell. I get it, but I can’t get over this hurdle. I can’t even afford an apartment if I don’t find SOMETHING. I can’t make money off of my dreams or maybe I can, but it would take a while.
You don't have to sell anything. Find a day job that supports your passions. Be a receptionist, a dog walker, a software engineer. Your beliefs are holding you back, not your interests.
This is an amazing video. I do food delivery. I’ve done it for 6 years on and off. I’ve had other “dream jobs” as executive assistant. But people aren’t nice, and it’s really hard for me be around all that. I was miserable, even though I LOVED the work. Food delivery has always been my fall back. Makes me think because of the ADHD, like I feel I can’t have something else. I dunno. Thank you for the food for thought!! This definitely motivated to get thinking on this.
I'm enjoying the sound of your voice Caren. You're very easy to listen to and you seem to be filled with the right information, so you've just found yourself a new subscriber. I'm very much enjoying listening to you while I'm busy drawing! Wait a minute, you're 53!? 😲 That surprised me! Anyway, onto more of your video's, I look forward to seeing what else you have in store! 😁
What should one do if they aren't exactly sure about what they love to do? I mean my purpose here is really to get tips and advice on work because it has been really hard for me to keep a job. I am an artist and feel that I am competent at several creative based roles, but these often require a degree and/or prior experience on a professional level.
Excellent content, and I am grateful that you create. Perfect timing for discovering this channel. I LOVE trying new experiences, but struggle with the follow-through or commitment. I have to love what I do, but I am really good at convincing myself that what I'm doing is my passion. Over it. Ready for this. Thanks. 🙏
I have lots of interests and hobbies but mainly for the outcome and never the process. I’m good at lots of things, and I know I can get good with a bit of practice. But I still don’t have a clue what I should do, I always make excuses as why I can’t do ‘the thing’. And eventually I lose interest. I’m 34 and stuck in the narrative that I’m a flake and can’t follow through. I’ve had my current job for 2 years and I want to move on. 2 years is good for me 😭
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A lot of people say: "Find something you love doing and make that your job."
Problem is: I like too many things and when I do anything for an extended period of time, I start to lose interest and get bored. even if I thought it was the coolest thing ever when I started.
Is there something that you keep coming back to?
i like doing things that cost money and dont make money hahahaha
@@scentsual7752 Yeah I often have that problem too. 😅
How about some thing in the world of consumer advice? Especially if the things you like cost a lot? You can switch between products in categories as your interest changes.
I have this issue as well, so this video wasn’t helpful at all
I don't really enjoy doing anything enough to commit my life to it. I have a remote job doing something I'm good at but find uninteresting and unchallenging (data analysis). I have free time to do random things throughout the day (chores, TV, crafts, reading, etc,), and energy to have a social life after work. It's perfect for me. I think sometimes we don't need a job that's AWESOME, we just need a job that gives us a little freedom outside the constant 9-5 grind, and a job where eyes aren't on us all day questioning why we're not working nonstop.
Hello I want to venture into data analysis I am an undergraduate student in the final year of my studies. Could you please provide a list of resources where I can start of with please it would be of great help. I don't like programming much even though mines a CSE degree. I wanted to give this field a shot
@@harshadeshpande8364 I don't have a list of resources, but learning an analysis tool like Power BI or Tableau is key. The programming that you'll need is SQL, which imo is not very difficult compared to object oriented programming.
I'm a Sales Analyst, and totally agree with your comment! 🙂
Agreed completely.
I'm there. Currently training to get into tech sales so I can leave teaching, work from home, be more available for my kids and make more money.
I'm 27 and got diagnosed this year. I feel like its too late for me and i already wasted my life. Seeing that you started your journey at 50 with this level of energy is inspiring. God bless you. (U also look a lot younger)
I was 25 when I found it. Programming. Nowadays big cloud providers are looking for me. Never too late.
Imagine not finding out you have ADHD until you are 54. You are just starting out. That is a gift.
Diagnosed at 42 never had a rule book and have been traumatised by going through a life time of crap
quit your crying I am 37 and havent stayed in a job more than 1 year each
I'm 60 and just getting diagnosed. Just take it and run with it NOW. Don't look backwards!
RECAP at 13:40 -
1. Finding what you love starts with thinking about the things you've always loved, things that light you up and give you energy
2. It has to be something where you enjoy the process as much or more than the outcome itself
3. It has to be something you're willing to do imperfectly and show up again and again whether or not you're ever gonna get a big payout because you love doing it that much
4. Give yourself the self-trust and permission to explore, and know that some things will be for you, some things will not be for you, and that's ok, just keep pushing forward.
What stuck in my head -
- Something that lights you up and gives you energy
- Something you're willing to do and fail at / be bad at initially because you enjoy the *process* so much
- Give yourself *permission* to pursue the thing; work on *trusting* yourself
- Throw away the *I never follow through* on anything narrative - you follow through on things all the time, if you didn't you'd be lying in a ditch somewhere
- If you don't know what lights you up, you need to reflect more deeply - what did you love doing as a kid, outside of school, in school? What podcasts do you listen to? What books do you read? What topics do you enjoy talking about?
Thanks for the notes
These summary notes are so helpful! Thanks!
My notes were doodles, yours are much clearer. I thank you.
Thank you so much for this. I was so interested in the subject, but just couldn't make myself sit through the whole video. So, I started scrolling comments and found what I needed from your recap. This was perfect for my current attention span! ❤
Thank you so much for the notes, I rarely keep interest in a YT video that doesn't have time stamps. (As someone with ADHD)
I like sleeping, being on my phone scrolling, and that’s it basically.
Same, just add listening to music for me. There's no job for us.
Well, this is depressing as fuck😂
Same
What about something that bugs you when it’s done wrong, or strong opinions that you have?
