yea, like a ton lmfao. i try getting myself occupied in other things so i can tell myself "look, you arent missing out bro youre literally doing enough, its ok"
Yo ENFP fellows, are there any of you having that one fantasy world in mind for years (maybe for a lifetime)? I have one, a world i usually think about before sleeping. A world where I am a swordmaster saving the world from attack of monsters and having dragon armies as my subordinates. LOL
I used to have one. I was a goddess who made a planet and according to a notebook became an alien in this dimension after throwing herself into a black hole after her planet was destroyed by the sun blowing up. Whenever I continue the story I feel deeply calmed. The stories are so strange I go back and forth about whether they're even about me. I've felt like I died on an alien sun. Thanks to your post I think I know how it continues! I also attribute a lot of personal meaning to dreams. Unlike real life I usually have a mission and am almost always free to explore. So I try to infer about what I should really be doing with my life through them. Not always the best strategy...but my brain probably had to put explore and the leadership one in some part of the car even if the world didn't like them.
Did you create yourself a world map too? That has specific provinces cultures religions, population population density several different races etc. if so, then yes lol
This is how I go to sleep every night. It's silly but I always pretend I'm a Super Saiyan living in a world full of vampires. Always find it interesting to measure the dynamic between the two lol
my fantasy world usually is stimulated by what I do or like at that moment example like a game or some sort. I'll either make it like I am the hero or either ill continue the story my own way or even the feeling being in that game as helping the hero. example: Detroit Become Human (a game), Lily (song) and Harry Potter by a teenager Enfp
Since I have use of imagination. I have 5 stories actually, all of them with characters(I know their names) and skills. At some point I decided to connect 4 of these stories into one, the other story is kinda difficult to connect. I also have like 4 more stories that are way less serious, I only have like the pilot, I haven't invested time into these 4 stories. I started to create my first serious story when I was 12, it was during a 4 hours trip, I needed my mind to go somewhere.
Oh yes! So necessary and gratifying, especially when processing stuff. And I keep driving till I'm done lol Thankfully I live in Texas so I've never had to cross state lines haha
Me after doing 12 hour shift: Hmm i should probably text my friends if they wanna hang out,or shall i call my gf hmm?well my colleague lives near me i should probably call him and go hang out...I can't waste time doing nothing.... Ended up in bed too tired and had my own imaginary nonsense.... Tough being ENFP
(On exploration)" If you're not doing enough of this, you will become depressed." Too true. Its good to remind myself that even though this exploration part of me scares other people at times, its still something I must do and not be embarressed by.
Wow! I've searched out A LOT of info on ENFPs, and this is by far one of the most relatable and insightful works yet! Thank you for taking the time to assemble this! Serindipidous find!
I will rewatch this video when I am stressed or feeling hopeless. I have been feeling the need to push myself harder in fully embracing myself an ENFP and stop being so afraid to be myself. I think I have been for a long time as I'm afraid to not being accepted by the people I am willing to accept as they are. I feel like I'm performing all the time. My goal is to always make others feel better about themselves than how I feel about myself every day. Being an ENFP is the best. I feel good about myself as a person but has struggled in believing in my power and ability to change myself and the world. I will, I fear how long it will take.
Great strategy to rewatch this vid or read info on the ENFP to give yourself the much needed pep talk when you're stressed, depressed, or hopeless. ENFPs are some of the best people around if not the best. Don't just remind yourself how great you are but take the time to analyze yourself and pinpoint the wonderful things about you that you really like. Something like "I have a great sense of humor" or "I'm such a loving and accepting person and I deserve that same love and acceptance." Look, we can't make others like us but we control who we like so like yourself, in fact love yourself. You're awesome! The more you love and appreciate yourself, the more confident you become, the more focused you become on doing the things you want to and you will not need other people's approval, acceptance, or love for you to do the things you need & want to do. You'll be unstoppable. You deserve that.
Oh my when I listened to the part of the three year old, I felt really understood for the first time in a long time, because people around me don't want to see that part of me and overlook that I am truly considering becoming a con artist or taking my life when things don't turn out in my favour... It is fatalistic to be an ENFP in crisis
I started reading some Jung and fell into this fascinating rabbit hole 🐇 🕳️. ... My curiosity takes me the craziest places. I'm glad I found the Myers Briggs this understanding will aid me in my pursuits.
I’m an ENTJ (INTJs cousin we have the exact same functions just different order) who dated an ENFP for a very long time and have had many ENFP friends. I will say you guys are EXTREMELY likeable. I have Ni as my second function so I love your intuitive nature. You guys have good ideas too and it’s very fun to go on these abstract mental adventures with you guys. I do have some constructive criticism to give, (assuming you’re an ENFP) so maybe you can work on this. As a dominant Te user, logic is my way of life (same with INTJs btw). My problem with the ENFP is it’s not possible to reason with logic. You guys just don’t respond to it no matter how hard I try to break it down. You guys will just do whatever the hell you feel like doing, and then you find yourself at 35 years old and still having done nothing with your lives (sorry if that’s a rude wake up call). The problem is you don’t listen to peoples advice no matter how much sense it makes. You’re more concerned with having fun and socializing that you avoid taking on any responsibility or boring tasks that bring you closer to your goals. Fortunately you’re very likable so you can pretty much just get other people to help you with the hard stuff, but how far can you really go if you never feel like taking on the workload? Of course it’s uncomfortable working on the process and I understand that being a low Se user definitely doesn’t make it easier for you, but you NEED to focus and work on that. Your functions are like a muscle and they will become stronger the more you use them. There’s much more to life then just shooting the shit with your friends and wasting all your time accomplishing nothing. Pick out a ONE goal, and work on it RELENTLESSLY. I know you guys have a new goal every week but really try to pick the most important one (buying a house, building a business, finishing school, learning a language, starting a TH-cam channel, etc). Quit chasing after fun all the time and go accomplish at least one thing and I promise you will feel so proud of yourself. You can start with working 10 minutes a day on your goal and slowly work your way up. The key is to be CONSISTENT and to do it every. Single. Day. With no excuses like oh I’m hungover, or oh I have to go to a party soon, or oh I actually my dog needs a bath. Just focus on your goal, and work until you’ve reached it. Quit fucking around.
