Been married 20 years. In-laws thought I was just a mooch living off my husband’s 150k year salary when I was a stay-at-home mom when the kids were younger. Knew I was meant for more. Opened my own business. Now my company employees 25 people and profits 2 million + a year. I love proving people wrong. Met and married for love, now I make more than my husband because I knew I could be successful, and we are partners. He quit a job he hated and joined me and we actually enjoy spending time together. Marriage isn’t always easy or fun, but it’s worth it if you find a partner like-minded with the same values and goals.
I want to do the same I’m still mom taking care of the children and I don’t want to leve them by themselves I don’t want the government taking care of my children I want to do something from home and maybe do offer some services but still have time for my children.
People. Stop talking about marriage. That's not what this video is about. He's making an analogy. His business is like the "get married" business and not the "get laid" business so he's justified in charging a huge premium for it. He's politely telling many of the 80k people who are seeking his service: "You cheap bastards seeking a quick laid should just go away, I'm only helping those who want to get married. So pay me." BTW, that's also an analogy, he's not really in the marriage business.
Line from a movie that stuck with me over the years: Crook to cop: You’ll never catch me. I’m much smarter than you are. Cop to crook: Yep, you are smarter than I am. You’re probably smarter than my partner and I. BUT, you see, there are over 500 cops here. You are not smarter than all of us together. We will get you. When dealing with governments, remember they have more people trying to grind you down. If you come to their attention doing something wrong, the results will be catastrophic. Mind your P’s and Q’s and stay off their radar - your life will be simpler and more satisfying.
Yes, important to remember that those who can't perform their skill go into teaching, those who can't do either go into government to suck off the other two groups. These are not the sharpest tools in the shed, but as any parasitic organism goes, they are smart enough to survive and do so in numbers. The key to long marriage is the same as any business enterprise, first chose the right partner. One who sees government for what it is, organized crime looking for a weak victim. Marriage is like real estate in that the value is established in the purchase and not the sale. As the old saying goes, you cannot make a silk purse from a sow's ear. Any partnership must be entered into based on rational thinking on both sides and not emotion. That means the woman must be capable of rational thought and habitually puts emotion aside in decision making. A very rare quality these days. Then it is important to be one in your goals, in my case we are business partners and thoroughly enjoy what we do together. Marriage can be a powerful partnership bringing years of company and fun but it must be treated like a business and not like a hobby.
I want to go where I’m treated best! ...Anyway, getting married in the U.S. makes absolutely no sense these days, not to mention the product isn’t what it used to be. Wealthy pro American athletes are finding this out the hard way.
Add the celebrities like actors and singers, for example those in Beverly Hills and Hollywood. A lot of their marriages are only for several months - it's like a game for them because they've got lots of money to throw away!
@Louie Tovar Damn right you are, bro! Only exception is if the men below that top 10% threshold marry a much wealthier partner, like a friend of my dad's is only middle class but married a woman rich as hell with shitloads of assets and over a dozen real estate properties, some of them luxury homes.
@@nomadcapitalist That is the only way to live a life...everyone makes mistakes of all sorts. People who dont admit mistakes never learn to avoid mistakes...at least some of them.
@@user-pp1ue1ll5o Yes, marriage in the US and some other countries is a financial contract with the state. There's obtaining the license, the contract, and the optional ceremony where people profess commitment that is complete non-binding. People can have whatever fantasy ceremony they want, say whatever they want. It's putting on a play. Of course there is no guarantee about any part of marriage. Like going into any business, no guarantees. There is only the contract. In business as in marriage the contract defines how to handle problems. That's what makes a marriage contract so bad. Few people would enter into a business contract if one of the parties didn't have to put anything in or perform at all, could steal from the business and the resolution for those actions is to give the thief 1/2 the assets. A marriage license unfortunately doesn't put the actual terms on the license and instead the parties have to know it represents laws and precedent.
@@user-pp1ue1ll5o relationships are not ony about not cheating. There are many couples who are in agreement to let their partners to cheat - keep that in mind
It’s a de facto beneficial contract for the female. For men though, it is like paying a premium to see a movie about how your life is about to be completely Ph*ckd. Don’t do it gentlemen. I know how special and different she is, I’m sticking with what I know from my experiences. Do not get married!
I'm 35yrs old and have been married for 10yrs and I love it. Its hard, but like anything else in life, anything that's worthwhile is very difficult, but its worthwhile, that's the whole point.
Been married for 30 years. I wouldn't trade it for anything. Has it been easy? Hell no! My wife loves me even though I'm an a$$hole sometimes. She is a helluva lot better person than I am and reminds me of the type of person I really want to be. Do I want to be wealthy? Yes and I want her to be involved all along the way bc she brings her gifts to our partnership that are invaluable. P.S. I don't always like what she says but I've learned to listen to her by experience.
@@henrik4438 I wish I could say hypergamy is a female trait but it's not. As an example, I had a person I knew who married an American woman beneath his social class just to get citizenship then ditched her. I lost my respect for this man. People do crazy things to get a leg up.
@@parkerpkthn you are being “fooled by randomness”, that is, in a large population, there are always winners and losers. The problem is associating random luck with ability. Think of a lottery winner, they are sure glad that they played the lottery. Like you, I also won the lottery, only more than you, since my happy marriage has lasted over 50 years. The odds are against winning in marriage, but there will always be some winners. Always respect the value of good luck.
Not all wives are there for you in a marriage; some are there for the kids or money or mortgage or tax or just cause they don't want the stigma of society and family judging them for being single. That's why some women celebrate the passing of their partner
@Jessica Miander is apparently one of them. Luckily those predators come out of the woodwork to aggressively or passive-aggressively expose themselves when the topic is brought up. Take note single guys. :D
Congradulations on engagement. I wish you successful long marriage. Marriage is long term investment, may your future children continue your legacy. I learned so much from your videos. I admire your work!
