9 Hard Truths You Only Learn with Age
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Aging comes with wisdom, but it also brings some tough lessons that we only fully understand as we grow older. In this video, I dive into 9 hard truths about life, health, relationships, and personal growth that become clearer as the years pass. Whether you're just starting to “adult”, navigating midlife or reflecting on the journey so far, these realities can help you embrace aging with grace and strength.
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Hello from a silver solo in Campbell River. Just found your channel, enjoying.
1. Life is not a meritocracy
2. You have to ask for something. People won’t figure it out on their own.
3. Regret is worse than failure.
4. Sometimes there is no right choice/answer.
5. Change is inevitable.
6. You shouldn’t always take the easy way.
7. If it won’t matter in 5 years, don’t spend 5 minutes being upset by it.
8. Somebody is always going to have more than you.
9. You are responsible for your happiness.
You’re welcome.
Thanks! Good recap!
Thank you- this recap allows me to screen shot and review when I'm in my own way and can't watch the video.
thanks
Thanks ❤
thank you
My mother used to say, "The only hand you can count on is at the end of your own arm." This is a truth I learned the hard way.
That’s a good one!
@@MeeCee5204 so well said.
My Mother never told me this but I’ve learned it! Lots of great advice on here ! I’ve always had a tough time asking for help , my Brothers told me. To figure things out . This year I began writing a children’s book Corky the Quirky Pony and hoping it gives me extra income . I enjoy creating the books.
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I think that I must come from a long line of wise women. I am 69 now. Many years ago, my grandmother told me to look at a situation that was bothering me and ask myself if it is going to bother me when I am on my deathbed. If the answer is no, as it usually was, then let it go. From my mother, I learned about change. When I told her that I wasn't sure that I could have handled the difficult cancer treatments she was going through with as much grace as she had.... she said simply, "I can go through anything if I know it will end. And everything ends!" She went on to live 13 years after the doctors said she only had weeks to live. I feel blessed to have had both those women in my life.
Good advice
Beautiful message! Thanks so much for sharing!
Thank you so much for sharing, I find it very helpful. ❤
Your mother might have read Saint Teresa of Avila.
Let nothing disturb you.
Let nothing make you afraid.
All things are passing.
God alone never changes.
Patience gains all things.
If you have God, you will want for nothing.
God alone suffices.
Thank you so much for sharing that ❤
I am close to your age and I have two college aged sons. When they were little I told them our three family rules. They have both often let me know how helpful they have been.
1. Be a good guy. You know when you are a jerk. Don’t do it. You will regret it.
2. Always do your best. It is your time to either waste or utilize to its fullest. If you have to *fill in the blank* anyway - might as well do your best.
3. Make your own fun. It is no one’s responsibility to entertain you. Wherever you are or whatever you are doing - participate!
Bonus:
If you have to do the dishes - it means you had food. If you have to clean your house - it means you have a house. If you have to walk the dog - you get it. Nice video sharing your wisdom. ❤
I didn't know I was a jerk.
You never lose. Either you win or you learn.
Happiness = gratitude. I am happy with simple things like a sunny day, petting my cat, enjoying a good cup of coffee in the morning. There is a long list of things that don't cost money. We just need to be aware of them.
So true. I feel the same way. Some days, like today, I slip. But I’m back on track 😊
Sorry, but no, gratitude and happiness are very different things.
I traveled the world and I keep in mind that there’s many more people in the world that don’t have a bed or peace to rest during the night, than those who do have. This is the very first thing I’m grateful for every morning. Everything else is grace.
You’ll have to tell me where you’re getting your coffee 😛
I think the younger generations are realizing that hard work and loyalty to a job mean nothing.
Yep the whole quiet quitting thing is directly born of that
I learned this recently!
"Advocate for yourself because no one else will" Amen!
That's very important when you're seeing a doctor. Do your homework when being prescribed medication. It's not all good.
As Rush remind us, “Even if you choose not to decide, you’ll still have made a choice.”
One day I took my elderly dad out for his groceries. I was complaining about this or that. He pointed around the parking lot and said “look at all these people. Every single one of them is dealing with some big problem right now. Maybe lots of problems “. I’ve never forgotten that lesson. RIP dad.
