What this video says are signs an ENFP is probably living their "purpose:" 1. You're not bored. 2. You're attracting like-minded people. 3. Even the bad days still feel meaningful. 4. The world is more interesting than yourself. 5. You do not feel done. (And I very much relate!!! Thriving in uncertainty and challenge...I can see that. I get lit up about exploring options.)
A solid ENFP here, I had one job for ten years (rarer still) but the best ENFP job, I worked in museums as a tour guide and interpreter and I lived for entertaining those crowds!
@calumcrowston I like that position. I’ve actually applied at a couple of art museums. Although my résumé doesn’t state How creative I am I.e.: Love interior decorating, great at sales (Just don’t want to work for the shark tank type sales like I have before due to such negative energy as ENFP). I have managed my fathers business for many years, and an Optical in a family owned optometric practice (Unrelated to the family). I loved my job and was phenomenal at it. However, I wasn’t making what I should have been due to all of the work (and Not enough staff) I was handling day to day but I learned a lot and for that I am grateful. Moving forward, post Covid, I’m trying to find some thing that aligns with what I am good at and although it is a great time to change courses or start a business (Something I have highly considered, but I have to figure out what the business will be if I go that route.) Any suggestions are greatly appreciate it from the fellow ENFP that is successful and loves his/her job!
@@SteveFox369 I would love to do interior design!! There’s not a large enough demand for it in my area. UX design, I have considered several months ago. I have to do more research. The only research I recall hearing right away was from a reputable TH-cam channel is that it’s lots of tech. Another example they used, was social media manager. In any event, I’m glad you brought this back to my attention and I’m looking forward to seeing Specifics on what job duties entail for a title like this one.
Ahh this really spoke to me! I’m an ENFP and covid lockdown has been one of the greatest struggles in my life. I had a long period of time where I wanted to sleep in late and go to bed early because my dreams were more interesting than my life. Though there are no other ENFPs under my roof I had discovered my love of uncertainty and new experiences years ago. So I felt very trapped in one place. I’m doing a lot better now. I cannot go out and see people as often as what would be healthy for me (very often 😂) but I am finding some sources of joy independently! I’ve been writing, dancing, listening to/playing music, bike riding, etc. I’m not on the most fulfilling path for me currently, for I am dragged down by school and other external forces, but I am on a path to a better path for myself 🙃😂. But oh boy #4 on the list really related to me. Again, I’ve felt very trapped within myself for the past few months, but I’m doing a bit better now. I’m glad to be a person that is always open to the possibilities the world throws at me! The universe’s best plan for us was uncertainty 😌 Thanks for making such a relatable, feel-good video! I love your channel!
I really relate to this as well - COVID/lockdown has been HARD. I'm really happy you've been finding ways to keep yourself at least stimulated *enough* (again, relatable lol). Sending tons of energy & support from one locked-down ENFP to another!
Its been very hard for me as well. My classes were cancelled. My friends are MIA. I barely get to speak to anyone. I cannot remember what a smile looks like. It is true that i gain energy from interacting with others. Hang in there !! (ENFP)
I so relate to suffering under this lockdown lack of meeting People... thanks for making me feel better! I found myself looking at friends who said they actually kind of enjoy (??!!) the lack of all kinds of activities like: do I even know you?
This is hands down THE BEST ENFP video I've watched to date! And I've watched a lot! So personally validating and empowering and life affirming 😄! It took my fiancé (also an ENFP) and I over an hour to go through it and I've got 5 pages of notes to go back and unpack further. You are honestly my hero and this is getting shared with every ENFP I know! Thank you so much ❤🙏🏼.
Very insightful. I think that Fi loop that you mention is exactly what I've been experiencing a lot during the past year, it's hard to be extroverted during a pandemic...
the Fi loop is something Ive experience and when I feel this desperately, travelling and exploring new lands has always been the solution to coming alive again.. intuitively i know that to be my medicine
You just made me feel sooooo much better about myself while I’m sitting and wondering why I don’t have friends who want to go on adventures and searching if I have ADD because I feel weird among all these chill people who don’t have life cravings!! 😂Thank you for this and all your content! Sending you ENFP love! 🍀🌸
Agreed girl!! I was like that for a long while. Finally in my 2nd year of University. I found a few NFs or an ESFP. So, pretty close... But last year, I have finally found my match as a best friend, another ENFP!! So, it is never too late to make friends!! I compleltly agree with Heidi, when we branch out and become ourselves, let the world see who we really are, some people might be like "huhhh?" But the true friends that are meant to be, others who really understand us, will come!! So, this really is quite inspiring that Heidi has placed in her video. :D Inspiration all around :). - A Fellow ENFP.
@@erinb9647 I love all of my friends but they just don’t prioritize the same stuff like I do. I will spend all my bucks on traveling, some exciting adventure, educational courses, meditation in the middle of a forest in a camp, going all the way to another city just to have a cup of coffee in my fav. place there and come back the same day or learn how to do pottery... 😂 I just have soooo many interests and no friends who are as impulsive as I am. They keep me grounded sometimes which is good but they also won’t follow me anywhere. Hope to find my adventure buddy soon!!! Thanks for the good energy! 🥰
@@alexandra499520 You are welcome! :D I see a relationship as 50/50... since you are making sacrifices for your friends, I hope that can too make scarifies for you as well. But, yes, I hope you find your ENFP buddies!! :D
Thanks for saying "not bored". I mever get bored but many ENFP videos say it is a general ENFP trait. How can I get bored when life is so fascinating. Depressed at times, but not bored.
This is the most useful video I have watched on TH-cam in months. We were built to engage with the world "vastly and widely" - This gets to the root of my problem - when i do this I'm on fire - a force of nature but when i drift into seclusion and routine I get really down.
I've loved music incredibly since I was born. I remember being very small, and telling my parents I couldn't live without music. Half a year ago, at age 37, I FINALLY picked up an instrument. Holy shit, the passion and dedication I feel for it are Incredible. So sad I was distracted by videogames etc all the time. Thing is, it is hard to learn an instrument as an extravert cause you have to sit down alone a LOT. Fi is totally in on it though.
I too,have been sidetracked by videogames(for over 30 years), and in love with music. Have much the same problems you do,but edging closer to following my dreams.
I adore this! I started practicing singing every day a few months ago (after a lifetime of thinking I couldn't do it) and feel so aligned with so much of what you're saying! The learning is HARD but the payoff is HUGE. Can't wait until the day you're linking us your latest music 🤗
@@heidipriebe1 Look up "Prince - Little Red Corvette live", and check out his Montreux performance. He had the capability of communicating the way he felt via his instrument in a way that was beyond words. A lot of his music came straight from an Introverted feeling perspective. Being able to express yourself in such a way is what I'm looking to achieve as well. Please show us some singing once you feel ready :))
Hey! It is just last week that I've realized myself that music is actually my life. Music was everything for me , too since I can remember, circumstances though made me stop learning the guitar when I was kid and pursuing this path actively. I am 27 now and taking guitar lessons again since almost a year now (thanks to Covid lockdown that gave me time for it) and I feel like I am the most happiest and the most myself when I play and sing. Life is beautiful when you have found something you love to do. So happy for you/us!
