Honestly, this guy has to be one of the best 'pua' coaches there is. He's experienced and deeply understands the nature of game. He's an excellent communicator; a well spoken master at verbal game. He's obviously very smart and well read. He shows great empathy for beginners and intermediates as he understands the tribulations that they often find themselves in and knows what they can actively do to help themselves. He's not overly egoistic. He has complete mastery of his inner game and is able to dissect it and describe it as coherently as a psychologist might. He's strong willed, has drive and this radiates out to people which motivates them. Thank you Todd for sharing your knowledge with us through all of the content that you have ever put out. I know what I can speak for many guys that it's helped us tremendously in our search for a more fulfilled life of abundance that we can be proud of.
The ratio between value and comfort is important, not one or the other specifically. Start with high value and build comfort gradually. It's easier to build comfort onto existing value, rather than the other way. 2:54 - If you see the girl getting too uncomfortable, starts pulling back etc., build more comfort. 2:58 - If the girl starts getting cocky and starts giving you shit tests, you've build too much comfort. Add value. BUT, if the girl is unsure about you and doesn't know what to categorize you as (lover vs. provider), you've confused her, so you'll be getting almost only shit tests. Be high value, but be human.
They say you can never be too rich or too thin... but can you be too "high value" in game? Does value destroy comfort and trust? And if so, how do you solve this in a practical way? Well... watch the video ;).
Diego de Angelo she is attracted to both, what you want to do is calibration what ratio of value and comfort she seems to respond best to, also take note of whether she is giving you value or comfort based sh*t test. Whatever she is testing you for is what she is looking for more of in the mix so calibrate accordingly. I hope this helps
How do find a good wingman? A good wingman in my opinion is someone who wont settle for bad looking girls (1-4s out of 10. 7+ somewhere is ideal). To see these guys low standard almost demotivates me. With this said, I ofc value other qualities in girls except looks. But looks is the first criteria. Most people that are have my thinking, don’t ”game”.
If you're a beginner/intermediate like me I'd even go further and say you should only focus on value. This applies also to your work and lifestyle. Like you said it's much harder to give value than provide comfort. Most guy just focus on comfort anyway and that's what makes them "nice guys". So I think it's a much better investment of your time to focus on creating value than comfort, which will come naturally as time goes by. Great video Todd, clear and straight to the point
I got one Todd, Say you meet a girl and set a solid ratio of value and comfort, get the girl, and a month down the line you find yourself being all comfort as you start to like her more and get comfortable
Hey Todd, I’ve been following you’re stuff for a long time now and I was truly sad when all the content from the first channel I found you on vanished overnight. You have been a HUGE help to not only my game but quite frankly my sales career as well. One video I got a lot of value from was “how to win at game, in games, and at life” I believe if you recreated a video much like that one it would provide a ton of value for your audience that might not have seen it yet.
How to avoid getting a reputation as the "pickup guy"? Should I go out with my friends, self-amuse, get in state and do approaches? Or just start approaching and don't give a fuck about WHERE I do it? Basically expand on what some ppl call "safe game". Anyways love the series. Keep going man, you're helping us a fuck ton. Peace.
hey, since i found your channel i'm getting massive new and good information, its very helpful what you do, this questions you answer are not what i wonder, but they also teach a lot and i can translate it to my intent of "game" (i dont feel identified with the term, im like way below that at the moment, maybe cuz im just breaking the shell of shyness lol :/ ) its great to learn this new terms that simplify a lot of situations or feelings, thanks mate, i really apreciate the content
Yes sir ! This is what I needed to hear. Today I am meeting this “conservative” girl that seems to want more comfort but yet is attracted to the “value” wish me luck on the LMR I think it will come downt to trust and kino escalation.
Interesting way to look at it. And it makes perfect sense. I was caught up in looking too high value in online dating and i came across as boring for sure
Pushing too hard on the value doesn't make you boring, it makes you look like unfriendly and unapproachable. Too much comfort "hello how are you, you look pretty", is boring
Great video Todd! I wanted to throw in my 2 cents about High Value. I have noticed that displaying a lot of high value tends to put you in the "keeper" category. Unfortunately, that is a bad thing because the girl will then be very careful to also show herself as a keeper by being a non-promiscuous good girl. In that sense, it's better to be seen as lover material than a successful high value individual (i.e. provider).
