The worst part about dating is that you can go on amazing dates with someone, convince you there might be something happening and then you get that “I’m not feeling it” text when you’re at your most emotionally invested state. Dating apps and that garbage “man vs woman” content that’s been spread through many social media algorithms have seriously poisoned the waters.
the Juice found out that they get more taxes by breaking up the home and forcing women to provide for themselves while at the same time making it harder for single income families to survive today.
@@gotinogaden at least when you're ghosted you know it wouldn't have worked out and you didn't put any real commitment into it. The other case lets you wonder what could've been for so long.
@@KaLionVsTheWorld I think the answer here is to not get too emotionally invested, at least not too early. Even when it looks like a great opportunity. Easier said than done, no doubt. It's like dating nowadays requires a sophisticated form of "doublethink", where you are willing to believe that person is "the one" and yet remain actionably aware of the possibility that they are not a good match for you.
Every girl I’ve tried talking to has either ghosted me or had another dude on their roster. These days you ain’t even gotta worry how many dudes a girl talking to, you just gotta hope you’re the favorite😂
I took a break from dating to get a promotion at my job and a get a better place to live. Once i stepped back into dating, the first girl i met was someone who couldn’t leave her unemployed ex who was still living with his previous ex’s mom 💀. After that i was like nope gonna get back into warhammer 40k
im 26 average looking, i own 2 properties nice areas, i have a niceish car, strong family values and an incredibly hard worker. I've never been on a date in my entire life. i also believe bo3 was the last good cod game
If you do start dating, please please please be aware, some people might try and use you simply because of you have, no matter what get a prenup, always wear protection, and get tested, if anyone has a problem with any of those 3 things they are lowkey bad people and probably only wanna use you. Bo3 in deed was the last good cod game zombies wise cw had decent story and multiplayer
Seein this as a 25 years old, who had a relationship ruined, everyone is dating for one night stands/friends with benefits /casual. I am honestly on verge of becoming celibate
And then he skips right to the ending cutscene, not describing how to get there. Like dude was like "so I downloaded the apps and went on a few dates" He never describes how to get a date. When a lot of us struggle to go on a single date.
this video was extremely positive that’s the reason I was recommended google changed their algorithm and always has listened anyways so this came up due to some nonsense my phone heard, thank you for the great advice because I’m definitely gonna be a tougher person going forward thanks to your advice
@@UnknownFlowz you sound young too, I get not understanding his point but he’s talking realistically look for something long term to provide happiness. Family is always what makes people happiest at the end of the day
As a 23 year old, I think one of the reasons why people fail at finding romantic fulfillment is because they often see the world as it should be and not what it actually is…especially if you’re a good person. I know that’s one of my problems…I believe in people too much. Times have changed. A lot of folks are disingenuous because meeting new people often feels like an interview where you have to tick every box. People aren’t as forgiving anymore when it comes to your shortcomings and flaws as a person when in reality nobody’s perfect. A lot of young people today only love the idea of being with someone to feel validated because the beginning stages of a new relationship can give you big hits of dopamine until you begin to figure them out as a person. A part of eventually being in a happy marriage is accepting the fact that your partner is not perfect and they may disappoint you at times, but you’ll get through it if you can simply be understanding and communicate how you feel instead of throwing jabs on social media or being passive aggressive when things aren’t going your way. Sadly, most of my generation has little patience for that. So as a result, they’re quick to discard someone and they will continue to struggle finding love if they don’t do some self reflecting and I can see this having many consequences in the future. I’m already beginning to see it because feeling lonely can make people become nihilistic. It makes you lose faith in dating and it makes you keep your guard up because you always expect the worst out of people instead of giving them a chance…which is why many young men and women have given up in pursuing romantic fulfillment.
Dude screw that. My freshman year of college I went on a 1st date like every month. It was emotionally draining, and expensive. I would much rather chill and study and play videogames and watch movies. These girls don't even want to date, they just want attention and fun. The second you stop being new and shiny, or sexy to them they ghost.
@@Yhappp fortunately for me I’m not ugly or short. I’m not saying let them come. What I meant was I’m not gonna use apps or interrupt women during their day just for the sake of trying to get their number. There needs to be a good reason to approach a woman, the reason gives convenience for both, making it a lot easier and a lot more effective.
@@litosanz2humans? 99% of relationships start off with men who know how to flirt and have game attract and court a woman. not 50% both approach each other and especially not the other way around
listen bro... 99% of relationships do come naturally. But if your definition of "naturally" means the girl is gonna come to you, i got bad news for you. "Naturally" means a guy finds a girl attractive he STARTS flirting with her and trying to go on a date with her. Naturally then means that she responds positively to it. And things develop further. In most natural relationships as you call them, the guy starts something, initiates something, starts showing some intent/interest. And you keep pursuing based on signals she gives off. For me it happened through my friend group. This one girl became part of it and we had great chemistry. Then at some point there were signs and then at some point we kissed. But if your idea of naturally is to wait for something to happen, you're gonna wait a long time.
Tell that to every girl ive asked out in my 29 years of existence telling me various renditions of, "you're a good dude, you deserve better or you're a good friend or like a brother." I'm good, thanks. I'll just keep cruising along making decent money and try not to off myself in the process. Y'all take care.
i just turned 21 and there is nothing less I want than a girlfriend or partner, i am completely self fulfilled in my work and my hobbies, i am not an emotional person and i feel that the pros of a relationship do not outweigh the cons
You are not unemotional you simply suppress it and those logical reasons to not have a girlfriend are rationalizations to avoid being uncomfortable. You’re young, seek romantic fulfillment.
@@N_Oscar maybe one day, at this point i feel no reason to do so, i current feel as if i am satisfied with my life at my current position, maybe when i’m settled into a career i might seek romantic relationships.
@@Junebug879 Being anxious does nothing for you, it’s easy to say however dealing with rejection is a way to mature into a man, never taking a risk will never result in a reward. The first step can always be a small one, be strong.
@@N_Oscar not really, i’m an extreme proponent of self reliance as a base of strength, I have seen myself fall into the mindset of being reliant on other as being weak, this is a flaw in my character that i am well aware of. Maybe as i mature in my mindset i will be more aware or accepting of my feeling as i become more emotional aware. Thank you for you’re input i do appreciate it.
I feel like I'm listening to a used car salesman and or a boomer giving dating advice. I'm not wasting time on the apps where I'll spend hours of my time to be ignored, I'm done lowering myself. I don't give a shit about benefiting society, I want to benefit me and I only care about myself because nobody else will do that. Not getting married just so 5-10 years down the line I'll get divorced and lose all my things. None of this is even worth it.
Great. Work on yourself when you're young. If true love presents itself, then go for it. These dating apps and artificial ways of finding love are making my stomach turn too. It's honestly disgusting. There is no greater virtue in working on yourself until you get to a point where love finds you naturally.
this or that could happen but if you think everything will always inevitably will lead to failure with relationships, you will be alone and miserable forever. but what does it matter because how many of the young men reading my comment will ever change their minds regardless? they have excellent points but the solution isn't giving up. now men and women are both corrupted. if it isn't cynical misery, it's apathy. if it's not that, it's the desire to exploit, deceive and manipulate. and even if they get a crumb of intimacy, something horrific happens and then they decide to never engage again. and as I said, they make good points
It is easy to become jaded and even a bit intimidated at the thought of loving someone or having someone love you. We see nothing but the negatives of “love”. We scroll through stories of cheating, heartbreak, and lost. We see fabricated images of what we’re “supposed” to look like. We hear these crazy and unreachable standards and goals and think that’s what everyone expects from us to even be seen as a person. I fell into this trap for so long. Swearing to myself that I’d never date or love. That there’s no point in a world like this. I am still single. I have been for years. But what I can say is that love does exist, with a change of perspective. In my search for love I found to love life. Love the sunrise. Love the moon rise. Love the falling leaves, the birds chirping, the color of a car, or the smell of fresh food in a market. It is through the love of these things, that I have accepted that love is still real and a thing. Sure, what I’m describing isn’t romantic love, but the fact that I can love tells me that I must not be the only one. For if I was the only one, I would be alone in those places. I would be the only one enjoying the smell of food, or watching the birds fly, or stepping upon autumn leaves. Love is real, because I get to share it with those I know and don’t. I can laugh with a stranger in a store. I can write letters to my friends. I can take photos for an elderly couple in a garden. I can share the burden of hurt with a child. Love is real, because I see it and feel it everyday that I wake. And though I still desire for a significant other, another half, I believe that if I were to go anytime soon, I would be satisfied. Love is more than just a person, or what you imagine a person to be, or trying to “manifest” a person. Love is drinking water for yourself. Love is getting enough sleep. Love is buying that game you see on sale. Love is a phone call, a text, the warmth of the sun, the breeze of the wind, the fall of rain, the chill of snow. If you’re still reading this, I must apologize for going on for so long. But I also must say this: don’t be discouraged. Because if you shift your perspective, you’ll find that you already are surrounded by love
Wow, an exremely beautiful text! Thank you for sharing you thoughts and I indeed love your worldview (no pun intended)! We could all learn to enjoy the many wonderful things around us a little more. I wish you all the best in your endeavours!
@@RizzodiraRizzukku To not love anything is to have no life at all. Love and living go hand in hand like death and taxes. We can try to push it away all we want. Try to convince ourselves we don’t feel behind our exteriors of stone. But to even have something like a favorite food or favorite drink shows that you are capable of love and loving
Im ugly and short. Im not shaving years off my life trying to please a woman with my paycheck just to keep her around or get kids who have my affliction. I like my job and hobbies. Simple as.
For me it’s about to become a combination of both at this point…I have only the tiniest sliver of hope left. If that gets destroyed, I’m not actively going to try anymore. Just let it happen if it wants to.
It goes down to if you’re are putting the effort into looking good, if you just put on clothes and don’t fix your hair then of course you’ll be deemed ugly fi you are not putting effort into looking good or smelling good or having a fun personality. But if you do put effort into it by styling clothing and hair, adding cologne and figuring out ways to stir up conversation. You may get different results, just tryi it.
@@notveryheric6969sorry to break it to you but 90% of your attractiveness depends on your face. If Henry Cavill dressed like a hobo and showered once a week, he'd still get more dates than someone with a below average face that dresses well and has good hygiene.
@@bydlakbolszewik847 buddy, if you are unwilling to change yourself for the world, it certainly won’t change for you. You can make up lies to substitute the truth, because Henry cavill is as attractive as he is because he showers and styles his clothing where his prominent features shine, and he cracks jokes which woman love, and actually attempts to smell good.
"The struggle was worth it" Except the person you met who you ended up staying with you met purely by chance while on vacation instead of through dating apps, so all that trouble you put yourself through with dating through dating apps turned out to just be a huge waste of time and had absolutely no long term benefits.
That's why I hate it. It's literally pure luck. Like sure, you can better yourself, which I have been doing. But that at most gives you 10% better chance. That other 90% is still pure luck and I have atrocious luck.
