please PLEASE remember to take your time and do not rush into transitioning. i would never want anyone else to have to experience something like this. the transitioning and detransitioning rate has been on the rise lately. transitioning has very permanent and serious affects on you so just please be aware of how serious transitioning really is. not to make this into a serious rant but you have so much time, take your time and you will discover who you are.
It WAS destroying her body in the sense that she took medication for something she didn't have, in the same way that if you take an antidepressant when you don't need it, you might get seratonin disorder. This article should've been more of a nuanced position of making sure you're ACTUALLY trans before you transition because it is permanent and not everyone is or will be transgender even if they want to be, instead of saying it doesn't work and it won't work for anyone and it's "mutilation"... if you're not trans and you transition, YOU WILL GET DYSPHORIA. YOU CANNOT JUST SAY YOU'RE TRANS AND YOU'LL MAGICALLY BE TRANSGENDER. In my opinion this is the result of people saying that you don't need dysphoria to be trans, non trans people transitioning, and then the dysphoria they gain leaving them extremely mad at the trans people who told them that they didn't need dysphoria.
hey sam! i’m trans and have been out for a year. i have a supportive family who have supported me and have helped me get in touch with specialists. i’m in the uk and want to go private so i can be seen quicker and i’m 100% positive testosterone will make me a lot happier. would you say 16 is too young? :)
My sister, a female since birth, has her driver's license marked as male, by accident and hasn't bothered to change it and I dont know where I'm going with this.
when I got my drivers license when I was 16 the DMV gave me no restrictions even though I'm legally blind. so legally I can drive without glasses, however that would be a very bad idea
It's so nice to see someone from an "older generation" still keeping an open mind and still trying to learn. Maybe there is hope for us trans people. Thank you for that, I hope you stay healthy and happy.
this comment made my day :)) only a few members of my famy will ever be supportive of me and my decisions, so seeing this just makes me glad that there might be trans children who dont have to have transphobic parents/grandparents :)
this girl said the only opinion she will ever care about is her grandfather’s but then proceeded to say she didn’t want to quit testosterone cause she was afraid of what people might think 🤔🤔
mte like the entire thing is precisely about her caring way too much about what literally everybody else might think and not even stopping to think about what's actually right for her :/
N P H There can be some middle ground. Instead of believing the world should cater and center around you only, make efforts to bring others in. Of course you should be true to oneself but always keeping others feelings a priority. Give understanding of others as a marker in life. If everyone is about their self this will become a lonely world.
Yeah, I know way too many people who are accepting of gay/bisexual people, but are also transphobic. Not so much the other way around. Generally if they're find with you transitioning then they'll be okay with your sexuality. Coming out as gay is also a lot cheaper than letting that internalized homophobia lead you to believe that being attracted to the same sex means you're the opposite sex.
love how she skipped the social transition stage with the people she was closet to. like using a new name and pronouns with a friend for a few days to see if it gave her euphoria???
Exactly. Try out a new set of pronouns and name with a friend or family member. Change your hairstyle or wear clothes associated with your gender. Research terms. I thought I was agender, genderfluid and a trans boy before realising I'm non binary. It took me over a year to figure it out.
The fact is that she never understood what being trans was really about. She wanted to transition because she thought it would have made her life easier, not because she felt dysphoria. She thought that she had to PUT UP (sorry if it caps lock I don't know how to underline it) with the discomfort of being perceived as a man to get to her goal.
Axel yes, that’s true it is different, but she is speaking of being transgender, not transsexual. i’m mostly pointing out her ignorance of not fully understanding what it is being transgender and rushing into it. she, herself, doesn’t realize there’s a difference between sex and gender.
@@Axel-wh2gy sex is based on a whole profile of different things. Otherwise it would be simple for castor semenya to flash her junk to Olympic officials to stay competing as a female runner and leave her naturally high testosterone levels alone
Malec Magic Yo so happy for you! I’m 13 turning 14 and I live in the UK. Getting private treatment I hope! I’m on hormone blockers right now but I really need T. V depressed and my body image issues are slowly killing me 😂. Tell me how it goes 🤪
Yes, that's why people are against every medical professional being bullied into prescribing hormones in case they lose their career and life for daring to question somebody.
@Matt H. you really have to educate yourself. Transition is the actual help for gender dysphoria. Or would you rather people invent drugs (when you already assume people are drugged when they are not lol) that block your personality, your true self? Don't you think that would be worse? Would that be your ideal treatment for people with a disorder you can't grasp how it feels like because you don'T have it? Or do you have actual ideas how to solve Gender Dysphoria without suppressing a persons individuality and mind?
Uuugh, one of my friends sent me this article trying to "prove" my best friend (a sixty one year old transgendered man, soooo, pretty sure he's not "confused" ) is going to regret starting T again. Both of our eyes rolled so far back we could see the nineties.
then again we all knew what she meant. thats literally the least problematic part of the article for me. the girl is obviously so stupid she couldnt even write a compelling fake article
I love how she's talking about being gay as if it's a physical trait that people can see. Yeah, if you're gay, it shows, the gayness will radiate out of you to alerts everyone.
Girl straight up just hated herself. Calling herself a “dyke” in a negative connotation and admitting to her internalized homophobia. She just wanted a reason to feel “straight”. Which is not a good reason to transition. The whole article is a her problem being insecure and I pity that :(
@Mr S overweight people losing weight? they hate themselves! me going to the hairdresser to change the color of my hair? wow girl stop hating yourself!
@@janine2957 i really dont think you should compare transitioning with losing weight or getting a haircut. in order for a person to make such drastic changes to their body there should be a lot of psychological help in the first place to make sure that this is something that will actually help the person and isnt dont out of wrong motives
vamperkillz because this girl was jealous of trans men therefore she tried to become a trans man, but she is not a man so doing so causes great distress. Had she actually been a trans man with gender dysphoria it should have helped. Do you understand? :)
@@vamperkillzshy Yes it just can't. I didn't put much thought on what gender I prefered since I do like acting feminine but immediatley I knew I liked being male. Also I did try to make it seem like i was a girl (it really wasnt that hard for me to do) and I felt like it wasn't me.
2:46 the bit about "can date their (same-sex) while looking like the opposite sex" gets me. It's quite clear that she Doesn't view Trans people as they are. She quite clearly just wanted to get over her internalized homophobia.
Exactlyyyy If I'm a lesbian, and my girlfriend is transitioning, I can't say I want to still be in a relationship with a transgender boy if I like girls like tf
@Simon W. your appetite probably increased with your happiness maybe? not that they're the same, but that's why a lot of anti-depressants result in weight gain, because depression suppresses your appetite. it can work the other way around though, like if someone used food and/or binges often to cope with their depression, feeling happier means they dont need to run to food as often, so they lose weight.
Nyctophile I use food to cope sometimes and I still gain weight on antidepressants ugh, so it’s not all black and white. Actually it’s almost _worse_ when I’m happy in a weird way because I’m not always worrying about what I eat or how I look to other people. Now that might sound good but its effects aren’t. But yeah that is true for a lot of people.
@@ashleyk8406 i definitely agree with you, nothing in life is ever black/white. your metabolism might be out of balance due to going back and forth between not really eating and eating, which might be causing your weight gain. when your body doesnt get enough food your metablism slows to compensate, so that when you do eat, it will digest slower to conserve and absorb more energy. when you start eating "normally" again, its going to take a while for your metabolism to return to its normal levels, so you're going to experience pretty rapid weight gain for a bit. if you continue eating well though, itll go back to normal and tht weight will come off naturally. i know all this because i have an ED, and ive experienced this more than once. just thought you might want to know :)
“You wouldn’t be able to tell by looking at me; I had long hair and makeup” because the length of your hair and makeup choices are so relevant to which people you date, are attracted to, and have sex with!!
@@KarmatheCorgi yup my brother (tbh I’ve never straight up asked and I assume he’s straight Bc he’s only dated girls but I shouldn’t speak for him and I can’t confirm” has legit always had long hair. Ranging from scuffy/punky, to his metal head phase to his recent “academic hippie” look lol. He’s 22 and it’s been that way since I can remember. Even in our bsby pics it’s shoulder length. Of course when he was younger and during the cursed late 2000s to mid 2010s people would call him a girl or make some dumb comment because he had a baby face, but he’s otherwise a fairly masculine dressing snd presenting guy, like I said used to be big into the metal and post punk scene.. just a more alt dude who likes his hair long. My best friend is biracial and does combat sports, thick and toned, always done boy short hair, either a faux-hawk or just short when she wears it natural, no makeup seldom even on her wedding day.. but she’s straight af, used to be BOY CRAZY before she got w current partner, still enjoys fashion and bath bombs and glittery things.. I shouldn’t have to say this but like there is no reason for this stuff to matter. It’s hair, it’s color to enhance or creatively change your face, it’s fabric on your body. If I ever have kids I have no desire to “know the sex” and refuse to decorate their room in a gendered way and when they’re old enough to start having preferences and expressing the self and what not around toddler age I’ll just let them look around and try out and check out different toys and outfits and just pick whatever they think is cool. I’ll ask them how they went their hair cut or what types of activities and books they’re interested in trying out.. that’s it. Not pushing gender roles on your kid nor “manipulating them to be trans”. Just letting them be a human. When they’re old enough to process it gradually and as long as they accept their AG I’ll be real with them about what it means to be that gender snd if they’re nb or trans i prey to god they hsve s better world by then but I’ll learn and support them thru everything
Sadly, in Latinoamerica, if you cut your hair, society will tell you that you look like a "boy", likewise if your a guy with long hair. Here, society is soo fucked up and homophobic, transphobic and very intorelant. But u know what? Fuck society, I Just want to love and I don't want to be bothered for it
I think this is the second time I’ve gone through this video, and I really appreciate the way you approach this topic, Sam. It’s a lot of fun to see your personality mixed in with honest compassion.
Hey OT! Same here. I think back to this video a lot. It's so sad to see someone go through so much internal pain just to put themselves through unnecessary physical pain. Transitioning should be an exciting and satisfying process to the individual, not seen as a terrifying nightmare.
I love how TERFs talk about trans people encouraging others to transition. Here you are telling people to not rush into things. I am a post op trans woman. I tell people that they shouldn't transition unless they need to. If your sexual anatomy doesn't bother you; it's probably best not to radically alter it. If I regretted my SRS I would be screwed.
i definitely think people should put a LOT of thought into it before they start physically transitioning, I think before physically transitioning people should live as the gender they think they are identify as it and all and imaging how it would be if they were a cis person born as the gender they think they are and if that all feels right then they should definitely be able to transition
@@MidnightEkaki But there's still a ton of thought and decision to put into this. I can't transition, but I know that if I could I'd still put thought into it.