Will you ever teach how to bounce back ? Let s say you had a forgettable or bad first interaction with someone you can see on the daily (college per example)
Victory Tansia This is a good one because I had one date recently where I was super sleepy and I think I creeped the girl out because I was not engaged at all, lmao. I moved on though but having bounce back knowledge would be awesome.
Well, me not being todd, I'd say that if you see her on a regular basis just stay high value, outcome independant, and flirty with other girls, especially around her, and don't push for anything until the frame is restored, and she sees that that bad behavior was an exception, not a reflection of you and a common occurence. Ofc you could restart the interaction earlier if you see what you think is a good oportunity, and you should do that. About 2 months ago, I came of as really needy to a girl from college(I'm 19, she's 22), and she didn't have any interest in me. We both went to a conference with the uni, and in a bus on the way there(12 hour ride), I acted a bit arrogant in front of her(totally opposite of the needy behavior that turned her off), and after that I gamed a model mutual friend, and made out with her basically in front of her. Guess who hit me up as soon as we arrived? As Todd says, you want to be congruent with your high value frame, and don't let anyone try to shake that.
Absolutely true. Everytime I think about building comfort, my game sucks and the girl loses interest. Never think you are too high value. Always focus on value, if getting a hot girl is your goal.
How do you think about all these little details in field? When I start to think “is she investing, how much value is there, how much comfort is there, when do I pull the trigger” I get stifled and deep in my head.
After initial successes that made me feel I overcame several sticking points, I experienced some 'relapse' and am suddenly unexpectedly facing some of my earliest sticking points again in a slightly different form. What's the best way to overcome this 'relapse', and minimize the chance of it happening again? (Upvote if you want this answered by Todd and have him see this.)
I've determined that I'm either extremely high value, or extremely low value. Because every girl that I approach or am interested in wants nothing to do with me and seems to feel uncomfortable just talking to me.
Value would be things that make her think you're funny, witty, smart, have things going on, high status, clever, etc. Comfort is just normal conversation where you get to know each other
Todd, I've gotten very good at having conversations with women once I get them started, sometimes opening is a bit of a sticking point, but I can usually get over that because I have enough reference experiences to know that actually talking to women isn't difficult. Where I really get bogged down is in turning a conversation physical... I don't know why, but I'm fine right up until I think she may have some return interest in me, and then I get weird...clingy, needy, etc. I can feel myself doing it, and even understanding it and trying to stop, I keep making the same damn mistakes. What's the best way to pull yourself out of your own bullshit trap, and escalate (even ineffectively at first...) because I want to progress past where I am.
How do you build more comfort? My game is too much value and no comfort at all. One of the girls I’m gaming is conservative and told me twice that she doesn’t trust me but she really likes me.
Great work Todd! I want to know, what level of persistence is optimal? If a girl says 'no' and you persist you seem a little pushy and needy. If you don't things may not go so far. How to find balance and what role plays persistence in the game? Thanks for answer.
I was never one to broadcast my value and always thought of that behavior as being narcissistic and egotistical. I also think that I have a misconception of what it means to be HV. I.e expensive things, luxurious lifestyle that are congruent and prove as to having HV. I'm currently suffering the repercussions for overlooking this in the past and would like to know how to promote my value w/o being douchey or an ass about it.
What should the first response words out of my mouth be if a girl I'm cold approaching at a club says, "I'm sorry but do you mind moving along because my girlfriends and I just want to have fun together and don't want to be interrupted by guys" ... should my response be some kind of an apology ? Or should I not apologize ? I think this is a BIG sticking point for guys at a club on what to do next.... I think discussing this topic would make for a good video topic for discussion Thanks
Hey Todd, I first learned about “learning game” on your channel a few years ago. Started going out a few months ago, and turns out I’m a “dance god.” Entire clubs/festivals are in awe of my moves and I cant help but feel girls expect my game to be on the same level. How do I have normal interactions from a pedestal?
when i watched your video from winner game about wanting to win, i had huge ephiphany, and i asked myself why i dont go for the win, and i discovered that im afraid to let go control in set and that prevent me to truly feel free and loose, so how do let go of that feeling of control, i feel like it is pulling me down and i cant achieve my full potential?
What to do when the girl is higher value than you, say her life's just more interesting than yours or that she's "out of your league"? Btw love what you do man, you're doing amazing, big fan!