Nah bro, props to you and I’m glad that you had great parents and grandparents to look up to. Growing up in a divorced household depending on my mom who didn’t even have an Associates Degree to help her really made me decide against dating someone who I’m not raving about everyday. Hell no to the terrible apps, yes to getting more social and involved (especially having friends of the opposite sex who can help reassure me through advice), but most importantly I need to secure stability for myself financially and career wise.
I’m a 24 years old dude, I have never been in any relation, honestly I’m kinda scared to go for it. I don’t have a clue of what to do, I’m afraid that if I go in a date, I’ll don’t know what should I do or act and I’ll only mess it up the date.
Thinking this way is setting yourself up for failure, if a woman is going on a date with you she already likes you enough to say yes so this is already in the positive. We are the same age, this is time to make mistakes, failing is optimal as it helps you to grow, in all aspects of life. let's say the date goes well, that's great, you'll get to know more about her, and more about what you look for as well. But the negative also applies, let's say she has X interest that you don't agree with or you didn't like her mannerisms, or whatever the reason may be why you felt the date didn't go the way you wanted it to, then that is a positive for you to look out for, as you know you don't like those traits. This is important for when you're looking for your ideal partner.
Didn't expect this in my feed. You probably already know this, but this feels immaculate. Just some guy playing zombies talking about life trying to keep it real. No sugarcoating, no ad, no sponsor, no nothing. Just real shit man. I don't know if I'm ready to start dating yet but it's in the back of my head. Keep making these man, they're very refreshing.
@@El_Soy "Just some guy playing zombies talking about life trying to keep it real. No sugarcoating, no ad, no sponsor, no nothing." No, I didn't. It's a ChatGPT script that dude is reading off. He's not keeping it real, he's not being authentic, and he doesn't have a compelling argument. He's just saying gibberish and kids like you are eating it up. ZZZZZZ.
Yeahhh no. This is like the guy who won the lottery after playing for a couple of weeks, trying to convince someone who is 20 grand in debt that if they just keep spending half their salary on tickets then eventually they'll cash in. Congrats dude, fr I'm glad you found someone who makes you happy. In this world of terrible mental health and rising rates of loneliness it's nice to hear that some people are doing ok and it sounds like you're very grateful too. It's just that imo the substance of this video boiled down to, "Yeah I know the dating game is emotionally draining, time consuming and has a very low chance of paying off but uhh, I dunno it worked out for me so just carry on putting up with it I guess." Of course you probably disagree and that's chill. It's just how it came across to me.
Yeah, like, I'm happy for this guy. But this "advice" video really doesn't give any advice. His advice is just "get out there" and "be yourself," which just screams of someone who girls are naturally attracted to or someone who got extremely lucky. As they don't actually know why it worked out for them. Also, in the video, he admits that he met his girlfriend on holiday/vacation. So all the advice on using dating apps and joining clubs was overall pointless.
@@Priception Fr haha, he met his partner doing what most guys who are checked out of modern dating do, which is just to go off and live their lives doing other things.
@Priception the thing is you guys put too much care into girls that are not for you I'm a person who doesn't find it that hard to get girls but I been rejected so many times it doesn't faze me anymore I only focus on girls who show me attraction and act like I would around anyone but the only thing you gotta do is set boundaries and remind them subtly that you can always get another girl it's not that hard
Big advice here, especially for dudes, please focus on your looks. Girls spend hours looking good and the same should apply to us. No one wants somebody overweight, doesn't work out, and doesn't groom. What's good is that there is so much material on TH-cam where you can learn a lot of this information. Highly recommend.
"Finding the right person" is not impossible, but It's something so ungodly difficult to pull off and luck based that people simply don't find the struggle worth it, which in all honesty, It isn't
I ve been looking but, rn I'm feeling more energetic and free and happy since I broke up with my ex, I came to the conclusion that, girls are better to eat with the eyes than having a relationship with them
Best advice I can give for dating. Go meet people in the real world and don't focus on dating or dating apps. Learn how people operate and learn how to talk to everyone. Be a person someone like you wants to talk to, someone others want to talk to. When someone with mutual interest makes a move, move with them. Whenever you talk to a person, talk to just them. It'll help you work past red flags (your own and theirs). Don't expect anything, but don't deny that things are moving and don't deny flags. When you land in a relationship, focus on understanding your partner and not what you think your partner is, we are not who others see us as, or as we see ourselves as. If in a relationship, remember that compromise is your best friend. You can live your life as you want, only if your life is your own. If in a relationship you think your life is only and always your own, you aren't committed. Commitment is the next stage after compromise. Commitment is the continuation of compromise in a way that is healthy for both parties and mutually/consensually forces growth. "If they will, I will. We do it for us." The easiest step is the first step. You can be with no one or as many people are in front of you. The hardest step is going beyond the initial encounter. Sometimes, it's a text. Sometimes, it's a date. Sometimes, it's sex. Most people these days don't make it. A relationship is a constant dance between two individuals. If you, as a young man or woman, want to succeed at having a relationship, learn to self-love, learn to be social, learn to court a partner (based on merit, culture, religion, expectation, etc.), and learn to sustain those relationships in a healthy and understanding manner.
24yo that never had a kiss yet, im quitting. everything just looks like its against me and i wont make myself go through shit after 15 years of bullshit because of parents using drugs, all i want is my hobbies, money and peace.
since i will not have kids (i made the surgery just to make sure), what is the point in a relationship then? by what i see, it will be just me working more to provide (since the girl WILL pay less in comparison to the male) thus making me having to work harder, or 2 jobs, or for more hours, and what i want is to retire as early as humanly possible in my own conditions... so i don't get the point in going for a relationship.
See, this kind of thinking is WHAT puts off the gals. It's romanticizing the "pessimism" of not being able to get a husband or girl. "Retire as early as possible" I'm sorry to say, that, it's just not possible. I assume you're probably stuck in America, probably with a shit degree, deep psychological scars from past traumas. I tell you this now, retiring early is not THE solution, because once you reach that, you start crashing. You start realizing that "huh, this is... not what I expected. What did I do all that for?". Trust me, I know. I did that too, and it costed me a good bit of my life.
There are people who have been in relationships before (long lasting ones too) that Will Say its not worth your time, but there is also people who Will claiming otherwise. Your life IS your life, you do your choices. If you want a quiet life then Go for It.
Listening to this as a 14 year old is making me want to watch your channel over any other TH-camr that doesn’t show any knowledgable information thank you for being on TH-cam your really smart
I’m 22 and it was either yesterday or the day before that it dawned on me that I may never get married and have children. I wouldn’t say I’m unattractive, and there’s been women in the past who’ve found me attractive, but idk. The older I get the more I realize how much effort and sacrifice a relationship/marriage is going to take in these modern times. And then there’s the uncertainty of the times we live in. Do I want to bring children into this world?
@@DrNafariousx I’m starting to feel old too. Maybe part of it is the milestones for age related stuff is pretty much over for me. 21 is the age when you can legally do everything on your own but, after that you’re just getting older plain and simple. But also I see some of the people younger than me who are Seniors or graduated high school and it’s like “Dang y’all are already that old”. Then I think about how much time has passed since I graduated high school.
It also dawned on me that I would never get married and have children. But that’s because I’m actually short, ugly and undesirable. The older I get, the uglier I’m getting as well. It’s too late for me now, the ship has sailed for me.
29 year old here, I think your point is valid. I’ve learned a lot from dating multiple women that has helped prepare me but be careful with casual hookups. This is something I didn’t care about and now that I’ve found someone I really love I’m finding it difficult to pair bond. I keep thinking of how much fun it was to have casual flings every time I hit a low point in my relationship and that mentality is draining. Stay away from casual hookups if you can.
dating today really sucks, like half my friends and i have to deal with attention seekers who want to be “victorious” after a breakup so they accuse you of shit you didn’t do. now i constantly worry if someone i know thinks i did something i know i fucking didn’t
I’m 21 and never had a girlfriend or have never been on a date. I just can’t bring myself to to “put myself out there” it’s too tedious and soul sucking. I don’t have social media and I’m not gonna force myself to create an account just to maybe get a girlfriend. Dating apps are hell and the people on it are always on some bullshit and play these weird mind games on you. If I get a girlfriend by meeting them organically in life then sure, but I ain’t gonna go out of my way and take the time out of my day to go ask some randoms girls number too risky and could lead to mental and emotional turmoil.
I'm a lot younger than you man, but I feel your frustration. You can't give up though man, stay positive and be grateful for the social experiences you do have, at least that's what I am trying to do.
As an INFJ, I was like that. Social skills can be learned and also you have to put yourself out there. Not just for dating but every aspect of life. Career, Business, hobbies, love, family, it is more easier to complain than to make the effort. You only fail when you quit. Don't give up.
Nah, genuinely, i dont think i will. Not only do i need to focus on being financially stable in this economy, but i want to focus on my mental health. I also just generally hate being around ppl, and i feel extremely uncomfortable and annoyed around those i don't know
As a 32 year old sperg, the concept of another person loving me and wanting go on dates is such an alien concept, to the point it’s like a deep sea fish being brought to the surface. It’s bizarre and unsettling and gets pushed back down where it belongs. Even medicated, the desire to self terminate never leaves. If I’m not going to produce offspring, there is no real reason to stay alive.
You have every reason to stay alive. You have a heart that beats for a reason. Don’t give up! There’s more to life than relationships. And you’re not alone
I don’t even know if I’m mentally ill man it’s like one day I am and the next I am a normal person who doesn’t want to k himself. I am too unstable and self aware of it to even try dating.
Three girls where interested in my in high-school, but i ignored them because i was suffering from depression and did not thought of myself as "worthy". I do not blame me for being sick, but i regret it every week or so.
Met my wife on bumble. Been together for 5+ years and married for over 1. Life has drastically changed for the better. This is after a plethora of terrible matches with people before. Keep trying guys, please don’t give up
People nowadays have a huge mentality difference from earlier generations when it comes to bonding. People before usually had a different thinking pattern like "What future can i create with someone i really bond with?" to people nowadays thinking "I have those goals and i need someone to accomplish them with me" which dramatically shifts the focus from finding someone you can bond with to finding someone that's 'useful' to you. I'm 28 but i think social media and influencers really have poisoned our expectations of the dating world. Social media and influencers can do great things too like motivating people to work out more, be more social etc... but too bad it's usually hijacked by the coolness factor of getting the most likes. To end more positively, amazing video man!
[Warning Dangerous levels of yapping] I've been in this dating bubble for awhile. Basically got myself addicted to looking at statistics, diagrams, charts, percentages and whatnot. And all I've learned about this little echo chamber is that; these stats add nothing of value, and I want to bring myself to not care anymore. The fact is: you are not intitled to anyone's time and affection, and no amount of wealth, charisma, hight, strength, or looks will change that. This rigns true if 70% of people aren't looking for a relationship or 10%. So I'm just going to mind my business and let the pieces fall where they may, if I manage to find love then awsome, but if not it's allright -- I can't change people's heart so why get discouraged if they don't share the same feelings? In final note: I suppose I could be more social and follow some advice and activly try and "put myself out there" to increase the odds of finding my significant other and all that good stuff. But I don't know where "there" is. I don't think anyone truly knows. Maybe this "there" isn't a place I would enjoy putting myself out in-- wouldn't that be the plot twist :p
Unrelated, but I despise the term "yapping." Genuinely sharing your thoughts and opinions on a topic you care about is not "yapping" it's called conversating.
