This came just at the perfect moment! I was journaling about why it's so hard for me to be like everyone else. Being social, creating new connections with people, always having something to say but it's just not me. This obviously leads me to feeling a little isolated but the weird part is, I like it more that way. No one can hurt my feelings but at the same time, I know it's important for me to keep and create strong bonds. Lol sorry for the word vomit, so grateful for your channel!
You know I faced the same problems for a long time then I just noticed something that even if we are antisocial or don't have something to say there are people who will be there for us even with our various shortfalls because those care about this stuff matter and those who matter don't care about your shortcomings they will help you grow as a person just give life some time to unravel itself the future has this very interesting way to solve all problems ❤️
The affirmations in case you wanted to copy and paste: ‘I show up for myself. I put in the effort to impress myself, for myself. I create a pleasant environment for me’
I love not having commitments with people that's why I don't have friends, I just love being by my self but sometimes I feel uncomfortable when I face "reality"
This video arrives at the right moment. I've been thinking about solitude a lot lately, as i have noticed that sometimes i really can't stand people and i don't like forcing myself in things or conversations if i don't want to, but even though i like being by myself i gotta say that when i spend a little bit more time alone then the usual, i don't feel good honestly, i feel more anxious and not comfortable with the sorrounding environment. I need human interaction, it makes me feel good and confident but at the same time i need that one day a week to stay relaxed and at my home. That's enough for me to recharge and feeling good. So it's fine being comfortable with your own skin, to value your own self that much but i think as social beings, we need people in our lives.
I needed this. This is the loneliest I've ever feel and it's been a big issue for my mental health because sometimes I feel I'm a piece in the wrong puzzle. Last sunday was my birthday and non of my friends sent me a message or anything and that was the turning point I needed to fully embrace being alone all the way. I feel broken, but I'll try to put the pieces together again. Thank you Lana for letting us know that we're not alone, even when it may seem like it. Much love
I feel drained when I have a conversation with people, I like staying quiet, sometimes not even hearing my own voice for days. I feel healed when I am alone.
Yes, it's great to be alone, but be careful, too much alone could turn into depression and anxiety even if you adore your own company. I am an introvert and love my own company even too much, but now after 7 months completely alone (that is the only ''humans'' I see are the sale assistants at the grocery store and no one else), my brains starts to go all over the place. I feel a strong urge of human interaction now, I feel like I am wasting my life (how did a got into this situation it's a long story). Anyway, I can confirm now that we must find a balance in order to function in a healthy way.
This exactl same thing happened or happens with me all the time.I enjoy being alone and also after some time I feel like I am wasting my time..not doing much,not experiencing much etc.and all the negative thoughts vome to my mind.
Yeah! I can completely relate to this as i myself faced that.Lived completely alone with myself for the whole lockdown period.It was great at first but later i slowly started doing self doubt, overthinking which i just could not stop.Went for medical help and got diagnosed with OCD and depression.Anyways, i hope you get fine very soon!!
Exactly....it's like wasting your life, I've been alone from a long time too....it feels too much sometimes...I watch her vedios, but who knows how someone is actually living.....my idea of enjoying life includes alone time, but at some point I wud switch it from that. ...time to time...
@@Xayle_xiv exactly, you can try to socialize more, go to parties if you’re in college or high school, I mean there’s always something, it can be overwhelming at first but you’ll feel way better after, being a loner even if we don’t wanna accept it, is not the best for mental health and can be really dangerous
I love being alone. I love working on my TH-cam videos, going to the gym, reading, self improvement habits, etc... All of these things I can't really do with friends, the old me felt like I always needed people around and I would put my self worth into what people thought of me, but now I don't care about what others think of me and I'm solely focused on myself and my growth
I'm like this as well. I've finally acknowledged this introverted part of me and enjoy self healing and care I need. I spent too much time trying to be accepted and social and extroverted to my own detriment.
Being alone has been a great and deep experience for me. This journey allowed me to sharpen my skills from cooking, cleaning the apartment, sleeping when you are tired, learning new subjects, being in peace, quiet time and much more. . Then, when you want to spend time with someone else, that time becomes special and valuable for both people. . I have also learnt to keep lines of communications open with others who are on the same kind of thinking and vibration. So here I go: . What have you learnt about yourself while being alone?
The thing I learned about myself for being alone is that when I'm alone for too long I feel worthless, suicidal, and a hatred towards life. I need other people to bring out the better side of me. I can't do it alone because I don't have the strength.
@@theredguy8746 One of the things I learned is if my own self worth comes from others, I will depend on them to validate my existence. And that’s a recipe for a disaster. . By becoming my own best friend, I validate my actions and bring out the better side of me. Take one tiny small challenge and celebrate when you complete it. One activity at a time will build your inner strength.
