I am a 63 year old recently -discovered ENFP who worked in the engineering field for the last 40 years. Over this time, I always felt like I was in the wrong field, but making money and providing for my family was paramount. I always produced above average work and was rewarded accordingly, but I tended to always look towards greener pastures, generally looking towards new opportunities and positions at various companies that peaked my interest. It worked out well monetarily, but I always felt as if I were an imposter. This resulted in my retirement and subsequent major depression. I am on my way back, slowly but surely, acting as a mentor for graduate level engineering students. It allows me to watch these amazing minds at work and challenges me in a way that industry never could. Please follow your hearts in life, folks, it will lead you to some amazing places!
I will be 63 in June. I feel that I have been through enough experiences as an ENFP that I can finally get around to self-actualizing. So much of my recent journey has been learning about type, and Heidi is a top practitioner, especially for us.
ENFP-T here. I love this video, Heidi! I am a 50ish Hospice Nurse doing crisis-type care. I 100% know I have found my niche. Emotions, variety, autonomy yet feelings of belonging with families makes it golden for me. Thank you for ALL you share! You are a lifesaver!
As a 43-year-old ENFP also working in the Civil Engineering field, for sanity sake, I find that the key is to first learn everything about the business, there are volumes of always-evolving standards in this practice. Once you feel confident in your knowledge, work towards management or teaching. The monotony of detailed repetitive work and manual data-entry and analysis is soul-sucking and leads to procrastination and potential depression. Keeping it personal and interacting with others creates a mental reward system that has allowed me to slug through some difficult days. I recently read that engineering was one of the top 5 BAD career choices for ENFP’s. I found that interesting to read as the rationale was due to technical and repetition-based tasks. The thing is, I love engineering and it helps me make sense of the world around me. I will likely shift career paths later on to teaching or management because I know that reading the room and working with people comes more naturally.
I'm a baby engineer (computer engineering undergrad) and the part about engineering helping you make sense of the world around you is so true to me Like it's really hard sometimes.. but there are some things about it that give me the "firing on all cylinders" feeling
I picked my husband up from the train station tonight from an overnight trip he had taken to visit family. I had this exact conversation with him. Because he’s an INTJ, and we’ve been married for 30 years, he was tracking with me all the way. I realized he looked tired and said I’d stop talking because of it. He said, “It’s ok. I know you’ll stop when you get all your newly discovered thoughts out.” 😂
I bursted into tears watching this. It confirms so much. You’re such a blessing to me right now! Thank you for doing what you needed to do to connected with yourself and using your God given gifts! Too many let them be squandered. The world needs the gifts of ENFP’s to come alive! Lighthouses everywhere :).
I bursted into tears as well, I recognize myself so much in what you said, it's just hard to know what to do concretely. Thanks for your videos, they are always on point for me.
@@heidipriebe1 it’s an honor to hear back from you!! I’ve read your ENFP book twice and I’ve sent copies to several friends! Such a must have! By the way, I host a popular podcast called Dr Lo Show. I’ve wanted to do an episode on personalities and there’s no one more I’d love to have on than you! Not sure the best way to connect, but lmk ♥️. You can check the show out one apple podcasts :) been doing it for 11 years and I have over 3 mil downloads!
I'm 18 years old, from South Africa, an ENFP, and you stopped me from starting university in a field I for sure know I would hate. Looking up other alternatives led me to be accepted into a multi-media fine arts program and I could not be happier. This is a massive understatement but THANK YOU.
Well done!! Consider yourself rich! Wish I knew all this at 18. I wouldn’t have become a lawyer. But I’m ready to let my light shine! Started a TH-cam account a month ago it’s slow but steady growth is teaching a lot so far!
I almost cried watching this. I have watched many ENFP videos in the past but no one has described my life and feelings the way you did in this video. I finally feel like i'm not incompetent and alone. I'm just different like other ENFPs. I have tried many jobs that are extremely mundane and detailed oriented and it ate my soul up. Everyone around me thinks I'm lazy and problematic for not being able to hold a job. They think I'm whiny and maybe even weak. But I really tried to the point where I have so much anxiety when even thinking about a job. I finally quit my job to do a design certification and I had some doubts about it. I'm 27 and still have no "expertise" in a particular field. When you said we mentally try to go towards a route that society deems "correct/right" it really struck a chord. The problem is I need to stop thinking logically about potential road blocks (internships/jobs/job market) and just go for it. I think your video just stopped my procrastination. I will definitely be coming back to this video to motivate myself and check out your other videos. Thank you Heidi, I truly mean it from the bottom of my heart.
Hey wow I really resonated with your comment! ❤I feel this so bad and feel the same I’ve flit from one job to the other and have always felt like I’m not very competent or intelligent. Can I ask how your getting on now a year from your comment in terms of career?
This rings true for INFPs as well. I am 28 years old and have studied 2 masters degrees in art and theology, and now feel like I want to learn more about sustainable agriculture. My well-meaning family and friends wonder things like "why can't you just focus". The truth is, I'm terrified of the idea of just being a pastor of a little church or doing another "safe and logical" job that "goes" with what I studied. I had a passion for development work in subsaharan Africa since I was a kid, dreaming about empowering people to use their own creative resources to build their own communities and lives. So even if my path looks random, it never actually was in my mind. I see all this learning in different areas as gathering different dimensions of one big picture. I have pursued the quest for a long time, yet felt occasionally guilty for doing so. But a few weeks ago I decided to fully embrace the quest rather than resist it: I want to get my intermediate French certificate, and work a few years so I can maybe save up for a 7-month course on development work. I even started watching videos about math and business, subjects I never liked but know you need to have a basic grasp of when in that field. This really does change my energy level completely. I noticed that a burst of "get yourself organized" is also a sign of stress for me, so I don't want to burn myself out in the other direction, but the freedom to learn really is a freedom to fly for me. Though I may get anxious because I hardly see anyone else doing it this way, I don't want to turn back. Hope you other free spirits find your balance between good structure and freedom too. Take care!
Thanks for sharing. I'm an ENFP type. This is exactly my mind you described and my current struggle as we speak. I've been unmotivated and sensing I need to take a break from studying TV and film production for now and go study another field maybe tied with math or a good teaching subject and make some money to finance my arts field then come back. I've been interested in fieldd that typically didn't interest me in the past like torture and now I'm itching dive in feeling it'll Equip me with necessary tools. My instincts are telling me to do so and my utmost desire is to Equip people the most too.
Hi there you seem like a younger me thou I never had the courage to persue the arts side of my self. I studied theology and actually tried to work as a pastor. It never really worked out. I eventually had to except I wasn't cut out for that kind of work. Don't do it if you don't think it's for you it's a very strange job, with lots of demands not easy to see from the outside. Like you l am allso interested in nature and biology. Not least ecology and sustainability. Sometimes I regret not perusing that in my studies. We all make our choices I suppose. Mabey it's not to late even if it feels that way sometimes. Sorry for the ramblings I just saw your post and felt some similarities. Just wanted to drop a comment and say hi your not alone. Go for the dream, play with what you have and be greatfull for what you got.
@@perjohanaxell9862 Thank you for the encouragement. I will go for it, with open expectations for how exactly it will play out. Maybe you can do the same, as you say, it's not too late :) God bless you, and have a great day!
Its such a great personality type to be but also like a curse in this rigid mechanical system we live in. I can flourish at anything except keeping a routine oriented job...that I struggle with.....I have to feel free and flexible....its a must....I cant stand being told what to do, and being micromanaged. Sometimes I feel like i have to be self employed or it has to be something that is fun and exciting but has a limit to it. Like a seasonal thing, then moving on.....I just love change....My biggest fear is feeling stuck. I love photography, travel, humor, deep conversation, acting, and making/creating ideas and things. My worst enemy is being bored or feeling isolated from the world....or if I feel like I dont fit in....which is often...lol
This is so good. I work in a law firm as a receptionist. I used to be a journalist. It has been very soul sucking and hard to align myself with this world and it's been 10 months now. I need to go back into writing/creating/producing. You talking about energy is SO SPOT ON. I come home and I'm drained and un-energized and then I don't wanna do anythign else. Meanwhile, I could interview, write etc all day and then be so excited after the entire day is done. I need this again in my life -- the talk about energy is EVERYTHING. How can I go on and work, work, work in a field that doesn't inspire and create the way I'm used to for so many years. All for the sake of 'stability' - sometimes it's not worth that even, because as you said...you will have to accomodate your new lifestyle (one you don't want) with things you wouldn't have done/purchased had you been happy doing what you know you're meant to be doing. Anyone who reads this and is a person of faith - please say a prayer for me. I know what the Lord has me to do, but I've been conforming and losing steam quickly. Thank you for re-invigorating me by telling me what I needed to hear.
Just brilliant Heidi! You give us ENFPs permission to be ourselves when we kind of knew we could move mountains, but got stuck rearranging filing cabinets somehow! Maybe we thought that’s what an SJ wanted us to do!? 😄 It’s so empowering when you understand those moments of enthusiastic, energised flow…don’t have to be occasional or damped down. We can keep tapping into the explorer within us and making sense of the world for ourselves and others. Thank you so much. 🙏
This was fucking eye opening. I am 23 years old. I am a former professional footballer. I stopped playing due to no support from family in my profession. My parents peer pressured me into pursuing science after 10th standard. Ever since I failed 11th standard, my life has been a mess. Now, I am graduating as a business major in a few weeks and feeling lost in my life. Thank you for this video. I feel like my eyes have opened again.
Uncanny as always, and timely. Three years of integrating self-care into my days, learning through MBTI how to better know self and other. ENFPs celebrate the gifts others bring. We seek, almost selflessly, to see others flourish. I can honestly say that I am at the peak of my skills with people and turning ideas into realities, much because I have learned the importance of tending my light. The journey just got so much more interesting!