@@unsolicited-opinionsno, Baby, that IS depression, simple af.
I have always said we should do what interests us for work otherwise we’ll just keep quitting our jobs. We simply cannot do things we hate for work, our brains won’t allow it. I’ve found this has plagued every ADHD person I know. People say “we all have to do things we don’t like”…… not us, we literally can’t!
absolutely!
The last phrase resonates so much! My friend has been telling me that for a couple weeks because I’ve been off work for a month now but I’m desperate to find a job that suits me and my interest cause I can’t keep up with some jobs! When I do, I burn out once I’m out.
@@-vickyspit- sorry that you see life like that. Everyone has a different level of “hard” they can endure. Ones trauma is maybe not the others trauma. Everyone is different! And actually taking time off to heal and understand myself rather than putting pressure is way more effective than the dread of being a bad employee etc. Cause we are not dumb, we know very well when we aren’t doing the best we could. Understanding, accepting and validating ourselves with love attention and kindness is the way to go. It takes time and isn’t easy to have no guilt but the guilt is what kills us. I’m all for taking time off but only if you plan on doing better and taking care of one’s self so they bounce back better to work a life time.
I've found that what I'm working on matters less then how I'm working. I love collaborating on projects and helping people. Any job that includes that is good.
Every single job has its pros and cons. If you are in a job that you don’t like, only you are capable of doing the reframing necessary to figure out what you do like and focus on that. And while it sounds a little bit mean, each person’s failure to do this is gonna drag other people down with you, whether you become a financial drain on your family or on society in general when there are literally tens of millions of you. That’s just not right. So figure it out. If you can’t pull yourself up by your own bootstraps, (yes I know that’s a silly phrase), you need to find someone to help you do it. I don’t care if the only thing you like about your job is driving to it and from it, Because you don’t have to do house work or your job during the commute. I don’t care if it’s just lunch break that you care about. I don’t care if it’s wearing pajama bottoms because you’re telecommuting. You need to get yourself in a better frame of mind to meet the future anyway, so why not do it now?
I'm finding it's less about doing the job you love, and more doing a job with enough stimulation and with good colleagues.
I recently changed jobs. Not obsessed with the topics or area it's in but it's HIGHLY stimulating. My ability to switch my attention so easy comes as a high advantage, as is my ability to hyperfocus. There's also a structure, a common goal, close knit team with lots of support. Before there was less of a team, boring work that wasn't stimulating and very repetitive. It caused me to procrastinate because it wasn't important.
What is it that you do? sounds interesting for my brain!
@eileen02 oh I somehow got a job managing the diary of a ceo in the public sector. And their diary is back to back with meetings, in person, virtual, with some domestic and international travel so very intense and detail heavy. Honestly having colleagues that are supportive is the best because it's an intense job but I love the changes and intensity. If meetings get cancelled or need to move, I react quickly. If there are technical issues or I need to collect someone from reception, I can switch gears pretty well.
It's not a iob for someone who likes things easy! I have a very hyperactive and curious mind, always want to do better and learn. Thankfully the team are really nice with reminding me to have lunch and breaks because of the hyperfocusing! I forget to eat, drink water and go to bed, the main downfall lol.
So maybe not suitable if you're less hyperactive but a job where there is variety, interacting with different teams, structured, one common goal and lively might help.
Something involving a production, coordination, like in media production or events management just to give you an idea!
The team you work with is 100% the biggest difference! I can love doing a thing to high hills, but if I’m not working with a team I mesh with? I can’t stick with it.
I can't work with other people around, I have to be by myself. So I am happy that I don't have any colleagues.
I wholeheartedly agree. It's about those who surround you while you work! People who ACTUALLY mean it when they ask "How are you doing?" And they may even look you in the eye.
I'm a creative. I went to school for graphic design decades ago then went into administrative work which I thoroughly enjoyed mostly because of the family feel of the company I was lucky to have found. There were fun activities and comeraderie and 75% of the team were happy to be there and talked to each other. The company was bought out and we all were laid off. This led me back to school for marketing certificate and a couple more years with HIGH paying admin work after but I HATED it because of the people. Narcissistic boss who had everyone under his thumb, particularly HR. They wouldn't even help me when I told them what he had done to me. The money kept all the mouths there shut tightly.
Now, I'm a floral designer and I love the creativity and freedom I have in most of my days, but I do miss having a great team. Still and always looking to improve my environment in my work life.
Great video!
Realistically, the best jobs for ADHDers are those that do the time management for us. If you're a clerk, or a doctor, or a financial consultant, you have a schedule and you keep receiving people and tend to their needs. You do not have a long term project that forces you to plan your time, because that's a recipe for disaster.
I think with enough interest or... consequence? Enough desperation for the big project to succeed? Then ADHDers can be very successful despite the need to plan ahead. See all the ADHD TH-camrs like the coach who's channel we're watching now. She built a whole business as an entrepreneur. She completes the projects of these videos. No one else is deciding everything for her in these cases. It's more common than you think.
Great insight.
10000%
For me its the opposite. I work terribly when my schedule is decided for me because it causes anxiety about being late, or I have to break my good focus to go to lunch on time, or be required to push through when I am in a bad mental spot. I enjoyed work much more when I could do my own schedule, take breaks when I needed to, and simply had overall goals to meet in a day. My productivity was better too when I could do my own schedule.
I worked retail for many years and was very successful at it but it was so demanding of me. I would get burnt out and get an office job that was more laxed but it would quickly get boring and I was bad at managing my time and being a self starter. What retail did give me was exactly what you said.. a set schedule and customers that came to me and kept me busy.
But after I became a mom the retail schedule was definitely something I could no longer do so I got a license and now I'm self employed. It's reallyyyy hard for me to feel focused and motivated. So yeah I'm trying to find my place.. somewhere that gives me flexibility and I feel fulfilled. Does it exist?
