Men Fall in Love When You’re a Challenge
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ก.ย. 2024
- In this video, Fareen discusses how men fall in love when you're a challenge. To have a happy, sustainable long-term relationship there will be moments where absence and/or space are required, not out of playing games, but as a reflection of individuation, healthy self-esteem and self-worth. Without key moments of separation in long-term relationships, dissatisfaction and a loss of attraction will occur. In this video, I go over when absence works best in relationships and why it is crucial for long-term satisfaction in relationships. Men and love fall in love differently, and women usually treat men like women and do with them what they would want, which rarely works with men because men are hardwired entirely differently. Men love a woman, which appears as a challenge because this activates a different part of their brain, making them feel like they’re working for something they want - women don’t want that feeling. Naturally when there’s space, as humans we want to fill it. Painful and unpleasant emotions will make him move toward you - and if he’s not feeling that anxiety, he won’t do anything to close that gap. Your absence creates that pull for him to be with you more. This is the opposite for women because women fall in love in a man’s presence although our sexual desire peaks when a man is not around.
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Space and separation doesn’t scare me. I too value my freedom and independence it’s when there’s mixed signals and game playing that trigger the crazy in me.
Totally normal!
💯 same with me
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Exactly. I was a challenge, maintained self respect and repelled a guy because of it. No falling in love there 😅
Agreeeeeeeeeee. You still know where you stand w him in the time apart. Not anxious cause he’s not pursuing
The only "coach" who truly said "if he is not into you, no push and pull, abscense, hot and could can help"
Works for both genders, please hear this
Definitely works for both genders you’re right 🤍
I think men who fall for girls who make things unnecessarily challenging are those men who don’t have goals or aspiration and the ones who are internally lacking .. any true busy man doesn’t want any further challenges apart from business challenges and his time with his woman should be his respite and break from the perpetual challenges a man has to bust through everyday to progress. Why would a healthy, stable man invest with someone who makes life extra hard for him? .. it’s a recipe for a draining relationship that’s doomed
You’ve taken the message wrong 🤍 and yes, playing games is unhealthy. Which was not the message here.
You dont get it :p
Yeah as a man I agree. If I notice any push pull method being played on me I’ll abandon a woman like she never even existed. I chase after peace, success and money and I have no problem in being alone.
@@fareenashofficial I think women have taken this message wrong. 'The Rules' = nonsense.
Agreed ! I don’t advocate for rules 🤍
I can definitely resonate with your words. I have always been the type of girl that just doesn't give herself away to just anyone and definitely not right away. It's like my dignity won't allow me too. I think about my reputation alot and also how I stand for my honor as a woman. Men, I know, do see me as a challenge...and it has nothing to do with attitude...but with how I carry myself. I don't strut myself even though I am good looking and I don't show off because my esteem is from within and not without. There was a time when I thought, "Sheesh! Girl, give in a bit!" But, it always felt like I wasn't being real with myself. So, I believe guys see that, and they love that allure, because they know you're not out here chasing men...you're a woman who deserves to be approached with respect.
Love this!! Thank you for sharing 😍
@hillmeli Heyo! Would you like to chat? Nothing weird or inappropriate
Ily for this🥺 I resonate w it and it makes me happy when women know they ARE all that period. But our humility comes first bc we don’t need validation since we give it to ourselves. I wish this upon every girl and woman.
When you give him space, he can appreciate your presence more 🎁
Exactly!
As someone with childhood trauma I think having a healthy amount of seperation like this can be healing, as is will be challenging to deal with some anxiety. I'll probably need a therapist during the process of growing closer to someone I feel mutually attracted to. And also along the way I'll need a therapist.. But I really hope I will be able to heal and grow and eventually find a safe and healthy relationship at some point.. or rather it finds me 🙈 🙏 this video made me feel less anxious about seperation
I love hearing this. Yes we all have trauma, and it will be activated in a healthy relationship. It is very normal for wounds to arise. If the love is true and if enough inner work has been done before entering the relationship, all will work out and you will both be stronger for it
@@fareenashofficial Thank you! ☺️
I feel you
Not true..men dont like a difficult woman..but also dont want a push over woman..so what we find attractive is a receptive honest woman who shows her feelings and intensions but also stands up for herself so that she is not abused in a loving way..