Legacy? 98% of our DNA is the same as the apes. Of the remaining 2% ...1% is from the woman. So you have a 1% DNA investment upon which you have gambled the farm. This is diluted in a population of 7.8 billion people on a planet that is already overrun and destroying itself. You need a huge ego to see this as worth the effort
Agree with longterm. Concerning common marriage: 1. Ask yourself what the word "license" means. 2. Ever asked yourself why you need a 'permission' from the government to 'marry' someone? Right, because you are entering a contract with the state, which gives access to your funds, children, higher taxation,... There are a total of 3 parties in this contract. Primary party = state Secondary party= husband Secondary party = spouse
Either way it’s gonna cost you money. Buy the things that appreciate and lease the things that depreciate...or simply put, if it floats, flies or fornicates...lease it. Marriage has a low success rate.
50 % of marriages succeed... lots of glass half empty in this comment forum. Sad to see the degradation of marriage and its mostly because of the govt red tape. Sign a prenuptial if you meet the right woman its worth it.
@@jdsartre9520 valid point and last stats I read said that 2% of marriages have couples “blissfully in love” and about 33% of marriages last 25 years and 6% last 50 years. The odds are stacked against men (and women) for longevity and staying “in love.”
I as a single man,have spent more on making up for not being in a relationship and the inconveniences it causes,than an expensive potential bloody divorce.i keep buying cars i don't drive ,going places i don't enjoy ,and having dinners with poor quality companies .at 40 i feel like I'm aging at a much faster rate that i should be,and i blame much of it on the single life and long periods of loneliness.absolutely detrimental and unnatural it is to live alone.
@@NA-vt6mz i just haven't been able to,the issue is not exclusive to american society,even down here in iran ,good looking girls won't settle down before its too late.mid 20s ,all they want is fun,travel and constant partying,by the time they reach their late 30s they all become suddenly interested
@@hyperrealitytv3557 My advice is to find someone closer to your age. If you are 40, don't look for a 30 year old woman. The mentality will be too different Find a woman your age who is like-minded and can be your best friend
When it comes to boats that is for certain....when it comes to sex if that is ALL you want and you dont care if the sex partner can stand you , then rental may work. If you want someone to enjoy life with AND a sex partner and someone who knows you well and STILL thinks you are the best man on the planet well you cannot buy that. Love is a gift freely given and cannot be bought- Some people honestly do NOT care about being loved...I have treated many. Sybil Francis PhD psychologist and academic researcher
@Abragini84 This is what I tell my adult son who is a recent widower with a preschool son to raise. He waited til his 40s to marry and says most women he has met on dating sites have raised their children and are ready to kick up their heels traveling and being childfree having raised theirs. While,those women were settling down, my son was was in a rock band and didnt want to,subject kids to the lifestyle, so he waited. I keep telling him he doesnt HAVE to remarry, there are all sorts of ways to live happily. But I want some special woman to love him deeply as he IS such a loveable person....speaking as his loving mother I dont want to be the only woman who loves him. I want him to have the joy I have had in life that only a good long term,happy sexual relationship with someone who thinks you are the best person on the planet can give.
Excellent video. I was skeptical when I first saw the title. But was pleasantly surprised by your wisdom and it actually help me rejuvenate my goals for future relationships. Thanks
It's tempting, but you are a 100% right! It's easy to be careless and thus reckless. Making vise decisions will make sure you are level headed and on the right path.
Excellent video Andrew. Well done. The quick-hit camp (Those who just want to get laid) are more often young, immature, and don't take life that serious, but they try to take money and business seriously. That actually throws them out of balance because most of them are not experienced or mature enough to know that being married to the right woman can provide you with that extra "Presence of a second mind" thing that you can bounce ideas off of, knowing that you've got someone there for you to support your ideas. Marriage is still a Noble institution. Married people are more stable in all areas of their lives. God Bless.
This information my dear TH-camr, It is priceless. Fits like a ring to my situation bro. I understand the upsides and gains that you mention. It´s true. Thanks for such useful and meaningful advice :)
was a mechanic most my life, about cars (i say this lightheartedly funny, but true) buy that honda or kia, that expensive car will be in the shop every other week. :) about the video subject, thank you for this point of view on this topic, very enlightening.
To all the men who are complaining about women being gold diggers, what kind of women are you people meeting? Maybe you should check what kind of vibes you give to other people. If you are driving around in a Bentley, you should expect only people who salivate for money. Don't show off your wealth and maybe you will have a chance at meeting a good person who can be your life partner
I think he is trying to publicly justify his own decision to get married to the large percentage of his financially well-off male viewers who are justifiably skeptical of marriage. Remember, he said this video was inspired by the minority percentage of women watching his channel.
Man I am impressed. The quality of info and advice here is excellent. Its interresting how you used a click-bait type title and yet you gave some deep advise. I think that you have to know what your goals are and strive towards them.
Qaulity! pure qaulity insights - said straight from the heart. Interesting insights and perspective, with strong elements of truth. I like the distinction you drew, with the two camps - definately food for thought! And, as a Western Independant Women, globetrotting and self employed business - who's first Love being Career and Travel, perhaps I ought to start considering Marriage myself............😃😃
Do it the Swedish way. Don't marry but make the commitment to spend your life with your partner without legality. I know a few couples that have children and been together for over 30 years without a legally binding paper. If a partner can't make that commitment without a paper, maybe they're not in it for the right reasons.
My wife and I met when she was fifteen and I was 17.... Two kids later and 18 years it was the best choice I ever made I have two great sons and a gorgeous wife.,... Your partner is a reflection of who you are, love each other help each other and grow together there's nothing like it. Love your videos Man.
It completely makes sense financially to pay 100 k to find a wife,being single and the instability in my life has cost me millions of dollar in lost opportunities,missed important meetings, calls ,business relations .i would definitely be interested in paying up.there have been times that i have spent thousands on shopping the wrong items just because i was lonely and miserable.
I like your philosophy of business style. Committed customers treated well not only are willing to pay, they are willing to work with you to serve them better and they refer. If it’s a personal service, I’d rather sell one I’m good at that customers value more than one they value less. Certainly there is a place for scale and selling to a mass market, but that is not in bespoke products and services with high margins.
