Men Are VERY Attracted To These 5 Things That Set You APART

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    Men Are VERY Attracted To These 5 Things That Set You APART... In this video, I will explain what men are attracted to and help you attract great guys. I want you to know what men want and the things that set you apart when you are dating and while you are in a relationship. Take heed to this dating advice for women and watch to the end to understand how men are very attracted to the five things that set you apart.
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  • @MeetStephanSpeaks
    @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

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    • @antoinettegilbert9258
      @antoinettegilbert9258 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I will soon….I’m procrastinating Mr.Stephan!🙂😂😂

    • @morebyaas
      @morebyaas 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@antoinettegilbert9258so am I I’m not just ready to date I’m too popular social media needa die down and ppl need to get off phones so I can get a no phone having dude that won’t know about my shenanigans theheheheheehehe

  • @fosterjanine5112
    @fosterjanine5112 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +300

    Never change who you are and if someone doesn't love you for who you are then they are not the right person for you!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

    • @paulbartell
      @paulbartell 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      facts... im a dusty but there's millions of women who will love me for me!

    • @JStig12
      @JStig12 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      ​@@paulbartellWhat is a dusty? I have never heard of that term before?

    • @subsistence73
      @subsistence73 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Lllmmbboo 😂😂😂 these comments

    • @Miriam-qh1so
      @Miriam-qh1so 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@JStig12 - A dusty man is someone who is usually broke, doesn't contribute or pull his weight in a relationship. Often relies on women financially. A low value man.

  • @GuavaClouds
    @GuavaClouds 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +154

    You are one of the few male creators that delivers messages without being insulting. Appreciate it 🙌🏾

    • @cdnicole30
      @cdnicole30 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yep

    • @belindacassidy6541
      @belindacassidy6541 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This is so true. Guys and women think so differently! Love this

  • @wangcheng5188
    @wangcheng5188 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +338

    Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago, The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

    • @wangcheng5188
      @wangcheng5188 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Amazing. how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

    • @wangcheng5188
      @wangcheng5188 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked her up now online. impressive.

    • @nicolejohnson8218
      @nicolejohnson8218 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      🙏

    • @MooreofChas
      @MooreofChas 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I personally like the length of the videos.! I put in my AirPods and listen to them at work like a podcast.

    • @salinam5872
      @salinam5872 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      🥺🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾

  • @heiressnaturalhall1418
    @heiressnaturalhall1418 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +128

    It's fantastic to see someone highlighting the unique strengths of women, like accountability, affection, and emotional intelligence. Being sensual and clear about boundaries is indeed crucial as well for woman. Keep the content coming. ❤❤❤

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

  • @TirraOmilade
    @TirraOmilade 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    Catering my man…this is real. I am Gen X and realized a long time ago that there was a real plus instead of seeing it as oppressive. I just cared and did nice things a the young men loved that about me. I have been married for 30 years and catering to my husband works! But he also goes out of his way to cater to me. It’s so beautiful. It takes checking into your intuition to see if it feels right to continue catering to a boyfriend.

  • @amyahwright7371
    @amyahwright7371 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +114

    Guys we need God! Please seek God & develop a relationship with God!God will never do you wrong 💖!

    • @seeyalater2953
      @seeyalater2953 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      God will also lead you to the correct Godly woman. The woman He has for you.😊❤🙏😊

    • @girlreallabeautyllc373
      @girlreallabeautyllc373 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Amen

    • @marigolds49
      @marigolds49 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      💯

    • @athenasmith5866
      @athenasmith5866 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Prriod

    • @jonawells8064
      @jonawells8064 หลายเดือนก่อน

      True …still take on these traits lol you can’t just rely on God if you aren’t mature enough for the relationship

  • @vanessaskin
    @vanessaskin 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +137

    That's what I always tell people. Everyone may be great on the surface but doesn't mean in intimate settings they are the same. Or as a parent. And not everyone "nice" or wealthy is compatible to what we need or desire.
    I appreciated this video because your next point I 100% agree! Women may appear to be emotionally intelligent because we express certain emotions externally or outwardly more easily but it doesn't mean women are actually mature. I noticed this even in myself. It's been a lot of work to getting there. I thought I was "mature" for many reasons and come to find out, not til my post 30's have I even felt nearly capable to be a wife or parent.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏

    • @hmart276
      @hmart276 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Bravo! I relate to and agree with you. Very well said.

