Or in the very least, they had their eye on someone else while having sex with their girlfriends. They're already entertaining the idea of the other attractive woman before they break up with the one they already have and their girlfriends are usually the ones that truly love them, not the one that they're newly obsessed with.
Men very often move on quickly because they never stop " shopping" for other women during the relationship. So, by the time the relationship is over, there is a lady in waiting, ready to fill the empty slot .😊
I don't usually generalize but ANYONE that goes from person to person without a break is BROKEN!!! They are in DESPERATE need of healing! However, they will use another person as a placeholder instead of allowing God to work on them! Beware of ANYONE that has never been alone for an extended period of time! Also, ask them what they did during that time to heal and improve.
This happened to my parents divorced at 28 years of marriage, my dad hopped into a relationship then marriage with a complete crazy lady & he’s miserable … but my mom is still single thriving & content
Most of the time the men are causing the trauma and then they can't cope with the aftermath of the trauma THEY initially caused. This is sick and they need to stay alone until they go through some deep soul searching, therapy, and connection with God.
They have insatiable desires which, without God, 🙏 will never be tamed. They still need intercourse so breaking up doesn't change that. They'll always seek intercourse even moreso when they are single. However, men have feelings and emotions. They're different from us but they still have emotions. They can be emotionally tied to a woman, love her, dearly, and their hearts ache like anyone else's. They're just not going to go around crying 😭 in front of people like we do. Society accepts us doing that..not men.
So true men never stay single for long … but my kids father he been single for 15 years he says he doesn’t want the headache that comes with relationships
All my ex boyfriend's had back up women they were hiding at their job's. Then when they broke up with me they pretended like they miraculously found a girlfriend in a week, but I knew better. Men are slaves to their s3x drives and can't go without it.
The only men I've seen that move on fast are narcissists who never treated their wives well to begin with. The good men really suffer and grieve for their loss.
I wouldn’t give a damn if he up graded or down graded once I’m off you! I’m off you! I could give a damn how he feel or felt about me! And he could never come back this way! Be blessed
So true! The best decision I made after my last relationship ended was to pause on dating & relationships and focus on healing. Thanks for putting everything in perspective Tony.
I’ve experienced that. I feel like the sweet and innocent type and men ( specifically BM) have tried to get over me and just think I’d agree to things.
They don’t realize that most of the time we don’t want them back. When you get good and tired and you have walked away and are healing . Why would you ever go back. Block them on everything and move on. Bye ✌🏾 don’t come back
The way Tony speaks about men gives me no incentive to even be with one. It’s like women are setup to live in misery with a man, unless he decides to be decent. But how often does that happen?
That's why it's better to wait long then marry wrong. If marriage is what God has for us, He'll send us the man he's ordained us to be with. This person will love you as God loves the church. 💌🙏🏾
It’s not the end of the world to be without a man. You can still “deal” with men and not love them nor give them the power to hurt you. Just live your life.
Idk why ladies ask this question, you should move on too & not worry about what man doing, move on to a new hobby, new makeup, new clothes, new business, new home, new car, new career, it’s so many things to focus on
Brother Tony is NOT explaining what SOME men do he’s explaining the nature of men. I think we are struggling with accepting how men really are. If we accept what Tony is saying we can move differently and avoid hurt and danger. It hurts to hear these things. Yes. But knowledge is power. Luv ya Sis.
I feel so devastated learning the nature of men... I have a hard time liking them. They want us to play all of these games to show our value and do all of these backflips
@@catcat9582 listening to Tony has really enlightened me and I thought I knew all there was to know having been raised by my father and having a lot of male friends who were like brothers. I have still at times been totally dumbfounded by what I thought versus how things really are!
I can answer this because they dont give a dam! Tony these men dont care, thats why they rarely ever apologize to women, they want you move on from their foolery in 24 hours 😂......Tony ya boys just a HOT ASHY MESS!!! 😂
That’s why women should always have a side dude … when in a relationship also when dating she should date multiple men cuz trust these men are sure dating multiple women
I know that they are crying, those reprobate mindsets, bc they’re plans of destruction towards another human being backfired. Don’t they know God is watching?
🎯. And they probably got what they needed. It’s not just that they’re not enjoying it enough they’ll like to have someone to be around. Men are simple.
It's so many headlines here in FL lately with men taking their girlfriends/baby moma & KIDS lives...it reminds me when you talk about how much of a beast a man can truly be & the things men can be capable of...
@@winning3329 It's definitely scary out here not knowing what you may get in a partner. People present one way & turn out to do & say some unimaginable things..
This happened to me as I dated a man for 4 years and I wanted to be married he said no-we broke up and year later he got married to another woman -i was devastated
The mind of man completely baffles me. So much so that it makes me fall more in love with being single. Lol. I don't understand how a man is in so much pain and agony over a relationship he chose to leave. Him being left makes more sense. But to choose to leave and be sad and crying, sounds like a mental illness. Lbs!
