At my previous church, I was always pushed to date these single men to the point I wanted nothing to do with getting married. They assumed I was desperate and lonely for a man (because I am in my 30's.) Once I left that ministry, things began to fall into place & I am happy to say I will be getting married next week after being in a relationship for a little over 3 years. 😊
this was encouraging to read. I`m in the same spot and I`m 27. I don`t feel desperate yet but people around me make me go crazy, if anything it turns me off from men and marriage :(
Awesome to hear, your testimony can help others! I wish you nothing but the best in your marriage and congrats - God bless you and surround you and your new family. Exciting times 🤗
This is NOT only a struggle for young people. I’m 62 years old and have been single for 26 years. I still struggle with lust and it’s heartbreaking when I slip. I love the Lord and I desire obedience in all ways. I know we all fall short but this seems to be a sin apart from others. Thank you for this video and look forward to anything more. I will be victorious as ANYTHING is possible with Christ Jesus!
The right reason for marriage is indeed companionship, as well as procreation, and sanctification... Nothing shapes a man or woman into the image of Christ like that person you love, and have to love.
I married a nonbeliever when I was a nonbeliever, and now I'm on fire for Jesus and can never deny he is real again. The best advice I can give everyone reading this is to find someone who loves Jesus more than they love you, and the vast majority of your issues will work themselves out. God's plan is always the best plan. Being in love with someone who denies Jesus is worse than being single.
That was me for a while, Can agree. My deepest prayers for you and your relationship, I know how hard and dark and sad it can be. Please never Choose anything else over God. I hope you never reach the point where one day you think you need to pick between the two, or that you need to denounce God to be happy with your wife. Stay on fire
@@gsanchez5116 I've met Jesus. There is no turning back for me now. I'm doing God’s work for the rest of my days. Eventually, Jesus will reach her. I have to be patient and give it time.
Been there and done that. I had never been so stressed out in my life. He ended up leaving me for my faith. I am going to say a prayer for your marriage and that your wife will come to Christ.
Hi Corey can u help me a litt!e bit, i am wondering what made u believe wholeheartedly in Jesus, i'm finding it hard to accept the Bible, God and Jesus as being real 😢 But i want to believe..
I’m glad a Bible teacher is addressing this topic because not many people in the church really break down and explain these things. They expect you to be married by a certain age… but never tell you how to go about seeking or searching for a spouse.
Got born again recently in April and this spiritual walk has been beautiful. I thank God for the gift of sexual control and even since i recieved Christ, i trully stopped stressing myself on issues of marriage. Am 38,single,no kids and alot of people especially family look down on me for they feel i don't belong. I gave God my all and i believe and trust His plans for my life. True i desire to get married to a Godly man who will love God even much more than me, but at this point, am working more on finding my purpose and calling in God's Kingdom.
Welcome brother/sister in Christ. FACTS marriage isn't about sex it's about intimacy, procreating children and trusting each other. AMEN and God bless brother Allen Parr ministry I'm glad I don't have sex before marriage because fornication and pornography leads to adultery when married ☺️. Getting a goodnight sleep after a long day of working as a teacher's assistant, biochemist and sociology professor is what takes up my time after doing Christian Apologetics and making video edits on comics and pop culture. In this world we all have worries due to pain brought in Life from natural disasters, fears and stress fueled by nothing but the moral depravity of humanity. It's heartbreaking and unpleasant but TRUE. ATHEISM AIN'T GOT NOTHING NEW OR BETTER TO OFFER THAN THE VERY RELIGIOUS BELIEFS THEY'RE CRITICAL OF SO IT'S HYPOCRISY AT IT'S FINEST 😂. Hello this is for all you Atheists, unbelievers and skeptics. I'm going to address a few misconceptions and lies about God's Character and His Word. The Bible doesn't support chattel slavery or anything else Immoral. Ok so Atheists and unbelievers say God is either Immoral, incompetent or not responsible so let's see what The Scriptures actually say. God revealed himself and created a nation in a real, historical context. It was a world with a slave-based economy, with city states often at war with each other, with polygamous marriages to ensure the continuation of family lines. The laws of the Old Testament regulate this behaviour. Slaves are to be treated humanely (Exodus 21:11). They are given rights and not seen as mere possessions. Hebrew slaves were able to buy their own freedom. Human trafficking is condemned (Exodus 21:16). In contrast to the law code of Babylon, Old Testament Israel was a light to the nations. The Old Testament law and narratives do not stand alone. Jesus is now the best example of what we read. So the moral teaching of the Bible cannot be summarised by a quote taken out of context from the Old Testament to demonize God and His Word. Slavery was permitted in Old Testament law but it was regulated by God giving the Israelites instructions on how to fairly and humanely treat their slaves (it was like indentured servitude where someone could work for you if they owed debts or needed income not cruel like chattel slavery). God allowed the people of Israel to own slaves since they themselves has already experienced over 400 years of generations of Egyptian slavery and knew how inhumane it was to be beaten, overworked and taxed so God set them apart from other nations and cultures around them by giving them a fair way to treat their slaves since slavery had already existed in the world but it doesn't mean God condoned it just used it for His Will to bring Good And in the light of the whole scriptural teaching, we find the reasons for its ultimate abolition (Ephesians 6:9; Colossians 4:1-3; Philemon 15-16 and Galatians 3:28). The Word of God provided the moral standard against slavery in the Roman Empire and against the slave trade in the New World. But what of genocide or holy war in the book of Joshua? Several things could be pointed out. The use of warfare in the ancient world did not always mean literal total destruction, even when events are described in such terms. Furthermore, the book of Joshua does not describe a genocide. It is not a race who are being wiped out, as in genocide, but a religious practice which was often appalling and degrading. Those who repent (like Rahab from Jericho or Ruth) are not destroyed but become part of Israel. It is not the racial group that is in view but their "detestable practices". However, after all is said, we must still acknowledge that God brought judgment on the nations of Canaan. It is not our place as believers isn't to sugar-coat the Bible. For some skeptics, this is enough to make God a moral monster. But the fact is that Jesus continued to affirm that God is a Judge who will bring a future judgment on all peoples and all nations. God’s judgment will be just. The list of Old Testament stories rejected by critics often leads to a similar dismissal of the New Testament teaching of Jesus on the existence of hell. After all, what was the Flood of Genesis or the conquest of Joshua if not a glimpse of future judgment? Hell does not demonstrate cruelty on God’s part, but it does demonstrate His Holiness and our moral accountability. Perhaps this is the real reason many people rail against the God of the Bible? It is not that they think He is a moral monster, but that they are afraid He is a moral Judge, and that has implications for our behaviour now. God is an Eternal Almighty Spirit Being and we as His creatures have Eternal souls and spirits so the punishment for our sins against Him must therefore also be Eternal but so must the reward for righteousness that's why He sent His Son Jesus to live a perfectly righteous and sinless Life (which none of us could ever possibly expect to do) suffer the humiliating and torturous death of crucifixion to shed His Own Blood willingly so that all who willingly accept His gift of salvation by grace through faith in Him will be saved and given Eternal life because that's what God wants is for us to willingly accept His gift of salvation and choose life. Exodus 21:20-21 literally speaks about capital punishment befalling anyone who mistreats their slaves so yes people are taking Scripture out of context to demonize God who literally promises that slaves who are mistreated under someone else's authority is to be avenged. When we hear the word “slavery” we think of innocent human beings, kept prisoner for life, having no rights under law and so reduced to animals. This is clearly immoral because it is unjust: the slave has done nothing to deserve the treatment. The situation described as “slavery” in the Bible was nothing like this. It is more accurately described as one of indentured servitude. Many “slaves” were indentured servants, working for a term of years Some other “slaves” were prisoners. There were no prisons. Prisoners had to work to live like everyone else. Some had life sentences. Some served a term and were released. People didn't beat their good slaves but treated them well and protected their assets thus. But no matter how rebellious a slave was, you couldn't just beat them to death. And if you knocked out their tooth or damaged their eye then you had to set them free. (Exodus 21:26). God wasn't using what other nations did because He wanted to set His Chosen People of Israel apart from the cruel, inhumane and unjust systems other cultures had so He gave them a fair way to treat their slaves and servants. There is a lot of ignorance on this topic which is understandable given the age we live in but it's not the nefarious set up we think of when we think of modern slavery. The question Atheists must ask themselves is how come the Jews aren't being accused of slavery and human trafficking if they're guilty of it in The Bible and why would white slave owners rip out pages from The Old and New Testament Scriptures to justify their owning blacks as slaves if The Bible already justified slavery?
God makes it very clear in the Bible numerous times that fornicators won't see the kingdom of heaven, making it seem like they aren't Christians. So I pray for the singles out there to stay chaste.
FACTS brother Allen Parr ministry I'm glad I don't have sex before marriage because fornication and pornography leads to adultery when married ☺️. Getting a goodnight sleep after a long day of working as a teacher's assistant, biochemist and sociology professor is what takes up my time after doing Christian Apologetics and making video edits on comics and pop culture. In this world we all have worries due to pain brought in Life from natural disasters, fears and stress fueled by nothing but the moral depravity of humanity. It's heartbreaking and unpleasant but TRUE. ATHEISM AIN'T GOT NOTHING NEW OR BETTER TO OFFER THAN THE VERY RELIGIOUS BELIEFS THEY'RE CRITICAL OF SO IT'S HYPOCRISY AT IT'S FINEST 😂. Hello this is for all you Atheists, unbelievers and skeptics. I'm going to address a few misconceptions and lies about God's Character and His Word. The Bible doesn't support chattel slavery or anything else Immoral. Ok so Atheists and unbelievers say God is either Immoral, incompetent or not responsible so let's see what The Scriptures actually say. God revealed himself and created a nation in a real, historical context. It was a world with a slave-based economy, with city states often at war with each other, with polygamous marriages to ensure the continuation of family lines. The laws of the Old Testament regulate this behaviour. Slaves are to be treated humanely (Exodus 21:11). They are given rights and not seen as mere possessions. Hebrew slaves were able to buy their own freedom. Human trafficking is condemned (Exodus 21:16). In contrast to the law code of Babylon, Old Testament Israel was a light to the nations. The Old Testament law and narratives do not stand alone. Jesus is now the best example of what we read. So the moral teaching of the Bible cannot be summarised by a quote taken out of context from the Old Testament to demonize God and His Word. Slavery was permitted in Old Testament law but it was regulated by God giving the Israelites instructions on how to fairly and humanely treat their slaves (it was like indentured servitude where someone could work for you if they owed debts or needed income not cruel like chattel slavery). God allowed the people of Israel to own slaves since they themselves has already experienced over 400 years of generations of Egyptian slavery and knew how inhumane it was to be beaten, overworked and taxed so God set them apart from other nations and cultures around them by giving them a fair way to treat their slaves since slavery had already existed in the world but it doesn't mean God condoned it just used it for His Will to bring Good And in the light of the whole scriptural teaching, we find the reasons for its ultimate abolition (Ephesians 6:9; Colossians 4:1-3; Philemon 15-16 and Galatians 3:28). The Word of God provided the moral standard against slavery in the Roman Empire and against the slave trade in the New World. But what of genocide or holy war in the book of Joshua? Several things could be pointed out. The use of warfare in the ancient world did not always mean literal total destruction, even when events are described in such terms. Furthermore, the book of Joshua does not describe a genocide. It is not a race who are being wiped out, as in genocide, but a religious practice which was often appalling and degrading. Those who repent (like Rahab from Jericho or Ruth) are not destroyed but become part of Israel. It is not the racial group that is in view but their "detestable practices". However, after all is said, we must still acknowledge that God brought judgment on the nations of Canaan. It is not our place as believers isn't to sugar-coat the Bible. For some skeptics, this is enough to make God a moral monster. But the fact is that Jesus continued to affirm that God is a Judge who will bring a future judgment on all peoples and all nations. God’s judgment will be just. The list of Old Testament stories rejected by critics often leads to a similar dismissal of the New Testament teaching of Jesus on the existence of hell. After all, what was the Flood of Genesis or the conquest of Joshua if not a glimpse of future judgment? Hell does not demonstrate cruelty on God’s part, but it does demonstrate His Holiness and our moral accountability. Perhaps this is the real reason many people rail against the God of the Bible? It is not that they think He is a moral monster, but that they are afraid He is a moral Judge, and that has implications for our behaviour now. God is an Eternal Almighty Spirit Being and we as His creatures have Eternal souls and spirits so the punishment for our sins against Him must therefore also be Eternal but so must the reward for righteousness that's why He sent His Son Jesus to live a perfectly righteous and sinless Life (which none of us could ever possibly expect to do) suffer the humiliating and torturous death of crucifixion to shed His Own Blood willingly so that all who willingly accept His gift of salvation by grace through faith in Him will be saved and given Eternal life because that's what God wants is for us to willingly accept His gift of salvation and choose life. Exodus 21:20-21 literally speaks about capital punishment befalling anyone who mistreats their slaves so yes people are taking Scripture out of context to demonize God who literally promises that slaves who are mistreated under someone else's authority is to be avenged. When we hear the word “slavery” we think of innocent human beings, kept prisoner for life, having no rights under law and so reduced to animals. This is clearly immoral because it is unjust: the slave has done nothing to deserve the treatment. The situation described as “slavery” in the Bible was nothing like this. It is more accurately described as one of indentured servitude. Many “slaves” were indentured servants, working for a term of years Some other “slaves” were prisoners. There were no prisons. Prisoners had to work to live like everyone else. Some had life sentences. Some served a term and were released. People didn't beat their good slaves but treated them well and protected their assets thus. But no matter how rebellious a slave was, you couldn't just beat them to death. And if you knocked out their tooth or damaged their eye then you had to set them free. (Exodus 21:26). God wasn't using what other nations did because He wanted to set His Chosen People of Israel apart from the cruel, inhumane and unjust systems other cultures had so He gave them a fair way to treat their slaves and servants. There is a lot of ignorance on this topic which is understandable given the age we live in but it's not the nefarious set up we think of when we think of modern slavery. The question Atheists must ask themselves is how come the Jews aren't being accused of slavery and human trafficking if they're guilty of it in The Bible and why would white slave owners rip out pages from The Old and New Testament Scriptures to justify their owning blacks as slaves if The Bible already justified slavery?
@@kingquest2000 that’s irrelevant. Ive had periods of. Both financially prosperous and poverty. I guess we are blessed to be with a partner or not. Also this question doesn’t make since since poor people get married and have at least 4 children. Financial success and lack thereof, have no correlation. I’m unfortunately miserably single and have been on both ends of the spectrum. Sounds like youre not single.
I like your videos a lot....I am Christian from India, I request Christians all over the world to please Pray for Christians in India as many Christians face persecutions and attacks by Bajrang Dal, Vishwa Hindu Parishad (VHP), Rashtriya Swayamsevak Sang (RSS), Hindu Yuva Vahini etc which are para-military forces that target Christian worshipers and Spreaders of the Word of GOD...Here even their persecutions are not getting highlighted as the Mainstream Media is having govt control which supports the organisations I mentioned above....Please Pray for us and Support us as well as all the Christians who face persecutions around the world
I was married for 15 years and now I have been celibate for almost 2.5 years; by the grace of God. You have to run to God and be honest with him about your desires because if you want to be kept, God will keep you. I remember crying out to him and being honest about having sex outside of marriage and he gave me three words; he did not say," I understand, you are human," he did not say," I understand because you are a man", he just said, " to your detriment!" You have to ask him for the grace to stay pure because its his will that you stay pure. You also must guard your eyes, mind, and thoughts. Tell him your struggles. I don't want to offend him because he has never offended me, so I run to him. After all- he is the Lord of all flesh
@@HasanUnknown Thanks; Jesus is the son of Almighty God; Jesus is God, Jesus is the way to God, Jesus is the Righteousness of God, Jesus is the brightness of God's glory, Jesus is the word of God, who was in the beginning with God. Jesus declares, he that has seen me has seen the Father, He also says, I and my Father (God) are one. The Father also says that he (God) has given his son (Jesus) a name that is above every name and at the name of Jesus; every knee will bow and every tongue will confess to God, that Jesus Christ is Lord
I’m struggling with my singleness more and more as I get older. I’m 32/single and can’t help but feel depressed about my situation. I feel guilty because I’m supposed to be content in Christ, but I can’t shake this aching desire to be a wife. To have someone to share my life with. Most people around me are in relationships and I’m the only oddball that’s always single. I can’t talk to people about church about the sadness I feel because they give me the same tired/judgmental responses. Only God knows my pain. If I’m to live like this for the rest of my life, I at least want to be satisfied with it.
The only answer is to get closer to Christ, and when you do, God will most likely give you a wife. If you feel you still have faults, then repent of them and let God help you to work them out, so that they plague you less and less. Then you won't be so worried and insecure, and the peace and joy of the Lord will come more into your heart, and then manifest in your life more. One will become more humble and inviting to others when they do this.
I'm a 27 year old virgin with zero relationship experience and have and still am struggling with masturbation and impure thoughts after 14 long years. I came to God at young adult service two years ago and still battle the same struggles. Yes I too hope to be married and not base it entirely on sexual desires but on companionship. My desire for marriage is either my own or from the Lord in which I'm thankful. Deep down I'm in need of big change and desire to serve him out of my comfort zone and also glorify him in my marriage. If you could pray for me that will be much appreciated! Thank you and God bless! 💖
First of all go to Apostolic Church for the fullness of Truth, and have an Eucharist. You won't find the true Flesh and Body of Jesus in nowadays protestantism.
It took long but when God led me this I saw it now. That struggle stems from selfishness and pride, we are to repent( that is change your way of thinking) and fear and honor God.
I can relate but I do have experience with women. I'm a 22 year old college graduate who's never had sex before marriage or been in a relationship even in college or high school out of personal experience with many modern Women that was unpleasant and nothing I needed in my life. FACTS marriage isn't about sex it's about intimacy, procreating children and trusting each other. AMEN and God bless brother Allen Parr ministry I'm glad I don't have sex before marriage because fornication and pornography leads to adultery when married ☺️. Getting a goodnight sleep after a long day of working as a teacher's assistant, biochemist and sociology professor is what takes up my time after doing Christian Apologetics and making video edits on comics and pop culture. In this world we all have worries due to pain brought in Life from natural disasters, fears and stress fueled by nothing but the moral depravity of humanity. It's heartbreaking and unpleasant but TRUE. ATHEISM AIN'T GOT NOTHING NEW OR BETTER TO OFFER THAN THE VERY RELIGIOUS BELIEFS THEY'RE CRITICAL OF SO IT'S HYPOCRISY AT IT'S FINEST 😂. Hello this is for all you Atheists, unbelievers and skeptics. I'm going to address a few misconceptions and lies about God's Character and His Word. The Bible doesn't support chattel slavery or anything else Immoral. Ok so Atheists and unbelievers say God is either Immoral, incompetent or not responsible so let's see what The Scriptures actually say. God revealed himself and created a nation in a real, historical context. It was a world with a slave-based economy, with city states often at war with each other, with polygamous marriages to ensure the continuation of family lines. The laws of the Old Testament regulate this behaviour. Slaves are to be treated humanely (Exodus 21:11). They are given rights and not seen as mere possessions. Hebrew slaves were able to buy their own freedom. Human trafficking is condemned (Exodus 21:16). In contrast to the law code of Babylon, Old Testament Israel was a light to the nations. The Old Testament law and narratives do not stand alone. Jesus is now the best example of what we read. So the moral teaching of the Bible cannot be summarised by a quote taken out of context from the Old Testament to demonize God and His Word. Slavery was permitted in Old Testament law but it was regulated by God giving the Israelites instructions on how to fairly and humanely treat their slaves (it was like indentured servitude where someone could work for you if they owed debts or needed income not cruel like chattel slavery). God allowed the people of Israel to own slaves since they themselves has already experienced over 400 years of generations of Egyptian slavery and knew how inhumane it was to be beaten, overworked and taxed so God set them apart from other nations and cultures around them by giving them a fair way to treat their slaves since slavery had already existed in the world but it doesn't mean God condoned it just used it for His Will to bring Good And in the light of the whole scriptural teaching, we find the reasons for its ultimate abolition (Ephesians 6:9; Colossians 4:1-3; Philemon 15-16 and Galatians 3:28). The Word of God provided the moral standard against slavery in the Roman Empire and against the slave trade in the New World. But what of genocide or holy war in the book of Joshua? Several things could be pointed out. The use of warfare in the ancient world did not always mean literal total destruction, even when events are described in such terms. Furthermore, the book of Joshua does not describe a genocide. It is not a race who are being wiped out, as in genocide, but a religious practice which was often appalling and degrading. Those who repent (like Rahab from Jericho or Ruth) are not destroyed but become part of Israel. It is not the racial group that is in view but their "detestable practices". However, after all is said, we must still acknowledge that God brought judgment on the nations of Canaan. It is not our place as believers isn't to sugar-coat the Bible. For some skeptics, this is enough to make God a moral monster. But the fact is that Jesus continued to affirm that God is a Judge who will bring a future judgment on all peoples and all nations. God’s judgment will be just. The list of Old Testament stories rejected by critics often leads to a similar dismissal of the New Testament teaching of Jesus on the existence of hell. After all, what was the Flood of Genesis or the conquest of Joshua if not a glimpse of future judgment? Hell does not demonstrate cruelty on God’s part, but it does demonstrate His Holiness and our moral accountability. Perhaps this is the real reason many people rail against the God of the Bible? It is not that they think He is a moral monster, but that they are afraid He is a moral Judge, and that has implications for our behaviour now. God is an Eternal Almighty Spirit Being and we as His creatures have Eternal souls and spirits so the punishment for our sins against Him must therefore also be Eternal but so must the reward for righteousness that's why He sent His Son Jesus to live a perfectly righteous and sinless Life (which none of us could ever possibly expect to do) suffer the humiliating and torturous death of crucifixion to shed His Own Blood willingly so that all who willingly accept His gift of salvation by grace through faith in Him will be saved and given Eternal life because that's what God wants is for us to willingly accept His gift of salvation and choose life. Exodus 21:20-21 literally speaks about capital punishment befalling anyone who mistreats their slaves so yes people are taking Scripture out of context to demonize God who literally promises that slaves who are mistreated under someone else's authority is to be avenged. When we hear the word “slavery” we think of innocent human beings, kept prisoner for life, having no rights under law and so reduced to animals. This is clearly immoral because it is unjust: the slave has done nothing to deserve the treatment. The situation described as “slavery” in the Bible was nothing like this. It is more accurately described as one of indentured servitude. Many “slaves” were indentured servants, working for a term of years Some other “slaves” were prisoners. There were no prisons. Prisoners had to work to live like everyone else. Some had life sentences. Some served a term and were released. People didn't beat their good slaves but treated them well and protected their assets thus. But no matter how rebellious a slave was, you couldn't just beat them to death. And if you knocked out their tooth or damaged their eye then you had to set them free. (Exodus 21:26). God wasn't using what other nations did because He wanted to set His Chosen People of Israel apart from the cruel, inhumane and unjust systems other cultures had so He gave them a fair way to treat their slaves and servants. There is a lot of ignorance on this topic which is understandable given the age we live in but it's not the nefarious set up we think of when we think of modern slavery. The question Atheists must ask themselves is how come the Jews aren't being accused of slavery and human trafficking if they're guilty of it in The Bible and why would white slave owners rip out pages from The Old and New Testament Scriptures to justify their owning blacks as slaves if The Bible already justified slavery?
