A lot of narcissists and toxic people (even self aware ones) like to stay in victimhood.

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  • @lorrainefrasier4096
    @lorrainefrasier4096 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Playing the victim is so unattractive. When you have way too much sympathy for them all it does is enable them.

  • @Nancy-yw1rr
    @Nancy-yw1rr ปีที่แล้ว +18

    My ex was always playing the victim. When I told him that he was not a victim, he would suddenly go quiet and say, "Well, you're not a victim". Great comeback. 🙄

    • @tranquility9325
      @tranquility9325 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Best comeback is; your right. I survived you. BYE

  • @jmshaw28
    @jmshaw28 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thanks for this. I'm dealing with a narcissist right now who constantly accuses me of bs but refuses to get help for his insecurities and childhood trauma.

  • @gigicooper1759
    @gigicooper1759 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I will forever be grateful for what I have learned from you and your journey...it has saved me from myself and my toxic ex...happy and divorced....no contact...peace at last

  • @nickoleanderson6379
    @nickoleanderson6379 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Thank you, Lee, for making and sharing this video with everyone.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      No problem

    • @nickoleanderson6379
      @nickoleanderson6379 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@MentalHealness 🙂

    • @magdalenevaughn7495
      @magdalenevaughn7495 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so much Lee for being very helpful and explaining all the things about narcissistic behavior and being one to share the issues and helping yourself and others understand what are the behaviors to watch out for you have helped me and others understand and share your opinions about how to deal with narcissists thank you again and god bless you and for to share all this information with all of us!!!!

  • @IMTinaMarieJ
    @IMTinaMarieJ ปีที่แล้ว +5

    My 38 yr old stbx husband LOVES to play victim. I knew this was the reason he refused to get help and feared therapy so much. He never wanted to change or face the reality of how much a piece of sh*t he’d always been towards me & our kids.

    • @lydiapetra1211
      @lydiapetra1211 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm so sorry....but my ex narc is the same....yet from the beginning I called him a narc...a covert narc...I sent him articles to see who and what he is but ....he rejects it ... just love being a victim.
      May God bless you and your kids and help you 🙏♥️🌺

  • @thelovely961
    @thelovely961 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    the one I met used that he's a narc for me to not hold him accountable and to feel even more sorry for him

  • @rharia
    @rharia ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for staying on message despite any negativity. Narcissists are very sensitive to criticism. Most people are sensitive to criticism including myself. You’ve come far in your recovery to be able to stay on point and shield off toxic criticism. You inspire.

  • @spiritualdrip1869
    @spiritualdrip1869 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks for sharing this one lee and narcissist don’t like getting help because they like playing the victim so that you can look like the bad guy.

  • @rachgrigg2447
    @rachgrigg2447 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Yassssssss 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 you are responsible!!! Wish my ex would grow up.

  • @teashahamilton669
    @teashahamilton669 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Today, my nex started crying on the phone for no reason due to decisions HE made. But of course, it was MY fault.

    • @katface28
      @katface28 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Mine still insists I chose to leave, even tho it was either leave or the alternative: be abused. He will do anything to hold onto his vision of himself as a victim.

  • @korab.23
    @korab.23 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    It also applies to medical conditions. Easily treatable but he wouldn't get any attention without it so he doesn't do what he needs to.

    • @lorireed8046
      @lorireed8046 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Maybe he is giving up and is wishing the medical issue will kill him?

    • @tranquility9325
      @tranquility9325 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ​@@lorireed8046 I know of a few who are extremely careless with their health. Self sabotage big time.

  • @bethalpert5999
    @bethalpert5999 ปีที่แล้ว

    Lee you literally answer ALL of the why why why questions I've had all of my adult life. You truly give me the closure I never received. Thank You Thank You Thank You!!!! A million times over.

