8:30 i had the opposite problem when i was a teenager - i let my friends treat me like absoulute garbage and i never said a word to them, to a point where it fucked me up mentally. Whoever is reading this - if you've got some friends in your life that continuously grind you into the dirt and you feel like you can't say anything because you "don't want to be a bother" SAY SOMETHING. BLOCK THEM. Just get out of there before you spiral in on yourself
This, im still struggling from what my "best friend" did to me. Im in my mid 20s now, havent spoken to any of those people in half a decade, i wiah i got away sooner but i was covinced i was the problem😢
I haven't thought about it for a while, but that original video was a big part of me not doing something permanently stupid during a really dark time. Obviously not the whole reason, but using it as kind of a mantra anchor massively helped form the basis of some healthy thought patterns. The link to it sat on my hot bar as a go to whenever I desperately needed to feel some hope. So as someone who didn't give in to the dark and don't think i had the strength to say at the time, thank you for being part of the reason im still here and it makes me unreasonably happy that 10 years later you're still here putting out into the world whatever positivity you can.
Now At 26 I have to always remind myself cheer the small things. I moved by myself. I am doing it alone. That’s a BIG accomplishment and I need to appreciate myself for doing it
I'm mid 30's, live at home, and deal with chronic illness. things I always remember: "there's no mess you can't clean up." (Mum's favorite advice) "things always work out" and they do! in terms of chronic illness and tests with no positives, "no result is still a result," to help with elimination "always have something to look forward to." and then if things are too much I have a marble of the world since I was little, and I can just think about the big picture and how something may not matter and it helps me be calm if I'm nervous or angry or upset.
My grandpa told me that the giant white balls in farmers fields was how marshmallows are grown. It’s actually just plastic they put around hail bails to store for the whiter. Chocolate milk came from brown cows. The steam coming from the cooling towers of power plants was how clouds were made. That alarm that would go off when there was a fire and that was the call for all the firefighters to come to the fire house was an alarm if there was an alligator on the loose. We lived no were near any alligators lived. There was a little person who worked inside of ATM that would count the money and give it to you. There’s more. My grandpa was a fun guy when I was a little kid.
I relate so much to listening to your body! I did not, for years, and have developed functional neurological disorder. It now means it’s forced me to listen to my energy levels and prioritise things differently or there will not be a good outcome. There’s such a culture of getting through and to not rest, which really can lead to dire consequences that change how your brain signals things for the rest of your life!
I.....didn't realise how much i actually needed to hear some of the things in this video, especially about making the mistakes, no one remembering them and just to try to think alot more positively but that communication one is a HUGE one, funny when others say communitcation is key but then don't do it themselves..it's also a challenge when you're kinda surrounded by negativity but removing yourself from that is so good! Thanks Emma
I used to watch your feel good 101 videos and they were always so helpful, you've always been great at giving advice because you're actually realistic. I relate to being so negative when I was a teen/ early 20s, but to be fair I didn't have the best upbringing and my negativity stemmed from that anger and hurt. I think a lot of people are negative due to childhood trauma, it's only until we've had a bit more life experience that gives us a better perspective of how things could be so much worse 🙏
you have always been such a real person since like 10 years ago, you're still near enough the same, and I've never seen you as a pesimistic influence btw
I think what’s really interesting about your fanbase is that you seem to have acquired a super loyal fanbase. For me, I’m 26 now and I remember meeting you at the SITC warmup and telling you watching your videos and the metaphors with the rocks had saved my life at 13. You maybe don’t remember but you cried when I told you and it was so lovely to know someone cared. It’s such a gorgeous rarity to have such a long term impact on people like that. So grateful for you Emma ❤
hey Emma, i’ve been keeping up with you for over 10 years now. popping in less often as i’ve got older and life’s got busier but i’ve always cared what you’ve been up to. you have no idea how much your journey of growth and showing that has helped me. i’m 25 and have been struggling with taking things personally and acting out in general for a lonnnnggg time. and for a few years have tried so hard to get better but it is so tough. seeing how you’ve grown and developed has been a great comfort to me as i’ve always seen so much of myself in you (not quite as talented as you though!). i hope this doesn’t come across the wrong way i mean this in the most positive way ever! i can’t wait to keeping getting better at taking my time to be a better person in general and keeping up what you do too. i’ve loved your content and music for so long and will continue to check in ❤
I have watched you since I was 13 and I'm 21 now with the recent feeling that I'm ruining my life all of this is so true and makes me feel better and comforted in the fact I still have so many more things to learn and hearing that I will make mistakes but that it's okay really does mean a lot.
Hi Emma, I've been watching you for years now, over 10 years in fact, and I just wanted to say how great your advice is. If this video would've came out a month ago I would've got shit sorted with my life ASAP. I'm 21 and suffer with adhd and epilepsy and I was being used by my old boss, a boss who promised me a lot but never got it sorted (like you said in that video)... so if this video came out last month it legitimately would've helped me step up for myself and not focus on pleasing people or "fitting in" so-to-speak because masking... yeah it's a thing as you most likely know Great vid, thank you for the advice ❤
I definitely needed to hear these things this week. It always helps hearing from people who have lived a little longer and have gone through a lot of things you will eventually go through in one way or another...
It really does help! I heard a few of these things when I was younger and didn’t listen. I’ve learned the hard way that all of these things are very important!!
thank you so much for the advice emma. ive been watching your videos since i was 10 (im 20 now!) and its been so amazing to see your growth over the years. i hope to have the same mindset as you when im in my 30s!
Wise words. It's been quite some time since one of these popped up. Only thing I have to add is those people you believe are judging you for your mistakes? At least some will have made those same mistakes, or they'll have made others. Mistakes happen to us all, no one is immune.
