Thank you Jill,great video.I am one year from my ,now,ex wife leaving.Catalyst for a major depressive episode was the death of her father.We were soul mates,and in a matter of weeks,she shut me out,blamed me for her inner pain,and refuses,to this day to accept she was even diagnosed.No meds,no therapy.Just walked away,and shut me out. I feel "deleted" My two children are devastated. Your video is spot on,so anyone watching this,please take note and do your best to work to fight this beast.
My problem is. I can't seem to be happy. I want to be happy so bad and I don't want this to ruin my relationship. I love him so much. But honestly I do tend to lash out on him. I try not to. I feel horrible when I do. I need some ways to calm down and be happy. this may sound weird but I'm serious. How can I be happy? What's something I can do to be happy? I've lost like interest in everything and I feel like I have nothing left to do haha. Help?
I just broke up with someone because their depression, she told me that she love me and still wants to be my friend.. She said she don't have any energy to love anyone again, she said she love to be my gf but when her depression kick in.. It's difficult to love me, she said she'll never be in a relationship again after me. What should i do? I still love her so much.. I don't care if she was always ignoring me when she's depressed, i love everything about her, i accept everything about her.. Please please give me some advice, should i stay friends with her, But deep inside my heart i still waiting for her to love me again? Is she's gonna be back to love me again? Please anyone help.. Give me some advice, im so depressed because of this break up, please
I'm in the same situation. It's difficult. Sometimes love is not enough. But no-one can give you an advice. I love my boyfriend but he said he don't know what he wants in life anymore. He could not even said I love you anymore. It's so difficult. I wish you along of strength
Jill, I've loved all of your videos (new subscriber, found your ASL channel first, now this one), and I just figured I'd say I know what it's like to be a generally-happy person, someone that makes others laugh and happy, while suffering from depression. It makes your depression no less real, and I wish you the best of luck. I very much appreciate the video, as I'm now in a relationship with a guy that is just absolutely wonderful, and I want to know how we can better cope when I go through depression slumps as I call them.
I wish I saw this video before I let depression ruin my relationship. Now no matter what I say and do my boyfriend doesn't want to deal with this together. I have been so mean to him and said very hurtful things to him it was not the first time I did this. Yesterday was the worst incident so far that I can remember and it kills me knowing that he wanted to help and I kept pushing him away. The reason I am depressed is because last February I have lost a baby and since then things are getting worse. I should have gotten professional help a lot sooner and been stronger instead of letting my depression get to me. These tips would have been very helpful right before I ruined everything. Now I am all alone and have to deal with this on my own.
[Jill] Marta, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I can't even imagine what that must feel like and I can understand why you would have gone into a depression. You shouldn't blame yourself for the things you did. Depression is a very hard (more than most people know) thing to go through and often you don't realize what you are doing until later when you are recovering. Many people don't get help right away, or sometimes never do. The important thing is that you are getting help now. I'm sorry that your boyfriend and you are no longer together to get through this. I hope that you are able to find someone, friends, family, or even online support to continue recovering and healing from your loss. Please remember to stay strong and that depression isn't your whole life. Things will get better and you just have to allow yourself to take your time and do it as slowly as you feel you need to. Allow others to help if they can and again DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF. I wish you all the best. :)
Thank you. I hope everything will work out for the best. I wish my life would get back to normal, but I know that my life will never be the same. I just have to learn on how to live with what happened. I need to fix myself and take time. Your videos are helpful maybe not for me at the moment since my boyfriend and I are separated but this video has helped a lot of other people. Keep making your videos and be happy. I wish you all the best. Thank you for responding.
Thank you so much for your bravery and confidence to speak out and filmed this video. I suffer from a really bad case of anxiety and being Deaf doesn't help. I've seen a therapist but I think it made it worse. I'm really worried if I'm actually suffering from Depression or not.. I've took a test on my phone to see if it matches my answers and it said severe Depression. Have you been diagnosed with Depression?
***** That's exactly like me, I'd prefer to battle this on my own. Although FEW people have said it's not good to bottle everything in and it's always better to let it out. One minute I'm desperate to tell my parents about my issues, the next I feel I want to battle this on my own. If I can get through this, you can get through it as well. Make sure you take it easy and don't let it crawl over your life. Have plenty of fun as well!
