Dealing With the Pain of Loss

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  • One of the unfortunate realities of living a life with horses is that sometimes you’re going to lose one. We lost one of the horses this week and we are dealing with that loss. I made this video in order to maybe help somebody else who has gone through the same thing, or will go through the same thing in the future.
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  • @sarah.moh22
    @sarah.moh22 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +267

    “Anybody that has the ability to bring us great grief when they’re gone, that was somebody who had the strength to bring us great joy when they were here, and so embrace the joy” loved that.❤️

    • @gw8147
      @gw8147 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      So true

  • @urboisyrus
    @urboisyrus 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +555

    As I sat at my mothers grave sobbing, I get the notification that you posted this. Your timing couldn’t have been better. Thank you

    • @NathanMulder
      @NathanMulder 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

      Sorry for your loss. All the love and best wishes to you and your loved ones.

    • @rodericdutcher4170
      @rodericdutcher4170 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      I'm thoroughly convinced that he has a direct line to God and puts these videos out exactly when the viewers need it. Many prayers for your mother and you.

    • @aaronalegria1239
      @aaronalegria1239 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      God bless you friend

    • @hiyabuddy7
      @hiyabuddy7 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I'm so sorry

    • @chloemartel9927
      @chloemartel9927 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      God bless you and give you peace.

  • @urdadshusband781
    @urdadshusband781 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +150

    The price we pay for the ability to love is the excruciating pain we experience when that love is lost.

    • @EdwardDavian1
      @EdwardDavian1 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Beautifully said. To be able to love is a great privilege that has the inevitable cost of pain.

  • @sonyavincent7450
    @sonyavincent7450 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +118

    My husband dropped dead in front of me 2018. The pain I've been in since has pushed me almost to the point of insanity. My heart goes out to anyone here who is currently suffering the grief of any kind of loss. ❤

    • @aseel7363
      @aseel7363 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I'm sorry for your loss its hard to hear that. I wish that he is resting in peace right now I'm saying it from the bottom of my heart. I know that losing someone who was living and sharing life with you is not that easy to forget about it, but you got to know that you are not lonely.
      You are a great woman, I wish that many men can have women like you who appreciated and cared for their man where it is kinda hard to get a woman to care and love these days

    • @skvmbxgg247
      @skvmbxgg247 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m sorry to hear of your loss, he would want you to be finding joy out of every little thing. Don’t let this destroy you

    • @Shaunmarrs79534
      @Shaunmarrs79534 หลายเดือนก่อน

      God bless you✝️☦️❤️

  • @pslm23
    @pslm23 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +62

    Grief changes us. The pain sculpts us into someone who understands more deeply, hurts more often, appreciates more quickly, cries more easily, loves more openly.
    ~Unknown

  • @ONSLAWTT
    @ONSLAWTT 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Dwayne, although I'm 49 and my father just passed in June of 2023; (I miss him sooo much beyond what I can explain), I receive your words as gold. Had I taken his advice when I was 19 I'd be retired now, enjoying my wife and children on the land with our animals. I'm a business owner and although I am thankful, I am non-stop going and wish I could just be on the land with them.
    I always loved talking with him and listening to him in the latter part of my life. Now that I will receive it better, he's unfortunately no longer with us.... I turn to your videos to fulfill what I still needed to hear from my father 😢
    "only something capable of bringing us such great joy, can bring us great pain" 😢😢
    Thank you sir

  • @jordanmcnamara9557
    @jordanmcnamara9557 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    Just lost my good boy Nugget a black German Shepard this week. Only 6 months old but the best friend a man could ask for. This was a timely, comforting and wise message to receive. Peace and Blessings to you and all at your homestead sir.

    • @darksu6947
      @darksu6947 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      My little fuzzy buddy Mr. Lewis had a seizure about a year ago and left for the great kennel in the sky. He liked to hop up in my lap and get belly rubbies while he fell asleep with me holding him like you hold a baby. He was a little white mutt that occasionally went psychotic because he did a line of my ex-wifes speed while he was hanging out with her but he was the sweetest goodest boy when he wasn't being a tweaker. I miss my dog, bro.

  • @keithridlen7122
    @keithridlen7122 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +115

    I lost my Grandfather 12 hrs ago, he was my everything. It was my highest honor to serve him in his final years. It hurts in an unbelievable way but I find solitude in standing strong for my family. People are depending on me, I would go through hell a thousand times for them. So we must move forward - if you're going through something similar I'm praying for you. Thank you for posting this video, it found me - not the other way around.

    • @paularaegram9965
      @paularaegram9965 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I'm so proud of you, Keith, for tending your Grandfather. You did him proud.