    • @ALICIAAUSTIN-j2m
      @ALICIAAUSTIN-j2m 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Well, Stephan, there are learning lessons for each individual to experience throughout the maturity stages if the relationship continues to grow. If we are friends, at first, then that will allow one another to become a part of a relationship with feelings and emotions. I have male friends that I set facts with. We are BFs, you can talk to me about your woman problems, and I will talk to you about my man problems. Now, here is the problem, comforting one another from emotional traumatic experiences may bring you closer to the relationship stage of I can treat you better stage of healing, because as a friend, I don't like seeing you hurt stage. Okay, I feel this stage is a (bounce back stage) to help me get over the dead beat I was dealing with. BUT what red flags or baggage is brought from the devastions of the PAST relationship? I truly feel there are 2 sides to every story before becoming the victim. No one is perfect. What could I have done to make this RELATIONSHIP work😢? What part of toxicity and low vibrational energy did I display? 😢😢yeah, I could've done more.....but... that's the way of making yourself the victim. Yes you just worked 8 hours, yes, you just picked up the babies from school, yes you have to go home and start dinner, yes you have to tidy the house, yes you have to go over the kids homework, yes you have to get their school clothes ready for the next day, yes your husband, or man will be home and you have his dinner ready. His kids are clean, and yes, his house is clean, and yes, you greet him with a "I love you smile and 💋 😘. My Point is, you must mature from friend stages, boyfriend stages, fiancee stages, to covenant husband and wife 🤵🏽👰🏽‍♂️ stage. Know your role throughout each stage of maturity, and lessons of who you are and the process of knowledge during the formation of each stage and roles that will allow you to continue your journey for your restoration process of your life. 👨‍👨‍👧‍👧🫶🏾🙏🏽🫂😇😉🤗. Thank you, Stephan, for being a motivational coach throughout my journey 👷🏽‍♀️ 🙏🏽 🙌🏽 ✨️ 😊❤

  • @Sneaks011
    @Sneaks011 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    Thanks, coach!
    I've recently came to terms with what I want from my partner. After I wrote it out, made a voice note about it- I realized that my partner would also have a list. I asked myself "what kinda woman do I need to show up as to have a healthy connection?" I didn't have nearly as much to say lol. This helped me make a list for myself and to continue to improve and implement these changes. I tell myself "the woman I am single, is the woman I'll be married." Therefore, it's important to have/be/practice healthy things in all aspects of my life.

    • @NewYorkNadia
      @NewYorkNadia 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      How you identify yourself drives your beliefs; your beliefs drive your emotions; your emotions drive your behavior; your behavior creates your reality. Change how you identify yourself and you’ll change your life. 💕

    • @BrendaPeay-wk6vc
      @BrendaPeay-wk6vc 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Peace is in real love❤😂🎉

  • @Menwa85
    @Menwa85 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I have understood my weak areas..Hence meticulously working on them and praying to God to help me in my subconscious as well. So that the right man for me can stay after the first date. This is a game changer for me. Thank you Stephan. 🎉

  • @jenniferthecole3120
    @jenniferthecole3120 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I haven’t always been my authentic self with some men for fear they will reject me...but my authentic self has been a draw for others despite me not being attracted to those men. I am truly working on being my authentic self. No longer worrying about what people think of me. Focusing on me and getting myself together to be my best me. The emotional intelligence is really important and being transparent...those resonate with me. I have to grow my communication skills with men. I find it hard to Advocate for myself at times...still, I'm a work in progress.

  • @judymomma3946
    @judymomma3946 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

    If he is not a Godly man leave him alone.😊

    • @pokejay8324
      @pokejay8324 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Nailed it!

    • @debbiebramwell
      @debbiebramwell 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Amen

    • @patricefinley1
      @patricefinley1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Period

    • @darlenemerritt9591
      @darlenemerritt9591 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Him being a Godly man makes me want to be a Godly woman. Meeting of the souls.