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That’s what my ex did to me he already had a replacement as soon as he dumped me. He is needy and a selfish person who can’t be alone. I’m good now as long as have God in my life. I have survived this 6 month break up without looking for him because I miss. No more I’m much stronger now then I was last year. I hope he is truly happy with his new down grade lover 😅
They loss interest during the course of the relationship. Probably try to fix whatever issue in it, but got tired and emotionally checked out. They didnt move on fast, they was over the relationship before it ended
Okay Sir zero I can see your comment history. Play nice, Sir. The majority of the women here are actively healing, some from pretty hurtful things. Please be positive, because remember the good Lord is watching all of us. Thank you, and good night. 🙏🏽
Thank you for sharing this as a man. I feel this. Men do struggle & are sensitive. As women we have way more endurance and show more of unconditional love. Lord knows we have our flaws, but we carry so much forgiveness, favor and grace; we love deeply & are not so easy to let go especially towards our men. As a single woman missing someone, I know too I have to be strong enough not to break. I still pray for him & love him regardless. I don't know what my future holds. I simply pray my strength🙏🏽
I was heavily involved with a man for six years. When I expressed I wanted more: "I was clear. Goodbye." I was shocked to say the least. When they don't love you, THEY DON'T LOVE YOU.
This happened to me recently about a month ago, I was pursued for months and then just blocked! I wish him nothing but the best. I know he wasn't supposed in my life in the first place. I was nothing but patience and kind to this person. I wasn't enough for him and I'm ok with that! What I'm not ok with is the nerve of him thinking that's it ok to keep injection himself into my life when he's in a new relationship and tell me he's my soul mate!
Cultivate individual relationship with GOD - only He knows the road ahead 🙏🏾... Heal and be WHOLE. All of the mind games, the web of lies, the triple lives folks trying to sustain...sheesh ! Idk why its so hard to do the right thing and stop being a fraud. That's self-hate at its best...."let love be without hypocrisy" Romans 12:9
That will always be a million dollar question …. Seen it first hand myself. Had many male family members bury their wives. Next thing you know they’ve already have a lady friend/about to tie the knot. I’m thinking to myself, “Damn, your other lady is still lukewarm” in the ground. Even if a death hasn’t occurred; you look up and the guy is already with someone else. Some folks holler about women being needy, etc. I don’t know about that….because some men move real quick…they don’t even have to be over the last person. Low key, some still trying to “get back”….but yeah, I would like a valid answer to this question….not really sure why if it’ll ever be one though…
@TonyGaskins in one of your videos I watched last year you said woman should not play with men and cheat on them because they respond so differently I tell you boy Tubi TV has a movie on there called “GoodMan” that movie is a movie that should be in theaters to show individuals why we should not be out here playing with each others emotions and feelings great movie and a lesson as well
My son dad did me so dirt when I was in the hospital 😭 he was sleeping around and said I was canceled while in labor now he in jail I changed my number before I did he was talking about starting all over again and he said I should trust myself so I changed my number we haven't spoke since January 14 up to now our son is about to be one it's hard but I'm doing my best every time to stay strong his about to walk. I be thinking why did he do me like he did
But they don’t really get over the relationship bc they don’t give themselves time to reflect and heal, they continue to do the same in the next relationship, all that baggage, and want to put all the blame on women past/present. Then when they get older and that certain thing/health declines on their bodies then they say/pretend to want to settle down but really they are looking for a nursemaid, hopefully with her own bag that they can siphon off of pretending, still carrying that baggage, future faking, etc. till the end of their time with most not having insurance or a positive legacy for their children.
Honey they don't ever get over the relationship. They bury it and one day it will come to surface. They get "tired" even if nothing is happening. They rationalize their behavior by claiming they have to get hurt to "build character" and "get it out of their system". But one day it will come to surface. They will call their ex and ask her to take him back. Turns out other females are not checking for them they way they thought they would. Their rush to get into another relationship or become hypers*xual was just a coping mechanism. Honestly, most of them should've married a woman they knew a long time ago, but they didn't. God forbid a woman does the same thing to them, all hell breaks loose and his manhood is under attack 😂😂😂😂 They're hella emotional and conflicted. I'm not even Christian, but as someone who does follow an Abrahamic faith, I can tell you, someone can tell themselves that they've "moved on", but God won't let you "move on". And they seem to forget that. They be telling you women hit the wall, meanwhile these men out here are hitting the great wall of China 😂😂😂😂
My dad did this with a woman who just wanted his life insurance policy and she gave him something to exasperate a heart attack, where he died…had only been with her 4 months, was married to my mother for 30+ years 🤦🏼♀️
Thank you for this video Tony🙌🏽 after putting my foot down and wanting better for myself. He goes and gets somebody 10 yrs younger than me. He’s 42 she just turned 25. Not gonna lie I def took a blow on this one. But im standing my ground I’ve completely blocked him and I’ll just focus on healing and starving out this soul tie. I REFUSE to go back 😩😩😩
I really want to know what these young women are thinking when they waste their youth on old men. When I was 18-25 I had tons of older men hit on me and I thought they were disgusting. You didn't lose anything special don't even sweat it. He sounds like a dirty old pervert.
@@rosewatersweettea men interested in dating you at this age….major red flags and you are in a for a treat. They are looking for someone they can control and manipulate while you’re oblivious to it thinking you hit gold. This poor young lady has no idea what she is in for. I barley escaped with my mental health in tact. There are things you won’t even understand ay your age.
@Naomi Brown Very well said. 😊 People who only want to date those who are _significantly_ younger than them wants someone they can parade around and prey on. Yes, there are exceptions as Tony states, but once that age gap widens to where he/she could be the parent of the people they seek to date that's lunacy. I can't even look at men 20 years younger than me and think they are anything other than cute. So much perversion in this world.
Yes ….for this reason only ….forever I don’t TRUST no man .🤷🏻♀️ thank you for this validation from you ….stalking anyone is a CRIME . DV and coercive control is a CRIME as well .