I’m turning 30 next year (ahhh) and really needed to hear some of these! It is so true that you know inside when something isn’t right, you just need to listen ❤ Thank you Emma, I’ve always loved hearing your advice videos - much love ❤
I'd just add this from my experience. Most of the life lessons that have stuck with me is because I made mistakes, faced the consequences, learnt from them. Facing those consequences played a major role in really drilling the point home. That also explained why in the late teens/early 20s it is so hard to listen to advise from someone older. At that age, we haven't been through enough shit in life to learn to be grateful about our actual well-wishers. I am closer to you in age and started watching you during college. I am turning 30 this year. I cannot disagree with anything you said in this video. Also, I love the kinds of videos you have been making lately, feels more personal.
Absolutely, I heard a lot of these things but didn’t listen, and learned the hard way! I think there’s an element in having to experience it and learn these lessons yourself, but I hope this video helps people realise some things sooner than I did.
Thank you, Emma, that is really good advice! ❤ I've been trying to communicate with people about stuff more and while it's super scary, it really helps and it's much better than letting stuff build up over time because if you let stuff build up it'll happen exactly like you described and the smallest thing will set you off
I find myself very similar to you and have always really appreciated these videos. You've saved me from learning a lot of lessons the hard way the past decade or so. Thank you
Made an insurance phone call I've had to do for a while just this afternoon and now I can proudly say I did manage something in my favour. It truly is that easy. Thanks so much for making this video❤️
Emma! I’ve been watching your videos for a decade and happy to say I’m one of those people who never left! I never comment but just wanted to say I loved this video. Keep being you! ❤
This was so lovely to hear. I'm your age and I get so much out of these longer discussion videos. Just turned 32 and I definitely felt that "oh no 30s" as I hit that landmark but yeah, we're honestly still young. I'm also dealing with chronic illness so it means a lot when you talk about your CFS. It's honestly incredible that you've accomplished so much while dealing with that, and I strive to find a good balance between my own creative work and giving myself grace and care as needed.
Don't know why your stuff keeps getting recommended to me- I'm the complete opposite of your demographic, but I've found your wisdom very helpful lately. Keep it up! (And I know you may not like the song much anymore but Agenda still slaps.)
Thank you! I’m proud of every song I’ve made, but it’s just a little bit of a tricky one to do live, which I think affects the way I think of it as a whole. I love the message of it though!!
@@jonlottgaming You may have anhedonia, which is caused from a variety of issues. If physical, the most common causes are thyroid hormone imbalance (what I had and why I know about this) or a vitamin deficiency (usually vitamin D). A simple blood test by your doctor can tell you if it's either of these things. If it's a mental issue, visiting a therapist and discussing your lack of emotion could help you receive the treatment you need to start feeling again. I wish you well and hope you don't wait until you're in your 30s like I did before getting help for it.
@@jonlottgaming I'm sorry you have not had success yet with your mental health struggles. I hope they will find better treatment options soon. If I knew how to fix it, I would. I wish you a better, brighter future.
As a fan of your "five things I want you to hear" video. This is a perfect sequel to it. Thank your for all your advice emma. I relate so much to your experence in my own way
I think that I have something to add to this, being 42 and have a 14 year old where I'm having to put these life lessons into words as he is now starting to encounter things in life. Negativity, it's literally everywhere, and not everyone had negative meaning to what they do. At the same time it's perfectly ok to remove negative people from your life, you don't need to keep them as friends. If they are dragging you down, there is nothing that you personally can do to help them if they are doing nothing for themselves. In the next 10 - 15 years the friend group will most likely change at least once, if you're under 18 it's more likely going to happen 3 times or more. You don't need to hang on to bad friends. Always learn from the mistakes that you make, because your going to make a ton of them. your going to grow and change a lot over the next decade, the things I thought, did, and said back in to 90's and early 00's? I am not the same person that I was back then. By 44 you will not recognize the you that is sitting there reading this today. Your body does know more than you, and it never lies to you. With this, take care of your body, eat food that is good for you, don't constantly over indulge, get cardio in every day, and if you can get some resistance training in atleast one day a week. Do you have anxiety attacks? shortness of breath? Have constant joint pain? How does you hair look? Your nails? How about your skin complextion? Also Emma nailed it out of the park with not letting things linger, talk to people (preferably in person), and keep the BS and drama out of your life, it's too short. It was a blink of an eye and I was in my mid 20's and fighting people in multiple martial arts and saying "hey" for the first time to the woman I married.
Sir/Madam I so feel your pain as I'm in the same situation. 45 and with a 16 year old and worried sick about him(living with his mother 60 miles away) being let loose on this horrible horrific world we are building around to let our kids blossom, bloom and hopefully florish. If only we had emma back 25 years ago. Give her a chance she would only have been 7!!!
I used to do that with the phone all the time, i hated using it but now i have got over it and do call people most of the time, it's not something to fear!, i have always been my own person and have never followed the crowd and am now doing what i want to do, took enough crap letting people trying to control me over the years!, just be yourself and it's not selfish to put yourself first, you talk so much sense, Emma, we all leard from life and hopefully for the better!
Jesus that was 9 years ago! I remember watching gwen it was posted and I was going through a time of feeling very directionless. Your video at the time was very helpful and I would watch it as a pick me up through the rest of that year. Thank you Emma 🙂
I needed this video! I've been massively put down by a guy that I was seeing recently and I communicated with him that it upset me and ended things because it was making me feel so rubbish about myself.
How weird, I was thinking about TH-cam creators I used to watch whilst growing up and your channel was one of them. Algorithms and all that led to your content being recommended less and less, and a day later, without my typing anything relevant at the time, you’re recommended to me the day after. Love this type of video, thanks Emma. Hope you’re keeping well.
