Men fall in love with uncertainty
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- Men fall in love with uncertainty.
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Men fall in love when they have the privilege of winning a woman's heart. This process takes time, and during this time, he feels feelings that he otherwise would not have experienced. The anxiety, excitement, and uncertainty give him the necessary fuel to progress the relationship, and men want to feel this.
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Don’t be too desperate.
Love and trust yourself.
It feels so much better to feel loved and treasured as a woman than to act and perform for anyone. (less headache and heartache)
If he loves you he will find his way to you.
Just chill and relax 😎
-give him space to be your “dream man”
In the meantime don’t EVER come down off your pedestal for ANYONE.
“If he loves you, he will find his way to you” 🤍
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it’s so true.❣️
Because when all the social facade wears off. All is left is our hearts and souls.
@n0426 exactly 🤍
@@n0426Spitting facts!
Wouldn't being on a pedestal set anyone up for failure? Cuz we're only human after all, shouldn't we be set up for realistic expectations?
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient.
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without him, I love him so much. wish I can get him back I can do anything to have him back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Shelly renee white
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks
You wont regret it
Yes well put
Heard a phrase recently..."women shouldn't look for Mr right, they should look for Mr ready". Doesn't matter how much he loves you, if there's something blocking him from feeling he's in a good place to marry, he won't do it until he's ready. This is why men marry the wrong woman sometimes. The one they really love is gone because they couldn't commit sooner, so they settle for a decent woman when they are ready to get married (career is established, mental health is good, feels like a secure man).
That's common sense. They had loads of books on it decades ago.
@@jessicahitchens6926 Really?
Please tell me the name of those books.
Wow a whole word >>> he doesn’t know what he needs because he gets what he wants … give him what he needs not wants ❤
The best way is to be yourself and if this doesn’t work move on we are not circus 🤡 workers here. We don’t need to put up any acting and trying if so that’s not the right man.
Logically yes. However, men are driven by other men's approval. This is not a new phenomenon. It will NEVER NOT be a game to them. Women give men status. Play the game or get played. Personally, I say f*** the game aka men. Even rich men are too much work. I'll take a job with benefits and a paycheck and my own bank account. Not jaded. Just wise. Yes, it's sad. Oh well.
Be yourself ? Leviticus 21.9
We live in a circus... clowns are everywhere. No common sense either.
. “Those who go seeking for love, only make manifest their own lovelessness, and the loveless never find love. Only the loving find love, and they never have to seek for it.” - Neville Goddard ❤
I wonder how to be loving 🥰 lol 😅
@@BrooklynBaby100Corinthians 13:4-8. Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Be love, and you find love every where
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If a man does not want to marry anyone or not financially secure or has had a bad divorce do not bother unless you just want a good time. 😢
And the right man will see your "good times" of the past and move on too 😂
It’s very simple ladies. Never love a man more than he loves you and you will be in a driving seat. My wise grandmother once told me that as a road to happiness.
Wow.. sounds selfish
It makes sense, I'm in a marriage that husband has always been crazier about me than I am him, I'm not entirely happy but I'm 100% secure
Love is action. Feelings change
Hello beautiful sister, I just wanted to tell you that I agree one thousand percent that a man was and is created to work to win and secure the heart of a woman. So important my love, therefore I love that you mentioned that. As a woman, it becomes a huge turnoff for me, and will literally cause me to turn my back if I see a man is not working for it. So super great job sharing this wisdom with women. XOXO May you and your family be blessed 🙏🙏🙏
Think long and hard about what you say. A man, in today’s age, who is risking losing everything through family court by just having a relationship and then to be expected to be perpetually chasing you…many (most) will opt out…which is precisely what is happening currently.
@@ApriliaRacer14 I just read your comment but I dont understand how what you stated applies to anything I had to say. As essentially I was just highlighting the fact that when people really love one another and are truly interested - they show it. You dont have to guess because the conversation, presence, and actions are undeniable. Dont you agree that real love is not hidden???
