I’m 65. I have always been the mover and shaker in my marriage. After 38 years of marriage and now ten years of being single, I have met a man who wants to take care of me. I was VERY resistant. It was so hard to change. He continued in his efforts and I learned to trust him and I swear this ladies, leaning back and letting him take the lead has been life changing. I won’t say it was easy, but my life is so, so, so much better now. It’s like Aretha’s song “I feel like a natural woman” and it is wonderful. My life is less stressful and I truly feel blessed.
Coming from a hyper independent woman. Submissive is good. And for the first time, I felt my femininity. if you are submissive to the ‘right man’ (key word) you will feel special and taken cared for
My man was used to toxic relationship. When I came, I was like a breath of fresh air to him ( in his own words). I'm feminine, I talk softly, I express myself clearly and firmly. I am submissive and listen to him and let him take the lead. We disagree, we dont fight and we resolve it through proper communication. He was like "that was it?" He wasn't used to it. He said he never had such a peaceful, supportive and affectionate relationship in his life. That whenever he is with me, he feels peace and quiet.
@@sabrinatortoradesigns Let your good values influence him. and let his good values influence you. He's used to nagging and arguments. My nature is to sit down and talk. I talk, you listen. You talk I listen. Let's resolve this in the privacy of our room. No need to raise your voice. I try not to react and let him finish talking. I speak softly. There is power in how you speak. And I disagree. I dont argue. and I let him decide on his own when it comes to his personal matters. Then sit and trust his judgement. Im just here to back you up if anything happens.
@@dimpledimple5545"I speak softly" ... 🤡 Men do not like that. They see that as a sign of weakness/ a pushover. Show him that you're a grown woman and he will respect you as one. Talk in a normal tone. He will find that attractive. When he begins to cheat on you because you're being such a push over, you will realize I am right.
@@babyg1864 . When I say speak softly, it means calmly. He likes that about me. If he cheats, it's not because I am a pushover. What Im pretty sure about is that no one likes talking to someone who brings negative energy to the conversation.
What sucks is as a woman, I grew up bottling my emotions up because I was told I was to emotional… now that I’m a grown woman it’s hard for me to express my emotions calmly, cuz of lack of practice. Verbalizing things calmly and kindly is the key, but it’s takes practice and doing, and be prepared to feel extremely vulnerable and weak doing so. But it pays off…
Same here. This is something I am actively working on. It's been many years of hard work. I still can't show emotions in front of my mother. Not even the happy kind. But with other people I am doing a lot better.
As a 30 years old!I came to realize that you can’t loose what’s not yours on the contrary it will be yours temporary!whats yours will belong to you forever
In the past, I've been forced to be in my masculine energy in order to provide and protect my family. About 5 months ago I met the man God intended me to be with. Naturally my masculine energy has taken a back seat to his alpha masculine energy which has made me feel more feminine than I ever had before. It's such a relief to trust him to lead! I couldn't be happier being submissive, and I'm still a strong woman! 😊❤
I'll say this as well. You are so right about femininity being OUR responsibility. I have mostly led a life in which I've been so tough, strong, and rough around the edges that people have thought I was lesbian! 😅😂 I'd often come off so intimidating to men. But I've always known that I want to be happily married since I was a small girl, so I knew I had to make some adjustments. I knew I could not wait until he arrived. I knew I had to be ready for him PRIOR to his arrival. So, again that is so true. No one had told me those things, it was just something that I knew and felt within myself. I believe that any woman that is TRULY serious about love will be willing to get out of her own way. Everyone else is lying to themselves.
6:15 you have consistently referred to the survey in that book time and time again and I actually came to see it play out in my life. My partner said he fell in love with me because I showed him how it felt to be loved by constantly telling him how attracted I was, happy to be around him, expressing my feelings for him, showing desire and most importantly care for him.
I'm so used to being dominant, because I grew up having to take care of myself and everyone I love. I'd love to submit to a man I trust, but 1. I don't know how and 2. I've never met such a man.
Yes this is correct! I have shown desire for this current guy friend that I am talking to right now. He said he was drawn to me because I showed him interest and desire to be with him. His wife passed away five years ago. Ladies show that you desire him and value him it does work!! Thank you Stephen for all your support and advice throughout the years.
That's right sign me up if God told a angel this man will be everything God intended for him to be to a woman...Yes i can submit and love it because he acting in the image of God his original design b4 sin... ..
Thank God You got out. I’m praying for complete healing. Yes he a good speaker I have been following him for about three years please get his book. He is lying sis! It’s a great book.