Thanks a lot very important information I needed this. My girlfriend is going through depression so sometimes she get so rude to me and I get confused that what I have done wrong. But now I know what I have to do.. :)
what makes me more depressed than i am is that i cant be in another relationship because no girls will give me a chance to show them that i care for them
Hi ASL Stew Life, I appreciate your video because all you said is true. As you, my boyfriend and I are homosexual, he is depressed for 3 years and we're in a relationship for 4 years. Even if I know more about depression than the beginning, sometimes I don't step back with results I suffer of his illness and I feel guilty about his situation. Sometimes I feel also like I embarass him. He is not clear or does'nt speak when I ask him more explications about his illness what doesn't help me to be more efficient as a depressive's significant but he makes some efforts for our relationship and we both feel happy when there are'nt problems. Fortunately, I watched your helpful video which give me courage and remind me what we have to do as a couple . Thank you so much !
[Jill] I'm so glad that the video could help. I hope that you two together are able to work out some good solutions and be strong as a couple and support each other. Lots of love to you both!
Your so sweet! Thank you for the video! My university offers free counseling for depression.. You get 8 free sessions a semester with a therapist. It really helps especially for student like my self that go to school full time and dealing with depression.
Depression or not I am not in a relationship with anyone looking for falidation. I'm not in a relationship for the sack of sanity reasons! I give myself falidation!
Is it okay to break up with someone because of their depression? My boyfriend and I have both struggled with stuff but lately his depression has been so bad. He stays in bed all day etc. I don't know what to do anymore but it hurts so much when he baills on me and just totally ignores all of my calls and texts. I don't know. I just feel so sad and don't even know why I'm with him anymore.
[Jill] I can't tell you what to do with your relationship. I would say it depends. Often when someone is depressed they need help but just can't tell anyone they need it. Sometimes it takes a stronger outside person to get them the help they need. If you are struggling and need to focus on yourself, then self-care is important. You cannot help others if you are not strong enough to help yourself first. I hope it all works out for you.
It can be more of an issue in a long distance relationship. It scares him when I tell him about my depression or that I have had suicidal thoughts. Him being far away, he feels useless.
[Jill] Just remember that communication is key. Even though there are ways maybe he cannot support you do to distance, there are always alternative methods. Just be honest with each other. You two can figure it out together. :)
Do you feel that depression makes it more difficult to sign? I am a student interpreter and I find it more difficult to be expressive in ASL because of my depression.
Katrina, I'm sorry I can't give you any specifics. Maybe try to talk to him and ask why he is feeling down. Try to keep a positive attitude and be there to listen when he needs you. Often people just need you to listen to them. Being lonely can lead to depression. I don't know if that's his case, but just be a support for him. Tell him you are ready to listen when he wants to talk about it. If he is not willing to talk then, maybe if you are close to his family, they might have an idea of what is wrong. Sometimes people are not able to express their feelings well. I hope it gets better for him and for you.
No that is not the way. Seems a bit complicated but I know you can get through it. I would say you have to respect her decision that she isn't ready to be in a relationship right now. I understand you love her. It's up to you if you want to wait. I would say just take a step back and ask her how you can support her as a friend for now. I know it's hard but that may be the best for now for her. A relationship cannot function one sided. You can only give so much. Maybe over time with support she can get the helps she needs and you two may have a future. Just remember that you are a strong person in or not in a relationship. Sending love to you. 😊
+Jill Stewardson , it is she was really nice n understood me, I told her from the start that I have issues (my depression) but I guess she just had enough she was doing all the effort n I was not doing anything it just took its toll, she was mad at me, that's when I decided to get therapy last yr of June, n when I was ok n I tried to get back together with her she just doesn't want too, she told me she still loves me but don't want to be with me anymore I was sad n regret losing her but I guess that's the way life is, now I'm just focused n getting truly better get my life back n reestablish my life is just till this day I miss n still love her
my name is maria and I would like to speak with you personally if possible will you look up maria malicek on Facebook and friend request if you do Facebook please. I have learned a great deal from just one short video from you and it has helped me tremendously thank you! this being what prompted some questions for you. if you can't personally talk with me I do still appreciate your videos for the sake of myself and many many others who suffer the same as we do. God bless you and Jenna
Thank you Jill,great video.I am one year from my ,now,ex wife leaving.Catalyst for a major depressive episode was the death of her father.We were soul mates,and in a matter of weeks,she shut me out,blamed me for her inner pain,and refuses,to this day to accept she was even diagnosed.No meds,no therapy.Just walked away,and shut me out. I feel "deleted"
My two children are devastated.
Your video is spot on,so anyone watching this,please take note and do your best to work to fight this beast.
My problem is. I can't seem to be happy. I want to be happy so bad and I don't want this to ruin my relationship. I love him so much. But honestly I do tend to lash out on him. I try not to. I feel horrible when I do. I need some ways to calm down and be happy. this may sound weird but I'm serious. How can I be happy? What's something I can do to be happy? I've lost like interest in everything and I feel like I have nothing left to do haha. Help?