I think it’s all about having the right kind of support and to be in an environment that can help an ENFP flourish. I feel like my environment has a huge impact on whether or not I’m thriving as an ENFP.
Wowww.... thank you for all that.. that was one hell of an awsome presentation .. cheers to all ENFPs on the planet earth who crave to leave the place a far better place than they found it.. 🤩😘😘🙏🌹
Love using music. I listen to music my mom played for me when I was a toddler, music I listened to as a teenager, and new music that speaks to my authenticity. Feels really really good.
second this! music has helped me through many of my darkest times much better than people ever did. my friends say im suuuper crazy about music haha, man i fucking love music
"Lost in an ocean of possibilities".... yes! It does seem like the world is full of possibilities and like it is difficult to choose the right direction sometimes, because I want to do everything! Lately especially have been wanting to create my own project to be able to help people in a really big way..
I love painting and doing art in itself when I don't think i'm doing something uselfull. When I pick up my brush my mind wanders over to all the information I have gathered over the weeks and months. It helps me process it and makes me create my own ideas and opinions, and it helps me find myself. Do any of my Enfp mates tend to do the same?
yeah pretty often, really. some time away from people and all the buzz, all the stress and stuff and just hiding in my safe space; my imagination, its really fucking beautiful. i find myself getting lost in thought and just dreaming of things i could make, most of the time even going out and making them a reality. im incredibly grateful for the fact i can do this because without it i would be extremely overwhelmed haha, my creative safe space really just vents all of the negativity out
As an INTP, I find myself intensely drawn to the ENFP personality type, so I’ve been searching out explanatory videos about the ENFP personality. Your video is the best that I have found. That said, I’m puzzled that you don’t seem to have any videos on other Myers-Briggs personality types. Have you produced any other videos on MBTI types. I’d love to hear your analysis of the INTP type.
COVID isolation has been rough for this ENFP....had to take it down to basics.. Make artwork. Write and read poems. Send notes in the mail.Repeat daily and the rest will fill in as needed. Also adopted a few TH-cam families when I couldn’t see mine...thanks for the info 💟☮️
We are, I can assure this because I have met lots of people from different countries during all this years and none of them had my energy, positivity or my artistic concerns. Speaking plainly, ENFPs never go unnoticed. People often define me as a "little girl in an adult body". I love to patiently listen to people and help/motivate them, so I attract them like a magnet. However, being an ENFP comes with negatives as well (like to be a disaster at organizing daily tasks etc)
Well, at least now I know why I feel compelled to break every rule and take every risk and why bureaucrats annoy the hell out of me. In the beginning, I am all in, and totally enthused -- and then suddenly I completely lose interest . . . this explained that too. :-)
I think I neglected my Extraverted Intuition which has lead to depression. I think this happened because my naturally confrontational nature make my trail blaizing more that the average person can handle. I suppressed it and became an INTP for a few years now. This is good to know.
Same! I am pretty sure I've blamed it on being a single mother. But nope, it's bc I'm confrontational and ended up avoiding people for the most part. For several several years now
Fuck, this is my life, every single moment of it. My wife is an IFNJ and almost treats me motherlike. So she knows about my 3 and 10 years old backseat passengers and takes care of them. I love her so much ❤️
Lost in an ocean of possibilities and very unhappy. That's me and exactly how I'm feeling. Three year old who has overloaded in the driver seat. Fatalistic! That's exactly how I feel. Am I the only one a bit anxious and freaked out upon hearing so much personal truth from a stranger.
Wow, thank you thank you for your thorough dissertation on ENFP! Love the analogy (or it metaphor?) of the car! You’re right, I’m interested in too much! We want to save the world but don’t know where to start! 🤯
"If your not doing any of this, you WILL be depressed" the truth in this. I get so out of touch with life when I'm contained and just cut off from my wandering spirit, n I have ur typical black parents who want to keep u away from exploration as far as safety is concerned...
Does anyone identify with a different type of ENFP? For example, I think my mind is so exploratory and knows so much about what I don’t know that I get paralyzed by decision making and I sometimes stifle my authenticity because I don’t always trust my intuition. It’s like I have a million thoughts and instincts bouncing through my mind at every moment but I’m slow to begin a thought verbally and I audibly think through that maze in my sentence structure because I’m playing through all the options as I go. Through this process of over analysis I actually am indecisive and slow to move to novelty because I’m afraid I could be wrong. I’m afraid of change because there are so many ways I could choose wrong that I choose not to choose. I’ve taken at least three tests and I always get ENFP but I think I cloud it with rationality and the “effectiveness” back seat driver because I’ve gotten burned using my authenticity and pure intuition. A defense mechanism if you will
Yes. What you describe is what happens to me whenever I'm "off.". For me, these seasons can last months or even years. I'm here to figure out how to avoid falling into these traps. Feels like such a waste of large chunks of my life.
Yes, I’m exactly like that 😬 I think it’s the flip side (cf. YT:7 weaknesses of ENFP )and apparently we can be master procrastinators and have problems with follow through... I could go on and on, but I think “Bellyfull” ‘s comment is helpful and expressed so succinctly.
bro you don’t understand how much it means to me to see that I am not the only one who struggles through this. Lately ive felt lost in my mind, never able to settle on anything. Everyone just says im overthinking but when i don’t im too impulsive to try new things and i get burned. Ive been so reluctant and scared even to make small commitments to things. Its like my mind is at odds over what i want and what i should constantly and it makes me SO indecisive. Ive been slowly recovering from what ever got me in this rut but im still not fully clear yet. Being able to connect with like minded individuals sincerely comforts me.
Gosh can you make sure to share this with psychology professionals and teachers. People have thought I'm crazy for every part of this. I've literally heard the phrase born mentally ill. If I had known this I might've not destroyed myself more attempting to meet ideals of others. The first time I went to a therapist I was in that 3 year old mode. Kept saying I was "afraid of failure." Just like that uncomfortable state described here. He didn't even accept that as true nevermind try to comfort me. According to your chart that's my natural bottom. Probably would've been better off playing Zelda, eating popcorn, and chocolate milk than anyone trying to dig deeper for pain. But you find it if you blow up the car. I'm patronized for truly caring about others, my desire for newness is seen as weakness or insanity. I'm a psychopath if I try to take care of myself. Even financial difficulty is part of bipolar. Hell my mom even wants to get rid of physical memories like vhs tapes and my journals. I used to read old birthday cards too. I thought I was weird for doing that. But now it makes perfect sense. I'm gonna screenshot that car slide and use it to validate my existence holy moly.....why didn't I learn this in psych 101...or like health class.