Good video, Tony. Most women are naturally more mystical, empathic, and nurturing and that is why we can heal faster and connect with our feelings. Also, women have a support group with other women in their lives to lean on.
This explains A LOT for my first relationship. It's affected me ever since. I've pretty much affected me in attracting men who monkey branch to someone else as soon as we break up. I'm someone who loves fully in a relationship and will give, give, give against my better judgement ( I'm doing better at setting boundaries and being clear about the treatment I accept). My first boyfriend moved on to an "upgrade" and didn't treat me well but did treat her well. And men do usually treat more attractive women better, because they could lose them and they're more of a risk in losing. So they'll grow up for her and be a bit nicer towards her even if it's only for a couple of years or so. I don't want to attract that anymore. I want to attract the one that never leaves and is faithful. It can be hard to trust out there. There are good men out there, sometimes they're already taken. Many broken ones are left. I want a healed one, as I am healing.
I left my ex and about 4 weeks later he came into my work ( I was off this day) on a date lol. Thankfully we were only together a month and had basically no soul tie. A few days after we broke up he followed about 60 new accounts on Instagram. All women. Yes I stalked him just a tad 😅 I don’t know if he was entertaining anyone else while we were together but he sure is trying to prove a point lol smh.
So many nuggets! So much wisdom . Thank you, Tony! “Someone once told me sometimes you are the lesson someone needs to go through to change who they are” .. and this doesn’t mean they’ll come back when they do- that’s the hardest part about losing/walking away from someone you love. enduring the pain of healing from the heartbreak, seeing them move on, and then seeing them finally change & treat someone better than how they treated you; hard pill to swallow but the most rewarding because it teaches us lessons & prepares us for hopefully a better relationship (if we do the work we need to do in ourselves, of course) 🙏🏽 be blessed!
Tony, I enjoy your teachings. But, let me add in a caveat WOMEN GO THROUGH WITHDRAWALS TOO. WE go through hell prior to leaving & the affects can be catastrophic for us as well. For this reason, we're better off staying to ourselves UNTIL we are certain b/c them copays for therapy & how our bodies physically change ain't no joke.
Thank you for this video and thank you for always showing up for us! You have taught me SO much since subscribing to you in 2020! Your videos on relationships and business (really all of them) and your entrepreneurship to purpose course has taught me a lot and has motivated me to follow my purpose! I know you say don’t praise you but I just wanted to sincerely thank you and your family because y’all are a beautiful representative of what we all can obtain! GOD (YAHWEH) bless you TG!
I’ll admit I made this mistake but not this time I’m really healing and accepting being alone for a while so I can attract better. And to be honest the women I’ve dealt with move on way faster than me my most recent ex is already dating and we ain’t been broken up 30 days
I agree! He already knew the lady that he is now with meaning he was cheating on you! You were a rebound. I have been a rebound (once) before unbeknownst to me! ***Beware of rebound relationships ladies! **** You know what? God himself is going to have to come down from His throne before I get marry. I am tired of this bull crap. It's just seems like a bunch of games to me! It just seems like a bunch of problems! I don't need a problem. I am very capable of creating my own problems😳! Why would you take someone back? If he left, he left for a reason right? This is crazy! 🙄 Naw... You are not coming back! Thanks but No Thanks! Best wishes though! I wish you the best! No hard feelings but you made your decision as far as I am concerned and it wasn't me so maybe there is someone better... Just keep searching, you'll find her! Don't give up so quickly! If you need help, I will help you find someone else.....
Same thing happened to be, I put 2 and 2 together after it was over and realized I was unfortunantly a (Rebound chick/ relationship as well) smh- those are the worse
@@whit9560 well don't be hard on yourself. We didn't know but now we are empowered and know what to look out for. It was a great lesson learned. So I say Thank you B.H. for teaching me about rebounding! 😄
👏🏽THANK YOU TONY. I THANK GOD FOR YOU & YOUR HONESTY BECAUSE IT IS TRULY A RARITY. EVEN THOUGH I AM SINGLE WAITING ON THE MAN GOD CHOSE FOR ME. I STILL ENJOY LEARNING & STAYING READY, SO I WON’T HAVE TO GET READY WHEN HE FINDS ME, HIS WIFE😉🙌🏾. GOD BLESS YOU, MRS. GASKINS & YOUR FAMILY. 🙏🏾❤️✝️
Sorry it just looks like a pansy move when they jump from women to women and can’t process their feelings like a rational logical adult. Some people may not have been taught that growing up, but at a certain point you choose to be the way you are. Step up and develop. I’m glad women are getting stronger lately and raising the bars.
Well personally, my ex already detached himself and grieved the end of the relationship before so even knew he wanted out of our 25 year marriage. So it was easy for him to quickly move on after he finally told me he wanted out. My grieving period then just started while he was able to quickly move on, and have the new person he just met on an Ap, into our marital home, while we were still not divorced. They live happily ever after three years later. I am not mad at him for being courageous and saying it’s over, and moving on so quickly, I am mad that he turned into a total stranger, and conducted the divorce as if I was a random he just met. He kept the house and didn’t pay me out and my dumb butt signed the agreement. Oh well lesson learned.
