@@qwertyfacemediallc3640 The only reason that we could see it was because he taped it. Had he not taped it, she would have gotten away with it and he would have been screwed. It was a masterful performance but we got to see back stage and that allowed us to see that it was just a performance.
she immediately had to make it a domestic abuse issue by talking about "putting hands on me" cause she knew she got caught and needed a reason to send her husband to jail and steal half his money
THIS is the most correct observation in the comments section. Why does it have much fewer 'likes' than the other comments? I think it's because men have no idea how shitty most women are, and women don't want this fact to be known.
How absolutely fucked is that. I think your life by cheating and when you catch me ill ruin it further by false claiming you hurt me then I leave and take half your shit. Leave her to be pumped and dumped
To the two people that have had their comments removed for screaming nonsense at the parent post, the last three women I have dated have pulled that technique to use the police to get what they want. The first one that tried it had me detained at a police station confessed to me when the police had me call her on my cell phone. She confessed she did it to make me suffer and laughed at me on the phone. I was released and she was arrested and deported from the country as she was illegal in this country. The second one did it as I was sick of her lying to me when she would come stay with me for the weekends. I told her to leave less than an hour after coming to my home. She yelled and screamed and left while screaming at the neighbors too. Two hours later I had 10 police officers outside my home with guns drawn to pull me out of my own home. They had her confront me from inside a police car. After about thirty minutes of screaming at me for telling her everything she said was a lie, she finally admitted to the police that she lied to get me out of my own home so she could take the 32" TV (at the time was over $1,000) with her. Not surprising, she was taken to the police station and held over night before being released in the morning with *zero* charges. She called me a week later to say that she was sorry. I never spoke to her again. The last one is the mother of my son who ended the relationship the moment she knew she was pregnant. She was using me for child support money. A month after she gave birth and since I was required to pay all medical bills for the nine months and then $700 a month child support by demands of the state, I had been asking to see my son. She called me one day to tell me that I could come over to see my son for 10 minutes. I went over to the house she was renting and as I drove up she was standing in the front yard, so instead of pulling into the driveway, I pulled up to the curb. She came up to the passenger side window. I had to turn the key to the "On" position to roll down the passenger window. That turned on the dashcam. She talked to me for about 10 minutes then a police car came skidding to a stop just behind me and two officers jumped out with guns drawn as she ran into her house, they forced me out of my car and to the ground and cuffed me. I sat in a police car for the best part of an hour before I could tell my story. She had told the police that I graped her and threated to kill my son. The police saw no evidence of that and said that I needed to leave the area now and if I didn't I would be spending the next several months in jail. 11 days later, I got a visit by the sheriffs department handing me a restraining order in place for 6 months, and yea, I still had to pay child support. A court date was set for a few days after the restraining order ended. The only thing that saved me from prison was the dashcam that turned on when I turned the key on to roll down the passenger window. Had I pulled into the driveway, I would be sitting in jail today. So, Yea, believe all women is a sham.
@@jordan3636 _"deported an illegal, double nice."_ Well deporting wasn't my idea, but it was nice that I didn't have to deal with her anymore. This happened around 2003 though. Since biden is in office now, deporting illegals would require an act of God. And that isn't going to happen.
11 years together and she acts like a child which is unable to justify her actions whatsoever, the amount of gaslighting she's trying to pull is astonishing.
I had a girl hit herself with a pair of channel locks and said I hit her. Wrong side of her face and everything. I got arrested but fought it. Didn’t get convicted of assault but I did have to go to court several times over it. All because she was being shady but didn’t wanna get caught.
nah, thats not liclky, and even if she did nothing would have happned. men like to convince themselves that the second a woman makes an accusation ur going to prison, but as somone with experiences its very hard to get an abuser locked up. you will be lucky if you they even get a fine
@@pimpestjesus7528 its really not most women strugle to get any justice, wake up and get out of yourself pitting echo chambers. men dont go to prison bc i woman said you hurt them. most strugle to get thgier actually abusers locked up. most women dont get justice untill years and years later. stop convicing urself of false bs
@samdoesstuff4924it's the more like a word salad lingo than the literal meaning of the word because of how bitter manipulative women like that in the video weaponizing the different societal treatment between men and women.
i only can say.... fck and go is the best you can do... never start a relationchip... it ever ends so.... so fck what ever you can get and then leave as far as possible...
Correct and I would have told the sister on the phone her opinion and input is irrelevant and is not applicable this is between me and my wife not between my wife and you you marry the woman that was supposed to be your wife not her sister on that fundamental level yet somehow those lines get blurred LOL
Especially a man as good looking as him. She is in her late 20s at the youngest, the chance that a woman that old who looks like her getting a husband who looks like that is next to zero. Edit for those who don't understand: THE LATE 20S IS GETTING TOO OLD TO GET A GUY AS HOT AS HIM
She was probably banging a new guy each year during those 11 years of marriage. 304 doesn't start suddenly one day. It is a lifestyle. And nowadays, cheating has become the culture norm in the West instead of a lifestyle. 33% of the babies tested shows that the husband is NOT that biological father. Let that sink in.
She immediately gaslit him by using words like uncomfortable and unsafe. She’s cheating, her sister knew it as well. Probably the only one that never knew was him.
plus, the calm tone she talks in is so annoying it drives me insane. she's "acting mature and ending the argument", but in reality it's a form of manipulation, too. as if the situation isn't worth getting upset about, making the other person seem crazy or dramatic for getting rightfully angry and raising their voice. it's a way of downplaying the other's emotions.
After the "i'm scared of you and i'm going to call my sister" it doesn't matter if she cheated or not. You can't be safely alone with her without a recorder ever again, so your marriage is as good as over.
I mean the marriage was over after he asked for seeing that messages and she refused. After 11 years there shouldn’t be a problem to show you’re Partner our phone if he wants to see it after 11 years once. Maybe he was wrong but that shes refusing to show them shows that she has something to hide and don’t want to show it.
Not only that, but look for an EPO to be filed because she felt “threatened”. That is the limit of what she has to write on the affidavit for the protective order and he will be immediately removed from the house. If a female judge presideS over the hearing, he’s gonna get slapped with a no contact DVO.
@@aeromedical6776what they have to do is to tell " I'm scared" his life is over. it that much. he isn't safe anymore. she may bring memories from years ago that never took place and he won't verify them. it's a very thin ice. he should file for restraining order before filing anything else.
Definitely over. But at this point he's screwed in divorce court. There is no evidence and there will be no evidence of her cheating, so it will be considered an amicable split as opposed to a cheating spouse. They will chop up his assets and make him pay alimony while she parties throughout the rest of her middle age. Best thing to do is do what a woman would do. Stay. Stay and let things calm down, say your sorry and you were wrong about not trusting her. Then plot to get an app installed on her phone and have all social media apps logging and reporting - you collect the evidence. Make sure it's legal first, or try a different idea. Now you get your divorce with the proper context. Too hard for most men to pull off, but women know how to do this.
This girl is insane. Claiming she does not feel safe and thinks he will hit her when HES RECORDING THE INTERACTION is just crazy. No abuser would record the encounter if they suspect their partner of cheating. If anything they would want to shut all cameras down then hurt the person. Girl was obviously hiding something. The girl burnt 11 years of his life but at least she isn't wasting more of his time. Hopefully he finds a good partner in the future.
We need to make cheating illegal, now. It’s quite literally ruining lives and serves no good purpose in society. Im surprised it hasn’t been banned 700 years ago.
@balu2784 well, something like a suggestive text isn't "proof" because it doesn't PROVE that she's cheating, but it's evidence that points in that direction (reasonable suspicion). If she has a discussion about her hookups in text messages, maybe a s3x video with a guy who isn't her husband, that proves she's cheating. If you have proof you have evidence, but if you have evidence you don't necessarily have proof.
@@opd690 "kinda" is an understatement. I hope in a few years, society moves on from this "inclusivity bias" phase and actually proves their point by how they act towards everyone rather than just barking on twitter and turning around and doing the same prejudice, unfair BS to others.
@@machnesntsn_ind. Get away from him? Why didn't she just go up to him and say "I don't want to be with you, I'm divorcing you." than texting like 4 guys?
Once saw some weird messages between my partner and their friend while hugging them.. I asked and they pulled up the messages with 0 issues and 0 stalling. Unlocked the phone and handed it to me. Turned out to be them talking about something creepy someone ELSE did in a public server on a game they play. 😬 Honesty and clarity is what gains trust. I'm so SO glad I'm with the one I'm with. 😩🙏
OrrrrrR, those two just caught the absolute luckiest break ever! They weren't lying, it just so happens that WAS the last text between them and it was about some other creepy guy, They lucked out when you didn't ask for them to "scroll up" Oh well, I'm sure they had a good laugh about it next time they were alone and screwing like rabbits. If your partner is hanging around another guy fairly often and you're not strong enough to put the kibosh on it, that's you.
This guy just got some vital information about his wife. She is not only untrustworthy, she’s sneaky, she will use the “I’m now afraid of you” excuse insinuating she will call the cops and lie about abuse. Also, she revealed she doesn’t even love and respect this guy. His choice is crystal clear.
And she's ugly inside and out too, why would he waste his time with that to begin with, some men just want a blonde thinking of some Hollywood movie they saw in the past. Hey dark skinned dude, white isn't better, it just has a history of doing very immoral acts against humans to get ahead or establish ownership.
@@BlackLivesMatter1414 The phone is immaterial to the issue, she is directly implying that she doesn't feel safe around someone she has known for years because they asked to see some text. That is fucked up, and the mere thought of that should tell you that she doesn't have any respect for him. I can argue with friends I've known for less than 3 years and we never fear physical threats from one another, we have our differences and we talk through them like rational people even if that means sometimes I'm in the wrong or they are. She can't even be bothered to entertain a very real concern that someone may have of their significant other whom she had known for 11 years because... she feels threatened? That's insanity unless the relationship is already abusive, in which case the guy does a very good job at hiding it given how patient he is across the video.
Most women are like that nowadays. That's why men should avoid getting married because most of the time they get screwed in court and have to deal with sh*t like this. You can't turn a 304 into a housewife
Might not even be pretend, she did him dirty on a deep level and only she knows how deep, hence why she might actually fear a beating, even tho it has never happend before. Not that it changes much, but she may truely be fearfull rather than lying, iv´e been there a few times myself, cheaters get scared of reprisals even with the most chill guys.
@@saddane6897 I don't understand how someone could see a video of something lying and avoiding accountability. Then come to the conclusion that there are mysteriously 9 billion different factors that end in that person being completly innocent. We are truly lost as a species. You are dumb. If dude was going to put hands, why record? Not even that. BUT IF. IF he was like that. You don't think she wouldn't have recordings, or pictures of scrapes and bruises? You don't think she would've came out right after this with pictures and evidence of "beatings"?! Even then if your pea brain can logic your way out of a lack of evidence, you can read her body language, she's trying to escape the situation because she's caught. She knows she's in the wrong so she's weaponizing her emotions against him in a fit to try and get some buzz words going to get him to drop it and move on. Instead of looking for 9 million ways to make a guilty person innocent, why not just SHOW HIM THE PHONE? And avoid this entire uncomfortable situation? You could argue that she doesn't have to, but what does she lose if she's innocent? Nothing she gains EVEN more trust in the relationship. Get help.
It's sick that when cornered she plays the "I don't feel safe around you" card, which she uses to not only avoid having to show her husband the phone but she also uses to position herself as a victim. This is why "believe all woman" should not be a thing.
I’m so scared of divorcing someone especially, especially after many years and kids. That’s why I fear marriage so much but still want it. Just want to meet the right person.
This was after 11 years. It seems like this hit him at least partially out of the blue. There are good women out there, there's women like this out there, and it can be very hard to tell them apart.
Marriage is for the fools, but if you really wanna get married, do it in a country where the injustice system doesn't side with the women only cus she's a woman.
Yup. If she wasn't cheating she would have raked him over the coals for it with the evidence. But since that's not the case she throws every play in the books at him to avoid him seeing the messages.
I would understand that if he asked to see her phone unprompted. However he saw very suspicious behavior and asked to see if it was real. That's different.
Meanwhile they trust her with no proof when it comes to something serious like DA. I get it’s a serious subject, but it’s also something that can ruin people. People like her sicken me
He needs to divorce her because she's acting guilty, but because she's claiming that she's afraid that he will hurt her. If he didn't record her, he could have gotten into some real trouble. If you don't have trust in a relationship, you need to end it.
Yes, then there's people saying that he can't record her! He needs to, or else he can't do anything, and he'd be screwed over! There's a difference between invasion of privacy and obtaining evidence, sadly most people don't know the difference.
Problem is he lose minimum half. Its easy for women to leave marriages becouse they invest nothing and get out with everything. For men its the opposite, men invest everything and lose it all.
you need trust and loyalty. Trust won't solve all your problems. Me and my bf have been going strong, for almost a year. We would play jokes on each other a lot, flirt like crazy, but the main part is that our relationship has trust and loyalty. You can't have one or the other, it needs to be both in order for a relationship to work: whether long distance or not. And nowadays, i feel like people can't keep a relationship which is sad. It's really not that hard, you just need to work for it(both sides need to work for it). If you can't do it, love ain't for you. Sorry to say it, but its true, just being honest :)
I was with a woman for 9 years, we were engaged, and we had a house together. While she was on vacation with her friends, a charge on our credit card came up for a premium Tinder subscription. I didn't say anything when she got back until a few weeks later after gathering more evidence from her phone. Once I confronted her she denied all of it and pulled the same victim card like this woman and started saying she was afraid of me and calling her friends saying I was threatening her. Once she said that I had nothing left to say to her and of course she also tried to use the victim card as a reason to try and rip me off when it came to our joint ownership of the house. Luckily the judge put her in her place and said that it was hard for him to believe that I was so abusive when there was 0 proof of it for the almost full decade we were together. I've had an extremely hard time trusting any other woman after that
Damn. I'm really sorry you had to experience such a thing. It sounds truly soul-crushing. I hope that you will be able to heal and open new doors of happiness in your life, Amen.
This is almost as good as the wife who threatened to go to the police and say he was sexually abusing the children. Good thing he got it recorded as a threat.
My advice to this young man is to just cut his losses and find a decent woman from his own country . He will be a lot more happier in life .. woman in the so called wester civilized world no longer have any morals , they are arrogant, narcissistic, and rather easy peasy. 4th wave of feminism have created this new batch of females and they are not progressing in a posative way .IMO
I mean, it sounds like he did just catch her red handed. I’d be pretty confident and assertive if I read that text over my partner’s shoulder. You are probably right that he had suspicion, she obviously couldn’t hide it
I wouldn’t say he is confident here, and I see no problem with being assertive. The dudes wife is not giving him her phone after being in a relationship for eleven years, and is now actively accusing him and running away. If he wasn’t assertive I would be concerned.
Same thing happened with my parents. My dad became suspicious about how much my mom was texting “her mom”, so when she was gone one day he checked… sure enough it was some other dude, unfortunately they stayed together. Recently my sister has also found my mom cheating, that lady needs to chill.
