THANK YOU AGAIN FOR SHARING THIS AFTER YEARS AND MONTHS OF THE SILENT TREATMENT IM LEARNING TO GO NO CONTACT THIS IS THE BEST HEALING FROM THE ABUSE CAN YOU DO A VIDEO ON WHY THE NARC TREATS YOU LIKE YOU DONT EXIST.
I'm thankful this video can be helpful to you Demi! I will think about that, you might also find some more information about this in my in-depth article about the silent treatment (link is: dealwithnarcissist.com/about-how-and-why-narcissists-use-the-silent-treatment-stonewalling-lack-of-affection-and-how-to-deal-with-it/)
I was trapped in a narcissistic abuse cycle for about 3 years, and thankfully I escaped it. It was hands down the worst experience of my life, and that puts it mildly. I didn't know what I was trapped in while I was in it - it is so insidious. It was only after a short period of no contact that I went to a TedX talk where a young woman talked about her experience being trapped in a cycle of abuse. I went into shock, and the next day ended up taking myself to the women's centre for support. The impact to my mental health both during and after the relationship has been CATASTROPHIC. I am so grateful to have met an amazing man who treats me so well. And so grateful that he stuck with me, as it took a year and a half for me to trust that he actually wanted to be with me. Trust has been a huge issue. Trusting guys, trusting romantic relationships, and trusting my own intuition has been slow to re-build. I felt so alone during and after that abusive relationship. My current partner doesn't understand at all what I went through, and asked me "what my role was." So I am grateful for videos like this that can help explain why I didn't/couldn't just leave. One thing that strikes me reading many articles on abusive relationships is that they say the abuser is an evil, plotting person. In my experience, HE WASN'T THAT SMART. He acted and reacted like a little boy. If you are going through this right now, know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Thank you for sharing galactickim and also for your positive message to others. I'm sorry about your painful experience. I'm glad you found out and were able to work on yourself in such a positive way. It takes a lot of strength to do so! I'm thankful these videos can be helpful to you. Wish you strength and kindness in the future!
Thank you for your reaction. I'm sorry you experienced this Demi. It's brutal indeed and it can be very hard to stay no contact. I'm glad you're aware of the situation and I hope you manage. I wish you strength and more kindness in the future!
Bit hard to do when I’m now trying to sort out everything out after our last parent died, our dad. I knew my deceased mum was one as I had counselling years back and realised it was a co dependant destructive household. I have recently realised that my younger sibling is also just the same as mum. I knew something was off as I don’t like being around him. Things that my dad were concerned about have proved to be all true although my brother convinced me it was all my dad, you know how he gets all angry and in your face. My brother would refuse to speak to dad and just retreat to his room which wound my dad up. In the end he made my dad feel so uncomfortable in his own home, inviting friends to stay over and disrespecting my dads wishes. Dad would get angry tell them to get out when they woke him up and my brother would just ignore him. I became estranged from the family in the end as I was sick of all the arguments between them after my mum died and dad was left living with my brother until he met someone else and moved out into her home. He turned everyone against my dad and has manipulated the rest of my mums family against us playing the victim card. Telling everyone how he hated my dad blamed him for our mums death but yet refused to move out of the family home. My dad has stated in his will that my brother can live there for five years before it has to be sold. My dad had told me it was only two years but his will revealed otherwise. My brother gave my dad absolute pittance for years towards rent and would even take the money back from him in loans, dad still payed all the bills except for the electric. He knew exactly how much my dad had in his bank accounts and a few years back dad had transferred his mail to his partners because he thought my brother was stealing from him. I hate to think he could have. My brother is nearly 50, has never lived anywhere else, never had a serious relationship, no children but did keep getting into so much debt although he worked. When mum was alive she played them off against each other constantly bailed my brother out. He borrowed money off of my dad and other family members too after mum died. He’s used elderly family members to drive him around even when they’ve got really bad health but he wants to go to the coast or to the countryside for a meal. Even had them bring him his shopping during the lockdowns! After my dad died in November he quit his job in February and is now sat waiting for half of dads money to come through once probate is done. He says he will sell the home but I really don’t trust him at all. He cut off from me after constant love bombing and pretending to care, constantly phoning, wanting to come round but I could tell he wasn’t interested in me as a person. He’s so competitive even over stupid things. Thankfully we had to relocate as my husband changed jobs so now live 2 hour drive away. My brother doesn’t drive. All my brother seems to care about is when will probate end and dads money be released. He wants to do the house up before we sell. I don’t think he will as he only now has to pay the bills. He doesn’t seem bothered about finding a new job either. I’m concerned he will refuse to sell. Everyone feels sorry for him and makes excuses for his behaviour but he’s a grown man whose made his own problems in life. I don’t want to be responsible for him. I don’t want the stress or problems. He leaves me feeling so drained.