@@ilikedarknes3351 Social transition is such an important step! For me personally, I approached it bit by bit, taking notes as I went as that was how I processed it best. I asked my sister and friends to try using they/them pronouns for me. Then a different name. Bought a binder and switched up my gender presentation. Gave my new name when ordering coffee and started introducing myself as it when meeting new people. Figured out what I liked and didn't. Talked to other people in the trans/nonbinary community. Only after I had done all this, and was as sure as I felt I could be in my nonbinary identity did I consider what parts of physical transitioning I wanted. Coming to terms with yourself can be such an emotionally stressful time, and it's best to be logical and calm when it comes to stuff that's gonna last a lifetime.
Another title - "Lesbian girl had such intense internalised homophobia that she thought transitioning would stop it" OR " Lesbian thought being Trans was choice"
It's actually what they do in the Iran to homosexual people. They are only allowed to live their sexuality if they transition into the opposite gender.
lol its weird how she hated being gay so much but she had no problem with transgenderism. most homophobes have a problem with both, and if its only one then its usually being gay.
KUKAKYOTOTOKYO i’m not trans but i am gay, and i’m a fierce ally of the rest of lgbtq+ because i’m proud to be who i am, and i want everyone to be just as proud.
Not trans and straight here! I just absolutely love the lgbtq+ community in general, plus I love learning more about all of them 😁❤️ Side note: Sam is the best boi and we stan 👌
This article is total bs, but here I am to say: It’s okay if you think you have your identity figured out, and then realize you were wrong. I used to think I was bisexual, then realized I was actually asexual and biromantic. Pretty much everyone in the LGBTQ+ community once thought they were straight/cis then realized that wasn’t them. Sexuality, romance, and gender is complicated, and it’s okay if it takes you a while to figure it out.
She hated being gay and decided transitioning would fix everything? Not a wise decision, she's also blaming therapists for her not thinking things through.
nah i gotta agree that a therapist who will diagnose dysphoria after like, 9 hours of knowing someone is probably pretty bad, but on the other hand we don't know thats she didn't lie to them in those sessions
@@nb_knight5251 it really seems like she is misrepresenting things. But on the off chance that what she is true, that was indeed a really bad therapist.
@@nb_knight5251 exactly what I was thinking they might both be at fault and from what I’m reading she probably had a bias since she said she wanted the transition by 19 so she must’ve rushed to answer to the unprofessional shitty therapists because she felt pressured to act in a way she would get her transition done
Im afab cant decide if FtM or demiboy :/ im bi and i prefer men so when i trasition i would actually be more gay then im now soo.. idk if that make sense.
@Sey no more i meant more gay from the view of society becouse i mostly date men and now society sees my as a women so when i transition to man then from their point of view i would be more gay even thou my sexuality didnt change :D it make sens in my head but idk
Am I the only one that gets kinda offended when people call us “transgenders” like dang didn’t know me being trans got rid of my identity as a human being
Well, when they talk about transgender people, the correct way to refer to them is "transgender." Although I understand that it sounds somewhat abrupt, but it is the correct way to say it xD
I mean, it’s not really any different than saying “blacks” or “whites”. It doesn’t imply that you’re not human. It’s just a part of you. We all have something we can be identified by. I guess “transsexuals” sounds more natural in the plural form, but I’m not sure if that term has fallen out of favor or not.
Lane Dehnel Examples: “Blacks won the right to vote.” “Blacks killed in hate crimes.” “Whites migrated to the suburbs.” “Many whites did not like the new civil rights laws.” None of those phrases sound weird to me. In fact it could very well sound like something out of my history textbook.
sorry, you can’t be a human and a transgender. gotta separate the sensible (humans) from the non-sensible (trans) (joke, if this offends you let me know and i’ll delete it)
Yeah, this story sounds a bit fake. As a cis person, there are some inaccuracies here that make it sound like someone didn't do research. Could be they exaggerated in the story, could be they are really that impulsive and don't pay attention, but IDK...
What gets me is she says she practically transitioned only a couple weeks after starting hormones, idk how it works in America but where I live you have to live as a man without hormones for a full year before you’re waitlisted for surgery
The fact that she thought that because SHE wasn't transgender, that transgender people don't exist, is so weird to me. Imagine taking insulin if you aren't diabetic, getting side effects, and then arguing that diabetic people don't exist.
@@gordonramsayslambsauce Tell the alphabet company this & the over 50 gender clinics & the thousands percent increase in transitioning. It's a f*ng joke/nightmare. The alphabet company is recruiting children left & right. Posters gender snowmen saying feelings dictate who you are. Doctors/therapists making a boatload of $$ & sterilizing children & mind fucking. The madness has to stop. Transgender is rare but a movement has made it a fashion statement. "It's better/cool/woke to be trans than homosexual." Read Ray Blanchard's work. Parents pat themselves on their backs. The alphabet company is promoting sexualizing children out of the womb. It's beyond disturbing. It's abuse. I guess it got boring being in adult's bedrooms & so the movement is towards children's bedrooms. Abuse!! California schools in middle school teach about orifices & what you can stick in them for pleasure you or your partner. Are you f*ng kidding me? Drag kids are shaking ass in bars for adults. Mothers are Munchausen' children to gender clinics who say, "Yes, yes, your child is transgender," without any real dialogue. Folks should not transition until their late 20s and even then it's a lifelong medical condition. It's a difficult journey & alphabet company is not really meeting the needs of any group anymore just political shills.
@Mandy That was the stupidest sentence ever, and it made no sense. There are scientific reasonings behind the cause of dysphoria and transitioning, you people just refuse to believe it
@@donaldsteckler5667 You can visibly transition whenever the hell you want, cutting/growing hair, wearing more feminine/masculine/androgynous clothing, etc. Testosterone/estrogen is something that a guardian has to sign for minors, but they do that because not only will dysphoria just totally drain your energy, but puberty is horribly difficult to go through when you're trans and need to transition. I think that before transitioning, you need to be diagnosed or talk to a therapist if you can afford to do so, just to be sure. But this case in particular came from internalized homophobia, where she transitioned for a stupid reason
so she mainly just had internalised homophobia, so she's going to tell every transgender person they shouldn't transition? and she's blaming others for treating her as trans when she wasn't, when she said she thought she was?
@@SupraMan38 yeah, it's kinda bothering me too, so I don't blame you. But she really shouldn't tell other transgender people not to transition, because she made that choice, and come to realise she wasn't actually trans.
She basically transitioned so she wouldn't feel judged for being lesbian lmao I'm done with the internet😤 who gives a shit what other people think of you no need to pretend to be someone you aren't just so people won't judge you
It wouldn’t be surprising also if she had to fool her therapist and make her believe she is trans for her to get hormones that quickly. For example saying that she always felt that way when that isn’t true because that’s what therapists look for when they test you
summary of the article: how DARE all these people actually TRUST ME and not see through how stupid i was?!! if they had just thought carefully on my behalf i wouldn't have done all this
Are you serious? I mean, how can you even compare these two things. Paper cuts don't change people's lives, unlike transitioning. Dude, really, think before you speak.
My mom is a child psychologist and she does encounter kids who identify as transgender but later on change their mind. She is extremely accepting of the LGBTQ+ community and has worked with transgender kids. When a kid says they are transgender, my mom will talk to them and make sure this was what they want and not to rush into it
I been waiting almost a decade to even start testosterone, I didnt even talk about it, at this point, I'll wait an extra 5 years or so to finally transition, people like this young lady often need to learn to take responsibility and become a proper adult. I, almost 18, have been waiting long, rocky, confusing, emotional years to be who I am.
She had a problem, but being trans wasn’t the answer. Sometimes we’re all confused and that’s okay but try your best to identify your feelings, and even if you detransition just don’t claim that transitioning won’t make you happy, because there’s lots of people who genuinely have dysphoria and that’s why they transition, not because they want to date a gender without being judged.
I see nothing wrong with detransitioners speaking out. It simply wasn't the right choice for THEM. And I think that therapists / doctors should be more vigilant in making sure people who come out as trans really are trans. I also worry about detransitioners being used as a way to discredit / delegitimize people who truly are transgender. And I don't think it's right for detransitioners to assume that what worked (or didn't work) for them will work for everyone else.
I don't think anyone has an issue with detransitioners sharing their stories, it's just when they start blaming the existence of trans people that i'm mad about.
I loooove how she tried to blame the therapists. Look, the therapists only know from what you tell them. If you tell them you have dysphoria, that youve always felt this way and you believe 10000% that you are male, theyre going to diagnose you with gender dysphoria and allow you to be on T. Its not the therapists fault that you neglected to tell them you were a confused lesbian who for some reason thought if they were trans that life would get better. God, this chick is irritating.
That’s the point though - the therapists are meant to be experts and able to diagnose correctly using the diagnostic measures. It’s gross negligence at best. Their whole role is to work with people who are vulnerable, anxious and or confused.
I find it stupid that the second she thought maybe I'm trans she started trying for a permanent change. Instead of like binding, cutting her hair, and whereing guy clothing. You can change all of that easily but instead she was like hey why don't I PERMANENTLY change my body three seconds after thinking I MIGHT be trans.
Story: when I was 16 I was struggling with my gender identity and I wanted to identify as nonbinary with they/them pronouns but everyone around me told me that it wasn't real and to just identify as a trans male, so I did that and I physically represented myself as male and went by he/him pronouns for 2 years. My mother was extremely transphobic and told me a lot of detrimental and invalidating things that made me want to transition more. I was put into foster care when I was 17 and started testosterone from there. In my case I rushed this and went with the first therapist I could find and was given testosterone within 2-3 weeks (hastey ik) I stayed on hormones until I was 18 and realized that I still felt off. Now that I was in a more accepting demographic (I moved to LA from Orange County) I stopped my testosterone "cold turkey" and had the last meeting with my hormone therapist before transferring. In short: I felt nothing from the cut of testosterone besides some mood swings, I have a slightly deeper voice but I actually like this one way more anyways, and I'm turning 22 in February of 2021 and still strongly identify as nonbinary. I'm glad to have the toxic transphobes out of my life, and personally I don't regret attempting to transition one bit.
I'm very happy that you're at a good place in your life. Your story reminds me of a friend. They now identify as nonbinary, but when they were a youth coming out as trans in the 00's, they didn't have the vocabulary to articulate how they felt. I'm really glad that you're able to identify and present in the way that feels right to you.