A dude from my wife's church asked her if she wanted to do ballroom dancing classes with him and she said, "I wouldn't feel comfortable doing something that intimate with someone other than my husband." She's a good woman.
@@joshgamingvlogs5203man the way some of these people be acting, you gotta reward them for doing the bare minimum, because that’s all the good they’ll do in a day.
@@elih6087 Refusing to dance with someone that is not your partner is the bare minimum. It’s the bare minimum by definition you should as a married woman refuse all other peoples advances. That’s the bare minimum
imagine if there were actual consequences for infidelity....you legit stole years of this mans life. TIME TO PAY UP. Bring back social shaming for this degen behaviour.
@@jadetrentrichards255 in the past infidelity were paid by death. Both men and women, now theyre seen as barbaric. But considering how hurtful it is to get cheated on, i think its a fair price to pay
This is the same manipulation tactics my ex-wife used on me. She also did the "I feel unsafe" maneuver when I found out. We were together for over 10 years and never so much as raised my voice. Unfortunately, this is not as uncommon as you'd think, and most people take women at face value when they say that they feel "unsafe" and ignore the man's plight till the damage is already done... Hopefully people see these types of videos and warnings before it's too late for them.
And for some fucked up stupid reason, some will say the wife is the victim and the husband is the reason the marriage ended; and the wife will say he's abusive. 🙄
“He clearly wasn’t meeting her needs! While she’s sitting at home bored and not entertained, he’s out at work... FOR 40 HOURS A WEEK. I don’t blame her for finding a man that will pick up where her husband is lacking. Should’ve cared more about her than he cared about his job he spends all week at!”
@@showmeyourteeth27 wtf are you saying... are you delusional. of course he needs to work to bring in the bacon.... so women nowadays needs to be entertained , your grandmother and her ancestors will be ashamed of you
After 13 years and a divorce I can absolutely agree the best thing you can do is walk away with zero contact. I cringe that I simped for months via texts for nothing. Get the last laugh and make them feel like they're not even worth the time.
I never called or tried to contact mine after the divorce she tried to call me about a year later and I told her never to call or darken my doorstep ever again.
While I wasn't married as long, I completely agree. When I found out about my wife cheating while I was on deployment I told her to get what she wanted and get out. I filed for divorce and haven't said a word to her since. I admit I did do one petty thing, I chopped up my wedding band with some wire cutters and mailed it to her.
My wife went through a "seven year itch" period & it nearly destroyed our marriage thrice. The first time was because I saw some evidence online but it was purely online BS, mostly in role-play with fictional characters, though there appeared to be one rendezvous that was in the early stages of being planned for the following year. Although things settled down just as quickly as things started it felt like something was still being hidden from me & it remained like a "splinter in (my) mind," as Morpheus so eloquently put it, for years after. Eventually we had our son but after he was born it was as though my wife was afflicted with a vengeful curse. Although she had her tubes tied after his birth mere months later a second feminine exam revealed precancerous cells forcing her to undergo a partial hysterectomy. This removed her most sensitive parts down yonder & as such it destroyed the physical gratification she once received from the full monte of the act. A short time later a preexisting condition known as intersticial cystitis began to act up & she began to notice increased pain in her muscles & joints. Her job performance in her beloved career as a CNA, indirectly through which her prior "itch was scratched," began to suffer. During another appointment she was diagnosed with both osteoarthritis AND fibromyalgia. These are chronic conditions without a career & she was summarily released from her long time position. Not long after this she grew depressed when I went on to work because as where I was an excellent father, home maker & cook - she couldn't do any of it nearly as well as I could. What's more is that our daughter wouldn't listen to her & only I could get our son to sleep soundly. Meanwhile our finances became tighter because even working twice the hours she was I couldn't bring home as much as she was. She was placed on a medication called Cymbalta, a new medication at the time & a couple weeks later began to suffer what appeared to be seizures (pseudo-seizures) which restricted her from driving for the better part of a year while we tried to determine the cause of this bizarre new condition. (This isolated her from physically meeting & interacting with the toxic female friends that played a role in her prior indiscretions through badmouthing & goading her towards what she did; As the slimy folk they were naturally they moved on & lost interest in her over that span of time.) Incidentally, a strange aside, she eventually wound up in the psych ward of the regional hospital because pseudo-seizures are a psychological condition as opposed to a physical condition. They were ready to send her off to a mental hospital three hours away for inpatient treatment within just a few days but only through my diligent efforts did I reveal that her first "attack" correlated to when the substance was supposed to begin to come into effect & then located an unabridged list of potential side effects for the medication at a nearby pharmacy. (The pharmacist list vs. the patient list sent home with a medication is far more detailed with rare potential side effects.) Although relieved of her burden of pseudo-seizures her depression only continued to spiral downward. She became more & more withdrawn from things she enjoyed. Then she began to withdraw from me, sleeping on the sofa & just generally doing her own thing without any drive to do things with me. I tried to remedy it by inviting her to do things, go out & treat her but afterwards it would only seem to make it worse. Finally she began to withdraw even from our children. We separated but continued living together. I started talking to a slightly younger woman online & my wife actually encouraged me to meet her. (No, she wasn't screwing around, she had no interest in the computer & rarely left the home - it was her depression/guilt that was pushing her encouragement.) Eventually I was left with a choice. I either needed to move on, with the kids, either alone or with this younger woman or even stay & try again to make things work with my wife. On the surface it might seem like a no-brainer choice but I saw some red flags with the younger woman. She showed very little interest in my children, limited her contact with them & sent a lot of mixed signals. Furthermore her contact with some guys online seemed kinda inappropriate; Especially with her ex. Meanwhile my wife was bending over backwards to try to make this relationship with myself & this other woman work even though I could see that it was tearing her up inside. I chose to cut things off with this younger woman when I caught her in a pretty big lie & try to work through things with my wife. In the immediate aftermath of telling my wife that I didn't want someone new but that I just wanted to fix the relationship we'd already had for more than ten years. I commended her & thanked her profusely for trying so darned hard to find a way to make me happy even if it meant putting herself aside. You just don't find a heart like that often... It was then when she confessed the reasons behind it all. She wasn't being especially benevolent but rather was trying to make up for her own guilty conscience. She'd violated our oath & had cheated several times with a man she worked with several years prior. However when he asked to do it without protection so she could have his child she realized that wasn't at all what she wanted. The relationship ended right there & then. She admitted to having kissed a different guy at a party. She confessed to having gotten a speeding ticket, paid it & hid it from me. She came clean on everything from the petty to the jaw dropping. We didn't resume our relationship immediately. I needed to digest the information I'd been given. However, for the first time in many years, I finally felt that sliver or splinter disappear altogether. Of course I was upset & angry. It wasn't just the broken oath but also manipulating me towards getting involved with this other woman to placate her own sense of guilt as well as allowing me to feel paranoid & crazy for the prior several years by keeping everything a secret despite knowing that I was suffering because I FELT something was off. We remained separated for just short of 3 years after this revelation, added to the 2 years prior, while we rebuilt our relationship from scratch, as friends & started a second relationship. We never left the same residence but it wasn't a friends with benefits sort of thing either. I don't know what you guys, that ended your relationships around that same time in your lives with a significant other, think. I'm not even sure what I think or how I feel about it. I couldn't be happier with my marriage now. We're closer now at the 27 year mark than we ever were earlier, if you count the 5 years of live-in separation & most of the time I feel like we're one individual in two bodies now. There are no more secrets between us. Not even unmentioned spending & don't ever tell one of us what the other is getting for Xmas because we will tell the other. I'm retired now & only do routine things like grocery shopping or paying the bills alone; Even then a lot of the time we do that together. We both have an online life but even in that we're together. We swore off cellphones back in 2014 & haven't looked back; Though that didn't play a role in the prior situation. That said I genuinely suffered through those years. The insecurity & uncertainty during the time frame when she seemed to be off doing her own thing among single female friends. Then there was the time when I knew something had happened, something was wrong, but no matter how much my mind looped on the matter I couldn't figure it out & she certainly wasn't talking. Then there was the depressive period she went through that left me feel far more alone than if I had actually been alone. Never mind how torn I felt while being encouraged to move on while still feeling that I didn't want to lose the family I had. Did I make the right choice, as in, the ends justify the means? Or did I make the wrong choice, as in, a broken oath should be deemed a dealbreaker under all circumstances? Is it that simple? For the record in our case message history was with ICQ, MSN Messenger & email during our time. I never had a problem sharing my history & though I never saw anything she was saying/doing that struck me as a betrayal my "spidey senses" would go off leading me to request the opportunity to look into it. It would be then that I would find questionable content; Yet I could scan as far back through the history as I liked, long before either of us knew you could even erase history, & see nothing similar. She would get defensive/angry, then agitated/nervous & finally weepy/apologetic.
The best is not to walk away with your tail between your legs in shame, it's to get actual JUSTICE! Too bad our system is evil to the core and our laws are unjust, so you will go to jail for life if you enforce justice while she will get away scot free while committing one of the most serious offences known to man.
There are plenty of possible scenarios,where there could be a good reason for you not wanting your partner seeing your texts. We all have things that we don't want to share. But if I thought that my wife,was suspecting me of having an affair,all of those things would become very unimportant,and I would immediately prove to her that I wasn't. Having secrets is one thing,being unfaithful is a totally different level of secret. I have been with my wife for 30 years. We trust each other complicity,but I know that she doesn't tell me everything,and that is how it should be,as long as it is in no way going to harm or jeopardise our relationship,it is fine to have a few secrets. They are a similar thing to what we call "little white lies" only a Saint doesn't tell the odd one,and they seem to be very thin on the ground.
@@BlackLivesMatter1414 If you put your right to the privacy over your relationshipt, then your priorities are fucked up. And that might event slide if it was well known principle of yours, but not if you're immediately throwing "I don't feel safe around you" and talking about including 3rd parties (like sister in this case) into 2-people talk.
Modern day dating advice is to never show anything on your phone and to never ask to see anything on the others phone, because it means you don’t truly trust them and therefore the relationship is over. If someone asks to see messages for ANY reason, you must break up with them immediately. People claim this is the only way to TRULY have a healthy and trusting relationship. It’s actually the perfect cover for cheats, modern society is leaning heavily towards blind trust in relationships
@@boom-jr8vi exactly. I have plenty of good looking friends that are girls that i wouldnt do anything with if given the chance because I don’t want to do anything when im not in a relationship with them. And i don’t want to be in a relationship with them
She's a narcissist and the target has been compromised. There's no telling what she could do next. She's already shown that she is 100% willing to have him locked up on bogus charges.
Sad thing is, the guy is multiple levels better than her in looks. He either married her for getting a US passport or something similar, or is a really low self-esteem dude.
i don't agree. if she was a narcissist she would have found a way to rage back at him. she was quiet because she knew she had been caught, but he was being too intense to read that imo
@gabesmath105, depending on the frequency of cheating and the fact you can't really control when someone texts you it is bound to be found out eventually
The thing theres really 1 thing that prevent a person from cheating and its morals. And females dont really develop morals (read 6 levels of moral development). Females stop develop at stage 3 thats like a pre teen. Thats why they do everything wrong and never accept blame or guilty or think they were wrong in any shape or form.
The fact that he could've been the one accused of literally anything horrible from the woman and she'd be supported is something you can expect of this generation
A few years back a young, popular doctor in my area got accused of making unwanted sexual advances on a female who worked for him. A local newspaper wrote a hit piece against him and he got crucified on social media. He was a city council member and many called for him to resign. It quickly came out the accuser was a psycho and had actually told other coworkers she would cry assault if she didn't get her way in the job. He won the lawsuit against her. Imagine being one of those ppl who drug his name through the mud just cuz some crazy chick lied.
@@worldslargestnerdWomen have to be so insane that it freaks out other people for them to suspect somethin ain’t right. Think about it, all she had to do on that scenario is play dumb and fill the role of actual victims. Let that sink in for ACTUAL VICTIMS
@@rhett3185I’m convinced there’s no actual victims in any of these videos. They never come forward, so I’m inclined to believe all of these videos have fake videos
It’s called “monkey branching”. The guy seems to know what’s up. In these cases, they’re just with their partner until they finds an alternative that fits their expectations better than the current one. Once they do, they’ll jump ship. Until then, they’ll stay in the current one. Because in their mind, it’s better to be in a relationship and cheating, than to be single and looking.
As well as what they guy above this comment said, she doesn't want any proof of her cheating getting out so she can get more money & assets at the divorce.
@@aetherwing3244 Ah, so that's the term. Saw it happen to a family member. 2 decades of marriage and a wrecked relationship with a bunch of kids. Deadbeat parent that'll never fix the scars of it all.
@@aetherwing3244 I'm sorry but, that sounds like pure desperation, if thier that lonely get a dog or cat or something. Maybe they need a therapist. Thats just sad and dissapointing. I will never understand people.
Reminds me of back in the day, circa 2002 when I found IM logs of conversations my wife had with some college kid in Morgantown, WV. Explicit ones. Very explicit.I found them after she went to bed one night, just stumbled upon them - she didn't know it had been set to archive conversations. As I read them, my heart began crumbling into a million flaming pieces. Wound up printing a stack of them just in case she later tried to delete the logs. Was going to wait until the next day but I couldn't help myself. She woke up and I asked her who such & such was. She was in full-on denial mode, began saying I was crazy, paranoid, insane, etc. Then I slid the stack of cons in front of her. A cheater will lie, manipulate, gaslight, connive, mislead, redirect, you name it all until they're 100% caught, and even then they'll just project. It's one of the most devastating things a human can do to another. And while we can & do move on, we never truly get over it or heal 100%. Ever.
It's extremely rare for them to show real remorse and not lie, manipulate, gaslight, deflect, and accuse. It might be possible to get past the cheating on some cases, but not when they try to turn their misconduct on you.
If you dont want your personal marriage info exposed to the world then don't be a shady and untrustworthy partner. 😂 You didn't say anything worth thinking about with this comment.
The sad part is that if the guy didn't record this, she would have immediately concocted a story about how her husband is abusive, manipulative, controlling..... you know what ffs 😶
@@DellikkilleDNot in this instance, because they were talking with her being afraid he _would_ do something. That is verbal acknowledgement that nothing had happened yet.
@@RavenMobile are you new at this? all she has to say is ' I was afraid because he hd struck me in the past, If I had said that he would have struck me right then and there"
@@DellikkilleDThat wouldn't fly in court, she has to provide evidences in where she was hit in the past and in this case where the there was none . Adding with the video recording, a judge can see her lies from miles away.
Her saying, "She doesn't feel safe" is her accusation that you are violent and threatening to her, this is her step 1, on the 'Divorce your Husband Handbook'. Plus you are way to attractive for her.
