@@lynnh1682 you mean to give you an example?!! Things like >> "Oh, it is rainy today!/ Did you see that Mary got divorced? / John is betraying his wife! / Are you on a diet?! You should eat more vegetables! ... 🙄🙄🙄
@@ana6835 pretty much. 😊 A conversation on how much you hate small talk lol. Where I work everyone says good morning and they expect you to say it back. Sometimes it's ok but when I don't want to talk it's very annoying.
Take the small talk, then lead the conversation deeper into the direction you want it to go in one or two steps. Problem solved. You will likely have to ask some questions to keep it going but with the right questions you can get anyone to introspect and have some interesting conversations. It has worked great for me. I see small talk as an opportunity being offered by the other person to connect and it is up to me to accept and make it work for both of us or reject it.
1) I'd say the introversion and the planning aren't the real problems. Heck, at this point in my life, I'd love a surprise. It would give my problem solving something to do. The issue is the Fi. If you throw a surprise birthday party, for example, 1) I'm probably not going to react very much visually because I'm being confronted with all this new information, so you're not going to have much fun, and 2) the emotional processing as I figure out what I feel about the whole experience could take quite a while, and since I can't go be alone to process because now I'm in the middle of a party, it can throw off my reactions to everything else in terms of emotions. Just basically image a computer screen with the little windows circle where your cursor used to be, and you can't do anything with your cursor until it's done. That's your INTJ processing emotions related to a surprise. And all the people involved in the surprise are downloads that keep interrupting the processing. 2) Yeah, we're not real impressed by lying. We can get involved in grand manipulative bluffs with certain people and consider that fun. But that's special. Average garden variety lying ... well, I can do more by telling the truth than you can with a lie. 3) Yep. If the rule is there for a good reason, we will follow it, and instruct other people in the rule and why it exists so that they follow it. If there's no good reason for the rule, we'll ignore it. 4) Really, the accusation of lacking knowledge is insulting because the person speaking doesn't know what I know. If you think an INTJ has made an error of fact, you're better off just asking "How does XYZ fit in to what you just said" or similar. The INTJ will then either tell you, or will ask questions and adapt thinking to include XYZ. 5) Oh, yay! Someone admitted we can be playful when we want to be. Especially as we don't care about societal expectations. As to being serious I think other types maybe don't understand appreciating things on multiple levels at once. Sometimes people will tell me a joke, and it's an okay joke, nothing special, so I don't have any particularly humor reaction. Instead I start taking the premise of the joke as a "what if X joke were true." and will extrapolate a world where X joke is true, and then tell people about it. And they tell me it was a joke. And all I can say is I know it was, now back to the world where X joke is true. 6) Small talk is bad. But you also have to break the ice somehow. Weather is a pretty good one. Weather impacts plans (either yours or mine), and so information about the weather may be important. Basically, just because I like deep conversation doesn't mean I want to start out my interactions by talking about deep topics like my dad dying last month. I do understand that people need to verbally sidle up to each other. Personally, i prefer meeting people at a hobby club so that then we can talk about the hobby. Barring that, though, try the weather. I live on this planet, so I've got at least a passing interest in that.
i was about to say the same as an INTJ but shorter: I do not relate to number one and im INTJ cause i have everything so planned I kind start missing what a surprise is. The thing is when there is a surprise event that pretty much ruins everything i have planned, then it is super annoying. But surprises in the long term i kind of find them cute and exciting!