I am glad it worked out for you. It's sad when people feel pressured to transition. I also think that folks should be able to partly transition. I see nothing wrong with going on T for a few till you get the effect you want and then stopping T. But it is super important to see a therapist before going on HRT, to make sure it's appropriate for you.
I'm glad it worked out for you :) I'm agender and my 'friend' recently told me i cant use he/she/they pronouns because you can't use they for a single person but i can still use he/she pronouns he ultimately made fun of my pronouns and said i should just use we as a pronoun probably because 'we' refers to multiple people I don't get how so many teachers have just let kids pass second grade not knowing that they can be used for a single person some people are just dumb and are not educated at all
Fun fact over 90% of people who transition (I have this info from Samantha lux and correct me if I’m wrong) said it saved them from commeting su1cide so i belive you shouldn’t rush it but it’s really helpful to a lot of people mental health
I knew a girl who detransitioned bc the Jehovahs witnesses didn’t allow it. She than killed herself bc she couldn’t stand being a guy… Glad I left not much later :/
me: questioning my gender for the last 3 years also me: gets happy when people gender me as male since getting a short haircut, bought a binder and was sad at it not fitting, has all trans friends, is too masculine for many lesbians, literally experiences gender euphoria and dysphoria, all partners have been bi and the only compliments I remember are masculine ones me: but what if-
to everyone in the comments saying that some of these clinics need to be shut down, no. that's not the problem. the problem is people wanting attention or wanting to find a way out of their issues, even if it's wrong. i'm a very broke trans guy (i'm in high school, no this also isn't new for me) and these clinics can literally save lives for trans kids who can't afford not to go to these clinics.
When I was in second grade, I found out I was attracted to females as well as males. When I was in seventh grade, I discovered the term bisexual, and identified with that, then pansexual a week later. In eighth grade, musical.ly was big and Justing Blake was my favorite muser. He is trans. I thought that's the life I wanted for myself because of my internalized misogyny, and my cousin went through the exact same thing with me. We both cut our hair super short and decided to identify as gender fluid at school. I told my mom and she said it wasn't me. I was so angry because I thought it was awful for her to tell me who I was. But the more my cousin and I thought on it, the more we realized we are just 14 year old girls who were taught by our stepfathers that men are superior to women, and that made us envious. I will always do everything I can to support the trans community, and I am so thankful to my cousin, and trans friends, who helped me actually think things through.
I can totally relate to this! Although I never "came out" there was a time when I didn't want to be a girl because of internalized misogyny and thought that I might be trans. Fortunately I realized that I wasn't male and just didn't want to be female and I'm happy I did.
@@samtae6217 yeah. Like how i hated how my dad would say sexist things like "less b***ching more kitchen" to my mom. I thought being a guy would make me feel better, but then i realized i just hate how sexist the world is.
In second grade, when you were seven?? I'm Australian, I don't know if your second grade is the same as ours. I think you must be very very gay hahaha I'm just being silly I'm bi/pan too but didn't recognise until I was 14.
I can't remember who I heard it from (probably Miles) but some guy once said: "I'm okay with looking like an ugly version of me, as long as a look like me" and that's what these people don't get. I've seen multiple de-trans stories already and a lot of them involve the idea of becoming a more attractive version of yourself or becoming someone new. Trans people don't become something else, they become themselves, so running away from who you are bc you don't like yourself is not a reason to "become" trans. And low self-steem is not dysphoria. People need to reflect on themselves way more.
I had a friend a long time ago who was transitioning, and then de-transitioned. I do feel that he wasn't a trans woman, and was only transitioning as a way to escape an identity crises that had nothing to do with gender. As such, transitioning didn't bring him happiness, and he de-transitioned.
@@k3th.b.w122 genital mutilation is injury to the genitalia for non medical reasons. Emphasis on "non medical". Transgender surgeries ARE a medical necessity for the mental well being of the affected individual. Henceforth, not genital mutilation... 😬
@@rayne795 When you use the word “mutilation,” that has connotations of disfigurement and severe injury. It’s really offensive to call gender-affirming surgeries “mutilation,” because these are very necessary procedures for some trans people because of how awful dysphoria can be. It’s not mutilation if the person a) asked for the surgery and b) is happy with the results. I know I’m not going to change your mind, so don’t bother replying. This is more to educate anyone who comes across this comment thread.
I like how, because she had an easy time getting hormones, she sees it as an easy thing. Not everyone has an easy time with it, not everyone lives close by to these kinds of places
"While transgenders could date their same-sex significant other while looking like the opposite sex." Do I have to point out what's wrong with this statement? I think this is the source of the problem: this person didn't understand what transgender means...
She could have changed the whole tone of this article simply by saying, "Think about transitioning before doing it, because while it may be right for some, it wasn't right for someone like me". But she said you WILL regret transitioning like as if all other trans people are as miserable as her. And that is not the right thing to take away
I know this story is just so fake, but it still scared me so much that I just had to take a break from the video and sob it out. It shouldn't have to be that scary... I shouldn't have to be scared like this
Fun story. When I was younger I felt just like her. I always was more into "boys" stuff and even pretended to be a boy, I'd hide my hair, kinda sticking them in my t-shirt and even pack, putting something as if a had a dick. I started doing that when I was about 5. Also I always knew I liked girls but when I was thinking about it I'd rather think that I was male (probably because I didn't even know what being a lesbian was). So when I was 15 I found out about trans people and felt like I related to it. I researched a lot and hoped to get on hormones one day. But time passed by and started to realize that actually I want to love girls while being a girl myself so I understood that I'm not trans. It was homophobia, making me believe I was a trans man. But my story absolutely does not mean that every trans person is just confused. No, I was confused and I'm happy that I figured it out
i had the same exact urges!! fantasizing about sex from a males perspective and wanting to be physically male... i think i’m just gender fluid and bi though. my identity is very confusing to me but that doesn’t mean that trans people are confused it just means that they’ve put a lot of consideration into it to sort out their confusion and they’ve come out the other side hopefully in a more secure place
@@emmacarignan8703 yup I feel your pain dude its like a curiosity that will pass with time oh how I wish we could just have a character selection screen everymornin
It's great that you figured yourself out! Congrats to that. You know what's funny? I'm the exactly opposite. I used to love "girly" things, I also never cared about boys or girls. Dating never interested me, idk know why. So I just assumed I was a cis het girl. When I was a kid I loved art and music, playing pretend, horses, pink and dressing up. All the typical little girl things. But then puberty hit and dysphoria started and I stopped doing those things. Now I'm a trans guy art major who plays DnD. The past is in the past and all that matters is how we feel right now!
When I told my family I was trans, they asked me "what did you read to make you think this?" and then they said "I'll never support your decision because god created men and women" yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
Hey hope you guys get better and are able to transition (if you want to). Also Sam is right take you time with it and try to get your parents to understand.
That article is dangerous. She generalizes her experience for the whole ftm trans & transmasculine community. We're not confused women. The testosterone and weight gain is very subjective. I've actually been able to lose weight easier because T gives me more energy than I had before. I went from 290 to 250 and still losing because I want top surgery. & My prediabetes has gotten better. I also think there's an issue with women who have body dysmorphia being diagnosed with gender dysphoria, but I'm rambling now.
Jordan Yo you sound v cool man. I’m a fellow ftm transgender man. I am on hormone blockers right now and am hoping to start T. I’m turning 14 soon. I am making sure that this is what I want. Hopefully others will not bully me for not having a deep voice and shit like that. That’s why I need them so bad. Depressed, have body dysmorphia and social anxiety. I was diagnosed 3 years ago. Change my name and cut my hair, on hormone blockers right now. Hoping for T.
She's confused, but I'm not, so does that mean that I shouldn't take steps to improve my own life just bc it didn't work out for her? I honestly feel sorry for what she's been through but she's got to understand that not everyone has had her experiences, and not everyone is confused.
When I was pre T and my mom was against me transitioning, these were the articles she found and read which confirmed her doubts. She thought I was tricked into thinking I was trans because of my friends when I was the first open trans dude in my friend group. She read these articles which fed into her fears and let her fear control her.. She convinced herself I would be happy for a few years and then suddenly detransition and hate myself. It made transitioning take way longer and still gives her doubt too this day.. they’re so harmful.
@@waterwraith1189 My situation was the exact same, I told my family that I'm trans and they asked me about "what I read" to make me think that I "should be trans". I'm 100% sure I'm mtf and I've wanted to live as a girl since childhood, but no *i DoN't KnOw My TrUe SeLf*
"Gender dysphoria"= social dysphoria/anxiety. It's the same feeling insecure overweight people feel when surrounded by a bunch of slim people. When you feel like your gender restricts you socially, of course you'll be uncomfortable with yiur body.
@@drearperry8727 Except it's not a "social" restriction exclusively. Social anxiety, while real in an of itself, is not the *only* way gender dysphoria affects someone. It oftens impacts them privately and without the need of external influence. Gender identity is not a social construct in the way you have framed it here. Gender dysphoria is a very personal, very real, very profound, and often an unavoidably uncomfortable experience. Please don't minimize it by comparing it to how an overweight person feels around slim people.
@@autumn.redhawke *"It often impacts them privately and without the need if extremal influence"* How would you even know this? Most people don't even talk about their insecurities and where they stem from? If you really believe our insecurities don't come from outside influence, you're a dishonest fool.
Transitioning wasn’t the right thing for her and thats fine. She felt so miserable because she isn’t a guy but what she seems to forget is that this is how transpeople feel before transitioning. Just because she did regret it, doesn’t mean others are gonna regret it.
I hate stories like that, I was pretty young when I had the disconnect. I was maybe 4-5, I thought about it when I was about 19 and I spent every day thinking about it till I was like 23. I have been on T almost 2 years and I'm happy about it 100%
HRT didn’t almost kill her, her deciding to go on it blindly did, as well as her diet choices. This is embarrassing and why people need to actually *think* before transitioning.
zara McMenamie oh, it did lmao. I seriously wanted to die all of the time. The only thing that kept me going was knowing that it was only a 9 month commitment to get the baby that I so desperately wanted and loved
zara McMenamie Thank you! She’s 1.5 now. Very intelligent, and the center of my universe. I couldn’t be happier. I’ve been back on T since she was 6 weeks old and no one would suspect that I carried her :)
Rian A your story almost sounds like an amazing myth, like promothues and the story of fire, or Hercules and his deeds. Congrats on finding your truth and having an amazing child!
From my research, exogenous T can raise your cholesterol, thicken your blood (polycythemia -- basically too many RBCs), and it can tip the balance into (pre)diabetes if you are predisposed to it (or if you gain 50 pounds, like she did). Of course, you gain the muscle mass and perhaps fat too. It also sounds like she did have shitty doctors, but it sounds like she was not taking care of herself, working out, etc. The thick, puffy, discolored skin? What's up with that? Meh. She wasn't trans. It does seem like there are easier ways to deal with being gay and having internalized homophobia. You can go to therapy. You can stay in the closet. Not recommended, but it's a lot simpler than transitioning.