His first call should be to an attorney. She is clearly cheating and this marriage should be coming to an end. Next, close all joint credit cards and make his bank accounts unavailable to her.
the instant she claimed she was worried that she didn't know if he'd hurt her it's over, there is no way that a woman I'm with is going to claim that she's worried I'd hurt her and I'm not getting rid of her, for her to say that it means she'd happily tell someone else that you _did_ hurt her when nothing happened
My divorce was ugly and if we had had kids she would definitely have accused me of inappropriate behaviour with them. These modern women have no shame.
?????? A human being is being cheated on and 7 years of commitment are about to end and you think the literal only victim is a dog? Sure it's sad for the dogs, whatever, but this man's life is getting ruined.
And That's why *you need* to hang out with female friends. Not the romantic type of hanging out or cheating. But of you are on a fishing trip with your best buddies, your best bro should bring his sister with him. The sister can of course bring her husband with her (but your girlfriend doesn't know that the other Woman is safely in a relationship.) She always need to worry about you jumping ship and leaving her on a regular basis. And always pretend to be a little bit mysterious. Greet every female cashier at Wal Mart very nice, when she can hear it, etc, etc. She needs to have a minimum level of jealousy in regular intervals. Otherwise she won't care about you at all, since she will take you for granted and will conclude that you would always stay loyal no matter if she cheats. That little fear will keep her desire to cheat under control. Unless she is already planing to cheat anyway, then she will use that as an excuse to justify her cheating because she will claim: "you also cheated" But since you did not do anything wrong, you just ripped the mask from the face of a wolf hiding in sheep's clothing. Be happy, that she took the fact that you just talked with the sister of your best friend (and her husband, who was by pure coincidence just not on that one photo you send your wife about the fishing trip) As proof that you cheated, as justification to cheat. She would have cheated anyway. You just accelerated the break up that's all. And if she really loves you, she will do everything in her power to prevent you from having any contact with another woman. Even of she has to do the house work or has to sleep with you 3x every day of the week to keep you from leaving home. Woman that love their Man, tend to mark their territory and they don't go astray to somebody else. She will just spy on you and that other girl from behind the bushes and follow your car if necessary, to see if the other woman is potential competition. An adulteress Woman will just take that as an excuse to finally have a reason to cheat on you. But she would have cheated anyway, so who cares ?? Trust me woman really do spy on there husbands. You won't notice her unless she accidentally makes herself known or want you to see her. She will be like a mountain lion hiding in the bushes to spy on you. And she will deny that she spied ok you until she dies. Even the nodes woman will do that, they just won't tell you. If necessary they will ask other person to spy on their behalf. Woman are quite protective for their property if they love that property. But if they absolutely don't care. Then she doesn't care for you play all. The difference between normal jealousy and being crazy jealousy is easy: Normal jealousy : she will try to prevent you from leaving home and will spy on you, but you will never notice that she is spying on you. She will just show you when you return how pissed she is at you. (Always ignore that) Crazy jealousy: she will lock you at home and you will notice that the KGB is following you 24/7. Always keep her *a bit* jealous. She needs to know, that YOU can attract someone better than her, if you want to. And that you could always leave her, if she f*ckes up. Even in marriage. If she isn't jealous she doesn't care about loosing you. It's not like: "we are married so now I have secured him and can f*CK every other guy in the town" Marriage is actually: "we are married, he will stay with me for the rest of my life, and he will be 100% loyal to me if I'm 100% loyal to him. If I f*ck up or sleep around he will immediately leave me and he has not problem attractting a better and younger replacement, so I better behave because I don't want to loose him" The moment she gets the feeling she can do whatever she wants and you won't leave her, is the moment she starts really planing on cheating. If you give her the feeling that you would never leave her, no meter what she does and you are her slave, why shouldn't she cheat ??
she clearly doesn’t respect him if she’s talking inappropriately to another man, so its not surprising that she doesnt even respect him enough to own up to it. the layers of deceit makes me wonder what else she’s comfortable with lying to him about….
Lots of women nowadays in first world countrys just know they just have to look a little good and they might "get away" with most stuff, iam not saying there arent loyal women no more, but i would say its getting worse and worse, men are obviously just as worse, ive been very unlucky with women, got cheated on 4 times in a row, now iam 27 and am scared i wont find a real woman, my longest relationship was the one i didnt realise ive been cheated on numerous times with an actual collegue.
lmfao respect has nothing to do with it. what is said between person A and B has nothing to do with person C. demanding to see someone elses phone is grounds for an immediate ass whooping, . There is literally NO situation that justifies that kind of insecure beta behavior, no wonder dude was getting cheated oon.
@@alucardnolifeking789there's a lot of good women out there my friend. I'm sorry you got cheated on, but look at yourself. You won't get cheated on if you don't allow it to happen. Shes your girl, remember that.
My ex wife did the same thing. Was all big and bad, hitting me and breaking a laptop across my face until I told her I recorded everything. Then she started crying and trying to turn it around like I didn't just listen to her cheating on me 20 minutes prior.
She didn't ruin her marriage in 60 seconds. She thought about this, made the decision to cheat over several months, maybe years, who knows? She ruined her marriage over the course of weeks, months or years. "In 60 seconds" is minimizing it.
@@BlackLivesMatter1414wow, you really are getting decimated on your comments on this video. I hope you don't have a partner that acts like this to you like this woman did to her husband. Truth , respect, and honesty are the foundation of long term relationships. I am sorry that you don't see the problem with this man asking his wife to be truthful and honest with him.
She didn't "ruin" her marriage. She ended it, but at a pace that was convenient for her. That marriage had already been over, he just didn't know it yet. Her anger in this video stems from the fact that she was caught and thus outwitted, and she feels stupid. She can't care less that the marriage is over. Her only issue was her ego being bruised a little.
If my husband thought he saw something on my phone that caused him distress, I would insist he look through everything immediately to put that nonsense to bed with zero doubt. This is not a "you should just trust me" type of moment. He didn't hear through the grapevine. He saw it with his own eyes. Trust is a fragile thing, and once it's broken, there's no putting it back to its original state. There will be scars if not gushing wounds when all is said and done.
@@miwestraveler3986Absolutely! And also, while insecurity is not a virtue, we can all be afflicted with it every now and then for whatever reason. When my man became a bit insecure in relation to my work colleague, all I cared about was giving him a peace of mind, because there was absolutely nothing there to make him feel insecure. I offered to give him access to all of the private messages I exchanged with my work colleague at work (we never communicated outside of work). I thought he would refuse my offer, but he didn't, he read it all. After that, he never had an insecure moment again.
She's pretty good at deflection. She's having an affair, the evidence is in her phone, but she turns it all around on her husband. Classic move and done well. Guys, if your girlfriend/wife is hiding something from you, she's being unfaithful and you need to replace her or do without a girlfriend/wife.
@@rumplestiltskinnYou can use them if you just plan well. I prefer using something to make someone become unconscious, and then drop them off in a pen at a hog farm. Not a trace of them left an hour later. Gators in a swamp are an alternative if you live close by.
If your wife is cheating on you, then the relationship is already over. Men cheat when they want to relieve themselves. Women cheat when they made up their minds that they don't want the man they're with. So, as a man, you can't end a relationship that was never there. You just need to make it official. But she was already gone, make no mistake.
When ever they pull the "uncomfortable" card, then you need to leave. Should have changed the locks while she was gone. If they threaten uncomfortable, they will put you in jail on false charges.
I hope that the world moves on from the inclusitivity and do whatever you want. This guy has to record so he wont have to be thrown in jail for "abuse." Why cant we just be back to accountability?
Social media. Women are more socially oriented than men, thus they dominate social media. Social media has a huge influence on our culture. Women just don't do accountability. Thus we now have a serious accountability problem in our culture.
Two years ago, I found myself in a similar situation. And you won't believe how swiftly she silenced my doubts, leaving me with no room to question her loyalty ever again. It took me 6 months to apologize because she deserved it.
@@CBman11037It could be read as a supporting message saying, "Yes, of course. Why wouldn't she let you read them if she's not doing anything wrong?" Not saying it is for sure. Just saying Maybe that's what they meant
0:50 TRANSLATION: “I’m gonna go walk the dogs and delete all evidence while panic calling my sister and beg her to help me cover this up or try to spin it around to be *your* fault that I cheated. I don’t wanna lose my lifestyle that *you* provide but I’m still a weak whore so I’ll pretend I’m loyal and offended at the mere accusation.”
In a non-fault divorce state, it doesn't matter. The judge don't care or even hear about the whys. The judge is just going to take your stuff and give it to her.
@@fahey6797my mom divorced my dad because he was mentally ill but never really had evidence of him cheating and never wanted to investigate , i feel bad for my dad except for one thing is him resorting to drug use because all my life he was very strict and judgemental about drug use even when i was young he would judge me and call me a pothead but now hes on hard drugs but i also feel bad for him because its in california so a woman can just divorce you for no absolute reason at all which is wild!!!!
I would be 100% okay with a partner going through my phone, especially if they were worried about me cheating. Accusations of cheating would instantly have me going "no I didn't, go ahead, look through my messages." The fact that she won't just hand it over says everything. I get privacy but if you're accused of cheating or anything like that, you'd want to prove your innocence asap if you're actually innocent.
This is how my wife and I do it. We both have each others PIN's and can access each others phones. If either of us suddenly denied the other access that would be a huge red flag.
I hate people touching my phone and looking through my phone. It's highly personal to me. I'm not sure if people here want a medal for leaving their phone open for their whole family to look through, but these days your phone carries everything about you, and just because you don't want people going through it, doesn't mean you're a cheater. Everyone deserves the right to have some privacy, even if they're married or in a relationship. It's also a pretty bad idea to make yourself slack with phone security. You can literally buy a car with just your phone.
@@PotatoPirate123 I agree. It's not that I have anything to hide, but what's in there is personal. If a partner asked me to see who I was texting on the suspicious of cheating, I would be highly offended. I'd show them, but it would hurt knowing that they don't have trust in me.
As an American 30 year old man, I really don’t understand why any man would want to get married in a country that will benefit the woman while forcing you to support her after divorce. It’s a lose lose deal, unless you’re marrying a richer woman which is highly unlikely
It seems like America's system is breeding worse women every generation, no accountability or responsibility of their actions. And if they get punished they get less sentences than men. And social media has now inflated their ego's to the extreme
Hence the reason why leas man these days are marrying these days And if they are, they usually will go for foreign women. Modern American women are poisoned by “role models” like Cardi B, Mia Khalifa, and Taylor Swift. Women who drug and abuse men for their own personal gain. Not to mention, if a girl was raised without a dad, you can pretty much cross her off the list bc these girls never had an example of a good man. Most single moms are single bc of whorish ways, so that’s what they pick up. So combine a sex and money addicted society with a corrupt biased court system heavily favored towards women, and they wonder why men are staying single. It’s also the main reason why men aren’t signing up for the military. We have nothing worth while to fight for. We come back from Iraq, and we get rewarded with VA care, slutty tag chasers, and pedophilic drag queens in schools. ALL thanks to modern women.
Ummm, that husband DOES KNOW that if he's the one paying for the phone, he's more than allowed to go to his provider, and ask for the printed messages his wife's been sending and receiving, right? Because, that stuff gets saved, so it doesn't matter if she scrubs her phone. 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯
Guys, take lessons from this. He handled it about as well as he could have. Documenting things when you walk into a situation like that is very wise. I hope his lawyers squeeze her once a PI is done gathering dirt on her.
The fucked part is that this dude is like pretty handsome, looks like he’s really well off, has a stable job and house, and he still got a woman who he isn’t enough for. Like what the fuck am I supposed to do?
Because cheating is rarely ever actually about the cheater's partner/spouse, and all about the person doing the cheating. Being handsome and rich will earn you a woman who is "high-value" in the dating market from a worldly perspective. But in order to get yourself a VIRTUOUS woman who will be faithful in marriage despite inevitable temptations, you need to train yourself in virtue. This is simultaneously harder and easier than becoming handsome and rich, and much more rewarding in the long run. And also sometimes even if you do everything right your spouse might cheat on you, because human beings are fallen and because bad things often happen to good people. Hopefully in those situations there can be a road to forgiveness and reconciliation.
The most fucked part is he was with her 11 years. That actually makes me think... You think you got someone who loves you, you love them. Nope, fucks and cheats behind your back...
I was once accused outright of having an affair. Was married for 3 years. Lol, i respect my wife for just sitting me down & calmly asking upfront without playing “games.” Neither of us mess about on serious matters… Then I got what it looked like. Yes. I had been sneaking around with a smug look on my face & doing unwarranted “overtime” at work then sneaking outside for dodgy furtive phone calls..? The thing was, I was actually planning a surprise for our 3rd wedding anniversary. The thing was. Both my parents & her folks waited 30 years to afford an “engagement ring?” (Time passes fast.& there can be other priorities..) The plan was ,to not let my wife wait that 3 decades… My “furtive” phone calls were with a jeweller. I’d already taken her wedding ring size & gauged her size on my own hand. Sneaky… but with the best intentions. The trust is still there the marriage is great.
This was pretty similar to how my ex-wife reacted when I asked to see her phone. I already had knowledge beforehand that she was having an affair thanks to her best friend informing me. But when I asked my wife at the time to see her texts, she refused and came up with some of the most nonsensical excuses I’ve ever heard in my life. We had been together for 8 years and not once had I ever yelled at her or even threatened her and she was in fear for her life acting like I was going to physically harm her. Was I pissed? Yes, I was furious and heartbroken, but I would never hit a woman unless my life was in danger.
How's she doing now? If she threw away 8 yrs, that only gives her a few years to find someone and get married before it's almost completely off the table. I'm seeing an increasing number of women who leave good relationships because the grass is always greener on the other side. And their greed blinds them until they're so old that no man looks at them anymore.
@@kachi9293As someone who has divorced parents because of cheating, I disagree with you. The guy already caught a glimpse of something suspicious, so he has the right to see if his wife is cheating on him or not, just like a wife has the right to see if her husband is cheating on her. She could have shown the messages and explain what's going on to dispel any concerns, but no, she had to start assuming he was going to get violent and kicked him out of the house. I am so sick of this mentality the west has that the woman is always the victim and that the man is the abuser. There's no such thing as equality.
@@ascendednightingale2456 Of course that's true when the world has a population of 7 billion people. With that many people, two opposing things can both be common. You should really try using your brain for like, 2 seconds.
An almost identical situation happened to me when I was younger and too naive to know better. She had a male friend who they would “work out” together and do CrossFit events together. Just total disrespect. Women will cheat on you without batting an eye man.
It's the kind of females you guys are getting. Ya don't want the nice innocent girls or women. Old school understood. My male cousin just recently got out of his marriage b/c his woman (who was quite adventurous before they started dated and was well known in a lot of places) got a new car and was bringing her boyfriend over to the house to have fun. And she threatened to call the cops if he had something to say about it. On a black male. The cops and black male do not go well together. So as I said before, go back to Old school methods and get a girl who just graduated from High School or College nerd who hardly has no experience if any at all. Old School knew.
@@1in10million sure. My point just was that saying ”women will cheat on you without batting an eye” is just dumb. If men had the same opportunities they would cheat in similar way, even more I believe. We are naturally inclined to ”spread our seed”.