Sending you lots of love and support. I have been judged and told I was strange/unbalanced/wrong most of my life. But I know better. And so do you, on some level. ENFPs are definitely misunderstood because we don't fit into any type of box, and people are distrusting of 'oddities'. Hugs!
A tip for anyone who wants to be able to access their inferior Si as an ENFP. Try axis Si through Fi, so you're in a kind of Si-Fi mode, for me this may be a colouring app on my phone, putting on a candle, or making my bed. Just anything that triggers my internal values of aesthetics, but also stimulates my senses
Yes, reorganizing something helps great with the procrastination issues that Si can potentially solve. Like, not only putting your clothes away, but sorting them for colours, or reorganizing the fridge when you gotta clean it anyway.
I have to write music, it's my cause. It's free therapy lol. Whenever i get into a funk i tend to blame the funk for lack of creativity. As I've gotten older I've recognised the lack of creation caused the funk. I hope all you dudes are well!
@@pmshrevecomm Wow. This sounds so simple and at the same time it's very profound. I used to do a lot of creative stuff, but I stopped cold turkey many years ago. Needless to say my life has been perpetually funked. 😎😬 Your comment encourages me to pick up something creative again! 🙏🏽⚘
I do have problems with commitment as in because I either commit too much or way too little. When I entered the workforce for the first time I voluntarily put project upon project and I ended up working almost 100 hours a week. It was just simply unsustainable.
The music reference is interesting to me in the context of "parts that don't have language". There are times when I've tried to share a particularly moving song or musical phrase with folks and it really throws them off. I understand what's being expressed and trying to share a special moment with someone ends up making me seem like a weirdo :)
I’ve always wanted to be a nurse, or a psychologist/psychiatrist... but the only good school near me taught information technology, math, and webdesign... interesting things but I was suffering 😂 now binge educational videos about human psychology, MBTI personality types, etc., interesting things I’ve always wanted to learn and use in practice.
This is outstanding! You hit so many important topics, and this is probably the most valuable ENFP video I've ever watched. You really hit so many fine detail points that make sure a huge difference. -Also I love your Personality Hacker podcast! Thank you for the work that you do! It is important and very helpful and needed in the world! 💗
Fantasticly helpful overview! Thank you! I am now looking for YOUR overview for other types (my kids).... to help us all interact with each other in an atmosphere of harmony and embracing each others’ differences. Loved the way you set out everything in this webinar/video. God bless!
24:14 Just experienced that a month ago. I was super excited and energised. My employers loved my enthusiasm but after 6 months, I was like, "Okay, I'm out. I can't take this anymore". And this isn't the first time this has happened. I figure I should just start getting 6 months contracts only. Or just freelance maybe. Or build my own business which is the path I've decided to take (Still got doubts there of pulling it off. Might get bored along the way)
it is almost like you described the whole pattern of my life and it even might sound like i am bipolar, but i just always either very exited about my life or at my bad times i feel like i don't have a clue how to continue my life, like i lost all of my options and tried everything i could so i start to destruct it purposely even more) but most of the times i love my life because of all the possibilities it gives me! and if i achieve something i only savor it for a really short time and then i want more hahaha, now i think i should be more grateful for what i have!
Haha this is so me 1000% I loved every minute of this. It’s funny that you said acting out and being around people, because I work in a nursing home taking care of elderly people with dementia. Part of my job is to dispense meds to people who live their and after that I file paperwork when I’m done. Recently I’ve been doing tons of research to become a standup comedian,and I laughed due to the fact that everything you said was spot on.
I'm enjoying this video yet have drifted off 5 times and come back to the video 😂 soooo. Presume that's part of ENFP. Found out I was yesterday and did 2 different tests with same outcome. A lot of the above info is starting to make sense. Great video 😁✌
I learnt the importance of money when somebody I cared about depended on how I managed our money, and then I kept it through the need of it, to fulfill interesting things like activism, startups and what not, stuff that usually involved a lot of people I couldn't afford disappointing.
my exploration side is something that leads me down the path of different kinds of entrepreneurship, I.E starting and trialling different businesses, in different industries. I want to create a business that builds a genuine family style culture within it
Really good I did appreciate a lot. I'm 56 years old and I've just overwhelmed and get burned...again! I really have to rest of my job in real estate and do nice things that I loved like read a book or see a movie that I loved as you said and I thank you for that. Those kids on the back seat gave me a lot of bad moments in the past and I've always wished that hey will go by themselves when I will he t older but there re not! Raising my two boys (to over twenty years both of them now ) have been my mission and I've also stayed romantic with my girlfriend for 28 years now. But I'm getting bored with my job, I want to teach something to people but changing career at my age is scaring me.. By the way you described my big difficulties when I have to choose something in too many possibilities , it's a kind of torture to me and in that t time I'm waiting that the life send to me an opportunity of some kind!
That part where she said you have so many things you want to champion you can't choose one is my problem. I get lost and overwhelmed and emotional with it all that i try and push it away because i can't fix it all. I never thought to just choose 1
Very useful information! As an ENFP I was already on the path to improve authenticity, but now there is some more and directional drive to it. Don't thank me for who I am, but for what I am for you.
I like how it takes courage to be authentic - it makes me feel alive. And of course, it continues to improve my life, because to actually know what it means for me to be my best and unapologetic self, I need to constantly check what I'm really feeling and thinking in any given situation and figure out my values.
Thank you so much for the encouragement and inspiration from this talk/presentation! It's tough as an ENFP to keep focused and on task when our vision drives us into having to commit to the details, but hearing that we have important ideas and gifts to bring to the world makes it easier to stay on track. Thank you again!