No yall don't understand,, it's a bad movie. We suffer and whoever wrote this shit is fapping to us suffer because i know what it is like to be a writer
Hearing people jump straight into hormones and surgery first is always the scariest things i can hear. like being a trans kid by the time im on hrt i will have been on blockers for 4 years. I'm sure by the time I get SRS I will have been trans for more of my life than cis. Like this aint a race. it takes years for hormones to show effects. Passing is like 90% a non-medical thing
Also, the thing about being 18 and being a legal adult is that you can actually do what you want, no one is going to babysit you and stop you anymore. Some people don't realize this and don't take the time to really think things through because they expect someone else to stop them if it's a bad choice. The truth is no one is going to stop you,, so think things through as an adult.
Right and that is the way the world should work . People need to stop blaming every stupid decision on everything else but their own decisions they choose
This is the kind of stuff my mom would tell me to convince me not to transition 😃 Like, I've noticed that people who detransition usually transition for the "wrong" reasons (The story my mom told me was that the girl transitioned because she was sexually assaulted and hated her body, so she transitioned to become a man. Then she detransitioned because she liked feminine things)
i love how she says she didn’t get a single soul telling her she was wrong “because it was 2017”. it’s 3 years later and a bunch of people who have kind of known me for a couple years think they know me better than i do and think i couldn’t possibly be a guy like i severely doubt she’s telling am accurate story she just wants to be right
she transitioned because she wanted to dare her girlfriend without being judged. she never experienced dysphoria, she is NOT TRANS! she is literally homophobic and transphobic all at the same time. amazing 🙄
just like any major decision in anyones life, if you do it for the wrong reasons, AKA do it for other people other than for strictly yourself (and saying its because you 'wanna hold hands with your GF without being discriminated as a woman for it in public' is not the strict self reason you think it is), then yes, you are doomed to regret it.
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please PLEASE remember to take your time and do not rush into transitioning. i would never want anyone else to have to experience something like this. the transitioning and detransitioning rate has been on the rise lately. transitioning has very permanent and serious affects on you so just please be aware of how serious transitioning really is. not to make this into a serious rant but you have so much time, take your time and you will discover who you are.
It WAS destroying her body in the sense that she took medication for something she didn't have, in the same way that if you take an antidepressant when you don't need it, you might get seratonin disorder. This article should've been more of a nuanced position of making sure you're ACTUALLY trans before you transition because it is permanent and not everyone is or will be transgender even if they want to be, instead of saying it doesn't work and it won't work for anyone and it's "mutilation"... if you're not trans and you transition, YOU WILL GET DYSPHORIA. YOU CANNOT JUST SAY YOU'RE TRANS AND YOU'LL MAGICALLY BE TRANSGENDER. In my opinion this is the result of people saying that you don't need dysphoria to be trans, non trans people transitioning, and then the dysphoria they gain leaving them extremely mad at the trans people who told them that they didn't need dysphoria.
Love how u like your own comment 😂
hey sam! i’m trans and have been out for a year. i have a supportive family who have supported me and have helped me get in touch with specialists. i’m in the uk and want to go private so i can be seen quicker and i’m 100% positive testosterone will make me a lot happier. would you say 16 is too young? :)
I’m off t 😰
Glad that Sam and others show that not all trans people aren't confused Other LGBT thinking their different.
My sister, a female since birth, has her driver's license marked as male, by accident and hasn't bothered to change it and I dont know where I'm going with this.
Jajsjshs I'm crying
it would be a good idea for her to change it because women get lower car insurance rates.
when I got my drivers license when I was 16 the DMV gave me no restrictions even though I'm legally blind. so legally I can drive without glasses, however that would be a very bad idea
Hahahah my sisters passport says male
Tessa Red same with me!!
“Mutilated? No. That’s sex.” -wise words from Greek sculpted man
Mmmmmmhmmmmm
Mutilated? No. Actually very very pretty boy.
zeus could n e v e r
He ain't wrong
and money
Hi Sam.... I’m new here and so glad I found you.
I’m a 57 year old woman and you have gifted me with insight I was lacking.
Thank you for that.
Lisa
It's so nice to see someone from an "older generation" still keeping an open mind and still trying to learn. Maybe there is hope for us trans people. Thank you for that, I hope you stay healthy and happy.
this comment made my day :)) only a few members of my famy will ever be supportive of me and my decisions, so seeing this just makes me glad that there might be trans children who dont have to have transphobic parents/grandparents :)
THATS GONNA MAKE ME CRY OMG
OMG LISA WE STAN ☝️😩
LISA WE LOVE YOU ❤️
this girl said the only opinion she will ever care about is her grandfather’s but then proceeded to say she didn’t want to quit testosterone cause she was afraid of what people might think 🤔🤔
mte like the entire thing is precisely about her caring way too much about what literally everybody else might think and not even stopping to think about what's actually right for her :/
Literally
N P H exactly
IM WEAKKKKKKKK
N P H
There can be some middle ground. Instead of believing the world should cater and center around you only, make efforts to bring others in.
Of course you should be true to oneself but always keeping others feelings a priority. Give understanding of others as a marker in life.
If everyone is about their self this will become a lonely world.
sounded like if the people around her were okay w her being a male, they wouldve been okay with her being a lesbian
Yeah like, I'm also pretty sure it's easier to just come out as lesbian than going through the entire process of transitioning
that’s exactly what i was thinking. it’s a lot less life-changing and obviously who she always was.
duckyodino as a bi peep, I agree!!
Yeah, I know way too many people who are accepting of gay/bisexual people, but are also transphobic. Not so much the other way around. Generally if they're find with you transitioning then they'll be okay with your sexuality.
Coming out as gay is also a lot cheaper than letting that internalized homophobia lead you to believe that being attracted to the same sex means you're the opposite sex.
Damn boi that's kinda true tho
The whole article is basically: "I took cold pills even though I don't have a cold, and I'm mad about it"
Check out Keira Bell’s case she won in the UK. The judgement reading is interesting.
Lol or like putting gorilla glue in your hair
"...so now i'm mad about it. therefore, people with a cold don't take cold pills."
@@kumashock4074 don't be racist please. We don't need that here.
@@Vyper78 What-?
love how she skipped the social transition stage with the people she was closet to. like using a new name and pronouns with a friend for a few days to see if it gave her euphoria???
Exactly. Try out a new set of pronouns and name with a friend or family member. Change your hairstyle or wear clothes associated with your gender. Research terms. I thought I was agender, genderfluid and a trans boy before realising I'm non binary. It took me over a year to figure it out.
Truth. Social transition is a very important step.
yeah.. thats what you do
The fact is that she never understood what being trans was really about. She wanted to transition because she thought it would have made her life easier, not because she felt dysphoria. She thought that she had to PUT UP (sorry if it caps lock I don't know how to underline it) with the discomfort of being perceived as a man to get to her goal.
@@elettradelpin230 this! She didn't tackle her internalized homophobia and decided to be trans 🙄
“same sex relationships while looking like the other sex” ..... can someone else also see what’s wrong with that statement.
YeAH
It technically is correct bc sex is usually defined based on genitals. (Sex and gender are different)
Axel yes, that’s true it is different, but she is speaking of being transgender, not transsexual. i’m mostly pointing out her ignorance of not fully understanding what it is being transgender and rushing into it. she, herself, doesn’t realize there’s a difference between sex and gender.
@@Axel-wh2gy sex is based on a whole profile of different things. Otherwise it would be simple for castor semenya to flash her junk to Olympic officials to stay competing as a female runner and leave her naturally high testosterone levels alone
Sounds kinda terf to me bro
I.... i can’t with this girl. She literally followed to do this because she was unhappy with herself, and then she jumped right in to meds. Smh.
awkward me I mean I’m 14 and I’ve came out a year ago and I’m starting t Friday! But tbh she should’ve waited and looked more into it
Malec Magic Yo so happy for you! I’m 13 turning 14 and I live in the UK. Getting private treatment I hope! I’m on hormone blockers right now but I really need T. V depressed and my body image issues are slowly killing me 😂. Tell me how it goes 🤪
Jacob Clement I’ll definitely update you!!😂 and don’t worry you’ll get it soon!!
Yes, that's why people are against every medical professional being bullied into prescribing hormones in case they lose their career and life for daring to question somebody.
@Matt H. you really have to educate yourself. Transition is the actual help for gender dysphoria. Or would you rather people invent drugs (when you already assume people are drugged when they are not lol) that block your personality, your true self? Don't you think that would be worse? Would that be your ideal treatment for people with a disorder you can't grasp how it feels like because you don'T have it? Or do you have actual ideas how to solve Gender Dysphoria without suppressing a persons individuality and mind?
Uuugh, one of my friends sent me this article trying to "prove" my best friend (a sixty one year old transgendered man, soooo, pretty sure he's not "confused" ) is going to regret starting T again. Both of our eyes rolled so far back we could see the nineties.
😂😂😂😂
I DIED
Lol ily gurl, that was a good joke u made
😂😂😂
I'm glad that your trans friend has a person like you in his life
The way she felt when she was all on testosterone is how some trans people feel in their pre transition body.
It rubbed me wrong when she said “I didn’t look like I was gay, I had long blonde hair” ...femme lesbians exist lol
then again we all knew what she meant. thats literally the least problematic part of the article for me. the girl is obviously so stupid she couldnt even write a compelling fake article
“Mom, Dad, I’m gay,”
“What?! But you’re blonde!!”
I love how she's talking about being gay as if it's a physical trait that people can see. Yeah, if you're gay, it shows, the gayness will radiate out of you to alerts everyone.
She literally described what I look like & I'm a flaming homosexual lmfao
Ombre Nightcores this comment made me lose it
Girl straight up just hated herself. Calling herself a “dyke” in a negative connotation and admitting to her internalized homophobia. She just wanted a reason to feel “straight”. Which is not a good reason to transition. The whole article is a her problem being insecure and I pity that :(
@Mr S overweight people losing weight? they hate themselves! me going to the hairdresser to change the color of my hair? wow girl stop hating yourself!
@@janine2957 i really dont think you should compare transitioning with losing weight or getting a haircut. in order for a person to make such drastic changes to their body there should be a lot of psychological help in the first place to make sure that this is something that will actually help the person and isnt dont out of wrong motives
I feel like someone should have caught on with her issue and told her. Unless she didn't tell anyone
It’s sad. It’s like her only reason for doing anything was to make the people around her happy. And no one sat her down and asked her about it
Isn't that where most of this stuff stems from? Hate for one's current self?
