9 Habits that Make People Instantly Dislike You - How to NOT Win Friends and Influence People
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The sarcasm is real in this one.
spurs4lyf2006 maybe he was pissed ?
Lol lol lol lol lolllllll
What's up guys! :) Thought I'd revisit this book and talk about the most important ideas... The steps are based on the following principles:
Step 1: Be a good listener.
Step 2: Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
Step 3: Instead of criticism, use encouragement and appreciation.
Step 4: Smile.
Step 5: Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
Step 6: Become genuinely interested in other people.
Step 7: Make the other person feel important.
Step 8: If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
Step 9: Talk in terms of the other person's interests / arouse in the other person an eager want / try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
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Cheers! :)
hey man love your videos. liking the new style in this one.
is this video a response video of SeeKen channel?
love this book and your channel!!
I liked the video. Keep up the good work. Innovative way of expressing thoughts
+FightMediocrity Awesome as usual :) The title has a nice ring too it :P Thanks for clarifying the points here, I had a hard time reversing what was being said haha
I love the point you made in number 6. I spent a lot of time reading books, not doing anything and feeling like I made progress, and than I convinced myself that I was now superior to others because I knew things they didn't, it was just a cycle of mental masturbation. In reality I needed more action and far less theory.
Loved the way you focused on doing everything the other way round.
it is almost funny to hear things from this perspective, or maybe sad, but its the way many people live
Right? When I think about how many people I have encountered like this it’s sad! But this video is so funny!
As a superhero in training, I fully endorse this video. Showing the books principles in reverse is an effective way in showing people that their shooting themselves in the foot by being negative and self centered. By the way, I love this channel. One of the many that inspired me to create my channel. Keep up the great work!
+Heroic Concepts "... in showing people that their shooting themselves in the foot by being negative and self centered."
Amen. I wish more people would understand this.
+Heroic Concepts a superhero eh? whats your power?
The power to help people to win the internal war we all face on a daily basis. I use the term "superhero" as a metaphor for rising above the norm and being the best version of yourself. It's not something that you are, but rather something that you strive to be when the time calls for it.
Heroic Concepts ah youre not a vigilante, just vigilant
cruhg Yeah that's pretty accurate, cruhg.
Crap. I can count a few that i do.
Sam
then why dont you change them? as strivvers said, an amazing reply. dont lose hope ever.
+Jimmy Papas Yeah, we all got to take action to get better!
+Ancient laws
Step 2: Don't ... complain.
+Ancient laws
so can I xD
I think there's a point to be made that everyone does these things occasionally; we all have our ups and downs, and just because one tries to be good doesn't mean that he or she will successful in that pursuit in every situation.
This was the most appealing video for me in a while. I was to hard focused on work and now I realize I've probably hurt a lot of people in my circle of friends. Thank you
That point..
If you're a sociopath you can do most of this and still make people love you. They have it all
The reason for this is that sociopaths generally have personalities that are like forces of nature and are very entertaining. Outside of a professional environment, probably the worst thing a person can be (socially speaking) is boring. Of course sociopaths (or narcissists) generally lose their appeal once the glamour wears off.
I like the new dry erase look! I watched your other videos on this book (even binged your channel) , but this one really drives the point home. Please keep up the awesome work and know that you are impacting others positively. Thank you.
This showed me how much I need to work on myself as a person.
Or find work✔
Finally! Watched all of your videos already and I am happy to see another one. Keep it up brother
+Angelo Est (gelo) One of the best channels I know.
Great video!
I've missed your videos! Thanks for uploading!!!
Wow, I actually caught myself doing some of these towards the end so thank you for making this video. It was more helpful than the former for me.
That was awesome! I loved the different perspective on things. Thanks!
Always get excited to see a new video from you, great job again.
I really love this channel. Its truly changed me as a person. Keep up the fantastic work and I hope to see you get the recognition you deserve.
Hey man, I was watching your videos for a good of 4 hours now. THIS one is my favorite by far! LOL Amazing videos and profitable incredible knowledge all over! Thanks for putting these together! It's really great :) Keep on doing that ! - Pat
We love the new hand-drawn whiteboard "animations". Great videos!
another great video, so glad you started posting again, waited for a long time lol
Hi @FightMediocrity you are an inspiration to me. I am trying to become as good as you are. Thank you for all your videos :)
and Keep up the good work man!