Hello Todd. How to use women response to develop my game? Sometimes I get from women what I don’t understand for example I approached a girl in daygame today and She was engaged in conversation a bit, she laugh of my teases a bit. but she looked uncomfortable. She said during my 2 minutes approach: “I am in a rush”, when she clearly wasn’t. 2) “I have a boyfriend” 3) “I feel awkward” and after all I gave up. And the worst thing that I can’t understand what I did wrong and how to avoid this in the future.
What if you messed up the perception of you in a large social circle? Like where every girl in that circle completely sees you like that “weird” acquaintance because you used to be the shy quiet guy even though you changed? It seems now that no matter what I do they just kind of stay with in themselves and stay somewhat quiet when I talk to them. I honestly don’t see a way back of getting a higher status no matter what I do. Should I just forget about this circle and go on?
It's hard changing the perspective of others over night. I would advise you to focus on yourself and find new people. When the girls see you interact completely different with other people and suddenly you are doing a lot of cool things they will realize you changed and give you a chance. But there is also the chance that you will fall back into old habbits when being around these people.
Should I take trips with girls? Just came back from one and she's upset that I'm not talking as much to her. It was clearly established that we're not exclusive a few times before the trip. Thanks
So this question is kind of long. In psychology there is a trait called neuroticism, which basicly says have nervous you are. How are you dealing with this issue in terms of coaching? And what advice would you give to people based on how neurotic they are?
Hi Todd, What is your opinion about "ASKING QUESTIONS"? A lot of dudes teach that its wrong ask questions or that you'll be taking value if you ask questions, but how do you get to know the girl and have a conversation without asking questions? What is your take on this? This can let guys stifle. Give us some truth. Thank you.
Okay so my game is like "hey can I talk to you for a second then I get a confused look then I'm like I think youre really pretty" then things get weird. does things change after that?or get better cause I wanna get numbers and eventually be able take girls home cause right now I see no chance of that happening.
Yo Todd. What is a solid opener for a busy/loud bar bearing in mind I usually just get ignored or get an indifferent response most of the time? Thanks man.
Hey Todd, a quick question on inner game... having strong inner game is all about in the game, without inner game nothing works becoz I have noticed for myself tat how much ever I search for new techniques and methods I end up losing so I now started practicing a pimp like Narcissism few months back and started seeing some changes in my game...can u give me some advice on inner game... thxx Todd Valentine
From my experience, value is not something that you show. Showing high value is trying to impress. I think just being very secure in yourself is the value. As for comfort, i feel like that is all down to how genuine your communication is, like how much you view the other person as a human being on your level. I think the concept of high value is extra and more when really you wanna get to your core.
Todd, Here's my question. My body if messed up with a serious, chronic disease called rheumatoid arthritis. The disease is visually evident. I limp. Can't fully turn my neck, etc. Still, I am good-looking, educated, eloquent, thoughtful and charming. I also dress well and am very responsible. I feel insecure about my disability (low value), but I would still like a girlfriend. What should I do?
Debjeet S i think your thinking of this all wrong. I think your goal is to mass approach. Instead your goal should be to get laid. When i go out i go out to get laid, if i happen to do alot of approaches to get laid so be it. I think alot of guys think like you, they go out to "game" they dont go out to get laid and i think thats where alot of confusion in pick up comes from. And it also sounds like you might be going too hard on your approaches if you fear getting "caught". Game should look effortless if done correctly. But since it sounds like youre still kind of new i suggest working on making every approach better than the last. Like say if you approach and get blown out, pay attention to why you got blown out and try to correct that on the next approach and keep doing that throughout the night and i guarantee you'll have success. You dont want to go out and approach just for the sake of it. You want to do your approaches with a purpose and dont forget to have fun with it. You never know which girl it will end up working with. I know that was long. But i hoped it helped. Good luck out there. 👍
Ernesto Ruiz thank you for your reply. I see your point and I definitely need to adjust my thinking somewhat. But I also think that in order to get good, there are days where I might have to approach a lot of people. And I’m wondering if there’s a way I can do that without it being weird. I’m not so worried about being caught as I am about people quietly noticing that I’m approaching a bit too many people and making that note in their head. I guess a better question is how do I make it seem effortless to approach a lot of people in the eyes of everyone at the venue? Thanks again
He will say it depends on calibration. Don't for example approach sets all next to each other and don't be too over the top if you sense the mood is more chill.