Emma, firstly thank you, because I also needed to hear the majority of your points and very grown up sound advice for a lady of only 32. Myself I'm 45 (you'd never believe you 32 giving life advice to a 45 year old crazy ain't it) my name is Justin and I suffer severely with Dyspraxia. (Wondering on your next screen what the hell is that) It's a very complicated Neurodivergent brain disorder which affects people so badly along with there daily routine that GP's attempt to sort a few symptons and not see the big picture. I will never get better from this it is with me for life but I have a 16 year old son who doesn't live with me who I'm understandably extremely worried for trying to put him right in the ways of the world from a distance as I live 60 miles away he lives with his mum and she is very narcissistic. I would love you to do more of these as coming from you and not (in his eyes) his boring old dad moaning on again. I think you are being and will be a tremendous help to me and him going forward. Followed you in the background since your weekly vlog days and that comicon trip to Amsterdam. Please do not stop. I'm determined to either get you another subscriber or somehow pass on the video through the magic of TH-cam and a very ageing Acer Windows 7 pro Laptop. Thank you immensly just Thank you!!!
Thank you so much for the lovely words. I will do my best to be a responsible voice of reason. I hope you know that just through your message I can see how much you care, and just in that, you’re doing a great job. Hang on in there. 👊🏻
@@emmablackery wow God bless you dear lady. God bless you. That is incredible in just about 30 words you've correctly summed me up that I wear my heart on my sleeve(sometimes too much for my own good). Also bringing a slight tear to my eye with the encouragement factor which trust me I don't get told often. Wow your just the greatest.
How do you overcome fear of death Emma? Thank you for making this video, I’ve just turned 30 and I’m starting to worry so much about life and death since I’m starting to lose a lot of people in my life.
I guess since I’ve struggled with anxiety/panic issues surrounding family death since my teens, I’ve learned that 1) it will be horrible 2) it will keep happening 3) it is a part of life for everyone eventually, and that grief never goes away, we just grow around it. I am fortunate to have not lost a close one… ever. But it will happen, and it will hurt. One phrase that helped me the most was “worrying about it only makes you suffer twice”. We must savour every single moment where it isn’t a part of our lives. Lead with love instead of fear.
Hi Emma, just wanted to say, I too have had chronic fatigue issues at an early time in my life. I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia at 18. Just wanted to say I know how it feels to have chronic fatigue get in the way of so much but you inspire me.
I am 42 and was born 1981. Still feeling great and missing not much in Life! Watching WWE since I was Eleven :-D And watching Emma since 11 Years. What a magic ;-) Thank You for this emotional Video Emma and keep on going. Just be Yourself, love Yourself and keep Up on Yourself. You are Great on who You are. Thank You for letting us being part of it. Best Greetings to You. :-)
At 29 the back ache is real (may have something to do with being 6'6) but ive also learned a lot of life lessons that people my age don't get chance to and I appreciate every second of learning them. Some of these are my favourites and i love to spread the wisdom right when friends need it. That being said, it must be over 10(?) years since I've watched one of your videos and the algorithm suddenly brought you back to my feed for no apparent reason? I'm not complaining though, I'm extremely happy to see you still uploading and having learned all these lessons yourself and pushed through a multitude of difficulties to keep working on your music instead of a full time youtube career
We all learn all the time, if we hadn't gone through what we have then we wouldn't be the person we are today. Life without life lessons must be a boring life.
This past year I’ve been struggling so much (depression,anxiety money problems,stress is massive but I’ve learnt it’s not gonna last forever I’ve got stay positive and just get out of bed have coffee and try be productive and im lucky I’ve got people around me who I love dearly My girlfriend is my biggest supporter
Jokes on you Emma, Ive had back pain since I was 16 😎 Really fantastic video though. Appreciate your honesty because theres some stuff I really needed to hear. Would love some more introspective content in the future
"You know what I'm fucking saying." Emma 2024. hehehehe, oh Im just being funny. Theres some great advice here! Like making phone calls, ugh, and listening to your body. Two things that can save your ass.
This is probably the weirdest comment I have ever written, but you are sitting so close to the camera that I CANT make eye contact with you 😅 Its okay, Im definitely still listening
This is a lot of good advice, and I just want to add my own; you are NEVER the smartest person in the room, even when you're alone. I'm not talking about anything religious, I'm saying that you can ALWAYS find ways to improve and be better, NEVER STOP LEARNING!!! If someone teaches you how to do something, but you accidentally find something that makes it easier and faster for you without sacrificing the quality of the work, don't be afraid of telling the person who taught you. The people who want the best out of you will WANT to know what you know, they'll want to try it themselves, only dicks make you do it "by the book" absolutely EVERY time. Also, I'm 38, last weekend was the first birthday I've had that I wasn't severely depressed. Life can get better, and I know trying is hard, but you guys can do it. That back pain is ABSOLUTELY coming for you, and if you served in the military, it starts in your 20's and then it's a snowball of absolutely everything hurting.
Allow me to be a f-ing arse... Im 45 and see things like this all the time, you are not old when you are in the late 20:is or even in the 30:ish. You are not older then you make yourself out to be. I cant count the amount of time i have been called "old man" by girl an boys in the late teens or early 20:ies. THAT is just ignorance. Im having probably the best time so far in my life, i have a mother that is close to 70 also having the best time ever. The problem is videos like this hinting that your life has past before you are even 30.... Your life havent even started yet!!! Fucking live it!! And yes im not native English so dont say anything about spelling, you know what i mean!!
Life is definitely not over at 30! I say in the video I realised that, and people shouldn’t be afraid of getting older and fearing how society sees us… we only get better with age and the lessons that come with it!