Yeah reading your opinion was nice and to be fair I agree with it. I should be doing more social stuff outside to increase my chances but dam that’s tiresome 😅
The only "there" place I have found outside of school is coed sports (I personally play volleyball). Softball, kickball, soccer, tennis, pickleball and ping pong are all good options that offer some level of coed play where I live. Find something you enjoy, and find people to enjoy it.
@@sam_20_AND expensive. I’d like to have a hobby, but I’m a full time online college student. I don’t even have a job right now just to make sure my grades are good. I’m confident my social/dating life will get on track when I graduate. It’s just not important to me and I’ve been hurt too many times to keep playing these mind games
From my experience, the best dating relationships I've had, happened where I wasn't interested in meeting anyone, so that way you just let everything flows, feel less pressure and attract more
I like that you kept the game audio, makes it feel like I’m having a genuine conversation with a friend while kicking back with some old school zombies
After having multiple partners and finding out they have nothing to offer. I recommend focusing on your own dreams and goals before looking for a partner. Find out what you truly want in this life and put 100% focus towards that. For me it is achieving peace and freedom, when I have achieved that, I will attract a partner who is peaceful and appreciates freedom.
Chad and Tyrone pay the cost of having to be what they are. They exist as maculinity defined by women, which is miserable and chaotic. Do not envy the fuckboi life.
Hey I'm sorry you felt that way but I think maybe you misunderstood his points. There's nothing wrong with working on yourself, that actually might be what's best for you right now. Hang in there brother, I know you'll pull through.
This is the first time I'm seeing a video like this on my feed, listening, and then just flat out... No? As positive as it may aim to be, it simply just doesn't apply to so many walks of life, as sad as it is, many of us aren't cut out for romance, sometimes it takes away from friends with cost of commitment, and many of us put much more value on friendship, and oftentimes... One can just be unredeemingly unattractive, but even if that much is true, at the very least they can find some way to love themselves
'if you're single, get in the game', how do you get in the game? I'm 26, work 5 days a week, have friends who I regularly see, go to the gym and still get 0 attention from women. Its like i'm completely invisible. Meeting women is the toughest part in my opinion. Anyone got any tips?
There is no point. Unless you won the genetic lottery the odds are literally stacked against you. I suggest find some other fulfillment in life. The juice is not worth the squeeze.
Plenty. My first is that you immediately resorted to making a laundry list of excuses. This is comorbid with most people's pessimism or world views. Stop and ask yourself, are you the only person who works full time, goes to the gym and has friends? No? There's a reason what you're describing doesn't sound like science fiction. Because it's a normal every day scenario. You are not special because you have a job, work out and have friends. You also say "I'm invisible to women," which shows that you don't really understand how courting has worked historically. Regardless of how we feel about it, men typically court women. It's just historically been that way and that likely won't change any time soon. There's been studies time and time again on what makes pairings work and historically it's just been most consistent when men court women. There can be exceptions to the rule but generally speaking that's just how it is. I'm probably between a 4.5-7 looks wise depending on where in my life I was, but even when I wasn't taking care of myself I was able to get into relationships with girls that would have probably been in the 8-9 range. I wasn't rich, didn't come from a good background, wasn't genetically gifted with looks. Because while that stuff helps, it's not mandatory for dating success. In my particular case I enjoy making people laugh and leaned into that. It's scientifically proven women are more attracted to men who can make them laugh or have interesting conversations. You don't have to be a rock star or Mr. Olympia. You also have to take into account that the women you're walking past or are walking past you when you're headed to work or to the gym or whatever might also be in relationships or funnily enough might feel like you do. (Sidenote, don't look for dates at the gym unless the woman comes up to you. Reason is because typically Gyms are just about self-improvement and the encouragement of your peers.) Dating apps are mostly a no-go as you can't trust them. Not only is catfishing a thing, but most of the people using them are shallow or not the kind of people you're going to want to form a committed relationship with. Hook-up culture is antithetical to what will healthily move you forward, and dating apps are garbage for the most part. The internet, especially on TH-cam and social media in general, has this cesspool of people who are going to swear up and down that "dating is impossible" or that they're swearing off women or influencer spreading the MGTOW trash, but the reality is they're all quitters with a completely warped perspective on life who are giving in to primitive notions that are not justifiable to anybody with an objective view of things. People, especially younger people, are far too influenced by what they see on the internet. The real world is not what the algorithm feeds you. There's a reason that negativity and "dating is a waste of time" clips go viral and stuff like firefighters saving kittens is nowhere to be seen - the latter doesn't profit off clickbait rage, whilst the former is preying on a group of naïve/desperate/deluded individuals who will end up further sinking themselves into the illogical rabbit hole they're being goaded into diving into. You're going to be okay bro. I promise. Don't listen to the other people who are going to drag you down or be negative around you. And don't let short-term doubts or skewed views of temporary or past experiences stop you from realizing that you have the rest of your life to go.
Screw dating. I’m not rushing it. I don’t want to feel distracted by “I have to find a partner”. If someone comes along, cool. If not, oh well. Prioritizing myself in the meantime. I don’t have much experience dating as is. It’s an overwhelming subject to me. Stay off the apps as well, that’s mentally draining and a cancer.
Yah, wouldn't ind dating. Every girl looks at me like I'm worthless for just existing soo that ain't gonna happen. Just gonna keep being alone, and depressed until I die alone.
This. For most my life I haven't cared about dating, or even sex. (Currently aswell) I'm very antisocial, talking to people is fine but having to do it daily?? Hell no, I think I'd eventually try to leave. Only person I dated, I did this to, 1 week is all it lasted. I'm also not attractive at all. My main worry is that later in life I'll change and want or need a relationship. Even if I tried to date, it just wouldn't be genuine. I'd have to fake a lot. I really think I'm messed up a little, I've had to fake many emotions, (Even with past close friends, I've had to put up a facade. If I didn't I'd be a soulless husk.) Don't get me wrong I have a personality. But I'd rather keep that to myself, it ain't something people really see. Sorry for the vent. I'm actually doing alright mentally I think. I've got goals, I'd just rather be by myself for them. If you'd like to talk maybe it'd help us both out?
Guys, 23 year old here, do not date. It is NOT worth it, marriage is NOT worth it. If you want kids adopt or form a contract with someone. Both genders today are so polarized and it isnt worth it. I am friends with a TON of woman, the things i hear and see you would be horrified, the cheating, using, etc etc. i own a business and have a high income i would NEVER risk that with marriage, my state has a high divorce rate and is no fault- meaning if she cheated it cant be used against her in divorce. Guys be yourselves, find your hobbies, be good and kind, you dont need a woman to be happy. I really like this video and its idea but telling young men to try especially where the odds are VASTLY against them is not genuine. I would also like to add marriage does provide some benefits, HOWEVER if you are apart of the 90% something of men paying child support and 83% paying alimony or the men who lose almost everything they have worked for BEFORE they were married is not worth marrying. I was engaged built her up from nothing helped her get back on track in life spent two years helping her get away from a abusive home she ghosted me and i never heard from her again, we were engaged…. It isnt worth it guys this is not good advice for the current dating world.
8:00 single divorced. Well, what's the reason for divorce? Marriage. Most guys don't divorce, it's the woman who initiates and they are encouraged to do so. Be honest, it's not that people don't want to date anymore, it's just that your partner can do a lot of damage to you if you break up.
I was in a relationship before that went along wonderfully for years. It was a long distance relationship, US to UK. The feelings we had for each other and the love we shared was one of the best feelings I've ever felt in my life. Any sadness I felt melted away when talking to her. However, as time went on those feelings began to mute and I became complacent. I pretty much gave up on trying to do anything for her and there were a few times we talked about it and I tried to get better. Was long after that she told me she found a friend and she asked if it would be okay if they dated. Wasn't really my decision to make and I did protest that they could just stay friends since it's a requirement to date to hang out. Regardless they started dating all the while her and I were dating. I didn't think much of it until she demanded that I allow her to talk about their relationship despite it not being of my concern whatsoever. She's never been in a relationship other than with me and it seems he was quite the desperate fella so her trying to force it to work ended up in a lot situations where it was pretty evident I was being pushed out. She stated many times though that she didn't actually care about him. She was using him for the companionship and talked to me way more since I was there for her emotionally and what not. She never lied to me and only to him until I gave her an ultimatum, tell him the truth about her and I still dating and him being cheated on, or I will. She did, but of course they stayed together, like two desperate people would. Wasn't long after that we broke up and stopped talking for a bit. She still cared about me a lot but never thought that maybe giving up on him would've been a good call to save the relationship her and I shared. Clearly she wanted her cake and to eat it as well but that didn't end up working. Despite her ending up being very indifferent to him she ended up having to get married to him when they temporarily moved to the US due to his job. It's 5 years since we broke up but it still hurts down to my core. I made many mistakes but she was there and was very understanding. I don't really see a reason to date after that. I've still not recovered from it and I doubt I ever will. I figure that I'm "damaged goods" and that bringing this emotional baggage to anyone else is solely a detriment. I will keep this to myself because I believe it's the best thing I can do
I’m 25, average looking, 6ft, blue eyes, decent wealth, in good shape, physically active, strong family values, hard working, never been on a date. The hassle of dating apps is just not worth it to me and I find it difficult to find the right people in real life. Also, I don’t believe in finding your soulmate on a dating app. I want it to come naturally.
@@pineland_national7497 No but it fulfills my needs and wants which fulfills me. Having a partner doesn't fulfill you automatically either. If anything, I now have to deal with another uncertainty and complication in my life. Money is, at least, simpler to deal with than people.
I would rather present my best self and not potentially ruin a good relationship by jumping in too soon. Eventually, I’d love to have a partner, but I’ve got a lot of work to do before then.
Thanks for the video man. I'm trying to stay positive, I've only had one girlfriend in highschool and I finally decided to try dating apps, but literally only had one girl message me for a week and ghost me. That's literally the only match that I have gotten. It seems like such a waste of time. I'm not even focused on it now, I just think it will happen when it happens. It sucks, but I'm trying my best to stay positive about it
I applaud your efforts. You managed to find your better half AND play games, and here I am, *only* playing games without even trying to be interested in finding a partner because playing games is easier and requires little attention and effort.
@@kaleviHekonen9527Yes it is, dating nowadays comes entirely at the expense of men with very little reward all for the benefit of women and women STILL aren't happy. Women could easily get commitment and a loving boyfriend on their level but instead they go after guys way out of their range who they know deep down damn well wouldn't ever commit to them
@@GigaNietzsche No it isn't. There are various issues that women deal with a lot more than men do in dating, such as sexual harassment and various beauty expectations. It isn't always super apparent, who is willing or even worth committing to a long term relationship with. People don't just "easily commit" to a relationship. A lot of these issues are made more severe by modern dating trends. Not saying that men don't' have their own issues, but saying that women don't have their own hardships in modern dating is simply not true. People can't have a constructive discussion on this topic because people like turning this into team sports.
