I want everyone to remember this: If you explode or act crazy after a breakup, it subtly signifies that you have no other or better options than that person. Even if you feel that may be true, you don’t want to give off that vibes. Stay calm, stay cool and cry at home in your pillow. It’s better that way.
@@kelvinwozniak1004 stay strong and go cry as much as you need to. Don’t hold it in. Honor your sad feelings but then get up and start working on yourself
@@real103373 If that was recently, like two to four days ago, then I would send an apology message and confirm that you will accept their decision and you will concentrate on yourself. And then go into no contact I can't remember if it was Coach Lee or someone else but there is a video about it on TH-cam
“Feelings are not based in contact!” This is too powerful even if we’re in a relationship
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I wish nothing but stillness and peace in the heart of everyone during this lonely and scary journey called breakup. I am glad to see that I am not alone here.
Your ex has the power to break up with you . But you have the power to walk away and follow your path and not stick around where you are not wanted . Have pride and respect for yourself .. you will become the magnet.. as soon as you walk away and not care you will see you start pulling energy towards you.... you have to put that mind set that you are the one in control. And you get to chose who can be in your circle... no one likes to be ignored or cast out. But trust you doing this will help you get over it. Life is too short to dwell on a person that tossed you like trash ..
That's definitely what it's for. Get back to loving yourself and being alone. We lose ourselves sometimes and no contact helps you realize that you are the catch That's why they were with you in the first place. My ex chose to pursue another man and it hurt me extremely but I realize that I was too good for her. Ya'll got this! Give me sub help a brother out 😅
@@johnh8780 That's what I'm doing. My girlfriend of almost 8 years dumped me 15 days ago and yeah the pain feels insurmountable but the only real option is to work on me. Despite Coach Lee saying that your odds are good if you play it right it isn't guaranteed and it's just not worth losing yourself over something that isn't a sure thing.
3 years ago, I stumbled upon your channel, and your videos detailing the effectiveness of getting an ex back through no contact. One of the first few rules you offered was to NOT be friends with your ex, since that’s not what I wanted in the end. No contact for me lasted for 2 years, and during that time I had time to change, grow, and focus on myself and my personality. I truly thought my ex had moved on, and I was already passed that. Come today, October 15 me and my ex have finally gotten back together after she messaged me. She’s told me that one of her biggest regrets was leaving me. I no longer feel that I’m chasing her, or that I’m in a constant loop of anxiety and self doubt. I have you to thank for that Coach Lee, your stuff really works
It does not matter if feelings fade or not. We can all agree that Coach Lee's dedication and commitment to the cause will never ever fade. This is what is important. Have a good weekend all!
So true, he came back after two and half months, saying he misses me every day, told me how strong I was and it was very sexy. And he realised he loves me more than he thought...etc. Tbh I was in hell during breakup, but I didn't show it a bit in front of him, on social medias he could only seen how great I was handling my life (which I tried very hard). Whoever is going through the breakup right now, especially the dumpees, don't be too upset, focus on your own growths, let them realized they made a huge mistake by seeing how amazing you are. Let them see the person they fell in love with. And now the table turns, we are dating again but I'm not sure I want to commit with him, he's totally fine with it, telling me he loves me everyday.
Your story gave me hope I'm 16 days nc Update lol it's been almost 4 months my ex didn't come back and I don't want him back , the past month I have been going out on a dates and I'm finally happy
@@armano4125 this entire channel is literally about how to get your ex back. you are on a video that is focused on your ex, commenting about moving on - it just seems a little contradictory. You guys sound like you're lying to yourselves.
@@us5freaak you clearly dont understand. If you want your ex back, you dont have to move forward and forget about her. Just move forward, but be patient to have your paths crossed with her in the near future. Thats the best way to move forward. I would never move on with my ex, even though she treated me badly after the breakup I still love her and I will be ready until she return
No contact works. Almost a little too well. To the point where I’m starting to be aware when she falls back due to relief. The only time they actually come back strong and want to try again is when you can literally see the behaviors of fear of losing you. The fear has to sit for a while I’ve noticed. Today, I’m deciding to not purposely make that fear reality as a game, but because I’m truly tired. I’ve watch every video on this channel multiple times over throughout the years and the pain is faint. The pain of the on and off is far worse. Im deciding that I do not want the wishy washy fickle love anymore. I can and will do better. Coach Lee, you have helped me grow and not anyone out there has better advice than you! Thank you 🙏🏽
Focus on No Contact for yourself. Honestly if they wanted to be with you they wouldn’t have left you. They gave up on you and that’s okay. You may have fallen down on the ground for now but what I need you to do is pick yourself up and brush yourself off. And I need you to put one foot in front of the other and you need to start your journey to healing and enlightenment. From my experience they always come back, some come back when you’re at the peak of happiness in your life. Others come back when you have moved on and literally forgotten about them (you obviously didn’t but you didn’t chase them anymore…obviously) It’s truly heartbreaking but you gotta look at it like this; they left because they weren’t happy and they didn’t see a future with you. You obviously have to do some soul searching yourself and you need to go and improve on yourself as a person ,it’s harsh but it’s the truth but trust me I’m about to get to the good part. Now the good part. When you look back at the relationship a year or two down the road you’re going to see some positives and some negatives. We all do it from time to time and let me tell you one thing, you’re going to see a lot of negatives than positives and then at that point it’s your choice if you want this person back. A year or two down the road you’re a much better and more focused version of your previous self and by this time you’re looking for your next BF or GF or they’re looking for you….to whomever Is reading this? You’re worthy of love and you’re definitely worth it. Stay in No Contact, stay far far away and just focus on yourself. Get back in touch with yourself and love yourself. Pick up your old hobbies and learn new ones. Get to the gym, learn a skill, meet new people. This is easier said than done but trust me once you have that dose of Peace, Content and Passion; you’re probably not going want to be in a relationship honestly. Sometimes being by yourself for a little while is best for you. Get your strength and power and resolve back, once you take your ex off that metaphorical pedestal that’s when the power and choices are back in your court. I’ve never taken back any of my ex’s and I was never bitter towards any of them once they came back into my life but I made the choice to move forward granted if I wanted to I could be with them because the choice is mine and yes I am really good friends with most of my ex’s. Now you have a choice, live in self pity and be stuck as the same person and be miserable? or Become the most bad ass version of yourself….That choice is yours. Every journey starts with the first step, now pick yourself up and always remember “Chin up and eyes forward”.
Thanks for this! 🙌 100% true even though it hurts. We have to keep in mind that the break-up not only it hurts you, but also knowing what the dumper had to go through all this time, the stress, anxiety, the over-thinking and the doubting. Had break-ups before, and always came out on top. After my first break-up it took my 6-7 months to be “normal” again, about another half year to get over her. Nowadays I’m still thinking about her from time to time, but 0% sadness, just someone from the past, as if it’s a friend from elementary school. I could say break-ups are blessings in disguise, they’re a wake-up call, you grow from them, get to know yourself better and take all that knowledge to a new part of your life where you can share your passions, hapiness and love with the rest of the world, be it strangers, family , friends or new lovers.
@@iAmirx And that’s the beauty about Life. You have your ups and downs but you always have a choice. Happiness is internal, it should never be external whatsoever. You should be a radiant beacon of happiness; you should always be striving to be the best person that you can humanly be. Our time here on Earth is very limited and our lives are fleeting as we speak however the way you go about your life and with those choices that you make….it’s ultimately up to you. “Life is what you make it” Just keep your head up and remember you’re human but so were your Ex partners. You’re not perfect and neither were they. Wish them the best in life and keep moving because God, The Gods, The Universe or whatever higher power that you believe in; they have a plan for you. Now it’s up to you to see that plan through; you still have time left, so what are you going to do with it?
Time to talk about how I was feeling for the last 73 days since he left ... I pretended it was okay, that I was tough and so on... I was cheering my friends up instead of letting them to cheer me up. I smiled a lot and assured everyone that I was fine. but i was not. I wasn't tough. I wasn't smiling inside. I haven't stop thinking about him for a moment. I struggled with worsening depression. But Eventually I have accepted it. I'm slowly coming out of this hole. I'm slowly rebuilding myself. To anyone going through this now - no contact is for you and use it for your adventage no matter how hard it is. it will get better. i promise. Xxx
@@deirdrehebert4843 he texted me about 2 weeks ago with something random like 'check this out - new Nikon lenses'. I was polite and I replied back but i didn't want to carry on conversation and i think he saw it. since then i haven't heard from him. i think he was checking the ground cause i didn't pleaed or beg him to stay. Maybe he got used to be chased by girls so it was hard for him to understand...? i don't know. i doesn't matter now.
@@joannakos4134 my ex left me on read after 1 month of no contact. She said we could be Friends and be fine but obviously that is not happening. ¿What should I do? Give up (It is a good woman but she has been so cold) or tried to talk to her in a few weeks? :/
That's great congrats🎉 but when he come back in how many days or month they reached out to you? And also plz tell about your ex he is avoiding nature or what type of he is?
The same with me. I wasn't in love at the beginning, it took me time to start feeling deeper. She was saying she is in love. But as a guy, I was the one that continiusly trying to make things better, and I was the one chasing her (its in my charachter). In the end she said she doesn't love me anymore. 2 months ago "she loved me more than her life". I dont know what to make out of all this. Im confused and sad. And I want to forget about her and find happiness.
I don't want to see him anymore in my life. That's what I told him 'If you go, you won't see me never again' and I hope I'm strong enough to keep my promise.
I honestly just want MY feelings to fade. Some days they pretty much have, other days I am crying over a song or a memory, or most of all the thought of "never again". It was a time in my life that will never be again. Basically just total melancholia over the past. But yeah I want my feelings to totally fade out, and I'm looking forward to the day where I am just not bothered in the slightest.
I feel this. It has only been 2 weeks but I'm scared that I will always miss them, that even in 6 months or a year's time, this painful grief with remain. I can't help but feel like I've lost the love of my life. I hope that day comes for us both where memories are just memories, not painful reminders of loss.
Im trying to heal too. Its been a few days. Its not easy to forget and be tottaly fine if you're sensitive. If you look at things that you did together, or hear songs that you listen to together, or go to places that you wanted to go with her... Its hard to fight rejection from the person you thought she loved you.