@@HaileysGiftShop it applies because it sounds like you want the guy to do all the work. Also what do you mean by "working for it" By buying you things? ect. Aprilia just doesnt know what angle you are coming from. but by saying "t becomes a huge turnoff for me, and will literally cause me to turn my back if I see a man is not working for it" really sounds like you don't put in the same amount of effort to show you are a women worth marrying or being in a relationship with. Men don't have time to play those games and if they do they're simps and yes men. So if that's what you do then you wont be worth any good mans attention because they wont give you the time of day unless you put the same amount of "work" he puts in immediately. If he shows you on the first 1-3 dates hes serious then you better be as serious and not play games and throw shit tests at him like you are some detective that actually knows something. It just sounds like you need to be showered in gifts and given half the world before you will take anyone seriously. It sounds like your expectations are way to high and is probably waaay higher then anything you provide in that relationship.
I believe he knew within the first 3 dates!! He proposed in 6 months! We get married August 3!
I also knew… I just didn’t let him know 😉
I’m soooooooo happy for you!! Literally the embodiment of all my teachings! You deserve this! Love you so much!!
Yes, 4 years and no proposal is way to long, the biggest excuse a man use is finances, that I all a lie..Don't be a placeholder
You have such a beautiful way of explaining things, wow!!❤
Bingo! Thank you sp much :)
but, like, if u start dating when you’re 19/20, u can’t really expect a proposal that fast- men at that age are not geared towards marriage but towards establishing a career.
@@fernfunkmen should not date that young but it happens but I am talking about men over the age of 25 because that is considered an adult, a man that has a solid job etc not a grown boy a man
@@Didi-fr5ic yes in that case i agree 😉
@@Didi-fr5ic Men should not date that young? Does that count for you too? or do all women from 18-25 get to date older men? Then wonder why the men in their age group at 30 wont date them because now we are the ones dating the 18-25 year olds now lol Kinda a shitty cycle for women unless she finds the right older man when shes looks her best or sticks it out with a guy they find at a younger age and build something great together. if women wait to long they lose all leverage. So what you stated really shortens your window to find someone and settle down.
When the sexual attraction in the limbic system does not transcend in the cortex part of the brain where we make decisions, sacrifices, where character and integrity sits and a deep connection with a person, it will not last.
That's very interesting. What is needed for the sexual attraction to transcend to the cortex?
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It needs time to learn about the other person's values, needs, character etc. To love someone is a choice and it takes also the willing to make sacrifices and for this you have to now if this person fits in your value system and has the same attitude and vision for life. You do not want to lay down your life for a clown, narcissist or a person which lacks emotional and intelectual maturity.
Personal experience: when talking to a guy about selling his artwork for a living he said “ I tried it and it didn’t work”! He was still hurt behind his pursuit that didn’t pan out after putting the effort in and still not getting what he wanted. So, when it came to pursuing a woman he really wanted and getting the same result, he no longer trusted his own judgment and remained “uncertain” about the relationship because he couldn’t control the outcome, therefore, he’ll love you, and keep you in his life, but only around the perimeter for fear of it not working out as usual.🤦🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
Plenty of non broken guys out there. You just need to learn how to spot them.
I love this. Its an alternative look at men want a woman to provide status and the feeling of respect.
Do absolutely nothing. Use your cell phone to just schedule. And let him do everything. Men fall in love with scarcity. How can they desire you if you are constantly with him? You must generate anxiety in him for him to fall in love. Ignore him unless hes texting with purpose. Stay off the phone and don't be available constantly ❤ Do nothing but observe him. And be vague. In the beginning. Excellent video. I normally watch men TH-cam videos to get into their heads but listening to your advice my mind has definitely changed 😊😊😊
I’ve heard many of these concepts but the way you elaborate about it makes a lot more sense. Thank you i needed this today.
