Amazing! I’ve had to stop listening to you several times in this series just to take some breaths. That hit home deep, Kenny. I’ve blamed the world for my problems with no solution. Now, I have a solution. Because it’s not the world that needs to fix me. Thanks for your journey! Time to start mine.
Ok but what is actually wrong with victimizing ourselves ? Our parents didn’t fulfill our childhood needs and it’s do painful to admit we have to do the work on ourselves now. Wouldn’t it be great if we just had received all that love from them and have them meet our needs for affection. Again we love to fantasize, another hard part to swallow since fantasizing is so wonderful! Because the reality is too painful.
You gave me a great gift of a great memory from a dark time. I had a breakdown and while in the hospital a young man with a brain injury interrupted a phone conversation I was having to say, “I adore you”. I was startled and confused for a little bit. I just said, uh huh. I do usually have a hard time accepting compliments. But I don’t think I was even thinking of it as a compliment. Later in the day he asked to talk to me again. He explained that he had been in an accident where he was hit by a car while on his bike. While in the hospital recovering he was sexually assaulted by a male nurse. I had been sexually abused by my father growing up and had been openly talking about it in our group sessions. When he repeated again that he adored me I said oh, you mean you admire me. He got excited and said yes, that was the word he had been looking for. I was actually able to let it sink in and take the compliment because it wasn’t about something superficial. It was about the strength it took to talk about such a taboo subject within that group. During our next sessions he began opening up about his struggles and so did another man who had also talked to me about it saying he could never say it in a group. I told him I was pushing through embarrassment and shame to own my truth. That afternoon he took a deep breath and started sharing. Admitting these secrets seems overwhelming but when you do you quickly come to a place of peace.
But that “role” feels so “right” in a way 😢. It hurts to be a loser but it just feels so safe if you know that I mean. It’s almost like some sort of punishment will come on me if I achieve success or express my true me. Does anyone else feel the same way? My biggest issue is creating safety in my life. That I am safe
There is a continuity through all your teaching that is trustworthy and helping me change because your delivery is not in the way and even when you say you probably said things awkwardly its the perfect thing to hear pre the heavy truth you are going to present. Bottom line, I learn really well from you and the whole of your videos fills in all the pieces and questions if I am unclear or listen out of order. The main message set a foundation of the scaffolding to layer your points on and at times its clear like dominoes falling in my brain. Also, the story you share about your bully older brother was so validating to get me able to relax in the truth not brace against fear of being blamed yet again. It all resonates and calms me down to learn what I need that I have not yet understood or mastered. Glad you are so authentic and transparent in videos for this teaching.
This series feels like a psychedelic experience, literally, I'm in tears at 36 mins. Thanks so much, Ken, you have such a gift to deliver this HARD BEAUTIFUL TRUTH.
Some people are not receptive, but I hear you and you’re coming across to me as loving and compassionately truth. I know I am worthy of the best possible relationship and experience my journey has to offer! Thank you
I am so grateful your videos have finally found me. It is so refreshing to see someone so authentically himself. When you mention at the beginning of this video you wish you could bring your message more nurtering, it brought tears to my eyes. It shows vulnerability. ❤
You are So REAL! ""Perfectly imperfect" > For ME > That makes you a LOT easier to HEAR. Not just Listen to > But Hear. Your Passion Wakes me up and goes to my heart. *There were only a couple moments that I felt ""WHAT?!"" and Relistened .. I Absolutely do Feel the Love. **The Little girl in me HEARS you .. OMG .. I canNOT thank you enough
Kenny > You are Kind and Loving > BECAUSE you are SPeaking the Truth that CAN lead to more healing & Happiness. Denial / Lies keep us stuck .. That IMO is where the Unkindness lies. **I have been unkind to Me > In believing I wasn't a worthy/valuable human being. :) I am NO Longer buying into myown denial :D Thank You for being Honest > Kind & Caring.
Thanks Kenny. You have another subscriber! After years of watching validating narcissist videos and lectures...is so nice to find someone helping us work on ourselves! The fact that the narc isn't alone with the false self mask isn't really discussed anywhere. I just canceled an appointment with a shrink....first time appointment. Asked him his definition of narcissistic trauma bond and he just gave me word salad on the phone. He claims to be a narc expert...ha ha
Thank you Kenny for demonstrating vulnerability, for being real. I so get this, thanks for being just as you are now and giving us a reason to keep on this journey.