@@kaleviHekonen9527 When and where do women face sexual harassment? Typically when they're dressed in a revealing manner in rather raunchy settings which are completely avoidable. I would also argue male beauty standards/expectations are a lot more harsh than female beauty standards/expectations. Quit with the gynocentrism you're grasping for straws to try and find how women have it just as hard/harder than men. Our entire society is built around catering to women at the expense of men and dating is no exception
@@kaleviHekonen9527 And no they have their own issues but they're largely something they can easily fix. Save yourself for marriage and go after a guy who is your looksmatch and is more relationship focused. Women know EXACTLY who these guys are it's just that they choose to go for men who are out of their league and put out for them in HOPES that they commit.
I got married in 2020 and ended up getting divorced in 2022, simply due to differences in personal interests. I don't know about you guys, but I'd rather not waste time and emotions trying to mold myself for girl who isn't satisfied with me being myself. If I have to expend effort into forcing myself to be different for someone else's needs, they're not the one for me, period. I'm glad I got that reality check sooner than later.
I'm mentally ill and stand at 5'6 when I see things like this they just make me feel worse bcuz I know I'll never achieve any of it no woman is going to want a man who can't provide I will never be able to do so it's unfortunate I will miss out on an entire portion of my life when it comes to dating due to something that is of no fault of my own
Dating is the most unimportant thing in universe. It has no positive impact on anyone's life. All the positives are made up and can be easily achieved outside of it
We suffer in both relationships and singlehood and tell ourselves lies about the power of love. In modern times, romantic love is almost exclusively transactional and i feel a lot safer being single. I still havent gotten over the trauma of being bullied harshly when i was in school and noticing how distorted the conceot of romantic love became, i have given up entirely on dating. Maybe you found peace with someone but i doubt i ever will. I just dont want to care anymore so i use distractions like work and playing Hell Let Loose and i found companionship with my male friends in both. Purpose is all i ever need so i strive to become one of the best Commanders in Hell Let Loose and one of the best workers at my job. I cant workout anymore due to a liver problem that makes it too excruciating
If you wanna date, go for a walk, if they're intressted they'll accept. It's also free, and your being active. Win-win. Also stay on your grind, kings!
The more effort I put in to my social life and dating life, the less I get back, and the worse I feel. Giving absolutely no fucks about it has actually made me feel okay about myself for the first time since I was 13 or so. The dating scene is just complete shit for Millennials and especially Gen Z's and I think it'll probably get worse for Gen Alpha.
It will definitely get worse, gen Alpha is having all these unrealistic and ridiculous standards being baked into their existence right out of the womb. There will be a huge disconnect from reality with that generation especially in regards to dating and relationships
just a few thoughts: its because of our hyper individualized and capitalistic society that third spaces, where you would naturally meet people and interact with them are all but extinct. So mostly what you have are a few select hobbies and...dating apps. These apps essentially give women infinite options, creating a dynamic where they will never have a reason to commit to anyone, because why would they? its simply more efficient to jump around to whoever can give you "more"... The grass will always be greener. (reminder, this is essentially what men used to be able to do much easier before women had equal rights) To be clear, im not blaming women for this behavior. its simply natural given how the apps are set up to make as much of a profit off of men as possible, using women as the draw to spend money (because women are usually the desired, and men do the desiring- in a very general societal sense). This dynamic basically just further divides everyone in an age where division is the standard, and hyper-individualism is the norm...its easier to sell things to people who are alone and desperate. Also, women in the long term will not be happier because of this. just because they got the better end of the deal with the devil, doesnt mean that *everyone* will be content with having no true human connection The true root of our pain and suffering is the steady erosion of humanity into the homogeneous blob of an accounting spreadsheet, and a culture which prioritizes material gain above human connection.
I wasnt expecting this to show up in my feed, but i think that this video is good. Its a serious and down to earth video, thanks for the advice and information. I havent started dating yet but ive wanted to. This advice will be in my head for a while, thanks
I’m too ugly and short to date. I was never desirable to women and I still am not. I’m almost 27, so the ship has basically sailed for me. Some guys like me are simply too undesirable and were never meant to date or reproduce.
The ugliest and shortest guys I have ever known all got dates, relationships, and at least a couple had kids. I don't want to be insensitive but unless you have a deformity (and even then you have cases of people dating) you are not 'too ugly' to date. Don't be so hard on yourself, get off any platforms where people are telling you otherwise. You have too much to offer the world to let the incel content online or the insanity of dating apps deter you. Also being 27 has nothing to do with it, if you are still breathing then the ship hasn't sailed my friend! Hope you find happiness.
I see a lot of guys saying that people should not worry about getting girlfriends at a young age (13-24). I can see why it is difficult in todays world, but the lessons you will learn even if the relationships do not last will help you later on.
@@dice5709that's comparable to saying don't go out because you'll get kidnapped. stop using exceptional and uncommon cases to make a nonexistent point lmao and when u realize it early on just gtfo
@@patootie3529 Bad comparison. Outside there are so many things that can happen that its almost pointless to overthink. Also you're not bound by someone else when you're outside. When you're in a relationship, you certainly are emotionally bound to someone. Also sometimes its not that easy to simply "gtfo" because initially, you had a great time with certain someone until after some time it turns into shit. So much time wasted for bad feelings at the end. Sometimes not even knowing what went wrong and left asking questions, without learning anything from it. I don't think you have a clue and I doubt you had longlasting relationships. My friends could sing songs about the same shit. It's not uncommon, it actually happens a lot. Dunno where you are coming from but it must be nice there.
I really don't think the dating scene is ever going to recover as long as apps and social media are a thing. You can swim against the tide all you want and some of you may get lucky but at the end of the day I feel like this is just a new era of how people go about finding companionship and won't be surprised if it's completely normalized for Gen Alpha and beyond.
@@NickGreiner1988 dude he knows most of these women r thots he’s trying to get these lonely dudes to off themself or something like look at the world bruh
I’m 26 and the last time I ever held hands with a girl was in 2012 when I was in secondary school but that only lasted a few days and I haven’t done that since… I just won’t bother now considering how much the world has changed since then.
Honestly I’m just gonna give up. The older I get the more of a failure I feel that I am. Currently 25 but once I hit 30 and I’m still single I guess I’m just going to accept being the cool single uncle
I’m a 26 year old guy who has never had a serious girlfriend, barely dated, struggled with my physical and mental health for years, medication has killed my sex drive and feel emotionally disconnected. I’m trying to work on getting myself to a better place before I consider having someone else in my life but it feels like I’m running out of time. Luckily I have good friends and family but maybe I’m just not cut out for dating.
I'm not ignoring this part of my life. This part of my life is ignoring me.
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real
Facts
It's not even a part in our lives bro, let's not pretend it is 😪
real shit
No. I will not date. I will play zombies 24/7 and become morbidly obese and die
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Lifestyle of an average zombies player
what even is a date anyways? Can it at least be pack a punched?
Sounds better than dating😂
@@rexzombiesbrasilit might be a wonderweapon, idk
The worst part about dating is that you can go on amazing dates with someone, convince you there might be something happening and then you get that “I’m not feeling it” text when you’re at your most emotionally invested state. Dating apps and that garbage “man vs woman” content that’s been spread through many social media algorithms have seriously poisoned the waters.
the Juice found out that they get more taxes by breaking up the home and forcing women to provide for themselves while at the same time making it harder for single income families to survive today.
That's still better than being Caspar'd.
@@gotinogaden at least when you're ghosted you know it wouldn't have worked out and you didn't put any real commitment into it. The other case lets you wonder what could've been for so long.
@@KaLionVsTheWorld I think the answer here is to not get too emotionally invested, at least not too early. Even when it looks like a great opportunity. Easier said than done, no doubt. It's like dating nowadays requires a sophisticated form of "doublethink", where you are willing to believe that person is "the one" and yet remain actionably aware of the possibility that they are not a good match for you.
@@gotinogaden Истинско.
Every girl I’ve tried talking to has either ghosted me or had another dude on their roster. These days you ain’t even gotta worry how many dudes a girl talking to, you just gotta hope you’re the favorite😂
She's not yours, it's just your turn 😂
I took a break from dating to get a promotion at my job and a get a better place to live. Once i stepped back into dating, the first girl i met was someone who couldn’t leave her unemployed ex who was still living with his previous ex’s mom 💀. After that i was like nope gonna get back into warhammer 40k
Anytime that has happened to me, I’ve reminded myself I have dodged a bullet.
You’ve gotta compete. Compete hard. More money; more muscles; more women
@creatorF0UR73EN cope lol
im 26 average looking, i own 2 properties nice areas, i have a niceish car, strong family values and an incredibly hard worker. I've never been on a date in my entire life. i also believe bo3 was the last good cod game
I think Cold War was fine
I liked infinite warfare campaign, and zombies, multiplayer wasn’t that good but could have a fun custom game.
If you do start dating, please please please be aware, some people might try and use you simply because of you have, no matter what get a prenup, always wear protection, and get tested, if anyone has a problem with any of those 3 things they are lowkey bad people and probably only wanna use you. Bo3 in deed was the last good cod game zombies wise cw had decent story and multiplayer
Black Ops 2
MW 2019?
Seein this as a 25 years old, who had a relationship ruined, everyone is dating for one night stands/friends with benefits /casual.
I am honestly on verge of becoming celibate
THIS SHIT RIGHT HERE
Relatable
??? Just do the same
@@Nothing_happening_here_go_away Bait used to be beliveable
Literally just got out of a 5 year relationship cause we both(mostly me) ruined it but I wanna date an will start trying to get therapy
I feel like I'm about to be told how to do an easter egg, but the intro to it never ends.
And then he skips right to the ending cutscene, not describing how to get there.
Like dude was like "so I downloaded the apps and went on a few dates"
He never describes how to get a date. When a lot of us struggle to go on a single date.
right?? LOL
@@Priceptionvideo isn't titled how to get a date? 😅
@@Priceptionthat wasn't the point of the video.
not if she manipulates you takes advantage of you and then tries to make you lose everything you worked for
if you couldn’t tell im in that state where im still learning and experimenting with people and life
this video was extremely positive that’s the reason I was recommended google changed their algorithm and always has listened anyways so this came up due to some nonsense my phone heard, thank you for the great advice because I’m definitely gonna be a tougher person going forward thanks to your advice
EXACTLY, I was fw with what he said still he started to put marriage on such a pedestal
@@UnknownFlowz you sound young too, I get not understanding his point but he’s talking realistically look for something long term to provide happiness. Family is always what makes people happiest at the end of the day
@@trafmuc its not for everyone
As a 23 year old, I think one of the reasons why people fail at finding romantic fulfillment is because they often see the world as it should be and not what it actually is…especially if you’re a good person. I know that’s one of my problems…I believe in people too much.
Times have changed. A lot of folks are disingenuous because meeting new people often feels like an interview where you have to tick every box. People aren’t as forgiving anymore when it comes to your shortcomings and flaws as a person when in reality nobody’s perfect. A lot of young people today only love the idea of being with someone to feel validated because the beginning stages of a new relationship can give you big hits of dopamine until you begin to figure them out as a person.