Thank you so much!
You are by far the most accurate, because each and every time I fall in love, I fall in love with this -- uncertainty. Many people hate on such truths because they bought into some rants elsewhere they somehow find more “comforting" to their hurtful experiences. And they don't dare to love again. I would say, I choose to love again and again. And no -- I'm not buying the "avoidant" psychoanalysis thing that keeps getting repeated to justify "letting go" or giving up too early. We are all adults -- we can handle things more truthfully and realistically, not stuck in our own lalaland, or "if I feel the slightest red flag, I'm walking away" -- that's real avoidant to me.
Oh Fareen, wonderful to watch you 1st time.
Met a guy thru best friend last year.. hit it off completely & I waited 3.5 mths before intimacy.. *celibate 3 years.
He was full-on & told me he was in love w me 6 weeks in..
I stupidly doted on him & his effort virtually stopped & I felt I was carrying the r'ship. It ended at 7 mth mark, badly.
In my 50's & still learning!!
Now I see where I went wrong & will do better!! TY❤
Awareness is everything!
@@fareenashofficial and Discernment 👌
Its not because you did wrong, its because you're old.
Love= lust....Love bombing fantasy.... Don't be celibate for years on end either. People go on about this as if it's a badge of honour 🤣 you fall for the okie doke far quicker!!! Same with virgins holding onto their virginity.
The guy I am currently seeing told me (before we were dating) that we likes not knowing what future holds. This uncertainty seems to be a thing.
I am really happy you mentioned safety as a necessity!❤️
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I believe in love at first sight, my husband proposed to me three weeks after we met.
Oh wow!
How long have you been married?
Men are pretty complicated, although they can be understood to a certain extent, such as in the case of arousing his pride and ego. But honestly there is a fine line between acting like a child or a boy in school chasing girls, and being a proper man that knows what he wants and claims the girl as his wife and acts confidently on his discernment that the lady is his wife. This is how it was in the old days, the bible days. Men sought God on the woman they should marry, an example is Isaac and Rebekah. The problem today is men have too many options (of women) to choose from and they are unsure if the grass is greener elsewhere. But when a man has God, God tells him a particular lady is his wife and he confidently accepts her as his wife and enjoys her all the days of her life. Some men want to play games and are not ready to change their life for a woman in a sense of going out late at night and having the option of entertaining other girls.
So the prayer for men is that they come out of their uncertain feminine and walk in their bold masculine, so they lady can relax and be in her feminine (allowing herself to receive).
May God help us.
"However, from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” Mark 10:6-9
in the old days there wasn't a lop sided court room.
@@kneelbeforethelord917 yeah
I believe it. I've been changing my thought patterns. 😊
Oh this all is SO TRUE ! You are a great speaker! Thank you for this video ❤️
In my experience there are two ways a man falls in love. The woman gives the man the falling in love look (she reaches her tipping point) which has happened to me 3 times or l reach my tipping point with her and all those powerful feelings come flooding in (which has happened twice and the woman senses it straight away). Either way it's a sudden set of emotions and sensations that stays in your memory from then on as a major event in your life 💥🥰
12:08 again, vasopressin is released when he feels like he has won the prize, not oxytocin
If any man is telling you about his issues and "disorders" ex wives/exes in general. Even health conditions and he is still young. Financial issues just walk by. Your not his mother/therapist and financial advisor.
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Agreed! Thank you! 🙏
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Thank you for this video!!
Your very welcome 🤍
I dont think that's necessarily true that men choose a woman who stands out and is different because more often than not I see them choose the girls who look and behave like most of the girls online and behave like a "baddie"
Baddies are fun to look at and play with. They aren't for serious relationships and marriage.
@2mYgR Well men are choosing them left and right.
@@dg5175 but it's not what men prefer; the problem is that so many more girls are like this that the dating pool reflects it for men. Also, a 'baddie' will get her voice out there and be loud where as a traditional girl does not. That gives them more attention.