Thank your for your response and sharing your story. I'm sorry about your experience and the draining effect it has on you. It's very challenging indeed! You already share a challenge by saying you don't want to be responsible for your brother. It means you do feel (some) responsibility for him, which sadly will drain your energy as you have no control over his behaviour. It's great you're trying to sort things out. It starts with knowledge and acknowledging what you're feeling (without judging it). I hope you're able to shift your attention to yourself more in order to be able to better protect your energy. Wish you strength and kindness in this process!
Have been in marriage with a narcissist...she blames me for everything, even if she does something it's me to say sorry, she over controls, even if you buy something she says it's not bad but next time ask for something better...always negative .when I started resenting..she packed her things and left and said she needs a break.. Have gone no contack
THANK YOU AGAIN FOR SHARING THIS AFTER YEARS AND MONTHS OF THE SILENT TREATMENT IM LEARNING TO GO NO CONTACT THIS IS THE BEST HEALING FROM THE ABUSE CAN YOU DO A VIDEO ON WHY THE NARC TREATS YOU LIKE YOU DONT EXIST.
I'm thankful this video can be helpful to you Demi! I will think about that, you might also find some more information about this in my in-depth article about the silent treatment (link is: dealwithnarcissist.com/about-how-and-why-narcissists-use-the-silent-treatment-stonewalling-lack-of-affection-and-how-to-deal-with-it/)
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Thank You 🙏
SO VERY MUCH..
I HAVE 3 WEEKS OF NO CONTACT....
THANK YOU UR VIDEOS HAVE HELPED ME TREMENDOUSLY..
I was trapped in a narcissistic abuse cycle for about 3 years, and thankfully I escaped it. It was hands down the worst experience of my life, and that puts it mildly. I didn't know what I was trapped in while I was in it - it is so insidious. It was only after a short period of no contact that I went to a TedX talk where a young woman talked about her experience being trapped in a cycle of abuse. I went into shock, and the next day ended up taking myself to the women's centre for support.
The impact to my mental health both during and after the relationship has been CATASTROPHIC. I am so grateful to have met an amazing man who treats me so well. And so grateful that he stuck with me, as it took a year and a half for me to trust that he actually wanted to be with me. Trust has been a huge issue. Trusting guys, trusting romantic relationships, and trusting my own intuition has been slow to re-build.
I felt so alone during and after that abusive relationship. My current partner doesn't understand at all what I went through, and asked me "what my role was." So I am grateful for videos like this that can help explain why I didn't/couldn't just leave.
One thing that strikes me reading many articles on abusive relationships is that they say the abuser is an evil, plotting person. In my experience, HE WASN'T THAT SMART. He acted and reacted like a little boy.
If you are going through this right now, know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Thank you for sharing galactickim and also for your positive message to others. I'm sorry about your painful experience. I'm glad you found out and were able to work on yourself in such a positive way. It takes a lot of strength to do so! I'm thankful these videos can be helpful to you. Wish you strength and kindness in the future!
Thank You For Sharing
I Have Been Involved
With A Narcisstic Person For Over 7 Yrs It Has Been Brutal....
Im Struggling Trying To Stop All Contact....
