I came across the same/similar quote. Another part of the one I heard was 'Listen to ignite (the thinking of the other person) rather than to respond'. Has stayed with me ever since.
Whether a person has been heard is determined by the speaker, not the listener. Effing brilliant. I rarely feel heard by others. And I'm allowed to feel that way. Thank you for validating my right to feel not heard by others.
Yeah, all the children who are being abused at home and don't get taken seriously when they bumblingly try to tell someone, just need to learn effective communication.
Simon is not just a speaker who empower and adds value to others, he is also a speaker who takes part in lots of people's lives. Huge inspiration especially to the younger and future generations
I ask my class kids, "what did I say?" and most times they did not hear. We must feel in listening. It's the first step to greater - at empathy, compassion, caring and understanding the other person. 🙏 Simon Sinek ❤️ ❤️ 🙏.
This is the second video I'm hearing Simon talk about the art of active listening. Prior one he said something to the effect that parrotting back" the words of the speaker doesn't prove you were listening. I have since become more intentional when listening to any one. Thanks again Simon!
Talking less and listening more can help you better understand others and build stronger connections. By listening actively and without interruption, you can gain valuable insights into other people's perspectives and show that you value their input. Remember to stay engaged, ask open-ended questions, and seek to understand before being understood. By talking less and listening more, you can build deeper relationships and create a more positive impact on those around you.
When I was in high school I ever talked to a person about my problems it was that person request. The person was about older 10 years than me, so I was thinking that I had to talk someone to make better choices what in my mind or at least it would release my burden as many people said. At the end, finally I stood myself alone feeling uncomfortable for what I'd talked about but I knew I already had best choices. The way that person was listening to me affected my comfort that time and I didn't feel being listened too. Then I realized not everyone really wanted to listen rather just wanted to know. Fortunatelly, I came up with the idea "let's talk about solution instead of just the problem." And then once I should listen to someone I always offers "do you want solution or just want to feel being heard?." And yeah most people want just to be heard because when I give solution most people give defence about their problem.
Listening is also the willingness to be open to the other person's position. You identified her fear, then sought to convince her otherwise or "fix" the situation. You could have met the emotional requirement of a friend by validating her fear of the unknown as common and fundamental and then stopped, instead you sold her on your solution to your problem, "why isn't everyone vaccinated?". I love your books and talks, thank you.
I’ve been learning about this for a while now. “Active listening”. Now I think back about me from a few years ago, I had a hard time from feeling not being heard and understood . As a result, I blamed other and chose not to listen/make them feel heard as well. People are very vulnerable and self-centered (at least I was). Well, now I’m learning from my mistakes and doing the things right. it’s all that matter now 🤗
One thing that needs to be pointed out is - making the other person feel heard is half the job. The final step is just as important - let them hear your point and then decide for themselves, respecting the other's decision and right to have different views.
This is the first pro vaccine advocate I’ve seen actually be agreeable. If more people were like him regardless of their views democrats and republicans wouldn’t fight.
Listening is a highly feminine trait imbalanced through lack of trust and feeling safe. We all house feminine & masculine abilities to be able to listen and speak more effectively and in unison. Would love to sit on your armchair and share this conversation more with you @simonsinek I think respect for others enables this.
Simon Sinek vi dos videos tuyos subtitulados en español me encantó el contenido, Inmediatamente ingresé a tu página pero veo que todos tus videos están en inglés y los subtitulado también . Porfa hay mucha gente seguramente igual a mi que quisieran ver todos tus videos pero ayúdanos para poder verlos en español . Muchas gracias!!
In this particular, loaded example, how about it is not your business? And, just because someone feels heard does not mean that they will come around to your opinion. However well meaning you think you are being.
What happens if both parties come into the conversation with a strong desire to listen and as a result neither of them says much for the other person to listen to? You say” 1:09 tell me what you’re going through? What’s your story?” And the other person thinks, no, I want to be a good listener and says “ no, tell me what YOU’re going through? What’s YOUR story?”
And recognize that some people have very legitimate risks associated with vaccination not limited to covid, and that does not mean that they do not care about those around them. It is not a moral imperative. It is a tool and a method to reduce the likelihood of disease.
most of the times to break the ice or to get someones favorite towards me i ask questions i already know and they talk their azz off to me and to lengthen the conversation i act like i didnt know and act dumb. is this cruel or its okay ?? lol
You can't say women are better at this than men. Would you also say men are better than women at sports? It sounds like you're acknowledging gender differences.
@@jeremysmith9694 Why don't you just say what you really think in the future? Has Simon ever in the past stated that he doesn't acknowledge gender differences?
@@jeremysmith9694 Yea you did, in your reply to me. If you were to clearly speak your mind, it would go something like "I think today's society is woke, and I think that being woke includes not acknowledging gender differences. I believe that Simon Sinek identifies as being woke. In this video, he seems to be acknowledging gender differences even though I believe he is woke, and that is something that I think woke people do not do. Therefore I demand for Simon to acknowledge and confess his hypocrisy!" Obviously not that robotically, but still. That's how you convey your thoughts and feelings clearly without beating around the bush and pretending that you're one of the ones that doesn't acknowledge gender differences.
