Despite repeated attempts I always come out of the MBTI as INFJ-T. As you say there's a lot of people who seem to think it's 'cool' to have INFJ traits. I'd get annoyed but I need all my energy to deal with the emotions I have without adding any more.
I'm a INFJ and a HSP male. I keep hearing about how great those are. How I have a super power. I don't feel great about those. I feel like a emotional freak. Honestly it seems I get my feelings hurt all the time. I get upset over things I wished I didn't. I feel like I don't fit in with people. I'm trying to find positives with this. It is just really difficult. I have lived my life. All of this has not helped me. I'm still in denial about being INFJ and HSP. I'm like being those I feel like my emotions and mentally a woman. I'm a man. I just dont feel and think like what a man should.
@@davidcook680 I hear you; I also come into the top 2% of HSP's; that awkward level where you pick up other people's emotions; being in large rooms is no picnic, I can tell you. I know what you mean about feeling like you are emotionally a woman. I think working in social care helped me realise that this isn't necessarily the case; if anything I combine the best of both because I can empathise with feelings but still respond logically. I had to learn this though, and learn why it was beneficial, and it's still bl**dy hard work.
@@davidcook680 I believe all true INFJs are by definition HSPs: As soon as our Fe detects an emotional imbalance in people through their body language or what they say and do our introverted intuition starts to work on analyzing the obvious and hidden causes and reasons to then be able to present possible relief or a solution through our judging function. This is why INFJs are such good counselors. Unfortunately the process takes an enormous amount of energy because it utilities many areas of our brain and often results in a frustrating pearls for swines dilemma because most people can’t or won’t change or take good advice. They'd rather just vent or seek validation for their cognitive dissonance, of which the latter is the most difficult for me to handle: Internal mental dialogues with ‘idiots’ can sometimes cost me days of my life. I (try to) shield myself from other people’s emotions as soon as I feel myself getting sucked in and I’ve accepted I’m the happiest being alone, working in my garden and watching insects.
@@davidcook680 Amen to that! A common struggle for INFJ / Highly Sensitive Males. As A E mentioned, integrating both worlds is our path to solving this problem. Yes, I'm totally aware that it's easier said than done. Yet, we must live with these traits, they aren't going anywhere. Integration seems to equal salvation.
I never want to ask for help. Not that i think nobody can. I just don't want to bother people with helping me. I worry they will help me. When they don't want too. Just to be nice.
Thanks for commenting. That is very relatable what you said there about helping. Is it perhaps also because INFJs understood quite early on that their a bit different and people usually don't understand them?
All very true! There are lots of INFJ wannabees around, probably just because INFJs are the rarest type, but if people knew how difficult life can be for them they surely wouldn't want to swap places with them. When the subject arises I encourage people to do an MBTI test so that they can become more selfaware, but I never disclose my own type to avoid coming across as pretentious. I don't believe INFJs make good psychiatrists by the way since they tend to absorb other people's moods and anxiety. Scientific psychology would likely fit them better.
I'm a INFJ. I don't think it is positive at all. It is horrible honestly. Why anybody would want to live with my mind and emotions. I can't stand it. I'm trying to find positives with this. I think it's how my life has went. That isnt helping.
Thanks for commenting. Unfortunately, that happens a lot, however the real INFJs are often at least abit ambivalent about their traits. Sure there are wonderful traits, however without a lot of freedom (time/financial freedom) it's hard to develop them to the fullest (creativity, managing high sensitivity et cetera). It's interesting that you also have to keep your type secret to not come off as pretentious. What you say about INFJs not being suited for being a therapist: I could testify. I've worked as a therapist for a bit, and all the difefrent emotional impressions clients have on me, and the short amount of time I got to assess each client (an hour or so), is just impossible to really understand a client's personality, life circumstances and what their actual problem is. I had to step out of that role, because it didn't align with me from all angles (my need for time and how the mental health care system works in my country).
Despite repeated attempts I always come out of the MBTI as INFJ-T. As you say there's a lot of people who seem to think it's 'cool' to have INFJ traits. I'd get annoyed but I need all my energy to deal with the emotions I have without adding any more.