I have escorted with wealthy asian men on my way up. Lived rent free in luxury at times. Women are masterful at hypergamy by nature with little effoet, men need to learn it.
It's called survival insurance. Since women are the one's who can get pregnant, and take on the risk of losing their earning potential with them babies. This comment section is leaning towards misogyny, and ignores the human side of things. As if all women are greedy liabilities, rather than also wanting lifelong companionship - to give, to love, to take care of someone. That is what most women want.
I'd rather get marry a Polish woman and settle down in Poland than in the states. Thankfully my mother came from Poland so all I need to do is confirm my citizenship by descent and thus be a lawful Polish resident on my own accord.
Marriage in the USA is a bad idea. You can marry a foreign girl if you are willing to stay in her country, just be sure to keep your wealth safe (I prefer cryptocurrency) so you can walk away if things go bad. I have a 3rd world wife, live in her country, I handle all the finances & pay the expenses, then give her an allowance for her clothes, cosmetics, helping family.
Andrew I wish I could share with you the knowledge I have about why you should never get married or cohabitate in today's society, but this is something each man has to learn on his own and it's better to play the game and lose, than never to play at all. Know Thyself.
If I had the wisdom to stay single I would have all the money I would have needed to retire early. But now I'm 63 and will need to work until I drop. Don't do it. Once the ring is on the finger, the benefits for men cease. Get a prenup first if you are that determined to be married. If she doesn't agree to it then she was only after your money anyway.
The rich guys don't have a problem getting laid but they will have trouble finding wifey material and lowering the risk of them divorcing and taking half
I'm laughing to myself Andrew. You haven't been married very long and you still think it's a long-term solution. Maybe it was in our grandfather's times and maybe it's still possible today. In any case I wish you happiness and fulfilment
Just discovered your channel & I like it, well done... Are you attending Anarchapulco in 02/19? Everything of true value, always requires hard work, period. Whether that is investing time, talent, & emotional resonance with genuine loving women who want a traditional family as I do. Or not cutting corners in setting up dual-citizenship, off-shore businesses, mitigating tax burdens in an honest manner & living a life of integrity & honor. For my power is my honor & my word is my bond. I don't lie, cheat, or steal... I am a moral person with a non judgemental moral compass. For me I have strong beliefs about economics & taxation. NOTHING of value in life is easy. But, I am very frugal, not cheap, everything has an opportunity cost. Once I hit 1 Billion $'s I'm done! That's my goal! With that $ I will help others & serve & change the world. Buy a Kia Niro Full Electric Car! Investigate the Niro... It's not a Tesla, but it's 40% less expensive & it's a well made car as all Kia's are nowadays! Kindest Regards, SM
If you are a nomad, remember that it is often easier to find lasting love with a wealthy, educated, accomplished woman, than a poor, uncultured airhead. In most countries of the Far East, highly educated and wealthy women are shunned as marriage partners in their society. The men in many cultures will not marry women who are more educated than they are. The women with Phd’s tend to be from wealthier families and have relatively high income, but once they are over their mid-twenties, they are no longer considered marriageable. While there are a lot of these “left over women” in Asia, this also applies to some cultures in Latin America, Africa, and parts of Europe. Traditional match-makers and hi-tech marrige-brokers get very wealthy in these societies. But if you seek real quality in such a relationship, you have to bring something of quality to the table yourself. Else, you will find yourself used and discaded like any giggolo.
you're absolutely right, going into the marriage business is more profitable. women make most of the purchasing decisions anyway, our economy is gynocentric so ofcourse it would make sense to pander to a woman's interest to get married, especially if the live in a developed country.
I think a bit of bumping your head (pun intended) makes for a good story also.... just be careful to not lose too much. I've done a bit of my own adventures in South America(best being Colombia) and it wasn't always fruitful in regards to love, but had a lot of fun getting laid, made some great memories, some good friends (local and expats), and more... but as we get older we should be getting more serious... with our partners and endeavors. I don't have much to say about the over shore business aspect yet, that's in my horizons... good advice but to each their own, just be ready to deal with obstacles and persevere no matter what and you'll live a rich life
Mr. Andrew Henderson. To tell you the truth I have no desire to get married or have children of my own but that doesn't mean that I do not love children in general. My priority now is to have a job as I am still in college and of course I am against people getting laid off for no reason.
I hooked up with a woman 23 years my junior while living in the Philippines. The sex was awesome and she is richer than me. I asked her once wth she was doing with me and her response was " I like you". Money never an issue, and after 2+ years we parted as friends. A very rare occurrence in the Philippines. The vast majority of the women look at you as a bank account. Period.
Nomad Philosopher Capitalist. Rock on, bro. Btw, there's a quote from Tolstoy's War and Peace (find audio version for free on Spotify, good actor reads it, though shortened) and he says something along the lines of "Never, never get married.." well, until you've established yourself. Well Tolstoy did not have a happy marriage though, but he managed to write some incredible novels. I think it's different for everyone. Some folks - marriage is the best thing.
It's li ke setting up your primary bank account in an unstable country, nothing wrong with life partner, hell offer tiered break up terms even in an agreement
Exactly! For the women you mentioned this is a great analogy. Invest in the long game. Best case you get fulfillment/lifestyle and worst case you keep both! Brilliant!
I love the comments here. The audience here are probably in the top 10% (atleast in terms of potential if not actually) and they're all opinionated in a certain way. No coincidence.
Everyone taking about don't get married..why not sign a cohabitation agreement? Each person gets to keep what was in there name before signing. Unlike marriage which combines assets even from before the wedding. Just a thought..
This is so inspiring Andrew. I’m loving your videos. I’d love more videos on ‘how low can you legally get your tax if you want to live full time in Spain.’ 🙏🏻
I'm not the marrying type. I prefer to be alone until I want to be around people. I like having company but, it has to be on my terms. I don't have any problems with the occasional one night stand but, when I say: "Leave," I mean: "Leave, NOW!"