A man is a hunter , he needs to do the hard persuing, do not set up a date in the beginning , you relax lady but always say yes to his dates, not last minute but ahead of time but if he lacks in this department he is feminine and that man will never be our leader and if you have stuff going on ,politely decline and say next time? Happy dating ❤
These are all so true! My fiance says the first thing he was attracted to were my honesty and clarity and how I complement him (he is a very masculine and analytical/logical man) while I was more emotional and expressive. But there's a huge difference in being open/submissive/expressive in personal relationships vs in professional relationship, he says he likes how im rigid and has boundaries in my work, so maybe you should emphasize that being feminine should be applied only with your man but should be more masculine with her colleagues, or you don't agree?
Stephan this is great. I'm currently engaged to the love of my entire life and he told me that when he first saw me he saw love and passion in my eyes. He hadn't even dated me yet but he was certainly spot on with what he saw. He is such a loving and dependable Pisces man and has made it clear that he's always wanted a loving and nurturing woman. Despite me being so willing to be a helpmate and submit, he still values my input and even requires it at times. He trusts my views and opinions and I think it's so amazing to witness because he IS a WHOLE masculine man who is very responsible in handling his business and has no problem with leading and doing it firmly if necessary. Also, he's very different from past types who were like "I'm the man! I have all the answers!" I definitely learned more about the judgmental point. I did realize that I as a Cancer woman, I tend to have high standards specifically related to the home and close relationships. Thank you so much for this. ☺️
I am not afraid of the word submissive the right man just gets that side of me. I already know the wrong men have came in my path and at this point I’m exhausted but this was good information
A whole lot problems can be avoided/solved with all of this advice. These nuggets of wisdom turned my light bulb on. Thank you from a place of gratitude.
Your talks are always on point!! A man that chooses a crazy woman for a wife is not ready to be a serious man or husband. But I know what you mean. You have to have a woman that represents you well. However, she should always make you feel desired.
📝 taking notes! Yes Sir 😍 Can't wait to apply all this wisdom / knowledge on/to the Man God has for Me ❤ Submission is a spiritual thing. It's easier to submit to a man who is submitted to God
Submission is easy if/when BOTH are on the same page. Also, when submission is PRESENT, games, dysfunction, bullshit is ABSENT. I let my husband know I was attracted to him because I WAS feeling a deeper connection. I NEVER felt this with "boyfriends."
I understand the wild girl analogy and in my previous marriage my ex purposely created a dynamic where he wanted to see us fight for him. So telling him, reassuring him, taking care of him sexually wasn't enough??? I draw the line at my husband of 9 years having the audacity to bring a 24 yr old to my home to fight for her man? - my husband??? Sweetie you can have him! Line crossed and there was no coming back from that.....
I also have to disagree with something here , showing a man desire can open the doors to being used so this is a tough one , I would say let him show signs first in a way.
So? Relationship are about risk. When he spends money, he opens the door to being used. Show im the same respect and open the doors. Easiest why to find out if a person is bad for you is to be vulnerable
@@zero1188t's a mans role to invest those things and yes some women use men for money but if she keeps declining or playing hard to get that's on him , the way I show desire is saying yes to a mans date and get so excited and always say thank you..feminine vs masculine power.
Your advice is so sound, that I'm gonna be so happy when you actually find your wife, I pray she deserves every bit of you. Thank you for following your dream and becoming this awesome coach that you are. Thank you.
Great content like always. I love it! I was right on point, and the piece on submission was excellent. Submission is not a problem, but only if this man is your husband and he is providing to your needs. 😢 I am so learning the hard way to not submit to a boyfriend or a fiancé only your husband. Women, please don't do wifey duties to the men who can't commit all the way to the altar. Jump that broom first before doing any wifey duties. Don't give out no snacks, goody bags, treats, don't cook shit, don't clean shit, don't give out shit, until you married license in all period.
I love being submissive to my husband. I am not a pushover either. I stand my ground, respectively. I find my submission to him a draw to him and him to me. Thank you for your great insight.
This has been very interesting and you explain things in a way that many relationship counselors don’t. You break it down very well. In my marriage I had to make all the decisions and I took the lead most of the time and honestly it was exhausting. I’m learning from these videos and hoping to find a man next time who can allow me to relax and come to him for help when I need it, returning to him love, respect and desire. I’m hoping to continue to refine these skills that I know are inside me. Thank you!
it's how she expresses herself. if she's going to go over the top and not regulate her emotions any time something pops up that's not healthy communication. the worst thing is to be a silent sufferer and not ask for what you need, he can't read your mind.
