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Deal With Narcissist
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เข้าร่วมเมื่อ 23 ธ.ค. 2019
Welcome! I created this channel to offer a form of help for those experiencing narcissistic abuse. I decided to use my experience in order to help others. I hope this channel and my site can provide quality insight in order to recognize, understand and deal with narcissists.
If you experience(d) narcissists, you will know it’s hard and you might doubt if anything can help. My main focus is to help you with validation of what’s going on, self-worth, and your energy.
As a narcissist pushes you into the wrong direction of having lower self-worth, doubts, and feeling less like yourself; it’s time to take small steps in the right direction again. As your attention is mostly directed at the narcissist, I think it’s
very important to start giving attention and kindness to yourself.
I share from my own experience/research and thus don't provide professional help. I hope it can be helpful to you!
Wish you strength and kindness in the future!
If you experience(d) narcissists, you will know it’s hard and you might doubt if anything can help. My main focus is to help you with validation of what’s going on, self-worth, and your energy.
As a narcissist pushes you into the wrong direction of having lower self-worth, doubts, and feeling less like yourself; it’s time to take small steps in the right direction again. As your attention is mostly directed at the narcissist, I think it’s
very important to start giving attention and kindness to yourself.
I share from my own experience/research and thus don't provide professional help. I hope it can be helpful to you!
Wish you strength and kindness in the future!
Cognitive dissonance from narcissistic abuse (2/4): Truth of a narcissist versus your truth
This video is the second part of a series going deeper into cognitive dissonance, by going into the dynamics of the narcissistic mind, different truths, defense mechanisms and how to counterbalance these effects. I hope these videos can be helpful to you in some way.
Some articles that are closely related:
- www.dealwithnarcissist.com/what-is-cognitive-dissonance-in-abusive-relationships-how-truth-becomes-blurry-because-of-narcissistic-abuse/
- www.dealwithnarcissist.com/what-is-gaslighting-by-a-narcissist-about-signs-effects-and-recognizing-gaslighting/
About @dealwithnarcissist: As son of a narcissistic father, I decided to create a website about how to deal with narcissists in order to offer a form of help to others. My aim is to provide information and insights for those that encounter narcissistic people (regularly). I do this based on my experience/research and this website thus doesn’t provide professional help. I’d like to emphasize that it’s important to seek professional help and support if required.
Content information:
- Copyright-free video material from www.pexels.com
- Copyright-free music from TH-cam Audio Library.
- Video is created using Filmora.
- Content, script, and voice by @dealwithnarcissist.
Some articles that are closely related:
- www.dealwithnarcissist.com/what-is-cognitive-dissonance-in-abusive-relationships-how-truth-becomes-blurry-because-of-narcissistic-abuse/
- www.dealwithnarcissist.com/what-is-gaslighting-by-a-narcissist-about-signs-effects-and-recognizing-gaslighting/
About @dealwithnarcissist: As son of a narcissistic father, I decided to create a website about how to deal with narcissists in order to offer a form of help to others. My aim is to provide information and insights for those that encounter narcissistic people (regularly). I do this based on my experience/research and this website thus doesn’t provide professional help. I’d like to emphasize that it’s important to seek professional help and support if required.
Content information:
- Copyright-free video material from www.pexels.com
- Copyright-free music from TH-cam Audio Library.
- Video is created using Filmora.
- Content, script, and voice by @dealwithnarcissist.
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Cognitive dissonance from narcissistic abuse (1/4): How truth becomes blurry
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This video is the first part of a series going deeper into cognitive dissonance, by going into the dynamics of the narcissistic mind, different truths, defense mechanisms and how to counterbalance these effects. I hope these videos can be helpful to you in some way. Some articles that are closely related: - www.dealwithnarcissist.com/what-is-cognitive-dissonance-in-abusive-relationships-how-tru...
Exploring Taoism and narcissism (3/3): Ego versus the independent mind
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This video is the third and last of a series exploring Taoism and narcissism. In this part I go mainly into force/manipulation, ego (the dependent mind) and the independent mind. I hope this video can be helpful to you in some way. You can learn more and find a lot of content on my website: www.dealwithnarcissist.com About @dealwithnarcissist: I created this channel to offer a form of help for ...