@@blueneom7561 "when there is a surprise event that pretty much ruins everything i have planned" That relates to any sort of curveball you are being thrown. If I have planned to do something on Sunday, and then suddenly someone tells me on a Saturday that I have to do something else, at least I can stop, think about whether I can reorganize my day and fit both things into the schedule, and if I can't, I at least have time to rearrange the schedule to fit that original thing some place else. Or send a message to other people who were involved in that original thing. It's annoying, but manageable. The worst thing you can do is to come to me and tell me "We're doing this and that in 5 minutes, get ready" - So, not only does that show a complete disrespect for my autonomy, but now you are not even giving me time to prepare myself mentally for that thing, instead insisting on stringing me along. Best case scenario, I will just disable my internal processor completely and assume "OK, you've got the authority over this thing, so don't expect me to actively take part in it". Worst case scenario... I might actually feel compelled to sabotage you out of pure spite. And even if I don't have anything planned, if you want me to do something, I still want to do it to the best of my abilities, so I need to stop, reassess all the information, create an overview of the situation, figure out what is needed, what is the best method to obtain/do it, whether I am capable of using that method, whether I am capable of _learning_ that method in time, and if not - I need to find an alternative method, then prepare myself for what I will need. That takes time and requires me to pull back into my internal processor to calmly analyse the situation. If you want to throw a surprise event, that does not necessarily need to be bad, but keep in mind that, if I have something else planned, there's a chance I will be grumpy and my thoughts will be in that other place, rather than with you in the current moment. Also, don't expect me to do anything requiring focus if you do. I don't know how it is with others, but I at least tend to have a pretty on-rails way of thinking, and changing tracks takes time and effort. Throwing a curveball at me is basically the same as telling a driver he needs to turn left for the first time when he's already in the middle of a crossroad.
that's literally me, all true. But I can talk a lot with people, just like u showed, not about the weather. I find it really hard to connect to people who can't work on logical / factual level or without going deep. i hate surprises, while I can be flexible and even hold speeches, I HATE when someone fups my time sched, planned weeks ahead! and you better enjoy the feedback loop
Ridiculous. The unexpected occurs all the time, and most of the time it's not particularly pleasant. Niece pops a balloon behind your head. Dog barks earsplittingly out of nowhere. The fish you've hooked is actually a common snapper. Wife says her friends are coming over and the decision was made half an hour ago without consulting you. Brother calls and was in a car accident and needs help. But, no, you somehow divined through the ether that these occurrences were predictable, don't disrupt you, and are not entirely bothersome. Not buying it.
I'd like to add a point: NEVER tell an INTJ that they are Autistic, having Asperger and/or having any other diagnosis. Not only do you not have the knowledge and insight to establish this as a fact, it is also EXTREMELY rude and inappropriate.
Well, sometimes people though that I used some drugs just because I talked about the life and it's reasons and asked questions about the idea behind our existence. And for me it was weird that people didn't think about it and just lived their lives.
I strongly agree. It would be the same as an INTJ pointing out to someone who is not a IN TJ that they are stupid. They may be, but not being an INTJ, does not necessarily make an individual stupid. And not all INTJs are all that intelligent either.
@@alexr6114 when my nephew was 7 maybe 8 and he was trying to draw to see if it could become a hobby he came up to me and asked if I liked it. Long story short I hurt his feelings while trying to tell him not to compare his work with anyone else but it came out all wrong. My sister now thinks I could have autism.
@@lynnh1682 I doubt that any psychologist would agree that anyone can be diagnosed as having autism or any other "disorder" based on one interaction and a child who did not understand the point that you were trying to make - and your point was far more valid than your sister's interpretation of your action and statement. Rarely do even very talented artists produce excellent drawings when they are young that all individuals admire. It is far more important for a child who loves to draw to continue to draw even if no one likes their drawings. So you did not express yourself as well as you would have liked. We all make mistakes and your sister is adding 0 + 1 and coming up with 27.85. She clearly is not an INTJ in my opinion or she was having a bad day on this occasion. Everyone makes mistakes, even INTJs.
I'm INTJ-T supposedly and I actually like surprises, but only good ones. Lol. I get bored with routine every now and then. These things are nuanced. Also, humor is something I value quite a bit. We're just sort of quiet and reserved, but not necessarily buzzkills. Just a data point.