Honestly, I fell in love with what you´re teaching in your videos... great job!
Great to have you back man!
Great vid! I like that you're branching out with some new ideas. Keep up the good work!
Hi there,
You're doing an awesome work, flipping it so that people could really see themselves in it is a good idea. I think I'm not the only one that loves your videos! Can you please think of making one for the book "Rework" by Jason Fried.
I have most of your videos on my tablet, and I watch them very often. They help me revise quickly and accurately a book. Just keep on doing what you're doing and one day you'll be at the 1million subscribers plato and will be featured in many television shows. Good stuffs speaks for themselves!
Thank you for your spectacular service creating these videos, I've watched 5 already and will watch all 70 in the next week. Keep up your great, valuable work.
Great Video!
This perspective of "what not to do", helps to understand what you might be doing wrong when dealing with people, even better.
You seem like a very honest and genuine person, you even mention that your links are affiliate links.
Thanks.
Gotta love your videos
OMG..... This describes a lot of people ' I know'. A lot! I see it all the time.
You are describing 99% of Generation Y.
Forgetting people's names is one of my biggest weaknesses. Need to work extra hard on this one.
+Joe Buza What I do is as soon as someone tells me their name I try to immediately associate it with a famous celebrity or such. I also try to drop it a few times later in the night to make it stick and show them I took the time to remember it.
What the hell are you talking about? The comment was about meeting people and remembering names. Give him some tips, not condemn him for not knowing people on a "non verbal level."
great video! I am guilty of saying "I am not good with names." lol
Lol same
+Mirza Borogovac A good fix is to reframe your sentence every time you catch yourself saying/thinking your old problem-focused thoughts or words. "I'm not good with names ... but I am working hard to fix that." (if you catch yourself at the end), or "I'm getting better at remembering other people's names every day!".
The other trick when you learn a name is to really try and imagine what it would be like if you were that person. What would it feel like to be them? What was their day like? What's important to them? I'm telling ya it helps :)
P.S. I normally try and ask people if they want my opinion before doing the more rude thing and just giving it, but this forum doesn't really allow for easy flow of back-and-forth conversation. Hope some of this is helpful and not just annoying, brother!
Christopher Wild Thank you. Best method I found to remember someone's name is to actually pay attention and then to repeat it. Some visualization also helps. I use those methods much of the time, but. as with many things, I need to make it a habit.
I am going to try your method of imagining myself being that person.
Your videos are some of the most consistently inspiring/thought provoking videos I have ever seen on youtube.
This was an excellent video. I actually had to think about the concepts more because of the format you took. Pretty neat !
This is perfect reminder to check yourself. I've been working on a large, difficult project recently and I've started to behave a bit like this. Thanks for the wake up call!
I prefer the old animation style but the content is as good as always!
+ObtainEudaimonia Exactly!
this is way better animation. the old style was crappy clipart and the same generic clips had to be reused again and again. this is much better
I've watched a couple of your videos man. This, by far, was one of the best
Literally LOL'd at the "Sorry, I'm not good with names" part. People really do see it as a "magic sentence"... it's used so much it's cliche!
Awesome video. A new perspective of the same book is great! Very cool to see my name in your video too! :)
Wow man, just came across your channel and is just incredible, good work!
I am extremely happy there is another video from you! Any chance we can get an upload schedule?
Good to see you back.
I love it. good job with this idea. id love to see more in this format
I LOVE the animation style in this one! Hopefully future videos will look this good. Love this content.
Love the format of this lol Actually reminds me a lot of growing up in the Yugoslavia war times, and how people interacted with each other.
This is a good one, a little different but gets the same point across as your other video on this subject. Actually it's a little easier to put myself in these shoes and ask if I do these things.
This is my favorite channel on TH-cam, keep up the good work!
I like the new drawing style! Keep up the great work :)
Awesome! Great Idea.
Just finished this book for the first time, and it was a huge eye-opener
As usual nice videos.. keep up the good work
Good man , keep doing this ! Helps me a lot tanks
Keep this amazing work. You're inspiring mate.
hiii bro, nice that you are back. i missed your videos
Thanks for your creative ways of showing how to add value. FightMedocrity, you're awesome!
so amazing. your work is better and better every time u post. you ate so creative and helpful. BTW I'm currently reading that book.
I absolutely love your videos. Keep up the great work.