The one about trying not to become a manipulative con-artist definitely punched me in the chest. Sadly I have used my mastery of people to get some things I've wanted, especially in former relationships.
thanks.💖 I just loved how ENFPs are explained in this video. ❤️❤️❤️ i had my shadow came out last December and struggling and balancing everything the best way I can... sadly the breakout of allergic reaction is in place again now after a while (physically) but I know it will heal as well. 👆🙏❤️
This is extremely legit, I almost can't believe a few questions really can determine my personality but all of these are absolutely right... really good job in explaining!
Great explanations, thanks! Especially of Te and Si. Had an ACE (Adverse Childhood Experience) score of 9/10 leaving childhood and my survival mode was often in control. Si has been the underpinning of my life for ... at least 10 years, to a certain extent for 25 years. I chose an Si job, in a kind of Ne field. Became tunnel-vision obsessed with moving 4,000 miles away (not necessarily a bad move), and spent 10 years getting a work permit and applying for citizenship in another country. I don't regret it, but it was EXTREMELY stressful for a long time.
Im now floating in the outor space looking waiting for the path to get back in ~(depression /numb /boreden )waiting for the earth turning my way, I find nothing intriguing inspiring ~flame is about to extingquish
My sister is an intj and our dynamic used to be like i had 10 cups of coffee and her acting like she uses melatonin pills lmao but growing up i get more introverted i keep getting confused and i keep switching mbtis cuz i relate to all of them.. but a friend told me that she noticed i was very enfp and talk like one and thank god someone gave me an opinion cuz i can NOT guess myself + i keep thinking that there must be more than "this" i have a tendency to say "but i could be wrong tho" in every statement or literally any sentence btw i for some reason have an extreme of extroversion and introversion its ruining my relationships...
Thank you so much for this video. I stumbled upon it when I searched ENFP. I've known I was and ENFP for a decade, and have read about it, watched videos, took various versions of the test online from the official to simple. But your video has probably been the most useful to me at this exact point in my life. The way you broke down the four different functions was the first time I ever really understood it well. It also opened my eyes to why I think and feel the way I do, during an emotionally abusive relationship that I left, how my authenticity was taken advantage of and how I ended up relying way too much in the memory or 3 year old space, which has been really rough. I burned out from routine type job stress and allowing others to almost stomp out my exploration driver. I now understand what I went through better and myself more. Now I can better work to become my enthusiastic empathetic curious ENFP self again. Thank you so much.
Anyone else watching this ever suspect themselves of having or been diagnosed with ADHD? My mom is also an ENFP and has ADHD. Makes me wonder how many people labeled neuro-divergent aren't just certain personality types who don't have well developed Effectiveness. Combined with natural and sometimes reckless curiosity, impulsivity (when avoiding Authenticity) and intense feelings, this sounds just like ADHD.
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Any other ENFP’s have excessive anxiety over what they COULD be doing / over not doing ENOUGH? (Like constant *FOMO* )
yea, like a ton lmfao. i try getting myself occupied in other things so i can tell myself "look, you arent missing out bro youre literally doing enough, its ok"
Yesssss a 100%
My life rn
Yes A HELL LOT
YES
Yo ENFP fellows, are there any of you having that one fantasy world in mind for years (maybe for a lifetime)?
I have one, a world i usually think about before sleeping. A world where I am a swordmaster saving the world from attack of monsters and having dragon armies as my subordinates. LOL
I used to have one. I was a goddess who made a planet and according to a notebook became an alien in this dimension after throwing herself into a black hole after her planet was destroyed by the sun blowing up. Whenever I continue the story I feel deeply calmed. The stories are so strange I go back and forth about whether they're even about me. I've felt like I died on an alien sun. Thanks to your post I think I know how it continues!
I also attribute a lot of personal meaning to dreams. Unlike real life I usually have a mission and am almost always free to explore. So I try to infer about what I should really be doing with my life through them. Not always the best strategy...but my brain probably had to put explore and the leadership one in some part of the car even if the world didn't like them.
Did you create yourself a world map too? That has specific provinces cultures religions, population population density several different races etc. if so, then yes lol
This is how I go to sleep every night. It's silly but I always pretend I'm a Super Saiyan living in a world full of vampires. Always find it interesting to measure the dynamic between the two lol
my fantasy world usually is stimulated by what I do or like at that moment example like a game or some sort. I'll either make it like I am the hero or either ill continue the story my own way or even the feeling being in that game as helping the hero. example: Detroit Become Human (a game), Lily (song) and Harry Potter
by a teenager Enfp
Since I have use of imagination. I have 5 stories actually, all of them with characters(I know their names) and skills. At some point I decided to connect 4 of these stories into one, the other story is kinda difficult to connect. I also have like 4 more stories that are way less serious, I only have like the pilot, I haven't invested time into these 4 stories. I started to create my first serious story when I was 12, it was during a 4 hours trip, I needed my mind to go somewhere.
😂 BEST EMPLOYEE EVER for 3-6 months. Learn everything then ready to jump ship. Love it.
LOL Same!
WOW. That's exactly me, too!
" and it's almost like death is coming when you get really stressed out " well that explains the overbearing anxiety
Hahahahahah
I know right!?
I love riding in my car listening to music and riding in the middle of no where...
Major thinking and lining up things and ideas in my head...
Oh yes! So necessary and gratifying, especially when processing stuff.
And I keep driving till I'm done lol
Thankfully I live in Texas so I've never had to cross state lines haha
Yessss hell yess
Yessss !!!!
I just started driving from my small home town in Indiana one day to Florida. I had a lot of thinking to do!😂😂😂
Me, too. I can think better on the open road, with good music.
Hope I'm not the only one who laughed and cried at myself.....
Haha, I did too. Man it feels nice to be understood... ;)
Aw! Happy Pink x
I definitely cried for myself
We're an emotional wreck most of the time 😂😂😂
This is one of the best assessments of ENFP I've watched. You have helped me so much.
IKR!!
Same! for real
I totally agree 👍
Same ♥️ thank you
Agree!
Finding this video is some divine intervention
I've been praying a lot lately. This video does help a ton.
Yes it is for me ...I suddenly don't feel crazy anymore
"We both Learn, and Teach by Performance.
Beautiful.
