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Yeah it does make more sense when discussing couple dynamics but for non-professionals I think the episode-by-episode format is fine! I recommend Kennie JD in case you guys don't know her yet 😊✨
I understand that Mattew has a lot of red flags but when it came to Clay, his reaction to finding out that AD was also dating Matthew felt like a huge red flag. It felt like he was judging AD for liking someone else that he didn't view as his equal or on the same level as him.
I thought the same thing. He was not just taken aback but appalled. I was thinking that he might tell her that he has serial killer vibes and to be careful, but it was about his ego. And he has said he has an ego and it seems to be very fragile.
I wonder if he would have reacted the same if the person wasn't Matthew lol he seemed to have a reputation on the men's lounge. Perhaps he would have been upset but I think the fact that it was Matthew specifically didn't help.
He literally explained himself on the show. He feels Matthew is in some way beneath him so he was absolutely shook that AD put them “on the same level”
I actually didn't see it as calculating in a negative way. I think he's incredibly socially awkward and had a script ready to use on the women just like he had his list of questions ready. If it worked on anyone he would be happy but 2 women were interested and I don't think he expected to have options. Also we see season after season that men struggle to choose between 2 women and it makes sense because men don't have much experience with that in the real world. Usually it's women who do the rejecting and have multiple options.
@@joanna0988 I think if it were just autism with scripts he would have had scripts for the male contestants. From my perspective it was odd that he made no effort to mask in front of them if it was autism. It seemed more calculated for this reason.
@@gabriellaruth83 I don't think it's autism but I don't think it's just manipulative behavior with mal intent either? My son is autistic and we're around lots of neurodivergent folks. I've seen some people behave similar to him in new social settings.
He had the benefit of the doubt in my eyes and I somehow rooted for him until he told both woman the same. His last sentences made him just an awful human being, imho.
When I was single, I made sure that the first thing people knew about me was that I have a son. I didn’t want to waste my time or their’s if they didn’t want kids in the picture. I knew other people who kept it hidden and I could never understand why.
My mom dated a man who was just interested in being around me (I was 13). So in some circumstances I would say there is a good reason to hide that you have children because it's not unheard of for predators to date someone to have access to their children.
Sadly this show has become contaminated with people who only want the 15 minutes of fame benefits of the show. They dont take the experiment seriously and some of them are in relationships outside of the show.
Yes!!! They are going in and leaving their partners outside, in agreement that is only for the 15 minutes of fame. I just saw a video of Deepti (who was one of my favorite ladies from LIB) talking about how she made a million after the show.
Agree!! Chelsea being upset about Jimmy's girlfriend still being a confident and very close friend was legitimate but when she said it on camera she looked intoxicated, right?
That would be interesting because I watch the couples and think of ways of how I do or don’t want to emulate certain actions in relationships. Usually it’s a how I don’t want to emulate their actions with LIB relationships lol 😂
On a side note, in the vein of suggestions about other content that we would enjoy. I would love a series on birth order amongst siblings and how that impacts attachment style, relationship to authority, how they show up in romantic relationships and platonic friendships, and how the siblings end up relating to each other. As the youngest of three girls on my mother's side and the oldest of three girls on my father's side, I have experienced both ends of the relational spectrum. Thank you so much for your amazing content Steph Anya ❤️
Oh yeah very interesting. I had a conversation about that with my colleagues. We are all 3 the eldest. They told they think, as the eldest, we worry about things that the others siblings don’t have to. They also said, we have some kind of pressure put on us because of being the first born. I am curious to know if there are any studies on that.
I would love this! And maybe even some advice on sibling relationships. I’m a middle child and my two little sisters take a lot out of me and also I never make a big fuss because my siblings are b more demanding on everyone’s time. Most times I don’t mind but sometimes I feel very neglected and invisible.
Autistic peer support specialist here - I also surround myself with neurodivergents, and this does *not* appear like neurodivergence related behaviors to me at all. Most autistics care deeply for others and even if we may at times struggle with the expression aspect - Matthew's callousness is not a normative representation of autism. I am not a clinician but this seems more like calculatedness, he's not struggling to read social cues, and in fact uses them to his advantage. He tells AD how she feels, and seems to use that against her for his benefit. Again, not a clinician, but this appears more consistent with Axis B personality disorders such as antisocial and/or narcissistic PD, *not* autism. ♡
I'm so annoyed by all the people defending Matthew by saying he seems autistic. I'm no expert but I've known a few autistic people and I agree with you. You don't just turn it off and on, and some people that I've known have been so...compassionate and interested in other people, and vibrant and interesting. Matthew is something else. His personality seems repulsive and I feel like that's insulting to autistic people to be like "oh he's ND definitely!"
@xletragedyx If you are annoyed then you can perhaps imagine how it feels for those of us in the autistic community who deal with a lot of stigma, ableism and stereotypes. It is scary to me to hear autism thrown out as a differential in the same sentence as severe personality disorders because these are apples and oranges. A Developmental condition is very different from antisocial or NPD. An autistic person is highly likely to be manipulated or taken advantage of so there's even a term for this "autistic mate crime". Antisocial and NPD persons are more likely to manipulate others, and in many cases will take the opportunity to prey on the social naivete of autistic people. Thankfully I am noticing most mental health professionals in their videos are leaning towards labeling Matthew's behaviors as possibly indicating personality disordered traits rather than a Developmental condition like autism, but hearing them strung together is still alarming and scary as it can create the conditions for many people to misinterpret and conflate.
@Holy_ShihTzu I'm sure it's very frustrating and I do understand what it feels like. I don't think it's fair at all, and I agree with everything you said. I have friends with autism and they're lovely people who would never act like Matthew.
@Nadia-ky5mi Actually not feeling pressure to socially mask and worry about making enough eye contact per ~the neurotypical standard~ could be refreshing for many of us lol
@@Holy_ShihTzupeople with NPD prey on everyone. Not just those with ASD. They prey on people who are vulnerable. Whether it be a single parent, an empath, or someone with ASD. It's all about preying on what they perceive as "the weak".
Chelsea is completely projecting all of her insecurities on to others. I feel bad for Jimmy because I think he does love her but she will wear him down. I don’t think she actually loves him, she loves the idea of him. Her crying is a form of manipulation and tactic to get her way. It’s borderline scary and triggering because I have been that way and I’ve had someone do it to me. Her pattern is she sees something, has a negative thought, projects her negative beliefs onto others, then starts a fight and try to make it their fault until she either wears them down or they set a boundary and stand up for themselves, if they do the latter she will beg and fawn for them not to leave. Then the cycle starts again. If jimmy stays with her he is going to be a shell of himself and will morph into her version of what she wants him to do. Every time I watch any scenes with them I’m literally screaming at the tv “ jimmy stand up for yourself”. Chelsea is scary.
Yes it's so sad because her insecurities are driving him away. She is literally meeting her fate on the road she takes to avoid it. I've never seen self-sabotaging this obviously before.
Yeah she genuinely gives me emotional abuser vibes. So manipulative and coercive with the tears and the little creepy voice she uses as baby talk. Jimmy seems like a pretty meh guy but I really hope he doesn’t get stuck with her for life.