Nothing about being in this situation would make me more mad and depressed as a guy than the implication that even after 11 years of knowing each other and 7 years of loving marriage I cannot be trusted not to harm you when I'm upset
You really never know anyone, can you? That's why you accuse with love, show them you forgive them, and hope they come to their senses. That's really the best you can do when someone cheats on you.
@spazoq that is an excellent way to get cheated on and walked upon for a lifetime. this is a sure sign the man has let a woman usurp authority over him. it would be better to be alone.
Ah, i remember seeing something a bit similar to this situation irl. A guy in my class broke up with his gf and she started spreading rumors of him sexually harassing and threatening her. People started attacking him and isolating him including his "friends". He had to release screenshots of their conversation which shows her threatening him when he said he wants to break up because she's not loyal. I don't really know the guy and the girl but i find the whole situation to be extremely weird because it really shows how easy people will throw you away once they hear bad rumors.
@@1Plebeian because when it comes to things like this, the woman will be more trusted by default. Which is good in the situation where they did get SA'd. But it's sad how some people abuse that advantage to ruin people's lives
If you call the police on anyone and say they Did XYZ or have a drug ring or something they will bust them too lmfao. You know swatting is a thing right?
I understand you resent women because you're unpopular but this narrative is just fake. Anyone can call the police and make up a story and cause an arrest.
Yes sir! That woman’s been running around on her husband. Her behavior just says it all. Get rid of her. “Guy friends”, yeah whatever. It’s called a side piece.
This happened with my ex wife. But she was on deployment (both of us navy) and I literally saw and took pictures of the proof on her Snapchat. All of a sudden when I called her out on it she wanted me to mail the iPad to her moms because she was “uncomfortable” with me having it. Mhm sure wonder why. But I did to avoid extra drama and I had everything I needed anyways. Told her we were done and when she got back to grab HER stuff and leave. Fast forward to when she comes back from deployment. She goes ape shit, talks like this lady on here, assaults me destroys my property, I call the cops on her 3 times and they take 2 hours to even show up and she left. Guess who ends up in handcuffs? Guess who loses everything after she cleared out the apartment with friends and family and wrecked the place? Then had the nerve to move in with the man she was screwing while still married. Men…I’m telling y’all right now. Don’t make my mistake and do exactly what this guy did. RECORD EVERYTHING. The only thing that saved me was the bruises that came up shortly after, emails, text messages, body cam footage and character statements. That and the fact she victimized herself and obviously lied got the charges dropped. Which yes thank god, but the damage was also already done. The pain, the embarrassment the financial aspect, the fact she got away with everything and I got punished for nothing. These women are disgusting, and idk if the system that’s on their side is more disgusting than the women or not.
Yeah, a dangerous world for women. Males murder women all the time. Good thing he recorded to hold himself accountable. Males rarely can control their primitive caveman brain.
ooor hear me out, the person who's most likely to rape and kill a woman is her boyfriend. I don't blame her, even if she's a horrible human being, for being scared that her punishment will be WAY BIGGER than her crime.
@@whizkeysh0t I do blame her. She's just using this victim facade, or rather victim mentality to avoid conflict and blame. Has her partner shown any signs of being violent, unhinged or mentally unstable? Or is she just panicking because her lies and deceit are being exposed? She's literally walking away from the consequences of her actions.
It’s crazy. After 11 years I’m sure the texts now seem so silly in her head. But now she has to flip the cards and play victim. A place that you created with this person, called home; your life as you know it, is now gone. Best of luck to that man.
Well, as someone who has a master's in being cheated on I can say with confidence that her reaction is all the proof you need. Ditch that 304 immediately! And go get tested for STDs, cuz you never know.
The same exact thing happened to my mom. She was with him for 10 years, and while we were vacation as a family, he was sexting other women. At first he lied and said it was just one woman, when it reality, it’s been WAY more. The ENTIRE marriage he had been cheating on her, even when she was pregnant and at home with 2 children. He got fired from 2 jobs for having sex with multiple women, but lied about the reasoning, of course. Cheaters and home wreckers are DISGUSTING
scum. if there were any real men around he should have been beaten for that type of behavior. unfortunately they are protected because the law makers and such act the same way. its an entitlement thing and lack of morality.
@thesaddestdude3575 thats funny. reminds me of the time recently when i walked around a corner and this younger, alphabet girl was walking up. she was so repulsed that she covered her eyes and turned her head at the same time. they think they are upper, upper class. if i was a cuck i'd get some face tattoos to impress the women. smh.
@@BlackLivesMatter1414Maybe because he was either sleeping with clients or coworkers? Both of which would cause you to be fired. Is the power of inference really that hard??
My ex once tried this "I feel threatened" ploy. She ended up calling a friend who then wanted to talk to me. I had gone to bed and they had to wake me up to have the conversation. The friend tried making it out that I was standing there with a knife and that I was a danger to everyone around me. When I pointed out that they had to wake me up for her to berate me, she suddenly lost a lot of steam.
My wife asked to see my texts a week ago. I gave her the phone and her curiosity was satisfied, that was the end of the drama. The woman on this video is extra suspicious and for sure hiding something.
@@johnmatthews4717 that was my thought. Sure, she could’ve just been sus of something and innocent. But my gut tells me she was cheating and was trying to find something to justify it out of guilt.
@@Crozzzbonez0 Yeah if you trust your partner you don't need "proof" unless you catch something sus like the guy in the video did. As you mentioned it's also the case that cheaters think you'll do the same as them because they feel guilty.
@@johnmatthews4717 I asked my wife for her phone, and she handed it over before I could finish the request. Nothing out of the ordinary on the platforms or texts.
I went through this myself a long time ago [something like 12 years ago?]. She did exactly what you suggested - 'cleaned' her history. Except she had a blackberry and she only cleared half of the conversation by mistake. On the BB you had to delete the INBOX *and* the OUTBOX. She just deleted the outbox. She thought she was slick but she screwed up. Regardless - her not being willing to show me in the moment and then it being suddenly clear would have been all I needed regardless. I even told her - show me the phone, be honest with me, and we will work through this. Nope - she couldn't do it. People suck.
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She’s a manipulative person. You can see how masterful she is at turning it around on him.
All women are . Typical female tactics here .
I wouldn't say masterfully, but she certainly is COMFORTABLE at trying to do it.
@@ooneybird27 while she was thinking Chad and Tyrone be blowing my back out nightly!
If you can see it. It's not masterful.
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The only reason that we could see it was because he taped it. Had he not taped it, she would have gotten away with it and he would have been screwed. It was a masterful performance but we got to see back stage and that allowed us to see that it was just a performance.
she immediately had to make it a domestic abuse issue by talking about "putting hands on me" cause she knew she got caught and needed a reason to send her husband to jail and steal half his money
THIS is the most correct observation in the comments section. Why does it have much fewer 'likes' than the other comments? I think it's because men have no idea how shitty most women are, and women don't want this fact to be known.
How absolutely fucked is that. I think your life by cheating and when you catch me ill ruin it further by false claiming you hurt me then I leave and take half your shit. Leave her to be pumped and dumped
To the two people that have had their comments removed for screaming nonsense at the parent post, the last three women I have dated have pulled that technique to use the police to get what they want. The first one that tried it had me detained at a police station confessed to me when the police had me call her on my cell phone. She confessed she did it to make me suffer and laughed at me on the phone. I was released and she was arrested and deported from the country as she was illegal in this country. The second one did it as I was sick of her lying to me when she would come stay with me for the weekends. I told her to leave less than an hour after coming to my home. She yelled and screamed and left while screaming at the neighbors too. Two hours later I had 10 police officers outside my home with guns drawn to pull me out of my own home. They had her confront me from inside a police car. After about thirty minutes of screaming at me for telling her everything she said was a lie, she finally admitted to the police that she lied to get me out of my own home so she could take the 32" TV (at the time was over $1,000) with her. Not surprising, she was taken to the police station and held over night before being released in the morning with *zero* charges. She called me a week later to say that she was sorry. I never spoke to her again. The last one is the mother of my son who ended the relationship the moment she knew she was pregnant. She was using me for child support money. A month after she gave birth and since I was required to pay all medical bills for the nine months and then $700 a month child support by demands of the state, I had been asking to see my son. She called me one day to tell me that I could come over to see my son for 10 minutes. I went over to the house she was renting and as I drove up she was standing in the front yard, so instead of pulling into the driveway, I pulled up to the curb. She came up to the passenger side window. I had to turn the key to the "On" position to roll down the passenger window. That turned on the dashcam. She talked to me for about 10 minutes then a police car came skidding to a stop just behind me and two officers jumped out with guns drawn as she ran into her house, they forced me out of my car and to the ground and cuffed me. I sat in a police car for the best part of an hour before I could tell my story. She had told the police that I graped her and threated to kill my son. The police saw no evidence of that and said that I needed to leave the area now and if I didn't I would be spending the next several months in jail. 11 days later, I got a visit by the sheriffs department handing me a restraining order in place for 6 months, and yea, I still had to pay child support. A court date was set for a few days after the restraining order ended. The only thing that saved me from prison was the dashcam that turned on when I turned the key on to roll down the passenger window. Had I pulled into the driveway, I would be sitting in jail today. So, Yea, believe all women is a sham.
@@nathanwoodruff9422
nice, you got her arrested instead.
and deported an illegal, double nice.
@@jordan3636 _"deported an illegal, double nice."_ Well deporting wasn't my idea, but it was nice that I didn't have to deal with her anymore. This happened around 2003 though. Since biden is in office now, deporting illegals would require an act of God. And that isn't going to happen.
11 years together and she acts like a child which is unable to justify her actions whatsoever, the amount of gaslighting she's trying to pull is astonishing.
Women are children.
@@MJSmithGroupmen are ancient fossils
@@ThehistorygeographyandflagnerdStill better than being childish
@@Thehistorygeographyandflagnerd Typical salty SJW liberal Biden voter
@@Thehistorygeographyandflagnerd still its better being 100 million years old than being infants
I’m so heartbroken for this man. He seemed so sweet and hearing him say he’s absolutely crushed is terrible. You deserve so much better man.
I’m so glad this was actually recorded. She definitely would’ve turned around and accused him of abuse.
I had a girl hit herself with a pair of channel locks and said I hit her. Wrong side of her face and everything. I got arrested but fought it. Didn’t get convicted of assault but I did have to go to court several times over it. All because she was being shady but didn’t wanna get caught.
@@louyork8379that’s dumb as shit. im sorry that happened.
nah, thats not liclky, and even if she did nothing would have happned. men like to convince themselves that the second a woman makes an accusation ur going to prison, but as somone with experiences its very hard to get an abuser locked up. you will be lucky if you they even get a fine
@@Mayawamaq that is blatantly wrong though
@@pimpestjesus7528 its really not most women strugle to get any justice, wake up and get out of yourself pitting echo chambers. men dont go to prison bc i woman said you hurt them. most strugle to get thgier actually abusers locked up. most women dont get justice untill years and years later. stop convicing urself of false bs
She got herself caught. Immediately she's the victim for the victim privileges.
This
Is peak @@PerfidiousPuffin
@samdoesstuff4924it's the more like a word salad lingo than the literal meaning of the word because of how bitter manipulative women like that in the video weaponizing the different societal treatment between men and women.
i only can say.... fck and go is the best you can do... never start a relationchip... it ever ends so.... so fck what ever you can get and then leave as far as possible...
Correct and I would have told the sister on the phone her opinion and input is irrelevant and is not applicable this is between me and my wife not between my wife and you you marry the woman that was supposed to be your wife not her sister on that fundamental level yet somehow those lines get blurred LOL
The fact that you can be in a relationship with someone for 11 years and even have the audacity to cheat on them...
Especially a man as good looking as him.
She is in her late 20s at the youngest, the chance that a woman that old who looks like her getting a husband who looks like that is next to zero.
Edit for those who don't understand: THE LATE 20S IS GETTING TOO OLD TO GET A GUY AS HOT AS HIM
@@Paul_Bedford Appearance wise, he's way out of her league.
@johnstovall7503 11 years ago, he was probably in her league.
Bold of you to assume she's even been loyal that long, many women cheat on their husbands without getting caught, it's pretty easy actually.
She was probably banging a new guy each year during those 11 years of marriage. 304 doesn't start suddenly one day. It is a lifestyle. And nowadays, cheating has become the culture norm in the West instead of a lifestyle. 33% of the babies tested shows that the husband is NOT that biological father. Let that sink in.
Busted. Guilty as hell. Body language doesn't lie. Gaslighting off the charts.
Imagine living in an era where you have to film yourself so that the Internet doesn't support the cheater and accuse you.
welp, we live in the era!!! what a time to be alive
MGTOW has been telling u guys to give up on women and enjoy your own life but u guys always make fun of MGTOW. I cant say I'm not happy with justice
It seems everything is a lie nowadays and recording is a pretty simple fix so yeah
Unfortunately we live in that era :(
11 years of life, wasted
She immediately gaslit him by using words like uncomfortable and unsafe. She’s cheating, her sister knew it as well. Probably the only one that never knew was him.
plus, the calm tone she talks in is so annoying it drives me insane. she's "acting mature and ending the argument", but in reality it's a form of manipulation, too. as if the situation isn't worth getting upset about, making the other person seem crazy or dramatic for getting rightfully angry and raising their voice. it's a way of downplaying the other's emotions.
That’s not what gaslighting means lol. But yeah she did too much.
You can imagine what she said about him to hee "friends" and her sister. You know she doesn't love him at all, only his money
That's exactly what gaslighting is what are you talking about?
typical woke feminist behavior.
After the "i'm scared of you and i'm going to call my sister" it doesn't matter if she cheated or not. You can't be safely alone with her without a recorder ever again, so your marriage is as good as over.
Yep. That trust is now gone and you can never get it back
I mean the marriage was over after he asked for seeing that messages and she refused. After 11 years there shouldn’t be a problem to show you’re Partner our phone if he wants to see it after 11 years once. Maybe he was wrong but that shes refusing to show them shows that she has something to hide and don’t want to show it.
Not only that, but look for an EPO to be filed because she felt “threatened”. That is the limit of what she has to write on the affidavit for the protective order and he will be immediately removed from the house. If a female judge presideS over the hearing, he’s gonna get slapped with a no contact DVO.
@@aeromedical6776what they have to do is to tell " I'm scared" his life is over. it that much.
he isn't safe anymore.
she may bring memories from years ago that never took place and he won't verify them.
it's a very thin ice.
he should file for restraining order before filing anything else.
Definitely over. But at this point he's screwed in divorce court. There is no evidence and there will be no evidence of her cheating, so it will be considered an amicable split as opposed to a cheating spouse. They will chop up his assets and make him pay alimony while she parties throughout the rest of her middle age.
