This was really helpful - saw some videos saying to use some of these “skips” and my instinct was … “really though?”. So I’m relieved to see you confirm they really aren’t necessary !
Agree with everything only I might add that a small potty with a pretend flush handle could be really useful. Some kids are afraid of the loud flushing sound of a real toilet so these can be softer and quieter and help them get used to that. Though in my experience as a nanny for 10+ years, most kids love flushing more than anything else about potty time so to have that feature on their small potty can feel almost like a reward within itself and they can do it as much as they like without wasting any water. And then when they switch over to the big toilet, flushing that can feel even more satisfying. I also love using the Daniel Tiger song and they sing “Flush and wash and be on your way!” so it’s nice to be able to do all of the actions along with the song even if they’re not ready for the big toilet yet. But again, I agree you don’t need ones that light up or sing songs, you really just want a replica of a real toilet that’s small and portable
I honestly dont see the problem with using praise to motivate kids. You used rewards to motivate your daughter and it worked. For some kids, what works may be praise. They really want to see mom or dad proud of them, so praise could give them the push they need. Just because you start praising doesnt mean you continue praising forever and ever. Its just for the initial push and can fade gradually as it becomes a habit.
I agree praise has a role. And only you know your kids best. While Montessori generally never supported much praise (I did a whole series where I disagree with that and talk about her motivation there); I would argue that you shouldn’t start with it like you said to give an “initial push” because a) if you start there then they have accidents their more likely to cry for disappointing you/not getting the praise and b) if there are any hills to climb you’ve just used a resource in getting over that hill, so that’s one less thing in your tool belt. Wait and see is always my approach then assess from there. And praise IS a reward (which I definitely say in this video or a different one in this series). One of my kids has a Leo moon, they literally need praise and recognition to feel safe. Every kids and situation is different and there always needs to be balance. Just because Montessori says one thing doesn’t mean it’s law/without exception.
@@confidentlymom i can agree with that. I would want intrinsic motivation to be the primary factor, but will definitely employ rewards when necessary to get the job done.
This was really helpful - saw some videos saying to use some of these “skips” and my instinct was … “really though?”. So I’m relieved to see you confirm they really aren’t necessary !
Thank you!!
Agree with everything only I might add that a small potty with a pretend flush handle could be really useful. Some kids are afraid of the loud flushing sound of a real toilet so these can be softer and quieter and help them get used to that. Though in my experience as a nanny for 10+ years, most kids love flushing more than anything else about potty time so to have that feature on their small potty can feel almost like a reward within itself and they can do it as much as they like without wasting any water. And then when they switch over to the big toilet, flushing that can feel even more satisfying. I also love using the Daniel Tiger song and they sing “Flush and wash and be on your way!” so it’s nice to be able to do all of the actions along with the song even if they’re not ready for the big toilet yet. But again, I agree you don’t need ones that light up or sing songs, you really just want a replica of a real toilet that’s small and portable
Thank you for sharing your insights and experience!! Agreed on the built in reward of the flusher!
Great video, thank you!!
I honestly dont see the problem with using praise to motivate kids. You used rewards to motivate your daughter and it worked. For some kids, what works may be praise. They really want to see mom or dad proud of them, so praise could give them the push they need. Just because you start praising doesnt mean you continue praising forever and ever. Its just for the initial push and can fade gradually as it becomes a habit.
I agree praise has a role. And only you know your kids best. While Montessori generally never supported much praise (I did a whole series where I disagree with that and talk about her motivation there); I would argue that you shouldn’t start with it like you said to give an “initial push” because a) if you start there then they have accidents their more likely to cry for disappointing you/not getting the praise and b) if there are any hills to climb you’ve just used a resource in getting over that hill, so that’s one less thing in your tool belt. Wait and see is always my approach then assess from there. And praise IS a reward (which I definitely say in this video or a different one in this series). One of my kids has a Leo moon, they literally need praise and recognition to feel safe. Every kids and situation is different and there always needs to be balance. Just because Montessori says one thing doesn’t mean it’s law/without exception.
@@confidentlymom i can agree with that. I would want intrinsic motivation to be the primary factor, but will definitely employ rewards when necessary to get the job done.