@@teresawelch3756 im glad you didn’t walk away and are in court. I left without almost nothing because I couldn’t fight with him in court even though the house was also half mine. I just didn’t have the strength. So I advise anybody, stand up for what you are entitled too.
it hurts so bad though. we were so connected and i never thought we couldnt leave each other. even on friendly terms. we had to end things, but we were still good friends. i thought he took the time he was being distant from me to really process his emotions. but he was actually talking to another girl within a week. he blocked me even tho we said were still dawgs. it may hurt to be friends with someone you cant date, yeah, but why did he stop being friends even with another girl? it feels like he doesnt care at all. this video did help though, and gave me new perspectives. this was my first almost boyfriend too, and he meant everything to me. so, to see him leave so easily and nonchalantly hurts so bad. im hurting over him for so long meanwhile he moved on so easily like i was nothing. i will be hurting for so long and it angers me to know he might not be hurting about me. we were so so so close together and liked each other so much. i could tell. but now its so easily down the drain in less than a week. ouch... i just need answers. a lot of answers. i hope he is dating this new girl to try to get over me, because if not then that hurts a lot. how could he just be so nonchalant about this...
we were so close too. from one day we were still good friends and laughing, but that was the same day i saw him with another girl. and just the next day he barely talked to me, and when i got home i was blocked. i want answers. answers, answers, answers.
Men move on fast because they had your replacement ready to go before you broke up.
Or in the very least, they had their eye on someone else while having sex with their girlfriends. They're already entertaining the idea of the other attractive woman before they break up with the one they already have and their girlfriends are usually the ones that truly love them, not the one that they're newly obsessed with.
It’s called codependency! A man who doesn’t know how to be alone at least for a while is a red flag to me!
I don’t think any of them do
Very well said!
Very true and yes it should be a red flag because there usually is some overlapping!!
I don't even deal with clingy people
Exactly 💯💯💯
Men very often move on quickly because they never stop " shopping" for other women during the relationship. So, by the time the relationship is over, there is a lady in waiting, ready to fill the empty slot .😊
This is so true 👍
Yes 💯
This is my situation, im so heartbroken 😞
@@whyherrodere3784 praying for your healing in Jesus name 🙏🏽
"Empty slot" .... no pun intended 😂
I don't usually generalize but ANYONE that goes from person to person without a break is BROKEN!!! They are in DESPERATE need of healing! However, they will use another person as a placeholder instead of allowing God to work on them! Beware of ANYONE that has never been alone for an extended period of time! Also, ask them what they did during that time to heal and improve.
This is why s3x needs to be taken off the table in every relationship.
Men who have a high body make lousy partners.
Avoid these types of men.
Facts!!!! 💯💯💯
Absolutely correct! My ex is a perfect example of your statement.
IKR ...
Factual information ❤
This happened to my parents divorced at 28 years of marriage, my dad hopped into a relationship then marriage with a complete crazy lady & he’s miserable … but my mom is still single thriving & content
See.....I bet he wish he could crawl back to yo mom.....but that pride is real.....po thing
This does not surprise me. Sorry (for you) that your parents got divorced.
sounds like a familiar story.
I can definitely relate. Was married 28 years. Same scenario…. Your mom is way better off without him.
Good for him my dad also made my mom suffer and he left her now his miserable
They don't want to go through the pain of the breakup so they rush into something else to distract them.
Most of the time the men are causing the trauma and then they can't cope with the aftermath of the trauma THEY initially caused. This is sick and they need to stay alone until they go through some deep soul searching, therapy, and connection with God.
Because they aren't emotionally invested like women.
Bingo 🎯
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They have insatiable desires which, without God, 🙏 will never be tamed. They still need intercourse so breaking up doesn't change that. They'll always seek intercourse even moreso when they are single.
However, men have feelings and emotions. They're different from us but they still have emotions. They can be emotionally tied to a woman, love her, dearly, and their hearts ache like anyone else's. They're just not going to go around crying 😭 in front of people like we do. Society accepts us doing that..not men.
He wasnt the one
True
Men will never completely be single like women can. They usually are always entertaining women
So true men never stay single for long … but my kids father he been single for 15 years he says he doesn’t want the headache that comes with relationships
For sho....they always got a piece of cookie somewhr😂
All my ex boyfriend's had back up women they were hiding at their job's.
Then when they broke up with me they pretended like they miraculously found a girlfriend in a week, but I knew better.
Men are slaves to their s3x drives and can't go without it.
Facts!
Because they already had another woman lined up to take your spot.
That part!
Exactly
The only men I've seen that move on fast are narcissists who never treated their wives well to begin with. The good men really suffer and grieve for their loss.
Yes! I wanna meet someone who has really gone through the process and DONE THE WORK.
So right . My now x is a narcissit
I wouldn’t give a damn if he up graded or down graded once I’m off you! I’m off you! I could give a damn how he feel or felt about me! And he could never come back this way! Be blessed
Same here
They be already talking to that person behind the scenes.
Sad but true!
So true! The best decision I made after my last relationship ended was to pause on dating & relationships and focus on healing. Thanks for putting everything in perspective Tony.
Yes this!! For me too! 👏🏾💯
Sometimes when you see through their bs, they know they can’t get you so easy so they move on to the next target
I’ve experienced that. I feel like the sweet and innocent type and men ( specifically BM) have tried to get over me and just think I’d agree to things.
@@j-tenn226 yup n they seem surprised when you don’t fall for it
@@j-tenn226 yup n they seem surprised when you don’t fall for it
LORD..... HEAL THESE MEN IS ALL I'LL PRAY!
