Part of me can’t help but place some blame on our parents. So much of the trauma you experienced stemmed from the lack of supervision, which often happens in immigrant, low-income, or substance-abuse-affected households. If we had more present, involved fathers and mothers, they could have advocated for us-especially for you during the times you were bullied or when you struggled with anorexia. All of this pain was due to a lack of accountability from our parents and the absence of a reliable safety net. You are incredibly strong, and I am so grateful for your courage in sharing your story!💗
For sure. And then we have to carry the burden of re-parenting ourselves as adults. I have to constantly remind myself “My feelings are valid. I am protected. I am safe.” Etc.
I had BPD and I recovered and on remission because I surrendered my life to god and became a Christian. You can do this too. I am now sober, healthy , furthering my career because my identity is found in Christ. GOD CAN HEAL US. Here are many tips on how I did this. 1. Go to church and accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior 2. Forgive your enemies and yourself 3. Repent 4. If someone hurts ( you do something good for yourself ) 5. Do lots of self care 6. Wake up at 6a.m. to pray 7. Read your Bible ( try a Bible study book) 8. Exercise 9. Spoil and love yourself 10. Socialize with other Christians 11. Heal your body with teas 12. Eat healthy 13. Pray and worship 14. FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE TRAITS OF THE "DISORDER"
Hearing you talk about head banging as a kid made me feel a lot less alone, thank you for this 🩷I remember doing it because of feeling stupid from having trouble doing math in school and probably other things I don’t remember. Unfortunately my siblings bullied me for it but now I have BPD and am exploring an ADHD diagnosis too
Thank you for sharing. It's not trauma dumping at all, BPD sufferers by definition have struggled. It helps us who've had BPD loved ones to better understand.
Thank you for sharing your story ❤❤❤❤ I'm proud of yourself for getting through high school despite all the horrible things you went through. Balancing education and mental health issues is truly not easy and you deserve to be proud of yourself for making it through that, especially for going to college right after. I wish I could give you the biggest internet hug rn, you didn't deserve any of the pain that people caused you 💔
@@septiceye_3706 this is so sweet THANK YOU! i know some things are kinda dark and heavy but if it never happened it would have never brought me here, im just glad i stayed around to see things do and can get better 🩷 again thank you SO much for this!!
You're parents pulling you out of therapy is relatable (unfortunately) and I thought I was alone in that. My dad was sexually abusive and I had to get therapy (court mandated) and as soon as the mandate was up she pulled me from it saying I didn't need it (when I did). And then a few years later in middle school a teacher suggested me needing to see a therapist and my mom let me but would make me tell her what we talked about in therapy after every session. I hated it and didn't want to tell her (for a few reasons, one being she was judgemental about things and hated that I missed my dad because he was a bad parent. But also she said "the therapist was turning me against her and just saying bad things about her as a parent to me). So she said "I pay for this so you either tell me what you guys talk about or I'm not paying for you to go. I pay for it I'm the parent I get to know." And I never went back. I didn't really think that was abnormal or wrong until I became an adult and shared it with a friend who said how wrong that is. And then shared it with a therapist who said that is something she'd have to report as child abuse if I had been seeing her at the time. All in all, thank you for being vulnerable enough to share those things because it's so easy to feel alone in those moments.
thank you so much for your channel and this video. i am very grateful for the stories you are brave enough to vocalize on the internet for others to feel less alone struggling. great video.
I literally missed like 80-something days of school and I barely graduated by the skin of my teeth! So I completely believe you and resonate with you!! I’m 37 now but I also was struggling had a ectopic pregnancy in 12 grade was depressed but never had help eating issues also and my teachers passed me I believe because they get horrible for me 🤷🏻♀️ you are strong! You are stunning! You’re a gem!, smart, great personality!! Keep your head up Ava keep up the good work ! Love ya
Did you notice before being diagnosed you were hanging with all borderline friends? All of us had and no idea. Im 40 now and was diagnosed at 38 alot of my friends are gone from substance abuse, risky behavior, self deletion its really sad once i studied it we all checked the boxes
you can say way more words on youtube than on tiktok just FYI ! worst case scenario they age-restrict it (as long as you don't show any graphic photos or anything)
My last two years in highschool was exactly the same i got to walk the stage too firsr two years i gave it 900% that carried over and i somehow graduated
Same thing happened to me back when I was in grade 12 A teacher pulled me up in front of the class my art class and was being rude and I called her out for it and she called me a bitch because to be honest, I was probably being a little bit of a bitch back when I was calling her out but she almost got fired as well for it
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Part of me can’t help but place some blame on our parents. So much of the trauma you experienced stemmed from the lack of supervision, which often happens in immigrant, low-income, or substance-abuse-affected households. If we had more present, involved fathers and mothers, they could have advocated for us-especially for you during the times you were bullied or when you struggled with anorexia. All of this pain was due to a lack of accountability from our parents and the absence of a reliable safety net. You are incredibly strong, and I am so grateful for your courage in sharing your story!💗
For sure. And then we have to carry the burden of re-parenting ourselves as adults. I have to constantly remind myself “My feelings are valid. I am protected. I am safe.” Etc.