Also where were your videos 10 years ago lol. So refreshing to see things in such a high valued way rather than steaming from games 🎮 🙌 😌
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Thanking the heavens I found this video, woah. I needed to hear this!
What’s the red flag for guys in long term relationships but no marriage..
At what point is it okay to be more nurturing? I’m 9 months into an amazing relationship with a man who’s pursued me from day 1. We have zero issues. He’s facing a health issue now though and it’s realllllyyyy bringing out my maternal/nurturing side. He continues to pursue as best he can and move things along but we’ve slowed as a result. So I’ve done more to care for him and he really appreciates it (says this constantly). He doesn’t let me do too much for him cuz he’s a man… lol. And I think I’m just being a supportive and helpful partner for this season of life - but am I being too nurturing? He just treats me so well and is supportive and dependable and simply amazing. I want to show him I appreciate all that by helping him as I can and as he allows.
I’m sorry that he’s having a hard time right now and it seems he’s handling things quite well. I would be supportive and loving, but not his mom. He’s a man, he will work through this with you by his side. 🤍
That's called your human instincts. Does it feel good helping him? He obviously going tog et better by the sounds of it. And like you also said your not doing too much but obviously you are doing enough to help him. I would say you are in a good balance. Just remember to also take care of yourself at the same time. You never know when you will be the one facing health issues down the road. Life is long and its better to show commitment that is healthy and in good timing to show your true intent. Just like in your vows if you get married. "through sickness and through health". He shows his appreciations and i bet you will see alooot more when he gets back to being full healthy. As a man i would literally do anything for you after this if i seen that kind of commitment. it would be zero question if i would die for you fighting off people for you to get away ect. But let say down the road he doesn't show that appreciation back then call him out and if he doesn't change then leave him lol. Now to what Fareen said about "your not his mom" Just remember he's looking for a women that will raise his kids. So how you treat him in these scenarios is really how you would treat your kids. Is a thought that will most likely cross his mind. It also makes you look like you will be such a good mother and have good motherly instincts if you can sense he needs helps and you get into that feminine energy for him. But dont let what i said about how it will reflect on how you will treat your kids to make you over step your help and not let him still do some tasks on his own and what not. Just thought i would give you a guys prospective. Ive seen this exact thing with my cousin and his now wife with 2 kids. they've been married for 10 years and this scenario played out with them. And he has mentioned to me that when she was helping him out for those 4-5 months he was really injured was when he realized he wanted to marry her.
I think the way God tells us to handle sex under the covenant of marriage is the best recipe for success. Sex on your honeymoon night including your first kiss sounds exciting to me. If he has treated you well in old fashioned courtship. Now that’s a gentleman
High quality women are the best. Because they're kind, smart and fun to be around with.
What if he didnt feel that feeling that im the one for him right away, but 2 years later after getting to know me better? (We werent in a relationship over those 2 years, just family friends dynamic where wed see each other and talk every 2-3 months at gatherings). If hes extremely serious and says hes 100% about me, should I be concerned that it took so long for him to think about marriage with me?
He used to have trust issues btw, not sure if that makes a significant difference
Fareen, amazing video again. Would love it if you do a video about how to keep being interesting to the men. In a way that is authentic and genuine. To me it feels like I don't know this kind of energy. Thank you for all the sharing! And your course is amazing BTW!
Yes I absolutely can! Do you mean once you’re in a relationship? And I’m so happy you love the course!
@@fareenashofficial yes, once the relationship has settled. When things are more regulated and the hormones are all balanced again. I noticed how the normalcy used to worry me and there should be a way to be able to keep the spark without jumping from one new thing to the next. To me, I noticed this should not be a normal pattern. Thank you! ✨
@tatyanaasenova1721 ok got it! I’ve added it to my viewer questions and will make sure to do a video on it!