A part of eventually being in a happy marriage is accepting the fact that your partner is not perfect and they may disappoint you at times, but you’ll get through it if you can simply be understanding and communicate how you feel instead of throwing jabs on social media or being passive aggressive when things aren’t going your way.
Sadly, most of my generation has little patience for that. So as a result, they’re quick to discard someone and they will continue to struggle finding love if they don’t do some self reflecting and I can see this having many consequences in the future.
I’m already beginning to see it because feeling lonely can make people become nihilistic. It makes you lose faith in dating and it makes you keep your guard up because you always expect the worst out of people instead of giving them a chance…which is why many young men and women have given up in pursuing romantic fulfillment.
Dude you’re spitting straight fucking facts my guy
Dude screw that. My freshman year of college I went on a 1st date like every month. It was emotionally draining, and expensive. I would much rather chill and study and play videogames and watch movies.
These girls don't even want to date, they just want attention and fun. The second you stop being new and shiny, or sexy to them they ghost.
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Alright bro well you ain't gotta over do it either
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if you actually had rizz then your first date would've kept wanting to see you again
Gacha games are less expensive, and have an extremely higher luck rate even for free :D
I want it to come naturally, I’m not gonna go out of my way to go find a date, it has never worked
Well hate to break it unless you’re a 6’5 chad, YOU have to be the one to approach women and go out of your way to set up dates
@@Yhappp fortunately for me I’m not ugly or short.
I’m not saying let them come. What I meant was I’m not gonna use apps or interrupt women during their day just for the sake of trying to get their number. There needs to be a good reason to approach a woman, the reason gives convenience for both, making it a lot easier and a lot more effective.
@@Yhapppwhat people are you hanging out with, genuinely curious.
@@litosanz2humans? 99% of relationships start off with men who know how to flirt and have game attract and court a woman. not 50% both approach each other and especially not the other way around
listen bro... 99% of relationships do come naturally. But if your definition of "naturally" means the girl is gonna come to you, i got bad news for you. "Naturally" means a guy finds a girl attractive he STARTS flirting with her and trying to go on a date with her. Naturally then means that she responds positively to it. And things develop further. In most natural relationships as you call them, the guy starts something, initiates something, starts showing some intent/interest. And you keep pursuing based on signals she gives off. For me it happened through my friend group. This one girl became part of it and we had great chemistry. Then at some point there were signs and then at some point we kissed. But if your idea of naturally is to wait for something to happen, you're gonna wait a long time.
Tell that to every girl ive asked out in my 29 years of existence telling me various renditions of, "you're a good dude, you deserve better or you're a good friend or like a brother."
I'm good, thanks. I'll just keep cruising along making decent money and try not to off myself in the process. Y'all take care.
You don't need a spouse to be happy. That's a myth spread by idiots.
@@NotUp2Much true and a lot of people are way happier single too
I mean dude you really do deserve better don't take it personally lol
Hang in there brother
i just turned 21 and there is nothing less I want than a girlfriend or partner, i am completely self fulfilled in my work and my hobbies, i am not an emotional person and i feel that the pros of a relationship do not outweigh the cons
You are not unemotional you simply suppress it and those logical reasons to not have a girlfriend are rationalizations to avoid being uncomfortable. You’re young, seek romantic fulfillment.
@@N_Oscar maybe one day, at this point i feel no reason to do so, i current feel as if i am satisfied with my life at my current position, maybe when i’m settled into a career i might seek romantic relationships.
I’m the opposite I really want someone that I can start a family with and get old with but I get anxious about girls tbh.
@@Junebug879 Being anxious does nothing for you, it’s easy to say however dealing with rejection is a way to mature into a man, never taking a risk will never result in a reward. The first step can always be a small one, be strong.
@@N_Oscar not really, i’m an extreme proponent of self reliance as a base of strength, I have seen myself fall into the mindset of being reliant on other as being weak, this is a flaw in my character that i am well aware of. Maybe as i mature in my mindset i will be more aware or accepting of my feeling as i become more emotional aware. Thank you for you’re input i do appreciate it.
I feel like I'm listening to a used car salesman and or a boomer giving dating advice.
I'm not wasting time on the apps where I'll spend hours of my time to be ignored, I'm done lowering myself. I don't give a shit about benefiting society, I want to benefit me and I only care about myself because nobody else will do that.
Not getting married just so 5-10 years down the line I'll get divorced and lose all my things.
None of this is even worth it.
Great. Work on yourself when you're young. If true love presents itself, then go for it. These dating apps and artificial ways of finding love are making my stomach turn too. It's honestly disgusting. There is no greater virtue in working on yourself until you get to a point where love finds you naturally.
this or that could happen but if you think everything will always inevitably will lead to failure with relationships, you will be alone and miserable forever. but what does it matter because how many of the young men reading my comment will ever change their minds regardless? they have excellent points but the solution isn't giving up. now men and women are both corrupted. if it isn't cynical misery, it's apathy. if it's not that, it's the desire to exploit, deceive and manipulate.
and even if they get a crumb of intimacy, something horrific happens and then they decide to never engage again.
and as I said, they make good points
The problem with videos like this is that not every human can achieve relationship
It is easy to become jaded and even a bit intimidated at the thought of loving someone or having someone love you. We see nothing but the negatives of “love”. We scroll through stories of cheating, heartbreak, and lost. We see fabricated images of what we’re “supposed” to look like. We hear these crazy and unreachable standards and goals and think that’s what everyone expects from us to even be seen as a person. I fell into this trap for so long. Swearing to myself that I’d never date or love. That there’s no point in a world like this. I am still single. I have been for years. But what I can say is that love does exist, with a change of perspective. In my search for love I found to love life. Love the sunrise. Love the moon rise. Love the falling leaves, the birds chirping, the color of a car, or the smell of fresh food in a market. It is through the love of these things, that I have accepted that love is still real and a thing. Sure, what I’m describing isn’t romantic love, but the fact that I can love tells me that I must not be the only one. For if I was the only one, I would be alone in those places. I would be the only one enjoying the smell of food, or watching the birds fly, or stepping upon autumn leaves. Love is real, because I get to share it with those I know and don’t. I can laugh with a stranger in a store. I can write letters to my friends. I can take photos for an elderly couple in a garden. I can share the burden of hurt with a child. Love is real, because I see it and feel it everyday that I wake. And though I still desire for a significant other, another half, I believe that if I were to go anytime soon, I would be satisfied. Love is more than just a person, or what you imagine a person to be, or trying to “manifest” a person. Love is drinking water for yourself. Love is getting enough sleep. Love is buying that game you see on sale. Love is a phone call, a text, the warmth of the sun, the breeze of the wind, the fall of rain, the chill of snow. If you’re still reading this, I must apologize for going on for so long. But I also must say this: don’t be discouraged. Because if you shift your perspective, you’ll find that you already are surrounded by love
Wow, an exremely beautiful text! Thank you for sharing you thoughts and I indeed love your worldview (no pun intended)! We could all learn to enjoy the many wonderful things around us a little more.
I wish you all the best in your endeavours!
I ENJOYED READING THIS TEXT. THANK YOU. I WILL ALSO SHOW THIS TO MY ACQUANTANCES.
This might be one of the most beautiful and true things I've ever read.
Okay now what happens when you don't love anything life included? Checkmate
@@RizzodiraRizzukku To not love anything is to have no life at all. Love and living go hand in hand like death and taxes. We can try to push it away all we want. Try to convince ourselves we don’t feel behind our exteriors of stone. But to even have something like a favorite food or favorite drink shows that you are capable of love and loving
Im ugly and short.
Im not shaving years off my life trying to please a woman with my paycheck just to keep her around or get kids who have my affliction.
I like my job and hobbies. Simple as.
It's not that people are "choosing to be single" We don't have a choice.
or we choose to stay single too
For me it’s about to become a combination of both at this point…I have only the tiniest sliver of hope left. If that gets destroyed, I’m not actively going to try anymore. Just let it happen if it wants to.
Yeah that's not a thing lil bro. You're lying to yourself.
@@hockeyfan1799you're probs still a kid if you call people 'lil bro'😂
@@aleksiwilson2295 Not a kid, lil bro
I didn't abandon dating. Society took one look at me, said "you're not good looking" and now I'm here.....
Fuck society. Don't base your life and self-image on what other people think. Find your people and ignore everyone else.
same man
It goes down to if you’re are putting the effort into looking good, if you just put on clothes and don’t fix your hair then of course you’ll be deemed ugly fi you are not putting effort into looking good or smelling good or having a fun personality. But if you do put effort into it by styling clothing and hair, adding cologne and figuring out ways to stir up conversation. You may get different results, just tryi it.
@@notveryheric6969sorry to break it to you but 90% of your attractiveness depends on your face. If Henry Cavill dressed like a hobo and showered once a week, he'd still get more dates than someone with a below average face that dresses well and has good hygiene.
@@bydlakbolszewik847 buddy, if you are unwilling to change yourself for the world, it certainly won’t change for you. You can make up lies to substitute the truth, because Henry cavill is as attractive as he is because he showers and styles his clothing where his prominent features shine, and he cracks jokes which woman love, and actually attempts to smell good.
If Anyone in the comment section having trouble dating, somebody is out there for you. You just have to apply yourself. You got it 💯
"The struggle was worth it" Except the person you met who you ended up staying with you met purely by chance while on vacation instead of through dating apps, so all that trouble you put yourself through with dating through dating apps turned out to just be a huge waste of time and had absolutely no long term benefits.
That's why I hate it. It's literally pure luck.
Like sure, you can better yourself, which I have been doing. But that at most gives you 10% better chance.
That other 90% is still pure luck and I have atrocious luck.
@@Priception That's why I've come to the conclusion that there isn't really much you can do about it.
He would’ve learnt a lot from those dates so it wasn’t a waste of time
Guys just relax and enjoy your life things will work out lol
@@sugoi9680 That’s sort of my point
Nah bro, props to you and I’m glad that you had great parents and grandparents to look up to. Growing up in a divorced household depending on my mom who didn’t even have an Associates Degree to help her really made me decide against dating someone who I’m not raving about everyday. Hell no to the terrible apps, yes to getting more social and involved (especially having friends of the opposite sex who can help reassure me through advice), but most importantly I need to secure stability for myself financially and career wise.
I’m a 24 years old dude, I have never been in any relation, honestly I’m kinda scared to go for it.
I don’t have a clue of what to do, I’m afraid that if I go in a date, I’ll don’t know what should I do or act and I’ll only mess it up the date.
What happens if you mess up the date? What happens if you look stupid doing something new for the first time?
then brainstorm on how to talk to women before going out to do it
Thinking this way is setting yourself up for failure, if a woman is going on a date with you she already likes you enough to say yes so this is already in the positive. We are the same age, this is time to make mistakes, failing is optimal as it helps you to grow, in all aspects of life. let's say the date goes well, that's great, you'll get to know more about her, and more about what you look for as well. But the negative also applies, let's say she has X interest that you don't agree with or you didn't like her mannerisms, or whatever the reason may be why you felt the date didn't go the way you wanted it to, then that is a positive for you to look out for, as you know you don't like those traits. This is important for when you're looking for your ideal partner.