I remind myself this every time I feel like my life is spiraling out of control. It help to let you know you're not alone and you can get through whatever your dealing with.❤
I believe that it was Oscar Wilde who said: "If you ever feel disappointed about not getting something you wanted, just think of all the things that you don't want, and didn't get."
I found out the hard way that hard work, loyalty and doing favors for your employer doesn’t mean anything. In the end we go to work to pay the bills. Do what’s best for you. Tomorrow they may just let you go or turn around and do something mean. 😢
Thanks for sharing your experience and wisdom. ❤😊
Don’t live your life for someone to the point that you lose yourself.
You are soooo right about these hard truths. As a woman age 72, living alone most of those 72 years, I have spent too much of my time waiting for happiness. Finally, thank the Lord, I learned this lesson and a few other things you mentioned. Shortly before I watched this video, I spent some time in grateful thought about how happy I am to be living alone. My privacy is so important to me, also I love that I can keep my home exactly as I like it. Small things like the temperature, the level of light and sound and cleanliness contribute so much to my happiness and I realize that I wouldn't have it another way if I could. Thanks, you.
I am 72 also and live alone too. We are SMART ahahahahhaha
My hard truth:you can’t control others actions, just your response to them. There will always be toxic people; limit your exposure to them. Surround yourself with people who make you feel good, and not bring you down . As you said- you are responsible for your choices in life. If you’re unhappy, try to change it if you can.
Hi Silver and Solo, I wouldn’t call it a hard truth, but I would tell my younger self to take care of my health…develop good habits like eating right, staying active, etc. I would also remind myself that kindness is the real currency in this world.
Hard Truth ... Friends come and go
I learnt along the way that I didn't need friends to have a life.
ما أجمل وجود مكتبة في كلّ بيت بكتب مفيدة في حياتنا ! ..منظر المكتبة وراءك مُريح للعين ..القراءة متعة !
One thing I often tell people is "If you don't ask they can't say yes". That holds true whether you are young or old. It has served me well.
Also, if you don't ask, you don't know where you stand with a company. Are you really a valued employee? If they value your contributions, then they will find a way to agree with your request.
I love that - “If you don’t ask they can’t say yes.” 😀🙌🏼💗
I’m about to turn 60, and I gotta say, my regrets are much more about what I did do that I wish I hadn’t. But that’s me.
Nah. ..truth..is give give. Stop giving. Takers move on
Same here, but hell I did some amazing things.
We’re the same age. I retired two years ago and I’m happy and satisfied. Since I retired, my brother died (my age), my brother in law (my age) died, my four dogs died and two months ago, my friend died at 32! Live NOW! Don’t wait!!
Just because you can doesn’t mean you should. That advice from my mom made making some decisions a lot clearer.
All the people that promise to stay in touch, when you leave a long term work place, don’t. No matter how much you are friends in the workplace, make sure to have real friends, outside the workplace. It took me about 5 years and I finally gave up on being the one to connect and try and stay in touch. Thankfully I have real friends that are part of my real life. Also, your work will never miss you, once you are gone, you fade. I volunteer now and we have had two sudden deaths within our team in the last few months. Both were much liked people. No one, ever, talks about them now, because no one thinks about them. I am sure their real friends and family do. Work is work. It pays the bills, is a necessity which we hopefully mostly enjoy.
Yep. At my job, this woman was the life of the party. She left for another job after working at my job for 13 years…Once she left, it was as if she had never been there; no one even mentions her name…Talk about out of sight, out of mind!
Hard truth, know the difference between want and need. Knowing that might save you from making a lot of unnecessary purchases and storing a lot of underused stuff.
Everything is relative. I used to think 60 was old. Now that I am several years older, 60 seems quite young. My mother, a teacher, always had a selection of wise sayings to fit every occasion. She often said, "Time and tide wait for no man." I never quite understood that as a child. But, now, it has become very clear that time is not infinite, and that as each day passes, we have fewer days left, and need to make sure we get the 'best bang for the buck' out of each one remaining. Living purposefully in all areas of life, is worth refining frequently, keeping a journal helps keep one on track. It is a lesson I learned about the urgency and fragility of life when I had cancer. However, my risk of recurrence is only 3%.
