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Happy new year everybody let's kill it this year 2022! 🥳🥂🎉🎊
Great girl
Ruri how did you learn such fluent english? Have you been educated in USA? because of your accent
"If you fail at something, it doesn't mean you're a failure. The moment you stop trying is when you become a failure"
or maybe the moment you stop trying you become wiser, because not everything is winnable and it is smarter to spend your time on something else
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Bingo. Nailed it.
Dreams are not those we take during sleep but those which makes us unable to sleep.
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"Success means going from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm" - Winston Churchill
thanks for that
sounds like something he would say
Well...that's painful 💔 but ig it makes sense
Thank you I need that today
Success seems to be viewed differently to people
I lost my 13-year-old daughter to suicide last June. I often ponder how much of a factor social media played in her death. Thank you for taking the time to make this.
Am so sorry ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Jesus, may she rest in peace from heaven, Im so sorry.
@@q_pato_o thats rude man
@@q_pato_oyou failed as a human with saying that. you have no idea what they went through. so shut up.
@@sevenlonelylies why? How do you manage to let your !!!13!!!! Years old daughter get so depressed that she commits suicide and dont help her to the point she won't kill herself. A repeat, 13 years.
You are just dumb and ignorant.
I am at the lowest point of my life RN and watching this video made me feel that there is still hope
Same. Good luck, friend.
same. bless you all, guys. let's get through this step by step...
You'll be fine. It's just a phase you're going through.
im at the lowest point of my life rn as well... i just hate myself
i don't even know what to do in life lol.
everyone around me is doing something in their life
im 20yrs old and I'm failing in college and playing games
Same wasted 2 years in giving excuses, watching mobile , and enjoying with temporary friends , rather than studying at my most crucial years , i am still doing the same , i know my mistakes i just don't have self control .
I know i am capable i am just too lazy to change
"Constantly comparing oneself to others is a great way to live a miserable life." Don't self sabotage yourself, don't let failures hold you down instead learn and improve from them. The only time you truly fail is when you stop trying.
''Social'' media is cancer. That's it. Plain and simple.
It’s not self destruction its self defence from reality
@@lemonsundew08g Self sabotage and destructive behaviour are a defence mechanism to deflect reality.
It's how our body tries to protect us from something. The challenging part is until we allow ourselves to sit with it, we won't be able to release it and live full and vibrant lives.
Yes
@@JamieR So, the body tries to protect us by destroying itself? That's a nice little quirk there.
Comment by an elderly relative:
"I am almost 80 years old Japanese-Korean man and started over many times in life. Life is long, and you can start over many times. Many doors close. But each stage completed opens new doors.
I appreciate you making these videos and give hope to young people. We are often scared of doing anything during our best years, which is quite sad."
what is the most important thing life has taught you?
I have to disagree life is short so make the most out of it
@@stylie473joker5 Hi! I respect your opinion, but I also would partially disagree with you. Do realize that the commenter is an 80-year old. So given the context, that speaks loud enough.
Do our grandparents that are still with us live a short life? If you think you're gonna die tomorrow, or someone have died early, then, yeah, sure.
But that kind of mindset is also what pressures us, because we feel like we're in a hurry to experience everything coz we think we might die later or tomorrow or anytime. Yeah, I get that, especially in these trying times of the pandemic. I've lost family and friends early too. But it's also how stress, depression and regrets usually start creeping in.
But if we still expect that we will live long enough, coz, again, no one knows... naturally, we will make mistakes along the way, so just start over. Rinse, learn and then start over, as long as we could. Many doors close, but new ones open after, until life says "No more."
A little bit of something like Schrodinger's Cat theory. Two possibilities that we CANNOT actually answer. We don't know if we'll die early on or live long enough. That's why I respect and partially agree with you. But the possibility and expectancy of living longer is much bigger than dying young, seeing that we still see grandparents everywhere.
I mean, we will still die, anyway. So just live. As simple as that. Live your life. You can do anything you want, yes, but just be in the present, stop worrying about tomorrow. Tomorrow never comes, coz when tomorrow comes, it's already the present and you're still alive. (Okay, I'm playing with words now. haha... but still...)
If we die, we won't even feel any regret of not making the most out of it or experiencing lots of things anyway, coz... well... we're dead already. We won't feel (or think) a thing. And life of others move on.
PS: I'm not an 80-yr old person, but I'm a survivor from a medical illness, back in March 2016, that the doctors were surprised after diagnosing me and even said if i was even one day late from being sent to the ER, I would've died the next day. But because of the doctor's help, tons of prayers and support from family and friends, and my strong will to live, I survived.
I once fully believe that life is short as well, and that also caused me depression and stress, trying to do everything I could and sometimes couldn't, but when I thought I was dying, feeling all the pain in my body, I cried so much in my hospital bed and I felt so much regret that I didn't make the most out of it, that eventually led to mooore depression and stress that affected me and delayed my body from healing and so I stayed stuck in the hospital for almost 4 months. But after that experience, I changed my mindset. More like tweaked it a bit. I live each day doing the things that I can do on that day, yes, still making the most out of it, but also investing bit by bit for my future, bcoz I still wanna live... longer.
One day at a time.
And here I am, typing this and sharing my side about this topic.
Apologies if I sound intruding or invalidating your opinion. It's okay if you disagree with mine, I respect that, coz like me, we all have our own opinions and perspective in life and we all experience life differently. And like I said early on, I also partially agree with you.