For me I've realised that half of my problems are people. If I could eliminate that problem I'd be happy doing any job haha
FELT THAT.
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This is me. There’s not many jobs you can do badly and expect people to pay you 😂
Toxic ppl
Engineering. You can literally treat people like numbers. So glad I went into this field. I love it.
My favorite job pays so poorly that I can’t do that job regardless of how much I loved the job. My current job, I’m appreciative to have, but it feels like an ADHD nightmare, but it pays my bills.
Omg exact same experience for me here.
@@jasmineleigh328 I hope some day you can find an ADHD friendly job you love that pays well too.
Hey, just a note to say your videos have been the most uplifting and actionable videos on ADHD that I’ve found. You are doing great ! Thank you so much !
thank you so much for taking the time to share that. It really means a lot.
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at this point I am not asking for a career that lights me up so much as a job that doesn't drain me so badly that I can't muster up the energy for my creative projects (but i will still watch the video and learn)
I guess we are not all the same. Finding what you love is good advice ..... but.... :) I have found that I put a lot of energy in and things go well, then, I get good at that thing. As soon as I get good at it, I start losing interest in that thing, it becomes work and I dont like doing it anymore. I dont love it anymore. Just me?
Yep… love music .. got a job as A&R for Polydor and then lost my love of music. Then started a photography magazine which is really successful but I’ve lost my love of photography. Everything you do as a job, becomes a job.
Feel the same. I’ve been writing blogs and books for myself and a small audience, now that I’m on my 5th book and trying to make a living as an author, I am afraid I will begin to hate writing. I don’t want to have to work for my basic needs anymore. We could do UBI if you wanted to…
I’m the same. I ended up doing therapeutic massage and it is holding my attention because I can always learn new modalities and techniques. There is also no end to what you can learn about anatomy and physiology.
Barbara Sher wrote couple books about that! Highly recommend “Refuse to choose”
Same! I say that what I love doing is learning how to do things…not actually doing things ;)
Im a 57 year old entrepreneur having been one for 33 years. I am only now on the process of getting diagnosed with ADHD though i have known since childhood (my mother refused to put me on Ritalin).
So lots of coping and masking. And for a long time with the use of systems and assistants I was an effective entrepreneur and my untreated ADHD was a weird badge of honor. But as I have gotten older my systems seem less effective and other issues are popping up.
So happy to have found this channel. And i know I'm in the company of others that have ADHD and are dealing with it.
For those wondering how you can tell if a channel has folks with ADHD just look at the length of all the comments and the... READ MORE truncations. Imagine if we were all actually talking! In
ADHDers are wildly overrepresented in the UX industry (e.g. user/usability/market research, design and copywriting). Like coaching, you're pulling bits of behavioural science and psychology and using interviews to figure out how to make things better for your users. These are fun, varied roles that can easily be done remotely - and when you find the right job, you never have to work a day in your life.
Overrepresented like programming ;)
I'm AuDHD and want to go into programming with an emphasis on UX so this is encouraging 😄
@@leaha.6255 I thought being neurodivergent was a hard requirement for programmers 😉
I am a freelancer because there wasn't a job out there that fits me. I am a copywriter for websites and blogs and I do webdesign.
@Flopsi80 I've been doing a design degree but I'm worried there won't be work for me when I eventually graduate because of AI image generation, ChatGPT and web design platforms like Squarespace 😓 it's very discouraging.
Loving something so much you're willing to do it badly is GENIUS!!! I think that's the main key I've been missing
Thank you for this video. I have worked a corp tech job for the last 8 years, and the more I climb the career ladder the more misery it brings into my life. I've recently been diagnosed with adhd, which explains so so much about me! Videos like this are so informative AND empowering!
I teach piano. Im ADHD. I love it! It's never the same but it has a routine. Im always learning and feel like i have a purpose. I was a very bad pianist but it taught me how to be a great teacher.
Over 2 decades teaching but I will never retire!! 😊
i bet being a one on one teacher would be pretty fun! i think id like it too!
I just discovered your channel and am in LOVE. I so appreciate you as a person and your outlook on ADHD. I have never been diagnosed with ADHD but I have strong adhd tendencies. Most videos I watch from ADHDers make me sad and frustrated but your attitude is so validating and encouraging.
I actually haven't got in a bad mood in my career since I started using Dmt_rogerr this month I don't experience pains,Bipolar,PTSD,depression,anxiety and other mental disorders.
She gives the best diagnosis and psychedelic
What do you mean they make you sad and frustrated?
At 31 I found out what I wanted to do after job hopping for years. I'm 33 now and am going stronger than ever, I work every day and love what I do and wanted to expand on what's been said/offer some things that I tell fellow adhd friends. When finding what you "should" be doing, consider this; what would you do everyday even if you didn't get paid to do it? What do you love to do that much? Also, you need to find something that is stimulating enough that will keep you interested without effort- this usually involves some sort of creative expression, although just having a job that allows you to be on the move or allows you to get involved in projects or varying duties will do the trick as well. The key is to avoid the mundane and make a career out of your most sincere interests...you have to be willing to take the leap and give yourself permission to fail over and over whilst making progress, be seen as foolish, and not take criticisms to heart.
Sleep literally nothing else I love to do
Screen shotted this! Thank you for this advice
"What would you do everyday even if you didnt get paid to do it?" Selling Weed like the guy in High Maintenance
I rarely comment but this video really spoke to me. I was in a high paying corporate role following the FIRE principle but I hated it and got to the point where I just couldn't do it anymore. This year I hit coastFIRE (full FIRE at 50), then got my ADHD diagnosis and then decided this was it. It's time to take the risk. I'm not earning anywhere near as much as I was anymore and I'm still early days of setting up my own leadership coaching business but I no longer feel stressed and anxious and miserable all the time. This is the change I need and hopefully I can keep pushing to make it my successful second career.