And this kids, is why being Trans, Gay, Hetero, etc. can't be a decision.
Precisely
Why can't it be?
vamperkillz because this girl was jealous of trans men therefore she tried to become a trans man, but she is not a man so doing so causes great distress. Had she actually been a trans man with gender dysphoria it should have helped. Do you understand? :)
@@vamperkillzshy Yes it just can't. I didn't put much thought on what gender I prefered since I do like acting feminine but immediatley I knew I liked being male. Also I did try to make it seem like i was a girl (it really wasnt that hard for me to do) and I felt like it wasn't me.
@@vamperkillzshy The 2 replies above mine pretty much said everything I wanted to say...
2:46 the bit about "can date their (same-sex) while looking like the opposite sex" gets me. It's quite clear that she Doesn't view Trans people as they are. She quite clearly just wanted to get over her internalized homophobia.
Exactlyyyy If I'm a lesbian, and my girlfriend is transitioning, I can't say I want to still be in a relationship with a transgender boy if I like girls like tf
wild. i lost 50 pounds on T because i stopped being so depressed and began to feel more comfortable in my body.
i know..i mean, the logic is just wonderful! makes full sense.
**cough cough** sarcasm **cough cough**
@Simon W. your appetite probably increased with your happiness maybe? not that they're the same, but that's why a lot of anti-depressants result in weight gain, because depression suppresses your appetite.
it can work the other way around though, like if someone used food and/or binges often to cope with their depression, feeling happier means they dont need to run to food as often, so they lose weight.
Nyctophile I use food to cope sometimes and I still gain weight on antidepressants ugh, so it’s not all black and white. Actually it’s almost _worse_ when I’m happy in a weird way because I’m not always worrying about what I eat or how I look to other people. Now that might sound good but its effects aren’t. But yeah that is true for a lot of people.
@@ashleyk8406 i definitely agree with you, nothing in life is ever black/white.
your metabolism might be out of balance due to going back and forth between not really eating and eating, which might be causing your weight gain. when your body doesnt get enough food your metablism slows to compensate, so that when you do eat, it will digest slower to conserve and absorb more energy.
when you start eating "normally" again, its going to take a while for your metabolism to return to its normal levels, so you're going to experience pretty rapid weight gain for a bit. if you continue eating well though, itll go back to normal and tht weight will come off naturally.
i know all this because i have an ED, and ive experienced this more than once. just thought you might want to know :)
Nyctophile Thank you love.
“At 18, I wasn’t even old enough to buy alcohol”
*Laughs in Canadian*
;-; im moving to Canadian
*Laughs in European*
And here i am, laughing in Swiss
In France you can buy alcohol at 16, but not hard alcohol. Hard alcohol comes at 18
*Joins in German*
“You wouldn’t be able to tell by looking at me; I had long hair and makeup” because the length of your hair and makeup choices are so relevant to which people you date, are attracted to, and have sex with!!
Ignores the fact men can have long hair and women can have short hair and it doesn't change who they are.
I have long hair welp guess im straight
@@KarmatheCorgi yup my brother (tbh I’ve never straight up asked and I assume he’s straight Bc he’s only dated girls but I shouldn’t speak for him and I can’t confirm” has legit always had long hair. Ranging from scuffy/punky, to his metal head phase to his recent “academic hippie” look lol. He’s 22 and it’s been that way since I can remember. Even in our bsby pics it’s shoulder length.
Of course when he was younger and during the cursed late 2000s to mid 2010s people would call him a girl or make some dumb comment because he had a baby face, but he’s otherwise a fairly masculine dressing snd presenting guy, like I said used to be big into the metal and post punk scene.. just a more alt dude who likes his hair long.
My best friend is biracial and does combat sports, thick and toned, always done boy short hair, either a faux-hawk or just short when she wears it natural, no makeup seldom even on her wedding day.. but she’s straight af, used to be BOY CRAZY before she got w current partner, still enjoys fashion and bath bombs and glittery things..
I shouldn’t have to say this but like there is no reason for this stuff to matter. It’s hair, it’s color to enhance or creatively change your face, it’s fabric on your body.
If I ever have kids I have no desire to “know the sex” and refuse to decorate their room in a gendered way and when they’re old enough to start having preferences and expressing the self and what not around toddler age I’ll just let them look around and try out and check out different toys and outfits and just pick whatever they think is cool. I’ll ask them how they went their hair cut or what types of activities and books they’re interested in trying out.. that’s it. Not pushing gender roles on your kid nor “manipulating them to be trans”. Just letting them be a human. When they’re old enough to process it gradually and as long as they accept their AG I’ll be real with them about what it means to be that gender snd if they’re nb or trans i prey to god they hsve s better world by then but I’ll learn and support them thru everything
@@sad-qy7jz "Just letting them be a human." Yes. This. 1000% this. Just let people be who they are.
Sadly, in Latinoamerica, if you cut your hair, society will tell you that you look like a "boy", likewise if your a guy with long hair. Here, society is soo fucked up and homophobic, transphobic and very intorelant.
But u know what? Fuck society, I Just want to love and I don't want to be bothered for it
I think this is the second time I’ve gone through this video, and I really appreciate the way you approach this topic, Sam. It’s a lot of fun to see your personality mixed in with honest compassion.
Hey OneTopic! I didn't know you watched Sam Collins. Nice.
BRO YOU'RE HERE TOO! DOPE!
Hey OT! Same here. I think back to this video a lot. It's so sad to see someone go through so much internal pain just to put themselves through unnecessary physical pain. Transitioning should be an exciting and satisfying process to the individual, not seen as a terrifying nightmare.
Hey bro! I didn’t think I would see you here 😊 haha this is epic
Woah hi there OT
I love how TERFs talk about trans people encouraging others to transition. Here you are telling people to not rush into things. I am a post op trans woman. I tell people that they shouldn't transition unless they need to. If your sexual anatomy doesn't bother you; it's probably best not to radically alter it. If I regretted my SRS I would be screwed.
And a person is trans (or cis) regardless of whether they do anything about it. A lot of people can't or don't want to do surgery but are still valid
Idk some people dont feel dysphoria but wish to pass and go through with it.
i definitely think people should put a LOT of thought into it before they start physically transitioning, I think before physically transitioning people should live as the gender they think they are identify as it and all and imaging how it would be if they were a cis person born as the gender they think they are and if that all feels right then they should definitely be able to transition
@@MidnightEkaki But there's still a ton of thought and decision to put into this. I can't transition, but I know that if I could I'd still put thought into it.
@@ilikedarknes3351 Social transition is such an important step! For me personally, I approached it bit by bit, taking notes as I went as that was how I processed it best. I asked my sister and friends to try using they/them pronouns for me. Then a different name. Bought a binder and switched up my gender presentation. Gave my new name when ordering coffee and started introducing myself as it when meeting new people. Figured out what I liked and didn't. Talked to other people in the trans/nonbinary community. Only after I had done all this, and was as sure as I felt I could be in my nonbinary identity did I consider what parts of physical transitioning I wanted. Coming to terms with yourself can be such an emotionally stressful time, and it's best to be logical and calm when it comes to stuff that's gonna last a lifetime.
if she was dating a lesbian and she transitioned i don’t think they’d want to hold her hand anymore-
It’s homosexuality not homogenderality.
ᅳb e l l yes, but if you were attracted to strictly females
That’s so insulting to trans men when “””””lesbians”””””” say they like trans men
ᅳb e l l that heavily implies that straight trans men are lesbians, which they clearly aren’t.
Their girlfriend might not have been a lesbian
Another title - "Lesbian girl had such intense internalised homophobia that she thought transitioning would stop it" OR " Lesbian thought being Trans was choice"
It's actually what they do in the Iran to homosexual people. They are only allowed to live their sexuality if they transition into the opposite gender.
Right?????? Girl sounds like u just wanted to be a butch lesbian n u were scared
shut up i used to be gay
Getting professional help is the first thing to do, make sure that is the path you want to take.
lol its weird how she hated being gay so much but she had no problem with transgenderism. most homophobes have a problem with both, and if its only one then its usually being gay.
"If you're not trans, thanks for watching. You're really cool. Glad that you're interested in the subject."
Me: ... 🙂❤️
also me: :) 🥰
😁❤
KUKAKYOTOTOKYO i’m not trans but i am gay, and i’m a fierce ally of the rest of lgbtq+ because i’m proud to be who i am, and i want everyone to be just as proud.
Im pan but same 😊💕
Not trans and straight here! I just absolutely love the lgbtq+ community in general, plus I love learning more about all of them 😁❤️
Side note: Sam is the best boi and we stan 👌
This article is total bs, but here I am to say:
It’s okay if you think you have your identity figured out, and then realize you were wrong. I used to think I was bisexual, then realized I was actually asexual and biromantic. Pretty much everyone in the LGBTQ+ community once thought they were straight/cis then realized that wasn’t them. Sexuality, romance, and gender is complicated, and it’s okay if it takes you a while to figure it out.
"At 18 I wasn't old enough to buy alcohol"
**Laughs in European**
Same thought here **sips beer at age 17** greetings from Germany
*laughs in Aussie*
What softies!
AshyVinc indians go the hardest, our classmates’ parents buy us beer
*laughs in canadian*
ahh children
In my country it's way too easy to buy alcohol when you're underage. I'm 15 and bought a bottle of vodka at 7am without even being questioned....
She hated being gay and decided transitioning would fix everything? Not a wise decision, she's also blaming therapists for her not thinking things through.
nah i gotta agree that a therapist who will diagnose dysphoria after like, 9 hours of knowing someone is probably pretty bad, but on the other hand we don't know thats she didn't lie to them in those sessions
@@nb_knight5251 it really seems like she is misrepresenting things. But on the off chance that what she is true, that was indeed a really bad therapist.
@@nb_knight5251 exactly what I was thinking they might both be at fault and from what I’m reading she probably had a bias since she said she wanted the transition by 19 so she must’ve rushed to answer to the unprofessional shitty therapists because she felt pressured to act in a way she would get her transition done
Im afab cant decide if FtM or demiboy :/ im bi and i prefer men so when i trasition i would actually be more gay then im now soo.. idk if that make sense.
