But How Do I Know if I'm Restricting? Life After Diets Episode 46
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- BUT HOW DO I KNOW IF I'M RESTRICTING? LIFE AFTER DIETS PODCAST EPISODE 46
These days, restriction is a buzzword in the anti-dieting space, and it’s often talked about in disordered eating recovery. But what does it really mean, and how do you know if it applies to you? In this episode, we cover:
The difference between physical and mental restriction
The relationship of self talk with mental restriction
Is it always restricting to choose not to eat if you’re hungry?
Portion control as an example of restriction
Examples of when you think you’re restricting, but you might not be
What is the difference between boundaries and restriction?
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This is the episode I needed! Thank you. I'm in the thick of "permission = permission to binge" and this conversation offered the kind of nuance I needed ❤
I also wanted to share that for the first time ever today, I did (what I will call) a 'reverse pantry cleanout': where I threw out every diet food item I could find! It was thrilling. I f***ing hate konjac "noodles", chickpea pasta, almond butter, and coconut flour!
I feel like a veil is being lifted from mind and that I might actually be on the road to making peace with food. I'm truly grateful for this podcast. Thank you again!
Love the idea of a 'reverse pantry cleanout'! 😍
This was a great episode ladies! thank you for that. I believe a second episode on restriction vs boundary with food is a good idea
coming up soon!
Loved the insight. This is a wonderful topic and I thank you both for talking about permission and freedom to eat. It's a very complicated thing even though it sounds simple. After severe restriction, permission to eat can feel like opening the floodgates and I've struggled with so much weight gain listening to this permission to eat (from Tabitha Farrar for example). Even on this podcast it is inferred to that when one gives themselves the permission to eat one will eventually choose not to overeat. But what if the original permission to eat caused someone to become obese because there was always some lingering form of restriction involved for fear of even more weight gain?
I am talking about myself and it would be lovely if this could be discussed in a future episode - this being - Going from a normal weight to obese in quasi recovery, starving and binging an upwards of 50 kg, really wanting to get out of the restrict, binge, restrict cycle, but giving myself permission to eat in an obese BMI body seems unfathomable. (and just to note, I hate the BMI but had to use some reference point.)
@iamstefaniemichele: Simply sharing my thoughts and giving honest feedback...I do sense restriction in your last example (I'm not saying you were restricting, this is just what gets triggered in me). If it made sense for you to have protein for breakfast since last night's meal was carb heavy, then why not have waffles with eggs? and perhaps a dollop of peanut butter on the waffles? There's your protein. Also, I believe that thinking one must have actual protein every day is diet culture (there's amino acids in other foods) and carbs causing brain fog can be an infliction of clean eating culture telling us eating carbs will cause brain fog and such and such feelings and we end up feeling what is suggested that we feel. And at 35:33 I heard a Freudian slip of "you're allowed to enjoy" aka you're allowed to have waffles even if you think your body needs protein.
Much love to you both and to all here ❣
Would not drinking alcohol be considered a physical restriction?
Fabulous! I have heard it twice on my way to the work. This episode is amazing. This is really a topic, which is very important and it would be GREAT if you do one more episode on restricting. I am going anyways to support you on patreon, because you are both such support for me and you both deserve it! I don’t know anymore who of you brought me to the recovery one year ago, but I am so grateful for that. Thank you 😊
Aw Adri this is such a nice message. Thank you for the review an we're so glad this was an episode that resonated. I had a feeling we could make a Part 2!!
@@iamstefaniemichele more on restricting, how to catch ourselves doing it and vitally how to let it go would be fantastic! Thank you so much Sarah and Stef for creating such important content, it’s really changed my life, thank you x
Just came here to thank you both so much for your content! I started dieting/restricting at the age of 14, which eventually evolved into a binge-restrict cycle which I’d been trapped in for years. I’m 27 now and have started recovery this year since listening to your podcast and the F*ck It Diet audiobook. Your podcast has resonated with me so much and has been endlessly helpful in allowing me to understand my own disordered eating and accept my body. I was just wondering if you recommend any other podcasts similar to your own? As I’ve listened to all of your episodes now, and I could do with some other content to tide me over until your next episode! Thanks again guys for the work you do ❤️
Hey Jessie!
Thanks for your lovely comment. I (Sarah) don't listen to other podcasts on this subject (except Maintenance Phase), but there was a thread in our patreon community about this and these were recommended by other listeners:
Full Plate
“It’s Not About Your Body” by Jessi Kneeland
Binge eating dietician podcast
The Emotional Eating (and everything else) podcast
Food Psych with Christy Harrison
If you want to hear us on some other podcasts. Stef and I appeared together on Tips With Toni (3rd Feb 2022) and Behind the Bite (30th Sept 2021). We have both been on Satiated Podcast separately.
I also appear on:
The Binge Eating Dietician on 28th June 2021
Just Eat Normally Episode 6
The Eating Disorder Therapist (12 Nov 2020)
Too Old for This Sh*t on 30th March 2020 and 7th October 2019
Bulimia Sucks Episode 85
Hope that's helpful x
Great topic and I enjoyed this discussion! I would like to see you do a part 2 about restricting and boundaries. I don’t know what questions I have. “You don’t know what you don’t know” I guess is the only excuse I can come up with for not knowing what I need from a part 2 but I hope you do continue the discussion.
