Some Thai women not all. What percentage and what factors such as education, employment, travel, ect. determine their groupings are important questions.
@17:02 I believe your guest meant 80% divorced and/or single income not just divorced. You can see him slightly wishy-washy on this statement especially when you challenged him.
If this guys grandmother was Thai that means one of his parents can claim Thai citizenship which enables him to claim Thai citizenship. As for building a house upcountry, his wife can get a mortgage.
I agree, being a Chinese , I totally understand what he has been saying, by the way, he explains it very well. And I also hear so many stories to support his opinions regarding to Thai women and Thai culture.
This guy has some deep insights into human psychology and social understanding. I would love to listen and talk to him. This is your best interview so far
This guy is actually spot on... Deep insight into Thainess, very logical, articulate. 99% of guests here can spend 15 years and never see the Thai culture via such a clear lens,
This was easily the best interview that you’ve published in recent months. Josh’s take on Thai society and relationships was intelligent and thoughtful. I believe that men think too much with their hearts and emotions, and many of them arrive in Thailand genuinely looking for the love of their life. Despite the warnings, and numerous examples of catastrophic relationships, the same mistakes are made over and over again. Twenty years from now the same stories will be being told. Although Josh can engage in legal manoeuvring to protect his interest in a property in Chiang Mai the reality is that he would not be comfortable growing old in a property that the landowner wants him out of. His life could easily be made hell. And in any case who would want to live in an area where the air pollution is toxic for almost half the year? Josh is intelligent enough to know what he needs to do … and that is not invest in a property that he can never, in reality, own. If that means the end of his marriage, that may well be a price worth paying. Any guy who goes to Thailand needs to place their heart in a safe at home, and engage only with their head.
Exactly. Thailand is for fun, there's no other reason to be there other than that. But I'm the kind of person that has a personality that just doesn't go well with the whole of Asian culture in General. So you won't find me there permanently. Interesting to see things, but not a place I would ever stay more than a vacation
I am half Thai, divorced now after 5yrs with a kid. I built the house, payed for a luxury lifestyle, world travels, she never had to work and no matter what I did that Thai mentality never changed. Josh hit the nail on the head. Well analyzed & highly informative if you want to settle down with a Thai lady. Be aware!
Yep. My security is rooting a bar girl every week on the side. If my missus does me wrong I can look back and still feel good that I still shagged so many women
Pete this has been one of the best and most honest interviews on your channel. This guy has summed it up 100% He sees it exactly as it is. What a sincere and intelligent conversation. He exudes intelligence and empathy. Hope there will be a part 2 with him. Thank you Josh. You're a fine sir and a gentleman.
What a brilliant way to sum up Thai culture inside out. The saddest thing is most Thais would never even understand this honest break down of their own culture.
No matter the culture, etc. You don't give or invest after only 3 months. These are cliché scenarios. The mere asking for investment - is the actual red flag in the first place.
they all do it the first girl i was with in thailand was trying to make me buy a house for 3 million baht from her parents. and i know that house is definetly not worth that. old ass house with standard cheap thai living. i could get a pool villa for that money. but if you don't know it sounds super cheap compared to europe or usa.
Josh is 90% right. I am in my 40s and living in Thailand married for the past decade. Need more Josh in your videos as he speaks only the truth. Honeymoon period ends the moment you cannot provide.
This guy has a lot of things spot on about Thailand. About buying brands especially. I remember chatting to a local a few years ago. I picked up my iPhone. ‘Oh you only have iPhone 8?! Yes I replied. I have iPhone 11!’ I replied. A phone’s a phone 😂
I had same exp. I had my old iPhone 8 with me and left my new iPhone 13 at my condo. The girl laughed also with my phone 😂 thinking im a broke farang. Meanwhile I could buy 25 iPhones tomorrow but an iPhone ain’t an asset. Something especially women don’t seem to get.
Was in Thailand for a month at the beginning of the year. I did not want to travel with my new phone so took a old 3 year old Samsung galaxy and put a tourist Thai sim in and was more than enough for taking the odd photo and using Bolt ect. Funny thing was lots of girls I met were judging me by my phone, telling me that I should go to the Mail and buy a new phone saying your phone old and is no good! This phone worked perfectly had a 4K camera and was only going to be used for the month. I could not be bothered trying to explain that it was an old phone that was just for the holiday and found it amusing how much judgment I was receiving because of a bloody phone! It also very hard to explain principles in Thailand so for example I was in the Mail in Bangkok and was running low on nice aftershave I did not realise how much more expensive Dior smells were in Thailand so for a bottle I usually pay £75 was £130 so I was like no I’m not paying that! The girl I was with seemed embarrassed that I said no she said you have no money now, no I have plenty of money but it’s the principle, she did not understand! She kept asking but if you wanted the scent why you say no! My friend was flying into town at the weekend so I WhatsApp him and ask him to grab me the scent at duty free, he grabs it in a sale for £60 so more than half price the cost in Bangkok! The girl explained to me I lost face when I refused to pay the inflated Thai price in the Mail, I explained to her that if I don’t like the price I won’t pay and who did I lose face too exactly the girl selling perfume in a mall I have never met or will never see again of her!! Either way I could not care less.
This guy has acquired an impressive amount of knowledge about Thai culture, he is one of the few that get's it. If your reading this DO NOT buy the house, even if you have the legal documentation for lease on the land the family can 1. make your life hell until you leave. 2. worse 3. bribe the land office to take away your rights, no paper can protect you.
if money means love why dont thai women pay the farang men too? the thai women just like how easy and disposable for financial security foreign men are thai men dont tolerate their bad behaviour and even hit them farang just play the nice guy and end up in divorce court thai men end up on her face
Hey Josh I feel for you, you are really a nice guy and understand the culture they don't deserve a man like you. You and all subscribers should listen to the lyrics of "Brilliant Disguise " by Bruce Springsteen...the last verse is like getting hit by a baseball bat. "Tonight our bed is cold, lost in the darkness of our love..God have mercy on the man who DOUBTS what he is sure of."
@@JoshAwang hey josh, I absolutely agree with what the guy before said. If you buy that house it won’t be yours I’d only buy that house if you can afford to literally give that money away for absolutely nothing in return. I can tell you that from my personal experience. The family might plan to gift it to a male sibling or nephew of your wife. That’s what the family of my wife’s planning to do. Just like you correctly pointed out wrt Thai society and their men vs woman. Anyways, good luck!
Agreed, after 2 years in a relationship here I can clearly see the self-preservation component of Thai women’s personalities that lead to some narcissistic tendencies. I can also reaffirm that the man in a Thai women relationship will always be lower in priority then the parents, siblings and maybe the whole extended family.
I've watched many interviews over the last year, this is near the top. He has knowledge, speaks the language, can get into the minute nuances, us foreigners can't. In doing so, he thoroughly peeled the onion on my last marriage. I tolerated 10 years, divorced while being bombarded daily with promises of change. It took three more years to stop hitting my head on the wall. Afterwards, I did the circuit of women and have found one that's very good. Both her parents are deceased, and two adult sons understand, "No." We help when we think we should, not when they want. Her family doesn't like it; however, friends abroad have educated her on the pitfalls of the "family." Thankfully, she listens and is very reasonable.
Amazing conversation. After 6 months of living in TL and staying single, these experiences by other Western men living here and dating local women is starting to make sense. My intuitions are validated by these poor men's mistakes.
As a Western man who's lived in Thailand for 25years full time. This guy speaks a lot of sense, but I can't help thinking he is possibly weak where women are concerned and not experienced. He has been married a few times, which tells me he can't be alone and maybe jumps into the first woman that shows him some kind of affection. All thai women are not like he describes, like in any country, u have to kiss a lot of frogs before u find a princess.