@@LatinTalents I get your point, it makes sense, but if you really knew me then you would know that it's far more complicated with me. I'm autistic for one thing. Another is that I have anger issues. These things have become such an integral part of who I am that it's impossible for me to change them alone. It's just how my mind and brain is wired.
For many years, I was a loner, doing stuff alone. Being an introvert, this is against our social norm. Trying to blend in, crack stupid jokes with so-called friends had me felt more lonely. Those acts do not define me. As I grow older, I have come to embrace who I really am, doing stuff alone and couldn't care less social stigma put on introverts like myself. Like going to the museums, taking my time to read through history and stories behind those paintings, without the hush and rush of family and friends. Now I'm married with kids, but nobody takes away my me-time. I'm alone but not lonely.
Sounds like you did a version of “monk mode.” I did this a couple years ago after feeling like I needed time to focus on myself and level up. I didn’t date, shut down all social media, and prioritized my mental and physical health. Hands down the best thing I ever did for myself. It’s a strategy I plan to employ intermittently in my life when I need it. Oh, and shut off the dating apps…permanently. Another great thing you can do for your self esteem
This has been my life. I've always liked spending time alone and doing things alone, but societal stigmas make you feel like you are a bad person for wanting to be a loner. Happy Sunday Lana, I appreciate you ❤️ 💛
excuse me miss, but i love you?? this is exactly what i needed right now, i was literally discussing with myself a few minutes ago if it wouldn't be awkward to go shopping and drink a coffee by myself even tho i reeeeally am craving some time alone, and i found this video, and yk what imma just go for it, u gave me the boost i needed so thank you very much! randomly found your channel and im definetely staying ^^
Im 32. Lived on my own since I was 22. I take myself to lunch every week, flowers every week, coffee most days and cook a good meal most nights. Planning to solo travel from UK to California this September. Have done a few solo trips to London and loved it. When I tell people about my lifestyle and planning solo travel across the world, they're like 😳😳😳what? Then im called sooooo brave, told im admired and 'Oh I could never do that! Im not clever/brave/strong enough!' blah blah. I don't want to be admired or told 'WOWWWEE What a strong independent woman you are!' That makes me feel odd. It makes me feel like im an outsider. It makes me feel like people would think me more normal if I withered up and did nothing because im single and on my own a lot. Women doing stuff on their own is no big deal. Its not brave or clever. Its just a person getting on with their life. Great video xx
I dont think being single or living alone should be the only reasons people enjoy their own company. I really want to enjoy my company but idk how to do it. I prevent myself from Doing things because someone else wont join me. It sucks.
@@Blondiee777 only driv thru coffee! I really want to be ok with my own company but idk why it makes me uncomfortable? Do i fear people judging me and labeling me as “alone” idk? I would LOVEEE to take myself out happily than wish and wait for someone or others to join me to do things because my life is on hold because I expect someone to come with me. I am ok to shop alone for clothes an grocery…but to enjoy an outting with myself? How beautiful it would be to wake up and decide to go to the museum..and choose a nice coffee shop and lunch to eat outside at the park or dine in . But it feels like it wont be fun or feel weird?
I completely get it as a fellow introvert. The thing that makes me a bit nervous is not being around people enough and therefore miss out on some of those joys of relationships. Being alone is so natural and enjoyable, and obviously necessary, so for me it's always a big challenge to to get out there and have as high quality interactions as possible. But I think your idea to really respect your alone time would really help us enjoy it even more but also give balance to all the energy we put into making together time. Thanks, Lana!
I used to live alone in the forest for half of every year. For the first 5 years I had no internet (and very limited data after that), only a phone with limited phone plan, and a radio. So basically for 13 years I spent half of my life completely alone in the forest... I remember my first season, I was there for 5 months, and it seemed like 2 years went by. Time moved very slowly. Interesting times, so much happened out there. But it all seems like a lifetime ago now, so strange how much life can change
I rarely comment but I watch all of your videos and wanted to take the time to say that this video was very well written and said! Being "comfortable" with solitude is so important
" I put in the effort to impress myself." I came up with the same conclusion this year. Why doing these things only for someone else? When I am in a couple, I always try hard to make things special but when I am single, I stop. Is it because I need the validation? Thats so silly and sad. I want my life to be special all the time. So just like you, I really try to put in the effort, notice it is special and also enjoy it. It sounds simple but it was actually hard to change my ways. I absolutely agree with you, it does boost the self esteem. It means that I matter.
Lana, I admire your courageous venture into the TH-cam Channel world. I’m slowly building up my own courage to follow your path and post videos like this for the world to enjoy. I love your aura. You glow and are very pleasing to watch and listen to all day every day. 😌
You're definitely an angel, I was really questioning everything with me and around me, and your video gives a sense of hope for happiness, it brings so much warmth! ❤️❤️❤️
Lana, you're genuinely one of the most beautiful persons i've ever seen, not only from the inside but also from the outside. I dont know how to explain this but I always feel safe when I watch your videos and they really helped me. Thank you.