    • @keithridlen7122
      @keithridlen7122 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @paularaegram9965 Thank you Paula, I'm sending love and light your direction.

    • @NNLBC
      @NNLBC 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I feel for you, hope you find peace knowing he is free now.

    • @nickwisniewski1768
      @nickwisniewski1768 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      🙏

    • @sidinaabdouly
      @sidinaabdouly หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Good man and he is lucky to have u his son . ✊🏼

  • @jerrykroon6609
    @jerrykroon6609 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

    Thank you. Lost a treasured animal monday, and it's hard. Sorry for your loss.

  • @djchaiwallah
    @djchaiwallah 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

    Lost my Mom 3 years ago and it is still hard dealing with her loss. She was my best friend and my greatest mentor.

  • @MojonMountain
    @MojonMountain 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

    Lost my pops 3 weeks ago. I can honestly say he was my best friend, and I loved him dearly, but he left a mess behind. I've had to take on a lot of responsibility, and be stronger than ever. Looking forward to this well timed video. Thank you, Dewayne.

  • @JitinMisra
    @JitinMisra 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +74

    I lost my mom on February 25th she was 68 and been battling cancer since past year, this last year was typically hard . I miss her soo much , I don’t want to do anything , just doing my duties for my kids and wife, but God, this hurts my heart so much 😢

    • @amyrose3167
      @amyrose3167 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      I just lost my mom February 12th she was 67. It hurts so bad. Your not alone.

    • @dbcrypto754
      @dbcrypto754 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Lost my mom Feb 13, 1978 to brain cancer. I was nine. I hope to be reunited one day if God is willing.

    • @jjjackson5183
      @jjjackson5183 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Make her pleased and proud. It will get better over time.

    • @francineclave2207
      @francineclave2207 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      All of our life is a classroom. The word of God our lamp and Jesus is our teacher. Thank you for speaking the hard truths. God is worth all our trust and worship. We are eternal❤…. And it’s good when words of truth and experience fall on our ears.

    • @maybugz
      @maybugz 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      So sorry for your loss.

  • @brendanoconnell6442
    @brendanoconnell6442 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I’m 20, I’m about to lose my friend Mr C, 86. He only has a few days left and I’ve been non stop balling my eyes out since I found out. Today I spent the whole day driving around listening to Frank Sinatra (his favorite), singing along, thinking about all the good memories I’ve shared with him, all the lessons that he taught me, all the stories he’s told. He’s the happiest most fulfilled person I’ve ever met in my life. Never complained, always had a smile on his face, a story or joke to tell. Just a ray of sunshine, an undeniably beautiful soul and an absolute joy to be around.
    Embrace the Joy ❤
    I pray that the lord has mercy on your soul Mr C. I will never forget you. I will see you in heaven my friend ❤🕊️

  • @disassembledpen666
    @disassembledpen666 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I'd hoped I wouldn't need this video so soon, but... I've lost another Great Uncle. The other day, he passed in the morning. I've tried to keep my mind off of it.
    It hasn't been easy.
    Thank you, Dewayne. Your words have had a lasting impact on me and many others.

  • @mrmlgcats
    @mrmlgcats 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I watched this when it came out a couple weeks ago. It actually really helped me with the loss of my 18 year old cat. Thank you.
    RIP Tigger 2006-2024

  • @roadking.118
    @roadking.118 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    Just learned yesterday that my dad has 4 to 6 months to live. 1 year at most. This will help. Thank you

    • @Lori1976
      @Lori1976 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    • @donnacain9692
      @donnacain9692 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Peace Love And Blessings To Your Dad And Your Family 🙏💐

    • @roadking.118
      @roadking.118 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @donnacain9692 thank you. Christ is Lord. Amen

    • @Templar07
      @Templar07 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​Αmen! ​@@roadking.118 i will pray for your loved ones❤

  • @Yungdiogenes
    @Yungdiogenes 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Face them fears.
    I feared being alone
    So isolated from everything
    I feared hunger
    So I fasted
    I feared death because of my chronic illness
    So I contemplated it since childhood
    I feared weakness because I was the youngest and called "the baby"
    So I prayed for a hard life to make me stronger and give praise to the most high for all trials and tribulations I have undertaken and pray for some more
    I refuse to break under any circumstances.

  • @sykoyooth
    @sykoyooth 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    My grandfather was riding his bike yesterday and was killed when he was T boned by a pick up truck who wasn’t paying attention. This helps me so much thank you so much I’ve watched you for years and you remind me a lot of him and other respectable men I’ve had in my life. Thank you sir best wishes

  • @chloemartel9927
    @chloemartel9927 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    I am so sorry you had to put your horse down. Some pets and animals feel like your kids. It hurts when they die.