Hey you know what would be helpful, if you have time, tips on what submission looks like. I think that’s a struggle, we think submission equals the death of our autonomy. But agreed, submission works with the right man. Everyone is happiest. Every business needs a manager, that ideally, considers those he leads and tries to make the best decisions for the team.
I’m doing my best to be clear about my feelings. As a boss and divorced mom I feel like I’m a little impatient so I have to pause and think before I respond to make sure I’m clear and gentle but firm.
I believe the man for you would totally want you to express yourself and would have no problem about it. The last man I dated, he did not like it one bit, he went as far as to say, "I am too loving". I could not believe it! Yes I was so frustrated with him until it came to an end when I shook with anger. I know my love language is being open and expressing myself. I need to find a man that is in tune with that. Unfortunately I am yet to find him.
Hello Stephan, I always found clarity from your empowering relationship advice videos. 😊 Thanks so much for always sharing your knowledge about relationships. 👍
Submission is automatic when the man is in his God given place. No sensible woman with a vision for her own life is going to submit to a man with no self control, no discipline or a trusted provider. The Bible says the man is the head and it’s with good reason. The only way to fix the age old battle between men and women is to fix the relationship with man and God.
Thank you Stephan for these advice. It’s the laughter u give each time u are trying to give further clarity for me 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂.You do it in most of your videos.
Glad you listened to your spirit and put that third one on the list. This linear relationship that’s often missing. There’s THREE 😮LAYERS! God FIRST leading Us and us submitting and trusting God THEN us submitting to each other. Submissiveness is important and like he said translates, comes down to being able to: trust the man to lead.
Hi Stephan, great video. I have healed and have stepped into my divine feminine it feels wonderful,beautiful, and empowering. I have all these traits and more. I've had several of my male friends at the gym say to me Aww you know how to make a guy feel special.🥰 I just love to love, and I'm grateful to God for healing me and giving me truth,beauty, and wisdom. I appreciate you sending Love and Positive Vibes to you and all the beautiful souls out there. 🩵💥❤️💥💙💥💚💥🧡
On point as always ❤👌🏽😍 Geez, wish I stumbled across you before I even entered the dating scene... Would have kept me from a lot of heart ache and mistakes... Stephan is the Man ❤
I love your videos and they have helped me so much! When you said the word submission my mind went immediately to the word Trust. To submit to God or a man is about trust. Love it! Thank you for saying the hard things gracefully. You have so much grace as you speak and I really appreciate it and you!
Thanks again for another amazing video. I can confess that in my past relationships, I did not listen to my intuition and I ignored and rationalized a lot of things that needed to be addressed. Watching these videos has me feeling attacked (no hard feelings)but it’s ok because I need to hear this and it helps me recognize my flaws and the thing I need to work on. All of this a big learning lesson for me while on this healing journey. Thanks again! This helps✨
This man is so anointed. A lot of these life coaches that are popular have wisdom, but even they sometimes just speak just to say something. I feel like everything that Stephen says has a purpose and a real message filled with overwhelming wisdom. God really has his hand on this man. I pray that he protects him and his family because he is like the King Solomon of today- wisest man on earth 🌍 If he (Stephen) reads this please make sure to travel with your wife everywhere you go just like Billy Graham did. He did this so he could never get accused of anything The devil lives to tamper with meaningful ministries . The devil be working overtime 😢
And yes, men must submit to their partners not just God. Submission comes in the form of trustworthiness, loyalty, consistency, protection, provision etc.
This is so useful. My life has become so much more positive, I’m happier and my relationship in a much stronger place since tuning into my feminine energy ❤
My goodness listening all of this makes me very happy that i am 65 and have been divorced 25 years and am not dating or looking.i think it would give a headache 😂
All men in my life have always advised me to never let the man know he’s WON the game let him feel like he has to keep winning in the relationship once someone has won the championship normally the “high” goes away.. also my friend had a girl that cooked and cleaned for him and he said it was a turn off how bad she was trying to impress him when he never put her in that position.. i’m open to hearing other opinions! just what i’ve heard so far!
Love all this gentleman’s point especially the 3rd. I don’t want my woman to deal with this cold world. Let me do what I HAVE to do in this world to provide for us. That allows you to do what you WANT to do in this world aka your dream.