I've been living here since October 2022, and I feel very lucky that I only had to kiss one frog before finding my Thai princess (actually that frog assaulted me, which made dumping it very easy).
Exactly. He even said he brought his friend to meet the scammer with him at first, because he knew he wouldn't be able to cope. That sort of vulnerability or desperation is always going to get you into bad relationship after bad relationship.
@@5thPlatoon nah, i said i brought my bestie along to be extra eyes and ears. That's pretty normal guy stuff to bring a wing man to help keep a look out.
I think Pete found this hard to swallow with having a lovely wife himself.But,there are a hell of a lot more farang guys in the same boat as this guy. Great interview Pete.
I hope the Japan legal system is more equitable and fair. TBH I really don't know, but I do think the cultures are both different. They have their scams for sure, but this is everywhere on earth.
i just realised that actually there is quite a bit of Japanese culture as well in the Thai culture as the old kingdom of Ayuthaya had Japanese involvement and strategic military partnership
After a year in Thailand. I have quite quickly found out that you really can't have a Thai wife. maybe a girlfriend if you realise , sooner or later she will be gunning for your money and if you understand this , you will be ok
Sorry man, this was/is not at all the case for me. I have a Thai wife and she's wonderful. But I was very careful when "vetting" her. I'll bet Pete would tell you how great his wife is too...
not quite the case for all people. there are way too many factors to consider. learning to speak thai is one of those key factors. wether or not you are going to be living in Thailand long term is another.
This is not a Thailand thing...Happens in the US all the time. Especially in states where the spouse is guaranteed half of everything after 10 years of marriage and spousal support for life. Thats the long play...It does not matter if its a quick scam or slow one, bottom line men think with there small head not there big head and get into these kind of problems everywhere.
From the states...Joe makes a good point, he is definitely not wrong. I see it here often. The big difference is your American Ex can clean you out financially. A smart guy doesn't go all in on an overseas wife, Thai or otherwise.
@joeshmooo5327 I think you’re right about that. I was thinking the same thing while watching the interview. Women are all fundamentally wired the same to put themselves, their kids and their parents (in Thai culture) before the guy. The love of a woman is always dependant upon the utility that you provide as a man. However, this seems to be in overdrive in Thailand.
I tell guys going to the Philippines to aim higher, but if they don’t then look for an orphan because they take supporting the family to a whole other planet. An ungodly one.
I don't want a man who had lots of sex with sex workers. Shows the way they see women and lack of social skills. Both are things you can improve but you have to be willing
thai women have the ability to detach emotionally at the first sign of any trouble, the amount of affection that you will receive is commensurate with your perceived wealth, they will play the sincere angle by using there family as the reason for more money, its all designed to part you with your money
@@TheMerryPrangster western women have their own money, sorry. they don't need you. which is why the passport bros go to Thailand. they get power in the relationship so they don't feel insecure about themselves like they do with western women, but they neglect to notice that the relationship is transactional in Thailand, based on their wealth. there's always a price.
@@TheMerryPrangsterWestern women are very independent regarding money and if they're getting married for sure they're not getting married for money unless the guy is super rich. But still his money will not a play the most important role in her life. Definitely western women are not obligated to feed their families like mama, papa, brothers and sisters from her husbands money. When she gets married she and her partner/husband are building their lives only for the sake of their own and their children.
This guy nailed it. I only lived in Thailand for 1.5 years and had the same opinions. 100%. He is also right about only the central Thais have modern thinking. Most Thais have very little knowledge of the world and believe Thailand is the best country in the world. I've heard multiple Thais state this.
@@nikkimclay5474 Uhm, not for me at least. This is partly due te to the things Josh mentioned about the downside of Thai culture, but also things like bad air quality, scams, bribing and dangerous traffic makes me not want to live there, at least not before I retire. Fortunately my Thai girlfriend understands this and is willing to come over to live with me in my home country in Western Europe.
Even the debt thing is very typical in Colombia. They borrow to buy new clothes and expensive gifts for Christmas, then get another loan in January to pay back the first loan. And of course if a foreigner lends money, it will never get paid back.
Great guest , great channel Pete. I'm currently going through a break up with my Thai gf. It is a comfort to hear your guest vocalize some of the things I am trying to understand . It has eased my pain. Been bouncing between "Thai talk with Dan" and your channel all day. Thanks for the Intelligent insights.
Absolutely brilliant video Pete, fantastic insights. I'm an Aussie and been living in the Philippines since 2003 and its great to hear the view point of an Asian about Asian culture. What Josh explains make so much sense and shows how diverse Asian culture is and how much it differs from Western culture. Probably the best insights into Asian culture I have seen/heard in 21 years! Keep up the good work and thanks also to Josh for sharing his insights.
"Needle in the haystack" is an outdated metaphor. The current and accurate take is, "Needle in the Needlestack". Trying to find a decent women these days is, time consuming, financial draining, emotionally draining, etc etc.
And many women prefer to be independent especially from men like you who characterise us in such a negative way!! Try being more positive about our many attributes & open your heart & mind to finding your match !!
@@nikkimclay5474 By definition you as a women have never experienced what it is like to date a women and be in a relationship with a women as a man. Rather than try and understand my position you right away go to what the late Kevin Samuels called S.I.G.N. language (shame insult guilt and the need to be right). Your response proves my point btw.
Can't be bothered with men who don't even start to understand us as human beings and just in the end want company in the way they imagine it. Women, like men are complex human being with indeed backgrounds, cultures, mentalities and many other things they are infused with.
true, but most people don't google search this stuff. They don't know that Thais, and Thai women, are that different from others. Seriously, you can travel to most random countries on the map and your chances are nothing close to meeting a scammer like it is in Thailand. For Thai women the transparent money drive is built into the culture.
@@eddiejohnson4434I wonder if this has been perpetuated by the fact their culture has never been influenced by colonisation ? It is quite fascinating listening to this guys knowledge
I %100 can see how he got scammed. Some are so good and play the victim so well. As soon as you question them they turn it back on you immediately and have 10 reasons why it’s your fault. You can give them money 364 days out of the year and if you don’t on the 365th day you are a bad man and you get their full bad attitude
"playing victim" is super spot on. It's even normal to say "don't you pity me" in their daily conversation... they have been taught from young that they are victims and can't make any change until someone takes pity on them and lifts them up from their poverty, but of course this generalising, and generalising is what we need to do so that we avoid the pitfalls as much as possible
6:50 I'm a little confused here. This gentleman said he had relatives in Thailand and one of them was a chef and she came to live with them. And then his mother said you should date that woman? Am I missing something?
I really enjoyed listening to Josh speak! He has a way of really pulling the audience in and keeping our attention the entire time! I listened to the entire interview and enjoyed it all! He really helped me have a deeper understanding of Thai culture but also of SE Asian culture as a whole. Thank you Josh for sharing your insight, knowledge, and story!
The only way to succeed marrying a Thai is moving far away from her family, living in your own property (condo or leasehold from a developer in your name) and never ever leave your Thai wive alone or at her family for more than one week. Best chance if the woman has a yiung kid, but no parents. So she will really depend on you. Very important is to get far away from her family and relatives.
How do you do that realistically all families need support systems like grandparents & siblings & how will that stop her from supporting them ? Many Thai women live in other countries but still financially support their family in Thailand
This person is clearly intelligent and well spoken. It does, however, beg the question as to why he has made the same mistake picking partners three times in a row.
Great interview,I’ve been to Thailand many times and never could understand the culture. Josh’s explanation of Thai family values,the hierarchy and male acceptance over females. What an insight!!!