Debjeet S Why do you even care what people think o fyou or how they perceive you? Are they paying your bills or walking in your shoes?Right there is where your prison cell is located. Just keep cool and calm and continue doing you.
bourgeoi_c I figured that if it helps me get better at game to not care, I wouldn’t, but I think it would lead to better game if you knew how to work the room better. And I definitely could be wrong, but it’s worth knowing.
Hi Todd. What is one of good ways to approach a girl in your college class where there's no interaction between students and the professor is very strict? The only time I can approach her is after class. I think of asking course-related questions or maybe like how she did on her test but not sure how to go from there.
1-what if you have a silly funny type of game and your young. it is hard to be taken seriously or is it just i am acting too playful. 2- having multiple long term relationship with hot girls (in a not so big city hot girls know each other) how to maintain such relationship. in my experience it brought a lot of Drama. do you also find drama good for the relationship, cause she is making Decision that she really love you. - Kevin
hey Todd, first of all THANK YOu for all the free help you are putting out here and for your time. Secondly: I have a question from me, someone who struggles to start getting better at game although I find beautiful women my life’s purpose. Realistically what does the first year of learning game look like considering you are putting in a good effort going out 15 days a months?
Idk man. I went on 2 dates with a pretty cool girl. And on the 3rd date, she just came to my place to explain why she thinks I'm too high-value and she feels out of my league. I mean, I am in the upper-middle class, but I'm no oil sheik. Maybe just keep an eye out for self-esteem issues when they mention that they are intimidated
Hey Todd As someone whose been in multiple open relationships, do you have any suggestions and tips in managing and dealing with your jealousy and eventually minimizing it?
Hey what’s up Todd. You made a video on how European girls are different from American (or how game is different). I’m wondering what about Asian girls? Do you have any experience with them? Thank you for all the value :)
Its not how many approach fucker. If you approach a 100 girls in the same way youll never get better. Try different approaches to many girls regularly almost daily basis and dont focus on numbers
Honestly, this guy has to be one of the best 'pua' coaches there is.
He's experienced and deeply understands the nature of game.
He's an excellent communicator; a well spoken master at verbal game.
He's obviously very smart and well read.
He shows great empathy for beginners and intermediates as he understands the tribulations that they often find themselves in and knows what they can actively do to help themselves.
He's not overly egoistic.
He has complete mastery of his inner game and is able to dissect it and describe it as coherently as a psychologist might.
He's strong willed, has drive and this radiates out to people which motivates them.
Thank you Todd for sharing your knowledge with us through all of the content that you have ever put out. I know what I can speak for many guys that it's helped us tremendously in our search for a more fulfilled life of abundance that we can be proud of.
emile he put me onto a book called 'red queen' by Matt ridley about evolutionary psychology that is fascinating if you are into that sort of thing
And his videos are not unnecessarily 2 hours long.
Well said g
"wonderful, brilliant answers that I'm giving you" - ok that's a bit too much value... After too much comfort of explaining it! 😂 - thanks!
The ratio between value and comfort is important, not one or the other specifically.
Start with high value and build comfort gradually. It's easier to build comfort onto existing value, rather than the other way.
2:54 - If you see the girl getting too uncomfortable, starts pulling back etc., build more comfort.
2:58 - If the girl starts getting cocky and starts giving you shit tests, you've build too much comfort. Add value.
BUT, if the girl is unsure about you and doesn't know what to categorize you as (lover vs. provider), you've confused her, so you'll be getting almost only shit tests.
Be high value, but be human.
They say you can never be too rich or too thin... but can you be too "high value" in game? Does value destroy comfort and trust? And if so, how do you solve this in a practical way? Well... watch the video ;).
What are the clues when the girl is attracted to value and when she is attracted to comfort?
Diego de Angelo she is attracted to both, what you want to do is calibration what ratio of value and comfort she seems to respond best to, also take note of whether she is giving you value or comfort based sh*t test. Whatever she is testing you for is what she is looking for more of in the mix so calibrate accordingly. I hope this helps
How do find a good wingman? A good wingman in my opinion is someone who wont settle for bad looking girls (1-4s out of 10. 7+ somewhere is ideal). To see these guys low standard almost demotivates me. With this said, I ofc value other qualities in girls except looks. But looks is the first criteria. Most people that are have my thinking, don’t ”game”.
I'm glad you have your program now, your the change we needed in this community.
how can u game a girl that u met a long time ago?
Hit her up again and take her out. You have to restart the fire. Don't assume anything.