I burnt out at 23 after years of almost no creative work at all. I lived in a charming community, with a huge garden, animals, children, a house to renovate, lots of events and a camping site where I met lots of interesting people. But I had no projects of my own, partly due to terrible self-esteem and health and partly due to not having enough money to be able to buy the tools and supplies I needed. I only ever helped others with their projects, took care of their children and household. Which was fine for a while, I got to know incredible people and loved the children and the animals, but then the pandemic hit, my health declined again and while the world was in lockdown, the farm was being renovated. 5 month of construction noise from 5 different directions by day and the workers being allowed to use the big event sound system at night. The owners did not want to enforce any kind of curfew and other insurmountable problems started to arise as well, so the community slowly crumbled. The day I got out of there, started to make music again and started to learn to draw, I came back to the land of the living. I learned that I cannot live without a creative outlet, something that is mine and mine only, and that it is vital that I take the time to look after my own needs. I have no idea what to do next career-wise, but at least I have hope and enough headspace to sort things through and make art.
e Ne rgy this video presents a great angle of Ne as a fairly unique vibe in an SJ/ /TJ world ; there can be misunderstanding and even shaming from other types/ general culture regarding Ne's energy patterns and it can be difficult not to internalize that over time - thanks for this perspective reframe.
Another one that feels like you're spying on me :) Started to see this in myself about five years ago, and what my career (and life) have become since is truly astonishing.
"Firing on all cylinders state" is literally how I want to live all my life! And when you said that we can only reach that state when we feed ourselves first I remembered this saying "It's only when you help yourself first, that you can help others!" Now I understand that when we fill ourselves and our lives with light, then we can shine and enlighten the lives of others!!❤ I used to believe that I have to burn myself to show the way to others!
Had this epiphany last year when I was with my ISTJ girlfriend. She ripped my heart right out and didn't even think twice about it towards the end. But I realised so much about myself through her. "What is to light, must endure burning" Love this channel !
Wow, wow wow... This described my life so accurately... God, what a relief to hear... I tortured myself for years and found peace and happiness by doing exactly what youre describing🙏🏻❤ Gave up everything and traveled, did school and ended up serving at a meditation center where I help rebuild every 2 weeks for a completely new group of people, problems, challenges, rewards... I can meditate to recharge and it gives me everything I need Thanks for this, made me feel better about a lot of the things i still had remnants of disappointment about not being able to stick out. Subbed for sure ❤
HOLY SHIT! Apparently all ENFPs are feeling this one! Heidi I stopped everything I was doing to watch and listen to this video's powerful message. I feel like after the past 3 years, I finally positioned myself to entering that zone of triggering that superpower. Career wise, I left my previous one because my energy was getting DRAINED. I literally have an interview lined up tomorrow to enter a company that would allow me to unleash my creative energy, allow me to take personal time off to feeding my mind body and soul, which seriously would allow me to be the best version of myself! You articulated this so well in the video! Probably because we are ENFP, but I locked in when you were breaking down the extroverted introspection. WOW! LET's HELP THE WORLD!!
Love you, Heidi! I'm a big ENFP at heart, always felt like a sore thumb and sensitive chaotic scatter-brain growing up (in Vietnam!) I moved to Europe and the US for half of my life, and only recently relocated back to Vietnam in my early 30s. The homogenous rigid hustling Asian society that has no respect for human rights is absolutely abhorrent and abrasive to my soul!! I am having a hard time navigating the new belief system here that prioritizes collectivism, fitting in, saving face, and money-making before all else! Verbal affirmation and individual recognition are also not the norms here. Thank you so much for reminding ENFPs of our Ne-dom superpower! THIS encouragement IS absolutely needed. THANK YOU! Xx
I'm an ENFP in my mid-20s, was in the US for 2.5 years, and went back to China almost 2 years ago. I strongly agree with your feelings about the Asian society. My soul is aching here and wants to escape badly. I'm seeking to make a change in a short period. Thanks for sharing your feelings. It's a pity that Asian societies are all like this. Sad that saving face is also a thing in Vietnam. I strongly dislike that stuff.
It is such a wonderful thing to hear this truth that I know from experience and wish I knew when I was younger. Thank you for the affirmation that we need so much as ENFPs.
Heidi, I’m turning 26 next month! And I’m trying to figure things out. I just separated from my husband back in January, it was so hard because he’s my best friend and I love him, but our life together was just not right and I had never been more drained, useless, and unhappy. He understood me pretty well, but he never UNDERSTOOD me. He’s an INTJ, so I hope that statement makes more sense now. Everything is so uncertain for me now that I’m on my own, but in all the best ways because now I’m free to create and live on my own terms. All this to say, I was in a deep dark place, more confused than I have ever been. I found out I’m an ENFP at the start of the New Year, found your videos which were enlightening and fun, but now extremely soul touching and elevating. Thank you.
Sending love to you. I also separated from my son‘s father who is an INTJ. We connected on so many levels, but I was never happy. We were together on and off for five years. We also have a toddler together. My ex never really understood me and he was never tender enough with my heart. I am now married to an ENFJ and I’m so much happier on so many levels.
Aaaw you'll be ok. It may seem like you're a fish out of water in the beginning, but you'll end up realising pretty quickly how much change does so well for us. You'll explore, learn , and eventually love again but on your own terms... your life has just began..the best advice I can give you as an enfp, is never fear starting over & over. Our world doesn't encourage this as much, but that's the type of people that we are..if something isn't working, it's ok to let yourself try something else & something else , as you continue to explore...I send you so much love. Hugs.
I’m in a similar situation separated and being divorced by my wife who is an INTJ as well, everyone’s situation is obviously different but I understand the struggle of not being able to excel and be the creatives we deserve to be. I do hope you find your inspiration to be your best self and share that with everyone!
I have a somewhat emotionally distant friend I care about a lot that is an INTJ. While I enjoy our conversations and intellect, he can be very apathetic and isolates a lot. I really enjoy our interactions, but they're so few and far between I grow weary.
I have gone thru 3 failed friendships with INTJs. I feel it is the F part that is missing from the INTJs that makes connection very hard. That initial Ni Ne synergy is good but finding the F connection isn't something I have found INTJs can do with me. This feeling part I have discovered is hard to find with most people actually. I had to let go of the last INTJ friend when I said its good that I have found someone I can trust and they said, 'That is too much pressure." and their body language changed as well as they moved away from me clearly put off. This was after 4 years of knowing each other. I think most ENFPs are going to be too feeling oriented to do well without another feeler type to be vulnerable with. It is certainly true for me.
Thank you so much for this video. I feel like I really needed to hear a lot of this. I feel like I have been struggling with trying to do things the procedural way that is always talked about and it just. does. not. wooooork for me. I beat myself up about it. I'm in the process of making a major career move and I find myself stuck because I don't wanna do the traditional work thing anymore but it feels like I need to so I can make money like everyone else....but I'm not like everyone else :,( and that's okay :,)! I am enough. It's okay for me to be this hyper-active, energetic person with a lot of things that I care about and am passionate about and have the ability to actually work towards in some way. I can just follow where my energy wants me to be which is like.....free? free to follow those sparks of inspiration and creativity. Free to ingest a bunch of information, extrapolate and make theories and research (and make sense of it all, like you said! it's truly a super power). Thank you so much for this video :,) I'm gonna go cry now
As someone who's now embraced being I guess what the world would look at as an 'all over the place person' ...trust your intuition it'll lead & guide you. Don't let the world convince you that you can only live as an SJ & only survive by being that way...total bs! Bet on yourself & embrace & ride that wave, may seem scary at first...but trust me when I say you'll be surprised at the level of okay Ness you'll start feeling within yourself
Wow.. Where were you 30 years ago? 😂 I've spent the majority of my life trying to shove my square self into a round hole... So ready to learn more, to truly understand myself. You are a refreshing voice, please continue making these videos, you are truly helping people! Thank you.
Wow! I have watched hundreds of videos on ENFPs and other self improvement and this is best video I’ve ever seen! This speaks directly to my soul and who I am. I will keep this advice in mind as I try to establish my career. Thank you!
Legit tears watching this video. You spoke to my soul at just the exact time I needed. I'm so burnt out from doing what other ppl want and expect, I've stopped creating for MYSELF and the sheer joy & curiosity of doing what makes my heart sing. Thank you for the reminder and validation. I needed this 💗
I've been where you are, it's a trap of the modern age. Since then, I never forgot the lesson that it tries to teach everyone: we live first for ourselves, then for others. Unless they share our blood or love life, then we may consider sacrifices.
@@annieheart No, it's not hard to say no to people, most of them don't really know what they want and change their minds often, and above all that hold contradicting opinions. My rejection should be the least of their concern. Fear of missing out does not make sense when there is always something better to do that we aren't aware of. We like to believe that we take the best decisions in life when that's hardly the case.
Wow, you have just made sense of my whole life. I started procrastinating when I was finishing college and never stopped. Procrastination has been my full time job for years. Thank you so much for the insight ❤
Ive been waiting for days for another video of yours to be uploaded. And agh i needed this. I have been learning a lot nowadays because I read books and listen to meaningful contents. And that- gethering information really makes me feel alive. Same goes as when I apply it. But whenever they ask me what course id take in college, I just want to avoid the topic and just cry. Because I dont really know if college, taking a linear path of career, would help me get through life happily. I am only stuck with computer science and civil engineering and im not even passionate about it despite getting exceptional grades. Those things drain a life out of me. I just want to explore more but they tell me im just impractical and wasting my potential. My family's not even rich. The world is very SJ. It suffocates me. Thank you for this video. You are able to affirm us about redirecting our energy to what really makes us alive. I cannot thank you enough because I now have the idea about what to wholeheartedly pursue. Youre such a blessing, Heidi.
I have literal goosebumps from watching your video! Instant subscribe! I feel so so blessed to be just 23 years old and being able to realise this at a young age! I have always felt like what you've described. I don't feel better than others but at the same time , i wanted to experience more , i could respond and interpret brand new conflicting opinions in a quicker than most and much more. I always knew in my mind , i had a higher calling. Now i dont feel guilty about taking the time to experience and explore new things, i always kinda did feel guilty because i was programmed to feel guilty if i didnt do what i was required to do.. Thank you so so so very very much. I realise myself much more now and quite frankly you've made my day!