Basically means to take care of yourself and that will create that healthy "space"
Yes 🤍🤍
Great message. I believe what you are explaining is autonomy, which is very healthy.
Thank you 🙏
Yes, you got it!
Just believe when they are attracted to u and stop imagining anything else. They will call or text when they're ready. They're busy getting their lives successful in order to take care of u.
Yes 🤍🤍
I love this fareen! ❤❤ I love how you talk about how this works from a healthy, humanizing space for people who want attraction and passion in a healthy way and not from playing games and insincere strategies ❤❤❤❤
Yes!!! 🤍😃🤍
This is why women should never chase men. You’d become less of a challenge
Yes!
In my experience, it's the wounded male that needs to be chased. I've found that men who aren't fully embodied and confident need women to chase them and initiate contact and intimacy. Initially I didn't pay attention to this switch of roles, but in hindsight I see that I was just feeding his fragile ego. I also pay attention to my body now and see that I don't actually enjoy courtship where I'm pursuing another person. I always feel desperate, ugly, unwanted, and unsteady. It's a turn-off for me now to be the pursuer. If women noticed this feeling, they'd leave the ghosters, married men, and slow-texters behind because they'd see how unhappy these dynamics actually make them feel.
I admire what you're trying to do - I'm 45 (almost) - I've been married before, we were together for a decade and he passed away 2 years after the divorce in 2015. I've experienced five long term relationships in my life; and each and every one of them - when distance was set - they missed me but that was not my intention. My five year relationship at the moment, he disappears when he's going through down moments; he needs time to himself, to relax, to fix his home - and I understand i'm homeowner as well - and work from home; he's said often that by the time he gets to me; he barely has any energy - plus he cares for his mother (she lives in his home) - the father died two years ago - anyway - life is journey - and love well when you're married - sometimes - people take each other for granted - thanks for listening.
Thank you for this share 🙏
depends on what you mean by giving him freedom. If a guy has been dating you for 2 months and still refuses to leave the dating profiles with the excuse that "we're still getting to know each other" feels like he's keeping you as an option rather than giving him space and freedom.
Maybe you should do the same and date others too. Until you both agree to be mutually exclusive, then maybe you should explore your options too.
Where's your other one??
Yes rotational date. Self respect!
This is fuckin true. They find quietness, solidarity, and confidence attractive because they'll think you're mysterious. (In my experience with men)
Yes!
Yes, but I want to be known for who I am. I don't want to remain a mystery.
@@dr.jenniferma3914yes, just have a sense of privacy and don’t share things so quickly
You are So refreshing. all the male dating coaches on TH-cam were just confusing me. Thank you 🙌
A lot of them don’t even know what they’re talking about. 😂They can’t explain how a woman can have game when dating like another woman can
I couldn’t agree more, it is natural/organic.
So, I think for someone who has unresolved attachment trauma, if they try to create space, it’s going to be unnatural and create a kind of anxious tension. Whereas, if they work on themselves, this will become more organic.
I think the challenge part, is also natural and another byproduct of becoming more securely attached as opposed to anxious, fearful, dismissive.
Not everyone’s the same but, chemistry/compatibility and… those extra natural qualities, if you will, those things that we don’t quite know how to explain, are what has built a loving bond for me.
Definitely a reciprocal communication and transparency is major. An ability to express and disclose vulnerabilities.
Healthy space is great, mandatory even. But I wouldn’t say that or the challenge is what made me fall in love.
It’s the person. The unique connection that we have.
But again, I know there is no one size fits all. I’m just saying, from personal experience and pov 🙃🙂
Thanks for reading and all the best
Thank you!
I fall in love with women who are kind and trustworthy. Out of sight out of mind 😌 I assume if she isn't crazy about me she won't be faithful.
Very true.
Your ‘assumptions’ will harden into facts as self concept is what your world is.
Sometimes even in the best relationships men need space. Successful marriages reveal this all the time. It's a natural thing for men. It's that women don't NOTICE this when they are secure in themselves.
Then , the men respects them for it.
I personally would feel smothered to be in ANY relationship without some form of space.