I was widowed at 31 left with a 7yr old daughter to raise. I was a well paid professional and investor. No way did I want to get remarried...I just wasnt going to do it period because I didnt want MORE children. I met a man soon after he was divorced...we have been together almost 40 happy years. I ran towards him, toward early retirement, sailing the Caribbean for 10 yrs and then second retirement in Latin America for a further 20...a great life.
@@PlumbNutz I dont think marriage is a good idea for anyone except the children. I believe women and men should stand on their own two feet, each be able to support themselves, come together as equals if they choose. Put children into the mix though and I think children should be their top priority, children raised with just one parent have one arm tied behind their back...they feel less safe and secure. GIVEN THAT though having a single parent is better than warring parents. So I dont understand why you say marriage is better for women that men. AS a psychologist I have treated men who valued marriage more than their female spouses and were more emotionally dependent than their wives...it is very individual. Also research shows women adapt better to widowhood than men.
@@latinaalma1947 I'm happy to read your perspective here. Many men have an automatic negativity towards women and blame contemporary culture but aren't these men a product of the same broken culture? There are smart women out there who make their own money and bring a lot to the table.
If you aren’t married you can focus on being simple and finding happiness. While married 99.5% of men aren’t happy. If you have a the crazy itch to have a son then just volunteer in the big brother YMCA programs etc to dovetail your desire. 99% of grown children don’t contact their parents except for money and Christmas. Frankly a thankless task. If you have the karma to find a nice lady consider a vasectomy to keep the friendship alive. And course it’s possible to have a perfect family life with children but it’s not in the stars for 99.5%; and not worth the risk in my humble opinion. Who do you know that’s happy with children? And hiring a nanny is a red flag their not. Simple living high thinking.
C'mon. Lease versus buy and it's all about the cost of capital and residual value risk. Ergo: in the immortal words of Felix Dennis in his rules for his fellow billionaires: "If it flies, floats or fornicates, rent it"! After 30 years of marriage and 4 years of emancipation, I wish I had read Felix warning.
Been married 20 years. In-laws thought I was just a mooch living off my husband’s 150k year salary when I was a stay-at-home mom when the kids were younger. Knew I was meant for more. Opened my own business. Now my company employees 25 people and profits 2 million + a year. I love proving people wrong. Met and married for love, now I make more than my husband because I knew I could be successful, and we are partners. He quit a job he hated and joined me and we actually enjoy spending time together. Marriage isn’t always easy or fun, but it’s worth it if you find a partner like-minded with the same values and goals.
Being a stay-at-home mom is a HUGE job. You did both! You are amazing : )
I want to do the same I’m still mom taking care of the children and I don’t want to leve them by themselves I don’t want the government taking care of my children I want to do something from home and maybe do offer some services but still have time for my children.
Amazing story!! Thanks for sharing!
That's actually beautiful, good on you guys
Wow.. I want that (marriage wise). Amazing story and so inspiring. My view has generally been to avoid marriage, but maybe not.
A marriage is a three way contract with the state, and the states on her side. Don't be naive.
very true
Exactly
Depends on the jurisdiction
@@orenda3696 or their citizen
you can get married but no with the state, just a private ceremony and a prenuptial and you are set
People. Stop talking about marriage.
That's not what this video is about.
He's making an analogy.
His business is like the "get married" business and not the "get laid" business so he's justified in charging a huge premium for it.
He's politely telling many of the 80k people who are seeking his service: "You cheap bastards seeking a quick laid should just go away, I'm only helping those who want to get married. So pay me."
BTW, that's also an analogy, he's not really in the marriage business.
Just so!
That is quite an Executive Summary :)
I see...
Line from a movie that stuck with me over the years:
Crook to cop: You’ll never catch me. I’m much smarter than you are.
Cop to crook: Yep, you are smarter than I am. You’re probably smarter than my partner and I. BUT, you see, there are over 500 cops here. You are not smarter than all of us together. We will get you.
When dealing with governments, remember they have more people trying to grind you down. If you come to their attention doing something wrong, the results will be catastrophic. Mind your P’s and Q’s and stay off their radar - your life will be simpler and more satisfying.
Superb advice and remember they are PAID to make lives difficult and miserable and dont ever give those jobs up til retirement.
Yes, important to remember that those who can't perform their skill go into teaching, those who can't do either go into government to suck off the other two groups. These are not the sharpest tools in the shed, but as any parasitic organism goes, they are smart enough to survive and do so in numbers. The key to long marriage is the same as any business enterprise, first chose the right partner. One who sees government for what it is, organized crime looking for a weak victim. Marriage is like real estate in that the value is established in the purchase and not the sale. As the old saying goes, you cannot make a silk purse from a sow's ear. Any partnership must be entered into based on rational thinking on both sides and not emotion. That means the woman must be capable of rational thought and habitually puts emotion aside in decision making. A very rare quality these days. Then it is important to be one in your goals, in my case we are business partners and thoroughly enjoy what we do together. Marriage can be a powerful partnership bringing years of company and fun but it must be treated like a business and not like a hobby.
Brilliant advice. This happened to me....
Good quote
I want to go where I’m treated best! ...Anyway, getting married in the U.S. makes absolutely no sense these days, not to mention the product isn’t what it used to be. Wealthy pro American athletes are finding this out the hard way.
Add the celebrities like actors and singers, for example those in Beverly Hills and Hollywood. A lot of their marriages are only for several months - it's like a game for them because they've got lots of money to throw away!
@Diggy d That's crazy!
@Jewel Clark Awesome. I ❤Quebec.
@Louie Tovar Damn right you are, bro!
Only exception is if the men below that top 10% threshold marry a much wealthier partner, like a friend of my dad's is only middle class but married a woman rich as hell with shitloads of assets and over a dozen real estate properties, some of them luxury homes.
Ask Brad Pitt about what he thinks about marriage..
That’s a no from me, dawg.
Wow - admitting his mistakes, faults, and errors. Pretty rare in this type of industry.
That's the only way, acknowledging and then fixing your own mistakes. :)
@@nomadcapitalist Can you be my friend and coach?