    • @Therealhustlerella
      @Therealhustlerella หลายเดือนก่อน

      Them godly ones be ho3ish This not true at all

  • @user-rg7ds1bi3t
    @user-rg7ds1bi3t 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +48

    Being vague ruined my situationship but a year later I am so glad it’s over!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

  • @favourIkechukwu1
    @favourIkechukwu1 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +77

    Your videos have been a blessing to my life

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I'm happy the videos are a blessing to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

    • @angelasharpley1111
      @angelasharpley1111 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Emotional intelligence includes knowing your own triggers - good and bad

  • @ramonaphillipsteach3284
    @ramonaphillipsteach3284 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Amazing video. I remain teachable. Self examination and self love is important. I feel it’s important to be humble apologize quickly, no blaming, shaming. I was not always emotionally mature in my 20’s 30’s. I decided to do the work, read the books, get the counseling, learn about codependency, watch the videos. Today over 50, I know myself more. I hate drama anyway. I know my triggers. I don’t react and do things I would regret. I feel the anger but remember what God says. It all goes back to the Bible for me. Some things I never tolerated anyway. I watch my words.🙏🏽💕

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

    • @rakelpeneyambeko
      @rakelpeneyambeko หลายเดือนก่อน

      "I feel the anger but remember what God says" 🎯🎯🎯🎯.

  • @mijanowens8484
    @mijanowens8484 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

    Yesss emotional intelligence is everything. It can be challenging in a long distance relationship. It works. My spiritual practice plays a huge part how I matured in my emotions.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

  • @antoinettegilbert9258
    @antoinettegilbert9258 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

    Dress appropriate for your situation or settings.Your first impression is your last impression Yep!!☝🏾🤷🏾

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      You're absolutely right. Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

    • @antoinettegilbert9258
      @antoinettegilbert9258 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I have lived and I have seen the club look in a church setting OMG! 👀🧐🤷🏾😅

  • @ahischak
    @ahischak 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    Mastering emotions and reactions when upset is major!! I’m aware this is my struggle bc I’m so sensitive but working on it!

  • @rhondaharris460
    @rhondaharris460 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    When I decided to put away them high school games, all this stuff you're talking fell in place, and I don't fool with a man who's still playing them high school games 😊

  • @SKohli-js9lu
    @SKohli-js9lu 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Golden words: simply being clear transparent and specific brings peace ❤

  • @debbiechadwick861
    @debbiechadwick861 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +100

    Older women are further along in the emotional intelligence. Ive had many younger men want to date me because of this. They dont like the games that young women play.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

    • @Medietos
      @Medietos 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Good for you, - and how do we find mature men to make a marriage?

    • @debbiechadwick861
      @debbiechadwick861 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @Medietos I know right!

    • @aleiseboone9365
      @aleiseboone9365 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I dont believe you find them. I believe you vecome what you want. Attractbwhat you want. Ate you what you want in a man. Flip it​@Medietos

    • @nvlisa
      @nvlisa 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      45 yrs old; I’ve had a young man (25, my oldest son’s age) tell me he “likes older women because they don’t play as many games & know what they want”.

  • @jadedvixen81
    @jadedvixen81 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +104

    We're all a bunch of children masquerading as adults 😂

  • @yuwawanable
    @yuwawanable 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Thanks for your consistent advices. I used to play victim in my previous relationship. Once I learned to be more accountable for my contribution to the failure of that, I then found that my reaction to any situations are getting better.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏

  • @demidobbins5360
    @demidobbins5360 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    I really appreciate this.... on point as usual. I'm definitely sharing this with a couple of my girlfriends, as they didn't believe me about the identical messages.
    Maybe listening to you will inspire them. Thanks Hun😊

  • @user-fh1tr9zp3l
    @user-fh1tr9zp3l 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Wishing i can give this video 100 likes
    Yes attitudes and how things sre been said
    Is a game changer in any relationship
    Be wise ladies hopefully men will exercise some extra patience

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

  • @arianeost
    @arianeost 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    One thing my boyfriend said was different about me was being supportive of him and his goals. One thing we’ve been trying to work on is how I express concerns I have about his approaches while still showing positivity and support for his end goal. If you’re looking for future video content ideas, I’m sure it’s something that many of us women out there would love to or be able to improve for the men in our lives. Thank you for everything you do!

  • @hienienguyen6766
    @hienienguyen6766 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    yes that is so true. I was trying to deal with the good men are rare guys out there. We all want a real relationship that makes us glow.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

  • @catherinecathy2335
    @catherinecathy2335 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    Emotional intelligence ! So true .working on mine. Thanks

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

  • @carolblaser3789
    @carolblaser3789 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Stephan your perspective from the man’s point is SO helpful to us women. When you explain #2 on clarity, it becomes obvious why we are each misunderstood.