Thank you! I just love all of these points! And yes I agree that as long as a man’s a great leader (along with the relationship being healthy and between two healthy adults) it could be easy to be submissive! I know I get tired of doing things and would enjoy a husband to share life with and pour into. And for myself learning to submit to God first was a great start for me as a women before I meet my husband. God is the most trust worthy. Plus I love Him SO much! 😊
I wish you would do a video on layers of submission when it comes to married and non-married people? Why would/should a woman fully submit to a boyfriend/live-in who hasn’t committed to her spiritually and legally?
Once upon a time I stumbled into your video and have never looked back. Would love to see you collaborate with RC Blakes. God bless you and your work ❤
One of the best things I ever did was work with a Christ centered counselor to heal up all of my hurts. ONLY the Divine Physician can do this. Am now learning how to walk in a full feminine way to bless my future husband:+) God is good. Thank you for this wisdom:+) God bless~
Inability to submit to an authority has a lot more to do with the perception that the leader is untrustworthy in some way, or lacks some quality that allows a woman to rest in his stewardship. If a man doesn't lay himself down for a woman as Christ layed himself down/sacrificed himself for the church, he is not trustworthy. If a woman is Christian, the spirit within won't allow her to submit to an ungodly or untrustworthy man. It's all about trustworthiness. Women will freely submit to trustworthy men.
Amazing video!! The title can be labeled..”3 SIGNS A MAN FINDS IRRESISTIBLE IN A HEALED WOMAN”… I love your insight on healthy relationships!! #KeepUpTheGreatWork💎💎💯💯😊😊
#1&2 for sure! Now, I have a huge problem with #3. I been super duper independent since being a child. I am single and seems like it will stay like that. Unfortunately, the men I attract can’t offer me anything and that’s a problem cuz while they want to be Superman, I am already a super woman 🤔
I don't understand why submission is a topic only targeted at women? Submission is reciprocal. Men need to discuss what submission looks like from a male perspective, submission is not a one way street, it doesn't work like that.
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I’m 65. I have always been the mover and shaker in my marriage. After 38 years of marriage and now ten years of being single, I have met a man who wants to take care of me. I was VERY resistant. It was so hard to change. He continued in his efforts and I learned to trust him and I swear this ladies, leaning back and letting him take the lead has been life changing. I won’t say it was easy, but my life is so, so, so much better now. It’s like Aretha’s song “I feel like a natural woman” and it is wonderful. My life is less stressful and I truly feel blessed.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
As I relate 😭 .. without the marriage part
After my husband died 5 years ago, I'll never trust another man. My husband was pure gold. I'll just stay a widow until I die. That's ok.
You look so young! You are goals 😊 I wish you the very best! Thank you for sharing
@@susanschroedel893That’s your decision…Do what makes you happy! It’s great that you got to share your life with that man of gold
Coming from a hyper independent woman. Submissive is good. And for the first time, I felt my femininity. if you are submissive to the ‘right man’ (key word) you will feel special and taken cared for
My man was used to toxic relationship. When I came, I was like a breath of fresh air to him ( in his own words). I'm feminine, I talk softly, I express myself clearly and firmly. I am submissive and listen to him and let him take the lead. We disagree, we dont fight and we resolve it through proper communication. He was like "that was it?" He wasn't used to it. He said he never had such a peaceful, supportive and affectionate relationship in his life. That whenever he is with me, he feels peace and quiet.
I need to learn your ways 🙇🏻♀️
@@sabrinatortoradesigns Let your good values influence him. and let his good values influence you. He's used to nagging and arguments. My nature is to sit down and talk. I talk, you listen. You talk I listen. Let's resolve this in the privacy of our room. No need to raise your voice. I try not to react and let him finish talking. I speak softly. There is power in how you speak. And I disagree. I dont argue. and I let him decide on his own when it comes to his personal matters. Then sit and trust his judgement. Im just here to back you up if anything happens.
@@dimpledimple5545"I speak softly" ... 🤡 Men do not like that. They see that as a sign of weakness/ a pushover. Show him that you're a grown woman and he will respect you as one. Talk in a normal tone. He will find that attractive. When he begins to cheat on you because you're being such a push over, you will realize I am right.
@@babyg1864 . When I say speak softly, it means calmly. He likes that about me. If he cheats, it's not because I am a pushover. What Im pretty sure about is that no one likes talking to someone who brings negative energy to the conversation.
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What sucks is as a woman, I grew up bottling my emotions up because I was told I was to emotional… now that I’m a grown woman it’s hard for me to express my emotions calmly, cuz of lack of practice. Verbalizing things calmly and kindly is the key, but it’s takes practice and doing, and be prepared to feel extremely vulnerable and weak doing so. But it pays off…
same here girl. i feel ya!