For some reason, I used think that old age creeps on slowly, and for the most part, goes unnoticed. But that is not true, it happens when we least expect, in fits and starts we had not considered. All of a sudden hauling heavy sacks of animal bedding has become hard for me, and I can nolonger toss a 60lb bale of hay the way I used to just months ago. Such activities result in feeling he need for a nap. Exhaustion arrives suddenly when it comes, when before, it wasn't even on the radar. My Oncologist said she noticed the same thing about her family members too. So not just my observation. To compensate, I make it a point to pace myself by following particularly long hard days with a more relaxing one. I nolonger strive to complete the entire garden, when I can do a bit one day and more the next. Paying someone to help with heavier chores isn't an option. That said, I managed to accomplish quite a bit with the use of a small electric chain saw, which worked great to cut down small tree limbs and bushes quickly and efficiently. It was worth the $60.00 plus, even though the motor eventually burnt out. I'd say it is one tool I cannot do without. I am also increasing exercises to gain muscle strenghth, and riding my electric bike to help maintain good balance.
I think we need to stop viewing the word "old" as negative. Being old has many benefits one of which is wisdom--at least for some of us ol' folks. If you had a sweater or car for 60 years, wouldn't you consider that old? However, these old items could appreciate in value.
@@Rahbinah I learned that when I spotted my high school Prom dress on a rack in an antique store! :)
Great content, as always, Jen. I'm 65 and so much of what you said resonates with me. Especially the part with keeping up with the Jones' . That was my dream in my 30s. I has a great career, was happily married, built our dream home, and thought, "I've made it!" Not always the case. The girls went off to college, my husband left me, and my dream house went on the market. I'm now in a townhome which I purchased, and happy with my decision. Economically, things have changed, but as you said, I have a roof over my head, clothes on my back, and food in the cabinets. I'm no longer in competition with anyone. ❤❤
I was just reminiscing about my similar life yesterday. Beautiful house, beautiful baby, great job, good husband (I thought). Everything I dreamed about .... gone when he decided to leave when that baby was almost 3 years old. She is now 34 and I am 61. We survived. Our lives are very good. But, the dream was gone the minute he walked out the door. Life goes on and we must be thankful for what we have, not resentful for what is lost. This video was a good reminder ...
Sounds like my life but without the kids. I’m looking forward to the future and will not look back with sadness.
My hard truth: everything comes down to money. Have a health issue? Money can fix that, or if not, get you a comfortable death. Need food/shelter? Money. Want to travel? Money. I have been poor and rich, and the latter is a million times better. Anyone who says "money doesn't buy happiness" has clearly never experienced poverty.
That was Aristotle who said if all of the villagers brought their troubles to the village square & could choose any one of them to take home, they would choose their own.
When I was 53 I lost my job of 32 years. I was budged out. I took that time to finally get my Bachelor degree. I could not find a job. Ageism is a real thing. It took me almost 10 years to find a position suited for me with a livable wage. My salary is about 40% less, but it a work from home position and why less stress.
These truths are spot on! I really needed to be reminded of number 8 & 9! Today I was feeling upset because I was comparing myself to family members in my circle. They are planning trips, outings to sporting events, even day trips and dinners opening the invitation to us all. I feel left out because I don’t have the funds to participate. Most are couples and make at least 4x as much as I do. If they need a new car, they get one. They have houses and are talking about selling them to live in a luxury community. I’ve been a renter my entire life. Usually this doesn’t bother me. I live within my means and I’m grateful for all I do have. But every once in a while, like today, when I hear about their plans, I get depressed. I know I shouldn’t compare myself with others. So like number 9, I am responsible for my own happiness! A hard lesson I can add is if you don’t like something, do something about it. So I can’t do everything they’re doing. What can I do? Can I make extra money doing something, selling something, etc. to save up? Can I see about coupons or other ways to save? Different flights or accommodations? For dinners, don’t get drinks, appetizers or a dessert…or only get an appetizer or lower cost item. See, I’m feeling better already! 😊 I enjoy your channel more than I ever expected!
