@@antoinettegilbert9258so am I I’m not just ready to date I’m too popular social media needa die down and ppl need to get off phones so I can get a no phone having dude that won’t know about my shenanigans theheheheheehehe
@@JStig12 - A dusty man is someone who is usually broke, doesn't contribute or pull his weight in a relationship. Often relies on women financially. A low value man.
It's fantastic to see someone highlighting the unique strengths of women, like accountability, affection, and emotional intelligence. Being sensual and clear about boundaries is indeed crucial as well for woman. Keep the content coming. ❤❤❤
Thanks, coach! I've recently came to terms with what I want from my partner. After I wrote it out, made a voice note about it- I realized that my partner would also have a list. I asked myself "what kinda woman do I need to show up as to have a healthy connection?" I didn't have nearly as much to say lol. This helped me make a list for myself and to continue to improve and implement these changes. I tell myself "the woman I am single, is the woman I'll be married." Therefore, it's important to have/be/practice healthy things in all aspects of my life.
How you identify yourself drives your beliefs; your beliefs drive your emotions; your emotions drive your behavior; your behavior creates your reality. Change how you identify yourself and you’ll change your life. 💕
That's what I always tell people. Everyone may be great on the surface but doesn't mean in intimate settings they are the same. Or as a parent. And not everyone "nice" or wealthy is compatible to what we need or desire. I appreciated this video because your next point I 100% agree! Women may appear to be emotionally intelligent because we express certain emotions externally or outwardly more easily but it doesn't mean women are actually mature. I noticed this even in myself. It's been a lot of work to getting there. I thought I was "mature" for many reasons and come to find out, not til my post 30's have I even felt nearly capable to be a wife or parent.
Well, Stephan, there are learning lessons for each individual to experience throughout the maturity stages if the relationship continues to grow. If we are friends, at first, then that will allow one another to become a part of a relationship with feelings and emotions. I have male friends that I set facts with. We are BFs, you can talk to me about your woman problems, and I will talk to you about my man problems. Now, here is the problem, comforting one another from emotional traumatic experiences may bring you closer to the relationship stage of I can treat you better stage of healing, because as a friend, I don't like seeing you hurt stage. Okay, I feel this stage is a (bounce back stage) to help me get over the dead beat I was dealing with. BUT what red flags or baggage is brought from the devastions of the PAST relationship? I truly feel there are 2 sides to every story before becoming the victim. No one is perfect. What could I have done to make this RELATIONSHIP work😢? What part of toxicity and low vibrational energy did I display? 😢😢yeah, I could've done more.....but... that's the way of making yourself the victim. Yes you just worked 8 hours, yes, you just picked up the babies from school, yes you have to go home and start dinner, yes you have to tidy the house, yes you have to go over the kids homework, yes you have to get their school clothes ready for the next day, yes your husband, or man will be home and you have his dinner ready. His kids are clean, and yes, his house is clean, and yes, you greet him with a "I love you smile and 💋 😘. My Point is, you must mature from friend stages, boyfriend stages, fiancee stages, to covenant husband and wife 🤵🏽👰🏽♂️ stage. Know your role throughout each stage of maturity, and lessons of who you are and the process of knowledge during the formation of each stage and roles that will allow you to continue your journey for your restoration process of your life. 👨👨👧👧🫶🏾🙏🏽🫂😇😉🤗. Thank you, Stephan, for being a motivational coach throughout my journey 👷🏽♀️ 🙏🏽 🙌🏽 ✨️ 😊❤
I have understood my weak areas..Hence meticulously working on them and praying to God to help me in my subconscious as well. So that the right man for me can stay after the first date. This is a game changer for me. Thank you Stephan. 🎉
Catering my man…this is real. I am Gen X and realized a long time ago that there was a real plus instead of seeing it as oppressive. I just cared and did nice things a the young men loved that about me. I have been married for 30 years and catering to my husband works! But he also goes out of his way to cater to me. It’s so beautiful. It takes checking into your intuition to see if it feels right to continue catering to a boyfriend.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago, The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
I haven’t always been my authentic self with some men for fear they will reject me...but my authentic self has been a draw for others despite me not being attracted to those men. I am truly working on being my authentic self. No longer worrying about what people think of me. Focusing on me and getting myself together to be my best me. The emotional intelligence is really important and being transparent...those resonate with me. I have to grow my communication skills with men. I find it hard to Advocate for myself at times...still, I'm a work in progress.
