Monkey Branching: Why giving your ex another chance is never worth it
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 11 ก.ย. 2024
- In this video I discuss a situation from a subscriber who took his ex back 3 times hoping things would change for the best only to find out she had lined up a replacement behind his back.
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The more I listen and watch your videos, the less I want my ex.
Right?! I missed her body and who I thought she was. The more I forget the body and realise the mind ain’t the one
When you treat someone like a celebrity they in turn treat you like a fan. This guy should definitely ghost her and let her go and move on with his life.
I think she had BPD (fearing breakups, fear of being rejected or being abandoned, falling to her knees to beg him not to break up with her) or some other thing from the Cluster B personality disorder. Certainly she had daddy issues.
Then the cheating , specific for Cluster B. They can't be cured.
Run!
The best break up channel ever, opened my eyes like no one ever before!
I have to agree.
From this video I would suggest to the guy to look at attachment theory and find out what his is. Could explain why he kept getting back together with this women. Just a suggestion.
Thế jezebel spirit warned this guy... 😂😂😂
Theres my story
Theres worse stories
Then theres this story.
*sigh* Travis...if you're reading this, just take it one day at a time bro.
Its not easy, its fucking terrible.
I can feel the pain you went through, because of a similar situation myself and many on this channel have been through.
Christians advice is second to none.
Listen to him and take his advice, not just for healing but for further relationships going forward.
Leave Corona, monkey branching has been a relationship pandemic during this time as well.
Great video yet again Christian!
I always appreciate the love and support man!
Relationship pandemic 😂😂
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Thank-you man ur seriously the best@@RelearningRelationships
Wow man. Listening to your insight is therapy.
This sounds very similar to my ex and what she did. Never again. Ever. No woman will EVER have my full trust again. They are wired for betrayal and gaslighting.
No. Women are not wired for betrayal. You simply chose a bad woman. Pick yourself up and move on.
@@RelearningRelationships He's right.
Even though I feel the same way after being monkey branched at least 12 times, knowing better, being educated to female nature and experience, res pilled, and still trying to see the good in people here is what I have learned. Nice does not mean loyal, compassionate does not mean loyal, being religious does not mean loyal, sexual attraction does not mean loyal, giving, kind, attentive and thoughtful does not mean loyal, being communicative and having a big heart does not mean loyal. Affectionate does not mean loyal. High self esteem does not mean loyal. Even being grounded in reality in the current world we live in does not mean LOYAL. Expressing and professing one's love or even being logical does not mean loyal. Being a great listener does not mean loyal. Trauma bonding does not mean loyal. Being committed or married does not mean loyal. (Feel free to add any other good measurement of characteristics as a potential barometer.) Christian is right about the red flags we willfully choose to ignore to attempt to see the good in people. Myself included. Not making that mistake ever again.
Most women are a slave to their emotions and are opportunistic and very conditional. (Would like to see a video on this if I haven't seen or Christian hasnt covered it already.) This is why women are the weaker vessel. This is just my opinion but here is what I now believe means loyal but have yet to find out. Having fear and reverence and respect for the Lord Jesus Christ and God. Putting sin and the flesh to death. Growing spiritually. Praying. Occupying your mind with scripture over the world's distractions cares, trends and pleasures Being biblical and Christ like in faith, works, deeds, and fruits. That means loyal. Why? Because any person IMHO that has taken correction, learned from their mistakes, repented, forgave, and became anew in Jesus wouldn't even think of offending God more or less their SO or partner in any capacity. Blameless in God's eyes and not their own. Only time will tell for me. But I'm going to do it his way by his will with as much faith as I can muster without being double minded or allowing my thoughts and feelings to interfere with such. I'm going in big or going home. If it isn't of or from God then I don't want it.