This has nothing to do with women. It has everything to do with a man's unhealed childhood traumas and his relationship with his primary caregiver = his mother. If he has not been to therapy for these issues, he will forever make women suffer and blame them for his issues (wise-versa regarding men whom are dealing with avoidant women). Avoidant is not an attachment style ! It's a detachment style and without therapy they are a lost cause ! You see one, put on your running shoes and run the opposite direction !
Great content
A lot of what you’re saying resonates with my perspective as a man.
The part about modesty and exclusivity is true and the challenge of the pursuit as well.
Thank you so much for chiming in! It makes me so happy when healthy men comment as I know it’s not in your nature to do so :). It’s usually the triggered men that comment 🙈. Thank you for helping me help women understand 🤍
great video :D would love to know your take on lovebombing and how to approach it when it is going on..
Thank you! Stay far far away and block! I’ll note it down to do a video on it
@@fareenashofficial oh that would be lovely! i just recently got out of it, but he still got me questioning myself.
@lunalovegood572 oh no I’m so sorry. Book a call with me or email session if you need clarity ok. 💕
In a heterosexual dynamic it’s more harmonious when the woman is submissive with healthy boundaries. It’s not realistic to withhold interest from a man a woman is sexually attracted to. This scenario works best for little to no sexual attraction on the woman’s part.
If you and a man is in a relationship how would a man feel the women will be taken away if they are committed?
Girl u are putting too many ads in this video
Another great video and you look even prettier with the new highlights!
Awwwwww thank you! 😊
You said in the video that men don't like to be pursued. I don't think this is true. I like to be pursued, I am a male.
The idea we don't want safety is also not true. Too much volatility and we will leave. Or at least I know I will.
I think you’re more in your feminine nothing wrong with it but you need and would be attracted to a masculine woman . Masculine women act like men.. chasing pursuing setting up dates etc .. most women don’t like this by instinct
Then you are a feminine man
@@lucastephen-sujdovic5090if I have to persue you, then I will not feel save as a women, you are a man you must lead..I am the reciever, when a woman stops receiving from you then something is off or she is not interested.
1:39 - given that one of every marriages in the West end in divorce, with 80% of those petitions being done by the woman, the threshold for a man being compelled to marry a woman based on her being “the one” is extremely high. Personally I only felt this way once in my life and have never experienced it again. In this day and age, women who can break through all of the mess that modern women have created for a man to have that visceral reaction are RARE.
Thought it was 70% that number keeps changing.. And why watch her channel? Your not interested in settling down. A huge number of men never married/bred. People don't know their own history 🤣
20k baby, let's go! 😊❤ hahaha
Men hesitate to marry because the contract is insanely slanted towards women. Its an awful deal.
Also, if you have a history of sleeping with men very quickly and you suddenly hold him to a higher standard... its going to be seen as the deception it is
Your videos are such a great complement to your books Fareen! I just started to re-read What Men Want, I used to feel difficulty to internalize some concepts, now thanks to all your help everything is more clear and resonates. So priviledged to be working with you, so much to learn and integrate 🥰 Thanks so much, love you 💕💕💕
Love is commitment
This is a very good video!!! Thank you!
Your very welcome 🙏
Wrong love is not a feeling love is a choice
New subbie, great content!
Yay! Thank you!
A mans issue with moving fwd the relationship doesnt always have anything to do with you, only himself. My mans issues with me are that im too well known and popular in a particular partner dance scene and he feels threatened by anyone who he feels is superior to him when it comes to his social status. Its really hard for me to understand because he is super confident when it comes to his intelligence, profession and monetary stability and our relationship is otherwise super stable, peaceful and fun. Ive backed away completely from the partner dance scene without a problem, I just occassionally might "like" a post here and there. So its just this social thing thats killing him. If I like another guys post and hes jealous of that persons social status, he gets mad at me. I dont put up with it, but it gets exhausting constantly having to rationalize this with him and then help him build his own self esteem. So my point is, sometimes his unwillingness to move the relationship forward has nothing to do with you, only with his own self confidence. He wants to have more likes on social media and doesnt want me giving attention to anyone he feels jealous of in the meantime. Its super frustrating but all I can do is try to nurture his self confidence in that area.