  • @MAKECANADAGREATAGAIN205
    @MAKECANADAGREATAGAIN205 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    We put our 10 year old German shepherd down last November. Oh man it was tough. He was a different dog. We've had many shepherds and he was just so full of love and loyal, More than any other dog we have had. He loved his family. Hope yous are doing well Dwayne. Its hard losing an animal.

  • @imagesbyme2
    @imagesbyme2 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I'm so sorry, prayers for comfort. I lost my husband to cancer in '22, still doesn't seem real.

  • @LuCidRayn01
    @LuCidRayn01 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    The timing of this video, wow I can’t even explain.

  • @cowboy_angel
    @cowboy_angel 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Animals might possibly be in heaven. I used to doubt it until I discovered the last words of Roy Rogers. 🤔 I believe he's with Trigger, Bullet, Buttermilk, and Dale. Just a thought, sir. My condolences and all the best to y'all.

  • @joelewis2717
    @joelewis2717 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    Dwayne thanks so much for the story you shared about having to deliver devastating news to your son. The lowest point in my life was sitting my 4 children down in 2021 and telling them their mother had passed and was in heaven. It was deeply traumatic and still is. I watch your videos on a regular basis and I find strength,comfort, and knowledge.

    • @MikeJonessmn
      @MikeJonessmn 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Had to do the same in Aug. 2021 with my two boys, we all miss her dearly.
      Prayers for your family

    • @joelewis2717
      @joelewis2717 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@MikeJonessmn Prayers for you all ❤️

  • @jdougn2255
    @jdougn2255 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thanks for loving your horse enough to put her down when you heard she'd never heal and be in misery. That is the kindest thing you can do for your beloved pets.

  • @thelifewithnate
    @thelifewithnate 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Horses, men, women, family, etc with it not mattering what they are, but it is what they represented. My Dad passed last year unexpectedly and I still can't believe that he is gone. There are days where I see him walking with other families metaphorically around parks or towns. There are days where I swear I can hear his voice coming from somewhere else.
    It is crazy the hole that they leave once they are gone. To those who recently lost a loved one, talking about it helps significantly. It still hurts and it forever will, but at least time helps play a role in mitigating that pain as you get used to it. Honor their memory.

  • @thomaskennedy2942
    @thomaskennedy2942 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    I've lost a few horses over the years. First one I lost was Thunder. Quarab. Bad to the bone horse.
    I was riding beside the road, heading back home because it started raining. A tractor trailer drove by and blew his air horn (peckerhead). Thunder reared up and when he came back down, he snapped his front ankle on the wet hillside. I then fell off and he ran across the road and then back towards me, but hit the guardrail and basically ripped his leg off on it.
    Sad day. My boy's mom told me they were shocked when they saw me crying because they'd never seen me cry.
    Of course the tractor was not working at the time, so I buried that horse with a shovel.
    I miss ol Thunder.
    Good to see ya Dewayne

  • @alanlewis7924
    @alanlewis7924 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    So sorry to hear about the loss of your horse. I respect you for making this video, I believe it will help others. Mercy and kindness are virtues. You have shown us both by your actions of your guidance on this difficult subject. May God Continue to guide you. Thank You.

  • @NeemzPlayz
    @NeemzPlayz 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I just lost my long term relationship of 3 years and I’ve been more lost than I ever been in my entire life and this video happened to show in my feed. I’ve followed you a long time but I needed this thank you

  • @JSAFIXIT
    @JSAFIXIT 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    My mom passed in 2018, and I held her hand as she took her last breath. It hurt like hell. I didn't want to see her go, but in a way, I was happy for her. She was in a lot of pain and was very sick. I didnt want to see her suffer like that and she didn't deserve to.
    There's something that changes you when you see the person that gave birth to you die.

    • @Lori1976
      @Lori1976 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ❤ amen to that.

  • @SkeletalCommissar
    @SkeletalCommissar 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I lost my dog, Leroy from when I was still in school, he was the best friend I could've asked for, he was injured by an irresponsible dog owner who couldn't leash his dog. I took down the other dog, but not in time. Poor guy passed soon after. I miss him greatly.

  • @MuleSkinnerWS
    @MuleSkinnerWS 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Beautiful message from a beautiful human. Sorry to hear about your mare, sir.

  • @Trumptrain2024FJB
    @Trumptrain2024FJB 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Drugs are taking so many young people! Very sad times in America! The drugs are flooding our Beautiful country! People need to pay attention to the young people in their families! God Bless America

  • @mboisenphd
    @mboisenphd 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    I really needed this. For several years I road a beautiful Percheron horse. The owner sold her and I have been grieving ever since. Loss comes in many forms... I am blessed with all the beautiful memories! Thank you for your kind words and helping me process the loss.