Your not the only one I struggle with this too grew up in a very non affectionate household and couldn’t express myself.
Yessss same here I’m 29 and still dealing with learning how to be affectionate and feeling weak if I share my feelings
Y'all just decribing me, dealing with this at the moment
Same here. This is something I am actively working on. It's been many years of hard work. I still can't show emotions in front of my mother. Not even the happy kind. But with other people I am doing a lot better.
As a 30 years old!I came to realize that you can’t loose what’s not yours on the contrary it will be yours temporary!whats yours will belong to you forever
In the past, I've been forced to be in my masculine energy in order to provide and protect my family. About 5 months ago I met the man God intended me to be with. Naturally my masculine energy has taken a back seat to his alpha masculine energy which has made me feel more feminine than I ever had before. It's such a relief to trust him to lead! I couldn't be happier being submissive, and I'm still a strong woman! 😊❤
Submissive is a codependency trait.
Third point - healing is a key...allow yourself to be single for sometime to upgrade ❤
This is very important to heal.
Yes 🙌🏽 that’s what I did, I stayed single for 8 years
@@Jameylynnloves.... 😮 I'm still learning
I'll say this as well. You are so right about femininity being OUR responsibility. I have mostly led a life in which I've been so tough, strong, and rough around the edges that people have thought I was lesbian! 😅😂 I'd often come off so intimidating to men. But I've always known that I want to be happily married since I was a small girl, so I knew I had to make some adjustments. I knew I could not wait until he arrived. I knew I had to be ready for him PRIOR to his arrival. So, again that is so true. No one had told me those things, it was just something that I knew and felt within myself. I believe that any woman that is TRULY serious about love will be willing to get out of her own way. Everyone else is lying to themselves.
Amen a woman who truly wants it will do the hard work to prepare and get out of her own way!!
6:15 you have consistently referred to the survey in that book time and time again and I actually came to see it play out in my life. My partner said he fell in love with me because I showed him how it felt to be loved by constantly telling him how attracted I was, happy to be around him, expressing my feelings for him, showing desire and most importantly care for him.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
That's what makes women fall in love as well
I'm so used to being dominant, because I grew up having to take care of myself and everyone I love. I'd love to submit to a man I trust, but 1. I don't know how and 2. I've never met such a man.
Yes this is correct! I have shown desire for this current guy friend that I am talking to right now. He said he was drawn to me because I showed him interest and desire to be with him. His wife passed away five years ago. Ladies show that you desire him and value him it does work!! Thank you Stephen for all your support and advice throughout the years.
That's right sign me up if God told a angel this man will be everything God intended for him to be to a woman...Yes i can submit and love it because he acting in the image of God his original design b4 sin...
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I’ve had 3 years break from these toxic relationships. I’m relearning and starting over fresh. This is helpful ❤
I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
Thank God You got out. I’m praying for complete healing. Yes he a good speaker I have been following him for about three years please get his book. He is lying sis! It’s a great book.
A man is a hunter , he needs to do the hard persuing, do not set up a date in the beginning , you relax lady but always say yes to his dates, not last minute but ahead of time but if he lacks in this department he is feminine and that man will never be our leader and if you have stuff going on ,politely decline and say next time? Happy dating ❤
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
I’ll come back when I heal and apply these tips . I have so much hatred for men right now . I have a lot healing to do ❤
These are all so true! My fiance says the first thing he was attracted to were my honesty and clarity and how I complement him (he is a very masculine and analytical/logical man) while I was more emotional and expressive. But there's a huge difference in being open/submissive/expressive in personal relationships vs in professional relationship, he says he likes how im rigid and has boundaries in my work, so maybe you should emphasize that being feminine should be applied only with your man but should be more masculine with her colleagues, or you don't agree?
Stephan this is great. I'm currently engaged to the love of my entire life and he told me that when he first saw me he saw love and passion in my eyes. He hadn't even dated me yet but he was certainly spot on with what he saw. He is such a loving and dependable Pisces man and has made it clear that he's always wanted a loving and nurturing woman. Despite me being so willing to be a helpmate and submit, he still values my input and even requires it at times. He trusts my views and opinions and I think it's so amazing to witness because he IS a WHOLE masculine man who is very responsible in handling his business and has no problem with leading and doing it firmly if necessary. Also, he's very different from past types who were like "I'm the man! I have all the answers!" I definitely learned more about the judgmental point. I did realize that I as a Cancer woman, I tend to have high standards specifically related to the home and close relationships. Thank you so much for this. ☺️
Jajajajajajaja 😅 ¿Cancer? I'm Cancer too 😃
I didn't know that Cancer people usually have high standards for relationships.