My perspective on aging is a bit unique. The AIDS crisis took everyone around me. Why is a useless question. The reality is I am and I exist. I lived a more carefree life and found joy simple things. Still, in my mid 40s I realized so many things you just explained. People can say something is a midlife crisis, etc but, we hit moments as we age that are pivotal. I realized no one would care if I quit my corporate management position even though I had been there over a decade and a half. But rather than buy some expensive toy and the typical distraction I decided to just change into the person I needed to be for myself. I moved thousands of miles away to a place where I knew no one and built a new life that followed the new rules. I needed to be kind to myself, open to new experience and opportunities and my big one was this, and it's a big one. When asked to join a person or group for something fun or interesting, the answer is always yes unless I had a valid reason I couldn't participate.
Love this!
Wake up in the morning and be glad for the day. I stand by this.
Agreed!
Happiness is enjoying what you have. If you practice gratitude daily it will become your default attitude. Of course there will be times of sorrow and fear etc. but this attitude has gotten me through tough times. I recently finished 18 months of cancer treatment. I was happy to have a fabulous doctor, caring nurses, a helpful husband, the science that invented a new cure for my type of cancer, etc. That went a long way.
Wow I'm also 59, tuning 60 in 6 weeks , and I love this video
Notching ever stays the same, things and situations can change in the blink of an eye ! So never dwell upon them ... just take it in your stride !
Thank you Jen for another insightful video. I am now 70 which is a huge number but in my mind I still feel 40. Silly but true. I am more fortunate than some and less than others but I am ok with that. Never wanted a big house or fancy cars although I did own a few sports cars in my early years. I live in a small cottage style home on Georgian Bay in Ontario which is perfect for me. I learned early that there is no company loyalty. I did my job well but have had many layoffs over my career as a nurse. I always managed to find work even though it might have been only part time. I never really thought about retirement in my early years and all of a sudden it's here. That is my only regret that I didn't plan better for this time. Money is tighter than I'd like but the economy has contributed to that strain for everyone. There are a few things I might have done differently in looking back but no major disasters.
3. Regrets is one of the worst things to feel. It can eat you away.
Especially as you get older
One I would add is that change is inevitable, focus on the beauty and lesson in the change. Allow yourself to be happy and get out of your own way. Savor all the wisdom from the people you meet. Listen more and ask good questions. All of life is a classroom. Get to know what lights you up. And above all enjoy the journey. This ain’t no dress rehearsal. Be good to yourself and don’t feel guilty about having it all. Most of the time it was by design. Happy birthday 🎉
This, too, will pass. This mantra seems more true as I age.
You have no idea how you have helped me move forward. I just turned 54. I want to sell baby quilts at the market near my home. I have pulled my fabric out to piece my patches together. Thank you for the inspiration. ❤
I stopped taking notice of age many years ago. I love working and will continue until I don’t. I’ve had my brush with death about ten years ago. This changed my whole outlook. Now, i do art, write for fun ( and money), read endlessly, smoke occasionally, drink occasionally, spend time with my daughter. I really have no regrets, other than wasting time with idiots. I could spend hours watching a lake, trees or on solo hikes. Ive had money; Ive lost money. I love just being.
I like your way of thinking sister ❤
Or brother even lol
@@vickysimpson3750 brother very brother. Lol
You only have your self to count on especially as you age. Your family won't be interested because they have their lives, their partners and their children, in fact their families in which you are not included 😢
@karenirving7088 Life has many disappointments but with age we only find peace with acceptance, well, that's what I constantly remind myself. Seek what gives you pleasure❤
Sad but so true!! 😢
It's like they forgot us, they don't need or want us around.
1) never ever ever brag about anything. Not even under torture.
2) be nice to everyone is surprisingly convenient on the long run.
3) ask for help and pay for it. Cheap help is not help.
4) never talk shit about anyone behind their back, but do the exact opposite. Works wonder
5) learn the art of seduction. Other people are the most important thing at the end of the day.
6) write diaries. And hold them dearly. They are going to be the best book you'll ever read. Your descendants will be grateful as well.