@@nomadcapitalist That is the only way to live a life...everyone makes mistakes of all sorts. People who dont admit mistakes never learn to avoid mistakes...at least some of them.
if it floats, flies, or fu.... ah never mind
I posted something similar, albeit same source. Truth is truth and you definitely get more renting.
@@markscott9622 Kevin Mark, teel me more about it LOL i want to now jajaja
Said a guy who's never been divorced. Mariage is the worse contract a person could sign in most countries.
Marriage doesn’t guarantee that wife will not cheat, so marriage isn’t about relationship it’s about money
@@user-pp1ue1ll5o Yes, marriage in the US and some other countries is a financial contract with the state. There's obtaining the license, the contract, and the optional ceremony where people profess commitment that is complete non-binding. People can have whatever fantasy ceremony they want, say whatever they want. It's putting on a play.
Of course there is no guarantee about any part of marriage. Like going into any business, no guarantees. There is only the contract. In business as in marriage the contract defines how to handle problems. That's what makes a marriage contract so bad. Few people would enter into a business contract if one of the parties didn't have to put anything in or perform at all, could steal from the business and the resolution for those actions is to give the thief 1/2 the assets. A marriage license unfortunately doesn't put the actual terms on the license and instead the parties have to know it represents laws and precedent.
@@user-pp1ue1ll5o relationships are not ony about not cheating. There are many couples who are in agreement to let their partners to cheat - keep that in mind
It’s a de facto beneficial contract for the female. For men though, it is like paying a premium to see a movie about how your life is about to be completely Ph*ckd. Don’t do it gentlemen. I know how special and different she is, I’m sticking with what I know from my experiences. Do not get married!
Bunch of fragile short sighted fool
I'm 35yrs old and have been married for 10yrs and I love it. Its hard, but like anything else in life, anything that's worthwhile is very difficult, but its worthwhile, that's the whole point.
Did you sign a prenup
Been married for 30 years. I wouldn't trade it for anything. Has it been easy? Hell no! My wife loves me even though I'm an a$$hole sometimes. She is a helluva lot better person than I am and reminds me of the type of person I really want to be. Do I want to be wealthy? Yes and I want her to be involved all along the way bc she brings her gifts to our partnership that are invaluable. P.S. I don't always like what she says but I've learned to listen to her by experience.
Well your scenario is certainly the exception and not the rule. Morality is dead, and feminism is the murderer.
@@henrik4438 I wish I could say hypergamy is a female trait but it's not. As an example, I had a person I knew who married an American woman beneath his social class just to get citizenship then ditched her. I lost my respect for this man. People do crazy things to get a leg up.
@@parkerpkthn you are being “fooled by randomness”, that is, in a large population, there are always winners and losers.
The problem is associating random luck with ability.
Think of a lottery winner, they are sure glad that they played the lottery.
Like you, I also won the lottery, only more than you, since my happy marriage has lasted over 50 years.
The odds are against winning in marriage, but there will always be some winners.
Always respect the value of good luck.
@@everetteborr Congratulations on 50 years!
His wife told him to say that!
Not all wives are there for you in a marriage; some are there for the kids or money or mortgage or tax or just cause they don't want the stigma of society and family judging them for being single. That's why some women celebrate the passing of their partner
Those types aren't women, they're predators.
@Jessica Miander is apparently one of them.
Luckily those predators come out of the woodwork to aggressively or passive-aggressively expose themselves when the topic is brought up.
Take note single guys. :D
Congradulations on engagement. I wish you successful long marriage. Marriage is long term investment, may your future children continue your legacy. I learned so much from your videos. I admire your work!
Farhiya A ...Finally, an appropriately positive comment.
Legacy? 98% of our DNA is the same as the apes. Of the remaining 2% ...1% is from the woman. So you have a 1% DNA investment upon which you have gambled the farm. This is diluted in a population of 7.8 billion people on a planet that is already overrun and destroying itself. You need a huge ego to see this as worth the effort
Don't ever get married. Been there. Done that. Not worth it.
Probably you were a problem...
@@saraandstuartshannon2160 Perhaps. Some people are not meant to get married.
I'm female and I want a sexual engagement that is excited with a male but why do I have to marry?
@@edchung4263 we are decisions we make. Each of us can be a bad marriage material, or good one. But I agree, many people pick a first option.
@@johnsunday2402 I feel sorry for your experience. Sorry for being straightforward, but what have you learned from this?
Getting married is signing a contract where only you are bound. It is a bad deal...
Agree with longterm.
Concerning common marriage:
1. Ask yourself what the word "license" means.
2. Ever asked yourself why you need a 'permission' from the government to 'marry' someone?
Right, because you are entering a contract with the state, which gives access to your funds, children, higher taxation,...
There are a total of 3 parties in this contract.
Primary party = state
Secondary party= husband
Secondary party = spouse
Either way it’s gonna cost you money. Buy the things that appreciate and lease the things that depreciate...or simply put, if it floats, flies or fornicates...lease it. Marriage has a low success rate.
Bravo
50 % of marriages succeed... lots of glass half empty in this comment forum. Sad to see the degradation of marriage and its mostly because of the govt red tape. Sign a prenuptial if you meet the right woman its worth it.
@@jdsartre9520 valid point and last stats I read said that 2% of marriages have couples “blissfully in love” and about 33% of marriages last 25 years and 6% last 50 years. The odds are stacked against men (and women) for longevity and staying “in love.”
@@jdsartre9520 or maybe u deny urself that u lack exposure from ur narrow bubble
I as a single man,have spent more on making up for not being in a relationship and the inconveniences it causes,than an expensive potential bloody divorce.i keep buying cars i don't drive ,going places i don't enjoy ,and having dinners with poor quality companies .at 40 i feel like I'm aging at a much faster rate that i should be,and i blame much of it on the single life and long periods of loneliness.absolutely detrimental and unnatural it is to live alone.
U can easily find a good homely woman if u want . What’s stopping u.