The pressure on Thai daughters to provide for their ageing parents in the context of a pitifully low age pension & low wages has a kick on effect ...wanting to find a farang boyfriend as a generous provider. Great interview as usual.
@@eddenoy321 you would think that but it’s not a true reflection on the whole country on Thailand th-cam.com/video/rWkm_yIBUNc/w-d-xo.htmlsi=JjNC7IWaB96T8yJ_
I know have a better understanding of my relationship with my ex Thai partner. Thanks for this great interview . I thought it was just her , seems like narcissism , low empathy , and the saving of face is ingrained in the culture there.
Would you really want to live in a remote village on someone else’s land for 30 years if the wheels come off your relationship, get the loan in her name and she can’t afford to walk away, just the fact you’re questioning your situation is enough reason to hold back
No absolutely not! Good foresight 😉 You hear of many westerners advising other westerners to take up these insurances often in rural Isaan … well meaning advise but it acts more of a warning to the Thai partner in the short term than a practical solution long term down the line. As far as loans go I agree with you but I imagine that obtaining a loan could be tricky for these poorer thai women who often work without formal contracts.
Josh shouldn't apologize for calling himself a Westerner, seemed like a Westerner to me. Josh has some great insights into Thai culture, explains a lot, great interview. As far as investing in a Thai home, if that is what you want to do, go for it. But... only invest what you can afford to loose. My Thai wife is very supportive and has even realized what a waste brand names are, she has learnt that quality materials and craftsmanship are more important than a brand name, took a while.
Nice one Pete. One question I would have asked at the end would have been "you've clearly had difficulties in your relationships in the past and you're clearly an intelligent guy.. so, what mistakes do you think YOU might have made (if any) along the way? Regardless of the cultural issues you describe and your observations about other people's behaviour.. do you ever reflect on anything you would have done differently that might have created a different outcome?" Not to judge this guy at all.. but I thought it was interesting that there was no self reflection or admission of fault in any way when referring to his past. He seemed to be framing his misfortune through a lens of cultural analysis. He might be right, of course. However, many people who have experienced things like this will tell you their story but they will often say things like "Look, I wasn't perfect.." or "It's not easy to be a perfect Dad.." or "I was really gullible on that one, Pete..".. etc. Interestingly, this guy's angle was very analytical about everyone else but not himself. The 'what would you have done differently' question is always a good one in interviews.. it makes them reflect on themselves and their own behaviour within the drama and the response can be quite revealing.
You make a good point.It seem like the failure of his last relationship and the possible failure of his current relationship, all comes down to how the culture makes the women behave,in his view. I my experience Thai women respond well to you if you set clear rules for what you expect early in the relationship.I also noticed that he said he puts his wife first."she is first in my mind and my heart"..A man who pedestalize his woman don't understand that women, deep down in her female nature, view this as weakness,subconsciously..Your woman should be a good healthy supplement to your life but never the main focus...I said to my Thai gf that I will never buy a house with her in Thailand, I will never marry her unless she can give me children and that I have no money for emergencies...I was also very clear about how much money I would contribute to the relationship every month...If he is married and spends a lot of money building this house, he probably will loose everything if the marriage fails down the line...She kinda has him by the balls if he agrees to building....At this point before opening my wallet I would give her a clear NO to building this house just to se how she reacts..
Thank you so much. My thoughts entirely and perfectly put 🙏 The follow up interview could be amazing as Josh seems to have the capacity to answer those questions honestly. Or perhaps he doesn’t. 🤔 Either way it could be a very revealing interview. Bring it on Pete. 💪
Hey mate, if I were to elaborate on my weaknesses, it would be a 5-hour long video, after editing. That would be a different story for another day. Perhaps I’ll do a video on that some day soon. I might just pick up a few fans along the way who can identify with my many foolish ways.. past and present
@@JoshAwang Fair enough dude. Like I intimated.. nobody's perfect. If I were you i'd trust your instincts on the house build and your money and I'd make sure you set some very clear boundaries and expectations with your partner. If she can't work with it.. you'll have your answer as to what her motivations are.
It's not hard to spot red flags, most men just dont act on what they see and hear and more often than not have only themselves to blame. I dont think This is Thai specific Pete its against the norms to talk about money but yet everybody is still trying to keep up with the Jones in Ireland
It is interesting how people overcomplicate things. Thai is female-run. Ausralia, UK, Ireland are in the early stages of this so are arguing about 'pronouns' where Thailand already has it set with 'kha' and 'krub'. This is just the outside manifestations though. Past that, you can just think, well what do women want? And to understand that you need to understand how women think. So: image, ego, short term thinking and dishonesty are all accepted as that's the women's world. So that is why they all get divorced as women are short term thinking. And why they need to think about their parents, as they're all in debt as short term thinking leads to not being able to look after yourself in your older age. And when he said there's no shame on taking a women's husband, women don't shame any of their own negative behaviour, so dishonesty, ego, promiscuity etc. So just understand women are in charge. Period. The woman will demand everything she wants and ignore everything men wants as that's how the culture functions. There is no respect for men, is all for women and children. Understand this and you can understand all of Thai culture and that it's the end result of where Australia etc. will end up.
Not true. In most Thai families the boys are looked at as better and valued more. Straight up. A lot of Western men have been puzzy whipped and struggle to be the man of the house, in fact many don't even want to be the man of the house and this is where Thai women, and women from most of the world will take advantage.
i had a very similar experience , ghosted every , time , there was a disagreement , that creates fear, then more compliance , they use separation anxiety as a weapon , and the whole extended family is in on the scam
A fascinating video. Some of the things of what our brother says does not only apply to just Thai women, but women throughout the world. As they say, "follow the money!"
Wow, this guy seems good-hearted but hopelessly naive and probably very lonely to fall in love so easily and so quickly, this might have clouded his judgement.
One of the best interviews I've seen. Cheers. Some nice insights and awareness. Thai's are very practical (which is both positive and negative). The lack of empathy can seem to be almost sociopathic to westerners. The inability of some women to express deep emotions such as loss is alarming and can be very troubling to westerners. We can be perplexed by it. It is worth noting I know of several Thai's who remain married but never seen each other. There have also been several news stories of Thai men with multiple wives (I guess they can provide?). You either learn the game and play it better or you get buried by it. Personally, I've been married to a well-educated Thai lady but I am soon to divorce. Age difference, I don't want children and boredom were the main reasons for the failure. And yes, lease the land, get it all drawn up by lawyers in Bangkok (ones your wife is not aware of) and see if she goes for it. If she doesn't, then you will know instantly she is trying for the scam. 30 years plus 30 years is normal. They are looking at extending the land leases to 99 years right now.
I don't even know why I clicked on this video, that was not my kind of topic, but I ended up enjoying the well spoken guest and his takes on thai culture and comparison between western and Asian culture. Great interview, exceptional guest. Subscribed.
Don't give your heart. Yes. Also something typical in Colombia. One of their expressions is "he who falls in love, loses". Another one is "The smart guy makes his living from the naive one."
Hey! The first commenter in a Thai section I saw who also knows about Colombia. They are similar. Scamming runs rampant. But honestly if it wasn't for the escopolamina I'd be in Medellin year round. Great weather and every other woman is a pageant winner.
My final comment, and very much agree with Josh. People who emigrate are supposed to flaunt their wealth when they return. However, this is not just an Asian schtook but the same with Italians, Greeks, Albanians etc. who come home from Oz or USA. Even today. Very excellent vlog, thank you 😊
This guy is pretty spot on, on most things & I've always been curious what the Malaysians think of Thai people etc, I've always heard & known that the Thai ladies are the back bone of Thai society & that the Thai men are treated totally different, one thing I don't agree on, is showing off your wealth & your possessions, Facebook is all about me, me, me, in the u.k, posting new cars, holidays, new properties etc, but of course there are some people that don't want to show there wealth to the whole world as this can attract unwanted attention.......
