Common Habits That Make People Like You Less

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    Sometimes we know for sure we’ve done something to make people dislike us. But other times it’s less obvious and the slap isn’t the only thing that is causing Will to receive such backlash - there were several more common mistakes that turned people against him.
    That’s why in this video we’ll cover 3 of the more subtle things Will did so you can avoid these mistakes in your own life. We will also get into the real reason why Will Smith hit Chris Rock, something I have not seen anyone else talk about yet.
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    0:00 - Intro
    0:24 - Mistake #1: Triangulating yourself into your significant other's relationships
    1:40 - Mistake #2: Dodging ownership of bad behavior
    3:12 - Mistake #3: Carrying emotional baggage to your interactions
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  • @NicholasLolin
    @NicholasLolin 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2179

    This is legitimately the best and most productive Will Smith based content I've seen post slap. Kudos to you Charlie

    • @Cekatu
      @Cekatu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Agreed 💯

    • @badjoj015
      @badjoj015 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      There was another one about Will which is "Jada is a narcissist..." here on youtube. That one definitely makes you understand Will and Jada more about relationships in general, not really about Will and Jada so to speak

    • @kernzyp
      @kernzyp 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      At the same time, I agree. My dad was an alcoholic gypsy psychopath. Ruined all our lives, then blamed us. Home wreckers should die.

    • @KCreep
      @KCreep 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Normally I'd agree... but the dude legit advocated for the conscious use of psychedelics without any back up or evidence. As far as I know Charlie isn't a doctor, I don't think it's really ethetical to plant those ideas into the minds of people dealing with trauma to use drugs, because a percentage of those people are going to be inclined to be addicts. I"m not saying what he said is wrong.... what I'm saying is it's more responsible to add a ton of caveates and addendums to a statement like that.

    • @frommyshelfbookstore
      @frommyshelfbookstore 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I agree

  • @rasmusn.e.m1064
    @rasmusn.e.m1064 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1084

    So glad you mentioned that Jada is her own person. It isn't Will's responsibility to protect her pride by acting on her behalf.

    • @roidjones
      @roidjones 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      You're right but women simply refuse to see it this way, if a woman is offended the man MUST charge in on her behalf.

    • @rasmusn.e.m1064
      @rasmusn.e.m1064 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      @@roidjones Luckily, not where I live.

    • @rafatsiddikey4102
      @rafatsiddikey4102 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @@rasmusn.e.m1064
      Which planet you live in?
      One more thing. When people get married, they promise to stand for each other. Smith did the right job.

    • @kevinthiago413
      @kevinthiago413 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @@rafatsiddikey4102 no

    • @akashajones6079
      @akashajones6079 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      @@roidjones Don't speak for every women on the planet mate. That's just ridiculous.

  • @theactualcanadian8300
    @theactualcanadian8300 2 ปีที่แล้ว +755

    Can we appreciate that we get this content completely free? These videos are phenomenal.

    • @reyannemustafa7098
      @reyannemustafa7098 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      AGREED!!!!!!

    • @blesd4success
      @blesd4success 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Agreed!

    • @barbaralachance5836
      @barbaralachance5836 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Nothing is ever free my friend 😊 but this is great content for not much I agree 😊

    • @karlharland2857
      @karlharland2857 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      What we appreciate is that people that say or start of saying "can we appreciate", or "who's watching this in 2022"..we believe them to work for TH-cam. Okay.

    • @theactualcanadian8300
      @theactualcanadian8300 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@karlharland2857 you can believe whatever you want. Only the YT comments could take a nice comment and flip it. Ugh.

  • @jaym3566
    @jaym3566 2 ปีที่แล้ว +680

    It all makes sense when you break it down like this and look at Will's childhood trauma. He has carried the guilt from not being able to protect his mother his whole life. What he needs to realize is that it was never his job to protect his mother. She and his father were supposed to protect him. What Will needs is to feel protected more than to protect others. I wish him peace and healing. Sad the way things happened but I think he and everyone need our compassion more than our judgement. Everyone has trauma and breaking points.

    • @kenzelukabarphukan200
      @kenzelukabarphukan200 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lol funny how Will has a problem what comes out of Chris's mouth however he doesn't have any problem what cums/comes in jade's mouth .

    • @Cekatu
      @Cekatu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Jay M such a lovely, loving, compassionate comment! This world needs more empathy, sympathy, compassion and love.

    • @BikerJim74
      @BikerJim74 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      oh boo hoo

    • @cadedog3
      @cadedog3 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@BikerJim74 down bad 💀

    • @SongSupply
      @SongSupply 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Bruh

  • @JayneNicoletti
    @JayneNicoletti 2 ปีที่แล้ว +92

    "Judgement of anyone often serves to bolster our own egos." This.