Another banger! Yup, this describes me perfectly. Single and DO NOT have the gift of singleness. It’s definitely a struggle. I liked the point on paying attention to a persons character. That’s been really big for me lately. And thank you for clarifying that we SHOULD be attracted to a potential spouse. Christian circles tend to miss that.
This isn’t a matter of singleness being a gift or not depending on who you are. While you are single, singleness is ALWAYS a gift that God gives everyone for a time (until you get married) or forever (if you die unmarried). He desires us to use our time wisely while we single to build our faith and grow His Kingdom
@@DingMedia Good word. My heart goes out to those desiring marriage and still waiting. It us a hard place to be in and ut can take something out of a person living with unfulfilled longings. Wonder why God created man for a wife and both to create FAMILY yet some may never even know it? Or those who have no desire to really marry yet they get pursued?
@@ladyj5682 I think it all comes down to the way God originally designed it vs the way sin destroyed it. In God's original plan (i.e. Eden), there was no risk associated with a man and woman marrying and starting a family, because no one knew how to sin, or wanted to. In today's world, the chances of a truly godly marriage (even in the hands of people who truly want to be obedient to God) are so low that some of us just stay single to avoid messing up. That may be why the disciples said it's better for a man not to marry, and Jesus didn't disagree with them.
@@nameirrelevant0 Yet God said b fruitful and multiple. It's not good for man to be alone. Don't let fear keep you from experiencing something God created. Marriage was created by God and I truly believe two people truly seeking God and leaning on Him will make it. Just ask God to truly show you. All we can do is make the best decision we can and move forward in faith. I struggle with fear more than I want to own up to and hope God will free me but I need to get in His word
I have been dating a woman for 7 months now. She truly is a gift from God. Never in my life would I ever believe I would have someone like her in my life.
Many people marry all the time just because of sexual desires. Let's not pretend this isn't happening. This is what happens when the church doesn't explain things well.
Fact check false. You can make the marriage last if you want to. I mean, people made marriages last when they had no choice in who they married, instead their parents set them up. It all depends on your attitude and whether you want the relationship to last or not. Remember, this whole “marriage for love” idea is a VERY modern concept, as is probably the reason why so many people are struggling to find “the one”
FACTS marriage isn't about sex it's about intimacy, procreating children and trusting each other. AMEN and God bless brother Allen Parr ministry I'm glad I don't have sex before marriage because fornication and pornography leads to adultery when married ☺️. Getting a goodnight sleep after a long day of working as a teacher's assistant, biochemist and sociology professor is what takes up my time after doing Christian Apologetics and making video edits on comics and pop culture. In this world we all have worries due to pain brought in Life from natural disasters, fears and stress fueled by nothing but the moral depravity of humanity. It's heartbreaking and unpleasant but TRUE. ATHEISM AIN'T GOT NOTHING NEW OR BETTER TO OFFER THAN THE VERY RELIGIOUS BELIEFS THEY'RE CRITICAL OF SO IT'S HYPOCRISY AT IT'S FINEST 😂. Hello this is for all you Atheists, unbelievers and skeptics. I'm going to address a few misconceptions and lies about God's Character and His Word. The Bible doesn't support chattel slavery or anything else Immoral. Ok so Atheists and unbelievers say God is either Immoral, incompetent or not responsible so let's see what The Scriptures actually say. God revealed himself and created a nation in a real, historical context. It was a world with a slave-based economy, with city states often at war with each other, with polygamous marriages to ensure the continuation of family lines. The laws of the Old Testament regulate this behaviour. Slaves are to be treated humanely (Exodus 21:11). They are given rights and not seen as mere possessions. Hebrew slaves were able to buy their own freedom. Human trafficking is condemned (Exodus 21:16). In contrast to the law code of Babylon, Old Testament Israel was a light to the nations. The Old Testament law and narratives do not stand alone. Jesus is now the best example of what we read. So the moral teaching of the Bible cannot be summarised by a quote taken out of context from the Old Testament to demonize God and His Word. Slavery was permitted in Old Testament law but it was regulated by God giving the Israelites instructions on how to fairly and humanely treat their slaves (it was like indentured servitude where someone could work for you if they owed debts or needed income not cruel like chattel slavery). God allowed the people of Israel to own slaves since they themselves has already experienced over 400 years of generations of Egyptian slavery and knew how inhumane it was to be beaten, overworked and taxed so God set them apart from other nations and cultures around them by giving them a fair way to treat their slaves since slavery had already existed in the world but it doesn't mean God condoned it just used it for His Will to bring Good And in the light of the whole scriptural teaching, we find the reasons for its ultimate abolition (Ephesians 6:9; Colossians 4:1-3; Philemon 15-16 and Galatians 3:28). The Word of God provided the moral standard against slavery in the Roman Empire and against the slave trade in the New World. But what of genocide or holy war in the book of Joshua? Several things could be pointed out. The use of warfare in the ancient world did not always mean literal total destruction, even when events are described in such terms. Furthermore, the book of Joshua does not describe a genocide. It is not a race who are being wiped out, as in genocide, but a religious practice which was often appalling and degrading. Those who repent (like Rahab from Jericho or Ruth) are not destroyed but become part of Israel. It is not the racial group that is in view but their "detestable practices". However, after all is said, we must still acknowledge that God brought judgment on the nations of Canaan. It is not our place as believers isn't to sugar-coat the Bible. For some skeptics, this is enough to make God a moral monster. But the fact is that Jesus continued to affirm that God is a Judge who will bring a future judgment on all peoples and all nations. God’s judgment will be just. The list of Old Testament stories rejected by critics often leads to a similar dismissal of the New Testament teaching of Jesus on the existence of hell. After all, what was the Flood of Genesis or the conquest of Joshua if not a glimpse of future judgment? Hell does not demonstrate cruelty on God’s part, but it does demonstrate His Holiness and our moral accountability. Perhaps this is the real reason many people rail against the God of the Bible? It is not that they think He is a moral monster, but that they are afraid He is a moral Judge, and that has implications for our behaviour now. God is an Eternal Almighty Spirit Being and we as His creatures have Eternal souls and spirits so the punishment for our sins against Him must therefore also be Eternal but so must the reward for righteousness that's why He sent His Son Jesus to live a perfectly righteous and sinless Life (which none of us could ever possibly expect to do) suffer the humiliating and torturous death of crucifixion to shed His Own Blood willingly so that all who willingly accept His gift of salvation by grace through faith in Him will be saved and given Eternal life because that's what God wants is for us to willingly accept His gift of salvation and choose life. Exodus 21:20-21 literally speaks about capital punishment befalling anyone who mistreats their slaves so yes people are taking Scripture out of context to demonize God who literally promises that slaves who are mistreated under someone else's authority is to be avenged. When we hear the word “slavery” we think of innocent human beings, kept prisoner for life, having no rights under law and so reduced to animals. This is clearly immoral because it is unjust: the slave has done nothing to deserve the treatment. The situation described as “slavery” in the Bible was nothing like this. It is more accurately described as one of indentured servitude. Many “slaves” were indentured servants, working for a term of years Some other “slaves” were prisoners. There were no prisons. Prisoners had to work to live like everyone else. Some had life sentences. Some served a term and were released. People didn't beat their good slaves but treated them well and protected their assets thus. But no matter how rebellious a slave was, you couldn't just beat them to death. And if you knocked out their tooth or damaged their eye then you had to set them free. (Exodus 21:26). God wasn't using what other nations did because He wanted to set His Chosen People of Israel apart from the cruel, inhumane and unjust systems other cultures had so He gave them a fair way to treat their slaves and servants. There is a lot of ignorance on this topic which is understandable given the age we live in but it's not the nefarious set up we think of when we think of modern slavery. The question Atheists must ask themselves is how come the Jews aren't being accused of slavery and human trafficking if they're guilty of it in The Bible and why would white slave owners rip out pages from The Old and New Testament Scriptures to justify their owning blacks as slaves if The Bible already justified slavery?
Only thing you should wait for is Gods kingdom Mathew 6:33 I see no point of marriage unless it's a Godly union. I don't have time to balance someone in prayer when all I lived is a single life.
I married an attractive woman who wasn't a believer, partially so I could have sex. The marriage was miserable, and did me far more damage than the loneliness had done. I often wished I could be single again. When I found proof of infidelity, I felt relief that I could finally get divorced. So sex isn't everything.
This happened to me as well. I have learned my lesson. I will never do it again. I will never help god out I will be patient and wait on him because if I do it I am going to cause myself pain.
Hardest thing to be honest is being in your mid 20's but still doing school, and not yet having the finances for marriage. I've fallen into sexual scene in the past and I don't want to fall again, but when I look at getting married, it seems to be far from me.
I’m in the same boat. I have someone I’m interested in but I have no idea how to make a move. She goes to my church so if things don’t go well I’m afraid it’ll be awkward for us. I’m in my early 20’s & had only 1 relationship which was before I truly knew Christ.
I feel the same way tbh. I just know that I’m not financially or emotionally ready for a marriage, but also can’t indulge in sexual sin. The way I see it is God is most likely trying to tell us that our time for marriage hasn’t come yet. I will say though that asking God for strength and to lead me away from temptation, has helped a LOT. God will give you the strength to endure if you ask, trust me. :)
Quality of a partner 1. Attraction/chemistry 2. Companionship 3. Character - Godly, Christ like character 4. Calling - Do your callings align? 5. Community - Does your spiritual community think you're a good match for eachother?
Hello, Number 5 is too much I think that relying on people's opinion in church to choose a woman/ man to marry is bad. I'm not saying that is wrong to listen to people but to choose someone or some people you know that are genuine and that truly love the couple, and to remember that the finale decision belongs to you and your partner. I go to a church where there has been a lot of people in similar situations and their relationships were ruined, judged, etc. Often times opinions become gossip and the source of it is jealousy. Just sharing about what I've seen happen.
@@champion3859 hey I got looks and I've never had a problem with girls except when I was in primary but got older and God blessed me a deep voice and a sense of humour which girls like plus I'm in Malawi the girls here aren't the same as in the that side of the world
Maybe host a singles party, like Ruslan did?? His crew were mostly in their 20’s. I’m a 41 single woman and understand the weight of marriage. It has to be the right, God ordained spouse, or I don’t want it!
Nah, singles events organized by churches tend to be awkward. Preferably, churches should organize and include young Christians in charity events. Naturally, organically, young Christians can meet in a setting where they’re serving others. They can even assess the work ethic of their team members - an indicator if they can work together in marriage. Not a bad setup, in my estimation.
Love love love this video, brother Allen! I’m 28, never been in a relationship or had sex. Although all my life I had a strong desire for sex and for a long time my mind was filled with filthy thoughts and downright toxic ideologies about what relationships should be. After recommitting to Christ and allowing Him to shape my view of relationships and what part sex should play within a healthy relationship, my outlook has improved so much. I’m not desperate to feed into the attention of every man that looks my way and I’m more content and relaxed in this season of singleness that God currently has me in. Naturally, I still would like to get married some day but God has blessed me with patience for His timing. He is blessing me to understand that there is so much else going on that He wants me to currently focus on, planting seeds in every area of my life. God has blessed me with the reassurance that if it is in His Will for me to get married, then when He blesses it to happen in His perfect timing I will finally be allowed to understand why it never worked out with anyone else. God is personally writing my love story and anything that is surrendered to God is something that I know for a fact will work out for good and peace. All glory and honor to God Almighty Who will do abundantly above and beyond anything we can ask or think🥰
@@simphiwe_nontsikelelo If I read correctly, she's also woman. She said she doesn't entertain every guy who comes her way. Anyway, now that that's out of the way, I'm 27 and from South Africa 😏 I'm a man 😉
I've done absolutely nothing sexual (thanks to Allen), for nearly 3 years and sometimes I just want to bang my head against a wall. My sexual desire is beyond fighting a pornography/masturbation addiction - it's fighting my basic human instincts to procreate. Alcoholism is horrible but it's not built into our DNA like procreation is. Nobody understands...the few people that know (because I can't exactly brag about it) can't begin to understand - my alcoholic father can relate but at least he can tell people and get some sympathy - I just get weird looks like I just grew a third eye. I've been debating finding the first Christian girl I see, marry her in 2 weeks, and fully release my desires. But I know I can't. This video is a good reminder of what matters most. Serving God. I am prepared to serve God as a single man my whole life. This is hard to admit sometimes, but the satisfaction I get from serving God outweighs my desires. If marriage happens, it happens. If not, I'm not going to cry about it. I'm just going to thank God and try to be the best brother, son, and friend I can be.
I think this is part of why Ecclesiastes tells us that it's better to be stillborn than to have to go through this life. Even our innermost bodies are trying to get us to go to Hell. I've considered castration myself, but I think what you landed on at the end there is good. Focus on non-eros love, because sexual desire is inherently selfish. Storge, agape, and philo are all selfless, and there's no law against kindness.
I'm single and I can't stand it anymore. I don't see it as a gift anymore. I want to be married but I'm not just going to pick anyone. I'm tired of waiting 🥺😡
Keep yourself busy with serving God and living the purpose He has for your life. Find things that you like to do in your spare time. The desire won't wear off, but at least you won't have the time to dwell on it. God knows desires of your heart and will fulfill them as long as you delight in Him. God bless.
It's like I'm taking it now more of a sorry to a curse rather than a blessing. All I do is wait, and wait and wait... I see everyone else getting married and I'm left with saying what about me God. I just had to speak my truth.
I keep myself busy and but I keep coming back to the thought. I don't want to be single anymore. I want to be in love and married. I know relationships take work.. but still I am single. I'm tired of it. 🤗
I'm 55 yrs old ... I know the bibles says I have waited on the and he's heard my cry and set my feet on a rock.. I get tired of being lonely. I'm not desperate just tired of waiting lol if that makes sense.. I
@@ladybird2356 Women can at least make sure they are out there, and reasonably accessible. A man who doesn't know you can't pursue you. A man who has not access to you can't pursue you. It is necessary to participate to social activities where the kind of men you are praying might attend. While there, be friendly. No need to act desperate or seductively, just be nice to everyone, women included, and leave the rest to God.
Single and struggling! But I'm thankful that self-control is a part of the fruit of the Spirit. I've noticed as I get older I'm having to rely on Him more and more everyday in this area and am thankful to know that I'm not alone! Thanks for this video brother Allen!
When I was younger I couldn't imagine anyone wanting the gift of celibacy. But now that I'm a widow, I'm so glad I have it. I'm not suffering the drama that comes with starting a new relationship. I sleep peacefully at night, not tossing and turning and crying about what I'm missing. I just wish my Christian friends would stop questioning my decision not to re-marry and let me enjoy this gift from God.
The focus should be on becoming the right person for someone. There are a lot of Christians waiting for the right person but when you take their life objectively you realize that their "right person" would want nothing to do with them as they are now. We have our part to play. God bless you.
Great video. But sort of hard if your woman because we can’t look for a husband. We have to wait to be found. This can be a very long process unfortunately
There’s no such thing as “the right one”. Every person probably has 2-3 “eligible” marriage candidates in their life, they just “don’t want them”. This is typically because they don’t find the person all that physically attractive. This is the problem with modern day relationships. There too much emphasis on the physical and not enough on the stuff that matters. No one marries anyone from their friend group, which is mind-blowing to me. Like, I would want to be friends with my future spouse before I got involved romantically, because I want to see them as a person before feelings and all get involved. Also, if I choose to have someone in my life for a few years as a friend, then that means they’re probably a good person that I enjoy being around. 2 qualities I want in a spouse. Also, and I’m gonna get a bunch of hate for this part, but that passage from Paul is the ONLY place in the Bible that says it’s better to be single. From the very beginning of time God points out that singleness isn’t good, that’s why he made Eve for Adam. Don’t fall into the “gift of singleness” trap. Sure, don’t get all kinds of depressed if you are single, but also stop acting like your chance will never come. Go do something to meet people your age and ask a girl/guy out if you’re lonely. Visit a local church, attend a community event, etc. Or, look at your friend group at some of the people you may be overlooking. God made you to be in relationship with others. Don’t let 1 verse hold you up, read the rest of your Bible and see that that 1 verse is an outlier
That passage doesn't say "it's better to be single." That's a half-read of the passage. It says it's better IF you can control yourself. Most of us can't and God knows this of course, which is why it's clearly better for the vast majority of us to marry. No one has set a "gift of singleness" trap. That's just you half reading and half interpreting the passage and creating a straw man argument. You mean well but accuracy is important.
People should not be shallow But people shouldn’t kid themselves either. It’s important that you have some level of attraction to your spouse. Balance is key in life!
@@EmmyFrankGoodin yes, and that is the ONLY place it says that in the Bible. Woman was made for man, so the baseline is that Man should be with women. I’m not going to get into my take on that passage, but it’s definitely not Allen Parrs take. I think it’s a lot closer to when Jesus says things like “Be perfect just as my Father is perfect”. In other words, as a human, you CANNOT NOT burn with passion. It’s engrained into your DNA. It’s your nature. It’s like when Paul says “to live is Christ, to die is gain”. Yes, heaven and eternity is better than life in Earth will ever be, but it also doesn’t mean you should go off yourself. Marriage is the rule, singleness is the exception. There’s a reason that marriage is talked about so highly in the Bible, it’s because it’s something we should all strive for. It’s a representation of God’s relationship with the church. Sure, it would be better if we didn’t need it and could rest solely on God, but we can’t because we are sinful. I also think this was one of Paul’s “I’m better than you” moments that you see throughout his letters. Also, that “clarification” is pointless. It’s like saying “the Bible doesn’t say it’s better to be able to talk, it says it’s better IF you can control your tongue”. Obviously it’s only better if you can keep from sinning, but that better is the STANDARD.
Okay then why didn’t Paul say unless you’re cute pleasing to the eyes it’s better too marry than burn with passion? See how that adds too the Bible? It says it’s better too marry than too burn with passion.
I haven't even met one Christian man who truly believes fornication is a problem. Seems like most having sex outside marriage. The divorce thing is a joke, does anyone head back to the one they divorced? Very few. I don't agree that abuse returns u back
I'm sorry where does it say in scripture that a woman cannot pursue a man? You are reading your own traditions into the text. Ever heard of the song of Soloman? The woman in that book did a lot of pursuing let me tell you.
I want to get married because it’s always been a dream of mine to have children and a husband. It was never about sex until I hit 30, 3 years ago. Now I’m getting more impatient and it sucks. I don’t want prayers for patience I just want a family. Sometimes it’s about family. I’m bitter and angry because women are having abortions and I don’t want to end up alone and content that I never had a family while they are doing those things more than just once. I don’t want to be an old lady / woman resentful that I never had an attractive, intelligent, wealthy man that will love me but NEVER meet those men. I feel punished. I don’t even want to live anymore. What’s the point I’m 33 not meeting anyone. If I felt I should give up and be single no kids, then it wouldn’t be on my heart to have that family. It angers me to my very core.
Maybe try not focusing on having a wealthy man, sometimes we have to wait because we need to change our mind set before God allow to meet the person he has for us. There are wonderful men out there who are hard working with money, but not necessarily wealthy…
Thank you for your honesty. Kristen. About ten years ago I found myself feeling the same way. Although God has not sent me a husband, He has drawn me closer to Himself by letting me share my honest feelings with Him and meeting me in my pain. Praying for you dear sister.
I've been happily married for 20 + years and this was so good for me to listen to because it asks me to ask some very good questions about my relationship and where I need to do some work Thank You Jesus for this ministry through Brother Allen and bless all of his days for the calling You have over Allen's life Amen
Church has gone wild indeed in this video 😂 but this needs to be spoken about!! 🙌🏻🔥 it’s hard being a single these days with temptation legit EVERYWHERE 😅
That “burning desire is lust” you need to battle that first before you get married. I married due to burning desires “lust” and my whole life is being put back together by Jesus. Don’t even do it, let the Lord heal you first.
Thanks so much for this video. I was really really really, did I say really struggling with this SIN for years even though I’ve been a Christian all my life. I’m in a much better place now and I am now celibate and loving it. It took a lot of prayer and basically me failing at every relationship I’ve ever been in. I’m still somewhat attractive and I’m a single mother of two very handsome teenage boys but have no desire to be in another relationship and for me that has to be God, I couldn’t do that in my own strength. If it is the Father’s will for me to be married he’ll basically have to come to me and say to me Marsha it’s ok, I give you my approval… lol. Thanks again though.
You'll never attract your spouse on the long term if you give her the feeling that you use her to fill your sexual desires. The worst reason to look for somebody... Never go into a reationship with the question of what you'll get in it without the more important question of what you're ready to bring into it. If you're not ready to live in sacrificial love, don't get married !
I'm 40 years old and a virgin, I struggle with sexual urges all the time, but I'm currently not working and have been trying to get on disability. I've spent 7 years trying to get on disability, but to no success, so I'm trying to learn how to do web development and if I can I'll try to start working. I would love to have a partner in life, but I remember how I was when I was younger, I burned so much with passion I couldn't keep my hands off the women I got with. I don't know what to do and its very frustrating. I also have gotten addicted to pornography and pleasuring myself, and I find that I get back into it after a long time of not doing it. I'm just a mess, but with God, I'll overcome this!
It took long but when God led me this I saw it now. That struggle stems from selfishness and pride, we are to repent( that is change your way of thinking) and fear and honor God.