In Colombia, something like 80% of the kids grow up without a dad. So you have millions of young, single mothers. Most have no education and hence no opportunities to make a lot of money with a decent job. At the same time, they are expected to take care of their kids alone, until the son gets married, which could be in his 30s. AND on top of that, they have to take care of their own mom. The result is that women see prostitution OR marrying a guy from a wealthy country as their only option. They will at first seem like The Perfect Wife, in order to rope in the guy, but as soon as they have the opportunity, they will be with guys they are actually attracted to. Of course I am generalizing here, but these are typical traits.
In Borneo, a cab driver asked me the price of Adidas in my country. I told him I had no idea and never waste my money on stuff like that. His income was probably 1/10 what a low-end worker in Australia would make. I just felt sad that he aspired to buying over-priced sneakers.
I've been living in Thailand for 5 years. In general, Thais are friendly and good people, but as the guest said, it seems as if it is all about money here.
After 15 years of marriage with the most amazing Thai woman, I have to disagree with him. My wife chose me over here family when we had some problems many years ago, so we/I have had a great relationship with my Thai family since then. My wife knew from the beginning that I was not a rich guy, which was why I didn't pay sinsort, but I promised her mom and dad to take care of her with the means I have for the rest of my life, and they accepted that. My wife is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
The safest way to protect yourself....rent your transportation, rent your dwelling, rent your girl. If any of the three give you problems....just rent something else....and keep your wealth in your home country.
Boy that is the truth, you have to listen to those internal voices. They have a beautiful hi voltage smile but they have razor sharp teeth behind the smile.
He should write a book. He's right. Anything outside of Thailand doesn't matter. So many Thais I have met haven't even tried food that isn't Thai. Parents dominate. Let's not complain about Thais being poor when they live for the past instead of investing for the future. I knew someone who skipped her rent in order to fix her dad's truck. (no, he didn't need it for work) Face value. 100%. I'm sure I'll get used to it but learning about Thai culture deeper than what's on the surface ruined the surface. Harmony over honesty. S work. People who don't know Thailand think all these women were "forced" into this work due to poverty. There are so many countries in poverty that don't have near the rate. Not to mention in most countries parents aren't cool with their daughters sleeping with strange men so they can have nicer things. The money some of these women make is way more than the family needs. If 4 sponsors "boyfriends" send her 1k a month what happens to the money?
He’s a bright and sincere guy. However, with women, I feel he lacks experience and is far too trusting. He’s quite book smart I think, but street smarts are just as important. I have been living in Thailand on & off for 24 years, and I’ve never married or had kids with a Thai. Lots of girlfriends, but I’ve never put myself in a position where I could be ripped off or taken advantage of. As a result, I have no horror stories. I don’t care how pretty or amazing she seems, I’m not losing any of my wealth over a woman. Buying land / house / business…not a chance lol. I would enjoy hearing Josh on the show again.
I have a good freind that has a thai girl freind,he sends her money every mounth the last 13 years and she always needs more, she doesnt save up , here today gone tomorrow, strainged♥♥♥♥♦♦♦
I suspect, when dealing with people who are willing to go the extra mile to harm someone, take from them, etc, we are dealing with narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths.
Almost all the things you mention here are the same in Medellin in Colombia. Other parts of Colombia are more laid back, but in Medellin, there is an extreme focus on appearances and material possessions.
Very wise man i agree and i can say with thai ladies there is always talks about money which i dont like and i been with office normal ladies that tried to make me pay for holidays, hotels, buy furniture for house, food of course, they always say “you take care of me”, while their money go to their parents, which even if they dont need, but will make them “happy” every month
Do you agree with Josh’s take on Thai women and Thai culture? Comment below
Some Thai women not all. What percentage and what factors such as education, employment, travel, ect. determine their groupings are important questions.
@17:02 I believe your guest meant 80% divorced and/or single income not just divorced. You can see him slightly wishy-washy on this statement especially when you challenged him.
If this guys grandmother was Thai that means one of his parents can claim Thai citizenship which enables him to claim Thai citizenship. As for building a house upcountry, his wife can get a mortgage.
@athitaya6898 Malaysia doesn't allow dual citizenship, though, so he'd have to give that up.
I agree, being a Chinese , I totally understand what he has been saying, by the way, he explains it very well. And I also hear so many stories to support his opinions regarding to Thai women and Thai culture.
This guy has some deep insights into human psychology and social understanding. I would love to listen and talk to him. This is your best interview so far
This guy is actually spot on... Deep insight into Thainess, very logical, articulate. 99% of guests here can spend 15 years and never see the Thai culture via such a clear lens,
This was easily the best interview that you’ve published in recent months. Josh’s take on Thai society and relationships was intelligent and thoughtful. I believe that men think too much with their hearts and emotions, and many of them arrive in Thailand genuinely looking for the love of their life. Despite the warnings, and numerous examples of catastrophic relationships, the same mistakes are made over and over again. Twenty years from now the same stories will be being told. Although Josh can engage in legal manoeuvring to protect his interest in a property in Chiang Mai the reality is that he would not be comfortable growing old in a property that the landowner wants him out of. His life could easily be made hell. And in any case who would want to live in an area where the air pollution is toxic for almost half the year? Josh is intelligent enough to know what he needs to do … and that is not invest in a property that he can never, in reality, own. If that means the end of his marriage, that may well be a price worth paying. Any guy who goes to Thailand needs to place their heart in a safe at home, and engage only with their head.
Exactly. Thailand is for fun, there's no other reason to be there other than that. But I'm the kind of person that has a personality that just doesn't go well with the whole of Asian culture in General. So you won't find me there permanently. Interesting to see things, but not a place I would ever stay more than a vacation
I think he was a bit too negative and too generalizing about thais
I am half Thai, divorced now after 5yrs with a kid. I built the house, payed for a luxury lifestyle, world travels, she never had to work and no matter what I did that Thai mentality never changed. Josh hit the nail on the head. Well analyzed & highly informative if you want to settle down with a Thai lady. Be aware!
Poor country snags Americans , Philippines 🇵🇭 also I'm so sorry that happened to u😢
Yep. My security is rooting a bar girl every week on the side. If my missus does me wrong I can look back and still feel good that I still shagged so many women
He has hit the nail on the head! I suffered the fate of his experience. He has managed to articulate what I now better understand.
Pete this has been one of the best and most honest interviews on your channel. This guy has summed it up 100% He sees it exactly as it is. What a sincere and intelligent conversation. He exudes intelligence and empathy. Hope there will be a part 2 with him. Thank you Josh. You're a fine sir and a gentleman.
What a brilliant way to sum up Thai culture inside out. The saddest thing is most Thais would never even understand this honest break down of their own culture.
yeah,you think the thais are dumb?Time to look at yourself in the mirror,dude!
They're too sensitive to criticism or opinions in general. Hell hath no fury like a Thai who feels insulted.
No matter the culture, etc. You don't give or invest after only 3 months. These are cliché scenarios. The mere asking for investment - is the actual red flag in the first place.
@@markodoherty2939😂😂😂 nice
Yes, something’s a miss with this gent. It’s like investing in a stock, when you don’t know anything about the stock and you’re not a broker.
they all do it the first girl i was with in thailand was trying to make me buy a house for 3 million baht from her parents. and i know that house is definetly not worth that. old ass house with standard cheap thai living. i could get a pool villa for that money. but if you don't know it sounds super cheap compared to europe or usa.