God damn it Heidi I love you, Every video about ENFPs, is just so valuable. It will take me ages to realize this stuff. Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us, it's really eye-opening. I will never regret subscribing to your channel, and if I had the chance to help you out with something I will absolutely do it. You have my full support girl, keep going!💛
This video is a Godsend! I’ve felt for the longest time like I am just a person who can’t focus or do things in an orderly fashion. But knowing as well that when I’m on the ball internally it’s a game changer externally at work and at home. I can go on and on but I just want to say THANK YOU!!!!
Where did you go hiking? Sending love from a burned out fearful-avoidant ENTFP. Deeply grateful for all the deep insight, knowledge, tenderness and compassion you share.
the fact that i had to rewind three times when you were talking about "not really being present, zoning out.." wow. i feel this need to create or work on something right now but i don't know what to do! i have been so passive about my life for the past few years, parents making decisions for me, nothing is making me happy and now i want to find my purpose, myself again i just don't know where to begin....i know i want to 'create' something, do something meaningful but it feels like decisions of these few years have not left me with many choices...
omg, this summarized so much of what I've been through in my 20s. I'd also say that we aren't bound to one skill or job to make a living. I learned this the hard way.
Thank you so much for your work. I am in this point in my life where I have to choose my higher education path. Because I have this ability to analize and think precisely I always had good grades etc. Now, when I want to study something that will be not well paid (but I'm passionate about it) everyone tells me that I shouldn't do it. They always wanted me to be a lawyer or smt because of my good grades. This video made me realise that my energy is sooo important and that no amount of money will replace my satisfaction in life. Thank you so much! ❤️ (sorry for my bad English, it's my second language)
I bought your ENFP book today, Heidi, on Kindle and have spend most of my day reading it and highlighting like mad! Finally, to be identified and agreed with perfectly! I’m a mature age female, Australian, artist and writer. I am a graphic designer with a Bachelor in visual communication with 30 years of experience as a fine artist. My intuition is beyond reliable and extraordinary and influences my artwork and writing that blows my mind and of those who get a taste of these. I can make and do practically anything I put my mind to, because I can work things out 3D in my head then go and make it or fix it. There is no limit to my creative ability! I love helping, teaching, passing on words of wisdom or practical tips that might edify someone I just met or already know because I love doing these things. Thank you for writing your ENFP book! I really appreciate it. 📖😀💖🇦🇺
This is amazing; I had an extreme burnout in 2020 and had to quit a lucrative career. I am working again and still not even as close to the worker I was before. It is extremely disheartening. I feel restless and stressed, and am unable to remember or focus. I feel unanchored, and can’t figure out how to climb out of this. I am definitely checking out the boot camp! Thank you so much for all you do!
This is freaking fantabulous!!!!! I have literally being trying to do this... hahaha my life may look chaotic to someone else but it kinda works for me & I'm still figuring it out, cz like you said growing up in an SJ world whoah quite tuff...but when you follow that intuition, tap into resources like these that just help you nurture your qualities.. it's truly something else
This video could not have found me at a better time. Just had a heated discussion with my sister saying how i'm not designed to take the "conventional" corporate path to her disappointment. I've got a solo book trip booked to Spain in 7 weeks and my main goal was to recalibrate so I can figure my next steps. This video is affirming that i'm where I need to be. Turned 30 this year, peak saturn retrurn. Thank you
I can’t express how grateful I am for this video. I’ve been depressed due to my job and I found out I don’t fit in or like this responsibility at all but push myself through over for almost three years feeling not good enough and not confident. Thank you!
I cannot tell you how relatable this is... when you talked about the solo hike thing, it resonated so deeply with my own experience of self that my eyes got teary. Thanks for putting this out. Every ENFP needs to watch this!
I’ve watched this video over and over again because my brain needs the repetition. My biggest apparent roadblock right now is the cost of the “exploring” and experiences I want to have. I’m hoping the focus on the energy pays itself back!
That was beautiful and inspiring, once again! Thank you! That's what i have been working on,getting energy/presence back in my life. I've tried diving into different wellness systems, currently going with TCM... both to find myself and to physically feel my best.
I waited to finish my semester to watch this video because I knew it would give me the energy and the best approach to tackle life after graduation. It's so so valuable, thank you so much Heidi:)
INTJ here. Great video. I am fowarding this to every NP I know. Interstingly, I had a similar experience except instead of solo hiking I became a truck driver and the solo time driving has been the catalyst for me to do, achieve, become more than I knew possible. I guess Ni and Ne work similarly in that way.
Holy crap I am an INFP but often relate so much to the ENFP videos you make so I thought I would watch this one and your story at 5:30 about being able to make so much money-- procrastinating-- feeling shitty and stressed about procrastinating relates to my experience exactly
Thanks for the advice you share. I am an ENFP who is currently undecided about my life choices. I find this video helpful. Thank you and God bless you ❤
I have heard lots of psychologists, motivators and gurus. Nobody has ever made more sense. For one simple reason. You are sharing because you wanted too. And more because you are speaking truth. Not falling into bizarre display of ability to convince and supercede through logical but shallow argument that the speaker has no idea about. Subscribed because truth is needed and scarce in the age of artificial reality.
Wow Heidi, you nailed my challenge! Thank you so much! I burned out in 2013 & have never been able to recover. And, my wandering spirit and ability to integrate has been quashed the entire time. Based on past challenges & my ability to quickly recover, I KNOW that I need to explore & integrate! I’m so grateful that you nailed this for me with your personal example!!
Thank you very much, I recently dropped college. I have 1 more semester to complete before graduation but i literally burned out so I decided to drop out and pursue a small business. I have a very vague future because i droped out but i am happy on what i'm doing everyday.
Gosh, this hit home. I'm actually INFP but pretty socially extrovert. The pandemic has really narrowed opportunties for adventure and that's been really hard for NPs I imagine. I always say I feel most alive when I'm doing something new, incongruous, etc. The mundane domestic stuff really saps my soul. It's making more sense now!
The only way I can say thank you is.. is to say.. I'm truly grateful that you were born.. :*) Thank You for being a voice when people have only heard whispers.. When you say you want you to see us succeed.. and telling us how.. Is just the conversion from poison to nectar that we needed all along :D Once again , thanks for being our therapist.. When all we could do was be numb you stretched your hand and pulled us out of the soul drowning waters :*)
This is great. Thank you. I really appreciate all your work. I noticed through your attachment issues videos how you are able to hit the bullseye on the problems and solutions like no one I have ever heard. Very succinct. Excellent.
This is so on point it's scary. This is why I am on a steady diet of video essays. The subject doesn't even matter. I just need to be consuming interesting information or my brain starts protesting. Hard.
Heidi, thank you for the validation! I’ve been burnt out for years and recently decided I can’t continue in my current dead-end job. I’m thinking about quitting my job, cashing out my retirement, buying an RV, and traveling full time. I’m torn between doing that now, or after getting a Master’s degree in Teaching English to Speakers of Other Languages; having the degree “in my back pocket” would feel like a safety net.
Sadly, I am (and have been) living in that space for a very long time. I have felt dead inside for a while. I keep finding myself in places where people don't value what I value, don't listen to me (really listen), or just continually try to order me around ... It is is an extremely hard place to be ....
Every time i feel a little lost in life, I always come back to Heidi. I always refer back to the ENFP soul bootcamp and it really helps me stay grounded. Absolute Bangers
OMG it is soooo difficult to have the courage to leave the engineering careers and understanding that its ok to be me(in my case i don’t know what i like: i like a bunch of different things and i realize that my passion for them come in waves) but it is incredible to have some people around helping to understand my self
I had never heard of Meyers Briggs or attachment styles until recently I saw them alluded to on different women's dating profiles and they piqued my curiosity. Researching attachment theory really blew my mind and helped me make sense of my own feelings and actions, and what went wrong with a recent love affair I was very emotionally invested in. But there was something missing. Then I stumbled on your video ENFP and letting go. It was crazy because I had taken the test and it said I was ENFP but I don't usually put much stock in that sort of thing so it didn't mean anything to me. But when I watched that video I finally understood why I feel the way I do and that my feelings are valid even thought the people who are close to me can't understand. Now, watching this video is even more like coming home. Similar to my love life, my friends often don't understand my career decisions, and I've often wondered myself why I can't follow the same patterns as other people. Let me also add that a lot of this bewilderment has often led me to seek regulation with alcohol, and lately as I have been growing out of that, this self-awareness is so important to me as a way to feel comfortable with myself in my own skin without having to turn back to substance abuse. Thank you so much for the work you do. There are so many people in the mental health field who are either not very talented or don't try hard to be true professionals. Of course this is true of every profession, including my own. The world needs people like you, in every field, who are genuine and who are making the most of the gifts we have, and not just being lazy or greedy. The last couple months have been very hard for me. Thank you for giving me the motivation to reach towards giving my best again.
I think that’s normal for ENFP, same happens to me, when I’m forced to be more logical and shut out my feelings I feel like I/ENTP, and when I let my emotions overwhelm me all whilst avoiding them and start questioning everting I do/did/will do then I’m a legit INFP.
Absolutely Bangin' video Heidi!! I love your passion and energy!! I whole heartedly agree and have structured my life in such a better way because of your course and content, that I'm finally showing up in the world as my authentic self!! Big thanks Heidi 🙏🙏💙💫
I needed this today, Heidi. Thank you for everything you do. I purchased the Bootcamp for the ENFP. I'm still working on it. It has helped me so far to figure what my strengths and weaknesses. Hugs!