I am also an introvert and I have been so isolated because of depression and covid. Following these, I lost mosy of the relationships and it is upsetting, but I still feel a need to bond. I think it's okay to want to be around people and love them and care for them, without a lot of expectations. I think this would make us happier, rather than becoming encapsulated in our own bubble and slowly this will lead in us becoming antisocial. There is a danger. We need friendships in real life, social media is illusory.
Love this, Lana! I do think we should be social, but it's so important to have "me" time and to treat ourselves when we are alone the same as we would if we were with people. Great observation as usual! Once again you put out an awesome, quality self-improvement video. Thanks for all the knowledge, you ROCK!
I just today made a small trip by myself and realized that I haven‘t done that in a long time, which made me a bit dependent on others (to plan the trip and to know where to go and everything). So I think for my insecure self it‘s important to sometimes make a trip by myself!
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one thing to keep in mind is that you Lana aren't completely alone when you are "alone". you are very active on social media, which substitutes real-life human interaction. you interact with people on youtube, instagram... even the visual aspect is involved in your case. you get to "show off" your looks, apartment, even make-up routine, and get feedback on it. it can't be compared to living alone and not sharing your life on the internet.
Do you think it's the same communicate with people online rather than offline? Its nice to communicate with people online but at the end of the day, we need face to face communication and interact with people in real life.
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@@pronosticosdeportivos9517 of course it isn’t the same, i wasn’t saying or implying that. what i mean is that if she wasn’t active on social media, she would feel the negative effects of being alone much more and wouldn’t be praising it so much. online communication mitigates the impact of solitude.
So nice to hear the music at the end. I don't know, but that kinda made me feel proud of myself. The last months I tried to be more confident and feel good in my own skin, and after a long struggle with depression I can finally say that I am happy for who I am :D
*FRIENDLY REMINDER* | Happiness is a state of mind. It comes from within, and as long as you are satisfied with your life, it's a beginning for the true happiness and peace.
I broke up with my bf (and his wife) who have been frds with me for 17 yrs. He valued his wife (bad seed) over me so I’m learning one or two cents abt life..
Glad you exist and make such wise content so we can take advantage and inspiration from it. As another introvert I'm truly happy with your advices and experiences as well. Sending hugs and blessings your way!
I am glad that i come across your channel one day 💕 in my community being loner you are consider weird even sick,, so i am happy whenever i see your videos, i love me time, i enjoy my self company
I have always been very comfortable on my own and learning new things about myself through a loner lifestyle. But lately since moving away from home to uni, i 'want' deep bonds and connections and its something that's pretty rare for me. Now, i literally am embracing the loner lifestyle again, while being open to opportunities where I can make good friendships.
Your videos have impacted my life more than any other youtubers' videos. I am so thankful for the content you make, truly. I've found new inspiration and appreciation and confidence through your channel
The concept of not doing things for myself means I am 'no one' to myself is very powerful. Viewing it as hard to accept in the beginning means this is exactly what needs to be worked on
Yeah I also have a loner life just me and my one friend and I kinda like it like this all the toxic friends are now gone and I am feeling free and myself more, I am being more inclined towards self love these days and other people's opinions of me doesn't seem to matter anymore (sometimes it does but can't help it. it will take time to completely go away) I am working on myself also and I am kinda seeing some area of improvement in myself and I will try my best to understand them and find a proper way of dealing or improving it....I will be a better person in sometime!!! Thank God for getting me here!❤❤🧿🧿
I am very much comforted by your videos. I need your views on 'friendship' and how you can no longer feel responsible for how your friends feel (I mean, I always feel the need to fulfill my friends' wishes and feel responsible for them. This is really exhausting me, please help me ), thanks.
I live completely alone since my daughter left for college, and honestly it's just fine. I am a huge introvert, and a bit of control freak so it's easier for me to handle everything by myself and not depend on anyone else or answer to anyone else. Everything is exactly where I left it, if something is lost there is only one person to blame, and it's quiet most of the time. I know this isn't how majority of people feel, but I might be asocial person and it feels good for me. Although, there are times when I do feel really lonely, I am just a human.
2 to comment I look forward to Sunday's because of your video. I just started listening to your podcast 💯❤️❤️ and discovered what I've been missing out on
I love the "valuing one's own presence" part a lot. But it also made me wonder how we can start recognizing our own self-devaluation. Without such awareness, the practice of valuing oneself would not be happening, right? Perhaps it is for many of us scary to recognize and accept the fact that we have been kind of disvaluing ourselves. Perhaps a journey to a betterment of self-esteem may be hard for many. But it is also hard to live without a good sense of self-esteem. I am wondering with appreciation for your video, Lana.