  • @susand7202
    @susand7202 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Oh yeah Lee, and they like the lifestyle, chasing that high especially if there's histrionic traits..Watching that go down is a huge wake-up call..Thanks Lee YTB 🙏🏼💯👏🏻

  • @MaryamAli-vd1xv
    @MaryamAli-vd1xv ปีที่แล้ว

    I love that you are accountable so we can understand what is going on 🏆💯 you make it so much clearer not that I can ever do anything about the information for anybody else. POWER TO YOU YOU HELP ME ‼️

  • @tam_to_evolve
    @tam_to_evolve ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Keep doing your thing Lee!! ❤️❤️💖

  • @lydiapetra1211
    @lydiapetra1211 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks so very much for this terrific video! I couldn't figure out why he loves being a victim.....

  • @stormi9951
    @stormi9951 ปีที่แล้ว

    💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾❤️❤️keep bringing it dawg!! U be spot on!

  • @sweetoneloves6811
    @sweetoneloves6811 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are correct Lee

  • @NicolaS-fl8ks
    @NicolaS-fl8ks ปีที่แล้ว

    I appreciate your content, Lee. Thank you. From the UK

  • @godsfavor6939
    @godsfavor6939 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    It totally makes sense. 💜 Not a honey 🍯 drip 🤭

  • @nadinecolbath5584
    @nadinecolbath5584 ปีที่แล้ว

    So THIS is why my husband doesn't want to seek counseling!!! Now I will be handling this differently from now on!!!!

  • @rememberselfcare
    @rememberselfcare ปีที่แล้ว

    Lee, you do not have to explain. Those who know, know. We don't need your explanation. We know you're out here trying to help and lives. We know what you're using your platform for, and we wholeheartedly thank and support you.

    • @tranquility9325
      @tranquility9325 ปีที่แล้ว

      Some ppl don't know this. That's why he educates everyone

  • @eyram5098
    @eyram5098 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much

  • @rowenaroberts9284
    @rowenaroberts9284 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank You🎉

  • @devarodgers4676
    @devarodgers4676 ปีที่แล้ว

    thats madness

  • @christinabreen6493
    @christinabreen6493 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have question my ex narc have not had contact in 6 months and he contacted me stating he want to resolve with auto loan and after I replied he ghost again and then block me from seeing his fb profile which are not even friends on fb .. I don’t understand .. please help me understand what he is up to

    • @lorireed8046
      @lorireed8046 ปีที่แล้ว

      Just keeping tabs... Just seeing if you have the same addy, phone number ECT.,.. it was his excuse to contact you. He never planned on fixing anything. It's his hold onto you ticket. If it gets resolved and nothing attaches you two then he has zero reason/ excuse to keep tabs on you.

    • @tranquility9325
      @tranquility9325 ปีที่แล้ว

      It's a form of what's called hoovering and also mind control.

  • @rachellewis9251
    @rachellewis9251 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very ashamed of myself time flysheet when you realise you have looked and replayed lots of the same videos like a year ago to be sacked back time and time again
    I'm certainly not a weak woman but this is shamfel anyone else relate to this?rach

  • @Rainbowofthefallen
    @Rainbowofthefallen ปีที่แล้ว

    🤍🖤

  • @mikelove5266
    @mikelove5266 ปีที่แล้ว

    I want to show this to my Ex babyma she won't listen to this??

  • @marlon5386
    @marlon5386 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I used to say to the narc ...ooh yes, because you are such a poor victim. Everybody is harmimg you, and everbody is crazy except for you! Dude grow up, instead of wanting to be treated like a spoiled princess!! He would get PISSED... well was used that though 😂

    • @lorireed8046
      @lorireed8046 ปีที่แล้ว

      Did he excuse others bad behavior and you tell him to stop excusing other's bad behavior?

    • @DrPhilGoode
      @DrPhilGoode ปีที่แล้ว

      Telling a narc to “grow up”. 🤣🤣

  • @TransparencyandMerit
    @TransparencyandMerit ปีที่แล้ว

    Does Woke culture promote narcissism, or does Woke culture give narcissism behavior a pass