  • @Pancakegr8
    @Pancakegr8 2 ปีที่แล้ว +648

    Thank you for both acknowledging that what Will Smith did was wrong, but also that he is still a human with trauma like the rest of us. I feel like a lot of people only recognize the former.

    • @TheErlend87
      @TheErlend87 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Absolutely. Of course he was wrong, but it does not make him a monster.

    • @Cekatu
      @Cekatu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Both of you are on point! ✔️ So many people got up unto their high horses so that they could look down and judge him.
      This is such a balanced and fair commentary by the youtuber.

    • @mrkwrbl
      @mrkwrbl 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      it was just a slap, people too bored

    • @Pancakegr8
      @Pancakegr8 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Cekatu I agree! Best commentary I've seen by far considering we can actually take something useful away from it.

    • @rinaticson390
      @rinaticson390 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Exactly, I have been going back and forth with people on his trauma, but everyone wants to tear him down. That is not what he needs, I hope and pray that he gets the proper treatment for his past trauma.

  • @TheGoldenboyo
    @TheGoldenboyo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +92

    Finally. This is the first video I’ve seen since the Oscar’s incident that directly links Will’s childhood trauma of his abusive father beating his mother to him slapping Chris Rock. Every other commentary somehow cites Jada’s past infidelity as the root of Will’s issues rather than another symptom of a deeper cause. When I first heard about Will’s alcoholic father and childhood trauma, I’ve been disappointed so few people have connected the dots. This breakdown is both insightful and sobering in showing how easy it is for the best of us to suppress our traumas through adulthood and, if we don’t deal with them, let them rise up in ugly public moments that could tarnish our reputation permanently. I had such an incident where my own primal and angry reaction to something very innocuous truly surprised me. I had the same initial reaction of pride and shame (similar to Will during his acceptance speech) due to my conflicting emotions. It was only after years of therapy I was able to face my outbursts and truly begin to own my behaviour. That has been a huge help in me dealing with my own childhood traumas. I truly hope Will Smith sees this video and gets the help he needs.

    • @lenaxox4167
      @lenaxox4167 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      i was hoping he'd see it too, though there are so many videos like this i doubt he will, but this is the best one. the past really does affect the way you behave and im so glad charlie explained this. i think this would really help will if he saw it, and allow people bashing him to understand him more.

    • @ms.e195
      @ms.e195 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Very well stated.

  • @RacingSnails64
    @RacingSnails64 2 ปีที่แล้ว +784

    This is actually a really good video. This really puts what Will did in context and makes it understandable. Trying to prevent the past by over-correcting in the present... I think I do that as well, more often than I probably realize. I wanna research more on that!

    • @johnbravo1034
      @johnbravo1034 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I think that can be said of most of us.

    • @cherieg-johns1650
      @cherieg-johns1650 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Absolutely agree. This analysis made total sense. And it made me like the narrator & all the people who put the together even more :)

    • @Antwannnn
      @Antwannnn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      So how do they sit? And are they D cups or we talking bigger?

    • @protestthisyouloser1093
      @protestthisyouloser1093 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We’ve all done it

    • @jamesmcinnis208
      @jamesmcinnis208 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      "actually"

  • @jessicadrew5531
    @jessicadrew5531 2 ปีที่แล้ว +147

    I grew up poor and with an abusive dad. I always thought I was pretty self aware, but I didn't realize that my "hardworking" mentality is fueled by financial anxiety even though I'm in a good place but I constantly make myself miserable at jobs for no reason. I think about it constantly. I remember watching my mother cry because she was embarrassed her card got declined because my dad spent the money. A stranger hugged her and paid for the groceries. We didn't talk about it when we got in the car and I have never spoken about it once. However, I think about it a lot. Now I have that random fear and check my bank account all the time when there is no reason outside of identity theft, that the money won't be there. Crazy how I never thought about any of this. Because my dad's moods were everywhere from laughing and joking non stop to rage at the drop of a hat, I get worried when my boyfriend seems off like he's gonna explode or be cruel (he never does). I'm aware that can be an insecure/annoying trait so I avoid letting him know that I'm worried about it and try to just internalize it but it effects me more than I'd ever like to admit to him. I'm gonna work on these. Maybe start by verbalizing to him or a friend that I'm kinda anxious and weird about money. I feel like I'll feel better when I finally say it to someone I know and love.