I relate to this so much right now - feel stuck, bored, procrastinating. I left my full time job in med device Aug 2020 to finish my MBA with hopes of getting into product management in med device. Covid resurged so I took a job at a CRO with financial issues I didn’t know about. Then a contract job as a medical device product manager at a toxic company and was let go. Now I’m a contractor, product advisor in the pharmacy insurance space. I took the job because I was unemployed and needed to provide for my family but each day I feel like my soul is dying more and more. I make decent money and they’ve mentioned converting me but I’m miserable. I’m not even sure what to do anymore since I had so many short stints, I feel I need to sit this one out at least to show recent long term job stability.
Thanks for this so much. I felt like this for so long, with periods of great energy and production, and periods of lethargy and inactivity. I watched this video, and it connected the dots for me. This is the reason I keep furthering my education and am always looking for new experiences, and why most people I am around drain my energy. I have a vast skill set and a lot of talents and wisdom to share. One last thing, I know I am going to change the world. You are awesome!
Thank you so much for what you said at 8:04 because i just left a "career" of passive income that i built for 4+ years and it just was giving me the ick every single day while i was still in it.
hey Heidi! thank you so much for making these videos. u see, out there on the internet people make ENFPs look like some sort of weirdos.. and it feels so depressing to watch all that and just think, "what is wrong with me?" It's only your videos that make me feel good about being an ENFP.. you are such a life saver.
This is why i love the internet. Your videos and your book is extremely helpful! I've been in an emotional low for a year now, and through your work I'm finally getting some answers, and sense of way out of this blackhole. Eternally thankful! Petra
Thank you for this. I struggle with all of my societal programming to be a certain optimal way but it's like having a constant battle with my shadow over what I think I need and what I actually need. I brick and mortared off my creativity to focus on money and spent all that money chasing happiness. Whole time hearing my heart beating on the other side of a cement wall. I'm trying to get back to myself, trying to not let the corporate bounds of society convince me to abandon who I am anymore. That all might sound really cryptic or dramatic to some but I know ENFP will understand😅 I'm still studying to find my type. I have to knock out some more options. I'm between all the intuitive mains at this point, childhood was really complicated with an a mass of influence from all different types. Being a people pleaser it is hard to pick out what I did for me and what I did for them. Main struggle is art... I have such a complex when I do art and I blame college courses for making me analyze the structure of art in an overly practical way. I love to analyze but losing the magical properties of creation turned my art mind palace into a conference room of all the opinions from other people of what I should be working on instead. I need some windows in there it's cold!
Woooooooooooow. Definitely went through all your similar experiences in the past year. Making a shit ton of money where I was in demand but it did not fulfill anything in me and steered me away from my true desires. currently on the going in debt part to fulfill my needs and show up daily in what I love to do.
This really resonated with me. I tested as ENFP when I first took the test. It was accurate for me when I took it (just came from living abroad, single, fun). Then, when I took the test again in a different phase of my life (married to someone who was unstable and lacked empathy…forced me to be the stable one and operate in logic to explain my feelings), I tested as ENTP. I appreciated the ENTP label more…maybe because it reflected the role that I was living in and made me feel tougher. But after watching this, I definitely know that my first score was correct, and I’ve been trying to change myself for years to accommodate expectations and limitations of those around me. I’ve had that square peg/round hole feeling for about a decade now. It’s time to shake things up! I’ve had my dark night of the soul, and I won’t go back to that way of life.
Do you have an update on what you ended up doing? It would really help my situation. I feel like it's my duty to provide for my wife and kids. But got the same no empathy, won't forgive, holds on to and brings up the past consistently. I am working 80 hours a week just to take care of them so I don't create or explore much. She holds grudges for 1 reason or another against my family and friends so I have backed away from the people who use to encourage me most. I feel guilty for sneaking text to my sister or old friend every once in a while just to say I miss ya bro, how are you? My love language is words and she thinks words are meaningless so she never says I love you or I miss you even though I say it all the time to her. I'm not trying to make her sound awful, she just has been hurt by someone or something or me at some point in the past and then remembers it forever and then says I can't have my sister or that friend in my life if she is going to be in it because I should be choosing my wife over my relatives and friends. She gives an ultimate, me or them. I'm having a hard time justifying "I want to make music and be creative and bla bla bla" is worth leaving my wife over. I'd rather provide and keep my commitment that marriage is a forever thing than pursue my own selfish desires to follow my dreams or "Hang out with my bros" every once in a while. (That's my thought process. But I feel like I'm not me anymore) I feel like I have to choose between my dreams or my wife and I feel selfish thinking about choosing my dreams when I can barely afford to take care of them now. She is an INTP but comes from a broken family growing up. She never uses words to encourage me and if I ever create something, she gets offended and it reminds her of the past when I use to record music early in our marriage which reminds her of me hanging out with my sister too much so she wont even listen to a song I created even If I create a new one now. She can't get over the past. She is never present and I cant have friends really so I only get harsh criticisms with no encouragement every day. I thrive off of encouraging and now I'm isolated and don't get any words of affirmation. I am drained and feel like I lost my life but I don't want to loose my wife either. I am always hoping if just keep going she will change and eventually forgive me. What can I possibly do in this situation. This video made me think my dreams might be important because I have no energy anymore.
@Calyb Williams I hope you're doing a bit better fellow ENFP. I realise that you posted this a couple of months ago, but thought I would deliver my insights since you were asking for advice. I believe from what you have written that you already know the answer to your problem deep down. It appears that your wife is incompatible with you and is a main energy drainer. Sorry if that's too direct but that was my takeaway, I'd advise meditating on it and trying to listen to your intuition about the situation if you need clarification :)
@@anasophia7 well a family does need support. Are you struggling to see the work she provides? It's hard being a homemaker, and many people don't understand just how much work and sacrifice it takes doing that end. As for the lack of affection, that seems to be the soul drainer.
Heidi, you are incredible! You are the muse for all ENFP’s. Thank you so much for putting your wisdom out into the world. Life changing advice that is intuitive to the ENFP soul and rings immediately true!
God bless you Heidi! 🙏 I returned to listen again to this video . I am in awe at your incredible insight and wisdom! Words fail me. Thank you so much 😊❤😊
Damn, so good! After being mistyped so much, I finally found my true type and this video is amazing and so well timed for me that is also in this need for recharging.
Thank you for the video, this is Godsent! I thought there was something wrong with my hormone.. until I watched this video. This MBTI thing is so intuitive!
Girl this was so damn valuable it is RIDICULOUS! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU FOR BEING ACTIVATED! I literally talk about NPC mode so much these days and see how and why I am able to see it and start waking some of these sleep walkers including myself. Sheesh! I feel so good after hearing this. I needed this so much before this job interview! Idk what had me click but thank you girl cuz this was sooo freaking dope to learn and understand about myself. #alientalk
This hit so hard for me. I'm in the burnout period right now. I'm heading for divorce and my current job (which i'm good at) is keeping me from entering full on panic mode. At the same time it's slowly killing me 😢. I've thought about doing something similar (go live abroad for a year or just travel) but my marriage has made it so i'm not financially able to do so. So thank you Heidi for this wonderful dose of reality in a time when I felt like I can't see or think clearly!
Love this video. Hopped from Job to job which lasted me anywhere from 4 months -1 year. Until I found my current job in the airline industry. Been here for 8 years now, and going on strong. Although it doesn’t pay well and has a lot of negative aspects to it that most people don’t know or think about…My job is my oasis.
It felt as though you were reading a love letter I was hugging my heart the entire time thinking about how I was so hard on myself for the exact things that literally make me MEEE omggg thank you 🩷✨
Heidi - My mom used to tell me this when I was your age. I wish i had more courage when i was younger to follow my gut towards a career that fed my soul and did not drain me. You are amazing sharing this message so clearly with others. It will help us who have struggled with choosing a career path. Love your videos. Now I am older and not focused on creating a career any longer. Wondering if you could do a video on types of jobs for ENFP Seniors who are not looking to build a career but to find a job that provides the satisfaction that we have been searching for so long.
I am a 63 year old recently -discovered ENFP who worked in the engineering field for the last 40 years. Over this time, I always felt like I was in the wrong field, but making money and providing for my family was paramount. I always produced above average work and was rewarded accordingly, but I tended to always look towards greener pastures, generally looking towards new opportunities and positions at various companies that peaked my interest. It worked out well monetarily, but I always felt as if I were an imposter. This resulted in my retirement and subsequent major depression. I am on my way back, slowly but surely, acting as a mentor for graduate level engineering students. It allows me to watch these amazing minds at work and challenges me in a way that industry never could. Please follow your hearts in life, folks, it will lead you to some amazing places!
I will be 63 in June. I feel that I have been through enough experiences as an ENFP that I can finally get around to self-actualizing.
So much of my recent journey has been learning about type, and Heidi is a top practitioner, especially for us.
I'm so happy to hear you truly embracing & discovering what makes you shine naturally. Really happy for you & proud of you
all the best to you, Don't worry about your age or regret about past, now is the time you have to thrive. make happiness your priority.
Yes to all above; now we continue to open to what we found.
F***, I love our ENFP club.
aww im very happy for u
ENFP-T here. I love this video, Heidi! I am a 50ish Hospice Nurse doing crisis-type care. I 100% know I have found my niche. Emotions, variety, autonomy yet feelings of belonging with families makes it golden for me. Thank you for ALL you share! You are a lifesaver!
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As a 43-year-old ENFP also working in the Civil Engineering field, for sanity sake, I find that the key is to first learn everything about the business, there are volumes of always-evolving standards in this practice. Once you feel confident in your knowledge, work towards management or teaching. The monotony of detailed repetitive work and manual data-entry and analysis is soul-sucking and leads to procrastination and potential depression. Keeping it personal and interacting with others creates a mental reward system that has allowed me to slug through some difficult days.
I recently read that engineering was one of the top 5 BAD career choices for ENFP’s. I found that interesting to read as the rationale was due to technical and repetition-based tasks. The thing is, I love engineering and it helps me make sense of the world around me.
I will likely shift career paths later on to teaching or management because I know that reading the room and working with people comes more naturally.