Best thing to do is do what a woman would do. Stay. Stay and let things calm down, say your sorry and you were wrong about not trusting her. Then plot to get an app installed on her phone and have all social media apps logging and reporting - you collect the evidence. Make sure it's legal first, or try a different idea. Now you get your divorce with the proper context. Too hard for most men to pull off, but women know how to do this.
This girl is insane.
Claiming she does not feel safe and thinks he will hit her when HES RECORDING THE INTERACTION is just crazy. No abuser would record the encounter if they suspect their partner of cheating. If anything they would want to shut all cameras down then hurt the person.
Girl was obviously hiding something. The girl burnt 11 years of his life but at least she isn't wasting more of his time. Hopefully he finds a good partner in the future.
We need to make cheating illegal, now. It’s quite literally ruining lives and serves no good purpose in society. Im surprised it hasn’t been banned 700 years ago.
if a kid can read they can breed
@@thatoneguythatjustdontmiss WHAT
@@demetriusbartholomew chill nothing out of the ordinary
@@thatoneguythatjustdontmiss 2/10 ragebait not enough politics
She's going out immediately to erase the messages. A sweet innocent girl will dispell your suspicions and laugh at you. She's guilty AF!
MGTOW has been telling u guys to give up on women and enjoy your own life but u guys always make fun of MGTOW. I cant say I'm not happy with justice
@@kartikeyatiwari2502 I've literally never heard of MGTOW, Feminism is bad, but women are needed in society for homemakers.
@@kartikeyatiwari2502 Who's "you guys"? 🤔
@@Ebani It's probably just a small amount of people, MGTOW has been labeled as mysoginist by many sources.
he prob a bot since he has said this now twice@@yhyhyhyuhyuy
She's uncomfortable because she's busted and if she complies with his request, he'll see proof instead of very sus evidence.
@balu2784I think they meant "Very sus evidence of them cheating" based on their reaction
@balu2784 well, something like a suggestive text isn't "proof" because it doesn't PROVE that she's cheating, but it's evidence that points in that direction (reasonable suspicion).
If she has a discussion about her hookups in text messages, maybe a s3x video with a guy who isn't her husband, that proves she's cheating.
If you have proof you have evidence, but if you have evidence you don't necessarily have proof.
Clearly yes
Very sus evidence / proof?
They're the same to me.
hope they got divorced and she gets the house and dogs
In modern times, the man has to record himself as a way to prevent any possible accusations from the woman that he did anything abusive.
kinda sad (ps i am a dude i am just saying it’s sad that we have to do this)
I don't think he needed to record that. It doesn't look like she would have accused him of anything. she just wanted to gat away from him
@@opd690 "kinda" is an understatement. I hope in a few years, society moves on from this "inclusivity bias" phase and actually proves their point by how they act towards everyone rather than just barking on twitter and turning around and doing the same prejudice, unfair BS to others.
MGTOW has been telling u guys to give up on women and enjoy your own life but u guys always make fun of MGTOW. I cant say I'm not happy with justice
@@machnesntsn_ind. Get away from him? Why didn't she just go up to him and say "I don't want to be with you, I'm divorcing you." than texting like 4 guys?
Once saw some weird messages between my partner and their friend while hugging them.. I asked and they pulled up the messages with 0 issues and 0 stalling. Unlocked the phone and handed it to me. Turned out to be them talking about something creepy someone ELSE did in a public server on a game they play. 😬 Honesty and clarity is what gains trust. I'm so SO glad I'm with the one I'm with. 😩🙏
OrrrrrR, those two just caught the absolute luckiest break ever!
They weren't lying, it just so happens that WAS the last text between them and it was about some other creepy guy,
They lucked out when you didn't ask for them to "scroll up"
Oh well, I'm sure they had a good laugh about it next time they were alone and screwing like rabbits.
If your partner is hanging around another guy fairly often and you're not strong enough to put the kibosh on it, that's you.
@@tonyr.3435 Yeah, but you can’t really just assume.
This guy just got some vital information about his wife. She is not only untrustworthy, she’s sneaky, she will use the “I’m now afraid of you” excuse insinuating she will call the cops and lie about abuse.
Also, she revealed she doesn’t even love and respect this guy. His choice is crystal clear.
And she's ugly inside and out too, why would he waste his time with that to begin with, some men just want a blonde thinking of some Hollywood movie they saw in the past. Hey dark skinned dude, white isn't better, it just has a history of doing very immoral acts against humans to get ahead or establish ownership.
@@BlackLivesMatter1414BLM™ doesn't care about black people. So you need to confront them with reality.
@@BlackLivesMatter1414 The phone is immaterial to the issue, she is directly implying that she doesn't feel safe around someone she has known for years because they asked to see some text. That is fucked up, and the mere thought of that should tell you that she doesn't have any respect for him. I can argue with friends I've known for less than 3 years and we never fear physical threats from one another, we have our differences and we talk through them like rational people even if that means sometimes I'm in the wrong or they are.
She can't even be bothered to entertain a very real concern that someone may have of their significant other whom she had known for 11 years because... she feels threatened? That's insanity unless the relationship is already abusive, in which case the guy does a very good job at hiding it given how patient he is across the video.
His wife was being sketchy as f***, time for a divorce bro.
It's a very common way for women to escape accountability, and they also get victimhood status to boot.
Pretending he’s dangerous -and taking the high ground.. -is nasty and horrible and I hate it! What a ghastly wretched woman
Most women are like that nowadays. That's why men should avoid getting married because most of the time they get screwed in court and have to deal with sh*t like this. You can't turn a 304 into a housewife
Might not even be pretend, she did him dirty on a deep level and only she knows how deep, hence why she might actually fear a beating, even tho it has never happend before.
Not that it changes much, but she may truely be fearfull rather than lying, iv´e been there a few times myself, cheaters get scared of reprisals even with the most chill guys.
@@saddane6897The guy said it himself that he wouldn't hurt her
@@saddane6897 I don't understand how someone could see a video of something lying and avoiding accountability. Then come to the conclusion that there are mysteriously 9 billion different factors that end in that person being completly innocent. We are truly lost as a species.
You are dumb. If dude was going to put hands, why record? Not even that. BUT IF. IF he was like that. You don't think she wouldn't have recordings, or pictures of scrapes and bruises? You don't think she would've came out right after this with pictures and evidence of "beatings"?! Even then if your pea brain can logic your way out of a lack of evidence, you can read her body language, she's trying to escape the situation because she's caught. She knows she's in the wrong so she's weaponizing her emotions against him in a fit to try and get some buzz words going to get him to drop it and move on. Instead of looking for 9 million ways to make a guilty person innocent, why not just SHOW HIM THE PHONE? And avoid this entire uncomfortable situation? You could argue that she doesn't have to, but what does she lose if she's innocent? Nothing she gains EVEN more trust in the relationship. Get help.
I know! My respect for the guy is so high right now, but the woman is just horrible.
It's sick that when cornered she plays the "I don't feel safe around you" card, which she uses to not only avoid having to show her husband the phone but she also uses to position herself as a victim. This is why "believe all woman" should not be a thing.
yeah
Who tf ever said ‘believe all women’ that sounds like a bad thing bc man or woman we all lie as much equally thats just dumb
@@shinyx23it was an entire # trend
It’s called “believe all VICTIMS” not women. Men are included in the victims part.
@@rockydog2715no it wasn’t!
I’m so scared of divorcing someone especially, especially after many years and kids. That’s why I fear marriage so much but still want it. Just want to meet the right person.
This was after 11 years. It seems like this hit him at least partially out of the blue. There are good women out there, there's women like this out there, and it can be very hard to tell them apart.
@@DefaultFlameThere's not such thing as good women.
Marriage is for the fools, but if you really wanna get married, do it in a country where the injustice system doesn't side with the women only cus she's a woman.
@@Grim_Thug wrong
@@Grim_Thugtrash opinion
If she wasn’t cheating she’d have taken the moral high ground, shown those text messages, and made him grovel.
For real. It hurts to have your partner not trust you, but nothing like being cheated on....
Yup. If she wasn't cheating she would have raked him over the coals for it with the evidence. But since that's not the case she throws every play in the books at him to avoid him seeing the messages.
ok but why is Squidward twerking for Spongebob at 2:43 tho😭😭😭
@@jonatanhelles6448 I’m dying 🤣
Not necessarily
I do find it funny when people say you should trust her rather then need proof
Those amber heards are doing the same thing that Wife did just don't wanna get caught
I would understand that if he asked to see her phone unprompted. However he saw very suspicious behavior and asked to see if it was real. That's different.
Those people are also cheaters like this girl
@smyton4tw even if it was unprompt . He's just curious not a problem
Meanwhile they trust her with no proof when it comes to something serious like DA.
I get it’s a serious subject, but it’s also something that can ruin people. People like her sicken me
He needs to divorce her because she's acting guilty, but because she's claiming that she's afraid that he will hurt her.
If he didn't record her, he could have gotten into some real trouble.
If you don't have trust in a relationship, you need to end it.
Yes, then there's people saying that he can't record her! He needs to, or else he can't do anything, and he'd be screwed over! There's a difference between invasion of privacy and obtaining evidence, sadly most people don't know the difference.
Problem is he lose minimum half. Its easy for women to leave marriages becouse they invest nothing and get out with everything. For men its the opposite, men invest everything and lose it all.
hope they got divorced and she gets the house and dogs
you need trust and loyalty. Trust won't solve all your problems. Me and my bf have been going strong, for almost a year. We would play jokes on each other a lot, flirt like crazy, but the main part is that our relationship has trust and loyalty. You can't have one or the other, it needs to be both in order for a relationship to work: whether long distance or not. And nowadays, i feel like people can't keep a relationship which is sad. It's really not that hard, you just need to work for it(both sides need to work for it). If you can't do it, love ain't for you. Sorry to say it, but its true, just being honest :)
If he would divorce her, sadly she would probably take eveything because yes.
"You can touch each other's private parts but you cant look at each other phone because it's considered privacy" wise man once said
I was with a woman for 9 years, we were engaged, and we had a house together. While she was on vacation with her friends, a charge on our credit card came up for a premium Tinder subscription. I didn't say anything when she got back until a few weeks later after gathering more evidence from her phone. Once I confronted her she denied all of it and pulled the same victim card like this woman and started saying she was afraid of me and calling her friends saying I was threatening her. Once she said that I had nothing left to say to her and of course she also tried to use the victim card as a reason to try and rip me off when it came to our joint ownership of the house. Luckily the judge put her in her place and said that it was hard for him to believe that I was so abusive when there was 0 proof of it for the almost full decade we were together. I've had an extremely hard time trusting any other woman after that
Damn. I'm really sorry you had to experience such a thing. It sounds truly soul-crushing. I hope that you will be able to heal and open new doors of happiness in your life, Amen.
These biches be wildin bruh fr
I just gotta say,
A woman needing to buy premium tinder abroad to hookup is the saddest thing ever 😂
@@frostnova2144 100 people a day not nough for her
Why do you let your girl on vacation without you? As a man you always need to control everything, or else you will lose.
This is almost as good as the wife who threatened to go to the police and say he was sexually abusing the children. Good thing he got it recorded as a threat.
I hate HATE women who pull that shit.
yeah
A certified woman moment lmao
_“What’s the WiFi password, Joe?”_ 🤣
My advice to this young man is to just cut his losses and find a decent woman from his own country . He will be a lot more happier in life .. woman in the so called wester civilized world no longer have any morals , they are arrogant, narcissistic, and rather easy peasy. 4th wave of feminism have created this new batch of females and they are not progressing in a posative way .IMO
His confidence and assertive demeanor during this exchange leads me to believe he's either not really that surprised or has gone through this before.
I mean, it sounds like he did just catch her red handed. I’d be pretty confident and assertive if I read that text over my partner’s shoulder. You are probably right that he had suspicion, she obviously couldn’t hide it
I wouldn’t say he is confident here, and I see no problem with being assertive. The dudes wife is not giving him her phone after being in a relationship for eleven years, and is now actively accusing him and running away.
If he wasn’t assertive I would be concerned.
Women always do this.
@@Mrfinch9999 Then be gay
Not all of them are like that
@@LotFrat using gay as an insult? Lol
Same thing happened with my parents. My dad became suspicious about how much my mom was texting “her mom”, so when she was gone one day he checked… sure enough it was some other dude, unfortunately they stayed together. Recently my sister has also found my mom cheating, that lady needs to chill.
she left her phone behind? oooops!
but seriously, that's what passwords are for
Your mom needs to chill 😂 sorry rusty, that sucks dude
@@gabesmath105 yh they are for infidelity according to you.
Your dad went full simp? Is he eating it up after she comes home with a fresh load?
Your mom's a waste of oxygen
A dude from my wife's church asked her if she wanted to do ballroom dancing classes with him and she said, "I wouldn't feel comfortable doing something that intimate with someone other than my husband."
She's a good woman.
Loyalty is the bare minimum. Don’t praise a fish for swimming
@@joshgamingvlogs5203 So dancing with someone other than your partner is not loyal now? Wow
@@joshgamingvlogs5203man the way some of these people be acting, you gotta reward them for doing the bare minimum, because that’s all the good they’ll do in a day.
@@elih6087intimate dance. Not just any old dance with a bunch of people.
@@elih6087 Refusing to dance with someone that is not your partner is the bare minimum. It’s the bare minimum by definition you should as a married woman refuse all other peoples advances. That’s the bare minimum
The minute she accused him of wanting to hurt her you knew what the deal was. She's for the streets.
💯
I feel terrible for this poor man. Props to him for being civil about the whole ordeal :'(
Like a gentleman. Maybe she has cravings for bad boys on the side?
imagine if there were actual consequences for infidelity....you legit stole years of this mans life. TIME TO PAY UP. Bring back social shaming for this degen behaviour.
@@jadetrentrichards255 in the past infidelity were paid by death. Both men and women, now theyre seen as barbaric. But considering how hurtful it is to get cheated on, i think its a fair price to pay
@@reynardmanuella4110what's hurtful about that? you can always get another one.
@@georgeousthegorgeous clearly you never felt true love
This is the same manipulation tactics my ex-wife used on me. She also did the "I feel unsafe" maneuver when I found out. We were together for over 10 years and never so much as raised my voice. Unfortunately, this is not as uncommon as you'd think, and most people take women at face value when they say that they feel "unsafe" and ignore the man's plight till the damage is already done... Hopefully people see these types of videos and warnings before it's too late for them.
And for some fucked up stupid reason, some will say the wife is the victim and the husband is the reason the marriage ended; and the wife will say he's abusive. 🙄
“He clearly wasn’t meeting her needs! While she’s sitting at home bored and not entertained, he’s out at work... FOR 40 HOURS A WEEK. I don’t blame her for finding a man that will pick up where her husband is lacking. Should’ve cared more about her than he cared about his job he spends all week at!”
@@showmeyourteeth27I really really hope your being sarcastic
@@justsomeguyontheinternet7134They put " so they are probably saying what a person mentioned in the original comment would.