    • @diamondgarcia9409
      @diamondgarcia9409 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It's good you recognize it now. That way you can process it fully and move on from it. I recently realized that the reason I can't let go of this huge chip I have on my shoulder is because I think if I do then I will stop being so hardworking. The truth is that I would probably only gain clarity and peace. Just in case it comes up for you, you don't have to hold onto it to be hardworking.

    • @sander2723
      @sander2723 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Very well said. Good luck in your journey!

    • @omerkeidar95
      @omerkeidar95 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Understanding these behaviors is a major step forward, I can honestly not recommend enough going to therapy so you could find a way to cope in a healthy way.

    • @Octoschizare
      @Octoschizare 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Tell your boyfriend these stories. It will help both of you.

    • @lostandfound5145
      @lostandfound5145 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Jessica, your story made me tear up. I know what that is like. I’m 39 now and I’ve come a long way, and I can tell you that you’re very probably dealing with some complex post traumatic responses and understanding more about that will help you so much.
      Survivors always tell ourselves that things could have been worse, we’re fine, we’re tough and we soldier on. We minimize the pain and then usually don’t fully understand how truly horrible the experiences really were. We have trouble validating that, feeling safe, and feeling worthy of love.
      And you probably have no idea how much of that is going on within you.
      If it’s possible for you to afford therapy there are online programs you could try. Therapy can be absolutely life changing.
      There are also some PTSD workbooks and dialectical behavioral therapy workbooks and some stuff like that you can get on Amazon or other bookstores and try doing a couple pages a day in the evenings.
      It can’t hurt. It can only help.
      From one daughter of an abusive man to another- you never deserved that. I’m sorry your mom didnt feel strong enough to save you from that. She probably had no idea how sick she was from what she was experiencing.
      I will be praying for you tonight! Don’t be afraid to try some of those books or therapy video-conference services. I can tell you, they truly changed my life

  • @fabrizioruizdiaz8950
    @fabrizioruizdiaz8950 2 ปีที่แล้ว +93

    I have been watching your videos for about 4 years now, they've helped me a LOT, but i have never felt so touched on a personal level as when you said that recreating the past and making amends is not healing you, embracing the truth will, I am 22 years old, and I still feel like I need to grow so much. I really do apreciate your content but rarely coment, hope you have a great day and continue with the channel.

    • @JustTheFlecks
      @JustTheFlecks 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Survivors of trauma act that trauma out all the time. They also spend a lot of energy trying to be validated and loved. I suspect very few successful actors come from stable homes.

    • @losasakarosa9050
      @losasakarosa9050 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@JustTheFlecks so true

  • @paleobc65
    @paleobc65 2 ปีที่แล้ว +342

    5:30 I’m glad he addressed how the past can affect how we act in the present day. Too many people dismiss others by saying “let go of the past” and it’s just not that simple

    • @Cekatu
      @Cekatu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Telling people to "let go of the past" or "time to move on" is an extremely wicked and cruel thing to do.

    • @breadyegg
      @breadyegg 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      It is that simple. It just isn't easy. And even then you can say it is that easy, but the ego doesn't allow it to be easy

    • @breadyegg
      @breadyegg 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Grace Kelly Hi. Thanks for sharing your experience! I mean, "on paper" it is that simple. Of course, the human experience of dealing with it is never that easy to endure and live with. It sounds like you, like me, are doing the right things to work on the reality of dealing with whatever particular issue is you are dealing with. I wish you all the best with that and a happy life. I am making progress (slowly) and I hope you are too.

    • @Enigma_408
      @Enigma_408 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Grace Kelly most people dont meditate and understand the science of what it does to your brainwaves , u literally just focused on the present moment

    • @Enigma_408
      @Enigma_408 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Grace Kelly yea just getting started is the hard part once u in that zone its worth it and life changing

  • @Markone99
    @Markone99 2 ปีที่แล้ว +168

    Hey Charlie! Great stuff, especially the "the traumatized parts of your psyche never grew up, so they try to recreate the past and somehow try to fix it"
    My god, that hit differently! And nostalgia for me is a huge thing that works the same

    • @TD2995
      @TD2995 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      If you liked that quote, you should definitely read or listen to “The Body Keeps the Score”

    • @Markone99
      @Markone99 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@TD2995 what's that? I genuinely hate reading, but if it could be found as a youtube vid, I'd love to hear it read!

    • @RcsN505
      @RcsN505 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That's Freud. His entire theory of psychotherapy is based on childhood experiences and how those reflect on our coping mechanisms (though he called those different things).