I'm a baby engineer (computer engineering undergrad) and the part about engineering helping you make sense of the world around you is so true to me
Like it's really hard sometimes.. but there are some things about it that give me the "firing on all cylinders" feeling
“I’ve been thinking about this for weeks and I wanted to get that off my chest and I feel better because of it” is the constant cycle of ENFPs 😂
I picked my husband up from the train station tonight from an overnight trip he had taken to visit family. I had this exact conversation with him. Because he’s an INTJ, and we’ve been married for 30 years, he was tracking with me all the way. I realized he looked tired and said I’d stop talking because of it. He said, “It’s ok. I know you’ll stop when you get all your newly discovered thoughts out.” 😂
I bursted into tears watching this. It confirms so much. You’re such a blessing to me right now! Thank you for doing what you needed to do to connected with yourself and using your God given gifts! Too many let them be squandered. The world needs the gifts of ENFP’s to come alive! Lighthouses everywhere :).
Oh I ADORE this vision of lit-up ENFPs as a network of lighthouses - thank you for this!
I bursted into tears as well, I recognize myself so much in what you said, it's just hard to know what to do concretely. Thanks for your videos, they are always on point for me.
I also burst into tears:))
I also started crying. I've watched myself become incredibly numb and depressed over the course of this year and I hate it.
@@heidipriebe1 it’s an honor to hear back from you!! I’ve read your ENFP book twice and I’ve sent copies to several friends! Such a must have! By the way, I host a popular podcast called Dr Lo Show. I’ve wanted to do an episode on personalities and there’s no one more I’d love to have on than you! Not sure the best way to connect, but lmk ♥️. You can check the show out one apple podcasts :) been doing it for 11 years and I have over 3 mil downloads!
I'm 18 years old, from South Africa, an ENFP, and you stopped me from starting university in a field I for sure know I would hate. Looking up other alternatives led me to be accepted into a multi-media fine arts program and I could not be happier. This is a massive understatement but THANK YOU.
I am so happy for you taking your life in your hands!!
Well done!! Consider yourself rich! Wish I knew all this at 18. I wouldn’t have become a lawyer. But I’m ready to let my light shine! Started a TH-cam account a month ago it’s slow but steady growth is teaching a lot so far!
I almost cried watching this. I have watched many ENFP videos in the past but no one has described my life and feelings the way you did in this video. I finally feel like i'm not incompetent and alone. I'm just different like other ENFPs. I have tried many jobs that are extremely mundane and detailed oriented and it ate my soul up. Everyone around me thinks I'm lazy and problematic for not being able to hold a job. They think I'm whiny and maybe even weak. But I really tried to the point where I have so much anxiety when even thinking about a job. I finally quit my job to do a design certification and I had some doubts about it. I'm 27 and still have no "expertise" in a particular field. When you said we mentally try to go towards a route that society deems "correct/right" it really struck a chord. The problem is I need to stop thinking logically about potential road blocks (internships/jobs/job market) and just go for it. I think your video just stopped my procrastination. I will definitely be coming back to this video to motivate myself and check out your other videos. Thank you Heidi, I truly mean it from the bottom of my heart.
Whoa you described my life right there! Hopefully we will find a job that will fulfill us ❤
Hey wow I really resonated with your comment! ❤I feel this so bad and feel the same I’ve flit from one job to the other and have always felt like I’m not very competent or intelligent. Can I ask how your getting on now a year from your comment in terms of career?
I had to check to see if I wrote your comments 😅.
You sound just like me.
This rings true for INFPs as well. I am 28 years old and have studied 2 masters degrees in art and theology, and now feel like I want to learn more about sustainable agriculture. My well-meaning family and friends wonder things like "why can't you just focus". The truth is, I'm terrified of the idea of just being a pastor of a little church or doing another "safe and logical" job that "goes" with what I studied. I had a passion for development work in subsaharan Africa since I was a kid, dreaming about empowering people to use their own creative resources to build their own communities and lives. So even if my path looks random, it never actually was in my mind. I see all this learning in different areas as gathering different dimensions of one big picture. I have pursued the quest for a long time, yet felt occasionally guilty for doing so. But a few weeks ago I decided to fully embrace the quest rather than resist it: I want to get my intermediate French certificate, and work a few years so I can maybe save up for a 7-month course on development work. I even started watching videos about math and business, subjects I never liked but know you need to have a basic grasp of when in that field. This really does change my energy level completely. I noticed that a burst of "get yourself organized" is also a sign of stress for me, so I don't want to burn myself out in the other direction, but the freedom to learn really is a freedom to fly for me. Though I may get anxious because I hardly see anyone else doing it this way, I don't want to turn back. Hope you other free spirits find your balance between good structure and freedom too. Take care!
Thanks for sharing. I'm an ENFP type. This is exactly my mind you described and my current struggle as we speak. I've been unmotivated and sensing I need to take a break from studying TV and film production for now and go study another field maybe tied with math or a good teaching subject and make some money to finance my arts field then come back. I've been interested in fieldd that typically didn't interest me in the past like torture and now I'm itching dive in feeling it'll Equip me with necessary tools. My instincts are telling me to do so and my utmost desire is to Equip people the most too.
You are welcome to Africa, you will find the most amazing places to try new things and adventure your mind.
Hi there you seem like a younger me thou I never had the courage to persue the arts side of my self.
I studied theology and actually tried to work as a pastor. It never really worked out. I eventually had to except I wasn't cut out for that kind of work. Don't do it if you don't think it's for you it's a very strange job, with lots of demands not easy to see from the outside.
Like you l am allso interested in nature and biology. Not least ecology and sustainability. Sometimes I regret not perusing that in my studies. We all make our choices I suppose. Mabey it's not to late even if it feels that way sometimes.
Sorry for the ramblings I just saw your post and felt some similarities. Just wanted to drop a comment and say hi your not alone.
Go for the dream, play with what you have and be greatfull for what you got.
@@perjohanaxell9862 Thank you for the encouragement. I will go for it, with open expectations for how exactly it will play out. Maybe you can do the same, as you say, it's not too late :) God bless you, and have a great day!
Its such a great personality type to be but also like a curse in this rigid mechanical system we live in. I can flourish at anything except keeping a routine oriented job...that I struggle with.....I have to feel free and flexible....its a must....I cant stand being told what to do, and being micromanaged. Sometimes I feel like i have to be self employed or it has to be something that is fun and exciting but has a limit to it. Like a seasonal thing, then moving on.....I just love change....My biggest fear is feeling stuck.
I love photography, travel, humor, deep conversation, acting, and making/creating ideas and things. My worst enemy is being bored or feeling isolated from the world....or if I feel like I dont fit in....which is often...lol
same same same ! Thank God I am not alone !
I’m looking into Entrepreneurship. I’m exhausted from my current BORING job that does not pay well, I need to stop procrastinating tho.
@@TheDaruma100 I'm in the same situation. I don't like traditional jobs
Oh my god..i found people having same frequecies
Preaching to the choir, literally speaking to my soul thanks for this
This is so good. I work in a law firm as a receptionist. I used to be a journalist. It has been very soul sucking and hard to align myself with this world and it's been 10 months now. I need to go back into writing/creating/producing. You talking about energy is SO SPOT ON. I come home and I'm drained and un-energized and then I don't wanna do anythign else. Meanwhile, I could interview, write etc all day and then be so excited after the entire day is done. I need this again in my life -- the talk about energy is EVERYTHING. How can I go on and work, work, work in a field that doesn't inspire and create the way I'm used to for so many years. All for the sake of 'stability' - sometimes it's not worth that even, because as you said...you will have to accomodate your new lifestyle (one you don't want) with things you wouldn't have done/purchased had you been happy doing what you know you're meant to be doing. Anyone who reads this and is a person of faith - please say a prayer for me. I know what the Lord has me to do, but I've been conforming and losing steam quickly. Thank you for re-invigorating me by telling me what I needed to hear.
Sending you blessings, guidance and love as you find your way. 🙏
I prayed for you, for the Lord to direct your path! He loves how He made you.
Man this whole conversation felt like a hug
Just brilliant Heidi! You give us ENFPs permission to be ourselves when we kind of knew we could move mountains, but got stuck rearranging filing cabinets somehow! Maybe we thought that’s what an SJ wanted us to do!? 😄
It’s so empowering when you understand those moments of enthusiastic, energised flow…don’t have to be occasional or damped down. We can keep tapping into the explorer within us and making sense of the world for ourselves and others.
Thank you so much. 🙏
This was fucking eye opening. I am 23 years old. I am a former professional footballer. I stopped playing due to no support from family in my profession. My parents peer pressured me into pursuing science after 10th standard. Ever since I failed 11th standard, my life has been a mess. Now, I am graduating as a business major in a few weeks and feeling lost in my life.
Thank you for this video. I feel like my eyes have opened again.
Uncanny as always, and timely. Three years of integrating self-care into my days, learning through MBTI how to better know self and other.
ENFPs celebrate the gifts others bring. We seek, almost selflessly, to see others flourish.
I can honestly say that I am at the peak of my skills with people and turning ideas into realities, much because I have learned the importance of tending my light.
The journey just got so much more interesting!
I don’t feel so weird for wanting 100 careers right now :-) I love starting a job. But then, after 4 months I’ve seen everything and get bored.
IKRRRRR
Both my cousins are so different, they blindly follow what the teacher says WHICH IS GOOD but i get bored of it in no time
SAMEEEEE HOW IS THERE LITERALLY NO SOLUTION TO THIS
Takes me around 2 years, but I'm there now! I'm just ready to find the thing that truly inspires me in this season!
OMG me too
You'll never master anything Hoping from one thing to another all this feel good ego boost videos are trash.