Very good video 😊
Yeah I currently stopped dating someone because I told him I’m not sure if he’s what I want. I’m hot and cold but he’s constantly working to win me over.
I still don’t know what I want yet and I wonder if he will get tired of fighting. He also deserves to feel wanted the way he makes me feel. I’ve also I don’t know when I’m ready to be physical and I feel like he’s getting impatient based on the fact I haven’t given him any time span of when I’ll feel ready. What if in the end he just decides I’m not worth the fight and desires someone who makes him feel more secure
Your not interested in him or ready. Move on..
What if you get off track?
You can get back on track! Have you read my books or worked through my course?
Amen sister 🥂
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Does this mean we can’t ask guys out?
If you ask a guy out then you're setting the tone that you will be the pursuer in the relationship.
And I'm not a video game or football game, I'm a human
Appreciate your videos, is there a way I can write you to ask a personal question?
Thank you! Yes the email session link is in the description 🤍
Is it possible to pull back in a relationship where you didnt exercise any of these traditional things and reset the relationship?
We dont live together. We only see each other once or twice a week.
no
Have you set your wedding date Fareen?
Wrong... Love for women is an ilussion of what can be. For the potential. Love for men is a responsability to provide and protect from other soul that can break him. Women love the dream.. Men love the reality
Question: When a man and a woman meet, after an initial spark, how to be modest but keep sparking a man on a visceral level for him to move things forward? Red lipstick? Knee-long skirt? Stilletos? Is it too much or too little? 🤔😉💋
Too much … the books go deeper and will be super helpful!
It’s so sad, he will never fall in love with me because we had sex after date 2
We can always turn the dynamic around 🤍
Read the books or book a session with me and we’ll figure it out 🤍
this video was all meat no bones but especially 14:00 +
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How long is a long time to propose?
There’s a lot to this question, and it varies, but usually anything over a year
What if he wanted to go intimate on date 4, but he is now gone because I refused to give in
Well done for not sleeping with him. He only wanted sex. Keep it moving.
Good for you!
He is a user. Men will have se* with you even if they don't like you.
He excused himself from your life and now there is room for a better guy who will wait as long as you want.
He wasn't interested then apart from se*
He only wanted s3x.
Are you certain? then I cannot fall in love with you.
Ladies!!!! PSA: if he makes YOU Feel safe on whatever # date, then go for sex - test out the sexual chemistry. Being naked is raw. vulnerable and unlocks another level of intimacy. There is compatibility to be assessed in sex, as well as outside of sex!! And after sex, you most definitely should still show a man (subtly) when you feel unsure/not totally impressed by him (via pulled back energy/reduced attention). Remember - pursuit is a marathon for your heart and presence (not for your kitty - its never the reward lol). The pursuit to win you over will go for only as long as you allow It (and it can go on for 30+ years!). xoxo
You are a broken women 😢 wow this was so sad to read
Can I ask what part triggered you?
@@abag55you said test the sexual chemistry, this is wrong, you should sleep with a man after marriage, that is his final destination your body..I'm not trigerred but telling ladies to test sexual chemistry is wrong, he should marry you first.
@@abag55you should be naked and vulnerable with your husband, not when you feel safe after an x amount of dates because a man will lie and make you feel safe just to sleep with you.
horrible advice ! a woman of high value protects her purity.
