6 months of heartbreak, documented
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 25 ต.ค. 2024
- I documented my breakup/heartbreak and I wanted to share the healing process with you. I get messages every single day from girls asking me how I healed and moved on from my breakup, this video is for them and for anybody who is going through a hard time. You will grow from this I promise.
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To anyone dealing with a breakup right now I know how hard it is to feel so loved one day and never to feel it again the next. I'm going through so much right now. In desperation I am here watching this video.
Especially from the person that now pretends like they never even met you.
Me too
@@sai-yb6xn Cool profile picture.
@@dalmal13 thanks😊
@@sai-yb6xn You're welcome! 🙂
I like how she doesn’t once speak bad about him this is such a mature break up
facts i wish my breakup was similar to this one
Why did they break up tho
Why did they break up tho
Omg you take a person that records herself crying seriously 😢 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 you’re an idiot for giving these people more fame and clicks
@@albertolopez797 hiding behind there phone talking smack your a keyboard warrior 😭 you look musty btw
“You didn’t lose the right person. If they were the right person, they would always choose you”
The right person found me in 9.5 years and we are happy together, we were never together but he liked me while I was married. RIP to my ex husband
Except when each of you have to choose yourself...
That’s not true at all typical female advice comment
life and love isn’t that simple. sometimes we have to choose ourselves over the person we love because it’s the right thing to do.
No
Going through a break up is in a way grieving.. you “lost” a person so close to you and even if they’re still around they will never be as close as before. You will never see them the same.
I don't know you but I love you. My boyfriend broke up with me an hour ago and I am at my lowest but this video has brought me so much comfort, thank you sm.
we're here for you
@@pleco101 yes because im sobbing my eyes out what the fuck else am i supposed to do, go read a fucking book? im just sad and i wanna relate to someone else so badly dude. let us cope for just a minute
@@pleco101 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 👍
Also in my first hour now, I'm so physically sick and bawling
@@kcronk30hey there, I know things are probably rough for you right now and I'm sorry about that. I hope you will be able to heal properly from this and come out stronger❤
The random flashbacks are probably the worst thing about heart break. I love you pau🤍 I’ve been going through a breakup as well
i hope you go blind with sadness! literally blind! and for all of us, it wouldn't be a bad thing if you could also lose the ability to communicate. you are never going to find a person as good as the one you are crying about! thats the truth! you F'ed that one up and now you will die alone eating expired meat...in an apartment that smells like monkey shit! asshole!
So I’m not the only one 🥺
hey, same here. The pop at any time, anywhere, even if Im with people (which is the worst, couse I have to numb).
I trust in time, I hope with patience and meditation they will go away. I miss her so much, miss the moments.
yessss literally
I don't even pretend to hide it anymore. When those flashbacks come back I just let myself cry no matter where or with who I'm with. It eventually does get better, although you never forget.
Whoever’s reading this, i pray that whatever you’re going’s through gets better and whatever you’re struggling with or worrying bout is going to be fine and that everyone has a fantastic day! Amen
Amen! 🤍
amen ♥️
amen
Amen
amen 🙏🏽
I’m on week two of my break up. Things were fine between us, and he just woke up and said “I don’t want you anymore” said there’s nothing I did and there’s no other girl… it’s just he’s human and emotions change is all …now I have a fear of getting attached to anyone again because people wake up and break your heart just because. Did it right before my birthday too 🙃
Omg this is whats happening to me too, my birthday is next week and hes broken up with me 2 days before, its really hard for me to cope
@@sellinaxo I am dealing with a breakup today makes 1 month for us to be over. He broke up with me and told me I don't see any change at all. I cant wait on you forever and it crushed me and I'm still dealing with it.
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Is he a virgo virgo men are good for that
How are you doing now???
I am on month 3 of my breakup and this video helped me sooo much… I was on and off with my ex for the past 8 years and I genuinely lost myself as a person. I thank you so much for this video.
I’ve been on and off with mine for 6. He just left me. I love him so much. I still want to be with him.. how are you coping with losing someone so familiar
How are you feeling today and what did it take to heal?