I burnt out at 23 after years of almost no creative work at all. I lived in a charming community, with a huge garden, animals, children, a house to renovate, lots of events and a camping site where I met lots of interesting people. But I had no projects of my own, partly due to terrible self-esteem and health and partly due to not having enough money to be able to buy the tools and supplies I needed. I only ever helped others with their projects, took care of their children and household. Which was fine for a while, I got to know incredible people and loved the children and the animals, but then the pandemic hit, my health declined again and while the world was in lockdown, the farm was being renovated. 5 month of construction noise from 5 different directions by day and the workers being allowed to use the big event sound system at night. The owners did not want to enforce any kind of curfew and other insurmountable problems started to arise as well, so the community slowly crumbled. The day I got out of there, started to make music again and started to learn to draw, I came back to the land of the living. I learned that I cannot live without a creative outlet, something that is mine and mine only, and that it is vital that I take the time to look after my own needs. I have no idea what to do next career-wise, but at least I have hope and enough headspace to sort things through and make art.
I hope it worked out!
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this video presents a great angle of Ne as a fairly unique vibe in an SJ/ /TJ world ; there can be misunderstanding and even shaming from other types/ general culture regarding Ne's energy patterns and it can be difficult not to internalize that over time - thanks for this perspective reframe.
Yeah I feel like I should be more consistent with my interests but I can not
Another one that feels like you're spying on me :)
Started to see this in myself about five years ago, and what my career (and life) have become since is truly astonishing.
Great to hear Jeff. Please share more. I'd love to know :)
Ayn Rand would call this moral treason, when going against yourself and personal values. Great vid, thank you.
"Firing on all cylinders state" is literally how I want to live all my life!
And when you said that we can only reach that state when we feed ourselves first I remembered this saying
"It's only when you help yourself first, that you can help others!"
Now I understand that when we fill ourselves and our lives with light, then we can shine and enlighten the lives of others!!❤
I used to believe that I have to burn myself to show the way to others!
Had this epiphany last year when I was with my ISTJ girlfriend. She ripped my heart right out and didn't even think twice about it towards the end. But I realised so much about myself through her.
"What is to light, must endure burning"
Love this channel !
Oh god, I've never heard that quote before. Absolutely brilliant
Saved the quote!!!!
Wow, wow wow... This described my life so accurately... God, what a relief to hear... I tortured myself for years and found peace and happiness by doing exactly what youre describing🙏🏻❤
Gave up everything and traveled, did school and ended up serving at a meditation center where I help rebuild every 2 weeks for a completely new group of people, problems, challenges, rewards... I can meditate to recharge and it gives me everything I need
Thanks for this, made me feel better about a lot of the things i still had remnants of disappointment about not being able to stick out.
Subbed for sure ❤
Thank you for existing and for encouraging and inspiring your fellow ENFPs!
HOLY SHIT! Apparently all ENFPs are feeling this one!
Heidi I stopped everything I was doing to watch and listen to this video's powerful message. I feel like after the past 3 years, I finally positioned myself to entering that zone of triggering that superpower. Career wise, I left my previous one because my energy was getting DRAINED. I literally have an interview lined up tomorrow to enter a company that would allow me to unleash my creative energy, allow me to take personal time off to feeding my mind body and soul, which seriously would allow me to be the best version of myself! You articulated this so well in the video! Probably because we are ENFP, but I locked in when you were breaking down the extroverted introspection. WOW! LET's HELP THE WORLD!!
Love you, Heidi! I'm a big ENFP at heart, always felt like a sore thumb and sensitive chaotic scatter-brain growing up (in Vietnam!) I moved to Europe and the US for half of my life, and only recently relocated back to Vietnam in my early 30s. The homogenous rigid hustling Asian society that has no respect for human rights is absolutely abhorrent and abrasive to my soul!! I am having a hard time navigating the new belief system here that prioritizes collectivism, fitting in, saving face, and money-making before all else!
Verbal affirmation and individual recognition are also not the norms here. Thank you so much for reminding ENFPs of our Ne-dom superpower! THIS encouragement IS absolutely needed.
THANK YOU! Xx
I'm an ENFP in my mid-20s, was in the US for 2.5 years, and went back to China almost 2 years ago. I strongly agree with your feelings about the Asian society. My soul is aching here and wants to escape badly. I'm seeking to make a change in a short period. Thanks for sharing your feelings. It's a pity that Asian societies are all like this.
Sad that saving face is also a thing in Vietnam. I strongly dislike that stuff.
It is such a wonderful thing to hear this truth that I know from experience and wish I knew when I was younger. Thank you for the affirmation that we need so much as ENFPs.
Heidi, I’m turning 26 next month! And I’m trying to figure things out. I just separated from my husband back in January, it was so hard because he’s my best friend and I love him, but our life together was just not right and I had never been more drained, useless, and unhappy. He understood me pretty well, but he never UNDERSTOOD me. He’s an INTJ, so I hope that statement makes more sense now. Everything is so uncertain for me now that I’m on my own, but in all the best ways because now I’m free to create and live on my own terms. All this to say, I was in a deep dark place, more confused than I have ever been. I found out I’m an ENFP at the start of the New Year, found your videos which were enlightening and fun, but now extremely soul touching and elevating. Thank you.
Sending love to you. I also separated from my son‘s father who is an INTJ. We connected on so many levels, but I was never happy. We were together on and off for five years. We also have a toddler together. My ex never really understood me and he was never tender enough with my heart. I am now married to an ENFJ and I’m so much happier on so many levels.
Aaaw you'll be ok. It may seem like you're a fish out of water in the beginning, but you'll end up realising pretty quickly how much change does so well for us. You'll explore, learn , and eventually love again but on your own terms... your life has just began..the best advice I can give you as an enfp, is never fear starting over & over. Our world doesn't encourage this as much, but that's the type of people that we are..if something isn't working, it's ok to let yourself try something else & something else , as you continue to explore...I send you so much love. Hugs.
I’m in a similar situation separated and being divorced by my wife who is an INTJ as well, everyone’s situation is obviously different but I understand the struggle of not being able to excel and be the creatives we deserve to be. I do hope you find your inspiration to be your best self and share that with everyone!
I have a somewhat emotionally distant friend I care about a lot that is an INTJ. While I enjoy our conversations and intellect, he can be very apathetic and isolates a lot. I really enjoy our interactions, but they're so few and far between I grow weary.
I have gone thru 3 failed friendships with INTJs. I feel it is the F part that is missing from the INTJs that makes connection very hard. That initial Ni Ne synergy is good but finding the F connection isn't something I have found INTJs can do with me. This feeling part I have discovered is hard to find with most people actually.
I had to let go of the last INTJ friend when I said its good that I have found someone I can trust and they said, 'That is too much pressure." and their body language changed as well as they moved away from me clearly put off. This was after 4 years of knowing each other.
I think most ENFPs are going to be too feeling oriented to do well without another feeler type to be vulnerable with. It is certainly true for me.
Thank you so much for this video. I feel like I really needed to hear a lot of this. I feel like I have been struggling with trying to do things the procedural way that is always talked about and it just. does. not. wooooork for me. I beat myself up about it. I'm in the process of making a major career move and I find myself stuck because I don't wanna do the traditional work thing anymore but it feels like I need to so I can make money like everyone else....but I'm not like everyone else :,( and that's okay :,)! I am enough. It's okay for me to be this hyper-active, energetic person with a lot of things that I care about and am passionate about and have the ability to actually work towards in some way. I can just follow where my energy wants me to be which is like.....free? free to follow those sparks of inspiration and creativity. Free to ingest a bunch of information, extrapolate and make theories and research (and make sense of it all, like you said! it's truly a super power). Thank you so much for this video :,) I'm gonna go cry now
I feel you girl. I cried too. You got this!!
As someone who's now embraced being I guess what the world would look at as an 'all over the place person' ...trust your intuition it'll lead & guide you. Don't let the world convince you that you can only live as an SJ & only survive by being that way...total bs! Bet on yourself & embrace & ride that wave, may seem scary at first...but trust me when I say you'll be surprised at the level of okay Ness you'll start feeling within yourself
Wow.. Where were you 30 years ago? 😂 I've spent the majority of my life trying to shove my square self into a round hole... So ready to learn more, to truly understand myself. You are a refreshing voice, please continue making these videos, you are truly helping people! Thank you.
Wow! I have watched hundreds of videos on ENFPs and other self improvement and this is best video I’ve ever seen! This speaks directly to my soul and who I am. I will keep this advice in mind as I try to establish my career. Thank you!
Legit tears watching this video. You spoke to my soul at just the exact time I needed. I'm so burnt out from doing what other ppl want and expect, I've stopped creating for MYSELF and the sheer joy & curiosity of doing what makes my heart sing.
Thank you for the reminder and validation. I needed this 💗
I've been where you are, it's a trap of the modern age. Since then, I never forgot the lesson that it tries to teach everyone: we live first for ourselves, then for others. Unless they share our blood or love life, then we may consider sacrifices.
@@eax2010EA You're absolutely right but do u find it hard to say no to people? I think it's a mix of FOMO + I don't want to let others down 😔
@@annieheart No, it's not hard to say no to people, most of them don't really know what they want and change their minds often, and above all that hold contradicting opinions. My rejection should be the least of their concern.
Fear of missing out does not make sense when there is always something better to do that we aren't aware of. We like to believe that we take the best decisions in life when that's hardly the case.
Wow, you have just made sense of my whole life. I started procrastinating when I was finishing college and never stopped. Procrastination has been my full time job for years. Thank you so much for the insight ❤
This is literally the best youtube video I have ever seen! Thank you so much for making this!
Ive been waiting for days for another video of yours to be uploaded. And agh i needed this.
I have been learning a lot nowadays because I read books and listen to meaningful contents. And that- gethering information really makes me feel alive. Same goes as when I apply it.
But whenever they ask me what course id take in college, I just want to avoid the topic and just cry. Because I dont really know if college, taking a linear path of career, would help me get through life happily. I am only stuck with computer science and civil engineering and im not even passionate about it despite getting exceptional grades. Those things drain a life out of me.
I just want to explore more but they tell me im just impractical and wasting my potential. My family's not even rich.
The world is very SJ. It suffocates me.
Thank you for this video. You are able to affirm us about redirecting our energy to what really makes us alive. I cannot thank you enough because I now have the idea about what to wholeheartedly pursue. Youre such a blessing, Heidi.