Didn't work for me 😂 it was always an ignorant game,, until my hubby showed up ❤ no games, no play
There should never be games 🤍
@@fareenashofficial I mean no challenge, no hardship 🤗
You're right. Thats why they say it's better to be with someone that isn't overdoing it. Because if they are, they probably are putting all of their energy into only one domain of life. There's an imbalance. And imbalance of any kind doesn't last very long.
I need some degree of physical attraction to fall in love with someone. Call me shallow but that’s just the truth
Excellent video. You’re very well spoken and intelligent!
We need more women like u that advocate self respect and healthy relationships
Awww I appreciate this so much! Thank you for saying that 🤍🤍😍
Love the way you broke this down! 💯 could you talk more about the feminine woman operating from ego? And also I love how you empower women to be strong and have their own identity and goals whilst still being feminine. Masculine men do like strong feminine women. Jennifer Lopez comes to mind. But this type of woman attracts lots of men who operate more in their feminine side which this woman is not attracted to. What is she doing wrong? What can she do to better attract more raw masculine men? ❤
Yes!! I love this question!
Why do they complain about drama and then want to create it???
This shouldn’t be this hard.
Amazing!! Your videos are always the best. Definitely don’t want to manipulate to pull people in or you’ll never be seen for you… what a terrible life! ❤❤❤
Awwww!!! You’re the best Sarah!
I love and I'm thankful for your content T^T I'd love a video where you explain and enumerate what a provider masculine energy man should provide
I love this question and yes I’ll put that on my list ! Thank you for your beautiful comment 😍🙏
Wao loved this! Having your own life fulfilled, respecting the other's and meeting in between to complement each other. Space is very valuable and healthy! Thank you for this lesson Fareen, I'll watch it multiple times !!! XOXO
Yes!!! Did you understand the freedom part… sort of what we spoke about yesterday
@@fareenashofficial Yes! he wants to feel free within the dynamic and he will naturally be the one to close the gap as a result ❤
Yes!!
Thank you for sharing, Fareen! I love this video 🩷
My pleasure 😊
Loved the value lesson I felt it!
So happy to hear this 🤍
Have kids. It will create tons of space between him and you. 😅
Also... the guys I was dating wanted to talk a lot on the phone during the week... like for hours... but did not want to take the time to meet up with me. We have some distance between us but he has a second house we could have met at that is in the middle... it would be an hour and a half drive for him and an hour drive for me.
Great topic and i love the editing!!💕
Thank you!! 🙏🙏
Hmm falling in love when you're a challenge depends on many factors. A lot of people play hard to get, it doesnt always mean permanent falling in love.
Yes, have to watch the video for more details
Another great video and love how many views you've already had!💞
Thank you Margaret 😍😃🙏
This is so goodddddd and so helpful Fareen ❤❤❤
😃😃😃 love hearing this!!
What part stuck out most?
@@fareenashofficial everything lol. Especially the parts pertaining to the coaching call we had today. ❤ Such as the importance of building the relationship with a man gradually, and the focus on inner work
I love your content, you are amazing !!!💗
Thank you! :)
A funny thing happened at the gym. I had joined a small group (extra payment ) session with a trainer to develop some specific skills. I felt some attraction with the trainer but respect the boundaries of the situation. When I indicated that I would no longer be joining the group due to other financial commitments, a week later he has set up some more sessions for me. Confused about what’s happening. Absence…
Love this video Fareen!!! All men and women should hear this message 💗💗💗💗
Thank you 😊🤍
A Woman who is challenge makes us think that she rates herself higher than the value she is offered . .hence men get a clue that 80 or higher percentage of men have no excess to her also she is selective and have standards.... Earlier I used to get drawn to such women but now I m more on spiritual side hence I am now more attracted a woman who is very feminine and awakened ....
I love this video!! ❤❤
Thank you!!
sounds like a lot of work.....I rather stay single, why can't I be me and they just like me, I do the same, who has so much time to play this mind game TAT
Definitely not mind games. 🤍
What is rushing commitment? The guy I was dating felt rushed. But I thought we needed compromise. He wanted to only meet up once on the weekend... and to me that is not enough... how do you get to know someone spending like a half day per weekend with a dude? So I walked away.
I really enjoyed this video
I love hearing that 🙏
I have this thought about men “respecting” woman. If the man had the utmost respect for a woman that he’s attracted to… he would never want to even kiss the first kiss with her or touch her in an intimate way bcuz he would respect her so much… there must be a time that the woman wants and allows him to disrespect her a tiny bit to be able to let the man be the man and advance sexually with the woman.