Glad you exist and make such wise content so we can take advantage and inspiration from it. As another introvert I'm truly happy with your advices and experiences as wel
Sometimes even if I need ‘me time’ I have problem to admit it. I try constantly look for a connections. Your video made me feel a bit more comfortable that sometimes I need to be alone and that is okay. Thank u 💛
Very insighful video, thank you. Keep watering your plants, they are an extension of yourself, that's what I believe. Taking time to water them means you are taking time to care for something else, plants and trees produce oxygen that give us life. We owe it to to nature to care for her too.
Yes! I have been spending time alone. A lot of time.... Don't get me wrong i live in a city of over a million people. So, there are always people around. It has gotten me closer to my goals, or quicker at least. Thank you for sharing.
Subhanallah, again we are in the same path Lana! 2021 was the year I took to say no more, to be with myself more, to took time to recharge and just do what solitude heart wants. I just said to a person I went out with today that this year I want to socialise again, meet new people. This all happens bcos I got the time off last year to explore myself.
I spent 11 and a half years living in dorms/ shared accommodation from 15 to almost 27 and 2 years of co-living relationship with someone who didn't cook or clean. I do not miss those times at all 😁 so much better on my own
Loved this video! You're so easy to listen to (and probably talk to if you'd hear me back lol) Also I just signed up on Skillshare, so excited! Thank you!
Felt inspired by your words and happy to report I'm currently meal prepping for the week and it's actually fun and relaxing. Also tryna organize my place, lol. Just taking time for 'self' improvement. Again, I thank you Lana. You always seem to find the right words to inspire the world. Truly honored! Many continuous thanks :).
I am already in love with ur intelligence and the way of thinking.You are indeed a stunner .Very nice and different topic . Well appreciated . I also want to implement this in my life from tomorrow ☺️.
People always assume I'm extroverted and are shocked when I inform them that I'm a highly socially intelligent introvert. I enjoy people because any number of random experiences can occur, but I enjoy my solitude quite a bit. I've travelled across the American continent several times on my own and I was extremely content. But I've also made sure to include others on trips too and they've been so appreciative. There's definitely a balance to it. Accepting my loner lifestyle has made me more particular about who I give my time and energy. As of November I finally got my own place, no roommates or family, and I really do enjoy it for the reasons you listed. And now that I'm quitting my job I have to trust that I'll find something that allows me to keep my place while also allowing me to continue maturing and exploring. Thanks again for your videos! Have a chill day.
The first 1000 people to sign up with my link will get a one month trial of Skillshare! skl.sh/lanablakely03221
Prediction: I will be either the first or the 99th! 😊
I think you might have a whatsapp impersonating you in the comment sections.
This came just at the perfect moment! I was journaling about why it's so hard for me to be like everyone else. Being social, creating new connections with people, always having something to say but it's just not me. This obviously leads me to feeling a little isolated but the weird part is, I like it more that way. No one can hurt my feelings but at the same time, I know it's important for me to keep and create strong bonds. Lol sorry for the word vomit, so grateful for your channel!
You know I faced the same problems for a long time then I just noticed something that even if we are antisocial or don't have something to say there are people who will be there for us even with our various shortfalls because those care about this stuff matter and those who matter don't care about your shortcomings they will help you grow as a person just give life some time to unravel itself the future has this very interesting way to solve all problems ❤️
i understand u so well, this is relatable :)
I'm on the same boat as you, seeing this at this time was the understanding I needed. Hope you have a lot of fun by yourself, I'll do it too. Big hug!
I literally journal about the exact same thing
But everything changes when you hang around someone who gets you. Where silence is ok. Being weird is ok. It's the best feeling ever..
The affirmations in case you wanted to copy and paste: ‘I show up for myself. I put in the effort to impress myself, for myself. I create a pleasant environment for me’
I love not having commitments with people that's why I don't have friends, I just love being by my self but sometimes I feel uncomfortable when I face "reality"
This video arrives at the right moment. I've been thinking about solitude a lot lately, as i have noticed that sometimes i really can't stand people and i don't like forcing myself in things or conversations if i don't want to, but even though i like being by myself i gotta say that when i spend a little bit more time alone then the usual, i don't feel good honestly, i feel more anxious and not comfortable with the sorrounding environment. I need human interaction, it makes me feel good and confident but at the same time i need that one day a week to stay relaxed and at my home. That's enough for me to recharge and feeling good. So it's fine being comfortable with your own skin, to value your own self that much but i think as social beings, we need people in our lives.
Beautifully said!
This❤
only one day a week? EWW!
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Exactly, it seems like a lot of times people want to ignore the fact that we’re all social beings, you can’t hide it behind the label of “introvert”
I needed this. This is the loneliest I've ever feel and it's been a big issue for my mental health because sometimes I feel I'm a piece in the wrong puzzle. Last sunday was my birthday and non of my friends sent me a message or anything and that was the turning point I needed to fully embrace being alone all the way. I feel broken, but I'll try to put the pieces together again. Thank you Lana for letting us know that we're not alone, even when it may seem like it. Much love
Happy belated birthday! You deserve to be celebrated. The people who recognize that are already somewhere out there ☺️
Happy belated birthday Carlos!