Thanks for your consistent advices. I used to play victim in my previous relationship. Once I learned to be more accountable for my contribution to the failure of that, I then found that my reaction to any situations are getting better.
Wishing i can give this video 100 likes Yes attitudes and how things sre been said Is a game changer in any relationship Be wise ladies hopefully men will exercise some extra patience
Yesss emotional intelligence is everything. It can be challenging in a long distance relationship. It works. My spiritual practice plays a huge part how I matured in my emotions.
I really appreciate this.... on point as usual. I'm definitely sharing this with a couple of my girlfriends, as they didn't believe me about the identical messages. Maybe listening to you will inspire them. Thanks Hun😊
This is so true! I'm learning this about myself, I'm grieving still and I'm working on my emotional intelligence! Bc I can be quick to anger and react instead of taking a moment and adjusting. I'm learning though! These videos are very helpful! I appreciate you Stephan and the wisdom!!
I find this video truthful and informative. I followed all of these things without seeing this video and I'm in a relationship where my man proposed to me and I was only thinking about us as companions. This was a surprise and welcomed, we're getting married next year.
Amazing video. I remain teachable. Self examination and self love is important. I feel it’s important to be humble apologize quickly, no blaming, shaming. I was not always emotionally mature in my 20’s 30’s. I decided to do the work, read the books, get the counseling, learn about codependency, watch the videos. Today over 50, I know myself more. I hate drama anyway. I know my triggers. I don’t react and do things I would regret. I feel the anger but remember what God says. It all goes back to the Bible for me. Some things I never tolerated anyway. I watch my words.🙏🏽💕
When I decided to put away them high school games, all this stuff you're talking fell in place, and I don't fool with a man who's still playing them high school games 😊
I tell you the truth, Steph, I enjoy the way you break things down. Even though you step on my toes, I appreciate it because I feel my growth and for preparing me for this dating game.
0:21 nah man I hear you 100%. There are not a lot of good women out there, and I agree because a lot of men are also not good, but it’s also depending on individual values. One thing that’s helped me sort through the ones that aren’t for me are putting my values first and looking past those who aren’t on the same page.
This is soooooooo me and that's why I'm taking real time now to heal before investing into another situationship. There are Triggers that I haven't been delivered from. Thank you Stephen for Speaking Truth to Power
Older women are further along in the emotional intelligence. Ive had many younger men want to date me because of this. They dont like the games that young women play.
Stephan, you are the first person that I have heard use the words, "settle down", where it doesn't sound like a spiritually dead cliche! Thank you for that.
Stephan your perspective from the man’s point is SO helpful to us women. When you explain #2 on clarity, it becomes obvious why we are each misunderstood.
2 issues, 1st off it is MUCH easier for a woman to “tap into” “catering to a man” is when it is reciprocated & not seen as a man sitting back allowing her to be her best self BY herself…2ndly both people need to show accountability & not “lump” all women/people into these negative & self serving categories…I am uniquely individual…even my toxic traits are unique to me & my life’s journey
As a woman I agree with this you have to have emotional maturity to be able to communicate clearly with a man if my man doesn't understand what I mean I don't get mad if he asks me questions I would whether him ask me a million questions then assume that he understood me and then I get mad because he didn't. Anytime he does anything that frustrates me, I ask questions to understand him. I want to understand him. I have told my man that he is not allowed to change that I accept him as he is and I do mean it.
THIS is sooooo good!!! I use to self sabotage so much, and although men never left, I know there was a level of frustration with my lack of accountability. So much of my negative energy stemmed from my childhood and hearing my mom speak ill of men and the verbal abuse I dealt with as a child and not even realizing I’m emulating men and taking in relationships all this resentment and bitterness my mother passed onto me. It has been a journey, but I am definitely in my soft woman era and it will only get better because it has brought me not only happiness from within, but more importantly- peace. 🙏🏽
Thank you I think you were talking to me. I met u at tonight's conversation in Philadelphia. I was in a scooter and spoke to u at the end! I appreciate this insite
What you’re saying does resonate deeply, however I know many couples where the woman clearly states her needs in a very specific manner and it is not getting met.