Hearing your examples and depth of the physical, psychological and mental restriction process is extremely helpful. My brain is so messed up when it comes to food and my understanding of the whys and hows of it all i believe is beneficial to my recovery success. Thank you!
ah well we have part two coming up for you this week!
Wonderful!!
Amazing episode!!! 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍So so so helpful!!! I am going to listening to this episode on spoyify at night!!! It is afternoon right now. Thank you ladies!!! Your content is a motor of energy for my day!!!! 👌❤👍😘
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Thanks for that video!
At the start of my recovery journey here, and it is so helpful for me to slowly make my way through all your podcasts.
Would love a part 2 as well!
Do you have any thoughts about living with people that restrict themselves? I'm sometimes eating around people who have a particular diet (keto etc.) and my husban is avoiding / limiting certain foods for himself and sometimes our child. For examle avoiding dairies and processed foods. It seems "to make sense" for both of them, but I get triggered a lot when eating around them.
Also, would love an episode on "but I am scared my child will be impacted by my disordered eating".
Hey Audrey!
Part Two is already recorded and will be up to watch tomorrow at 7.30am BST
Episode 35 is But What if Everyone Around Me is Dieting? It will cover your question I think. I’ll just grab the link….
th-cam.com/video/VSK4AYWx00Y/w-d-xo.html
And we are looking at getting a guest to talking about parenting and helping your kids develop a good relationship with food and their bodies ❤️
Thank you so much! 💓 🙏
Hi you both inspiring women! I love this episode a lot!! It has absolutely sorted my chaos of thoughts and has shown me that I am still restricting! I now see that my point in 'recovery' which challenges me since months or years, is mental restriction. Especially Stefs example at min. 35 about the consideration of more components of the decision to eat or not makes me think. I still feel forced to eat and overeat what I think tastes good at the moment. There is no freedom of choice to consider to say No because of other factors like e.g. this will me make tired and I want to work feeling fit. Do you have any advice here? Thank you🥰💕
Jana, hi! For context, please know that this can be really normal. Saying No to food for reasons other than taste hunger is a very common sticky point in IE. Advice-wise, I would say that when you are feeling confronted with a choice to eat or not, stay in the mindset of "enough." There is enough food and there will be enough food later. So you are free to eat it now, and you are free to eat it later. Notice if your body relaxes when it understands that you are allowed to say no, and you are allowed to say yes later if you want it.
Hi Sarah and Steph, thanks for such great content! You talk at 13:54 about how honouring mental hunger is important in the beginning. I’ve just started trying IE and am really struggling in that area and wondered if you could expand on it at all? Thanks so much for such amazing content!
Hi Amy, we're going to record a part 2 this week so we'll cover this! x
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist Ah brilliant, can’t wait to see it !
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist if I could be cheeky I’m struggling a lot right now and want to ask, I’ve binge watched (pardon the pun🙈) so many of your videos over the last month and I wonder if you have or could talk about how to tackle trying to stop permissive eating and trying at all without losing yourself, if that makes sense? I tried to start being “good” last month before finding your incredible content but I’m so all or nothing I’m scared to stop being “good” and counting calories to start practice IE properly in case it slippery slopes me back to last supper binging all day every day. I feel like I clawed my way out of it and am terrified to let go of this tentative foothold I’ve carved out for myself counting calories. It’s only since finding your content did I know there was another way that just binging or restricting but trying to stop binging felt quite traumatic honestly. I’m sure it’s due to the restricting but I don’t know how to move away from that. It’s given me immense anxiety and I literally stopped sleeping from the stress. Trying to stop binging has taken over my life for the past 6 weeks and has left me scared to death of my mind and my catastrophic thinking and I’m just so far from myself and I haven’t been able to get back to her since trying to change my behaviour by changing my behaviour. The problem is my weights been going up up up for two years now and I just don’t want to go back to that but I can’t stay here white knuckling it psychologically. I’m eating “normally” and haven’t binged but haven’t been happy or content or normal either. It’s mostly caused immense anxiety and depression unlike anything I’ve felt before in that I literally stopped sleeping from the stress of trying to stop binging. I don’t really know if you’ve done videos on how to handle the stress of trying to live in the grey area and the grief of giving up your comfort zone or how to work on that but trying to do this and feel free and myself and learning to stop restricting as they feel inextricably linked are my top priority. I just want to feel happy and free and safe psychologically again without binging to get there like I have for most of my life. Any help would be most appreciated. And sorry for the essay my adhd struggles with editing 🙈
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist I’m currently watching your “how can humility help my eating” podcast episode to try and glean more answers because my specific struggle right now is how can I make this all less important and how can I give it less of my focus so it stops having such immense power over me psychologically, to summarise and potentially oversimplify my previous comment 🙈 x
@@AmyLahr149 Hey Amy,
Your question feels very close to the video that’s coming out on my channel on Thursday. It’s all about how to find the grey/middle ground. I think it will speak to what you’re sharing here, but let me know afterwards if there feels like there is something missing that you want to know/understand better ❤️