🎈🎉🎈Remember - You are never alone.
@@tigerareyouthere Thank you, you're very kind
@@Dana082 Thanks, I hope that, you're very kind.
Happy belated birthday Carlos!
I feel drained when I have a conversation with people, I like staying quiet, sometimes not even hearing my own voice for days. I feel healed when I am alone.
Yes, it's great to be alone, but be careful, too much alone could turn into depression and anxiety even if you adore your own company. I am an introvert and love my own company even too much, but now after 7 months completely alone (that is the only ''humans'' I see are the sale assistants at the grocery store and no one else), my brains starts to go all over the place. I feel a strong urge of human interaction now, I feel like I am wasting my life (how did a got into this situation it's a long story). Anyway, I can confirm now that we must find a balance in order to function in a healthy way.
This exactl same thing happened or happens with me all the time.I enjoy being alone and also after some time I feel like I am wasting my time..not doing much,not experiencing much etc.and all the negative thoughts vome to my mind.
Yeah!
I can completely relate to this as i myself faced that.Lived completely alone with myself for the whole lockdown period.It was great at first but later i slowly started doing self doubt, overthinking which i just could not stop.Went for medical help and got diagnosed with OCD and depression.Anyways,
i hope you get fine very soon!!
And to much of people can lead to depression.Well I know how people can be.User and abuse me until the next victim comes along
Exactly....it's like wasting your life, I've been alone from a long time too....it feels too much sometimes...I watch her vedios, but who knows how someone is actually living.....my idea of enjoying life includes alone time, but at some point I wud switch it from that. ...time to time...
@@Xayle_xiv exactly, you can try to socialize more, go to parties if you’re in college or high school, I mean there’s always something, it can be overwhelming at first but you’ll feel way better after, being a loner even if we don’t wanna accept it, is not the best for mental health and can be really dangerous
I love how unapologetically open and transparent you are with things like this. You’re so relatable and I always end up learning something 💛
right, the topic of being a loner is sth people usually don't talk about this openly, so I love it that Lana is so open about this 💕
Every Sunday you click with pride when Lana appears on your notifications.
Ugh literally me 💛
With Lotta Hopeeee!🤍
I love being alone.
I love working on my TH-cam videos, going to the gym, reading, self improvement habits, etc...
All of these things I can't really do with friends, the old me felt like I always needed people around and I would put my self worth into what people thought of me, but now I don't care about what others think of me and I'm solely focused on myself and my growth
Same
I'm like this as well. I've finally acknowledged this introverted part of me and enjoy self healing and care I need. I spent too much time trying to be accepted and social and extroverted to my own detriment.
Being alone has been a great and deep experience for me. This journey allowed me to sharpen my skills from cooking, cleaning the apartment, sleeping when you are tired, learning new subjects, being in peace, quiet time and much more.
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Then, when you want to spend time with someone else, that time becomes special and valuable for both people.
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I have also learnt to keep lines of communications open with others who are on the same kind of thinking and vibration. So here I go:
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What have you learnt about yourself while being alone?
The thing I learned about myself for being alone is that when I'm alone for too long I feel worthless, suicidal, and a hatred towards life. I need other people to bring out the better side of me. I can't do it alone because I don't have the strength.
@@theredguy8746 One of the things I learned is if my own self worth comes from others, I will depend on them to validate my existence. And that’s a recipe for a disaster.
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By becoming my own best friend, I validate my actions and bring out the better side of me. Take one tiny small challenge and celebrate when you complete it. One activity at a time will build your inner strength.
@@LatinTalents I get your point, it makes sense, but if you really knew me then you would know that it's far more complicated with me. I'm autistic for one thing. Another is that I have anger issues. These things have become such an integral part of who I am that it's impossible for me to change them alone. It's just how my mind and brain is wired.
For many years, I was a loner, doing stuff alone. Being an introvert, this is against our social norm. Trying to blend in, crack stupid jokes with so-called friends had me felt more lonely. Those acts do not define me. As I grow older, I have come to embrace who I really am, doing stuff alone and couldn't care less social stigma put on introverts like myself. Like going to the museums, taking my time to read through history and stories behind those paintings, without the hush and rush of family and friends. Now I'm married with kids, but nobody takes away my me-time. I'm alone but not lonely.
Activities such as museums are definitely the best alone! I love going at my own pace and immersing
Solitude, clarity and vision. Best thing ever
Sounds like you did a version of “monk mode.” I did this a couple years ago after feeling like I needed time to focus on myself and level up. I didn’t date, shut down all social media, and prioritized my mental and physical health. Hands down the best thing I ever did for myself. It’s a strategy I plan to employ intermittently in my life when I need it.