  • @chitowngirl6003
    @chitowngirl6003 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    2 issues, 1st off it is MUCH easier for a woman to “tap into” “catering to a man” is when it is reciprocated & not seen as a man sitting back allowing her to be her best self BY herself…2ndly both people need to show accountability & not “lump” all women/people into these negative & self serving categories…I am uniquely individual…even my toxic traits are unique to me & my life’s journey

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

    • @BrendaPeay-wk6vc
      @BrendaPeay-wk6vc 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      He'll be back even to say why real love never go away😂❤😮

    • @BL3SSed-Bliss
      @BL3SSed-Bliss 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      💯🎯‼

  • @JStig12
    @JStig12 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Stephan, you are the first person that I have heard use the words, "settle down", where it doesn't sound like a spiritually dead cliche! Thank you for that.

  • @crystalgumm3741
    @crystalgumm3741 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    This is so true! I'm learning this about myself, I'm grieving still and I'm working on my emotional intelligence! Bc I can be quick to anger and react instead of taking a moment and adjusting. I'm learning though! These videos are very helpful! I appreciate you Stephan and the wisdom!!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

  • @michelledouglas-thierry3143
    @michelledouglas-thierry3143 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I tell you the truth, Steph, I enjoy the way you break things down. Even though you step on my toes, I appreciate it because I feel my growth and for preparing me for this dating game.

  • @AndraOvando-pm1nr
    @AndraOvando-pm1nr 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hello Stefan, I’m not sure if you read your comments but I just want you to know that after years of painful break ups, I keep going back to the men who are not good for me and finally I’m at a place where I’m going to Coaching and Therapy, so that I can heal from my patterns and decided to devote this year, to finishing my internship and getting my own apartment again and practising you have it taken care of myself so that I can be valued and we put on a pedestal by my future man, although right now it’s hard to believe that there’s another one who exists who’s better than my ex, who gave up on us, but also acknowledge him, and he did not meet my needs, especially with the communication piece that I value…. Can heal properly this year, while listening to all your videos, because it gives me hope for a future partner in the future better version of myself so that I can prepare for him. your channel has given me a healthy, hopeful positive attribution to my healing journey so that I could not on the hill, but enjoy it too

  • @jessicaferdinand2352
    @jessicaferdinand2352 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    This is soooooooo me and that's why I'm taking real time now to heal before investing into another situationship. There are Triggers that I haven't been delivered from. Thank you Stephen for Speaking Truth to Power

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

  • @kristyworrell4416
    @kristyworrell4416 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

    THIS is sooooo good!!! I use to self sabotage so much, and although men never left, I know there was a level of frustration with my lack of accountability.
    So much of my negative energy stemmed from my childhood and hearing my mom speak ill of men and the verbal abuse I dealt with as a child and not even realizing I’m emulating men and taking in relationships all this resentment and bitterness my mother passed onto me.
    It has been a journey, but I am definitely in my soft woman era and it will only get better because it has brought me not only happiness from within, but more importantly- peace. 🙏🏽

  • @Angel42836
    @Angel42836 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    As a woman I agree with this you have to have emotional maturity to be able to communicate clearly with a man if my man doesn't understand what I mean I don't get mad if he asks me questions I would whether him ask me a million questions then assume that he understood me and then I get mad because he didn't. Anytime he does anything that frustrates me, I ask questions to understand him. I want to understand him. I have told my man that he is not allowed to change that I accept him as he is and I do mean it.

  • @sandraspring5239
    @sandraspring5239 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thanks so much Stephan, I truly appreciate all the valuable information you share with us on relationships. In the course of making sincere efforts to be a better person in every way, because it just feels good and because I wanted to attract a quality man in my life, I have developed all the positive traits you mention here.
    I'm a mature woman who has finally found and married the love of my life, a quality man who really loves me. Because I have these traits and have also worked on my spiritual development, our marriage of three years now is going very well. Whenver problems arise, the traits of having emotional intelligence, being clear and transparent, and of being accountable have saved the day. I let my husband know I am always in his corner that I'm not an adversary. I truly want us to be happy together. I have a high esteem for myself so I actually enjoy catering to him and looking good for him He always lets me know how much he appreciates me. It also helps that he likes my cooking.
    This video is spot on and lets me know I'm on the right track. It has made me feel even better about myself. Thanks again Stephan, I'm so glad I came across your channel! You Rock! 🙂♥

  • @12MarieAnne
    @12MarieAnne 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I learned so much from you. Reading also one of your books. Thank you so so much as thanks to you i feel very very confident with myself.

