Thanks for your honesty about your feelings towards your dad. As a father with undiagnosed Autism I hear what you're saying and it's still resonating. After 20 years of being told I'm just depressed or anxious by doctors I've also turned to alternative therapies, I believe we are left with no choice and that it's the natural and most logical path to freedom of mind and body. At your age I had the same views about my parents and the way they brought me up, but now, I see the same patterns emerging in myself and it's so hard, it really doesn't get easier, living in a world not set up for our needs. When I go to the docs all I get is tablets thrown at me as they push me out the door, no matter how much I go on about my difficulties. Your pain is of course completely valid and it's hard to admit those kinds of feelings at your age so I'm impressed with that, it shows maturity. I'm now 42 and I've started therapy and I'm on the waiting list for a diagnosis 🤞. I'd bet money that in 20 years time it'll be no different for your generation (possibly worse!!!) I'm going on now but really, thank you for your videos. They make me realise I'm not alone... Thanks TH-cam for helping connect the dots.
I didn't think I would relate to this video topic, but I very much did. My father had quite terrible untreated sleep apnea through my childhood, and also had overnight work shifts, so he was both physically present but also not an active part or member of the household aside from working and making income. He wasn't much of a dad; he was always tired and disconnected, disinterested-or sleeping, or at work. I recently read sleep apnea can cause brain damage, and yeah, I think my dad already had that when I was a child, as he does seem intellectually disabled a bit to me, though not autistic. I'm also now about the age your father was in this story, and I feel like I could quietly play Mahjohn alone for literally years -- I'm kind of fearful of how much i want that, yknow? Luckily I knew long ago that children weren't a project I wanted to take on, and my dog is so chill, she can always stay around, but otherwise I feel myself retreating into my head after a life of undiagnosed autism, 20+ jobs, and 26 years of working without really a break, It's so hard for me to get out of my head and spend the spoons -- do we still call it spoons? -- to talk to people, even my closest loved ones in my household. Only my dog provides spoon-free interactions. I have a part of a spoon taken from me just myself being seen by strangers, for some reason. I'm sorry you had that experience with you incapable father. You deserved better. Thanks for your channel. I really liked this video a lot--first time commenter, but I've watched several others. I really enjoy how you tell a story. You give a very nice amount of context. Cheers, friend.
This is what i've been told too, i am on the never ending NHS waiting list to be tested and after being questioned by my GP about my mother also she seems to think she was undiagnosed also...the more learning about this and the connections to myself now i can extend them and i too can see traits my mam definitely had
Sorry about your relationship with your dad. Some people have problems expressing their feelings but at least he was there. Now that he is gone you can reflect on your life and try to understand what was going on in his mind and understand what happened back then. You are a fine daughter and I know he must have loved you in his own way. Take care Dana.
Hi dana. i feeeellll you. my mums autistic and is obsessed with astrology, reiki, crystals, past life regression etc. so we have that in common. - audhdwomanwaits
i also identify alot about the stuff about your parents not taking care of themselves. its hard! edit:also identify with my dad being physicaly there but mentally and emotionally absent. and mine plays online poker lol. i also laugh when talking about death lmao. and i also need tea all the time for a moment of calm. yass for being british lol
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Yes the warm drink is sure to improve things, especially tea, that's what we cheerfully need. I love your videos, keep on being awesome
Thanks for your honesty about your feelings towards your dad. As a father with undiagnosed Autism I hear what you're saying and it's still resonating. After 20 years of being told I'm just depressed or anxious by doctors I've also turned to alternative therapies, I believe we are left with no choice and that it's the natural and most logical path to freedom of mind and body. At your age I had the same views about my parents and the way they brought me up, but now, I see the same patterns emerging in myself and it's so hard, it really doesn't get easier, living in a world not set up for our needs. When I go to the docs all I get is tablets thrown at me as they push me out the door, no matter how much I go on about my difficulties. Your pain is of course completely valid and it's hard to admit those kinds of feelings at your age so I'm impressed with that, it shows maturity. I'm now 42 and I've started therapy and I'm on the waiting list for a diagnosis 🤞. I'd bet money that in 20 years time it'll be no different for your generation (possibly worse!!!) I'm going on now but really, thank you for your videos. They make me realise I'm not alone... Thanks TH-cam for helping connect the dots.
I didn't think I would relate to this video topic, but I very much did. My father had quite terrible untreated sleep apnea through my childhood, and also had overnight work shifts, so he was both physically present but also not an active part or member of the household aside from working and making income. He wasn't much of a dad; he was always tired and disconnected, disinterested-or sleeping, or at work. I recently read sleep apnea can cause brain damage, and yeah, I think my dad already had that when I was a child, as he does seem intellectually disabled a bit to me, though not autistic. I'm also now about the age your father was in this story, and I feel like I could quietly play Mahjohn alone for literally years -- I'm kind of fearful of how much i want that, yknow? Luckily I knew long ago that children weren't a project I wanted to take on, and my dog is so chill, she can always stay around, but otherwise I feel myself retreating into my head after a life of undiagnosed autism, 20+ jobs, and 26 years of working without really a break, It's so hard for me to get out of my head and spend the spoons -- do we still call it spoons? -- to talk to people, even my closest loved ones in my household. Only my dog provides spoon-free interactions. I have a part of a spoon taken from me just myself being seen by strangers, for some reason. I'm sorry you had that experience with you incapable father. You deserved better. Thanks for your channel. I really liked this video a lot--first time commenter, but I've watched several others. I really enjoy how you tell a story. You give a very nice amount of context. Cheers, friend.
Thank you for sharing the story of your dad. This is a topic that many don’t know or understand about autism.
This is what i've been told too, i am on the never ending NHS waiting list to be tested and after being questioned by my GP about my mother also she seems to think she was undiagnosed also...the more learning about this and the connections to myself now i can extend them and i too can see traits my mam definitely had
Sorry about your relationship with your dad. Some people have problems expressing their feelings but at least he was there. Now that he is gone you can reflect on your life and try to understand what was going on in his mind and understand what happened back then. You are a fine daughter and I know he must have loved you in his own way. Take care Dana.
I think my father was autistic as well as badly abusive. I have not spoken to him since 1998.
I am so sorry you didn't have a good relationship with your father and that he was too sick to be there for you.
Hi dana. i feeeellll you. my mums autistic and is obsessed with astrology, reiki, crystals, past life regression etc. so we have that in common. - audhdwomanwaits
i think he sounds more like a narcissistic person to me honestly. they can also be very rigid and routine oriented
i also identify alot about the stuff about your parents not taking care of themselves. its hard!
edit:also identify with my dad being physicaly there but mentally and emotionally absent. and mine plays online poker lol. i also laugh when talking about death lmao. and i also need tea all the time for a moment of calm. yass for being british lol