@@dillonpercy1058 well there you go. Intelligence is to be different in the eyes of the "mainstream-human". next time he call you stupid. just reply. can you please explain to me why i am stupid. when he dods. just point out some of his logical inconsistensies. and end the discussion with. "it seams to me that we are bouth pretty stupid, but hey. you have a nice day okay." and walk away. INTJ dorslam style :)
@@degreesdegrees-jr4eg I do love to point out logical inconsistencies. But then again they just pass it over with the 'nerd' emoji. In the eyes of humanity I do not believe I am stupid, in the eyes of the universe it would be idiotic to say that I am anything more than supremely ignorant.
There are some things that are so obvious I point them out immediately, yet no one ever seems to see it. I make the "prediction" and then everyone is bewildered when it actually happens. I hate that.
As an INTJ who had a surprise party thrown for them and several other times someone admitted trying to throw a surprise party for them but dropped the idea, let me tell you why you shouldn't try to throw a surprise party: It won't be a surprise. People act differently when they throw a surprise party. We'll pick up on these breaks in "the pattern of life" and know something is coming. Save yourself a lot of effort and just don't do it. The other reason, and the reason for the abandoned plans for a surprise party: the people wanting to throw the party realized they had no idea who they should contact to join in on the party.
Actually I'm okay with small talks if I have nothing to do. I know that some topics are popular among most people so to communicate with these people and keep connection when I have nothing to say I can speak about a weather or something that interesting to my mates (and not me). Sometimes it turns to an interesting conversations. In my 37 I don't expect my fellow janitor would talk about quantum physics with me. But I can talk about politics and life around and have a nice time in the process.
1) Surprise. Is it? I probably already knew about it. Because I have Intuition as my dominant trait. INTJs and INFJs are known for accurately predicting the future, soooo ... there's not really any surprises. No, really. I can't say I've ever felt "cornered" when something does manage to happen that I didn't expect though. I can't say I love surprises, but I don't hate them either. I'm more neutral on the whole topic. I'm not going to enjoy a surprise party though. I can be social, but I like to be able to choose my time by evaluating how my personal battery feels. But not all surprises are surprise parties. 2) Lying never hurt anyone. Okay, this is true. INTJs will hat that idea. And I can totally tell you're lying 99 percent of the time. Also, I rarely lie. It's not worth it. 3) Rules are there for a reason. I don't have a problem with that. "INTJs hate being told they should do something just because it's always been done this way." Okay, now, that part is true. THAT should have been the title for the section. Because if you have a rule and it's there for a perfectly understandable reason, then we're going to be fine with the rule. The problem is when you tell us to follow the rule and don't explain why it exists and what its purpose is. 4) You don't know what you're talking about. Hahaha. You keep telling yourself that, buddy. 5) Lighten up. Um ... I 'm sorry I didn't think your joke was as funny as you did. I was having fun over here by myself. 6) Beautiful weather. Um... no. That's fine. Like, you need to start a conversation somehow. Weather is at least a topic relevant to both of us that we could start with. Just don't expect the conversation to stay at that level. But yeah, if we're waiting for a train together, talk about the weather is very natural. Or as new neighbors. It's better than saying nothing. Or randomly quizzing a total stranger about their feelings on current politics because that could end very, very poorly and maybe you want to feel them out without directly asking that.
I always what is honest. I will never try and walk on broken glass around anyone because it is impossible to know what a trigger is for someone. Almost all triggers I have encountered with people make no sense and are usually the result of some past trauma I am not aware of. Heck, sometimes, they’re not aware of it. So, if they don’t know. How am I suppose to. I’m not interested in people’s personality designation. If you enjoy my company. Be with me and we’ll hang out. If you don’t like me. Why force the situation. My personality type is aaaAAA--123456789-zzzZZZ. I think that covers it.
"beautiful weather isn't it" Me: why do you think it's beautiful? and what's your definition of beauty? (Not all small talks have to be avoided, you just gotta learn how to turn them into a deep convo🙃)
I strongly disagree that INTJs do not engage in light conversations. While we may prefer to have intense complex investigations of some aspect of science or literature or history, there is a time and a place for both conversations. When shopping at a grocery store, Target or checking out books at the library, acknowledging that the clerk is a human being by mentioning the weather is typically appreciated by most individuals who are tired of being treated as if they are no different than the cash register or the computer system that records which books you checked out.