Kenmy, finally i got it!!! After listening the second time. This I see and like to share: As long as you mention belittleing to others while sharing your great discovery, you belittlileing! Now i know why your message couldnt reach deeper. I felt something strongly off. Its your energy you are exposing, when you speak. It reflects your unprocessed emotion, awaiting rejection deep underneath. Its amazing, that that selfdenial, still carry the wound of rejection, will making others denial your truth. (They react unconsciouly and somatically to your energy and pressure You basically asking for being rejected with that selfdenial...
This is a great video I appreciate the truth it is so valuable thank you for sharing and giving of yourself. This knowledge is priceless. I appreciate you're breaking the terms down in plain English
OMG, you’re quoting Ian McGilchrist! Love it how you brought neuroscience and evolution into this work! Where we place our attention is a key piece of this work.
Kenny, this video is sooo POWERFUL and immensely effective on me. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experiences. Quite relatable! I truly admire and appreciate you and your insights.
You are wonderful Kenny. So authentic in your passion to become free. I can feel the serious matter of Life & Death. You must have been thru great sh.. too. That gives me ene3gy and diminish my shame i still carry about me waking up in same age like you. How could i denial and get stuck.in magical thinking.Thank you for your work so much. You help me alot!
I have been with you all day and have never seen an ounce of anything but love, concern and a need to get the information across to people so they can see what you have to say. I appreciate the research and time you have committed yourself to so that we can join you to become a complete, real human being. You will have many real people to have something in common with when you make your way through the denial and continue to share this. This is all so real to me. I have experienced theEmotion Code that everyone I tell about it thinks it is voodoo or something. I can hardly wait to get to the denial stage of this journey! Hope to meet up with you some day.
Thank you so much Kenny, your depth and understanding is incredible. What a valuable life you are living, thank you for sharing all of your knowledge 🤗🙏
Kenny, I am binge watching/listening to your content, so grateful to come a cross your channel 😊. I am so into this truth😢 as painfull it all can be but it's the only way out...Lifting every artificial attitude, I wanna be real, don't wanna pretend to be someone else😢. Thank you so much for sharing such great stuff for free...great human beeing. ppl like you and Gabor Matè make me believe in humanity😊 ❤❤
I moved to get away from sewer odor issues at my other condo and the new building I live at has the same issues and also the same type of neighbours. I'm reliving my trauma
You talk about me in most of your videos and I don’t feel like you’re hurtful and condescending. If we don’t hear and accept the truth we will never make the change
Ok Kenny but in the part when you say your second wife was a devil and you knew it.. I did that many times too.. I already knew the whole story ending before it even started but I still wanted to have hope and try to change things with desire 😂… so then what can we do if that impulse to go for it is so strong?! You said in one of your videos that that impulse is our subconscious mind going happy because it can relive the childhood trauma. How can we stop ourselves from going for those people who are so damn irresponsible?! Thank you and love you ! You are just amazing ! I watch your videos everyday ❤
😊Thank U. As I have watched your channel for a while and I APPRECIATE U. Love your passion. U do share with us in an a very loving way the only way I can understand that I am going to be alright. Thank U for sharing your wonderful words and program . Love love love it... Awesome job
LOL!! 1st time I saw my boyfriend on our 1st date, I told myself out loud "I am sooo fk'd ! " And right I have been. He's just so handsome.... I am weak after all. I'm learning, I'm learning...
Thank you for these videos. I get I need to hold myself responsible and I want to. My question is what do I do when confronted with rage, blame shifting, and love bombing? I am early in my journey of this and these are the areas when my heart and brain get very confused. I am also actively going to a coda 12-step program and reading Pia Melody books on codependency. I am ready and willing to put in the work, I do realize that I am the common denominator and I need to change an order to have a healthy and happy life. Any suggestions or help would be greatly appreciated. I love your humor and your laughter and I would like to get back to that same spot myself thank you for making me laugh when I watch your videos.
I think I'm a strange animal in that I've always found strength in admitting my imperfections and my parents although id want the same parents if i had to do it all over again...they were perfectly imperfect. I find strength in admitting my faults. How can you build on your accomplishments if you cant find strength in your faults?