@@NA-vt6mz i just haven't been able to,the issue is not exclusive to american society,even down here in iran ,good looking girls won't settle down before its too late.mid 20s ,all they want is fun,travel and constant partying,by the time they reach their late 30s they all become suddenly interested
It’s unnatural to seek your own destruction sir
@@hyperrealitytv3557 My advice is to find someone closer to your age. If you are 40, don't look for a 30 year old woman. The mentality will be too different
Find a woman your age who is like-minded and can be your best friend
@@UnorthodoxlyEsthetic those would be considered post wall, left over women with low sexual marketplace value
The three "F"s, if it flies, floats or f...ks, it is cheaper to rent.
...or borrow.
When it comes to boats that is for certain....when it comes to sex if that is ALL you want and you dont care if the sex partner can stand you , then rental may work. If you want someone to enjoy life with AND a sex partner and someone who knows you well and STILL thinks you are the best man on the planet well you cannot buy that. Love is a gift freely given and cannot be bought- Some people honestly do NOT care about being loved...I have treated many. Sybil Francis PhD psychologist and academic researcher
@Abragini84 This is what I tell my adult son who is a recent widower with a preschool son to raise. He waited til his 40s to marry and says most women he has met on dating sites have raised their children and are ready to kick up their heels traveling and being childfree having raised theirs. While,those women were settling down, my son was was in a rock band and didnt want to,subject kids to the lifestyle, so he waited. I keep telling him he doesnt HAVE to remarry, there are all sorts of ways to live happily. But I want some special woman to love him deeply as he IS such a loveable person....speaking as his loving mother I dont want to be the only woman who loves him. I want him to have the joy I have had in life that only a good long term,happy sexual relationship with someone who thinks you are the best person on the planet can give.
@Abragini84 a relationship with a hooker or a gold digger is not a relatioship.
Excellent video. I was skeptical when I first saw the title. But was pleasantly surprised by your wisdom and it actually help me rejuvenate my goals for future relationships. Thanks
Thank you. Glad it was helpful, Don.
Tbh this is your best video I’ve seen so far, gives great advice and has helped me develop my business with the correct mindset.
I was hoping that this was going to cover some of the practical aspects of dating/marrying/having a family with a person from another country
It's tempting, but you are a 100% right!
It's easy to be careless and thus reckless.
Making vise decisions will make sure you are level headed and on the right path.
Real talk Andrew I appreciate it, big difference in humanizing relationships.
Thank you. I love that; run toward something not away from something.
Absolutely!
@@nomadcapitalist your welcome. I can shall and will pass that on to the next generation in my family and those after them. That is amazing wisdom.
Fantastic analogy. Thank you.
Yep, we get it, you offer a premium product for a premium price.
Very insightful video with great analogies made!
Some good points made on the "business" of getting laid vs getting married..
Marriage is a golden parachute for women. For men marriage is like having a pet tiger, wonderful but it can destroy you at any moment.
Excellent video Andrew. Well done. The quick-hit camp (Those who just want to get laid) are more often young, immature, and don't take life that serious, but they try to take money and business seriously. That actually throws them out of balance because most of them are not experienced or mature enough to know that being married to the right woman can provide you with that extra "Presence of a second mind" thing that you can bounce ideas off of, knowing that you've got someone there for you to support your ideas. Marriage is still a Noble institution. Married people are more stable in all areas of their lives. God Bless.
Good points, Drew; thank you for sharing.
Never get married.. . Never have have children.... and teach your kids the same... lol
priceless
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Is an unfortunate choice, but us men don't have a much better alternative.
😂😂😂😂 you made my day
Schwinnminibike yue If you never have kids then you won't have anyone to teach.....
Don't get married. State has access to all your funds after separation
Just go to a brothel guys it’s cheaper safer and you have more fun😂👍
@@elenastaffy6119 Amsterdam red light district or Bangkok BJ bars are a couple options unless you have more
Interesting perspective, thanks for sharing. I really appreciate your time.
This information my dear TH-camr, It is priceless. Fits like a ring to my situation bro. I understand the upsides and gains that you mention. It´s true. Thanks for such useful and meaningful advice :)
was a mechanic most my life, about cars (i say this lightheartedly funny, but true) buy that honda or kia, that expensive car will be in the shop every other week. :)
about the video subject, thank you for this point of view on this topic, very enlightening.
To all the men who are complaining about women being gold diggers, what kind of women are you people meeting? Maybe you should check what kind of vibes you give to other people. If you are driving around in a Bentley, you should expect only people who salivate for money. Don't show off your wealth and maybe you will have a chance at meeting a good person who can be your life partner
These males want beautiful high maintenance women who they can't afford, which is why they call women gold digger.
@@nothingtoseehere299 or they can afford it but she's naturally only going to be in it for money. Because he offers nothing as a partner except money
I just tell women I work at McDonald's. Makes it easy
Missing your podcast episodes .. Cheers from Slovenia
I finished and I still can't actually figure out what's being said here..
I think he is trying to publicly justify his own decision to get married to the large percentage of his financially well-off male viewers who are justifiably skeptical of marriage. Remember, he said this video was inspired by the minority percentage of women watching his channel.
True. It got long-winded and became one big digression
An eloquent moment of fundamental wisdom. Wonderful insight and advice. Thank you.
Man I am impressed. The quality of info and advice here is excellent. Its interresting how you used a click-bait type title and yet you gave some deep advise. I think that you have to know what your goals are and strive towards them.
I appreciate that Jimmy!
So... make a business targeting rich simps?😂😂😂
I enjoy your videos Andrew. Can you make more, more frequently?
Qaulity! pure qaulity insights - said straight from the heart. Interesting insights and perspective, with strong elements of truth. I like the distinction you drew, with the two camps - definately food for thought! And, as a Western Independant Women, globetrotting and self employed business - who's first Love being Career and Travel, perhaps I ought to start considering Marriage myself............😃😃
Thank you :)
At times I love to keep coming and coming and coming. We are coming and coming in waves!