Definitely scary to watch how she weaponizes her tears. Two case scenarios: 1- Jimmy truly loves and is attracted to her: her insecurities will make him wish he had never met her because she will exhaust him mentally until leaves her. 2- Jimmy is not really attracted to her and that’s why she feels the way she does: it’s still her responsibility to accept things as they are and leave him, instead of falling into a toxic pattern of forcing someone to admit that they indeed love you when you know they don’t. When both talk about the reasons why they chose each other, this dynamic was inevitable. This is a match made in hell.
I don't see how she and Jimmy could love each other. Their relationship is so surface-level and shallow. All they do is argue about Chelsea's needs. Do they want kids? Do they align politically? Why do they love each other? Even Jeramey and Laura had a deeper relationship.
As a single mom who has dated I use to be extremely upfront and have it in my bio even when dating. The thing is there is a lot of predators that specifically go for single moms. So that’s why I began waiting to get to know the other person to see if they are a safe person or at least try and get a good read before telling them. It sucks!
I think your thoughts are very interesting as always ;) the way Chelsea behaves reminds me of zanab a bit. The projecting, the deep rooted insecurities, always finding faults in the other person 😅
Weird, because just today, I was thinking Jessica reminded me Zanab. I get that Chelsea and Zanab are both overtly insecure, and honestly, I think some of that has to do with Jimmy and Cole clearly not being interested, but Jessica and Zanab have more mean girl vibes IMO, not to mention similarish backgrounds. People hate Chelsea, which I guess their entitled to, but I just don't agree with any of the accusations that's she's this manipulative person. She just has some deep-rooted insecurities that need to be worked through.
Yes Samantha, I agree with you! I am sure Zanab saw the cutie clip and still thought Cole was shaming her first. I don't she was lying, I think it was her perception. With that being said, I hope she is doing better now and that she now sees that Cole had no bad intentions, at least not in that clip. And you are right: Jimmy doesn't seem interested to me. He seems exhausted. I think Chalsey struggled in the pods too, but mainly due to low self esteem.
I agree she was definitely giving Zanab vibes! She is on the same lines of always playing the victim and asking for sympathy. I can kind of sympathize with her in that I can be too sensitive at times, but I know most of the time it's just me taking things the wrong way.
@@samanthas8340 Manipulation does not equate malice. To a certain extent, everyone is guilty of manipulation, it's a part of social interactions. Chelsea is definitely manipulative. She does not communicate with the intention of explaining her point and view, receiving her partner's point of view, and working from there on equal footing. She consistently attempts to manipulate the outcome of conversations in order to make herself appear like a victim and have her partner crawl to reassure her. She may not be going at it in a "mean girl" way, that is, being arrogant or contemptuous, but she is in fact manipulative.
i feel like they didnt show them to set up that twist with AD. but for a moment it had me wondering if him or Amber (or maybe both of them) were producer plants. it was just so strange to watch play out on screen
@@nataliaalonzo580 Same! Even with guys he was scary acting, and the guys seemed to call him on it too, but of course Matthew just stayed completely non interactive. All I could think was there’s something really scary wrong with him. 😬
Thank you for articulating the ~Je ne sais quoi quality about clay. I actually think he’s my favorite of the guys and I usually have zero tolerance for player types. He seems like he has a well-meaning heart and an emotional depth to him that I’m not seeing in any of the other men…. But he also seems like he is held back or trapped by trauma (no judgement- we’ve all experienced this) so he defaults to acting douchey because it’s so surface-level. I know it’s cliche to say this, but I think he would really benefit from and shine after working with a therapist. He seems like he just needs a little help expressing his emotions, just like you said. Love to you, steph! ❤
He did say he has an ego and it is fragile. I agree with you and I think real emotions make him uncomfortable and he starts to self sabotage and lets that ego takeover. It’s hard seeing real glimpses of him for him to then act an ass. AD is going to get whiplash from these behaviors and he will always find himself in unfulfilling self serving, surface level relationships if he can’t get some direction, healing, and order now.
I agree with your assessment about Jessica not doing the best thing by withholding.. However, I recall Jimmy saying her being mother didn't break the deal. He specifically he didn't like her conflict management skills.
@@alishashadows9599 I just saw the recent episodes.. Not much has changed. He still says Jessica is his number 1 and it was.. (drum roll) the pressure he felt, that deterred him
I noticed that when people say "People think I'm a player" they typically tend to be exactly that .. meaning they are more so surface level, and get bored/distracted easily
That’s such a good formula for your first video on the season! I have concerns with AD. When she says she tries to save her boyfriends… and then date the 2 biggest redflags of this season…
THANK YOU for mentioning Jessica first, she blew it with Jimmy by doing that. She’s the one treating her daughter like baggage. That should be what you’re most proud of and the right man would either love that right away or warm to the idea getting to know you.
I like the individual couple breakdown. Where you go through the whole season of that couple. I know you have to wait til after the show is over but that’s my fav way you do the breakdowns
One thing that stuck out to me about Clay is how he keeps talking about how he’s created a persona, based on his unfaithful father, and that what he portrays isn’t who he really is. He straight up says this and says “I’m a nerd fr.” That to me was a major red flag. He also generally seems disinterested in conversations with AD and seems to being trying to giver her an out the whole time. I don’t think he’s really that different from Matthew. I think that culturally it comes out differently. Once he came through like “AD = All Day!!” I knew it was boutta be a wild ride.
Hmm I imagine for Clay if he is trying to give her sn out it's because he has an avoidant attachment style and intimacy scares him. I think he wants it but maybe doesn't feel "good enough" so he typically persues relationships that won't last because they can't confirm his deep seeded beliefs. Matthew on the other is persuing two women because I think he wants a relationship, that, or he just wants fame/prestige 🤷♀️ if he does want a relationship then my assumption is its its coming from a more distant place and comprehension of wanting what other people have and what society tells him he should want and so he doesnt really matter who it is; he just wants to experience it. Intimacy is obviously more critical to us as a species, but Matthew might not be thinking about that consciously.
@@samanthas8340Clay is not ready. He obviously has no room for a wife in his life. His mentors & the men he looks up to are all serial cheaters. He wants AD to baby him & be his therapist. They will make a toxic pairing that would not surprise me.
I will give Clay credit, he has been very open with AD about his struggles due to trauma and that he doesn't know if he can overcome those fears and doubts. She seemingly keeps ignoring these or trying to tell him it will be fine.
I don't think he's anything like Matthew! Clay is a bit all over the place emotionally - he wants intimacy but is quite stressed out by it and doesn't trust himself. Matthew is entirely a different matter.
I’m glad you touched on the fact that Jess kept the fact that she had a daughter from the guys because she wanted them to get to know her first. I agree that being a mother is a huge part of who you are so I’m not sure how I would keep that from someone who’s getting to know me. I thought it was a bad idea from the jump. Also Chelsea does seem like an emotional manipulator and I’d love for you to go a little more in depth when it comes to how and when she cries, the crying just doesn’t seem genuine at any point. Love your videos, I actually watch LIB because I want to see your videos after. ❤
She should not have been on the show I the first place. It makes me think she is a weekend mom. How are you going to bring someone around your child that you barely know for few weeks?
