"Don't spoil your appetite with texting. Calling is for setting plans, texting is for confirming plans, and dates are for conversation" - Kevin Samuels
My advice as a wife of 34 years is to know how the other person handles a crisis and adversity. When my husband and i were in college, we went on a multi state road trip in a car that was questionable at best. This was back before cell phones and map reading was a necessity. The heap broke down and we had to deal with repairs. We were going to a huge camping festival with a borrowed tent. It leaked and was missing some parts. Putting it up was a massive struggle. During the week there were torrential rains. We actually awoke one morning with our air mattess floating. Its very hard to cook over a fire when everything is soaked. We had a blast that week and all the misery and mud brought us much closer. I recommend a struggle filled road trip to anyone trying to decide if they've found their person. Its also important to know how you will care for each other when ill. A dual case of flu is very telling. 😊
In my experience you can add speak up about how you feel, this means, when she says or does something you don't like and it bothered you speak up. Let her know, never keep those things to yourself. Also set boundaries, don't make yourself a doormat for her to walk over you. Whether she is aware she can walk all over you or not, it dimishes you, and a gentleman is better than that. Thank you for making this video James, I really enjoy content. Cheers!
For me, It's about always continuing the dating, my fiancée and I have been together for over a decade, and we never stopped dating and doing fun activities together.
Think the hardest part is that "mystery" aspect. I have the same problem as James😂 I'm an open book. When im less open, the results are better than when I'm very open. Moral of the story: don't share everything 😅
Pretending to be disinterested is how you get friend-zoned, which is the worst way to get played by women. Too many guys are afraid to show their sexual attraction, and end up being that guy who becomes her little play thing without getting anything in return.
I’m married and in my 30’s. The number one rule is do not be a dater. You will lose time and money on women that are not good investments. When interacting with women, your standard should be high. If she doesn’t come across as wife material from an initial impression, there is zero reason to go on a date with her or interact with her further. Women can be wonderful but they also can be a wild waste of time. The main reason for finding a woman is to marry and have babies with her.
Nothing here to add. I would have liked to have known everything you say here when I was twenty; a long, long time ago. For those who adhere to the message in this video, I think it will do you a world of good. Very good message and insight, James.
Crack your wallet one bill at a time and your calendar one page at a time in the beginning rather than opening them both up fully. It shows self restraint and self respect and not overly thirsty
All of these rules apply for women dating men as well. And I would say - respect the 24hr rule, if you ignore for over 24 hrs without a good excuse, she will move on as obviously you aren't interested. Got busy at work? Tell her. Otherwise she will think you aren't interested and just leave.
From what I learned from my last relationship. Woman gives her that means she trust you enough for marriage. A good woman never does friends for benefit. My last relationship began to end because of that.
Gentlemen, I have a piece of advice to share. Instead of looking out for red flags while you're on the date (Where your feelings get in the way the most), create a list of questions to reflect upon AFTER it. These questions will help keep you on track and make sure you don't fall into any pitfalls or traps, questions such as "Is she putting in as much effort as I am?" or "Is she emotionally mature?", etc... This way, you can let go, be in the moment and enjoy yourselves on the date and instead, evaluate it afterwards!
Learn to reckognize 5 types of high conflict personalities and if you see any similarities- RUN Don't invest significant amount of money on her unless 100% sure, and never consider commiting to things such as marriage before knowing her at least 1 year People are not eggs- if she starts crying over some reasonable request/boundary, she is either immature or want to manipulate you- RUN "The one" doesn't exist. Everyone is replaceable, there are 1000s of women out there, always have option to just walk away. Your good friends have superpower of vetting her- they notice things that you don't because they are not blinded by love, listen to them
Would you consider doing a video on dealing with a bad waiter, poor food quality or generally bad service, this seems to happening more often than not. I would also like input on how to compliment a waiter for excellent service.
Oof. Where were you when I was dating? I was guilty of rule 3 big time. Thankfully, I didn't marry her but learned the hard way. I didn't make the same mistake after that.