Red flags for sure
Josh is 90% right. I am in my 40s and living in Thailand married for the past decade. Need more Josh in your videos as he speaks only the truth. Honeymoon period ends the moment you cannot provide.
This guy has a lot of things spot on about Thailand. About buying brands especially. I remember chatting to a local a few years ago. I picked up my iPhone. ‘Oh you only have iPhone 8?! Yes I replied. I have iPhone 11!’ I replied. A phone’s a phone 😂
Status based on a phone model shows they don''t have real money.
I had same exp. I had my old iPhone 8 with me and left my new iPhone 13 at my condo. The girl laughed also with my phone 😂 thinking im a broke farang. Meanwhile I could buy 25 iPhones tomorrow but an iPhone ain’t an asset. Something especially women don’t seem to get.
Was in Thailand for a month at the beginning of the year. I did not want to travel with my new phone so took a old 3 year old Samsung galaxy and put a tourist Thai sim in and was more than enough for taking the odd photo and using Bolt ect. Funny thing was lots of girls I met were judging me by my phone, telling me that I should go to the Mail and buy a new phone saying your phone old and is no good! This phone worked perfectly had a 4K camera and was only going to be used for the month. I could not be bothered trying to explain that it was an old phone that was just for the holiday and found it amusing how much judgment I was receiving because of a bloody phone! It also very hard to explain principles in Thailand so for example I was in the Mail in Bangkok and was running low on nice aftershave I did not realise how much more expensive Dior smells were in Thailand so for a bottle I usually pay £75 was £130 so I was like no I’m not paying that! The girl I was with seemed embarrassed that I said no she said you have no money now, no I have plenty of money but it’s the principle, she did not understand! She kept asking but if you wanted the scent why you say no! My friend was flying into town at the weekend so I WhatsApp him and ask him to grab me the scent at duty free, he grabs it in a sale for £60 so more than half price the cost in Bangkok! The girl explained to me I lost face when I refused to pay the inflated Thai price in the Mail, I explained to her that if I don’t like the price I won’t pay and who did I lose face too exactly the girl selling perfume in a mall I have never met or will never see again of her!! Either way I could not care less.
This guy has acquired an impressive amount of knowledge about Thai culture, he is one of the few that get's it. If your reading this DO NOT buy the house, even if you have the legal documentation for lease on the land the family can 1. make your life hell until you leave. 2. worse 3. bribe the land office to take away your rights, no paper can protect you.
if money means love why dont thai women pay the farang men too?
the thai women just like how easy and disposable for financial security foreign men are
thai men dont tolerate their bad behaviour and even hit them
farang just play the nice guy and end up in divorce court
thai men end up on her face
hey thanks for this, so the prospect of building a life there by building a house on her land is really bleak isn't it? darn!
Hey Josh I feel for you, you are really a nice guy and understand the culture they don't deserve a man like you. You and all subscribers should listen to the lyrics of "Brilliant Disguise " by Bruce Springsteen...the last verse is like getting hit by a baseball bat.
"Tonight our bed is cold, lost in the darkness of our love..God have mercy on the man who DOUBTS what he is sure of."
@@lescline2246 wow! Such poignant words! Thanks for the recommendation
@@JoshAwang hey josh, I absolutely agree with what the guy before said. If you buy that house it won’t be yours I’d only buy that house if you can afford to literally give that money away for absolutely nothing in return. I can tell you that from my personal experience. The family might plan to gift it to a male sibling or nephew of your wife. That’s what the family of my wife’s planning to do. Just like you correctly pointed out wrt Thai society and their men vs woman. Anyways, good luck!
Agreed, after 2 years in a relationship here I can clearly see the self-preservation component of Thai women’s personalities that lead to some narcissistic tendencies.
I can also reaffirm that the man in a Thai women relationship will always be lower in priority then the parents, siblings and maybe the whole extended family.
I've watched many interviews over the last year, this is near the top. He has knowledge, speaks the language, can get into the minute nuances, us foreigners can't. In doing so, he thoroughly peeled the onion on my last marriage. I tolerated 10 years, divorced while being bombarded daily with promises of change. It took three more years to stop hitting my head on the wall. Afterwards, I did the circuit of women and have found one that's very good. Both her parents are deceased, and two adult sons understand, "No." We help when we think we should, not when they want. Her family doesn't like it; however, friends abroad have educated her on the pitfalls of the "family." Thankfully, she listens and is very reasonable.
Amazing conversation. After 6 months of living in TL and staying single, these experiences by other Western men living here and dating local women is starting to make sense. My intuitions are validated by these poor men's mistakes.
not really a man, as he is gullible like a boy in a candy store. Haha
As a Western man who's lived in Thailand for 25years full time. This guy speaks a lot of sense, but I can't help thinking he is possibly weak where women are concerned and not experienced. He has been married a few times, which tells me he can't be alone and maybe jumps into the first woman that shows him some kind of affection. All thai women are not like he describes, like in any country, u have to kiss a lot of frogs before u find a princess.
I've been living here since October 2022, and I feel very lucky that I only had to kiss one frog before finding my Thai princess (actually that frog assaulted me, which made dumping it very easy).
A classic Blue Pilled Beta $imp … 🤡😵💀
This type of man who always blame the women and never learn.. just how he talk give me the clue.. can’t even straight answer a question.
Exactly. He even said he brought his friend to meet the scammer with him at first, because he knew he wouldn't be able to cope. That sort of vulnerability or desperation is always going to get you into bad relationship after bad relationship.
@@5thPlatoon nah, i said i brought my bestie along to be extra eyes and ears. That's pretty normal guy stuff to bring a wing man to help keep a look out.
I think Pete found this hard to swallow with having a lovely wife himself.But,there are a hell of a lot more farang guys in the same boat as this guy.
Great interview Pete.
There’s always exceptions to the norm !
Watching from Japan, the insights this gentleman gives about thai culture is SO SIMILAR to Japanese culture. God sent advice Sir, thank you so much!
I hope the Japan legal system is more equitable and fair. TBH I really don't know, but I do think the cultures are both different. They have their scams for sure, but this is everywhere on earth.
i just realised that actually there is quite a bit of Japanese culture as well in the Thai culture as the old kingdom of Ayuthaya had Japanese involvement and strategic military partnership
@@eddenoy32199% of the people who appear in court, in Japan, are found guilty, so it does not appear to be equitable or fair.
Have this guy back on as a frequent guest
This guy should write a book.
Target readers can be Expats and Pastport Bros.
After a year in Thailand. I have quite quickly found out that you really can't have a Thai wife. maybe a girlfriend if you realise , sooner or later she will be gunning for your money and if you understand this , you will be ok
Sorry man, this was/is not at all the case for me. I have a Thai wife and she's wonderful. But I was very careful when "vetting" her. I'll bet Pete would tell you how great his wife is too...
@@rhizomorph-music Good for you man, glad it worked out for you both
not quite the case for all people. there are way too many factors to consider. learning to speak thai is one of those key factors. wether or not you are going to be living in Thailand long term is another.
Such a pleasure to listen to someone as intelligent as Josh. Really enjoyed it
This is not a Thailand thing...Happens in the US all the time. Especially in states where the spouse is guaranteed half of everything after 10 years of marriage and spousal support for life. Thats the long play...It does not matter if its a quick scam or slow one, bottom line men think with there small head not there big head and get into these kind of problems everywhere.
Wrong,this is realy a Thai thing!