I liked the concepts in this video and especially honestly in that n the fact you said to be his place of peace. But here is my question regarding that… could you please do a video on the difference between being his place of peace rather than him committing to a future with you? It seems so many men want that place of peace but yet once they got it they become less likely to committ because hey why bother? They already have what makes them happy. Connecting these dots and not being used in the process would be helpful. Love and appreciate your spending time to talk about all that you do. It is very helpful to everyone on either side of the relationship fence! Thank you!
I loved the statement that I need to be who I am. Acts of service are easy for me, however, it always results in him then doing less and less. So frustrating because then I have to pull back and do less (not who I am) because the relationship becomes so one sided.
I wonder, are women so conditioned to give and nurture to the point that we don’t know how to contribute in a healthy way? I understand what you are saying. Society has banged this concept that women are the givers and nurturers in relationship and in families, so much that we self-sacrifice and lose balance. Be yourself and enjoy giving love and nurturance if that’s what you really, really want to do. Use wisdom, also.
I really enjoy your videos and wish I had heard of you sooner. I’ve been single for 10 years now, I got married very young (20yrs old) and divorced 13 years later. I never really learned how to be in an equal give and take relationship until way later in life. I naturally do most of the things you’ve talked about here but I guess I’ve just been giving to the wrong men because in the end I am alone again. I do trust God for a true partnership with someone who is right for me. Some who I can have mutual appreciation with so I will continue to pray and to watch your videos because I do believe we are in constant growth and learning in life. I am an attractive woman (according to others both men and women) so I hope I can find someone one day. Thank you for all you do!! Blessings
I have listened this video every week so I will integrate what you are saying. I knew this long time ago but there wasn't right actions because I was with wrong person.. Your videos have been quiding me to ask right questions from him and myself. Thank you so much this makes sense ✅
Some can't. Alot of mouths have been gagged. The truth is told to the streets and the lie is told to the house mate. That's how so many men are used to living their life. It's very unfortunate.
@stephanspeaks I love your channel. Also the fact the way you speak the brutality between men and women. But in such a calm and loving manner, i bet no one feels offensive to listen to you. Keep up the good work!!
I love watching your videos almost everyday but still waiting to pour all this I've learned from you in a serious relationship when God eventually give me a serious and a high value Man 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Hi Stephan, what I find an interesting topic, but also struggle with, is the part about tapping into our feminity. I am a single mom of two kids. My divorce was 9 years ago. I raise my kids by myself. The majority of the week I have to be mom AND dad. My ex doesn't really care for the kids. I sometimes struggle to feel feminine because of this. I work a lot. And at home I need to take care of everything myself. Men have told me they were intimidated by how independent I am, they wanted to feel needed. Can you make a video on this topic?
I have gone off when I was frustrated as well. It comes from, sometimes I have had explained how somerhing hurts me in a calm manner and I do not get results. When it happens again I try to keep myself controll. Third time, I am done
I absolutely LOVE catering to my loved ones. It sparks so much JOY in my heart to make his life easier each days. I try to remain humble & of service for basic tasks. I just walk over & hand him a plate of yummies
I think it's Beyonce cater to you! Babyyy when I tell you it gives me so much joy to love on my man. I love learning about his love language and finding ways to love him how he needs
I admit I am totally an emotional reactor. I have been working on that for me, because I want to improve myself. I believe you have to do it for yourself before it will add health to a relationship.
Someone said yourvideos are too long well I disagree to a certain point I listen to your videos when I'm doing house work or sitting and relaxing, I love to hear all of the examples and the end results...
Your last point about looking good, deep conversation etc, I think it's something we should value for ourselves moreover valuing it for the sake of others.
Also, catering to your man has to be done from the heart without wanting anything in return. When you do so it’s easier to gauge when to give or not give. And if things don’t workout it doesn’t feel like wasted time and energy.