I don't know or care what others said about me. May I not the smartest person on earth, but I never doubt my intelligence. I maybe wrong and I don't mind to admit my mistake and learn from it, but I knew stupid is never be a word to describe me. 😊
Whoaa the small talk part 😂 A long time ago, when I was in HS many guys would come up and do that small talk like "How are you doing rn?" "Have you eaten or not?" Those kinds of stuff and I hate it. I was so arrogant that I looked down on those guys. I wanted nothing to do with them. Then one of my friends told me that a specific guy from another class tried to flirt with me, but I genuinely don't know nor care 😂. I always preferred deep conversation which is not everyone's cup of tea. Now being an adult, I guess I did quite a bitch 😅 But that young girl needs to make some mistakes and learn from them to grow mature. 😊 Now I tried to be more polite. I don't mind small talk, but when it became more personal, I would definitely try to politely run away 😂
So you prefer a teenage boy to ask you about what you think about the wave-particle duality of photons as a introduction line? You are asking a lot, but this would winnow out the not-very-academically inclined males.
Take offense is an understatement. I'm likely to get seriously pissed off. Mmm, you might get me to like you if you say, "Beautiful weather we're having," if there was a tornado or hurricane blowing. Then I might appreciate the sarcasm. Hmmm... Don't call me stupid. You're cruising for a bruising with that one.
You show Elon Musk and Greta Thunberg. Well, I am an INTJ and dont want to be identified with thouse 2 persons. They are brilliant, true - but both have Asperger syndrom, which is NOT synonymous with being INTJ!
That's actually not true. There are many relationships to the INTJ and autism. Maybe you're not an INTJ because ego doesn't get in the way of facts for us INTJ
No personality type is a community. Certainly not the intj if any of them were a community. I don’t care if the whole world actually is/wants to be/is mistyped as an intj. Their personality status has no bearing on how I use this information or how I value myself. But hey, _you’re_ the intj…
never we have freedom of speech in the usa!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! we have the right to say bad things if were not satiifised with lfie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh yes, the world's most free country, Not!!! grow up and look around you. Freedom to shoot and be shot, freedom to die because you can't afford medical care, freedom to cross a road where you want???, freedom to be poisoned by god knowns how any additives and chemicals in your food and water, freedom to have a crap education the list goes . I don't think I want that freedom. You are definity not an INTJ but have the average US IQ of 85. It's called freedom of speech!!!!!!! like it?
"I don't think you can do it" and i take that as a personal challenge
Yeah, it is like Oh yeah bitch watch this haha isn't it
Can't explain how much I hate small talk!!!
Now if you could would that be an example of small talk or a deep conversation?
@@lynnh1682 you mean to give you an example?!!
Things like >> "Oh, it is rainy today!/ Did you see that Mary got divorced? / John is betraying his wife! / Are you on a diet?! You should eat more vegetables! ...
🙄🙄🙄
@@ana6835 pretty much. 😊 A conversation on how much you hate small talk lol. Where I work everyone says good morning and they expect you to say it back. Sometimes it's ok but when I don't want to talk it's very annoying.
Take the small talk, then lead the conversation deeper into the direction you want it to go in one or two steps. Problem solved. You will likely have to ask some questions to keep it going but with the right questions you can get anyone to introspect and have some interesting conversations. It has worked great for me. I see small talk as an opportunity being offered by the other person to connect and it is up to me to accept and make it work for both of us or reject it.
"Rules are there for a reason."
"Great. What's the reason?"
"Uh...'
"Exactly."
Yeah, when the rules are made by people who don't know how to make coherent rules they should be ignored if you can get away with it.
@@nonjaninja4904 exactly!
1) I'd say the introversion and the planning aren't the real problems. Heck, at this point in my life, I'd love a surprise. It would give my problem solving something to do. The issue is the Fi. If you throw a surprise birthday party, for example, 1) I'm probably not going to react very much visually because I'm being confronted with all this new information, so you're not going to have much fun, and 2) the emotional processing as I figure out what I feel about the whole experience could take quite a while, and since I can't go be alone to process because now I'm in the middle of a party, it can throw off my reactions to everything else in terms of emotions.