@@showmeyourteeth27 wtf are you saying... are you delusional. of course he needs to work to bring in the bacon.... so women nowadays needs to be entertained , your grandmother and her ancestors will be ashamed of you
@inthe50smoodits hard to see
After 13 years and a divorce I can absolutely agree the best thing you can do is walk away with zero contact. I cringe that I simped for months via texts for nothing. Get the last laugh and make them feel like they're not even worth the time.
It must be hard to detach from someone that has been with you for 13 years, but it is the best for you
I never called or tried to contact mine after the divorce she tried to call me about a year later and I told her never to call or darken my doorstep ever again.
While I wasn't married as long, I completely agree. When I found out about my wife cheating while I was on deployment I told her to get what she wanted and get out. I filed for divorce and haven't said a word to her since. I admit I did do one petty thing, I chopped up my wedding band with some wire cutters and mailed it to her.
My wife went through a "seven year itch" period & it nearly destroyed our marriage thrice. The first time was because I saw some evidence online but it was purely online BS, mostly in role-play with fictional characters, though there appeared to be one rendezvous that was in the early stages of being planned for the following year. Although things settled down just as quickly as things started it felt like something was still being hidden from me & it remained like a "splinter in (my) mind," as Morpheus so eloquently put it, for years after.
Eventually we had our son but after he was born it was as though my wife was afflicted with a vengeful curse. Although she had her tubes tied after his birth mere months later a second feminine exam revealed precancerous cells forcing her to undergo a partial hysterectomy. This removed her most sensitive parts down yonder & as such it destroyed the physical gratification she once received from the full monte of the act.
A short time later a preexisting condition known as intersticial cystitis began to act up & she began to notice increased pain in her muscles & joints. Her job performance in her beloved career as a CNA, indirectly through which her prior "itch was scratched," began to suffer. During another appointment she was diagnosed with both osteoarthritis AND fibromyalgia. These are chronic conditions without a career & she was summarily released from her long time position.
Not long after this she grew depressed when I went on to work because as where I was an excellent father, home maker & cook - she couldn't do any of it nearly as well as I could. What's more is that our daughter wouldn't listen to her & only I could get our son to sleep soundly. Meanwhile our finances became tighter because even working twice the hours she was I couldn't bring home as much as she was. She was placed on a medication called Cymbalta, a new medication at the time & a couple weeks later began to suffer what appeared to be seizures (pseudo-seizures) which restricted her from driving for the better part of a year while we tried to determine the cause of this bizarre new condition. (This isolated her from physically meeting & interacting with the toxic female friends that played a role in her prior indiscretions through badmouthing & goading her towards what she did; As the slimy folk they were naturally they moved on & lost interest in her over that span of time.)
Incidentally, a strange aside, she eventually wound up in the psych ward of the regional hospital because pseudo-seizures are a psychological condition as opposed to a physical condition. They were ready to send her off to a mental hospital three hours away for inpatient treatment within just a few days but only through my diligent efforts did I reveal that her first "attack" correlated to when the substance was supposed to begin to come into effect & then located an unabridged list of potential side effects for the medication at a nearby pharmacy. (The pharmacist list vs. the patient list sent home with a medication is far more detailed with rare potential side effects.)
Although relieved of her burden of pseudo-seizures her depression only continued to spiral downward. She became more & more withdrawn from things she enjoyed. Then she began to withdraw from me, sleeping on the sofa & just generally doing her own thing without any drive to do things with me. I tried to remedy it by inviting her to do things, go out & treat her but afterwards it would only seem to make it worse. Finally she began to withdraw even from our children. We separated but continued living together. I started talking to a slightly younger woman online & my wife actually encouraged me to meet her. (No, she wasn't screwing around, she had no interest in the computer & rarely left the home - it was her depression/guilt that was pushing her encouragement.)
Eventually I was left with a choice. I either needed to move on, with the kids, either alone or with this younger woman or even stay & try again to make things work with my wife. On the surface it might seem like a no-brainer choice but I saw some red flags with the younger woman. She showed very little interest in my children, limited her contact with them & sent a lot of mixed signals. Furthermore her contact with some guys online seemed kinda inappropriate; Especially with her ex. Meanwhile my wife was bending over backwards to try to make this relationship with myself & this other woman work even though I could see that it was tearing her up inside.
I chose to cut things off with this younger woman when I caught her in a pretty big lie & try to work through things with my wife. In the immediate aftermath of telling my wife that I didn't want someone new but that I just wanted to fix the relationship we'd already had for more than ten years. I commended her & thanked her profusely for trying so darned hard to find a way to make me happy even if it meant putting herself aside. You just don't find a heart like that often...
It was then when she confessed the reasons behind it all. She wasn't being especially benevolent but rather was trying to make up for her own guilty conscience. She'd violated our oath & had cheated several times with a man she worked with several years prior. However when he asked to do it without protection so she could have his child she realized that wasn't at all what she wanted. The relationship ended right there & then. She admitted to having kissed a different guy at a party. She confessed to having gotten a speeding ticket, paid it & hid it from me. She came clean on everything from the petty to the jaw dropping.
We didn't resume our relationship immediately. I needed to digest the information I'd been given. However, for the first time in many years, I finally felt that sliver or splinter disappear altogether. Of course I was upset & angry. It wasn't just the broken oath but also manipulating me towards getting involved with this other woman to placate her own sense of guilt as well as allowing me to feel paranoid & crazy for the prior several years by keeping everything a secret despite knowing that I was suffering because I FELT something was off. We remained separated for just short of 3 years after this revelation, added to the 2 years prior, while we rebuilt our relationship from scratch, as friends & started a second relationship. We never left the same residence but it wasn't a friends with benefits sort of thing either.
I don't know what you guys, that ended your relationships around that same time in your lives with a significant other, think. I'm not even sure what I think or how I feel about it. I couldn't be happier with my marriage now. We're closer now at the 27 year mark than we ever were earlier, if you count the 5 years of live-in separation & most of the time I feel like we're one individual in two bodies now. There are no more secrets between us. Not even unmentioned spending & don't ever tell one of us what the other is getting for Xmas because we will tell the other. I'm retired now & only do routine things like grocery shopping or paying the bills alone; Even then a lot of the time we do that together. We both have an online life but even in that we're together. We swore off cellphones back in 2014 & haven't looked back; Though that didn't play a role in the prior situation.
That said I genuinely suffered through those years. The insecurity & uncertainty during the time frame when she seemed to be off doing her own thing among single female friends. Then there was the time when I knew something had happened, something was wrong, but no matter how much my mind looped on the matter I couldn't figure it out & she certainly wasn't talking. Then there was the depressive period she went through that left me feel far more alone than if I had actually been alone. Never mind how torn I felt while being encouraged to move on while still feeling that I didn't want to lose the family I had.
Did I make the right choice, as in, the ends justify the means? Or did I make the wrong choice, as in, a broken oath should be deemed a dealbreaker under all circumstances? Is it that simple?
For the record in our case message history was with ICQ, MSN Messenger & email during our time. I never had a problem sharing my history & though I never saw anything she was saying/doing that struck me as a betrayal my "spidey senses" would go off leading me to request the opportunity to look into it. It would be then that I would find questionable content; Yet I could scan as far back through the history as I liked, long before either of us knew you could even erase history, & see nothing similar. She would get defensive/angry, then agitated/nervous & finally weepy/apologetic.
The best is not to walk away with your tail between your legs in shame, it's to get actual JUSTICE!
Too bad our system is evil to the core and our laws are unjust, so you will go to jail for life if you enforce justice while she will get away scot free while committing one of the most serious offences known to man.
I can't even think of a scenario where not showing texts to a partner could be interpreted as anything BUT cheating
Honestly, I agree. And I'm a huge privacy advocate, but not when it comes to trusted loved ones.
There are plenty of possible scenarios,where there could be a good reason for you not wanting your partner seeing your texts. We all have things that we don't want to share. But if I thought that my wife,was suspecting me of having an affair,all of those things would become very unimportant,and I would immediately prove to her that I wasn't. Having secrets is one thing,being unfaithful is a totally different level of secret. I have been with my wife for 30 years. We trust each other complicity,but I know that she doesn't tell me everything,and that is how it should be,as long as it is in no way going to harm or jeopardise our relationship,it is fine to have a few secrets. They are a similar thing to what we call "little white lies" only a Saint doesn't tell the odd one,and they seem to be very thin on the ground.
@@BlackLivesMatter1414 If you put your right to the privacy over your relationshipt, then your priorities are fucked up. And that might event slide if it was well known principle of yours, but not if you're immediately throwing "I don't feel safe around you" and talking about including 3rd parties (like sister in this case) into 2-people talk.
Terrorist @@BlackLivesMatter1414
Modern day dating advice is to never show anything on your phone and to never ask to see anything on the others phone, because it means you don’t truly trust them and therefore the relationship is over.
If someone asks to see messages for ANY reason, you must break up with them immediately. People claim this is the only way to TRULY have a healthy and trusting relationship.
It’s actually the perfect cover for cheats, modern society is leaning heavily towards blind trust in relationships
When women say "why do men think that a man and woman can't be platonic friends?", this is why
they can tho lol shes just a terrible excuse for a living creature
nah that’s a bullshit rhetoric.
men and women can be friends, you just need to not see them sexually.
@@boom-jr8vi exactly. I have plenty of good looking friends that are girls that i wouldnt do anything with if given the chance because I don’t want to do anything when im not in a relationship with them. And i don’t want to be in a relationship with them
@@boom-jr8vi never said they can't be, but this woman here is the reason why that "rhetoric" exists
@@boom-jr8visays the incels
She's a narcissist and the target has been compromised. There's no telling what she could do next. She's already shown that she is 100% willing to have him locked up on bogus charges.
Or even have him killed whether personally or have someone to do her dirty work
@@baconmangaming7002happens a lot more than people realize
Sad thing is, the guy is multiple levels better than her in looks. He either married her for getting a US passport or something similar, or is a really low self-esteem dude.
i don't agree. if she was a narcissist she would have found a way to rage back at him. she was quiet because she knew she had been caught, but he was being too intense to read that imo
No married woman would hide her text messages with her male 'friend' from her husband. She's definitely playing hide the bologna with her 'friend'.
how hard is it to just never do those texts when he can look?? she'd never be caught
@@gabesmath105women iq
@gabesmath105, depending on the frequency of cheating and the fact you can't really control when someone texts you it is bound to be found out eventually
Yep. I let my wife use my phone routinely. Worst thing she sees is if I have a porn tab saved and that doesn't bother her one bit. Nothing to hide
@@bryantsteury8910 porn is rot
It really can't be that hard not to cheat
Its not lol
These people are too goofy to understand that, apparently it is hard Lmao
"Grass is always greener on the other side" plus poor impulse control= this shit
I've never been tempted to, I don't see what the draw is. If you feel like you're looking then something is already really wrong in your relationship.
The thing theres really 1 thing that prevent a person from cheating and its morals. And females dont really develop morals (read 6 levels of moral development). Females stop develop at stage 3 thats like a pre teen.
Thats why they do everything wrong and never accept blame or guilty or think they were wrong in any shape or form.
The fact that he could've been the one accused of literally anything horrible from the woman and she'd be supported is something you can expect of this generation
It’s really sad.
A few years back a young, popular doctor in my area got accused of making unwanted sexual advances on a female who worked for him. A local newspaper wrote a hit piece against him and he got crucified on social media. He was a city council member and many called for him to resign. It quickly came out the accuser was a psycho and had actually told other coworkers she would cry assault if she didn't get her way in the job. He won the lawsuit against her. Imagine being one of those ppl who drug his name through the mud just cuz some crazy chick lied.
@@worldslargestnerd and don't forget it
@@worldslargestnerdWomen have to be so insane that it freaks out other people for them to suspect somethin ain’t right. Think about it, all she had to do on that scenario is play dumb and fill the role of actual victims. Let that sink in for ACTUAL VICTIMS
@@rhett3185I’m convinced there’s no actual victims in any of these videos. They never come forward, so I’m inclined to believe all of these videos have fake videos
If you don't love that person anymore then, break up and get a divorce. WHY cheat? Why waste one anothers time? What is wrong with people???
It’s called “monkey branching”.
The guy seems to know what’s up. In these cases, they’re just with their partner until they finds an alternative that fits their expectations better than the current one.
Once they do, they’ll jump ship. Until then, they’ll stay in the current one. Because in their mind, it’s better to be in a relationship and cheating, than to be single and looking.
As well as what they guy above this comment said, she doesn't want any proof of her cheating getting out so she can get more money & assets at the divorce.
@@aetherwing3244
Ah, so that's the term. Saw it happen to a family member. 2 decades of marriage and a wrecked relationship with a bunch of kids. Deadbeat parent that'll never fix the scars of it all.
@@maximusstorm1215 Thats just sad people are so despreate sometimes.. It makes me lose faith in people half the time.
@@aetherwing3244 I'm sorry but, that sounds like pure desperation, if thier that lonely get a dog or cat or something. Maybe they need a therapist. Thats just sad and dissapointing. I will never understand people.
Reminds me of back in the day, circa 2002 when I found IM logs of conversations my wife had with some college kid in Morgantown, WV. Explicit ones. Very explicit.I found them after she went to bed one night, just stumbled upon them - she didn't know it had been set to archive conversations. As I read them, my heart began crumbling into a million flaming pieces. Wound up printing a stack of them just in case she later tried to delete the logs. Was going to wait until the next day but I couldn't help myself. She woke up and I asked her who such & such was. She was in full-on denial mode, began saying I was crazy, paranoid, insane, etc. Then I slid the stack of cons in front of her.
A cheater will lie, manipulate, gaslight, connive, mislead, redirect, you name it all until they're 100% caught, and even then they'll just project. It's one of the most devastating things a human can do to another. And while we can & do move on, we never truly get over it or heal 100%. Ever.
I had a similar experience
It's extremely rare for them to show real remorse and not lie, manipulate, gaslight, deflect, and accuse. It might be possible to get past the cheating on some cases, but not when they try to turn their misconduct on you.
Very sorry....very very sorry...
Hope you gave that stack of papers to your lawyer.
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Oh man… the side eye the dog gave before having to go on a walk with the wife 🥺
I wouldn’t want my personal marriage info exposed to the world, but I like that he was able to publicly shame her.
I mean he probably had no choice to upload it so she couldn't lie and make up bs... Women can be insane
@@lilfishnet9265And make a bad rep for women who aren't insane.
If you dont want your personal marriage info exposed to the world then don't be a shady and untrustworthy partner. 😂
You didn't say anything worth thinking about with this comment.
so you advocate for shaming
@@grawakendream8980don’t do the crime if you can’t do the time
The sad part is that if the guy didn't record this, she would have immediately concocted a story about how her husband is abusive, manipulative, controlling..... you know what ffs 😶
the recording isnt gonna stop her, she just has to say you did it before you started loll
@@DellikkilleDNot in this instance, because they were talking with her being afraid he _would_ do something. That is verbal acknowledgement that nothing had happened yet.
Women moment.