I agree with you. That’s what I have been feeling too. Yet I am forcing myself to go forward and be out with friends I’m acting out my feelings even when I’m not ok yet
Sameee. It’s been 2 and a half months and I still feel really sad & depressed on most days , but some days I’m okay . Slowly getting there . I’m in no contact for 35 days now
This video is so rich with insight. On my third listen. I’m in the second stage of no contact after he reached out and we had a face to face. Stand in your power my loves. The flower doesn’t beg the bee.
I have to say that I am one of Coach Lee’s biggest fans. He has got me through some very difficult times and I am more than grateful for his advice and words of wisdom. Today’s video hit me differently and for the first time made me feel very sad and able to appreciate the real problem that despite feeling like everything was fine and we were good, that my Ex’s attraction to me had lowered and he made enough excuses to decide to break it off. I know that because their ability and desire to stay away from you for prolonged periods of time is a reflection of their lack of attraction- they want you, they would be after you. Even after 5 weeks of NC- i am very sad and disheartened. I will always be thankful for the hard truth though- and it is a hard pill to swallow these days
@@fire12731 he reached out with a love letter. But words are cheap- actions are what matter in these situations. I am a lot better now and though I think of him often, it’s a different kind of ‘think’- not so much missing and more just as a memory. I suppose this is progress
@@Enigma32174 I miss mine but it hasn’t been that long and yes you are correct that actions matter more than words . Having a tough time tonight . Coach Lee videos are helpful & give so much insight
@@fire12731 I’ve been there. There were nights that have been unbearable. Watch coach Lee’s videos and also coach Craig kenneth’s videos- they got me through some very difficult times. Don’t make the mistake I made though and break no contact 4 months into NC- keep strong snd you’ll reap the rewards
It haven't seen her since March, then suddenly she decided to stop by my work last week. I offered her coffee, but she already had some that morning. Since my job is to make coffee, I knew what her real motive for being there was. It's only a matter of time now. It works, folks. It might take 7 months, but it works.
hey, i made alot of mistakes including texting and calling and begging and pleading and even showing up to her house. she says she doesnt love me anymore and that shes moved on, its been a week and a half since the breakup. do i have any chance of this no contact working or even getting her back anymore or did i just flush it down the toilet by doing what i did?
@@vanthawng8524 hey everything is gonna be okay, I begged and pleaded at first too! It has been 2 weeks for me and I used no contact 3 days after the breakup. U gotta focus on yourself first. I have been working out since and I still miss her, I do. But it gets less and less sad everyday. Focus on yourself first bro, trust me. I hope u the best, stay strong
@@worlocx2939 i just dont understand bro, i gave this girl everything, i loved her like noone else would or could. i gave her 21 months of my life just to be told that she doesnt love me anymore and that shes moved on only after a week and a half. ive been working out alot too and trying to grow but most days i just feel so depressed and want to cry and cry and cry just for her to come back. i wish she would hold me in her arms and just love me like old times.
@@vanthawng8524 Hey, it does get better no matter what. Appreciate those 21 months with her but accept for now it is over. If you treated her like the way you say you did then there is nothing to regret anything and that should make you feel good to know you’re a good guy. If you feel like crying, cry. All you can do is better yourself for yourself. Stay strong, this process will make you a way stronger person on the other side.
Not easy to hear that his attraction for me was so low he walked away. My mind tries to wrestle that to the ground. It's true though and hurts so much.
It’s not that your unattractive to him.. he probably felt too routine in a relationship and craved to go off and explore. The fact that being in a relationship was what held him back from that, even if he loved you, is what chipped away at his attraction. But it’s an emotional thing, I’m sure he still thinks you’re beautiful!
If I am the one who is dumped, and he goes no contact, then I’m gone after 10 days. If he doesn’t want to work out our problems together, that’s fine. But not everything is gonna happen on his time frame. Life is too short to be ignored around for 30-45 days, I don’t care how much he wants to get back ultimately, there is absolutely no chance. Some of this advice is fairy dust. I will just wish, in my head since he doesn’t want contact, him well and I will move on. I won’t want to stay with somebody who simply runs to his room and hides
After a month of no contact and radio silence, we are now casually talking to each other. I can say she is now emotionally neutral to me and that's good. But it doesn't matter to me anymore if her feelings for me fades away. I'm on a peaceful mind now and I'm happy.
Here is my experience with No Contact - it works! Now, it depends what you want. I had ex #1 contact me a year after a breakup (meantime I was watching these videos because ex #2) and at that point I was not interested in getting back together. Ex #2 contacted me for my birthday, 8 months after the break up. We did get back together just to break up again 3 months later (no breakup, he stopped responding just like the first time around). I'm pretty sure he expects me to fix everything for him like I did the first time, and as Coach Lee says "it is not your job to fix what he/she broke". My advice is if you want to get back with an ex, make sure to resolve the issues that caused the initial break up. Good luck everyone!
Coach advice is not applicable for golddigger type cheap lady,,,why ur ex bf left you,,first tell that... May be coach discussion is applicable for ur ex bf,,whose are cheated by u
About 36-37th day of no contact. Leaving this here to someday look back at this and realize how far i have come. Stay strong guys, hopefully it gets better❤
Recently hit the 25 day mark… nice to see a comment more recent than several years ago. Things will get better! No one was put into this life to be alone :) I believe in you, stranger! ❤️
I'm beyond grateful to you. You helped me with my breakup and with my life in general. I've made a tiny donation just to show you my gratitude, it won't change your life, but it's what I can do now
Thank you coach Lee for keeping it simple, real, humane, doable, compassionate and non-monetary; and you're not out here hard-selling the courses, unlike many others on youtube, which keeps one interested.
Everything about NC makes sense, and you point out so well how we feel , how they feel, how it evolves over time. The fear that it will fade, is that after 2-3 months if they date again, of course the feelings can fade unless their dating doesn't pan out. Yet who wants to be plan B? And we all know stories of people actually dating the day after dumping their previous spouse. For people not doing that, everything in NC makes sense. If we find out they date, let it go. But with NC, I know nothing of what they do, like they know zero of what I do. Not everyone remains "friends" on social media.
She broke up with me 2 months ago. I immediately went NC and Radio Silence and it's been easy to stay that way. No beg, no plead, no likes, no comments, nada. I vanished from her life. She doesn't want me? Ok, I'll go. I still have feelings for her but she cheated on me. I'm more disappointed than heartbroken. I trusted her and that was special. And I just found out that she restricted me on Facebook a week ago and it made me laugh because I've been ignoring her "heartbreak" posts. Why would she do that? I don't comment, like or reply to anything that she posts.
Shes playing the victim card or just trying to get a reaction from you or other peoplr. Best thing to do is just continue with NC and then you'll find a better woman. Stay strong bro💪 her loss!!
@@m.d.40 Sorry to hear that. Just one day at a time. Focus on things you love and accomplish as many as you can in a week or month. I think of her everyday throughout the day, I dream of her every night, but, I don't feel the urge to call her or anything, just the thought of her having someone else already is what allows me stay away from her. I still love her but I can't reach out to her. Hope this helps. (:
@@EricVera539 damn me you are on the exact same page, this just happened a couple weeks ago, she moved out and staying with her sister I guess, really don't know for sure but I'm not trying to find out either! I'm just staying away, I was posting on Facebook, but I stopped yesterday because I know she checks my page, I guess I'll use non contact, if that don't work I guess I don't have a choice but to move on, yeah shit do hurt, woman have really changed out here!
Mr. Lee.... You are knowledgeable, heck handsome, you have beautiful eyes, You look so clean. And you are teaching people how to manage pain. Pain Management !! This is important for our development and growth. You have taught us not to fall for delusional emotions. You are a great guy. All of us want you to grow, to shine, to flow. Thankew Soh Muchxx !!
Even though my wife pissed me off by betraying me I wish her & her lover the best because she is the mother of 5 of my kids & I need her to be happy for them.
George Vue, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you. It's a POWERFUL Kit and it has strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Hi Lee, another great video! You were the one that helped me realize that my ex was NOT for me. You showed 2 videos that were based on narcissism, and that answered all my questions. It took me a while to get over him,(Therapy & other videos), but it worked. I am dating a great guy, and so far so good. YOU are a GENIUS! I will ALWAYS listen to your videos. I also have some friends listening to you. U R THE BEST!
When Coach Lee talks everyone listen, his videos and words could save your mental health & possibly your life. Im here to say all Coach Lee videos helped me emotionally and mentally. Thank you sir👍 many blessings to you
There's not much room for it to go lower! So true and funny but I needed the laugh while I'm sad. I appreciate you, brother. Not sure this makes a huge difference in predictability or what have you, but your words keeping my mind occupied does help a great deal! Thank you.
I don't know about others but my ex's feelings did fade. I ran into him exactly 3 month mark of breakup and a month of NC. I broke my first NC after 23 days and 2nd after 21 days when he returned my things. He told me he has moved on and is happily single. That he isn't meant to stay single because he is a sucker for love etc... He also told me that he was extremely happy after a long time when we were in a relationship. 2 days later I asked him if he wants to give another chance to our relationship, he told me that he has moved on and requested me to do the same. He seemed happy when we met. I am hurting a lot but I have given up any hope I had. I am focusing on moving on. It is so painful.
I just want to say that I wanted to break no contact today so badly and I was just going through it emotionally, feeling more depressed than I can recall in a long time. And It’s not like I’ve made it any long period of time without talking to her. Hell, not even a day. The instinct to communicate with her is so powerful. We are married and have children together and she’s not had them overnight for 9 weeks. Anyway, I’m now committed to no contact. The pain of being ignored is practically incalculable. But, you can’t be ignored if you don’t try to communicate. It’s time to have the power of silence swing back in my direction. And just having your videos on and your voice in my head helps immeasurably to curb that instinct to try to communicate. Thank you.
You need to get a lawyer. She and her lawyer can use the fact that the kids are staying overnight with her to set up precedence and claim you didn’t make an effort to have them overnight with you. They can use it to get full custody and get more money out of you. Defend yourself. Letting her walk all over you isn’t attractive and it’s just wrong.