  • @katerinahoffmannova7309
    @katerinahoffmannova7309 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    We should listen to each other. Both of us may have their own opinion…it is important to talk about everything! Love the video.

  • @Gloriagal78
    @Gloriagal78 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hands down, you are the best relationship counselor I have ever come across. God has definitely given you a gift, Stephan.

  • @lucia6899
    @lucia6899 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Always learning new ways to make me happy and relationships happier. My mindset had to change. What a blissful eye opener🎉🎉

  • @Wisdom-lk7vn
    @Wisdom-lk7vn 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    What you’re saying does resonate deeply, however I know many couples where the woman clearly states her needs in a very specific manner and it is not getting met.

  • @Angiecake7
    @Angiecake7 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I loved the statement that I need to be who I am. Acts of service are easy for me, however, it always results in him then doing less and less. So frustrating because then I have to pull back and do less (not who I am) because the relationship becomes so one sided.

    • @adrionwalters2241
      @adrionwalters2241 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I wonder, are women so conditioned to give and nurture to the point that we don’t know how to contribute in a healthy way? I understand what you are saying. Society has banged this concept that women are the givers and nurturers in relationship and in families, so much that we self-sacrifice and lose balance. Be yourself and enjoy giving love and nurturance if that’s what you really, really want to do. Use wisdom, also.

    • @thepaperedsleuth
      @thepaperedsleuth 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Did you tell him what you wanted or gave him what you wanted to receive?

    • @GiuliQGandolfo
      @GiuliQGandolfo 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The masculine provides and protects whilst the feminine respects, appreciates or nurtures…

  • @Tnc874
    @Tnc874 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is good solid advice for us. I feel that when you’re healed and your emotionally balanced then youll have that urge to want to do these things

  • @missswol
    @missswol 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    You are on point my brother. Keep making these awesome videos. God bless

  • @marisarodriguez2733
    @marisarodriguez2733 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I really enjoy your videos and wish I had heard of you sooner. I’ve been single for 10 years now, I got married very young (20yrs old) and divorced 13 years later. I never really learned how to be in an equal give and take relationship until way later in life. I naturally do most of the things you’ve talked about here but I guess I’ve just been giving to the wrong men because in the end I am alone again. I do trust God for a true partnership with someone who is right for me. Some who I can have mutual appreciation with so I will continue to pray and to watch your videos because I do believe we are in constant growth and learning in life. I am an attractive woman (according to others both men and women) so I hope I can find someone one day. Thank you for all you do!! Blessings

  • @avalonzukowski7571
    @avalonzukowski7571 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    People aren't mind readers. Just say it. It's not a guessing game or cryptic clue.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that 🙏🏼

    • @Erica-cf1xb
      @Erica-cf1xb 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Some can't. Alot of mouths have been gagged. The truth is told to the streets and the lie is told to the house mate. That's how so many men are used to living their life. It's very unfortunate.

  • @moodey_gnomeymoosic
    @moodey_gnomeymoosic 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I have listened this video every week so I will integrate what you are saying. I knew this long time ago but there wasn't right actions because I was with wrong person.. Your videos have been quiding me to ask right questions from him and myself. Thank you so much this makes sense ✅

  • @PriscillaLilly-bg5mz
    @PriscillaLilly-bg5mz 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I love you Stephan! I love how honest and genuine you are.

  • @pinaypride4784
    @pinaypride4784 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thank you for your word of wisdom. You brighten my day every time I watch your videos. Blessed your heart.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

  • @Cindy_Love_2025
    @Cindy_Love_2025 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I love the topics you covered in this video ❤️💯
    Excellent job!💯

  • @enaalexis92
    @enaalexis92 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I am so guilty of number 2, just because I don’t want to offend or sometimes not understanding that not everyone thinks like me 😊

  • @anitavigil
    @anitavigil 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Valuable key points in a healthy & successful relationship. 🥰👍

  • @anncontorno9053
    @anncontorno9053 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Great video! All fantastic points. I do my best to hit all 5! 😊