I have literal goosebumps from watching your video! Instant subscribe!
I feel so so blessed to be just 23 years old and being able to realise this at a young age! I have always felt like what you've described. I don't feel better than others but at the same time , i wanted to experience more , i could respond and interpret brand new conflicting opinions in a quicker than most and much more. I always knew in my mind , i had a higher calling. Now i dont feel guilty about taking the time to experience and explore new things, i always kinda did feel guilty because i was programmed to feel guilty if i didnt do what i was required to do..
Thank you so so so very very much. I realise myself much more now and quite frankly you've made my day!
God damn it Heidi I love you,
Every video about ENFPs, is just so valuable.
It will take me ages to realize this stuff.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us, it's really eye-opening.
I will never regret subscribing to your channel, and if I had the chance to help you out with something I will absolutely do it.
You have my full support girl, keep going!💛
This video is everything! I now have a tab of it open at all times and watch 12:00 to 16:00 every single day :)
Go be you ENFP!
This video is a Godsend! I’ve felt for the longest time like I am just a person who can’t focus or do things in an orderly fashion. But knowing as well that when I’m on the ball internally it’s a game changer externally at work and at home. I can go on and on but I just want to say THANK YOU!!!!
Where did you go hiking? Sending love from a burned out fearful-avoidant ENTFP. Deeply grateful for all the deep insight, knowledge, tenderness and compassion you share.
Same boat here, have you found some silver lining?
the fact that i had to rewind three times when you were talking about "not really being present, zoning out.." wow. i feel this need to create or work on something right now but i don't know what to do! i have been so passive about my life for the past few years, parents making decisions for me, nothing is making me happy and now i want to find my purpose, myself again i just don't know where to begin....i know i want to 'create' something, do something meaningful but it feels like decisions of these few years have not left me with many choices...
omg, this summarized so much of what I've been through in my 20s. I'd also say that we aren't bound to one skill or job to make a living. I learned this the hard way.
Thank you so much for your work. I am in this point in my life where I have to choose my higher education path. Because I have this ability to analize and think precisely I always had good grades etc. Now, when I want to study something that will be not well paid (but I'm passionate about it) everyone tells me that I shouldn't do it. They always wanted me to be a lawyer or smt because of my good grades. This video made me realise that my energy is sooo important and that no amount of money will replace my satisfaction in life. Thank you so much! ❤️ (sorry for my bad English, it's my second language)
I bought your ENFP book today, Heidi, on Kindle and have spend most of my day reading it and highlighting like mad! Finally, to be identified and agreed with perfectly! I’m a mature age female, Australian, artist and writer. I am a graphic designer with a Bachelor in visual communication with 30 years of experience as a fine artist. My intuition is beyond reliable and extraordinary and influences my artwork and writing that blows my mind and of those who get a taste of these. I can make and do practically anything I put my mind to, because I can work things out 3D in my head then go and make it or fix it. There is no limit to my creative ability! I love helping, teaching, passing on words of wisdom or practical tips that might edify someone I just met or already know because I love doing these things. Thank you for writing your ENFP book! I really appreciate it. 📖😀💖🇦🇺
This is amazing; I had an extreme burnout in 2020 and had to quit a lucrative career. I am working again and still not even as close to the worker I was before. It is extremely disheartening. I feel restless and stressed, and am unable to remember or focus. I feel unanchored, and can’t figure out how to climb out of this. I am definitely checking out the boot camp! Thank you so much for all you do!
This is freaking fantabulous!!!!! I have literally being trying to do this... hahaha my life may look chaotic to someone else but it kinda works for me & I'm still figuring it out, cz like you said growing up in an SJ world whoah quite tuff...but when you follow that intuition, tap into resources like these that just help you nurture your qualities.. it's truly something else
This video could not have found me at a better time. Just had a heated discussion with my sister saying how i'm not designed to take the "conventional" corporate path to her disappointment. I've got a solo book trip booked to Spain in 7 weeks and my main goal was to recalibrate so I can figure my next steps. This video is affirming that i'm where I need to be. Turned 30 this year, peak saturn retrurn. Thank you
I can’t express how grateful I am for this video. I’ve been depressed due to my job and I found out I don’t fit in or like this responsibility at all but push myself through over for almost three years feeling not good enough and not confident. Thank you!
I cannot tell you how relatable this is... when you talked about the solo hike thing, it resonated so deeply with my own experience of self that my eyes got teary. Thanks for putting this out. Every ENFP needs to watch this!
I’ve watched this video over and over again because my brain needs the repetition. My biggest apparent roadblock right now is the cost of the “exploring” and experiences I want to have. I’m hoping the focus on the energy pays itself back!
Couldn’t relate to a comment more… Currently making great money, but it’s hard to give all of that up to feed my soul the exploration it’s seeking
That was beautiful and inspiring, once again! Thank you! That's what i have been working on,getting energy/presence back in my life. I've tried diving into different wellness systems, currently going with TCM... both to find myself and to physically feel my best.
I waited to finish my semester to watch this video because I knew it would give me the energy and the best approach to tackle life after graduation. It's so so valuable, thank you so much Heidi:)
INTJ here. Great video. I am fowarding this to every NP I know. Interstingly, I had a similar experience except instead of solo hiking I became a truck driver and the solo time driving has been the catalyst for me to do, achieve, become more than I knew possible. I guess Ni and Ne work similarly in that way.
Holy crap I am an INFP but often relate so much to the ENFP videos you make so I thought I would watch this one and your story at 5:30 about being able to make so much money-- procrastinating-- feeling shitty and stressed about procrastinating relates to my experience exactly
Thanks for the advice you share. I am an ENFP who is currently undecided about my life choices. I find this video helpful. Thank you and God bless you ❤
I have heard lots of psychologists, motivators and gurus.
Nobody has ever made more sense.
For one simple reason.
You are sharing because you wanted too.
And more because you are speaking truth.
Not falling into bizarre display of ability to convince and supercede through logical but shallow argument that the speaker has no idea about.
Subscribed because truth is needed and scarce in the age of artificial reality.
Wow Heidi, you nailed my challenge! Thank you so much! I burned out in 2013 & have never been able to recover. And, my wandering spirit and ability to integrate has been quashed the entire time. Based on past challenges & my ability to quickly recover, I KNOW that I need to explore & integrate! I’m so grateful that you nailed this for me with your personal example!!
Thank you very much, I recently dropped college. I have 1 more semester to complete before graduation but i literally burned out so I decided to drop out and pursue a small business. I have a very vague future because i droped out but i am happy on what i'm doing everyday.
Gosh, this hit home. I'm actually INFP but pretty socially extrovert. The pandemic has really narrowed opportunties for adventure and that's been really hard for NPs I imagine. I always say I feel most alive when I'm doing something new, incongruous, etc. The mundane domestic stuff really saps my soul. It's making more sense now!
I will watch this video over and over whenever i seek a feeling to seen!
The only way I can say thank you is.. is to say..
I'm truly grateful that you were born.. :*)
Thank You for being a voice when people have only heard whispers..
When you say you want you to see us succeed.. and telling us how..
Is just the conversion from poison to nectar that we needed all along :D
Once again , thanks for being our therapist..
When all we could do was be numb you stretched your hand and pulled us out of the soul drowning waters
:*)
This is great. Thank you. I really appreciate all your work. I noticed through your attachment issues videos how you are able to hit the bullseye on the problems and solutions like no one I have ever heard. Very succinct. Excellent.
Heidi, i love you. I am ENFP like you and i feel you so much. You remind me of myself. And thank to you and your videos I am realising the truth.
How is this exactly what I was JUST THINKING ABOUT!
My ENFP brain is exploding rn!
Thank you for the video, Heidi!
This is so on point it's scary. This is why I am on a steady diet of video essays. The subject doesn't even matter. I just need to be consuming interesting information or my brain starts protesting. Hard.
Heidi, thank you for the validation! I’ve been burnt out for years and recently decided I can’t continue in my current dead-end job. I’m thinking about quitting my job, cashing out my retirement, buying an RV, and traveling full time. I’m torn between doing that now, or after getting a Master’s degree in Teaching English to Speakers of Other Languages; having the degree “in my back pocket” would feel like a safety net.
Thank you for the beautiful message, Heidi. It's most definitely good advice that's relatable.
Sadly, I am (and have been) living in that space for a very long time. I have felt dead inside for a while. I keep finding myself in places where people don't value what I value, don't listen to me (really listen), or just continually try to order me around ... It is is an extremely hard place to be ....
Every time i feel a little lost in life, I always come back to Heidi. I always refer back to the ENFP soul bootcamp and it really helps me stay grounded. Absolute Bangers
OMG it is soooo difficult to have the courage to leave the engineering careers and understanding that its ok to be me(in my case i don’t know what i like: i like a bunch of different things and i realize that my passion for them come in waves) but it is incredible to have some people around helping to understand my self
I had never heard of Meyers Briggs or attachment styles until recently I saw them alluded to on different women's dating profiles and they piqued my curiosity. Researching attachment theory really blew my mind and helped me make sense of my own feelings and actions, and what went wrong with a recent love affair I was very emotionally invested in. But there was something missing. Then I stumbled on your video ENFP and letting go. It was crazy because I had taken the test and it said I was ENFP but I don't usually put much stock in that sort of thing so it didn't mean anything to me. But when I watched that video I finally understood why I feel the way I do and that my feelings are valid even thought the people who are close to me can't understand. Now, watching this video is even more like coming home. Similar to my love life, my friends often don't understand my career decisions, and I've often wondered myself why I can't follow the same patterns as other people.
Let me also add that a lot of this bewilderment has often led me to seek regulation with alcohol, and lately as I have been growing out of that, this self-awareness is so important to me as a way to feel comfortable with myself in my own skin without having to turn back to substance abuse.
Thank you so much for the work you do. There are so many people in the mental health field who are either not very talented or don't try hard to be true professionals. Of course this is true of every profession, including my own. The world needs people like you, in every field, who are genuine and who are making the most of the gifts we have, and not just being lazy or greedy. The last couple months have been very hard for me. Thank you for giving me the motivation to reach towards giving my best again.