Pin this comment to the top this is very important. Everyone you need to have patience. She just texted me after 5 days no contact. ❤️❤️ Coach lee the breakup kit brought me so much guidance you don’t understand how you have changed my life. I thought i lost the love of my life. We have been together nearly 4 years and a day wouldn’t go by that i didn’t think she was the one i would marry. Coach lee thank you so much. I am ready to fix our differences that we were stubborn to fix before we realized we can lose each-other for good❤️❤️❤️ Everyone, stay strong!!!
70 days no contact…. I’m staying strong but it’s so difficult not to give up hope! He watches my stories but no interaction at all. I watch these videos constantly to keep me strong
@@nikhilgarg1326 no, we did start talking again just before Xmas & I did spend a couple of hours with him on NYE … he even kissed me as the sky lit up & again as I left but I’ve not heard from him since. He’s back to just watching with no interaction.
I advise you stop posting stories for 3 months. Change your profile pic to a hot one around halfway into that period, and nothing else. He interacts with your stories by watching them. He's keeping tabs on you, in a way not getting the full sense of loss. Give him that.
My ex reached out after 22 days of NC. She said she's sorry and that she wanted to talk. I'll be letting her intiate all the contact and will mirror her or give her less. Wish me luck.
If someone wants the breakup why should you hold on even through the no contact phase. If someone dumps you no matter what you deserve something better anyway. Why get your hopes up? Shouldn’t you be trying to move on no matter what, even though it’s painful?
I watch Craig Kenneth/corey wayne videos also. Mainly to learn about self improvement and attachment styles to improve my relationships in the future. Look at you, jumping to conclusions. Moron.
Sometimes it can take years before they contact you again. Problem is, neither of you will be the same. Both will mentally and physically changed and even if you got back together it would fail again.
As a dumpee I have broken NC 2 times, first time after 30days and nothing has changed in those 30 days, she was still so mean/angry to me. Second time broke it after 60days and that was a huge mistake. She told me she was thinking about texting me, but she wasn't ready yet and I got cruelest response you could possibly get ,,I dont love you anymore, don't wait for me there will be no second chance" and suddenly I realised I didnt gave her true break up ( fear of loss) I was chasing, she knew I will text her sooner or later. Since then(almost 2months ago) I went to indefinite NC with acceptance that it is over and I feel alive again. I think clearly again without all those false hopes. The most painfull thing was that she didnt gave me a chance to say goodbye to her face to face. Don't break NC like I did, no matter what, dont ruin your chances. I know it's so painfull, but indefinite NC will is the best thing for you and your chances to get ex back. If they will want you back they will find the way. Have some dignity, love yourself and stay strong.
@@thehavoc6331 I broke it again ~8months after the break up, at first she was neutral we had some good neutral conversations, but the next day she told me ,,dont expect that I will answer to your messages everyday". I knew I have nothing to loose and asked her out for a meet and the asnwer was ,,no". I asked her if she ever wanted to message me( in those 8months) she said ,,no". And to be honest I felt so awkward and bad while chating with her, it just wasn't the same as before, it felt like we are breaking up again. I was praying 8months for ,,I was wrong I miss you" but it never came. Unfriended her since on social media and I'm moving on with my life, theres other fish in the water ;)
@@ghfsdasd I understand mate!! I know it's hard to keep NC. My NC has just started , I'm in LDR actually. Don't worry about it, you did good. Although I understand NC is difficult. I'm sure you'll find someone more better! Keep on going💪
Coach Lee, can you open a dating site for broken hearts, plz? I'm sensing lots of good souls that would never hurt the others surfing around here, maybe we could get together and forget ..the ex.
Newbie here: Only day 3 of NC, have probably watched all your videos in that time and thank you for helping me get over the initial period always feel better after watching your videos and have given me the motivation to use this period to at least work on myself and try be happy within myself while seeing what happens. Edit; Would also be nice to know if NC has the same effect if both people have insecure tendencies. I listened to what you’ve said where people who say ‘you deserve better’ doesn’t make sense because you want to be around people who you feel are good for you. But what if someone is genuinely insecure and feels that? Whilst the loss of emotional attraction may have brought these up, insecurity might make them more susceptible to missing you. But surely that will also get in the way of them reaching out because they genuinely feel they arent enough?
In my experience, feeling "not enough" is an excuse. When you really want to be with someone, you TRY to work things out. Have you had a conversation with your SO about These insecurities? Did you do something to make them feel insecure, that they are Not good enough for you? If you both truly are insecure to the point not feeling enough, you should First work That Part out individually and After That have a relationship. Remember, you are awesome and you deserve someone awesome too, who chases you as much as you chase them.
@@Andrea-uj9eu They’ve not reached out unfortunately. 3.5 weeks NC now. It’s tough but getting easier. Resisting the temptation to reach out some days is tough and the nights are the worst. But in general feel myself getting better each day that passes and starting to come to terms that she may not come back, while hoping that she will.
@@DAIIAD999 Hey..same situation..NC for about 40 days..and the other day she blocked me literally every where..and deleted our photos so just staying strong..it’s confusing though..
I do no contact all the time,everytime it works.Why care about someone who claims to care about you,people love drama tell them how you feel and do no contact..if they truly want you they will reach out,all my exs did but i treat people really well most take advantage then i leave do no contact..takes time for exs to relise if yr good to them no contact makes them remember how good of a person you were even if they dated someone else,you will always be at the back of their mind.Too late i moved on.
It's funny because when I broke up I felt miserable and missed him madly and of course, felt guilty and wasn't quite sure at all if that was the right decision but now he broke up with me and I feel sad, yes, but calm.
I went through this a couple times and I got it down pretty hardcore where I just naturally stay out of contact and then watch videos like yours and I'm very thankful that I came across your videos because it's giving me much confidence and ability to continue no contact rule and I believe that it's really working even though we haven't talked for 6 days yet but there are signs of her trying to communicate with me that I keep ignoring because of this rule. I just want to say thank you and I'm in a toxic relationship with someone that I want to stay with but they need to be reprogrammed because of their history of living with a broken family and it's causing us to have a broken relationship. Have hope for her but in the end I will be okay if I'm not with her but I'm not going to just give up on love like that because I know what love is and I want to keep it even though it beats me sometimes physically but people have been through things that they don't understand for a reason and I understand for a reason so I'm trying to support her with this process of doing it the right way so she knows what she gots before it goes away.thank you for all your help I watch your videos every day since the last past 5 days so it's been a big help and I just subscribed because it's just something I should do at this point.
@@StripesLol It's so hard but I really want the best for her and if that mean I'm not the one for her cool but I know she needs me and she knows it too and that's why I going do what she's doing I do what she needs to be doing and that's not cheating on some one that really loves you .She may do it to me but I am strong enough to help her she that I was that great guy and she still can have it only if she changes her ways to have a better life .It will work one way or the other but I can't give in to the bull crap .I have to show her she is wrong for hitting me when she's up set about talking about what she's doing wrong in our relationship.If we don't do this well I don't see this working out at all .I still have hope and I will let her live her life with out me if that's what she really wants and needs I would say
it’s been 3 months, pretty convinced he won’t come back. i spend way too much time in the back of my head going over everything and trying to analyze where it went wrong which is pretty pointless. it doesn’t change what is happening right now. some days are better than others, i feel strong happy proud and excited for the person i’m becoming. other days, like right now still feel sharp stabbing pain in my heart and stomach. what happened was my worst fear, he just vanished without explanation. i knew i did everything i possibly could have and that the chasing and desperation made me look stupid. i did it out of love i guess i was blinded and couldn’t stop. but i never chased. or reached out. there’s still things of mine at his house, unless they’re thrown away by now. i’m not sure. i left the ball in his court and then he’s just gone. so it’s been a very hard 3 months. i’ve changed a lot and they’re good changes but man it hurts like hell sometimes. there’s still little things that remind me of him constantly throughout the day. and i get sad thinking about all the things we talked about doing together. it sucks. i thought i was worth at least some explanation. it’s cowardly the way he did what he did. i don’t have social media, we didn’t live too close to eachother. i don’t know how or where we’d even run into eachother. that’s why i’m pretty convinced he’s just gone from my life. i’ve now made my stomach all welled up in knots again because i just don’t understand. and not sure why i even want him back or to hear from him. i know i deserve better that doesn’t change the fact it feels real crappy when i think about how i did everything and he just discarded me like i was nothing.
Read The Power of Now by Echart Tolle. You're giving way to much energy to psychological time that no longer exists. You are not able to live in your memories but your mind is being unhelpful to you by delivering unnecessary pain via thoughts. When you realise you are not your mind and your mind should work for you, as a tool that you decide to use when and how you decide to use it, the pain can and will go away. The problem is likely, like myself a short while ago, you unknowingly associate your identity via that pain, and you believe your mind is you, convincing you that it represents who you are. Your brain is no more who you are than your lungs, ears, liver... Stop identifying with the past or future via bad wiring in the head. Good luck. You'll be fine. P.S. I'm only a few weeks into a breakup where I was down and beating myself up. 3rd listen of Power of Now and I'm absolutely astounded by how much pain my brain likes to have me identify with. You got this!
Your story is very similar to mine. We spoke for the first month I tried getting her back, she said we needed space to work on our problems. It’s been 2 months no contact and I’ve heard nothing, she left me confused. Worst thing is whilst I’ve been reflecting and working on my self she’s been on dates and now seeing someone. Some people are just heartless
Only on day 3 of no contact. He tried to talk to me about nonsense and I politely said I was busy and we should catch up soon. This is the second time he’s left me, the first was my unresolved issues but this time he said it feels like he’s just living with a friend and so it feels more permanent. I asked him to leave and been trying no contact. I hope it works. I keep watching these videos for the motivation! Please feel free to motivate me more!