"Saying sorry doesn't mean you're wrong." - I love you Simon, but what are you on about? That is exactly what saying sorry is, it's a confession of something wrong you did.
"It's not about listening, it's about making them feel heard." This is just manipulation then. You don't actually care about what they have to say, you are not opening your mind to new ideas, you barely even show empathy - you just fake all of it.
I heard this once. We listen not to hear, but to respond. That has stuck with me and helped me keep my opinions to myself. Have a great day everyone.
Yep, that's from Stephen Covey, the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
I came across the same/similar quote. Another part of the one I heard was 'Listen to ignite (the thinking of the other person) rather than to respond'. Has stayed with me ever since.
Whether a person has been heard is determined by the speaker, not the listener. Effing brilliant.
I rarely feel heard by others. And I'm allowed to feel that way. Thank you for validating my right to feel not heard by others.
And it's amazing how common it is that people believe they have the authority to determine whether they have been heard by other people.
Yeah, all the children who are being abused at home and don't get taken seriously when they bumblingly try to tell someone, just need to learn effective communication.
Simon is not just a speaker who empower and adds value to others, he is also a speaker who takes part in lots of people's lives. Huge inspiration especially to the younger and future generations
I ask my class kids, "what did I say?" and most times they did not hear. We must feel in listening. It's the first step to greater - at empathy, compassion, caring and understanding the other person. 🙏 Simon Sinek ❤️ ❤️ 🙏.
This is the second video I'm hearing Simon talk about the art of active listening. Prior one he said something to the effect that parrotting back" the words of the speaker doesn't prove you were listening. I have since become more intentional when listening to any one. Thanks again Simon!
Talking less and listening more can help you better understand others and build stronger connections. By listening actively and without interruption, you can gain valuable insights into other people's perspectives and show that you value their input. Remember to stay engaged, ask open-ended questions, and seek to understand before being understood. By talking less and listening more, you can build deeper relationships and create a more positive impact on those around you.
When I was in high school I ever talked to a person about my problems it was that person request. The person was about older 10 years than me, so I was thinking that I had to talk someone to make better choices what in my mind or at least it would release my burden as many people said. At the end, finally I stood myself alone feeling uncomfortable for what I'd talked about but I knew I already had best choices. The way that person was listening to me affected my comfort that time and I didn't feel being listened too. Then I realized not everyone really wanted to listen rather just wanted to know. Fortunatelly, I came up with the idea "let's talk about solution instead of just the problem." And then once I should listen to someone I always offers "do you want solution or just want to feel being heard?." And yeah most people want just to be heard because when I give solution most people give defence about their problem.
Listening is also the willingness to be open to the other person's position. You identified her fear, then sought to convince her otherwise or "fix" the situation. You could have met the emotional requirement of a friend by validating her fear of the unknown as common and fundamental and then stopped, instead you sold her on your solution to your problem, "why isn't everyone vaccinated?". I love your books and talks, thank you.
Very profound, Let them talk and let them feel that they were heard.
I’ve been learning about this for a while now. “Active listening”. Now I think back about me from a few years ago, I had a hard time from feeling not being heard and understood . As a result, I blamed other and chose not to listen/make them feel heard as well. People are very vulnerable and self-centered (at least I was). Well, now I’m learning from my mistakes and doing the things right. it’s all that matter now 🤗
Eu amo essas demonstrações de amor ao próximo!!!
Me sinto tocada profundamente.
Gratidão sempre!!
This video should be aired on All news channels in the world and in all TH-cam ads
I try and keep this in mind in all my conversations these days. Great one Simon
One thing that needs to be pointed out is - making the other person feel heard is half the job. The final step is just as important - let them hear your point and then decide for themselves, respecting the other's decision and right to have different views.
That helps me more listening to learn. Thanks man👏👏
world lacks such folks, listeners & encouragers!
Acknowledge, align, assure. It’s a a template for communication and it works
This is the first pro vaccine advocate I’ve seen actually be agreeable. If more people were like him regardless of their views democrats and republicans wouldn’t fight.
Yea, and you learn from who you listen to. Think about it
Jesus wants your heart and time today. It's not too late. Believe upon him and live for him, and enjoy eternal salvation
The message on listening is great. The reasoning on getting vaccinated, not so much.
Yep f that fake vax
I really like when simon says 'uh'
We all should synchronise our ‘uh’ 3 times when he does
Those spontaneous replies 💯✅
This is amazing!!! Beautiful 🙏💚
Listening is a highly feminine trait imbalanced through lack of trust and feeling safe. We all house feminine & masculine abilities to be able to listen and speak more effectively and in unison. Would love to sit on your armchair and share this conversation more with you @simonsinek
I think respect for others enables this.
Exactly correct.
Simon Sinek vi dos videos tuyos subtitulados en español me encantó el contenido, Inmediatamente ingresé a tu página pero veo que todos tus videos están en inglés y los subtitulado también . Porfa hay mucha gente seguramente igual a mi que quisieran ver todos tus videos pero ayúdanos para poder verlos en español . Muchas gracias!!