@@fdscrl6016. Exactly. From the trailer "perfect match" sounded a bit vulgar to me (no plans to watch that) and can't imagine the burden the child has to carry at school.
hi ! im a psychologist and i really appreciate how you word things in your videos!! they are so eye-opening and avoid rushing to diagnose people as i ve seen on other channels!!
Steph I love that you are learning Spanish to be a better service to non-English speakers! I am a manager at a retail store in Miami, and learned Spanish for the same reason, I have plenty of employees who don’t speak English and it just feels more considerate, acknowledging and respectful to them to make an effort in that way and it makes both of our jobs easier and more enjoyable. Nothing feels better than speaking in Spanish with my employees and feeling a genuine connection form that would’ve been impossible had i not learned.
I never recognized what Johnny said in response to Amy being a possible caregiver to her brother. After seeing Johnny through the season , I deff’ think he’d be a willing help. As someone who works w/ those w/ special needs , that’s not a light take-on so God bless him for viewing that as something he can do .
Yessss! I promise you I was watching a LIB review video at 7 AM today thinking ‘I wonder when Steph Anya is gonna upload more videos’!!! I think we ALL would love more videos about each couple who got engaged + their other potentials. I know it’s complicated this season but honestly I’d love any type of relationship review about these people!
Yoo genuinely I feel like your TH-cam channel is one of those channels where you find it and it’s like wow “they have such good content” and I don’t find those often at all🙌🏿
As an aspiring therapist, I am so appreciative of your content and thoughtful perspective on these shows! It is such a beautiful blend of my interests! (If you can say pursuing a career in therapy is an interest 😂) I admire you so much, thank you for being such a valuable role model!! ❤❤❤
AD did not do anything to MAKE Matt open up. She admitted she “talks nice” to men. She just let Matt talk and feel important when no one else would do that.
Absolutely, AD came across as calculative and vain (was talking about Clay's looks very often). Also, she had a distasteful conversation with Kenneth that changed his perspective on his relationship. Is was NOT her place to do that. We didn't even get the chance to meet their families and understand if that would have been a "red flag",
I love that you are releasing a first-impressions video on the things you are noticing early-on, especially since the show is currently so fresh in our minds! I would be interested in hearing your updates as the season and the couples progress!
I really like your current structure where you do videos per couple (or per love triangle!) rather than just each episode. Your style makes it easier to see the bigger picture!
OMG! I been struggling with other people's review of Love is Blind while checking everyday for your video! As a therapist I love your breakdown and assessments.❤
Matthew was spot on! I believe it was NPD because when Amber left the show he immediately wanted to go find her. It was like she kick started an obsession that he needed to be able to reject her to regulate his Ego and he started trying to play it like he really cared about her. Such an odd dynamic!!
I was watching a lot of reviews of the show here on TH-cam and all I was thinking was I can't wait for Steph point of view (since I always watch your videos and reviews on the show) Love your insights
Fellow therapist here, I love watching your Love is Blind breakdowns. It’s so fascinating to watch some of these dynamics play out between the couples. I would love to see you do a video on the recent Wendy Williams docuseries. There is so much there to explore with the family dynamics, substance abuse, cognitive issues, the manipulation by her “team”. It’s a very sad situation and although she’s a celebrity I think these issues are very relatable within families.
Fellow therapist here! I just started watching this season of LIB last week and have caught up quickly due to all the relationship dynamics at play. I just had to see how this all played out because of the glaringly obvious red flags in some of the cast. I absolutely loved your breakdown, specifically on Chelsea and Clay, because they have been stand outs for me in terms of their emotional maturity (or lack of 😂) and expression. I’m so glad I found your channel, I subscribed immediately! Wonderful job!
I’ve been waiting on your perspective for this season!!!! I said to myself, “Wait till Steph see’s all of this shenanigans.” 😅 Really though, this was a nice intro to the people & your insight. As soon as Jess said her plan as to waiting to say mention that she has a child I was like, “Oh no ma’am!! That’s not gonna work!” 🤷🏾♀️ I’m a single mother who’s dating & I’d NEVER wait to mention that I have children. I need to know that the man is open to that & will accept us from the beginning. That’s too much to drop on someone later so I knew that wasn’t going to work. The nerve of her to blame him for ruining the experience for her 🤦🏾♀️ She ruined it for herself pulling that tactic. Matthew, no one was on your side sorry to tell you sir! 🤣 I think Clay has a very sensitive ego. He looks nice & all put together but I think he’s really fragile. He also questions marriage a lot too, so idk why he’s really there. Can’t wait to see what else you put out regarding this show, as well as your other content. ❤❤❤
I'm a former counseling major. Thank you for what you are doing here. I find your videos so helpful because as with life, and with this show, I see things happen and don't know what words to use to describe what I'm seeing, if I stop and acknowledge what is happening. You really help me sort my thoughts and reactions to LIB. Thank you! ❤
I find it really helpful how you break down first impressions, offering insight into clinical and behavioral indicators of various diagnoses. It's also really helpful for me to remember the earlier episodes and see patterns that are maybe more fleshed out in later episodes... I also find it really helpful when you break down each couple! If you do continue with the couple analysis, could you consider elaborating on how couples like Chelsea and Jimmy could benefit from therapy and ideas on treating individual partners' cognitive distortions in relational dynamics?
I love AD, she’s such a strong woman and very sure of herself and what she brings to the table. All the other woman lack confidence and seem to rely on their relationship for security rather than grow with their partner.
I love long couple focused videos that also cover the individuals themselves, love triangles etc. and the master reunion video etc This initial master format is also super interesting and enjoyable. You make the best ones!
I would like you to do breakdowns for each couples. Feels like there was a lot more love triangles in this season. Also curious on your thoughts about Chelsea the most. She seems like she needs therapy the most
Very good on point and couldn’t wait for you to do the breakdown. Please keep doing the dynamics with the couples. I also wondered if Chelsea has some abandonment issues reminded me of BPD to some extent. But certainly lots of projection happening. Can’t wait to hear more. I wish they would’ve shown Matt’s interaction with the other young lady.
hiii Steph I love your videos!! Just wanted to send love and appreciation as a current therapist working towards licensure. Can’t wait to get to your level! 🎉
I’m so excited you did first impressions!!! Thanks for putting it out early, I was soo curious what your first impressions were. I think you covered them well. Over all… this seasons Pod time was less dramatic and more enjoyable for me to watch
I personally like your videos reviewing each couple rather than each participant individually. Love this video btw! I love your videos about love is blind rather than the show itself lol, they're what got me to watch the show in the first place.