@Sey no more i meant more gay from the view of society becouse i mostly date men and now society sees my as a women so when i transition to man then from their point of view i would be more gay even thou my sexuality didnt change :D it make sens in my head but idk
Am I the only one that gets kinda offended when people call us “transgenders” like dang didn’t know me being trans got rid of my identity as a human being
Well, when they talk about transgender people, the correct way to refer to them is "transgender." Although I understand that it sounds somewhat abrupt, but it is the correct way to say it xD
I mean, it’s not really any different than saying “blacks” or “whites”. It doesn’t imply that you’re not human. It’s just a part of you. We all have something we can be identified by. I guess “transsexuals” sounds more natural in the plural form, but I’m not sure if that term has fallen out of favor or not.
Ashley Kleinvehn If you’re still calling black people “blacks” I feel like that’s a little effed up
Lane Dehnel Examples: “Blacks won the right to vote.” “Blacks killed in hate crimes.” “Whites migrated to the suburbs.” “Many whites did not like the new civil rights laws.” None of those phrases sound weird to me. In fact it could very well sound like something out of my history textbook.
sorry, you can’t be a human and a transgender. gotta separate the sensible (humans) from the non-sensible (trans) (joke, if this offends you let me know and i’ll delete it)
This sounds like a transgender fan fiction by a straight person. Especially when she says “I forced people to play along with it.”
It really does lol. I want to live in that world where everyone is just accepting and encouraging you to be transgender. 🤣
@@kairi4640 for real! Me too. I don’t understand what people get out of being so hateful.
Yeah, this story sounds a bit fake. As a cis person, there are some inaccuracies here that make it sound like someone didn't do research. Could be they exaggerated in the story, could be they are really that impulsive and don't pay attention, but IDK...
What gets me is she says she practically transitioned only a couple weeks after starting hormones, idk how it works in America but where I live you have to live as a man without hormones for a full year before you’re waitlisted for surgery
*cis person
The fact that she thought that because SHE wasn't transgender, that transgender people don't exist, is so weird to me.
Imagine taking insulin if you aren't diabetic, getting side effects, and then arguing that diabetic people don't exist.
Honestly. Same with asthma and depression. Can't take the medication if you're not diagnosed
@@gordonramsayslambsauce Tell the alphabet company this & the over 50 gender clinics & the thousands percent increase in transitioning. It's a f*ng joke/nightmare. The alphabet company is recruiting children left & right. Posters gender snowmen saying feelings dictate who you are. Doctors/therapists making a boatload of $$ & sterilizing children & mind fucking. The madness has to stop. Transgender is rare but a movement has made it a fashion statement. "It's better/cool/woke to be trans than homosexual." Read Ray Blanchard's work. Parents pat themselves on their backs. The alphabet company is promoting sexualizing children out of the womb. It's beyond disturbing. It's abuse. I guess it got boring being in adult's bedrooms & so the movement is towards children's bedrooms. Abuse!! California schools in middle school teach about orifices & what you can stick in them for pleasure you or your partner. Are you f*ng kidding me? Drag kids are shaking ass in bars for adults. Mothers are Munchausen' children to gender clinics who say, "Yes, yes, your child is transgender," without any real dialogue. Folks should not transition until their late 20s and even then it's a lifelong medical condition. It's a difficult journey & alphabet company is not really meeting the needs of any group anymore just political shills.
@Mandy That was the stupidest sentence ever, and it made no sense. There are scientific reasonings behind the cause of dysphoria and transitioning, you people just refuse to believe it
@@donaldsteckler5667 You can visibly transition whenever the hell you want, cutting/growing hair, wearing more feminine/masculine/androgynous clothing, etc. Testosterone/estrogen is something that a guardian has to sign for minors, but they do that because not only will dysphoria just totally drain your energy, but puberty is horribly difficult to go through when you're trans and need to transition. I think that before transitioning, you need to be diagnosed or talk to a therapist if you can afford to do so, just to be sure. But this case in particular came from internalized homophobia, where she transitioned for a stupid reason
@Mandy that made literally NO sense but okay
“‘The Transgenders.’ Sounds like a movie” 🤣
What would our superpower be?
The ability to pass unnoticed
I'd watch it
@@fujoshipeanut5074 yeah same
@@katepittman498 I wish sksksk
so she mainly just had internalised homophobia, so she's going to tell every transgender person they shouldn't transition? and she's blaming others for treating her as trans when she wasn't, when she said she thought she was?
that's what bothered me sm because everyone is different
@@SupraMan38 yeah, it's kinda bothering me too, so I don't blame you. But she really shouldn't tell other transgender people not to transition, because she made that choice, and come to realise she wasn't actually trans.
She basically transitioned so she wouldn't feel judged for being lesbian lmao I'm done with the internet😤 who gives a shit what other people think of you no need to pretend to be someone you aren't just so people won't judge you
Gamer Wes yes preach
It wouldn’t be surprising also if she had to fool her therapist and make her believe she is trans for her to get hormones that quickly. For example saying that she always felt that way when that isn’t true because that’s what therapists look for when they test you
summary of the article: how DARE all these people actually TRUST ME and not see through how stupid i was?!! if they had just thought carefully on my behalf i wouldn't have done all this
holy frick you’re right tho lmao-
gets paper cut
" IM NEVER USING PAPER AGAIN SO YOU CANT EITHER"
Are you serious? I mean, how can you even compare these two things. Paper cuts don't change people's lives, unlike transitioning. Dude, really, think before you speak.
@@sabotagingmyself OMG I am zambi and take things sooooo literally
@@sabotagingmyself you need to shut up bro if you aint gone help or be nice go away stop watching a trans vid if you don't like talking about it lol
@@sabotagingmyself ...??
@@sabotagingmyself ever heard of an analogy?
Turns out transitioning doesn't change:
* Homophobia
* Transphobia
* Shitty decision making
ReAlLy?!?!
*or other persons prejudices (they will judge anyone not cis and/ or straight. Transitioning won't change them either)
@@familiacraneo4306 Always gunna be some pointless haters out there who will crap on you no matter what. EF em lol. Let em die mad : )
Lmao it doesn’t make you any less of a complete asshole either
@@soyborne.bornmadeandundone1342 #letemdiemad
“My pet dog died so nobody can have dogs now.”
Lmao more like "I lied to a doctor to get pills to use to kill my dog so nobody can have dogs now"
No one can eat cake cause I’m on a diet
No one can eat at McDonald’s because I didn’t like the egg McMuffin I got two years ago
I convinced my mom to get me ice cream and i'm lactose intolerant, but its her fault and no one should ever eat ice cream
My mom is a child psychologist and she does encounter kids who identify as transgender but later on change their mind. She is extremely accepting of the LGBTQ+ community and has worked with transgender kids. When a kid says they are transgender, my mom will talk to them and make sure this was what they want and not to rush into it
This is such a cool job
I been waiting almost a decade to even start testosterone, I didnt even talk about it, at this point, I'll wait an extra 5 years or so to finally transition, people like this young lady often need to learn to take responsibility and become a proper adult. I, almost 18, have been waiting long, rocky, confusing, emotional years to be who I am.
I mean young kids don’t transition in permanent ways anyway so it’s really not that deep.
Your mom is doing good work
@@Cries_In_Vampire you’re still trans if you’re genderfluid tho
She had a problem, but being trans wasn’t the answer. Sometimes we’re all confused and that’s okay but try your best to identify your feelings, and even if you detransition just don’t claim that transitioning won’t make you happy, because there’s lots of people who genuinely have dysphoria and that’s why they transition, not because they want to date a gender without being judged.
This chick really wants to blame trans people instead of taking any responsibility
Exactly
@Marie Helser not really. There was an outside influence excusing every choice she made.
Your an ass. Look up Keira Bell
“That doesn’t look like mutilation, that looks like. s e x .” -Sam Collins, 2019
and m o n e y
@@therockobama5344 agreed.
When the norm to be straight is so strong that you change gender just to not be gay.XD
"Youre always destroying your body.... If you're breathing in New York"
Me, A queens, ny resident: *hyperventilates*
Mutt Teeth or you have a car accident
dont hyperventilate you’ll inhale more of the air
@@tperez210 I think that's the point
I see nothing wrong with detransitioners speaking out. It simply wasn't the right choice for THEM. And I think that therapists / doctors should be more vigilant in making sure people who come out as trans really are trans.
I also worry about detransitioners being used as a way to discredit / delegitimize people who truly are transgender. And I don't think it's right for detransitioners to assume that what worked (or didn't work) for them will work for everyone else.
I agree
but the way she said it was “i made a bad decision and now YOU CAN’T DO THE THING I PERSONALLY REGRETTED”
The issue with the article is that it misinforms people about what hormones will do to you
I don't think anyone has an issue with detransitioners sharing their stories, it's just when they start blaming the existence of trans people that i'm mad about.
PERIODT
This entire story is just her admitting that she chose to be trans
I loooove how she tried to blame the therapists. Look, the therapists only know from what you tell them. If you tell them you have dysphoria, that youve always felt this way and you believe 10000% that you are male, theyre going to diagnose you with gender dysphoria and allow you to be on T. Its not the therapists fault that you neglected to tell them you were a confused lesbian who for some reason thought if they were trans that life would get better.
God, this chick is irritating.
What are we paying them for if they just believe anything that comes out of someone's mouth. That's dumb, naive and dangerous.
@@dracochapman8295 and most trans just want to be attractive to who they want to attract.
That’s the point though - the therapists are meant to be experts and able to diagnose correctly using the diagnostic measures.
It’s gross negligence at best.
Their whole role is to work with people who are vulnerable, anxious and or confused.
@@AS-bg9et EXACTLY.
I find it stupid that the second she thought maybe I'm trans she started trying for a permanent change. Instead of like binding, cutting her hair, and whereing guy clothing. You can change all of that easily but instead she was like hey why don't I PERMANENTLY change my body three seconds after thinking I MIGHT be trans.
Story: when I was 16 I was struggling with my gender identity and I wanted to identify as nonbinary with they/them pronouns but everyone around me told me that it wasn't real and to just identify as a trans male, so I did that and I physically represented myself as male and went by he/him pronouns for 2 years. My mother was extremely transphobic and told me a lot of detrimental and invalidating things that made me want to transition more. I was put into foster care when I was 17 and started testosterone from there. In my case I rushed this and went with the first therapist I could find and was given testosterone within 2-3 weeks (hastey ik) I stayed on hormones until I was 18 and realized that I still felt off. Now that I was in a more accepting demographic (I moved to LA from Orange County) I stopped my testosterone "cold turkey" and had the last meeting with my hormone therapist before transferring.
In short: I felt nothing from the cut of testosterone besides some mood swings, I have a slightly deeper voice but I actually like this one way more anyways, and I'm turning 22 in February of 2021 and still strongly identify as nonbinary. I'm glad to have the toxic transphobes out of my life, and personally I don't regret attempting to transition one bit.