Thank you for stating the differentiation between a “situationship” and marriage. The importance of marriage is often overlooked and generally understated. What you’re discussing are important traits for any relationship, and CAN lead to marriage.
I have triggers that cause outbursts and I do need to get a better grip on that from trauma that's happened to me in the past. Sometimes I'm not clear about it because I'm thinking about those past emotions that I haven't dealt with in a healthy way.
When a woman knows that she is truly loved and adored and cared for by her husband or partner, she glows, And she will. Do what it takes to please an honor her man. and if there's not a deep wounded issue within her or him. Then everything will line up.
I’m not trying to generalize but I think this is so true that majority of the women who make better relationships are older women, I’m a living testimony of that
Ty Stephen your advice on these videos are always appreciated. ❤I know one of my downfalls prob is I’m not being clear, transparent or expressive on my needs. I just realize that I don’t do this.
I love the whole video, but ending with the idea of authenticity was powerful. Who God created me to be vs who I may have become are not necessarily the same person. The man God has for me will appreciate and love my authentic self as I love and bless God for him and his 🧡.
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I will soon….I’m procrastinating Mr.Stephan!🙂😂😂
@@antoinettegilbert9258so am I I’m not just ready to date I’m too popular social media needa die down and ppl need to get off phones so I can get a no phone having dude that won’t know about my shenanigans theheheheheehehe
Never change who you are and if someone doesn't love you for who you are then they are not the right person for you!
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
facts... im a dusty but there's millions of women who will love me for me!
@@paulbartellWhat is a dusty? I have never heard of that term before?
Lllmmbboo 😂😂😂 these comments
@@JStig12 - A dusty man is someone who is usually broke, doesn't contribute or pull his weight in a relationship. Often relies on women financially. A low value man.
It's fantastic to see someone highlighting the unique strengths of women, like accountability, affection, and emotional intelligence. Being sensual and clear about boundaries is indeed crucial as well for woman. Keep the content coming. ❤❤❤
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
You are one of the few male creators that delivers messages without being insulting. Appreciate it 🙌🏾
Yep
This is so true. Guys and women think so differently! Love this
Thanks, coach!
I've recently came to terms with what I want from my partner. After I wrote it out, made a voice note about it- I realized that my partner would also have a list. I asked myself "what kinda woman do I need to show up as to have a healthy connection?" I didn't have nearly as much to say lol. This helped me make a list for myself and to continue to improve and implement these changes. I tell myself "the woman I am single, is the woman I'll be married." Therefore, it's important to have/be/practice healthy things in all aspects of my life.
How you identify yourself drives your beliefs; your beliefs drive your emotions; your emotions drive your behavior; your behavior creates your reality. Change how you identify yourself and you’ll change your life. 💕
Peace is in real love❤😂🎉
That's what I always tell people. Everyone may be great on the surface but doesn't mean in intimate settings they are the same. Or as a parent. And not everyone "nice" or wealthy is compatible to what we need or desire.
I appreciated this video because your next point I 100% agree! Women may appear to be emotionally intelligent because we express certain emotions externally or outwardly more easily but it doesn't mean women are actually mature. I noticed this even in myself. It's been a lot of work to getting there. I thought I was "mature" for many reasons and come to find out, not til my post 30's have I even felt nearly capable to be a wife or parent.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
Bravo! I relate to and agree with you. Very well said.