  • @tresmith5224
    @tresmith5224 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for posting this I needed to hear this, this video was uploaded 2 days before my grandpa's funeral. He lost his fight with cancer and was a strong good man. I was thankful for me and my brothers to be given the honor to be the urn bearers at his funeral service.

  • @jamiestiffarm2987
    @jamiestiffarm2987 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Grateful for good horses...we need to be good stewards of our animals , care for them, and love them....

    • @Lori1976
      @Lori1976 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

  • @karmawells4176
    @karmawells4176 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I lost a close friend in August of 2023 and he loved your videos. As I’ve been lost in my grief I’ve found myself watching your videos to find his voice in yours, this video did everything for me. I can see this video was hard for you but I want you to know the moment you mentioned losing a friend in a car accident (as I did as well) I knew he wanted me to see this. Thank you so much for sharing this 🤍🤍

  • @TheZephyrus100
    @TheZephyrus100 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Thank you Dewayne

  • @rochellerolen6691
    @rochellerolen6691 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This video DID help me. Thank you for your time and wisdom. I'm sorry for the loss of Rae. I sure miss my Foxy At Heart but I did right by her. For 15 years

  • @rodw4057
    @rodw4057 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    That really, really, really sucks to have to had to put her down!! Life is so unfair!! Poor, poor Horse! At least she's not suffering. May she Rest in Peace.

  • @Sir.Leonardo.Scherer
    @Sir.Leonardo.Scherer 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I lost my grandmother last month, in the day of my wedding... And these words really help

  • @DrTragediaUSA
    @DrTragediaUSA 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You are right. I lost 47 mares and 2 stallions. I miss them a lot… but they still alive in my heart and memory… I miss them a lot…

  • @rodw4057
    @rodw4057 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Talk about loss. I've lost a lot. My Biological Mom at 8 years old and my Step Mom at 23 and the last 5 years my Dad. During the 5 years I lost my Aunt and Uncle too. It's been a very tough 5 years losing so many lose ones. I understand that now I'm 60 years old, I have lost many Aunts and Uncles along the way. It doesn't make life any easier but so much harder to try to live on without loved ones. It's all about the loneliness now. Even though I have a wife and daughter, we are not close at all. There is nothing there and after 31 years one would think a bond would be formed but it wasn't. They are more about themselves. Even over 31 years is half my life, I honestly think it's time to go our own way. It's a damn shame though but if it brings happiness then it should be done. I want the rest of my life to be happy, no drama. I hope it's out there!
    Thanks Dwayne for the eye opener!

  • @lolalove6141
    @lolalove6141 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Today is my mom and aunt's birthday (twins!) They both died years ago i was a child when i lost my aunt and barely a teen when my mother died. This video means everything to me right now. Thank you so much.

  • @jerrytaylor7935
    @jerrytaylor7935 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Your exhortation is so true.
    “The price we pay for love is grief.”
    -Queen Elizabeth

  • @bryanfox2735
    @bryanfox2735 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Just buried my 16 year old black lab last year and I can tell I’m gonna have to burry my going to be 16 year old yellow lab this year! All that matters is they lived their best life’s!!!💪🦅💯🇺🇸

    • @chel2990
      @chel2990 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That's a great way to look at things. Goodness I know it's so hard to lose your companions but the way you talk I'm sure they had a great life with you and they wouldn't want you to be sad. Sending love

  • @raymondbradley6788
    @raymondbradley6788 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Thank you, Duanne. I lost my first wife back in the early 90s. I knew what the end result was going to be. That was a little bit comforting but not much. I had a decision to make either sit there and more about it or carry on with my life, raising my young son. I had to choosebetween those two choices. Today I’m still kicking. Thanks. The father and my son has grown up now. It’s all about a mindset. It’s all up to you. God bless brother.

  • @jerrytaylor7935
    @jerrytaylor7935 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Sorry to hear that, folks! Our pets and beasts can become like parts of our families!

  • @Jbdunham
    @Jbdunham 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    Thank you for doing this. Perfect timing for me, having lost my gelding less than two weeks ago. His passing was a lot easier on me than my mare’s. He was gone by the time I got out to the pasture. My mare was down and wouldn’t get up even to get into the trailer. My vet didn’t make house calls on Sundays, so I had to shoot her. I don’t remember feeling recoil or hearing the shot, just seeing the muzzle flash.