I am a subscriber and a therapist in training and I learn so much in your in video about looking and analyzing behavior in the real world, not in hypotheticals, scenarios, or textbooks. I am grateful that there are therapists like you that are willing to share their knowledge on these platforms!❤️
Stephhh!!! Loveeeee this video!!!! Can we get a video of strictly AD & clay! Also I think there were red flags of both clay and AD. I think AD called clay out on many inappropriate comments he made and he expressed his fear of being faithful due to his parents history of a relationship, but yet she still kept empowering him as if “they can do this thing called marriage”. I think AD just wanted to be married. Many time I felt she was too mature n seen the flags n thought she was smart enough to say no… but her saying yes at the alter blew me. But I’m happy Clay said no because of a valid reason “he knew he wasn’t ready”
Oh my gosh we already have a video for the season! I get so excited when you post new videos. I think another comment mentioned your commentary being required supplemental material to watch with and I whole heartedly agree. I honestly get more excited for your videos breaking down different dynamics we see on the show more than I look forward to the actual show sometimes 😅 as for suggestions, I know they can be slim pickings sometimes, but I would love more videos on green flags. It was awesome seeing you be so excited about the Browns in the season 4 because they had so many and that joy definitely carried over ti the viewers too. You could even do various examples throughout the seasons if you wanted, highlighting different behaviors and options.
I love when you break it down couple by couple (one couple per video). Befor literally every single one of your videos, I've said to my friends who watch the show *a lot* of what your opinion happens to be, and when I watch your videos, I feel totally validated in my opinion and learn much more about what may be happening in each relationship and/or individual than I originally thought. So I love all of these breakdowns! Thanks for keeping it up!
Steph, thank you so much for these educational and entertaining videos. I truly enjoy them all. I would love to watch a video of you breaking down the top things couples should consider before getting married. My apologies if you’ve done this before. Thanks!
Thank you so much for taking the time to breaking this down. Part of the interest in Love is Blind is being able to hear you chat through some of these patterns and what they look like in real life.
i absolutely live for your reviews. i just wait for the notification. also i love your critiques of the relationships. very objective and authentic. i also love that you explain some technical terms if applicable. thank you for debunking mental health for mass culture.
I loved how you broke this down!!! Thank you!!! You handled this break down so professionally and seriously I appreciated this because in my own journey to healing knowing that I’m identifying troubling behavior similarly is so validating!!! ❤
Found your channel through your love is blind videos and also fell in love with your other content!! I agree with other commenters that your take on the dynamics of the couples/individual personalities is more fulfilling and is much more insightful and mind opening to watch compared to people just reviewing and sharing their opinion! Thanks for putting in the work to give us content like this to watch! 🥰
6:55 as soon as he said that I would have been done, it’s just so unsettling and, at best from my perspective, ridiculously naive to think someone wouldn’t expect to be able to ask the questions back.
I was anticipating your videos on this season, so happy to see the first one now. I always love to hear your thoughts on this show. Can't wait to hear more from you about Chelsea/Jimmy and Clay/AD
Love your videos! I really enjoyed when you reviewed each couple in their own video, instead of each person individually. I think because so much of what we learn from the individuals comes from how they carry themselves in the relationship, it makes for a good format in my opinion.
Thank you so much for the LIB videos, I would love to see more content about relationship milestones, attachment styles, and navigating interracial relationships.
The way I have been raving about your breakdowns with my SIL 😅 I’m having her catch up with all the previous ones so we can watch this season’s breakdowns together!
I absolutely enjoy your videos. I am learning so much in terms of romantic relationships and how that plays out when it comes to exposure to family friends and beliefs. I enjoyed the couple of videos and individual breakdowns of some of the participants on Love is blind.
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Chelsea is the personification of creating a storm and then crying when it starts to rain.
..verrrrrryyyy well said
Agree.
Yeah she crazy but Jimmy just as crazy and out of pocket as well
Facts
couldn't have said it better myself
I really like you reviewing each couple rather than doing episode reviews like so many others do.
Glad to know!
Same!! Such a broader view of the foolishness.
I like both!! Haha can we get both 😂😂
Yeah it does make more sense when discussing couple dynamics but for non-professionals I think the episode-by-episode format is fine! I recommend Kennie JD in case you guys don't know her yet 😊✨
Me too!
I understand that Mattew has a lot of red flags but when it came to Clay, his reaction to finding out that AD was also dating Matthew felt like a huge red flag. It felt like he was judging AD for liking someone else that he didn't view as his equal or on the same level as him.
I thought the same thing. He was not just taken aback but appalled. I was thinking that he might tell her that he has serial killer vibes and to be careful, but it was about his ego. And he has said he has an ego and it seems to be very fragile.
I wonder if he would have reacted the same if the person wasn't Matthew lol he seemed to have a reputation on the men's lounge. Perhaps he would have been upset but I think the fact that it was Matthew specifically didn't help.
@@Bellachris75 I wonder that too. If it was any other guy, would he have had such a bug reaction?
Yesss!
He literally explained himself on the show. He feels Matthew is in some way beneath him so he was absolutely shook that AD put them “on the same level”
Matthew is something. I've never seen someone interact that way while also being so calculating.
I actually didn't see it as calculating in a negative way. I think he's incredibly socially awkward and had a script ready to use on the women just like he had his list of questions ready. If it worked on anyone he would be happy but 2 women were interested and I don't think he expected to have options. Also we see season after season that men struggle to choose between 2 women and it makes sense because men don't have much experience with that in the real world. Usually it's women who do the rejecting and have multiple options.
@@joanna0988 I think if it were just autism with scripts he would have had scripts for the male contestants. From my perspective it was odd that he made no effort to mask in front of them if it was autism. It seemed more calculated for this reason.
@@gabriellaruth83 I don't think it's autism but I don't think it's just manipulative behavior with mal intent either? My son is autistic and we're around lots of neurodivergent folks. I've seen some people behave similar to him in new social settings.
He had the benefit of the doubt in my eyes and I somehow rooted for him until he told both woman the same. His last sentences made him just an awful human being, imho.
@@joanna0988looked like he did have some scripts for women but the way he sorta swayed AD at first after getting caught, sorta masterful
When I was single, I made sure that the first thing people knew about me was that I have a son. I didn’t want to waste my time or their’s if they didn’t want kids in the picture. I knew other people who kept it hidden and I could never understand why.
My mom dated a man who was just interested in being around me (I was 13). So in some circumstances I would say there is a good reason to hide that you have children because it's not unheard of for predators to date someone to have access to their children.
@@joanna0988exactly this
@@joanna0988Good point. Some creeps target single moms with small children
In real life I would always say I have a child first, but I understand this experiment is different and the point is to get to know the person first.
For protecting the child from predators.
Sadly this show has become contaminated with people who only want the 15 minutes of fame benefits of the show. They dont take the experiment seriously and some of them are in relationships outside of the show.
that and they're actors.
Yes!!! They are going in and leaving their partners outside, in agreement that is only for the 15 minutes of fame. I just saw a video of Deepti (who was one of my favorite ladies from LIB) talking about how she made a million after the show.
Absolutely! This is the last american version I will finish because it is ridiculous! Swedish was so much better in my eyes, people felt more mature
Have you watched Japanese version? Couples are still together with children!!
@KM-im1yl No, i have trouble with the weird voiceovers. I'd rather just read subtitles than hear the fake voices .
The moment Matthew compared himself to Superman, I knew he was gonna be a Bizarro.