@@Goldarlives
It discourages me from ever trying again, because I fear that I will screw it up again
don’t cuff these thots these modern women so evil because of social media bro u better off doing what your doing now
Didn't expect this in my feed. You probably already know this, but this feels immaculate. Just some guy playing zombies talking about life trying to keep it real. No sugarcoating, no ad, no sponsor, no nothing. Just real shit man. I don't know if I'm ready to start dating yet but it's in the back of my head. Keep making these man, they're very refreshing.
Its like those times when the homies would squad up to play til 3 am and just have existential talks
He's literally reading from a script...
It's funny cuz I was just playing zombies with one of my friends yesterday too
@@ilovetruthserum literally irrelevant, I think you missed the point
@@El_Soy "Just some guy playing zombies talking about life trying to keep it real. No sugarcoating, no ad, no sponsor, no nothing." No, I didn't. It's a ChatGPT script that dude is reading off. He's not keeping it real, he's not being authentic, and he doesn't have a compelling argument. He's just saying gibberish and kids like you are eating it up. ZZZZZZ.
Yeahhh no. This is like the guy who won the lottery after playing for a couple of weeks, trying to convince someone who is 20 grand in debt that if they just keep spending half their salary on tickets then eventually they'll cash in.
Congrats dude, fr I'm glad you found someone who makes you happy. In this world of terrible mental health and rising rates of loneliness it's nice to hear that some people are doing ok and it sounds like you're very grateful too. It's just that imo the substance of this video boiled down to, "Yeah I know the dating game is emotionally draining, time consuming and has a very low chance of paying off but uhh, I dunno it worked out for me so just carry on putting up with it I guess."
Of course you probably disagree and that's chill. It's just how it came across to me.
Yeah, like, I'm happy for this guy. But this "advice" video really doesn't give any advice.
His advice is just "get out there" and "be yourself," which just screams of someone who girls are naturally attracted to or someone who got extremely lucky. As they don't actually know why it worked out for them.
Also, in the video, he admits that he met his girlfriend on holiday/vacation. So all the advice on using dating apps and joining clubs was overall pointless.
@@Priception Fr haha, he met his partner doing what most guys who are checked out of modern dating do, which is just to go off and live their lives doing other things.
@GripForSafety Yeah, that's pretty much what I'm doing. If something comes up, sure, I'll pursue it. But I'm not gonna waste hours of my life.
@@Priception 100% same here.
@Priception the thing is you guys put too much care into girls that are not for you I'm a person who doesn't find it that hard to get girls but I been rejected so many times it doesn't faze me anymore I only focus on girls who show me attraction and act like I would around anyone but the only thing you gotta do is set boundaries and remind them subtly that you can always get another girl it's not that hard
Big advice here, especially for dudes, please focus on your looks. Girls spend hours looking good and the same should apply to us. No one wants somebody overweight, doesn't work out, and doesn't groom. What's good is that there is so much material on TH-cam where you can learn a lot of this information. Highly recommend.
"Finding the right person" is not impossible, but It's something so ungodly difficult to pull off and luck based that people simply don't find the struggle worth it, which in all honesty, It isn't
so it might as well be impossible
@@niku4259 Put your grasses on
I ve been looking but, rn I'm feeling more energetic and free and happy since I broke up with my ex, I came to the conclusion that, girls are better to eat with the eyes than having a relationship with them
My bloodline ends with me and I’ve come to terms with that. 😭
Same man... same😭
Best advice I can give for dating. Go meet people in the real world and don't focus on dating or dating apps. Learn how people operate and learn how to talk to everyone. Be a person someone like you wants to talk to, someone others want to talk to. When someone with mutual interest makes a move, move with them. Whenever you talk to a person, talk to just them. It'll help you work past red flags (your own and theirs). Don't expect anything, but don't deny that things are moving and don't deny flags. When you land in a relationship, focus on understanding your partner and not what you think your partner is, we are not who others see us as, or as we see ourselves as. If in a relationship, remember that compromise is your best friend. You can live your life as you want, only if your life is your own. If in a relationship you think your life is only and always your own, you aren't committed. Commitment is the next stage after compromise. Commitment is the continuation of compromise in a way that is healthy for both parties and mutually/consensually forces growth.
"If they will, I will. We do it for us."
The easiest step is the first step. You can be with no one or as many people are in front of you. The hardest step is going beyond the initial encounter. Sometimes, it's a text. Sometimes, it's a date. Sometimes, it's sex.
Most people these days don't make it. A relationship is a constant dance between two individuals. If you, as a young man or woman, want to succeed at having a relationship, learn to self-love, learn to be social, learn to court a partner (based on merit, culture, religion, expectation, etc.), and learn to sustain those relationships in a healthy and understanding manner.
You can succeed. You don't have to be alone. There is someone for anyone. Do the work to be worthy of love, and any someone could love you.
W advice bro you cooked with this 🙏
24yo that never had a kiss yet, im quitting. everything just looks like its against me and i wont make myself go through shit after 15 years of bullshit because of parents using drugs, all i want is my hobbies, money and peace.
since i will not have kids (i made the surgery just to make sure), what is the point in a relationship then? by what i see, it will be just me working more to provide (since the girl WILL pay less in comparison to the male) thus making me having to work harder, or 2 jobs, or for more hours, and what i want is to retire as early as humanly possible in my own conditions... so i don't get the point in going for a relationship.
See, this kind of thinking is WHAT puts off the gals.
It's romanticizing the "pessimism" of not being able to get a husband or girl.
"Retire as early as possible"
I'm sorry to say, that, it's just not possible. I assume you're probably stuck in America, probably with a shit degree, deep psychological scars from past traumas.
I tell you this now, retiring early is not THE solution, because once you reach that, you start crashing. You start realizing that "huh, this is... not what I expected. What did I do all that for?".
Trust me, I know. I did that too, and it costed me a good bit of my life.
There are people who have been in relationships before (long lasting ones too) that Will Say its not worth your time, but there is also people who Will claiming otherwise.
Your life IS your life, you do your choices. If you want a quiet life then Go for It.
Listening to this as a 14 year old is making me want to watch your channel over any other TH-camr that doesn’t show any knowledgable information thank you for being on TH-cam your really smart
Thanks for listening and your kind words! Glad you found it helpful on your journey!
I’m 22 and it was either yesterday or the day before that it dawned on me that I may never get married and have children. I wouldn’t say I’m unattractive, and there’s been women in the past who’ve found me attractive, but idk. The older I get the more I realize how much effort and sacrifice a relationship/marriage is going to take in these modern times.
And then there’s the uncertainty of the times we live in. Do I want to bring children into this world?
icl im turning 21 and mentally im feeling old af due how shit is nowadays
@@DrNafariousx I’m starting to feel old too. Maybe part of it is the milestones for age related stuff is pretty much over for me. 21 is the age when you can legally do everything on your own but, after that you’re just getting older plain and simple.
But also I see some of the people younger than me who are Seniors or graduated high school and it’s like “Dang y’all are already that old”. Then I think about how much time has passed since I graduated high school.
western women marriage challenge
You're only 22
It also dawned on me that I would never get married and have children.
But that’s because I’m actually short, ugly and undesirable.
The older I get, the uglier I’m getting as well. It’s too late for me now, the ship has sailed for me.
29 year old here, I think your point is valid. I’ve learned a lot from dating multiple women that has helped prepare me but be careful with casual hookups. This is something I didn’t care about and now that I’ve found someone I really love I’m finding it difficult to pair bond. I keep thinking of how much fun it was to have casual flings every time I hit a low point in my relationship and that mentality is draining. Stay away from casual hookups if you can.
dating today really sucks, like half my friends and i have to deal with attention seekers who want to be “victorious” after a breakup so they accuse you of shit you didn’t do. now i constantly worry if someone i know thinks i did something i know i fucking didn’t
I’m 21 and never had a girlfriend or have never been on a date. I just can’t bring myself to to “put myself out there” it’s too tedious and soul sucking. I don’t have social media and I’m not gonna force myself to create an account just to maybe get a girlfriend. Dating apps are hell and the people on it are always on some bullshit and play these weird mind games on you. If I get a girlfriend by meeting them organically in life then sure, but I ain’t gonna go out of my way and take the time out of my day to go ask some randoms girls number too risky and could lead to mental and emotional turmoil.
Times are changing. You gotta adjust with them
As a an introverted 32 year old with not many social experiences, this ship has sailed for me
I would forcibly get it atp
I'm a lot younger than you man, but I feel your frustration. You can't give up though man, stay positive and be grateful for the social experiences you do have, at least that's what I am trying to do.
As an INFJ, I was like that. Social skills can be learned and also you have to put yourself out there. Not just for dating but every aspect of life. Career, Business, hobbies, love, family, it is more easier to complain than to make the effort. You only fail when you quit. Don't give up.
It’s not too late man
Same man
Nah, genuinely, i dont think i will. Not only do i need to focus on being financially stable in this economy, but i want to focus on my mental health. I also just generally hate being around ppl, and i feel extremely uncomfortable and annoyed around those i don't know
This convinced me to continue gaming and reading manga
based😭
Dating is not a pack a punch to your life, doing your thang, hustling and staying faithful to god is the real pack a punch to upgrade your life
Bro I cant take this serious with zombies gameplay in the background lol, but I respect
I enjoyed the black ops 1 gameplay 😂
Gives a old school commentary type of vibe, which I personally missed
Same lol
Relatably, people who play these games need this video the most. He gets it. I get it.
As a 32 year old sperg, the concept of another person loving me and wanting go on dates is such an alien concept, to the point it’s like a deep sea fish being brought to the surface. It’s bizarre and unsettling and gets pushed back down where it belongs.
Even medicated, the desire to self terminate never leaves. If I’m not going to produce offspring, there is no real reason to stay alive.
Real and relatable
You have every reason to stay alive. You have a heart that beats for a reason. Don’t give up! There’s more to life than relationships. And you’re not alone
You don't get to decide what's important. I'm too ill in the head for a relationship, so I already accepted going it alone.
On god. If youre just mentally ill then its basically just a wrap from the starting line. I would fucking know but its whatever man
I don’t even know if I’m mentally ill man it’s like one day I am and the next I am a normal person who doesn’t want to k himself. I am too unstable and self aware of it to even try dating.
you could go to therapy, your life's gonna suck single or not if you don't address mental health
I'm a teenager and never bothered with dating, I think this video found me for a reason. God bless you my friend!
Its not worth the effort and misery. That i will die alone is a fact of life I've already accepted.
Three girls where interested in my in high-school, but i ignored them because i was suffering from depression and did not thought of myself as "worthy". I do not blame me for being sick, but i regret it every week or so.
I never expected to enjoy it but I found the most amazing woman and am so happy. She’s so supportive and sweet and I’m going to marry her
Met my wife on bumble. Been together for 5+ years and married for over 1. Life has drastically changed for the better. This is after a plethora of terrible matches with people before. Keep trying guys, please don’t give up
You gotta ALWAYS live for yourself. The day you stop living for yourself and put your fate into a human beings hands that you can’t control.
