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As an INFJ female, I had to become self employed to get out of the Rat Race. Corporate killed me, after the military fave me a good psychological kicking. I think for INFJ males they should I choose a career path that allows them this autonomy, the ability to build their own business.

So what's the difference between INFJ men and INFJ women? How do I find an INFJ man? As an INFJ, I seem to attract avoidant men. My last partner became codependent and a drain. I don't want to repeat that relationship dynamic.

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I was able to unlock my masculinity because I got bullied too much, it felt like nobody liked me despite my good qualities so I absorbed all the negativity and exploded. My personality went a 180 during my teen years but then after school the overt bullying was out of my life and I found myself slipping back into being soft again. After a big falling out with my family over them taking advantage of me, it has become more permanent now. I won't let anyone take advantage of me again, I don't feel like I need to be friends with everyone or take care of people when they are down when they are just strangers. I think somewhere in my psychology I know that even my family do not appreciate me putting the effort in, so there's no point being nice any more. Women love a man in touch with their feminine side though, of course not 100% feminine but a good 50/50. Being romantic for example is a feminine trait. I feel as though many women don't know what they are missing with a very masculine guy. Or sometimes you hear them complain but they just live with it. I really think that it's the difference between being just another guy (guys are all the same) and being someone special that she will remember forever.

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Cause we dont phucking like you. Period. Move on

I am an INFJ female and hearing what the INFJ make is about, I know that I would prefer a stronger male so I can be an INFJ female and be protected.

I resonate deeply with everything stated. Thank you !

It’s interesting how the abundance of interests is often a Ne trait….when we INFJ don’t use that function in our upper four quadrant, interesting ….and so true

It is so exhilarating and that society is making huge changes where balance of feminine and masculine energies are becoming increasingly necessary and appropriated for a healthy society. Destorted and toxic masculinity is going by way of the dinosaurs. ( Give it time, it's no longer attractive or beneficial to humanity..) Time for the healthy INFJ masculine to rise and step into their power...Many healthy women are looking for these men especially the INFJ femaies...Excellent video

I've been watching since yesterday and I already love this channel

This is off and dumb…. INFJ Mills aren’t feminine like that.

In the back of my mind, I feel like a defective toy that still managed to get sold, but once the buyer sees the defects, I'm discarded accordingly.

We are willing to pay the price for authentic dreams that many can not.

Perhaps another trait is that they have a close bond with their cat 😻😘

I have social media, but I'm rarely on.

I’m an INFJ female who has found an INFJ male. Is that the ‘holy grail’?

Amazing as always. This is so informative to know more about the true depth of who I am and who we are as INFJ men.

Totally agree on all your points.

Not what I (maybe) needed or wanted to hear!! For better or for worse, I identified with your interpretation. All the women I've sexually connected with have been narcissistic and/or bullies. My father was psychopathic and hated me until his death. Even his brothers and my Grandfathers didn't like or approve of me. Now I have an understanding of why. Dad and all the male relatives were hyper masculine and not the example of masculinity I ever wanted to be like. As you've mentioned about finding another or more appropriate definition of my masculine self, that's exactly what I have done. I certainly have become my own man - a man that I accept and like .. I love myself, but that took a decade or two to happen. It was quite the moment when I came to that understanding of acceptance and love for my masculine self. I'm an introvert and love solitude/my own company. Women continuously chase me, but I have no interest in being in any relationships especially with women after two marriages (3 kids). I also have other males seeking my friendship, but their motives can be similar to that of women, in that they can intrude into my life in ways I'm not interested. I've found that the only "relationships" I like, cope with and seek, are with people (male and female) in work situations or comrades like I've had in the Army. Interestingly, your take on infj was totally different to any other I've encountered. I need to re-view your video and contemplate your overall views. I must admit, this has jolted me.

As an INFJ female, I can relate 😊

THANK YOU.

I paint, I make illustrations for books and I write books, I am interested in geology (I collect stones), philosophy, and recently I have been making music on the channel from which I write... I also keep ornamental poultry, such as ducks and chickens (mainly cochinese), just for decoration and eggs, not for meat... I'm saving up for a cottage in the forest, or at least a living container, unfortunately I do so many things for free when someone asks me that I will probably rent a room for the rest of my life...😶‍🌫

This is so good !!!!!!!!!

INFP here. I met an INFJ woman a couple years back in the church. She was so quiet/withdrawn that I didn't talk to her for maybe 2 years. Then, she and her husband came over to my parents' house for a Bible study, and I talked with them. The husband, ENFJ, was fun to talk to. Then, their family started playing volleyball with my husband and I. Then, I started meeting the INFJ woman in the park so my daughter could play with her kids. Then, we started talking, and the conversation went semi-deep, and she was really interested. Then, we kept meeting at the park with our Bibles. Then, our families celebrated birthdays together...And I realized that I really liked being around this INFJ woman. It crept up on me softly. But, she wouldn't reply to my texts in a timely manner. Plus, she was super busy always. But, our families started playing tennis, and she made effort to spend time with me and talk to me while at the tennis courts. We saw each other at potlucks and church members' houses. I told her I liked her a lot; I told her husband; I told my husband. She told me she liked me, too. But, we're both introverts! We're both awkward and private. However, we think so much alike and have tacit understanding. It's the most blissful friendship when we're together, and when we're apart, I think of her. I've journaled our friendship and sent her several stories of us from it, moments I cherish and think of sometimes. All this to say that this video describes her very well. Her traits, as explained in this video, both intrigue me and frustrate me. However, the soul connection is real. I've bought her pens, chocolate, probiotics when she was sick, even cod liver oil! It's true friendship. I really appreciate the fact she's not only an INFJ but she feels like a soulmate. 1 Samuel 18:1 I sent this verse to her. She asked me in a reply text if I was referring to her with the verse. I said "Of course, I was." She loved it. She told me recently she hopes we're not seasonal friends. I hope it's forever. God knows the future.