Oh, and shut off the dating apps…permanently. Another great thing you can do for your self esteem
This has been my life. I've always liked spending time alone and doing things alone, but societal stigmas make you feel like you are a bad person for wanting to be a loner. Happy Sunday Lana, I appreciate you ❤️ 💛
Am I the only one who finds Lanas' videos so comforting and cozy? Not to mention her calming voice 💛
you’re the person propelling me through life at times, thank you.
*Our presence with Self is our greatest present to Self.* 🎁💚💫🙏🏾
excuse me miss, but i love you?? this is exactly what i needed right now, i was literally discussing with myself a few minutes ago if it wouldn't be awkward to go shopping and drink a coffee by myself even tho i reeeeally am craving some time alone, and i found this video, and yk what imma just go for it, u gave me the boost i needed so thank you very much! randomly found your channel and im definetely staying ^^
This community makes me feel understood like nobody else🥺❤
Im 32. Lived on my own since I was 22. I take myself to lunch every week, flowers every week, coffee most days and cook a good meal most nights. Planning to solo travel from UK to California this September. Have done a few solo trips to London and loved it.
When I tell people about my lifestyle and planning solo travel across the world, they're like 😳😳😳what? Then im called sooooo brave, told im admired and 'Oh I could never do that! Im not clever/brave/strong enough!' blah blah.
I don't want to be admired or told 'WOWWWEE What a strong independent woman you are!' That makes me feel odd. It makes me feel like im an outsider. It makes me feel like people would think me more normal if I withered up and did nothing because im single and on my own a lot.
Women doing stuff on their own is no big deal. Its not brave or clever. Its just a person getting on with their life. Great video xx
id say safety is a big thing so its absolutely grt that u have and r safe!
@@pankajakshiramamurthy7434 Thanks!
I dont think being single or living alone should be the only reasons people enjoy their own company. I really want to enjoy my company but idk how to do it. I prevent myself from
Doing things because someone else wont join me. It sucks.
@@LLastRose Absolutely agree with you. Will you not take yourself out to coffee or lunch at all?
@@Blondiee777 only driv thru coffee! I really want to be ok with my own company but idk why it makes me uncomfortable? Do i fear people judging me and labeling me as “alone” idk? I would LOVEEE to take myself out happily than wish and wait for someone or others to join me to do things because my life is on hold because I expect someone to come with me. I am ok to shop alone for clothes an grocery…but to enjoy an outting with myself? How beautiful it would be to wake up and decide to go to the museum..and choose a nice coffee shop and lunch to eat outside at the park or dine in . But it feels like it wont be fun or feel weird?
your voice is so calming to me. you make me feel so comfortable and safe! thank you!
Your atmosphere has changed in a positive, such an inspiring way🤍
I completely get it as a fellow introvert. The thing that makes me a bit nervous is not being around people enough and therefore miss out on some of those joys of relationships. Being alone is so natural and enjoyable, and obviously necessary, so for me it's always a big challenge to to get out there and have as high quality interactions as possible. But I think your idea to really respect your alone time would really help us enjoy it even more but also give balance to all the energy we put into making together time. Thanks, Lana!
Thank you Lana very relatable...
I used to live alone in the forest for half of every year. For the first 5 years I had no internet (and very limited data after that), only a phone with limited phone plan, and a radio. So basically for 13 years I spent half of my life completely alone in the forest... I remember my first season, I was there for 5 months, and it seemed like 2 years went by. Time moved very slowly. Interesting times, so much happened out there. But it all seems like a lifetime ago now, so strange how much life can change
I rarely comment but I watch all of your videos and wanted to take the time to say that this video was very well written and said! Being "comfortable" with solitude is so important
You have such a beautiful voice! I could hear you talking for hours! :)
" I put in the effort to impress myself." I came up with the same conclusion this year. Why doing these things only for someone else? When I am in a couple, I always try hard to make things special but when I am single, I stop. Is it because I need the validation? Thats so silly and sad. I want my life to be special all the time. So just like you, I really try to put in the effort, notice it is special and also enjoy it. It sounds simple but it was actually hard to change my ways. I absolutely agree with you, it does boost the self esteem. It means that I matter.
You understand my soul, and in a time when it’s hard to relate to people it gives me hope.
Thank you for sharing your experiences.
Lana, I admire your courageous venture into the TH-cam Channel world. I’m slowly building up my own courage to follow your path and post videos like this for the world to enjoy. I love your aura. You glow and are very pleasing to watch and listen to all day every day. 😌
You are gonna hit 1 million subscribers, Lana. I am so happy for you. You deserve the world 🎇❤
You're definitely an angel, I was really questioning everything with me and around me, and your video gives a sense of hope for happiness, it brings so much warmth! ❤️❤️❤️
Lana with bangs makes me wanna cryy 😭😭u look so gooood
Lana, you're genuinely one of the most beautiful persons i've ever seen, not only from the inside but also from the outside. I dont know how to explain this but I always feel safe when I watch your videos and they really helped me. Thank you.