Hi Brandon thanks for sharing your story. Change comes from within and we all have that thorn in our sides but God's grace is sufficient for us. Yes I know sometimes easier said than done however you have to make that effort to change. You can't clean out your house and leave it empty. Find other hobbies, create new habits, read a book, the bible, start a journal, take a walk, go to the park, join a club, volunteer. If you belong to a church group get involved. Most importantly be honest with yourself, forgive yourself, love yourself. God's Blessings
I'm a 22 year old college graduate who's never had sex before marriage or been in a relationship even in college or high school out of personal experience with many modern Women that was unpleasant and nothing I needed in my life. FACTS marriage isn't about sex it's about intimacy, procreating children and trusting each other. AMEN and God bless brother Allen Parr's ministry for your Christ centered and Scripturally accurate content for the furtherance of The Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ 🙏❤️👊. I'm glad I haven't had sex before marriage because fornication and pornography leads to adultery when married ☺️. Getting a goodnight sleep after a long day of working as a teacher's assistant, biochemist and sociology professor is what takes up my time after doing Christian Apologetics and making video edits on comics and pop culture. In this world we all have worries due to pain brought in Life from natural disasters, fears and stress fueled by nothing but the moral depravity of humanity. It's heartbreaking and unpleasant but TRUE. ATHEISM AIN'T GOT NOTHING NEW OR BETTER TO OFFER THAN THE VERY RELIGIOUS BELIEFS THEY'RE CRITICAL OF SO IT'S HYPOCRISY AT IT'S FINEST 😂. Hello this is for all you Atheists, unbelievers and skeptics. I'm going to address a few misconceptions and lies about God's Character and His Word. The Bible doesn't support chattel slavery or anything else Immoral. Ok so Atheists and unbelievers say God is either Immoral, incompetent or not responsible so let's see what The Scriptures actually say. God revealed himself and created a nation in a real, historical context. It was a world with a slave-based economy, with city states often at war with each other, with polygamous marriages to ensure the continuation of family lines. The laws of the Old Testament regulate this behaviour. Slaves are to be treated humanely (Exodus 21:11). They are given rights and not seen as mere possessions. Hebrew slaves were able to buy their own freedom. Human trafficking is condemned (Exodus 21:16). In contrast to the law code of Babylon, Old Testament Israel was a light to the nations. The Old Testament law and narratives do not stand alone. Jesus is now the best example of what we read. So the moral teaching of the Bible cannot be summarised by a quote taken out of context from the Old Testament to demonize God and His Word. Slavery was permitted in Old Testament law but it was regulated by God giving the Israelites instructions on how to fairly and humanely treat their slaves (it was like indentured servitude where someone could work for you if they owed debts or needed income not cruel like chattel slavery). God allowed the people of Israel to own slaves since they themselves has already experienced over 400 years of generations of Egyptian slavery and knew how inhumane it was to be beaten, overworked and taxed so God set them apart from other nations and cultures around them by giving them a fair way to treat their slaves since slavery had already existed in the world but it doesn't mean God condoned it just used it for His Will to bring Good And in the light of the whole scriptural teaching, we find the reasons for its ultimate abolition (Ephesians 6:9; Colossians 4:1-3; Philemon 15-16 and Galatians 3:28). The Word of God provided the moral standard against slavery in the Roman Empire and against the slave trade in the New World. But what of genocide or holy war in the book of Joshua? Several things could be pointed out. The use of warfare in the ancient world did not always mean literal total destruction, even when events are described in such terms. Furthermore, the book of Joshua does not describe a genocide. It is not a race who are being wiped out, as in genocide, but a religious practice which was often appalling and degrading. Those who repent (like Rahab from Jericho or Ruth) are not destroyed but become part of Israel. It is not the racial group that is in view but their "detestable practices". However, after all is said, we must still acknowledge that God brought judgment on the nations of Canaan. It is not our place as believers isn't to sugar-coat the Bible. For some skeptics, this is enough to make God a moral monster. But the fact is that Jesus continued to affirm that God is a Judge who will bring a future judgment on all peoples and all nations. God’s judgment will be just. The list of Old Testament stories rejected by critics often leads to a similar dismissal of the New Testament teaching of Jesus on the existence of hell. After all, what was the Flood of Genesis or the conquest of Joshua if not a glimpse of future judgment? Hell does not demonstrate cruelty on God’s part, but it does demonstrate His Holiness and our moral accountability. Perhaps this is the real reason many people rail against the God of the Bible? It is not that they think He is a moral monster, but that they are afraid He is a moral Judge, and that has implications for our behaviour now. God is an Eternal Almighty Spirit Being and we as His creatures have Eternal souls and spirits so the punishment for our sins against Him must therefore also be Eternal but so must the reward for righteousness that's why He sent His Son Jesus to live a perfectly righteous and sinless Life (which none of us could ever possibly expect to do) suffer the humiliating and torturous death of crucifixion to shed His Own Blood willingly so that all who willingly accept His gift of salvation by grace through faith in Him will be saved and given Eternal life because that's what God wants is for us to willingly accept His gift of salvation and choose life. Exodus 21:20-21 literally speaks about capital punishment befalling anyone who mistreats their slaves so yes people are taking Scripture out of context to demonize God who literally promises that slaves who are mistreated under someone else's authority is to be avenged. When we hear the word “slavery” we think of innocent human beings, kept prisoner for life, having no rights under law and so reduced to animals. This is clearly immoral because it is unjust: the slave has done nothing to deserve the treatment. The situation described as “slavery” in the Bible was nothing like this. It is more accurately described as one of indentured servitude. Many “slaves” were indentured servants, working for a term of years Some other “slaves” were prisoners. There were no prisons. Prisoners had to work to live like everyone else. Some had life sentences. Some served a term and were released. People didn't beat their good slaves but treated them well and protected their assets thus. But no matter how rebellious a slave was, you couldn't just beat them to death. And if you knocked out their tooth or damaged their eye then you had to set them free. (Exodus 21:26). God wasn't using what other nations did because He wanted to set His Chosen People of Israel apart from the cruel, inhumane and unjust systems other cultures had so He gave them a fair way to treat their slaves and servants. There is a lot of ignorance on this topic which is understandable given the age we live in but it's not the nefarious set up we think of when we think of modern slavery. The question Atheists must ask themselves is how come the Jews aren't being accused of slavery and human trafficking if they're guilty of it in The Bible and why would white slave owners rip out pages from The Old and New Testament Scriptures to justify their owning blacks as slaves if The Bible already justified slavery?
This is one difficult struggle. I’m a 33 going on 34 single man who works two jobs and has a youth ministry and music ministry at a church that is primarily not my age. I’m good at my being single, but there’s definitely desires there. I’ve made poor decisions at times as a Christian in this area, luckily by the grace I’ve God He’s in process of redeeming and sanctifying me as I’m praying and seeing who if anyone God has for me. This is encouraging though. Thank you.
@Sean Austin The Bible says he that findeth a wife finderh a good thing. Maybe you need to get away and alone wirh God and seek the Lord for your desires to have a Godly spouse and look to find her. There are plenty of Godly women who want a Godly man. Aren't You suppose to find her using God's guidance? Don't use women or string them along. Marry her.
This kind of thinking is why my mom and aunts weren't allowed to date for very long back in the 70s. My grandaddy was the pastor so the dating was brief and the engagement was brief too. They pushed folks to get married really quickly. My parents met in February, got engaged in April, and were married in June all in the same year! I was born the next year and 13 years later they were divorced. We can't force people into marriage.
Good Morning Allen ! Yess this is the one right here ! It is much more normal in todays times to just freely do it with whomever you want whenever you want and its totally fine. I didnt grow up in a home where Celibacy was even mentioned, so i had a few test runs before my marriage ! Now its our time to break that generational curse and let our children know about this ! Ima say it EVERY time you drop a new video *I LOVE THIS SERIES !* God Bless You Brother Parr ! 💞 Have a wonderful weekend ! 💞
I swore I was called to singleness. I loved being single and serving the LORD. and bc I was abstinent my whole life and refrained from dating I was so very ready to walk the single LINE FOR Forever. I didn't desire marriage. I think ppl burn with lust bc they date. It's hard to date a long time and be attracted to someone and not desire more physically. It's why I 100% don't recommend dating unless you are in a season of being prepared for marriage. Also guard your heart and mind. Ppl thought I was very astringent but I didn't listen to foul music nor did I watch movies with sex scenes. I controlled my speech aa well. I had a lot of friends who used sex toys and they thought that would hold them over. ... all you're doing is waking up desires. Put em to sleep and under the control of the LORD. every captive thought.
At the end of the day we will never get rid of our sexual and burning desires, even if you try not to look at the opposite sex. With that said, I think your other point is the core issue now days (especially for men); way too many christian men have turned to masturbation to cope with not having premarital sex, and that will completely wreck your ability to stay unaroused. Sadly, many don't view that as an issue worth worrying about until it is way too late, and yes, I do feel there is a point where your mind can be so warped by porn and the act of masturbation, that you will never be an eligible candidate for marriage, especially as a christian.
@@someone-ji2zb I had no burning sexual desires. I don't know the etymology of ", burning" in the scriptures but i always sensed it meant so overwhelming one can't deal. We are sexual beings for sure. Lust is a sin we all commit with our eyes many times. But The Bible tells us to flee youthful lust and let it not once be named among you. I guarded my heart and my mind and I can assure you there was no burning. Lol I do think that that was curved by 1) seeking righteousness. Prayer scripture loving the Lord. 2) I was vigilant against images. I didn't watch porn and I was very careful what I watched and listened to..i.e Rihanna had a song called "Sex with me" catchy tune. I realized listening that I had no business. Took it off my Playlist 3) be careful with dating. Make sure the person your with had the same conviction and have boundaries. We kill the flesh daily. And with sexual sin you gotta murder it!
Brother Allan, being single till your 40s? I seriously can't do that I'm 22 single I'm burning with lust, it's incredibly hard ... I don't go to church in months, because I haven't found a proper church to go to... Plus I'm thinking of getting married outside of my country... Maybe I'll go to South America or Asia for a wife ...
When I was in my 20s, I married a woman that I didn't love for the purpose of sex. I can personally testify that this is NOT the answer. My marriage was absolutely miserable and it ended in divorce. I beg and plead with all young Christian men and women: WAIT for God and WAIT for the right person. Waiting always pays off when it is blessed by God. His plan is always better than our plan. Purity may be hard, but it is far better than entering marriage with the wrong person just so you can have sex. You will quickly realize how little sex you actually end up having in a bad marriage that is not founded in love and respect for one another. If you are struggling to stay pure while waiting, talk to your pastor or other men at your church to keep you accountable.
If I might share wisdom, it’s this: 1 Corinthians 7 is clear. You have to throw out all of your pre conceived ideas because the call is bigger than you think. Paul says to marry if your burning BECAUSE the end of all things is near. He adds how we shouldn’t have any dealings with the world, how we should live as if we’re not married or to not weep if you are at this said time [im quoting parts from the end of the chapter], to not rejoice if you are and so on, all to ultimately sums up his points by saying: “the time has been shortened” [v29] and, “the form of this world is passing away.” [v31]. He’s drawing the reader to understand that we want to be LIKE those who are “free from concern”, and who seek to “please the LORD” and not their spouses. How one “may be holy both in body and spirit” and not divided. His desire is for us to “to secure undistracted devotion to the Lord.” So because of immoralities, because “each man has his own gift from God”, and because it’s harder for some to now practice self control, it’s Paul calling the communities to practice such a radical measure that goes so against the grain of how we think we should date or marry or find “the one”, or even take time for engagement or planning of weddings for all the family to see “at the best time”, solely for the sake of righteousness- to fulfill all righteousness and not be distracted with the burning passions of the flesh that go unfulfilled, or acting in a manner that transgresses the commandments of God. To the couple who marries in this way, it should be not for the sake of lust, but rather because lust is waging war with ones ability to hold fast the commands of God. So you should see then marriage as not a dating venture, but as a Gods given grace to you FOR purity. [Also, I did this, and me and my beloved wife are living in light of eternity, waiting for the Kingdom of Messiah, so it’s true that the person shouldn’t be any one right off the street or from your past whom you know is not a believer- my advice would be to test each other. Be upfront about your desire to be obedient to the commands of God, and your looking for a partner to help you in a way that no one else can as you both see yourselves as sojourners. For my marriage, we didn’t need all these points Parr brought up, IN LIGHT of living out 1 Corinthians 7 because we both had the same goal- to go up to the mountain of the LORD, to the God of Jacob, to be students of Messiah and walk in His paths. For the Law comes forth from Zion and the word of the LORD from Jerusalem. It’s from that conviction, that marrying in light of eternity made much sense where we wasn’t checking off criteria on how to please each other or how we can by our interests as Paul was advising not to do. I do believe in being equally yoked, so again I’m not saying marry anyone. But if you both are very mature in the faith, not looking to play church but truly sojourn with the people of God, and imitate the faith of those from Hebrews 11, then I’d advise this for you.]
going on 39 haven't had sex yet, so it's been easy, I don't drink so I'm not into the bar seen plus I live a small town MOSTLY old people. I can't drive, plus disabled. So NO woman will want to be with me.
Are you physically attracted to them? This point is very important, I am always being told it doesn't matter as I should only be spiritually attracted. I know for sure that this is not true. I watched a lot of marriages; especially Christian marriages fail because they had no attraction to each other. Sometimes in the church, we are seen as bad people for not being attracted to the who they try to force us to date in the church. I was considered offensive for sharing that I want an attractive husband as I know I take care of myself and would want someone I find attractive. (I also face the challenge of being looked down upon because I like to date outside of my ethnicity. Oh well…) Do I enjoy their company? Am I able to be vulnerable? What is their character? What is their calling? This where I struggle as it is hard to find men of God with the same passion and desire for God as myself. Sadly, there are hardly any men in the church. Some people get too religious and show no love or empathy in the home but acts concern and holy at church. Many times, the husbandly and wifely duties are not balanced because they are only focused on the ministry. Very powerful points! I’m still prayerful for my husband as the journey is not easy but I know it’s worth it.
This is a bit lengthy in response but apparently what takes about 90 seconds speaking, takes several... several paragraphs being written out - please pardon the length and any speech-to-text typos, lol!! Ok. Whereas I commend you on the sheer gall to take it to the next level on a topic like this which [as you share] can be mired in subjectivity… most pastors would kick this down the road for fear of their own spouses' reactions... which is a whole other topic by itself. I had to go back and redress a particular statement you made with a degree of certainty that left a question mark... In respectful dissent.
My thoughts are because you mentioned that you supposed [as a process] was biblical, turns out [this issue] you don't find in the scriptures anywhere… nor even expressed culturally through scripture - that [is] to say, a man is supposed to pursue a woman in relationship, but you do find it in modern culture. This isn't necessarily a good thing.
Again, paraphrasing, you don't see men as a normative in scripture nor is it laid out anywhere as a doctrine that a man has to pursue a woman in relationship. We see this as a cultural expression quite contemporaneously, but micro to macro, there's a reason why you don't in scripture through symbolism to an extent is... everything.
If memory serves… there are only a handful of instances in scripture where a man specifically went after a woman but not necessarily as a matrimonial pursuit, even if you include Hosea.
- Jacob and Rachel: That patrimony of the 12 tribes in which Jesus' line would enter time, history, and posterity. - Samson and Delilah... which was disqualified as a pursuit on the onset he was seeking an occasion to humble the Philistines - David and Abigail... God paired him with a woman in the exact same situation she was in, an environment she wasn’t thrilled with, meaning she understood David's situation with Saul, that was pure grace. - David and Bathsheba [the sin of his sexual lust was passed to Solomon and Amnon - the rest is history as they say] - Xerxes and Hadassa [Esther] but he didn't pursue her, he fired a queen for insubordination [note not to dismiss that premise] and followed counsel to replace her… that’s not a pursuit, that was an adjudication. - Hosea was told by God to marry a prostitute, which does not qualify as a pursuit but [more] an act of obedience. - Jesus and the bride of Christ [the church], he isn't chasing us he's waiting for us to make a decision for him and stick to it, which are the lessons of the epistles. It is man in his carnal state who must make a decision for Him, turn in His direction [repent... change of direction in pursuit] to be justified [reconciled into relationship] and pursue relationship as a living member of the bride of Christ who must believe in her heart, and profess with her lips and then be bathed [baptism] as a public profession of her acceptance of commitment. - Israel and their relationship with God, when Israel as a people turned to other gods, scripture refers to it as “whoring after other gods”
Those are just a few examples... but in Genesis 2:5-6, the Lord establishes his purpose for man, and created man first to be responsible for who would follow to be responsible for... and put him to work, the term "husbandry" or husbandman [as it related to the topic] is the management of landscaping… and that stands to reason because God placed man in a garden, his job was to maintain [lay claim] and cultivate [subdue] it to make provision from the resources God put in it.
It was only when man was working and doing what God created him for did he discover, later in chapter 2 that there was not a comparable mate found for him [Gen. 2:19-20]. So there we can see how the Lord intends man to discover what kind of companion is going to work for him, and this did not happen until he did - in short, be about productive business showing you can take care of what God provides you in a spouse... when he sees you're ready [I Tim 5:8] God is serious about a man's role in providing not just for his current family, but the welfare of his children's children,,, so much so, He tells us what He thinks about a man who doesn't in the aforementioned verse - God is a generational God and seeks after the good of all those whom he allowed to be created. If we did it God's way... we would have the perversion of government we have today.
The union of marriage man has worked itself way out of design from with the Lord originally had intended. If you want to really extrapolate the relationship between man and woman and matrimony the way God kinda has it laid out in scripture, it is difficult to exegete scripture in Genesis 2 and not walk away that he intended to have more of an employer/employee relationship, as it connotes and defines a clear purpose in the 1st. Commission [e.g. the first purpose of mankind]: 1. To take Dominion, meaning to lay claim too 2. To subdue, meaning to cultivate and gain the benefit of what you claimed [based your giftings and purpose] 3. Replenish, meaning to procreate to appropriate as many hands on deck as needed to accomplish the mission God has set before him, micro to macro.
Of the three applications, two were designed for man, God... who man made responsible. Who he [then] made responsible he gave giftings to aid in that responsibility. He created woman to support and aid man in his responsibility. Now as a matter of clarity... God doesn't deal in equality, he deals in purpose and he deals in clarity and order [1 Cor 14:33 - I Cor 14:60 ] there are roles and responsibilities for a reason to help accomplish His will... and were never intended to usurp His plan for us corporately. P.S. there is a part II to this post but I just wanted to get the main gist out there - spoken not to incite or to be antagonistic - but as iron sharpening iron. Blessings
Heading to 50 in 2.5 years and still a single Christian. Been a Christian for 29 years now. I’m sad that I won’t be a wife and mother.😢 Here’s to a soon-to-be 50 old virgin
I know the Apostle Paul recommended that a man & woman should marry if they cannot wait, to avoid burning with lust. With all due respect to him, I strongly disagree. It takes more that legal sex to make a marriage work, & undertaking such a crucial lifelong committment because a couple can't wait to have legitimate sex is immature & irresponsible & shouldn't be marrying for those very reasons. Thay's my 2 cents.
So I took notes for this topic because it will help a lot of single men or women out there. Thank you brother! 5 Essential Qualities to Look for in a Mate 1. Chemistry Am I physically attracted to this person? 2. Companionship Do I enjoy their company? Am I able to be myself around them? Am I able to be vulnerable and transparent around them? Do we have common interests? Do we have enjoyable, meaningful and deep conversations? 3. Character Does this person have godly Christ-like character? Are they a person of integrity? How do they treat people? Are they honest? 4. Calling Does their calling in their lives align with yours? 5. Community Does my spiritual community feel we are a good match for each other? Do we even have a godly community involved in our relationship? After reading all this, should you even get married at all? 3 Essential questions single must ask whether or not you should even get married. How much self-control can I exercise as a single person while I'm waiting? How can I be INTENTIONAL (men) about finding the right person to marry? When I marry, am I ready to stay married for life?
I married my husband for love, we just celebrated our 30yrs together. I know in my heart that if my husband passed away before me (GOD FORBID), I would never love or marry again. In Christ I believe, Amen.
Marriage has nothing to do with sex. And sex should have nothing to do with pleasure or desire anyway. But we're human and good luck with that one.... But if you wanna ask God, that's what the deal is lol.
Great video! First and foremost, thank you for saying that it's okay to be single. The other day, I was just reading a Facebook post about how the Church often rushes women to get married. (Find your Boaz/kingdom spouse in 6 months! Guaranteed! *eyeroll*) Thankfully, my current church home doesn't make me feel that I need to get married before the 2024 election. Secondly, thank you also for saying that physical attraction matters with men AND women. In the future, I don't want to wake up next to my husband and be horrified. I also want to add that if people are getting married just to have sex, then they should get counseling. I learned from married family members and friends that marriage is more than just having sex. I do desire a husband to share my life with, but I feel that I'm not in a rush because my life is full as it is (with my relationship with God, family - I have no children, work, business, ministry, friends, self-care). I just believe God that I will get married on His timing.
It is Not better to marry than to burn. It is better to exercise that 9th fruit of the Spirit "self control " then marry. Alot of Christian men are marrying because of that verse and because they were not set free and delivered from sexual sin, they carry these marine spirits into their marriage and make their wives who have to submit to them, very unhappy.
I am divorced. I was in a abusive relationship. I am practicing semen retention and hopefully I can find a good wife. I do burn with sexual desire but I know I can’t rush it.
single and not completely liking it. But surprised and glad that somebody like Allen understands that seeking and finding a potential relationship that leads to or could lead to marriage isn't as easy as going shopping for groceries, clothes or a new tv. I feel like Paul pretty much says if you don't have the gift of celibacy then get married as if it was just that easy as shopping and not considering other factors except don't marry an unbeliever.
I want to tell you I appreciate your videos on the topic of sex. I’m single and a Christian…..And a man..lol. It’s very difficult for me almost every day. I’ve been single since 2017 because God hasn’t shown me the woman He wants me with yet. These videos really help me. So thank you.
@@Tirah-p2r ummmm WHAT?? I’m just sitting here wondering how someone can see a positive comment such as mine and apparently find so many things wrong with it. I just read your other comments associated with this channel and they’re negative. Not only are they negative but you are talking negatively about Allen Parr. If you don’t like what this man says, then why are you still watching his videos. Let me guess, you don’t watch the videos, you just troll him and leave negative comments. I wouldn’t be surprised. By the way, most of your reply to my comment doesn’t even make sense. Hope your day gets better. Keep your head up.