Fear, Doubt or Pride are the things that hold most people back...even with ADHD
Love the video. Unfortunately I, (which seems to happen 99.9% of the time with all major life decisions and impactful "things," ie; college, career, etc), love my career, but it's set up in such a toxic way, it has an extremely negative impact with the rest of life and has my physically and mentally running in circles like a rendition of the movie Groundhog Day.
Get clear on what you love about it and keep searching for work that doesn't include the toxic peice!
@@CarenMagill thank you Caren. I have been trying my best to do this. My biggest road block recently has been my consistency in staying positive while doing this, and not "freezing," and ruminating upon the negativity of job, and field.
Metaphorically speaking, if I'm in quick sand and I can see a branch of a tree, even if it's far away, even if the integrity of it holding up when
I'm close enough to finally try to grab it is very suspect, there is some, slight, sliver of hope.
However, for the first time in my life, at 43 years old, during this past year, it very much seems that there are no branches in sight , and I'm treading to stay a float in that quick sand, but I'm slowly sinking. While all this is happening, I'm trying my hardest to mentally fend off the mental and physical freezing episodes due to the ever increasing amounts of building apathy and anhedonia, which at times seems almost insurmountable.
If u love your career what specifically about it causes the negative impact on your life? Those two assertions seem incongruous. And if it’s set up in a toxic way, how so, and is it possible to change the way it’s set up to make it more enjoyable?
I just started a job two weeks ago and I didn't mind sucking at first. My issue I'm having is having the trainer or is training me degrades me. Talks down to me and expects me to be fast when I just learned something a day ago. I feel like I'm a huge burden. So now I'm miserable. I decided to apply for a different job that allows me more freedom. To allow me to make mistakes without being afraid to make them. I currently feel like I cannot make a mistake right now due to the horrible criticism I get. There is a difference between degrading and constructive criticism. I cannot be in an environment where im
Constantly feeling like I'm a failure.
Have you expressed your concern to the trainer or someone in HR. I urge you to do so!
@@karengifford899 yeah I did and ended up being worse . I ended up leaving and much happier now. Now I am being a caregiver with my own hours and my own boss. Started a adhd podcast and doing so much better. Sometimes we need to take ourselves out of bad situations that don’t serve us.
that sounds like rejection dysphoria.
I just went through a similar situation and feel your pain. I hope there is a way to resolve the situation. Wishing you all the best.
Yasss this the words I’ve been trying to say!
Please I spit out my water when you said "you're 22 years old and you havent tried enough stuff" because I'm a 22 year old who has become intimately aware of not having tried enough stuff!!! lmaooooo gave me a good chuckle thank you, amazing video!!
The pressure to know what you want to do right out of high school when you have zero life experience is seriously messed up.
@@rhythmandblues_alibi you're tellin me!!!
Thank you so much for this video! I'm in the midst of a career change after 21 years as a flight attendant. I've been at such a loss as to what to do next and feel so stuck. Your thoughts really resonated and I took many notes and have some new things to consider now.
On a completely unrelated note - you look amazing! Your skin is beautiful! Can you do a video about how someone with ADHD manages to look so polished? 🤷❤️😁
Glad the video resonated! Take the good from your current career and bring that forward. Thanks for the compliment on my skin. I have really good lighting in my studio that makes it look better than it does IRL.
Love I found u! I am 71 & just got officially diagnosed last year. Am actually just researching what it means & feel so relieved others understand .This is such an awesome teaching!
Hi! I am considering flight attendant. Did you like your experience with ADHD?
Beautiful hair, too!!
@@morganjane1710 So sorry just responding. Don't know why I didn't see the notification before. Anyway... The job is great for people with ADHD in some ways, but really challenging in others. The challenges for me included things like always having to be "on." No escape from people. Sensory overwhelm in the airports. Coworkers that never shut up sometimes. REALLY irregular sleep schedules and long days. I completely burnt out and after I quit I basically slept for three months. The good points of it were the flexibility (unless you were on call/reserve), constant stimulation from new people/places, and decent pay after you've been there about five years. The first few years suck for pay and scheduling control. At the airline I worked for, when I got tired of flying, I would volunteer for assignments working with the union or some other project. So its good in that when you get tired of it you can take a break. Or do something else on the side entirely. Many FAs go to school, nurse, real estate or some other part time interest. It's probably one of the best jobs I had as someone with ADHD, but my recommendation is to be vigilant about taking care of yourself and not letting yourself get burnt out. Once you get burnt out, you're miserable. I knew it was time for me to leave when I was in my favorite city, on a long layover, and I couldn't muster the energy/enthusiasm to leave the hotel room. Working with people can be exhausting. If you're rejection sensitive I would say a hard NO.
Thank you very much for this video, I find it extremely helpful and very real. one factor pointed out by my therapist was the cultural context in which I grew up: as the eldest child of immigrants (1st generation), there was no place to thinking of a career in the arts or culture, the emphasis was placed on "real jobs that pay well" because of a (understandable) need to socially evolve in a very unfair capitalist society ; which led me to pursue a career that I do not enjoy and a desk job that triggers my ADHD terribly, everyday. Thank you SO MUCH for your words and creating a safe space in the comments to learn from each other. (I am french I apologize for my english).
I also relate to your comment. As eldest sibling my parents want me to take a job which is financially stable and support me. But I am right now a college graduate and is in that route where i have to make important decisions.
Is it possible that you can make a shift back to the previous culture? In the same or a different location?
On the plus side, I’m sure you have plenty of skills To bring to a new position. Volunteering can be a great way to bridge between an old career and a new one as well.