Happy Friday, Emma! And welcome to the eighth month of August!😊😊😊😊😊😎☀💙💙💙💙💙💙🇺🇸🌷🇬🇧💜💜💜💜💜💜🎇🎇🎇🎇🎇🎇👍. These 7 things are amazing to concentrate and follow the steps. Well done!💜🎇💜🎇💜🎇💜🎇💜🎇💜🎇💜🎇👍
There's a meaning behind your age, if I could just recall it.... 😁 I have a few years on you and if you think you're past it now, just wait, the really good stuff is to come.
I need to reschedule a dentists appointment, maybe I should actually call them this time and not leave a voicemail after closing hours...? 😅 That's my goal for now!
So I'm same age as Emma (think about a week or two difference)? Anyway she right. The older you get the more you don't give a crap about other people's bullshit and standing up for yourself. You don't have time for the nonsense. And yea you make alot of dumb mistakes in your teens and 20s. Mouthing off. Upsetting people. Bad choice of words. You will post stupid shit on the Internet that you regret. But tbh being in your 30s is not bad at all. I've had more fun, more love and respect for people and myself since my late 20s and early 30s then I have for my entire life prior. My husband is my best friend and we have so many stupidly fun adventures all the time. We enjoy each others company and life for the most part gets better. There is shit in the world and lives are messy but bing able to still engage with the world when you want to and need to not because someone demands it is so liberating. Also that lower back pain. Yep that can go to hell. Had upper back pain since I was a teenager but ignored it. Lower back pain is just a twat :')
Sounds like its time you started going to the gym Emma, it keeps you younger for longer your body heals three times faster and also heals better there are also many other benefits from training and it will strengthen your back up and raise your energy levels, its hard at first but six months in you won't want to stop, I ask you to trust me and step forwards on this matter and let me know how it goes, Big Respect Emma 😎
I’ve used the gym before in my life and never had that “want to keep going” thing. Also, with immune issues, it isn’t just regular muscle fatigue you get the day after - it can really affect those with ME/CFS. I’d prefer advice to be more attitude-based than physical-based for these comments.
@@emmablackery I have been training my self and young men who wanted a military career for many years now and I have watched them go from being boys to men I also do a lot of boxing on conditioning bags which destroys your hands but because I have been doing this for so long my hands and elbows heal within a few days and so do any other cuts or bruises, I am 52 now and have been training since I was 17 and Rome was not built in a Day ❤️
I don’t know if that’s good advice for everyone. We all mature at different stages and have our own issues to work through. Also, not everyone’s meant to be a spouse/parent. Be in a healthy place where you can truly love yourself before committing to such lifelong choices.
Mate, not everyone wants kids and that's okay. I myself decided at nine that I'd never be a mom and I've held to that even to this day when I'm in my 40s. Also, not everyone believes in your god and that's okay too.
I’m 28 and I can’t afford my own place. Even if I end up wanting kids, I am also worried I won’t be able to afford having kids in time, or be able to afford a place with more than one room 😐 That kind of advice just makes me feel more behind than I already do 😅 I’m not about to have a baby in these circumstances and put a strain on everyone around me.
@@LauraDora124 Good on you for being responsible. I feel like too many people have children without giving thought to the fact that this precious little baby they have is going to be a person one day. Bringing a person into this world when you're hardly financially capable of looking after yourself is not just irresponsible, I would consider it very selfish and even a little bit evil.
Even if you’re not prepared to have kids your priorities change drastically and something in your brain switches where you automatically mature and become responsible. Having and raising a family is the greatest gift any human can have or give. That no money can buy or fame. Seeing your kids grow in front of your eyes is something any father or mother really enjoys in life.Once you have a family you’ll do anything to make them happy. And if you have god in your life, god can help you live and find the answers you can’t find. That’s why so many people are unhappy and hurt others.
I’m an old fart nearing 60. Listen to Emma.
I'm an old queef, nearing 35. Listen to Emma.
8:30 i had the opposite problem when i was a teenager - i let my friends treat me like absoulute garbage and i never said a word to them, to a point where it fucked me up mentally. Whoever is reading this - if you've got some friends in your life that continuously grind you into the dirt and you feel like you can't say anything because you "don't want to be a bother" SAY SOMETHING. BLOCK THEM. Just get out of there before you spiral in on yourself
This, im still struggling from what my "best friend" did to me. Im in my mid 20s now, havent spoken to any of those people in half a decade, i wiah i got away sooner but i was covinced i was the problem😢
This was me. I was a huge door mat as a teen.
The body bit really hit home for me. I'm 30 now and last year was a big stressor for me. Led to me developing FND!
I haven't thought about it for a while, but that original video was a big part of me not doing something permanently stupid during a really dark time. Obviously not the whole reason, but using it as kind of a mantra anchor massively helped form the basis of some healthy thought patterns. The link to it sat on my hot bar as a go to whenever I desperately needed to feel some hope. So as someone who didn't give in to the dark and don't think i had the strength to say at the time, thank you for being part of the reason im still here and it makes me unreasonably happy that 10 years later you're still here putting out into the world whatever positivity you can.
I’m so glad I could help all that time ago. I’m glad you’re still here 💖
I’m a Vloggery lover so this video spoke directly to my soul ❤
Now At 26 I have to always remind myself cheer the small things. I moved by myself. I am doing it alone. That’s a BIG accomplishment and I need to appreciate myself for doing it
I'm mid 30's, live at home, and deal with chronic illness. things I always remember:
"there's no mess you can't clean up." (Mum's favorite advice)
"things always work out" and they do!
in terms of chronic illness and tests with no positives, "no result is still a result," to help with elimination
"always have something to look forward to."
and then if things are too much I have a marble of the world since I was little, and I can just think about the big picture and how something may not matter and it helps me be calm if I'm nervous or angry or upset.