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I’ll just add that men rewatch games ALL THE TIME 😆 even if they know who won. So even if he’s already committed to you, let him play the game 😏
Is 4 years together a long time before he proposes? 😂 😂 😝
It depends on the specific situation… but likely yes
@@fareenashofficial I respect your reply. Thank you. 🙏
Thank you sooooooo much for your effort. You are literally saving my life😂❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Wow! I love hearing this! Thank you for your love and support 😍🤍
Fareen I have a question! When you meet a man out in the world (not on a dating app) and he wants to take you out, do you give him your number? Is this the right thing to do? Thank you ❤❤
I gave my email 😂
@@Lisa_M_V that works! I was thinking of that being the way to go 😂
Yes!!!👏👏🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
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Love when you guys get excited 😍!
The right man will love you no matter what. I’m exhausted playing these games. I’m a good person with boundaries and if a man doesn’t like me then so be it. It’s exhausting looking at videos like this when you already are a decent person who does what these gurus are saying
If you don't like these games why do you listen to these videos!!!! Lol!!😮
@@lauraschouweiler-sy1os they're feeling hopeful
@@lauraschouweiler-sy1os you’re missing the point, Laura.
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You are so wrong, you need to learn men in order to play the game right..love is a game in the beginning.
As soon as I don't feel safe with a man I will cut him off completely, and sometimes this makes me feel like I am being too harsh for not communicating or waiting to see how things unfold further. For example, I recently met a man who lives 9 hours away from me and I was considering the option of a LDR with him because we have great chemistry. However I had to walk away because he didn't want to give me his thoughts, feelings or discuss the details of how a LDR would work between us. Instead he placed the responsibility of meeting up on me because he has agoraphobia. Ultimately this revelation didn't make me feel safe even though I am an empathetic person and felt for him when he opened up to me about that. I am second-guessing my decision to walk away but I could just see that it would be me always having to make the relationship work action-wise, and it would put me in that pursuer/masculine energy that I never feel good in.
Yes women need safety above everything! I think I should do a longer video on this to expand
@@fareenashofficial Would love that Fareen. I really regret not honouring my feelings of unsafety with a man in the past and ultimately this was correlated with my own insecurities.
From what you’re saying here, you absolutely made the right decision to walk away! I’m sure he had many positive qualities but that is a recipe for burn out or resentment, especially because you are self aware enough to see that you would be forced into your masculine energy and he didn’t soothe your feelings and create any safety.
Thank you Amber. I started to feel resentment and that’s when I knew this dynamic was not worth sacrificing my well-being for. Not
to mention he was openly pursuing another woman on social media at the same time he was revealing all his deep feelings for me, so deep down I never felt that he was truly genuine and maybe just liked my attention.
Never feel bad for this. When you keep people around that aren’t for you, you block your own blessings. KEEP these boundaries. It’s what will have your desired person reach you. Don’t ever feel like you’re being too harsh. There’s 7B people in the world. They’ll find someone for them and your man will come to you. The sperm swims to the egg. Never forget that.
I do not agree with the uncertainty in long-term relationships, in the dating phase it is intriguing, but in marriage or long-term relationships if a man does not feel safe, he will leave the relationship
Looks pretty much like Disorganized attachment is the most appealing character* that conquers both girls & boys nowadays.
My humble advice: find out YOUR attachment style, then work on yourselves to attain secure attachment and only then find other securely attached ppl to relate with.
Drop avoidants, anxious and FAs. They will drain your life force for nothing
The attachment theory is just a theory and a small aspect. It's also an ongoing symptom of today's society. These are all symptoms. And no one wants to tackle the main issues.
Very true. Same with even my male friends, if I talk, text too much, they pull away, and if I ignore their texts - they double text. Men need to feel you pulling away to keep being interested.
No those men just weren’t interested. I don’t know a single man who wants the woman he’s attracted to to pull away or play games. The more consistent the communication the more he lives her.
@@davidshoyt1979 Right lol Women are so confused and confusing
@@davidshoyt1979100% I know a guy that‘s building his own business and he works literally 24/7 but still took his time to text me as much as he could and even asked me to stay up longer to talk a bit more
@@davidshoyt1979exactly. It's about the base line of the connection. Be yourself and you will attract the right person. Play around to keep them chasing and that's who you will attract. Sounds exhausting lol.