Happy late birthday ! Im glad that you feel comfortable with the way you are, that's the point anyway !
❤️
I'm very happy that you're at a good place in your life. Your story reminds me of a friend. They now identify as nonbinary, but when they were a youth coming out as trans in the 00's, they didn't have the vocabulary to articulate how they felt. I'm really glad that you're able to identify and present in the way that feels right to you.
I am glad it worked out for you. It's sad when people feel pressured to transition. I also think that folks should be able to partly transition. I see nothing wrong with going on T for a few till you get the effect you want and then stopping T. But it is super important to see a therapist before going on HRT, to make sure it's appropriate for you.
I'm glad it worked out for you :)
I'm agender and my 'friend' recently told me i cant use he/she/they pronouns because you can't use they for a single person but i can still use he/she pronouns he ultimately made fun of my pronouns and said i should just use we as a pronoun probably because 'we' refers to multiple people
I don't get how so many teachers have just let kids pass second grade not knowing that they can be used for a single person
some people are just dumb and are not educated at all
This lady made a mistake (and that is truly unfortunate), but she doesn't have to drag real trans people down just because she wasn't trans
lmfao this girl went
"ahaha, what if i was male...
jk...
unless 😳😳😳"
Hormones:
There is another😈
omfg like for realll tho
"If you're breathing in New York"
I SCREAMED
That got me *dead* 😂
Same lol
“Am I obese and having a heart attack?”
“YES.”
SAM LMAO
Fun fact over 90% of people who transition (I have this info from Samantha lux and correct me if I’m wrong) said it saved them from commeting su1cide so i belive you shouldn’t rush it but it’s really helpful to a lot of people mental health
True
I knew a girl who detransitioned bc the Jehovahs witnesses didn’t allow it. She than killed herself bc she couldn’t stand being a guy…
Glad I left not much later :/
*Mum:* I love chocolate”
*Girl:* “I want to like chocolate”
*Mum:* “Here, try some chocolate”
*Girl: “EWWWWWWW! I HATE CHOCOLATE AND SO WILL YOU!”*
The Thinking Being i like chocoletooo 😋🙋🏼♀️
*chef kiss*
The Thinking Being how in the world can you hate chocolate🤯
Thinking about it. Chocolate and genders are exactly the same. Huh, the more you know
Me here eating chocolate right now: 👁👄👁
I feel like she sees transitioning as a nose job or a crazy haircut. She just doesn't know why people do it
I love how the girl just said testosterone made her fat
Me: oh honey it ain't the testosterone
Weeber drawings SNDBDHD YEAH PREACH
junk food entered the chat
It's that chocolate cake girl. Put it down Karen
Facts
I’m on T and have LOST weight since I’ve been on it. She’s lying about everything. Right-wing, transphobic propaganda.
I'm getting my top surgery in 1 month and can't wait!!!! I've waited 49 years for this moment and I know i will never regret it and be so,so happy!!
me: out as trans for 2 years
also me: has loved being called he by accident since i was very young
me everyday: b u t w h a t i f
me:
nobody:
me:
me:
nobody:
literally nobody ever:
me:
me: questioning my gender for the last 3 years
also me: gets happy when people gender me as male since getting a short haircut, bought a binder and was sad at it not fitting, has all trans friends, is too masculine for many lesbians, literally experiences gender euphoria and dysphoria, all partners have been bi and the only compliments I remember are masculine ones
me: but what if-
me: is literally a man
also me: but what if
I had so much internalized transphobia that I hated it so much that I cant even enjoy it anymore :(
Klous the Rat Same! I've been trans for two years and it's going to be three years on June 30.
to everyone in the comments saying that some of these clinics need to be shut down, no. that's not the problem. the problem is people wanting attention or wanting to find a way out of their issues, even if it's wrong. i'm a very broke trans guy (i'm in high school, no this also isn't new for me) and these clinics can literally save lives for trans kids who can't afford not to go to these clinics.
Yeah, Sam is just giving a bad image to what transgenderism really is.
Shows shirtless photo of himself.
Sam: that's sex...and money
Me: coughing my food and almost choking to death.
When I was in second grade, I found out I was attracted to females as well as males. When I was in seventh grade, I discovered the term bisexual, and identified with that, then pansexual a week later. In eighth grade, musical.ly was big and Justing Blake was my favorite muser. He is trans. I thought that's the life I wanted for myself because of my internalized misogyny, and my cousin went through the exact same thing with me. We both cut our hair super short and decided to identify as gender fluid at school. I told my mom and she said it wasn't me. I was so angry because I thought it was awful for her to tell me who I was. But the more my cousin and I thought on it, the more we realized we are just 14 year old girls who were taught by our stepfathers that men are superior to women, and that made us envious.
I will always do everything I can to support the trans community, and I am so thankful to my cousin, and trans friends, who helped me actually think things through.
I can totally relate to this! Although I never "came out" there was a time when I didn't want to be a girl because of internalized misogyny and thought that I might be trans. Fortunately I realized that I wasn't male and just didn't want to be female and I'm happy I did.
@@samtae6217 yeah. Like how i hated how my dad would say sexist things like "less b***ching more kitchen" to my mom. I thought being a guy would make me feel better, but then i realized i just hate how sexist the world is.
In second grade, when you were seven?? I'm Australian, I don't know if your second grade is the same as ours. I think you must be very very gay hahaha I'm just being silly I'm bi/pan too but didn't recognise until I was 14.
@@mistressofstones id say we were closer to 8 in 2nd grade so idk
i found out i was bisexual in 3rd grade thanks to having some *very* gay friends ahah
“I transitioned and it gave me gender dysphoria therefore gender dysphoria isn’t real.”
Lol
I-
Lmao! I literally spit out my tea at this haha!
You’re so calm discussing every topic in every video it’s really nice
i feel like this is just some terf's fanfiction about what they think being trans is.
lmfao thats amazing
Couldn’t of said it better xD
Honestly though 🤣
I mean yeah
Yeah the story seems fake or at least very exaggerated.
Sam: " But you know what's bigger..? "
Me: " Your di- "
Sam: " These lies. "
Me: " Oh.. "
Bob the blob I mean Sam looked down so I thought it was that too
I THOUGHT THAT TOO
omg same !!!!
Me: *gay noises intensify*
Bob the blob I thought the same thing
this sounds like a propaganda article
her trans photo looks fake af
I bet you it was written by a transphobe that was trying to fearmonger the public into thinking incorrect things about trans people.
I can't remember who I heard it from (probably Miles) but some guy once said: "I'm okay with looking like an ugly version of me, as long as a look like me" and that's what these people don't get. I've seen multiple de-trans stories already and a lot of them involve the idea of becoming a more attractive version of yourself or becoming someone new. Trans people don't become something else, they become themselves, so running away from who you are bc you don't like yourself is not a reason to "become" trans. And low self-steem is not dysphoria. People need to reflect on themselves way more.
I had a friend a long time ago who was transitioning, and then de-transitioned. I do feel that he wasn't a trans woman, and was only transitioning as a way to escape an identity crises that had nothing to do with gender. As such, transitioning didn't bring him happiness, and he de-transitioned.
anyone who says "transgenders" and calls the procedures "mutilation" are IMMEDIATELY sus.
It is genital mutilation
@@k3th.b.w122 genital mutilation is injury to the genitalia for non medical reasons. Emphasis on "non medical". Transgender surgeries ARE a medical necessity for the mental well being of the affected individual. Henceforth, not genital mutilation... 😬
@katherine russo exactly and its still mutilation 😆
@@rayne795 When you use the word “mutilation,” that has connotations of disfigurement and severe injury. It’s really offensive to call gender-affirming surgeries “mutilation,” because these are very necessary procedures for some trans people because of how awful dysphoria can be. It’s not mutilation if the person a) asked for the surgery and b) is happy with the results.
I know I’m not going to change your mind, so don’t bother replying. This is more to educate anyone who comes across this comment thread.
@@k3th.b.w122 not rlly but go off c:
I like how, because she had an easy time getting hormones, she sees it as an easy thing. Not everyone has an easy time with it, not everyone lives close by to these kinds of places
for real, I know transgirls who've had to wait years and years to get E, this "I got T in 5 months!" is just fucked up
I live in a country where I have been waiting over 3 years and still have nothing
even so something like that should be better regulated.
"While transgenders could date their same-sex significant other while looking like the opposite sex."
Do I have to point out what's wrong with this statement?
I think this is the source of the problem: this person didn't understand what transgender means...
Yeah, she seems to think its like putting on a disguise. Wig, makeup, false beard, take it off when you get home.
Thank you! I was looking for this comment. If all she wanted was a disguise so that she could escape the homophobia, she was never trans.
“I went on Adderall because I had anxiety and my anxiety got worse! It’s all people with ADHD’s fault!”
Her:“The only persons opinion I care about is my granddads”
Grandad: please change back
Her: “I was too scared of what everyone would think”
She could have changed the whole tone of this article simply by saying, "Think about transitioning before doing it, because while it may be right for some, it wasn't right for someone like me". But she said you WILL regret transitioning like as if all other trans people are as miserable as her. And that is not the right thing to take away
I know this story is just so fake, but it still scared me so much that I just had to take a break from the video and sob it out. It shouldn't have to be that scary... I shouldn't have to be scared like this
I might track down the article and expose it. If I do would you like me to post the results in this thread?
@@HangryOnPaws yeah, I'd really appreciate that. Thank you
Fun story. When I was younger I felt just like her. I always was more into "boys" stuff and even pretended to be a boy, I'd hide my hair, kinda sticking them in my t-shirt and even pack, putting something as if a had a dick. I started doing that when I was about 5. Also I always knew I liked girls but when I was thinking about it I'd rather think that I was male (probably because I didn't even know what being a lesbian was).
So when I was 15 I found out about trans people and felt like I related to it. I researched a lot and hoped to get on hormones one day. But time passed by and started to realize that actually I want to love girls while being a girl myself so I understood that I'm not trans. It was homophobia, making me believe I was a trans man.
But my story absolutely does not mean that every trans person is just confused. No, I was confused and I'm happy that I figured it out
Good for you, friend. I hope you are doing well.
i had the same exact urges!! fantasizing about sex from a males perspective and wanting to be physically male... i think i’m just gender fluid and bi though. my identity is very confusing to me but that doesn’t mean that trans people are confused it just means that they’ve put a lot of consideration into it to sort out their confusion and they’ve come out the other side hopefully in a more secure place
sometimes being gender fluid sucks because i know i would love to see what being a man is like but i also know that won’t last
@@emmacarignan8703 yup I feel your pain dude its like a curiosity that will pass with time oh how I wish we could just have a character selection screen everymornin
It's great that you figured yourself out! Congrats to that.