WOAHLY MOLY IS IT 2015? EMMA IS TREATING US SO MUCH
Please do more videos like this 😊
“Nobody remembers your mistakes” my husband still mocks that I thought horses were cows 😭😭 they were cow coloured 😭😭😭
Correction: Only the people who matter, remember.
My grandpa told me that the giant white balls in farmers fields was how marshmallows are grown. It’s actually just plastic they put around hail bails to store for the whiter.
Chocolate milk came from brown cows.
The steam coming from the cooling towers of power plants was how clouds were made.
That alarm that would go off when there was a fire and that was the call for all the firefighters to come to the fire house was an alarm if there was an alligator on the loose. We lived no were near any alligators lived.
There was a little person who worked inside of ATM that would count the money and give it to you. There’s more. My grandpa was a fun guy when I was a little kid.
Love you that you are putting out multiple videos again. ♥️ You. Ugh, we've all changed, but I'm grateful that you are still here! 🍻
I relate so much to listening to your body! I did not, for years, and have developed functional neurological disorder. It now means it’s forced me to listen to my energy levels and prioritise things differently or there will not be a good outcome. There’s such a culture of getting through and to not rest, which really can lead to dire consequences that change how your brain signals things for the rest of your life!
I.....didn't realise how much i actually needed to hear some of the things in this video, especially about making the mistakes, no one remembering them and just to try to think alot more positively but that communication one is a HUGE one, funny when others say communitcation is key but then don't do it themselves..it's also a challenge when you're kinda surrounded by negativity but removing yourself from that is so good!
Thanks Emma
The phone one really hit me 🥹 I’m not ready
I used to watch your feel good 101 videos and they were always so helpful, you've always been great at giving advice because you're actually realistic. I relate to being so negative when I was a teen/ early 20s, but to be fair I didn't have the best upbringing and my negativity stemmed from that anger and hurt. I think a lot of people are negative due to childhood trauma, it's only until we've had a bit more life experience that gives us a better perspective of how things could be so much worse 🙏
you have always been such a real person since like 10 years ago, you're still near enough the same, and I've never seen you as a pesimistic influence btw
I think what’s really interesting about your fanbase is that you seem to have acquired a super loyal fanbase. For me, I’m 26 now and I remember meeting you at the SITC warmup and telling you watching your videos and the metaphors with the rocks had saved my life at 13. You maybe don’t remember but you cried when I told you and it was so lovely to know someone cared. It’s such a gorgeous rarity to have such a long term impact on people like that. So grateful for you Emma ❤
hey Emma, i’ve been keeping up with you for over 10 years now. popping in less often as i’ve got older and life’s got busier but i’ve always cared what you’ve been up to. you have no idea how much your journey of growth and showing that has helped me.
i’m 25 and have been struggling with taking things personally and acting out in general for a lonnnnggg time. and for a few years have tried so hard to get better but it is so tough. seeing how you’ve grown and developed has been a great comfort to me as i’ve always seen so much of myself in you (not quite as talented as you though!). i hope this doesn’t come across the wrong way i mean this in the most positive way ever!
i can’t wait to keeping getting better at taking my time to be a better person in general and keeping up what you do too. i’ve loved your content and music for so long and will continue to check in ❤
I have watched you since I was 13 and I'm 21 now with the recent feeling that I'm ruining my life all of this is so true and makes me feel better and comforted in the fact I still have so many more things to learn and hearing that I will make mistakes but that it's okay really does mean a lot.
Hi Emma, I've been watching you for years now, over 10 years in fact, and I just wanted to say how great your advice is. If this video would've came out a month ago I would've got shit sorted with my life ASAP. I'm 21 and suffer with adhd and epilepsy and I was being used by my old boss, a boss who promised me a lot but never got it sorted (like you said in that video)... so if this video came out last month it legitimately would've helped me step up for myself and not focus on pleasing people or "fitting in" so-to-speak because masking... yeah it's a thing as you most likely know
Great vid, thank you for the advice ❤
I definitely needed to hear these things this week. It always helps hearing from people who have lived a little longer and have gone through a lot of things you will eventually go through in one way or another...
It really does help! I heard a few of these things when I was younger and didn’t listen. I’ve learned the hard way that all of these things are very important!!
This video is so important, im 23 andi needed to hear this, thank you so much emma!
I’m so glad it could be helpful to you!!
I wish I’d heard this at 23, great advice from Emma
@@emmablackery omg wow thank you for replying!!! it does much love
Thank you for this vid Emma! definitely needed to hear this 😊❤
You’re very welcome, I hope it helps!!
thank you so much for the advice emma. ive been watching your videos since i was 10 (im 20 now!) and its been so amazing to see your growth over the years. i hope to have the same mindset as you when im in my 30s!
That was some great advice Emma,Thank You.
I knew you were a Sunny fan 😎 long time follower and fellow musician here, thank you for years of inspiration love your new music ❤
It’s hands down my favourite show ever hahaha
been really liking this new content, hell yeah
Thank you!!
Wise words. It's been quite some time since one of these popped up. Only thing I have to add is those people you believe are judging you for your mistakes? At least some will have made those same mistakes, or they'll have made others. Mistakes happen to us all, no one is immune.
I’m turning 30 next year (ahhh) and really needed to hear some of these! It is so true that you know inside when something isn’t right, you just need to listen ❤ Thank you Emma, I’ve always loved hearing your advice videos - much love ❤
I'd just add this from my experience. Most of the life lessons that have stuck with me is because I made mistakes, faced the consequences, learnt from them. Facing those consequences played a major role in really drilling the point home. That also explained why in the late teens/early 20s it is so hard to listen to advise from someone older. At that age, we haven't been through enough shit in life to learn to be grateful about our actual well-wishers.