  • @Mr_Case_Time
    @Mr_Case_Time 2 ปีที่แล้ว +106

    Very interesting first point. Jada isn’t just Will’s wife, she’s an adult that has the capacity to stand up for herself and settle her own disputes.

    • @Lepidopray
      @Lepidopray 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Nah, a woman is a man's property. It's his job to protect his property.
      /s

    • @frankmuscular
      @frankmuscular 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Trauma : No

  • @dkvitaleme
    @dkvitaleme 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    An immediate rewatch...that perspective of telling Jada to speak with Chris about the joke was honestly great.

  • @amberlaird
    @amberlaird 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I love how this channel has evolved from tips on how to charm others into elevating our consciousness around other people's wounds and our own. To heal and to be more compassionate. This is excellent.

  • @marnieorr9143
    @marnieorr9143 2 ปีที่แล้ว +66

    So helpful and insightful. Brilliant interpretation of Will Smith's lesson that nobody has even remotely managed to pinpoint. This area of social knowledge is not yet understood in popular vernacular, so its very articulate.

    • @roidjones
      @roidjones 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Then getting on stage and proclaiming yourself as a vessel for love

  • @SirJohann
    @SirJohann 2 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    Wow…tbh, I smile even at moments where I shouldn’t be smiling. People around me always think I’m taking it as a joke when it happens, but I couldn’t explain why I do it after all these years. After watching this video, it’s clear to me I use it as a coping mechanism. I’m really mind blown right now. 🤯

    • @diamondgarcia9409
      @diamondgarcia9409 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Congrats

    • @SirJohann
      @SirJohann 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@diamondgarcia9409 thank you so much!

  • @TD2995
    @TD2995 2 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    So good to have you back Charlie. And I can tell you’ve learned even more since your old videos. These new ones are on a different level!

  • @tayzonday
    @tayzonday 2 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    You must watch a tremendous amount of film and television to know all these references to edit together.

    • @twiceshy9773
      @twiceshy9773 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I think he has a team

    • @alikhaled844
      @alikhaled844 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      this guy is basically a walking encyclopedia

  • @FragmentJack
    @FragmentJack 2 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    I was tired of hearing about the situation, but I’m glad you covered it by making an example out of it.

  • @smcd6101
    @smcd6101 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    This was such a good analysis IMO. Will’s apology wasn’t so much of an “I’m sorry I did this”, but rather “I’m sorry that I HAD to do this,” which seems to reflect his prior trauma.

  • @reyannemustafa7098
    @reyannemustafa7098 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Ohhhhhhhkayyyyyyy.. W O W !!! 😱 Charlie and team, I think this is hands down one of THE best Charisma on Command videos.🙌 I think what made this one stand out the most compared to the others (and the others are absolutely phenomenal so that is saying something) is the blend with inner shadow work in the dialog. Love the tie with past trauma and childhood triggers. Would love to see a blend of more in the future. Well done fam! 👏🧡

  • @GhostOfSparta305
    @GhostOfSparta305 2 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    Thank you for bringing up Will’s baggage of “needing to protect women/keep them happy” from his book.
    It’s disappointing to see so many focus on Jada apparently “manipulating” Will, while pretty much no one is talking about Will’s own demons that still need sorting out.

    • @jennted
      @jennted 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      It's probably both. His trauma as a kid is leaving him open to abuse from Jada. "Protecting" women isn't the same as letting them do whatever they want to you. He obviously has just so much piling on, he really needs a therapist to help deal with it all.

    • @michaeljeacock
      @michaeljeacock 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yes. These are not two separate things. Using Will's issues is how she manipulates him.

    • @r.lamont8120
      @r.lamont8120 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I agree with the other replies to your comment, Will has over corrected to not being an abuser like his father to the one being abused. It will be interesting to see the types of relationships his kids will have.

    • @_ChristinaLauren_
      @_ChristinaLauren_ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Still doesn't justify what he did. In his efforts to love and protect his wife because of his traumatic past, he's become her doormat. Watch the red table interview where she literally blames him for her affairs.
      His wife is a raging narcissist who uses every little bit of trauma to humiliate him for daring to be more famous and loved than her.
      Will has the means to better himself, she won't be an excuse forever.

  • @b61atharvadhore43
    @b61atharvadhore43 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    This video and the message conveyed in it, is so good man....i really appreciate the efforts put in the making of this video😄

  • @TheFanDubFan
    @TheFanDubFan 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great video! I especially appreciate how you don't exploit the "shocking" situation and fuel anger, but instead you turn it into a very meaningful lesson

  • @jessmith7324
    @jessmith7324 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Honestly this paired with their take on smith's positive traits just makes him more nuanced human being. even tho hitting rock was wrong

  • @carlosmeganag
    @carlosmeganag 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hey, Charlie. I've been watching your channel for a long time. One of the most satisfying things now is to follow along as your thinking has grown deeper and more mature. You keep the charm and fun, but you're adding levels of insight. Kudos. Good on you.