Music is not my life, music is life. Yeah once you taste it, you will never be the same... I understand you why you sad. Even after 10 years I still thinking about music path, now I studying graphic design (23 age) graduating it , there's only left three weeks, but IT'S SO HARD in last days, because I know I will be free, but I can't wait for it, so instead of this I procrastinate a lot (while procrastinating I singing, composing music with piano.. ) You know.. music takes to another planet... and I crave music everyday...
This video reached me when I needed it the most. I am moving out to a new city all by myself to pursue a career in something I have loved doing my whole life. My life is going to change and this just gave me the clarity my Fi needed. I am on the right path? Hell Yeah!!
Your right about us being extrovert. My getting into introverted thing's was for inner development & finding a better Relationship with Jesus. Which was a whole new experience that I'm not very good at.. : - )
He will lead you. It’s not about performance. Don’t worry! Just keep reading His Word and communing with Him in prayer. If He designed you as an extrovert, rejoice in His creation and you live the ABUNDANT LIFE !
I'm sooooo into music. Making connections between songs, talking and sharing about, why I like a specific song or presenting a few chosen songs and talking about, what i find special about them. Also I have a neeew vision. I am a dance teacher and I guide people to free their inner dancer. I found out, I want to guide a dance, like for example ecstatic dance, but not that, just my own way. But lets say, there is dimmed light, a very magical setting and people are ready to move by themselves. And I now take "the mic" and there is special music and I speak and guide whatever comes to me, I feel the energy in the room, I want to make them come closer to a special feeling, experience. And the music changes, I prepared maybe mixed it before. But my super super special new Idea is to do that with a live DJ. And my ideas get bigger, that this becomes like a concert, I do it on stage. And my over over dream is to do this on festivals. With sooo many people, maybe my own music, my own show. And its a mix of expressing myself but also connecting with the people, giving to them and exchanging engery.
God, i'm an enfp, bachelor in psychology and passionnate about the MBTI. You and your book helped to me so much. Thank you for all. I needed to hear this.
Yeah. Somehow the MBTI helped me really much with self dicovery. :) I am an ENFP. 🙃 My parents think that stability, discipline and security are the most important values any person should have. :/ But because of that I never knew who I am. I was always bored and lazy. Forced myself to do stuff I didn't want to do and had no self esteem. When I look back I feel like I wasted my whole life. I am now working on changing that. It is the little adventures I crave. Just traveling to another country for the sake of it for example and trying out different weird things. But I still have much work to do. Because of trying to please my parents and forcing myself to be a certain way I developed into someone who tries too hard to never offend anyone. Sometimes I want to do or say something but hold back because I am scared that other people might criticize me and push me back into my shell of self pity and depression. My whole life I was struggeling with bullies. I always was the weird kid and never had the strength to stand up for myself because I never liked me or my life. And I still feel like everyone sees me as this stupid little kid not worth to be taken seriously. And because I was raised to value security and stability I developed some kind of fear of going out of that cage. It is like I trapped myself inside this grey prison with all those routines I hate. Always the same activities I do. Always the same people I meet. No ambitions, no life goals. Everything ist cold, dark and boring. And outside of that cage is a colourful world with candy, rainbows and joy everywhere. At some point I even covered every window, so I didn't have to look out anymore and torture myself with the things I was sure I could never reach. But now that I know, that I don't have to be locked forever, I am beginning to tear away the covers and quit just dreaming of the outside world, but starting to actually see it again. To prove to myself that it still exists. I now have to build up momentum and work around my anxietys and my comfort zone to break out of this cage that held me captive for 20 years. I lost my colours early in life and I really want to get them back. :) That was a long one 🙈 But I just wanted to get this out into the world. 😊 So thanks if you read through it all. :)
I wish you the best of luck in all these & lots of colours, rainbows and new adventures! Big hug from fellow enfp who also had a lot of though times and is now finding her true colours...
It was nice reading through and one thing I’ll Say is, maybe you need to go to a new location and start over again without the familiar people you feel would judge you, then pretend to be just anything you want to be. I’m sending you love and light as you go on to new discoveries 🥰
Wow 5 minutes in and this video has moved me to tears - happy tears ..how amazing does it feel to simply feel heard and understood!?....thank you Heidi!
And I can't even settle down at one place, I've moved around from atleast 3-4 places now, and that's quite uncertain, but I absolutely love the fact that I have my own freedom but it does a bit lonely without people around me
When I was like ten yeas old and wondered why people ask about the sense of life, I felt so sure about it and found the question so unnecessary. My mum laughed at me and asked what it is then. I shrugged and said “just living!”. I felt so exited about the possibilities.
I experienced something similar as a child and i don’t think my answer changed it just gets more elaborate every time i am asked for the bigger meaning or purpose of life: i think everything is a big coincidence and we are in the middle of beautiful chaos to explore. Meaning and purpose are what you find in and through engaging with it ~ in your words: just living!
I am crying... thank you so much. The part where you tell us that you want us to be challenged, to be confused, it got me. I am in a very challenging situation right now and thought it was my fault for being put in a position like this and kept regressing and depending on my memories, to fix (what I thought were) “my problems” once again. But since you addressed our need for uncertainty, now not only do I realize that it’s a job only people like me can do, but also that I NEED this challenge and uncertainty and novelty. After 10 + years of blaming God for bringing me into this painful and difficult world, I now get why we have problems to fix every step of our lives, no matter how mature we are. They are not to fix me, or make me be "done" or be, “whole” as the END GOAL but to make me grow and be in that constant state of a lightening spark, of fulfillment, all the while feeling alive with my heart racing.
I totally relate. I grew up thinking there must have been something wrong with me. Hated my ENFP personality because I felt it was holding me back. Studied law. Became a prosecutor for five years. I enjoyed working with people but at the same time felt something was missing. Left my job and moved to a new city and new country. I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life. Was getting pressured to convert my degree. Knowing more about my personality was turning point for me. Now I’m in love with who I am. Created a TH-cam channel and learning a lot. I love the uncertainty and the chaos. ❤
I am so excited about this. I have to rewatch. This video proved that I have not been "on the right path" recently. But I know exactly what I need to do. Not exactly exactly... like I don't know the specifics. But exactly in the general sense. Does that make sense? Thank you Heidi. Honestly.
No 5. I almost fell into that trap. I wanted to preserve my relationship at all cost even if it would keep me trapped in a boring unhappy reality. Fortunately the guy broke up with me anyway and I immediatelt ventured off on a great adventure and lived the best year of my life💜
Been working on a really nice mental health ward in the hospital... Been so lucky as it ticks so many box's but after 5 years it's time to adventure again!! Just can't do the same things any longer
Thank you Heidi!! I have felt so understood in this video. I am currently striving to spread my wings and grow as a new young adult! And living my true ENFP self is what is needed and is what is healthy for me to do in my life. Things in life are wanting to hold me back, but I am just itching to sore! I agree on like everything that you have said. I am a firm believer of people living out their true dreams and desires... recently I have realized that I am acting out as a hypocrite because I was not living out my true feelings, paths, desires, etc... This encouragement and confirmation is great, definitely needed and appreciated for me. - An Inspired ENFP :D
IDK why I've never looked into this shit before. I always jump right on anything even remotely interesting to me, so I feel really late to this party but wow....I don't feel like a "freak" anymore for being the "weird" one of the family. I feel actually understood in all of these ENFP blogs and videos. And discovering who I am personality-wise helps me understand myself as a cosmic soul & my spiritual journey is starting to make so much more sense now! I'm actually excited about something again!