Thanks Kenny I was hoping to take your free emotional mastery course yet the link only takes me to a paid subscription. How do I access the free course? Thanks 💜💜💜
So Kenny, are we avoiding responsibility because that would mean we have to be our true selves ? If I look for a better job, if I change my poor choices of men that means I am responsible for my actions so I take action from my authentic selves and this is so scary because now my false persona has to die. Am I understanding this correctly? Thanks in advance!
when you saw your wife out of restaurant and think she is the devil isnt that a part of your hurt self too? I mean we judge what is already insinde us. isnt it? like the example with the driver
Great question. I have just created this new tool where you can type in any question and it pulls from all of my content to give you the solution you are looking for and it gives you direct links to the original source of the content and best of all, it is FREE. Give it a try. ;-) kennyweiss.net/ask-kenny/
This runs DEEP!....I'd rather hear the truth, cause sugar coating things is a waste of time. Thank you for you're honesty.
"Denial of responsibility equals codependency."
Very enlightening! Thank you, Kenny ❤️
Amazing! I’ve had to stop listening to you several times in this series just to take some breaths. That hit home deep, Kenny. I’ve blamed the world for my problems with no solution. Now, I have a solution. Because it’s not the world that needs to fix me. Thanks for your journey! Time to start mine.
Ok but what is actually wrong with victimizing ourselves ? Our parents didn’t fulfill our childhood needs and it’s do painful to admit we have to do the work on ourselves now. Wouldn’t it be great if we just had received all that love from them and have them meet our needs for affection. Again we love to fantasize, another hard part to swallow since fantasizing is so wonderful! Because the reality is too painful.
Some of us need to hear it this way Kenny. With your passion. Grateful for you
You gave me a great gift of a great memory from a dark time. I had a breakdown and while in the hospital a young man with a brain injury interrupted a phone conversation I was having to say, “I adore you”. I was startled and confused for a little bit. I just said, uh huh. I do usually have a hard time accepting compliments. But I don’t think I was even thinking of it as a compliment. Later in the day he asked to talk to me again. He explained that he had been in an accident where he was hit by a car while on his bike. While in the hospital recovering he was sexually assaulted by a male nurse. I had been sexually abused by my father growing up and had been openly talking about it in our group sessions. When he repeated again that he adored me I said oh, you mean you admire me. He got excited and said yes, that was the word he had been looking for. I was actually able to let it sink in and take the compliment because it wasn’t about something superficial. It was about the strength it took to talk about such a taboo subject within that group. During our next sessions he began opening up about his struggles and so did another man who had also talked to me about it saying he could never say it in a group. I told him I was pushing through embarrassment and shame to own my truth. That afternoon he took a deep breath and started sharing. Admitting these secrets seems overwhelming but when you do you quickly come to a place of peace.
Your manner is just fine. We are grateful you are helping us so much. 3:49
These hard truths are so necessary! It does take courage to work on oneself and stop playing the role we were given in childhood. Thank you!
But that “role” feels so “right” in a way 😢. It hurts to be a loser but it just feels so safe if you know that I mean. It’s almost like some sort of punishment will come on me if I achieve success or express my true me. Does anyone else feel the same way? My biggest issue is creating safety in my life. That I am safe
"...I'm always looking for how my full of s.h.i.t. I am..." great way to throw your darkness constantly in the light!
There is a continuity through all your teaching that is trustworthy and helping me change because your delivery is not in the way and even when you say you probably said things awkwardly its the perfect thing to hear pre the heavy truth you are going to present. Bottom line, I learn really well from you and the whole of your videos fills in all the pieces and questions if I am unclear or listen out of order. The main message set a foundation of the scaffolding to layer your points on and at times its clear like dominoes falling in my brain. Also, the story you share about your bully older brother was so validating to get me able to relax in the truth not brace against fear of being blamed yet again. It all resonates and calms me down to learn what I need that I have not yet understood or mastered. Glad you are so authentic and transparent in videos for this teaching.
100% $pot on...🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 Your trigger . . . is your teacher. 🔊🕺
I am who you once were and I need to heal to heal this broken part of me. This is my worst day.
This series feels like a psychedelic experience, literally, I'm in tears at 36 mins. Thanks so much, Ken, you have such a gift to deliver this HARD BEAUTIFUL TRUTH.