At least you were not 1 st generation immigrant such as myself. Doing the jobs which are beneath your level of competence and intelligence while battling with immigration and living pay check to pay check. Then doing a degree you have no interest in just to be able to qualify for a work permit all while fearing you will be kicked out of the country and returning to a war zone. Doing sensible jobs which guarantee a steady job is not just an immigrant thing but a working and middle class thing. Only the very wealthy can pursue their interests and study history of art and acting , when they have no bills to worry about
@@hautecouture2228 - I've got a number of friends in your position, including one juggling an educational visa (though she is ok with her college choices). Others had to leave professional credentials behind, and are working way "beneath" them, and long hours in order to survive. My grandmother worked as a hotel maid for years when she came here. In today's internet world, though, we can study just about anything, read all the classics for free, even if it is for just a few minutes a per day. I've learned to love all of life whether my job was washing dishes in a school cafeteria, practicing my profession, or trying to sell things door-to-door.
This helps me so much! I literally cried after watching this. Everything made so much sense now! Thank you!!!
I always knew I wanted to be a Doctor . Because I have to be doing something interesting with my hands otherwise I get distracted and bored. But there was not medicine school in my city . My parents didn’t have enough money and told me to study Accounting. I finished the bachelors degree… only 1 year working behind a desk and I was so bored 😐. I studied English language and came to U.S and I am now working with patients in hemodialysis as a technician but after 3 years I don’t like it anymore. I realized I love working with blood and doing things with my hands so I think surgery is the job I would never get tired or doing.
I have a degree in surgical technology. Took a lot of hard Focusing to get it which did not come easy at all. My final clinicals made me realize I would never be able to do this. Surgery is very task focused and basically memorizing a surgeon’s way of doing things. You need to know what the surgeon will want and anticipate it. Kinda hard to do when shiny ball syndrome is hitting you every 5 seconds
I moved from real estate to technology in my 50's and have been thrilled with the change. The more work I have, the happier I am. My lightning brain just dashes to solutions and it's awesome. My son was so impressed that he left a career in logistics and went into software engineering. His lightning brain does the same thing - he is killing it at work. I let myself be steered in the wrong direction for me as a young person and am so glad that my son was able to avoid that. I wouldn't do my "life journey" again, but the destination is awesome because the skills I acquired in other careers put me WAY ahead of others in my field that have never done anything else. Also, I'm picking up my old childhood interest like making electronics. Even though I didn't study electrical engineering and computers in college, they politely waited for me to get around to pursuing them. :)
What area of tech do you work in?
@@nicolemccray8095 data government
Software engineering is the way to go!! I love that tech is constantly evolving, there are thousands of things to learn and there's never a point where you've figured everything out.
The timing of this video to pop up on my feed was perfect. Recently Dx with adhd at the age of 46. Went through divorce right before COVID. Failed engagement right after with someone else. Bounced between tech jobs. Took a small role at a startup as a sabbatical of sorts to rebuild my life based on this Dx. Now on Monday I was laid off. But this video is encouraging me to go after a career pivot into a pure sales role. I have big time imposter syndrome and always worried about external labels and factors which is why I was never happy in my past roles. I was not doing what I know I am good at and passionate about. Thank you.
When I was 48, I found my perfect job as an art technician at a school and stayed there for 15 years. Up until then, I had job-hopped and hadn't stayed in a job longer than a year. I think I've had about 40 different jobs.
Girlfriend, you are knocking it out of the park. Thank you for all you share. I'm binging on your videos now. I'm really impressed with how you make them and teach them. I feel like you're definitely in your zone of genius here and your Angels are so proud of you!! :) Bring in the woo - they like it and I like it too!
I'm glad my Angels guided me to your channel. I never thought of myself as having ADHD before. But listening to your videos and feeling like I've been suffering from burnout and exhaustion for a while now, this makes a lot of sense. I'm getting a lot of a'ha moments. I'll have to chew on this a little more.
I work as an admin assistant for an Engineering firm and I've been wanting to get my entrepreneurial business going for a while now, but I get shiny object syndrome and have a hard time focusing after my job to work on my side hustle; on things I should be. I appreciate all the tips you share. Much love
While I understand your point of view and I don't disagree with it IF FEASIBLE, the issue is that many people are stuck in miserable low end jobs where they have no path for growth to a position where FIRE is possible, and their passion will never bring them any money, like a guy I met working in construction who has a music degree and is a passionate bass player in a local group that has to PAY VENUES to be able to play there rather than the opposite....
Almost 48, I found out my diagnosis at 40. My life passions have evolved but are aggregated in building on everything else up to that point. What I do is something others laughed at, but now years later have apologized because they just couldn't get it, but now they do. Pay attention to your heart, and just keep looking!
I'm very happy for you. I have decided to make myself a priority this year, and to get myself diagnosed as well, you are an inspiration. Thank you.
What if what you love doesn’t matter, due to societal and financial road blocks?
I love climbing and would love to teach a beginner climber course. However I’m a 43 year old overweight AuDHD, single mom. Getting hired is difficult as a result, because people judge me based on my labels, rather than my passion for climbing. Furthermore, I need a job that makes enough money to support my boys.
What if you could do it and write about your experiences in like articles or talk about it in videos to help other people with the same thing? That's one way to monetize it? Easier said than done to get there lol but idk, I guess I am curious about doing the same thing except it's not rock climbing for me.
Maybe there’s a way you can incorporate more climbing and teaching into your life in a (financially, emotionally) sustainable way.
Do your boys like to climb, too?
How many other people like you are out there needing to hear from you, needing to hear how great climbing can be for their bodies and minds? ❤
Hang in there!
If it something you are interested in - there must be others like you. I am 53 and overweight and would feel comfortable in learning from someone who is like me, rather than the GI Joe doll with kyung fu grip that is in amazing shape. Sometimes we need to be the person that opens the door for others to try for themselves. Maybe you can put up flyers or work with a local city recreation department to offer classes to others? I did that with a self-defense class for women, so they can see anyone can defend themselves - you don’t have to be the big guy who is super string and in the Green Berets.