You know what's funny? I'm the exactly opposite. I used to love "girly" things, I also never cared about boys or girls. Dating never interested me, idk know why. So I just assumed I was a cis het girl.
When I was a kid I loved art and music, playing pretend, horses, pink and dressing up. All the typical little girl things.
But then puberty hit and dysphoria started and I stopped doing those things.
Now I'm a trans guy art major who plays DnD.
The past is in the past and all that matters is how we feel right now!
my parents: your school is influencing you to be transgender
my teachers: *she*
my classmates: youre a lesbian?...
me: mom dad please explain how
When I told my family I was trans, they asked me "what did you read to make you think this?" and then they said "I'll never support your decision because god created men and women"
yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
@@nitrosophelin yaaaayyyyy love our families 😎😎😎
my dad thinks im faking it to tick off my mom lmao
Hey hope you guys get better and are able to transition (if you want to). Also Sam is right take you time with it and try to get your parents to understand.
@@nitrosophelin but being transgender is being the opposite gender, apart from if your nonbinary.
@@nitrosophelin Yeah, God created men and women. That includes trans men and transwomen. Why is that concept so hard for people to understand?
That article is dangerous. She generalizes her experience for the whole ftm trans & transmasculine community. We're not confused women.
The testosterone and weight gain is very subjective. I've actually been able to lose weight easier because T gives me more energy than I had before. I went from 290 to 250 and still losing because I want top surgery. & My prediabetes has gotten better.
I also think there's an issue with women who have body dysmorphia being diagnosed with gender dysphoria, but I'm rambling now.
Jordan Yo you sound v cool man. I’m a fellow ftm transgender man. I am on hormone blockers right now and am hoping to start T. I’m turning 14 soon. I am making sure that this is what I want. Hopefully others will not bully me for not having a deep voice and shit like that. That’s why I need them so bad. Depressed, have body dysmorphia and social anxiety. I was diagnosed 3 years ago. Change my name and cut my hair, on hormone blockers right now. Hoping for T.
She's confused, but I'm not, so does that mean that I shouldn't take steps to improve my own life just bc it didn't work out for her? I honestly feel sorry for what she's been through but she's got to understand that not everyone has had her experiences, and not everyone is confused.
The whole article is just damaging to trans people in almost *every way*
When I was pre T and my mom was against me transitioning, these were the articles she found and read which confirmed her doubts. She thought I was tricked into thinking I was trans because of my friends when I was the first open trans dude in my friend group. She read these articles which fed into her fears and let her fear control her.. She convinced herself I would be happy for a few years and then suddenly detransition and hate myself. It made transitioning take way longer and still gives her doubt too this day.. they’re so harmful.
@@waterwraith1189 My situation was the exact same, I told my family that I'm trans and they asked me about "what I read" to make me think that I "should be trans". I'm 100% sure I'm mtf and I've wanted to live as a girl since childhood, but no *i DoN't KnOw My TrUe SeLf*
She mentioned NOTHING about gender dysphoria. NOTHING.
"Gender dysphoria"= social dysphoria/anxiety. It's the same feeling insecure overweight people feel when surrounded by a bunch of slim people.
When you feel like your gender restricts you socially, of course you'll be uncomfortable with yiur body.
@@drearperry8727 Except it's not a "social" restriction exclusively. Social anxiety, while real in an of itself, is not the *only* way gender dysphoria affects someone. It oftens impacts them privately and without the need of external influence. Gender identity is not a social construct in the way you have framed it here. Gender dysphoria is a very personal, very real, very profound, and often an unavoidably uncomfortable experience. Please don't minimize it by comparing it to how an overweight person feels around slim people.
@@autumn.redhawke *"It often impacts them privately and without the need if extremal influence"*
How would you even know this?
Most people don't even talk about their insecurities and where they stem from? If you really believe our insecurities don't come from outside influence, you're a dishonest fool.
Drear Perry Drear, I don’t think you fully grasp what dysphoria is. If you do, you aren’t doing very well at showing it.
@@cai3886 If I don't grasp it, correct me instead of acting elitist.
“Am I obese and having a heart attack?”
YES
RIGHT NOW AT THIS MOMENT
@@SupraMan38 "am i obese and having a heart attack? yes, 1000%. was i sculpted by greek gods and look like sex and money? yes, 1000%"
Trisha lmfao
Transitioning wasn’t the right thing for her and thats fine. She felt so miserable because she isn’t a guy but what she seems to forget is that this is how transpeople feel before transitioning. Just because she did regret it, doesn’t mean others are gonna regret it.
“The Transgenders, that sounds like a movie”.
*~Sam Collins 2019*
*The Transgender Avengers*
Omg yes
I thought more about Transformers but I guess that works too
Great, now I wanna draw all the Avengers genderbent, thank you hahaha
Ava_31 the transvengers
I am legit in a WhatsApp group called The Transgender Avengers 😂
I hate stories like that, I was pretty young when I had the disconnect. I was maybe 4-5, I thought about it when I was about 19 and I spent every day thinking about it till I was like 23. I have been on T almost 2 years and I'm happy about it 100%
Haha I love these dude already 😂 “does this look like mutilation to you? No, that looks like sex, like sex sculpted from the Greek Gods.” SUBBED.
You cant even see his scars. Sam looks so good, happy and proud.
Shit if I can get that going from ftm I’m fucking in.
"I felt so jealous the trans people could hold hands with the same sex" Me a gay trans guy :V
HRT didn’t almost kill her, her deciding to go on it blindly did, as well as her diet choices. This is embarrassing and why people need to actually *think* before transitioning.
“Am I obese and in danger of having a heart attack?” *pause
“YES”
Lmao you are precious never stop being you 🤣
"my hair is big, and you know what's bigger"
me: "SAM'S DI-"
"your lies"
I was thinking the same thing lmao
"My hair is big, and you know what's bigger?"
Me: *Ohhhhhh?*
"Your lies"
Me: Oh....
Wait up, he got bottom surgery?
Jana Zobier I think he has a vid on it idk tho
@@thattrixicbishren2151 It's probably an older video I haven't been watching him that long.
Jana Zobier yeah it is...I think? 😂
I stopped T “cold turkey” when I got pregnant. Definitely had no withdrawals. She’s either lying or something was wrong with her lmao
Rian A I’m genuinely curious. How did being pregnant not seriously trigger your dysphoria? Just trying to educate myself more on the trans community.
zara McMenamie oh, it did lmao. I seriously wanted to die all of the time. The only thing that kept me going was knowing that it was only a 9 month commitment to get the baby that I so desperately wanted and loved
Rian A thank you for sharing. Hope you and your family are doing well, your obviously very selfless and loving, you sound like a great dad. 😊
zara McMenamie Thank you! She’s 1.5 now. Very intelligent, and the center of my universe. I couldn’t be happier. I’ve been back on T since she was 6 weeks old and no one would suspect that I carried her :)
Rian A your story almost sounds like an amazing myth, like promothues and the story of fire, or Hercules and his deeds. Congrats on finding your truth and having an amazing child!
From my research, exogenous T can raise your cholesterol, thicken your blood (polycythemia -- basically too many RBCs), and it can tip the balance into (pre)diabetes if you are predisposed to it (or if you gain 50 pounds, like she did). Of course, you gain the muscle mass and perhaps fat too. It also sounds like she did have shitty doctors, but it sounds like she was not taking care of herself, working out, etc. The thick, puffy, discolored skin? What's up with that?
Meh. She wasn't trans. It does seem like there are easier ways to deal with being gay and having internalized homophobia. You can go to therapy. You can stay in the closet. Not recommended, but it's a lot simpler than transitioning.
"the transgenders. That sounds like a movie."
It actually is. A bad. Bad movie. About a horrible life. And bruh moments.
Major L
Nono think about it
**THE TRANSGENDERS**
The year is.. who tf cares. Basically a squad of Trans antiheros
I shall make that movie.
And it shall be awesome.
The movie would probably be about some person crying and looking at the wall in the shower
kaidousimp that’s just my daily routine
No yall don't understand,, it's a bad movie. We suffer and whoever wrote this shit is fapping to us suffer because i know what it is like to be a writer
“The Transgenders” Coming to cinemas near you this December
That popped in my head when Sam said that.
It better be true to the original animated series!
Hearing people jump straight into hormones and surgery first is always the scariest things i can hear. like being a trans kid by the time im on hrt i will have been on blockers for 4 years. I'm sure by the time I get SRS I will have been trans for more of my life than cis. Like this aint a race. it takes years for hormones to show effects. Passing is like 90% a non-medical thing
dude your top results actually look so good! how did you heal the post op scars so well? genuinely looks like some greek god work *chefs kiss*
Also, the thing about being 18 and being a legal adult is that you can actually do what you want, no one is going to babysit you and stop you anymore. Some people don't realize this and don't take the time to really think things through because they expect someone else to stop them if it's a bad choice. The truth is no one is going to stop you,, so think things through as an adult.
Right and that is the way the world should work . People need to stop blaming every stupid decision on everything else but their own decisions they choose
“That sounds like a you problem” I literally spit my food out lol
This is the kind of stuff my mom would tell me to convince me not to transition 😃
Like, I've noticed that people who detransition usually transition for the "wrong" reasons
(The story my mom told me was that the girl transitioned because she was sexually assaulted and hated her body, so she transitioned to become a man. Then she detransitioned because she liked feminine things)
This is astounding and also is written super terribly, "The Transgenders" really got me
ive not seen such bad sentence structure either
@@SupraMan38 being trans and just hearing her talk about what she thinks being trans is gave me a headache
Sam, thank you for putting the needs of vulnerable people ahead of a desire to promote or to fight against any agenda or ideology.
i love how she says she didn’t get a single soul telling her she was wrong “because it was 2017”. it’s 3 years later and a bunch of people who have kind of known me for a couple years think they know me better than i do and think i couldn’t possibly be a guy
like i severely doubt she’s telling am accurate story she just wants to be right
Yeah exactly. In what perfect utopia is she living that nobody is a transphobe around her?
I want to go there
she transitioned because she wanted to dare her girlfriend without being judged. she never experienced dysphoria, she is NOT TRANS! she is literally homophobic and transphobic all at the same time. amazing 🙄
just like any major decision in anyones life, if you do it for the wrong reasons, AKA do it for other people other than for strictly yourself (and saying its because you 'wanna hold hands with your GF without being discriminated as a woman for it in public' is not the strict self reason you think it is), then yes, you are doomed to regret it.