Anyway, have a great day and a great life ahead! ^_^
@@Ash081284 what you said is right but there is also that idea that even if you live long you still feel that life is short and that those 80 years passed so fast
@@stylie473joker5 yeah, I get what you mean. You're right with that as well. Hmm... I guess we can say that the "life is long" is the physical aspect while the "life is short" is like how we see it or feel it, the speed, in a sense. Figuratively, if that is the right word?
Like, I may have lived longer, I have been given more years, but while typing my comment earlier, I also realized that it's already 5 years that have passed since I was hospitalized. Even in this pandemic, it's quite shocking that 2 years have already passed. Time is fast. Yeah, I agree with you on that.
Well, let's say it's a combination then, depending on how we perceive life at the moment, if it's within/being in the very moment, present (thus making it physically long) and if it's like outside the "box of life", looking as a whole, looking at from age 1 till our current age, then that's realizing how fast time has passed, if you can picture what I mean
So yeah, I agree with you on that perspective :)
Man, sometimes life can really make us think, huh? haha
thank you for this, i have been feeling really down about starting college so late in comparison to my peers. I'm in my second term and I'm 22, I have a brain tumor and it wasn't safe for me to start during peak COVID because my immune system is so weak. I'm from a very poor family and I've worked so hard for this opportunity to go to college. I'm not sure what i want to be but I know i want to be someone who is kind no matter what i go through.
I'm so sorry you have a medical concern. I hope your tumor doesn't grow or maybe is operable? There's a woman on here that's pretty popular who also had a brain tumor.
Her specific tumor couldn't be operated on, and because of that, there was no other treatment options. She went on some kind of diet that helped shrink her tumor.
I don't know if she's ever posted a video on what kind of diet she was on that helped her miraculously shrink her tumor, but if she doesn't have such a video yet, you could always reach out to her in the comments.
I forget her name. She's most likely in her later 20's to early 30's now. A white girl with dark brown hair.
Everyone is running their own race. Take care of you and go at a pace that works best for you.
I'm in my late 30's and been to a vocational school 3 times, for 3 different career paths. I've considered college, because that's the last thing I've been able to do.
You're still very young to start your life off in any way you want to go. 🙂 Don't let societal expectations make you feel otherwise. I hope this helps. ✨️
all the best!!!!
You're so freaking strong and brave!!!! I really wish I had a bit of that. Life is a game and you have been one of the best players out there. You'll clear all your obstacles. 🤍
Remember kids, when you feel like a failure when someone is more successful than you, realise that some people are built alternatively different and there's stuff planned for you, don't give up before the game is over, and don't ruin the game for other people
I disagree. Other people do not deserve what they have. Some of them did not work for anything. I deserve everything,
Life isn't fair in my opinion - too much depends on luck. Of course if you work really hard you can achieve something, but there are some things for some people in this world that just aren't possible. I don't really know how to explain this, but I hope it's somehow understandable. Really nice vid Ruri!
seems like you’re excusing yourself
Actually everything is possible in my opinion (if you deserve that thing) like you r studying don't look down on yourself that you can't crack this exam (i used to do this) now i understand that you have to have a strong mindset to achieve your goal nothing is easy in this world ...good luck
I believe a lot of it comes down to smart work instead of hard work
There are for more things that are possible than impossible for you and it's pathetic to think of only how you can't be a millionaire at 14. There are so many genuine things that can make you happy (succesfull)
YOU create YOUR luck :) if you don't move, change won't come.
The fact that this appears in my home feed says a lot about my current situation. Age of 26, feeling stucked, with a bachelors which I'm not using, no love relationship, working in a job not related to my studies and still living with my parents. Thanks for the content.
AT 27, same🥲 i thought you described my life.
30 yo buddy, almost same situation. Hold on.
Hold on, my friend. Things will turn around. It took me a moment to find my groove (early 30s). Things will get better for you. Just keep grinding.
I feel you heavily
it's tough out here man. don't ever feel worthless or useless. this is generational struggle. we're all struggling. and we will ALL MAKE IT THROUGH. WAGMI
Thank you for being honest. Makes me feel so much better with my TH-cam journey. I was literally just crying an hour ago because Im so frustrated and feel like a failure. I needed this today.
I have never felt like a winner in life. I’m now 43 and was slowly dying inside. Thank you. I needed to hear this. Life is truly unfair . That is the beginning of the struggle as a human being.
"If you compete against others you become bitter, if you compete against yourself you become better"
-Conor Mcgregor
Then y is he bitter after loosing.
@@mikaeilshah7896 because he's not the same anymore. He's not hungry like before.
@@hereandthere4751 hmm.. May b
@@mikaeilshah7896 certainly
And then Khabib steps in.
The fact that over 2 million people watched this video tells me we have to do something about this sadness and depression
social standards, trauma, loneliness, not knowing what drives you, expenses getting even more expensive by the second, college being a fucking trap unless you were born wealthy/ lucky to get a free scholarship. the entire concept of school is fucking flawed to the core until you make it to college where the trap is located. simply wanted to eat healthy cost a fortune. having to deal with other people bullshit decisions which then affect you especially if they are relatives. i mean the list goes on buddy, i doubt anything can be done besides enjoying what helps us cope. some ppl just learn to live with their depression and sadness and it affects them much less then it once did, not everyone can get to that point unfortunately
@@Wopder13 the concept off school is not actually flawed they dont try to make you an succesfull man, instead their job is to make an working class person and abuse them till they either die or if youre lucky make it to retirement and THATS the problem that we actually cannot fix bc we NEED an working class in order for humanity to proceed no matter what... so yeah school knows EXACTLY what they are doing they are just pretending that they are good guys.
2 million aint that much in the grand scheme of things
@@beans1998 True, it depends on the scale you're seeing it from. For a personal level? 2 mil is a lot for this type of video.