Well, Stephan, there are learning lessons for each individual to experience throughout the maturity stages if the relationship continues to grow. If we are friends, at first, then that will allow one another to become a part of a relationship with feelings and emotions. I have male friends that I set facts with. We are BFs, you can talk to me about your woman problems, and I will talk to you about my man problems. Now, here is the problem, comforting one another from emotional traumatic experiences may bring you closer to the relationship stage of I can treat you better stage of healing, because as a friend, I don't like seeing you hurt stage. Okay, I feel this stage is a (bounce back stage) to help me get over the dead beat I was dealing with. BUT what red flags or baggage is brought from the devastions of the PAST relationship? I truly feel there are 2 sides to every story before becoming the victim. No one is perfect. What could I have done to make this RELATIONSHIP work😢? What part of toxicity and low vibrational energy did I display? 😢😢yeah, I could've done more.....but... that's the way of making yourself the victim. Yes you just worked 8 hours, yes, you just picked up the babies from school, yes you have to go home and start dinner, yes you have to tidy the house, yes you have to go over the kids homework, yes you have to get their school clothes ready for the next day, yes your husband, or man will be home and you have his dinner ready. His kids are clean, and yes, his house is clean, and yes, you greet him with a "I love you smile and 💋 😘. My Point is, you must mature from friend stages, boyfriend stages, fiancee stages, to covenant husband and wife 🤵🏽👰🏽♂️ stage. Know your role throughout each stage of maturity, and lessons of who you are and the process of knowledge during the formation of each stage and roles that will allow you to continue your journey for your restoration process of your life. 👨👨👧👧🫶🏾🙏🏽🫂😇😉🤗. Thank you, Stephan, for being a motivational coach throughout my journey 👷🏽♀️ 🙏🏽 🙌🏽 ✨️ 😊❤
Your videos have been a blessing to my life
I'm happy the videos are a blessing to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
Emotional intelligence includes knowing your own triggers - good and bad
I have understood my weak areas..Hence meticulously working on them and praying to God to help me in my subconscious as well. So that the right man for me can stay after the first date. This is a game changer for me. Thank you Stephan. 🎉
That’s nice but we are not meant to bend to their standards 🙄 give them pure hail.
Catering my man…this is real. I am Gen X and realized a long time ago that there was a real plus instead of seeing it as oppressive. I just cared and did nice things a the young men loved that about me. I have been married for 30 years and catering to my husband works! But he also goes out of his way to cater to me. It’s so beautiful. It takes checking into your intuition to see if it feels right to continue catering to a boyfriend.
Beautifully said!
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago, The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
Amazing. how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked her up now online. impressive.
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I personally like the length of the videos.! I put in my AirPods and listen to them at work like a podcast.
🥺🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾
Being vague ruined my situationship but a year later I am so glad it’s over!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
Dress appropriate for your situation or settings.Your first impression is your last impression Yep!!☝🏾🤷🏾
You're absolutely right. Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I have lived and I have seen the club look in a church setting OMG! 👀🧐🤷🏾😅
I haven’t always been my authentic self with some men for fear they will reject me...but my authentic self has been a draw for others despite me not being attracted to those men. I am truly working on being my authentic self. No longer worrying about what people think of me. Focusing on me and getting myself together to be my best me. The emotional intelligence is really important and being transparent...those resonate with me. I have to grow my communication skills with men. I find it hard to Advocate for myself at times...still, I'm a work in progress.
Thanks for your consistent advices. I used to play victim in my previous relationship. Once I learned to be more accountable for my contribution to the failure of that, I then found that my reaction to any situations are getting better.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
Wishing i can give this video 100 likes
Yes attitudes and how things sre been said
Is a game changer in any relationship
Be wise ladies hopefully men will exercise some extra patience
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Yesss emotional intelligence is everything. It can be challenging in a long distance relationship. It works. My spiritual practice plays a huge part how I matured in my emotions.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I really appreciate this.... on point as usual. I'm definitely sharing this with a couple of my girlfriends, as they didn't believe me about the identical messages.
Maybe listening to you will inspire them. Thanks Hun😊
Glad I could help 🙏
Mastering emotions and reactions when upset is major!! I’m aware this is my struggle bc I’m so sensitive but working on it!
This is so true! I'm learning this about myself, I'm grieving still and I'm working on my emotional intelligence! Bc I can be quick to anger and react instead of taking a moment and adjusting. I'm learning though! These videos are very helpful! I appreciate you Stephan and the wisdom!!
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Emotional intelligence ! So true .working on mine. Thanks
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
yes that is so true. I was trying to deal with the good men are rare guys out there. We all want a real relationship that makes us glow.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I find this video truthful and informative. I followed all of these things without seeing this video and I'm in a relationship where my man proposed to me and I was only thinking about us as companions. This was a surprise and welcomed, we're getting married next year.