    • @TamShar
      @TamShar 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      😢 praying for you, friend. That took a lot of courage and compassion. May the Lord Jesus bless you and encourage you in this time of loss and pain.

    • @Jbdunham
      @Jbdunham 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@TamShar, thank you.

    • @nholbrook1682
      @nholbrook1682 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Golly - I'm so SO very sorry you had to go through that 😢 💔 good thing you were able to give your friend that final act of kindness, although I know all too well how hard that is.

    • @Jbdunham
      @Jbdunham 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@nholbrook1682, that mare raised me, practically. Saved my life more than once. She deserved the best I could give her.

  • @butopiatoo
    @butopiatoo 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Sad story about your son's horse. Totally out of our control. Never easy to lose an animal that has been a companion.

  • @TravelerWendell13
    @TravelerWendell13 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    My wife and I have been together for 34 years and we have always had dogs, cats and sometimes horses as well as a multitude of other things. Early on we agreed that we would always honor our animals by making hard decisions with the thought of quality over quantity.
    We have had dogs that have gotten old and maybe weren't living their best life but they still enjoyed being part of our pack. In those cases we always let them tell us when it was time and every single one of them did. We could just read in them when it was time, when they just weren't having fun anymore.
    Loss is hard, it just is. I agree with you that the way to deal with loss is to remember the more positive times.
    I know everyone has heard this probably hundreds of times but I'm going to say it again. Don't put off clearing the air or letting people know how you feel about them. Your time for doing and saying what you should will run out faster than you think it will. My Dad and I rarely saw eye to eye, both hard headed and neither going to be the one that took the initiative and started the process of healing the past. After he died, I hurt more because of things not said then I actually did from his death. He lived into his 80s and every bit of his life was lived his way. I think he felt like he had a good life and when it was over, I was at peace with his passing but I still deal with the fact that neither of us ever really told each other how we felt about each other. I love my Dad. I just wasn't wired the same way as him.
    Anyway, tell those you love how you feel and put those hurt feeling to rest while you still have time.
    Thank you for sharing this. I really like that you are mentoring, that doesn't happen much anymore. I could have used someone that would teach me some of these things when I was coming up.

    • @Sin_City_Guitar
      @Sin_City_Guitar 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That’s was your dad’s responsibility to mend things not yours. I am estranged from my dad for the past 12 years and I hate him bc of it. My dad well I don’t call him that anymore is a narcissistic addicted gambler I completely despise he ruined a lot of things and also stole my brother and my baby bonds that would be cashed in r 30s and also signed over power of attorney and liquified my inheritance. He’s a pos

  • @adamw4469
    @adamw4469 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    There's a Cormac McCarthy quote that was introduced to me at a time when I was overcome with grief:
    “It was the nature of his profession that his experience with death should be greater than for most and he said that while it was true that time heals bereavement it does so only at the cost of the slow extinction of those loved ones from the heart's memory which is the sole place of their abode then or now. Faces fade, voices dim. Seize them back, whispered the sepulturero [gravedigger]. Speak with them. Call their names. Do this and do not let sorrow die for it is the sweetening of every gift.”
    ― Cormac McCarthy, The Crossing
    So very sorry for your loss. I have next to zero horse experience, but one thing that has always hit me hard is how one could have a dog or other pet and it suffer an injury and there is a lot you can do to help that dog recover. But the size and the nature of horses makes those recoveries essentially impossible. Such a hard pill to swallow.

    • @thelifewithnate
      @thelifewithnate 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Zero horse experience here, but I just wanted to comment on that quote from Cormac McCarthy. They say that time heals most wounds, it does but damn does it still hurt as the passage of time goes forward. Thanks for that, cheers!

  • @frankfort4717
    @frankfort4717 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Thank you for your effort. No one on TH-cam brings as much hurtful truth as you. God bless Dwayne.

  • @michaelc.6927
    @michaelc.6927 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Wow! So sorry for the loss of your horse. You do have my deepest sympathy. However, Until one suffers the loss of a child they cannot truly feel the pain of loss. My son, at age 27 lost his life. He was beat up and left for dead outside on a snow covered sidewalk in 9 degree temps on New Years Day 09'. Brent's lungs filled with his own blood and he drowned. That is the pain of loss! Fast forward nine years. We had an adopted daughter, had her since she was 18 months old, such a brilliant girl, straight A's all through school, went to college on grants and scholarship's. But Maria seemed to lack common sense. Some low life guy got ahold of her and got her messed up in drugs. Well, long story short, Maria was found dead on May 3ed 18', stabbed 17 times! What happened to our sweet sweet little girl!! That is the pain of loss! Needless to say my wife isn't the same. Oh and at the same time of Marias death my wife had breast cancer!
    How does a guy go on with life? Minute by minute, Day by day.... It is a heavy load!!