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

  • @lisadee.
    @lisadee. 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Emotional Intelligence is so important 👍
    It's always a fun time listening to you S❤

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

    • @lisadee.
      @lisadee. 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks ♥️ Stay Blessed My Friend 💐

  • @jenniferworth6156
    @jenniferworth6156 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I have gone off when I was frustrated as well. It comes from, sometimes I have had explained how somerhing hurts me in a calm manner and I do not get results. When it happens again I try to keep myself controll. Third time, I am done

  • @layeredthoughtts5421
    @layeredthoughtts5421 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you I think you were talking to me. I met u at tonight's conversation in Philadelphia. I was in a scooter and spoke to u at the end! I appreciate this insite

  • @cindizehner744
    @cindizehner744 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I admit I am totally an emotional reactor. I have been working on that for me, because I want to improve myself. I believe you have to do it for yourself before it will add health to a relationship.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

  • @thisinterestsme.5307
    @thisinterestsme.5307 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Luv it!!! Giving all you do!!! Best of direction is so desirable!!
    Taking it on as fast as we can😏

  • @NoNameNanny2024
    @NoNameNanny2024 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I absolutely LOVE catering to my loved ones. It sparks so much JOY in my heart to make his life easier each days. I try to remain humble & of service for basic tasks. I just walk over & hand him a plate of yummies

  • @lourdesvellalum9860
    @lourdesvellalum9860 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    @stephanspeaks I love your channel. Also the fact the way you speak the brutality between men and women. But in such a calm and loving manner, i bet no one feels offensive to listen to you. Keep up the good work!!

  • @dianedorney5147
    @dianedorney5147 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I personally feel older women and younger men make the best relationships...

  • @GinaTheTruthTellingCrab144
    @GinaTheTruthTellingCrab144 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    ❤ I agree with you wholeheartedly , I vibe with you on all levels.

  • @carolware8653
    @carolware8653 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for stating the differentiation between a “situationship” and marriage.
    The importance of marriage is often overlooked and generally understated.
    What you’re discussing are important traits for any relationship, and CAN lead to marriage.

  • @thecraftyvirgoat
    @thecraftyvirgoat 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Song is Cater to you by Destiny's Child. It's one of my fave love song 😊

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

  • @darialevina8973
    @darialevina8973 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    As usual, super on point 💯 but need to say both the T-shirt cut and color look amazing! Best look I have ever seen

  • @VeronikaGawrys
    @VeronikaGawrys 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Watching your videos set me up to be a great partner. Appreciate you and the consistency.

  • @lisahurst1940
    @lisahurst1940 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I liked the concepts in this video and especially honestly in that n the fact you said to be his place of peace. But here is my question regarding that… could you please do a video on the difference between being his place of peace rather than him committing to a future with you? It seems so many men want that place of peace but yet once they got it they become less likely to committ because hey why bother? They already have what makes them happy. Connecting these dots and not being used in the process would be helpful. Love and appreciate your spending time to talk about all that you do. It is very helpful to everyone on either side of the relationship fence! Thank you!

  • @pleinairlizfair
    @pleinairlizfair 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    0:21 nah man I hear you 100%. There are not a lot of good women out there, and I agree because a lot of men are also not good, but it’s also depending on individual values. One thing that’s helped me sort through the ones that aren’t for me are putting my values first and looking past those who aren’t on the same page.

  • @TirraOmilade
    @TirraOmilade 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Also, catering to your man has to be done from the heart without wanting anything in return. When you do so it’s easier to gauge when to give or not give. And if things don’t workout it doesn’t feel like wasted time and energy.

  • @danastewart6800
    @danastewart6800 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I wish he would give advice to men because some men want peace and want you to keep your emotions under control but what do you do after you have complained 5 different times and no change. Frustration can cause your emotions to act up.

    • @Gloriagal78
      @Gloriagal78 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Or cause you to shut down

  • @MaryBearBoo
    @MaryBearBoo 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I think it's Beyonce cater to you! Babyyy when I tell you it gives me so much joy to love on my man. I love learning about his love language and finding ways to love him how he needs

  • @MalenaMoonbeam444
    @MalenaMoonbeam444 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Ty Stephen your advice on these videos are always appreciated. ❤I know one of my downfalls prob is I’m not being clear, transparent or expressive on my needs. I just realize that I don’t do this.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

    • @MalenaMoonbeam444
      @MalenaMoonbeam444 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks 💕

  • @FeliciaEkanem-pm1uz
    @FeliciaEkanem-pm1uz 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I love watching your videos almost everyday but still waiting to pour all this I've learned from you in a serious relationship when God eventually give me a serious and a high value Man 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you ❤ 🙏

  • @ramonaphillipsteach3284
    @ramonaphillipsteach3284 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I educated myself about Emotional Intelligence. Great books. Pastor Dharius Daniels.