As a woman who likes gentlemen, it's not a requirement for a "man to take the lead". That is some conservative level of thinking. Don't get me wrong, I love it when a man is able to plan a thoughtful date, but it is not because he has to be in the lead as a man. As someone with a whole Yelp list of places I want to visit, I certainly would love to plan a good date and share my tastes. I've had plenty of good men be happy with the spots I have chosen.
Appreciate the detailed breakdown! Could you help me with something unrelated: My OKX wallet holds some USDT, and I have the seed phrase. (mistake turkey blossom warfare blade until bachelor fall squeeze today flee guitar). How should I go about transferring them to Binance?
"Don't spoil your appetite with texting. Calling is for setting plans, texting is for confirming plans, and dates are for conversation" - Kevin Samuels
Gen Z and calling?
O.G. R.I.P. Kevin Samuels.
lol - Kevin Samuels was a known red piller.
We live in 2025
@ It's america - it's 1825 here.
My advice as a wife of 34 years is to know how the other person handles a crisis and adversity.
When my husband and i were in college, we went on a multi state road trip in a car that was questionable at best. This was back before cell phones and map reading was a necessity. The heap broke down and we had to deal with repairs.
We were going to a huge camping festival with a borrowed tent. It leaked and was missing some parts. Putting it up was a massive struggle.
During the week there were torrential rains. We actually awoke one morning with our air mattess floating. Its very hard to cook over a fire when everything is soaked.
We had a blast that week and all the misery and mud brought us much closer. I recommend a struggle filled road trip to anyone trying to decide if they've found their person.
Its also important to know how you will care for each other when ill. A dual case of flu is very telling. 😊
This is heartwarming! So happy for you both!
@@romiowl3822 thank you. We are still Besties.
@@Litha-yz7xq So true . When I had complications from cancer and my husband supported me in the most basic ways I knew I would never leave him .
I have learned to not stay with a woman who doesn't know how to wisely and gracefully handle a "No".
Trusting your gut is by far best advice. It's has saved me from trouble multiple times.
In my experience you can add speak up about how you feel, this means, when she says or does something you don't like and it bothered you speak up. Let her know, never keep those things to yourself. Also set boundaries, don't make yourself a doormat for her to walk over you. Whether she is aware she can walk all over you or not, it dimishes you, and a gentleman is better than that.
Thank you for making this video James, I really enjoy content.
Cheers!
For me, It's about always continuing the dating, my fiancée and I have been together for over a decade, and we never stopped dating and doing fun activities together.
I think that's fantastic
@@Gent.Z Fantastic and fun ;)
Do not tolerate or reward bad behaviour. Eg. A woman starts a fight, you reward her with flowers
Congrats on rapidly reaching 150K James!
Simping achieves the opposite of what a guy wants romantically from a woman
Think the hardest part is that "mystery" aspect. I have the same problem as James😂 I'm an open book. When im less open, the results are better than when I'm very open. Moral of the story: don't share everything 😅
Your last bit of advice is important. Women appreciate and respect men who go after what they want.
Pretending to be disinterested is how you get friend-zoned, which is the worst way to get played by women. Too many guys are afraid to show their sexual attraction, and end up being that guy who becomes her little play thing without getting anything in return.
I love that pinstripe suit jacket, James!
Thank you very much, Christian.
The only way to win the game that women play is to walk away from the game.
Rule number 2 in one sentence summarized: You shall judge them by their deeds and not by their words.
I’m married and in my 30’s. The number one rule is do not be a dater. You will lose time and money on women that are not good investments. When interacting with women, your standard should be high. If she doesn’t come across as wife material from an initial impression, there is zero reason to go on a date with her or interact with her further. Women can be wonderful but they also can be a wild waste of time. The main reason for finding a woman is to marry and have babies with her.
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Good take
Nothing here to add. I would have liked to have known everything you say here when I was twenty; a long, long time ago. For those who adhere to the message in this video, I think it will do you a world of good. Very good message and insight, James.
Crack your wallet one bill at a time and your calendar one page at a time in the beginning rather than opening them both up fully. It shows self restraint and self respect and not overly thirsty
Woah. I joined your community pre 15k. You’re absolutely killing it! Great job buddy love the content
Personal development guide 5/5 again, props 👍
I preferred when you wrote every title of the sections
I don't even need dating advice. Been together with my girlfriend for almost 9 years. Just watching this to be a better partner and grow as a man.