@@alisha4869Alcohol is great after a break up
How you feel now
@@samanthaguzman51i’m going through something similar now, have you been able to heal and what has helped, i’m struggling so much
We just broke up a week ago. We were about to hit 2 years next month. I know I’ll be ok, eventually. And like people say time heals. But rn I am in that stage where I’m crying every night, and where I feel super alone. And I have great friends and family but I don’t want to drain them with my heartache. I cry and have to get myself together. I also just want to text and call him one last time, but I know I can’t. I’m so sad. Today I saw a video where he was saying how much he loved me and I just broke down. So now I’m here watching this to show me that I’m not the only one going through this.
Hi, how are you doing? I'm going through a similar situation
@@valeriaarboleda1324 hey me too. except i don't have anyone to talk to. and it's really hard
How you feel now ? Try heartbreak anonymous
@@ticoman12 surprisingly I’ve been feeling so much better! Here and there I catch myself missing him, but tbh not as much as I used to. I’ve been focusing on me and spending more and more time with family and friends. I realized that I have so much to be thankful for and to look forward to so I’ve been happy.
this is the REALITY of a breakup. and you’re so strong for sharing this journey because it’s not easy. i’m so proud of you pau you’ve shown us that self love is the most important thing before anything else. god is with you all times babe 🥺💗
thank you so much I appreciate you so much 😭❤️
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I’m crying with you right now watching this video. I’ve been with someone for 10 years, lived with each other for a year and a half and we ended up breaking up a month ago. I didn’t think I would be in the position I am. This first month is honestly so hard.
I'm on my first day of being out of a 10-year relationship. We live together for 8yrs
“Tears are words the heart can’t speak” it’s completely fine to let it all out 💕 give your heart a chance to speak and let it all out 💗
17:09 months after my break up, i had this exact moment too. i no longer yearned or wished for that person or relationship but becoming aware of this just sent a surge of heartache through my body & i couldn’t help but feel sad at this realization. it’s so weird, but i’m glad i’m not the only one who felt this. ❤️ thank you for your vulnerability Pau, i love you.
I hope that happens for me one day
@@fuzzympme too
going through a breakup right now, a nearly 5 year relationship that was mutually ended for the sake of the both of us and just.. i never related to a breakup video so much. i clicked on this because i was having a horrible mental breakdown and needed noise, but your video ended up calming me down and giving me a bit of peace. what you said about loving someone for who they are, the love not going away and wanting the best for them. losing yourself in the relationship and feeling completely lost the minute they were out of the picture. i feel that so intensely, and it’s true, ending things while still loving each other feels so much harder than ending things on bad terms. i know it’ll get easier with time, but i guess in this very moment, i feel weak and like my whole world keeps crashing down, but i’ll keep going. thank you so much for this video 💗
R u ok now. tell hw u got better. im facing this rite now. physical tremors whnever i think he s seeing someone else. cant get over this.
I felt this on another level, including the whole 5 yr relationship thing. Literally went thru the same thing, but I’m doing better now 🤍
why did u guys breakup ?
@@airakhan7979 its been a month since you commented this but i’m fully and completely over my ex, and i genuinely feel so relieved, happy and motivated. time truly does heal, and i hope things have gotten better for you as well 🤍
@@peepeepoopoo8498 the easiest way to put it is years of built up differences. we dated since high school so we started things when we were pretty young and naive, now being in our 20s, we realized our goals, wants and needs in life and for the future were completely different, and that it was finally time to let things go. the healing process was a bit rough but i can safely say i’m fully over it now and extremely excited to see where the future takes me :)
Your words of affirmation to yourself is so inspiring, in the weakest moments you still managed to talk about the self growth you will achieve and you did exactly that. Breakups are so hard and causes a lot of healing. I’m proud of you for showing vulnerableness with your supporters who look up to you as I do. This shows how much you can become better with a lot of time to allow yourself to heal and become dependent on your own. Thank you so much for this video you had me crying with you 😭😭❤️❤️
people who say shit like that, should be shaved, sterilized, and left on an island
here today because we ended our relationship of two years and three months two days ago and i’m absolutely shattered. he was my bestest friend. we’ve lived together for a year and i don’t even know where to begin. i found this video and am sobbing with you.
how are you now?