I want to add that sometimes when I take the test I get ENTP or INFP. So I must be in a grey area
I think that’s normal for ENFP, same happens to me, when I’m forced to be more logical and shut out my feelings I feel like I/ENTP, and when I let my emotions overwhelm me all whilst avoiding them and start questioning everting I do/did/will do then I’m a legit INFP.
Absolutely Bangin' video Heidi!! I love your passion and energy!! I whole heartedly agree and have structured my life in such a better way because of your course and content, that I'm finally showing up in the world as my authentic self!! Big thanks Heidi 🙏🙏💙💫
WOW!!! As an ENFP I REALLY resonated with this & am so grateful that I came across your beautiful soul and this gem of a video! THANK YOU! Xx
I needed this today, Heidi. Thank you for everything you do. I purchased the Bootcamp for the ENFP. I'm still working on it. It has helped me so far to figure what my strengths and weaknesses. Hugs!
I relate to this so much right now - feel stuck, bored, procrastinating.
I left my full time job in med device Aug 2020 to finish my MBA with hopes of getting into product management in med device. Covid resurged so I took a job at a CRO with financial issues I didn’t know about. Then a contract job as a medical device product manager at a toxic company and was let go.
Now I’m a contractor, product advisor in the pharmacy insurance space. I took the job because I was unemployed and needed to provide for my family but each day I feel like my soul is dying more and more. I make decent money and they’ve mentioned converting me but I’m miserable. I’m not even sure what to do anymore since I had so many short stints, I feel I need to sit this one out at least to show recent long term job stability.
I'm actually crying through this video, thank you for talking about everything I've been struggling with for the last who knows how longgg!
Thanks for this so much. I felt like this for so long, with periods of great energy and production, and periods of lethargy and inactivity. I watched this video, and it connected the dots for me. This is the reason I keep furthering my education and am always looking for new experiences, and why most people I am around drain my energy. I have a vast skill set and a lot of talents and wisdom to share. One last thing, I know I am going to change the world. You are awesome!
You have no idea how your content helps people, thank you very much for the work you do.
Thank you so much for what you said at 8:04 because i just left a "career" of passive income that i built for 4+ years and it just was giving me the ick every single day while i was still in it.
Love it. I have had the burnout experience twice working with sensing judging types and now I pull my own horse. Great video, great message.
hey Heidi! thank you so much for making these videos. u see, out there on the internet people make ENFPs look like some sort of weirdos.. and it feels so depressing to watch all that and just think, "what is wrong with me?" It's only your videos that make me feel good about being an ENFP.. you are such a life saver.
As an INTP (Ne as second function), I deeply resonated with the advice you give. Really appreciated
This is why i love the internet.
Your videos and your book is extremely helpful!
I've been in an emotional low for a year now, and through your work I'm finally getting some answers, and sense of way out of this blackhole.
Eternally thankful!
Petra
Thank you for this. I struggle with all of my societal programming to be a certain optimal way but it's like having a constant battle with my shadow over what I think I need and what I actually need. I brick and mortared off my creativity to focus on money and spent all that money chasing happiness. Whole time hearing my heart beating on the other side of a cement wall. I'm trying to get back to myself, trying to not let the corporate bounds of society convince me to abandon who I am anymore.
That all might sound really cryptic or dramatic to some but I know ENFP will understand😅 I'm still studying to find my type. I have to knock out some more options. I'm between all the intuitive mains at this point, childhood was really complicated with an a mass of influence from all different types. Being a people pleaser it is hard to pick out what I did for me and what I did for them.
Main struggle is art... I have such a complex when I do art and I blame college courses for making me analyze the structure of art in an overly practical way. I love to analyze but losing the magical properties of creation turned my art mind palace into a conference room of all the opinions from other people of what I should be working on instead. I need some windows in there it's cold!
Omg you have changed my life !!❤I have been working to against my personality type . No wonder I felt so directionless, confused and depressed.
Woooooooooooow. Definitely went through all your similar experiences in the past year. Making a shit ton of money where I was in demand but it did not fulfill anything in me and steered me away from my true desires. currently on the going in debt part to fulfill my needs and show up daily in what I love to do.
This really resonated with me. I tested as ENFP when I first took the test. It was accurate for me when I took it (just came from living abroad, single, fun). Then, when I took the test again in a different phase of my life (married to someone who was unstable and lacked empathy…forced me to be the stable one and operate in logic to explain my feelings), I tested as ENTP. I appreciated the ENTP label more…maybe because it reflected the role that I was living in and made me feel tougher. But after watching this, I definitely know that my first score was correct, and I’ve been trying to change myself for years to accommodate expectations and limitations of those around me. I’ve had that square peg/round hole feeling for about a decade now. It’s time to shake things up! I’ve had my dark night of the soul, and I won’t go back to that way of life.
Do you have an update on what you ended up doing? It would really help my situation. I feel like it's my duty to provide for my wife and kids. But got the same no empathy, won't forgive, holds on to and brings up the past consistently. I am working 80 hours a week just to take care of them so I don't create or explore much. She holds grudges for 1 reason or another against my family and friends so I have backed away from the people who use to encourage me most. I feel guilty for sneaking text to my sister or old friend every once in a while just to say I miss ya bro, how are you? My love language is words and she thinks words are meaningless so she never says I love you or I miss you even though I say it all the time to her. I'm not trying to make her sound awful, she just has been hurt by someone or something or me at some point in the past and then remembers it forever and then says I can't have my sister or that friend in my life if she is going to be in it because I should be choosing my wife over my relatives and friends. She gives an ultimate, me or them. I'm having a hard time justifying "I want to make music and be creative and bla bla bla" is worth leaving my wife over. I'd rather provide and keep my commitment that marriage is a forever thing than pursue my own selfish desires to follow my dreams or "Hang out with my bros" every once in a while. (That's my thought process. But I feel like I'm not me anymore) I feel like I have to choose between my dreams or my wife and I feel selfish thinking about choosing my dreams when I can barely afford to take care of them now. She is an INTP but comes from a broken family growing up. She never uses words to encourage me and if I ever create something, she gets offended and it reminds her of the past when I use to record music early in our marriage which reminds her of me hanging out with my sister too much so she wont even listen to a song I created even If I create a new one now. She can't get over the past. She is never present and I cant have friends really so I only get harsh criticisms with no encouragement every day. I thrive off of encouraging and now I'm isolated and don't get any words of affirmation. I am drained and feel like I lost my life but I don't want to loose my wife either. I am always hoping if just keep going she will change and eventually forgive me. What can I possibly do in this situation. This video made me think my dreams might be important because I have no energy anymore.
@Calyb Williams I hope you're doing a bit better fellow ENFP. I realise that you posted this a couple of months ago, but thought I would deliver my insights since you were asking for advice. I believe from what you have written that you already know the answer to your problem deep down. It appears that your wife is incompatible with you and is a main energy drainer. Sorry if that's too direct but that was my takeaway, I'd advise meditating on it and trying to listen to your intuition about the situation if you need clarification :)
@@anasophia7 well a family does need support. Are you struggling to see the work she provides? It's hard being a homemaker, and many people don't understand just how much work and sacrifice it takes doing that end. As for the lack of affection, that seems to be the soul drainer.
Jeeez. Your words are lifting the veil of depression and allowing me to be seen and heard. Thank you
Heidi, you are incredible! You are the muse for all ENFP’s. Thank you so much for putting your wisdom out into the world. Life changing advice that is intuitive to the ENFP soul and rings immediately true!
God bless you Heidi! 🙏 I returned to listen again to this video
. I am in awe at your incredible insight and wisdom! Words fail me. Thank you so much 😊❤😊
Damn, so good! After being mistyped so much, I finally found my true type and this video is amazing and so well timed for me that is also in this need for recharging.
Thank you for the video, this is Godsent! I thought there was something wrong with my hormone.. until I watched this video. This MBTI thing is so intuitive!
Gosh dear Heidi, this one hits many cores, thank u so deeply 🙏🏻💖🌍🕊️
Girl this was so damn valuable it is RIDICULOUS! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU FOR BEING ACTIVATED! I literally talk about NPC mode so much these days and see how and why I am able to see it and start waking some of these sleep walkers including myself. Sheesh! I feel so good after hearing this. I needed this so much before this job interview! Idk what had me click but thank you girl cuz this was sooo freaking dope to learn and understand about myself. #alientalk
This hit so hard for me. I'm in the burnout period right now. I'm heading for divorce and my current job (which i'm good at) is keeping me from entering full on panic mode. At the same time it's slowly killing me 😢. I've thought about doing something similar (go live abroad for a year or just travel) but my marriage has made it so i'm not financially able to do so. So thank you Heidi for this wonderful dose of reality in a time when I felt like I can't see or think clearly!
Your videos are like a personal user manual.
Thanks Heidi!
Love this video. Hopped from Job to job which lasted me anywhere from 4 months -1 year. Until I found my current job in the airline industry. Been here for 8 years now, and going on strong. Although it doesn’t pay well and has a lot of negative aspects to it that most people don’t know or think about…My job is my oasis.
what do you do specifically?
It felt as though you were reading a love letter I was hugging my heart the entire time thinking about how I was so hard on myself for the exact things that literally make me MEEE omggg thank you 🩷✨
THANK YOU! Thank you for doing this with your life and for sharing it. Inspiring, articulate, helpful. Running right over to Soul Bootcamp...
Heidi - My mom used to tell me this when I was your age. I wish i had more courage when i was younger to follow my gut towards a career that fed my soul and did not drain me. You are amazing sharing this message so clearly with others. It will help us who have struggled with choosing a career path. Love your videos. Now I am older and not focused on creating a career any longer. Wondering if you could do a video on types of jobs for ENFP Seniors who are not looking to build a career but to find a job that provides the satisfaction that we have been searching for so long.
What a relief!! Thank you so much ❤