@@sully7211 what Tarah is saying is that you shouldnt be expecting your spouse to just appear at your door. Rather, as a man, you should be going out there and actively be trying to find a woman to marry
@@apracity7672 When did I ever say I wasn’t out there trying to find a woman??? I said God hasn’t showed me the woman He wants me with. What are y’all talking about?? Lol. Goodness
SAME HERE DUDE 😊. I'm a 22 year old college graduate who's never had sex before marriage or been in a relationship even in college or high school out of personal experience with many modern Women that was unpleasant and nothing I needed in my life. FACTS marriage isn't about sex it's about intimacy, procreating children and trusting each other. AMEN and God bless brother Allen Parr ministry I'm glad I don't have sex before marriage because fornication and pornography leads to adultery when married ☺️. Getting a goodnight sleep after a long day of working as a teacher's assistant, biochemist and sociology professor is what takes up my time after doing Christian Apologetics and making video edits on comics and pop culture. In this world we all have worries due to pain brought in Life from natural disasters, fears and stress fueled by nothing but the moral depravity of humanity. It's heartbreaking and unpleasant but TRUE. ATHEISM AIN'T GOT NOTHING NEW OR BETTER TO OFFER THAN THE VERY RELIGIOUS BELIEFS THEY'RE CRITICAL OF SO IT'S HYPOCRISY AT IT'S FINEST 😂. Hello this is for all you Atheists, unbelievers and skeptics. I'm going to address a few misconceptions and lies about God's Character and His Word. The Bible doesn't support chattel slavery or anything else Immoral. Ok so Atheists and unbelievers say God is either Immoral, incompetent or not responsible so let's see what The Scriptures actually say. God revealed himself and created a nation in a real, historical context. It was a world with a slave-based economy, with city states often at war with each other, with polygamous marriages to ensure the continuation of family lines. The laws of the Old Testament regulate this behaviour. Slaves are to be treated humanely (Exodus 21:11). They are given rights and not seen as mere possessions. Hebrew slaves were able to buy their own freedom. Human trafficking is condemned (Exodus 21:16). In contrast to the law code of Babylon, Old Testament Israel was a light to the nations. The Old Testament law and narratives do not stand alone. Jesus is now the best example of what we read. So the moral teaching of the Bible cannot be summarised by a quote taken out of context from the Old Testament to demonize God and His Word. Slavery was permitted in Old Testament law but it was regulated by God giving the Israelites instructions on how to fairly and humanely treat their slaves (it was like indentured servitude where someone could work for you if they owed debts or needed income not cruel like chattel slavery). God allowed the people of Israel to own slaves since they themselves has already experienced over 400 years of generations of Egyptian slavery and knew how inhumane it was to be beaten, overworked and taxed so God set them apart from other nations and cultures around them by giving them a fair way to treat their slaves since slavery had already existed in the world but it doesn't mean God condoned it just used it for His Will to bring Good And in the light of the whole scriptural teaching, we find the reasons for its ultimate abolition (Ephesians 6:9; Colossians 4:1-3; Philemon 15-16 and Galatians 3:28). The Word of God provided the moral standard against slavery in the Roman Empire and against the slave trade in the New World. But what of genocide or holy war in the book of Joshua? Several things could be pointed out. The use of warfare in the ancient world did not always mean literal total destruction, even when events are described in such terms. Furthermore, the book of Joshua does not describe a genocide. It is not a race who are being wiped out, as in genocide, but a religious practice which was often appalling and degrading. Those who repent (like Rahab from Jericho or Ruth) are not destroyed but become part of Israel. It is not the racial group that is in view but their "detestable practices". However, after all is said, we must still acknowledge that God brought judgment on the nations of Canaan. It is not our place as believers isn't to sugar-coat the Bible. For some skeptics, this is enough to make God a moral monster. But the fact is that Jesus continued to affirm that God is a Judge who will bring a future judgment on all peoples and all nations. God’s judgment will be just. The list of Old Testament stories rejected by critics often leads to a similar dismissal of the New Testament teaching of Jesus on the existence of hell. After all, what was the Flood of Genesis or the conquest of Joshua if not a glimpse of future judgment? Hell does not demonstrate cruelty on God’s part, but it does demonstrate His Holiness and our moral accountability. Perhaps this is the real reason many people rail against the God of the Bible? It is not that they think He is a moral monster, but that they are afraid He is a moral Judge, and that has implications for our behaviour now. God is an Eternal Almighty Spirit Being and we as His creatures have Eternal souls and spirits so the punishment for our sins against Him must therefore also be Eternal but so must the reward for righteousness that's why He sent His Son Jesus to live a perfectly righteous and sinless Life (which none of us could ever possibly expect to do) suffer the humiliating and torturous death of crucifixion to shed His Own Blood willingly so that all who willingly accept His gift of salvation by grace through faith in Him will be saved and given Eternal life because that's what God wants is for us to willingly accept His gift of salvation and choose life. Exodus 21:20-21 literally speaks about capital punishment befalling anyone who mistreats their slaves so yes people are taking Scripture out of context to demonize God who literally promises that slaves who are mistreated under someone else's authority is to be avenged. When we hear the word “slavery” we think of innocent human beings, kept prisoner for life, having no rights under law and so reduced to animals. This is clearly immoral because it is unjust: the slave has done nothing to deserve the treatment. The situation described as “slavery” in the Bible was nothing like this. It is more accurately described as one of indentured servitude. Many “slaves” were indentured servants, working for a term of years Some other “slaves” were prisoners. There were no prisons. Prisoners had to work to live like everyone else. Some had life sentences. Some served a term and were released. People didn't beat their good slaves but treated them well and protected their assets thus. But no matter how rebellious a slave was, you couldn't just beat them to death. And if you knocked out their tooth or damaged their eye then you had to set them free. (Exodus 21:26). God wasn't using what other nations did because He wanted to set His Chosen People of Israel apart from the cruel, inhumane and unjust systems other cultures had so He gave them a fair way to treat their slaves and servants. There is a lot of ignorance on this topic which is understandable given the age we live in but it's not the nefarious set up we think of when we think of modern slavery. The question Atheists must ask themselves is how come the Jews aren't being accused of slavery and human trafficking if they're guilty of it in The Bible and why would white slave owners rip out pages from The Old and New Testament Scriptures to justify their owning blacks as slaves if The Bible already justified slavery?
I’m 46 and single, not always lived my life as a Christian even though I became a Christian at 14, yep, I fell away for a long time, so yes, been in sexual relationships and had casual sex, and I know from experience why sex outside of a Godly marriage is a disaster, and every relationship I’ve been in brings out the worst in me, my insecurities etc, and I have major trust issues, as a kid I saw my mum cheat on my dad 👎🏻 I’d love to find a Godly woman whom I connect with and at my age, it’s not just for sexual intimacy, but companionship, but then I’m so convinced that Jesus is coming to take us out of here soon, I then think, what’s the point in trying to find a woman, and financially I’m not in a position to pay for a wedding 🤷🏻, I don’t mean to sound pessimistic, just being realistic 🙏🏻
You don't need to have a big wedding. The Pastor and two witnesses that's it. We often times focus too much on the wedding and not the marriage. So many people have extravagant weddings and divorce after 6months. When you find someone who shares your values and respects you they won't care if you have a wedding with 4 guests or 75 :). Blessings and may God grant you with a godly wife.
Single at 32, been abstaining from sex for 8 yrs and i’m feeling sexually frustrated. I don’t desire marriage right now and I would never get married just for sex. I dont want to look at my future husband as just an object. Its a frustrating position to be in!
Anyone else relate to this? In their 30s can’t find someone mutually attractive (like that’s into you and your into) or you desire to date hopefully one day to marry ? Everyone’s married 😂 has kids or is divorced. (Then If they aren’t your not into them?) Unfortunately for me I had many unforeseen set backs in my 20s (so I couldn’t take dating seriously knowing it was gonna be a long process). Now I’m about to start my career and all of a sudden “the desire to marry and have kids is stronger than ever” I thought I lost that desire (I almost thought I’d never want to get married at this point) but turns out I do lol. Anyone relate ?
Congrats on starting the career! I have a friend who is 40 and in that situation. I think we have to keep in mind that everybody's story is different. We weren't made to live cookie-cutter lives and all hit the same benchmarks at the same time. I've kept that in mind as I'm single/"in my 30's" and watching my siblings and my friends have kids that are getting older and older. 😌 And watching dear friends sadly get divorced.
@@musiciandeborah1854 thanks. I appreciate it. And right unfortunately most of the issues weren’t for me lacking in trying or not desiring to become (whatever) I worked hard to pay as I went (to college I didn’t want that debt over my families heads) But now it feels like since everyone’s gotta jump up and marry someone I did something wrong. Dating is hard enough let alone 30 plus and trying to find the last decent person left (it seems obviously not true) And yea ur right some people jump into marriage and it doesn’t work. Thats always sad no matter the reasoning. (My friends all are from another close by church all married inside their church) I had one girl my age in my little church (we were never compatible lol) That’s another big deal for me I want kids but don’t wanna rush bc of my age type of thing) But ur totally right I wanted to be done with school at 22 and get experience save and get all adulting figured out before I married now I feel “rushed” But life turned out way different than I planned. And it’s kinda sad going to church or being apart of every one else’s “celebrations” and don’t even have nothing to be happy about or a relationship going. But it’s better than dating or marrying the wrong person for sure. Or having long term debt from college. I wish you well finding the right person to date (if that’s what you want) I hope we both find someone we are looking for haha. Bc I personally don’t wanna be single much longer (it’s been over 10 years bc of set backs sure I’ve talked to some but nothing stuck bc of my situation) lol
It's hard to find nowadays trustworthy and God fearing guys.. I'm 33 now and don't wanna cross 40 waiting..I know it's tough but God has a great plan for all of us.. surrounded with friends and family but still there's a loneliness within..
@@falconiustallon yea most Christian females get married so young if you miss it it seems ur sitting around on ur own for a long while or forever unfortunately. I haven’t seen any over the age of about 25 in about 6-7 years.
For me, the mere idea that my wife might be nothing more than a godly sex toy is completely disgusting. If that is the case, it won't be more satisfying than sinful outlets because you would still crave a deeper connection and companionship that sex alone can't bring. People are often very concerned with whether you have sex with someone else or not but you can actually have a very deep intimacy with someone, enjoy their company a lot and love them deeply without having sex with that person. That will be cheating even if in front of mankind you might claim that you did nothing wrong. May God help us.
I don't think most people want to get married anymore. They don't see the value in it including Christians. They get married to have sex, have someone who will help around the house, and help with the bills. That's about it. That's why people still have sex but don't get married. The number of people not getting married will increase but the number of people having sex will not decrease and I'm talking about Christians too. It was always meant to happen that way. I know people don't want to hear this but you cant' "rid" yourself of natural desires. You can't. There is a reason you have those desires...those desires is what leads to procreation. It's very natural and to not be honest about that is problematic to me. I find the church behind on things like this. They shame people for things that are totally natural. I'm not saying people should be going out and having sex with people outside marriage. What I am saying is...stop the shaming. Stop making people feel bad about things that are natural. It helps no one and it's not a sin. That's all I ever hear is "this is a sin" and "that is a sin". What isn't a sin in Christianity? I'm totally serious at this point. I have always considered myself a Christian, but I have found myself questioning everything these days. It bothers my spirit that I have so many issues. I feel no shame in my questioning...I'm more upset that I feel like most churches aren't honest with the people. I want to know the real details of how the Bible came to be and why all the changes. I know it's been translated over and over for a very long time. And my understanding is a lot of things were mistranslated and that's what I'm more interested in. My understanding is that several things that were taught as "sin" for decades were not actually sins at all. So...church leaders need to start being open about this. I'm feeling more lead to believe a lot of the "sins" were made up by church leaders to control the people of the times and not even about salvation at all. I'm going to continue to do my research.
Even though Paul tells the men that if they cannot contain themselves and keep their members under control, that it is better for them to get married then to burn in their lust, speaking as a woman, I would not want to be married to any man if that was the chief reason, or the only reason that they married me. I would not want to be chosen as the one that you want to USE to gratify your sexual lust. If that is all I am to you then I would rather stay single.
You forgot the most important part about finding a partner: find someone who is a Christian. A Christian is someone who actually knows what love and commitment is, because it is the very thing that Jesus showed them. Creating a bucket list of criteria for a partner is a surefire way to have an unhappy marriage. But unlike us who create transactional relationships, God loves us even when we didn't deserve it, because love itself is something you cannot earn. It must be freely given expecting nothing in return. The only conditional aspects to marriage are sex and children. If someone cannot fulfil those things for you then you are better off staying friends. Paul said marriage would be a headache for good reason. No matter who you marry, they are never going to be good enough for you. We are all imperfect and have many flaws. And God gives us the gift of marriage to teach us what it's like to love someone despite their flaws.
THE REAL AND RAGING BATTLE TO THE DEATH IN HEAVEN AND ON EARTH - THE CREATOR and JESUS CHRIST VS. SATAN THE DEVIL and the ANTI-CHRISTS ETERNAL DEATH FOR THE VANQUISHED - All LIARS and hateful human beings who HATE the Creator and believe the LIES and UNBIBLICAL teachings and doctrines of the anti-Christs Teachers, Leaders, and Pastors of the Christians, Hindus, Muslims, Buddhists, etc. about "Armageddon", "Hellfire", "Trinity", "Rapture", and "Reincarnation" will just become worthless and useless dusts on earth forever after their deaths. ETERNAL LIFE AND EXISTENCE ON EARTH FOR THE VICTORS - All submissive and obedient human beings who honor and obey the Creator and believe the BIBLICAL teachings of Jesus Christ about the "Kingdom of God" and "Resurrection of the Dead" will be rewarded and honored by the Creator with ETERNAL LIFE and existence on a safe and peaceful planet earth without sufferings, pains, griefs, sickness, and deaths. The "Kingdom of God" or Rulership of God through his Christ will ensure that planet earth is safe, peaceful and without terrorists, criminals, and militaries, without liars and hateful fanatics of religions, without slanderers, deceivers, hypocrites, without funeral homes and cemeteries. Worshippers of the Creator who died thousands of years ago like Abel, Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Joseph, Moses, King David, Jesus Christ's disciples and many others will be resurrected back to life by Jesus Christ at the Creator's own good time. Worshippers of the Creator and believers of the Christ will fully enjoy the eternal love, kindness, generosities, compassions, favors, and blessings of the Creator and his Christ for eternity as submissive and obedient subjects of the "Kingdom of God" under the loving rulership, guidance, and protection of the Creator's Chosen King and Ruler, his Christ.
Allan, I appreciated this video. I am divorced now for over 2 years. My wife left to fulfill what she said she missed in her 20s. We had been married for 24 years. She surprised me with divorce papers over Father's Day weekend in 2020. We have 6 kids together and they were devastated. Upon my divorce, my church family ignored me and stopped all communications with me. I struggle daily as I would like to find a partner again, but I feel like I am sinning if I date and marry another woman.
The gift of singleness is completely misunderstood. If you are single, that is your current gifting. If you are married, that is your current gifting. We need to quit putting this idea on people that they are gifted to be single the rest of their lives.
I'm a single 32 year old virgin who struggles with loneliness every day. I've never dated and I'm not sure that I will make a good boyfriend/husband. I get tempted to masturbate and at times I cave to my desires. I fall in my faith and I don't think that I will ever be desired. I'm trying to better myself, but it's a difficult task all the time. Thanks for your videos and I shall continue to trust God that things will be better soon.
Hello Brother Allen, I am so happy you are addressing this topic, I wish I would have had this teaching before I got married, we talked about a lot of things, but as time goes on some things change and then we feel stuck because of what the word says about divorce 🤷🏾♀️. Peace and blessings to you🙏🏾
I have been single for twenty years as a virgin. I am thirty-eight years old. I have prayed to God for a wife, and someone has prophesied a bridal engagement to me, but the prophesy was only in part and didn't name any names or exact dates, or any other details, except for her approach with an instruction that I embrace her. In light of this, I thought of having a family appointed match-maker (we don't have one currently) set me up with someone, but I didn't want to make Abraham's mistake of trying to do things my own way when God has already appointed someone: so I'm pretty much left in limbo with this as a topic for discussion - but no sex so far. On the plus side, the prophesy has done wonders to increase my confidence.
A lot of people are in this situation. And the church has never been good about being honest about this. This is not new. Most people didn’t wait for marriage in the past either. The only difference is they rushed to marry not long after out of fear. Now, people don’t have that same fear so they have the sex without the rushing to the altar.
I do believe God will place someone in our lives to meet and enjoy happiness in the Holy Spirit together! How wonderful it would be to have a home in that manner! Meanwhile, while we wait, don't be afraid to be the one who goes out to FIND a Godly partner! Why? Because if we are all waiting, then who is doing the finding? 🤔
Luckily for me my T level is almost 0 so my sexual desire is nil! I am looking forward to returning to hobbies I had to give up when I was married. But now I am single again, and this time dating and relationships is off the table. I want to love God, and know myself better (which I should have done prior to marriage) but my marriage counseling was a joke, as was the church I attended then.
I’m single and 34 I had to sit with a pen and paper so I could retain this wise council to help and guide me in ma search and one gift I’m thankful to God is self control. God sustains u brother Allen
I’m divorced. Haven’t dated anyone since my divorce and still sexually active with my ex husband. I rationalized that it’s better I fornicate with him than someone else.. Just a mess.
Me and my Now wife we were dating for about 3 years having sex without marriage and I had the conviction like I need to get married but I read Paul 1 Corinthians. He said it if you can’t contain yourself it is better to marry than tk burn so that’s what we did like we didn’t have a big wedding but we got married by court and wondering is it still glorify God
Getting arrived in a court house? If your asking if it glorifies God the answer is yes you don't have to be in a church or a certain place because God is always with us so if you go to the court house and have a few friends or family to witness and get married God is still with you he cares about you and your spouse and that your marriage is dedicated to him and you glorify him in it. The marriage takes 2 thing is a lie it takes 3. But yes I'd say the venue isn't an issue as long as you to love each other and God and glorify him ❤️ God Bless you
As a long time married man let me tell you that you are commanded by God himself to stay that way, I don't even know if Christian Churches should be remarrying people at all yet preachers seem to have no problem with it, as the shepherd I believe that this should be taught more especially when young (or like in your case not as young) people are getting married for the first time they need to be informed about God's commandment, I was informed before I got married and we went through a fairly long premarital counseling and I was surprised that not one word was spoken about staying married outside of the ceremony but Christians need to know while the church continues to be silent on the matter, now that former minister resigned and stopped preaching, then he started dating another woman, then he divorced his wife and gave up the rights to his disabled daughter and completely gave up on Christianity and the church leadership remains silent come on guys this is important let's make certain that we understand that staying with the woman of our youth is important.
Existing on planet earth are liars and hateful human beings Also existing are submissive and obedient human beings The BIBLE is also existing on planet earth THE REAL AND EXISTING BIBLICAL BATTLE TO THE DEATH - THE CREATOR and JESUS CHRIST VS. LIARS and HATEFUL HUMAN BEINGS. ETERNAL DEATH FOR THE VANQUISHED - All LIARS and hateful human beings who HATE the Creator and believe the LIES and UNBIBLICAL teachings and doctrines of the anti-Christs Teachers, Leaders, and Pastors of the Christians, Hindus, Muslims, Buddhists, etc. about "Armageddon", "Hellfire", "Trinity", "Rapture", and "Reincarnation" will just become worthless and useless dusts on earth forever after their deaths. ETERNAL LIFE AND EXISTENCE ON EARTH FOR SUBMISSIVE AND OBEDIENT HUMAN BEINGS - All submissive and obedient human beings who honor and obey the Creator and believe the BIBLICAL teachings of Jesus Christ about the "Kingdom of God" and "Resurrection of the Dead" as TRUTH will be rewarded and honored by the Creator with ETERNAL LIFE and existence on a safe and peaceful planet earth without sufferings, pains, griefs, sickness, and deaths. The "Kingdom of God" or Rulership of God through his Christ will ensure that planet earth is safe, peaceful and without terrorists, criminals, and militaries, without liars and hateful atheists, agnostics, and fanatics of religions, without slanderers, deceivers, and hypocrites, without funeral homes and cemeteries. The teaching of Jesus Christ about the "Resurrection of the Dead" is the guarantee that all worshippers of the Creator and believers of his Christ who died even thousands of years ago like Abel, Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Joseph, Moses, King David, Jesus Christ's disciples and many others will be resurrected back to life by Jesus Christ in the Creator's own right time. ETERNAL LIFE and existence on earth means all worshippers of the Creator and believers of his Christ will fully enjoy the eternal love, kindness, generosities, compassions, favors, and blessings of the Creator and his Christ for eternity as submissive and obedient subjects of the "Kingdom of God" under the loving rulership, guidance, and protection of the Creator's Chosen King and Ruler, his Christ.
My wife recanted her faith and left me. Now waiting for a divorce to finalize. It sucks because now I must remain single the rest of my life and she likely won't.
If your wife left you, I am fairly certain you are free to remarry. Though if you were overly willing to give up the marriage and let her out without so much as a whimper, then perhaps you are correct.
At my previous church, I was always pushed to date these single men to the point I wanted nothing to do with getting married. They assumed I was desperate and lonely for a man (because I am in my 30's.) Once I left that ministry, things began to fall into place & I am happy to say I will be getting married next week after being in a relationship for a little over 3 years. 😊
this was encouraging to read. I`m in the same spot and I`m 27. I don`t feel desperate yet but people around me make me go crazy, if anything it turns me off from men and marriage :(
Congrats! Wise decision leaving.
Awesome to hear, your testimony can help others! I wish you nothing but the best in your marriage and congrats - God bless you and surround you and your new family. Exciting times 🤗
congrats to you
Amen ❤
This is NOT only a struggle for young people. I’m 62 years old and have been single for 26 years. I still struggle with lust and it’s heartbreaking when I slip. I love the Lord and I desire obedience in all ways. I know we all fall short but this seems to be a sin apart from others. Thank you for this video and look forward to anything more. I will be victorious as ANYTHING is possible with Christ Jesus!
So what is the right reason for marriage? Companionship?
The right reason for marriage is indeed companionship, as well as procreation, and sanctification... Nothing shapes a man or woman into the image of Christ like that person you love, and have to love.
Why haven't you married?
I married a nonbeliever when I was a nonbeliever, and now I'm on fire for Jesus and can never deny he is real again. The best advice I can give everyone reading this is to find someone who loves Jesus more than they love you, and the vast majority of your issues will work themselves out. God's plan is always the best plan. Being in love with someone who denies Jesus is worse than being single.
That was me for a while, Can agree. My deepest prayers for you and your relationship, I know how hard and dark and sad it can be. Please never Choose anything else over God. I hope you never reach the point where one day you think you need to pick between the two, or that you need to denounce God to be happy with your wife. Stay on fire
@@gsanchez5116 I've met Jesus. There is no turning back for me now. I'm doing God’s work for the rest of my days. Eventually, Jesus will reach her. I have to be patient and give it time.
Been there and done that. I had never been so stressed out in my life. He ended up leaving me for my faith. I am going to say a prayer for your marriage and that your wife will come to Christ.
Hi Corey can u help me a litt!e bit, i am wondering what made u believe wholeheartedly in Jesus, i'm finding it hard to accept the Bible, God and Jesus as being real 😢
But i want to believe..
I’m glad a Bible teacher is addressing this topic because not many people in the church really break down and explain these things. They expect you to be married by a certain age… but never tell you how to go about seeking or searching for a spouse.
Got born again recently in April and this spiritual walk has been beautiful. I thank God for the gift of sexual control and even since i recieved Christ, i trully stopped stressing myself on issues of marriage. Am 38,single,no kids and alot of people especially family look down on me for they feel i don't belong. I gave God my all and i believe and trust His plans for my life. True i desire to get married to a Godly man who will love God even much more than me, but at this point, am working more on finding my purpose and calling in God's Kingdom.
May God bless you.
Welcome brother/sister in Christ. FACTS marriage isn't about sex it's about intimacy, procreating children and trusting each other. AMEN and God bless brother Allen Parr ministry I'm glad I don't have sex before marriage because fornication and pornography leads to adultery when married ☺️. Getting a goodnight sleep after a long day of working as a teacher's assistant, biochemist and sociology professor is what takes up my time after doing Christian Apologetics and making video edits on comics and pop culture. In this world we all have worries due to pain brought in Life from natural disasters, fears and stress fueled by nothing but the moral depravity of humanity. It's heartbreaking and unpleasant but TRUE.