Again they decide they want u back u are well and truly over them , seems the table has turned but Ur better off moving on from someone who tore Ur Heart to shreds and left u in misery for so long, the best love is self love and if u meet someone on the way it's a bonus like I have, so move on and let them be someone else's problem and live Ur happy and fruitful life as was intended,
But this is only working when your ex really loved you and have made a mistake which he/she is able to see and work through it with selfreflection. I also was once a „dumper“ and my ex was silent towards me after the break up, i found it even helpful for my process of just walking away from him. There was actually nothing he could do more better to win me back, wether the physical nor the personal growth changes impressed me. I just did not fell in love with him enough to build something together. This happens all the time. Especially when you meet online, you need time to get to know someone.
I never contacted an ex as I knew how painful the moment when he left me, so I don’t want experience again, funniest thing he always come back after a while for constant 5 years, so no contacts definitely works. However, after so many of on and offs, the last time when I saw him on thanksgiving, nothing special, he is just a regular friend 😊
He feel into a depression after major car accident & causing months off of work. He still can not walk on his own. Pushed me away. He said I deserved better. I did try talking to him. He says his anxiety is through the roof and he doesn’t recognize himself anymore & he just can’t do it anymore. I told him he wasn’t his depression. I have since went nc. 😞
Coach Lee thank you so much for your videos, they’ve been helping me so much over the course of my breakup so far that I went ahead and purchased your Emergency Breakup Kit. So so grateful. ❤
No contact worked and now were calling/texting happily and have met for coffee a few times. She has openly said she does not want to get back together and is seeing someone else. I can tell she cares and has some feelings towards me (she was drunk one night and called begging me to come out to see her, but I didn't). Next day we got coffee and she tried to say that was just to say hi and nothing more; she seems to have a bit of a guard up and things feel too much like a friendship. Do I keep this up to build her attraction back or do I need to step back?
She’s doing that because she knows she can get you whenever she wants, I’d say ask her straight forward what her intentions are and if she says just friends go into no contact again because it sounds like she’s just playing with your feelings trust me I know
@@kasydavila7921 jup she is right. go into no contact as fast as posible. u need to get as far away from her emotionaly as she is. thats the only way u guys can interact with each other in an equal way. and thats the only way to ever get her back. anything else is a deadend
He was super clingy & anxious during the relationship but he seems fearful avoidant after. He blocked me on Facebook & mobile. A few weeks later he wanted to be friends & apologized one day & then the next. He’s a cancer ♋️
Did no contact for a month. Found out she was seeing someone. When they say I need space, time to forgive.. it’s just a nice way of saying I’m moving on. Whilst I was working on myself and reflecting on the breakup she was doing the complete opposite. It hurts
I’ve got the most difficult one ever. Brainwashed Grass is Greener Syndrome making the most ridiculous decisions ever. Everyone can see what is happening but her. She’s now complaining how hard it is after leaving. Sticking to the plan. But nc is making me feel much better and more confident. The curiosity and contact stage is exactly right. Maybe after all of this I’ll work out that I don’t deserve to be treated like this.
Thanks Coach... been in no contact since January and still going strong. Although I have moments where I miss her dearly; and all that we shared for six years; I don't think I want to get back with her again.
No contact worked did mine for 45 days he started texting slowly slowly now his begging to see me unfortunately I lost my sister can’t see him for now .but his pleading
For my broken LDR she was so obsessed with me then she suddenly went i can't handle this anymore. Now after a little no contact I'm gonna call her and talk to her i know its gonna be harsh and iwould be open with the feelings but not in a needy way.
I feel better eversince I have been in contact. They should be the one to try to fix it not the dumpee. I chased this man for more than two years but 4 months ago I stopped and feel better. I deserve respect and love.
Even if he don't ever contact me, Ive been off for two days listening to your videos,, and it's helped me to change my mindset, it's helped with my depression. It's been 11 days and I would have contacted him by now,,, even when I told myself I never would because at one point I did beg,, anyway . My feelings haven't changed
What if I have already made the mistake of begging, crying and being hysterical in front of them? I have currently left the house and started No contact today. I hope I haven't destroyed my chances
Stay busy , get your mind off it the best way you can, don’t look at FB or IG or pictures or listen to songs . Build up that heart ❤️. Trust me , I’m going through things now , but I live with my ex , I have to move out by Feb 28 … Just do you and no rebound sex .
Someone I know became involved in a Long Distance Rebound and after several weeks he started complaining about the distance to her house from his via car as well as the time and the cost. Over a year ago he had a physical altercation with her ex and the ex's two grown sons and as a result is staying and spending more time at home as a result of his safety becoming an issue as well.
No break up formally with my bf im upset him so much no contact 2weeks then today i find out he have a new gf my heart broke into pieces i cnt believe its easy for him to give up on me
Two weeks into no contact and my ex misses me badly (hearing this from her sister). She is in a new relationship but she said (to her sister) that she doesn't want to break the guy's heart and hopes that he breaks her heart. Obviously, she is really happy with him and wants to do things with him (not sexually) but she's confused and uncertain. Her closest friends/family believe that this is temporary and she did say that she will come back so I'm just trying to focus on myself right now. Nothing bad on my end, if anything, I've done practically everything right to make her miss me. She was tempted to see me one day after work and to just wait around my car but didn't. There are more details but for now, I'll lay low and focus on myself.
It is not nice and very selfish of her to, in a meaning, playing with that guy's feelings even just for him "to break her heart". Sound bs to me, but yeah it's her life she chooses to do whatever she wants, I wish the best for you.
My ex broke witt me about 1 month ago, she told me that she was going to be a friend when I needed her. and 1 month of no contact I have spoken to her casually but she leer me on read. Should I write to her again in a few weeks or is it a clear sign that I should give up? she is a really good woman but the final part of the relationship became very cold
So,,impotent men like you are the virus tor this universe,,,ur so called lover is a golddigger,,& u fool cheap men are always available for those golddigger...that's why those feminist, golddigger are not afraid or shameful of their work ,,because they know,,lots of impotent guys are always ready to accept them like the option... A real men always be the first & last person for a good character woman.
Day 38 since the breakup and NC. Starting to lose hope 😢 He’s in a new city with a new job so I bet he has a lot of distractions. It was a 3 year relationship and he said he wanted “to focus on himself”. But He was getting emotionally distant for a while.
I want everyone to remember this: If you explode or act crazy after a breakup, it subtly signifies that you have no other or better options than that person. Even if you feel that may be true, you don’t want to give off that vibes. Stay calm, stay cool and cry at home in your pillow. It’s better that way.
@@real103373 I believe so, yes. It's never too late to take care of yourself first. no contact is just that =]
Good point. Gf of 5 years broke up with me 3 days ago, kinda lost mentally but I’m holding up strong in no contact
@@kelvinwozniak1004 stay strong and go cry as much as you need to. Don’t hold it in. Honor your sad feelings but then get up and start working on yourself
@@glitterbug8808 thanks for the encouragement
@@real103373 If that was recently, like two to four days ago, then I would send an apology message and confirm that you will accept their decision and you will concentrate on yourself. And then go into no contact
I can't remember if it was Coach Lee or someone else but there is a video about it on TH-cam
“Feelings are not based in contact!” This is too powerful even if we’re in a relationship
I wish nothing but stillness and peace in the heart of everyone during this lonely and scary journey called breakup.
I am glad to see that I am not alone here.
What a sweet generous caring comment.
Yeah, this journey is not pleasant… but good stuff probably come out of it too. At least to have pride and love oneself.
Peace be with you - hope you’re well 🤞🏻🤞🏻
Never alone. Reach out when you need someone we're here
Thank you love!
Your ex has the power to break up with you . But you have the power to walk away and follow your path and not stick around where you are not wanted . Have pride and respect for yourself .. you will become the magnet.. as soon as you walk away and not care you will see you start pulling energy towards you.... you have to put that mind set that you are the one in control. And you get to chose who can be in your circle... no one likes to be ignored or cast out. But trust you doing this will help you get over it. Life is too short to dwell on a person that tossed you like trash ..
People want what they believe they can’t have. Always walk away. Always.
Very good way to put it. Thank you
I think its better to use no contact to get ourselves back! stay strong everybody ♥
I think that's actually the whole point of NC. As well as the best chance AND only practical option.
Beautifully summarized! Well said!
That's definitely what it's for. Get back to loving yourself and being alone. We lose ourselves sometimes and no contact helps you realize that you are the catch That's why they were with you in the first place. My ex chose to pursue another man and it hurt me extremely but I realize that I was too good for her. Ya'll got this!
Give me sub help a brother out 😅
@@johnh8780 That's what I'm doing. My girlfriend of almost 8 years dumped me 15 days ago and yeah the pain feels insurmountable but the only real option is to work on me. Despite Coach Lee saying that your odds are good if you play it right it isn't guaranteed and it's just not worth losing yourself over something that isn't a sure thing.
Yes
3 years ago, I stumbled upon your channel, and your videos detailing the effectiveness of getting an ex back through no contact. One of the first few rules you offered was to NOT be friends with your ex, since that’s not what I wanted in the end. No contact for me lasted for 2 years, and during that time I had time to change, grow, and focus on myself and my personality. I truly thought my ex had moved on, and I was already passed that. Come today, October 15 me and my ex have finally gotten back together after she messaged me. She’s told me that one of her biggest regrets was leaving me. I no longer feel that I’m chasing her, or that I’m in a constant loop of anxiety and self doubt. I have you to thank for that Coach Lee, your stuff really works
@@ch76504 No not at all. I found it in me to keep to myself and wait for her to come to me- no matter how long
Great success story man. I don't know how the either of you managed to last 2 years without contact lol But I guess it worked out for you guys.
No chasing . Congrats 🎉
Woww. Congratulations for both of you
@@thehavoc6331 nope. In person
It does not matter if feelings fade or not. We can all agree that Coach Lee's dedication and commitment to the cause will never ever fade. This is what is important. Have a good weekend all!
He is the best
@@evabarnes987 omg that's beautiful
Goodday coach what can do when ex break the no contact rules
😂😂😂👌 absolutely comforting
This made me laugh. It's like he's running a worldwide triage center!
So true, he came back after two and half months, saying he misses me every day, told me how strong I was and it was very sexy. And he realised he loves me more than he thought...etc. Tbh I was in hell during breakup, but I didn't show it a bit in front of him, on social medias he could only seen how great I was handling my life (which I tried very hard). Whoever is going through the breakup right now, especially the dumpees, don't be too upset, focus on your own growths, let them realized they made a huge mistake by seeing how amazing you are. Let them see the person they fell in love with.