This truly hits deep but I laughed really when you said "She's Devil" 😂
Some people are not receptive, but I hear you and you’re coming across to me as loving and compassionately truth. I know I am worthy of the best possible relationship and experience my journey has to offer! Thank you
You are amazing. A "beautiful disaster" , just like me. ❤
Thank you. I think we all need that amount humility, that we cam admit we are not perfect. It Hurts a little, but increases our personal growht.❤
I am so grateful your videos have finally found me. It is so refreshing to see someone so authentically himself. When you mention at the beginning of this video you wish you could bring your message more nurtering, it brought tears to my eyes. It shows vulnerability. ❤
You are So REAL! ""Perfectly imperfect" > For ME > That makes you a LOT easier to HEAR. Not just Listen to > But Hear. Your Passion Wakes me up and goes to my heart. *There were only a couple moments that I felt ""WHAT?!"" and Relistened .. I Absolutely do Feel the Love.
**The Little girl in me HEARS you .. OMG .. I canNOT thank you enough
You are so welcome
Kenny > You are Kind and Loving > BECAUSE you are SPeaking the Truth that CAN lead to more healing & Happiness. Denial / Lies keep us stuck .. That IMO is where the Unkindness lies.
**I have been unkind to Me > In believing I wasn't a worthy/valuable human being. :) I am NO Longer buying into myown denial :D Thank You for being Honest > Kind & Caring.
When you're 23 minutes in and haven't heard a word for at least several minutes because you're dissociating and stress eating cheez balls.
Thanks Kenny. You have another subscriber! After years of watching validating narcissist videos and lectures...is so nice to find someone helping us work on ourselves! The fact that the narc isn't alone with the false self mask isn't really discussed anywhere. I just canceled an appointment with a shrink....first time appointment. Asked him his definition of narcissistic trauma bond and he just gave me word salad on the phone. He claims to be a narc expert...ha ha
I came to the same realization after listening to this video I'm so glad that you commented about it
Great comment! I agree.
Im currently in cptsd stress therapy and this just helped explain what my psychiatrist tried to. Thank you so much ❤
Thank you Kenny for demonstrating vulnerability, for being real. I so get this, thanks for being just as you are now and giving us a reason to keep on this journey.
I laugh and I’m moved when I watch your videos! I’ts soooo to the point! ❤👌🤗Thank U!❤
I'm so glad!
Kenmy, finally i got it!!! After listening the second time. This I see and like to share: As long as you mention belittleing to others while sharing your great discovery, you belittlileing! Now i know why your message couldnt reach deeper. I felt something strongly off. Its your energy you are exposing, when you speak. It reflects your unprocessed emotion, awaiting rejection deep underneath. Its amazing, that that selfdenial, still carry the wound of rejection, will making others denial your truth. (They react unconsciouly and somatically to your energy and pressure You basically asking for being rejected with that selfdenial...
This is a great video I appreciate the truth it is so valuable thank you for sharing and giving of yourself. This knowledge is priceless. I appreciate you're breaking the terms down in plain English
OMG, you’re quoting Ian McGilchrist! Love it how you brought neuroscience and evolution into this work! Where we place our attention is a key piece of this work.
Kenny, this video is sooo POWERFUL and immensely effective on me. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experiences. Quite relatable!
I truly admire and appreciate you and your insights.
Love this ❤
You are wonderful Kenny. So authentic in your passion to become free. I can feel the serious matter of Life & Death. You must have been thru great sh.. too. That gives me ene3gy and diminish my shame i still carry about me waking up in same age like you. How could i denial and get stuck.in magical thinking.Thank you for your work so much. You help me alot!
I found you because I was looking up Empath videos… SO THANKFUL I did.
I have been with you all day and have never seen an ounce of anything but love, concern and a need to get the information across to people so they can see what you have to say. I appreciate the research and time you have committed yourself to so that we can join you to become a complete, real human being. You will have many real people to have something in common with when you make your way through the denial and continue to share this. This is all so real to me. I have experienced theEmotion Code that everyone I tell about it thinks it is voodoo or something. I can hardly wait to get to the denial stage of this journey! Hope to meet up with you some day.
Thank you so much Kenny, your depth and understanding is incredible. What a valuable life you are living, thank you for sharing all of your knowledge 🤗🙏
Thank you Kenny Weiss.
you help me comleting the puzzle. its not complete of cource but I can now see the holes and accept them. you do the work
Thx for helping me 🤗 I love you're videos. Can't get enough 🤪
Wow - "does it make me bad, does it make me good". So well put. It was drilled in to my brain growing up what was good and what was bad.