ATHEISM AIN'T GOT NOTHING NEW OR BETTER TO OFFER THAN THE VERY RELIGIOUS BELIEFS THEY'RE CRITICAL OF SO IT'S HYPOCRISY AT IT'S FINEST 😂. Hello this is for all you Atheists, unbelievers and skeptics. I'm going to address a few misconceptions and lies about God's Character and His Word. The Bible doesn't support chattel slavery or anything else Immoral. Ok so Atheists and unbelievers say God is either Immoral, incompetent or not responsible so let's see what The Scriptures actually say. God revealed himself and created a nation in a real, historical context. It was a world with a slave-based economy, with city states often at war with each other, with polygamous marriages to ensure the continuation of family lines. The laws of the Old Testament regulate this behaviour. Slaves are to be treated humanely (Exodus 21:11). They are given rights and not seen as mere possessions. Hebrew slaves were able to buy their own freedom. Human trafficking is condemned (Exodus 21:16). In contrast to the law code of Babylon, Old Testament Israel was a light to the nations. The Old Testament law and narratives do not stand alone. Jesus is now the best example of what we read. So the moral teaching of the Bible cannot be summarised by a quote taken out of context from the Old Testament to demonize God and His Word. Slavery was permitted in Old Testament law but it was regulated by God giving the Israelites instructions on how to fairly and humanely treat their slaves (it was like indentured servitude where someone could work for you if they owed debts or needed income not cruel like chattel slavery). God allowed the people of Israel to own slaves since they themselves has already experienced over 400 years of generations of Egyptian slavery and knew how inhumane it was to be beaten, overworked and taxed so God set them apart from other nations and cultures around them by giving them a fair way to treat their slaves since slavery had already existed in the world but it doesn't mean God condoned it just used it for His Will to bring Good And in the light of the whole scriptural teaching, we find the reasons for its ultimate abolition (Ephesians 6:9; Colossians 4:1-3; Philemon 15-16 and Galatians 3:28). The Word of God provided the moral standard against slavery in the Roman Empire and against the slave trade in the New World.
But what of genocide or holy war in the book of Joshua? Several things could be pointed out. The use of warfare in the ancient world did not always mean literal total destruction, even when events are described in such terms. Furthermore, the book of Joshua does not describe a genocide. It is not a race who are being wiped out, as in genocide, but a religious practice which was often appalling and degrading. Those who repent (like Rahab from Jericho or Ruth) are not destroyed but become part of Israel. It is not the racial group that is in view but their "detestable practices".
However, after all is said, we must still acknowledge that God brought judgment on the nations of Canaan. It is not our place as believers isn't to sugar-coat the Bible. For some skeptics, this is enough to make God a moral monster. But the fact is that Jesus continued to affirm that God is a Judge who will bring a future judgment on all peoples and all nations. God’s judgment will be just. The list of Old Testament stories rejected by critics often leads to a similar dismissal of the New Testament teaching of Jesus on the existence of hell.
After all, what was the Flood of Genesis or the conquest of Joshua if not a glimpse of future judgment? Hell does not demonstrate cruelty on God’s part, but it does demonstrate His Holiness and our moral accountability. Perhaps this is the real reason many people rail against the God of the Bible? It is not that they think He is a moral monster, but that they are afraid He is a moral Judge, and that has implications for our behaviour now. God is an Eternal Almighty Spirit Being and we as His creatures have Eternal souls and spirits so the punishment for our sins against Him must therefore also be Eternal but so must the reward for righteousness that's why He sent His Son Jesus to live a perfectly righteous and sinless Life (which none of us could ever possibly expect to do) suffer the humiliating and torturous death of crucifixion to shed His Own Blood willingly so that all who willingly accept His gift of salvation by grace through faith in Him will be saved and given Eternal life because that's what God wants is for us to willingly accept His gift of salvation and choose life. Exodus 21:20-21 literally speaks about capital punishment befalling anyone who mistreats their slaves so yes people are taking Scripture out of context to demonize God who literally promises that slaves who are mistreated under someone else's authority is to be avenged. When we hear the word “slavery” we think of innocent human beings, kept prisoner for life, having no rights under law and so reduced to animals. This is clearly immoral because it is unjust: the slave has done nothing to deserve the treatment.
The situation described as “slavery” in the Bible was nothing like this. It is more accurately described as one of indentured servitude. Many “slaves” were indentured servants, working for a term of years
Some other “slaves” were prisoners. There were no prisons. Prisoners had to work to live like everyone else. Some had life sentences. Some served a term and were released.
People didn't beat their good slaves but treated them well and protected their assets thus.
But no matter how rebellious a slave was, you couldn't just beat them to death. And if you knocked out their tooth or damaged their eye then you had to set them free. (Exodus 21:26). God wasn't using what other nations did because He wanted to set His Chosen People of Israel apart from the cruel, inhumane and unjust systems other cultures had so He gave them a fair way to treat their slaves and servants.
There is a lot of ignorance on this topic which is understandable given the age we live in but it's not the nefarious set up we think of when we think of modern slavery. The question Atheists must ask themselves is how come the Jews aren't being accused of slavery and human trafficking if they're guilty of it in The Bible and why would white slave owners rip out pages from The Old and New Testament Scriptures to justify their owning blacks as slaves if The Bible already justified slavery?
Congrats to your faith leading you through by His Spirit!
Your life sounds awesome! Single with God, that’s the dream haha
Amen! Beautiful testimony!
Hey BEAT family. This video hits home for me since I lived it for so long. I pray that you find it to be an encouragement to you.
God makes it very clear in the Bible numerous times that fornicators won't see the kingdom of heaven, making it seem like they aren't Christians. So I pray for the singles out there to stay chaste.
I wonder if poverty or lack of financial success plays into why some are single?
FACTS brother Allen Parr ministry I'm glad I don't have sex before marriage because fornication and pornography leads to adultery when married ☺️. Getting a goodnight sleep after a long day of working as a teacher's assistant, biochemist and sociology professor is what takes up my time after doing Christian Apologetics and making video edits on comics and pop culture. In this world we all have worries due to pain brought in Life from natural disasters, fears and stress fueled by nothing but the moral depravity of humanity. It's heartbreaking and unpleasant but TRUE.
ATHEISM AIN'T GOT NOTHING NEW OR BETTER TO OFFER THAN THE VERY RELIGIOUS BELIEFS THEY'RE CRITICAL OF SO IT'S HYPOCRISY AT IT'S FINEST 😂. Hello this is for all you Atheists, unbelievers and skeptics. I'm going to address a few misconceptions and lies about God's Character and His Word. The Bible doesn't support chattel slavery or anything else Immoral. Ok so Atheists and unbelievers say God is either Immoral, incompetent or not responsible so let's see what The Scriptures actually say. God revealed himself and created a nation in a real, historical context. It was a world with a slave-based economy, with city states often at war with each other, with polygamous marriages to ensure the continuation of family lines. The laws of the Old Testament regulate this behaviour. Slaves are to be treated humanely (Exodus 21:11). They are given rights and not seen as mere possessions. Hebrew slaves were able to buy their own freedom. Human trafficking is condemned (Exodus 21:16). In contrast to the law code of Babylon, Old Testament Israel was a light to the nations. The Old Testament law and narratives do not stand alone. Jesus is now the best example of what we read. So the moral teaching of the Bible cannot be summarised by a quote taken out of context from the Old Testament to demonize God and His Word. Slavery was permitted in Old Testament law but it was regulated by God giving the Israelites instructions on how to fairly and humanely treat their slaves (it was like indentured servitude where someone could work for you if they owed debts or needed income not cruel like chattel slavery). God allowed the people of Israel to own slaves since they themselves has already experienced over 400 years of generations of Egyptian slavery and knew how inhumane it was to be beaten, overworked and taxed so God set them apart from other nations and cultures around them by giving them a fair way to treat their slaves since slavery had already existed in the world but it doesn't mean God condoned it just used it for His Will to bring Good And in the light of the whole scriptural teaching, we find the reasons for its ultimate abolition (Ephesians 6:9; Colossians 4:1-3; Philemon 15-16 and Galatians 3:28). The Word of God provided the moral standard against slavery in the Roman Empire and against the slave trade in the New World.
But what of genocide or holy war in the book of Joshua? Several things could be pointed out. The use of warfare in the ancient world did not always mean literal total destruction, even when events are described in such terms. Furthermore, the book of Joshua does not describe a genocide. It is not a race who are being wiped out, as in genocide, but a religious practice which was often appalling and degrading. Those who repent (like Rahab from Jericho or Ruth) are not destroyed but become part of Israel. It is not the racial group that is in view but their "detestable practices".
However, after all is said, we must still acknowledge that God brought judgment on the nations of Canaan. It is not our place as believers isn't to sugar-coat the Bible. For some skeptics, this is enough to make God a moral monster. But the fact is that Jesus continued to affirm that God is a Judge who will bring a future judgment on all peoples and all nations. God’s judgment will be just. The list of Old Testament stories rejected by critics often leads to a similar dismissal of the New Testament teaching of Jesus on the existence of hell.
After all, what was the Flood of Genesis or the conquest of Joshua if not a glimpse of future judgment? Hell does not demonstrate cruelty on God’s part, but it does demonstrate His Holiness and our moral accountability. Perhaps this is the real reason many people rail against the God of the Bible? It is not that they think He is a moral monster, but that they are afraid He is a moral Judge, and that has implications for our behaviour now. God is an Eternal Almighty Spirit Being and we as His creatures have Eternal souls and spirits so the punishment for our sins against Him must therefore also be Eternal but so must the reward for righteousness that's why He sent His Son Jesus to live a perfectly righteous and sinless Life (which none of us could ever possibly expect to do) suffer the humiliating and torturous death of crucifixion to shed His Own Blood willingly so that all who willingly accept His gift of salvation by grace through faith in Him will be saved and given Eternal life because that's what God wants is for us to willingly accept His gift of salvation and choose life. Exodus 21:20-21 literally speaks about capital punishment befalling anyone who mistreats their slaves so yes people are taking Scripture out of context to demonize God who literally promises that slaves who are mistreated under someone else's authority is to be avenged. When we hear the word “slavery” we think of innocent human beings, kept prisoner for life, having no rights under law and so reduced to animals. This is clearly immoral because it is unjust: the slave has done nothing to deserve the treatment.
The situation described as “slavery” in the Bible was nothing like this. It is more accurately described as one of indentured servitude. Many “slaves” were indentured servants, working for a term of years
Some other “slaves” were prisoners. There were no prisons. Prisoners had to work to live like everyone else. Some had life sentences. Some served a term and were released.
People didn't beat their good slaves but treated them well and protected their assets thus.
But no matter how rebellious a slave was, you couldn't just beat them to death. And if you knocked out their tooth or damaged their eye then you had to set them free. (Exodus 21:26). God wasn't using what other nations did because He wanted to set His Chosen People of Israel apart from the cruel, inhumane and unjust systems other cultures had so He gave them a fair way to treat their slaves and servants.
There is a lot of ignorance on this topic which is understandable given the age we live in but it's not the nefarious set up we think of when we think of modern slavery. The question Atheists must ask themselves is how come the Jews aren't being accused of slavery and human trafficking if they're guilty of it in The Bible and why would white slave owners rip out pages from The Old and New Testament Scriptures to justify their owning blacks as slaves if The Bible already justified slavery?
@@kingquest2000 that’s irrelevant. Ive had periods of. Both financially prosperous and poverty. I guess we are blessed to be with a partner or not. Also this question doesn’t make since since poor people get married and have at least 4 children. Financial success and lack thereof, have no correlation. I’m unfortunately miserably single and have been on both ends of the spectrum. Sounds like youre not single.
Amen
I like your videos a lot....I am Christian from India, I request Christians all over the world to please Pray for Christians in India as many Christians face persecutions and attacks by Bajrang Dal, Vishwa Hindu Parishad (VHP), Rashtriya Swayamsevak Sang (RSS), Hindu Yuva Vahini etc which are para-military forces that target Christian worshipers and Spreaders of the Word of GOD...Here even their persecutions are not getting highlighted as the Mainstream Media is having govt control which supports the organisations I mentioned above....Please Pray for us and Support us as well as all the Christians who face persecutions around the world
Thank you for sharing. Will pray for you all in India!
@@em77775
Thank you so much!!
May the Lord grace and help the brothers and sisters over in India
An old man told me this when I was young, "Love is blind but marriage openeth the eye."
True!!
*Whoever is reading this, God has a plan, trust the process* 💜💜
Love, a Christian youtuber 💜
Love your videos women of God
God bless you 🤍
I was married for 15 years and now I have been celibate for almost 2.5 years; by the grace of God. You have to run to God and be honest with him about your desires because if you want to be kept, God will keep you. I remember crying out to him and being honest about having sex outside of marriage and he gave me three words; he did not say," I understand, you are human," he did not say," I understand because you are a man", he just said, " to your detriment!" You have to ask him for the grace to stay pure because its his will that you stay pure. You also must guard your eyes, mind, and thoughts. Tell him your struggles. I don't want to offend him because he has never offended me, so I run to him. After all- he is the Lord of all flesh
@ivoriruth my pleasure! you are beautiful
@Chesna Robyn Hill my pleasure stunning
@@HasanUnknown Thanks; Jesus is the son of Almighty God; Jesus is God, Jesus is the way to God, Jesus is the Righteousness of God, Jesus is the brightness of God's glory, Jesus is the word of God, who was in the beginning with God. Jesus declares, he that has seen me has seen the Father, He also says, I and my Father (God) are one. The Father also says that he (God) has given his son (Jesus) a name that is above every name and at the name of Jesus; every knee will bow and every tongue will confess to God, that Jesus Christ is Lord
Jesus is alive still
Amen 🙌🏿🙌🏿
I’m struggling with my singleness more and more as I get older. I’m 32/single and can’t help but feel depressed about my situation. I feel guilty because I’m supposed to be content in Christ, but I can’t shake this aching desire to be a wife. To have someone to share my life with. Most people around me are in relationships and I’m the only oddball that’s always single. I can’t talk to people about church about the sadness I feel because they give me the same tired/judgmental responses. Only God knows my pain. If I’m to live like this for the rest of my life, I at least want to be satisfied with it.
The only answer is to get closer to Christ, and when you do, God will most likely give you a wife.
If you feel you still have faults, then repent of them and let God help you to work them out, so that they plague you less and less. Then you won't be so worried and insecure, and the peace and joy of the Lord will come more into your heart, and then manifest in your life more.
One will become more humble and inviting to others when they do this.
First things first you have to enjoy being single. Then God will give you the disirer of your heart
@@michaelalbertson7457 I think this person is a lady seeing as they mentioned "an aching desire to be a wife" 😊
Single is hard. Alot of married people don't understand & many give u the side eye. Keep pursuing Jesus & I'm sure He'll send a great spouse.
I'm a 27 year old virgin with zero relationship experience and have and still am struggling with masturbation and impure thoughts after 14 long years. I came to God at young adult service two years ago and still battle the same struggles. Yes I too hope to be married and not base it entirely on sexual desires but on companionship. My desire for marriage is either my own or from the Lord in which I'm thankful. Deep down I'm in need of big change and desire to serve him out of my comfort zone and also glorify him in my marriage. If you could pray for me that will be much appreciated! Thank you and God bless! 💖
First of all go to Apostolic Church for the fullness of Truth, and have an Eucharist. You won't find the true Flesh and Body of Jesus in nowadays protestantism.
It took long but when God led me this I saw it now. That struggle stems from selfishness and pride, we are to repent( that is change your way of thinking) and fear and honor God.
You might need deliverance to rid those thoights, or laying of hands to receive the holy spirit
Hey mate there’s a video that helped me, how to date Ben Stuart.
I can relate but I do have experience with women. I'm a 22 year old college graduate who's never had sex before marriage or been in a relationship even in college or high school out of personal experience with many modern Women that was unpleasant and nothing I needed in my life.
FACTS marriage isn't about sex it's about intimacy, procreating children and trusting each other. AMEN and God bless brother Allen Parr ministry I'm glad I don't have sex before marriage because fornication and pornography leads to adultery when married ☺️. Getting a goodnight sleep after a long day of working as a teacher's assistant, biochemist and sociology professor is what takes up my time after doing Christian Apologetics and making video edits on comics and pop culture. In this world we all have worries due to pain brought in Life from natural disasters, fears and stress fueled by nothing but the moral depravity of humanity. It's heartbreaking and unpleasant but TRUE.
ATHEISM AIN'T GOT NOTHING NEW OR BETTER TO OFFER THAN THE VERY RELIGIOUS BELIEFS THEY'RE CRITICAL OF SO IT'S HYPOCRISY AT IT'S FINEST 😂. Hello this is for all you Atheists, unbelievers and skeptics. I'm going to address a few misconceptions and lies about God's Character and His Word. The Bible doesn't support chattel slavery or anything else Immoral. Ok so Atheists and unbelievers say God is either Immoral, incompetent or not responsible so let's see what The Scriptures actually say. God revealed himself and created a nation in a real, historical context. It was a world with a slave-based economy, with city states often at war with each other, with polygamous marriages to ensure the continuation of family lines. The laws of the Old Testament regulate this behaviour. Slaves are to be treated humanely (Exodus 21:11). They are given rights and not seen as mere possessions. Hebrew slaves were able to buy their own freedom. Human trafficking is condemned (Exodus 21:16). In contrast to the law code of Babylon, Old Testament Israel was a light to the nations. The Old Testament law and narratives do not stand alone. Jesus is now the best example of what we read. So the moral teaching of the Bible cannot be summarised by a quote taken out of context from the Old Testament to demonize God and His Word. Slavery was permitted in Old Testament law but it was regulated by God giving the Israelites instructions on how to fairly and humanely treat their slaves (it was like indentured servitude where someone could work for you if they owed debts or needed income not cruel like chattel slavery). God allowed the people of Israel to own slaves since they themselves has already experienced over 400 years of generations of Egyptian slavery and knew how inhumane it was to be beaten, overworked and taxed so God set them apart from other nations and cultures around them by giving them a fair way to treat their slaves since slavery had already existed in the world but it doesn't mean God condoned it just used it for His Will to bring Good And in the light of the whole scriptural teaching, we find the reasons for its ultimate abolition (Ephesians 6:9; Colossians 4:1-3; Philemon 15-16 and Galatians 3:28). The Word of God provided the moral standard against slavery in the Roman Empire and against the slave trade in the New World.
But what of genocide or holy war in the book of Joshua? Several things could be pointed out. The use of warfare in the ancient world did not always mean literal total destruction, even when events are described in such terms. Furthermore, the book of Joshua does not describe a genocide. It is not a race who are being wiped out, as in genocide, but a religious practice which was often appalling and degrading. Those who repent (like Rahab from Jericho or Ruth) are not destroyed but become part of Israel. It is not the racial group that is in view but their "detestable practices".
However, after all is said, we must still acknowledge that God brought judgment on the nations of Canaan. It is not our place as believers isn't to sugar-coat the Bible. For some skeptics, this is enough to make God a moral monster. But the fact is that Jesus continued to affirm that God is a Judge who will bring a future judgment on all peoples and all nations. God’s judgment will be just. The list of Old Testament stories rejected by critics often leads to a similar dismissal of the New Testament teaching of Jesus on the existence of hell.
After all, what was the Flood of Genesis or the conquest of Joshua if not a glimpse of future judgment? Hell does not demonstrate cruelty on God’s part, but it does demonstrate His Holiness and our moral accountability. Perhaps this is the real reason many people rail against the God of the Bible? It is not that they think He is a moral monster, but that they are afraid He is a moral Judge, and that has implications for our behaviour now. God is an Eternal Almighty Spirit Being and we as His creatures have Eternal souls and spirits so the punishment for our sins against Him must therefore also be Eternal but so must the reward for righteousness that's why He sent His Son Jesus to live a perfectly righteous and sinless Life (which none of us could ever possibly expect to do) suffer the humiliating and torturous death of crucifixion to shed His Own Blood willingly so that all who willingly accept His gift of salvation by grace through faith in Him will be saved and given Eternal life because that's what God wants is for us to willingly accept His gift of salvation and choose life. Exodus 21:20-21 literally speaks about capital punishment befalling anyone who mistreats their slaves so yes people are taking Scripture out of context to demonize God who literally promises that slaves who are mistreated under someone else's authority is to be avenged. When we hear the word “slavery” we think of innocent human beings, kept prisoner for life, having no rights under law and so reduced to animals. This is clearly immoral because it is unjust: the slave has done nothing to deserve the treatment.
The situation described as “slavery” in the Bible was nothing like this. It is more accurately described as one of indentured servitude. Many “slaves” were indentured servants, working for a term of years
Some other “slaves” were prisoners. There were no prisons. Prisoners had to work to live like everyone else. Some had life sentences. Some served a term and were released.
People didn't beat their good slaves but treated them well and protected their assets thus.
But no matter how rebellious a slave was, you couldn't just beat them to death. And if you knocked out their tooth or damaged their eye then you had to set them free. (Exodus 21:26). God wasn't using what other nations did because He wanted to set His Chosen People of Israel apart from the cruel, inhumane and unjust systems other cultures had so He gave them a fair way to treat their slaves and servants.
There is a lot of ignorance on this topic which is understandable given the age we live in but it's not the nefarious set up we think of when we think of modern slavery. The question Atheists must ask themselves is how come the Jews aren't being accused of slavery and human trafficking if they're guilty of it in The Bible and why would white slave owners rip out pages from The Old and New Testament Scriptures to justify their owning blacks as slaves if The Bible already justified slavery?
“When the brother is coming for you at night” took me out 😂😂😂
Same 😂😂😂😭 too real
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Another banger! Yup, this describes me perfectly. Single and DO NOT have the gift of singleness. It’s definitely a struggle. I liked the point on paying attention to a persons character. That’s been really big for me lately. And thank you for clarifying that we SHOULD be attracted to a potential spouse. Christian circles tend to miss that.
It's touchy be seems most men take that truly to a new level and it doesn't matter about the character at all.
This isn’t a matter of singleness being a gift or not depending on who you are. While you are single, singleness is ALWAYS a gift that God gives everyone for a time (until you get married) or forever (if you die unmarried). He desires us to use our time wisely while we single to build our faith and grow His Kingdom
@@DingMedia Good word. My heart goes out to those desiring marriage and still waiting. It us a hard place to be in and ut can take something out of a person living with unfulfilled longings. Wonder why God created man for a wife and both to create FAMILY yet some may never even know it? Or those who have no desire to really marry yet they get pursued?
@@ladyj5682 I think it all comes down to the way God originally designed it vs the way sin destroyed it. In God's original plan (i.e. Eden), there was no risk associated with a man and woman marrying and starting a family, because no one knew how to sin, or wanted to. In today's world, the chances of a truly godly marriage (even in the hands of people who truly want to be obedient to God) are so low that some of us just stay single to avoid messing up. That may be why the disciples said it's better for a man not to marry, and Jesus didn't disagree with them.