Thank you for making this video! What is lighting me up as an ENFP right now is, finally pursuing a career, after many years of being a full-time mom (which is a career, by the way.) The career itself seems slightly tedious but doable, and the idea that I can have a different purpose in life, other than "MOM!" is very exciting. Alongside this, I'm helping my spouse with his side project, believing he has something to contribute and I can be his cheerleader.
This is so timely. Thank you for this Heidi. 🥲 I was just about to go into self doubt and frustration thinking that the field I'm currently taking right now is not aligned with what I really feel alive which is to go on adventures be happy and to help other people. I realize that I don't need to follow other people's path or what they want me to be. I just need to be true to my passion and unleash the potential in me. I need to stop doubting myself and trust what's God has in store for me. I just have to enjoy this process 🥰
The "I'm not done" piece spoke to me. I'm currently coming to the end of my bachelor's degree - I feel tired but am not done. I know I need to take a full break - but need to dive back in!
Joining a film community was the best thing that happened to me, and it has completely turned my life around, I've experienced some of the best years of my life yet
You are SO inspiring for me,it makes me fully glad i joined your bootcamp all those weeks ago! Still holding the same fears and nervousness insidee,but you bring me closer to my truth.Honestly still feeling connecting to music and singing,and i love our planet,our environment(so i feel conscious of it).
Oh my gosh I love SO VERY much that part from near the beginning to the first minute and a half in about how people being unhappy doesn't necessarily have to always do with their mindset but them just not being in an environment or lifestyle that's an authentic, genuine, thriving fit for them. I feel passionate about that!!
I feel some of these points are applicable to all types, not just ENFPs! I especially love the comment about knowing the difference between growing pain and pain pain. That resonates so much...
I'm so happy someone asked me what I'm into right now 😂 the last couple of days I've been foraging edible flowers and making beautiful ice cubes ready for a summer party, also on a pretty heavy tie dye vibe, excited to hit up some charity shops at the weekend, find some old material to tie dye and make outdoor floor cushions! listening to a lot of stuff to do with stoicism and typology too 😊
Hi only learnt about personalities a few months ago. And I am definitely a enfp. I hit rock bottom loosing everything but now it has made me, and my look at life so clear. I don't want anyone too go through what I went through but I am unbreakable clear and satisfied with who I am. My xpartner and her family are narcissistic. Witch I learnt and can read people very quickly now.
I’m super excited about starting school to study mental health and be a counselor of some sort eventually! I’m also enjoying gaming a lot and I’m going to buy a facecam to start streaming RIGHT NOW! I also have a new romantic relationship that is really healthy and exciting. Just wanted to share what has me engaged right now :)
THIS VIDEO!!!!! I am halfway through first year of a nursing degree, and i have felt so so so depressed and unhappy oddly enough. not just the present, but felt awful about the future. i was so bored i wanted to cry. thought i was broken, couldn't understand it, i love people!!! turns out science was just too much of a passion of mine, the study didn't have enough of a focus on science, and obviously being a nurse as a job isn't focused on science. reflecting on my past thoughts, choosing nursing, it felt like leaving my childhood dreams behind, choosing a practical job to be like yes i'm an adult now, i was just like yk what. getting a career in science is more difficult, but i love science too much. i can volunteer to fulfill my need to work with people in my community. but i should follow my passion. chemistry gives me so much energy, i felt my best in chemistry and biology classes in college, i love science, and the prospect of not continuing deepening my understanding of chemistry past year 13/last year of high school level, made me so so so sad. i may of been rambling. i'm just feeling so much more happy, centred in myself, and excited for the short and long term future for when i can start science degree next year and be on the right path.
I am not an ENFP but this was so helpful! Especially your quote at the end. I often automatically try to fill in the needs of others and forget to ask myself what I want, or even need. And my Fe makes me want to blend into whichever environment I find myself in. I've struggled to "fit in" my whole life, thinking that will somehow make me happy, or life more secure. The main difference for me is that I need that certainty! I need one direction to move towards- that makes me excited!
Oh my God.... processing complex things and explaining it in a simple way... 🫨 That IS the only thing that makes me really happy 😮 Programming, improv, self help/psych.... All things where doing this made me happy.... I don’t have to pick just one... I just have to do more of the thing I like everywhere 😮 Holly shit. STOP CHANGING MY LIFE SO MUCH! lmao😂 ❤❤🎉
SO, #1 really got me thinking about my life, and when she said, "you are on some bullshit." I felt so understood, and respected. I really appreciated that feeling. I laughed out loud. I really did. It sat me up. Thank you!
I really relate to arriving and that becoming plateau/boredom. So freeing to realise we can start again with the new mountain and that's not being flaky. I've just started a breakfast radio show with a friend. Another friend commented "there's always something new isn't there?" In the past I would have taken that as dig, now I see it's a need to keep things alive!
As someone who typed INFJ and INFP previously but was extremely mentally unhealthy and isolated due to fear of living at the time and retyped myself thoroughly once I got better and got the surprising result starting with "E", I cannot express how much validation and insight I am getting from these series. It's like I officially got permission to live and to breathe and be ME. Getting someone to verbalize things you did not know how to is invaluable. I want to comment on every single line! Thank you.
Can't belive this hole video, you've just described all my life. Lately I feel so depress, no passion in my life. Its incredible to know that there are more people feeling like this and being enfp, hope to find them soon 🤞🏼💖 Thank u very much, really. Greetings from Argentina!
These videos are bringing up all the things I need to revisit. I am bored. I am lonely. I am stagnant. Realize I choosing safe over joy. I see times in my life that I have lived life out loud. Often see how I have been seen as too much. I am successful. Love my job as a Psychologist. I connect easily. I am invested. In my personal life I have been so disappointed and I have shrunk. Now...Just lonely even when I am around others. Need a reset.
This is the first time I truly understood the need for uncertainty and how it pertains to ENFP and WHY I am interesting in a million things for only so long until the next thing…and the next…
I felt the part of the Extroverted Intuition Sometimes I just find myself looking at something and my mind just starts thinking..........................
I woke up with such sad, depression mood didn't know what do and suddenly came across this video, the timing was perfect i feel heard and understood and genuinely excited for today, thanks Heidi
Omg I really needed this now. I moved to three different countries and right now I never felt so un aligned with myself and I've been so sad and only thinking about myself. I felt so alone and I find it very hard getting friends in my school and this city I live in because I don't like what I study or a big city like this. Thank you for making people feeling understood and not alone!
Ahh this was very refreshing. I am in such a stuck spot where I have been putting myself through SJ paths for years and I finally snapped. I'm in between jobs and I feel like nobody knows who I really am. My boyfriend kindof understands but still I was forcing myself into an SJ mold when I met him and everything is cracking open right now. Thanks for this video 🖖🖖🖖
Seems like there’s no escaping the SJs. Every job they are there to tell me I’m NOT DOING IT RIGHT. I’ve had a couple of job experiences where I found “my people” but the job itself was not right for me. Free lance writing with a lot of contact with people I didn’t have to see every day seem to work really well for me!