Just saying…there are different levels of respect and some men who were not parented well can be ignorant of these subtle signals and the red pill community is all over social media so younger men (under 50 ) who grew up with a single mom who didn’t have time to even wash her own hair let alone teach their fatherless sons how to be with a woman or who had dysfunctional moms and dads who “didn’t talk about it” then how is a younger man supposed to learn the signals? Adam Lane Smith does attachment therapy and teaches about the “Clear Pill” instead of the Red Pill…
I am learning from Adam that a lot of how men… starting in World War One basically evaporated from the face of the earth from many countries… their dads and uncles and brothers were killed and same in World War Two… then Korea…Vietnam… many men gone from the older generations that would have been the torch bearers to pass on the gentler learnings of respect towards a woman and how to connect to a woman respectfully. Now men only have social media to learn from and the Red Pill community isn’t helping woman feel respected. I vote for the “Clear Pill” community to grow. We cannot do this by looking down on ignorant men… forgive them for they do not know. But we do not need to choose them or chase them. But the men do not have good role models anymore. That went away with the early 1970’s bra burning era. Woman wanted equal rights and now they’ve got them… and are still complaining. BTW… I am a 62 year old hippy woman.
I burned my bra in the 70’s
Very well said. Hippy came from the opium dens. On the hip smoking the pipe 🤣 Yes I've realised the cull as well the last 120 years.
Fareen, what are your thoughts on dating a man who is honest about cheating on a previous partner (long-term) and regretting it/wanting to be better in the future? I know it's a complex topic but I really appreciate your perspective.
Everyone makes mistakes and the fact that he was so vulnerable and honest is so huge! A lot of men were “players” in the past and then changed for the “one” 🤍
@@fareenashofficial Thank you
Love this
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Would you also say that creating space means that you don’t sometimes write to him? Or would you consider this chasing?
I don’t want every man on the planet to fall in love with me
Why not? 😂
Eh as a guy who is 36 if the women is to challenging I give up usually or wait for her to initiate the date.
Thank you. 😊
Your welcome 🤍
I didn’t want them to fall in love I just wanted to meet a nice guy and have a nice time
What if someone isn’t trying to be a challenge? What if someone genuinely isn’t interested. Sad one for the guy then.
The only way to allow someone to step towards you, is for you to step back.
I agree but not by playing games but just because you’re too damn happy to do anything but focus on self
Not true, for me it's the opposite I think they're not interested in me if they're being difficult.
I know this is a tricky question, but should I ask up a coffee date on a first date with a man that I met on speed dating? We did not 100% matched, but I did select him.
Can you clarify how you didn’t give your number out to him right away? When he asked you, what did you say to reject him?
I go into more detail in my book “what men want” have you read it yet
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as a man, women who are a challenge are not given consideration.
take that as you will.
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allow me to be more specificaous,
as THE man, women who are a a challenge are not given consideration.
I'm sick and tired of toxic women. I'm 46 and been with nothing but crazy.
I'm totally fed up and now MGTOW
I’m sorry that’s been your experience 🤍
Inner work? You don’t attract what you want only what you are.. in consciousness.. self concept is your entire visible world
Highly recommend Neville Goddard Power of Awareness
Says a lot about you... Stop blaming and actually do the work.
Tantrum online. Baby throwing rattle out of his pram 🤣🤣
this is why I get second hand embarassment when I see take the jump. He just not into you .
Great message thank you, i just noticed something in your video that distributed me sorry 😢 it is you are cutting the video too much like before even breathing after a word you are cutting it, i really couldn’t focus more because of that 😢 your advices are just great but please pay attention to that thing ❤❤
Thank you for that feedback! Yes I’m still learning :)
Hoow did you meet your partner?
Online 🤍
My friend is happily married with a kid living it Italy. They met on tinder ❤
What about creating absence by moving away? My relationship is stuck, so I'm moving countries to better my life. He wants to keep long distance relationship.
Maybe he’s not the right partner?
@fareenashofficial moving away is the test. I got tired of living in his country and him not progressing the relationship. Now I want to move to progress my life and see if he will follow...but the purpose is for me to get a better life, regardless if he changes or not. I don't really like long distance relationship.