Omg yes!
Thats a good one😂
Lmaooooo saaaammeeeeee “ bizarrrooooo “ 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Haha I gotta get as good as you at catching red flags 😂🚩
I literally called him dollar store Clark Kent RIGHT BEFORE he made the Superman comment and my finance and I cracked up.
OMG!!!!!! YOU DONT EVEN KNOW HOW LONG IVE BEEN WAITING FOR YOUR VIDEO(S) ON THIS! LET'S GOOOOO!
Let's gooo!!
Same!!
Same!!
Same
Same!!! I'm like, Where's my girl!?!? We Need the reviews!!
Yes you're SO spot on about Chelsea, she takes everything so personally and twists it (subconsciously) to take huge offence to it and get SO upset.
I would love to hear about how alcohol can influence these dynamics and insecurities - it seems to be one of the catalysts for dysfunction.
100% I think you see many big moments, fights, confessions are usually fueled by alcohol and therefore less inhibited
This is a really great point! I’ve never even thought of that.
Alchol is the cause of a lot of crimes (moral or civil). Totally.
I know one of the many lawsuits the show has is about them being pressured to drink! So there’s definitely something there
Agree!! Chelsea being upset about Jimmy's girlfriend still being a confident and very close friend was legitimate but when she said it on camera she looked intoxicated, right?
It would be cool if you could break down the different ways each couple handles conflict .
Ohh that’s a great idea!
That would be interesting because I watch the couples and think of ways of how I do or don’t want to emulate certain actions in relationships. Usually it’s a how I don’t want to emulate their actions with LIB relationships lol 😂
On a side note, in the vein of suggestions about other content that we would enjoy. I would love a series on birth order amongst siblings and how that impacts attachment style, relationship to authority, how they show up in romantic relationships and platonic friendships, and how the siblings end up relating to each other. As the youngest of three girls on my mother's side and the oldest of three girls on my father's side, I have experienced both ends of the relational spectrum. Thank you so much for your amazing content Steph Anya ❤️
Oh I love that idea! Thank you!!
I would love a video like this!
i also would love a video on this too! I am a middle child of four girls and we all operate so differently just based on birth order!
Oh yeah very interesting. I had a conversation about that with my colleagues. We are all 3 the eldest. They told they think, as the eldest, we worry about things that the others siblings don’t have to. They also said, we have some kind of pressure put on us because of being the first born. I am curious to know if there are any studies on that.
I would love this! And maybe even some advice on sibling relationships. I’m a middle child and my two little sisters take a lot out of me and also I never make a big fuss because my siblings are b more demanding on everyone’s time. Most times I don’t mind but sometimes I feel very neglected and invisible.
Autistic peer support specialist here - I also surround myself with neurodivergents, and this does *not* appear like neurodivergence related behaviors to me at all. Most autistics care deeply for others and even if we may at times struggle with the expression aspect - Matthew's callousness is not a normative representation of autism. I am not a clinician but this seems more like calculatedness, he's not struggling to read social cues, and in fact uses them to his advantage. He tells AD how she feels, and seems to use that against her for his benefit. Again, not a clinician, but this appears more consistent with Axis B personality disorders such as antisocial and/or narcissistic PD, *not* autism. ♡
I'm so annoyed by all the people defending Matthew by saying he seems autistic. I'm no expert but I've known a few autistic people and I agree with you. You don't just turn it off and on, and some people that I've known have been so...compassionate and interested in other people, and vibrant and interesting. Matthew is something else. His personality seems repulsive and I feel like that's insulting to autistic people to be like "oh he's ND definitely!"
@xletragedyx If you are annoyed then you can perhaps imagine how it feels for those of us in the autistic community who deal with a lot of stigma, ableism and stereotypes. It is scary to me to hear autism thrown out as a differential in the same sentence as severe personality disorders because these are apples and oranges. A Developmental condition is very different from antisocial or NPD. An autistic person is highly likely to be manipulated or taken advantage of so there's even a term for this "autistic mate crime". Antisocial and NPD persons are more likely to manipulate others, and in many cases will take the opportunity to prey on the social naivete of autistic people. Thankfully I am noticing most mental health professionals in their videos are leaning towards labeling Matthew's behaviors as possibly indicating personality disordered traits rather than a Developmental condition like autism, but hearing them strung together is still alarming and scary as it can create the conditions for many people to misinterpret and conflate.
@Holy_ShihTzu I'm sure it's very frustrating and I do understand what it feels like. I don't think it's fair at all, and I agree with everything you said. I have friends with autism and they're lovely people who would never act like Matthew.
@Nadia-ky5mi Actually not feeling pressure to socially mask and worry about making enough eye contact per ~the neurotypical standard~ could be refreshing for many of us lol
@@Holy_ShihTzupeople with NPD prey on everyone. Not just those with ASD. They prey on people who are vulnerable. Whether it be a single parent, an empath, or someone with ASD. It's all about preying on what they perceive as "the weak".
Chelsea is completely projecting all of her insecurities on to others. I feel bad for Jimmy because I think he does love her but she will wear him down. I don’t think she actually loves him, she loves the idea of him. Her crying is a form of manipulation and tactic to get her way. It’s borderline scary and triggering because I have been that way and I’ve had someone do it to me.
Her pattern is she sees something, has a negative thought, projects her negative beliefs onto others, then starts a fight and try to make it their fault until she either wears them down or they set a boundary and stand up for themselves, if they do the latter she will beg and fawn for them not to leave. Then the cycle starts again. If jimmy stays with her he is going to be a shell of himself and will morph into her version of what she wants him to do.
Every time I watch any scenes with them I’m literally screaming at the tv “ jimmy stand up for yourself”.
Chelsea is scary.
Yes it's so sad because her insecurities are driving him away. She is literally meeting her fate on the road she takes to avoid it. I've never seen self-sabotaging this obviously before.
Yeah she genuinely gives me emotional abuser vibes. So manipulative and coercive with the tears and the little creepy voice she uses as baby talk. Jimmy seems like a pretty meh guy but I really hope he doesn’t get stuck with her for life.
Definitely scary to watch how she weaponizes her tears.
Two case scenarios:
1- Jimmy truly loves and is attracted to her: her insecurities will make him wish he had never met her because she will exhaust him mentally until leaves her.
2- Jimmy is not really attracted to her and that’s why she feels the way she does: it’s still her responsibility to accept things as they are and leave him, instead of falling into a toxic pattern of forcing someone to admit that they indeed love you when you know they don’t.
When both talk about the reasons why they chose each other, this dynamic was inevitable. This is a match made in hell.
I don't see how she and Jimmy could love each other. Their relationship is so surface-level and shallow. All they do is argue about Chelsea's needs. Do they want kids? Do they align politically? Why do they love each other? Even Jeramey and Laura had a deeper relationship.
God Chelsea sounds like my ex and Jimmy is me. He was manipulative and an abused it fucked me up
You have made yourself REQUIRED VIEWING to supplement this show!!!!! This is dope, Steph!!!!!!! I’m in on this!!!
Aw thanks, Desi! 🤗
This! Every season now I come to TH-cam to hear her analysis because YES!!!