I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years in October because there was no spark and we only held on because that’s all we knew since we got together at a young age. It’s been hard but watching this really helped me. I’m still struggling a bit but your affirmations really does inspire me to keep going and to heal. Much love beautiful, wishing you the best. 💗
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Hi I just recently broke up with my boyfriend a couple days ago for the same reason. Can you give me an advice on how to avoid reaching out to him?
@@chryssa5775 It's just a couple of hundred pounds of replaceable meat, get over it!
@@GgByAngel no
@@chrisiendo Yes.
This makes me feel not alone. This makes me feel like I can indeed heal. Thanks a lot man you have no idea how much this helped me!
i wanna give her the biggest hug bro, currently going through a break up and this is exactly how i feel.
this took me back to my breakup, a lot of feelings i forgot i went thru but i’m so happy with everything i’ve learned even with some setbacks. acknowledging the pain i felt back then still motivates me to grow today and for that i’m weirdly thankful for my breakup even tho it hurt a lot. although i consider myself over it, there’s randomly days where i’ll look back and instead of feeling hurt because it’s gone, i’m just happy it happened and i was able to experience it. i never thought i’d get to that point and i remember praying and begging God to get me there. but it takes time and i’m so grateful this yt showed me where i was 2 years ago and how i did in fact get to a point in my life that i prayed for.
thank you for being so vulnerable with us pau 🤍
and keep going,i am proud of you,how far you’ve come keep praying to God and make a relationship with him and let him take full control of everything,give it all to him!!💗💗
Your transparency inspires others
You become what you think so think positive and attract positive vibes.
👍👍👍
Good work
HA! HAHAHA! Yall live in a fantasy world. I wonder how the people dying and freezing to death in Ukraine right now would think about this "inspiration"
Grow tf up
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I LOVE YOU PAU! literally broke up with my boyfriend june of this year. It was the worst breakup ever. I would cry randomly and lost my appetite. It got better but i still got a lot to go. I’m so happy you decided to post this because it gave me so much motivation. we all love you 💕
I LOVE YOU TOO! i’m glad that you’re doing better, and you will continue to get better and better every single day love im proud of you💗💗
😢 yes I was going through it for literally a year . Watching all her videos really helped me out as well ❤ Hope you’re doing better babe . We love you Pau ✨
worst break up ever? lmfao little broad, you're not ever 23 yet. help your mommy clean the house
what about tomatoes have you considered them as a solution
Crab hoes tryna find a better shell. 😂 FUCK all YOU CUNTS
The part about flashbacks, my friend told me to get rid of all things that remind me of him and I cried because even my reflection in the mirror reminded me of him, every activity, even taking a selfie reminded me of him. It wasn't the physical things around me as much as the normal daily activities we did together. I'm only 2 weeks into no contact since I cut contact the first time to ask him if we can try again and he said he's already with someone new within a week of the breakup.
Same here we were getting engaged this month And he just ended it through text he just told me he it's not worthy planning anything with me....i asked why just to tell he had already another gf meaning he was cheating...I don't understand why he was begging me to love him then åll of a sudden he changed...3days now am getting better but yesterday I could not wake up spend the whole day in bed... today i woke in the morning with so much energy and I have lost the feelings i had for him.
@@Lorah340 It will be so much pain and takes a while but you will get better eventually. I'm sorry he did this to you, he's right he's not worthy of anything from you. I'm 17 days in no-contact and I'm keeping count to keep track of when i fail and reach out or do something that sets me back, keeping track also helped me notice that there's a pattern with the number of days thanks to me failing and restarting the count I was able to notice the similarity between each day the second time. Hopefully I reach a point where I don't even feel enough feelings to need to journal it.