Not to change the subject on this vid but Heidi, I'm really interested to hear your perspectives on recovering from attachment (developmental) trauma. I've been studying it for years and am not satisfied with the current modalities and ideas of recovery. I'd like to hear an adventurous ENFP's take on how to re-wire the brain. I know you watch Thais' channel too but I'd really like to hear your ideas at some point.
Hi, I'm an enfp with lots of experience with my own developmental trauma recovery, I hope this helps you or anybody, if you haven't tried some of these yet. As I'm sure you know trauma is very much rooted in the body & nervous system. Talking alone will not help, although it's also important to put things together and understand yourself. I've done a lot of somatic (body-based) methods/ therapies, such as: Rosen therapy, TRE (tension- and trauma release exercise), creative dance/ dance therapy, osteopathy, acupuncture. You should definitely check DNRS, it's great for calming your nervous system & rewiring the brain. I'm also doing traditional psychotherapy. I believe in combining EVERYTHING that helps, not against medicines either, you might need them at certain points, just not all your life or to numb you down. Basic healthy lifestyle, sleeping, eating, moving is also very, very important. And one more thing, energy treatments have helped me tremendously. I believe trauma is always also on the spiritual level. But it depends on your belief system, if you are open to that. I wish you all the best in your recovery. It's important work! Oh and have you read Bessel van der Kolks The body sets the score? And it would be great to have a conversation with someone who has also studied these things a lot 😊
my god you're just digging into my brain, i love that wholesome moment when someone expresses my feeling the best way possible and u keep doing that.love ur videos💖keep going
YES!! 🎉 Your final quote is one I caught at 11 years old and it has resonated deeply theough out my life. Another quote is "I dwell in possibility." (Emily Dickinson) Once again, I feel massively validated and grateful for the work you've been doing in the world for us ENFPs. Thank you, Heidi. 🙏💓
Loved this video. I’ve definitely struggled with the ruminating part in the past omg!! I’ve felt like being extremely self aware is a blessing a curse. But I’m definitely on the right path now! I’m in alignment and feel authentic. I just started my first job as a registered nurse and Even tho it’s challenging I am so excited about the future and the now! Thanks for all you share !
I recently went through your book, there was a lot that pulled on my heart, though there was that inevitable point of where I came upon the point "where can I shortcut this?" That feeling of accomplishment or emotional strain, then the next chapter came in. "So you think you can shortcut this, eh?" 😂
I am so fascinated by your work! Thank you for sharing such insight! To answer your question regarding what lights us up, I am really into philosophy and politics. When I get a firm understanding of various phenomena, which I can share and transform into action later in life, I feel alive.
What if you haven't felt that level of excitement for such a long time and now, even though you know it exists, you have forgotten what it feels like and you don't know where or how to search for it? :/
Man do I ever know that feeling. During those periods I always try to pay reallllly close attention to my energy. What makes me feel even a little more alive than usual? Which topics, conversations, books, friends, interests - literally anything. And then try to do more and more of that. Your intuition is always giving you subtle hints about where it wants to go. ❤️
OMG! The boredom part explained why I know I'm an ENFP but feel so disconnected to this bubbly and energetic perception since quarantine started! Thanks!
I'm happy to realize that this indicates not only am I on the right path now I can think of numerous times from the past. It's easy to see what these times have in common so I can add the little bit that is currently missing.
awesome! thanks a lot for this. it makes perfect sense your video. What lights me up is creating new recipies for food special with wild plants, craft beers. Designing garden and fences and making them, etc etc etc
ENFP from Brazil here, and I'm going to college for Graphic Design. I've been a hole semester in computer science and never been so depressed in my life, this + pandemic (that our beautiful president makes sure we won't get out soon) has got me nuts. I really like Graphic Design, it feels like I'm always getting something new, while still doing something that can bring some money haha. My dream is being able to be a musician someday by the way. Love for all ENFP's around here! We will get where we want, we always do it
This is the most insightful work I have ever seen on enfp’s. I can’t explain how amazing this video was, it absolutely blew my mind and hit me deep! I am doing your boot camp starting in 2 weeks. Thank you!!
I just opened up a POD store. It's so nice to have a project that uses so many of my interests and talents, to have so much variety to explore. 2020 was rough. And I really miss randomly talking to strangers. ❤
Wow, thank you for this video! Lightbulb moment learning that overindulging Fi and not focusing on Ne leads to stagnation is so helpful! I've typed as INFP but I sometimes wonder if I'm actually ENFP (grew up in very introverted family who valued being reserved and contained and not taking up space or making noise). Using my Ne makes me happy and motivated in life and I've realised, thanks to this video, I haven't been looking outward enough and taking in enough info and experiences to reach a sense of vitality. I've been trapped in Fi, obsessing about self-improvement. Time to come alive!! Thank you! x
What this video says are signs an ENFP is probably living their "purpose:"
1. You're not bored.
2. You're attracting like-minded people.
3. Even the bad days still feel meaningful.
4. The world is more interesting than yourself.
5. You do not feel done.
(And I very much relate!!! Thriving in uncertainty and challenge...I can see that. I get lit up about exploring options.)
Thanks for summarizing! Love
I'm super excited about trading stocks, I just started & it's going really well.
I feel, i’m done 😭😭😭
I do all that but still feel wrong. Like something big is missing. Maybe it's boredom that I don't recognise as boredom.
Wow, I’m dating the most intelligent and beautiful person alive ♥️
That’s sign #1 you’re on the right track as an ISFP
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Awwwww...you two.
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A solid ENFP here, I had one job for ten years (rarer still) but the best ENFP job, I worked in museums as a tour guide and interpreter and I lived for entertaining those crowds!
Amazing. Everyday a new experience
@calumcrowston I like that position. I’ve actually applied at a couple of art museums. Although my résumé doesn’t state How creative I am I.e.: Love interior decorating, great at sales (Just don’t want to work for the shark tank type sales like I have before due to such negative energy as ENFP).
I have managed my fathers business for many years, and an Optical in a family owned optometric practice (Unrelated to the family). I loved my job and was phenomenal at it. However, I wasn’t making what I should have been due to all of the work (and Not enough staff) I was handling day to day but I learned a lot and for that I am grateful.
Moving forward, post Covid, I’m trying to find some thing that aligns with what I am good at and although it is a great time to change courses or start a business (Something I have highly considered, but I have to figure out what the business will be if I go that route.)
Any suggestions are greatly appreciate it from the fellow ENFP that is successful and loves his/her job!
Mmmm
@@rachelel.4863 Interior design maybe? Ux/Ui design
@@SteveFox369 I would love to do interior design!! There’s not a large enough demand for it in my area. UX design, I have considered several months ago. I have to do more research. The only research I recall hearing right away was from a reputable TH-cam channel is that it’s lots of tech. Another example they used, was social media manager. In any event, I’m glad you brought this back to my attention and I’m looking forward to seeing Specifics on what job duties entail for a title like this one.