I'm a INFJ and a HSP male. I keep hearing about how great those are. How I have a super power. I don't feel great about those. I feel like a emotional freak. Honestly it seems I get my feelings hurt all the time. I get upset over things I wished I didn't. I feel like I don't fit in with people. I'm trying to find positives with this. It is just really difficult. I have lived my life. All of this has not helped me. I'm still in denial about being INFJ and HSP. I'm like being those I feel like my emotions and mentally a woman. I'm a man. I just dont feel and think like what a man should.
@@davidcook680 I hear you; I also come into the top 2% of HSP's; that awkward level where you pick up other people's emotions; being in large rooms is no picnic, I can tell you.
I know what you mean about feeling like you are emotionally a woman. I think working in social care helped me realise that this isn't necessarily the case; if anything I combine the best of both because I can empathise with feelings but still respond logically.
I had to learn this though, and learn why it was beneficial, and it's still bl**dy hard work.
@@davidcook680 I believe all true INFJs are by definition HSPs: As soon as our Fe detects an emotional imbalance in people through their body language or what they say and do our introverted intuition starts to work on analyzing the obvious and hidden causes and reasons to then be able to present possible relief or a solution through our judging function. This is why INFJs are such good counselors. Unfortunately the process takes an enormous amount of energy because it utilities many areas of our brain and often results in a frustrating pearls for swines dilemma because most people can’t or won’t change or take good advice. They'd rather just vent or seek validation for their cognitive dissonance, of which the latter is the most difficult for me to handle: Internal mental dialogues with ‘idiots’ can sometimes cost me days of my life. I (try to) shield myself from other people’s emotions as soon as I feel myself getting sucked in and I’ve accepted I’m the happiest being alone, working in my garden and watching insects.
@@davidcook680 Amen to that! A common struggle for INFJ / Highly Sensitive Males. As A E mentioned, integrating both worlds is our path to solving this problem. Yes, I'm totally aware that it's easier said than done. Yet, we must live with these traits, they aren't going anywhere. Integration seems to equal salvation.
I never want to ask for help. Not that i think nobody can. I just don't want to bother people with helping me. I worry they will help me. When they don't want too. Just to be nice.
Thanks for commenting. That is very relatable what you said there about helping. Is it perhaps also because INFJs understood quite early on that their a bit different and people usually don't understand them?
All very true! There are lots of INFJ wannabees around, probably just because INFJs are the rarest type, but if people knew how difficult life can be for them they surely wouldn't want to swap places with them. When the subject arises I encourage people to do an MBTI test so that they can become more selfaware, but I never disclose my own type to avoid coming across as pretentious. I don't believe INFJs make good psychiatrists by the way since they tend to absorb other people's moods and anxiety. Scientific psychology would likely fit them better.
I'm not a psychologist but I am an occupational therapist and it does help to be able to quickly observe body language and moods in clients.
I'm a INFJ. I don't think it is positive at all. It is horrible honestly. Why anybody would want to live with my mind and emotions. I can't stand it. I'm trying to find positives with this. I think it's how my life has went. That isnt helping.
@@davidcook680 There are indeed times I wouldn't with is on my worst enemy.
Thanks for commenting. Unfortunately, that happens a lot, however the real INFJs are often at least abit ambivalent about their traits. Sure there are wonderful traits, however without a lot of freedom (time/financial freedom) it's hard to develop them to the fullest (creativity, managing high sensitivity et cetera). It's interesting that you also have to keep your type secret to not come off as pretentious. What you say about INFJs not being suited for being a therapist: I could testify. I've worked as a therapist for a bit, and all the difefrent emotional impressions clients have on me, and the short amount of time I got to assess each client (an hour or so), is just impossible to really understand a client's personality, life circumstances and what their actual problem is. I had to step out of that role, because it didn't align with me from all angles (my need for time and how the mental health care system works in my country).
@sm2411 Exactly! The real ones aren't as vocal or loud about it!
I'm not a figment of his imagination and I'm sure he's working had on himself like I am
Thanks for commenting, yes keep the dream alife. Those partners are out there, but it may take a while to find them.