    • @thelifewithnate
      @thelifewithnate 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Holy crap, I thought losing my Dad was bad, but losing your child is on another level. I am sorry to hear that even if it was long ago, I'm sure it still feels like yesterday. You've been through a lot, I hope that you and your wife are in a better place now mentally and emotionally.

  • @stepfaniecoperude6769
    @stepfaniecoperude6769 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I really appreciate this video. Loss on a farm is hard to deal with, and not many people talk about it. Thank you

  • @chel2990
    @chel2990 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The pain i felt when to have my cat put to sleep at the beginning of covid restrictions was unbearable. I couldnt be with him. He was only 2. I cried and screamed. Im so so sorry for your loss and the way it happened. Your videos give me strength ❤

  • @erinmuetz8771
    @erinmuetz8771 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    Dwayne, I'm going to disagree with you about animals passing. My mother came to me (after she passed) and showed me a glimpse of heaven. All of our horses and other animals were there.

    • @velzun8075
      @velzun8075 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Lol

    • @jordanmcnamara9557
      @jordanmcnamara9557 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Familiar spirits... Demonic.

    • @nholbrook1682
      @nholbrook1682 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Some of my pets have returned to me in dreams as well to say a final goodbye- they are definitely there in the eternal realm ❤

  • @stephensranch4694
    @stephensranch4694 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    We had to put down our Granddaughters pony on Saturday. It was a tough weekend. Thank you for the words of encouragement...

  • @SheilaHumphries-jw3hm
    @SheilaHumphries-jw3hm 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Lost Molly yesterday, my first jersey. She was 15yr old. She went lame and I’d been treating her for about a year because the vet said sometimes they will heal. Her stifle joint did not heal & she was on pain medication daily. She was one spoiled cow. Molly let me learn to hand milk and provided the best best milk to which I learned to make cheeses, butter, yogurt and such. Fattened hogs on whey and extra milk too. So many good memories with her in the milk parlor before dawn.

  • @heatherxo6476
    @heatherxo6476 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I’ve been following you for a while now.
    I’m just a 32 year old female in Kentucky.
    But when I woke up this morning scrolling on Facebook , a dear friend and ex of mine passed away last night. He wasn’t even 35 years old…..I literally just found out, then I go on here to find a video to listen to while I get ready for work and this is the first video on my feed.
    No such thing as a coincidence
    Thank you.

    • @thelifewithnate
      @thelifewithnate 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm sorry to hear for your loss, friend, family, it doesn't matter when you know someone that passes, it always hits hard. I hope you have a good day at work and can process all the emotions and feelings that comes with a loss. Work was often the catalyst for my grieving process when I lost my family member last year.

    • @heatherxo6476
      @heatherxo6476 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@thelifewithnate funny you said that because my friend earlier said “ I’m sorry you have to go to work and pretend everything is okay” and I said you know what, I think it’s actually going to help to keep my mind busy during this time. I’ve been a bit foggy today mentally but im here. I’m a bartender so I have to smile and be social.
      I’m doing my best. Thank you for your words 💚

  • @mikelbengoechea8707
    @mikelbengoechea8707 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    A true man, smoking a genuine cigar beside the old good fire. Best regards from Spain.

  • @lvnnlvnlife3290
    @lvnnlvnlife3290 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I'm so glad you decided to do this video, your words have helped this grieving widow. Thank you💔

    • @thelifewithnate
      @thelifewithnate 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm sorry for your loss :( Was this recent, it sounds like it was?

    • @lvnnlvnlife3290
      @lvnnlvnlife3290 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      October, thank you@@thelifewithnate

  • @douglaschaney7487
    @douglaschaney7487 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My condolences to you and mama. I remember when you brought Rae home. Some 48 years ago I lost my first horse, Tootsie Roll. I think I posted the incident on here. It was tough but we got through it. Thank you for talking about a hard subject. Cowboy up.

  • @milesj.943
    @milesj.943 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Great video. I disagree about animals not having a place in heaven however. The only reason I have to believe otherwise God simply wouldn't/couldn't make a true heaven for me if Roy wasn't there.
    A quick story that I'm sure will be lost in the comments, but:
    I went through a divorce several years ago, and I kept Roy. We got really close over the next few years and for a good portion of it he was my only reason for getting up every morning. I had to make sure he had a good day, and that got me moving. Over that time I found someone else, and got remarried. With no health issues whatsoever, he stopped eating and passed away a month after we got married. I can't help but think he was sent into my life at the right time to get me through the dark and into the good times again. He knew I was in a good place and he didn't have to watch over me anymore and was called home.