This is how I feel too! I watched the episodes and it doesn’t feel complete until I come here 🫶🏼
As a single mom who has dated I use to be extremely upfront and have it in my bio even when dating. The thing is there is a lot of predators that specifically go for single moms. So that’s why I began waiting to get to know the other person to see if they are a safe person or at least try and get a good read before telling them. It sucks!
OMG! What a terrible thing to have to be aware off!
I think your thoughts are very interesting as always ;) the way Chelsea behaves reminds me of zanab a bit. The projecting, the deep rooted insecurities, always finding faults in the other person 😅
low self estim too!
Weird, because just today, I was thinking Jessica reminded me Zanab. I get that Chelsea and Zanab are both overtly insecure, and honestly, I think some of that has to do with Jimmy and Cole clearly not being interested, but Jessica and Zanab have more mean girl vibes IMO, not to mention similarish backgrounds. People hate Chelsea, which I guess their entitled to, but I just don't agree with any of the accusations that's she's this manipulative person. She just has some deep-rooted insecurities that need to be worked through.
Yes Samantha, I agree with you! I am sure Zanab saw the cutie clip and still thought Cole was shaming her first. I don't she was lying, I think it was her perception. With that being said, I hope she is doing better now and that she now sees that Cole had no bad intentions, at least not in that clip.
And you are right: Jimmy doesn't seem interested to me. He seems exhausted. I think Chalsey struggled in the pods too, but mainly due to low self esteem.
I agree she was definitely giving Zanab vibes! She is on the same lines of always playing the victim and asking for sympathy. I can kind of sympathize with her in that I can be too sensitive at times, but I know most of the time it's just me taking things the wrong way.
@@samanthas8340 Manipulation does not equate malice. To a certain extent, everyone is guilty of manipulation, it's a part of social interactions. Chelsea is definitely manipulative.
She does not communicate with the intention of explaining her point and view, receiving her partner's point of view, and working from there on equal footing.
She consistently attempts to manipulate the outcome of conversations in order to make herself appear like a victim and have her partner crawl to reassure her.
She may not be going at it in a "mean girl" way, that is, being arrogant or contemptuous, but she is in fact manipulative.
Matthew scared me. I was relieved when he left the show. I am curious why we didn't see much of his dates with Amber though.
he really freaked me out!!! I was immediately getting danger vibes
i feel like they didnt show them to set up that twist with AD. but for a moment it had me wondering if him or Amber (or maybe both of them) were producer plants. it was just so strange to watch play out on screen
@@nataliaalonzo580 Same! Even with guys he was scary acting, and the guys seemed to call him on it too, but of course Matthew just stayed completely non interactive. All I could think was there’s something really scary wrong with him. 😬
@@nataliaalonzo580him and jeramey!!!
If I met Mathew in real life;he would not get past my front door.Scary dude!
Thank you for articulating the ~Je ne sais quoi quality about clay. I actually think he’s my favorite of the guys and I usually have zero tolerance for player types. He seems like he has a well-meaning heart and an emotional depth to him that I’m not seeing in any of the other men…. But he also seems like he is held back or trapped by trauma (no judgement- we’ve all experienced this) so he defaults to acting douchey because it’s so surface-level. I know it’s cliche to say this, but I think he would really benefit from and shine after working with a therapist. He seems like he just needs a little help expressing his emotions, just like you said.
Love to you, steph! ❤
I honestly have mixed feelings about him. I am in a wait and see mode.
He did say he has an ego and it is fragile. I agree with you and I think real emotions make him uncomfortable and he starts to self sabotage and lets that ego takeover. It’s hard seeing real glimpses of him for him to then act an ass. AD is going to get whiplash from these behaviors and he will always find himself in unfulfilling self serving, surface level relationships if he can’t get some direction, healing, and order now.
I agree with your assessment about Jessica not doing the best thing by withholding.. However, I recall Jimmy saying her being mother didn't break the deal. He specifically he didn't like her conflict management skills.
So he says.
@@alishashadows9599 I just saw the recent episodes.. Not much has changed. He still says Jessica is his number 1 and it was.. (drum roll) the pressure he felt, that deterred him
I noticed that when people say "People think I'm a player" they typically tend to be exactly that .. meaning they are more so surface level, and get bored/distracted easily
That’s such a good formula for your first video on the season!
I have concerns with AD. When she says she tries to save her boyfriends… and then date the 2 biggest redflags of this season…
Yup, she played herself honestly
THANK YOU for mentioning Jessica first, she blew it with Jimmy by doing that. She’s the one treating her daughter like baggage. That should be what you’re most proud of and the right man would either love that right away or warm to the idea getting to know you.
Most high value men don’t want a single mom. A kid from another man is baggage. It’s also a liability!
Love when you analyze individual people and their relationships on love is blind!!!
I like the individual couple breakdown. Where you go through the whole season of that couple. I know you have to wait til after the show is over but that’s my fav way you do the breakdowns
Your interpretation with Chelsea was so spot on and you explained it so well!
One thing that stuck out to me about Clay is how he keeps talking about how he’s created a persona, based on his unfaithful father, and that what he portrays isn’t who he really is. He straight up says this and says “I’m a nerd fr.” That to me was a major red flag. He also generally seems disinterested in conversations with AD and seems to being trying to giver her an out the whole time. I don’t think he’s really that different from Matthew. I think that culturally it comes out differently. Once he came through like “AD = All Day!!” I knew it was boutta be a wild ride.
Hmm I imagine for Clay if he is trying to give her sn out it's because he has an avoidant attachment style and intimacy scares him. I think he wants it but maybe doesn't feel "good enough" so he typically persues relationships that won't last because they can't confirm his deep seeded beliefs.
Matthew on the other is persuing two women because I think he wants a relationship, that, or he just wants fame/prestige 🤷♀️ if he does want a relationship then my assumption is its its coming from a more distant place and comprehension of wanting what other people have and what society tells him he should want and so he doesnt really matter who it is; he just wants to experience it. Intimacy is obviously more critical to us as a species, but Matthew might not be thinking about that consciously.
@@samanthas8340Clay is not ready. He obviously has no room for a wife in his life. His mentors & the men he looks up to are all serial cheaters. He wants AD to baby him & be his therapist. They will make a toxic pairing that would not surprise me.
I will give Clay credit, he has been very open with AD about his struggles due to trauma and that he doesn't know if he can overcome those fears and doubts. She seemingly keeps ignoring these or trying to tell him it will be fine.
I don't think he's anything like Matthew! Clay is a bit all over the place emotionally - he wants intimacy but is quite stressed out by it and doesn't trust himself. Matthew is entirely a different matter.
I’m glad you touched on the fact that Jess kept the fact that she had a daughter from the guys because she wanted them to get to know her first. I agree that being a mother is a huge part of who you are so I’m not sure how I would keep that from someone who’s getting to know me. I thought it was a bad idea from the jump. Also Chelsea does seem like an emotional manipulator and I’d love for you to go a little more in depth when it comes to how and when she cries, the crying just doesn’t seem genuine at any point. Love your videos, I actually watch LIB because I want to see your videos after. ❤
She should not have been on the show I the first place. It makes me think she is a weekend mom. How are you going to bring someone around your child that you barely know for few weeks?