Show people you don’t have to be a size zero and muscular to do it. Show it can be done by anyone. If you’re doing it for fun just film yourself and put it on social media
What if you held an event at a climbing gym for people like you? I’m also overweight and I KNOW how people can judge. But if I saw an event like, “Climbing 101 for Bigger Bodies,” I’d be there in a flash, knowing I wouldn’t be singled out or judged. It’s not a job, but if you build a community, you can build a business around it.
Hey there! I’m 47 and I just discovered that I LOVE DJ’ing! I’ve ALWAYS loved music, but can’t play instruments. I also have always been into audio…sooo BAM! Now I’m gig’ing and FREAKING LOVE IT! I plan on doing some YT videos as well.
I would love to do something physical that would allow my mind to wander all day. Instead I stare at screen and pretend to be concentrating and then feel huge shame and guilt for not being productive.
Having worked physical jobs all my life, trust me, it's overrated. I'm still young and my body is broken from repetitive strain and other workplace injuries that I was never compensated for. I now find myself approaching middle age with no savings because these jobs never paid much, and no career to fall back on, because they were all dead end jobs. I wish I had an office job, instead I have crippling anxiety and depression 😓 The grass is always greener huh.
I completely understand this. I had the exact experience for 10 years as a Pricing Analyst. I switched to aircraft loading and had much easier time, but found it boring (except the days where I filled in as a team leader, which were a bit too stressful). I did find the short deadlines (1.5 hours max) very helpful. I feel like I need to creatively problem solve to be happy in a career. Or maybe I need a job where I negotiate with people.
This was great. As a fellow youtuber and adhd’er this was exactly what i needed to hear
Oh my goodness, you have no idea how much this video was needed by me today!
Jesussssssss caren.. you summed up my life.. ive been doing something poorl imperfectly over years and years unable to give up.. i have learned alot through it now its easy... goshhh i still make mistakes but so much better...... no one has talked about this.. you are amazing
thank you!
Thankyou.
I'm 53 too and have finally found that I love nursing and being a emergency first responder and I'm doing my diploma in emergency care.
I don't know what I like enough to do it every day. My jobs have never been led by what I like, it's only about what I can afford to live on. I job hopped because my jobs became too stressful to continue as my adhd self had messed up work relationships and made every day a horrible anxiety ridden mess. I think the idea that we should just follow what we love and explore stuff etc. is a bit ignorant to the fact that many of us have no savings, nothing to fall back on, rising living costs and basically 0 networks or experience in the areas we might want to get into. At age 30 I can't actually afford to take the time or money to start moving in the direction I might want to be in, because I am broke, burnt out and work full time in a job that actively forces me to not be adhd. I think it's great if you have the OPTION do explore and find what things light you up etc. but for the rest of us it's a bit of a sh*t show.
Great comment. As a neurodivergent person with a physical disability, I couldn’t agree more.
Yeah I'm almost 30, going back to school, never made more than $30k a year. Trying out new things and failing is a luxury, because if I try a new job and fail I could end up homeless. And what if the job I love and want also doesn't provide enough to live on? Should I just give up on the idea of one day having a house and a family?
Caren, thank you for you light. I am just meeting you, but I am a big consumer of content about adhd, autism, self improvement and trauma healing. You have a light that very few coaches give away this easily and effectively. I'd compare it with Matthew Husey and Lisa A. Romano.
I am happily subscribing and looking forward to more of your contagious joy, while giving excellent explanations ❤
Thank you very much!!
Caren - this hit me at the most perfect time. Thank you! Your best, truest, most authentic video yet. BRAVO!
Wow - so many parallels - I had a point in 2008 where I Googled 'financial independence' and found Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University. I was able to work in my State career, buy a home, and buy enough years of service to retire at age 65 then move back to California and buy a home. I learned that the politics in a job are motivation killers. But I hung in there and kept my nose down and tail up - doing good work to make them all miss me when I was gone. Now I have a pension and Social Security for life that basically supports me. Thank you for this Caren!
First time the algorithm brought me to your channel. Serendipitously, I have ADHD and am (still) looking for career fulfillment. I've done a lot of work to manage my emotional attachment. I'm not waiting for magic, just trying to feel integrated in society. Thanks for the insights!
Your videos have been of immense value to me lately. But honestly, one of the greatest helps is seeing how many others face the exact same struggles i do.
I love love love that you talk so much about the narratives and identities that we build around ourselves. That shit is so important. Anything difficult that I've done was attached to an identity of a person who did that thing. Quitting smoking is a good example, I was never able to stop as long as I identified as a smoker. You're putting out really good content and as an adhder I really appreciate it.
I am 42. Thank you so much about this video! I think this is the most important video I’ve seen in my whole life!! ❤
Your shirt has always been my moto. “All we need is love”. Doesn’t really seem to practical but it’s still my heart’s desire for the world. ❤😢
While I love the message being conveyed here, some of us are older and have obligations. Some of us are single moms or dads with children who rely solely on us for a decent salary and so can't make the switch. And with the economy the way it is right now, making a switch to a different career is even harder. Maybe when my kids are older and have graduated college, but for many of us doing it right now is absolutely unfeasible.
Same here
Thank you for doing what you're doing, Caren. I'm 28M this year, do not know if I've ADHD but I've not dared to commit to a job for a full year because of my fear of being unable to commit and eventually disappointing my managers so your advice about following through (as well as all the other parts) really resonates with me. I pray to God and the universe to give myself the insight to look within myself and hopefully I'll be able to land a job and do it well soon!
I work as a social media manager and it seems to be a great fit. Lots of stimulation/different projects, and I get to be creative every day!