Me after doing 12 hour shift:
Hmm i should probably text my friends if they wanna hang out,or shall i call my gf hmm?well my colleague lives near me i should probably call him and go hang out...I can't waste time doing nothing.... Ended up in bed too tired and had my own imaginary nonsense.... Tough being ENFP
A/n healthy ENFP’s musings are far from nonsensical.
😂😂😂
(On exploration)" If you're not doing enough of this, you will become depressed."
Too true. Its good to remind myself that even though this exploration part of me scares other people at times, its still something I must do and not be embarressed by.
i literally had to replay parts multiple times bc I keep zoning out NJDJJJD god sometimes I hate being an enfp
I wonder if enfp correlates higher with adhd
@@jonahjonah1 i do too seeing as adhd runs in our family
HAHAH, ME READING THIS RIGHT BEFORE NOTICING I ZONED OUT.
Lol, right
Looool this
Wow! I've searched out A LOT of info on ENFPs, and this is by far one of the most relatable and insightful works yet! Thank you for taking the time to assemble this! Serindipidous find!
I love that you use the serindipious :)
Really? I'm just starting!!Most of the other info on the net is stereotypical
I will rewatch this video when I am stressed or feeling hopeless. I have been feeling the need to push myself harder in fully embracing myself an ENFP and stop being so afraid to be myself. I think I have been for a long time as I'm afraid to not being accepted by the people I am willing to accept as they are. I feel like I'm performing all the time. My goal is to always make others feel better about themselves than how I feel about myself every day.
Being an ENFP is the best. I feel good about myself as a person but has struggled in believing in my power and ability to change myself and the world. I will, I fear how long it will take.
Great strategy to rewatch this vid or read info on the ENFP to give yourself the much needed pep talk when you're stressed, depressed, or hopeless. ENFPs are some of the best people around if not the best. Don't just remind yourself how great you are but take the time to analyze yourself and pinpoint the wonderful things about you that you really like. Something like "I have a great sense of humor" or "I'm such a loving and accepting person and I deserve that same love and acceptance."
Look, we can't make others like us but we control who we like so like yourself, in fact love yourself. You're awesome! The more you love and appreciate yourself, the more confident you become, the more focused you become on doing the things you want to and you will not need other people's approval, acceptance, or love for you to do the things you need & want to do. You'll be unstoppable. You deserve that.
Oh my when I listened to the part of the three year old, I felt really understood for the first time in a long time, because people around me don't want to see that part of me and overlook that I am truly considering becoming a con artist or taking my life when things don't turn out in my favour... It is fatalistic to be an ENFP in crisis
I’m an ENFP I’m a pilot I love this job, social, adventure and cero routine it’s pretty cool
I almost pooped on the floor in excitement over the usefulness this has to me :D thank you!
24:05 - OMG, you're so on it about the love for change and being the best employee while learning and the worst after the learning ends.
I started reading some Jung and fell into this fascinating rabbit hole 🐇 🕳️. ... My curiosity takes me the craziest places. I'm glad I found the Myers Briggs this understanding will aid me in my pursuits.
I’m an ENTJ (INTJs cousin we have the exact same functions just different order) who dated an ENFP for a very long time and have had many ENFP friends. I will say you guys are EXTREMELY likeable. I have Ni as my second function so I love your intuitive nature. You guys have good ideas too and it’s very fun to go on these abstract mental adventures with you guys. I do have some constructive criticism to give, (assuming you’re an ENFP) so maybe you can work on this. As a dominant Te user, logic is my way of life (same with INTJs btw). My problem with the ENFP is it’s not possible to reason with logic. You guys just don’t respond to it no matter how hard I try to break it down. You guys will just do whatever the hell you feel like doing, and then you find yourself at 35 years old and still having done nothing with your lives (sorry if that’s a rude wake up call). The problem is you don’t listen to peoples advice no matter how much sense it makes. You’re more concerned with having fun and socializing that you avoid taking on any responsibility or boring tasks that bring you closer to your goals. Fortunately you’re very likable so you can pretty much just get other people to help you with the hard stuff, but how far can you really go if you never feel like taking on the workload? Of course it’s uncomfortable working on the process and I understand that being a low Se user definitely doesn’t make it easier for you, but you NEED to focus and work on that. Your functions are like a muscle and they will become stronger the more you use them. There’s much more to life then just shooting the shit with your friends and wasting all your time accomplishing nothing. Pick out a ONE goal, and work on it RELENTLESSLY. I know you guys have a new goal every week but really try to pick the most important one (buying a house, building a business, finishing school, learning a language, starting a TH-cam channel, etc). Quit chasing after fun all the time and go accomplish at least one thing and I promise you will feel so proud of yourself. You can start with working 10 minutes a day on your goal and slowly work your way up. The key is to be CONSISTENT and to do it every. Single. Day. With no excuses like oh I’m hungover, or oh I have to go to a party soon, or oh I actually my dog needs a bath. Just focus on your goal, and work until you’ve reached it. Quit fucking around.
Thanks; needed to hear this. Hope you have a great day.
Thanks for describing my life!:D i hope it is not too late to kick my ass and start on 1 goal, and not 100, and ending up 0;D
I think it’s all about having the right kind of support and to be in an environment that can help an ENFP flourish. I feel like my environment has a huge impact on whether or not I’m thriving as an ENFP.
Thanks for the constructive criticism! Appreciate it mate
I dunno Bella, are you sure that will be better than generally having a good time and shooting shit?
Closest thing to a mind reading I've ever experienced. Literally felt like you dug into my head. Incredible job.
Try Linda Goodman
Wowww.... thank you for all that.. that was one hell of an awsome presentation .. cheers to all ENFPs on the planet earth who crave to leave the place a far better place than they found it.. 🤩😘😘🙏🌹
Love using music. I listen to music my mom played for me when I was a toddler, music I listened to as a teenager, and new music that speaks to my authenticity. Feels really really good.
@Random Person I listen to all types of music and play the guitar too I suggest every one here pick a guitar and play blues best medicine for the soul
second this! music has helped me through many of my darkest times much better than people ever did. my friends say im suuuper crazy about music haha, man i fucking love music
"Lost in an ocean of possibilities".... yes! It does seem like the world is full of possibilities and like it is difficult to choose the right direction sometimes, because I want to do everything! Lately especially have been wanting to create my own project to be able to help people in a really big way..