Amazing video. I remain teachable. Self examination and self love is important. I feel it’s important to be humble apologize quickly, no blaming, shaming. I was not always emotionally mature in my 20’s 30’s. I decided to do the work, read the books, get the counseling, learn about codependency, watch the videos. Today over 50, I know myself more. I hate drama anyway. I know my triggers. I don’t react and do things I would regret. I feel the anger but remember what God says. It all goes back to the Bible for me. Some things I never tolerated anyway. I watch my words.🙏🏽💕
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
"I feel the anger but remember what God says" 🎯🎯🎯🎯.
Golden words: simply being clear transparent and specific brings peace ❤
When I decided to put away them high school games, all this stuff you're talking fell in place, and I don't fool with a man who's still playing them high school games 😊
I learned so much from you. Reading also one of your books. Thank you so so much as thanks to you i feel very very confident with myself.
Glad I could help 🙏
I tell you the truth, Steph, I enjoy the way you break things down. Even though you step on my toes, I appreciate it because I feel my growth and for preparing me for this dating game.
0:21 nah man I hear you 100%. There are not a lot of good women out there, and I agree because a lot of men are also not good, but it’s also depending on individual values. One thing that’s helped me sort through the ones that aren’t for me are putting my values first and looking past those who aren’t on the same page.
This is soooooooo me and that's why I'm taking real time now to heal before investing into another situationship. There are Triggers that I haven't been delivered from. Thank you Stephen for Speaking Truth to Power
I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
Older women are further along in the emotional intelligence. Ive had many younger men want to date me because of this. They dont like the games that young women play.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Good for you, - and how do we find mature men to make a marriage?
@Medietos I know right!
I dont believe you find them. I believe you vecome what you want. Attractbwhat you want. Ate you what you want in a man. Flip it@Medietos
45 yrs old; I’ve had a young man (25, my oldest son’s age) tell me he “likes older women because they don’t play as many games & know what they want”.
Stephan, you are the first person that I have heard use the words, "settle down", where it doesn't sound like a spiritually dead cliche! Thank you for that.
My pleasure ❤️
Stephan your perspective from the man’s point is SO helpful to us women. When you explain #2 on clarity, it becomes obvious why we are each misunderstood.
Glad I could help 🙏🏼
2 issues, 1st off it is MUCH easier for a woman to “tap into” “catering to a man” is when it is reciprocated & not seen as a man sitting back allowing her to be her best self BY herself…2ndly both people need to show accountability & not “lump” all women/people into these negative & self serving categories…I am uniquely individual…even my toxic traits are unique to me & my life’s journey
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
He'll be back even to say why real love never go away😂❤😮
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Guys we need God! Please seek God & develop a relationship with God!God will never do you wrong 💖!
God will also lead you to the correct Godly woman. The woman He has for you.😊❤🙏😊
Amen
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Prriod
True …still take on these traits lol you can’t just rely on God if you aren’t mature enough for the relationship
Thanks!
Hands down, you are the best relationship counselor I have ever come across. God has definitely given you a gift, Stephan.
Great video! All fantastic points. I do my best to hit all 5! 😊
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
If he is not a Godly man leave him alone.😊
Nailed it!
Amen
Period
Him being a Godly man makes me want to be a Godly woman. Meeting of the souls.
Them godly ones be ho3ish This not true at all
I love the topics you covered in this video ❤️💯
Excellent job!💯
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
As a woman I agree with this you have to have emotional maturity to be able to communicate clearly with a man if my man doesn't understand what I mean I don't get mad if he asks me questions I would whether him ask me a million questions then assume that he understood me and then I get mad because he didn't. Anytime he does anything that frustrates me, I ask questions to understand him. I want to understand him. I have told my man that he is not allowed to change that I accept him as he is and I do mean it.
We should listen to each other. Both of us may have their own opinion…it is important to talk about everything! Love the video.
THIS is sooooo good!!! I use to self sabotage so much, and although men never left, I know there was a level of frustration with my lack of accountability.
So much of my negative energy stemmed from my childhood and hearing my mom speak ill of men and the verbal abuse I dealt with as a child and not even realizing I’m emulating men and taking in relationships all this resentment and bitterness my mother passed onto me.