4 real 😂
I felt like a failure my entire life. But this is way before social media.
Well, change it. Change your thoughts. Change your actions. Change your habits.
@@alterego157 Sometimes there are just things beyond our control.
@@travismoore7849 I know. Give yourself permission to forget and ignore things that are beyond your control. There's no point in wasting your mental energy on those things. It is what it is. Focus only on things that are in your control.
@@alterego157 Well it does not matter, what ever happens is going to happen.
This is definitely helping me to push and do the things I love. Thank you
*Feeling like you are a failure is so common amongst young people like us. If you feel like no one is cheering for you, I am my friend!*
Reading this is warming You know? Tnx👌
It's understandable considering how the baby boomers fucked up the world making the life they once achieved nearly impossible for the generations that came afterward. God also agrees too or else he wouldn't have bestowed us with the coronavirus.
Thank you..
@@FreakAboutSims3 lmao
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"The sad truth is not everyone will accomplish something great. Some of us may just have to find meaning in the little moments that make up life." - Howard Wolowitz
At the end of the day though, what defines what is “great” or good? Society? Cultural norms? I’m not saying that there aren’t worthwhile goals, but saying that truth is sad is odd. What’s he even saying to be sad about? I think everyone in the first world can make progress and be a “better” person than they were yesterday, to hell with what society will label as “greatness”
"Not me though, I went to SPACE!" - Also Howard Wolowitz haha
@@Janon743 Even if you define you own goals, there will never be any guarantee you will achieve them. That's what is "sad" about life, bad things are and will ever be half of it.
Ronald said “money is just only the money. The most important is family”. He is right. I’m a man who earn 1500$ - 2000$ every month and I don’t need anything like gucci or be a celebrity. Important for me is health, people I love spend the time with and precious moments. Every person define success different way
says the successful person
I genuinely respect this girl ❤ thanks for the inspiring videos!
Wow....!
I needed to watch this video at this point of my life!
Thank you so much Ruri Ohama. Please take Love and respect from the bottom of my heart ❤
To everyone who reads my comment. I hope you are doing ok.
Don't compare your success to others. You deserve not to be over thinking.
Thanks for saying that :)
thanks man hope the
same goes for you too
thank you for the comment ^^
Thankyou ❤
How about kids today that more successful than we are!
This video is amazing I’ve felt like a failure for so many reasons in my life thank you so much for this advice❤
Comparing yourself to others is the thief of joy ! Appreciate of what you have cause life is short ❤❤❤
Never seen a youtuber talking about the "lower half of the iceberg" of his carreer, mad respect
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Naex, what about all the ppl on this planet that can give the same iceberg example with with next to no results. That iceberg means s*** . Not a very good way to explain things. Bc so many have put in the same effort but to no avail.
"Pain will leave your body, when it's done teaching you"
I love this! 😉 Who's said that? Marquis de Sade? oh i'll search it... Bruce Lee
And thatz wot u call DEATH😂😂
this girl is such a crybaby.
@@bluebottle548 It's not what this saying is about, but that's a good point, and black humour funny. 😆
@@ddduxi am pretty sure it was said by some dude kicking heroin
Thank you, Ruri, very much. I appreciate your efforts on all honest advices you have mentioned in the video. I needed them. 🙏
Thank you Ruri, you are amazing, beautiful, inspiring and helpful. I ordered the Book right at the spot
As a kid, my parents always compared me to other kids. I still have their voice in my head with everything I do.
oof, you're definitely not alone in that 😥
That's something doesn't let us to do something without hesitation.
Same 🥺
They still do it with me and I'm 31... "you're not engaged yet". Fucking boomers
every parent does that i feel like, kinda hurts
"If you don’t fight for what you want, then don’t cry for what you lost."
-Lord Krishna , Bhagvad Gita
These lines do have very different meanings, it depends on perspective. And also we should never think that we are failure, as it depends on our mind " What we think is what we become" another famous quote from "Bhagvad Gita"( book)
By the way nice vid
Exactly man
So nice this is the reason I like our culture!
Empty words.
So if I fought hard for what I wanted, I would be deserved to cry for what I lost?
Do you really think I tried so hard just to have the right to cry, lol.
@@N1L4RV he quoted "If you don’t fight " not "fight hard"
spanish queen said: cry like a woman for that which you lost as a man
(to the last musling king or whatever in the caliphate of Granada)
For a young person you have blown me away with your wisdom. I found your content very inspiring and helpful. Best wishes.
This video really changed my mindset. Perfect. Thank you❤
i'm 30, i'm broke, got no gf, from mid ecnmy family,and still being a burden to ma and pa . but im sure that everything will get better for me on the right time, as long as i try to be better even better version of me,and keep being kind to other. thank you for sharing this video, its a bit lift me up.
hey man, best of luck hope u get everything u've been dreaming of.....take care
How are things going to get better? What is your next step?
im married have a kid and have to live with my parents again because we cant afford to pay for electricity and heating on our own... im working on making more money and leaving my 9 to 5, its gonna work, for me.. for u... we just need to try, learn and not give up ..giving up is losing if u try and actually fail and try again thats learning eventually u make it doesnt matter what that is.. trading or something else on the internet, a better job, a school, a language... everything
Society and the media really push the notion that adults should be successful while they are in their youth ie. their 20s but this is a reality I had to learn. I am pushing through to get my bachelors and I have anxiety on what is the step forward from there. So in short, I feel you. Hope you are doing ok if you see this 🙂
well you're a failure, stop leeching of your parents/society and get your grown ass up and look for a job.