Just basically image a computer screen with the little windows circle where your cursor used to be, and you can't do anything with your cursor until it's done. That's your INTJ processing emotions related to a surprise. And all the people involved in the surprise are downloads that keep interrupting the processing.
2) Yeah, we're not real impressed by lying. We can get involved in grand manipulative bluffs with certain people and consider that fun. But that's special. Average garden variety lying ... well, I can do more by telling the truth than you can with a lie.
3) Yep. If the rule is there for a good reason, we will follow it, and instruct other people in the rule and why it exists so that they follow it. If there's no good reason for the rule, we'll ignore it.
4) Really, the accusation of lacking knowledge is insulting because the person speaking doesn't know what I know. If you think an INTJ has made an error of fact, you're better off just asking "How does XYZ fit in to what you just said" or similar. The INTJ will then either tell you, or will ask questions and adapt thinking to include XYZ.
5) Oh, yay! Someone admitted we can be playful when we want to be. Especially as we don't care about societal expectations.
As to being serious I think other types maybe don't understand appreciating things on multiple levels at once. Sometimes people will tell me a joke, and it's an okay joke, nothing special, so I don't have any particularly humor reaction. Instead I start taking the premise of the joke as a "what if X joke were true." and will extrapolate a world where X joke is true, and then tell people about it. And they tell me it was a joke. And all I can say is I know it was, now back to the world where X joke is true.
6) Small talk is bad. But you also have to break the ice somehow. Weather is a pretty good one. Weather impacts plans (either yours or mine), and so information about the weather may be important.
Basically, just because I like deep conversation doesn't mean I want to start out my interactions by talking about deep topics like my dad dying last month. I do understand that people need to verbally sidle up to each other. Personally, i prefer meeting people at a hobby club so that then we can talk about the hobby. Barring that, though, try the weather. I live on this planet, so I've got at least a passing interest in that.
i was about to say the same as an INTJ but shorter: I do not relate to number one and im INTJ cause i have everything so planned I kind start missing what a surprise is. The thing is when there is a surprise event that pretty much ruins everything i have planned, then it is super annoying. But surprises in the long term i kind of find them cute and exciting!
@@blueneom7561 "when there is a surprise event that pretty much ruins everything i have planned"
That relates to any sort of curveball you are being thrown.
If I have planned to do something on Sunday, and then suddenly someone tells me on a Saturday that I have to do something else, at least I can stop, think about whether I can reorganize my day and fit both things into the schedule, and if I can't, I at least have time to rearrange the schedule to fit that original thing some place else. Or send a message to other people who were involved in that original thing. It's annoying, but manageable. The worst thing you can do is to come to me and tell me "We're doing this and that in 5 minutes, get ready" - So, not only does that show a complete disrespect for my autonomy, but now you are not even giving me time to prepare myself mentally for that thing, instead insisting on stringing me along. Best case scenario, I will just disable my internal processor completely and assume "OK, you've got the authority over this thing, so don't expect me to actively take part in it". Worst case scenario... I might actually feel compelled to sabotage you out of pure spite.
And even if I don't have anything planned, if you want me to do something, I still want to do it to the best of my abilities, so I need to stop, reassess all the information, create an overview of the situation, figure out what is needed, what is the best method to obtain/do it, whether I am capable of using that method, whether I am capable of _learning_ that method in time, and if not - I need to find an alternative method, then prepare myself for what I will need. That takes time and requires me to pull back into my internal processor to calmly analyse the situation. If you want to throw a surprise event, that does not necessarily need to be bad, but keep in mind that, if I have something else planned, there's a chance I will be grumpy and my thoughts will be in that other place, rather than with you in the current moment. Also, don't expect me to do anything requiring focus if you do.