Woooow great discovery! 😂
I am not afraid of the word submissive the right man just gets that side of me. I already know the wrong men have came in my path and at this point I’m exhausted but this was good information
A whole lot problems can be avoided/solved with all of this advice. These nuggets of wisdom turned my light bulb on. Thank you from a place of gratitude.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤️ 🙏
Your talks are always on point!! A man that chooses a crazy woman for a wife is not ready to be a serious man or husband. But I know what you mean. You have to have a woman that represents you well. However, she should always make you feel desired.
📝 taking notes! Yes Sir 😍 Can't wait to apply all this wisdom / knowledge on/to the Man God has for Me ❤ Submission is a spiritual thing. It's easier to submit to a man who is submitted to God
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Totally agree the point where Stephan says trust God, if he sent you that man, led him lead 👏
Submission is easy if/when BOTH are on the same page. Also, when submission is PRESENT, games, dysfunction, bullshit is ABSENT. I let my husband know I was attracted to him because I WAS feeling a deeper connection. I NEVER felt this with "boyfriends."
I understand the wild girl analogy and in my previous marriage my ex purposely created a dynamic where he wanted to see us fight for him. So telling him, reassuring him, taking care of him sexually wasn't enough??? I draw the line at my husband of 9 years having the audacity to bring a 24 yr old to my home to fight for her man? - my husband??? Sweetie you can have him! Line crossed and there was no coming back from that.....
I also have to disagree with something here , showing a man desire can open the doors to being used so this is a tough one , I would say let him show signs first in a way.
It's called exchange of power.
So? Relationship are about risk. When he spends money, he opens the door to being used. Show im the same respect and open the doors. Easiest why to find out if a person is bad for you is to be vulnerable
Showing desire or interest is not the same as giving your heart …
@@zero1188t's a mans role to invest those things and yes some women use men for money but if she keeps declining or playing hard to get that's on him , the way I show desire is saying yes to a mans date and get so excited and always say thank you..feminine vs masculine power.
@@nathalian.7209women are not wired that way
How does a woman express desire, and be like the "I'm claiming him" without chasing or pursuing him in a way that turns him off??
This information speaks volumes! Please note this is the truth. Smiling is so important as well.
Absolutely!
Your advice is so sound, that I'm gonna be so happy when you actually find your wife, I pray she deserves every bit of you. Thank you for following your dream and becoming this awesome coach that you are. Thank you.
Your lady is blessed to have you. Respect always!
Great content like always. I love it! I was right on point, and the piece on submission was excellent. Submission is not a problem, but only if this man is your husband and he is providing to your needs. 😢 I am so learning the hard way to not submit to a boyfriend or a fiancé only your husband. Women, please don't do wifey duties to the men who can't commit all the way to the altar. Jump that broom first before doing any wifey duties. Don't give out no snacks, goody bags, treats, don't cook shit, don't clean shit, don't give out shit, until you married license in all period.
I love being submissive to my husband. I am not a pushover either. I stand my ground, respectively. I find my submission to him a draw to him and him to me. Thank you for your great insight.
Vomit inducing.
Thank you again Stephan. Taking notes from Jamaica ✍️
My pleasure ❤️
Another gem‼️ I need you to touch on the importance of vulnerability for both men and women. ❤❤❤
This has been very interesting and you explain things in a way that many relationship counselors don’t. You break it down very well. In my marriage I had to make all the decisions and I took the lead most of the time and honestly it was exhausting. I’m learning from these videos and hoping to find a man next time who can allow me to relax and come to him for help when I need it, returning to him love, respect and desire. I’m hoping to continue to refine these skills that I know are inside me. Thank you!
it's how she expresses herself. if she's going to go over the top and not regulate her emotions any time something pops up that's not healthy communication. the worst thing is to be a silent sufferer and not ask for what you need, he can't read your mind.
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Hey you know what would be helpful, if you have time, tips on what submission looks like. I think that’s a struggle, we think submission equals the death of our autonomy.
But agreed, submission works with the right man. Everyone is happiest.
Every business needs a manager, that ideally, considers those he leads and tries to make the best decisions for the team.
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I really like the idea about showing desire, it's something I don't do at all, and I realise it makes men question if I REALLY want them
I’m doing my best to be clear about my feelings. As a boss and divorced mom I feel like I’m a little impatient so I have to pause and think before I respond to make sure I’m clear and gentle but firm.