I absolutely love you !!!!
Crying with laughter
Can’t wait to print my coursework tomorrow ❤
Kenny, I am binge watching/listening to your content, so grateful to come a cross your channel 😊. I am so into this truth😢 as painfull it all can be but it's the only way out...Lifting every artificial attitude, I wanna be real, don't wanna pretend to be someone else😢. Thank you so much for sharing such great stuff for free...great human beeing. ppl like you and Gabor Matè make me believe in humanity😊 ❤❤
Welcome aboard!
I moved to get away from sewer odor issues at my other condo and the new building I live at has the same issues and also the same type of neighbours. I'm reliving my trauma
You talk about me in most of your videos and I don’t feel like you’re hurtful and condescending. If we don’t hear and accept the truth we will never make the change
Ok Kenny but in the part when you say your second wife was a devil and you knew it.. I did that many times too.. I already knew the whole story ending before it even started but I still wanted to have hope and try to change things with desire 😂… so then what can we do if that impulse to go for it is so strong?! You said in one of your videos that that impulse is our subconscious mind going happy because it can relive the childhood trauma. How can we stop ourselves from going for those people who are so damn irresponsible?! Thank you and love you ! You are just amazing ! I watch your videos everyday ❤
❤Thank you Kenny ❤
The content is great. Maybe you dont have to apologize all the time..
You are doing your best and thats it. Take care 🤍
I love you man!
I treasure your philosophies 🏆
Thank you so much for the materials you give us!
Happy to help!
Omg. My wall just dropped to. Every singe thing I complain about i do too,just the action is different. OMG
Thank you kenny Weiss. Really appreciate it 🙏
Thank you Kenny
😊Thank U. As I have watched your channel for a while and I APPRECIATE U. Love your passion. U do share with us in an a very loving way the only way I can understand that I am going to be alright. Thank U for sharing your wonderful words and program .
Love love love it...
Awesome job
LOL!! 1st time I saw my boyfriend on our 1st date, I told myself out loud "I am sooo fk'd ! " And right I have been. He's just so handsome.... I am weak after all. I'm learning, I'm learning...
God bless! Thank you! 🙏🏻💗
You are so welcome
Kenny, I adore you!
Love you Kenny! Thank you 😊 💓
Thank you Kenny!
Also, purple really suits you. Your eyes look purple 2 😃
Thank you for these videos. I get I need to hold myself responsible and I want to. My question is what do I do when confronted with rage, blame shifting, and love bombing? I am early in my journey of this and these are the areas when my heart and brain get very confused. I am also actively going to a coda 12-step program and reading Pia Melody books on codependency. I am ready and willing to put in the work, I do realize that I am the common denominator and I need to change an order to have a healthy and happy life. Any suggestions or help would be greatly appreciated. I love your humor and your laughter and I would like to get back to that same spot myself thank you for making me laugh when I watch your videos.
This is great ❤❤
Love you so much.
Your so right.
I think I'm a strange animal in that I've always found strength in admitting my imperfections and my parents although id want the same parents if i had to do it all over again...they were perfectly imperfect. I find strength in admitting my faults. How can you build on your accomplishments if you cant find strength in your faults?
Thanks Kenny I was hoping to take your free emotional mastery course yet the link only takes me to a paid subscription. How do I access the free course? Thanks 💜💜💜
Here ya go. ;-)
thegreatnessu.com/p/your-journey-to-emotional-mastery
So true.
So Kenny, are we avoiding responsibility because that would mean we have to be our true selves ? If I look for a better job, if I change my poor choices of men that means I am responsible for my actions so I take action from my authentic selves and this is so scary because now my false persona has to die. Am I understanding this correctly? Thanks in advance!
Yes, perfectly!
thank you ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
You bet! :)
when you saw your wife out of restaurant and think she is the devil isnt that a part of your hurt self too? I mean we judge what is already insinde us. isnt it? like the example with the driver
How do we ask someone to accountable ?
Great question. I have just created this new tool where you can type in any question and it pulls from all of my content to give you the solution you are looking for and it gives you direct links to the original source of the content and best of all, it is FREE. Give it a try. ;-)
kennyweiss.net/ask-kenny/
I do not think you’re gay. You’re channeling your black mama, at church, in an Easter hat.❤
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Yeah I got your messages ! Denials of myselftruthhurts.Iam survivor and be with your nets.logical thinking be there😅