“Don’t aim at success-the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue…as the unintended side effect of one’s personal dedication to a course greater than oneself.”
~ Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
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TRUE
Reminds me of good ol' Griffith
So true
What a Quote.
Thank you, Ruri for this video n book. I'm truly glad to come across your video. Felt a huge relief when i listened to everything you said.
That's a good story of success. Never give up, mindset wins.
Unfortunately our childhood has a lot to do with what we feel entitled too have or achieve. I did not settle for my toxic families idea of what I could be, and yet, I still have obstacles created by an absence of love , guidance, or support. You are a good inspiration. Thanks!
how do you have 6 million subscribers
@@AgentZ-1844Exactly
@@AgentZ-1844 Spent his 9-5 earnings on an account
@D-jj5dyYes. Much love to you.
@@AgentZ-1844 "imagine that you are living peacefully in a house, with your family, food, as any other person in the world. and some day someone knocked on your door and tell that this is his house and told you that you must go out immediately with no reason or justifying, and as any person else who has not any place to go you refused. so that person break into your home and start destroying it and hitting you and he killed your family members. but when you start to defend people come to see whats going on, so this person start to shout and say that you stole his home and you are trying to kill him. they caught you and shut your mouth and they say that they will kill you because they think that you are a "terrorist", you scream but nobody is hearing you, becuse nobody know the truth"..............this is not imagination this is the reality of palestinians, israel is stealing and destroying their houses, their family and their lives and hide the truth and the reality. ......... so please search about the truth because its not a joke its people's life
I related a lot with this. I was born poor, no one in my family had ever gone to college. But my parents always valued education over everything else. So, since I had their full support, I chose to study until I was able to get a scholarship in the most renowned University in my country. It took me 4 years, after high school, to get it. I was very young, and I almost didn't go out during those years, I didn't have a girlfriend, I studied all the time I was awake, and I solved the hardest questions the exam for scholarship required. After those 4 years I succeeded, and now I don't just graduate, but I have a master's degree in that University too.
I'm married, I have friends to hang out, travel, and I can help my parents that helped me.
So, my unfair advantages were:
1) When I was 15~16 I already could read English fluently, so I had access to studying material that most ppl didn't
2) I had the emotional intelligence to set a course and not give up on it
3) I had my family support. They sacrificed their happiness and comfort so they could afford my education. Until college it was far from the best I could have, but their struggle made me really understand me how important education was.
Well, I know you won't read all this, but it was good to write it down. Thank you for the wonderful video, it was very valuable to me.
You're incredible! As a non-native English speaker, I can tell you one unfair advantage you have: your English is very clear and not accelerated as most native speakers, in particular American ones.
I started watching because it was very pleasurable to listen, then I loved the content.
Nice to meet you Ruri!
❤
Bro i read it completely
54 likes, and I wrote a lot... it was more a write-to-myself text, but ppl really took their time to read it.
I'm glad to know this 😍 thank you guys, you've made my day 😉
no you made our day
sure
Thank you for the inspiration!!! You are amazing!!! I always want to learn something new every day.
Thank you so much for motivating to push me up. Love you 😘
Shouldn’t view failure in a negative way. We all have them. It just shows what works and what doesn’t. Never compare what you have with others. Just focus on what you have to do.
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Tbf, I believe sometimes failure is necessary for growth. You just never aim at failure.
Unless you end up in hospital for it!
failures are actually good, when you fail you just discovered one or many ways to not achieve your goals and through eliminations you will have better clarity.
actually failing is better than succeeding by pure lack or because you are born in a good envirement.
Thanks! Definetly a good reminder!
Thank you Ruri from 2 years ago, I needed this
I grew up poor, ran the streets, and work to pay bills. My son is a teacher and recently started his career. I can’t consider myself a failure though. I feel like if my child didn’t succeed, I would be a failure. I basically taught him to be better than me and taught him a lot from my experiences.
From my perception, you are successful. ❤️
your a winner
A winner right here.. 💖
@@prajjwaltiwari8644 thank you.
@@resh7521 I appreciate your words.
Crazy how this was on my home feed. I'm 24 and after spending 8 years gaming and never leaving the house, over a month ago i quit smoking cigarettes and drinking alcohol and stepped away from gaming to work towards what i've been missing in life. Recently i have felt like giving up on my goals to become great but this video has reminded me to keep at it. Thank you for the uplift Ruri. :)
I dream of quitting my job and just playing games all day. Can you tell me what it's like and why you decided to change?
@@pj561 cuz your view on success/happiness is different than his. Maybe hes grown tired of gaming and decided to experience new things in life
also, your view on what is success might change throughout your life
@@pj561 Trust me, it will get boring after a while.
@@pj561 boring, you just like games because you have your job, makes the play time more enjoyable and actually want to play the actual game instead of having nothing to do all day
Thanks a lot.This video is the best i have ever watched.I can't describe my feelings after watching this while you are depressed.thank youuuuu
Thank you so much. I needed this inspiration today!!!
Thank you so much Ruri!
I'm 21 and I noticed that I got really jealous and chaotic, and it scares me. whenever I see any success from my friends or acquaintances which is bigger than mine I feel really down. Even today when my friend told me she's working as a system analyst and makes good money it was enough to ruin the rest of the day for me (and maybe not only this one). Because we're the same age and from the same university, so i constantly COMPARE my peers with me and destruct myself.