Hey, remember me?? I am now - COOL. (RSD Tyler imitation of Dr. Evil)
I think if she acts like a friends of yours what you should do is build value and play on the jealousy card
PLANA look up "getting out of the friendzone" either by Todd or AMS
Invite her to a party with other girls vying for your attention. Show value, Simple.
In the dating game, as soon as we leave, memories slowly fade, and new flirtations arise.
Well, I mean maybe. Or new rejections arise. My last relationship was 4 years ago and since then, I've been living in rejection city full time.
@@fuzzypanda1684 Sometimes things are not a rejection, but a re-direction. You know if it's meant to be, it will be.
Always solid thoughts to think about. Thanks Todd
If you're a beginner/intermediate like me I'd even go further and say you should only focus on value. This applies also to your work and lifestyle. Like you said it's much harder to give value than provide comfort. Most guy just focus on comfort anyway and that's what makes them "nice guys".
So I think it's a much better investment of your time to focus on creating value than comfort, which will come naturally as time goes by.
Great video Todd, clear and straight to the point
Awesome point on “the ratio”😎👍🏻
I got one Todd, Say you meet a girl and set a solid ratio of value and comfort, get the girl, and a month down the line you find yourself being all comfort as you start to like her more and get comfortable
Thank you for this explanation.
Hey Todd, I’ve been following you’re stuff for a long time now and I was truly sad when all the content from the first channel I found you on vanished overnight. You have been a HUGE help to not only my game but quite frankly my sales career as well. One video I got a lot of value from was “how to win at game, in games, and at life” I believe if you recreated a video much like that one it would provide a ton of value for your audience that might not have seen it yet.
How to avoid getting a reputation as the "pickup guy"? Should I go out with my friends, self-amuse, get in state and do approaches? Or just start approaching and don't give a fuck about WHERE I do it? Basically expand on what some ppl call "safe game". Anyways love the series. Keep going man, you're helping us a fuck ton. Peace.
hey, since i found your channel i'm getting massive new and good information, its very helpful what you do, this questions you answer are not what i wonder, but they also teach a lot and i can translate it to my intent of "game" (i dont feel identified with the term, im like way below that at the moment, maybe cuz im just breaking the shell of shyness lol :/ )
its great to learn this new terms that simplify a lot of situations or feelings, thanks mate, i really apreciate the content
Yes sir ! This is what I needed to hear. Today I am meeting this “conservative” girl that seems to want more comfort but yet is attracted to the “value” wish me luck on the LMR I think it will come downt to trust and kino escalation.
Quality Content.
Amartya Rajwade whoo u from India
Wow, another incredible explanation of something I've been trying to understand for a while now. Thanks again Todd :)
Interesting way to look at it. And it makes perfect sense. I was caught up in looking too high value in online dating and i came across as boring for sure
Pushing too hard on the value doesn't make you boring, it makes you look like unfriendly and unapproachable. Too much comfort "hello how are you, you look pretty", is boring
Great video Todd! I wanted to throw in my 2 cents about High Value. I have noticed that displaying a lot of high value tends to put you in the "keeper" category. Unfortunately, that is a bad thing because the girl will then be very careful to also show herself as a keeper by being a non-promiscuous good girl. In that sense, it's better to be seen as lover material than a successful high value individual (i.e. provider).
Will you ever teach how to bounce back ? Let s say you had a forgettable or bad first interaction with someone you can see on the daily (college per example)
Victory Tansia
This is a good one because I had one date recently where I was super sleepy and I think I creeped the girl out because I was not engaged at all, lmao. I moved on though but having bounce back knowledge would be awesome.
Haha, I'm saying right ?
Well, me not being todd, I'd say that if you see her on a regular basis just stay high value, outcome independant, and flirty with other girls, especially around her, and don't push for anything until the frame is restored, and she sees that that bad behavior was an exception, not a reflection of you and a common occurence. Ofc you could restart the interaction earlier if you see what you think is a good oportunity, and you should do that. About 2 months ago, I came of as really needy to a girl from college(I'm 19, she's 22), and she didn't have any interest in me. We both went to a conference with the uni, and in a bus on the way there(12 hour ride), I acted a bit arrogant in front of her(totally opposite of the needy behavior that turned her off), and after that I gamed a model mutual friend, and made out with her basically in front of her. Guess who hit me up as soon as we arrived? As Todd says, you want to be congruent with your high value frame, and don't let anyone try to shake that.