I am closer to you in age and started watching you during college. I am turning 30 this year. I cannot disagree with anything you said in this video. Also, I love the kinds of videos you have been making lately, feels more personal.
Absolutely, I heard a lot of these things but didn’t listen, and learned the hard way! I think there’s an element in having to experience it and learn these lessons yourself, but I hope this video helps people realise some things sooner than I did.
@@emmablackery I really hope so.
This is all genuinely great advice
Thank you, Emma, that is really good advice! ❤ I've been trying to communicate with people about stuff more and while it's super scary, it really helps and it's much better than letting stuff build up over time because if you let stuff build up it'll happen exactly like you described and the smallest thing will set you off
I find myself very similar to you and have always really appreciated these videos. You've saved me from learning a lot of lessons the hard way the past decade or so. Thank you
Made an insurance phone call I've had to do for a while just this afternoon and now I can proudly say I did manage something in my favour.
It truly is that easy.
Thanks so much for making this video❤️
Proud of you!! It works!
Emma! I’ve been watching your videos for a decade and happy to say I’m one of those people who never left! I never comment but just wanted to say I loved this video. Keep being you! ❤
Loving the new single, my jam on the way to work
This was so lovely to hear. I'm your age and I get so much out of these longer discussion videos. Just turned 32 and I definitely felt that "oh no 30s" as I hit that landmark but yeah, we're honestly still young. I'm also dealing with chronic illness so it means a lot when you talk about your CFS. It's honestly incredible that you've accomplished so much while dealing with that, and I strive to find a good balance between my own creative work and giving myself grace and care as needed.
Don't know why your stuff keeps getting recommended to me- I'm the complete opposite of your demographic, but I've found your wisdom very helpful lately. Keep it up!
(And I know you may not like the song much anymore but Agenda still slaps.)
Thank you! I’m proud of every song I’ve made, but it’s just a little bit of a tricky one to do live, which I think affects the way I think of it as a whole. I love the message of it though!!
Having emotions is ok and don’t be so hard on yourself. Love yourself. Things will work themselves out and you will be ok.
Wish I felt more emotion, everything is nulled.
@@jonlottgaming You may have anhedonia, which is caused from a variety of issues. If physical, the most common causes are thyroid hormone imbalance (what I had and why I know about this) or a vitamin deficiency (usually vitamin D). A simple blood test by your doctor can tell you if it's either of these things.
If it's a mental issue, visiting a therapist and discussing your lack of emotion could help you receive the treatment you need to start feeling again. I wish you well and hope you don't wait until you're in your 30s like I did before getting help for it.
@@xzonia1 Mix of depression, hating my body and Asperger's. Late 20s, have tried a variety of things but nothing has shown results.
@@jonlottgaming I'm sorry you have not had success yet with your mental health struggles. I hope they will find better treatment options soon. If I knew how to fix it, I would. I wish you a better, brighter future.
Keep doing what you're doing. Love you!
Mmmmm that's some tasty wisdom content! Thank you for treating us, Emma ♥ You've made my days brighter with the recent uploads
Emma 2015. The Bieber years? Love your content! And music! Still drinking from a Emma mug at work. ❤
I’m 24 an wow this video puts everything into a different perspective ❤
As a fan of your "five things I want you to hear" video. This is a perfect sequel to it. Thank your for all your advice emma. I relate so much to your experence in my own way
I think that I have something to add to this, being 42 and have a 14 year old where I'm having to put these life lessons into words as he is now starting to encounter things in life.
Negativity, it's literally everywhere, and not everyone had negative meaning to what they do. At the same time it's perfectly ok to remove negative people from your life, you don't need to keep them as friends. If they are dragging you down, there is nothing that you personally can do to help them if they are doing nothing for themselves. In the next 10 - 15 years the friend group will most likely change at least once, if you're under 18 it's more likely going to happen 3 times or more. You don't need to hang on to bad friends.
Always learn from the mistakes that you make, because your going to make a ton of them. your going to grow and change a lot over the next decade, the things I thought, did, and said back in to 90's and early 00's? I am not the same person that I was back then. By 44 you will not recognize the you that is sitting there reading this today.
Your body does know more than you, and it never lies to you. With this, take care of your body, eat food that is good for you, don't constantly over indulge, get cardio in every day, and if you can get some resistance training in atleast one day a week. Do you have anxiety attacks? shortness of breath? Have constant joint pain? How does you hair look? Your nails? How about your skin complextion?
Also Emma nailed it out of the park with not letting things linger, talk to people (preferably in person), and keep the BS and drama out of your life, it's too short. It was a blink of an eye and I was in my mid 20's and fighting people in multiple martial arts and saying "hey" for the first time to the woman I married.
Sir/Madam I so feel your pain as I'm in the same situation. 45 and with a 16 year old and worried sick about him(living with his mother 60 miles away) being let loose on this horrible horrific world we are building around to let our kids blossom, bloom and hopefully florish. If only we had emma back 25 years ago. Give her a chance she would only have been 7!!!
I used to do that with the phone all the time, i hated using it but now i have got over it and do call people most of the time, it's not something to fear!, i have always been my own person and have never followed the crowd and am now doing what i want to do, took enough crap letting people trying to control me over the years!, just be yourself and it's not selfish to put yourself first, you talk so much sense, Emma, we all leard from life and hopefully for the better!
Jesus that was 9 years ago! I remember watching gwen it was posted and I was going through a time of feeling very directionless. Your video at the time was very helpful and I would watch it as a pick me up through the rest of that year. Thank you Emma 🙂
I needed this video! I've been massively put down by a guy that I was seeing recently and I communicated with him that it upset me and ended things because it was making me feel so rubbish about myself.