I understand that I have some unfair advantages, that my life is better than it is in my head, that many would probably like to own some aspects of my life, but I'm suffering from something I don't have nevertheless. and I believe that what contributes to such mindset significantly is the fact that I DON'T KNOW what to do with my life. There is no particular dream I would like to fulfill or it is way too abstract so that I wouldn't be able to tell what it is really. This makes me feel miserable, I get angry at myself and at my relatives because of my own problems, and right now I feel lost and depressed. Any small misfortune upsets me, and I don't see the solution yet but I will try to do something like studying more in magistracy, maybe watching some courses for enhancing general knowledge, reading, establishing relationships, working with psychologist (hopefully). I've tried some of these activities already but I believe there must be more consistency and more efforts. I wish I would start to realise fully that the worst thing is to sit and do nothing which is one of my favorite occupations (cause what would I do? I'm questioning myself and don't seem to find the answer yet). But I will be trying.
I appreciate it very much if anyone has read about my current experience with my life. If you're going through somewhat similar thing, please know that you're not alone. We might be lost right now but we'll get there. The main thing is to keep going and trying further without fear even if we don't succeed. Failing is MUCH better than not even trying. If needed, get professional help (I'll try too!) and take care of yourself. You'll cope. Sending love and support to everyone.
im 21 and im just considering majoring cs... i spent 3 years doing basically nothing and i feel like i still have a chance and kinda sad and depressed abt it but u its better late than never ig :( so if go in i'll graduate at 25 do u think thats alright :,)
@@RS-zl4vs its never too late bro. theres 50 year olds in courses chase ur dreams
I have the same problem. I am also 21. The other day my friend said he made tons of money from his job and now he is planning to move in to his new apartment. I don't know why but that made me hate myself and feel like a failure I was keep asking myself ''what am i doing wrong?''. I'm in college (architecture major) .It was already too tough to find internship because I don't know anyone. When i found out some of my classmates already found a job i just wanted to kill myself. Feels like no matter how hard i try it's all futile.
''I get angry at myself and at my relatives because of my own problems, and right now I feel lost and depressed.'' I can relate to this sentence. When my parents call me I just yell at them because I'm just looking for someone to blame. (I hate myself for this)
@@RS-zl4vs bruh we have the same life FR
I'm 29 now and dropped out of high school from a panic attack I had on the first day of school in my first class. I had to move out to my best friends house at 17 because I didn't know if my parents would let me leave school so I just packed my car and left.
The only advice I can honestly give is that it will get better and as you get older you start to notice the wisdom you gain over time. Some random thing can happen that can change your life, whether its meeting someone and hearing about a job they do, or hearing an idea that sounds really exciting to you, or a business idea for making a side income. TRY ALL OF THE THINGS you're interested in. You will learn from each one and then at some point all of your best talent will be put together on top of your hard work and you will have something of value whether its financial or not. However financial value is very thin, even the richest people have some sad lives, because its unironically not about having a ton of money that makes a good life, however making about 70-80k a year is an important pillar of having enough to not worry in the US.
This video popped up in my recommendations at the right time. I am at a depressing point, devaluing everything i've done and seeing no results. But you reminded me that the value we have has always been in us, we have to find our authencity, or unfair advantages, which is a clue to realizing many things. Thank you for making me question some things. I don't believe in signs, but im gonna consider it one.
@@worldExplorer__ hi, yeah, I guess we can, if it's me ur asking 😁
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@@worldExplorer__ I think TH-cam deleted my previous comment with my nicknames on other platforms 😅 maybe you could try to share yours somehow?
Same here
@@blending_in CRINGE L LIFE NOBODY CARES BOUT U
I’didn’t felt like failure but I’m here how you will explain to those ppl & yea you’ve shown them a unfair advantages ❤
Great job young lady. You inspire this old man to keep at this TH-cam thing!
Im 29 and Ive been studing diferent carreers without complete them, now im in the last year of architecture, but feels like im not good in anything... watching beautiful videos like this trying to comprehend how to succed... so thank you... this is the best video Ive ever seen... you're doing it so good! Blessings!
I'm 26 and I'm stuck in the same phase. Hope we will make it out of it and find the things we are passionate about good luck!
"but feels like im not good in anything... watching beautiful videos like this trying to comprehend how to succed"
That depends on your definition of success. Success doesn't always mean a thick wallet. You have one life, do you want to spend it chasing dollars?
We're only here for a little while.
@@thunderpopzzz I'm in the same position as well
me too :/ I´m 21 years old and I´m feeling lost
Same, I'm 18 though but I've been doing all I could since I was what 13?? Whatever I do ends up nowhere
I don't need to go on social media to feel like a failure. Tbh I just feel happy that there's people in the world who are able to do something with their lives - it tells me that there's some sense of justice *somewhere*. Myself, all I need to do to feel like a failure is to wake up in the morning.
@Chrome Book I'd sooner die
@Julia Karlsson exactly, i'm an ant on a rock. i don't matter.
i feel you, not being pessimistic but the reality is, few are winners and the rest are losers. all this positive crap doesnt apply to all, you we can do is we take what we can get.
I think it's more a mindset thing. I'll be graduating from university in 4 months time, yet, I still feel like a failure since all my friends from uni are getting jobs, while I'm sitting on my ass doing nothing. Granted, I am trying to learn to drive before I get a job, and I have my test next week, but even still I'm not convinced I'll have the motivation to apply anywhere. If anything, I'm scared. I live with just my mum since my brother moved out and lives with his girlfriend. My mum works part time in a minimum wage job and has just been made redundant, which will take effect at the end of this month. Most her life since she had kids she didn't even have a job. Always worrying about money. I don't want to be like that. But at the same time, I can't help but think I will. I don't have any connections, no work experience, no money to fall back on if things go south. I'm not particularly attractive, I'm terrible with people. About the only thing I've got going for me is that I'm friendly, but that's not special.