Ahh this really spoke to me! I’m an ENFP and covid lockdown has been one of the greatest struggles in my life. I had a long period of time where I wanted to sleep in late and go to bed early because my dreams were more interesting than my life. Though there are no other ENFPs under my roof I had discovered my love of uncertainty and new experiences years ago. So I felt very trapped in one place. I’m doing a lot better now. I cannot go out and see people as often as what would be healthy for me (very often 😂) but I am finding some sources of joy independently! I’ve been writing, dancing, listening to/playing music, bike riding, etc. I’m not on the most fulfilling path for me currently, for I am dragged down by school and other external forces, but I am on a path to a better path for myself 🙃😂. But oh boy #4 on the list really related to me. Again, I’ve felt very trapped within myself for the past few months, but I’m doing a bit better now. I’m glad to be a person that is always open to the possibilities the world throws at me! The universe’s best plan for us was uncertainty 😌
Thanks for making such a relatable, feel-good video! I love your channel!
I really relate to this as well - COVID/lockdown has been HARD. I'm really happy you've been finding ways to keep yourself at least stimulated *enough* (again, relatable lol). Sending tons of energy & support from one locked-down ENFP to another!
Aww thank you so much!
Its been very hard for me as well. My classes were cancelled. My friends are MIA. I barely get to speak to anyone. I cannot remember what a smile looks like. It is true that i gain energy from interacting with others. Hang in there !! (ENFP)
I so relate to suffering under this lockdown lack of meeting People... thanks for making me feel better! I found myself looking at friends who said they actually kind of enjoy (??!!) the lack of all kinds of activities like: do I even know you?
@@silentgrove7670 I feel ya! Hang in there too! :)
This is hands down THE BEST ENFP video I've watched to date! And I've watched a lot! So personally validating and empowering and life affirming 😄! It took my fiancé (also an ENFP) and I over an hour to go through it and I've got 5 pages of notes to go back and unpack further. You are honestly my hero and this is getting shared with every ENFP I know! Thank you so much ❤🙏🏼.
Very insightful. I think that Fi loop that you mention is exactly what I've been experiencing a lot during the past year, it's hard to be extroverted during a pandemic...
Same !
Same here honestly, it's so frustrating being unable to get out of that
the Fi loop is something Ive experience and when I feel this desperately, travelling and exploring new lands has always been the solution to coming alive again.. intuitively i know that to be my medicine
You just made me feel sooooo much better about myself while I’m sitting and wondering why I don’t have friends who want to go on adventures and searching if I have ADD because I feel weird among all these chill people who don’t have life cravings!! 😂Thank you for this and all your content! Sending you ENFP love! 🍀🌸
Sending it right back! 🤗💖
Agreed girl!! I was like that for a long while. Finally in my 2nd year of University. I found a few NFs or an ESFP. So, pretty close... But last year, I have finally found my match as a best friend, another ENFP!! So, it is never too late to make friends!! I compleltly agree with Heidi, when we branch out and become ourselves, let the world see who we really are, some people might be like "huhhh?" But the true friends that are meant to be, others who really understand us, will come!! So, this really is quite inspiring that Heidi has placed in her video. :D Inspiration all around :).
- A Fellow ENFP.
@@erinb9647 I love all of my friends but they just don’t prioritize the same stuff like I do. I will spend all my bucks on traveling, some exciting adventure, educational courses, meditation in the middle of a forest in a camp, going all the way to another city just to have a cup of coffee in my fav. place there and come back the same day or learn how to do pottery... 😂 I just have soooo many interests and no friends who are as impulsive as I am. They keep me grounded sometimes which is good but they also won’t follow me anywhere. Hope to find my adventure buddy soon!!! Thanks for the good energy! 🥰
@@alexandra499520 You are welcome! :D I see a relationship as 50/50... since you are making sacrifices for your friends, I hope that can too make scarifies for you as well.
But, yes, I hope you find your ENFP buddies!! :D
Same!!!!!!! Since my childhood, i feel like that!
Thanks for saying "not bored". I mever get bored but many ENFP videos say it is a general ENFP trait. How can I get bored when life is so fascinating. Depressed at times, but not bored.
This is the most useful video I have watched on TH-cam in months. We were built to engage with the world "vastly and widely" - This gets to the root of my problem - when i do this I'm on fire - a force of nature but when i drift into seclusion and routine I get really down.
100%
I've loved music incredibly since I was born. I remember being very small, and telling my parents I couldn't live without music. Half a year ago, at age 37, I FINALLY picked up an instrument. Holy shit, the passion and dedication I feel for it are Incredible. So sad I was distracted by videogames etc all the time.
Thing is, it is hard to learn an instrument as an extravert cause you have to sit down alone a LOT. Fi is totally in on it though.
I too,have been sidetracked by videogames(for over 30 years), and in love with music. Have much the same problems you do,but edging closer to following my dreams.
I adore this! I started practicing singing every day a few months ago (after a lifetime of thinking I couldn't do it) and feel so aligned with so much of what you're saying! The learning is HARD but the payoff is HUGE. Can't wait until the day you're linking us your latest music 🤗
@@heidipriebe1 Look up "Prince - Little Red Corvette live", and check out his Montreux performance.
He had the capability of communicating the way he felt via his instrument in a way that was beyond words. A lot of his music came straight from an Introverted feeling perspective. Being able to express yourself in such a way is what I'm looking to achieve as well.
Please show us some singing once you feel ready :))
Hey! It is just last week that I've realized myself that music is actually my life. Music was everything for me , too since I can remember, circumstances though made me stop learning the guitar when I was kid and pursuing this path actively. I am 27 now and taking guitar lessons again since almost a year now (thanks to Covid lockdown that gave me time for it) and I feel like I am the most happiest and the most myself when I play and sing. Life is beautiful when you have found something you love to do. So happy for you/us!
Music is not my life, music is life. Yeah once you taste it, you will never be the same... I understand you why you sad. Even after 10 years I still thinking about music path, now I studying graphic design (23 age) graduating it , there's only left three weeks, but IT'S SO HARD in last days, because I know I will be free, but I can't wait for it, so instead of this I procrastinate a lot (while procrastinating I singing, composing music with piano.. ) You know.. music takes to another planet... and I crave music everyday...
As a confused ENFP (depressed) this has given total clarity to me. Thank you!! I’ve been shut down by unhelpful relationships.
This video reached me when I needed it the most. I am moving out to a new city all by myself to pursue a career in something I have loved doing my whole life. My life is going to change and this just gave me the clarity my Fi needed.
I am on the right path? Hell Yeah!!
HUGE congratulations and GOOD LUCK to you!! 🙌 I love hearing things like this!
@@heidipriebe1 Thank you for your videos. Peace and good health❤️
Nothing is “lighting” me up at the moment.
Your right about us being extrovert.
My getting into introverted thing's was for inner development & finding a better Relationship with Jesus. Which was a whole new experience that I'm not very good at.. : - )
He will lead you. It’s not about performance. Don’t worry! Just keep reading His Word and communing with Him in prayer. If He designed you as an extrovert, rejoice in His creation and you live the ABUNDANT LIFE !
I'm sooooo into music. Making connections between songs, talking and sharing about, why I like a specific song or presenting a few chosen songs and talking about, what i find special about them.