🎯🎯 me as female infj, i uninstall my facebook and all my social media flat form .and i have peace of mind. What i had now is youtube and google

I'm not the type of person to be "influenced" in any way, and I don't feel like 99% of the population would be any better off intellectually with or without social media.

My favorite voice is back 🫶🎉.

This is very true. I relate to all that you said. Being so rare can be very difficult and frustrating but yet so powerful and unique.

Thought I had #6. Began dating at 16 and 15, married when she turned 18. 12 years later she abandons our daughter and I to spend time with a wealthy man that slid in her insta dms. Of course he got what he wanted and abandoned her. She wants to come back but my heart is black and sealed away. If it weren’t for our daughter… God save our souls.

Thanks for the video man, extremely relatable!

I’m and INFJ and this is my boyfriend! It’s an insane combo, almost unreal. We have our problems with intuiting one another too much, but all the benefits outweigh any of the shared weaknesses ❤

An INFJ male can tame and make a foxy "wildchild" tomboy ENTP female melt "just by being himself" got some masculinity magic working. My dates with ENTP girlfriends (which are just as rare as an INFJ males) typically lasts about 5 years. Mature INFJ masculinity is demonstrated by other INFJ males like: Al Pacino, Trent Reznor, Jamie Foxx, Mel Gibson.

In a word: EXCELLENT!

Two minutes in and you contradicted yourself in this video.

The concept of masculinity is deeply rooted in individual cultural values. This video only addresses a regional concept of masculinity. I am a 49 year old INFJ male and I do not posses feminine physical characteristics. So, being an INFJ male and a "traditional" notion of masculinity are not mutually exclusive. Most of the challenges INFJ guys experience according to this video could be overcome with an understanding an acceptance of one's own identity. Maturity allows you to be yourself and be assertive enough to not give a crap about society's prescriptive impositions.

Thanks!

Trait #8 as narrated is basically cognitive dissonance ie holding multiple contradictory beliefs or values etc, simultaneously.

Trait #1, just f**king @me next time, bruv. My mommy issues caused me to be HSP... 😭

Good video. I do hate social media and you did a good job here explaining why. Worst thing to happen to humanity or at least in the top ten worst things.

😂😂😂 true. my phone is mp3 player. Even the company I work for knows that it's better to write to me than to call me because I don't answer. Unless I call because there's something important. When the phone rings and I don't know the number, I don't answer and I don't call back.

Too many government politicians think like this already.

actually it's true. I don't like social media. even when I tried to step in for a moment and see what all the chaos was about. I was blocked for not following my assignments because I simply didn't post anything and wasn't active. 🤣🤣🤣 which made me laugh at the end. but in fact social media for me is a waste of time and nonsense. I don't understand why people like to show themselves and reveal their private lives. but these are my views which have never and will not fit into today's society.

I love to compete.

I love a good, conflict arguement debate

I have a few people in my life that I must deal with out of necessity. Sometimes I have to call them, or I have to pick up the phone. One of these guys talks more than anyone I’ve ever met in my life, and I dread having to talk on the phone with him. Just nonstop verbal diarrhea and I don’t get a word in edgewise. This guy also follows me around at work blabbering nonstop while I’m trying to concentrate, it’s awful. He also pulls the ultimate annoyance of sending a text that says, “hey call me I have to tell you something” or, “call me I just have a quick question”. Just text it, ffs! I also have a couple of friends that I really do like, but if they call, it’s always over an hour or more. It cuts into the time I have with my kid, and because I’m busy with my business, I have little time to unwind. I won’t answer the phone if I’m with my kid, working out, playing video games, or trying to get things done around the house. That’s 97% of my time outside of work. The phone is awful because you’re tied to it and there’s absolutely nothing constructive you can do while on it. Just forces you to sit there and listen to crap you don’t even care about. I have to have this stupid phone because of work, but I so wish we could go back to the 80’s; the time when if you weren’t home (or didn’t want to talk) you couldn’t be reached.

I am so grateful to those who post things on TH-cam about INFJ's. Because we're such a rare breed, not many clicks will transpire, yet it's most helpful to us, so, thank you!!!

OMG!!!!!!!! It's like this dude jumped into my brain and extracted all the reasons I HATE random , unplanned phone calls!!! *Drops the mic* 🤣

INFJ in denial. I'd rather be INFP, wouldn't I? Ahhhh......

INFJ is cPTSD ?