Exploring Taoism and narcissism (2/3): The principle of polarity
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This video is the second of a series exploring Taoism and narcissism. In this part I go into the principle of polarity, Yin and Yang, and what we can learn from them. I also go into the duality between an empath and narcissist. I hope this video can be helpful to you in some way. You can learn more and find a lot of content on my website: www.dealwithnarcissist.com About @dealwithnarcissist: I ...
Exploring Taoism and narcissism (1/3): Living in harmony with nature and not forcing
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I hope this video can be helpful to you in some way. The video is the first of a series exploring Taoism and narcissism. In this part I introduce Taoism and go into living in harmony with nature and not forcing. You can learn more and find a lot of content on my website: www.dealwithnarcissist.com About @dealwithnarcissist: I created this channel to offer a form of help for those experiencing n...
The Unhealthy Dynamics of the Empath/Narcissist Relationship
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As knowledge is power and necessary to recognize narcissists, I like to share some of my experiences and observations and also share the research I did into the relationship between empaths and narcissists. I will go into why empaths and narcissists are drawn to each other, the unhealthy dynamics of this toxic relationship and what to do when you’re possibly in a toxic relationship yourself. I ...
A hoovering narcissist: how to deal with being triggered
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I go deeper into dealing with hoovering and I hope this video can be helpful to you in some way. You can find the transcript of the video on my website: www.dealwithnarcissist.com/a-hoovering-narcissist-how-to-deal-with-being-triggered/ And to learn more about related subjects: www.dealwithnarcissist.com/signs-of-a-hoovering-narcissist-10-examples-of-a-narcissist-hoovering/ About @dealwithnarci...
10 Examples of a Hoovering Narcissist explained
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I go deeper into 10 examples of a hoovering narcissist. I hope this video can be helpful to you in some way. The video is an addition to my in-depth article about signs of a hoovering narcissist, which you can find here: www.dealwithnarcissist.com/signs-of-a-hoovering-narcissist-10-examples-of-a-narcissist-hoovering/ And to learn more about related subjects: - www.dealwithnarcissist.com/hooveri...
Narcissistic Triangulation Examples further explained
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I go further into a few examples of narcissistic triangulation in order to illustrate how triangulation works. I hope this video can be helpful to you in some way. The video is an addition to my article, which you can find here: www.dealwithnarcissist.com/6-examples-of-narcissistic-triangulation-and-an-explanation-of-unhealthy-dynamics-of-triangulation/ And to learn more about related subjects:...
Why a narcissist uses Triangulation and how to possibly deal with it
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Triangulation is one of the many manipulation tactics a narcissist has and sadly, they love to use it. I go into narcissistic triangulation, why a narcissist uses it, and how to possibly deal with it. I hope this video can be helpful to you in some way. The video is an addition to my in-depth article about triangulation, which you can find here: www.dealwithnarcissist.com/what-is-triangulation-...
How to Recognize a Covert Narcissist
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Sadly, a covert narcissist in your environment could drain your energy. It's important to learn how to recognize what's going on. By gaining knowledge about narcissism you can possibly validate your experience. Clearly, whereas narcissism is a spectrum disorder and different types can be distinguished as well, a narcissist can have both overt and covert ways. As covert narcissism can be hard to...
9 possible signs of a narcissistic sibling
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I explore 9 possible signs of a narcissistic sibling. It's essential to recognize narcissistic behaviour in order to learn how to protect yourself and your energy. I hope this video can be helpful to you in some way. The video is an addition to my in-depth article about narcissistic siblings, which you can find here: www.dealwithnarcissist.com/signs-of-a-narcissistic-sibling-and-how-to-deal-wit...
Why outsmarting a narcissist is NOT smart at all (8 reasons)
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A question often asked is 'how to outsmart or hurt a narcissist?'. This is, however, a self-destructive question that will not lead to any joy. The problem is that trying to outsmart or hurt a narcissist will result in you being stuck in your focus on the narcissist. So, in my opinion, we should thus completely stay out of this manipulative game, preferably go no contact, and focus our attentio...