Also I have a neeew vision. I am a dance teacher and I guide people to free their inner dancer. I found out, I want to guide a dance, like for example ecstatic dance, but not that, just my own way. But lets say, there is dimmed light, a very magical setting and people are ready to move by themselves. And I now take "the mic" and there is special music and I speak and guide whatever comes to me, I feel the energy in the room, I want to make them come closer to a special feeling, experience. And the music changes, I prepared maybe mixed it before.
But my super super special new Idea is to do that with a live DJ.
And my ideas get bigger, that this becomes like a concert, I do it on stage.
And my over over dream is to do this on festivals. With sooo many people, maybe my own music, my own show. And its a mix of expressing myself but also connecting with the people, giving to them and exchanging engery.
God, i'm an enfp, bachelor in psychology and passionnate about the MBTI. You and your book helped to me so much. Thank you for all. I needed to hear this.
Yeah. Somehow the MBTI helped me really much with self dicovery. :)
I am an ENFP. 🙃
My parents think that stability, discipline and security are the most important values any person should have. :/
But because of that I never knew who I am. I was always bored and lazy. Forced myself to do stuff I didn't want to do and had no self esteem.
When I look back I feel like I wasted my whole life.
I am now working on changing that. It is the little adventures I crave. Just traveling to another country for the sake of it for example and trying out different weird things.
But I still have much work to do. Because of trying to please my parents and forcing myself to be a certain way I developed into someone who tries too hard to never offend anyone. Sometimes I want to do or say something but hold back because I am scared that other people might criticize me and push me back into my shell of self pity and depression.
My whole life I was struggeling with bullies. I always was the weird kid and never had the strength to stand up for myself because I never liked me or my life.
And I still feel like everyone sees me as this stupid little kid not worth to be taken seriously.
And because I was raised to value security and stability I developed some kind of fear of going out of that cage.
It is like I trapped myself inside this grey prison with all those routines I hate. Always the same activities I do. Always the same people I meet. No ambitions, no life goals. Everything ist cold, dark and boring.
And outside of that cage is a colourful world with candy, rainbows and joy everywhere. At some point I even covered every window, so I didn't have to look out anymore and torture myself with the things I was sure I could never reach.
But now that I know, that I don't have to be locked forever, I am beginning to tear away the covers and quit just dreaming of the outside world, but starting to actually see it again. To prove to myself that it still exists. I now have to build up momentum and work around my anxietys and my comfort zone to break out of this cage that held me captive for 20 years.
I lost my colours early in life and I really want to get them back. :)
That was a long one 🙈
But I just wanted to get this out into the world. 😊
So thanks if you read through it all. :)
I wish you the best of luck in all these & lots of colours, rainbows and new adventures! Big hug from fellow enfp who also had a lot of though times and is now finding her true colours...
It was nice reading through and one thing I’ll
Say is, maybe you need to go to a new location and start over again without the familiar people you feel would judge you, then pretend to be just anything you want to be. I’m sending you love and light as you go on to new discoveries 🥰
Tony Robbins is a masculine ENFJ hes the guy that agressively forces you to grow in a constructive but still overwhelming way
Wow 5 minutes in and this video has moved me to tears - happy tears ..how amazing does it feel to simply feel heard and understood!?....thank you Heidi!
I WAS LITERALLY WEEPING!
And I can't even settle down at one place, I've moved around from atleast 3-4 places now, and that's quite uncertain, but I absolutely love the fact that I have my own freedom but it does a bit lonely without people around me
When I was like ten yeas old and wondered why people ask about the sense of life, I felt so sure about it and found the question so unnecessary. My mum laughed at me and asked what it is then. I shrugged and said “just living!”. I felt so exited about the possibilities.
I experienced something similar as a child and i don’t think my answer changed it just gets more elaborate every time i am asked for the bigger meaning or purpose of life: i think everything is a big coincidence and we are in the middle of beautiful chaos to explore. Meaning and purpose are what you find in and through engaging with it ~ in your words: just living!
Whatt, no joke I have the same experience
From one ENFP to another, thank you for this, Heidi! Hearing these words made me feel alive. You’re a wise and beautiful soul ❤️
I’ve struggled to know my purpose my whole life……. Complex trauma is the cruelest thief in the world
Jung's concept of Individuation speaks to ENFP types
I am crying... thank you so much. The part where you tell us that you want us to be challenged, to be confused, it got me.
I am in a very challenging situation right now and thought it was my fault for being put in a position like this and kept regressing and depending on my memories, to fix (what I thought were) “my problems” once again. But since you addressed our need for uncertainty, now not only do I realize that it’s a job only people like me can do, but also that I NEED this challenge and uncertainty and novelty.
After 10 + years of blaming God for bringing me into this painful and difficult world, I now get why we have problems to fix every step of our lives, no matter how mature we are. They are not to fix me, or make me be "done" or be, “whole” as the END GOAL but to make me grow and be in that constant state of a lightening spark, of fulfillment, all the while feeling alive with my heart racing.
You are changing my life so rapidly! Whoaaa! Great content dude.
I totally relate. I grew up thinking there must have been something wrong with me. Hated my ENFP personality because I felt it was holding me back. Studied law. Became a prosecutor for five years. I enjoyed working with people but at the same time felt something was missing. Left my job and moved to a new city and new country. I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life. Was getting pressured to convert my degree. Knowing more about my personality was turning point for me. Now I’m in love with who I am. Created a TH-cam channel and learning a lot. I love the uncertainty and the chaos. ❤
I am so excited about this. I have to rewatch. This video proved that I have not been "on the right path" recently. But I know exactly what I need to do. Not exactly exactly... like I don't know the specifics. But exactly in the general sense. Does that make sense? Thank you Heidi. Honestly.
That makes perfect sense (at least to me!) ❤️
No 5. I almost fell into that trap. I wanted to preserve my relationship at all cost even if it would keep me trapped in a boring unhappy reality. Fortunately the guy broke up with me anyway and I immediatelt ventured off on a great adventure and lived the best year of my life💜
Been working on a really nice mental health ward in the hospital... Been so lucky as it ticks so many box's but after 5 years it's time to adventure again!! Just can't do the same things any longer
Thank you Heidi!! I have felt so understood in this video. I am currently striving to spread my wings and grow as a new young adult! And living my true ENFP self is what is needed and is what is healthy for me to do in my life. Things in life are wanting to hold me back, but I am just itching to sore!
I agree on like everything that you have said. I am a firm believer of people living out their true dreams and desires... recently I have realized that I am acting out as a hypocrite because I was not living out my true feelings, paths, desires, etc... This encouragement and confirmation is great, definitely needed and appreciated for me.
- An Inspired ENFP :D
IDK why I've never looked into this shit before. I always jump right on anything even remotely interesting to me, so I feel really late to this party but wow....I don't feel like a "freak" anymore for being the "weird" one of the family. I feel actually understood in all of these ENFP blogs and videos. And discovering who I am personality-wise helps me understand myself as a cosmic soul & my spiritual journey is starting to make so much more sense now! I'm actually excited about something again!
I just got into the boot camp like 2 days ago. This video came out at the perfect time!
I like playing video games and watching progression.
As an INFJ, your body physique is gorgeous. I’m never tired of your energy.
what the fuck does that have to do with your type. dude that's kinda creepy ngl
@@raiontheone Every personality type has a different body type. If you knew, you wouldn’t be asking. I’m just saying she has a very beautiful figure.