Do it the Swedish way. Don't marry but make the commitment to spend your life with your partner without legality. I know a few couples that have children and been together for over 30 years without a legally binding paper. If a partner can't make that commitment without a paper, maybe they're not in it for the right reasons.
Wrong. We have common law marriage in the US so don’t live with her either.
@@michaelbrown1627 Common law marriage only exists in a few states. Most states don't allow it, you either have the license, or you don't.
This is an extremely fascinating analogy. The fact that you can make this analogy makes me trust you much more
Very insightful! Thank you.
I had to do a double take on this vid’s title with Andrew talking about getting laid.
I agree, not his usual beat.
😂😂😂
thank you for sharing the lessons you learned in life
My pleasure!
Love this video
My wife and I met when she was fifteen and I was 17.... Two kids later and 18 years it was the best choice I ever made I have two great sons and a gorgeous wife.,... Your partner is a reflection of who you are, love each other help each other and grow together there's nothing like it. Love your videos Man.
18 years ago this was possible, not so much now.
@@PlumbNutz Might be slightly harder but I think it's still possible.... Just have to think out of the box and marry someone you share values with.
It completely makes sense financially to pay 100 k to find a wife,being single and the instability in my life has cost me millions of dollar in lost opportunities,missed important meetings, calls ,business relations .i would definitely be interested in paying up.there have been times that i have spent thousands on shopping the wrong items just because i was lonely and miserable.
Any man signing a contract to say he loves someone is a clown and intimately deserves what he gets.
I like your philosophy of business style. Committed customers treated well not only are willing to pay, they are willing to work with you to serve them better and they refer. If it’s a personal service, I’d rather sell one I’m good at that customers value more than one they value less. Certainly there is a place for scale and selling to a mass market, but that is not in bespoke products and services with high margins.
Thank you very much for all your true advices
Such words of wisdom from such a young good-looking man.
I have escorted with wealthy asian men on my way up. Lived rent free in luxury at times. Women are masterful at hypergamy by nature with little effoet, men need to learn it.
It's called survival insurance. Since women are the one's who can get pregnant, and take on the risk of losing their earning potential with them babies. This comment section is leaning towards misogyny, and ignores the human side of things. As if all women are greedy liabilities, rather than also wanting lifelong companionship - to give, to love, to take care of someone. That is what most women want.
I'd rather get marry a Polish woman and settle down in Poland than in the states. Thankfully my mother came from Poland so all I need to do is confirm my citizenship by descent and thus be a lawful Polish resident on my own accord.
@Thomas Wieser I saw your recent comment on receiving Polish passport I have Irish and Polish ancestry also how long did the process take Thanks
bad boys get laid
good boys get married
Good boys get married and then financially cleaned out by divorce and family court
Fixed that for ya
@King Homer Conquerors were psychopaths because in spite of having many women for sex, they had never experienced love.
Kay Em Says who? You?! Sounds like a great made up story hahaha
Lets tell all our bros , good and bad boys , to stop marrying , and start flinging
@@dr.winstonsmith not good enough lollllll if you good enough she will keep you for life!
He is always selling. I love it!
Marriage in the USA is a bad idea. You can marry a foreign girl if you are willing to stay in her country, just be sure to keep your wealth safe (I prefer cryptocurrency) so you can walk away if things go bad. I have a 3rd world wife, live in her country, I handle all the finances & pay the expenses, then give her an allowance for her clothes, cosmetics, helping family.
Andrew I wish I could share with you the knowledge I have about why you should never get married or cohabitate in today's society, but this is something each man has to learn on his own and it's better to play the game and lose, than never to play at all. Know Thyself.
If I had the wisdom to stay single I would have all the money I would have needed to retire early. But now I'm 63 and will need to work until I drop. Don't do it. Once the ring is on the finger, the benefits for men cease. Get a prenup first if you are that determined to be married. If she doesn't agree to it then she was only after your money anyway.
The rich guys don't have a problem getting laid but they will have trouble finding wifey material and lowering the risk of them divorcing and taking half
I'm laughing to myself Andrew.
You haven't been married very long and you still think it's a long-term solution. Maybe it was in our grandfather's times and maybe it's still possible today. In any case I wish you happiness and fulfilment
Just discovered your channel & I like it, well done... Are you attending Anarchapulco in 02/19? Everything of true value, always requires hard work, period. Whether that is investing time, talent, & emotional resonance with genuine loving women who want a traditional family as I do. Or not cutting corners in setting up dual-citizenship, off-shore businesses, mitigating tax burdens in an honest manner & living a life of integrity & honor. For my power is my honor & my word is my bond. I don't lie, cheat, or steal... I am a moral person with a non judgemental moral compass. For me I have strong beliefs about economics & taxation. NOTHING of value in life is easy. But, I am very frugal, not cheap, everything has an opportunity cost. Once I hit 1 Billion $'s I'm done! That's my goal! With that $ I will help others & serve & change the world. Buy a Kia Niro Full Electric Car! Investigate the Niro... It's not a Tesla, but it's 40% less expensive & it's a well made car as all Kia's are nowadays! Kindest Regards,
SM
This is the reason that trusts and foundations were created. Asset protection. It is worth your while to understand how to use them properly.
I like your style and attitude
Thank you.
I have 3 million assets and I will never get married. I will leave large chunks of money to my spouse.
"Nobody's paying $100k for a one night stand"
Tell that to Stormy Daniels LOL.
If you are a nomad, remember that it is often easier to find lasting love with a wealthy, educated, accomplished woman, than a poor, uncultured airhead. In most countries of the Far East, highly educated and wealthy women are shunned as marriage partners in their society. The men in many cultures will not marry women who are more educated than they are. The women with Phd’s tend to be from wealthier families and have relatively high income, but once they are over their mid-twenties, they are no longer considered marriageable. While there are a lot of these “left over women” in Asia, this also applies to some cultures in Latin America, Africa, and parts of Europe. Traditional match-makers and hi-tech marrige-brokers get very wealthy in these societies. But if you seek real quality in such a relationship, you have to bring something of quality to the table yourself. Else, you will find yourself used and discaded like any giggolo.
you are absolutely right.