  • @toulow
    @toulow 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I don't typically buy books from Content Creators, as when I have, they felt very rushed and it was clear they were out for the money.
    But I can't wait for your book Dewayne!
    I hope everything is going well and I hope Mouse's brain is starting to wake up.

  • @vonfibonaccibautista1679
    @vonfibonaccibautista1679 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Your timing is impeccable sir. My family is making the decision to put my 15 yr old american eskimo down due to seizures and old age, we don't want our fella to suffer anymore. The good life he had outweighted the bad times we had.

  • @subopti
    @subopti 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You don't know how much you help me on my journey on spaceship Earth. I really love you, old sea dog. Love from Germany.

  • @Peyton.Hagarty
    @Peyton.Hagarty 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Sorry to hear that Mr.Noel I remember when you picked Joey and I up at the airport you were telling us about how you just picked her up the day before. She was beautiful horse and after being there I know she lived the best life she could by being with you

  • @kp8825
    @kp8825 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for this video. It’s helping a lot of us who silently suffer with excruciating grief ❤

  • @National757
    @National757 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    When you have to put down an animal, that makes it so much harder than a natural death. It is always hard. Being the one that has to make that decision, is hard. So much harder. But, you have to do what is best for them. You give them the best possible life. And loving them. Making them family. And unfortunately, sometimes there comes a time we have to make the tough decision. Sometimes much sooner than we had planned. We have to do what is best for them. As hard as it is. Horse. Dog. Any animal. It is the worst part of life! Great thoughts. This is true. Great joy does not come without risk of great pain. Only knowing we gave them the best possible life. Can ease our pain. Thank you for sharing. Sorry for your loss.

  • @james-we6fr
    @james-we6fr 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Sorry for your loss. I’ve lost 2 of my most treasured horses. One I had to put down and my stud died while I was away. My nephew was looking after him for me and found him dead as he went to feed him. He was devastated as I was but he lived a very good life and was 23 years old. Never had any problems with him. He would stay behind a 3 strand fence form the mares and colts. Just don’t put a mare inside the fence with him. Lol

  • @rogerchristensen5373
    @rogerchristensen5373 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    We lost Mac, our yellow lab last week, he was 14. My 21 year old son grew up with him. We laid him in a nice spot behind the shed. It was hard.

  • @isaiahfronning5157
    @isaiahfronning5157 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    As a teenager I was too scared to say goodbye to my great grandfather on his deathbed. My grandfather told me with tears in his eyes that “He’ll understand.” I hope so, because I regret it.

  • @billystivers8316
    @billystivers8316 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    In the words of Stephen Wilson Jr "greif is only love that's got no place to go"

  • @TheBurgerThievery
    @TheBurgerThievery 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This came at a very coincidental time, my macaw of 12 years died earlier this week in a freak house accident involving smoke

  • @rodw4057
    @rodw4057 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wow!! Such wise and powerful words to live by! Thank you so much! It was needed, that's for sure! I'm the lucky one to have found you!! 😅

  • @Jules-fh4rf
    @Jules-fh4rf 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for addressing this difficult topic. You did right by Rae...by staying strong. This excerpt from 'A Horse's Prayer' has helped me thru years of loss. It underscores your wisdom and empathy:
    "....when my useful strength is gone, do not turn me out to starve or freeze, or sell me to some cruel owner, to be slowly tortured and starved to death, but do thou, My Master, take my life in the kindest way, and your God will reward you here and hereafter. You will not consider me irreverent if I ask this in the name of Him who was born in a stable."
    ~author unknown ~

  • @nholbrook1682
    @nholbrook1682 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I lost my best riding horse on new years day to colic (intestinal twist) and boy did it tear me apart- but healing comes much faster and more completely with no regrets ♥️ I loved that mare, and she knew it beyond the shadow of a doubt.
    Itshe had a wonderful albeit too short a time here with my family and I - and now I'm redirecting that love and dedication to another rehabilitation horse who I hope will be just as wonderful.
    Thank you for this message Dewayne 🤠 it is much appreciated.

  • @BeamerTheFox
    @BeamerTheFox 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    i had a heeler, he came from the bloodline of SkidBoot the heeler,
    i was blessed wth him for 10 years, when i had to have him layed to rrest on a christmas eve it about killed me,
    its been 5 years now an it still hasnt gotten any easier, an i imagine it wont, i still havent cryed that bad even after i lost my mother.