Expressing desire can be hard to do with someone you like
It isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
I believe the man for you would totally want you to express yourself and would have no problem about it. The last man I dated, he did not like it one bit, he went as far as to say, "I am too loving". I could not believe it! Yes I was so frustrated with him until it came to an end when I shook with anger. I know my love language is being open and expressing myself. I need to find a man that is in tune with that. Unfortunately I am yet to find him.
Hello Stephan, I always found clarity from your empowering relationship advice videos. 😊 Thanks so much for always sharing your knowledge about relationships. 👍
You did it! I commented at about 20 minutes. I then thought of "trust". You said it. Thank you! God Bless You!
New sub and good to be here on time for this release. Amazing
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Isn’t he wonderful? I have a better understanding of my guy😃
@@MeetStephanSpeaks all in order. glad to be here...binging away
@@CashThat4U totally, i love how he breaks down everything to clarity
Submission is automatic when the man is in his God given place. No sensible woman with a vision for her own life is going to submit to a man with no self control, no discipline or a trusted provider. The Bible says the man is the head and it’s with good reason. The only way to fix the age old battle between men and women is to fix the relationship with man and God.
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And especially a man that is NOT her husband.
I ain’t submitting to no one!!!
Love the part where he says if you believe God chose this person you then trust it
Thank you Stephan for these advice. It’s the laughter u give each time u are trying to give further clarity for me 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂.You do it in most of your videos.
Glad you listened to your spirit and put that third one on the list. This linear relationship that’s often missing. There’s THREE 😮LAYERS! God FIRST leading Us and us submitting and trusting God THEN us submitting to each other. Submissiveness is important and like he said translates, comes down to being able to: trust the man to lead.
PIN THIS!!!
Hi Stephan, great video. I have healed and have stepped into my divine feminine it feels wonderful,beautiful, and empowering. I have all these traits and more. I've had several of my male friends at the gym say to me Aww you know how to make a guy feel special.🥰 I just love to love, and I'm grateful to God for healing me and giving me truth,beauty, and wisdom. I appreciate you sending Love and Positive Vibes to you and all the beautiful souls out there. 🩵💥❤️💥💙💥💚💥🧡
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
On point as always ❤👌🏽😍 Geez, wish I stumbled across you before I even entered the dating scene... Would have kept me from a lot of heart ache and mistakes... Stephan is the Man ❤
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in in faith ❤️ 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Amen 🙏🏽and thank you! The healing journey is going Great!
I love your videos and they have helped me so much! When you said the word submission my mind went immediately to the word Trust. To submit to God or a man is about trust. Love it! Thank you for saying the hard things gracefully. You have so much grace as you speak and I really appreciate it and you!
I'm so glad you said submission is about trusting a man to lead
Thanks again for another amazing video. I can confess that in my past relationships, I did not listen to my intuition and I ignored and rationalized a lot of things that needed to be addressed.
Watching these videos has me feeling attacked (no hard feelings)but it’s ok because I need to hear this and it helps me recognize my flaws and the thing I need to work on.
All of this a big learning lesson for me while on this healing journey.
Thanks again! This helps✨
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you
This man is so anointed. A lot of these life coaches that are popular have wisdom, but even they sometimes just speak just to say something. I feel like everything that Stephen says has a purpose and a real message filled with overwhelming wisdom. God really has his hand on this man. I pray that he protects him and his family because he is like the King Solomon of today- wisest man on earth 🌍
If he (Stephen) reads this please make sure to travel with your wife everywhere you go just like Billy Graham did. He did this so he could never get accused of anything
The devil lives to tamper with meaningful ministries . The devil be working overtime 😢
Love this ❤️ your last point shows just how much genuine effort and thought you put into your videos which I so appreciate 🙏
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
I personally LOVE 💕 being submissive!!! I feel more feminine submitting to my partner. And he returns that masculinity that I do crave!
And yes, men must submit to their partners not just God. Submission comes in the form of trustworthiness, loyalty, consistency, protection, provision etc.
Do you ever share some of your own personal experiences Steph? That would be interesting! 🤗
At last, someone saying that a trustworthy man is a man who submits to God. It explains why I'm not attracted to 99% of men. Great video. Thanks.
This is so useful. My life has become so much more positive, I’m happier and my relationship in a much stronger place since tuning into my feminine energy ❤
This is a good teaching. I love it.
Please Stephan, I really like you to make a video about the importance of man leading😊
My goodness listening all of this makes me very happy that i am 65 and have been divorced 25 years and am not dating or looking.i think it would give a headache 😂
Not to old for love 😍
Thanks! I needed this message!