If the purpose is for you to better your life and then what will be will be, that is the right intention! Where are you and where are you moving too? Good for you for taking care of you 🤍
@fareenashofficial living in Morocco. Moving back to USA 🇺🇸 😎. If I can't have the relationship I want, at least I can have financial stability and independence.
If you need to move away just to increase connection you're in the wrong dynamic. The distance needed should be a couple hours, not a whole country.
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Would love to listen to your books on audible! ❤️
I’ll do that one day!! 🤍🤍
My pulling away, do you mean I don't answer his calls or texts? Or not initiate any conversation
It depends on the specific situation….
@@fareenashofficialwe are in a long distance relationship for four months, and I feel that he's pulling away because he doesnt call me at night anymore and didn't even send me a Bday gift.
@@fareenashofficialand what about if the man IS cheating with other women on social by flirt tru the text messages and folowing and liking womens page?what should a woman do in this situation
Leave fast.
@@fareenashofficial what should i tell them
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I enjoy your content but just one piece of advice. You worry too much and respond to the people who are negative in the comments. Also, you dont always have to mention “this may trigger some people”. It feels as if your trying to be controlling of the outcome of your messages. Just stick to your knowledge and dont worry abt the responses of those who dont align with you. Its a waiste of your energy.
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Yeah, I tried doing this with my ex I think he is an ex drug addict. Well I think he is using again. Idk. I thought we were healthy. He took me for granted. I think
I’m sorry to hear this :(
As the man (Gen 1:26-28), a husband (Gen 2:21-25) and a father (Gen 3:16), the minister of God (Rom 13), teacher (Eph 4) and one of the survivors who was bullied in school, most females want either a smelly dragon (Gen 3) "Jane and the Dragon", a smelly four-legged, sharp teeth, long tongue beast (Gen 2:19-20), which is usually a smelly dog "wolf wolf" {of the field} "Year of the Dog" (2007) or a smelly Pit Bull Terrier {mutant} (Php 3:2) "Death Row Dogs" (2008) to lick their faces, lips, noses and eyes, etc. from time to time "good boy", probably sometimes right after "it" (1 John 4) has just finished licking his testicles, rectum or both without telling them or to listen to them bark and "Howl" (2014) throughout the day and "Night of the Wild" (2015), a little bit more "Fire Dogs to the Rescue | The Ren and Stimpy Show" or they simply settle for a two-legged boyfriend/baby daddy (The 2 Live Crew) and oftentimes a combination of 2 or more of the mentioned (an orgy), not a husband (husbandman). Sing it "The Irvin Lee Project - Heartbreaking Feeling". Therefore, the pet(s) and/or the boyfriend(s)/baby daddy(s) is/are their baby(babies)/bedmate(s)/best friend(s)/family/heart/love(s)/partner(s). Meow baby! What goes on in the wilderness goes on in the "Wilderness" (2006). "Ain't no fun if all of the homies can't have none." Sing it "Luther Vandross - Busy Body".
The woman was made to be help meet for the man. (Gen 2:18)
Girls look forward to and enjoy competing with and against other girls, smelly dragons and Vera de Milo either on their cellphones ("Oggy and the Cockroaches - Jack's Nephew", "Cell" {2016} and "It's Our World by Steve Cutts and Yann Tiersen"), in-person or both at the same time (multitasking) all day, everyday, non-stop (career) sing it "Kraftwerk - Musique Non Stop [12" Version]" with or without the smelly four-legged, sharp teeth, long tongue beast(s) to lick their faces, lips, noses and eyes, etc. from time to time "good boy(s)", probably sometimes right after "it/they" has/have just finished licking his/their testicles, rectum or both without telling them. As the man, I have never been anyone's boyfriend, although many girls have claimed me as such and one even claimed me as her husband when she grows up. I personally was given a wife "Who is that?" like Joseph and Moses, because she was very interested in me. Sing it "Evelyn Champagne King - Kisses Don't Lie (All Day Kisses Mix) (1988) Gerald Levert Remix". I was telling my wife, I can not teach the word of God, then live contrary to the word of God. That would make me a hypocrite. That is not a good title to have. Eph 5:22-33, 6:1-4
If you're a challenge, I'm out.
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