Gaslighting by a narcissist: how to recognize and deal with it
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I go into a specific type of manipulative behaviour by narcissists called gaslighting. My aim is to get you to gain knowledge and learn how to better recognize this behaviour. It’s essential to recognize this manipulation as it can drain your energy when not aware of being gaslighted. I hope this can be helpful to you in some way. The video is an addition to my in-depth article about gaslightin...
The stages of the narcissistic abuse cycle explained
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Sadly, a lot of people experience or have experienced the cycle of narcissistic abuse. When dealing with a narcissist, it’s necessary to gain knowledge and learn to recognize what’s going on. It’s essential to learn to protect yourself and your energy. I hope this video can be helpful to you in some way. This video is an addition to my in-depth article explaining the narcissistic abuse cycle. Y...
Why narcissists use the silent treatment and how to respond
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Why narcissists use the silent treatment and how to respond
Three options on how to deal with a narcissistic sibling
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Three options on how to deal with a narcissistic sibling
Why The Grey Rock Method Doesn’t Work In The Long Term
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Why The Grey Rock Method Doesn’t Work In The Long Term
Once again, your videos have reached me during a tumultuous time in my life. Thank you for your wisdom and inspiration 🙏
Thank you for you kind words🙏 I'm thankful my videos can be helpful to you! Wish you strength in these challenging times!
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Goede serie ,Dankjewel voor deze video's heel informatief heel duidelijk 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻
Fijn te horen! Dankjewel 🙏
Volgens mij hoor ik een Nederlands accent. Cool. 😁
Zeker waar hehe ;)
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I said he couldn’t come back due to acting like a spoiled kindergartener. Silent treatment is used by cowards.
It is very immature behavior indeed. Sounds like you have clear boundaries! :)
????What if your sibling went no contact for over 5 years life was completely wonderful then a parent got terminal cancer and now the sibling who went no contact has shown up and is pretending to act like the Savior??
I'm sorry about that. Sadly, you can't control the behaviour of others. Wish you strength and wisdom in this painful situation!
I was victim of a narcissist... Intronized priest of his taoist temple !!!
I’m sorry to hear about that. Wish you strength and more kindness in the future!
@@DealWithNarcissist Thank you💝
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Just need a clinical diagnosis for her now 👍
This sounds like AI
Well, I suppose my voice sounds a bit like AI then ;)
I cant take it anymore, my brother phones me all the time to tell me to do things, after he is done abusing his wife, then he calls me, today i didnt answer, his wife texted me told me I am full of crap
I'm sorry to hear about that. I hope you manage, wish you strength!
My aunt left her sister alone without help for 3 yearsand never told us she had dementia and dhe ever got her in home help. No one wasaloudto help her. The state did nothing, area on aging refusedto help her and follow through.
i felt guilty for existing
I’m sorry to hear about that. I hope things are going better now. Wish you kindness and strength!
I just had to go no contact with my older brother. He never takes blaim for anything and has been very selfish and manipulative for our entire life. I was our mother's caregiver and he called me a murderer because she died of old age. He is a monster and there is no way to have a relationship with him.
I can relate, I am going through this right now
I'm sorry to hear about that. It takes a lot of courage to make this decision! Wish you strength and more kindness in the future!
@@DealWithNarcissist 🙏
Thank you for this video ❤ will there be a next one?
Thank you! 🙏 There will be indeed :)
A child can be forgiven for they are children. This behavior from an adult shows that they never matured and stayed ignorant. Their lack of understanding of what a real relationship is shows only that they forever refuse to accept responsibility and accountability for their actions and behavior. People like this are best left alone t their own devices.
No contact is best. Narcs are monsters. Stay as far away as possible. They only get worse and more batshit crazy and desperate as life wears on them.
My mother is covert narc and father is malognant narc.i am victim and all my siblings are against me and standing with evil spirits..i have been tired of grey rocking..😢
Wish you strength!
I thought my mother was an extreme narc...but my golden-child older sister surpassed her. It's like she learned it from our mother, then thought "I can top THAT!" (competitive, of course)
SAME!!!