Like where? Malaysia or China?
you're absolutely right, going into the marriage business is more profitable. women make most of the purchasing decisions anyway, our economy is gynocentric so ofcourse it would make sense to pander to a woman's interest to get married, especially if the live in a developed country.
What s superb philosophy!
Get laid .... get #MeToo'd - entirely too likely
Get married - get divorced - also entirely too likely
I think a bit of bumping your head (pun intended) makes for a good story also.... just be careful to not lose too much. I've done a bit of my own adventures in South America(best being Colombia) and it wasn't always fruitful in regards to love, but had a lot of fun getting laid, made some great memories, some good friends (local and expats), and more... but as we get older we should be getting more serious... with our partners and endeavors. I don't have much to say about the over shore business aspect yet, that's in my horizons... good advice but to each their own, just be ready to deal with obstacles and persevere no matter what and you'll live a rich life
The idea that everything can be bought...
Mr. Andrew Henderson. To tell you the truth I have no desire to get married or have children of my own but that doesn't mean that I do not love children in general. My priority now is to have a job as I am still in college and of course I am against people getting laid off for no reason.
I hooked up with a woman 23 years my junior while living in the Philippines. The sex was awesome and she is richer than me. I asked her once wth she was doing with me and her response was " I like you". Money never an issue, and after 2+ years we parted as friends. A very rare occurrence in the Philippines. The vast majority of the women look at you as a bank account. Period.
Why did you two part ways if things were so good?
Ah I saw the title and saw a man of culture
Nomad Philosopher Capitalist. Rock on, bro. Btw, there's a quote from Tolstoy's War and Peace (find audio version for free on Spotify, good actor reads it, though shortened) and he says something along the lines of "Never, never get married.." well, until you've established yourself. Well Tolstoy did not have a happy marriage though, but he managed to write some incredible novels. I think it's different for everyone. Some folks - marriage is the best thing.
It's li ke setting up your primary bank account in an unstable country, nothing wrong with life partner, hell offer tiered break up terms even in an agreement
Exactly! For the women you mentioned this is a great analogy. Invest in the long game. Best case you get fulfillment/lifestyle and worst case you keep both! Brilliant!
You get what you pay for. I'd rather pay the high price now than pay twice for it later.
I love the comments here. The audience here are probably in the top 10% (atleast in terms of potential if not actually) and they're all opinionated in a certain way. No coincidence.
just remember the girl you marry isn't the same bitch you divorce
Well said 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
_Go where you are treated best._
Applies to relationships just as much as finance.
No need to stay in a _legacy brand_ relationship : )
Everyone taking about don't get married..why not sign a cohabitation agreement? Each person gets to keep what was in there name before signing. Unlike marriage which combines assets even from before the wedding.
Just a thought..
I didn't know that 🤔 。
thanks 。
Such a document means nothing in many jurisdictions
In other words, pre nup
Don't sign anything. Don't live together.
This is so inspiring Andrew. I’m loving your videos. I’d love more videos on ‘how low can you legally get your tax if you want to live full time in Spain.’ 🙏🏻
Happy to be of service, Dan. 😊
You get out lol
Thanks
I'm not the marrying type. I prefer to be alone until I want to be around people. I like having company but, it has to be on my terms. I don't have any problems with the occasional one night stand but, when I say: "Leave," I mean: "Leave, NOW!"
Same here
I was widowed at 31 left with a 7yr old daughter to raise. I was a well paid professional and investor. No way did I want to get remarried...I just wasnt going to do it period because I didnt want MORE children. I met a man soon after he was divorced...we have been together almost 40 happy years. I ran towards him, toward early retirement, sailing the Caribbean for 10 yrs and then second retirement in Latin America for a further 20...a great life.
This ^^^^^ a good example of how marriage is a good idea for women but not for men.
@@PlumbNutz I dont think marriage is a good idea for anyone except the children. I believe women and men should stand on their own two feet, each be able to support themselves, come together as equals if they choose. Put children into the mix though and I think children should be their top priority, children raised with just one parent have one arm tied behind their back...they feel less safe and secure. GIVEN THAT though having a single parent is better than warring parents. So I dont understand why you say marriage is better for women that men. AS a psychologist I have treated men who valued marriage more than their female spouses and were more emotionally dependent than their wives...it is very individual. Also research shows women adapt better to widowhood than men.
@@latinaalma1947 I'm happy to read your perspective here. Many men have an automatic negativity towards women and blame contemporary culture but aren't these men a product of the same broken culture? There are smart women out there who make their own money and bring a lot to the table.
@@latinaalma1947 Research also shows that married men live longer.
@@georgiaswann6221 Many men are not simply accountable to what they contribute to a relationship and what is needed to make it successful.
good advice
If you aren’t married you can focus on being simple and finding happiness. While married 99.5% of men aren’t happy. If you have a the crazy itch to have a son then just volunteer in the big brother YMCA programs etc to dovetail your desire. 99% of grown children don’t contact their parents except for money and Christmas. Frankly a thankless task. If you have the karma to find a nice lady consider a vasectomy to keep the friendship alive. And course it’s possible to have a perfect family life with children but it’s not in the stars for 99.5%; and not worth the risk in my humble opinion. Who do you know that’s happy with children? And hiring a nanny is a red flag their not. Simple living high thinking.
Arjuna Patel
Finally, someone with Vedic astrology insights. Your charts can indicate whether you would have a fruitful or pleasurable family life.
Your outlook on life is depressing.
C'mon. Lease versus buy and it's all about the cost of capital and residual value risk. Ergo:
in the immortal words of Felix Dennis in his rules for his fellow billionaires: "If it flies, floats or fornicates, rent it"!
After 30 years of marriage and 4 years of emancipation, I wish I had read Felix warning.
They pay $150 000 to find a woman who has millions too.
Kia’s are great
For everyone this is Meat of the video and general advise for life #defineyourdesiredoutcome
I agree with the 3 F's philosophy, but just in case you wanted children - say it with me gentlemen SURROGATE MOTHER