They don’t realize that most of the time we don’t want them back. When you get good and tired and you have walked away and are healing . Why would you ever go back. Block them on everything and move on. Bye ✌🏾 don’t come back
The way Tony speaks about men gives me no incentive to even be with one. It’s like women are setup to live in misery with a man, unless he decides to be decent. But how often does that happen?
It is indeed rare for a man to be true blue. I'm choosing to be single and satisfied🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
That's why it's better to wait long then marry wrong. If marriage is what God has for us, He'll send us the man he's ordained us to be with. This person will love you as God loves the church. 💌🙏🏾
Rarely
Tony is right. Ladies it's not the end of the World. Change your focus. There are so many wonderful hobbies to enjoy. Enjoy Life!!!!
It’s not the end of the world to be without a man. You can still “deal” with men and not love them nor give them the power to hurt you. Just live your life.
Idk why ladies ask this question, you should move on too & not worry about what man doing, move on to a new hobby, new makeup, new clothes, new business, new home, new car, new career, it’s so many things to focus on
They move on fast because they don’t intend to stay in the first place.
They move on so fast to mask that pain 😵
💯 right
There’s no way a person can love you and cheat on you. You do NOT love a person you cheat on
Brother Tony is NOT explaining what SOME men do he’s explaining the nature of men. I think we are struggling with accepting how men really are. If we accept what Tony is saying we can move differently and avoid hurt and danger. It hurts to hear these things. Yes. But knowledge is power. Luv ya Sis.
Big FACTS!!
I feel so devastated learning the nature of men... I have a hard time liking them. They want us to play all of these games to show our value and do all of these backflips
@@catcat9582 listening to Tony has really enlightened me and I thought I knew all there was to know having been raised by my father and having a lot of male friends who were like brothers. I have still at times been totally dumbfounded by what I thought versus how things really are!
Women are Queens ... we can go through so much & heal, then turn around give love another chance... 💯 Powerful.. great video
Yes we are very powerful and men don't understand that. They call us weak when really they're the weak ones.
I love this and I agree. We are real Queens 👑
I had an ex that left me when he thought he found a new girl. And they got a divorce because he is psychotic. For the streets 😂
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I can answer this because they dont give a dam! Tony these men dont care, thats why they rarely ever apologize to women, they want you move on from their foolery in 24 hours 😂......Tony ya boys just a HOT ASHY MESS!!! 😂
Glad somebody said it
Lmfao yes girl. They so damn lame
Men don’t move on because they always return if you allow them to.
So true
So true
I used to be that girl who would have my door open for any ex to come back and flirt with me for companionship. So embarrassing
A man moving on fast after a breakup is one thing, it's cheating while in the relationship that hurts me to my core.🙏🏽😩😢💔💔💔
That’s why women should always have a side dude … when in a relationship also when dating she should date multiple men cuz trust these men are sure dating multiple women
Because they were never fully there and most likely was still in contact with an ex or another person. Men cannot be alone.
Most men don't know how to be alone, unless he has a relationship with Jesus Christ that's normally the only way a man can be alone.
Men cry in the middle of the night 😂
I know that they are crying, those reprobate mindsets, bc they’re plans of destruction towards another human being backfired. Don’t they know God is watching?
😂😂😂
Lmaoooo I just bust out laughing at that too 😅😅😅😅
Thanks for the laugh 😅
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I just can't picture that one.
Because they don't like being on their own ..
🎯. And they probably got what they needed. It’s not just that they’re not enjoying it enough they’ll like to have someone to be around. Men are simple.
It's so many headlines here in FL lately with men taking their girlfriends/baby moma & KIDS lives...it reminds me when you talk about how much of a beast a man can truly be & the things men can be capable of...
This is why I'm scared of dating men.
I've been 3 years celibate going on 4 and I'm happy.
@@winning3329 It's definitely scary out here not knowing what you may get in a partner. People present one way & turn out to do & say some unimaginable things..
This happened to me as I dated a man for 4 years and I wanted to be married he said no-we broke up and year later he got married to another woman -i was devastated
The mind of man completely baffles me. So much so that it makes me fall more in love with being single. Lol. I don't understand how a man is in so much pain and agony over a relationship he chose to leave. Him being left makes more sense. But to choose to leave and be sad and crying, sounds like a mental illness. Lbs!
Me too :(
On behalf of myself, those who are scared to say it, forgot to say it and may be ashame to say it... we'd like to thank you wholeheartedly for extending the date on the courses. We do appreciate you and all your hard work. Thanks again for everything. Be blessed.
That’s what my ex did to me he already had a replacement as soon as he dumped me. He is needy and a selfish person who can’t be alone. I’m good now as long as have God in my life. I have survived this 6 month break up without looking for him because I miss. No more I’m much stronger now then I was last year. I hope he is truly happy with his new down grade lover 😅
They loss interest during the course of the relationship. Probably try to fix whatever issue in it, but got tired and emotionally checked out. They didnt move on fast, they was over the relationship before it ended
Y’all really just out here tryna spread nonsense? Y’all really need to go to the Creator so y’all can heal, grow and mature. Cause lord 🤦🏾♀️
Laughing u have the right name because you are what you are (a zero)
if they were “over” the relationship, why not just leave? Smells like a broken man to me 🤷🏽♀️
Okay Sir zero I can see your comment history. Play nice, Sir. The majority of the women here are actively healing, some from pretty hurtful things. Please be positive, because remember the good Lord is watching all of us. Thank you, and good night. 🙏🏽
Unfortunately this is true, we just want to be in denial about it due to ego.