7) psychedelics can help tremendously. But don't overdo.
8) only buy quality stuff cash. No debt.
9) learn a trade and become the best at it
Thank you.
I would add to #8, "You can't take it with you."
No one lays on their death bed thinking, "I should have spent more time at work."
There's quite a bit Stoic philosophy in here. When we did Ancient Latin philosophers in school (30 years ago), I was quite impressed and wrote a quote on the inside of the cover of my folder: Plus dolet quam necesse est, qui ante dolet, quam necesse est. (Seneca) "If you suffer before you must, you suffer more than you must." In a nutshell, don't worry, all it does is increase your pain.
Today, your video reminded me of another of Seneca's quotes: Volentem fata vehunt, nolentem trahunt. Fate carrys you, if you accept it, and drags you along, if you don't. I imagine a chariot, fate holds the reins, you can't choose where you go. But if you accept it, you stay in the chariot, if you don't, you get dragged through the dust.
Quite an ugly frog to eat, this one. The comfort it holds for me is the idea that there is always a part of your pain you can relieve - or worsen - by your mindset.
@katoptron6583 During Covid, I spent a lot of time watching TH-cam content creators who quoted Seneca. He is by far my favorite Stoic Philosopher, although I do not really implement the ideas into my own life (yet). 😊
Just came for my daily life advice video from random author to listen to something while washing up, but couldn't leave my laptop because I was hooked. This was high quality good advice. Also, you gave me hope that growing old won't be that bad.
9. It is true that one must be responsible for ones happiness. Sit down and think what would make you happy. Then do a plan to make it come true. Don't rely on any other to make you happy. Take action and guard your happiness well because people will try to destroy it if they get a chance. Take it from a bitter person.
I have done that many times and I am surprised how wrong I am some times about what will make me happy 😊. I'd say I am wrong about it 50% of the time.
I really appreciated the analogy of throwing everyone’s problems into a pile
Shut the door on it
Learn to just not care about most everything.
Yes- caring less, allows freedom!
I have been aware of these 9 things since I was in my early 20’s. The number 10 hard truth is that in many ways, happiness is a concisions decision. If you want to be mad about everything that happens in your life, you will be mad. If you let everything that occurs make you sad, then you will be always looking for things to make you sad. And if you want to ba happy, you will find happiness in the simplest things in life, like a sunny day, or helping a friend. Just having the ability to not only see the darkness side to every experience that comes your way, but instead be realistic and understand that sometimes bad things happen. But in time all things past, and try not to live in dark regret, but live in bright optimism, and be happy
One of my hard truths is that we care most about the things in our lives (the slights, hurts, mistakes, etc.) Others don't really care about these things.They're too busy thinking about their own lives.
I agree with this. I used to worry about what people thought about the dumb stuff I said or did.
Then I realized… they’re not thinking about me, they’re thinking about their own dumb stuff. 😁
Number 10 might be that you will likely learn these things when younger but dismiss them and only accept them as truth when you are older. Ah youth….
Appreciate you, Jen, and Happy Birthday.
Happy Birthday, Jen! 💐💐💐Best wishes! Listening to you is like listening to a close friend. Every Hard Truth resonates with me. Would like just to add my 2 cents: working well for yourself depends on the level of consciousness; regrets are useless and drain the energy; while making a decision, listening to our intuition/inner voice is helpful; my mom used to say, " there is always someone who is in a much tougher situation"; yes, WE and only WE are responsible for our happiness and let's not "delay" it. Two more Hard Truths might be added: 1) The sooner you move out from your parents' home, the stronger and more independent you become; 2) Don't persist in trying to save someone, no matter how dearly you love them: "You can bring a horse to the water, but you cannot make it drink" ...
The best piece of advice I've ever heard was "Just because things could have been different, doesn't mean they would have been better."
The bonus at number 8 really hit home with me. I find living in gratitude to actually pay off in many ways: less stress, less spending, better care of ourselves and belongings and better time management.
Being happy for our own blessings inspire us to take better care of what we have and focus on enjoying and improving our lives by not wasting time comparing ourselves to other people and invest that time and energy into improving our circumstances and people we care about.