I don't know how it is with others, but I at least tend to have a pretty on-rails way of thinking, and changing tracks takes time and effort. Throwing a curveball at me is basically the same as telling a driver he needs to turn left for the first time when he's already in the middle of a crossroad.
Mine is "how are you?" I just want to say "do you really care, or is this a formality?"
How dare you jump scare me with that "Surprise!" in the beginning.
Hahaha
that's literally me, all true. But I can talk a lot with people, just like u showed, not about the weather. I find it really hard to connect to people who can't work on logical / factual level or without going deep. i hate surprises, while I can be flexible and even hold speeches, I HATE when someone fups my time sched, planned weeks ahead! and you better enjoy the feedback loop
A true Intj will not be suprised
No true Scotsman would be…
We have an uncanny ability to see things coming, we might not know exactly what it is but can definitely tell something is up
Ridiculous. The unexpected occurs all the time, and most of the time it's not particularly pleasant.
Niece pops a balloon behind your head. Dog barks earsplittingly out of nowhere. The fish you've hooked is actually a common snapper. Wife says her friends are coming over and the decision was made half an hour ago without consulting you. Brother calls and was in a car accident and needs help.
But, no, you somehow divined through the ether that these occurrences were predictable, don't disrupt you, and are not entirely bothersome.
Not buying it.
@@danorris5235
You don't have to buy it because it wasn't for sale.
@@jackofalldenton4347
You are correct 💯
I'd like to add a point:
NEVER tell an INTJ that they are Autistic, having Asperger and/or having any other diagnosis.
Not only do you not have the knowledge and insight to establish this as a fact, it is also EXTREMELY rude and inappropriate.
Well, sometimes people though that I used some drugs just because I talked about the life and it's reasons and asked questions about the idea behind our existence. And for me it was weird that people didn't think about it and just lived their lives.
@@nekotoru Can relate
I strongly agree. It would be the same as an INTJ pointing out to someone who is not a IN TJ that they are stupid. They may be, but not being an INTJ, does not necessarily make an individual stupid. And not all INTJs are all that intelligent either.
@@alexr6114 when my nephew was 7 maybe 8 and he was trying to draw to see if it could become a hobby he came up to me and asked if I liked it. Long story short I hurt his feelings while trying to tell him not to compare his work with anyone else but it came out all wrong. My sister now thinks I could have autism.
@@lynnh1682 I doubt that any psychologist would agree that anyone can be diagnosed as having autism or any other "disorder" based on one interaction and a child who did not understand the point that you were trying to make - and your point was far more valid than your sister's interpretation of your action and statement. Rarely do even very talented artists produce excellent drawings when they are young that all individuals admire. It is far more important for a child who loves to draw to continue to draw even if no one likes their drawings. So you did not express yourself as well as you would have liked. We all make mistakes and your sister is adding 0 + 1 and coming up with 27.85. She clearly is not an INTJ in my opinion or she was having a bad day on this occasion. Everyone makes mistakes, even INTJs.
I'm INTJ-T supposedly and I actually like surprises, but only good ones. Lol. I get bored with routine every now and then. These things are nuanced. Also, humor is something I value quite a bit. We're just sort of quiet and reserved, but not necessarily buzzkills. Just a data point.
I'm an INTJ, someone called me stupid, I'm no longer happy.
most intj is stupid in the eyes of a mainstream-human.
as a intj you can be very proud being stupid/different.
@@degreesdegrees-jr4eg as an INTJ intelligence is the only thing that truly matters alongside being different.
@@dillonpercy1058 well there you go. Intelligence is to be different in the eyes of the "mainstream-human".
next time he call you stupid. just reply. can you please explain to me why i am stupid.
when he dods. just point out some of his logical inconsistensies.
and end the discussion with. "it seams to me that we are bouth pretty stupid, but hey. you have a nice day okay." and walk away. INTJ dorslam style :)
@@degreesdegrees-jr4eg I do love to point out logical inconsistencies. But then again they just pass it over with the 'nerd' emoji. In the eyes of humanity I do not believe I am stupid, in the eyes of the universe it would be idiotic to say that I am anything more than supremely ignorant.