And now the table turns, we are dating again but I'm not sure I want to commit with him, he's totally fine with it, telling me he loves me everyday.
update ?
Your story gave me hope I'm 16 days nc
Update lol it's been almost 4 months my ex didn't come back and I don't want him back , the past month I have been going out on a dates and I'm finally happy
12 days NC to my fiance. we are LDR.
Another person confirming that social media posts during a breakup are all about faking it. Gotta love it.
I wish I get the same just like how u got
"Don't waste your time looking back. You're not going that way."
Yup
then why are you watching this video?
@@us5freaak to move forward.
@@armano4125 this entire channel is literally about how to get your ex back. you are on a video that is focused on your ex, commenting about moving on - it just seems a little contradictory. You guys sound like you're lying to yourselves.
@@us5freaak you clearly dont understand. If you want your ex back, you dont have to move forward and forget about her.
Just move forward, but be patient to have your paths crossed with her in the near future.
Thats the best way to move forward. I would never move on with my ex, even though she treated me badly after the breakup I still love her and I will be ready until she return
No contact works. Almost a little too well. To the point where I’m starting to be aware when she falls back due to relief. The only time they actually come back strong and want to try again is when you can literally see the behaviors of fear of losing you. The fear has to sit for a while I’ve noticed. Today, I’m deciding to not purposely make that fear reality as a game, but because I’m truly tired. I’ve watch every video on this channel multiple times over throughout the years and the pain is faint. The pain of the on and off is far worse. Im deciding that I do not want the wishy washy fickle love anymore. I can and will do better. Coach Lee, you have helped me grow and not anyone out there has better advice than you! Thank you 🙏🏽
Agreed sick of the mind games .. love is just love .. you know it and feel it and has no limitations or guess work
I can feel your pain as if I wrote your words myself.
@@kimsoohyun1511 stop
No contact major worked. He came back and explained and apologized. Thank you for all of your videos Coach Lee.
how long?
How long was the no contact?
Tell usss
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Focus on No Contact for yourself. Honestly if they wanted to be with you they wouldn’t have left you. They gave up on you and that’s okay.
You may have fallen down on the ground for now but what I need you to do is pick yourself up and brush yourself off. And I need you to put one foot in front of the other and you need to start your journey to healing and enlightenment.
From my experience they always come back, some come back when you’re at the peak of happiness in your life. Others come back when you have moved on and literally forgotten about them (you obviously didn’t but you didn’t chase them anymore…obviously)
It’s truly heartbreaking but you gotta look at it like this; they left because they weren’t happy and they didn’t see a future with you. You obviously have to do some soul searching yourself and you need to go and improve on yourself as a person ,it’s harsh but it’s the truth but trust me I’m about to get to the good part.
Now the good part. When you look back at the relationship a year or two down the road you’re going to see some positives and some negatives. We all do it from time to time and let me tell you one thing, you’re going to see a lot of negatives than positives and then at that point it’s your choice if you want this person back.
A year or two down the road you’re a much better and more focused version of your previous self and by this time you’re looking for your next BF or GF or they’re looking for you….to whomever Is reading this? You’re worthy of love and you’re definitely worth it.
Stay in No Contact, stay far far away and just focus on yourself. Get back in touch with yourself and love yourself. Pick up your old hobbies and learn new ones. Get to the gym, learn a skill, meet new people. This is easier said than done but trust me once you have that dose of Peace, Content and Passion; you’re probably not going want to be in a relationship honestly. Sometimes being by yourself for a little while is best for you.
Get your strength and power and resolve back, once you take your ex off that metaphorical pedestal that’s when the power and choices are back in your court.
I’ve never taken back any of my ex’s and I was never bitter towards any of them once they came back into my life but I made the choice to move forward granted if I wanted to I could be with them because the choice is mine and yes I am really good friends with most of my ex’s.
Now you have a choice, live in self pity and be stuck as the same person and be miserable? or Become the most bad ass version of yourself….That choice is yours.
Every journey starts with the first step, now pick yourself up and always remember “Chin up and eyes forward”.
Thank you for this 🙏🏾
Im working on this! Thank you!
Thanks for this! 🙌
100% true even though it hurts. We have to keep in mind that the break-up not only it hurts you, but also knowing what the dumper had to go through all this time, the stress, anxiety, the over-thinking and the doubting.
Had break-ups before, and always came out on top. After my first break-up it took my 6-7 months to be “normal” again, about another half year to get over her. Nowadays I’m still thinking about her from time to time, but 0% sadness, just someone from the past, as if it’s a friend from elementary school.
I could say break-ups are blessings in disguise, they’re a wake-up call, you grow from them, get to know yourself better and take all that knowledge to a new part of your life where you can share your passions, hapiness and love with the rest of the world, be it strangers, family , friends or new lovers.
@@iAmirx And that’s the beauty about Life. You have your ups and downs but you always have a choice. Happiness is internal, it should never be external whatsoever. You should be a radiant beacon of happiness; you should always be striving to be the best person that you can humanly be.
Our time here on Earth is very limited and our lives are fleeting as we speak however the way you go about your life and with those choices that you make….it’s ultimately up to you.
“Life is what you make it”
Just keep your head up and remember you’re human but so were your Ex partners. You’re not perfect and neither were they. Wish them the best in life and keep moving because God, The Gods, The Universe or whatever higher power that you believe in; they have a plan for you.
Now it’s up to you to see that plan through; you still have time left, so what are you going to do with it?
I love this.. thank you❤️
Time to talk about how I was feeling for the last 73 days since he left ... I pretended it was okay, that I was tough and so on... I was cheering my friends up instead of letting them to cheer me up. I smiled a lot and assured everyone that I was fine. but i was not. I wasn't tough. I wasn't smiling inside. I haven't stop thinking about him for a moment. I struggled with worsening depression.
But Eventually I have accepted it. I'm slowly coming out of this hole. I'm slowly rebuilding myself.
To anyone going through this now - no contact is for you and use it for your adventage no matter how hard it is. it will get better. i promise. Xxx
Did he come back or make contact at all?
@@deirdrehebert4843 he texted me about 2 weeks ago with something random like 'check this out - new Nikon lenses'. I was polite and I replied back but i didn't want to carry on conversation and i think he saw it. since then i haven't heard from him. i think he was checking the ground cause i didn't pleaed or beg him to stay. Maybe he got used to be chased by girls so it was hard for him to understand...? i don't know. i doesn't matter now.
@@joannakos4134 my ex left me on read after 1 month of no contact. She said we could be Friends and be fine but obviously that is not happening. ¿What should I do? Give up (It is a good woman but she has been so cold) or tried to talk to her in a few weeks? :/
To everyone on here saying the words that are in my heart. Thank you. It really helps to hear I'm not alone. Today is 8 weeks no contact
Loool It really works
Guys just listen to what he is saying ! Trust him...if my ex came back...any ex will come back !
That's great congrats🎉 but when he come back in how many days or month they reached out to you? And also plz tell about your ex he is avoiding nature or what type of he is?
hurts hearing he lost attraction when he was the one who pursued me for so long in the beginning and I didn't even like him at first.
Literally same wtf
Why are you straight away assuming that she's boosting her ego? Maybe his personality shined through more after a while.
My previous comment was to Dude man Senior
The same with me. I wasn't in love at the beginning, it took me time to start feeling deeper. She was saying she is in love. But as a guy, I was the one that continiusly trying to make things better, and I was the one chasing her (its in my charachter). In the end she said she doesn't love me anymore. 2 months ago "she loved me more than her life".
I dont know what to make out of all this. Im confused and sad. And I want to forget about her and find happiness.
Literally 😭😂
I don't want to see him anymore in my life. That's what I told him 'If you go, you won't see me never again' and I hope I'm strong enough to keep my promise.
Stick to your word sweetheart.
How is it going?
I honestly just want MY feelings to fade. Some days they pretty much have, other days I am crying over a song or a memory, or most of all the thought of "never again". It was a time in my life that will never be again. Basically just total melancholia over the past. But yeah I want my feelings to totally fade out, and I'm looking forward to the day where I am just not bothered in the slightest.
I feel this. It has only been 2 weeks but I'm scared that I will always miss them, that even in 6 months or a year's time, this painful grief with remain. I can't help but feel like I've lost the love of my life. I hope that day comes for us both where memories are just memories, not painful reminders of loss.
Im trying to heal too. Its been a few days. Its not easy to forget and be tottaly fine if you're sensitive. If you look at things that you did together, or hear songs that you listen to together, or go to places that you wanted to go with her...
Its hard to fight rejection from the person you thought she loved you.
I agree with you. That’s what I have been feeling too. Yet I am forcing myself to go forward and be out with friends I’m acting out my feelings even when I’m not ok yet
Sameee. It’s been 2 and a half months and I still feel really sad & depressed on most days , but some days I’m okay . Slowly getting there . I’m in no contact for 35 days now
@@joshp146 how are you now :(((.
This video is so rich with insight. On my third listen. I’m in the second stage of no contact after he reached out and we had a face to face. Stand in your power my loves. The flower doesn’t beg the bee.
I have to say that I am one of Coach Lee’s biggest fans. He has got me through some very difficult times and I am more than grateful for his advice and words of wisdom. Today’s video hit me differently and for the first time made me feel very sad and able to appreciate the real problem that despite feeling like everything was fine and we were good, that my Ex’s attraction to me had lowered and he made enough excuses to decide to break it off. I know that because their ability and desire to stay away from you for prolonged periods of time is a reflection of their lack of attraction- they want you, they would be after you. Even after 5 weeks of NC- i am very sad and disheartened. I will always be thankful for the hard truth though- and it is a hard pill to swallow these days
That’s tough . I’m sorry and I hope you are better these days
I’m sad too
@@fire12731 he reached out with a love letter. But words are cheap- actions are what matter in these situations. I am a lot better now and though I think of him often, it’s a different kind of ‘think’- not so much missing and more just as a memory. I suppose this is progress
@@Enigma32174 I miss mine but it hasn’t been that long and yes you are correct that actions matter more than words . Having a tough time tonight . Coach Lee videos are helpful & give so much insight
@@fire12731 I’ve been there. There were nights that have been unbearable. Watch coach Lee’s videos and also coach Craig kenneth’s videos- they got me through some very difficult times. Don’t make the mistake I made though and break no contact 4 months into NC- keep strong snd you’ll reap the rewards
@@Enigma32174 thank you Mary I so appreciate your advice and kind thoughts . They mean a lot . Much love !