It has been a journey, but I am definitely in my soft woman era and it will only get better because it has brought me not only happiness from within, but more importantly- peace. 🙏🏽
I believe childhood trauma caused emotional immaturity in me. Now, I am aware of it and working on it. I take responsibility when I make a mistake.
Thank you I think you were talking to me. I met u at tonight's conversation in Philadelphia. I was in a scooter and spoke to u at the end! I appreciate this insite
What you’re saying does resonate deeply, however I know many couples where the woman clearly states her needs in a very specific manner and it is not getting met.
This is good solid advice for us. I feel that when you’re healed and your emotionally balanced then youll have that urge to want to do these things
Stephan has me crack up on the way the school. Sets my mood for the day 😂😂😂
I love how real you are. Keep it up!
I love you Stephan! I love how honest and genuine you are.
You are on point my brother. Keep making these awesome videos. God bless
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
I liked the concepts in this video and especially honestly in that n the fact you said to be his place of peace. But here is my question regarding that… could you please do a video on the difference between being his place of peace rather than him committing to a future with you? It seems so many men want that place of peace but yet once they got it they become less likely to committ because hey why bother? They already have what makes them happy. Connecting these dots and not being used in the process would be helpful. Love and appreciate your spending time to talk about all that you do. It is very helpful to everyone on either side of the relationship fence! Thank you!
I loved the statement that I need to be who I am. Acts of service are easy for me, however, it always results in him then doing less and less. So frustrating because then I have to pull back and do less (not who I am) because the relationship becomes so one sided.
I wonder, are women so conditioned to give and nurture to the point that we don’t know how to contribute in a healthy way? I understand what you are saying. Society has banged this concept that women are the givers and nurturers in relationship and in families, so much that we self-sacrifice and lose balance. Be yourself and enjoy giving love and nurturance if that’s what you really, really want to do. Use wisdom, also.
Did you tell him what you wanted or gave him what you wanted to receive?
The masculine provides and protects whilst the feminine respects, appreciates or nurtures…
Love your content.
❤️ 🙂 thank you!
Thank you for your word of wisdom. You brighten my day every time I watch your videos. Blessed your heart.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Always learning new ways to make me happy and relationships happier. My mindset had to change. What a blissful eye opener🎉🎉
I really enjoy your videos and wish I had heard of you sooner. I’ve been single for 10 years now, I got married very young (20yrs old) and divorced 13 years later. I never really learned how to be in an equal give and take relationship until way later in life. I naturally do most of the things you’ve talked about here but I guess I’ve just been giving to the wrong men because in the end I am alone again. I do trust God for a true partnership with someone who is right for me. Some who I can have mutual appreciation with so I will continue to pray and to watch your videos because I do believe we are in constant growth and learning in life. I am an attractive woman (according to others both men and women) so I hope I can find someone one day. Thank you for all you do!! Blessings
I love it when you are real with us.
I have listened this video every week so I will integrate what you are saying. I knew this long time ago but there wasn't right actions because I was with wrong person.. Your videos have been quiding me to ask right questions from him and myself. Thank you so much this makes sense ✅
Emotional Intelligence is so important 👍
It's always a fun time listening to you S❤
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
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People aren't mind readers. Just say it. It's not a guessing game or cryptic clue.
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that 🙏🏼
Some can't. Alot of mouths have been gagged. The truth is told to the streets and the lie is told to the house mate. That's how so many men are used to living their life. It's very unfortunate.
@stephanspeaks I love your channel. Also the fact the way you speak the brutality between men and women. But in such a calm and loving manner, i bet no one feels offensive to listen to you. Keep up the good work!!
I love watching your videos almost everyday but still waiting to pour all this I've learned from you in a serious relationship when God eventually give me a serious and a high value Man 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you ❤ 🙏
Valuable key points in a healthy & successful relationship. 🥰👍
@15:36 it's cause we saw our mothers doing it, getting nowhere, plus many us have Only been that way!
I am so guilty of number 2, just because I don’t want to offend or sometimes not understanding that not everyone thinks like me 😊
Luv it!!! Giving all you do!!! Best of direction is so desirable!!