This just helped me rid some anger with understanding 💪🏾
Yup
Thank you for sharing this as a man. I feel this. Men do struggle & are sensitive. As women we have way more endurance and show more of unconditional love. Lord knows we have our flaws, but we carry so much forgiveness, favor and grace; we love deeply & are not so easy to let go especially towards our men. As a single woman missing someone, I know too I have to be strong enough not to break. I still pray for him & love him regardless. I don't know what my future holds. I simply pray my strength🙏🏽
Most men can’t be alone. Women were made for men. On the other hand man was not created for woman so standing alone for us is easier!
That's big bars right there!
I was heavily involved with a man for six years. When I expressed I wanted more: "I was clear. Goodbye." I was shocked to say the least. When they don't love you, THEY DON'T LOVE YOU.
I think it’s more women then men so it’s easier for men to find a decent woman then a woman to find a decent man
This the ☝🏼
This is An ABSOLUTE FACT 💯
Men will settle with any woman because vag!na has no face to them. Men don't date for love they only date for s3x.
Truth
If you check the stats that's not actually true. They are usually fairly equal and any time there's a sex that is more its men
This happened to me recently about a month ago, I was pursued for months and then just blocked! I wish him nothing but the best. I know he wasn't supposed in my life in the first place. I was nothing but patience and kind to this person. I wasn't enough for him and I'm ok with that! What I'm not ok with is the nerve of him thinking that's it ok to keep injection himself into my life when he's in a new relationship and tell me he's my soul mate!
ME TOO 😢💯💯. It hurts but im moving on! Cause there nothing i can do to change his mind !🤷🏾♀️
Cultivate individual relationship with GOD - only He knows the road ahead 🙏🏾... Heal and be WHOLE. All of the mind games, the web of lies, the triple lives folks trying to sustain...sheesh ! Idk why its so hard to do the right thing and stop being a fraud. That's self-hate at its best...."let love be without hypocrisy" Romans 12:9
Because they don’t invest as much into a relationship like women do
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS BECAUSE THAT JUST MEANS HE WASN'T FOR ME 🙌🤞.
Men usually only want one thing, and it isn't love.... 🍑
“Does he regret it? Only if she’s not an upgrade.” TG
That will always be a million dollar question …. Seen it first hand myself. Had many male family members bury their wives. Next thing you know they’ve already have a lady friend/about to tie the knot. I’m thinking to myself, “Damn, your other lady is still lukewarm” in the ground. Even if a death hasn’t occurred; you look up and the guy is already with someone else. Some folks holler about women being needy, etc. I don’t know about that….because some men move real quick…they don’t even have to be over the last person. Low key, some still trying to “get back”….but yeah, I would like a valid answer to this question….not really sure why if it’ll ever be one though…
@TonyGaskins in one of your videos I watched last year you said woman should not play with men and cheat on them because they respond so differently I tell you boy Tubi TV has a movie on there called “GoodMan” that movie is a movie that should be in theaters to show individuals why we should not be out here playing with each others emotions and feelings great movie and a lesson as well
Yes a good movie
I seen that movie too, and yes he right ! that movie was a real example of what happens and or what can happen in real life
One person I like to listen to wen it comes to advice
My son dad did me so dirt when I was in the hospital 😭 he was sleeping around and said I was canceled while in labor now he in jail I changed my number before I did he was talking about starting all over again and he said I should trust myself so I changed my number we haven't spoke since January 14 up to now our son is about to be one it's hard but I'm doing my best every time to stay strong his about to walk. I be thinking why did he do me like he did
Because they chose 2. Been tired of the relationship.... One way to get over relationship quick and fast. 2 each their own..
But they don’t really get over the relationship bc they don’t give themselves time to reflect and heal, they continue to do the same in the next relationship, all that baggage, and want to put all the blame on women past/present. Then when they get older and that certain thing/health declines
on their bodies
then they say/pretend to want to settle down but really they are looking for a nursemaid, hopefully with her own bag that they can siphon off of pretending, still carrying that baggage, future faking, etc. till the end of their time with most not having insurance or a positive legacy for their children.
Honey they don't ever get over the relationship. They bury it and one day it will come to surface. They get "tired" even if nothing is happening. They rationalize their behavior by claiming they have to get hurt to "build character" and "get it out of their system". But one day it will come to surface. They will call their ex and ask her to take him back. Turns out other females are not checking for them they way they thought they would. Their rush to get into another relationship or become hypers*xual was just a coping mechanism. Honestly, most of them should've married a woman they knew a long time ago, but they didn't.
God forbid a woman does the same thing to them, all hell breaks loose and his manhood is under attack 😂😂😂😂 They're hella emotional and conflicted.
I'm not even Christian, but as someone who does follow an Abrahamic faith, I can tell you, someone can tell themselves that they've "moved on", but God won't let you "move on". And they seem to forget that. They be telling you women hit the wall, meanwhile these men out here are hitting the great wall of China 😂😂😂😂
My dad did this with a woman who just wanted his life insurance policy and she gave him something to exasperate a heart attack, where he died…had only been with her 4 months, was married to my mother for 30+ years 🤦🏼♀️
Wow I did not know that learning to be single is a skill.