@@raiontheone suit yourself 🙂
As an ENFP, I've realised, it's damn hard to exist without people around you for the most part
Thank you for making this video! What is lighting me up as an ENFP right now is, finally pursuing a career, after many years of being a full-time mom (which is a career, by the way.) The career itself seems slightly tedious but doable, and the idea that I can have a different purpose in life, other than "MOM!" is very exciting. Alongside this, I'm helping my spouse with his side project, believing he has something to contribute and I can be his cheerleader.
This is so timely. Thank you for this Heidi. 🥲 I was just about to go into self doubt and frustration thinking that the field I'm currently taking right now is not aligned with what I really feel alive which is to go on adventures be happy and to help other people. I realize that I don't need to follow other people's path or what they want me to be. I just need to be true to my passion and unleash the potential in me. I need to stop doubting myself and trust what's God has in store for me. I just have to enjoy this process 🥰
The "I'm not done" piece spoke to me. I'm currently coming to the end of my bachelor's degree - I feel tired but am not done. I know I need to take a full break - but need to dive back in!
I love the water cup illustration- great way to explain the need to let go of excess ego.
Joining a film community was the best thing that happened to me, and it has completely turned my life around, I've experienced some of the best years of my life yet
Fi loop hit me hard the second year of the Pandemic 🙈😭
You are SO inspiring for me,it makes me fully glad i joined your bootcamp all those weeks ago! Still holding the same fears and nervousness insidee,but you bring me closer to my truth.Honestly still feeling connecting to music and singing,and i love our planet,our environment(so i feel conscious of it).
Fully glad you joined us too!! 🤗 Keeping connected to whatever you love is always a win in my eyes. Keep chasing that joy 💖
Oh my gosh I love SO VERY much that part from near the beginning to the first minute and a half in about how people being unhappy doesn't necessarily have to always do with their mindset but them just not being in an environment or lifestyle that's an authentic, genuine, thriving fit for them. I feel passionate about that!!
Definitely a lightbulb moment for me!
I feel some of these points are applicable to all types, not just ENFPs! I especially love the comment about knowing the difference between growing pain and pain pain. That resonates so much...
I'm so happy someone asked me what I'm into right now 😂 the last couple of days I've been foraging edible flowers and making beautiful ice cubes ready for a summer party, also on a pretty heavy tie dye vibe, excited to hit up some charity shops at the weekend, find some old material to tie dye and make outdoor floor cushions! listening to a lot of stuff to do with stoicism and typology too 😊
Hi only learnt about personalities a few months ago. And I am definitely a enfp. I hit rock bottom loosing everything but now it has made me, and my look at life so clear. I don't want anyone too go through what I went through but I am unbreakable clear and satisfied with who I am. My xpartner and her family are narcissistic. Witch I learnt and can read people very quickly now.
Wow! How did I miss that there is a NEED for uncertainty?
I’m super excited about starting school to study mental health and be a counselor of some sort eventually! I’m also enjoying gaming a lot and I’m going to buy a facecam to start streaming RIGHT NOW! I also have a new romantic relationship that is really healthy and exciting. Just wanted to share what has me engaged right now :)
I’m really into dance fitness at the gym- the right dance song, the right dance choreography/ the right friends/ I’d do that for free
THIS VIDEO!!!!! I am halfway through first year of a nursing degree, and i have felt so so so depressed and unhappy oddly enough. not just the present, but felt awful about the future. i was so bored i wanted to cry. thought i was broken, couldn't understand it, i love people!!! turns out science was just too much of a passion of mine, the study didn't have enough of a focus on science, and obviously being a nurse as a job isn't focused on science. reflecting on my past thoughts, choosing nursing, it felt like leaving my childhood dreams behind, choosing a practical job to be like yes i'm an adult now, i was just like yk what. getting a career in science is more difficult, but i love science too much. i can volunteer to fulfill my need to work with people in my community. but i should follow my passion. chemistry gives me so much energy, i felt my best in chemistry and biology classes in college, i love science, and the prospect of not continuing deepening my understanding of chemistry past year 13/last year of high school level, made me so so so sad. i may of been rambling. i'm just feeling so much more happy, centred in myself, and excited for the short and long term future for when i can start science degree next year and be on the right path.
I am not an ENFP but this was so helpful! Especially your quote at the end. I often automatically try to fill in the needs of others and forget to ask myself what I want, or even need. And my Fe makes me want to blend into whichever environment I find myself in. I've struggled to "fit in" my whole life, thinking that will somehow make me happy, or life more secure. The main difference for me is that I need that certainty! I need one direction to move towards- that makes me excited!
Oh my God.... processing complex things and explaining it in a simple way... 🫨 That IS the only thing that makes me really happy 😮 Programming, improv, self help/psych.... All things where doing this made me happy.... I don’t have to pick just one... I just have to do more of the thing I like everywhere 😮 Holly shit. STOP CHANGING MY LIFE SO MUCH! lmao😂 ❤❤🎉
you´ve saved my life, thank you
SO, #1 really got me thinking about my life, and when she said, "you are on some bullshit." I felt so understood, and respected. I really appreciated that feeling. I laughed out loud. I really did. It sat me up. Thank you!
End me!!! The rest of number one hit DEEP!!!!!!
I really relate to arriving and that becoming plateau/boredom. So freeing to realise we can start again with the new mountain and that's not being flaky.
I've just started a breakfast radio show with a friend. Another friend commented "there's always something new isn't there?" In the past I would have taken that as dig, now I see it's a need to keep things alive!
As someone who typed INFJ and INFP previously but was extremely mentally unhealthy and isolated due to fear of living at the time and retyped myself thoroughly once I got better and got the surprising result starting with "E", I cannot express how much validation and insight I am getting from these series. It's like I officially got permission to live and to breathe and be ME. Getting someone to verbalize things you did not know how to is invaluable. I want to comment on every single line! Thank you.
A life that feels far away but so fast, looks so beautiful, sounds so sweet. I miss you
Can't belive this hole video, you've just described all my life. Lately I feel so depress, no passion in my life. Its incredible to know that there are more people feeling like this and being enfp, hope to find them soon 🤞🏼💖 Thank u very much, really. Greetings from Argentina!
Just got and binged your class and I have to say, I need more ENFP cognitive function skits, they are so incredibly good!!!
Omg you made a little reality show about the functions and played all the characters with total comitment
These videos are bringing up all the things I need to revisit. I am bored. I am lonely. I am stagnant. Realize I choosing safe over joy. I see times in my life that I have lived life out loud. Often see how I have been seen as too much. I am successful. Love my job as a Psychologist. I connect easily. I am invested. In my personal life I have been so disappointed and I have shrunk. Now...Just lonely even when I am around others. Need a reset.
Backyard chickens have become a huge interest in recent days. Different breeds and egg colors make me so happy! If you can, get some chickens!!!
hit really hard. been looping i didn’t even know it. yet all u said at 1.75x speed made so much sense and instantly relatable.
It was solid advice, regarding the person and environment is sometimes a mixed match, and not that they have a psychological problem.
This is the first time I truly understood the need for uncertainty and how it pertains to ENFP and WHY I am interesting in a million things for only so long until the next thing…and the next…
As a entp this was very insightful and igreee as a Nre dom plus enp..