  • @kemsolid
    @kemsolid 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Not just the breakdown of Will's dysfunctional behavior, but how you applied the lessons to learning more about our psyche's really connected with me. Great upload!

  • @garybynoe
    @garybynoe 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This is genuinely wholesome, helpful, insightful and amazing content that bypasses any form of slander or biased critique to offer, very clearly, effective solutions after a very easy to understand analysis. Thank you for this.

  • @forcastfascistfuture
    @forcastfascistfuture 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Damn you really snuck a hard-hitting lesson in there. I was not expecting to be doing this kind of self-reflection right now but I am glad you made me do it. Amazing content as always!

  • @NelsonGast
    @NelsonGast 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Regardless of how many views this gets, this is one of Charisma on Command’s greatest videos to date! Seriously, hats off to the whole team.

  • @KatlynMoss
    @KatlynMoss 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    The way you describe this is the best that ive heard about this slap thing

  • @TheShubLub
    @TheShubLub 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hey Charlie,
    I wanted to say thanks, I've been watching your videos for years and they always helped me polish up my social skills.

  • @nk4j272
    @nk4j272 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great video, it's great that this moment can be used to learn a lesson instead of critiquing

  • @YvesBelliveau
    @YvesBelliveau 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Best video in a long long time. Well done, and needed to be said. Thanks, guys!

  • @bradhuygens
    @bradhuygens 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Probably the most insightful and articulated take I’ve seen on the matter. Fantastic advice. Reminds me of Dr. Gabor Mate’s message on trauma

  • @jennifersignsoflife1375
    @jennifersignsoflife1375 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I truly love this channel & I'm so glad you're recycling some of your previous topics bc they're becoming more and more relevant today. My biggest complaint is that YT is on a censorship/shadow-banning free-for-all & the viewers of this channels have got some of best ideas and are some of most compassionate ppl on the internet. It's such a disheartening thing that we used to have great "conversations" in the comment sections, but now when I click on the "View 10 replies" under an original post, sometimes even not one will show up. I hope YT doesn't delete this comment. They're completely random & not adhering to their own TOS. Anyway, "Charisma on Command", the one thing I wanted to add on topic is that it seems younger ppl aren't willing to work out their differences with older generations. I often hear only blaming & a one-sided "dialog", which focuses solely on all the mistakes made by their mothers & fathers and older extended family. I have no doubt that this is the case in some situations; however, without the risk of being amendable to just have a real discussion with their families & NOT have it be a verbal diarrhea of all sins committed since they were born drudged up & dumped on everyone's lap without reciprocation or allowances made for redress (& NOT the "sorry, not sorry", or any of the techniques that Will used here, but clear, concise explanations, told from an adult's perspective~bc children do NOT see everything that's going on), there seems to chance at true healing. No way to bring families together. And whilst these young adults may say they're fine with that; they've moved on & "made their own new families". Nothing in this world can replace your family of origin. Separating & breaking apart families is the FIRST thing that Communists/Fascists/Marxists do when they take over a nation. That's why it's scary it's happening here. Mao famously had his Youth Groups report on their parents, so did HitIer & StaIin. Maybe Charisma on Command could do a video aimed specifically on that? Thanks so much for reading this far. Have a Blessed Day

  • @achaudhary2857
    @achaudhary2857 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    LOVED this video, such a great breakdown of childhood trauma and how to recognise your behaviour. I think many ppl will need to watch and learn….

  • @madhatter2744
    @madhatter2744 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    this might be the best CC video i’ve ever seen. truly groundbreaking work.

  • @badjoj015
    @badjoj015 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Right. All comes down to childhood, trauma, subconscious, and psychology. People should learn about these stuff. This is what makes a person who they are today. Who you are today. Your past doesn't define you but it has built you and molded you who you are right now in time. Check yourself, reflect and do something about it before you steer your own life to the wrong path

  • @L.I.T.H.I.U.M
    @L.I.T.H.I.U.M 2 ปีที่แล้ว +180

    1. Don't be in an open relationship.
    2. Don't slap a comedian on stage.
    3. Don't cry and say you're a victim after slapping a comedian.
    4. Do NOT be in an open relationship.

    • @True38
      @True38 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      5. Always be the strongest link in any relationship, never the weakest.