@@RavenMobile are you new at this? all she has to say is ' I was afraid because he hd struck me in the past, If I had said that he would have struck me right then and there"
@@DellikkilleDThat wouldn't fly in court, she has to provide evidences in where she was hit in the past and in this case where the there was none . Adding with the video recording, a judge can see her lies from miles away.
Her saying, "She doesn't feel safe" is her accusation that you are violent and threatening to her, this is her step 1, on the 'Divorce your Husband Handbook'. Plus you are way to attractive for her.
@@BlackLivesMatter1414 She's already at the wall though and the backup dude ain't gonna keep her.
@@BlackLivesMatter1414 doesn't need to be. the bar is pretty low.
in that relationship, he is the attractive one. @@BlackLivesMatter1414
Black Lives Matter is either the wife or the sister in the comments 🤣🤣🤡🤡
@@BlackLivesMatter1414and who are you bud
His first call should be to an attorney. She is clearly cheating and this marriage should be coming to an end. Next, close all joint credit cards and make his bank accounts unavailable to her.
What a horrible women. I feel for this guy and I hope he happily moves on.
the instant she claimed she was worried that she didn't know if he'd hurt her it's over, there is no way that a woman I'm with is going to claim that she's worried I'd hurt her and I'm not getting rid of her, for her to say that it means she'd happily tell someone else that you _did_ hurt her when nothing happened
100% truth. Trust is immediately broken at that point. If you can't depend on your own wife to back up your reputation then who will. 💯
My divorce was ugly and if we had had kids she would definitely have accused me of inappropriate behaviour with them. These modern women have no shame.
What?!?
When?!?@@shadyman6346
Word.
I dont know what these things people call marriages nowadays are but i want absolutely no part of them.
You can keep that shit bruh.
The dogs are the real victims here
For reall
ngl imagine being the dog, just awkwardly being present there.
True bro , If my partner is doing what she did and said "I am going for a walck with the dogs" o hell nah bro you are staying here
the dogs gotta be like "bitch please let me stay with the other person"
??????
A human being is being cheated on and 7 years of commitment are about to end and you think the literal only victim is a dog?
Sure it's sad for the dogs, whatever, but this man's life is getting ruined.
Ah “hiking” with her “friend”. She’s cheating and her sister knows.
She is a great example for somebody that loves to gaslight.
thats when you go and get the jerry can out and get arrested for arson and murder problem solved
@@badmaw7073 jesus christ man...
You bring out the jerry can to AVOID getting arrested for murder!
@@Psychoangel-d23 why not both
@@badmaw7073 you gotta make it look like an accident then.
It comes naturally to the large nose, small hats.
His wife took down more boxers than Mike Tyson.
Bruh 🤣🤣
DANG 💀
God damn💀💀💀💀
Haven't heard this one before😂👌👍
OH NAH☠☠☠
There was only one person here that was in the relationship and it took him 11 years to find out it was not her.
Heartbreaking.
Totally
It's literally so easy to be faithful. I just don't understand why it's so difficult to just not cheat on people.
She's probably the sort of woman who would be tracking him 24/7 if he ever hung out with a female friend.
Come on. You know women have double standards. It’s ok for her to male friends but the other way around…….
It’s because she’s projecting her guilt into him. Happened to me 10 years ago. Got out of there immediately but she got the dogs
He also shouldn't hang out with a female friend.
@@WW-nk7wg you can have friends of other genders. it all depends.
And That's why *you need* to hang out with female friends.
Not the romantic type of hanging out or cheating.
But of you are on a fishing trip with your best buddies, your best bro should bring his sister with him.
The sister can of course bring her husband with her (but your girlfriend doesn't know that the other Woman is safely in a relationship.)
She always need to worry about you jumping ship and leaving her on a regular basis.
And always pretend to be a little bit mysterious. Greet every female cashier at Wal Mart very nice, when she can hear it, etc, etc.
She needs to have a minimum level of jealousy in regular intervals.
Otherwise she won't care about you at all, since she will take you for granted and will conclude that you would always stay loyal no matter if she cheats.
That little fear will keep her desire to cheat under control.
Unless she is already planing to cheat anyway, then she will use that as an excuse to justify her cheating because she will claim: "you also cheated"
But since you did not do anything wrong, you just ripped the mask from the face of a wolf hiding in sheep's clothing.
Be happy, that she took the fact that you just talked with the sister of your best friend (and her husband, who was by pure coincidence just not on that one photo you send your wife about the fishing trip)
As proof that you cheated, as justification to cheat.
She would have cheated anyway. You just accelerated the break up that's all.
And if she really loves you, she will do everything in her power to prevent you from having any contact with another woman.
Even of she has to do the house work or has to sleep with you 3x every day of the week to keep you from leaving home.
Woman that love their Man, tend to mark their territory and they don't go astray to somebody else. She will just spy on you and that other girl from behind the bushes and follow your car if necessary, to see if the other woman is potential competition.
An adulteress Woman will just take that as an excuse to finally have a reason to cheat on you. But she would have cheated anyway, so who cares ??
Trust me woman really do spy on there husbands. You won't notice her unless she accidentally makes herself known or want you to see her.
She will be like a mountain lion hiding in the bushes to spy on you.
And she will deny that she spied ok you until she dies.
Even the nodes woman will do that, they just won't tell you. If necessary they will ask other person to spy on their behalf.
Woman are quite protective for their property if they love that property. But if they absolutely don't care. Then she doesn't care for you play all.
The difference between normal jealousy and being crazy jealousy is easy:
Normal jealousy : she will try to prevent you from leaving home and will spy on you, but you will never notice that she is spying on you.
She will just show you when you return how pissed she is at you. (Always ignore that)
Crazy jealousy: she will lock you at home and you will notice that the KGB is following you 24/7.
Always keep her *a bit* jealous. She needs to know, that YOU can attract someone better than her, if you want to.
And that you could always leave her, if she f*ckes up.
Even in marriage.
If she isn't jealous she doesn't care about loosing you. It's not like: "we are married so now I have secured him and can f*CK every other guy in the town"
Marriage is actually:
"we are married, he will stay with me for the rest of my life, and he will be 100% loyal to me if I'm 100% loyal to him.
If I f*ck up or sleep around he will immediately leave me and he has not problem attractting a better and younger replacement, so I better behave because I don't want to loose him"
The moment she gets the feeling she can do whatever she wants and you won't leave her, is the moment she starts really planing on cheating.
If you give her the feeling that you would never leave her, no meter what she does and you are her slave, why shouldn't she cheat ??
she clearly doesn’t respect him if she’s talking inappropriately to another man, so its not surprising that she doesnt even respect him enough to own up to it. the layers of deceit makes me wonder what else she’s comfortable with lying to him about….
Lots of women nowadays in first world countrys just know they just have to look a little good and they might "get away" with most stuff, iam not saying there arent loyal women no more, but i would say its getting worse and worse, men are obviously just as worse, ive been very unlucky with women, got cheated on 4 times in a row, now iam 27 and am scared i wont find a real woman, my longest relationship was the one i didnt realise ive been cheated on numerous times with an actual collegue.
@@alucardnolifeking789 But she's not good looking. In my observations, the ugly females are even bigger cheaters than the pretty ones.
lmfao respect has nothing to do with it. what is said between person A and B has nothing to do with person C. demanding to see someone elses phone is grounds for an immediate ass whooping, . There is literally NO situation that justifies that kind of insecure beta behavior, no wonder dude was getting cheated oon.
@@alucardnolifeking789there's a lot of good women out there my friend. I'm sorry you got cheated on, but look at yourself. You won't get cheated on if you don't allow it to happen. Shes your girl, remember that.
@@ogeIThis is an absolutely stupid comment 😭
Cheaters will always try and pin the blame on the person they're creating on just because they either feel guilty or are afraid that they got caught
Creating?
refusing to admit guilt
@@michaelcandela-reyes2699 I think it was supposed to say 'cheating' but it's a typo.
My ex wife did the same thing. Was all big and bad, hitting me and breaking a laptop across my face until I told her I recorded everything. Then she started crying and trying to turn it around like I didn't just listen to her cheating on me 20 minutes prior.
She didn't ruin her marriage in 60 seconds. She thought about this, made the decision to cheat over several months, maybe years, who knows? She ruined her marriage over the course of weeks, months or years. "In 60 seconds" is minimizing it.
@BlackLivesMatter1414 A lie of omission is still a lie. Lying in a relationship is self sabotage, or you never truly loved the person.
@BlackLivesMatter1414 she is LITERALLY hiding her phone from her husband. She doesn't want him to know something, and that's lying.
@@BlackLivesMatter1414 Then why did she hide her texts from her husband?
@@BlackLivesMatter1414wow, you really are getting decimated on your comments on this video. I hope you don't have a partner that acts like this to you like this woman did to her husband. Truth , respect, and honesty are the foundation of long term relationships. I am sorry that you don't see the problem with this man asking his wife to be truthful and honest with him.
She didn't "ruin" her marriage. She ended it, but at a pace that was convenient for her. That marriage had already been over, he just didn't know it yet.
Her anger in this video stems from the fact that she was caught and thus outwitted, and she feels stupid. She can't care less that the marriage is over. Her only issue was her ego being bruised a little.
If my husband thought he saw something on my phone that caused him distress, I would insist he look through everything immediately to put that nonsense to bed with zero doubt. This is not a "you should just trust me" type of moment. He didn't hear through the grapevine. He saw it with his own eyes. Trust is a fragile thing, and once it's broken, there's no putting it back to its original state. There will be scars if not gushing wounds when all is said and done.
Too true.
You should expect your partner to trust you, but you can't expect them to have blind faith in you. There's a difference.
somebody who knows what they are talking about, sadly most believe doing such is "InSeCuRe" or shows "WeAkNeSs"
@@zoto4064 If you never felt this and suddenly it changes trust your gut. When things are wrong the body speaks and we pick.
@@miwestraveler3986 I love this. Blind faith vs Trust. Actual differences lmao.
@@miwestraveler3986Absolutely! And also, while insecurity is not a virtue, we can all be afflicted with it every now and then for whatever reason. When my man became a bit insecure in relation to my work colleague, all I cared about was giving him a peace of mind, because there was absolutely nothing there to make him feel insecure. I offered to give him access to all of the private messages I exchanged with my work colleague at work (we never communicated outside of work). I thought he would refuse my offer, but he didn't, he read it all. After that, he never had an insecure moment again.
She's pretty good at deflection. She's having an affair, the evidence is in her phone, but she turns it all around on her husband. Classic move and done well. Guys, if your girlfriend/wife is hiding something from you, she's being unfaithful and you need to replace her or do without a girlfriend/wife.
@@rumplestiltskinnYou can use them if you just plan well. I prefer using something to make someone become unconscious, and then drop them off in a pen at a hog farm. Not a trace of them left an hour later. Gators in a swamp are an alternative if you live close by.
@@BlackLivesMatter1414How do you not know?
@@BlackLivesMatter1414 if there is any Doubt... there is no doubt.
If your wife is cheating on you, then the relationship is already over.
Men cheat when they want to relieve themselves. Women cheat when they made up their minds that they don't want the man they're with.
So, as a man, you can't end a relationship that was never there. You just need to make it official. But she was already gone, make no mistake.
When ever they pull the "uncomfortable" card, then you need to leave. Should have changed the locks while she was gone. If they threaten uncomfortable, they will put you in jail on false charges.
I hope that the world moves on from the inclusitivity and do whatever you want. This guy has to record so he wont have to be thrown in jail for "abuse." Why cant we just be back to accountability?
Social media. Women are more socially oriented than men, thus they dominate social media. Social media has a huge influence on our culture. Women just don't do accountability. Thus we now have a serious accountability problem in our culture.
because there's no society on earth which has been infiltrated by feminism that also holds women accountable for their actions.
Yeah because women avoid responsibility and accountability like Neo dodges bullets
@@saladv3028And this is why I never support women rights... They abuse it
"it is what it is" i wonder if more people will just try to live their best life and not see relationships as a must
Moral of the story:
If your in a relationship don't download tiktok
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@@bigsalte a nerd*
@@AndreiAndreevYTW response bro
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Two years ago, I found myself in a similar situation. And you won't believe how swiftly she silenced my doubts, leaving me with no room to question her loyalty ever again. It took me 6 months to apologize because she deserved it.
why wouldnt she let u check it if she is not hiding anything?
@@horbezermariam1390 im pretty sure she did let him check
@@horbezermariam1390My man has the deduction skills of a goldfish
@@CBman11037It could be read as a supporting message saying, "Yes, of course. Why wouldn't she let you read them if she's not doing anything wrong?"
Not saying it is for sure.
Just saying Maybe that's what they meant
@@CBman11037 im assuming lol
That's right. Cheaters will always be manipulative cause deep down they know they are trash.
0:50 TRANSLATION: “I’m gonna go walk the dogs and delete all evidence while panic calling my sister and beg her to help me cover this up or try to spin it around to be *your* fault that I cheated. I don’t wanna lose my lifestyle that *you* provide but I’m still a weak whore so I’ll pretend I’m loyal and offended at the mere accusation.”
You know that’s the truth and her boyfriend in the closet could tell
Word of advice: if your spouse says you have to leave the house you legally don't need to. This woman can stay with her sister if she's so scared.
She probably wants to scrub the house for evidence to be safe.
@@erikhermansen3431 or she wants to mooch off his hard work
Right on!
Just for the record, those text messages can be legally obtained even if they were deleted as part of a divorce proceedings.
@@BlackLivesMatter1414 like software such as iOS iMessage (p.s. thanks for sharing your thoughts!)
@@BlackLivesMatter1414bro pull up the cases
In a non-fault divorce state, it doesn't matter. The judge don't care or even hear about the whys. The judge is just going to take your stuff and give it to her.
@@fahey6797my mom divorced my dad because he was mentally ill but never really had evidence of him cheating and never wanted to investigate , i feel bad for my dad except for one thing is him resorting to drug use because all my life he was very strict and judgemental about drug use even when i was young he would judge me and call me a pothead but now hes on hard drugs but i also feel bad for him because its in california so a woman can just divorce you for no absolute reason at all which is wild!!!!
This is her going off to delete the incriminating texts.
I would be 100% okay with a partner going through my phone, especially if they were worried about me cheating. Accusations of cheating would instantly have me going "no I didn't, go ahead, look through my messages." The fact that she won't just hand it over says everything. I get privacy but if you're accused of cheating or anything like that, you'd want to prove your innocence asap if you're actually innocent.
No just my husband but my teenage sons as well. We have no password and our mobile sit on tha table when we are home.
Right after you deleted any evidence of course.
This is how my wife and I do it. We both have each others PIN's and can access each others phones. If either of us suddenly denied the other access that would be a huge red flag.
I hate people touching my phone and looking through my phone. It's highly personal to me. I'm not sure if people here want a medal for leaving their phone open for their whole family to look through, but these days your phone carries everything about you, and just because you don't want people going through it, doesn't mean you're a cheater. Everyone deserves the right to have some privacy, even if they're married or in a relationship.