Who cares what they think, they're probably insecure
It's all true.
Well you're definitely an intj then
#4 is a HUGE trigger for me. People know that I’m quiet (sometimes to a fault). So why don’t they understand that I only speak on what I know?
There are some things that are so obvious I point them out immediately, yet no one ever seems to see it. I make the "prediction" and then everyone is bewildered when it actually happens. I hate that.
As an INTJ who had a surprise party thrown for them and several other times someone admitted trying to throw a surprise party for them but dropped the idea, let me tell you why you shouldn't try to throw a surprise party:
It won't be a surprise. People act differently when they throw a surprise party. We'll pick up on these breaks in "the pattern of life" and know something is coming. Save yourself a lot of effort and just don't do it.
The other reason, and the reason for the abandoned plans for a surprise party: the people wanting to throw the party realized they had no idea who they should contact to join in on the party.
As an INTJ id have a heart-attack.
Yes. I do find myself agreeing with a lot of these.
infjs also dont like to be told "that's how we always do things" AND "you dont know what you are talking about."
To be exact, we only hate surprise from human.
Actually I'm okay with small talks if I have nothing to do. I know that some topics are popular among most people so to communicate with these people and keep connection when I have nothing to say I can speak about a weather or something that interesting to my mates (and not me). Sometimes it turns to an interesting conversations. In my 37 I don't expect my fellow janitor would talk about quantum physics with me. But I can talk about politics and life around and have a nice time in the process.
Rules have to make sense...
True that is completely true about me
Elon Musk, Elon Musk, Elon Musk!!! Enough already!!!!
I'm pretty sure he's an ENTJ.
He’s not an INTJ. He’s an ENTJ , just like Jobs
Bill is a typical INTJ. Ruthless, cold calculated. Larry and Sergey are INTP.
1:15 hurra for LiJo the INTJ FEMALE TH-camr
Except that she's not an INTJ.
1) Surprise.
Is it?
I probably already knew about it. Because I have Intuition as my dominant trait. INTJs and INFJs are known for accurately predicting the future, soooo ... there's not really any surprises. No, really.
I can't say I've ever felt "cornered" when something does manage to happen that I didn't expect though. I can't say I love surprises, but I don't hate them either. I'm more neutral on the whole topic.
I'm not going to enjoy a surprise party though. I can be social, but I like to be able to choose my time by evaluating how my personal battery feels. But not all surprises are surprise parties.
2) Lying never hurt anyone.
Okay, this is true. INTJs will hat that idea. And I can totally tell you're lying 99 percent of the time. Also, I rarely lie. It's not worth it.
3) Rules are there for a reason.
I don't have a problem with that.
"INTJs hate being told they should do something just because it's always been done this way."
Okay, now, that part is true. THAT should have been the title for the section. Because if you have a rule and it's there for a perfectly understandable reason, then we're going to be fine with the rule. The problem is when you tell us to follow the rule and don't explain why it exists and what its purpose is.
4) You don't know what you're talking about.
Hahaha. You keep telling yourself that, buddy.
5) Lighten up.
Um ... I 'm sorry I didn't think your joke was as funny as you did. I was having fun over here by myself.
6) Beautiful weather.
Um... no. That's fine. Like, you need to start a conversation somehow. Weather is at least a topic relevant to both of us that we could start with. Just don't expect the conversation to stay at that level. But yeah, if we're waiting for a train together, talk about the weather is very natural. Or as new neighbors. It's better than saying nothing. Or randomly quizzing a total stranger about their feelings on current politics because that could end very, very poorly and maybe you want to feel them out without directly asking that.
I always what is honest. I will never try and walk on broken glass around anyone because it is impossible to know what a trigger is for someone. Almost all triggers I have encountered with people make no sense and are usually the result of some past trauma I am not aware of. Heck, sometimes, they’re not aware of it. So, if they don’t know. How am I suppose to.