Thank you for this video Tony🙌🏽 after putting my foot down and wanting better for myself. He goes and gets somebody 10 yrs younger than me. He’s 42 she just turned 25. Not gonna lie I def took a blow on this one. But im standing my ground I’ve completely blocked him and I’ll just focus on healing and starving out this soul tie. I REFUSE to go back 😩😩😩
I really want to know what these young women are thinking when they waste their youth on old men. When I was 18-25 I had tons of older men hit on me and I thought they were disgusting. You didn't lose anything special don't even sweat it. He sounds like a dirty old pervert.
That’s why you date older men. I’m 26 and 42 is on the low range for me.
@@la6136 thank you.🙌🏽 I’m equally disgusted and all he did was as make the breakup even more solid.
@@rosewatersweettea men interested in dating you at this age….major red flags and you are in a for a treat. They are looking for someone they can control and manipulate while you’re oblivious to it thinking you hit gold. This poor young lady has no idea what she is in for. I barley escaped with my mental health in tact. There are things you won’t even understand ay your age.
@Naomi Brown Very well said. 😊
People who only want to date those who are _significantly_ younger than them wants someone they can parade around and prey on. Yes, there are exceptions as Tony states, but once that age gap widens to where he/she could be the parent of the people they seek to date that's lunacy.
I can't even look at men 20 years younger than me and think they are anything other than cute. So much perversion in this world.
Yes ….for this reason only ….forever I don’t TRUST no man .🤷🏻♀️ thank you for this validation from you ….stalking anyone is a CRIME . DV and coercive control is a CRIME as well .
So glad to see you on MTV Couple's Retreat you did your thanggggg Tony 👏🏽
Yo name is cool....like mine 😅
I would have loved to see it. When was he on there, thank you❤
@@beefaye6861 yess haha 😂
@@carolynmeadows422 this first episode you will see him on there but the second episode he does more speaking
@@donnalevier5210 it's on MTV
Good video, Tony. Most women are naturally more mystical, empathic, and nurturing and that is why we can heal faster and connect with our feelings. Also, women have a support group with other women in their lives to lean on.
This explains A LOT for my first relationship. It's affected me ever since. I've pretty much affected me in attracting men who monkey branch to someone else as soon as we break up. I'm someone who loves fully in a relationship and will give, give, give against my better judgement ( I'm doing better at setting boundaries and being clear about the treatment I accept).
My first boyfriend moved on to an "upgrade" and didn't treat me well but did treat her well. And men do usually treat more attractive women better, because they could lose them and they're more of a risk in losing. So they'll grow up for her and be a bit nicer towards her even if it's only for a couple of years or so.
I don't want to attract that anymore. I want to attract the one that never leaves and is faithful. It can be hard to trust out there. There are good men out there, sometimes they're already taken. Many broken ones are left. I want a healed one, as I am healing.
I left my ex and about 4 weeks later he came into my work ( I was off this day) on a date lol. Thankfully we were only together a month and had basically no soul tie. A few days after we broke up he followed about 60 new accounts on Instagram. All women. Yes I stalked him just a tad 😅 I don’t know if he was entertaining anyone else while we were together but he sure is trying to prove a point lol smh.
The only point he’s proving is that he is very broken
This video is 18 min long posted 8 min ago. How are there so many comments? Did you guys even
watch the video?
I listened to this four times a true wisdom message. Thank you, Tony
Wow this man is amazing. Not only is he giving it to you textbook level. At the same time he is giving you that real life experience in your language.
So many nuggets! So much wisdom . Thank you, Tony! “Someone once told me sometimes you are the lesson someone needs to go through to change who they are” .. and this doesn’t mean they’ll come back when they do- that’s the hardest part about losing/walking away from someone you love. enduring the pain of healing from the heartbreak, seeing them move on, and then seeing them finally change & treat someone better than how they treated you; hard pill to swallow but the most rewarding because it teaches us lessons & prepares us for hopefully a better relationship (if we do the work we need to do in ourselves, of course) 🙏🏽 be blessed!
So much wisdom Brother! Let the Lord use you! Not taken for granted.
Tony, I enjoy your teachings. But, let me add in a caveat WOMEN GO THROUGH WITHDRAWALS TOO. WE go through hell prior to leaving & the affects can be catastrophic for us as well. For this reason, we're better off staying to ourselves UNTIL we are certain b/c them copays for therapy & how our bodies physically change ain't no joke.
I was in a 6-year relationship my ex had a new girlfriend in a week it took me 7 months to get in another relationship.
Yup I told my ex like listen you need to give yourself the love you need alone.
Stop running from woman to woman…
They move on fast because pain literally kills them
Thank you for this video and thank you for always showing up for us! You have taught me SO much since subscribing to you in 2020! Your videos on relationships and business (really all of them) and your entrepreneurship to purpose course has taught me a lot and has motivated me to follow my purpose! I know you say don’t praise you but I just wanted to sincerely thank you and your family because y’all are a beautiful representative of what we all can obtain! GOD (YAHWEH) bless you TG!
And He Is Carrying Around All These Different Women Spirits.... He Is Totally Confused....
Just like it says in the Bible it’s not good for a man to be alone…
Lol not the cubic zirconium😂😂😂
I’ll admit I made this mistake but not this time I’m really healing and accepting being alone for a while so I can attract better. And to be honest the women I’ve dealt with move on way faster than me my most recent ex is already dating and we ain’t been broken up 30 days
Honestly all I wanted to hear, that he missed me like I missed him or that he did hurt abit over me. Really appreciate it thanks
These videos are extremely helpful🙏🏾
They really are, a lot we know but these videos be the confirmation we really need ❤ can’t talk with everybody.