At the age of 36, my mind has transformed in extraordinary ways. The self-consciousness I felt in my 20s is diminishing and I am starting to finally really grow into the person I feel like I am meant to be. It's people like you that keep me going.
Chuckled when you mentioned not taking a Forestry Class, I did take forestry classes when I was in high school, and it was the one of the best decisions ever! Didn't end up getting into a forestry job as a career but the things that I learned in that class were some of the most valuable lessons for my life.
Any examples?
@@EmerySand Some stuff off the top of my head was about planning long term...like growing and planting seedlings that won't mature for many years. Working on small engines or other equipment, needing to troubleshoot, to think thru a problem. One of my favorite things was that I learned "my pace", it's 2.5 ft per step, you need to know that to pace 66ft away from a tree to get some of the measurement's you need to calculate the board feet in a tree. I can "pace out" things and have a rough idea of the length, like the other day when we needed to know how long the driveway is so we can buy the right amount of asphalt sealer. We also had "leadership day" once a week where we learned how to set goals and make plans to reach those goals. A wonderful class, not a class that many gals took back when I took the class at the end of the 70s.
Thanks for sharing these valuable and wise. lessons
Spot on. I live in Spain ( half Spaniard half French )in beautiful Canary Islands , what could posdibly go wrong? Hate change, my dog died 2 years away and been devastated since then , always had pets but this was an angel on earth, my hubby and I were so happy with her and now shes gone, got another one but you true live happens only once, change and loss of someone you truly love is the most heartwrenching experience l've ever had, sorry for the rant, just wanted to share. Like you say in America, bless your heart
I know your pain. ❤
The really hard thing about change isn't necessarily the change itself. It's generally that change tends to b*tch slap you when you least expect it.
Happy Birthday Jen 🥳. I'm soon 49 years old and I agree. Especially that happiness comes from within and I'm responsible for it. I don't want to depend on others. And yes, I'm grateful for a nice flat, food, clothes and health. I also agree on your view regarding work. Never rely on your employer and it doesn't matter how good you are at work. Thank you Jen 👍
My mother (in her 90s now) could never understand why I wasn't loyal to the company. My longest stint was 10 years. If they don't advance or give a raise, it's time to move on. So many of my peers stayed because of the golden handcuffs and were downsized before retirement age, so their pensions were smaller or non-existent.
One truth that gives me comfort: Stop worrying about what other people think about you, because they probably aren’t thinking about you at all.
I got a plastic clock after 33 years of service weee! Life is hard ...work it!
@debbibobetty5620 😆⏰. Wow!
I would have been annoyed, but then laughing at the oddly sad gift. If you take a hammer to it, you can say that you _really beat time._ 😁
@@amg9163 hysterical 🤣
Thanks!!!
Reminds me of the time my coworker, an older lady, got a rusted lock with no key at the annual Secret Santa work luncheon. She just smiled and said, "oh thank you. I've been needing one of these!" Smart lady.
Happy birthday Jen! Now we are both 59…staring at level 60😁. I refuse to do the lame “I’m 60 years “young” schtick. I worked hard to reach the age level I’m at and I will proudly claim 60 when I reach it.
I am trying not to postpone things I want to do, because you might not ever do it then. I watched my parents do this mistake. They always spoke of going to Hawaii. Through their 50’s, 60’s and 70’s. They had the money and children willing to take care of their farm. We urged them to go. Now they are both 87 and can’t go due to heath reasons. Do what brings you joy…while you are able to do it!
Sorry to hear they never made it out to Hawaii. I love Hawaii and lived there for 4 years just recently. I tell everyone to go at least once. My sister just left Waikiki after a week vacation and she said they had so much fun!! My friend's grandparents also had a farm in Canada and they went to Hawaii every February to get out of the cold.
Hear, hear!
A few weeks ago, I had a hospice patient who had end stage squamous cell sarcoma show me pictures of him and his wife in Hawaii just a few months prior. I have never been and told him so. He said, "Go now. Don't wait."
He died six days later. We are leaving for Oahu in November.
An old trawler fisherman once told me that life is like a ratchet, you take one step forward, it goes click behind you, and you cannot ever go back. Enjoyed your video, greetings from New Zealand.