I had BPD and I recovered and on remission because I surrendered my life to god and became a Christian. You can do this too. I am now sober, healthy , furthering my career because my identity is found in Christ. GOD CAN HEAL US. Here are many tips on how I did this.
1. Go to church and accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior
2. Forgive your enemies and yourself
3. Repent
4. If someone hurts ( you do something good for yourself )
5. Do lots of self care
6. Wake up at 6a.m. to pray
7. Read your Bible ( try a Bible study book)
8. Exercise
9. Spoil and love yourself
10. Socialize with other Christians
11. Heal your body with teas
12. Eat healthy
13. Pray and worship
14. FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE TRAITS OF THE "DISORDER"
Hearing you talk about head banging as a kid made me feel a lot less alone, thank you for this 🩷I remember doing it because of feeling stupid from having trouble doing math in school and probably other things I don’t remember. Unfortunately my siblings bullied me for it but now I have BPD and am exploring an ADHD diagnosis too
Thank you for sharing. It's not trauma dumping at all, BPD sufferers by definition have struggled. It helps us who've had BPD loved ones to better understand.
Thank you for sharing your story ❤❤❤❤ I'm proud of yourself for getting through high school despite all the horrible things you went through. Balancing education and mental health issues is truly not easy and you deserve to be proud of yourself for making it through that, especially for going to college right after. I wish I could give you the biggest internet hug rn, you didn't deserve any of the pain that people caused you 💔
@@septiceye_3706 this is so sweet THANK YOU! i know some things are kinda dark and heavy but if it never happened it would have never brought me here, im just glad i stayed around to see things do and can get better 🩷 again thank you SO much for this!!
You're parents pulling you out of therapy is relatable (unfortunately) and I thought I was alone in that. My dad was sexually abusive and I had to get therapy (court mandated) and as soon as the mandate was up she pulled me from it saying I didn't need it (when I did). And then a few years later in middle school a teacher suggested me needing to see a therapist and my mom let me but would make me tell her what we talked about in therapy after every session. I hated it and didn't want to tell her (for a few reasons, one being she was judgemental about things and hated that I missed my dad because he was a bad parent. But also she said "the therapist was turning me against her and just saying bad things about her as a parent to me). So she said "I pay for this so you either tell me what you guys talk about or I'm not paying for you to go. I pay for it I'm the parent I get to know." And I never went back. I didn't really think that was abnormal or wrong until I became an adult and shared it with a friend who said how wrong that is. And then shared it with a therapist who said that is something she'd have to report as child abuse if I had been seeing her at the time.
All in all, thank you for being vulnerable enough to share those things because it's so easy to feel alone in those moments.
thank you so much for your channel and this video. i am very grateful for the stories you are brave enough to vocalize on the internet for others to feel less alone struggling. great video.
I literally missed like 80-something days of school and I barely graduated by the skin of my teeth! So I completely believe you and resonate with you!! I’m 37 now but I also was struggling had a ectopic pregnancy in 12 grade was depressed but never had help eating issues also and my teachers passed me I believe because they get horrible for me 🤷🏻♀️ you are strong! You are stunning! You’re a gem!, smart, great personality!! Keep your head up Ava keep up the good work ! Love ya
Did you notice before being diagnosed you were hanging with all borderline friends? All of us had and no idea. Im 40 now and was diagnosed at 38 alot of my friends are gone from substance abuse, risky behavior, self deletion its really sad once i studied it we all checked the boxes
you can say way more words on youtube than on tiktok just FYI ! worst case scenario they age-restrict it (as long as you don't show any graphic photos or anything)
@@Thenaomi2001 THANK YOU!!! i’m always scared i’ll just find out by getting banned this helps soo much!!
My last two years in highschool was exactly the same i got to walk the stage too firsr two years i gave it 900% that carried over and i somehow graduated
Identify exactly.. even at 63 years old.
I missed you I love you ❤
@@halliebender5991 you’re so sweet thank you for being here 🥲🩷 ily
@@tierralorainof course and I am glad your here on earth i am so so sorry for your losses in the family 💕
thank you for sharing
Everyone is Different .I had the Best Mum and Dad nothing they did brought on my B.P .D iwish They were hear today they would Understand me.
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Same thing happened to me back when I was in grade 12 A teacher pulled me up in front of the class my art class and was being rude and I called her out for it and she called me a bitch because to be honest, I was probably being a little bit of a bitch back when I was calling her out but she almost got fired as well for it
Pork nose ring... Who would say
you are ADHD too, o 🤔