Thank you for your reaction. I'm sorry you experienced this Demi. It's brutal indeed and it can be very hard to stay no contact. I'm glad you're aware of the situation and I hope you manage. I wish you strength and more kindness in the future!
@@DealWithNarcissist
Thank You 🙏
This is my relationship now!!!!
Sooooo wonderful👌thank u sir for eliviating my confusion and srlf doubt
I love the stage visual ❤️
100 % no contact.
Very informative. I agree 100 % with complete disconnection. Namaste
Thank you Jarvis. Wish you kindness
Bit hard to do when I’m now trying to sort out everything out after our last parent died, our dad. I knew my deceased mum was one as I had counselling years back and realised it was a co dependant destructive household. I have recently realised that my younger sibling is also just the same as mum. I knew something was off as I don’t like being around him.
Things that my dad were concerned about have proved to be all true although my brother convinced me it was all my dad, you know how he gets all angry and in your face. My brother would refuse to speak to dad and just retreat to his room which wound my dad up. In the end he made my dad feel so uncomfortable in his own home, inviting friends to stay over and disrespecting my dads wishes. Dad would get angry tell them to get out when they woke him up and my brother would just ignore him.
I became estranged from the family in the end as I was sick of all the arguments between them after my mum died and dad was left living with my brother until he met someone else and moved out into her home. He turned everyone against my dad and has manipulated the rest of my mums family against us playing the victim card. Telling everyone how he hated my dad blamed him for our mums death but yet refused to move out of the family home.
My dad has stated in his will that my brother can live there for five years before it has to be sold. My dad had told me it was only two years but his will revealed otherwise. My brother gave my dad absolute pittance for years towards rent and would even take the money back from him in loans, dad still payed all the bills except for the electric. He knew exactly how much my dad had in his bank accounts and a few years back dad had transferred his mail to his partners because he thought my brother was stealing from him. I hate to think he could have.
My brother is nearly 50, has never lived anywhere else, never had a serious relationship, no children but did keep getting into so much debt although he worked. When mum was alive she played them off against each other constantly bailed my brother out. He borrowed money off of my dad and other family members too after mum died.
He’s used elderly family members to drive him around even when they’ve got really bad health but he wants to go to the coast or to the countryside for a meal. Even had them bring him his shopping during the lockdowns!
After my dad died in November he quit his job in February and is now sat waiting for half of dads money to come through once probate is done. He says he will sell the home but I really don’t trust him at all. He cut off from me after constant love bombing and pretending to care, constantly phoning, wanting to come round but I could tell he wasn’t interested in me as a person. He’s so competitive even over stupid things.
Thankfully we had to relocate as my husband changed jobs so now live 2 hour drive away. My brother doesn’t drive.
All my brother seems to care about is when will probate end and dads money be released. He wants to do the house up before we sell. I don’t think he will as he only now has to pay the bills. He doesn’t seem bothered about finding a new job either. I’m concerned he will refuse to sell. Everyone feels sorry for him and makes excuses for his behaviour but he’s a grown man whose made his own problems in life.
I don’t want to be responsible for him. I don’t want the stress or problems. He leaves me feeling so drained.
Thank your for your response and sharing your story. I'm sorry about your experience and the draining effect it has on you. It's very challenging indeed! You already share a challenge by saying you don't want to be responsible for your brother. It means you do feel (some) responsibility for him, which sadly will drain your energy as you have no control over his behaviour. It's great you're trying to sort things out. It starts with knowledge and acknowledging what you're feeling (without judging it). I hope you're able to shift your attention to yourself more in order to be able to better protect your energy. Wish you strength and kindness in this process!
Have been in marriage with a narcissist...she blames me for everything, even if she does something it's me to say sorry, she over controls, even if you buy something she says it's not bad but next time ask for something better...always negative .when I started resenting..she packed her things and left and said she needs a break..
Have gone no contack
I'm sorry about your experience. I hope you're doing better now. Wish you strength and more kindness in the future!
I wish i saw this video earlier...