It's also a pretty bad idea to make yourself slack with phone security. You can literally buy a car with just your phone.
@@PotatoPirate123 I agree. It's not that I have anything to hide, but what's in there is personal. If a partner asked me to see who I was texting on the suspicious of cheating, I would be highly offended. I'd show them, but it would hurt knowing that they don't have trust in me.
As an American 30 year old man, I really don’t understand why any man would want to get married in a country that will benefit the woman while forcing you to support her after divorce. It’s a lose lose deal, unless you’re marrying a richer woman which is highly unlikely
It seems like America's system is breeding worse women every generation, no accountability or responsibility of their actions. And if they get punished they get less sentences than men. And social media has now inflated their ego's to the extreme
Hence the reason why leas man these days are marrying these days And if they are, they usually will go for foreign women. Modern American women are poisoned by “role models” like Cardi B, Mia Khalifa, and Taylor Swift.
Women who drug and abuse men for their own personal gain. Not to mention, if a girl was raised without a dad, you can pretty much cross her off the list bc these girls never had an example of a good man. Most single moms are single bc of whorish ways, so that’s what they pick up.
So combine a sex and money addicted society with a corrupt biased court system heavily favored towards women, and they wonder why men are staying single.
It’s also the main reason why men aren’t signing up for the military. We have nothing worth while to fight for. We come back from Iraq, and we get rewarded with VA care, slutty tag chasers, and pedophilic drag queens in schools. ALL thanks to modern women.
Yeah screw this, I'm turning gay
True. Women will almost never marry down.
@@nunyabiznes33no shit. No woman wants a man who is poor and can’t provide common things for the wife and family.
The fact she was suddenly afraid he may harm her 100% says that there was something in her phone that he was not going to be happy about.
Ummm, that husband DOES KNOW that if he's the one paying for the phone, he's more than allowed to go to his provider, and ask for the printed messages his wife's been sending and receiving, right? Because, that stuff gets saved, so it doesn't matter if she scrubs her phone. 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯
If she wipes the phone that's just more proof that she cheated
@samirdoncic6395internet provider too lolololo
I'll try to remember that, though I wonder if that's just american companies.
Carriers do not store your messages. it's illegal. They cannot retrieve them.
Guys, take lessons from this. He handled it about as well as he could have. Documenting things when you walk into a situation like that is very wise. I hope his lawyers squeeze her once a PI is done gathering dirt on her.
The fucked part is that this dude is like pretty handsome, looks like he’s really well off, has a stable job and house, and he still got a woman who he isn’t enough for. Like what the fuck am I supposed to do?
It doesn't matter if you are Will Smith, Bill Gates or Jeff Bezos, they will never be satisfied.
Also the dog man… I feel so bad for the poor doggi
You girls don't know what you want.
How about candy?
"The greatest villain of all time"
Because cheating is rarely ever actually about the cheater's partner/spouse, and all about the person doing the cheating.
Being handsome and rich will earn you a woman who is "high-value" in the dating market from a worldly perspective. But in order to get yourself a VIRTUOUS woman who will be faithful in marriage despite inevitable temptations, you need to train yourself in virtue. This is simultaneously harder and easier than becoming handsome and rich, and much more rewarding in the long run.
And also sometimes even if you do everything right your spouse might cheat on you, because human beings are fallen and because bad things often happen to good people. Hopefully in those situations there can be a road to forgiveness and reconciliation.
The most fucked part is he was with her 11 years. That actually makes me think... You think you got someone who loves you, you love them. Nope, fucks and cheats behind your back...
I was once accused outright of having an affair. Was married for 3 years. Lol, i respect my wife for just sitting me down & calmly asking upfront without playing “games.” Neither of us mess about on serious matters…
Then I got what it looked like.
Yes. I had been sneaking around with a smug look on my face & doing unwarranted “overtime” at work then sneaking outside for dodgy furtive phone calls..?
The thing was, I was actually planning a surprise for our 3rd wedding anniversary.
The thing was. Both my parents & her folks waited 30 years to afford an “engagement ring?” (Time passes fast.& there can be other priorities..) The plan was ,to not let my wife wait that 3 decades…
My “furtive” phone calls were with a jeweller. I’d already taken her wedding ring size & gauged her size on my own hand.
Sneaky… but with the best intentions. The trust is still there the marriage is great.
This was pretty similar to how my ex-wife reacted when I asked to see her phone. I already had knowledge beforehand that she was having an affair thanks to her best friend informing me. But when I asked my wife at the time to see her texts, she refused and came up with some of the most nonsensical excuses I’ve ever heard in my life. We had been together for 8 years and not once had I ever yelled at her or even threatened her and she was in fear for her life acting like I was going to physically harm her. Was I pissed? Yes, I was furious and heartbroken, but I would never hit a woman unless my life was in danger.
How's she doing now?
If she threw away 8 yrs, that only gives her a few years to find someone and get married before it's almost completely off the table.
I'm seeing an increasing number of women who leave good relationships because the grass is always greener on the other side. And their greed blinds them until they're so old that no man looks at them anymore.
@@kachi9293I ain't reading all of that
@@kachi9293As someone who has divorced parents because of cheating, I disagree with you. The guy already caught a glimpse of something suspicious, so he has the right to see if his wife is cheating on him or not, just like a wife has the right to see if her husband is cheating on her. She could have shown the messages and explain what's going on to dispel any concerns, but no, she had to start assuming he was going to get violent and kicked him out of the house. I am so sick of this mentality the west has that the woman is always the victim and that the man is the abuser. There's no such thing as equality.
@@queenannesrevenge3770Plenty of women get married after their “prime”. Y’all are ridiculous.
@@ascendednightingale2456 Of course that's true when the world has a population of 7 billion people.
With that many people, two opposing things can both be common.
You should really try using your brain for like, 2 seconds.
An almost identical situation happened to me when I was younger and too naive to know better. She had a male friend who they would “work out” together and do CrossFit events together. Just total disrespect. Women will cheat on you without batting an eye man.
It's the kind of females you guys are getting. Ya don't want the nice innocent girls or women. Old school understood. My male cousin just recently got out of his marriage b/c his woman (who was quite adventurous before they started dated and was well known in a lot of places) got a new car and was bringing her boyfriend over to the house to have fun. And she threatened to call the cops if he had something to say about it. On a black male. The cops and black male do not go well together. So as I said before, go back to Old school methods and get a girl who just graduated from High School or College nerd who hardly has no experience if any at all. Old School knew.
And men do not cheat yeah? lets not generalize.
@@tossajaClown who cheat more ? We never said men don't cheat, stop trying to change the topic bozo.
@@tossajayeah but who has more access to cheat? Women.
@@1in10million sure. My point just was that saying ”women will cheat on you without batting an eye” is just dumb. If men had the same opportunities they would cheat in similar way, even more I believe. We are naturally inclined to ”spread our seed”.
Nothing about being in this situation would make me more mad and depressed as a guy than the implication that even after 11 years of knowing each other and 7 years of loving marriage I cannot be trusted not to harm you when I'm upset
She didn't feel unsafe, she was weaponizing therapy jargon. It's a common tactic long liars and narcissists these days.
It's just her gaslighting him
You really never know anyone, can you? That's why you accuse with love, show them you forgive them, and hope they come to their senses. That's really the best you can do when someone cheats on you.
@spazoq that is an excellent way to get cheated on and walked upon for a lifetime. this is a sure sign the man has let a woman usurp authority over him. it would be better to be alone.
@@travisglenn7003 "Usurp Authority", you didn't really type that, did you? LOL Hope you're loving your woman-slave bro.
"He'll never find out if i cheated on him IF i divorce him FIRST!"
And then claim that he abused me💀
Ah, i remember seeing something a bit similar to this situation irl. A guy in my class broke up with his gf and she started spreading rumors of him sexually harassing and threatening her. People started attacking him and isolating him including his "friends". He had to release screenshots of their conversation which shows her threatening him when he said he wants to break up because she's not loyal. I don't really know the guy and the girl but i find the whole situation to be extremely weird because it really shows how easy people will throw you away once they hear bad rumors.
It usually involves women.
@@1Plebeian because when it comes to things like this, the woman will be more trusted by default. Which is good in the situation where they did get SA'd. But it's sad how some people abuse that advantage to ruin people's lives
@@happytuna7275 If you say so
Heard the same thing, either it's the same people or it happens quite a bit...
This is what evil looks like, people. You never knew her, dude. You were together for 11 years, and never knew her at all.
And if she calls the police and make up some story, they arrest the guy.
Exactly, it’s sad and unfair and makes my blood boil.
If you call the police on anyone and say they Did XYZ or have a drug ring or something they will bust them too lmfao. You know swatting is a thing right?
I understand you resent women because you're unpopular but this narrative is just fake. Anyone can call the police and make up a story and cause an arrest.
Just like when a woman makes a false accusation, which does happen, unless proof is beyond a reasonable doubt and you're convicted it doesn't matter
I was born in Japan where the legal system is WAY more strict than America and this still applies. Standards of proof exist
Yes sir! That woman’s been running around on her husband. Her behavior just says it all. Get rid of her. “Guy friends”, yeah whatever. It’s called a side piece.
The second she walks out that door, I’m filing for divorce and you can’t change my mind.
you got your priorities straight.
Saying you will talk with your sister how uncomfortable a cheating accusation gets you just makes the situation obvious and is proof enough.
This happened with my ex wife. But she was on deployment (both of us navy) and I literally saw and took pictures of the proof on her Snapchat. All of a sudden when I called her out on it she wanted me to mail the iPad to her moms because she was “uncomfortable” with me having it. Mhm sure wonder why. But I did to avoid extra drama and I had everything I needed anyways. Told her we were done and when she got back to grab HER stuff and leave. Fast forward to when she comes back from deployment. She goes ape shit, talks like this lady on here, assaults me destroys my property, I call the cops on her 3 times and they take 2 hours to even show up and she left. Guess who ends up in handcuffs? Guess who loses everything after she cleared out the apartment with friends and family and wrecked the place? Then had the nerve to move in with the man she was screwing while still married. Men…I’m telling y’all right now. Don’t make my mistake and do exactly what this guy did. RECORD EVERYTHING. The only thing that saved me was the bruises that came up shortly after, emails, text messages, body cam footage and character statements. That and the fact she victimized herself and obviously lied got the charges dropped. Which yes thank god, but the damage was also already done. The pain, the embarrassment the financial aspect, the fact she got away with everything and I got punished for nothing. These women are disgusting, and idk if the system that’s on their side is more disgusting than the women or not.
11 years?? And she still did that? Why
Fresh meat I guess xD
Hoe literally took the dogs for a walk, you know why that is? She’s for the streets
Mfs will do anything just to cheat in their loving and loyal partner
@@MrDollgramOfficialliterally 😭 eleven years? 😭
Woman
"I feel uncomfortable" "I don't believe you won't hit me."
It's a dangerous world we live in.
She's making assumptions.
@@CoquiDeBoriken No. She's lying for recording devices.
Yeah, a dangerous world for women. Males murder women all the time. Good thing he recorded to hold himself accountable. Males rarely can control their primitive caveman brain.
ooor hear me out, the person who's most likely to rape and kill a woman is her boyfriend. I don't blame her, even if she's a horrible human being, for being scared that her punishment will be WAY BIGGER than her crime.
@@whizkeysh0t
I do blame her.
She's just using this victim facade, or rather victim mentality to avoid conflict and blame.
Has her partner shown any signs of being violent, unhinged or mentally unstable?
Or is she just panicking because her lies and deceit are being exposed?
She's literally walking away from the consequences of her actions.
It’s crazy. After 11 years I’m sure the texts now seem so silly in her head. But now she has to flip the cards and play victim.
A place that you created with this person, called home; your life as you know it, is now gone.
Best of luck to that man.
Well, as someone who has a master's in being cheated on I can say with confidence that her reaction is all the proof you need. Ditch that 304 immediately! And go get tested for STDs, cuz you never know.
Yeah, "I'm scared that you'll beat me if you read what's on my phone" is one hell of a confession
No need to see the phone at that point
The same exact thing happened to my mom. She was with him for 10 years, and while we were vacation as a family, he was sexting other women. At first he lied and said it was just one woman, when it reality, it’s been WAY more. The ENTIRE marriage he had been cheating on her, even when she was pregnant and at home with 2 children. He got fired from 2 jobs for having sex with multiple women, but lied about the reasoning, of course. Cheaters and home wreckers are DISGUSTING
While that's horrible. Dang he must me one attractive man.
I'm not even allowed to talk to women.
scum. if there were any real men around he should have been beaten for that type of behavior. unfortunately they are protected because the law makers and such act the same way. its an entitlement thing and lack of morality.
@thesaddestdude3575 thats funny. reminds me of the time recently when i walked around a corner and this younger, alphabet girl was walking up. she was so repulsed that she covered her eyes and turned her head at the same time. they think they are upper, upper class. if i was a cuck i'd get some face tattoos to impress the women. smh.
Did he threaten you with false accusations of abuse when you found out?
@@BlackLivesMatter1414Maybe because he was either sleeping with clients or coworkers? Both of which would cause you to be fired. Is the power of inference really that hard??
My ex once tried this "I feel threatened" ploy. She ended up calling a friend who then wanted to talk to me. I had gone to bed and they had to wake me up to have the conversation. The friend tried making it out that I was standing there with a knife and that I was a danger to everyone around me. When I pointed out that they had to wake me up for her to berate me, she suddenly lost a lot of steam.
Yep. They lie to everyone about you too. Multiole times... so when it comes to a head. They ha e months of lies to hurl at you.
She's using him for shelter and her lifestyle while cheating .
My wife asked to see my texts a week ago. I gave her the phone and her curiosity was satisfied, that was the end of the drama.
The woman on this video is extra suspicious and for sure hiding something.
you should have demanded your wife's texts. She's cheating.
@@johnmatthews4717 that was my thought. Sure, she could’ve just been sus of something and innocent. But my gut tells me she was cheating and was trying to find something to justify it out of guilt.
@@Crozzzbonez0 Yeah if you trust your partner you don't need "proof" unless you catch something sus like the guy in the video did. As you mentioned it's also the case that cheaters think you'll do the same as them because they feel guilty.
@@johnmatthews4717 plot twist and good idea! I'm asking her tonight.
@@johnmatthews4717 I asked my wife for her phone, and she handed it over before I could finish the request. Nothing out of the ordinary on the platforms or texts.
I went through this myself a long time ago [something like 12 years ago?].
She did exactly what you suggested - 'cleaned' her history. Except she had a blackberry and she only cleared half of the conversation by mistake. On the BB you had to delete the INBOX *and* the OUTBOX. She just deleted the outbox.
She thought she was slick but she screwed up.
Regardless - her not being willing to show me in the moment and then it being suddenly clear would have been all I needed regardless.
I even told her - show me the phone, be honest with me, and we will work through this. Nope - she couldn't do it.
People suck.
He denied her false abuse charges by recording the entire interaction. Smart man.
They want "I feel uncomfortable" and "wow" to be a magic phrase.