Thanks for the gentle slap in the face
18:00 until the end was so perfect and almost makes me wanna cry!! Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!! ❤❤
Honestly, you are so good 😊
I felt the part of the Extroverted Intuition
Sometimes I just find myself looking at something and my mind just starts thinking..........................
I woke up with such sad, depression mood didn't know what do and suddenly came across this video, the timing was perfect i feel heard and understood and genuinely excited for today, thanks Heidi
Oh that's great. Right, great. This was my question 3 seconds ago in my head.
Thank you for this.
Omg I really needed this now. I moved to three different countries and right now I never felt so un aligned with myself and I've been so sad and only thinking about myself. I felt so alone and I find it very hard getting friends in my school and this city I live in because I don't like what I study or a big city like this. Thank you for making people feeling understood and not alone!
Ahh this was very refreshing. I am in such a stuck spot where I have been putting myself through SJ paths for years and I finally snapped. I'm in between jobs and I feel like nobody knows who I really am. My boyfriend kindof understands but still I was forcing myself into an SJ mold when I met him and everything is cracking open right now. Thanks for this video 🖖🖖🖖
Seems like there’s no escaping the SJs. Every job they are there to tell me I’m NOT DOING IT RIGHT. I’ve had a couple of job experiences where I found “my people” but the job itself was not right for me. Free lance writing with a lot of contact with people I didn’t have to see every day seem to work really well for me!
Not to change the subject on this vid but Heidi, I'm really interested to hear your perspectives on recovering from attachment (developmental) trauma. I've been studying it for years and am not satisfied with the current modalities and ideas of recovery. I'd like to hear an adventurous ENFP's take on how to re-wire the brain. I know you watch Thais' channel too but I'd really like to hear your ideas at some point.
Hi, I'm an enfp with lots of experience with my own developmental trauma recovery, I hope this helps you or anybody, if you haven't tried some of these yet. As I'm sure you know trauma is very much rooted in the body & nervous system. Talking alone will not help, although it's also important to put things together and understand yourself. I've done a lot of somatic (body-based) methods/ therapies, such as: Rosen therapy, TRE (tension- and trauma release exercise), creative dance/ dance therapy, osteopathy, acupuncture. You should definitely check DNRS, it's great for calming your nervous system & rewiring the brain. I'm also doing traditional psychotherapy. I believe in combining EVERYTHING that helps, not against medicines either, you might need them at certain points, just not all your life or to numb you down. Basic healthy lifestyle, sleeping, eating, moving is also very, very important. And one more thing, energy treatments have helped me tremendously. I believe trauma is always also on the spiritual level. But it depends on your belief system, if you are open to that. I wish you all the best in your recovery. It's important work! Oh and have you read Bessel van der Kolks The body sets the score? And it would be great to have a conversation with someone who has also studied these things a lot 😊
What a great way to start my 2024!!!!!! I feel so much realive to have been found this video !!! Thank you!!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉
my god you're just digging into my brain, i love that wholesome moment when someone expresses my feeling the best way possible and u keep doing that.love ur videos💖keep going
YES!! 🎉 Your final quote is one I caught at 11 years old and it has resonated deeply theough out my life. Another quote is "I dwell in possibility." (Emily Dickinson)
Once again, I feel massively validated and grateful for the work you've been doing in the world for us ENFPs. Thank you, Heidi. 🙏💓
beeing able to destinguish growing pain from pain pain really hit me. You explained it so good
Looove this video! Please don't stop delight us with such powerful content!
This is a good video. I needed this. Thanks
Loved this video. I’ve definitely struggled with the ruminating part in the past omg!! I’ve felt like being extremely self aware is a blessing a curse. But I’m definitely on the right path now! I’m in alignment and feel authentic. I just started my first job as a registered nurse and Even tho it’s challenging I am so excited about the future and the now! Thanks for all you share !
I recently went through your book, there was a lot that pulled on my heart, though there was that inevitable point of where I came upon the point "where can I shortcut this?" That feeling of accomplishment or emotional strain, then the next chapter came in. "So you think you can shortcut this, eh?" 😂
I'm definitely stuck in that Fi loop 🖐️
It would be interesting if you talked about Enfps and job dissatisfaction / career choices
I am so fascinated by your work! Thank you for sharing such insight!
To answer your question regarding what lights us up, I am really into philosophy and politics. When I get a firm understanding of various phenomena, which I can share and transform into action later in life, I feel alive.
I genuinely love you ! This is the first time I meet someone like me. You help me feel seen
What if you haven't felt that level of excitement for such a long time and now, even though you know it exists, you have forgotten what it feels like and you don't know where or how to search for it? :/
* hugs u real tight *
Man do I ever know that feeling. During those periods I always try to pay reallllly close attention to my energy. What makes me feel even a little more alive than usual? Which topics, conversations, books, friends, interests - literally anything. And then try to do more and more of that. Your intuition is always giving you subtle hints about where it wants to go. ❤️
@@heidipriebe1 Thank you! I needed to hear this today.
OMG! The boredom part explained why I know I'm an ENFP but feel so disconnected to this bubbly and energetic perception since quarantine started! Thanks!
I'm happy to realize that this indicates not only am I on the right path now I can think of numerous times from the past. It's easy to see what these times have in common so I can add the little bit that is currently missing.
awesome! thanks a lot for this. it makes perfect sense your video. What lights me up is creating new recipies for food special with wild plants, craft beers. Designing garden and fences and making them, etc etc etc
ENFP from Brazil here, and I'm going to college for Graphic Design. I've been a hole semester in computer science and never been so depressed in my life, this + pandemic (that our beautiful president makes sure we won't get out soon) has got me nuts. I really like Graphic Design, it feels like I'm always getting something new, while still doing something that can bring some money haha. My dream is being able to be a musician someday by the way.
Love for all ENFP's around here! We will get where we want, we always do it
This was baller. You hit a major gear at 13:00 that is fantastic 🔥 ENFP!
This is the most insightful work I have ever seen on enfp’s. I can’t explain how amazing this video was, it absolutely blew my mind and hit me deep! I am doing your boot camp starting in 2 weeks. Thank you!!
I am and ENFP and this spoke to me sooo much.... made me sad that I am not living my best but excited that now I understand why
I just opened up a POD store. It's so nice to have a project that uses so many of my interests and talents, to have so much variety to explore. 2020 was rough. And I really miss randomly talking to strangers. ❤
this is like a big slap in the face for me. thought i was a misfits my whole life. but really i was just an ENFP.
Great video! I am quite into career progression right now, feeling a big motivation for it
Wow, thank you for this video! Lightbulb moment learning that overindulging Fi and not focusing on Ne leads to stagnation is so helpful! I've typed as INFP but I sometimes wonder if I'm actually ENFP (grew up in very introverted family who valued being reserved and contained and not taking up space or making noise). Using my Ne makes me happy and motivated in life and I've realised, thanks to this video, I haven't been looking outward enough and taking in enough info and experiences to reach a sense of vitality. I've been trapped in Fi, obsessing about self-improvement. Time to come alive!! Thank you! x
I have tears in my eyes because I feel so seen and understood. Thank you Heidi