I really really needed this video right now, thank you so much for the good things you put into this world :)
Thanks for the reminder to set up my appointment for my new ID! XD
How weird, I was thinking about TH-cam creators I used to watch whilst growing up and your channel was one of them. Algorithms and all that led to your content being recommended less and less, and a day later, without my typing anything relevant at the time, you’re recommended to me the day after. Love this type of video, thanks Emma. Hope you’re keeping well.
Emma, firstly thank you, because I also needed to hear the majority of your points and very grown up sound advice for a lady of only 32. Myself I'm 45 (you'd never believe you 32 giving life advice to a 45 year old crazy ain't it) my name is Justin and I suffer severely with Dyspraxia. (Wondering on your next screen what the hell is that) It's a very complicated Neurodivergent brain disorder which affects people so badly along with there daily routine that GP's attempt to sort a few symptons and not see the big picture. I will never get better from this it is with me for life but I have a 16 year old son who doesn't live with me who I'm understandably extremely worried for trying to put him right in the ways of the world from a distance as I live 60 miles away he lives with his mum and she is very narcissistic. I would love you to do more of these as coming from you and not (in his eyes) his boring old dad moaning on again. I think you are being and will be a tremendous help to me and him going forward. Followed you in the background since your weekly vlog days and that comicon trip to Amsterdam. Please do not stop. I'm determined to either get you another subscriber or somehow pass on the video through the magic of TH-cam and a very ageing Acer Windows 7 pro Laptop. Thank you immensly just Thank you!!!
Thank you so much for the lovely words. I will do my best to be a responsible voice of reason. I hope you know that just through your message I can see how much you care, and just in that, you’re doing a great job. Hang on in there. 👊🏻
@@emmablackery wow God bless you dear lady. God bless you. That is incredible in just about 30 words you've correctly summed me up that I wear my heart on my sleeve(sometimes too much for my own good). Also bringing a slight tear to my eye with the encouragement factor which trust me I don't get told often. Wow your just the greatest.
Loved your advice, Emma! I've missed these sorts of videos. Thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom with us. :)
How do you overcome fear of death Emma? Thank you for making this video, I’ve just turned 30 and I’m starting to worry so much about life and death since I’m starting to lose a lot of people in my life.
I guess since I’ve struggled with anxiety/panic issues surrounding family death since my teens, I’ve learned that 1) it will be horrible 2) it will keep happening 3) it is a part of life for everyone eventually, and that grief never goes away, we just grow around it. I am fortunate to have not lost a close one… ever. But it will happen, and it will hurt. One phrase that helped me the most was “worrying about it only makes you suffer twice”. We must savour every single moment where it isn’t a part of our lives. Lead with love instead of fear.
Bowing Down. Thank you, Emma
Been enjoying these recent videos.
Hi Emma, just wanted to say, I too have had chronic fatigue issues at an early time in my life. I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia at 18. Just wanted to say I know how it feels to have chronic fatigue get in the way of so much but you inspire me.
I am 42 and was born 1981. Still feeling great and missing not much in Life! Watching WWE since I was Eleven :-D And watching Emma since 11 Years. What a magic ;-) Thank You for this emotional Video Emma and keep on going. Just be Yourself, love Yourself and keep Up on Yourself. You are Great on who You are. Thank You for letting us being part of it. Best Greetings to You. :-)
i needed this today
THIS is such a great video ❤
At 29 the back ache is real (may have something to do with being 6'6) but ive also learned a lot of life lessons that people my age don't get chance to and I appreciate every second of learning them. Some of these are my favourites and i love to spread the wisdom right when friends need it.
That being said, it must be over 10(?) years since I've watched one of your videos and the algorithm suddenly brought you back to my feed for no apparent reason? I'm not complaining though, I'm extremely happy to see you still uploading and having learned all these lessons yourself and pushed through a multitude of difficulties to keep working on your music instead of a full time youtube career
This was lovely ♥️
great advice!
We all learn all the time, if we hadn't gone through what we have then we wouldn't be the person we are today. Life without life lessons must be a boring life.
This past year I’ve been struggling so much (depression,anxiety money problems,stress is massive but I’ve learnt it’s not gonna last forever I’ve got stay positive and just get out of bed have coffee and try be productive and im lucky I’ve got people around me who I love dearly My girlfriend is my biggest supporter
awesome vid dude 😁
Giiiirl, I love you so much
I remember watching a video of Emmas's in high school about confidence, and now, in my near 30s, watching this video
Jokes on you Emma, Ive had back pain since I was 16 😎
Really fantastic video though. Appreciate your honesty because theres some stuff I really needed to hear. Would love some more introspective content in the future
"You know what I'm fucking saying." Emma 2024. hehehehe, oh Im just being funny. Theres some great advice here! Like making phone calls, ugh, and listening to your body. Two things that can save your ass.
This is probably the weirdest comment I have ever written, but you are sitting so close to the camera that I CANT make eye contact with you 😅 Its okay, Im definitely still listening
This is a lot of good advice, and I just want to add my own; you are NEVER the smartest person in the room, even when you're alone. I'm not talking about anything religious, I'm saying that you can ALWAYS find ways to improve and be better, NEVER STOP LEARNING!!! If someone teaches you how to do something, but you accidentally find something that makes it easier and faster for you without sacrificing the quality of the work, don't be afraid of telling the person who taught you. The people who want the best out of you will WANT to know what you know, they'll want to try it themselves, only dicks make you do it "by the book" absolutely EVERY time.
Also, I'm 38, last weekend was the first birthday I've had that I wasn't severely depressed. Life can get better, and I know trying is hard, but you guys can do it. That back pain is ABSOLUTELY coming for you, and if you served in the military, it starts in your 20's and then it's a snowball of absolutely everything hurting.
You couldn’t be more correct!!!
@@emmablackery Someone who knows more will be along in one second, sorry, felt I had to reply with a dad joke.