@@nameirrelevant0 Yet God said b fruitful and multiple. It's not good for man to be alone. Don't let fear keep you from experiencing something God created. Marriage was created by God and I truly believe two people truly seeking God and leaning on Him will make it. Just ask God to truly show you. All we can do is make the best decision we can and move forward in faith. I struggle with fear more than I want to own up to and hope God will free me but I need to get in His word
Finally! A man that can admit that women need physical attraction!
Sounds like the One Who Lives Forever is truly at work in you.
I have been dating a woman for 7 months now. She truly is a gift from God. Never in my life would I ever believe I would have someone like her in my life.
Same here bro, same here!
How did you make the move? I’m in my early 20’s and have a girl I’m interested in. Making a first move is very difficult for me.
If your goal is to get married because of sexual desires. Your marriage isn’t going to last. Hold on and wait , your time is coming ❤
Many people marry all the time just because of sexual desires. Let's not pretend this isn't happening. This is what happens when the church doesn't explain things well.
Fact check false. You can make the marriage last if you want to. I mean, people made marriages last when they had no choice in who they married, instead their parents set them up. It all depends on your attitude and whether you want the relationship to last or not. Remember, this whole “marriage for love” idea is a VERY modern concept, as is probably the reason why so many people are struggling to find “the one”
The problem is the can't wait for sex
FACTS marriage isn't about sex it's about intimacy, procreating children and trusting each other. AMEN and God bless brother Allen Parr ministry I'm glad I don't have sex before marriage because fornication and pornography leads to adultery when married ☺️. Getting a goodnight sleep after a long day of working as a teacher's assistant, biochemist and sociology professor is what takes up my time after doing Christian Apologetics and making video edits on comics and pop culture. In this world we all have worries due to pain brought in Life from natural disasters, fears and stress fueled by nothing but the moral depravity of humanity. It's heartbreaking and unpleasant but TRUE.
ATHEISM AIN'T GOT NOTHING NEW OR BETTER TO OFFER THAN THE VERY RELIGIOUS BELIEFS THEY'RE CRITICAL OF SO IT'S HYPOCRISY AT IT'S FINEST 😂. Hello this is for all you Atheists, unbelievers and skeptics. I'm going to address a few misconceptions and lies about God's Character and His Word. The Bible doesn't support chattel slavery or anything else Immoral. Ok so Atheists and unbelievers say God is either Immoral, incompetent or not responsible so let's see what The Scriptures actually say. God revealed himself and created a nation in a real, historical context. It was a world with a slave-based economy, with city states often at war with each other, with polygamous marriages to ensure the continuation of family lines. The laws of the Old Testament regulate this behaviour. Slaves are to be treated humanely (Exodus 21:11). They are given rights and not seen as mere possessions. Hebrew slaves were able to buy their own freedom. Human trafficking is condemned (Exodus 21:16). In contrast to the law code of Babylon, Old Testament Israel was a light to the nations. The Old Testament law and narratives do not stand alone. Jesus is now the best example of what we read. So the moral teaching of the Bible cannot be summarised by a quote taken out of context from the Old Testament to demonize God and His Word. Slavery was permitted in Old Testament law but it was regulated by God giving the Israelites instructions on how to fairly and humanely treat their slaves (it was like indentured servitude where someone could work for you if they owed debts or needed income not cruel like chattel slavery). God allowed the people of Israel to own slaves since they themselves has already experienced over 400 years of generations of Egyptian slavery and knew how inhumane it was to be beaten, overworked and taxed so God set them apart from other nations and cultures around them by giving them a fair way to treat their slaves since slavery had already existed in the world but it doesn't mean God condoned it just used it for His Will to bring Good And in the light of the whole scriptural teaching, we find the reasons for its ultimate abolition (Ephesians 6:9; Colossians 4:1-3; Philemon 15-16 and Galatians 3:28). The Word of God provided the moral standard against slavery in the Roman Empire and against the slave trade in the New World.
But what of genocide or holy war in the book of Joshua? Several things could be pointed out. The use of warfare in the ancient world did not always mean literal total destruction, even when events are described in such terms. Furthermore, the book of Joshua does not describe a genocide. It is not a race who are being wiped out, as in genocide, but a religious practice which was often appalling and degrading. Those who repent (like Rahab from Jericho or Ruth) are not destroyed but become part of Israel. It is not the racial group that is in view but their "detestable practices".
However, after all is said, we must still acknowledge that God brought judgment on the nations of Canaan. It is not our place as believers isn't to sugar-coat the Bible. For some skeptics, this is enough to make God a moral monster. But the fact is that Jesus continued to affirm that God is a Judge who will bring a future judgment on all peoples and all nations. God’s judgment will be just. The list of Old Testament stories rejected by critics often leads to a similar dismissal of the New Testament teaching of Jesus on the existence of hell.
After all, what was the Flood of Genesis or the conquest of Joshua if not a glimpse of future judgment? Hell does not demonstrate cruelty on God’s part, but it does demonstrate His Holiness and our moral accountability. Perhaps this is the real reason many people rail against the God of the Bible? It is not that they think He is a moral monster, but that they are afraid He is a moral Judge, and that has implications for our behaviour now. God is an Eternal Almighty Spirit Being and we as His creatures have Eternal souls and spirits so the punishment for our sins against Him must therefore also be Eternal but so must the reward for righteousness that's why He sent His Son Jesus to live a perfectly righteous and sinless Life (which none of us could ever possibly expect to do) suffer the humiliating and torturous death of crucifixion to shed His Own Blood willingly so that all who willingly accept His gift of salvation by grace through faith in Him will be saved and given Eternal life because that's what God wants is for us to willingly accept His gift of salvation and choose life. Exodus 21:20-21 literally speaks about capital punishment befalling anyone who mistreats their slaves so yes people are taking Scripture out of context to demonize God who literally promises that slaves who are mistreated under someone else's authority is to be avenged. When we hear the word “slavery” we think of innocent human beings, kept prisoner for life, having no rights under law and so reduced to animals. This is clearly immoral because it is unjust: the slave has done nothing to deserve the treatment.
The situation described as “slavery” in the Bible was nothing like this. It is more accurately described as one of indentured servitude. Many “slaves” were indentured servants, working for a term of years
Some other “slaves” were prisoners. There were no prisons. Prisoners had to work to live like everyone else. Some had life sentences. Some served a term and were released.
People didn't beat their good slaves but treated them well and protected their assets thus.
But no matter how rebellious a slave was, you couldn't just beat them to death. And if you knocked out their tooth or damaged their eye then you had to set them free. (Exodus 21:26). God wasn't using what other nations did because He wanted to set His Chosen People of Israel apart from the cruel, inhumane and unjust systems other cultures had so He gave them a fair way to treat their slaves and servants.
There is a lot of ignorance on this topic which is understandable given the age we live in but it's not the nefarious set up we think of when we think of modern slavery. The question Atheists must ask themselves is how come the Jews aren't being accused of slavery and human trafficking if they're guilty of it in The Bible and why would white slave owners rip out pages from The Old and New Testament Scriptures to justify their owning blacks as slaves if The Bible already justified slavery?
Only thing you should wait for is Gods kingdom Mathew 6:33 I see no point of marriage unless it's a Godly union. I don't have time to balance someone in prayer when all I lived is a single life.
I married an attractive woman who wasn't a believer, partially so I could have sex. The marriage was miserable, and did me far more damage than the loneliness had done. I often wished I could be single again. When I found proof of infidelity, I felt relief that I could finally get divorced. So sex isn't everything.
Sex is not everything 🙌
The marriage was definitely miserable because you are devoid of love.
Thanks for sharing. 🤗
NO matter how beautiful a women is, if you have sex everyday with the same person, you will get bored in a few weeks.
This happened to me as well. I have learned my lesson. I will never do it again. I will never help god out I will be patient and wait on him because if I do it I am going to cause myself pain.
I'm NOT waiting for my 'faith community" to be okay with me getting married (been burnt like this before and refuse to go through it again).
Hardest thing to be honest is being in your mid 20's but still doing school, and not yet having the finances for marriage. I've fallen into sexual scene in the past and I don't want to fall again, but when I look at getting married, it seems to be far from me.
I’m in the same boat. I have someone I’m interested in but I have no idea how to make a move. She goes to my church so if things don’t go well I’m afraid it’ll be awkward for us. I’m in my early 20’s & had only 1 relationship which was before I truly knew Christ.
I feel the same way tbh. I just know that I’m not financially or emotionally ready for a marriage, but also can’t indulge in sexual sin. The way I see it is God is most likely trying to tell us that our time for marriage hasn’t come yet. I will say though that asking God for strength and to lead me away from temptation, has helped a LOT. God will give you the strength to endure if you ask, trust me. :)
@@BenefitExploits just lay it at Jesus feet and let him work it.
Quality of a partner
1. Attraction/chemistry
2. Companionship
3. Character - Godly, Christ like character
4. Calling - Do your callings align?
5. Community - Does your spiritual community think you're a good match for eachother?
Hello,
Number 5 is too much I think that relying on people's opinion in church to choose a woman/ man to marry is bad.
I'm not saying that is wrong to listen to people but to choose someone or some people you know that are genuine and that truly love the couple, and to remember that the finale decision belongs to you and your partner.
I go to a church where there has been a lot of people in similar situations and their relationships were ruined, judged, etc.
Often times opinions become gossip and the source of it is jealousy.
Just sharing about what I've seen happen.
I'm talking to this girl I met in church she seems fun and I think she gets me I pray the Lord sorts us out🙏
Stona I don’t think she will love you dawg females only like you if you’re handsome or rich. Most of them are gold diggers and trash🤮😐
@@champion3859 hey I got looks and I've never had a problem with girls except when I was in primary but got older and God blessed me a deep voice and a sense of humour which girls like plus I'm in Malawi the girls here aren't the same as in the that side of the world
@@stonaman8712 the heart is deceptively wicked.
Maybe host a singles party, like Ruslan did?? His crew were mostly in their 20’s. I’m a 41 single woman and understand the weight of marriage. It has to be the right, God ordained spouse, or I don’t want it!
I would attend a singles party! Count me in.
Nah, singles events organized by churches tend to be awkward. Preferably, churches should organize and include young Christians in charity events.
Naturally, organically, young Christians can meet in a setting where they’re serving others.
They can even assess the work ethic of their team members - an indicator if they can work together in marriage.
Not a bad setup, in my estimation.
Hello! The thumbnail you used is a picture from our wedding day. Could this be taken down? We do not want this to be used
Love love love this video, brother Allen! I’m 28, never been in a relationship or had sex. Although all my life I had a strong desire for sex and for a long time my mind was filled with filthy thoughts and downright toxic ideologies about what relationships should be.
After recommitting to Christ and allowing Him to shape my view of relationships and what part sex should play within a healthy relationship, my outlook has improved so much. I’m not desperate to feed into the attention of every man that looks my way and I’m more content and relaxed in this season of singleness that God currently has me in.
Naturally, I still would like to get married some day but God has blessed me with patience for His timing. He is blessing me to understand that there is so much else going on that He wants me to currently focus on, planting seeds in every area of my life. God has blessed me with the reassurance that if it is in His Will for me to get married, then when He blesses it to happen in His perfect timing I will finally be allowed to understand why it never worked out with anyone else. God is personally writing my love story and anything that is surrendered to God is something that I know for a fact will work out for good and peace.
All glory and honor to God Almighty Who will do abundantly above and beyond anything we can ask or think🥰
Hey. I am 25. Single. Never been in a relationship nor had sex. I'm a God fearing and serving woman. Let's get married 😍
From Africa 😁
What a beautiful story! You are so strong in the spirit!
@@simphiwe_nontsikelelo If I read correctly, she's also woman. She said she doesn't entertain every guy who comes her way. Anyway, now that that's out of the way, I'm 27 and from South Africa 😏 I'm a man 😉
@@Lebone_Bona-fide from Eswatini 😁my parents are Zulu speaking Swatis
I've done absolutely nothing sexual (thanks to Allen), for nearly 3 years and sometimes I just want to bang my head against a wall. My sexual desire is beyond fighting a pornography/masturbation addiction - it's fighting my basic human instincts to procreate. Alcoholism is horrible but it's not built into our DNA like procreation is. Nobody understands...the few people that know (because I can't exactly brag about it) can't begin to understand - my alcoholic father can relate but at least he can tell people and get some sympathy - I just get weird looks like I just grew a third eye. I've been debating finding the first Christian girl I see, marry her in 2 weeks, and fully release my desires. But I know I can't. This video is a good reminder of what matters most. Serving God. I am prepared to serve God as a single man my whole life. This is hard to admit sometimes, but the satisfaction I get from serving God outweighs my desires. If marriage happens, it happens. If not, I'm not going to cry about it. I'm just going to thank God and try to be the best brother, son, and friend I can be.
Hit the nail on the head there
I feel you, like fighting basic human instincts. Whew being born again is a daily walk…
So true my brother
I think this is part of why Ecclesiastes tells us that it's better to be stillborn than to have to go through this life. Even our innermost bodies are trying to get us to go to Hell. I've considered castration myself, but I think what you landed on at the end there is good. Focus on non-eros love, because sexual desire is inherently selfish. Storge, agape, and philo are all selfless, and there's no law against kindness.
I'm single and I can't stand it anymore. I don't see it as a gift anymore. I want to be married but I'm not just going to pick anyone. I'm tired of waiting 🥺😡
Hang in there from a 50+ year old! The worst is to be in a relationship at the wrong time!
Keep yourself busy with serving God and living the purpose He has for your life. Find things that you like to do in your spare time. The desire won't wear off, but at least you won't have the time to dwell on it. God knows desires of your heart and will fulfill them as long as you delight in Him. God bless.
It's like I'm taking it now more of a sorry to a curse rather than a blessing. All I do is wait, and wait and wait... I see everyone else getting married and I'm left with saying what about me God. I just had to speak my truth.
I keep myself busy and but I keep coming back to the thought. I don't want to be single anymore. I want to be in love and married. I know relationships take work.. but still I am single. I'm tired of it. 🤗
I'm 55 yrs old ... I know the bibles says I have waited on the and he's heard my cry and set my feet on a rock.. I get tired of being lonely. I'm not desperate just tired of waiting lol if that makes sense.. I
I still find it hard to believe that you didn't get married until you were 40 years old, just because you don't even look like fourty years old.
Exactly!!
Some are blessed with youthful looks 😁 as well as some take a more healthy approach to life than others 🙏🏻
45 yrs old and never married. Its hard because God knows the desire's of my heart but yet I'm still single.
Same, it seems harder when your a woman because we can’t do the searching or asking lol. But in Gods timing, praying for women like us.
@@ladybird2356 Yes all in Gods timing! Amen!
Ditto
Same here. But I know God has a plan for me. Maybe marriage is not part of it.
@@ladybird2356 Women can at least make sure they are out there, and reasonably accessible. A man who doesn't know you can't pursue you. A man who has not access to you can't pursue you. It is necessary to participate to social activities where the kind of men you are praying might attend. While there, be friendly. No need to act desperate or seductively, just be nice to everyone, women included, and leave the rest to God.
Single and struggling! But I'm thankful that self-control is a part of the fruit of the Spirit. I've noticed as I get older I'm having to rely on Him more and more everyday in this area and am thankful to know that I'm not alone! Thanks for this video brother Allen!
When I was younger I couldn't imagine anyone wanting the gift of celibacy. But now that I'm a widow, I'm so glad I have it. I'm not suffering the drama that comes with starting a new relationship. I sleep peacefully at night, not tossing and turning and crying about what I'm missing. I just wish my Christian friends would stop questioning my decision not to re-marry and let me enjoy this gift from God.
I'm still single and still waiting for the right person from the Lord 🙏🏼😇
The focus should be on becoming the right person for someone. There are a lot of Christians waiting for the right person but when you take their life objectively you realize that their "right person" would want nothing to do with them as they are now. We have our part to play. God bless you.
Great video. But sort of hard if your woman because we can’t look for a husband. We have to wait to be found. This can be a very long process unfortunately
Yes. Was wondering what the advice is for us
There’s no such thing as “the right one”. Every person probably has 2-3 “eligible” marriage candidates in their life, they just “don’t want them”. This is typically because they don’t find the person all that physically attractive. This is the problem with modern day relationships. There too much emphasis on the physical and not enough on the stuff that matters. No one marries anyone from their friend group, which is mind-blowing to me. Like, I would want to be friends with my future spouse before I got involved romantically, because I want to see them as a person before feelings and all get involved. Also, if I choose to have someone in my life for a few years as a friend, then that means they’re probably a good person that I enjoy being around. 2 qualities I want in a spouse.
Also, and I’m gonna get a bunch of hate for this part, but that passage from Paul is the ONLY place in the Bible that says it’s better to be single. From the very beginning of time God points out that singleness isn’t good, that’s why he made Eve for Adam. Don’t fall into the “gift of singleness” trap. Sure, don’t get all kinds of depressed if you are single, but also stop acting like your chance will never come. Go do something to meet people your age and ask a girl/guy out if you’re lonely. Visit a local church, attend a community event, etc. Or, look at your friend group at some of the people you may be overlooking. God made you to be in relationship with others. Don’t let 1 verse hold you up, read the rest of your Bible and see that that 1 verse is an outlier
That passage doesn't say "it's better to be single." That's a half-read of the passage. It says it's better IF you can control yourself. Most of us can't and God knows this of course, which is why it's clearly better for the vast majority of us to marry. No one has set a "gift of singleness" trap. That's just you half reading and half interpreting the passage and creating a straw man argument. You mean well but accuracy is important.
This comment is fire lol.
People should not be shallow
But people shouldn’t kid themselves either.
It’s important that you have some level of attraction to your spouse. Balance is key in life!
@@EmmyFrankGoodin yes, and that is the ONLY place it says that in the Bible. Woman was made for man, so the baseline is that Man should be with women. I’m not going to get into my take on that passage, but it’s definitely not Allen Parrs take. I think it’s a lot closer to when Jesus says things like “Be perfect just as my Father is perfect”. In other words, as a human, you CANNOT NOT burn with passion. It’s engrained into your DNA. It’s your nature. It’s like when Paul says “to live is Christ, to die is gain”. Yes, heaven and eternity is better than life in Earth will ever be, but it also doesn’t mean you should go off yourself. Marriage is the rule, singleness is the exception. There’s a reason that marriage is talked about so highly in the Bible, it’s because it’s something we should all strive for. It’s a representation of God’s relationship with the church. Sure, it would be better if we didn’t need it and could rest solely on God, but we can’t because we are sinful. I also think this was one of Paul’s “I’m better than you” moments that you see throughout his letters.
Also, that “clarification” is pointless. It’s like saying “the Bible doesn’t say it’s better to be able to talk, it says it’s better IF you can control your tongue”. Obviously it’s only better if you can keep from sinning, but that better is the STANDARD.
Okay then why didn’t Paul say unless you’re cute pleasing to the eyes it’s better too marry than burn with passion? See how that adds too the Bible? It says it’s better too marry than too burn with passion.
The message is good but I can't watch the whole video because of sex representational photos included. For example at 4.22
This is right on time for me. Single and struggling with myself and only myself. 😂
I think for all of us
How long have you been “single” 🤣 I was gonna try and encourage you (it can’t be as bad as me or as long as me) 🤣
Praying for the Lord will bring you the right person.
I an single man looking for a right woman
@@sweetman5249 same
I haven't even met one Christian man who truly believes fornication is a problem. Seems like most having sex outside marriage. The divorce thing is a joke, does anyone head back to the one they divorced? Very few. I don't agree that abuse returns u back
I'm sorry where does it say in scripture that a woman cannot pursue a man? You are reading your own traditions into the text. Ever heard of the song of Soloman? The woman in that book did a lot of pursuing let me tell you.
I want to get married because it’s always been a dream of mine to have children and a husband. It was never about sex until I hit 30, 3 years ago. Now I’m getting more impatient and it sucks. I don’t want prayers for patience I just want a family. Sometimes it’s about family. I’m bitter and angry because women are having abortions and I don’t want to end up alone and content that I never had a family while they are doing those things more than just once. I don’t want to be an old lady / woman resentful that I never had an attractive, intelligent, wealthy man that will love me but NEVER meet those men. I feel punished. I don’t even want to live anymore. What’s the point I’m 33 not meeting anyone. If I felt I should give up and be single no kids, then it wouldn’t be on my heart to have that family. It angers me to my very core.
Appreciate the honesty. I understand the pain.
Wow. Can’t imagine why you’re single.
Maybe try not focusing on having a wealthy man, sometimes we have to wait because we need to change our mind set before God allow to meet the person he has for us. There are wonderful men out there who are hard working with money, but not necessarily wealthy…
Thank you for your honesty. Kristen. About ten years ago I found myself feeling the same way. Although God has not sent me a husband, He has drawn me closer to Himself by letting me share my honest feelings with Him and meeting me in my pain. Praying for you dear sister.
@@KC-TH-camName “God has not sent me a husband”. Wow that is sad to hear anyone say.
I've been happily
married for 20 + years and this was so good for me to listen to because it asks me to ask some very good questions about my relationship and where I need to do some work
Thank You Jesus for this ministry through Brother Allen and bless all of his days for the calling You have over Allen's life
Amen
Church has gone wild indeed in this video 😂 but this needs to be spoken about!! 🙌🏻🔥 it’s hard being a single these days with temptation legit EVERYWHERE 😅
Yeah i been single for years and am almost 30 never had sex am a virgin and yeah it is really tough in our world
That “burning desire is lust” you need to battle that first before you get married. I married due to burning desires “lust” and my whole life is being put back together by Jesus. Don’t even do it, let the Lord heal you first.
Thanks so much for this video. I was really really really, did I say really struggling with this SIN for years even though I’ve been a Christian all my life. I’m in a much better place now and I am now celibate and loving it. It took a lot of prayer and basically me failing at every relationship I’ve ever been in. I’m still somewhat attractive and I’m a single mother of two very handsome teenage boys but have no desire to be in another relationship and for me that has to be God, I couldn’t do that in my own strength. If it is the Father’s will for me to be married he’ll basically have to come to me and say to me Marsha it’s ok, I give you my approval… lol. Thanks again though.
You'll never attract your spouse on the long term if you give her the feeling that you use her to fill your sexual desires. The worst reason to look for somebody... Never go into a reationship with the question of what you'll get in it without the more important question of what you're ready to bring into it. If you're not ready to live in sacrificial love, don't get married !
No, I am not going to get married just so I can have sex. That's dumb.
I'm 40 years old and a virgin, I struggle with sexual urges all the time, but I'm currently not working and have been trying to get on disability. I've spent 7 years trying to get on disability, but to no success, so I'm trying to learn how to do web development and if I can I'll try to start working. I would love to have a partner in life, but I remember how I was when I was younger, I burned so much with passion I couldn't keep my hands off the women I got with. I don't know what to do and its very frustrating. I also have gotten addicted to pornography and pleasuring myself, and I find that I get back into it after a long time of not doing it. I'm just a mess, but with God, I'll overcome this!
It took long but when God led me this I saw it now. That struggle stems from selfishness and pride, we are to repent( that is change your way of thinking) and fear and honor God.