Birthdays, ask for what you want rather than thinking your partner or family will read your mind and know what you want. This took me 50 years to learn.
Amen to all that! One of my latest hard truths is: my adult son views us, as a family, differently than I do! Be well.👍😎🇨🇦✨️
Almost 76 years old I love you 10 things to learn, and I agree with every single one of them
Happy Birthday! I find that as I get older, I still feel the same. I may look older and have the invisibility that comes with that for women and have more aches and pains but essentially I am the same. I remember in my 20's I thought I would be dead by my 60's because my grandmother died at 60. Funny or silly as it was the truth is you are just older. I find it to be ok and a blessing to continue.
Be grateful for all the little things 😊
It's not that you may not get what you are due, it's that we are not actually due anything.
I am PNW born and raised, my husband is military and we were sent to Texas for a few years. You made the right choice. Texas is great, for Texans, I did not belong there.
I just turned 58. Everything you said was spot on, especially regret of things I didn't do. That's the hardest of all. Try all your dreams. You never know which ones will come true.
Lots of great advice here 🙂 The path to a happy life starts with being grateful for everything you have instead of focusing on the things you wish you had. Surrendering to what is and appreciating all life's blessings - even the tiny ones - can bring a lot of joy once you overcome the misconception that you "should" have more or different things in life Acceptance is the key to gratitude and abundance. Keep striving, but recognize that it's impossible to change the past or predict the future, we only have today so "don't worry, be happy."
You've got to ask for what you want. I'm sooooo bad at that! I drop hints and beat around the bush...but I need to start asking! I loved all of your truths and at 50 I'm still learning! You have great content Jen! Thank you! :)
I think regret is no so much about being sad that you didn't do something in the past but rather that you don't have the courage to do it now. You wouldn't be regretting it if you didn't still want it (or something similar to it). You had your reasons for not doing it back then. Ultimately, regret comes down to feeling that you missed your opportunity and that it's too late now. But it's never too late.
I'm 75 and I'm impressed, you have some amazing and absolutely on point stuff here. And so you know when you're 75 nothing much bothers you, which is my contribution. You've seen it all, you've done it all, or you decided it wasn't worth doing or seeing. **In the end what matters is the things and people you care about (and by things I don't mean possessions).**
Number 4 is definitely a realization I have. There’s was no right choice, I did the best I could. This just reminds me to give myself some grace.
60’s are a snap 😊 It is the 70’s that is challenging 😮 “It’s always something” Rosanne Rosanadana SNL.
You've just inspired me to go back to school.
I've been thinking about it, but the part about regretting things you didn't do made my brain explode.
I don't want to keep working the job I'm in. I want something different for myself. And I'm going to make it happen.
Thank you.
i love you silver. i was having a really hard time accepting my age (54) and where i was in life until i found you, now i am content and have started a Uni degree! thank-you for sharing your wisdom it has helped me muchly.
Rock on!
Yes! 💯 My biggest regrets are the things I didn't do, things I didn't say, chances I didn't take. Wisdom that has helped me: if you don't know what to do 1. Get more information, 2. Find a trusted friend to use as a sounding board. Sometimes just hearing the words come out of your own mouth in the presence of another will give you the clarity you need.
I think about that big pile of problems sometimes. And, yes, I would most often take my pile.
Great video! 🙌🏼
Spot on advice, totally agree with all your pointers. My mantra has always been if and when you experience a negative situation always find a positive. Survived 40 years in teaching, moved house from London to start a new retired life in Wales and have 2 grown up children. One lives in London and the other in Melbourne. Many people commented how sad that you don’t see your grandchildren often because they live in Australia but do you know what we have amazing video conversations and have quality time with them when we visit them all in Melbourne.
Thank you, Jen! Sitting here, feeling sorry for myself and on the verge of tears…. I feel so much better having listened to you! I so wish we were neighbors! While I am older than you by four years, I feel like there’s so much you could teach me! Thank you so much! ❤❤
You’re almost to 100k 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Hard truth:
Just because one door closed and doors will close…it’s not over, there is something else you were meant to do or discover😊
Don’t you dare give up!