@@beewest5704I low-key agree. I think obviously mothers are allowed to be their own people and date but... She's now going on perfect match?
@@fdscrl6016. Exactly. From the trailer "perfect match" sounded a bit vulgar to me (no plans to watch that) and can't imagine the burden the child has to carry at school.
hi ! im a psychologist and i really appreciate how you word things in your videos!! they are so eye-opening and avoid rushing to diagnose people as i ve seen on other channels!!
Steph… sis… ima need that next video to drop tomorrow 😢 I’ve BEEN waiting
😭😭 I don’t know what to tell you, friend. I’m trying lol
been waiting for you queen!!!
I appreciate you!!
Steph I love that you are learning Spanish to be a better service to non-English speakers! I am a manager at a retail store in Miami, and learned Spanish for the same reason, I have plenty of employees who don’t speak English and it just feels more considerate, acknowledging and respectful to them to make an effort in that way and it makes both of our jobs easier and more enjoyable. Nothing feels better than speaking in Spanish with my employees and feeling a genuine connection form that would’ve been impossible had i not learned.
I never recognized what Johnny said in response to Amy being a possible caregiver to her brother. After seeing Johnny through the season , I deff’ think he’d be a willing help. As someone who works w/ those w/ special needs , that’s not a light take-on so God bless him for viewing that as something he can do .
Yessss! I promise you I was watching a LIB review video at 7 AM today thinking ‘I wonder when Steph Anya is gonna upload more videos’!!!
I think we ALL would love more videos about each couple who got engaged + their other potentials. I know it’s complicated this season but honestly I’d love any type of relationship review about these people!
So sweet! Thanks for waiting 🫶🏽
Yoo genuinely I feel like your TH-cam channel is one of those channels where you find it and it’s like wow “they have such good content” and I don’t find those often at all🙌🏿
Yes! I love how chill her and her channel are . No theatrics, yet still entertaining
As an aspiring therapist, I am so appreciative of your content and thoughtful perspective on these shows! It is such a beautiful blend of my interests! (If you can say pursuing a career in therapy is an interest 😂)
I admire you so much, thank you for being such a valuable role model!! ❤❤❤
AD did not do anything to MAKE Matt open up. She admitted she “talks nice” to men. She just let Matt talk and feel important when no one else would do that.
Absolutely, AD came across as calculative and vain (was talking about Clay's looks very often). Also, she had a distasteful conversation with Kenneth that changed his perspective on his relationship. Is was NOT her place to do that. We didn't even get the chance to meet their families and understand if that would have been a "red flag",
I love that you are releasing a first-impressions video on the things you are noticing early-on, especially since the show is currently so fresh in our minds! I would be interested in hearing your updates as the season and the couples progress!
I really like your current structure where you do videos per couple (or per love triangle!) rather than just each episode. Your style makes it easier to see the bigger picture!
OMG! I been struggling with other people's review of Love is Blind while checking everyday for your video! As a therapist I love your breakdown and assessments.❤
Matthew was spot on! I believe it was NPD because when Amber left the show he immediately wanted to go find her. It was like she kick started an obsession that he needed to be able to reject her to regulate his Ego and he started trying to play it like he really cared about her. Such an odd dynamic!!
Literally he cried but not because he liked her. He cried cause his ego was hurt.
They skipped on the psych evaluations this season. Saddens me honestly
I saw a lot of people was reacting etc etc but saved my view just waiting for steph! She always delivers🎉🎉❤❤
Aw I appreciate you!!
So excited for your video ! I was really hoping you would do a Love Is Blind Analysis for this season 😊 Yay
As a psych major, I really appreciate these analysis. The individual and couple videos are helpful❤
Please do more videos per couple & one on the reunion! I basically watch all the ones you did from last season. I THROUGHLY enjoyed them! ♥️
I was watching a lot of reviews of the show here on TH-cam and all I was thinking was I can't wait for Steph point of view (since I always watch your videos and reviews on the show) Love your insights
Fellow therapist here, I love watching your Love is Blind breakdowns. It’s so fascinating to watch some of these dynamics play out between the couples. I would love to see you do a video on the recent Wendy Williams docuseries. There is so much there to explore with the family dynamics, substance abuse, cognitive issues, the manipulation by her “team”. It’s a very sad situation and although she’s a celebrity I think these issues are very relatable within families.
If you're comfortable with chiming in... Would you agree that Chelsea displays symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder?
I love the couple breakdowns. And since we have more couples this season (+ love triangles), I think that format would make more sense
GIRRRRL Much love from Germany, your videos are the real season finale ❤
Oh I can’t wait for the Jimmy and Chelsea episode
Some of these things you picked up on I’ve never heard anyone else say. Definitely a great observer, makes sense why you’re a successful therapist.
Fellow therapist here! I just started watching this season of LIB last week and have caught up quickly due to all the relationship dynamics at play. I just had to see how this all played out because of the glaringly obvious red flags in some of the cast. I absolutely loved your breakdown, specifically on Chelsea and Clay, because they have been stand outs for me in terms of their emotional maturity (or lack of 😂) and expression. I’m so glad I found your channel, I subscribed immediately! Wonderful job!
I like the reviews of the couples. It brings the whole series together instead of in pieces.
I’ve been waiting on your perspective for this season!!!! I said to myself, “Wait till Steph see’s all of this shenanigans.” 😅 Really though, this was a nice intro to the people & your insight. As soon as Jess said her plan as to waiting to say mention that she has a child I was like, “Oh no ma’am!! That’s not gonna work!” 🤷🏾♀️ I’m a single mother who’s dating & I’d NEVER wait to mention that I have children. I need to know that the man is open to that & will accept us from the beginning. That’s too much to drop on someone later so I knew that wasn’t going to work. The nerve of her to blame him for ruining the experience for her 🤦🏾♀️ She ruined it for herself pulling that tactic.
Matthew, no one was on your side sorry to tell you sir! 🤣
I think Clay has a very sensitive ego. He looks nice & all put together but I think he’s really fragile. He also questions marriage a lot too, so idk why he’s really there.
Can’t wait to see what else you put out regarding this show, as well as your other content.
❤❤❤
I'm a former counseling major. Thank you for what you are doing here. I find your videos so helpful because as with life, and with this show, I see things happen and don't know what words to use to describe what I'm seeing, if I stop and acknowledge what is happening. You really help me sort my thoughts and reactions to LIB. Thank you! ❤
Been waiting for your thoughts on this season!! Thank you!!
Thank YOU!
@@StephAnya please do a thoughts and opinions on the story of Reesa Teesa (WHO TF DID I MARRY) !!!!!!!!
You are my main source of LIB content. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!!
I find it really helpful how you break down first impressions, offering insight into clinical and behavioral indicators of various diagnoses. It's also really helpful for me to remember the earlier episodes and see patterns that are maybe more fleshed out in later episodes... I also find it really helpful when you break down each couple! If you do continue with the couple analysis, could you consider elaborating on how couples like Chelsea and Jimmy could benefit from therapy and ideas on treating individual partners' cognitive distortions in relational dynamics?