Well said
People nowadays have a huge mentality difference from earlier generations when it comes to bonding. People before usually had a different thinking pattern like "What future can i create with someone i really bond with?" to people nowadays thinking "I have those goals and i need someone to accomplish them with me" which dramatically shifts the focus from finding someone you can bond with to finding someone that's 'useful' to you. I'm 28 but i think social media and influencers really have poisoned our expectations of the dating world. Social media and influencers can do great things too like motivating people to work out more, be more social etc... but too bad it's usually hijacked by the coolness factor of getting the most likes. To end more positively, amazing video man!
[Warning Dangerous levels of yapping]
I've been in this dating bubble for awhile. Basically got myself addicted to looking at statistics, diagrams, charts, percentages and whatnot. And all I've learned about this little echo chamber is that; these stats add nothing of value, and I want to bring myself to not care anymore.
The fact is: you are not intitled to anyone's time and affection, and no amount of wealth, charisma, hight, strength, or looks will change that. This rigns true if 70% of people aren't looking for a relationship or 10%. So I'm just going to mind my business and let the pieces fall where they may, if I manage to find love then awsome, but if not it's allright -- I can't change people's heart so why get discouraged if they don't share the same feelings?
In final note: I suppose I could be more social and follow some advice and activly try and "put myself out there" to increase the odds of finding my significant other and all that good stuff. But I don't know where "there" is. I don't think anyone truly knows. Maybe this "there" isn't a place I would enjoy putting myself out in-- wouldn't that be the plot twist :p
Unrelated, but I despise the term "yapping." Genuinely sharing your thoughts and opinions on a topic you care about is not "yapping" it's called conversating.
Yeah reading your opinion was nice and to be fair I agree with it. I should be doing more social stuff outside to increase my chances but dam that’s tiresome 😅
I think your opinion makes perfect Sense.
The only "there" place I have found outside of school is coed sports (I personally play volleyball). Softball, kickball, soccer, tennis, pickleball and ping pong are all good options that offer some level of coed play where I live.
Find something you enjoy, and find people to enjoy it.
@@sam_20_AND expensive. I’d like to have a hobby, but I’m a full time online college student. I don’t even have a job right now just to make sure my grades are good. I’m confident my social/dating life will get on track when I graduate. It’s just not important to me and I’ve been hurt too many times to keep playing these mind games
Ignoring the video for a second, the tac knife flip cured me. Unlocked a deep core memory of simpler times
“Love is like gambling, you can’t win if you don’t play.”
You got this, even in the face of absolute loss, always remember look up to see the light.
From my experience, the best dating relationships I've had, happened where I wasn't interested in meeting anyone, so that way you just let everything flows, feel less pressure and attract more
As a wise man once said, "the juice ain't worth the squeeze". Invest in yourself, indulge in your hobbies. Simple as.
I like that you kept the game audio, makes it feel like I’m having a genuine conversation with a friend while kicking back with some old school zombies
I'm the said cousin mentioned at the end. Things can definitely change quickly, but you always need to put in effort to get there. Great video
Could really happen at any moment
@@whylearntechsure bud if you keep playing the lottery you can win eventually 😂
After having multiple partners and finding out they have nothing to offer. I recommend focusing on your own dreams and goals before looking for a partner. Find out what you truly want in this life and put 100% focus towards that. For me it is achieving peace and freedom, when I have achieved that, I will attract a partner who is peaceful and appreciates freedom.
Nice try, fed
Sounds nice though…
@@SpectreManz dont let fed psyop to affect you
glowies are getting clever.
lmao
If you are chad or Tyrone you got none of this problems. Life is about winning and genetic,you can easly know it
Chad and Tyrone pay the cost of having to be what they are. They exist as maculinity defined by women, which is miserable and chaotic.
Do not envy the fuckboi life.
All this get your shit together before you date made me insecure as if I’m always lacking something
Hey I'm sorry you felt that way but I think maybe you misunderstood his points. There's nothing wrong with working on yourself, that actually might be what's best for you right now. Hang in there brother, I know you'll pull through.
This is the first time I'm seeing a video like this on my feed, listening, and then just flat out... No?
As positive as it may aim to be, it simply just doesn't apply to so many walks of life, as sad as it is, many of us aren't cut out for romance, sometimes it takes away from friends with cost of commitment, and many of us put much more value on friendship, and oftentimes... One can just be unredeemingly unattractive, but even if that much is true, at the very least they can find some way to love themselves
'if you're single, get in the game', how do you get in the game? I'm 26, work 5 days a week, have friends who I regularly see, go to the gym and still get 0 attention from women. Its like i'm completely invisible. Meeting women is the toughest part in my opinion.
Anyone got any tips?
Okay first you get some chloroform and a big roll of duct tape…
Get surgery.
Put yourself out there and have confidence are the main points to take away from dating in general
There is no point. Unless you won the genetic lottery the odds are literally stacked against you. I suggest find some other fulfillment in life. The juice is not worth the squeeze.
Plenty. My first is that you immediately resorted to making a laundry list of excuses. This is comorbid with most people's pessimism or world views. Stop and ask yourself, are you the only person who works full time, goes to the gym and has friends? No?
There's a reason what you're describing doesn't sound like science fiction. Because it's a normal every day scenario. You are not special because you have a job, work out and have friends. You also say "I'm invisible to women," which shows that you don't really understand how courting has worked historically.
Regardless of how we feel about it, men typically court women. It's just historically been that way and that likely won't change any time soon. There's been studies time and time again on what makes pairings work and historically it's just been most consistent when men court women. There can be exceptions to the rule but generally speaking that's just how it is. I'm probably between a 4.5-7 looks wise depending on where in my life I was, but even when I wasn't taking care of myself I was able to get into relationships with girls that would have probably been in the 8-9 range. I wasn't rich, didn't come from a good background, wasn't genetically gifted with looks. Because while that stuff helps, it's not mandatory for dating success. In my particular case I enjoy making people laugh and leaned into that. It's scientifically proven women are more attracted to men who can make them laugh or have interesting conversations. You don't have to be a rock star or Mr. Olympia.
You also have to take into account that the women you're walking past or are walking past you when you're headed to work or to the gym or whatever might also be in relationships or funnily enough might feel like you do. (Sidenote, don't look for dates at the gym unless the woman comes up to you. Reason is because typically Gyms are just about self-improvement and the encouragement of your peers.)
Dating apps are mostly a no-go as you can't trust them. Not only is catfishing a thing, but most of the people using them are shallow or not the kind of people you're going to want to form a committed relationship with. Hook-up culture is antithetical to what will healthily move you forward, and dating apps are garbage for the most part.
The internet, especially on TH-cam and social media in general, has this cesspool of people who are going to swear up and down that "dating is impossible" or that they're swearing off women or influencer spreading the MGTOW trash, but the reality is they're all quitters with a completely warped perspective on life who are giving in to primitive notions that are not justifiable to anybody with an objective view of things. People, especially younger people, are far too influenced by what they see on the internet. The real world is not what the algorithm feeds you. There's a reason that negativity and "dating is a waste of time" clips go viral and stuff like firefighters saving kittens is nowhere to be seen - the latter doesn't profit off clickbait rage, whilst the former is preying on a group of naïve/desperate/deluded individuals who will end up further sinking themselves into the illogical rabbit hole they're being goaded into diving into.
You're going to be okay bro. I promise. Don't listen to the other people who are going to drag you down or be negative around you. And don't let short-term doubts or skewed views of temporary or past experiences stop you from realizing that you have the rest of your life to go.
Screw dating. I’m not rushing it. I don’t want to feel distracted by “I have to find a partner”. If someone comes along, cool. If not, oh well. Prioritizing myself in the meantime. I don’t have much experience dating as is. It’s an overwhelming subject to me. Stay off the apps as well, that’s mentally draining and a cancer.
I respect your opinion but ill stay out of market, i dont think i have it in me to even start.
A woman nowadays can ruin your entire reputation just by doing a small mistake i better stay single and wait than risking everything.
Yah, wouldn't ind dating. Every girl looks at me like I'm worthless for just existing soo that ain't gonna happen. Just gonna keep being alone, and depressed until I die alone.
This. For most my life I haven't cared about dating, or even sex. (Currently aswell) I'm very antisocial, talking to people is fine but having to do it daily?? Hell no, I think I'd eventually try to leave. Only person I dated, I did this to, 1 week is all it lasted. I'm also not attractive at all. My main worry is that later in life I'll change and want or need a relationship. Even if I tried to date, it just wouldn't be genuine. I'd have to fake a lot. I really think I'm messed up a little, I've had to fake many emotions, (Even with past close friends, I've had to put up a facade. If I didn't I'd be a soulless husk.) Don't get me wrong I have a personality. But I'd rather keep that to myself, it ain't something people really see. Sorry for the vent. I'm actually doing alright mentally I think. I've got goals, I'd just rather be by myself for them. If you'd like to talk maybe it'd help us both out?
@@bushsbakedbeans3777🌈
Guys, 23 year old here, do not date. It is NOT worth it, marriage is NOT worth it. If you want kids adopt or form a contract with someone. Both genders today are so polarized and it isnt worth it. I am friends with a TON of woman, the things i hear and see you would be horrified, the cheating, using, etc etc. i own a business and have a high income i would NEVER risk that with marriage, my state has a high divorce rate and is no fault- meaning if she cheated it cant be used against her in divorce. Guys be yourselves, find your hobbies, be good and kind, you dont need a woman to be happy. I really like this video and its idea but telling young men to try especially where the odds are VASTLY against them is not genuine. I would also like to add marriage does provide some benefits, HOWEVER if you are apart of the 90% something of men paying child support and 83% paying alimony or the men who lose almost everything they have worked for BEFORE they were married is not worth marrying. I was engaged built her up from nothing helped her get back on track in life spent two years helping her get away from a abusive home she ghosted me and i never heard from her again, we were engaged…. It isnt worth it guys this is not good advice for the current dating world.
Its worth it just not with a modern western woman
Thanks for the advice
@@GregPiggotu got a point...maybe i just have to rizz up some tribal village kinda girl...i may be able to get laid after all fellas!
This should be common sense
This is mostly anecdotal and it kinda just sounds like you're friends with some schizo people so I agree to disagree.
I find it funny that people in the comments are saying "fuck that".
8:00 single divorced. Well, what's the reason for divorce? Marriage. Most guys don't divorce, it's the woman who initiates and they are encouraged to do so. Be honest, it's not that people don't want to date anymore, it's just that your partner can do a lot of damage to you if you break up.
Financially, men are screwed over from alimony and child support. Many young men today know the truth.