Taking it on as fast as we can😏
I love your hair Stephan. 😊
❤️ 🙂 thank you!
I love allllllll your videos. I'xe seen them all and really enjoy you as a guest speaker on other shows.🎉
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
❤ I agree with you wholeheartedly , I vibe with you on all levels.
Excellent 💯this is so true!
💯 yes!
As usual, super on point 💯 but need to say both the T-shirt cut and color look amazing! Best look I have ever seen
Hi Stephan, what I find an interesting topic, but also struggle with, is the part about tapping into our feminity. I am a single mom of two kids. My divorce was 9 years ago. I raise my kids by myself. The majority of the week I have to be mom AND dad. My ex doesn't really care for the kids. I sometimes struggle to feel feminine because of this. I work a lot. And at home I need to take care of everything myself. Men have told me they were intimidated by how independent I am, they wanted to feel needed. Can you make a video on this topic?
I have gone off when I was frustrated as well. It comes from, sometimes I have had explained how somerhing hurts me in a calm manner and I do not get results. When it happens again I try to keep myself controll. Third time, I am done
@23:50 what does dressing a certain way have to do with loving the person?
Watching your videos set me up to be a great partner. Appreciate you and the consistency.
I absolutely LOVE catering to my loved ones. It sparks so much JOY in my heart to make his life easier each days. I try to remain humble & of service for basic tasks. I just walk over & hand him a plate of yummies
I think it's Beyonce cater to you! Babyyy when I tell you it gives me so much joy to love on my man. I love learning about his love language and finding ways to love him how he needs
Song is Cater to you by Destiny's Child. It's one of my fave love song 😊
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I’m so happy I found you!
I admit I am totally an emotional reactor. I have been working on that for me, because I want to improve myself. I believe you have to do it for yourself before it will add health to a relationship.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
Someone said yourvideos are too long well I disagree to a certain point I listen to your videos when I'm doing house work or sitting and relaxing, I love to hear all of the examples and the end results...
So much great info here. My daughter needs to subscribe.
❤️ 🙂
Your last point about looking good, deep conversation etc, I think it's something we should value for ourselves moreover valuing it for the sake of others.
Also, catering to your man has to be done from the heart without wanting anything in return. When you do so it’s easier to gauge when to give or not give. And if things don’t workout it doesn’t feel like wasted time and energy.
Thank you for stating the differentiation between a “situationship” and marriage.
The importance of marriage is often overlooked and generally understated.
What you’re discussing are important traits for any relationship, and CAN lead to marriage.
🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 Be the best version of yourself and be you ❤💪🏻
Most definitely!
I have triggers that cause outbursts and I do need to get a better grip on that from trauma that's happened to me in the past. Sometimes I'm not clear about it because I'm thinking about those past emotions that I haven't dealt with in a healthy way.
Thank you. Great input. I actually needed this today. ❤
It comes naturally to me to cater to the people I love.
And most of the time it's not given back And I get abused and taken advantage of.
We be clear , specific, and transparent
When a woman knows that she is truly loved and adored and cared for by her husband or partner, she glows, And she will.
Do what it takes to please an honor her man. and if there's not a deep wounded issue within her or him. Then everything will line up.
Thank you so much for everything .
My pleasure ❤️
i appreciate your advice bless all us here amen. i love wisdom!
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
I working on myself at the moment.
I personally feel older women and younger men make the best relationships...
I’m not trying to generalize but I think this is so true that majority of the women who make better relationships are older women, I’m a living testimony of that
Very true
Excellent message ❤🎉
Ty Stephen your advice on these videos are always appreciated. ❤I know one of my downfalls prob is I’m not being clear, transparent or expressive on my needs. I just realize that I don’t do this.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
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Thank you for great videos ! ❤
My pleasure ❤️
Interesting video!🙏🏾
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Awwww being clear transparent specific give clarity
I love the whole video, but ending with the idea of authenticity was powerful. Who God created me to be vs who I may have become are not necessarily the same person. The man God has for me will appreciate and love my authentic self as I love and bless God for him and his 🧡.