Simple, efficient and at the same time, quite hard to do well every single day
Talk less, listen more.
Listening is a trust-making process.
"let her feel heard". This is the greatest way to sympathy
Wonderful as usual Simon🌹
“Women are better at this than men.”
Gave me a good little laugh but yeah, absolutely no doubt!!
Yes!
Incredible!
Had a family friend who’s funeral was paid for by Johnson & Johnson. True story it was wild
In this particular, loaded example, how about it is not your business? And, just because someone feels heard does not mean that they will come around to your opinion. However well meaning you think you are being.
He’s not being well meaning. Its propaganda disguised as self help and ‘being kind’.
1 year later imunity compromised and struggling with strange defects from inflammations to skin conditions to heart issues..
What happens if both parties come into the conversation with a strong desire to listen and as a result neither of them says much for the other person to listen to? You say” 1:09 tell me what you’re going through? What’s your story?” And the other person thinks, no, I want to be a good listener and says “ no, tell me what YOU’re going through? What’s YOUR story?”
Same reason why Cheryl called thanks sis
Listening is not about uttering the coercive word "right" after every sentence.
And recognize that some people have very legitimate risks associated with vaccination not limited to covid, and that does not mean that they do not care about those around them. It is not a moral imperative. It is a tool and a method to reduce the likelihood of disease.
Do you have to be afraid to reject something?
All political problems would be solved if we all just listen to eachother and stop hearing for our turn to speak
Everyone thinks they’re a good listener, but most are terrible and remains a huge blind spot for them.
most of the times to break the ice or to get someones favorite towards me i ask questions i already know and they talk their azz off to me and to lengthen the conversation i act like i didnt know and act dumb. is this cruel or its okay ?? lol
1:27
Is this a bug???
Amazing vídeo!!!!! This guy rocks!!!
Lmaoo I was scrolling till someone said that lol I knew someone would
Because one has two ears and one mouth, so arithmetic is easy 😀
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Disabled and veterans right
You can't say women are better at this than men. Would you also say men are better than women at sports? It sounds like you're acknowledging gender differences.
So you're saying you don't acknowledge gender differences?
@@WanderTheNomad I do. But that's taboo in today's society. Especially for someone as woke as Simon. I'm calling out hypocrisy.
@@jeremysmith9694 Why don't you just say what you really think in the future?
Has Simon ever in the past stated that he doesn't acknowledge gender differences?
@@WanderTheNomad did I hurt your feelings? I said exactly what I think. Chill out.
@@jeremysmith9694 Yea you did, in your reply to me.
If you were to clearly speak your mind, it would go something like
"I think today's society is woke, and I think that being woke includes not acknowledging gender differences.
I believe that Simon Sinek identifies as being woke.
In this video, he seems to be acknowledging gender differences even though I believe he is woke, and that is something that I think woke people do not do.
Therefore I demand for Simon to acknowledge and confess his hypocrisy!"
Obviously not that robotically, but still. That's how you convey your thoughts and feelings clearly without beating around the bush and pretending that you're one of the ones that doesn't acknowledge gender differences.
"Saying sorry doesn't mean you're wrong." - I love you Simon, but what are you on about? That is exactly what saying sorry is, it's a confession of something wrong you did.
Not necessarily. Sorry can also mean: I understand you are hurt, I emphasis with you.
"She went and got a moderna shot" - brilliant
So is there any reason that you Talk so much on TH-cam.
I love you Brother
I hear you. I love you too.
COVID-19 shot what happened?
Jealousy
Why out of COVID-19 shot? Explain America
Yoooo i’m the 3k like
S/S. Talk is a four letter word - avoid sir ! Being heard is better versus listening ? V
See my point I got mine but still jealousy
ok, bye.
Porém,qualquer coisa que se torna obrigatório tira a liberdade!
Pronto falei. :)
Isso é meio óbvio, não?
Mas tudo bem….eu estava aqui para te escutar 😅😂😅😂😅😂😅😂
@@abziani Obviamente Dr. Ridículo!
Gratidão sempre! rsrsrs
Se a intenção era aparecer,já conseguiu pateta!!! Kkkkk
Agora todos vem aqui ver quem é o Doutor Ridículo!!!
Parabéns pelo feito!! Ah,p.s! Da próxima vez,seja mais gentil! :)
"It's not about listening, it's about making them feel heard." This is just manipulation then. You don't actually care about what they have to say, you are not opening your mind to new ideas, you barely even show empathy - you just fake all of it.
Well you've been heard when you get vaccinated..
"Women are better at this than men"... What an odd and useless side comment
Oh, you mean Johnson and Johnson is safe lol what a joke. This whole video is a sham.
Sooo funny. Now that everything is out about how horrible the fauci ouchi is don't you feel horrible for convincing your friend to get it.
Is a mystery why this guy still single
He isn't
This aged badly
First thing first, don't be friends with fools... 😃 simple.
Unfriend her dude.
This vaccination focus did not age well.