R.I.P
Amazing video, really helpful tips, has helped me feel better already after I applied these to my relationship :)
Thank you for this advice. I’ll be sure to take it to heart and help my partner in what she is going through.
I just broke up with someone because their depression, she told me that she love me and still wants to be my friend.. She said she don't have any energy to love anyone again, she said she love to be my gf but when her depression kick in.. It's difficult to love me, she said she'll never be in a relationship again after me. What should i do? I still love her so much.. I don't care if she was always ignoring me when she's depressed, i love everything about her, i accept everything about her.. Please please give me some advice, should i stay friends with her, But deep inside my heart i still waiting for her to love me again? Is she's gonna be back to love me again? Please anyone help.. Give me some advice, im so depressed because of this break up, please
If you love her go to her.
I'm in the same situation. It's difficult. Sometimes love is not enough. But no-one can give you an advice. I love my boyfriend but he said he don't know what he wants in life anymore. He could not even said I love you anymore. It's so difficult. I wish you along of strength
Welp R.I.P
This is what happens when you love a depressed person LOLL
Jill, I've loved all of your videos (new subscriber, found your ASL channel first, now this one), and I just figured I'd say I know what it's like to be a generally-happy person, someone that makes others laugh and happy, while suffering from depression. It makes your depression no less real, and I wish you the best of luck. I very much appreciate the video, as I'm now in a relationship with a guy that is just absolutely wonderful, and I want to know how we can better cope when I go through depression slumps as I call them.
All very helpful. Thank you for sharing from your personal life as well, it puts things into a little more perspective.
+Jill Stewardson
I love ur videos
I wish I saw this video before I let depression ruin my relationship. Now no matter what I say and do my boyfriend doesn't want to deal with this together. I have been so mean to him and said very hurtful things to him it was not the first time I did this. Yesterday was the worst incident so far that I can remember and it kills me knowing that he wanted to help and I kept pushing him away. The reason I am depressed is because last February I have lost a baby and since then things are getting worse. I should have gotten professional help a lot sooner and been stronger instead of letting my depression get to me. These tips would have been very helpful right before I ruined everything. Now I am all alone and have to deal with this on my own.
[Jill] Marta, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I can't even imagine what that must feel like and I can understand why you would have gone into a depression. You shouldn't blame yourself for the things you did. Depression is a very hard (more than most people know) thing to go through and often you don't realize what you are doing until later when you are recovering. Many people don't get help right away, or sometimes never do. The important thing is that you are getting help now. I'm sorry that your boyfriend and you are no longer together to get through this. I hope that you are able to find someone, friends, family, or even online support to continue recovering and healing from your loss. Please remember to stay strong and that depression isn't your whole life. Things will get better and you just have to allow yourself to take your time and do it as slowly as you feel you need to. Allow others to help if they can and again DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF. I wish you all the best. :)
Thank you. I hope everything will work out for the best. I wish my life would get back to normal, but I know that my life will never be the same. I just have to learn on how to live with what happened. I need to fix myself and take time. Your videos are helpful maybe not for me at the moment since my boyfriend and I are separated but this video has helped a lot of other people. Keep making your videos and be happy. I wish you all the best. Thank you for responding.
Thank you so much for your bravery and confidence to speak out and filmed this video. I suffer from a really bad case of anxiety and being Deaf doesn't help. I've seen a therapist but I think it made it worse. I'm really worried if I'm actually suffering from Depression or not.. I've took a test on my phone to see if it matches my answers and it said severe Depression. Have you been diagnosed with Depression?
***** That's exactly like me, I'd prefer to battle this on my own. Although FEW people have said it's not good to bottle everything in and it's always better to let it out. One minute I'm desperate to tell my parents about my issues, the next I feel I want to battle this on my own. If I can get through this, you can get through it as well. Make sure you take it easy and don't let it crawl over your life. Have plenty of fun as well!
Thanks a lot very important information I needed this. My girlfriend is going through depression so sometimes she get so rude to me and I get confused that what I have done wrong. But now I know what I have to do.. :)
Glad to help. I hope all goes well with you and your girlfriend.
what makes me more depressed than i am is that i cant be in another relationship because no girls will give me a chance to show them that i care for them
[Jill] Just be patient. You never know when the right person will come along.
This was very helpful, thank you so much!
I'm happy that this was helpful to you.