From the states...Joe makes a good point, he is definitely not wrong. I see it here often. The big difference is your American Ex can clean you out financially. A smart guy doesn't go all in on an overseas wife, Thai or otherwise.
women aren't marrying in the US anymore. they have their own money and prefer their independence. that's why they are swiping left on you.
Rent, do not buy.
@joeshmooo5327 I think you’re right about that. I was thinking the same thing while watching the interview. Women are all fundamentally wired the same to put themselves, their kids and their parents (in Thai culture) before the guy. The love of a woman is always dependant upon the utility that you provide as a man. However, this seems to be in overdrive in Thailand.
Great interview. Find a lady without parents and children like I did.
Me too 😂
I tell guys going to the Philippines to aim higher, but if they don’t then look for an orphan because they take supporting the family to a whole other planet. An ungodly one.
I have heard this before: marry a woman who was orphaned. Its kind of a busted joke, but look at all these similar stories
That is fucked up in so many ways.
@@JRspeakingbut works, no obligation
This gentleman seems like a good guy. I hope he'll find a great person to be with
He needs to take a long break from relationships lol
I don't want a man who had lots of sex with sex workers for an entire year. I think these men have a superficial approach of women. I don't want that.
I don't want a man who had lots of sex with sex workers. Shows the way they see women and lack of social skills. Both are things you can improve but you have to be willing
thai women have the ability to detach emotionally at the first sign of any trouble, the amount of affection that you will receive is commensurate with your perceived wealth, they will play the sincere angle by using there family as the reason for more money, its all designed to part you with your money
Many woman all over the world can do this. It's not exclusive to Thai woman
@@TheMerryPrangster western women have their own money, sorry. they don't need you. which is why the passport bros go to Thailand. they get power in the relationship so they don't feel insecure about themselves like they do with western women, but they neglect to notice that the relationship is transactional in Thailand, based on their wealth. there's always a price.
@@TheMerryPrangsterWestern women are very independent regarding money and if they're getting married for sure they're not getting married for money unless the guy is super rich. But still his money will not a play the most important role in her life. Definitely western women are not obligated to feed their families like mama, papa, brothers and sisters from her husbands money. When she gets married she and her partner/husband are building their lives only for the sake of their own and their children.
Excellent conversation. 100% on point. Looking forward to part 2.
This guy nailed it. I only lived in Thailand for 1.5 years and had the same opinions. 100%. He is also right about only the central Thais have modern thinking. Most Thais have very little knowledge of the world and believe Thailand is the best country in the world. I've heard multiple Thais state this.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 very local ones think like that yes 🙌🏾
It is a popular destination for many to live & even retire so maybe it is one of the best in the world ?!!
@@nikkimclay5474 Uhm, not for me at least. This is partly due te to the things Josh mentioned about the downside of Thai culture, but also things like bad air quality, scams, bribing and dangerous traffic makes me not want to live there, at least not before I retire. Fortunately my Thai girlfriend understands this and is willing to come over to live with me in my home country in Western Europe.
Smashed it out of the park with this one. Insightful, articulate and crisp interview. Looking forward to part 2
Is there a part 2 ?
Even the debt thing is very typical in Colombia. They borrow to buy new clothes and expensive gifts for Christmas, then get another loan in January to pay back the first loan. And of course if a foreigner lends money, it will never get paid back.
Great guest , great channel Pete. I'm currently going through a break up with my Thai gf. It is a comfort to hear your guest vocalize some of the things I am trying to understand . It has eased my pain. Been bouncing between "Thai talk with Dan" and your channel all day. Thanks for the Intelligent insights.
Thanks buddy, all the best. Chin up!
Absolutely brilliant video Pete, fantastic insights. I'm an Aussie and been living in the Philippines since 2003 and its great to hear the view point of an Asian about Asian culture. What Josh explains make so much sense and shows how diverse Asian culture is and how much it differs from Western culture. Probably the best insights into Asian culture I have seen/heard in 21 years! Keep up the good work and thanks also to Josh for sharing his insights.
So don't build the house. Way too risky.
Than she is going to divorce him. House is more important than loving and staying with the partner...lol
Josh was very forthcoming and articulate. It made a great interview.
Just finished watching. Really good one Pete.
"Needle in the haystack" is an outdated metaphor. The current and accurate take is, "Needle in the Needlestack". Trying to find a decent women these days is, time consuming, financial draining, emotionally draining, etc etc.
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And many women prefer to be independent especially from men like you who characterise us in such a negative way!! Try being more positive about our many attributes & open your heart & mind to finding your match !!
@@nikkimclay5474 By definition you as a women have never experienced what it is like to date a women and be in a relationship with a women as a man. Rather than try and understand my position you right away go to what the late Kevin Samuels called S.I.G.N. language (shame insult guilt and the need to be right). Your response proves my point btw.
or you could just date a western woman who you are on equal footing with. but that's too threatening to your egos.
Can't be bothered with men who don't even start to understand us as human beings and just in the end want company in the way they imagine it. Women, like men are complex human being with indeed backgrounds, cultures, mentalities and many other things they are infused with.
Josh is a great interview with the total and unique perspective of Thai Culture and women and I wish him well in his pursuit of happiness.
I've been hearing stories like this since the 90s. If you still can't heed the warnings then who's fault is it really?
The thing about advice is a wise man don't need it and a fool won't heed it.
Only themselves. It's like telling someone that the fire is hot, yet they still touch it. Upto them.
true, but most people don't google search this stuff. They don't know that Thais, and Thai women, are that different from others. Seriously, you can travel to most random countries on the map and your chances are nothing close to meeting a scammer like it is in Thailand. For Thai women the transparent money drive is built into the culture.
@@eddiejohnson4434I wonder if this has been perpetuated by the fact their culture has never been influenced by colonisation ? It is quite fascinating listening to this guys knowledge
@@nikkimclay5474 absolutely. But then I think about Japan and still see the contrast. It’s a combo of many things.
I %100 can see how he got scammed. Some are so good and play the victim so well. As soon as you question them they turn it back on you immediately and have 10 reasons why it’s your fault. You can give them money 364 days out of the year and if you don’t on the 365th day you are a bad man and you get their full bad attitude
"playing victim" is super spot on. It's even normal to say "don't you pity me" in their daily conversation... they have been taught from young that they are victims and can't make any change until someone takes pity on them and lifts them up from their poverty, but of course this generalising, and generalising is what we need to do so that we avoid the pitfalls as much as possible
Why they don't take a woman in their culture. We're raised to be more independent and not so greedy.
6:50 I'm a little confused here. This gentleman said he had relatives in Thailand and one of them was a chef and she came to live with them. And then his mother said you should date that woman? Am I missing something?
Got me confused aswell sounds like he was told to date then married a family member?🤔
Yeah I noticed that in the edit. Perhaps Josh can confirm when reading this
inbreeding
There is a cut just when the dog jumps on the bed ...
Yeah I thought he said it was a cousin ?!!
I really enjoyed listening to Josh speak! He has a way of really pulling the audience in and keeping our attention the entire time! I listened to the entire interview and enjoyed it all! He really helped me have a deeper understanding of Thai culture but also of SE Asian culture as a whole. Thank you Josh for sharing your insight, knowledge, and story!
Absolute great analysis , and even for me after 25 years I learn a lot .
The only way to succeed marrying a Thai is moving far away from her family, living in your own property (condo or leasehold from a developer in your name) and never ever leave your Thai wive alone or at her family for more than one week.
Best chance if the woman has a yiung kid, but no parents. So she will really depend on you.
Very important is to get far away from her family and relatives.
If that's the case it's better to date white girls. That eliminates all those problems in a single swoop
Are they too promiscuous when left alone for too long
How do you do that realistically all families need support systems like grandparents & siblings & how will that stop her from supporting them ? Many Thai women live in other countries but still financially support their family in Thailand
@@gmanlee575 They get bored, check out options to make some money. You get the picture.