Hi Brandon thanks for sharing your story. Change comes from within and we all have that thorn in our sides but God's grace is sufficient for us. Yes I know sometimes easier said than done however you have to make that effort to change. You can't clean out your house and leave it empty. Find other hobbies, create new habits, read a book, the bible, start a journal, take a walk, go to the park, join a club, volunteer. If you belong to a church group get involved. Most importantly be honest with yourself, forgive yourself, love yourself. God's Blessings
I'm a 22 year old college graduate who's never had sex before marriage or been in a relationship even in college or high school out of personal experience with many modern Women that was unpleasant and nothing I needed in my life.
FACTS marriage isn't about sex it's about intimacy, procreating children and trusting each other. AMEN and God bless brother Allen Parr's ministry for your Christ centered and Scripturally accurate content for the furtherance of The Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ 🙏❤️👊. I'm glad I haven't had sex before marriage because fornication and pornography leads to adultery when married ☺️. Getting a goodnight sleep after a long day of working as a teacher's assistant, biochemist and sociology professor is what takes up my time after doing Christian Apologetics and making video edits on comics and pop culture. In this world we all have worries due to pain brought in Life from natural disasters, fears and stress fueled by nothing but the moral depravity of humanity. It's heartbreaking and unpleasant but TRUE.
ATHEISM AIN'T GOT NOTHING NEW OR BETTER TO OFFER THAN THE VERY RELIGIOUS BELIEFS THEY'RE CRITICAL OF SO IT'S HYPOCRISY AT IT'S FINEST 😂. Hello this is for all you Atheists, unbelievers and skeptics. I'm going to address a few misconceptions and lies about God's Character and His Word. The Bible doesn't support chattel slavery or anything else Immoral. Ok so Atheists and unbelievers say God is either Immoral, incompetent or not responsible so let's see what The Scriptures actually say. God revealed himself and created a nation in a real, historical context. It was a world with a slave-based economy, with city states often at war with each other, with polygamous marriages to ensure the continuation of family lines. The laws of the Old Testament regulate this behaviour. Slaves are to be treated humanely (Exodus 21:11). They are given rights and not seen as mere possessions. Hebrew slaves were able to buy their own freedom. Human trafficking is condemned (Exodus 21:16). In contrast to the law code of Babylon, Old Testament Israel was a light to the nations. The Old Testament law and narratives do not stand alone. Jesus is now the best example of what we read. So the moral teaching of the Bible cannot be summarised by a quote taken out of context from the Old Testament to demonize God and His Word. Slavery was permitted in Old Testament law but it was regulated by God giving the Israelites instructions on how to fairly and humanely treat their slaves (it was like indentured servitude where someone could work for you if they owed debts or needed income not cruel like chattel slavery). God allowed the people of Israel to own slaves since they themselves has already experienced over 400 years of generations of Egyptian slavery and knew how inhumane it was to be beaten, overworked and taxed so God set them apart from other nations and cultures around them by giving them a fair way to treat their slaves since slavery had already existed in the world but it doesn't mean God condoned it just used it for His Will to bring Good And in the light of the whole scriptural teaching, we find the reasons for its ultimate abolition (Ephesians 6:9; Colossians 4:1-3; Philemon 15-16 and Galatians 3:28). The Word of God provided the moral standard against slavery in the Roman Empire and against the slave trade in the New World.
But what of genocide or holy war in the book of Joshua? Several things could be pointed out. The use of warfare in the ancient world did not always mean literal total destruction, even when events are described in such terms. Furthermore, the book of Joshua does not describe a genocide. It is not a race who are being wiped out, as in genocide, but a religious practice which was often appalling and degrading. Those who repent (like Rahab from Jericho or Ruth) are not destroyed but become part of Israel. It is not the racial group that is in view but their "detestable practices".
However, after all is said, we must still acknowledge that God brought judgment on the nations of Canaan. It is not our place as believers isn't to sugar-coat the Bible. For some skeptics, this is enough to make God a moral monster. But the fact is that Jesus continued to affirm that God is a Judge who will bring a future judgment on all peoples and all nations. God’s judgment will be just. The list of Old Testament stories rejected by critics often leads to a similar dismissal of the New Testament teaching of Jesus on the existence of hell.
After all, what was the Flood of Genesis or the conquest of Joshua if not a glimpse of future judgment? Hell does not demonstrate cruelty on God’s part, but it does demonstrate His Holiness and our moral accountability. Perhaps this is the real reason many people rail against the God of the Bible? It is not that they think He is a moral monster, but that they are afraid He is a moral Judge, and that has implications for our behaviour now. God is an Eternal Almighty Spirit Being and we as His creatures have Eternal souls and spirits so the punishment for our sins against Him must therefore also be Eternal but so must the reward for righteousness that's why He sent His Son Jesus to live a perfectly righteous and sinless Life (which none of us could ever possibly expect to do) suffer the humiliating and torturous death of crucifixion to shed His Own Blood willingly so that all who willingly accept His gift of salvation by grace through faith in Him will be saved and given Eternal life because that's what God wants is for us to willingly accept His gift of salvation and choose life. Exodus 21:20-21 literally speaks about capital punishment befalling anyone who mistreats their slaves so yes people are taking Scripture out of context to demonize God who literally promises that slaves who are mistreated under someone else's authority is to be avenged. When we hear the word “slavery” we think of innocent human beings, kept prisoner for life, having no rights under law and so reduced to animals. This is clearly immoral because it is unjust: the slave has done nothing to deserve the treatment.
The situation described as “slavery” in the Bible was nothing like this. It is more accurately described as one of indentured servitude. Many “slaves” were indentured servants, working for a term of years
Some other “slaves” were prisoners. There were no prisons. Prisoners had to work to live like everyone else. Some had life sentences. Some served a term and were released.
People didn't beat their good slaves but treated them well and protected their assets thus.
But no matter how rebellious a slave was, you couldn't just beat them to death. And if you knocked out their tooth or damaged their eye then you had to set them free. (Exodus 21:26). God wasn't using what other nations did because He wanted to set His Chosen People of Israel apart from the cruel, inhumane and unjust systems other cultures had so He gave them a fair way to treat their slaves and servants.
There is a lot of ignorance on this topic which is understandable given the age we live in but it's not the nefarious set up we think of when we think of modern slavery. The question Atheists must ask themselves is how come the Jews aren't being accused of slavery and human trafficking if they're guilty of it in The Bible and why would white slave owners rip out pages from The Old and New Testament Scriptures to justify their owning blacks as slaves if The Bible already justified slavery?
This is one difficult struggle. I’m a 33 going on 34 single man who works two jobs and has a youth ministry and music ministry at a church that is primarily not my age.
I’m good at my being single, but there’s definitely desires there. I’ve made poor decisions at times as a Christian in this area, luckily by the grace I’ve God He’s in process of redeeming and sanctifying me as I’m praying and seeing who if anyone God has for me.
This is encouraging though. Thank you.
@Sean Austin
The Bible says he that findeth a wife finderh a good thing.
Maybe you need to get away and alone wirh God and seek the Lord for your desires to have a Godly spouse and look to find her.
There are plenty of Godly women who want a Godly man. Aren't You suppose to find her using God's guidance?
Don't use women or string them along.
Marry her.
@@paulettepoole5476 I appreciate the encouragement.
Hi Sean
@@kayleencoward2442 hello?
Is the 'single gift' ASEXUALITY?
Just because u get married doesn’t mean u get sex all the time, that’s just not reality
Its pretty sad when the previous partners got the most.
Concerning the issue of 'it's better to marry than burn with lust', I have spent most of my adult life praying for a wife or a fire truck..
😂
This kind of thinking is why my mom and aunts weren't allowed to date for very long back in the 70s. My grandaddy was the pastor so the dating was brief and the engagement was brief too. They pushed folks to get married really quickly. My parents met in February, got engaged in April, and were married in June all in the same year! I was born the next year and 13 years later they were divorced. We can't force people into marriage.
you're missing the point. Nobody with a brain is forcing anyone to rush to marriage
Good Morning Allen ! Yess this is the one right here ! It is much more normal in todays times to just freely do it with whomever you want whenever you want and its totally fine. I didnt grow up in a home where Celibacy was even mentioned, so i had a few test runs before my marriage ! Now its our time to break that generational curse and let our children know about this ! Ima say it EVERY time you drop a new video *I LOVE THIS SERIES !* God Bless You Brother Parr ! 💞 Have a wonderful weekend ! 💞
I swore I was called to singleness. I loved being single and serving the LORD. and bc I was abstinent my whole life and refrained from dating I was so very ready to walk the single LINE FOR Forever. I didn't desire marriage. I think ppl burn with lust bc they date. It's hard to date a long time and be attracted to someone and not desire more physically. It's why I 100% don't recommend dating unless you are in a season of being prepared for marriage. Also guard your heart and mind. Ppl thought I was very astringent but I didn't listen to foul music nor did I watch movies with sex scenes. I controlled my speech aa well. I had a lot of friends who used sex toys and they thought that would hold them over. ... all you're doing is waking up desires. Put em to sleep and under the control of the LORD. every captive thought.
At the end of the day we will never get rid of our sexual and burning desires, even if you try not to look at the opposite sex. With that said, I think your other point is the core issue now days (especially for men); way too many christian men have turned to masturbation to cope with not having premarital sex, and that will completely wreck your ability to stay unaroused.
Sadly, many don't view that as an issue worth worrying about until it is way too late, and yes, I do feel there is a point where your mind can be so warped by porn and the act of masturbation, that you will never be an eligible candidate for marriage, especially as a christian.
@@someone-ji2zb I had no burning sexual desires. I don't know the etymology of ", burning" in the scriptures but i always sensed it meant so overwhelming one can't deal. We are sexual beings for sure. Lust is a sin we all commit with our eyes many times. But The Bible tells us to flee youthful lust and let it not once be named among you. I guarded my heart and my mind and I can assure you there was no burning. Lol
I do think that that was curved by 1) seeking righteousness. Prayer scripture loving the Lord.
2) I was vigilant against images. I didn't watch porn and I was very careful what I watched and listened to..i.e Rihanna had a song called "Sex with me" catchy tune. I realized listening that I had no business. Took it off my Playlist
3) be careful with dating. Make sure the person your with had the same conviction and have boundaries.
We kill the flesh daily. And with sexual sin you gotta murder it!
Brother Allan, being single till your 40s? I seriously can't do that I'm 22 single I'm burning with lust, it's incredibly hard ... I don't go to church in months, because I haven't found a proper church to go to... Plus I'm thinking of getting married outside of my country... Maybe I'll go to South America or Asia for a wife ...
Single and strangling
When I was in my 20s, I married a woman that I didn't love for the purpose of sex. I can personally testify that this is NOT the answer. My marriage was absolutely miserable and it ended in divorce. I beg and plead with all young Christian men and women: WAIT for God and WAIT for the right person. Waiting always pays off when it is blessed by God. His plan is always better than our plan. Purity may be hard, but it is far better than entering marriage with the wrong person just so you can have sex. You will quickly realize how little sex you actually end up having in a bad marriage that is not founded in love and respect for one another. If you are struggling to stay pure while waiting, talk to your pastor or other men at your church to keep you accountable.
I needed this video
If I might share wisdom, it’s this:
1 Corinthians 7 is clear. You have to throw out all of your pre conceived ideas because the call is bigger than you think. Paul says to marry if your burning BECAUSE the end of all things is near. He adds how we shouldn’t have any dealings with the world, how we should live as if we’re not married or to not weep if you are at this said time [im quoting parts from the end of the chapter], to not rejoice if you are and so on, all to ultimately sums up his points by saying:
“the time has been shortened” [v29] and, “the form of this world is passing away.” [v31].
He’s drawing the reader to understand that we want to be LIKE those who are “free from concern”, and who seek to “please the LORD” and not their spouses. How one “may be holy both in body and spirit” and not divided. His desire is for us to “to secure undistracted devotion to the Lord.” So because of immoralities, because “each man has his own gift from God”, and because it’s harder for some to now practice self control, it’s Paul calling the communities to practice such a radical measure that goes so against the grain of how we think we should date or marry or find “the one”, or even take time for engagement or planning of weddings for all the family to see “at the best time”, solely for the sake of righteousness- to fulfill all righteousness and not be distracted with the burning passions of the flesh that go unfulfilled, or acting in a manner that transgresses the commandments of God.
To the couple who marries in this way, it should be not for the sake of lust, but rather because lust is waging war with ones ability to hold fast the commands of God. So you should see then marriage as not a dating venture, but as a Gods given grace to you FOR purity.
[Also, I did this, and me and my beloved wife are living in light of eternity, waiting for the Kingdom of Messiah, so it’s true that the person shouldn’t be any one right off the street or from your past whom you know is not a believer- my advice would be to test each other. Be upfront about your desire to be obedient to the commands of God, and your looking for a partner to help you in a way that no one else can as you both see yourselves as sojourners. For my marriage, we didn’t need all these points Parr brought up, IN LIGHT of living out 1 Corinthians 7 because we both had the same goal- to go up to the mountain of the LORD, to the God of Jacob, to be students of Messiah and walk in His paths. For the Law comes forth from Zion and the word of the LORD from Jerusalem. It’s from that conviction, that marrying in light of eternity made much sense where we wasn’t checking off criteria on how to please each other or how we can by our interests as Paul was advising not to do. I do believe in being equally yoked, so again I’m not saying marry anyone. But if you both are very mature in the faith, not looking to play church but truly sojourn with the people of God, and imitate the faith of those from Hebrews 11, then I’d advise this for you.]
going on 39 haven't had sex yet, so it's been easy, I don't drink so I'm not into the bar seen plus I live a small town MOSTLY old people.
I can't drive, plus disabled.
So NO woman will want to be with me.
Are you physically attracted to them? This point is very important, I am always being told it doesn't matter as I should only be spiritually attracted. I know for sure that this is not true. I watched a lot of marriages; especially Christian marriages fail because they had no attraction to each other. Sometimes in the church, we are seen as bad people for not being attracted to the who they try to force us to date in the church. I was considered offensive for sharing that I want an attractive husband as I know I take care of myself and would want someone I find attractive. (I also face the challenge of being looked down upon because I like to date outside of my ethnicity. Oh well…)
Do I enjoy their company? Am I able to be vulnerable? What is their character? What is their calling? This where I struggle as it is hard to find men of God with the same passion and desire for God as myself. Sadly, there are hardly any men in the church. Some people get too religious and show no love or empathy in the home but acts concern and holy at church. Many times, the husbandly and wifely duties are not balanced because they are only focused on the ministry. Very powerful points! I’m still prayerful for my husband as the journey is not easy but I know it’s worth it.
This is a bit lengthy in response but apparently what takes about 90 seconds speaking, takes several... several paragraphs being written out - please pardon the length and any speech-to-text typos, lol!!
Ok.
Whereas I commend you on the sheer gall to take it to the next level on a topic like this which [as you share] can be mired in subjectivity… most pastors would kick this down the road for fear of their own spouses' reactions... which is a whole other topic by itself. I had to go back and redress a particular statement you made with a degree of certainty that left a question mark...
In respectful dissent.
My thoughts are because you mentioned that you supposed [as a process] was biblical, turns out [this issue] you don't find in the scriptures anywhere… nor even expressed culturally through scripture - that [is] to say, a man is supposed to pursue a woman in relationship, but you do find it in modern culture.
This isn't necessarily a good thing.
Again, paraphrasing, you don't see men as a normative in scripture nor is it laid out anywhere as a doctrine that a man has to pursue a woman in relationship. We see this as a cultural expression quite contemporaneously, but micro to macro, there's a reason why you don't in scripture through symbolism to an extent is... everything.
If memory serves… there are only a handful of instances in scripture where a man specifically went after a woman but not necessarily as a matrimonial pursuit, even if you include Hosea.
- Jacob and Rachel: That patrimony of the 12 tribes in which Jesus' line would enter time, history, and posterity.
- Samson and Delilah... which was disqualified as a pursuit on the onset he was seeking an occasion to humble the Philistines
- David and Abigail... God paired him with a woman in the exact same situation she was in, an environment she wasn’t thrilled with, meaning she understood David's situation with Saul, that was pure grace.
- David and Bathsheba [the sin of his sexual lust was passed to Solomon and Amnon - the rest is history as they say]
- Xerxes and Hadassa [Esther] but he didn't pursue her, he fired a queen for insubordination [note not to dismiss that premise] and followed counsel to replace her… that’s not a pursuit, that was an adjudication.
- Hosea was told by God to marry a prostitute, which does not qualify as a pursuit but [more] an act of obedience.
- Jesus and the bride of Christ [the church], he isn't chasing us he's waiting for us to make a decision for him and stick to it, which are the lessons of the epistles. It is man in his carnal state who must make a decision for Him, turn in His direction [repent... change of direction in pursuit] to be justified [reconciled into relationship] and pursue relationship as a living member of the bride of Christ who must believe in her heart, and profess with her lips and then be bathed [baptism] as a public profession of her acceptance of commitment.
- Israel and their relationship with God, when Israel as a people turned to other gods, scripture refers to it as “whoring after other gods”
Those are just a few examples... but in Genesis 2:5-6, the Lord establishes his purpose for man, and created man first to be responsible for who would follow to be responsible for... and put him to work, the term "husbandry" or husbandman [as it related to the topic] is the management of landscaping… and that stands to reason because God placed man in a garden, his job was to maintain [lay claim] and cultivate [subdue] it to make provision from the resources God put in it.
It was only when man was working and doing what God created him for did he discover, later in chapter 2 that there was not a comparable mate found for him [Gen. 2:19-20]. So there we can see how the Lord intends man to discover what kind of companion is going to work for him, and this did not happen until he did - in short, be about productive business showing you can take care of what God provides you in a spouse... when he sees you're ready [I Tim 5:8]
God is serious about a man's role in providing not just for his current family, but the welfare of his children's children,,, so much so, He tells us what He thinks about a man who doesn't in the aforementioned verse - God is a generational God and seeks after the good of all those whom he allowed to be created. If we did it God's way... we would have the perversion of government we have today.
The union of marriage man has worked itself way out of design from with the Lord originally had intended. If you want to really extrapolate the relationship between man and woman and matrimony the way God kinda has it laid out in scripture, it is difficult to exegete scripture in Genesis 2 and not walk away that he intended to have more of an employer/employee relationship, as it connotes and defines a clear purpose in the 1st. Commission [e.g. the first purpose of mankind]:
1. To take Dominion, meaning to lay claim too
2. To subdue, meaning to cultivate and gain the benefit of what you claimed [based your giftings and purpose]
3. Replenish, meaning to procreate to appropriate as many hands on deck as needed to accomplish the mission God has set before him, micro to macro.
Of the three applications, two were designed for man, God... who man made responsible. Who he [then] made responsible he gave giftings to aid in that responsibility. He created woman to support and aid man in his responsibility. Now as a matter of clarity... God doesn't deal in equality, he deals in purpose and he deals in clarity and order [1 Cor 14:33 - I Cor 14:60 ] there are roles and responsibilities for a reason to help accomplish His will... and were never intended to usurp His plan for us corporately.
P.S. there is a part II to this post but I just wanted to get the main gist out there - spoken not to incite or to be antagonistic - but as iron sharpening iron.
Blessings
Heading to 50 in 2.5 years and still a single Christian. Been a Christian for 29 years now. I’m sad that I won’t be a wife and mother.😢 Here’s to a soon-to-be 50 old virgin
I know the Apostle Paul recommended that a man & woman should marry if they cannot wait, to avoid burning with lust. With all due respect to him, I strongly disagree. It takes more that legal sex to make a marriage work, & undertaking such a crucial lifelong committment because a couple can't wait to have legitimate sex is immature & irresponsible & shouldn't be marrying for those very reasons. Thay's my 2 cents.
So I took notes for this topic because it will help a lot of single men or women out there. Thank you brother!
5 Essential Qualities to Look for in a Mate
1. Chemistry
Am I physically attracted to this person?
2. Companionship
Do I enjoy their company?
Am I able to be myself around them?
Am I able to be vulnerable and transparent around them?
Do we have common interests?
Do we have enjoyable, meaningful and deep conversations?
3. Character
Does this person have godly Christ-like character?
Are they a person of integrity?
How do they treat people?
Are they honest?
4. Calling
Does their calling in their lives align with yours?
5. Community
Does my spiritual community feel we are a good match for each other?
Do we even have a godly community involved in our relationship?
After reading all this, should you even get married at all?
3 Essential questions single must ask whether or not you should even get married.
How much self-control can I exercise as a single person while I'm waiting?
How can I be INTENTIONAL (men) about finding the right person to marry?
When I marry, am I ready to stay married for life?
I married my husband for love, we just celebrated our 30yrs together. I know in my heart that if my husband passed away before me (GOD FORBID), I would never love or marry again. In Christ I believe, Amen.
Marriage has nothing to do with sex. And sex should have nothing to do with pleasure or desire anyway. But we're human and good luck with that one.... But if you wanna ask God, that's what the deal is lol.
Where are all the Christian women?
Great video! First and foremost, thank you for saying that it's okay to be single. The other day, I was just reading a Facebook post about how the Church often rushes women to get married. (Find your Boaz/kingdom spouse in 6 months! Guaranteed! *eyeroll*) Thankfully, my current church home doesn't make me feel that I need to get married before the 2024 election. Secondly, thank you also for saying that physical attraction matters with men AND women. In the future, I don't want to wake up next to my husband and be horrified. I also want to add that if people are getting married just to have sex, then they should get counseling. I learned from married family members and friends that marriage is more than just having sex. I do desire a husband to share my life with, but I feel that I'm not in a rush because my life is full as it is (with my relationship with God, family - I have no children, work, business, ministry, friends, self-care). I just believe God that I will get married on His timing.
Sexual desire should motivate you to get married but it shouldn’t be your only purpose.
God tells us to seek his kingdom and righteousness FIRST.
It is Not better to marry than to burn. It is better to exercise that 9th fruit of the Spirit "self control " then marry. Alot of Christian men are marrying because of that verse and because they were not set free and delivered from sexual sin, they carry these marine spirits into their marriage and make their wives who have to submit to them, very unhappy.
I am divorced. I was in a abusive relationship. I am practicing semen retention and hopefully I can find a good wife. I do burn with sexual desire but I know I can’t rush it.
single and not completely liking it. But surprised and glad that somebody like Allen understands that seeking and finding a potential relationship that leads to or could lead to marriage isn't as easy as going shopping for groceries, clothes or a new tv. I feel like Paul pretty much says if you don't have the gift of celibacy then get married as if it was just that easy as shopping and not considering other factors except don't marry an unbeliever.
Fornication today is sickning. Keep your body pure. Temple.
I want to tell you I appreciate your videos on the topic of sex. I’m single and a Christian…..And a man..lol. It’s very difficult for me almost every day. I’ve been single since 2017 because God hasn’t shown me the woman He wants me with yet. These videos really help me. So thank you.