Maybe if I'd known you long ago I wouldn't have had 4 marriages.😂
James! Love the look!
I knew something was off, and indeed, this look is even cleaner than the usual
Thank you very much. It's unusual for me to go without a tie
@@Gent.Zlooks so effortless and classy. Also the hair is great
Anyone else noticing James's new sound effects that the recorded the other day? So crisp.
All of these rules apply for women dating men as well. And I would say - respect the 24hr rule, if you ignore for over 24 hrs without a good excuse, she will move on as obviously you aren't interested. Got busy at work? Tell her. Otherwise she will think you aren't interested and just leave.
From what I learned from my last relationship. Woman gives her that means she trust you enough for marriage. A good woman never does friends for benefit. My last relationship began to end because of that.
Always look on the bright side of life.
Gentlemen, I have a piece of advice to share. Instead of looking out for red flags while you're on the date (Where your feelings get in the way the most), create a list of questions to reflect upon AFTER it.
These questions will help keep you on track and make sure you don't fall into any pitfalls or traps, questions such as "Is she putting in as much effort as I am?" or "Is she emotionally mature?", etc... This way, you can let go, be in the moment and enjoy yourselves on the date and instead, evaluate it afterwards!
Nice vid ty for everything!
I thought I was the only one in the world filling the gaps with fantasies .
Very good advices
Regards fron México
Pinstripes fit you.
Don't overcommit to a woman. Their true colors show months into the relationship
Yes, 8-12 months.
Rule #10 : Wake up next to her in the morning and she has a 5 o'clock shadow . Red Flag.
Learn to reckognize 5 types of high conflict personalities and if you see any similarities- RUN
Don't invest significant amount of money on her unless 100% sure, and never consider commiting to things such as marriage before knowing her at least 1 year
People are not eggs- if she starts crying over some reasonable request/boundary, she is either immature or want to manipulate you- RUN
"The one" doesn't exist. Everyone is replaceable, there are 1000s of women out there, always have option to just walk away.
Your good friends have superpower of vetting her- they notice things that you don't because they are not blinded by love, listen to them
No Truer words spoken!
Would you consider doing a video on dealing with a bad waiter, poor food quality or generally bad service, this seems to happening more often than not. I would also like input on how to compliment a waiter for excellent service.
Excelent look, James.
Would also look outstanding with an ascot.
Oof. Where were you when I was dating? I was guilty of rule 3 big time. Thankfully, I didn't marry her but learned the hard way. I didn't make the same mistake after that.
As a woman who likes gentlemen, it's not a requirement for a "man to take the lead". That is some conservative level of thinking. Don't get me wrong, I love it when a man is able to plan a thoughtful date, but it is not because he has to be in the lead as a man. As someone with a whole Yelp list of places I want to visit, I certainly would love to plan a good date and share my tastes. I've had plenty of good men be happy with the spots I have chosen.
Appreciate the detailed breakdown! Could you help me with something unrelated: My OKX wallet holds some USDT, and I have the seed phrase. (mistake turkey blossom warfare blade until bachelor fall squeeze today flee guitar). How should I go about transferring them to Binance?
I like the no-tie look.
Would you tell me the names of the movies you have displayed ? The only one I seem to recognise is North by North west.
I think they first one was with Gene Tierney 0:30
Ava Gardner at 8:48
I believe what I want to belueve despite the facts.
Love it
I didn’t realize dating is a game.
Truly
There appears to be something wrong with your tie, sir!
James look belissimo fino senhor 🍷🗿
What's the name of the movie of the first seconds of the video?
“Leave Her to Heaven”
@@ScottGrosProd thanks!
Too quick in dating
Is a bit like speed reading
I sped read 'War & Peace'
It's about some Russians
Please can the images of women on the thumbnails and in the video be just a little less profane it’s too much - love the channel btw
I also visit this website to improve my English.
Reflections due to sunlight on the face could have been avoided
Your credibility is in other areas. Stick to fashion.
I appreciate his content here.
I feel his perspective is very valid for both men and women.