At the end of the day, most of us are just extraordinarily ordinary. But, I think what really matters is that you're special to at least someone. That you at least give some meaning to someone else's life as someone else gives meaning to yours. That can be anyone, a friend, a co-worker, a partner, a family member, anyone. For me, that's where what little motivation I have comes from. It's what managed to push me through 3 years of university when I told myself I couldn't do it. Thought I wasn't smart enough for it, and if it weren't for the people who believed in me, I probably would've quit. I can only hope that as I go through the rest of my life that I have people to do that still. But at the moment, it's extremely daunting. It's sort of all up to me now to decide where I go. And I'm struggling to decide.
@@iankinzel but i think you should try to make the most of life while you can. life is so brief and there's so much to be inspired by when you pay close attention to things and enjoy the mystery and wonder of the world. and you're always still an important part of the universe no matter how small you think you are
Yeah... I think I was needing to hear that, thanks !
life will never be fair but you gotta keep your head up & have the courage to do right thing !
I cried when I realized I knew college wasnt for me after being in school for 5 years, eventually you get over it and you find something new.
what are you doing instead?
@@CybertroninfiniteOfficial worked for the next 2 years in a warehouse, now I got my CDL and I drive buses.
@@potatokaiyote does it treat you well financially and mentally?
@@CybertroninfiniteOfficial when I was working in a warehouse It was ok when I had good hours, but after a while they started putting me from like 7 -2am stocking which was ass. Driving busses is ok, I get weekends off (which I never got at the warehouse) but atm the hours are decent driving short buses. If I get my B license to drive the bigger busses then I get paid I think 23 or 24 /hr and more routes to drive.
@@potatokaiyote neato, would you say you get paid well enough?
Life is just unfair in so many ways. It starts by the fact the you can’t choose which you’re going to be born as, who will be your parents and your family.. but the best advice I’ve been going by lately is “face it till you make it” because 10 out 10 times.. you just have to. No matter what life throws at you, you just face it and regret or celebrate later. I hope everyone who sees this have a lovely day. Stay safe and stay strong because no matter how it may seems like it.. you’re not alone 🫡✨
You want to choose who your parents are? What do you mean which youre going to be born as? Are you talking about gender?
@@tebhernandez He's not wrong,we can't chose those but we can appreciate and be better with our own strength and mentality
I'm born with disease life is so unfair for me life is like he throws me everything bad 😭
@@tebhernandez Just curious, who would you choose as your parents? And what is wrong with your gender?
This video is really good. I feel this girl is very honest person. I can’t say it’s best video for me of the year but definitely one of the best video I see this year.
I needed this the most right now. I'm 18 had nothing with me I'm homeless can't even afford a cake at a bakery don't have enough guidance lets just be fair i don't have guidance from anyone I'm an Indian so are my parents Well many of you might know that most Indians are the kind of people who think only studying is the way to success my parents didn't support me to start a youtube channel they didn't let me try other fields in life I'm still studying hard but no results working my ass off but still getting bad grades lets just be fair it took me 4 years to understand what I want to be in life took me 4 god damn years to get into a clarity of what I want to do in life 4 years and in this 4 years,, there are kids around the world who made millions and driving Bugatti. today i just opened TH-cam and on my home page I was scrolling with deep disappointment and i found this video and I'm so thankful for this video it just told me that what should i do in life like how to start what the reasons for not being able to earn anything i just wanna say a lot more but ill stop here if you are still reading this comment thank you so much for reading it means a lot
Hi from another Indian. Why don't u start a channel without them knowing? Ik it's kinda impossible but c'mon, try it. Try to convince your parents again until they understand. You have to do what you like, pls don't be stuck. 🤍
@@user-hx6xi4zl8r Hey first of all thank you so much means a lot I'm planning to start a TH-cam channel shortly right now I'm preparing for IITJEE once I enter the college I'll start it without telling them. a few days back I told them about the idea of starting a YT channel they laughed at me well typical indian family and even my sister too which hurt me a lot then I realized that there was no point in telling my dreams to my parents ill do it my self and even if they laugh ill be patient and shut their mouths with my success in both YT and in studies and once again thank you so much man and all the very best for your future too I hope you will reach enormous success in life may god bless you
Some personalities have a way harder time with not giving up than others. Their brains are wired to compare themselves to others, they see themselves as wortheless by default, as pathetic as it seems to other personality types. I wish people would recognize this more.
neuroplasticity
oh yeah welcome to the i identify myself as jealous and worthless generation
@@Hema115 ah yea i get you😉To that I like to say "truth lie, lie truth, when you get enough people to repeat the truth, the truth becomes a lie".
The internet has developed the other half of humanity's powers and now nobody can say anything without being outsmarted. can't be fake but can't be real either🤔
@Xiu Ying Cai well they want to be successful because they want to feel good about themselves and failing will make them feel bad about themselves, so it kind of makes sense.
A great watch on how humanity is defined th-cam.com/video/S5f5zKsN1DE/w-d-xo.html..
This Is My First Time Hearing About Unfair Advantage, And I Really Thank You For Your Explanation.. I'll Definitely Spend This Entire Day To Breakdown All My Possible Unfair Advantage And Use It As My New Weapon.. Thank You Once Again Dear Ruri.. And Congratulation On Your 300K Subs 😇
thank you🖤
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OMG, howcome this came into my feed, the exact same thoughts came to my mind just a few hours ago, thanks Sis for this video, will work wonders for my confidence currrently going through this Mid life crisis, More Power to You!!!!!😍
thank you, from the bottom of my heart, you have no idea how much better this made me feel.