Absolutely true. Everytime I think about building comfort, my game sucks and the girl loses interest. Never think you are too high value. Always focus on value, if getting a hot girl is your goal.
I love you Todd, amazing videos bro
How do you think about all these little details in field? When I start to think “is she investing, how much value is there, how much comfort is there, when do I pull the trigger” I get stifled and deep in my head.
akshay venkatesh Years of practice bro. Mastery in every form has that formula
I like how this guys videos are short!
Really love this
After initial successes that made me feel I overcame several sticking points, I experienced some 'relapse' and am suddenly unexpectedly facing some of my earliest sticking points again in a slightly different form. What's the best way to overcome this 'relapse', and minimize the chance of it happening again?
(Upvote if you want this answered by Todd and have him see this.)
Absolutely brilliant!
I've determined that I'm either extremely high value, or extremely low value. Because every girl that I approach or am interested in wants nothing to do with me and seems to feel uncomfortable just talking to me.
Can you give examples of what these points of 'value' or 'comfort' look like. I hear the term used but its still quite vague to me
Value would be things that make her think you're funny, witty, smart, have things going on, high status, clever, etc. Comfort is just normal conversation where you get to know each other
How do you get into and maintain a relationship if the second you start to care it backfires
Todd,
I've gotten very good at having conversations with women once I get them started, sometimes opening is a bit of a sticking point, but I can usually get over that because I have enough reference experiences to know that actually talking to women isn't difficult.
Where I really get bogged down is in turning a conversation physical...
I don't know why, but I'm fine right up until I think she may have some return interest in me, and then I get weird...clingy, needy, etc.
I can feel myself doing it, and even understanding it and trying to stop, I keep making the same damn mistakes.
What's the best way to pull yourself out of your own bullshit trap, and escalate (even ineffectively at first...) because I want to progress past where I am.
If you're a guy that's always struggled with not displaying enough value, what types of things can you do to raise your value?
How do you build more comfort? My game is too much value and no comfort at all. One of the girls I’m gaming is conservative and told me twice that she doesn’t trust me but she really likes me.
What are some of the best ways to build value if you become aware you don't have enough in an interaction?
Can we get a list of examples of what you consider high value qualities/characteristics?
Great work Todd! I want to know, what level of persistence is optimal? If a girl says 'no' and you persist you seem a little pushy and needy. If you don't things may not go so far. How to find balance and what role plays persistence in the game? Thanks for answer.
I was never one to broadcast my value and always thought of that behavior as being narcissistic and egotistical. I also think that I have a misconception of what it means to be HV. I.e expensive things, luxurious lifestyle that are congruent and prove as to having HV. I'm currently suffering the repercussions for overlooking this in the past and would like to know how to promote my value w/o being douchey or an ass about it.
Where do you draw the line between art and science in game?
Or to make it a somewhat practical question;where should we draw that line when learning?
What should the first response words out of my mouth be if a girl I'm cold approaching at a club says, "I'm sorry but do you mind moving along because my girlfriends and I just want to have fun together and don't want to be interrupted by guys" ... should my response be some kind of an apology ? Or should I not apologize ? I think this is a BIG sticking point for guys at a club on what to do next.... I think discussing this topic would make for a good video topic for discussion
Thanks
#AskToddV Could you talk about being high value and how to be high value? Or maybe having a longer video dedicated to this topic of high value
How do you build more comfort for a girl? And how do you avoid her being uncomfortable around you?
Hey Todd, I first learned about “learning game” on your channel a few years ago. Started going out a few months ago, and turns out I’m a “dance god.”
Entire clubs/festivals are in awe of my moves and I cant help but feel girls expect my game to be on the same level. How do I have normal interactions from a pedestal?
Tried to find some clear content on how to approach a girl in a group? Not necessarily in an only-women group.
God bless you
when i watched your video from winner game about wanting to win, i had huge ephiphany, and i asked myself why i dont go for the win, and i discovered that im afraid to let go control in set and that prevent me to truly feel free and loose, so how do let go of that feeling of control, i feel like it is pulling me down and i cant achieve my full potential?
What to do when the girl is higher value than you, say her life's just more interesting than yours or that she's "out of your league"? Btw love what you do man, you're doing amazing, big fan!