I love AD, she’s such a strong woman and very sure of herself and what she brings to the table. All the other woman lack confidence and seem to rely on their relationship for security rather than grow with their partner.
I agree, but I don‘t think Amy is that insecure
I would be too if I was a former cheerleader for the NFL 😂
She is also insecure cause why does she want to build a bear. How many times did Clay tell her he is going to cheat & she goes mkay?
@@beewest5704or doesn't come home!!!! The audacity baby
Is she?!?!?
I love long couple focused videos that also cover the individuals themselves, love triangles etc. and the master reunion video etc
This initial master format is also super interesting and enjoyable. You make the best ones!
I would like you to do breakdowns for each couples. Feels like there was a lot more love triangles in this season. Also curious on your thoughts about Chelsea the most. She seems like she needs therapy the most
Very good on point and couldn’t wait for you to do the breakdown. Please keep doing the dynamics with the couples. I also wondered if Chelsea has some abandonment issues reminded me of BPD to some extent. But certainly lots of projection happening. Can’t wait to hear more. I wish they would’ve shown Matt’s interaction with the other young lady.
I thought BPD for Chelsea as well!
As soon as I saw Matthew I was waiting on this!! Can’t wait to see your thoughts on Clays fear of cheating lol
I loved this. As a fellow therapist, I have to say I think you're spot on in your assessment of the initial interactions.
As an LMFT, I completely agree with all that you pointed out. I saw the same exact things!! Spot on!!
I need a new episode based on the lassst episode!! Can't wait for the breakdown of Clay/AD
I say this every season but I would love to see you host the reunion. Your analysis is honestly so needed❤
hiii Steph I love your videos!! Just wanted to send love and appreciation as a current therapist working towards licensure. Can’t wait to get to your level! 🎉
I thought the exact same thing watching Matt! I told my sis exactly that. Spot on! Fellow therapist here👋🏼
I’m so excited you did first impressions!!! Thanks for putting it out early, I was soo curious what your first impressions were. I think you covered them well. Over all… this seasons Pod time was less dramatic and more enjoyable for me to watch
I enjoy the couple and individual break downs. It really helps call out red flags
I love that your videos are coming out sooner, you're content is so well done and polished.
I personally like your videos reviewing each couple rather than each participant individually. Love this video btw! I love your videos about love is blind rather than the show itself lol, they're what got me to watch the show in the first place.
Please also do a video talking about Jeramey's behavious as well. There is a lot to unpack there!
I love the videos focusing on each couple. So comprehensive and it’s great to follow their trajectory from start to end.
I am a subscriber and a therapist in training and I learn so much in your in video about looking and analyzing behavior in the real world, not in hypotheticals, scenarios, or textbooks. I am grateful that there are therapists like you that are willing to share their knowledge on these platforms!❤️
Yessss!!! Out of all of the channels I’ve been waiting for your take on this season the most! Thank you for your content❤❤❤❤❤
Stephhh!!! Loveeeee this video!!!! Can we get a video of strictly AD & clay! Also I think there were red flags of both clay and AD. I think AD called clay out on many inappropriate comments he made and he expressed his fear of being faithful due to his parents history of a relationship, but yet she still kept empowering him as if “they can do this thing called marriage”. I think AD just wanted to be married. Many time I felt she was too mature n seen the flags n thought she was smart enough to say no… but her saying yes at the alter blew me. But I’m happy Clay said no because of a valid reason “he knew he wasn’t ready”
Oh my gosh we already have a video for the season! I get so excited when you post new videos. I think another comment mentioned your commentary being required supplemental material to watch with and I whole heartedly agree. I honestly get more excited for your videos breaking down different dynamics we see on the show more than I look forward to the actual show sometimes 😅 as for suggestions, I know they can be slim pickings sometimes, but I would love more videos on green flags. It was awesome seeing you be so excited about the Browns in the season 4 because they had so many and that joy definitely carried over ti the viewers too. You could even do various examples throughout the seasons if you wanted, highlighting different behaviors and options.
It’s crazy how most of your initial impressions are spot on!
I love when you break it down couple by couple (one couple per video). Befor literally every single one of your videos, I've said to my friends who watch the show *a lot* of what your opinion happens to be, and when I watch your videos, I feel totally validated in my opinion and learn much more about what may be happening in each relationship and/or individual than I originally thought. So I love all of these breakdowns! Thanks for keeping it up!
FINALLY!!!! You entered the CHAT 🗣️
I wasn’t gone pressure you but I did wonder if your career and family was getting in the way of our videos 😂
We’ve been WAITING, girl!
Steph, thank you so much for these educational and entertaining videos. I truly enjoy them all. I would love to watch a video of you breaking down the top things couples should consider before getting married. My apologies if you’ve done this before. Thanks!
I love the way you break down personalities! It’s so fun to hear your take on people that we also know.
Thank you so much for taking the time to breaking this down. Part of the interest in Love is Blind is being able to hear you chat through some of these patterns and what they look like in real life.
i absolutely live for your reviews. i just wait for the notification. also i love your critiques of the relationships. very objective and authentic. i also love that you explain some technical terms if applicable. thank you for debunking mental health for mass culture.
I loved how you broke this down!!! Thank you!!! You handled this break down so professionally and seriously I appreciated this because in my own journey to healing knowing that I’m identifying troubling behavior similarly is so validating!!! ❤
Found your channel through your love is blind videos and also fell in love with your other content!! I agree with other commenters that your take on the dynamics of the couples/individual personalities is more fulfilling and is much more insightful and mind opening to watch compared to people just reviewing and sharing their opinion! Thanks for putting in the work to give us content like this to watch! 🥰
6:55 as soon as he said that I would have been done, it’s just so unsettling and, at best from my perspective, ridiculously naive to think someone wouldn’t expect to be able to ask the questions back.
I was anticipating your videos on this season, so happy to see the first one now. I always love to hear your thoughts on this show. Can't wait to hear more from you about Chelsea/Jimmy and Clay/AD
Love your videos! I really enjoyed when you reviewed each couple in their own video, instead of each person individually. I think because so much of what we learn from the individuals comes from how they carry themselves in the relationship, it makes for a good format in my opinion.
I always love your analysis videos🙌🏾🙌🏾 I think doing the videos by couple and talking about each person in the couple was a good format!
Thank you so much for the LIB videos, I would love to see more content about relationship milestones, attachment styles, and navigating interracial relationships.
Love the breakdown of each couple. Very educational and a great way of breaking it down. Fav therapist on YT!
The way I have been raving about your breakdowns with my SIL 😅 I’m having her catch up with all the previous ones so we can watch this season’s breakdowns together!
Aw, I appreciate that so much! ♥️
I absolutely enjoy your videos. I am learning so much in terms of romantic relationships and how that plays out when it comes to exposure to family friends and beliefs. I enjoyed the couple of videos and individual breakdowns of some of the participants on Love is blind.
I can’t wait to see what you really think ! I’m really early right now 😂this season is so CRAZY!