'more than likely been your age' - I am a month older than you and still watching 😅 32, I am 33 in october haha!
Thirties? You're in your _thirties_ now?! Oh, god, I really am pushing 60 ...
I'm a whale, sorry, male in my 40's, it's kinda cool to hear the other gender talk about this =)
We miss you
I’m right here!
This made me LOL X)
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Allow me to be a f-ing arse... Im 45 and see things like this all the time, you are not old when you are in the late 20:is or even in the 30:ish. You are not older then you make yourself out to be. I cant count the amount of time i have been called "old man" by girl an boys in the late teens or early 20:ies. THAT is just ignorance. Im having probably the best time so far in my life, i have a mother that is close to 70 also having the best time ever.
The problem is videos like this hinting that your life has past before you are even 30.... Your life havent even started yet!!! Fucking live it!! And yes im not native English so dont say anything about spelling, you know what i mean!!
Life is definitely not over at 30! I say in the video I realised that, and people shouldn’t be afraid of getting older and fearing how society sees us… we only get better with age and the lessons that come with it!
It's horrible but I sit there thinking "I remember when I was that young...."
Happy Friday, Emma! And welcome to the eighth month of August!😊😊😊😊😊😎☀💙💙💙💙💙💙🇺🇸🌷🇬🇧💜💜💜💜💜💜🎇🎇🎇🎇🎇🎇👍. These 7 things are amazing to concentrate and follow the steps. Well done!💜🎇💜🎇💜🎇💜🎇💜🎇💜🎇💜🎇👍
I miss being young… 42 so old and past it.
There's a meaning behind your age, if I could just recall it.... 😁
I have a few years on you and if you think you're past it now, just wait, the really good stuff is to come.
It certainly is not!! Life becomes more fun when you learn to filter out the unnecessary noise, which really only happens with age.
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I need to reschedule a dentists appointment, maybe I should actually call them this time and not leave a voicemail after closing hours...? 😅 That's my goal for now!
So I'm same age as Emma (think about a week or two difference)? Anyway she right. The older you get the more you don't give a crap about other people's bullshit and standing up for yourself. You don't have time for the nonsense.
And yea you make alot of dumb mistakes in your teens and 20s. Mouthing off. Upsetting people. Bad choice of words. You will post stupid shit on the Internet that you regret. But tbh being in your 30s is not bad at all. I've had more fun, more love and respect for people and myself since my late 20s and early 30s then I have for my entire life prior. My husband is my best friend and we have so many stupidly fun adventures all the time. We enjoy each others company and life for the most part gets better. There is shit in the world and lives are messy but bing able to still engage with the world when you want to and need to not because someone demands it is so liberating.
Also that lower back pain. Yep that can go to hell.
Had upper back pain since I was a teenager but ignored it. Lower back pain is just a twat :')
0:28 That hairstyle tho...
Hah I was growing out a shaved head!
@@emmablackery I think with your natural hair colour, you could actually pull it off, lowkey
I didn’t at all! 🤣
@@emmablackery Ok, now that I looked at it again, yeah, I agree
22 year old: Noted.
Tip; The older you get the more difficult it is to eat pizza late at night
Truthhhh
Sounds like its time you started going to the gym Emma, it keeps you younger for longer your body heals three times faster and also heals better there are also many other benefits from training and it will strengthen your back up and raise your energy levels, its hard at first but six months in you won't want to stop, I ask you to trust me and step forwards on this matter and let me know how it goes, Big Respect Emma 😎
I’ve used the gym before in my life and never had that “want to keep going” thing. Also, with immune issues, it isn’t just regular muscle fatigue you get the day after - it can really affect those with ME/CFS. I’d prefer advice to be more attitude-based than physical-based for these comments.
@@emmablackery I have been training my self and young men who wanted a military career for many years now and I have watched them go from being boys to men I also do a lot of boxing on conditioning bags which destroys your hands but because I have been doing this for so long my hands and elbows heal within a few days and so do any other cuts or bruises, I am 52 now and have been training since I was 17 and Rome was not built in a Day ❤️
Here’s your advice, get married and start having kids before your 30, it’s that simple and everything else god sets you on your correct path
I don’t know if that’s good advice for everyone. We all mature at different stages and have our own issues to work through. Also, not everyone’s meant to be a spouse/parent. Be in a healthy place where you can truly love yourself before committing to such lifelong choices.
Mate, not everyone wants kids and that's okay.
I myself decided at nine that I'd never be a mom and I've held to that even to this day when I'm in my 40s.
Also, not everyone believes in your god and that's okay too.
I’m 28 and I can’t afford my own place. Even if I end up wanting kids, I am also worried I won’t be able to afford having kids in time, or be able to afford a place with more than one room 😐 That kind of advice just makes me feel more behind than I already do 😅
I’m not about to have a baby in these circumstances and put a strain on everyone around me.
@@LauraDora124 Good on you for being responsible. I feel like too many people have children without giving thought to the fact that this precious little baby they have is going to be a person one day. Bringing a person into this world when you're hardly financially capable of looking after yourself is not just irresponsible, I would consider it very selfish and even a little bit evil.
Even if you’re not prepared to have kids your priorities change drastically and something in your brain switches where you automatically mature and become responsible. Having and raising a family is the greatest gift any human can have or give. That no money can buy or fame. Seeing your kids grow in front of your eyes is something any father or mother really enjoys in life.Once you have a family you’ll do anything to make them happy. And if you have god in your life, god can help you live and find the answers you can’t find. That’s why so many people are unhappy and hurt others.
Much needed advices!! 🥹♥️ And damm that video was at 2015! We getting old! 🥲♥️
Damn this is so on point. Thank you for sharing this kind of content Emma 🖤
Glad it could be of help!!