It haven't seen her since March, then suddenly she decided to stop by my work last week. I offered her coffee, but she already had some that morning. Since my job is to make coffee, I knew what her real motive for being there was. It's only a matter of time now.
It works, folks. It might take 7 months, but it works.
Its been two years and nothing
hey, i made alot of mistakes including texting and calling and begging and pleading and even showing up to her house. she says she doesnt love me anymore and that shes moved on, its been a week and a half since the breakup. do i have any chance of this no contact working or even getting her back anymore or did i just flush it down the toilet by doing what i did?
@@vanthawng8524 hey everything is gonna be okay, I begged and pleaded at first too! It has been 2 weeks for me and I used no contact 3 days after the breakup. U gotta focus on yourself first. I have been working out since and I still miss her, I do. But it gets less and less sad everyday. Focus on yourself first bro, trust me. I hope u the best, stay strong
@@worlocx2939 i just dont understand bro, i gave this girl everything, i loved her like noone else would or could. i gave her 21 months of my life just to be told that she doesnt love me anymore and that shes moved on only after a week and a half. ive been working out alot too and trying to grow but most days i just feel so depressed and want to cry and cry and cry just for her to come back. i wish she would hold me in her arms and just love me like old times.
@@vanthawng8524 Hey, it does get better no matter what. Appreciate those 21 months with her but accept for now it is over. If you treated her like the way you say you did then there is nothing to regret anything and that should make you feel good to know you’re a good guy. If you feel like crying, cry. All you can do is better yourself for yourself. Stay strong, this process will make you a way stronger person on the other side.
You’re already broken up, they can’t break up with you more
Unless you break NC and ask them to come back
Good point. It's why I'm not contacting- so he can't reject me again and again.
Not easy to hear that his attraction for me was so low he walked away. My mind tries to wrestle that to the ground. It's true though and hurts so much.
Understood, especially when I was the guarded unsure one when we first met. Stay strong pretty gal!
Me too. Hurts
@@sarahbeth7440 me too. He broke down all the walls. I was so guarded. It's even the word he used to describe me
It’s not that your unattractive to him.. he probably felt too routine in a relationship
and craved to go off and explore. The fact that being in a relationship was what held him back from that, even if he loved you, is what chipped away at his attraction. But it’s an emotional thing, I’m sure he still thinks you’re beautiful!
Yes me too, it hurts so much. Into 7 days of NC
If I am the one who is dumped, and he goes no contact, then I’m gone after 10 days. If he doesn’t want to work out our problems together, that’s fine. But not everything is gonna happen on his time frame. Life is too short to be ignored around for 30-45 days, I don’t care how much he wants to get back ultimately, there is absolutely no chance. Some of this advice is fairy dust. I will just wish, in my head since he doesn’t want contact, him well and I will move on. I won’t want to stay with somebody who simply runs to his room and hides
After a month of no contact and radio silence, we are now casually talking to each other. I can say she is now emotionally neutral to me and that's good. But it doesn't matter to me anymore if her feelings for me fades away. I'm on a peaceful mind now and I'm happy.
Did you reach out first
@@Andrew-fi9hd she reached out first and everytime we have a conversation, she is always the one who reached out.
She came to u,,only for her satisfaction,, don't worry,,she will show her real character again when she got another good option,,
Here is my experience with No Contact - it works! Now, it depends what you want. I had ex #1 contact me a year after a breakup (meantime I was watching these videos because ex #2) and at that point I was not interested in getting back together. Ex #2 contacted me for my birthday, 8 months after the break up. We did get back together just to break up again 3 months later (no breakup, he stopped responding just like the first time around). I'm pretty sure he expects me to fix everything for him like I did the first time, and as Coach Lee says "it is not your job to fix what he/she broke". My advice is if you want to get back with an ex, make sure to resolve the issues that caused the initial break up. Good luck everyone!
Coach advice is not applicable for golddigger type cheap lady,,,why ur ex bf left you,,first tell that...
May be coach discussion is applicable for ur ex bf,,whose are cheated by u
About 36-37th day of no contact. Leaving this here to someday look back at this and realize how far i have come. Stay strong guys, hopefully it gets better❤
Recently hit the 25 day mark… nice to see a comment more recent than several years ago. Things will get better! No one was put into this life to be alone :) I believe in you, stranger! ❤️
@@NathanMason-tg1zj hey nathan, i hit the 50th day mark and i promise you it gets really better. Self love is the key. Sending you lots of love 🤍
any updates? 😅
Any updates? 😂
you are the best . she finally contacted me after 3 weeks of no contact.
i list to everything you said. 🎉
I'm beyond grateful to you.
You helped me with my breakup and with my life in general.
I've made a tiny donation just to show you my gratitude, it won't change your life, but it's what I can do now
Thank you coach Lee for keeping it simple, real, humane, doable, compassionate and non-monetary; and you're not out here hard-selling the courses, unlike many others on youtube, which keeps one interested.
I’m so sad … I hope tomorrow is a better day . Thank you coach Lee
I love how brutally honest you are..it stings but doesn’t sugarcoat it and you are here to help so the harsh truth is what’s needed
Everything about NC makes sense, and you point out so well how we feel , how they feel, how it evolves over time. The fear that it will fade, is that after 2-3 months if they date again, of course the feelings can fade unless their dating doesn't pan out. Yet who wants to be plan B? And we all know stories of people actually dating the day after dumping their previous spouse. For people not doing that, everything in NC makes sense. If we find out they date, let it go. But with NC, I know nothing of what they do, like they know zero of what I do. Not everyone remains "friends" on social media.
She broke up with me 2 months ago. I immediately went NC and Radio Silence and it's been easy to stay that way.
No beg, no plead, no likes, no comments, nada. I vanished from her life. She doesn't want me? Ok, I'll go.
I still have feelings for her but she cheated on me. I'm more disappointed than heartbroken. I trusted her and that was special.
And I just found out that she restricted me on Facebook a week ago and it made me laugh because I've been ignoring her "heartbreak" posts. Why would she do that? I don't comment, like or reply to anything that she posts.
Shes playing the victim card or just trying to get a reaction from you or other peoplr. Best thing to do is just continue with NC and then you'll find a better woman. Stay strong bro💪 her loss!!
Damn, she really sounds like she doesn’t deserve you. Way to be strong man, I wish you the best
I'm in the same boat, how are you getting through it!
@@m.d.40 Sorry to hear that.
Just one day at a time.
Focus on things you love and accomplish as many as you can in a week or month.
I think of her everyday throughout the day, I dream of her every night, but, I don't feel the urge to call her or anything, just the thought of her having someone else already is what allows me stay away from her. I still love her but I can't reach out to her. Hope this helps. (:
@@EricVera539 damn me you are on the exact same page, this just happened a couple weeks ago, she moved out and staying with her sister I guess, really don't know for sure but I'm not trying to find out either! I'm just staying away, I was posting on Facebook, but I stopped yesterday because I know she checks my page, I guess I'll use non contact, if that don't work I guess I don't have a choice but to move on, yeah shit do hurt, woman have really changed out here!
Mr. Lee.... You are knowledgeable, heck handsome, you have beautiful eyes, You look so clean. And you are teaching people how to manage pain. Pain Management !! This is important for our development and growth. You have taught us not to fall for delusional emotions. You are a great guy. All of us want you to grow, to shine, to flow. Thankew Soh Muchxx !!
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Even though my wife pissed me off by betraying me I wish her & her lover the best because she is the mother of 5 of my kids & I need her to be happy for them.
George Vue, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you. It's a POWERFUL Kit and it has strategies for every situation.
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You made It again, dear coach. Clarity and BEST support for those feeling hurt. Thank you! 😘
Hi Lee, another great video! You were the one that helped me realize that my ex was NOT for me. You showed 2 videos that were based on narcissism, and that answered all my questions. It took me a while to get over him,(Therapy & other videos), but it worked. I am dating a great guy, and so far so good. YOU are a GENIUS! I will ALWAYS listen to your videos. I also have some friends listening to you. U R THE BEST!
When Coach Lee talks everyone listen, his videos and words could save your mental health & possibly your life. Im here to say all Coach Lee videos helped me emotionally and mentally. Thank you sir👍 many blessings to you
Every time I watch your videos I feel as if you're directly talking to me
There's not much room for it to go lower! So true and funny but I needed the laugh while I'm sad. I appreciate you, brother. Not sure this makes a huge difference in predictability or what have you, but your words keeping my mind occupied does help a great deal! Thank you.
I don't know about others but my ex's feelings did fade. I ran into him exactly 3 month mark of breakup and a month of NC. I broke my first NC after 23 days and 2nd after 21 days when he returned my things. He told me he has moved on and is happily single. That he isn't meant to stay single because he is a sucker for love etc... He also told me that he was extremely happy after a long time when we were in a relationship. 2 days later I asked him if he wants to give another chance to our relationship, he told me that he has moved on and requested me to do the same. He seemed happy when we met. I am hurting a lot but I have given up any hope I had. I am focusing on moving on. It is so painful.
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I just want to say that I wanted to break no contact today so badly and I was just going through it emotionally, feeling more depressed than I can recall in a long time. And It’s not like I’ve made it any long period of time without talking to her. Hell, not even a day. The instinct to communicate with her is so powerful. We are married and have children together and she’s not had them overnight for 9 weeks. Anyway, I’m now committed to no contact. The pain of being ignored is practically incalculable. But, you can’t be ignored if you don’t try to communicate. It’s time to have the power of silence swing back in my direction. And just having your videos on and your voice in my head helps immeasurably to curb that instinct to try to communicate. Thank you.