Life is unfair, but people like you make it more enjoyable. Thank you for your content!
Girl u changed my mindset I m 19 yrs old , I failed in medical entrance exam in my country I really felt like failure, I see people of my age already getting into 2nd yr of university ,here me haven't even enter into university, yes life seems unfair but when u started to get over those situations u 'll feel better. Be Confident, do good whatever u do, rely on ur dreams 💜
Is it neet cuz I'm also preparing for it .let's have hope
Bro same here. Are you from India?
@@mohammedayan4058
Yeah
@@mili8605 same here. I’m gonna go for engineering in the upcoming weeks
@@mohammedayan4058 I m also going to study engineering let's have hope 🙌
Love your video..... Inspired. Just wanted to say thank you! 😊
Wow, this was really well put together!
This is probably the most honest video I have ever seen and even though my time for dreams and such have past I would LOVE you to do a video on unfair advantages because I know that anyone who takes it to heart it WILL help them. Thank you for doing this video and I wish you all the best in 2022. 😊 Happy New Year. 🎆🎇
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Thank you so much for this video. I developed depression since I was 10 years old because my father was a narcissist, something I only understood now at the age of 24, I always blamed myself a lot for not getting anywhere near where I would like, because I had a good education, but I never had a family base. My grandparents who were the people who defended me and did everything for me were murdered, I had to move from town at 13 and go to live with an aunt, but after 2 years, I started living alone, at 15, to be able to study in a good school, because my parents had moved to a very small town. I ended up meeting someone i had an abusive relationship of 7 years, which ended with betrayals and other very bad matters, all this joined me and made me think every night of suicide, i wondered why to continue living since i didn't feel anything else, since no one really cared about me. And I was having these thoughts at the time, and I watched this video and another one about you're going to drop out of medical school, and somehow, it gave me a light inside me. I thought I was a dumb person, ungrateful and not dear in this world, but on second thought, every story of what happened to me, something unfair in life, made me develop a very good skill, I'm very good at talking to people, listening to them, understanding them, maybe this is my unfair ability that I've developed, that's what I like to do, and somehow, I'm going to run after it. I was very frustrated in the area of architecture and now I want to be a psychologist, thank you again, your videos are definitely a light for many people. :)
WOW
Just reading this made me feel so grateful for my life. I am so sorry for what happened to you and I really hope that you will succeed and and be happy in your life!!
good luck and take care!! :)
I'm so sorry for what happened to you. I hope I could inspire you somehow. ❤️
"I developed depression since I was 10 years old because my father was a narcissist, something I only understood now at the age of 24" 20 years, i started to realize this a year ago, my today goal is to be able to live alone, thanks for sharing your experience, it gave me some hope.
@@tiago7063 I'm sure you'll be able to achieve that so don't lose hope! I live in a very bad family environment and the thought of one day being able to live a peaceful life in my own home with my pets and my sister is what keeps me going sometimes.
I hope youre doing better now Renata, youre really strong, you kept going even if things were really difficult, I also sometimes think about being a psychologist for the same reasons you mentioned, sometimes going through really difficult situations makes us have more compassion and empathy for other people because we don't want them to feel how we felt.
I needed to hear this. Thank you.
Right video at the right time. Thank you
We all need a friend like her, who can explain the hard realities of this world in such a wholesome and genuine way.
Isn't that what a friend is tho?
Life really isn’t fair… and I’ll tell you how I’ve struggled in life. I work super hard to climb out of retail and the toxicity of these people I have to work with, is beyond repair. I never went to college because I don’t want to be in debt but I’m glad that there’s certificate courses you can take right now without going to college.
I’m working towards my IT support certification through googles program and I’m learning so much! I refuse to think that the only way to survive is to just accept that I’m a failure and that retail is as good as it’s gonna get for me but I’ll tell you that it is not! (I’m not belittling anyone who likes retail if it’s for you more power to you)
Working at retail is the worst thing I’ve ever done in my entire life! and because of it I rarely find work. I have a learning disability and multiple health issues and mental struggles that I will not share on here but despite it all, I will not allow anyone or anything push me down anymore.
Just know who ever you are and if you’re still working at retail and you notice that you’re not being treated the best or getting payed enough know that if it isn’t for you, you don’t have to stick to retail there’s plenty of other jobs you can get you’ll just have to find the right resources to help you get where you want to be in life. I tried American job center in my town and I’m so thankful that I contacted them and they were able to help me figure out a plan for my future.
My passion has always been music! I like making beats and would love to write lyrics but because of my learning disability it’s super hard to do all of that kind of work on my own. I hope that someday I’ll find a kind soul that I can work with because I’m talented and I wanna share my story and help make the world a little better with my art I have a lot to say and I’d love someday to share it through music.
I wanna see you writing for a big artist one day, good luck on life and hopefully we'll both achieve our dreams
I can write the music for you to put the sound on it. I sing a lot and write music too…. Buh no where to record or no one to add the sound…I have two albums
! My passion is to do music, animation, singing, and TH-cam! My parents say I'll be a failure doing that? But how would they know? They can't see the future?
i have things I'm interested in but I'm not determined enough to pursue them. it's like i don't really have anything that excites me. the world and everything in it is just a grey blob of disappointment
@@brigc7755 thank you! Likewise!
How motivating your story. Thank you for sharing it to us.
Fantastic video! I love your insight, thanks for sharing this!
I was having a mental breakdown as usually but this video found me and I couldn´t be more grateful
This video has no conscience.
Are you sure it was not God? The same happend to me today.
I did not even searched, it just popped up in my recommend box. Nothing is a coincidence.