I’m not interested in people’s personality designation. If you enjoy my company. Be with me and we’ll hang out. If you don’t like me. Why force the situation.
My personality type is aaaAAA--123456789-zzzZZZ.
I think that covers it.
"beautiful weather isn't it"
Me: why do you think it's beautiful? and what's your definition of beauty?
(Not all small talks have to be avoided, you just gotta learn how to turn them into a deep convo🙃)
I strongly disagree that INTJs do not engage in light conversations. While we may prefer to have intense complex investigations of some aspect of science or literature or history, there is a time and a place for both conversations. When shopping at a grocery store, Target or checking out books at the library, acknowledging that the clerk is a human being by mentioning the weather is typically appreciated by most individuals who are tired of being treated as if they are no different than the cash register or the computer system that records which books you checked out.
Yah, true
I don't know or care what others said about me. May I not the smartest person on earth, but I never doubt my intelligence.
I maybe wrong and I don't mind to admit my mistake and learn from it, but I knew stupid is never be a word to describe me. 😊
I hate bad surprises. By all means, if you can surprise me with a birthday party do so!!!! Lol
Whoaa the small talk part 😂 A long time ago, when I was in HS many guys would come up and do that small talk like "How are you doing rn?" "Have you eaten or not?" Those kinds of stuff and I hate it.
I was so arrogant that I looked down on those guys. I wanted nothing to do with them. Then one of my friends told me that a specific guy from another class tried to flirt with me, but I genuinely don't know nor care 😂. I always preferred deep conversation which is not everyone's cup of tea.
Now being an adult, I guess I did quite a bitch 😅 But that young girl needs to make some mistakes and learn from them to grow mature. 😊
Now I tried to be more polite. I don't mind small talk, but when it became more personal, I would definitely try to politely run away 😂
So you prefer a teenage boy to ask you about what you think about the wave-particle duality of photons as a introduction line? You are asking a lot, but this would winnow out the not-very-academically inclined males.
OR TELL THEM THEY NEED TO SEE A PSYCHIATRIST HATERS !!!!!!!!! JUDGEMENTAL PEOPLE WHAT HAPPENED TO LOVE THY NEIGHBOR
Take offense is an understatement. I'm likely to get seriously pissed off.
Mmm, you might get me to like you if you say, "Beautiful weather we're having," if there was a tornado or hurricane blowing. Then I might appreciate the sarcasm.
Hmmm... Don't call me stupid. You're cruising for a bruising with that one.
Just don't talk to us
I really don't think Elon is an INTJ. The 7 thing you should never say is that Elon is an INTJ.
LOL. #1 was just mean.
Intj...same as autism...I have both
You show Elon Musk and Greta Thunberg. Well, I am an INTJ and dont want to be identified with thouse 2 persons. They are brilliant, true - but both have Asperger syndrom, which is NOT synonymous with being INTJ!
That's actually not true. There are many relationships to the INTJ and autism. Maybe you're not an INTJ because ego doesn't get in the way of facts for us INTJ
@@millenials_best Traits sure, but they really aren't synonymous.
No personality type is a community. Certainly not the intj if any of them were a community. I don’t care if the whole world actually is/wants to be/is mistyped as an intj. Their personality status has no bearing on how I use this information or how I value myself.
But hey, _you’re_ the intj…
good point
#intjtruthbomb
Nice try with the woke imagery. And Susan B. Anthony was a dude! Pass.
If I cared, I would make a comment here.............
never we have freedom of speech in the usa!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! we have the right to say bad things if were not satiifised with lfie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh yes, the world's most free country, Not!!! grow up and look around you. Freedom to shoot and be shot, freedom to die because you can't afford medical care, freedom to cross a road where you want???, freedom to be poisoned by god knowns how any additives and chemicals in your food and water, freedom to have a crap education the list goes . I don't think I want that freedom. You are definity not an INTJ but have the average US IQ of 85. It's called freedom of speech!!!!!!! like it?
so why you can post it, if you have no freedom of speech? maybe it should better be deleted, it's a balant lie