I didnt expect a real dating advice video with a zombies gameplay on the background, and i am so grateful about it
I was in a relationship before that went along wonderfully for years. It was a long distance relationship, US to UK. The feelings we had for each other and the love we shared was one of the best feelings I've ever felt in my life. Any sadness I felt melted away when talking to her. However, as time went on those feelings began to mute and I became complacent. I pretty much gave up on trying to do anything for her and there were a few times we talked about it and I tried to get better. Was long after that she told me she found a friend and she asked if it would be okay if they dated. Wasn't really my decision to make and I did protest that they could just stay friends since it's a requirement to date to hang out. Regardless they started dating all the while her and I were dating. I didn't think much of it until she demanded that I allow her to talk about their relationship despite it not being of my concern whatsoever. She's never been in a relationship other than with me and it seems he was quite the desperate fella so her trying to force it to work ended up in a lot situations where it was pretty evident I was being pushed out. She stated many times though that she didn't actually care about him. She was using him for the companionship and talked to me way more since I was there for her emotionally and what not. She never lied to me and only to him until I gave her an ultimatum, tell him the truth about her and I still dating and him being cheated on, or I will. She did, but of course they stayed together, like two desperate people would. Wasn't long after that we broke up and stopped talking for a bit. She still cared about me a lot but never thought that maybe giving up on him would've been a good call to save the relationship her and I shared. Clearly she wanted her cake and to eat it as well but that didn't end up working. Despite her ending up being very indifferent to him she ended up having to get married to him when they temporarily moved to the US due to his job. It's 5 years since we broke up but it still hurts down to my core. I made many mistakes but she was there and was very understanding. I don't really see a reason to date after that. I've still not recovered from it and I doubt I ever will. I figure that I'm "damaged goods" and that bringing this emotional baggage to anyone else is solely a detriment. I will keep this to myself because I believe it's the best thing I can do
f no. The list they have for you is gonna drain your life away. Especially when you're not attractive, if you can even get a date.
I’m 25, average looking, 6ft, blue eyes, decent wealth, in good shape, physically active, strong family values, hard working, never been on a date. The hassle of dating apps is just not worth it to me and I find it difficult to find the right people in real life. Also, I don’t believe in finding your soulmate on a dating app. I want it to come naturally.
Money doesn't betray me
Money won’t fulfill you
@@pineland_national7497ignore the chudlet
@@pineland_national7497 it sure can
@@pineland_national7497 No but it fulfills my needs and wants which fulfills me. Having a partner doesn't fulfill you automatically either. If anything, I now have to deal with another uncertainty and complication in my life. Money is, at least, simpler to deal with than people.
pfp is hard
This was something i definitely needed to hear. Thanks for this man
I would rather present my best self and not potentially ruin a good relationship by jumping in too soon. Eventually, I’d love to have a partner, but I’ve got a lot of work to do before then.
Thanks for the video man. I'm trying to stay positive, I've only had one girlfriend in highschool and I finally decided to try dating apps, but literally only had one girl message me for a week and ghost me. That's literally the only match that I have gotten. It seems like such a waste of time. I'm not even focused on it now, I just think it will happen when it happens. It sucks, but I'm trying my best to stay positive about it
I gave up on that long ago lmao. I would much rather be lonely than try to get a date ever again.
/salute
@@bukejakely154 /bow
I applaud your efforts. You managed to find your better half AND play games, and here I am, *only* playing games without even trying to be interested in finding a partner because playing games is easier and requires little attention and effort.
For girl dating is heaven
For boy dating is hell
It isn't easy for women, either.
@@kaleviHekonen9527Yes it is, dating nowadays comes entirely at the expense of men with very little reward all for the benefit of women and women STILL aren't happy. Women could easily get commitment and a loving boyfriend on their level but instead they go after guys way out of their range who they know deep down damn well wouldn't ever commit to them
@@GigaNietzsche No it isn't. There are various issues that women deal with a lot more than men do in dating, such as sexual harassment and various beauty expectations. It isn't always super apparent, who is willing or even worth committing to a long term relationship with. People don't just "easily commit" to a relationship. A lot of these issues are made more severe by modern dating trends.
Not saying that men don't' have their own issues, but saying that women don't have their own hardships in modern dating is simply not true. People can't have a constructive discussion on this topic because people like turning this into team sports.
@@kaleviHekonen9527 When and where do women face sexual harassment? Typically when they're dressed in a revealing manner in rather raunchy settings which are completely avoidable.
I would also argue male beauty standards/expectations are a lot more harsh than female beauty standards/expectations. Quit with the gynocentrism you're grasping for straws to try and find how women have it just as hard/harder than men. Our entire society is built around catering to women at the expense of men and dating is no exception
@@kaleviHekonen9527 And no they have their own issues but they're largely something they can easily fix. Save yourself for marriage and go after a guy who is your looksmatch and is more relationship focused. Women know EXACTLY who these guys are it's just that they choose to go for men who are out of their league and put out for them in HOPES that they commit.
I got married in 2020 and ended up getting divorced in 2022, simply due to differences in personal interests. I don't know about you guys, but I'd rather not waste time and emotions trying to mold myself for girl who isn't satisfied with me being myself. If I have to expend effort into forcing myself to be different for someone else's needs, they're not the one for me, period. I'm glad I got that reality check sooner than later.
I'm mentally ill and stand at 5'6 when I see things like this they just make me feel worse bcuz I know I'll never achieve any of it no woman is going to want a man who can't provide I will never be able to do so it's unfortunate I will miss out on an entire portion of my life when it comes to dating due to something that is of no fault of my own
Just curious, have you tried medication?
Dating is the most unimportant thing in universe. It has no positive impact on anyone's life. All the positives are made up and can be easily achieved outside of it
We suffer in both relationships and singlehood and tell ourselves lies about the power of love. In modern times, romantic love is almost exclusively transactional and i feel a lot safer being single. I still havent gotten over the trauma of being bullied harshly when i was in school and noticing how distorted the conceot of romantic love became, i have given up entirely on dating. Maybe you found peace with someone but i doubt i ever will. I just dont want to care anymore so i use distractions like work and playing Hell Let Loose and i found companionship with my male friends in both. Purpose is all i ever need so i strive to become one of the best Commanders in Hell Let Loose and one of the best workers at my job. I cant workout anymore due to a liver problem that makes it too excruciating
Sounds like you are making the best out of a bad deck of cards man. We all have to come to terms with the harsh reality that is our lives.
If you wanna date, go for a walk, if they're intressted they'll accept. It's also free, and your being active. Win-win. Also stay on your grind, kings!
The more effort I put in to my social life and dating life, the less I get back, and the worse I feel. Giving absolutely no fucks about it has actually made me feel okay about myself for the first time since I was 13 or so. The dating scene is just complete shit for Millennials and especially Gen Z's and I think it'll probably get worse for Gen Alpha.
It will definitely get worse, gen Alpha is having all these unrealistic and ridiculous standards being baked into their existence right out of the womb. There will be a huge disconnect from reality with that generation especially in regards to dating and relationships
Keep making videos bro you’re good at this
just a few thoughts:
its because of our hyper individualized and capitalistic society that third spaces, where you would naturally meet people and interact with them are all but extinct. So mostly what you have are a few select hobbies and...dating apps. These apps essentially give women infinite options, creating a dynamic where they will never have a reason to commit to anyone, because why would they? its simply more efficient to jump around to whoever can give you "more"... The grass will always be greener. (reminder, this is essentially what men used to be able to do much easier before women had equal rights)
To be clear, im not blaming women for this behavior. its simply natural given how the apps are set up to make as much of a profit off of men as possible, using women as the draw to spend money (because women are usually the desired, and men do the desiring- in a very general societal sense). This dynamic basically just further divides everyone in an age where division is the standard, and hyper-individualism is the norm...its easier to sell things to people who are alone and desperate.
Also, women in the long term will not be happier because of this. just because they got the better end of the deal with the devil, doesnt mean that *everyone* will be content with having no true human connection
The true root of our pain and suffering is the steady erosion of humanity into the homogeneous blob of an accounting spreadsheet, and a culture which prioritizes material gain above human connection.
this is one of the only good comments on this video thank you for looking deeper into this topic instead of saying some incel sounding bull.
I wasnt expecting this to show up in my feed, but i think that this video is good. Its a serious and down to earth video, thanks for the advice and information. I havent started dating yet but ive wanted to. This advice will be in my head for a while, thanks
I’m too ugly and short to date.
I was never desirable to women and I still am not. I’m almost 27, so the ship has basically sailed for me.
Some guys like me are simply too undesirable and were never meant to date or reproduce.
Same here.
It's over indeed
The ugliest and shortest guys I have ever known all got dates, relationships, and at least a couple had kids. I don't want to be insensitive but unless you have a deformity (and even then you have cases of people dating) you are not 'too ugly' to date. Don't be so hard on yourself, get off any platforms where people are telling you otherwise. You have too much to offer the world to let the incel content online or the insanity of dating apps deter you. Also being 27 has nothing to do with it, if you are still breathing then the ship hasn't sailed my friend! Hope you find happiness.
@@bowers009cope.
i feel you
I'm 27 and I think dating and marriage is a waste of time and resources. Plus, being single is the best decision I made.
I see a lot of guys saying that people should not worry about getting girlfriends at a young age (13-24). I can see why it is difficult in todays world, but the lessons you will learn even if the relationships do not last will help you later on.
unless you get emotionally abused and that shit sticks but go on.
@@dice5709that's comparable to saying don't go out because you'll get kidnapped. stop using exceptional and uncommon cases to make a nonexistent point lmao and when u realize it early on just gtfo
@@patootie3529 Bad comparison. Outside there are so many things that can happen that its almost pointless to overthink. Also you're not bound by someone else when you're outside. When you're in a relationship, you certainly are emotionally bound to someone. Also sometimes its not that easy to simply "gtfo" because initially, you had a great time with certain someone until after some time it turns into shit. So much time wasted for bad feelings at the end. Sometimes not even knowing what went wrong and left asking questions, without learning anything from it. I don't think you have a clue and I doubt you had longlasting relationships. My friends could sing songs about the same shit. It's not uncommon, it actually happens a lot. Dunno where you are coming from but it must be nice there.
@@patootie3529 its not uncommon, it happens to every man.
its not worth it
I really don't think the dating scene is ever going to recover as long as apps and social media are a thing. You can swim against the tide all you want and some of you may get lucky but at the end of the day I feel like this is just a new era of how people go about finding companionship and won't be surprised if it's completely normalized for Gen Alpha and beyond.
7:06 he knocked your head off your shoulders…
Great video man! Really hope this blows up even more than it has. It’s such an important topic.
You're just gaslighting us, telling us you have to date or else, knowing full well that some of us literally cannot get a gf
Pathetic
@@NickGreiner1988 dude he knows most of these women r thots he’s trying to get these lonely dudes to off themself or something like look at the world bruh
That’s a cope improve yourself
@@adrijiyuda so true! And 16 upvotes? Misery loves company…
@@adrijiyuda CoPe
I’m 26 and the last time I ever held hands with a girl was in 2012 when I was in secondary school but that only lasted a few days and I haven’t done that since…
I just won’t bother now considering how much the world has changed since then.
Honestly I’m just gonna give up. The older I get the more of a failure I feel that I am. Currently 25 but once I hit 30 and I’m still single I guess I’m just going to accept being the cool single uncle
I’m a 26 year old guy who has never had a serious girlfriend, barely dated, struggled with my physical and mental health for years, medication has killed my sex drive and feel emotionally disconnected. I’m trying to work on getting myself to a better place before I consider having someone else in my life but it feels like I’m running out of time. Luckily I have good friends and family but maybe I’m just not cut out for dating.