Hi ASL Stew Life, I appreciate your video because all you said is true. As you, my boyfriend and I are homosexual, he is depressed for 3 years and we're in a relationship for 4 years. Even if I know more about depression than the beginning, sometimes I don't step back with results I suffer of his illness and I feel guilty about his situation. Sometimes I feel also like I embarass him. He is not clear or does'nt speak when I ask him more explications about his illness what doesn't help me to be more efficient as a depressive's significant but he makes some efforts for our relationship and we both feel happy when there are'nt problems. Fortunately, I watched your helpful video which give me courage and remind me what we have to do as a couple . Thank you so much !
[Jill] I'm so glad that the video could help. I hope that you two together are able to work out some good solutions and be strong as a couple and support each other. Lots of love to you both!
Your so sweet! Thank you for the video!
My university offers free counseling for depression.. You get 8 free sessions a semester with a therapist. It really helps especially for student like my self that go to school full time and dealing with depression.
Depression or not I am not in a relationship with anyone looking for falidation. I'm not in a relationship for the sack of sanity reasons! I give myself falidation!
Is it okay to break up with someone because of their depression? My boyfriend and I have both struggled with stuff but lately his depression has been so bad. He stays in bed all day etc. I don't know what to do anymore but it hurts so much when he baills on me and just totally ignores all of my calls and texts. I don't know. I just feel so sad and don't even know why I'm with him anymore.
[Jill] I can't tell you what to do with your relationship. I would say it depends. Often when someone is depressed they need help but just can't tell anyone they need it. Sometimes it takes a stronger outside person to get them the help they need. If you are struggling and need to focus on yourself, then self-care is important. You cannot help others if you are not strong enough to help yourself first. I hope it all works out for you.
As the significant other should I recommend some of these sites to her? If not how do I go about making sure she gets herself help?
Very helpful video :)
It can be more of an issue in a long distance relationship. It scares him when I tell him about my depression or that I have had suicidal thoughts. Him being far away, he feels useless.
[Jill] Just remember that communication is key. Even though there are ways maybe he cannot support you do to distance, there are always alternative methods. Just be honest with each other. You two can figure it out together. :)
Do you feel that depression makes it more difficult to sign? I am a student interpreter and I find it more difficult to be expressive in ASL because of my depression.
Great presentation. Very high quality video too. Will you mind sharing with me as to what Video editing Software you use? Thanks..
[Jill] I use Final Cut Pro X.
Thank you..
I am in a long distant relationship and my boyfriend is currently depressed. I don't know what to do or how to comfort him. What do I do?
Katrina, I'm sorry I can't give you any specifics. Maybe try to talk to him and ask why he is feeling down. Try to keep a positive attitude and be there to listen when he needs you. Often people just need you to listen to them. Being lonely can lead to depression. I don't know if that's his case, but just be a support for him. Tell him you are ready to listen when he wants to talk about it. If he is not willing to talk then, maybe if you are close to his family, they might have an idea of what is wrong. Sometimes people are not able to express their feelings well. I hope it gets better for him and for you.
Yeah...this is a long lasting mental illness for most...not have a depressed mood. Treatments do not always work and there is no cure for depression.
Please help. Please, idk what to do.. maybe i should take all of my feelings with me forever and die.. It's a better way i guess..
No that is not the way. Seems a bit complicated but I know you can get through it. I would say you have to respect her decision that she isn't ready to be in a relationship right now. I understand you love her. It's up to you if you want to wait. I would say just take a step back and ask her how you can support her as a friend for now. I know it's hard but that may be the best for now for her. A relationship cannot function one sided. You can only give so much. Maybe over time with support she can get the helps she needs and you two may have a future. Just remember that you are a strong person in or not in a relationship. Sending love to you. 😊
I feel you.
R.I.P
I not understand what you did said sorry I full deaf
+Jill Stewardson three no cc closed captioning
I lost my girlfriend cause of my depression
+Jill Stewardson , it is she was really nice n understood me, I told her from the start that I have issues (my depression) but I guess she just had enough she was doing all the effort n I was not doing anything it just took its toll, she was mad at me, that's when I decided to get therapy last yr of June, n when I was ok n I tried to get back together with her she just doesn't want too, she told me she still loves me but don't want to be with me anymore I was sad n regret losing her but I guess that's the way life is, now I'm just focused n getting truly better get my life back n reestablish my life is just till this day I miss n still love her
+heartman1981 im loosing my boyfriend because of it he blames me for all the fights cause i get sad
my name is maria and I would like to speak with you personally if possible will you look up maria malicek on Facebook and friend request if you do Facebook please. I have learned a great deal from just one short video from you and it has helped me tremendously thank you! this being what prompted some questions for you. if you can't personally talk with me I do still appreciate your videos for the sake of myself and many many others who suffer the same as we do. God bless you and Jenna
[Jill] You can always send a PM or send a message via our ASL Stew Facebook page. So glad we could be of help.
thank you