Hello Todd. How to use women response to develop my game? Sometimes I get from women what I don’t understand for example I approached a girl in daygame today and She was engaged in conversation a bit, she laugh of my teases a bit. but she looked uncomfortable. She said during my 2 minutes approach: “I am in a rush”, when she clearly wasn’t. 2) “I have a boyfriend” 3) “I feel awkward”
and after all I gave up. And the worst thing that I can’t understand what I did wrong and how to avoid this in the future.
What if you messed up the perception of you in a large social circle? Like where every girl in that circle completely sees you like that “weird” acquaintance because you used to be the shy quiet guy even though you changed? It seems now that no matter what I do they just kind of stay with in themselves and stay somewhat quiet when I talk to them. I honestly don’t see a way back of getting a higher status no matter what I do. Should I just forget about this circle and go on?
It's hard changing the perspective of others over night. I would advise you to focus on yourself and find new people. When the girls see you interact completely different with other people and suddenly you are doing a lot of cool things they will realize you changed and give you a chance. But there is also the chance that you will fall back into old habbits when being around these people.
How can i reduce noise for the perfect target when they all look at you mean how to choose the least probable flaky thanks
Makes so much sense
Hey Todd! I've watched every single video you put out...can you please talk about how to talk to girls at gym?? this is a burning question
Should I take trips with girls? Just came back from one and she's upset that I'm not talking as much to her. It was clearly established that we're not exclusive a few times before the trip. Thanks
How do you run "attraction game/switches"?
What are the issues in students that you rarely see but are the most harmful? (Many times more harmful than the most common mistakes.)
Hey Todd first off, glad you're back. Ty for all you're doing for us, much obliged. Secondly my question is, how do you pick up a lesbian?
My problem is that I get emotional and needy. How can I overcome that?
How to be direct, without coming off as needy or low value.
How to overcome plateaus?
How do you build comfort?
Todd, what are the elements that create value?
The System is great, this would've been great to expand on inside the system as well
Can we have JP and Garret make a channel? Love their game style
So this question is kind of long. In psychology there is a trait called neuroticism, which basicly says have nervous you are. How are you dealing with this issue in terms of coaching? And what advice would you give to people based on how neurotic they are?
Hi Todd, What is your opinion about "ASKING QUESTIONS"? A lot of dudes teach that its wrong ask questions or that you'll be taking value if you ask questions, but how do you get to know the girl and have a conversation without asking questions? What is your take on this? This can let guys stifle. Give us some truth. Thank you.
There are pick-up artists and pick-up surgeons. The Toddfather is a pick-up surgeon.
Okay so my game is like "hey can I talk to you for a second then I get a confused look then I'm like I think youre really pretty" then things get weird. does things change after that?or get better cause I wanna get numbers and eventually be able take girls home cause right now I see no chance of that happening.
Hi Todd, when it comes to online game, how do I assess if the ratio should be more inclined towards value or comfort??
Question: What do you do and how do you answer when girls say they are only interested in a serious relationship?
Find a new girl if that isn't what you want
Value brand todd 😎
Great videos Todd. Should I approach girls even if I'm not in the greatest mood? Should I always try to be in 'state'?
80/20 Value/Comfort is the key
thanks todd
I love those shorties.
how do u become high value ? anyone ? please upvote if you want Todd to answer it ...
Should you game girls you already know from school/work etc?
Smart thoughts
Yo Todd. What is a solid opener for a busy/loud bar bearing in mind I usually just get ignored or get an indifferent response most of the time? Thanks man.
Hey Todd, a quick question on inner game... having strong inner game is all about in the game, without inner game nothing works becoz I have noticed for myself tat how much ever I search for new techniques and methods I end up losing so I now started practicing a pimp like Narcissism few months back and started seeing some changes in my game...can u give me some advice on inner game... thxx Todd Valentine
From my experience, value is not something that you show. Showing high value is trying to impress. I think just being very secure in yourself is the value. As for comfort, i feel like that is all down to how genuine your communication is, like how much you view the other person as a human being on your level. I think the concept of high value is extra and more when really you wanna get to your core.
Todd, Here's my question. My body if messed up with a serious, chronic disease called rheumatoid arthritis. The disease is visually evident. I limp. Can't fully turn my neck, etc. Still, I am good-looking, educated, eloquent, thoughtful and charming. I also dress well and am very responsible. I feel insecure about my disability (low value), but I would still like a girlfriend. What should I do?