I am also an introvert and I have been so isolated because of depression and covid. Following these, I lost mosy of the relationships and it is upsetting, but I still feel a need to bond. I think it's okay to want to be around people and love them and care for them, without a lot of expectations. I think this would make us happier, rather than becoming encapsulated in our own bubble and slowly this will lead in us becoming antisocial. There is a danger. We need friendships in real life, social media is illusory.
Love this, Lana! I do think we should be social, but it's so important to have "me" time and to treat ourselves when we are alone the same as we would if we were with people. Great observation as usual! Once again you put out an awesome, quality self-improvement video. Thanks for all the knowledge, you ROCK!
I totally agree, balance is gold, and everybody needs their own unique balance.
I just today made a small trip by myself and realized that I haven‘t done that in a long time, which made me a bit dependent on others (to plan the trip and to know where to go and everything). So I think for my insecure self it‘s important to sometimes make a trip by myself!
one thing to keep in mind is that you Lana aren't completely alone when you are "alone". you are very active on social media, which substitutes real-life human interaction. you interact with people on youtube, instagram... even the visual aspect is involved in your case. you get to "show off" your looks, apartment, even make-up routine, and get feedback on it. it can't be compared to living alone and not sharing your life on the internet.
Do you think it's the same communicate with people online rather than offline?
Its nice to communicate with people online but at the end of the day, we need face to face communication and interact with people in real life.
@@pronosticosdeportivos9517 of course it isn’t the same, i wasn’t saying or implying that. what i mean is that if she wasn’t active on social media, she would feel the negative effects of being alone much more and wouldn’t be praising it so much. online communication mitigates the impact of solitude.
So nice to hear the music at the end. I don't know, but that kinda made me feel proud of myself. The last months I tried to be more confident and feel good in my own skin, and after a long struggle with depression I can finally say that I am happy for who I am :D
I didn’t notice the music until you pointed it out :O
*FRIENDLY REMINDER* | Happiness is a state of mind. It comes from within, and as long as you are satisfied with your life, it's a beginning for the true happiness and peace.
Your just one of my absolutely favorite TH-camr
I love your videos just soo sooo much
Your really one of these persons that understands how I feel
just had 2 friends i’ve known for 5 years break up with me; the timing in this video couldn’t have been better. thank you ❤️
I just had a break up with my best friend of 15 years. Hang in there ❤️
I broke up with my bf (and his wife) who have been frds with me for 17 yrs.
He valued his wife (bad seed) over me so I’m learning one or two cents abt life..
Every day every thing change your life for ever!!
Loved this video, so calm voice and her voice alone can make you feel so relaxed
"Being alone has a power that very few can handle".✊
So lovely; such simple elegance.
Thankyou for sharing this video with us Lana 🥺💖
Glad you exist and make such wise content so we can take advantage and inspiration from it. As another introvert I'm truly happy with your advices and experiences as well. Sending hugs and blessings your way!
I am glad that i come across your channel one day 💕 in my community being loner you are consider weird even sick,, so i am happy whenever i see your videos, i love me time, i enjoy my self company
This is the first time I watched your videos, but this one hooked me up to subscribe to your channel.
Your videos are addictive and your podcasts as well ✨
I have always been very comfortable on my own and learning new things about myself through a loner lifestyle. But lately since moving away from home to uni, i 'want' deep bonds and connections and its something that's pretty rare for me. Now, i literally am embracing the loner lifestyle again, while being open to opportunities where I can make good friendships.
I love you Miss Lana. THANK YOU
I love your videos. You're one of my favorite youtubers. You inspire me to become a better person, so thank you for that!
Your videos have impacted my life more than any other youtubers' videos. I am so thankful for the content you make, truly. I've found new inspiration and appreciation and confidence through your channel
Lana you are such a beautiful and inspirational human
Is very hard to find friends real friends. Been along it allows you to think and do new things. Things that no one has done it before.
I found your channel recently and I just want to thank you for the great content
Thank you for reminding me to water my plants!! Literally stopped eating and the video to do that haha
Thank you so much for sharing such an inspiring self-love approach and experience!
The concept of not doing things for myself means I am 'no one' to myself is very powerful. Viewing it as hard to accept in the beginning means this is exactly what needs to be worked on
your voice is very soothing.
Yeah I also have a loner life just me and my one friend and I kinda like it like this all the toxic friends are now gone and I am feeling free and myself more, I am being more inclined towards self love these days and other people's opinions of me doesn't seem to matter anymore (sometimes it does but can't help it. it will take time to completely go away) I am working on myself also and I am kinda seeing some area of improvement in myself and I will try my best to understand them and find a proper way of dealing or improving it....I will be a better person in sometime!!!