  • @GodHelpMe369
    @GodHelpMe369 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    If a man makes you feel confused,
    he is wasting your time
    and eroding your self esteem!
    It's VERY simple:
    always judge a person by their ACTIONS,
    and you will never EVER be fooled by their words...
    1. Know your value!!! (Do NOT doubt yourself.)
    2. Take yourself and your worth seriously. You need to BE A QUEEN to be treated like one.
    3. Don’t give easy access. Access to your energy should be expensive.
    4. Do NOT only EXPRESS your boundaries. YOU MUST show them.
    5. Always be ready to walk away.
    6. Show that you are focused on actions not on words.
    7. Have a healthy degree of skepticism.
    8. You must be willing to say NO and you must be willing to lose the man, if needed.
    9. Never EVER chase a man! A truly worthy woman, does not EVER chase a man.
    Giving the same energy that you're getting
    is key
    and if you don't like that energy
    then move on! NOW!
    It can be hard
    but that's when you need to choose yourself
    over the damn illusion/fantasy.
    A man who loves a woman will not ignore her, ever, period.
    So...
    If he ignores me
    I will step back
    and he will lose me.
    Simple. Simple.
    Non-dramatic
    and uncomplicated.
    I don’t,
    under any circumstance:
    play these childish-abusive-controlling
    mind games.
    I will only be with a man who values and appreciates me,
    and treats me as the Queen, I AM.
    (Daughter of the Most Hight; King of kings!)
    Because I am a beautiful and kind and divine
    and sexy and wise and intelligent and magical woman:
    who knows my worth.
    Period.
    Also,
    We create each moment.
    This moment contains,
    through my focus,
    both positive and negative...
    I can put my attention on what I lack,
    what I don't have,
    what traumas I do have etc...
    And,
    I can put my attention on the calm moment that I am in, NOW,
    the food I just ate, and the fact that my body is satisfied, the shelter I do have...
    (You get my idea!)
    Both are here...
    And now.
    For the sake of fairness,
    I will allow myself to cry my pains, in the moment
    if/when they come/arise,
    AND
    also acknowledge the beauty I still have in my life NOW.
    Pain? Yes.
    Suffering? Indeed.
    And,
    also:
    wonderous magical divine beauty.
    Blessings to you!

    • @debbiebramwell
      @debbiebramwell 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      So good! Amen!!

  • @Ms-Bria
    @Ms-Bria 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I love the whole video, but ending with the idea of authenticity was powerful. Who God created me to be vs who I may have become are not necessarily the same person. The man God has for me will appreciate and love my authentic self as I love and bless God for him and his 🧡.

  • @brendawilliams6741
    @brendawilliams6741 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Someone said yourvideos are too long well I disagree to a certain point I listen to your videos when I'm doing house work or sitting and relaxing, I love to hear all of the examples and the end results...

  • @pokejay8324
    @pokejay8324 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thats me, sometimes I let my emotions get the best of me, and I go off!, and i might come across harsh, or blunt, but im tired of men, and their games
    Yeah, we may still have that inner child inside of us, thats always going to be there, but when you become an adult, you should be able to function as one as well. An immature man is a pet peeve, and a turn off.!

    • @BrendaPeay-wk6vc
      @BrendaPeay-wk6vc 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Teach them with patentions and god in your ❤❤❤😅

    • @BrendaPeay-wk6vc
      @BrendaPeay-wk6vc 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Peace be still😂😮😮❤

    • @BL3SSed-Bliss
      @BL3SSed-Bliss 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@BrendaPeay-wk6vc
      Wnat are _"patentions"?_

  • @ElevatedMe
    @ElevatedMe 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I love your hair Stephan. 😊

  • @ronkeanimashaun156
    @ronkeanimashaun156 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    So here’s my problem I snap at times and I hate it. But my snapping erupts like a volcano before I can catch it and stop myself. I’ve tried for years to catch my feelings and calm myself down before I snap but it’s a struggle

    • @barbarasaracini1271
      @barbarasaracini1271 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Me too.