Sometimes I wonder are we related, I don't feel related to my sister sometimes or my mother
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My father is malignant narc.mother is covert narc.i m scapegoat.my siblings are flying monkeys against me..god rescue me please😊
I'm currently in the process of grieving my relationship with my sister and am choosing no contact. It is so difficult and painful but I need to let go of my fantasies of what our relationship could be. It is also hard because my mom is in denial about her and continues to allow her to manipulate and abuse her and she just keeps forgetting and forgiving. But I will stay strong and set up my boundaries and prioritize my own mental health. This has gone on too long. My heart goes out to everyone in this situation
Thank you for sharing. It takes courage to chose for yourself and your own energy! And yes, it’s painful and hard indeed. Wish you strength and kindness!
THEY WILL BE SILENT AND ALONE ALL THE WAY TO THEIR GRAVES! 😂😂😂😂 THEY CAN'T EVER UNDERSTAND WHY I'M ALWAYS SO JOYFUL AND HAPPY! IT PISSES THEM OFF WHEN THEY SEE ME STILL HAPPY AND ALWAYS LOVING LIFE 😂😂😂😂
Excellent
This is my relationship now!!!!
Wow😮😮😮😮
You're amazing
Wow. This is what I am going through with my partner of thirteen years
I’m sorry to hear about your experience. Wish you strength and more kindness!
No narcissist will rewrite my real memories. Nice try.
My Sister is the worst of the worst. She destroyed our family. I hate she's married to Steve Wariner the country music artist. He's such a nice guy, but co-dependent...that's why she got pregnant on purpose. She did the same for her first husband. It's was so much fun hanging out with the rich and famous. I could give a shit about her, but miss Steve. She's 69 and I'm 66. Hopefully she will die before I do, so I can hang out with my family again. She's a high school drop out and I graduated with honors from USC and played football on 4 championship teams and worked as an executive with MOTOROLA and had sales teams of over 20 sales professionals and she never had a job. She treats me like I'm a bum. I haven't spoken to her in 8 years. The final straw was she told me I can't go backstage at the Opry on a Saturday when Steve hosted the Opry and it was my 58th birthday. (I paid Steve $56,000 to perform a 2 hour show 25 years ago for MOTOROLA at the Opreyland Hotel. Steve was hosting the Grand Ole Opry that night and just had to walk across the parking lot after hosting the Opry. He was filling in for his close friend Garth Brooks. $56k is over $100k today. Caryn actually over charged for Steve, instead of getting a deal since he was my brother in law, plus...no travel was involved) She said she'd ask the Opry manager, but it was too late because it was Thursday morning and the Ryman does background checks and Wednesday is the cutoff. No problem...I called the Opry manager and told her I was Steve's brother in law and I'd like a backstage pass Saturday for myself and my 86 year Mom. She said, "Oh! You're Caryn's brother". Just have her give me a call and I'll leave two back stage passes for you. I asked about the background checks. She laughed, "We don't do background checks!" I called Caryn, "Good news, I called the Opry manager and she said just give her a call!" OMG!!! SHE RAGED!!! USED EVERY CURSE WORD and said how could you do that to Steve and I??? Steve is going to get fired!!! (27 years in the Grand Ole Opry...😂) We are going to get in trouble! How could you??? I caught her in a lie and I never talked to her again! She has two grandchildren from her scapegoated son in NYC (I have 3 nephews and a niece, and they won't speak to me, because who knows what she told them about me?) ...he doesn't let my Sister talk to his children anymore. She can't even FaceTime them. 😂 When they were 13 and 12, they saw a family photo with me in it and asked, "who is that Man in the photo?" That's your Grandmother's brother. Grandmother has a brother?????? I have a million more where that came from...I guess I'll write a tell all book!
My sibling’s relationship with my narcissistic mother involved loyalty to her and playing narcissistic power games to garner her approval, financial support, devotional support. In my case I rejected her manipulations when I was four years old with her ensuing rejection of me which existed for her lifetime.
I hope you're doing well. Wish you strength!
My sister is wicked When l ran away from my violent ex with my children she sided with him went to court and said he should have custody of the children
Bloody hell. This video hits me right to the core. How true us this. I can tell you one thing it can be very overwhelming as I have witnessed it in 3 generations and the dynamics is beyond the word TOXIC.