  • @grassblade63
    @grassblade63 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your horse. I know how hard that can be. Two weeks ago, I had to put a horse down who had been a personal friend of ours for many years. Ol' Tom was one of those rare horses; a friend, a teacher, curious and always into something. But finally, part of loving that old horse was to look after him when it was obvious that he was ready to go. It's part of having these magnificent creatures, I guess, but it's not easy.

  • @Peaceful-resistance1
    @Peaceful-resistance1 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks for openly sharing your heart and the wisdom God has and is giving you. ❤👍

  • @joshholmes1409
    @joshholmes1409 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I needed this, thank you, I've lost almost every family member and pet and I'm only 27, sorry about your horse ❤

  • @sandrathomson1084
    @sandrathomson1084 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank You Dwayne. My deepest sympathy for the loss of your horse. I understand we all have an expiration date. Our Heavenly Father has been helping me with the loss of many here recently, my best friend Steve passed 6 months ago. Your video was confirmation of remembering the joy those special people blessed me with and to keep my faith that we will be together again. Greatly appreciate y'all. Stay safe. God Bless Y'all. Love and Prayers For All.

  • @stronginthesaddle
    @stronginthesaddle 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Sorry for the loss of your horse. That's always a tough deal.

  • @karenrouth2056
    @karenrouth2056 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I am so deeply sorry Dewayne and Deanna for this accident and loss of your beautiful horse… well done for getting through the video without becoming too choked, not an easy thing to have done for us… (silent tears trickled here) thank you for this very much needed poignant and extraordinarily timed message today… much gratitude to you both as always🙏❤️

  • @gibson3419
    @gibson3419 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My brother died a little over a month ago 25 years old and this pops in my feed

  • @Desertdweller1965
    @Desertdweller1965 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    WE had to put our Boomer down (pidgeon fever) a few months back. my buddy and I have an agreement to put each others horses/mules down. He came and helped. a month later his great mule Pete needed tended to. So I went. That was hard! I loved that mule too.

  • @carolinarose704
    @carolinarose704 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Sorry for the loss of your horse. Thank you for sharing and especially from a Christian perspective. I appreciate it!

  • @ericschrader736
    @ericschrader736 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    First, I to express my condolences to Dwayne. Sorry for your loss. I can tell this is tough for him in the way his talking. Whether or not there is an afterlife for us or animals it does not take away the bond we form with them while we are both here now. And sometimes that one or two come along and that bond is so great. I am getting choked up right now thinking about a beautiful soul dog I lost a year and a half ago watching this video. So, Dwayne and maybe your wife too, I wish you both so much comfort and good thoughts.

  • @janelleg597
    @janelleg597 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I like to think we'll see our animals again, as a wonderful surprise from our Creator...hope so.

  • @melaniehellum1281
    @melaniehellum1281 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My fella passed just over a year ago now. I nursed him up till the end. And loved him threw it. His x wife inherited most of his estate and his family kicked me to the curb. Not only do I morn for the loss of my guy of 23 years but the hurt from the treatment of others.
    One perfect reason to love my horses and other animals in my care. Maybe animals don't have a soal like humans but I do believe they have a soal. I know Christians all have to share their beliefs on that but it doesn't change anything. Some people say animals don't love but that dosnt change anything eather.
    If a person feels it and want to believe , it's lovely and fine. Didn't hurt anyone or take away anything from anyone.

  • @gavinthomas4482
    @gavinthomas4482 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I started watching your videos because my bought a place with 5 acres and fenced off with stalls and my girlfriend brought down her 2 horses she had at her grandpas farm. Not going to lie, I used to hate horses and was scared of them. Now they're just part of the family and I love sitting on the porch and just watching them. I hope you are wrong about not getting to see our animals again though I sure miss my passed dogs and cats.

  • @user-sr9sl3df8l
    @user-sr9sl3df8l 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    NICELY DONE.ALWAYS ENJOY YOUR WISDOM.

  • @petarkoev9780
    @petarkoev9780 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much for your videos!

  • @TrollHunterxXx
    @TrollHunterxXx 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I’m so sorry 😢

  • @widowssonpm22
    @widowssonpm22 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I, too, lost my father last year. I appreciate your words and your perspective. Peace to you as well.

    • @thelifewithnate
      @thelifewithnate 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same, my friend! I lost Dad last year with the wound being still fresh, I hope your pain eases with time, it can be tough bearing it but they would have wanted us to go on.

  • @Webbwagon2
    @Webbwagon2 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Finally we get to see that fireplace!

  • @stephensnetwork
    @stephensnetwork 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you Dwayne. Sorry for your loss.

  • @christopherschubert2505
    @christopherschubert2505 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Sincere condolences on this loss.

  • @izzbambii2086
    @izzbambii2086 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Well said. Sorry for your loss