After three months of no contact i curse her yesterday game over 😁
Am I the only one who fees there’s more to the story than just the writers SA doing things. I hate how my last relationship was because I did things to cause it to end to because I noticed monkeybranching habits and there was less and less cooperation and respect. But we had a child. So when I was away, as “men” do. I would validate with sexting. Now this wasn’t Everytime. This was usually after I discovered something had happened. That was my way of masking and diaaoxiating to stay with her. She convinced me she loved me even though I was broken… wish I knew then. I told her don’t love me because I’m broken let me heal with my process and just be my friend. I didn’t want this to be a rebound or monkebranch either. I knew she was basically jumping around for a while but it was when she got mad at me for doing the same thing and declared her love for me. She didn’t mean to or want to love me but she did and I’m the trash for hooking up with a different friend who was fully aware it was just sex and I was dealing with issues. But my exes reaction made me feel shame. So I started hiding my dating and trying to slow my ex down on her insisting of love. And then she got pregnant. Things go worse. She knew I was already battling custody; I knew I was a fool for trusting birth control, and being impulsive and reckless. I tried so hard to handle all of that being ghosted outright by my ex fiancé of 5 years with a newborn, now this new relationship of less than 6 months and she is pregnant. Despite staying clear I wanted to do my things, I slowly rolled my boundaries back, after suffering a devastating blow to my self image worth and value. I got weak, and glossed over red flags. I even moved away from town, to get away from the mental health issues of these two women, and to be closer to my older two kids. It took me a long time to get somewhat stable and my mom died. Fell back into it with the now ex who had basically been in a few relationships since I had moved and at times made sure I knew about it. That she tried to get over me but couldn’t.. made me feel weird. I had a fling too that was ending. She saw it on my phone slapped me and blamed me for breaking her heart… despite her branching to replace me. I apologized, I told her I ended it because I found out she was also married and that made me feel shitty too. I did a healthy good thing ending it but I didn’t know before we had sex and pics and stuff. It didn’t matter. Again my mom died so I was grieving that and the ex was there for me. But yeah. Back and forth fights with no end result my other obligations and commitments, the fact I was a dj and “surrounded” by sexy women which was true. It wasn’t for me though. I was doing a job. I began to drive home hours from a gig instead of stayig in a hour till morning to help her realize I was committed to her. But as time went in and I saw more and more things, she wouldn’t respect my boundaries still so I started flirting around again. After exhausting my efforts at hobbies and natural things to validate, nothing hits like being seen. And that’s toxic trait I’d mine I know has to stop. It has stopped right now I’m purged of all and any women or ways to meet them. I’m tired of being insecure too. The reality is I spent hours and hours alone if I wasn’t making the drive to her and our kid, sometimes after grabbing my older kids to all be family together. It was good for that. That’s likely why I kept turning blind eyes to her shady acts instead of leaving outright. I saw the good and potential of a happy family with her. I began to realize she is dealing with her own mental issues she never believed she had. I can honestly say coming from what I had been in, the therapy, the soul searching and acceptance that I too did shit in each relationship that a healthy normal Individual would not accept in a committed anything. Even with justified reasons, to act this way, it never made it right. Cheating, flirting and ultimately being a controlling asshole aren’t healthy for anyone. If you can’t be secure without those things in a relationship, I’ve learned it will fail. Always. But my ex, boy this time it hurts. I’ve never seen the replacements before. This time, he’s likely the new main target and supply, she’s completely cut me off, no angry messages no attempt to call me with our kid as bait right after a fight, like.. it’s different and scary. I have to adjust my family again. My kids. I was always afraid to put them around the wrong people, and instead added more kids with those exact wrong people. My heart hurts from this all.
Hi Christian, thanks for the video. Just a quick suggestion... Have you ever considered on making a short book review video? To share some valuable self help books for men? Thanks man.
I’ll definitely do this. I have a few videos planned out for these coming weeks but I will definitely write this down in my notes to talk about in a further video.
Also, I’m writing my own book as we speak. ( all about relationships, dating, morals, principles, etc)
Thanks for this great question Lee!
So much of this is also applicable if the genders are reversed. What you tolerate is what you reinforce.
I gave her another chance before this incident.
My mistake, lately I am being told by those who indulge in gossiping, that she came back to survive the winter. It was obvious to ever one, but me. that I paid for everything, made sure she was provided for, not lacking anything.most of them want to know if they can buy the 29 foot travel trailer I bought last year so she had place to sleep ,shower, indoor plumbing with running water and heat, nice little kitchen. Like a place of her own besides living in her car. The answer is no, I'm enjoying using it myself. It does make the fishing trips a little bit more comfortable. But taking them back. Is a mistake. There is something they want to use you for. Because that's all your good for to them is someone they can use. And they will use you unless you tell them no. Cut them off and out of your life.If they know any of your weaknesses they will use that against you in their attempt to use you. Because if they played you for a sucker once, they think they can do it again. And never ever ever ever ever, fall for the words I love you. Because they don't love you they love what you can do for them.
Very wise words. Avoid these damaged women and instead choose a good quality feminine lady with morals
@@RelearningRelationships at my age it's hard not to find one that isn't damaged with a little baggage. And don't do methamphetamine. I just keep getting the ones that are damaged with a freight train of baggage. But the last one didn't do meth.
@@RelearningRelationshipsBiblical morals not societal morals.
If you try her back ,let her work the effort
Never take back a cheater!
@@RelearningRelationships yeah i know,,,,,,but there's a thing that can make them change?
@@boytino2646 no.
@@boytino2646 You tripping
I hope she tried coming back and you told her, no.
Anybody got travis sisters info?