    • @mathieul4303
      @mathieul4303 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@True38 Not easy

    • @mathieul4303
      @mathieul4303 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      6. Help the person who made theses mistakes instead of canceling him

    • @marcusmiles4234
      @marcusmiles4234 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      What’s wrong with open relationships?

    • @kenzelukabarphukan200
      @kenzelukabarphukan200 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@True38 Especially as a man it's impossible .
      Sperms chases the egg not the other way around.
      W0mn chose men , men gets chosen

  • @JD..........
    @JD.......... 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Definitely the smartest take I've seen, Bravo. That was fun and informative.

  • @michelleyoung731
    @michelleyoung731 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I just came across your channel. I really like it, it's very interesting and well done. Looking forward to watching all your content.

  • @elisemiller13
    @elisemiller13 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hey Charisma on Command You have de The single most wonderful video I've come across about this whole subject of misplaced traumatic reaction & too the incident which so many have oversimplified with judgements Thank you!

  • @dragamboazulinqiacupuntura122
    @dragamboazulinqiacupuntura122 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wow this is a very well done analysis. We should be hearing more of this.

  • @jessicadrew5531
    @jessicadrew5531 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I feel for Will and I'm glad someone said it too. He's always been great actor and person from what I've seen, but those videos of his wife filming him in his own home...of course he's cracking. That's exhausting.

  • @ramseshassan9861
    @ramseshassan9861 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hey I’ve been taking your advice and it’s been incredibly helpful!! Thank you!!

  • @Angell_Lee
    @Angell_Lee 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow I love so much the turn of your video for introspection. Thank you so much xo

  • @Paradise-on-Earth
    @Paradise-on-Earth 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This is an amazing piece of clearing this slap-thing up, in great respect for all involved parties, and leading our judgmental pointing fingers back to ourselves. BRAVO!

  • @matthallett4126
    @matthallett4126 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Solid insight man. Well footnoted from the interview with Opera, and others from his past.

  • @ExcelsiorTech
    @ExcelsiorTech 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow! Best video you have made so far. I literally clapped out loud when you directed the self-reflection back to me the viewer. Bravo… dead on right. What this world needs more of.

  • @ka3716
    @ka3716 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The video is great for us to apply the tips in our lives. Best content!

  • @BienvenidoAlHoloceno
    @BienvenidoAlHoloceno 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Excellent video, this is the deepest analysis I've seen of the incident.

  • @sakuranovaryan9261
    @sakuranovaryan9261 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love how charlie isn't biased at all. He just explains things as is. That make's it easy to listen to his advice.🌼

  • @GustavoSilva-ny8jc
    @GustavoSilva-ny8jc 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    1:33 This first part was absolutely PERFECT!!!! You nailed it!!!

  • @jomo7387
    @jomo7387 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Fantastic content, one of the few channels I actually follow and most everyone can learn at least a little something from this video.

  • @nemerem.A
    @nemerem.A 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Every other person on this topic went on a merry go round. This came with an analysis and solutions... Thumbs up I will say this to anybody that cares enough to listen you can't save everybody

  • @elonmuskvideos2648
    @elonmuskvideos2648 2 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    "When I was 15 my gf cheated on me. So I decided to become the biggest movie star so no one would cheat on me again." - Will smith 2015🤣 Now he's forced to be in an open marriage

    • @jtmma6951
      @jtmma6951 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Damn 😆

    • @PassportGaming
      @PassportGaming 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @6:25 I predicted that he did that to win his wife's approval when he saw her roll her eyes at the joke🤣

    • @teambennett3060
      @teambennett3060 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      He's a simp

    • @sunhawk1751
      @sunhawk1751 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Whereas most men are forced to be in a closed marriage.

    • @akashajones6079
      @akashajones6079 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@sunhawk1751 'Forced'

  • @The_Woof_Pack
    @The_Woof_Pack 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Loved all the movie clips you used. Can't wait to see more!

  • @CarolineBearoline
    @CarolineBearoline 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Awesome! Thanks for the upload ❤️

  • @rociomh1467
    @rociomh1467 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for making this analysis. I felt so bad for him because people are so cruel on social media and forget that everyone can be triggered somehow and make mistakes. I didn't know about his mom, is clear that at the moment we are only able to see the surface. You presented evidence and a a good reminder of why we need to work on empathy.

  • @rubenssiomusic
    @rubenssiomusic 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I'm so glad Charlie is back. I stopped watching Charisma on Command when Ben started narrating the videos. I think Ben knows and understands a lot about Charisma, but somehow doesn't narrate in a way to engage me. When Ben makes the videos, it seems very mathematical, e.g. "Just do this and you'll get this result"... but when Charlie makes the video, it seems very organic... this is just my honest feedback exclusively about the way Ben and Charlie are narrating.
    Thanks for the video! It's been a while since I felt that I got a lot of value from one of Charisma on Command's videos. Keep up the good work, guys!