I love painting and doing art in itself when I don't think i'm doing something uselfull. When I pick up my brush my mind wanders over to all the information I have gathered over the weeks and months. It helps me process it and makes me create my own ideas and opinions, and it helps me find myself. Do any of my Enfp mates tend to do the same?
yeah pretty often, really. some time away from people and all the buzz, all the stress and stuff and just hiding in my safe space; my imagination, its really fucking beautiful. i find myself getting lost in thought and just dreaming of things i could make, most of the time even going out and making them a reality. im incredibly grateful for the fact i can do this because without it i would be extremely overwhelmed haha, my creative safe space really just vents all of the negativity out
For me it's with music or poetry!
I’m missing the art part. I’m just collecting tons of info.
I’m missing the art part.
I do I do I do
Love it, except I've been letting the 3 year old drive my car.
this is called being ''in the grip of the inferior function''. Search it up
@@mikeh7769 thank you :)
Yea I've been doing that for a while as well
As an INTP, I find myself intensely drawn to the ENFP personality type, so I’ve been searching out explanatory videos about the ENFP personality. Your video is the best that I have found.
That said, I’m puzzled that you don’t seem to have any videos on other Myers-Briggs personality types. Have you produced any other videos on MBTI types. I’d love to hear your analysis of the INTP type.
COVID isolation has been rough for this ENFP....had to take it down to basics.. Make artwork. Write and read poems. Send notes in the mail.Repeat daily and the rest will fill in as needed. Also adopted a few TH-cam families when I couldn’t see mine...thanks for the info 💟☮️
“Not great with details, usually looking for loopholes. Details drive them crazy” so on point 😂
Very very very informative webinar. Thank you for saying ENFPs are rare. I always had a nagging feeling that we must be at least semi-rare.
We are, I can assure this because I have met lots of people from different countries during all this years and none of them had my energy, positivity or my artistic concerns. Speaking plainly, ENFPs never go unnoticed. People often define me as a "little girl in an adult body". I love to patiently listen to people and help/motivate them, so I attract them like a magnet. However, being an ENFP comes with negatives as well (like to be a disaster at organizing daily tasks etc)
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“Has a habit of ‘ignoring the rules’ “...!! Not me! Haha.
Well, at least now I know why I feel compelled to break every rule and take every risk and why bureaucrats annoy the hell out of me. In the beginning, I am all in, and totally enthused -- and then suddenly I completely lose interest . . . this explained that too. :-)
I think I neglected my Extraverted Intuition which has lead to depression. I think this happened because my naturally confrontational nature make my trail blaizing more that the average person can handle. I suppressed it and became an INTP for a few years now. This is good to know.
I did that too I felt emotionless for years
Same
Same! I am pretty sure I've blamed it on being a single mother. But nope, it's bc I'm confrontational and ended up avoiding people for the most part. For several several years now
Fuck, this is my life, every single moment of it.
My wife is an IFNJ and almost treats me motherlike. So she knows about my 3 and 10 years old backseat passengers and takes care of them. I love her so much ❤️
That last part made me feel really good and I needed to hear it. Thank you
Lost in an ocean of possibilities and very unhappy. That's me and exactly how I'm feeling. Three year old who has overloaded in the driver seat. Fatalistic! That's exactly how I feel. Am I the only one a bit anxious and freaked out upon hearing so much personal truth from a stranger.
Wow, thank you thank you for your thorough dissertation on ENFP! Love the analogy (or it metaphor?) of the car! You’re right, I’m interested in too much! We want to save the world but don’t know where to start! 🤯
"If your not doing any of this, you WILL be depressed" the truth in this. I get so out of touch with life when I'm contained and just cut off from my wandering spirit, n I have ur typical black parents who want to keep u away from exploration as far as safety is concerned...
Does anyone identify with a different type of ENFP? For example, I think my mind is so exploratory and knows so much about what I don’t know that I get paralyzed by decision making and I sometimes stifle my authenticity because I don’t always trust my intuition. It’s like I have a million thoughts and instincts bouncing through my mind at every moment but I’m slow to begin a thought verbally and I audibly think through that maze in my sentence structure because I’m playing through all the options as I go. Through this process of over analysis I actually am indecisive and slow to move to novelty because I’m afraid I could be wrong. I’m afraid of change because there are so many ways I could choose wrong that I choose not to choose.
I’ve taken at least three tests and I always get ENFP but I think I cloud it with rationality and the “effectiveness” back seat driver because I’ve gotten burned using my authenticity and pure intuition. A defense mechanism if you will
Yes. What you describe is what happens to me whenever I'm "off.". For me, these seasons can last months or even years. I'm here to figure out how to avoid falling into these traps. Feels like such a waste of large chunks of my life.
Yes, I’m exactly like that 😬 I think it’s the flip side (cf. YT:7 weaknesses of ENFP )and apparently we can be master procrastinators and have problems with follow through... I could go on and on, but I think “Bellyfull” ‘s comment is helpful and expressed so succinctly.
bro you don’t understand how much it means to me to see that I am not the only one who struggles through this. Lately ive felt lost in my mind, never able to settle on anything. Everyone just says im overthinking but when i don’t im too impulsive to try new things and i get burned. Ive been so reluctant and scared even to make small commitments to things. Its like my mind is at odds over what i want and what i should constantly and it makes me SO indecisive. Ive been slowly recovering from what ever got me in this rut but im still not fully clear yet. Being able to connect with like minded individuals sincerely comforts me.
What you described is EXACTLY how I function.
omg u couldnt have explained it any better i literally dont know what to say..