You need to get a lawyer. She and her lawyer can use the fact that the kids are staying overnight with her to set up precedence and claim you didn’t make an effort to have them overnight with you. They can use it to get full custody and get more money out of you. Defend yourself. Letting her walk all over you isn’t attractive and it’s just wrong.
Any updates
10:41 pm here in PH. 🥰 notif squad coming right up. ATTENDANCE CHECK: present as always, Coach. 🙋🏻♀️👏 will watch now. Done liking the video. 👍♥️
Attendance check, Thak u coach for giving us strenghth in our lows, greatful towards you forever ❤️
Let's be real: their feelings already faded if they left.
Pin this comment to the top this is very important. Everyone you need to have patience. She just texted me after 5 days no contact. ❤️❤️ Coach lee the breakup kit brought me so much guidance you don’t understand how you have changed my life. I thought i lost the love of my life. We have been together nearly 4 years and a day wouldn’t go by that i didn’t think she was the one i would marry. Coach lee thank you so much. I am ready to fix our differences that we were stubborn to fix before we realized we can lose each-other for good❤️❤️❤️ Everyone, stay strong!!!
70 days no contact…. I’m staying strong but it’s so difficult not to give up hope!
He watches my stories but no interaction at all.
I watch these videos constantly to keep me strong
Dude stop keeping track and move on … you are keeping her in your mind with this pathetic shit
Do not interact with him. BLOCK him immediately. That’s for your own good
Are you guys together ?
@@nikhilgarg1326 no, we did start talking again just before Xmas & I did spend a couple of hours with him on NYE … he even kissed me as the sky lit up & again as I left but I’ve not heard from him since. He’s back to just watching with no interaction.
I advise you stop posting stories for 3 months. Change your profile pic to a hot one around halfway into that period, and nothing else. He interacts with your stories by watching them. He's keeping tabs on you, in a way not getting the full sense of loss. Give him that.
My ex reached out after 22 days of NC. She said she's sorry and that she wanted to talk. I'll be letting her intiate all the contact and will mirror her or give her less. Wish me luck.
If someone wants the breakup why should you hold on even through the no contact phase. If someone dumps you no matter what you deserve something better anyway. Why get your hopes up? Shouldn’t you be trying to move on no matter what, even though it’s painful?
No, because you love them and want them back, and their mind can change
Possibly one of your finest videos - wonderful wisdom 🙏🏼
8 months NC today. Slowly moving on with my life. Her loss.
Omg, thats so weird! I know an ancient voodoo wizard too!
Shouldn’t be watching these videos still after that long man… you are still not moving on obviously…
I watch Craig Kenneth/corey wayne videos also. Mainly to learn about self improvement and attachment styles to improve my relationships in the future. Look at you, jumping to conclusions. Moron.
Dayyyum! I'll grab my card details and message them asap!
Sometimes it can take years before they contact you again. Problem is, neither of you will be the same. Both will mentally and physically changed and even if you got back together it would fail again.
i hope no one has to go through this.. its soo painful ... i am day 8 on NC... wish to hear from her again ..
Mad Life, give it TIME! IT'S TOO SOON! ⚘️
As a dumpee I have broken NC 2 times, first time after 30days and nothing has changed in those 30 days, she was still so mean/angry to me. Second time broke it after 60days and that was a huge mistake. She told me she was thinking about texting me, but she wasn't ready yet and I got cruelest response you could possibly get ,,I dont love you anymore, don't wait for me there will be no second chance" and suddenly I realised I didnt gave her true break up ( fear of loss) I was chasing, she knew I will text her sooner or later. Since then(almost 2months ago) I went to indefinite NC with acceptance that it is over and I feel alive again. I think clearly again without all those false hopes. The most painfull thing was that she didnt gave me a chance to say goodbye to her face to face. Don't break NC like I did, no matter what, dont ruin your chances. I know it's so painfull, but indefinite NC will is the best thing for you and your chances to get ex back. If they will want you back they will find the way. Have some dignity, love yourself and stay strong.
Any updates after that?
@@thehavoc6331 I broke it again ~8months after the break up, at first she was neutral we had some good neutral conversations, but the next day she told me ,,dont expect that I will answer to your messages everyday". I knew I have nothing to loose and asked her out for a meet and the asnwer was ,,no". I asked her if she ever wanted to message me( in those 8months) she said ,,no". And to be honest I felt so awkward and bad while chating with her, it just wasn't the same as before, it felt like we are breaking up again. I was praying 8months for ,,I was wrong I miss you" but it never came. Unfriended her since on social media and I'm moving on with my life, theres other fish in the water ;)
@@ghfsdasd I understand mate!! I know it's hard to keep NC. My NC has just started , I'm in LDR actually.
Don't worry about it, you did good. Although I understand NC is difficult. I'm sure you'll find someone more better! Keep on going💪
@@thehavoc6331 Ty mate, best of luck with your NC, maybe you will have better luck with it ✌️
@@thehavoc6331 I was in LDR too
Coach Lee, can you open a dating site for broken hearts, plz? I'm sensing lots of good souls that would never hurt the others surfing around here, maybe we could get together and forget ..the ex.
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Newbie here: Only day 3 of NC, have probably watched all your videos in that time and thank you for helping me get over the initial period always feel better after watching your videos and have given me the motivation to use this period to at least work on myself and try be happy within myself while seeing what happens.
Edit; Would also be nice to know if NC has the same effect if both people have insecure tendencies. I listened to what you’ve said where people who say ‘you deserve better’ doesn’t make sense because you want to be around people who you feel are good for you. But what if someone is genuinely insecure and feels that? Whilst the loss of emotional attraction may have brought these up, insecurity might make them more susceptible to missing you. But surely that will also get in the way of them reaching out because they genuinely feel they arent enough?
In my experience, feeling "not enough" is an excuse. When you really want to be with someone, you TRY to work things out. Have you had a conversation with your SO about These insecurities? Did you do something to make them feel insecure, that they are Not good enough for you?
If you both truly are insecure to the point not feeling enough, you should First work That Part out individually and After That have a relationship. Remember, you are awesome and you deserve someone awesome too, who chases you as much as you chase them.
Stay strong. No contact is the only way.
Have they reached out yet? You alright?
@@Andrea-uj9eu They’ve not reached out unfortunately. 3.5 weeks NC now. It’s tough but getting easier. Resisting the temptation to reach out some days is tough and the nights are the worst. But in general feel myself getting better each day that passes and starting to come to terms that she may not come back, while hoping that she will.
@@DAIIAD999 Hey..same situation..NC for about 40 days..and the other day she blocked me literally every where..and deleted our photos so just staying strong..it’s confusing though..
I do no contact all the time,everytime it works.Why care about someone who claims to care about you,people love drama tell them how you feel and do no contact..if they truly want you they will reach out,all my exs did but i treat people really well most take advantage then i leave do no contact..takes time for exs to relise if yr good to them no contact makes them remember how good of a person you were even if they dated someone else,you will always be at the back of their mind.Too late i moved on.
It's funny because when I broke up I felt miserable and missed him madly and of course, felt guilty and wasn't quite sure at all if that was the right decision but now he broke up with me and I feel sad, yes, but calm.
How are you doing now? Update please
I wish you still did phone calls, Lee. I'd gladly pay for one.
Youve definitely helped me as well ive gone 10 months no contact .. with toxic person So proud .. ultimately don’t think they will ever change …
I went through this a couple times and I got it down pretty hardcore where I just naturally stay out of contact and then watch videos like yours and I'm very thankful that I came across your videos because it's giving me much confidence and ability to continue no contact rule and I believe that it's really working even though we haven't talked for 6 days yet but there are signs of her trying to communicate with me that I keep ignoring because of this rule. I just want to say thank you and I'm in a toxic relationship with someone that I want to stay with but they need to be reprogrammed because of their history of living with a broken family and it's causing us to have a broken relationship. Have hope for her but in the end I will be okay if I'm not with her but I'm not going to just give up on love like that because I know what love is and I want to keep it even though it beats me sometimes physically but people have been through things that they don't understand for a reason and I understand for a reason so I'm trying to support her with this process of doing it the right way so she knows what she gots before it goes away.thank you for all your help I watch your videos every day since the last past 5 days so it's been a big help and I just subscribed because it's just something I should do at this point.
Going through that exact same thing, stay strong
@@StripesLol It's so hard but I really want the best for her and if that mean I'm not the one for her cool but I know she needs me and she knows it too and that's why I going do what she's doing I do what she needs to be doing and that's not cheating on some one that really loves you .She may do it to me but I am strong enough to help her she that I was that great guy and she still can have it only if she changes her ways to have a better life .It will work one way or the other but I can't give in to the bull crap .I have to show her she is wrong for hitting me when she's up set about talking about what she's doing wrong in our relationship.If we don't do this well I don't see this working out at all .I still have hope and I will let her live her life with out me if that's what she really wants and needs I would say
They will leave you when they get better, it’s a bad investment! And at that moment they won’t care how you are left
3 months of no contact. She reached out asking to see me, i miss you so much, blah blah. HARD pass, thanks for playing.
😂😂😂😂😂🙏🙏 good job
@@dexeliemomms you are Beautiful are you taken?
it’s been 3 months, pretty convinced he won’t come back. i spend way too much time in the back of my head going over everything and trying to analyze where it went wrong which is pretty pointless. it doesn’t change what is happening right now. some days are better than others, i feel strong happy proud and excited for the person i’m becoming. other days, like right now still feel sharp stabbing pain in my heart and stomach.
what happened was my worst fear, he just vanished without explanation. i knew i did everything i possibly could have and that the chasing and desperation made me look stupid. i did it out of love i guess i was blinded and couldn’t stop. but i never chased. or reached out. there’s still things of mine at his house, unless they’re thrown away by now. i’m not sure. i left the ball in his court and then he’s just gone. so it’s been a very hard 3 months. i’ve changed a lot and they’re good changes but man it hurts like hell sometimes. there’s still little things that remind me of him constantly throughout the day. and i get sad thinking about all the things we talked about doing together. it sucks. i thought i was worth at least some explanation. it’s cowardly the way he did what he did. i don’t have social media, we didn’t live too close to eachother. i don’t know how or where we’d even run into eachother. that’s why i’m pretty convinced he’s just
gone from my life. i’ve now made my stomach all welled up in knots again because i just don’t understand. and not sure why i even want him back or to hear from him.
i know i deserve better that doesn’t change the fact it feels real crappy when i think about how i did everything and he just discarded me like i was nothing.