My twin sister was a full blown narcissist- she ticked every box - my solution, no contact and it’s been 5 years of a simpler life. For me there is no going back, she tried to make contact through multiple actions directly and indirectly …………. NO CONTACT = Beat outcome for me and my family
Loving your videos. From Australia 👍
Thank you, great to hear!
When you finally go no contact and a week later they tell you they’ve got cancer.
Thanks for this video. It’s very helpful. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for your kind words. I’m thankful it can be helpful to you! Wish you strength and kindness.
I DONT miss any time lost with my sister There is no love for her in my heart Spoiled brat Grandiose ego No empathy Bitter Mean selfish
Wish you strength and more kindness in the future!
@DealWithNarcissist it sounds like my brother
Arrogant, entitled, envious, bitter, resentful, competitive, negative, abusive, superiority complex, plays the victim, and needs constant validation and praise. I refuse to deal with these types of behaviors. I recently learned about the “grey rock method.” Works great on narcissist siblings and the like.
Great you found a way that works for you! Wish you strength and kindness
Grey rock did not work. She my sister put me in hospital to her delight. I had to go no contact. Demins
My son does all this to me. I keep thinking its just who he is and he doesn't like to talk or to even answer me. He puts his earphones in and just ignores me whilst I'm trying to talk i feel awful. Like I'm just a nobody sitting there. He wont talk at all but he only talks if he wants me to do something for him and he orders me to get him a drink or make him something to eat its just so frustrating and i end up feeling nervous around him. He says he loves me but i dont feel that sort of connection with him. 😭
Amazing clear cut advice. Those are the best 3 options. There is no other way. I wish everyone dealing with a toxic sibling peace.
Your content is fabulous, but you need to set your sound levels higher.
Thank you for your kind words Robert! I’m glad it might be helpful. And thank you for bringing that to my attention for new videos! 🙏
My little sister and I came from the same snake pit. She aspired to remain a snake, I did not. It took over six decades for me to get a clue. Going dark was hard three years ago, but I can sincerely say that since then, my life has NEVER been better. The gaslights are out for good. Second childhood rocks! Way better toys. Way.
Thank you for sharing! I’m sorry about your experience. Great you created the courage to make this decision for yourself. Wish you strength and more kindness in the future!
@@DealWithNarcissist Yeah, well, you just keep doing what you're doing. Your reach is far, but not weightless. Be well.
Thank you! This post is exactly what I need, as I navigate two family relationships. It has given me courage and a different mindset, to take care of myself and to reduce/eliminate the ongoing drama.
Thank you for sharing! I’m thankful my video can be helpful to you. Great you found this courage and mindset within yourself! Keep going and wish you strength and kindness in the future!
Do narcissist siblings intrude your mind? I hate that, it is the worst... Invade privacy or say inapproproate things.
I suppose it can feel that way! Sadly, they will cross your boundaries and stay there if allowed. You have the control over your mind however. This can be strengthened in meditation. Wish you strength and kindness!
this is my mom. She weaponizes affection to control her relationship with me.
Wish you strength!
This is my husband's Siblings 👌 No contact with them Now its been 2 yrs
My sister-in-law used this one on my parents all the time. They would give in to whatever they wanted. Now my parents have passed, they tried it on me, I told them I am not my parents. Your silence is always welcomed. When you are ready to act like adults let me know. Click !
Great you’re setting boundaries to protect yourself! Wish you kindness
narcissist are also ghosting ,creating self doubt ,and self hate or hatred among people . surround us with negative environmnt
My sibling needs admiration. And she needs me to play 2nd fiddle in any situation where we are together. My sister is a feminist counselor and I thought she could understand me. But I was dreaming. How could I have thought that as she and my other sibling would bully me when I was young? But my parents always said we must love each other. Well I was the only one believe it. The take home here is that narcissists don’t reform. And covert narcissists are nice to everyone except a chosen few they have targeted for supply.
Thank you for sharing Cynthia. I'm sorry about your experience. I hope you're doing well. Wish you strength and more kindness in the future!