Gosh can you make sure to share this with psychology professionals and teachers. People have thought I'm crazy for every part of this. I've literally heard the phrase born mentally ill. If I had known this I might've not destroyed myself more attempting to meet ideals of others. The first time I went to a therapist I was in that 3 year old mode. Kept saying I was "afraid of failure." Just like that uncomfortable state described here. He didn't even accept that as true nevermind try to comfort me. According to your chart that's my natural bottom. Probably would've been better off playing Zelda, eating popcorn, and chocolate milk than anyone trying to dig deeper for pain. But you find it if you blow up the car. I'm patronized for truly caring about others, my desire for newness is seen as weakness or insanity. I'm a psychopath if I try to take care of myself. Even financial difficulty is part of bipolar. Hell my mom even wants to get rid of physical memories like vhs tapes and my journals. I used to read old birthday cards too. I thought I was weird for doing that. But now it makes perfect sense. I'm gonna screenshot that car slide and use it to validate my existence holy moly.....why didn't I learn this in psych 101...or like health class.
Sending you lots of love and support. I have been judged and told I was strange/unbalanced/wrong most of my life. But I know better. And so do you, on some level. ENFPs are definitely misunderstood because we don't fit into any type of box, and people are distrusting of 'oddities'. Hugs!
A tip for anyone who wants to be able to access their inferior Si as an ENFP. Try axis Si through Fi, so you're in a kind of Si-Fi mode, for me this may be a colouring app on my phone, putting on a candle, or making my bed. Just anything that triggers my internal values of aesthetics, but also stimulates my senses
Yes, reorganizing something helps great with the procrastination issues that Si can potentially solve. Like, not only putting your clothes away, but sorting them for colours, or reorganizing the fridge when you gotta clean it anyway.
It's art for me and I love it
I have to write music, it's my cause. It's free therapy lol. Whenever i get into a funk i tend to blame the funk for lack of creativity. As I've gotten older I've recognised the lack of creation caused the funk. I hope all you dudes are well!
Dude Si is memory. Inferior Si means stupid use of memory.
@@pmshrevecomm Wow. This sounds so simple and at the same time it's very profound. I used to do a lot of creative stuff, but I stopped cold turkey many years ago. Needless to say my life has been perpetually funked. 😎😬 Your comment encourages me to pick up something creative again! 🙏🏽⚘
I am slightly in awe of seeing myself with a beginners mind. Thank goodness this came up in my feed today.
Wow, so well put! I feel amazing as an ENFP😊. I run myself ragged and then wonder why I get depressed.
You made me cry at the end! Thanks for those words 🥺
I do have problems with commitment as in because I either commit too much or way too little. When I entered the workforce for the first time I voluntarily put project upon project and I ended up working almost 100 hours a week. It was just simply unsustainable.
Love this title better “exploration/ authenticity”. Describes us to a tee. ♥️
I have a very hard time to focus, I had to stop and watch it so many times, but I appreciate it.
The music reference is interesting to me in the context of "parts that don't have language". There are times when I've tried to share a particularly moving song or musical phrase with folks and it really throws them off. I understand what's being expressed and trying to share a special moment with someone ends up making me seem like a weirdo :)
I’ve always wanted to be a nurse, or a psychologist/psychiatrist... but the only good school near me taught information technology, math, and webdesign... interesting things but I was suffering 😂 now binge educational videos about human psychology, MBTI personality types, etc., interesting things I’ve always wanted to learn and use in practice.
this is one of the best enfp videos out there
This was like a Khan Academy sesh, but easier to understand 😂😂😂
Amazing presentation by an ENTP
So concise. So entp. 😂
What an awesome and thorough in-depth explanation. I appreciate this a lot!
Woah you literally made my point why I decided to study for a geologist/paleontologist
I finally feel understood! This is amazing therapy! Thank you SO MUCH! Life changing!
This was beautifully done and i learned so much about myself and why i do certain things that i do! thank you!!!
This is outstanding! You hit so many important topics, and this is probably the most valuable ENFP video I've ever watched. You really hit so many fine detail points that make sure a huge difference.
-Also I love your Personality Hacker podcast! Thank you for the work that you do! It is important and very helpful and needed in the world! 💗
Fantasticly helpful overview! Thank you! I am now looking for YOUR overview for other types (my kids).... to help us all interact with each other in an atmosphere of harmony and embracing each others’ differences. Loved the way you set out everything in this webinar/video. God bless!
24:14 Just experienced that a month ago. I was super excited and energised. My employers loved my enthusiasm but after 6 months, I was like, "Okay, I'm out. I can't take this anymore". And this isn't the first time this has happened. I figure I should just start getting 6 months contracts only. Or just freelance maybe. Or build my own business which is the path I've decided to take (Still got doubts there of pulling it off. Might get bored along the way)
you wont get bored
@@Mugode I know that now
it is almost like you described the whole pattern of my life and it even might sound like i am bipolar, but i just always either very exited about my life or at my bad times i feel like i don't have a clue how to continue my life, like i lost all of my options and tried everything i could so i start to destruct it purposely even more) but most of the times i love my life because of all the possibilities it gives me! and if i achieve something i only savor it for a really short time and then i want more hahaha, now i think i should be more grateful for what i have!
Haha this is so me 1000% I loved every minute of this. It’s funny that you said acting out and being around people, because I work in a nursing home taking care of elderly people with dementia. Part of my job is to dispense meds to people who live their and after that I file paperwork when I’m done. Recently I’ve been doing tons of research to become a standup comedian,and I laughed due to the fact that everything you said was spot on.
I'm enjoying this video yet have drifted off 5 times and come back to the video 😂 soooo. Presume that's part of ENFP. Found out I was yesterday and did 2 different tests with same outcome. A lot of the above info is starting to make sense. Great video 😁✌
Great video, wonderfully insightful and informative!
Lmao, I learnt that keeping a journal is the best thing I've ever landed on, strongly recommend.
I learnt the importance of money when somebody I cared about depended on how I managed our money, and then I kept it through the need of it, to fulfill interesting things like activism, startups and what not, stuff that usually involved a lot of people I couldn't afford disappointing.
what do you generally write in your journal like only positive things or both positive and negative , whole day from a to z or just important one??
my exploration side is something that leads me down the path of different kinds of entrepreneurship, I.E starting and trialling different businesses, in different industries.
I want to create a business that builds a genuine family style culture within it
Really good I did appreciate a lot. I'm 56 years old and I've just overwhelmed and get burned...again!
I really have to rest of my job in real estate and do nice things that I loved like read a book or see a movie that I loved as you said and I thank you for that.