@@JoostEurovisionFans idk maybe it is
Ngl this video came in the right time, i can't even believe this was made 2 years ago! Thank you for making this video!
High value contents,thank you 9 years for your long run,keep on doing good inspiration clips
2 books I would like to recommend:
- Clarity by Jamie Smart
- The Little Book of Ikigai by Ken Mogi
Read QURAN TOO
@@mrsaif4135 the Bible is the better choice, sir
@@BrandonTorres7529 all holy books has different stories but with same morals
@@BrandonTorres7529 Best of all, most inspiring, motivational and marvelous is *drumroll*
ABC for kids
Read the Bible especially those that King Solomon have written
As I got older, I stopped giving a shit. As long as you're happy with what you have, then you're all good.
this.
What if I'm not happy? I don't feel like a failure because of the reasons listed in this video, I feel like that because it looks like I'm often too stupid to do the most basic things in life. I seem to suck at most things I try like several kinds of sports like mountain biking, volleyball, waterball, bowling. I was always at the bottom of the barrel. I tried to become an oil engineer in university and it was a horrible fail. Okay I clearly needed to try something different. I tried to become a translator. I was doing better there but still failed even after years of trying to learn shit. After that I tried to learn programming and I felt more lost than ever. I felt so freaking embarassed in front of the other students. I literally couldn't imagine it was possible to be this bad at something. Even a friend of mine tried to help who was good at programming but even as he was explaining very basic stuff it sounded like advanced quantum physics to me. I also tried playing the guitar but still failed very badly on the most beginner stuff.
Apparently I'm not retarded because my IQ is around 120 so what the hell is wrong with me?? I feel like my mental health is degrading due to this as time goes on and it creates a vicious cycle where I have even harder time on focusing anything due to his.
@@valentinvas6454 you are underestimating yourself, you just havent found the hobby/job/person that will help you feel you have a purpose.
I really needed this! Thank you for making this video. I've recently lost my TH-cam channel I've worked so hard for over 3 years with over 30K+ subscribers. there's nothing else that I can do other than never giving up and just keep going! This really helps. Thank you!
Thank you so much for this. I really needed it right now
I remember I told some people I met in college my career goals and where I was currently, only to have them degrade my career as "lazy" and "we do all the work, y'all just sit around and write stuff." I knew at that movement that that person was trying to bring me down through their own insecurities. My career path was a psychiatrist.
Damn...
Edit: Massive respects to you psychiatrists btw!!
The fact that you talked about your failure and crying about it touch me 💙 I’m actually trying to motivate myself to get better grades because I’m failing most of them right now and you just gave me the speech that I needed to go further to finish my semester 💙💙 thank you
You're a failure, do somthing with your life.
This video was the perfect thing I could've experienced during this uncertain phase of my life. Thank you so much.
Thanks for your labor.
I have watched your channel almost the half year. During this time you have gave me a bunch of advices connected not only with studying but with the bulding own personality and identifying yourself as woker, student, and human in socity. I appreciate it. New podcast is an incredible project as well. Thank you. I wish you happy 2022!
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It takes courage to be this honest, my respect for that.
You talked about unfair advantages, which is true in a sense. But I see this more as self awareness.
Loving something doesn't mean your good at it. I like playing basketball, could I play in the NBA? Probably not because of my height.
This is just an example. That's the reason why we should try different things in life, in order to find what we're good at.
Some are lucky enough to know it from a young age. Others try to figure it out later on.
So self awareness is key guys!
Thanks for this
Hope U definitely find what u r good at .
I hope everyone Who feels like a failure come up if u r coming up i support because it's the most difficult thing one can do . What would be more difficult than finding the land when ur deep in the sea? I KNOW, GOD GOT US , I LUV U PLEASE GET UP BABE AND EVERYONE U R BORN TO RULE THE WORLD WITH U .
I BELIEVE U CAN I KNOW U CAN I KNOW U WILL . PLEASE TRY U R MADE FOR SOMETHING HIGHER OR MAYBE THE HIGHEST .
HOPE IT HELPS
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Thank you so much for this video ❤️
So grateful that this video showed up in my for u, thank u so much for sharing this masterpiece with us
You succeeded, because you failed to give up.
Hearing your thought process, of how you analyzed each video, makes it perfectly clear your dedication, and level of seriousness to your craft.
Today is one of those days when I have cried a lot feeling lost. Stumbled upon this video and felt good. Thanks
I promised myself I will succeed.
sucks kus i feel like dying everyday i feel lost depress feel disgusted to myself no luck in life
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Thank You so much Ms. Ohama!
This is so true and inspiring!. This is a reminder that we should not fall for everything you see on social media. 💗
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"Don't work only hard, work hard and smart" - Ruri Ohama.
I love that, and honestly it might be the missing key for many of us, that and the fear of asking for help. Asking for help from family, friends or looking into the various helps you can get from independent organisations or even government.
If you don't believe that there is a way forward in life, you won't be able to see the various paths and opportunities that present themselves to you.
beautiful words from heart the the heart .
I needed to heard this, is so real...
I amost cried after seeing how many years of effort it took you to get to the place you are now, it makes me really happy seeing that you are doing great after everything you went trough, I really hope you are doing fine
I can really relate to this
In high-school and grade school
I put in a lot of effort to prepare for my tests but never got the desired mark
My parents ridiculed me and said I wasn't serious when I did the best I could
Thanks for the motivation
U indian?
Me too... but we need to try again and give our self another chance
@@anujtiwari9234 🤣
dont mind them, keep pushing hard , for your sake. you got this! . hope your efforts pay off for you : )
Same...