    • @ronkeanimashaun156
      @ronkeanimashaun156 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@barbarasaracini1271 I’m trying everyday to catch myself

  • @Jesuslover296
    @Jesuslover296 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    So much great info here. My daughter needs to subscribe.

  • @nati.natula
    @nati.natula 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 Be the best version of yourself and be you ❤💪🏻

  • @abbymdluli3965
    @abbymdluli3965 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Point 4- What I he doesn't put any effort in looking good for me? I always wanna look good for him but he I'm so demotivated by him not willing to look good for me.

  • @joydarling9187
    @joydarling9187 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you. Great input. I actually needed this today. ❤

  • @DonnaMarieCarpenter
    @DonnaMarieCarpenter 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Being mindful about the way we express ourselves...Good Advise ..Thank you we really need to check ourselves..not always easy but excellent way to create Harmony & better relationships "Hats Off to You "

  • @Katrica670
    @Katrica670 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    @15:36 it's cause we saw our mothers doing it, getting nowhere, plus many us have Only been that way!

  • @khemaloving4031
    @khemaloving4031 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I’m the queen of procrastination and I know I can be sarcastic, so I need someone who can check me on both…

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏

  • @eva5637
    @eva5637 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi Stephan, what I find an interesting topic, but also struggle with, is the part about tapping into our feminity. I am a single mom of two kids. My divorce was 9 years ago. I raise my kids by myself. The majority of the week I have to be mom AND dad. My ex doesn't really care for the kids. I sometimes struggle to feel feminine because of this. I work a lot. And at home I need to take care of everything myself. Men have told me they were intimidated by how independent I am, they wanted to feel needed. Can you make a video on this topic?

  • @jodirichardson2820
    @jodirichardson2820 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow! Well said! About " looking good for partner" just because it may not be important to you doesn't mean it's not important to your partner! Right there someway somehow, that's true love. When we can understand and accept that about one another, and it ain't easy! Lol

  • @tanishamcdonala3181
    @tanishamcdonala3181 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    i appreciate your advice bless all us here amen. i love wisdom!

  • @DiannStevenson-x1p
    @DiannStevenson-x1p 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thank you for great videos ! ❤

  • @hlee8038
    @hlee8038 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I have been super transparent and asking for things to change but my man got frustrated and wanted to take a break because he thought he can't keep up with my requests.

    • @ogechukwuokpala9607
      @ogechukwuokpala9607 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This happened to me, I think I got frustrated and tried to quit for a second time. I thought he would fight but he didn't. Really miss him and feel like I lost the love of my life 😢

    • @thepaperedsleuth
      @thepaperedsleuth 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Huh? I can't make that make sense. He wanted to receive and RECEIVE? Not give in return? Keep on walking don't look back!

  • @MjtheChicagokid
    @MjtheChicagokid 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    That cater to u song sets me off, too. Lol - I just picture them like puppies bringing slippers, lol. I do love to massage my guy and try to make his life easier. I like how you said to not get hung up on certain actions because it looks different for everyone.

  • @ladonnagalloway9305
    @ladonnagalloway9305 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I love allllllll your videos. I'xe seen them all and really enjoy you as a guest speaker on other shows.🎉

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

  • @sidikatnasiru
    @sidikatnasiru 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Stephan❤ you are such a God sent. Thank you

  • @daisythreekids7021
    @daisythreekids7021 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What I need to understand STEPHEN is how do you break through barriers that seems to have you stuck ? That’s being said I mean feminine and not being masculine and being more open to someone about you say like checking yourself and being accountable for your actions an understanding where he’s coming from, I got barriers to break but don’t know how to break them when it comes to MEN , it’s like I get shy and start acting weird basically, please help me , Master Stephen 🙏🏾 And also i am working on my relationship with The Lord as well ❤

  • @user-fh1tr9zp3l
    @user-fh1tr9zp3l 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Never judge a book by its cover

  • @Petra.80
    @Petra.80 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I had an ex that likes flashy things, it made him happy. I'm a bag girl, he gets his blinks, i get my bags, we are both happy! What's the problem ??😊

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

    • @nobody76-qx1ou
      @nobody76-qx1ou 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I don't understand you're comment? It's flew wooosh over my head lol ❤