I'm a Fan of your channel, after watching this video. You got some great content there, mate. All the best for future.
I've learned a lot from you, and still do. Keep the work on and teach us new things.
Great channel buddy !
That background track is amazing, man! Great video!
That made the steps stick to my head even more.....great job, it really became easier to remember what the book is about.
Thanks my queen for sending me this video, you're absolutely right, the original concepts of the original book now sticks by contrast
At last you are back!
Most helpful video, thanks a bunch! keep going.
LMFAO how sarcastic :'D It was more like comedy to me. Well done, man! I am in love with your channel
Legend says if u r early, fight mediocrity will reply to ur comment. !!
+Chirag Jeswani
+FightMediocrity Great vid as always! Left a comment on one of your previous videos about small business consulting. Do you offer it? If yes, please contact me at doc@drphoenyx.com. I'd love to speak with you.
+FightMediocrity hey awesome guy, sorry for interrupting you but.... everything ok with your career decisions?
+Chirag Jeswani Yes Legend does say that
interesting approach to demonstrate your point, I like it. These videos are excellent, please keep them coming!
One of the best so far!
Fantastic video, Malkhaz! Ihave also revisited this video after reading it. Great video, I like the new animation style very much, with the white board!!! Keep up the good work, friend!
Its sad that there are videos out there with billions of views, yet this video can change someone's life but doesn't even hit a quarter of one million. That to me is insane. I hope that there is more awareness soon, this is so helpful.
just amazing. excellent job. you are really helping people!
I discovered this channel today and I love it now.
This was a great video!
This is great, very unexpected. Also a very emotionally touching video, with a great message. Thank you.
I like your videos so much and I am inspired to start my own as well! Thanks a lot and keep making these wonderful videos;)
Thanks so much! I have been grappling with the idea of authenticity and the techniques in How to Win Friends and the 48 Laws of Power. I'm not sure how or if they're supposed to work together. This video put it in a different light :)
I'm in love with this account. Thanks very much for the video. When it's put that way, even I get it. need to get to work.
Welcome back. I liked the idea of talking about what "not" to do. Animation is fantastic!
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I'm diggin the dry erase! quality content as always
at first i was thinking that this video would b useless but it is quite the contrary. it makes u understand the lessons in the book even more.
well done brother, great video
I followed all of your advice and I lost my only two friends and also got demoted at work. Wow, this stuff seriously works!
Oh shit, that mad me think now! Love this new format of show what to do if you want to be unsucessful! This shows direct when you behave somewhere wrong! (:
Very well done. It gives a great new perspective to really drive the points home.
Thanks, will try this tonight!
A novel, amusing, and brilliantly conceived perspective on Carnegie's sage teachings!👍🏽
great video, it really put things into perspective
This made me laugh so hard!!! Congratulations bro, this new negative perspective makes things even more obvious... And the animation is excellent too!!!
I love you bro great video!
Haha this is great.
Good job, this video makes the real message very clear :)
I've literally watched all of your videos and read some of the books. Have a book reading list on progress. And this reciprocal approach to the idea is more impacting that the original one. It states what people tend to actually do but giving you a sense of analysis on how negative it can be. Good job though
Progression is key. listen even when you don't want to listen. Learn even if you think you know. Be humble in your lifelong journey. #MP
I actually loved this! :)
Hello!!
Hilarious video!
I have always been a fan of your videos , I especially like your succint style of summing up an idea and of course, your drawings.
This was a great video showing how we put ourselves at a loss by doing such stuff.Personally I have to admit to no.1. Over and over again.
Hope to see similar *NOT* to videos of other books too!!
I've read the book. And I feel that this point of view is v effective to get things across to the viewer. It made me realise tiny mistakes that I'm still committing.
Thank you @fightmediocrity
I like that, thanks for sharing. It was a great evaluation of the culture at my work and made me realise that I am not the one who is going crazy. I really needed that :)
I like the point of view you revisited with. keep on growing much love
Hey man I love your videos. I would be incredibly appreciative if you were to post the music you use on a separate video. It's very relaxing and I feel like it would be excellent for homework and studying. Keep up the great work man
Great video 👍
Great stuff
LIKED BEFORE I WATCHED
THATS HOW GOOD THIS CHANNEL IS
Haha, really enjoyed this!
The book that changed my life forever. Thanks Dale Carnegie.
Very beautiful drawing! I really can advise this book :)