He's right, these type of guys, all they are interested in is adding/keeping you in their rotation. All men benefit from women. They are never your friend btw. The more you know ;)
Love is not a feeling. It is continuously pouring into another. Sacrificing for him, her needs. You mean attraction.
It's an absolute, a constant choice..God is the only example of true love. It's not meant to quit, it's an action to serve until the end.
I am too tired today to write something deep haha, but on here to say I love you and a supporter of you and your work ❤️ ♥️ 💙
Awww I appreciate this so much!
None of that is love. People need to attach to SELF. Center from self. Balance within, SHARE your balance. You will attract and repel like energy. Everything else is ego.
You can’t attract love unless you ARE love. You can’t chase what you aren’t. Ends in divorce. Be love and you’ll attract it. Inner work ❤
You would be dead without ego.
@@Lisa_M_VBalance is another word for love.
@@jessicahitchens6926Ego is a mental construct that begins as early as 7 months. It's not a life force. Yes we will always have a construct, but many of us are living from a false self. When you experience ego death you learn the illusions that have veiled the fact that we are simply consciousness. The goal is to deconstruct human concepts to reveal that we are masculine AND feminine. It's the balance of the energies that attracts others to us.
Ugh so annoying. Why can’t falling in love be fun… it’s a constant mind reading game.
Fareen! I looooove your content 💕💕 appreciate your efforts in spreading awareness, kindness and authenticity. Keep it up!
Thank you!! 🤍🤍🤍
You literally just changed my whole perspective!! Im going to change right now!! Thank you soo much. I will stop filling in for men!!
Women fall in love faster and fall out of love faster.😂
Fareen, love your content, but I think you may need to add on a stronger mic to your audio, like maybe from Shure or Audio technica. Just thought of giving some constructive feedback, as your audio makes your voice sound abit distant.
Thanks for your feedback! Probably the first “feedback” comment that was stated femininely, hence my response. I actually bought one recently, I’ll try it out on the next video 🤍
Sound is fine for me ❤
@chippychick6261 it does sound a bit distant .. me and technology don’t go hand in hand lol
I can hear her just fine as well.
Thank u Fareen! This is such invaluable insight! Another amazing video 🔥
Thank you for sharing your love with me! I love it 😍😍😍
Great content you are absolutely right
Thank you so much 😊
Give him what he needs & not what he wants. Don’t focus on his ego & do pace him & observe over time + lean into your standards & feminine energy. ❤
"Oftentimes, the man doesn't even know what he needs, because he's so used to getting what he wants"
WOW ❤❤❤
Thank you again sweetie for another wonderful one! 🙏 It's always a happy day when you upload a new video!
I'm very excited for your take on modesty too. 😃 and I've observed something and am curious about your opinion 🙏👀 namely, I've noticed masculine leaning men tend to prefer women who aren't only feminine presenting internally, but also externally; meaning, are curvier and softer body type wise .
As a more athletic, flat muscly girl myself, this is a slight cause of worry 🙈🤣
What do you think? Is there something to my little observation?
In any case, thank you very much sweetie!
Btw; i love how you handle viewpoints that are different from yours! It's polite, powerful and honest ❤ love you!
I’m such a fan of you! Yes, men tend to prefer curvy, but if the energy is soft and feminine, looks don’t matter. You have a very beautiful, supportive, kind energy. 🤍
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Thank you so much!! Your answer made me super happy!
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Likewise, hihihi! Love you and your energy very much!
Wishing you a wonderful day and week and everything else! 🎈🙏💕
But you also dont want a man who has to contually chase and see you as a video challenge.. eventually you have sex and he "has you" and plenty of men will be done even if you made him wait 6 months.. no matter how much you made him work or wait physically. Luck is involved and if he's in that place in his life or not