Thank God for getting me here!❤❤🧿🧿
Loved your new hairstyle😁❤
I am very much comforted by your videos. I need your views on 'friendship' and how you can no longer feel responsible for how your friends feel (I mean, I always feel the need to fulfill my friends' wishes and feel responsible for them. This is really exhausting me, please help me ), thanks.
I live completely alone since my daughter left for college, and honestly it's just fine. I am a huge introvert, and a bit of control freak so it's easier for me to handle everything by myself and not depend on anyone else or answer to anyone else. Everything is exactly where I left it, if something is lost there is only one person to blame, and it's quiet most of the time. I know this isn't how majority of people feel, but I might be asocial person and it feels good for me. Although, there are times when I do feel really lonely, I am just a human.
Great video, I like how with every video you are becoming more comfortable with this and more natural.
I love you hair btw 😊♥️
Everything about your videos really radiates calming energy. Totally happy that I found you and your channel
Perfect timings ❤️ Thank you Girl ❤️
I truly love the way you finish your videos!
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I look forward to Sunday's because of your video. I just started listening to your podcast 💯❤️❤️ and discovered what I've been missing out on
I love being alone....it helps u find it
Yourself 💛💕
Hey 👋
I love the "valuing one's own presence" part a lot. But it also made me wonder how we can start recognizing our own self-devaluation. Without such awareness, the practice of valuing oneself would not be happening, right? Perhaps it is for many of us scary to recognize and accept the fact that we have been kind of disvaluing ourselves. Perhaps a journey to a betterment of self-esteem may be hard for many. But it is also hard to live without a good sense of self-esteem. I am wondering with appreciation for your video, Lana.
Glad you exist and make such wise content so we can take advantage and inspiration from it. As another introvert I'm truly happy with your advices and experiences as wel
Sometimes even if I need ‘me time’ I have problem to admit it.
I try constantly look for a connections. Your video made me feel a bit more comfortable that sometimes I need to be alone and that is okay. Thank u 💛
How ironic is tht when people are in a group they crave loneliness and when they are lonely they desperately need the attention 😅
You are very much like me, Lana.
I can't describe how similar we are.
Your video is quite enough to make me happy and motivated all day.😊
Lana your videos are truly truly truly helpful to me in my life and I really really love your videos a lot you inspired me a lot ✨🥺🥰
posted just at the right time thank you
Very insighful video, thank you. Keep watering your plants, they are an extension of yourself, that's what I believe. Taking time to water them means you are taking time to care for something else, plants and trees produce oxygen that give us life. We owe it to to nature to care for her too.
Yes!
I have been spending time alone. A lot of time....
Don't get me wrong i live in a city of over a million people. So, there are always people around.
It has gotten me closer to my goals, or quicker at least.
Thank you for sharing.
hai lana! thank you and i love you so much🤍
Subhanallah, again we are in the same path Lana! 2021 was the year I took to say no more, to be with myself more, to took time to recharge and just do what solitude heart wants. I just said to a person I went out with today that this year I want to socialise again, meet new people. This all happens bcos I got the time off last year to explore myself.
wow love your hair style in the sponsor part, suits you very well!
Thank you!
I spent 11 and a half years living in dorms/ shared accommodation from 15 to almost 27 and 2 years of co-living relationship with someone who didn't cook or clean. I do not miss those times at all 😁 so much better on my own
Wow! I relate to this so much
Loved this video! You're so easy to listen to (and probably talk to if you'd hear me back lol) Also I just signed up on Skillshare, so excited! Thank you!
Thank you!! 🙏
as an introvert myself, i relate to this a lot
I love you! 🌻
From Iraq.
Your hair looks really lovely today❤
Felt inspired by your words and happy to report I'm currently meal prepping for the week and it's actually fun and relaxing. Also tryna organize my place, lol. Just taking time for 'self' improvement.
Again, I thank you Lana. You always seem to find the right words to inspire the world. Truly honored!
Many continuous thanks :).
best channel every keep going Lana 😊
I am already in love with ur intelligence and the way of thinking.You are indeed a stunner .Very nice and different topic . Well appreciated . I also want to implement this in my life from tomorrow ☺️.
I liked the ending
needed this so much rn
This video is on point and timely
Hell yeah I can relate. This video was fire
People always assume I'm extroverted and are shocked when I inform them that I'm a highly socially intelligent introvert. I enjoy people because any number of random experiences can occur, but I enjoy my solitude quite a bit. I've travelled across the American continent several times on my own and I was extremely content. But I've also made sure to include others on trips too and they've been so appreciative. There's definitely a balance to it.
Accepting my loner lifestyle has made me more particular about who I give my time and energy. As of November I finally got my own place, no roommates or family, and I really do enjoy it for the reasons you listed. And now that I'm quitting my job I have to trust that I'll find something that allows me to keep my place while also allowing me to continue maturing and exploring.
Thanks again for your videos! Have a chill day.