Great interview. He could have been talking about my experiences. Very accurate and real.
A guy like this in Thailand is like a lamb walking into a den of wolves. He ain't ready.
Hes spot on. Dont trust these thai women you are just an ATM and they love you till £ runs out
This person is clearly intelligent and well spoken. It does, however, beg the question as to why he has made the same mistake picking partners three times in a row.
Great interview,I’ve been to Thailand many times and never could understand the culture.
Josh’s explanation of Thai family values,the hierarchy and male acceptance over females.
What an insight!!!
Excellent...very educational and entertaining interview, i actually did learn something today...good job,thanks !
Josh is very knowledable on Thai culture. Would love to see more interviews of him.
This was a brilliant interview, really like Josh - appreciate him sharing his story, very well spoken and intelligent bloke. Cheers Pete 🇦🇺
Eye opening and very informative on the structure of Thai society. Thank you 👍
Best interview since Paul Wallis.
Josh was interesting, thoughtful and articulate. Looking forward to a part 2. 😉
The pressure on Thai daughters to provide for their ageing parents in the context of a pitifully low age pension & low wages has a kick on effect ...wanting to find a farang boyfriend as a generous provider. Great interview as usual.
most informative guest you've ever had ... great information
The problem with west and eastern culture is money. Around 90% lack a financial education.
The sharpest financial minds I've ever met are Asian women.
@@eddenoy321 you would think that but it’s not a true reflection on the whole country on Thailand th-cam.com/video/rWkm_yIBUNc/w-d-xo.htmlsi=JjNC7IWaB96T8yJ_
That would be Chinese women in general.
@@randomcommenter7414 Not only Chinese women
I know have a better understanding of my relationship with my ex Thai partner.
Thanks for this great interview .
I thought it was just her , seems like narcissism , low empathy , and the saving of face is ingrained in the culture there.
Excellent in depth interview on Thai culture. Thanks to you both.
Thanks Josh for sharing your story. I hope you come out of your relationship happy. Staying or leaving ❤
thanks Maurice!
Your comments on narcisism / bi polar/ PMDD and the reasons why are incredibly indightful. Nice work Josh
Fantastic interview. This guy needs to be a regular contributor.
Part 2 coming soon
Already seen part 2.
This should at least be a Trilogy.
Good interview lots information and also host let him talk well done to both I enjoyed this Thankyou
Would you really want to live in a remote village on someone else’s land for 30 years if the wheels come off your relationship, get the loan in her name and she can’t afford to walk away, just the fact you’re questioning your situation is enough reason to hold back
No absolutely not! Good foresight 😉
You hear of many westerners advising other westerners to take up these insurances often in rural Isaan … well meaning advise but it acts more of a warning to the Thai partner in the short term than a practical solution long term down the line.
As far as loans go I agree with you but I imagine that obtaining a loan could be tricky for these poorer thai women who often work without formal contracts.
@@hilltribelife3843 did he not mention that she holds a good job with a multi national BKK company?
Don’t worry, if she can’t afford the payments fir the loan, she’ll find a another wealthy foreigner to pay them 😂
Josh shouldn't apologize for calling himself a Westerner, seemed like a Westerner to me. Josh has some great insights into Thai culture, explains a lot, great interview. As far as investing in a Thai home, if that is what you want to do, go for it. But... only invest what you can afford to loose. My Thai wife is very supportive and has even realized what a waste brand names are, she has learnt that quality materials and craftsmanship are more important than a brand name, took a while.
Nice one Pete. One question I would have asked at the end would have been "you've clearly had difficulties in your relationships in the past and you're clearly an intelligent guy.. so, what mistakes do you think YOU might have made (if any) along the way? Regardless of the cultural issues you describe and your observations about other people's behaviour.. do you ever reflect on anything you would have done differently that might have created a different outcome?" Not to judge this guy at all.. but I thought it was interesting that there was no self reflection or admission of fault in any way when referring to his past. He seemed to be framing his misfortune through a lens of cultural analysis. He might be right, of course. However, many people who have experienced things like this will tell you their story but they will often say things like "Look, I wasn't perfect.." or "It's not easy to be a perfect Dad.." or "I was really gullible on that one, Pete..".. etc. Interestingly, this guy's angle was very analytical about everyone else but not himself. The 'what would you have done differently' question is always a good one in interviews.. it makes them reflect on themselves and their own behaviour within the drama and the response can be quite revealing.
You make a good point.It seem like the failure of his last relationship and the possible failure of his current relationship, all comes down to how the culture makes the women behave,in his view. I my experience Thai women respond well to you if you set clear rules for what you expect early in the relationship.I also noticed that he said he puts his wife first."she is first in my mind and my heart"..A man who pedestalize his woman don't understand that women, deep down in her female nature, view this as weakness,subconsciously..Your woman should be a good healthy supplement to your life but never the main focus...I said to my Thai gf that I will never buy a house with her in Thailand, I will never marry her unless she can give me children and that I have no money for emergencies...I was also very clear about how much money I would contribute to the relationship every month...If he is married and spends a lot of money building this house, he probably will loose everything if the marriage fails down the line...She kinda has him by the balls if he agrees to building....At this point before opening my wallet I would give her a clear NO to building this house just to se how she reacts..
Thank you so much. My thoughts entirely and perfectly put 🙏
The follow up interview could be amazing as Josh seems to have the capacity to answer those questions honestly. Or perhaps he doesn’t. 🤔 Either way it could be a very revealing interview. Bring it on Pete. 💪
Hey mate, if I were to elaborate on my weaknesses, it would be a 5-hour long video, after editing. That would be a different story for another day. Perhaps I’ll do a video on that some day soon. I might just pick up a few fans along the way who can identify with my many foolish ways.. past and present
@@JoshAwang Mate, you need to spit the blue pill out, watch red pill content and wake up! Start with Manosphere and stop being g a $imp …
@@JoshAwang Fair enough dude. Like I intimated.. nobody's perfect. If I were you i'd trust your instincts on the house build and your money and I'd make sure you set some very clear boundaries and expectations with your partner. If she can't work with it.. you'll have your answer as to what her motivations are.
It's not hard to spot red flags, most men just dont act on what they see and hear and more often than not have only themselves to blame. I dont think This is Thai specific
Pete its against the norms to talk about money but yet everybody is still trying to keep up with the Jones in Ireland
It is interesting how people overcomplicate things.
Thai is female-run. Ausralia, UK, Ireland are in the early stages of this so are arguing about 'pronouns' where Thailand already has it set with 'kha' and 'krub'. This is just the outside manifestations though. Past that, you can just think, well what do women want? And to understand that you need to understand how women think. So: image, ego, short term thinking and dishonesty are all accepted as that's the women's world. So that is why they all get divorced as women are short term thinking. And why they need to think about their parents, as they're all in debt as short term thinking leads to not being able to look after yourself in your older age.
And when he said there's no shame on taking a women's husband, women don't shame any of their own negative behaviour, so dishonesty, ego, promiscuity etc.
So just understand women are in charge. Period. The woman will demand everything she wants and ignore everything men wants as that's how the culture functions. There is no respect for men, is all for women and children.
Understand this and you can understand all of Thai culture and that it's the end result of where Australia etc. will end up.
Not true. In most Thai families the boys are looked at as better and valued more. Straight up. A lot of Western men have been puzzy whipped and struggle to be the man of the house, in fact many don't even want to be the man of the house and this is where Thai women, and women from most of the world will take advantage.
i had a very similar experience , ghosted every , time , there was a disagreement , that creates fear, then more compliance , they use separation anxiety as a weapon , and the whole extended family is in on the scam
A fascinating video. Some of the things of what our brother says does not only apply to just Thai women, but women throughout the world. As they say, "follow the money!"