All men in my life have always advised me to never let the man know he’s WON the game let him feel like he has to keep winning in the relationship once someone has won the championship normally the “high” goes away.. also my friend had a girl that cooked and cleaned for him and he said it was a turn off how bad she was trying to impress him when he never put her in that position.. i’m open to hearing other opinions! just what i’ve heard so far!
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Truth is, you have to put your crown on and know your worth. That's all.
@@tz1434 love this and i like the 5% rule. thanks for your insight!
Love this!!❤️. Thank you!!🙏
Love your information thank you for sharing it with us
Love all this gentleman’s point especially the 3rd. I don’t want my woman to deal with this cold world. Let me do what I HAVE to do in this world to provide for us. That allows you to do what you WANT to do in this world aka your dream.
I have been working on myself for years now to prepare myself to meet such a woman. I have not found one yet, but I hope to find one in the future :)
great advice again
Thank you! I just love all of these points! And yes I agree that as long as a man’s a great leader (along with the relationship being healthy and between two healthy adults) it could be easy to be submissive! I know I get tired of doing things and would enjoy a husband to share life with and pour into. And for myself learning to submit to God first was a great start for me as a women before I meet my husband. God is the most trust worthy. Plus I love Him SO much! 😊
I wish you would do a video on layers of submission when it comes to married and non-married people? Why would/should a woman fully submit to a boyfriend/live-in who hasn’t committed to her spiritually and legally?
I mean why not? If there is trust, love and understanding.
If there isn't, than he's not the man for you.
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
@@mirelarajic579YOU NEVER SUBMIT TO A BOYFRIEND!!!! Tf!!!
19:55 😂😂😂😂omg you sounded absolutely terrified to say it!!! 😆
This is so helpful, thanks for this wisdom
My pleasure ❤️
Once upon a time I stumbled into your video and have never looked back. Would love to see you collaborate with RC Blakes. God bless you and your work ❤
My Queen possesses all traits I am in love with my True Rib Amen 💜💍💜
One of the best things I ever did was work with a Christ centered counselor to heal up all of my hurts. ONLY the Divine Physician can do this. Am now learning how to walk in a full feminine way to bless my future husband:+) God is good. Thank you for this wisdom:+) God bless~
So true ❤❤❤❤
💯 yes!
Again, another great video with just realistic facts and ways to look at within ourselves. Thank you for sharing 😀
Worthy 🙏🏼💫
Inability to submit to an authority has a lot more to do with the perception that the leader is untrustworthy in some way, or lacks some quality that allows a woman to rest in his stewardship.
If a man doesn't lay himself down for a woman as Christ layed himself down/sacrificed himself for the church, he is not trustworthy. If a woman is Christian, the spirit within won't allow her to submit to an ungodly or untrustworthy man.
It's all about trustworthiness. Women will freely submit to trustworthy men.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
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What happens if he's not a godly man?
@elsiemeade3857 Did you read my statement?
It all sounds like such hard work. It cant be that hard. 😅
Amazing video!! The title can be labeled..”3 SIGNS A MAN FINDS IRRESISTIBLE IN A HEALED WOMAN”…
I love your insight on healthy relationships!!
#KeepUpTheGreatWork💎💎💯💯😊😊
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I get you. I really do but I dont know how to be anything but myself.
Agree with this
WOW! New here...I'm a tough case; curious to see what I take away. Thank you
That is so amazing
Here is a tip ladies:
"Attraction SPARKS, Personality DRIVERS."
If you can understand this, you are ahead in the RACE.
Teach Brother ❤
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Great lecture 🔥 Thank you
I also was sitting here thinking I have been following Stephan for so many years ❤
Thank you.
#1&2 for sure! Now, I have a huge problem with #3. I been super duper independent since being a child. I am single and seems like it will stay like that. Unfortunately, the men I attract can’t offer me anything and that’s a problem cuz while they want to be Superman, I am already a super woman 🤔
I totally agree with all three, but 100% on Numero tres 🦋
As always your messages are so insightful and helpful. ❤ i wish more men watched your videos 😂 they can benefit 👍🏽
You are RIGHT 100%
I like what you're saying
Good Advice 👍
Very good info but so much ads i couldnt even finish the video
7:04 IDK THIS IS GIVING ME MENTAL ILLNESS BUT IM LISTENING
Mental illness? 😅
It seem be a lot work to be with a man or mate 😊
I don't understand why submission is a topic only targeted at women? Submission is reciprocal. Men need to discuss what submission looks like from a male perspective, submission is not a one way street, it doesn't work like that.