Hello Mr. Gaskins, thank you for sharing! I can sleep better now that I got some answers to healing. So thank you sir🙂🤩
I agree! He already knew the lady that he is now with meaning he was cheating on you! You were a rebound. I have been a rebound (once) before unbeknownst to me! ***Beware of rebound relationships ladies! ****
You know what? God himself is going to have to come down from His throne before I get marry. I am tired of this bull crap. It's just seems like a bunch of games to me! It just seems like a bunch of problems! I don't need a problem. I am very capable of creating my own problems😳! Why would you take someone back? If he left, he left for a reason right? This is crazy! 🙄 Naw... You are not coming back! Thanks but No Thanks! Best wishes though! I wish you the best! No hard feelings but you made your decision as far as I am concerned and it wasn't me so maybe there is someone better... Just keep searching, you'll find her! Don't give up so quickly! If you need help, I will help you find someone else.....
Rebound relationships are dangerous! Don’t play yourself. These men aren’t healed and you will only get hurt.
Same thing happened to be, I put 2 and 2 together after it was over and realized I was unfortunantly a (Rebound chick/ relationship as well) smh- those are the worse
@@whit9560 well don't be hard on yourself. We didn't know but now we are empowered and know what to look out for. It was a great lesson learned. So I say Thank you B.H. for teaching me about rebounding! 😄
Knowing how to be single is a skill. -TG said that!!👍🏽👍🏽
First 🎉thank you for your work
🙌🏽 We def need to take the time to heal
sounds like they are crazy ladies!! going around manipulating women, breaking their heart......so sad!!
☝🏿☝🏿💯💯. Thank you Universe.
👏🏽THANK YOU TONY. I THANK GOD FOR YOU & YOUR HONESTY BECAUSE IT IS TRULY A RARITY. EVEN THOUGH I AM SINGLE WAITING ON THE MAN GOD CHOSE FOR ME. I STILL ENJOY LEARNING & STAYING READY, SO I WON’T HAVE TO GET READY WHEN HE FINDS ME, HIS WIFE😉🙌🏾. GOD BLESS YOU, MRS. GASKINS & YOUR FAMILY. 🙏🏾❤️✝️
Sorry it just looks like a pansy move when they jump from women to women and can’t process their feelings like a rational logical adult. Some people may not have been taught that growing up, but at a certain point you choose to be the way you are. Step up and develop. I’m glad women are getting stronger lately and raising the bars.
Well personally, my ex already detached himself and grieved the end of the relationship before so even knew he wanted out of our 25 year marriage. So it was easy for him to quickly move on after he finally told me he wanted out. My grieving period then just started while he was able to quickly move on, and have the new person he just met on an Ap, into our marital home, while we were still not divorced. They live happily ever after three years later. I am not mad at him for being courageous and saying it’s over, and moving on so quickly, I am mad that he turned into a total stranger, and conducted the divorce as if I was a random he just met. He kept the house and didn’t pay me out and my dumb butt signed the agreement. Oh well lesson learned.
Omg..oyr story really similar, except we still in court s year later.
@@teresawelch3756 im glad you didn’t walk away and are in court. I left without almost nothing because I couldn’t fight with him in court even though the house was also half mine. I just didn’t have the strength. So I advise anybody, stand up for what you are entitled too.
It's been a while since I've watched your video ❤ I've strayed away to the city life but I am happy to be back to my inner woman power 😂😢
Single and everything now for 4 years
it hurts so bad though. we were so connected and i never thought we couldnt leave each other. even on friendly terms. we had to end things, but we were still good friends. i thought he took the time he was being distant from me to really process his emotions. but he was actually talking to another girl within a week. he blocked me even tho we said were still dawgs. it may hurt to be friends with someone you cant date, yeah, but why did he stop being friends even with another girl? it feels like he doesnt care at all. this video did help though, and gave me new perspectives. this was my first almost boyfriend too, and he meant everything to me. so, to see him leave so easily and nonchalantly hurts so bad. im hurting over him for so long meanwhile he moved on so easily like i was nothing. i will be hurting for so long and it angers me to know he might not be hurting about me. we were so so so close together and liked each other so much. i could tell. but now its so easily down the drain in less than a week. ouch... i just need answers. a lot of answers. i hope he is dating this new girl to try to get over me, because if not then that hurts a lot. how could he just be so nonchalant about this...
we were so close too. from one day we were still good friends and laughing, but that was the same day i saw him with another girl. and just the next day he barely talked to me, and when i got home i was blocked. i want answers. answers, answers, answers.
Haven't watched yet just wanted to say loving the background. You're place it really coming along looks very nice.
I enjoy these talks. Even if it’s hard to hear it. Thank you Tony!
Thanks for this information, Tony 🙏🏽
this video has healed me alot. thank you so very much
Because their fragile egos cant handle rejection...in truth their self esteem is low
Its sad
Smh
Brilliant video!!!! 😮👏👏💯💯
GAME!!! Thank you Tony!
Thank you for this advice this help me with this question because I was wondered how a man could just hop into a another relationship so quick
When a man breaks up with a woman, and he tries to come back, how does he know she’ll never take him back?
She will make it very clear. She will have very short responses to his contact if she responds at all.
You shoot him before he runs.
Never take back an ex that cheated on you becasue he’s going to do it again.