One of the best interviews, for sure
Interesting video and insight. Part 2 for sure!
c'mon brother we all know women can never love men in the same manner.
Wow your mum sounds awful.
Yea, because you know all women.
"Only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved under the condition that he provide something" - Chris Rock
@@Mark-gg6iyexception does not disprove the rule
Absolutely fascinating and insightful perspective
Wow, this guy seems good-hearted but hopelessly naive and probably very lonely to fall in love so easily and so quickly, this might have clouded his judgement.
One of the best interviews I've seen. Cheers. Some nice insights and awareness. Thai's are very practical (which is both positive and negative). The lack of empathy can seem to be almost sociopathic to westerners. The inability of some women to express deep emotions such as loss is alarming and can be very troubling to westerners. We can be perplexed by it. It is worth noting I know of several Thai's who remain married but never seen each other. There have also been several news stories of Thai men with multiple wives (I guess they can provide?). You either learn the game and play it better or you get buried by it. Personally, I've been married to a well-educated Thai lady but I am soon to divorce. Age difference, I don't want children and boredom were the main reasons for the failure.
And yes, lease the land, get it all drawn up by lawyers in Bangkok (ones your wife is not aware of) and see if she goes for it. If she doesn't, then you will know instantly she is trying for the scam. 30 years plus 30 years is normal. They are looking at extending the land leases to 99 years right now.
I don't even know why I clicked on this video, that was not my kind of topic, but I ended up enjoying the well spoken guest and his takes on thai culture and comparison between western and Asian culture. Great interview, exceptional guest. Subscribed.
Don't give your heart. Yes. Also something typical in Colombia. One of their expressions is "he who falls in love, loses". Another one is "The smart guy makes his living from the naive one."
Hey! The first commenter in a Thai section I saw who also knows about Colombia. They are similar. Scamming runs rampant. But honestly if it wasn't for the escopolamina I'd be in Medellin year round. Great weather and every other woman is a pageant winner.
Didn’t want to agree with this, but unfortunately most of this is correct 😢
My final comment, and very much agree with Josh. People who emigrate are supposed to flaunt their wealth when they return. However, this is not just an Asian schtook but the same with Italians, Greeks, Albanians etc. who come home from Oz or USA. Even today. Very excellent vlog, thank you 😊
This guy is pretty spot on, on most things & I've always been curious what the Malaysians think of Thai people etc, I've always heard & known that the Thai ladies are the back bone of Thai society & that the Thai men are treated totally different, one thing I don't agree on, is showing off your wealth & your possessions, Facebook is all about me, me, me, in the u.k, posting new cars, holidays, new properties etc, but of course there are some people that don't want to show there wealth to the whole world as this can attract unwanted attention.......
Decades of experience nicely packaged in a podcast! Thank you!
In Colombia, something like 80% of the kids grow up without a dad. So you have millions of young, single mothers. Most have no education and hence no opportunities to make a lot of money with a decent job. At the same time, they are expected to take care of their kids alone, until the son gets married, which could be in his 30s. AND on top of that, they have to take care of their own mom. The result is that women see prostitution OR marrying a guy from a wealthy country as their only option. They will at first seem like The Perfect Wife, in order to rope in the guy, but as soon as they have the opportunity, they will be with guys they are actually attracted to. Of course I am generalizing here, but these are typical traits.
In Borneo, a cab driver asked me the price of Adidas in my country. I told him I had no idea and never waste my money on stuff like that. His income was probably 1/10 what a low-end worker in Australia would make. I just felt sad that he aspired to buying over-priced sneakers.
They would pay for a knock offed version which is nowhere near the original brand, that are all over SE Asia
It's cultural difference. In China , people also care what other people's thoughts over the stuffs they buy in many situations.
I've been living in Thailand for 5 years. In general, Thais are friendly and good people, but as the guest said, it seems as if it is all about money here.
After 15 years of marriage with the most amazing Thai woman, I have to disagree with him. My wife chose me over here family when we had some problems many years ago, so we/I have had a great relationship with my Thai family since then. My wife knew from the beginning that I was not a rich guy, which was why I didn't pay sinsort, but I promised her mom and dad to take care of her with the means I have for the rest of my life, and they accepted that. My wife is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
You are wrong,he is right!Just because there are maybe 2.7% Thaiwoman who are different,doesnt change much!
@@BrunoHeggli-zp3nl he doesn't realize that no one is talking about his wife lolol
Anecdotal with extra survivorship bias on the side. lol
Finally, Malaysia represent
The safest way to protect yourself....rent your transportation, rent your dwelling, rent your girl. If any of the three give you problems....just rent something else....and keep your wealth in your home country.
Boy that is the truth, you have to listen to those internal voices. They have a beautiful hi voltage smile but they have razor sharp teeth behind the smile.
He should write a book. He's right.
Anything outside of Thailand doesn't matter. So many Thais I have met haven't even tried food that isn't Thai.
Parents dominate. Let's not complain about Thais being poor when they live for the past instead of investing for the future. I knew someone who skipped her rent in order to fix her dad's truck. (no, he didn't need it for work)
Face value. 100%. I'm sure I'll get used to it but learning about Thai culture deeper than what's on the surface ruined the surface.
Harmony over honesty.
S work. People who don't know Thailand think all these women were "forced" into this work due to poverty. There are so many countries in poverty that don't have near the rate. Not to mention in most countries parents aren't cool with their daughters sleeping with strange men so they can have nicer things. The money some of these women make is way more than the family needs. If 4 sponsors "boyfriends" send her 1k a month what happens to the money?
When will we get a 2nd interview or at least an update from Josh?
I’m working on it buddy
@@ThairishTimesbring Josh back for more updates!
This is a solid interview! Opened up my mind!
I got many thai friends and this is so so accurate
He’s a bright and sincere guy. However, with women, I feel he lacks experience and is far too trusting. He’s quite book smart I think, but street smarts are just as important. I have been living in Thailand on & off for 24 years, and I’ve never married or had kids with a Thai. Lots of girlfriends, but I’ve never put myself in a position where I could be ripped off or taken advantage of. As a result, I have no horror stories. I don’t care how pretty or amazing she seems, I’m not losing any of my wealth over a woman. Buying land / house / business…not a chance lol. I would enjoy hearing Josh on the show again.
Well said! Josh has given an insightful what the Thai people are like and the Thai society at large.
10-15 yrs is a long time to wait for emotional love.
I have a good freind that has a thai girl freind,he sends her money every mounth the last 13 years and she always needs more, she doesnt save up , here today gone tomorrow, strainged♥♥♥♥♦♦♦
Such a complete waste of money. It never ends. They never happy. More more more
He is a sponsor and one of many. Some men are destined to be cucked
Stay with your Thaiwife in Malaysia or Indonesia without any contact to her Family!
I suspect, when dealing with people who are willing to go the extra mile to harm someone, take from them, etc, we are dealing with narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths.
Almost all the things you mention here are the same in Medellin in Colombia. Other parts of Colombia are more laid back, but in Medellin, there is an extreme focus on appearances and material possessions.
Very wise man i agree and i can say with thai ladies there is always talks about money which i dont like and i been with office normal ladies that tried to make me pay for holidays, hotels, buy furniture for house, food of course, they always say “you take care of me”, while their money go to their parents, which even if they dont need, but will make them “happy” every month
super well said
best video on the mindset of Thai women
but still countless men will still fell for the scam