@@Tirah-p2r ummmm WHAT?? I’m just sitting here wondering how someone can see a positive comment such as mine and apparently find so many things wrong with it. I just read your other comments associated with this channel and they’re negative. Not only are they negative but you are talking negatively about Allen Parr. If you don’t like what this man says, then why are you still watching his videos. Let me guess, you don’t watch the videos, you just troll him and leave negative comments. I wouldn’t be surprised. By the way, most of your reply to my comment doesn’t even make sense. Hope your day gets better. Keep your head up.
@@sully7211 what Tarah is saying is that you shouldnt be expecting your spouse to just appear at your door. Rather, as a man, you should be going out there and actively be trying to find a woman to marry
@@apracity7672 When did I ever say I wasn’t out there trying to find a woman??? I said God hasn’t showed me the woman He wants me with. What are y’all talking about?? Lol. Goodness
@@Tirah-p2r After talking to you. I PRAISE the Lord in Heaven that I am single. Thank you Jesus
SAME HERE DUDE 😊. I'm a 22 year old college graduate who's never had sex before marriage or been in a relationship even in college or high school out of personal experience with many modern Women that was unpleasant and nothing I needed in my life.
FACTS marriage isn't about sex it's about intimacy, procreating children and trusting each other. AMEN and God bless brother Allen Parr ministry I'm glad I don't have sex before marriage because fornication and pornography leads to adultery when married ☺️. Getting a goodnight sleep after a long day of working as a teacher's assistant, biochemist and sociology professor is what takes up my time after doing Christian Apologetics and making video edits on comics and pop culture. In this world we all have worries due to pain brought in Life from natural disasters, fears and stress fueled by nothing but the moral depravity of humanity. It's heartbreaking and unpleasant but TRUE.
ATHEISM AIN'T GOT NOTHING NEW OR BETTER TO OFFER THAN THE VERY RELIGIOUS BELIEFS THEY'RE CRITICAL OF SO IT'S HYPOCRISY AT IT'S FINEST 😂. Hello this is for all you Atheists, unbelievers and skeptics. I'm going to address a few misconceptions and lies about God's Character and His Word. The Bible doesn't support chattel slavery or anything else Immoral. Ok so Atheists and unbelievers say God is either Immoral, incompetent or not responsible so let's see what The Scriptures actually say. God revealed himself and created a nation in a real, historical context. It was a world with a slave-based economy, with city states often at war with each other, with polygamous marriages to ensure the continuation of family lines. The laws of the Old Testament regulate this behaviour. Slaves are to be treated humanely (Exodus 21:11). They are given rights and not seen as mere possessions. Hebrew slaves were able to buy their own freedom. Human trafficking is condemned (Exodus 21:16). In contrast to the law code of Babylon, Old Testament Israel was a light to the nations. The Old Testament law and narratives do not stand alone. Jesus is now the best example of what we read. So the moral teaching of the Bible cannot be summarised by a quote taken out of context from the Old Testament to demonize God and His Word. Slavery was permitted in Old Testament law but it was regulated by God giving the Israelites instructions on how to fairly and humanely treat their slaves (it was like indentured servitude where someone could work for you if they owed debts or needed income not cruel like chattel slavery). God allowed the people of Israel to own slaves since they themselves has already experienced over 400 years of generations of Egyptian slavery and knew how inhumane it was to be beaten, overworked and taxed so God set them apart from other nations and cultures around them by giving them a fair way to treat their slaves since slavery had already existed in the world but it doesn't mean God condoned it just used it for His Will to bring Good And in the light of the whole scriptural teaching, we find the reasons for its ultimate abolition (Ephesians 6:9; Colossians 4:1-3; Philemon 15-16 and Galatians 3:28). The Word of God provided the moral standard against slavery in the Roman Empire and against the slave trade in the New World.
But what of genocide or holy war in the book of Joshua? Several things could be pointed out. The use of warfare in the ancient world did not always mean literal total destruction, even when events are described in such terms. Furthermore, the book of Joshua does not describe a genocide. It is not a race who are being wiped out, as in genocide, but a religious practice which was often appalling and degrading. Those who repent (like Rahab from Jericho or Ruth) are not destroyed but become part of Israel. It is not the racial group that is in view but their "detestable practices".
However, after all is said, we must still acknowledge that God brought judgment on the nations of Canaan. It is not our place as believers isn't to sugar-coat the Bible. For some skeptics, this is enough to make God a moral monster. But the fact is that Jesus continued to affirm that God is a Judge who will bring a future judgment on all peoples and all nations. God’s judgment will be just. The list of Old Testament stories rejected by critics often leads to a similar dismissal of the New Testament teaching of Jesus on the existence of hell.
After all, what was the Flood of Genesis or the conquest of Joshua if not a glimpse of future judgment? Hell does not demonstrate cruelty on God’s part, but it does demonstrate His Holiness and our moral accountability. Perhaps this is the real reason many people rail against the God of the Bible? It is not that they think He is a moral monster, but that they are afraid He is a moral Judge, and that has implications for our behaviour now. God is an Eternal Almighty Spirit Being and we as His creatures have Eternal souls and spirits so the punishment for our sins against Him must therefore also be Eternal but so must the reward for righteousness that's why He sent His Son Jesus to live a perfectly righteous and sinless Life (which none of us could ever possibly expect to do) suffer the humiliating and torturous death of crucifixion to shed His Own Blood willingly so that all who willingly accept His gift of salvation by grace through faith in Him will be saved and given Eternal life because that's what God wants is for us to willingly accept His gift of salvation and choose life. Exodus 21:20-21 literally speaks about capital punishment befalling anyone who mistreats their slaves so yes people are taking Scripture out of context to demonize God who literally promises that slaves who are mistreated under someone else's authority is to be avenged. When we hear the word “slavery” we think of innocent human beings, kept prisoner for life, having no rights under law and so reduced to animals. This is clearly immoral because it is unjust: the slave has done nothing to deserve the treatment.
The situation described as “slavery” in the Bible was nothing like this. It is more accurately described as one of indentured servitude. Many “slaves” were indentured servants, working for a term of years
Some other “slaves” were prisoners. There were no prisons. Prisoners had to work to live like everyone else. Some had life sentences. Some served a term and were released.
People didn't beat their good slaves but treated them well and protected their assets thus.
But no matter how rebellious a slave was, you couldn't just beat them to death. And if you knocked out their tooth or damaged their eye then you had to set them free. (Exodus 21:26). God wasn't using what other nations did because He wanted to set His Chosen People of Israel apart from the cruel, inhumane and unjust systems other cultures had so He gave them a fair way to treat their slaves and servants.
There is a lot of ignorance on this topic which is understandable given the age we live in but it's not the nefarious set up we think of when we think of modern slavery. The question Atheists must ask themselves is how come the Jews aren't being accused of slavery and human trafficking if they're guilty of it in The Bible and why would white slave owners rip out pages from The Old and New Testament Scriptures to justify their owning blacks as slaves if The Bible already justified slavery?
There wasn't really a need for the icon with the dress being pulled off right? I don't think we needed to see that to get the point. 🤔
I’m 46 and single, not always lived my life as a Christian even though I became a Christian at 14, yep, I fell away for a long time, so yes, been in sexual relationships and had casual sex, and I know from experience why sex outside of a Godly marriage is a disaster, and every relationship I’ve been in brings out the worst in me, my insecurities etc, and I have major trust issues, as a kid I saw my mum cheat on my dad 👎🏻
I’d love to find a Godly woman whom I connect with and at my age, it’s not just for sexual intimacy, but companionship, but then I’m so convinced that Jesus is coming to take us out of here soon, I then think, what’s the point in trying to find a woman, and financially I’m not in a position to pay for a wedding 🤷🏻, I don’t mean to sound pessimistic, just being realistic 🙏🏻
The wedding could be small - focus on the marriage that will last longer! Blessings as you walk God's Path!🙏
@@rrnn6472 thanks and yes a small wedding for me personally is fine, but even small 1s ain’t cheap, cheers anyway 👍🏻🙏🏻
You don't need to have a big wedding. The Pastor and two witnesses that's it. We often times focus too much on the wedding and not the marriage. So many people have extravagant weddings and divorce after 6months. When you find someone who shares your values and respects you they won't care if you have a wedding with 4 guests or 75 :). Blessings and may God grant you with a godly wife.
Pastor flowers dug deep on this too... so definitely should check that out also
Single at 32, been abstaining from sex for 8 yrs and i’m feeling sexually frustrated. I don’t desire marriage right now and I would never get married just for sex. I dont want to look at my future husband as just an object. Its a frustrating position to be in!
Anyone else relate to this?
In their 30s can’t find someone mutually attractive (like that’s into you and your into) or you desire to date hopefully one day to marry ?
Everyone’s married 😂 has kids or is divorced. (Then If they aren’t your not into them?) Unfortunately for me I had many unforeseen set backs in my 20s (so I couldn’t take dating seriously knowing it was gonna be a long process).
Now I’m about to start my career and all of a sudden “the desire to marry and have kids is stronger than ever” I thought I lost that desire (I almost thought I’d never want to get married at this point) but turns out I do lol.
Anyone relate ?
Congrats on starting the career! I have a friend who is 40 and in that situation. I think we have to keep in mind that everybody's story is different. We weren't made to live cookie-cutter lives and all hit the same benchmarks at the same time. I've kept that in mind as I'm single/"in my 30's" and watching my siblings and my friends have kids that are getting older and older. 😌 And watching dear friends sadly get divorced.
@@musiciandeborah1854 thanks. I appreciate it. And right unfortunately most of the issues weren’t for me lacking in trying or not desiring to become (whatever) I worked hard to pay as I went (to college I didn’t want that debt over my families heads)
But now it feels like since everyone’s gotta jump up and marry someone I did something wrong. Dating is hard enough let alone 30 plus and trying to find the last decent person left (it seems obviously not true)
And yea ur right some people jump into marriage and it doesn’t work. Thats always sad no matter the reasoning. (My friends all are from another close by church all married inside their church) I had one girl my age in my little church (we were never compatible lol) That’s another big deal for me I want kids but don’t wanna rush bc of my age type of thing)
But ur totally right I wanted to be done with school at 22 and get experience save and get all adulting figured out before I married now I feel “rushed”
But life turned out way different than I planned.
And it’s kinda sad going to church or being apart of every one else’s “celebrations” and don’t even have nothing to be happy about or a relationship going. But it’s better than dating or marrying the wrong person for sure. Or having long term debt from college.
I wish you well finding the right person to date (if that’s what you want)
I hope we both find someone we are looking for haha. Bc I personally don’t wanna be single much longer (it’s been over 10 years bc of set backs sure I’ve talked to some but nothing stuck bc of my situation) lol
It's hard to find nowadays trustworthy and God fearing guys.. I'm 33 now and don't wanna cross 40 waiting..I know it's tough but God has a great plan for all of us.. surrounded with friends and family but still there's a loneliness within..
almost 38, and this is my experience, no christian ladies around.
@@falconiustallon yea most Christian females get married so young if you miss it it seems ur sitting around on ur own for a long while or forever unfortunately.
I haven’t seen any over the age of about 25 in about 6-7 years.
Not me looking like the first picture. It is well 😭
For me, the mere idea that my wife might be nothing more than a godly sex toy is completely disgusting. If that is the case, it won't be more satisfying than sinful outlets because you would still crave a deeper connection and companionship that sex alone can't bring.
People are often very concerned with whether you have sex with someone else or not but you can actually have a very deep intimacy with someone, enjoy their company a lot and love them deeply without having sex with that person. That will be cheating even if in front of mankind you might claim that you did nothing wrong.
May God help us.
I don't think most people want to get married anymore. They don't see the value in it including Christians. They get married to have sex, have someone who will help around the house, and help with the bills. That's about it. That's why people still have sex but don't get married. The number of people not getting married will increase but the number of people having sex will not decrease and I'm talking about Christians too. It was always meant to happen that way.
I know people don't want to hear this but you cant' "rid" yourself of natural desires. You can't. There is a reason you have those desires...those desires is what leads to procreation. It's very natural and to not be honest about that is problematic to me. I find the church behind on things like this. They shame people for things that are totally natural. I'm not saying people should be going out and having sex with people outside marriage. What I am saying is...stop the shaming. Stop making people feel bad about things that are natural. It helps no one and it's not a sin. That's all I ever hear is "this is a sin" and "that is a sin". What isn't a sin in Christianity? I'm totally serious at this point.
I have always considered myself a Christian, but I have found myself questioning everything these days. It bothers my spirit that I have so many issues. I feel no shame in my questioning...I'm more upset that I feel like most churches aren't honest with the people. I want to know the real details of how the Bible came to be and why all the changes. I know it's been translated over and over for a very long time. And my understanding is a lot of things were mistranslated and that's what I'm more interested in. My understanding is that several things that were taught as "sin" for decades were not actually sins at all. So...church leaders need to start being open about this. I'm feeling more lead to believe a lot of the "sins" were made up by church leaders to control the people of the times and not even about salvation at all. I'm going to continue to do my research.
Even though Paul tells the men that if they cannot contain themselves and keep their members under control, that it is better for them to get married then to burn in their lust, speaking as a woman, I would not want to be married to any man if that was the chief reason, or the only reason that they married me. I would not want to be chosen as the one that you want to USE to gratify your sexual lust. If that is all I am to you then I would rather stay single.
You forgot the most important part about finding a partner: find someone who is a Christian.
A Christian is someone who actually knows what love and commitment is, because it is the very thing that Jesus showed them. Creating a bucket list of criteria for a partner is a surefire way to have an unhappy marriage. But unlike us who create transactional relationships, God loves us even when we didn't deserve it, because love itself is something you cannot earn. It must be freely given expecting nothing in return. The only conditional aspects to marriage are sex and children. If someone cannot fulfil those things for you then you are better off staying friends.
Paul said marriage would be a headache for good reason. No matter who you marry, they are never going to be good enough for you. We are all imperfect and have many flaws. And God gives us the gift of marriage to teach us what it's like to love someone despite their flaws.
THE REAL AND RAGING BATTLE TO THE DEATH IN HEAVEN AND ON EARTH -
THE CREATOR and JESUS CHRIST
VS.
SATAN THE DEVIL and the ANTI-CHRISTS
ETERNAL DEATH FOR THE VANQUISHED -
All LIARS and hateful human beings who HATE the Creator and believe the LIES and UNBIBLICAL teachings and doctrines of the anti-Christs Teachers, Leaders, and Pastors of the Christians, Hindus, Muslims, Buddhists, etc. about "Armageddon", "Hellfire", "Trinity", "Rapture", and "Reincarnation" will just become worthless and useless dusts on earth forever after their deaths.
ETERNAL LIFE AND EXISTENCE ON EARTH FOR THE VICTORS -
All submissive and obedient human beings who honor and obey the Creator and believe the BIBLICAL teachings of Jesus Christ about the "Kingdom of God" and "Resurrection of the Dead" will be rewarded and honored by the Creator with ETERNAL LIFE and existence on a safe and peaceful planet earth without sufferings, pains, griefs, sickness, and deaths.
The "Kingdom of God" or Rulership of God through his Christ will ensure that planet earth is safe, peaceful and without terrorists, criminals, and militaries, without liars and hateful fanatics of religions, without slanderers, deceivers, hypocrites, without funeral homes and cemeteries.
Worshippers of the Creator who died thousands of years ago like Abel, Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Joseph, Moses, King David, Jesus Christ's disciples and many others will be resurrected back to life by Jesus Christ at the Creator's own good time.
Worshippers of the Creator and believers of the Christ will fully enjoy the eternal love, kindness, generosities, compassions, favors, and blessings of the Creator and his Christ for eternity as submissive and obedient subjects of the "Kingdom of God" under the loving rulership, guidance, and protection of the Creator's Chosen King and Ruler, his Christ.
Allan, I appreciated this video. I am divorced now for over 2 years. My wife left to fulfill what she said she missed in her 20s. We had been married for 24 years. She surprised me with divorce papers over Father's Day weekend in 2020. We have 6 kids together and they were devastated. Upon my divorce, my church family ignored me and stopped all communications with me. I struggle daily as I would like to find a partner again, but I feel like I am sinning if I date and marry another woman.
The gift of singleness is completely misunderstood. If you are single, that is your current gifting. If you are married, that is your current gifting. We need to quit putting this idea on people that they are gifted to be single the rest of their lives.
Everyday God gives us is a gift whether single or married.
I'm a single 32 year old virgin who struggles with loneliness every day. I've never dated and I'm not sure that I will make a good boyfriend/husband. I get tempted to masturbate and at times I cave to my desires. I fall in my faith and I don't think that I will ever be desired. I'm trying to better myself, but it's a difficult task all the time. Thanks for your videos and I shall continue to trust God that things will be better soon.
Hello Brother Allen, I am so happy you are addressing this topic, I wish I would have had this teaching before I got married, we talked about a lot of things, but as time goes on some things change and then we feel stuck because of what the word says about divorce 🤷🏾♀️. Peace and blessings to you🙏🏾
I have been single for twenty years as a virgin. I am thirty-eight years old. I have prayed to God for a wife, and someone has prophesied a bridal engagement to me, but the prophesy was only in part and didn't name any names or exact dates, or any other details, except for her approach with an instruction that I embrace her. In light of this, I thought of having a family appointed match-maker (we don't have one currently) set me up with someone, but I didn't want to make Abraham's mistake of trying to do things my own way when God has already appointed someone: so I'm pretty much left in limbo with this as a topic for discussion - but no sex so far. On the plus side, the prophesy has done wonders to increase my confidence.
I'm single. Never been married. I'm okay with not getting married but I'm not okay with not having sex 😅
A lot of people are in this situation. And the church has never been good about being honest about this. This is not new. Most people didn’t wait for marriage in the past either. The only difference is they rushed to marry not long after out of fear. Now, people don’t have that same fear so they have the sex without the rushing to the altar.
I do believe God will place someone in our lives to meet and enjoy happiness in the Holy Spirit together! How wonderful it would be to have a home in that manner! Meanwhile, while we wait, don't be afraid to be the one who goes out to FIND a Godly partner! Why? Because if we are all waiting, then who is doing the finding? 🤔
Luckily for me my T level is almost 0 so my sexual desire is nil! I am looking forward to returning to hobbies I had to give up when I was married. But now I am single again, and this time dating and relationships is off the table. I want to love God, and know myself better (which I should have done prior to marriage) but my marriage counseling was a joke, as was the church I attended then.
I’m single and 34 I had to sit with a pen and paper so I could retain this wise council to help and guide me in ma search and one gift I’m thankful to God is self control. God sustains u brother Allen
I’m divorced. Haven’t dated anyone since my divorce and still sexually active with my ex husband. I rationalized that it’s better I fornicate with him than someone else.. Just a mess.
You can't fornicate with your ex husband because in God eyes your divorce isn't legitimate unless he dies or commits adultery.
Do you like/love him?
Me and my Now wife we were dating for about 3 years having sex without marriage and I had the conviction like I need to get married but I read Paul 1 Corinthians. He said it if you can’t contain yourself it is better to marry than tk burn so that’s what we did like we didn’t have a big wedding but we got married by court and wondering is it still glorify God
Getting arrived in a court house? If your asking if it glorifies God the answer is yes you don't have to be in a church or a certain place because God is always with us so if you go to the court house and have a few friends or family to witness and get married God is still with you he cares about you and your spouse and that your marriage is dedicated to him and you glorify him in it. The marriage takes 2 thing is a lie it takes 3. But yes I'd say the venue isn't an issue as long as you to love each other and God and glorify him ❤️ God Bless you
As a long time married man let me tell you that you are commanded by God himself to stay that way, I don't even know if Christian Churches should be remarrying people at all yet preachers seem to have no problem with it, as the shepherd I believe that this should be taught more especially when young (or like in your case not as young) people are getting married for the first time they need to be informed about God's commandment, I was informed before I got married and we went through a fairly long premarital counseling and I was surprised that not one word was spoken about staying married outside of the ceremony but Christians need to know while the church continues to be silent on the matter, now that former minister resigned and stopped preaching, then he started dating another woman, then he divorced his wife and gave up the rights to his disabled daughter and completely gave up on Christianity and the church leadership remains silent come on guys this is important let's make certain that we understand that staying with the woman of our youth is important.
Existing on planet earth are liars and hateful human beings
Also existing are submissive and obedient human beings
The BIBLE is also existing on planet earth
THE REAL AND EXISTING BIBLICAL BATTLE TO THE DEATH -
THE CREATOR and JESUS CHRIST
VS.
LIARS and HATEFUL HUMAN BEINGS.
ETERNAL DEATH FOR THE VANQUISHED -
All LIARS and hateful human beings who HATE the Creator and believe the LIES and UNBIBLICAL teachings and doctrines of the anti-Christs Teachers, Leaders, and Pastors of the Christians, Hindus, Muslims, Buddhists, etc. about "Armageddon", "Hellfire", "Trinity", "Rapture", and "Reincarnation" will just become worthless and useless dusts on earth forever after their deaths.
ETERNAL LIFE AND EXISTENCE ON EARTH FOR SUBMISSIVE AND OBEDIENT HUMAN BEINGS -
All submissive and obedient human beings who honor and obey the Creator and believe the BIBLICAL teachings of Jesus Christ about the "Kingdom of God" and "Resurrection of the Dead" as TRUTH will be rewarded and honored by the Creator with ETERNAL LIFE and existence on a safe and peaceful planet earth without sufferings, pains, griefs, sickness, and deaths.
The "Kingdom of God" or Rulership of God through his Christ will ensure that planet earth is safe, peaceful and without terrorists, criminals, and militaries, without liars and hateful atheists, agnostics, and fanatics of religions, without slanderers, deceivers, and hypocrites, without funeral homes and cemeteries.
The teaching of Jesus Christ about the "Resurrection of the Dead" is the guarantee that all worshippers of the Creator and believers of his Christ who died even thousands of years ago like Abel, Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Joseph, Moses, King David, Jesus Christ's disciples and many others will be resurrected back to life by Jesus Christ in the Creator's own right time.
ETERNAL LIFE and existence on earth means all worshippers of the Creator and believers of his Christ will fully enjoy the eternal love, kindness, generosities, compassions, favors, and blessings of the Creator and his Christ for eternity as submissive and obedient subjects of the "Kingdom of God" under the loving rulership, guidance, and protection of the Creator's Chosen King and Ruler, his Christ.
I would marry, but I can't find anyone to marry. The men in church are married or too young and I don't want an unbeliever Help!!!
I am single man for you. Where do you live?
My wife recanted her faith and left me. Now waiting for a divorce to finalize. It sucks because now I must remain single the rest of my life and she likely won't.
I pray your wife returns, especially to her relationship with JESUS.
If your wife left you, I am fairly certain you are free to remarry. Though if you were overly willing to give up the marriage and let her out without so much as a whimper, then perhaps you are correct.
I married wrong because of my flesh. I thought I was honoring God due to my lack of self control and ended up divorcing after 4 yrs.
I’m single in Philadelphia lol
Lol🎉
LOL!
I literally just joked to myself that everyone who needs to watch this vid should just drop their location in the comments.