Question! Sorry, I’m not through the whole video but you mentioned that you essentially were financially stable enough to retire early, then now work a lot because you’re doing what you love. The thing is, I feel like what stops me is the stress and worry about financial stability. What I’m doing right now is okay enough for the pay, but I still need to drag myself to work 😭
Oops forgot to actually ask the question haha. How you do give up financial stability for something that you may or may not love in the future (being ADHD and all lol)?
Hey there, not sure I understand the question. Why would you have to give up financial stability?
What Carin says is figure out how to create enough financial stability to try something else…cut down your expenses perhaps which means prioritizing, maybe get a roommate to share expenses, eat out less, spend less where u can, in other words save money or create another income stream that allows you to try something else without fear or panic.
@@CarenMagilla lot of people don’t have financial stability to begin with, so it’s not something they are familiar with.
Great mesage Caren, thank you. I'm just realising that I love creative writing. I love the process and I can handle criticism. Its taken me until the age of 60 to give myself permission to do this.
Thanks for this.
Thank you Caren! One of the best videos out there on this topic. I am still on that career struggle bus but I tell friends in the same position exactly what you said "it starts with getting to know ourselves deeply." I just started this work last year!! I've always been an introspective person, but I never really sought to understand my values/my needs/what lights me up etc. That's when I realized last year I did NOT want to be an entrepreneur (opposite to many). I always tried to get successful doing my hobbies (art/music) but I didn't enjoy it because I felt like I always had to be thinking about what to do next. I want a stable 9-5, but in an environment I love doing something I love for a company I love! I just don't know what that exactly that looks like yet...
Thanks!
thank you!!!
I just discovered you today. I am a 52 year old gay adult male who has been recently diagnosed November of 2023 (with ADHD (combined type,but lean toward inattentive distractable), OCD, and ASD with a VERY HIGH ability to mask, which may be why I wasn’t assessed sooner. Your channel, so far from the three or four videos I’ve watched today has been EXCEPTIONAL and probably the most helpful of all the TH-cam channels I’ve found/followed. I wish I found your’s first! But I just wanted to thank you for doing what you do. You have a fantastic personality and presence which I enjoy, I already subscribed! I want to comment on how much your energy and enthusiasm comes through the screen. That is not a common thing for me to experience. I can see content creator’s passion in their videos, but your’s feels like it is beamed right into the room with me, and it is motivating me in ways most TH-cam channels don’t. So thank you for choosing this path. I’m sure I’m not the only person you are reaching this way!
Thank you madam. Career is something I have struggled with due to constantly fluctuating interests. ADHD keeps me demotivated. By the way You look a little younger than your age.
I just found you and love your practical guide videos. Thank you for helping so many of us.
I've found that my cashier job suits me really well. I work different registers depending on my shift, get to learn about all sorts of stuff (I work at a Home Depot), and get to divert to small side tasks here and there.
This video was great! I also want to recommend the book A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD. Chapter 5 talks about this exact topic and has questions throughout it that really get you thinking about what you should do with your life. The whole book is full of great information and really gets you thinking about all the negative self-talk and assumptions that we have about ourselves. If you really read this book and do the journaling prompts you will have a different view of yourself by the end of the book.
I just looked it up and apparently there is a real version as well as a fake version that's been plagiarized. So if you plan to purchase, double-check to make sure the correct authors are listed: Sari Solden (MS) and Michelle Frank (PsyD).
If we do come across the fake version, the actual authors ask that we report it to the seller so the seller can take action.
I appreciate this video and so looked back at all the work I had done deciphering my values, what I used to enjoy, all the things! I can't for the life of me connect any of it (I've been doing this for years). And love doing something? I don't think I would ever describe anything I've done as something I loved to do (I'm 46 and haven't worked for 13 years due to illness). I do enjoy the energy you bring to this topic. Hope you'll do more!
Thank you. This video was very helpful.
Thanks!
Thank you!!!
Thank you for your insights. 41-42 has been an enlightening period for me. On my way to 43 with a path to early retirement and work that serves others and fulfills me. I've been able to dedicate to art and uplifting communities.
OMGMGGG thaaank youu! the way you reframed the questions actually make more sense!
I'm going to have to binge watch all your videos because everything you said hit home on something that I felt nobody has ever truly understood about me. I'm 34 and have been a homemaker my entire adult life, but always felt unfulfilled and without a true purpose. I'm searching hard for that now but I need guidance and I think you might be the right person to help me along.
This is great. I'm 39. I left the workforce to care for my small children and daycare priced me out of working. So now... I'm looking ahead to days when my kids won't need me all day. So I really need to take that best first step back into working and honestly I do not want to just get into a grind. I feel like I need to start the call rolling now so by the time I can really get going I'll be able to and I'll be established. Just not sure what that is and what avenues and resources to take. I do love writing. I do love homesteading and herbalism. I could see myself writing but I'm clueless as to where to begin writing for a living.
You could start a blog and write articles on homesteading and herbalism. You could set a goal to write 1-2 articles per month at first and then ramp up as you get used to writing articles. You could earn income through ads on your blog and affiliate links to products you may recommend in your article. There’s definitely a market for this! I hope you pursue your passion!
this video is one of the most helpful things ive seen in a long time. Im 21 and still figuring it all out. thank you for all of this!
Thanks for the video, a lot of food for thought. You’re so right about needing meaningful work. I’m currently close to getting a job I would absolutely love (dream job level in terms of my interests and skills), but I’m in such a cushy job now in terms of pay, ability to work from home, part-time, etc that everything about the new job will be a downgrade, BUT I can’t shake the idea that I need to go for it - everyone thinks I’m mad for considering it. Hoping to go into negotiations and show how passionate I am to try to negotiate the best terms I can because I need this change!
This advice will help so many people, enjoying the chanel so far.