I didn’t do life straight, because life imposed itself on me, the priorities and responsibilities changed, but I never lost sight of myself or my dreams. The key is the ability to adapt and change to move you forward, without having to sacrifice yourself to life changes. I got to study art, because I decided to be a present grandma, I left a high paying job. My high paying job was an unexpected turn of a desperate mother that wanted to be an artist and instead became an engineering assistant; a job I loved but grandchildren had a higher priority. I saw my loss of income as my opportunity to fulfill my artistic dreams, so I became grandma by day student at night. After years at a community college, I realized I didn’t need to spend the money on an expensive degree because I was already an artist…I don’t spend time on what it could have been, I spend time on what am I going to do today to better my tomorrow, as my abilities deteriorate and wilt. What I didn’t choose yesterday, is just a road not taken, with outcomes I will never encounter because I was pushed down this route.
I will allow myself to call a grandma since I don't have one. I was feeling down and hating on myself, but weird enough your calm voice and wise speech made my day, so now I can sleep.
THANK YOU. I watch a lot of TH-cam videos, but this has been one of the most helpful ones I've ever seen. I legit paused it, and sent it to everyone that I love. How are you so much wiser than a lot of our world leaders?
Its amazing how wise we get as we get older ❤
My depression era dad told me that no one is irreplaceable. Good advice
My dad used to tell us, every time we were fearing to make a move in our lives: what's the worst that can happen? You already have the no, but if you don't ask, you surely won't have the yes.
He also told us, since we were 5 years old or so, that the best way to neutralize a bully who wants to make jokes at our expense is to laugh and continue with our lives. Nobody likes it when you don't respond as a butt hurt. The best way to be a victim is acting like one.
The synchronicity of these videos is off the charts.
Wise words! I’m 60 next week.. where did that come from!? Just embracing the number and enjoying life
I am her age and agree with most of these things. ☮️
The shoes look great! Good choice not to move. I’m a true Texan, born and raised. However, you live in a uniquely beautiful place. Good on you.
Good video. Thanks so much.
Another hard truth: Sometimes friends and family will largely disappear from your life, and sometimes you do the same to them, although there might be a clear reason when this happens often times there is not-it’s like a slow fade.
But, in large part, I “leave the door open” for their return, and I hope they do the same for me-and sometimes we reunite to a degree.
Good luck to all and I ask you to consider to stay curious in life and make a consistent enough effort and you will be better off than you might think.
Really good advice.
The inherent unfairness of life, our need to ask for help, and there will always be someone with more / less resonate. Find it v hard to ask for help and have had to accept unfairness like inherited health conditions that go on to affect opportunities and circumstances. And learning that we need to essentially be responsible for ourselves and if we’re good at that we might have something left over to look after others. I really need to work on that.
Agreed, unfairness of life.
I lost both of my parents in a car accident at the same time , they were only in their 50s. As my new TH-cam channel is about travel and life , when I upload videos/ shorts of places we went it brings back memories that we took them and places I wish I could have taken them but don’t have that chance anymore. Life is unfair, shorts , regrets etc…as I listen to Jen it is so true. I am still struggling to let go.
Enjoy your life, LOVE your PARENTS, family ❤🙏
@@tttravelandlife really sorry to hear that, that is extremely sad 💜 Yes no guarantees in life.
@@universaltruth2025 thank you 🙏
Love your videos. My husband of 38 years passed last February, and cold, hard facts are right and left these days. #6 really hits home, learning to ask for help (amazing!) So far living single isn't too bad, sure different too! Thanks Jen!
Thanks for sharing!!
I'll be 59 in two weeks, and also have no kids, only nephews.
Would say I can't believe a company expected people to move to Texas of all places from Vancouver... but that's all-too believable.
#4 is very true. We are not guaranteed a good outcome, even if we do everything 'right.' It's comforting for many to think that people bring failure or misfortune on themselves through bad choices, wrong actions, innate weaknesses... But we learn you can do the right things and still lose.
#6 first part I'm still working on - just do the simple thing, don't procrastinate even if the delay comes from trying to think of more efficient, easier, or better ways to do it. Just get it done.