    • @tshego6172
      @tshego6172 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      From what I know, Charlie wants to step back from production as much as possible. The lads want a business which could operate without them, a sentiment rooted in their appreciation for the 4HWH's philosophy.

    • @rubenssiomusic
      @rubenssiomusic 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@tshego6172 Yeah, I know... still... Charlie can delegate script writing, editing videos, managing stuff.... all I want is to hear his voice

    • @rubenssiomusic
      @rubenssiomusic 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I just thought of something - maybe one day he will replace his voice with an AI voice which will be indistinguishable from his own voice?

    • @tshego6172
      @tshego6172 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@rubenssiomusic yeah I like his voice too. I like Ben, but his voice is a little nasal. And you might be right, maybe A.I for the outsourced win 🏆.

  • @tyronefreeman3772
    @tyronefreeman3772 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I really loved this video.. I loved the therapeutic theme, I really followed this story & no one else ever saw this from this perspective. Keep it up Charlie!

  • @cristobaloyarzzun412
    @cristobaloyarzzun412 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Brilliant video, one of your best ones.

  • @Samus419
    @Samus419 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I used to think about all the other people that could use whatever message I was hearing (most often at church lol). But started improving once I listened for myself. However, I can sometimes still think of people who need to consider stuff for themselves: I'm tempted to send this to my dad, but I don't think he can hear it...

  • @imatthewryan4076
    @imatthewryan4076 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    "im being called on to love people" by hurting others lol

    • @roidjones
      @roidjones 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      And he got a standing ovation too lol

  • @SmearOnStandby
    @SmearOnStandby 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video, Charlie! Great to see you back :))))))

  • @elh4089
    @elh4089 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Best video I’ve seen so far on this whole Will and Chris thing, the world would be better if more people thought this way

  • @empath3133
    @empath3133 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Truth! It’s also funny to me that a lot of the people reacting and judging will, jada and Chris are “unlikeable” themselves. We all can work on ourselves and have more empathy

    • @Cekatu
      @Cekatu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you!!! 💯%✔️

  • @Theodora937
    @Theodora937 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    i love hearing your videos charlie, i hope they spark your creativness and joy

  • @odedsayar4345
    @odedsayar4345 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The most compassionate take I've seen out on the interwaves, thank you

  • @morningglory3644
    @morningglory3644 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I've seen the hate comments Will has been getting and personally I don't believe he should be cancelled because of this incident which I agree was wrong. He has worked long and hard to build this legacy he created for almost 30 years, and to lose all this is devastating. I really believe that person that walked up on that stage was not the real Will. I believe he did snap and was triggered. It was an overreaction, but this is someone who is in pain and deeply hurting. He has had a clean image as a public figure for 3 decades...no DUIs, no arrests, no criminal offense...and this happens. I believe he lost control because of all the emotional stress he has bottled up and it manifested into rage. I believe he is capable of redeeming himself and doing the work to salvage his image.

  • @mrbushido56
    @mrbushido56 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    please talk about how chris handled himself after the slap

    • @francis_n
      @francis_n 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      YEAH so true. His reaction and professionalism was pure charisma

  • @kleindavis550
    @kleindavis550 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    very interesting! Live the info and channel!

  • @ihatemyenemys
    @ihatemyenemys 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It’s great to hear your voice in a charisma breakdown again, Charlie!

  • @blesd4success
    @blesd4success 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wow. Thank you for this. I really looked up to Will Smith and though I realize he is a human being with limitations and problems like everyone else, I NEEDED to have this conversation. I just couldn’t make sense of what happened with that incident with Chris. THANK YOU for this fuller, more balanced perspective that ALSO focuses on self. I would love to hear your thoughts on Chris’s reaction to having been hit. Was it a good example and healthy response, was it not? How can we learn and grow personally through this? Your thoughts, Charlie?

  • @josephmorgan3396
    @josephmorgan3396 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    What a master piece this is quality content

  • @eomoran
    @eomoran 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi, I had already seen your podcast where you discussed the contents of this. This was a really well put together video, I watched it because this is the type of content I want to see on this channel and I know that emotional mastery stuff doesn’t perform that well algorithmically

  • @ash_alk_fan1
    @ash_alk_fan1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Amazing video, Charlie. Thank you!

  • @sphakamisozondi
    @sphakamisozondi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This dissection is spot on.