Those kids on the back seat gave me a lot of bad moments in the past and I've always wished that hey will go by themselves when I will he t older but there re not!
Raising my two boys (to over twenty years both of them now ) have been my mission and I've also stayed romantic with my girlfriend for 28 years now. But I'm getting bored with my job, I want to teach something to people but changing career at my age is scaring me..
By the way you described my big difficulties when I have to choose something in too many possibilities , it's a kind of torture to me and in that t time I'm waiting that the life send to me an opportunity of some kind!
Beautifully explained! Everything you brought up resonated so well. Thank you for this
Be careful.. that's demonic.
That part where she said you have so many things you want to champion you can't choose one is my problem. I get lost and overwhelmed and emotional with it all that i try and push it away because i can't fix it all. I never thought to just choose 1
Damn I love that part “you where the best employee ever for 3 to 6 months” yea I was now I don’t care just a cheque at this point
Spot on. This is the best on our type.
Very useful information! As an ENFP I was already on the path to improve authenticity, but now there is some more and directional drive to it. Don't thank me for who I am, but for what I am for you.
I like how it takes courage to be authentic - it makes me feel alive. And of course, it continues to improve my life, because to actually know what it means for me to be my best and unapologetic self, I need to constantly check what I'm really feeling and thinking in any given situation and figure out my values.
You helped me to understand myself a lot.. you have my gratitude for your kind availability in doing this for people.
I am truly grateful. Great Overview!
This video is great, like the amount of stuff I figured out and realized is crazy. She just read me like a book right there, that's all of me 🤔🤨😎😁
OMG THANKYOU SO SO MUCH FOR THIS, IT WILL HELPS ME A LOT, BLESS U
Thank you so much for the encouragement and inspiration from this talk/presentation! It's tough as an ENFP to keep focused and on task when our vision drives us into having to commit to the details, but hearing that we have important ideas and gifts to bring to the world makes it easier to stay on track. Thank you again!
The one about trying not to become a manipulative con-artist definitely punched me in the chest. Sadly I have used my mastery of people to get some things I've wanted, especially in former relationships.
thanks.💖 I just loved how ENFPs are explained in this video. ❤️❤️❤️ i had my shadow came out last December and struggling and balancing everything the best way I can... sadly the breakout of allergic reaction is in place again now after a while (physically) but I know it will heal as well. 👆🙏❤️
This is extremely legit, I almost can't believe a few questions really can determine my personality but all of these are absolutely right... really good job in explaining!
This is sooo goood!!! Thank you for pointing out the major strengths! Really need this!
This is so ridiculously helpful!!!!!!
Best summary ever. I’ve never felt so understood!!
Thank you so much! What a wonderful video! 🥰
Absolutely loved those last few lines!
Cool, so we're bards, complete with our bardic inspiration.
Totes 🎶
What's funny is that my ancestors in Scotland are descended from bards. My dad's really into genealogy.
Leaving a legacy in fashion has been one of my life goals for some time now, to hear you say what you did around 18:26, was like 😧
This video went so deep and explain me a lot of my weird behaviors. Thank you so much!!!!
Great explanations, thanks! Especially of Te and Si. Had an ACE (Adverse Childhood Experience) score of 9/10 leaving childhood and my survival mode was often in control. Si has been the underpinning of my life for ... at least 10 years, to a certain extent for 25 years. I chose an Si job, in a kind of Ne field. Became tunnel-vision obsessed with moving 4,000 miles away (not necessarily a bad move), and spent 10 years getting a work permit and applying for citizenship in another country. I don't regret it, but it was EXTREMELY stressful for a long time.
I was gonna ask her to do a video going into this in more detail. I am an ENFP, but I also have ptsd, and I feel...not like I was.
+1 cptsd from ACE
any other ENFPs here who used to think they were an INFP because they aren’t a “typical extrovert”?
What an amazing description - the best I have listened to. Thank you
Im now floating in the outor space looking waiting for the path to get back in ~(depression /numb /boreden )waiting for the earth turning my way, I find nothing intriguing inspiring ~flame is about to extingquish
I hope the light comes again soon Elle,
This was so gold!! Thank you.
My sister is an intj and our dynamic used to be like i had 10 cups of coffee and her acting like she uses melatonin pills lmao but growing up i get more introverted i keep getting confused and i keep switching mbtis cuz i relate to all of them.. but a friend told me that she noticed i was very enfp and talk like one and thank god someone gave me an opinion cuz i can NOT guess myself + i keep thinking that there must be more than "this" i have a tendency to say "but i could be wrong tho" in every statement or literally any sentence btw i for some reason have an extreme of extroversion and introversion its ruining my relationships...
Well explained and dynamic really enjoyed your speech :)
Profound! Well be researched and life applicable - with inclusion of exceptions!
Thank you so much for this video. I stumbled upon it when I searched ENFP. I've known I was and ENFP for a decade, and have read about it, watched videos, took various versions of the test online from the official to simple. But your video has probably been the most useful to me at this exact point in my life. The way you broke down the four different functions was the first time I ever really understood it well. It also opened my eyes to why I think and feel the way I do, during an emotionally abusive relationship that I left, how my authenticity was taken advantage of and how I ended up relying way too much in the memory or 3 year old space, which has been really rough. I burned out from routine type job stress and allowing others to almost stomp out my exploration driver. I now understand what I went through better and myself more. Now I can better work to become my enthusiastic empathetic curious ENFP self again. Thank you so much.
ENFP Here , that was amazing
THX
Mmmm i forgot what to say
Im gonna save The world bye
Best video made about ENFP. Thank you very much.. it feels good to be understood
Anyone else watching this ever suspect themselves of having or been diagnosed with ADHD? My mom is also an ENFP and has ADHD. Makes me wonder how many people labeled neuro-divergent aren't just certain personality types who don't have well developed Effectiveness. Combined with natural and sometimes reckless curiosity, impulsivity (when avoiding Authenticity) and intense feelings,
this sounds just like ADHD.
Just commented the same thing
I have adhd as well
Choose love, breathe in gratitude, and hope without expectations. 🙏
Oh my God ...that is the best explanation I have ever seen...thank you so much
“They have so many different possibilities of what they could do they get lost” I’ve never felt more understood in my life
Same here!