Read The Power of Now by Echart Tolle.
You're giving way to much energy to psychological time that no longer exists. You are not able to live in your memories but your mind is being unhelpful to you by delivering unnecessary pain via thoughts. When you realise you are not your mind and your mind should work for you, as a tool that you decide to use when and how you decide to use it, the pain can and will go away.
The problem is likely, like myself a short while ago, you unknowingly associate your identity via that pain, and you believe your mind is you, convincing you that it represents who you are.
Your brain is no more who you are than your lungs, ears, liver...
Stop identifying with the past or future via bad wiring in the head.
Good luck. You'll be fine.
P.S. I'm only a few weeks into a breakup where I was down and beating myself up. 3rd listen of Power of Now and I'm absolutely astounded by how much pain my brain likes to have me identify with. You got this!
Your story is very similar to mine. We spoke for the first month I tried getting her back, she said we needed space to work on our problems. It’s been 2 months no contact and I’ve heard nothing, she left me confused. Worst thing is whilst I’ve been reflecting and working on my self she’s been on dates and now seeing someone. Some people are just heartless
These avoidants need to stay single & stop breaking hearts like it's only a game to them.
Only on day 3 of no contact. He tried to talk to me about nonsense and I politely said I was busy and we should catch up soon. This is the second time he’s left me, the first was my unresolved issues but this time he said it feels like he’s just living with a friend and so it feels more permanent. I asked him to leave and been trying no contact. I hope it works. I keep watching these videos for the motivation!
Please feel free to motivate me more!
Thank you. You're therapeutic to listen to. 😊
He's too brutally honest at times.
No contact works! :) I was about to give up but she contacted me
How long was the no contact period?
please do more analytics on the dumpers. I think this subject needs more insight. Thank you for your consideration.
Did you see my most recent video at th-cam.com/video/33PdHjmc1KI/w-d-xo.html
no because we just were divorced-----it is a story like many people.
Get into your most attractive state! Focus on your health and business goals
Again they decide they want u back u are well and truly over them , seems the table has turned but Ur better off moving on from someone who tore Ur Heart to shreds and left u in misery for so long, the best love is self love and if u meet someone on the way it's a bonus like I have, so move on and let them be someone else's problem and live Ur happy and fruitful life as was intended,
At the end of the day Focus on y’all selfs Kings and Queens
But this is only working when your ex really loved you and have made a mistake which he/she is able to see and work through it with selfreflection. I also was once a „dumper“ and my ex was silent towards me after the break up, i found it even helpful for my process of just walking away from him. There was actually nothing he could do more better to win me back, wether the physical nor the personal growth changes impressed me. I just did not fell in love with him enough to build something together.
This happens all the time. Especially when you meet online, you need time to get to know someone.
I never contacted an ex as I knew how painful the moment when he left me, so I don’t want experience again, funniest thing he always come back after a while for constant 5 years, so no contacts definitely works. However, after so many of on and offs, the last time when I saw him on thanksgiving, nothing special, he is just a regular friend 😊
He feel into a depression after major car accident & causing months off of work. He still can not walk on his own. Pushed me away. He said I deserved better. I did try talking to him. He says his anxiety is through the roof and he doesn’t recognize himself anymore & he just can’t do it anymore. I told him he wasn’t his depression. I have since went nc. 😞
I made it very clear I wanted a lot of children before and during our relationship and he said that he don't thats why it ended
Coach lee. You are so kindhearted. God bless you!
I like the way you explain everything and break it down coach ❤️
Wow!!! You are so right!! I like listening too you and all of your advice really helps us!!!
Coach Lee thank you so much for your videos, they’ve been helping me so much over the course of my breakup so far that I went ahead and purchased your Emergency Breakup Kit. So so grateful. ❤
Thank you for your kind words Julia and for buying the EBK! Take it one day at a time!
No contact worked and now were calling/texting happily and have met for coffee a few times. She has openly said she does not want to get back together and is seeing someone else. I can tell she cares and has some feelings towards me (she was drunk one night and called begging me to come out to see her, but I didn't). Next day we got coffee and she tried to say that was just to say hi and nothing more; she seems to have a bit of a guard up and things feel too much like a friendship. Do I keep this up to build her attraction back or do I need to step back?
She’s doing that because she knows she can get you whenever she wants, I’d say ask her straight forward what her intentions are and if she says just friends go into no contact again because it sounds like she’s just playing with your feelings trust me I know
@@kasydavila7921 This.
@@kasydavila7921 jup she is right. go into no contact as fast as posible. u need to get as far away from her emotionaly as she is. thats the only way u guys can interact with each other in an equal way. and thats the only way to ever get her back. anything else is a deadend
It's called the friendzone... she will call you whenever you are deemed useful to her, which is not going to be sexual. Nothing more.
@@walker_tx_ranger might be sexual. Even worse. A demotion to friends with or without benefits. Not for me.
He was super clingy & anxious during the relationship but he seems fearful avoidant after.
He blocked me on Facebook & mobile.
A few weeks later he wanted to be friends & apologized one day & then the next.
He’s a cancer ♋️
Did no contact for a month. Found out she was seeing someone. When they say I need space, time to forgive.. it’s just a nice way of saying I’m moving on. Whilst I was working on myself and reflecting on the breakup she was doing the complete opposite. It hurts
And what did you do to her?Did you cheat?
I’ve got the most difficult one ever. Brainwashed Grass is Greener Syndrome making the most ridiculous decisions ever.
Everyone can see what is happening but her. She’s now complaining how hard it is after leaving. Sticking to the plan.
But nc is making me feel much better and more confident.
The curiosity and contact stage is exactly right.
Maybe after all of this I’ll work out that I don’t deserve to be treated like this.
Thanks Coach... been in no contact since January and still going strong. Although I have moments where I miss her dearly; and all that we shared for six years; I don't think I want to get back with her again.
Stay strong man I'll keep you in my prayers 🙏
Search the good character pious girl & forget the previous one,,
He broke up and moved on with another girl without telling i just found out that, then he said let's be friends. First week of NC
ghosting will sometimes be a big factor in them breaking up with you
No contact worked did mine for 45 days he started texting slowly slowly now his begging to see me unfortunately I lost my sister can’t see him for now .but his pleading
My feelings completely faded during no contact in 2 different situations, with 2 different men, and that was a very good thing.
Did they initiate it or you? How much did you like them prior to NC? How long were the relationships in relation to the NC?
I feel like the longer I don't contact him, the more I realize I need someone different.
No they don't I will always love my ex forever. Evan thou she did something wrong . I forgive her.
What if the relationship was great, but the break up was extremely bad?
That’s still better than if the relationship had been bad.
For my broken LDR she was so obsessed with me then she suddenly went i can't handle this anymore. Now after a little no contact I'm gonna call her and talk to her i know its gonna be harsh and iwould be open with the feelings but not in a needy way.
I feel better eversince I have been in contact. They should be the one to try to fix it not the dumpee. I chased this man for more than two years but 4 months ago I stopped and feel better. I deserve respect and love.
Even if he don't ever contact me, Ive been off for two days listening to your videos,, and it's helped me to change my mindset, it's helped with my depression. It's been 11 days and I would have contacted him by now,,, even when I told myself I never would because at one point I did beg,, anyway . My feelings haven't changed
What if I have already made the mistake of begging, crying and being hysterical in front of them? I have currently left the house and started No contact today. I hope I haven't destroyed my chances
Stay busy , get your mind off it the best way you can, don’t look at FB or IG or pictures or listen to songs . Build up that heart ❤️. Trust me , I’m going through things now , but I live with my ex , I have to move out by Feb 28 … Just do you and no rebound sex .
Someone I know became involved in a Long Distance Rebound and after several weeks he started complaining about the distance to her house from his via car as well as the time and the cost. Over a year ago he had a physical altercation with her ex and the ex's two grown sons and as a result is staying and spending more time at home as a result of his safety becoming an issue as well.
Kinda his fault tbh no sons want they're mother to disrespect they're father with sleeping with men other than they're father that's simply a fact
What about if we are in the same class and have mutual friends we’re going to see each other how do you do no contact
No break up formally with my bf im upset him so much no contact 2weeks then today i find out he have a new gf my heart broke into pieces i cnt believe its easy for him to give up on me
Two weeks into no contact and my ex misses me badly (hearing this from her sister). She is in a new relationship but she said (to her sister) that she doesn't want to break the guy's heart and hopes that he breaks her heart. Obviously, she is really happy with him and wants to do things with him (not sexually) but she's confused and uncertain. Her closest friends/family believe that this is temporary and she did say that she will come back so I'm just trying to focus on myself right now. Nothing bad on my end, if anything, I've done practically everything right to make her miss me. She was tempted to see me one day after work and to just wait around my car but didn't. There are more details but for now, I'll lay low and focus on myself.
It is not nice and very selfish of her to, in a meaning, playing with that guy's feelings even just for him "to break her heart". Sound bs to me, but yeah it's her life she chooses to do whatever she wants, I wish the best for you.
My ex broke witt me about 1 month ago, she told me that she was going to be a friend when I needed her. and 1 month of no contact I have spoken to her casually but she leer me on read. Should I write to her again in a few weeks or is it a clear sign that I should give up? she is a really good woman but the final part of the relationship became very cold
She’s getting her back blown out by new guy
So,,impotent men like you are the virus tor this universe,,,ur so called lover is a golddigger,,& u fool cheap men are always available for those golddigger...that's why those feminist, golddigger are not afraid or shameful of their work ,,because they know,,lots of impotent guys are always ready to accept them like the option...
A real men always be the first & last person for a good character woman.
Day 38 since the breakup and NC. Starting to lose hope 😢 He’s in a new city with a new job so I bet he has a lot of distractions. It was a 3 year relationship and he said he wanted “to focus on himself”. But He was getting emotionally distant for a while.