  • @syren4731
    @syren4731 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love your take, Charlie

  • @rdnylj
    @rdnylj 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Charlie, this is by far the best analysis I’ve heard of the “The Slap”. Thank You Charlie

  • @SunnyDallasRealtor
    @SunnyDallasRealtor 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love hearing the wonderful reviews! That makes me very happy.

  • @robburns4779
    @robburns4779 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Who else is in the Charlie and Ben Podcast gang and knew this breakdown was coming ahead of time?✋🏼

    • @FreddotheWheelchairGuy
      @FreddotheWheelchairGuy 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah but personally I thought the conversation on the podcast was better

  • @django3422
    @django3422 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Excellent video, great points all round. Really think this is something a lot of guys need to be taking on board.
    Particularly agree about how it's not his place to protect Jada like that over a joke. I think it was wrong for Chris Rock to make that joke, in that place at that time. It's the Oscars, not a roast. She clearly didn't like it and was well within her rights if she wanted to call him out, then or later. But that's her choice, whether she wants to turn the joke into an event, a headline. That's what Will did by getting up there and smacking him, he's taking control of the situation away from her. Now everyone's talking about the joke and what he did. Then he gives the kind of excuse you might get from a domestic abuser... Bad form, Will.

  • @blessingmutandwa6692
    @blessingmutandwa6692 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I was so waiting for this. Thank you Charlie😍😯

  • @chocolatethunder192
    @chocolatethunder192 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is the best discussion I've heard about this topic! Great video as usual and very helpful, too. So true about how we deflect from our own work on ourselves when we engage in cancel culture and obsession over celebrities.

  • @Jeskers18
    @Jeskers18 2 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    Good points but I honestly still think Jada is toxic and he deserves better. How she can call an affair an "entanglement" and totally downplay the situation is so toxic and a textbook example of gaslighting. If the roles were reversed and Will was the one to sleep with someone the same age as their children he would be demonized to no end and I'm POSITIVE Jada would have used that to her advantage.

  • @tiberiius
    @tiberiius 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Rock makes joke. Will laughs. Jada does not. Something prompts Will to go slap Rock. Rock makes joke about the situation. Jada LAUGHS. Will yells at Rock to keep his wife's name out of his mouth. The timeline is really weird on this.

  • @mandyschmidt7960
    @mandyschmidt7960 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Best video on this incident. Certainly doesn't excuse his behaviour but reminds us he's a flawed human being like everybody else and there are always reasons for everything that need to be addressed.

  • @suvisantini9712
    @suvisantini9712 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    wow this is the best respond to this!! and so productive. thank you

  • @asmitoshshinde
    @asmitoshshinde 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I think we should focus more on how Chris behaved correctly like how he took the l and not put fuel in the fire instead of Will's stupidity.

    • @mindfulpeace8060
      @mindfulpeace8060 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Exactly, Chris was mindful of the Moment AND the fact that he was doing a job he was hired to do, PLUS, being on stage in front of all of Hollywood AND the world! He displayed professionalism, in my opinion he is a kind - hearted and considerate human being.

  • @lindokuhleshandu4024
    @lindokuhleshandu4024 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Finally a video that has made me understand the root cause of Will's ill behaviour at the Oscars, though still unjustifiable, and I didn't even have to finish watching the whole video before understanding, but I will.

  • @kathlenewang539
    @kathlenewang539 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Outstanding content. I’m So glad I found ur channel.

  • @stevenirby5576
    @stevenirby5576 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is probably one of your very best videos. Well done.

  • @Sunny-qo2lt
    @Sunny-qo2lt 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    1. NEVER SMACK chris rock

    • @cringegod5415
      @cringegod5415 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      2. Never forget rule number 1

    • @sazxz.5985
      @sazxz.5985 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@cringegod5415 3. accept that rule number 2 is very irrelevant, and make sure you remember rule number 1.

  • @hhhhhhhhhh1919
    @hhhhhhhhhh1919 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    wow this is an absolutely incredible video. i had no idea about will’s past

  • @TheAngryMarshmallow
    @TheAngryMarshmallow 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love that you used this and flipped it on his head to actually showed him compassion. Good video. 🖤

  • @yuko3258
    @yuko3258 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow, you really outdid yourself in this one. Great analysis and gave me lots to think about.

  • @dawfydd
    @dawfydd 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I hope Will can get some peace maybe he even watches this, i don't think it'd be an easy road but from what little - very little i've seen he isn't happy i hope one day he can be happy and more relaxed he's a decent person and he shouldn't always be on edge like he is.