Best ways to approach a girl who is working? For example a girl who is a waitress or a barista at a coffee shop
Hey Todd, I was wondering how we can mass approach in a venue without being the weird guy who everyone can see is approaching everyone else
Debjeet S i think your thinking of this all wrong. I think your goal is to mass approach. Instead your goal should be to get laid. When i go out i go out to get laid, if i happen to do alot of approaches to get laid so be it. I think alot of guys think like you, they go out to "game" they dont go out to get laid and i think thats where alot of confusion in pick up comes from. And it also sounds like you might be going too hard on your approaches if you fear getting "caught". Game should look effortless if done correctly. But since it sounds like youre still kind of new i suggest working on making every approach better than the last. Like say if you approach and get blown out, pay attention to why you got blown out and try to correct that on the next approach and keep doing that throughout the night and i guarantee you'll have success. You dont want to go out and approach just for the sake of it. You want to do your approaches with a purpose and dont forget to have fun with it. You never know which girl it will end up working with. I know that was long. But i hoped it helped. Good luck out there. 👍
Ernesto Ruiz thank you for your reply. I see your point and I definitely need to adjust my thinking somewhat. But I also think that in order to get good, there are days where I might have to approach a lot of people. And I’m wondering if there’s a way I can do that without it being weird. I’m not so worried about being caught as I am about people quietly noticing that I’m approaching a bit too many people and making that note in their head. I guess a better question is how do I make it seem effortless to approach a lot of people in the eyes of everyone at the venue? Thanks again
He will say it depends on calibration. Don't for example approach sets all next to each other and don't be too over the top if you sense the mood is more chill.
Debjeet S Why do you even care what people think o fyou or how they perceive you? Are they paying your bills or walking in your shoes?Right there is where your prison cell is located. Just keep cool and calm and continue doing you.
bourgeoi_c I figured that if it helps me get better at game to not care, I wouldn’t, but I think it would lead to better game if you knew how to work the room better. And I definitely could be wrong, but it’s worth knowing.
Hi Todd. What is one of good ways to approach a girl in your college class where there's no interaction between students and the professor is very strict?
The only time I can approach her is after class. I think of asking course-related questions or maybe like how she did on her test but not sure how to go from there.
Hey Todd can you talk about reputation? What does one do when he acquires a fuck boy rep? Should one just ignore rep over all?
Not only that but is it even possible to have a city hate you? If you were to constantly game Vegas or some other city can this hurt you?
What do you think about the london daygame model?
vinicius
Hey todd ,i have a question,if someone says something that inspires confidence and integrity is more of an honest signal or a dishonest signal?
1-what if you have a silly funny type of game and your young. it is hard to be taken seriously or is it just i am acting too playful.
2- having multiple long term relationship with hot girls (in a not so big city hot girls know each other) how to maintain such relationship. in my experience it brought a lot of Drama. do you also find drama good for the relationship, cause she is making Decision that she really love you. - Kevin
Todd what do you do if a girl wants you to dance with her but you really don't know how?
how to get a girl to go to her place or any logistic solution to not being able to bring her home?
hey Todd, first of all THANK YOu for all the free help you are putting out here and for your time.
Secondly: I have a question from me, someone who struggles to start getting better at game although I find beautiful women my life’s purpose. Realistically what does the first year of learning game look like considering you are putting in a good effort going out 15 days a months?
Hey Todd. How do you actually create value?
Idk man. I went on 2 dates with a pretty cool girl. And on the 3rd date, she just came to my place to explain why she thinks I'm too high-value and she feels out of my league. I mean, I am in the upper-middle class, but I'm no oil sheik. Maybe just keep an eye out for self-esteem issues when they mention that they are intimidated
Hey Todd
As someone whose been in multiple open relationships, do you have any suggestions and tips in managing and dealing with your jealousy and eventually minimizing it?
How do you make sex "just happen"?
Every man wishes he knew😂😂
Hey todd dude how to become high value men to women?
Hey what’s up Todd. You made a video on how European girls are different from American (or how game is different). I’m wondering what about Asian girls? Do you have any experience with them?
Thank you for all the value :)
How you should constantly game your girlfriend? during your relationship.
I'm liking this 'bumps'
Todd, How many approachs to get good with women?
Vinicius Q. Andraus 100 to just barely get out of beginner phase.
Its not how many approach fucker. If you approach a 100 girls in the same way youll never get better. Try different approaches to many girls regularly almost daily basis and dont focus on numbers
10,000 hours infield
really?
Vinicius Q. Andraus yeah 10,000 hours infield, but not just quantity, quality