Every time you explain very easy recognizable and directional, thanks a lot ❤
I agree with what you had said about not being afraid of doing something that you love to do imperfectly until you get it right. I had experienced shutting down mentally due to the person training me to do a task at my new assignment is very impatient and take it out on me or if the trainer did not properly trained me or show me how to do the task.
Great video! I struggle with extreme ADHD but was blessed and fortunate enough to know what I wanted to do at a young age 🙏
Wow, that is a blessing! Can I ask what it is that you do?
Yes, what do you do?
What do you do??!
I am a professional fighter and martial arts coach 🙏
@@Jamesvickmma ouuuu, so nice!
I appreciate the discussion on follow through. This is a huge challenge for me
The concept of not perfectly performing a task is new to me. But it is so releasing. Will try it. Thanks.
really great timing on this video. Thank you. PS: love your hair!
I'm glad I stumbled on your video. This video is very motivating and you explain it so well. I'm 22 and got ADD and I have just quit my job and I'm looking for something better for me. The only thing that's in the way right now is long-covid, that has made me so tired. I've already been dealing with it since last december, but now I kinda relapsed. I'm not gonna work for a little while and I'm gonna see a doctor who can help me deal with it. I hope I can find a job that's good for me eventually! Also, great tip to think about what you loved doing or playing with as a kid. That helps to figure it all out just a bit more.
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I wish I could find the lightbulb moment. I despise my job, and I tried to get accommodation to get a new position....they want to 'try to modifications for 2 mths." i"m like lady, I just told you this job is the problem...im not going to last here that long. LOL If i could deal w/ more ADHDers I might feel better.
Thank you for this vid. I have to say, your positivitiy is infectious 🙂
I really struggle with this advice, especially when it comes from someone who has already achieved FI (good on you btw). If I could pursue anything I'd go into acting or public speaking, but right now I just need a job! Having job hopped so much in my 20's I am not in a financial position to do the things I love.
Caren, I listen to you religiously. This is the best content for me to date. Question though… currently I’m looking for work and I’ve been in sales my entire life pretty much. Don’t love it but feel that’s all I have and just do again bc quite frankly. I need money. So yeah I would love to experiment but I simply can’t afford to. How do I overcome this?
And also your link to bison and action doesn’t work. Gives the 404 error. Love to get my ands on that baby. Thank you for being you and adding tremendous value to my life.
Thank you for all the kind words!! I appreciate it.
In terms of your career, you can do what you need to do now for the $$, but then reduce your "burn rate" so that you can open yourself up to more options. What else appeals to you? Sales is such a transferable skill.
Here's the link to Vision to action. Thx for calling that broken link out! bit.ly/3XEAYZc
This is a great video, thank you for helping with some perspective! You know the thing i really struggle with is how to transfer into another career whilst managing bills and financial responsibilities, because there's always that risk - that always stops me making moves in the right direction :(
This is So good! I am so glad to have found you! You speak straight to Me. This video is really helping me.
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My issue is that when I’m being honest with myself, I know what I like. I would love to just sing karaoke, write my daydreams, do yoga, dance to live music, ask people loads of questions, etc. but I won’t be able to live off that so then I go back to the drawing board and get discouraged because I cannot bring myself to sell people shit they don’t need and that is 99.9% of all jobs. sell, sell, sell. I get it, but I can’t get over this hurdle. I can’t even afford an apartment if I don’t find SOMETHING. I can’t make money off of my dreams or maybe I can, but it would take a while.
You don't have to sell anything. Find a day job that supports your passions. Be a receptionist, a dog walker, a software engineer. Your beliefs are holding you back, not your interests.
This is an amazing video. I do food delivery. I’ve done it for 6 years on and off. I’ve had other “dream jobs” as executive assistant. But people aren’t nice, and it’s really hard for me be around all that. I was miserable, even though I LOVED the work. Food delivery has always been my fall back. Makes me think because of the ADHD, like I feel I can’t have something else. I dunno. Thank you for the food for thought!! This definitely motivated to get thinking on this.
This is absolutely brilliamf and life changing advice. Thank you so much for what you do. So happy ive stumbled across your channel!
I'm 65 and this is a great video ,,, wished I had found this 40 years ago ..
I'm enjoying the sound of your voice Caren. You're very easy to listen to and you seem to be filled with the right information, so you've just found yourself a new subscriber. I'm very much enjoying listening to you while I'm busy drawing!
Wait a minute, you're 53!? 😲 That surprised me! Anyway, onto more of your video's, I look forward to seeing what else you have in store! 😁
“You’d be living in a ditch & not watching TH-cam 😂😂😂
You have a great sense of humor!
What should one do if they aren't exactly sure about what they love to do? I mean my purpose here is really to get tips and advice on work because it has been really hard for me to keep a job. I am an artist and feel that I am competent at several creative based roles, but these often require a degree and/or prior experience on a professional level.
I want to cry, and dance, and hug you. You are amazing-- an absolute Godsend. Thank you, beautiful woman! 🙏✨
You are so welcome
Excellent content, and I am grateful that you create. Perfect timing for discovering this channel. I LOVE trying new experiences, but struggle with the follow-through or commitment. I have to love what I do, but I am really good at convincing myself that what I'm doing is my passion. Over it. Ready for this. Thanks. 🙏
god, I needed to hear this! Thanks for sharing!!
You are 53 ? Wow you're so beautiful - inside and out. ADHD is such a bummer. Thank you for your tips.
I have lots of interests and hobbies but mainly for the outcome and never the process. I’m good at lots of things, and I know I can get good with a bit of practice. But I still don’t have a clue what I should do, I always make excuses as why I can’t do ‘the thing’. And eventually I lose interest. I’m 34 and stuck in the narrative that I’m a flake and can’t follow through. I’ve had my current job for 2 years and I want to move on. 2 years is good for me 😭