@@Lorah340 are you doing well? Hope you okay
I’m on week one right now and as much as I got rid of all the physical memories everything mentally reminds me of him even if it has nothing to do with him it’s like he was my best friend and I feel so alone when I can’t come to him to tell him what’s going on with me or even just talk in general. It makes me feel very upset. I feel so alone
@@ashleyguzman3692trust me baby i feel the EXACT same way. But for me it’s been 3 weeks and it’s been the hardest weeks of my life and I also have to see him every day because of school, know that you are not alone and trust urself, we are bother stronger and better than this and you know it! Let your self feel everything cry and let it out, but one of the biggest parts of healing it compromise. Cry as much as you want, but never ever stop living your life, take every chance to go out, make plans, even if it feels forced trust after a night out it can even make a small difference and you’ll realize it over time. Keep your head on the right path, and keep doing what you love and surrounding urself with people that care for you, and trust me everything will pass. Know that people have been through worse and they made it out even stronger and loving them selves even more. Everyhting happens for a reason. Trust me. And trust the millions of people who have went through the same thing as you.
Girl i was crying throughout this whole video 😭 but we are literally the same, I still suppress my emotions so much that it literally makes it 10x worse and then I breakdown so bad when I finally let it out & when you said you isolate yourself when you go through things I felt that because I don’t know how to explain my feelings 😢 thank you for making this video ❤️ it showed me that’s it’s okay to ask for help and not going through things alone
it’s been 4 months since I broke up with my bf and it has been so hard, lately I’ve been missing him so so much it’s been affecting my mood towards others and ruins my day. I’ve cried almost everyday since the break up and this has honestly helped me see the light at the end of the tunnel because everything you’ve said I relate to. I just hope to grow and find love in myself in order to maybe one day come back together with him when we’re both strong and ready
how are you feeling now ml ❤️ In 3 days it will be 8 months since my ex and i broke up, I’m still sad and feel so lonely sometimes and miss him occasionally. but compared to the first few months i am so much better. I hope you’re feeling better today🥰🥰
@@talisa101how are you?
When she said ‘Am learning to be my own safety net because I’ve never had that before, I’ve never looked within myself, I’ve always looked within others.’
I felt that because I always looked for the help of others and depended on people instead of myself, it’s so damaging to depend on someone for safety, support, and happiness. It’s important to know that you always have yourself. It’s good to give yourself those things and not depend on others for that. It’s hard am not gonna lie, but it’s one of the best things in the world
I’m not even going through a breakup and I feel your pain. Started crying at 5 min. I'm happy for your accomplishments 💕
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Oh my goodness this was the exact video I needed to watch. We broke up recently, he needed to work on himself and I needed to learn to love myself. It’s still so fresh and hurts a lot, but seeing this video has given me some peace of mind. I know deep down in my heart this is what is best for the both of us, and I will always love him as a person. Thank you for sharing this.
Are you feeling better???
@@surbhigupta503 after two months, things have gotten better. There have been ups and downs, but overall I believe I am heading in the right direction. Thank you for asking :)
@@fiolopresti6239 hey... I know this will sound weird.... But can please connect
@@fiolopresti6239 it's been almost a month.... And I am going through the same things right now
@@fiolopresti6239 I know it sounds weird maybe... But can we connect
to everyone experiencing a break up, one day you will see the light and find your spark again !! ♡︎ i'm rooting for your healing. if you're wondering if the day where it no longer hurt would ever come ... yes, it will. ☻
it's okay to feel these feelings. i'm currently getting over a breakup as well, some days are harder than others but i get through them. look how far you've come! you're doing great mama. i love you so much pau! 💗💗
Me too :( 4 years together nd all of a sudden he chooses to ghost me
thank you! i love you more and i’m so proud of you!🥹🫶🏻 wishing you so much healing
@@paulina.torres this video helped me realize so much. thank you.💗
My girlfriend broke up with me 2 months ago and she left without even saying anything. We made so many plans together and I felt like a part of myself got ripped away. I find myself missing not only her love but her friendship. I love you Pau, and you are such an inspiration. Ánimo Pau, you are a strong beautiful women and I’m proud of how far you’ve came ❤️
“Thankfully I haven’t felt like that for a fork…cause he liked strawberries.” Aww pau I wish I could have just hugged you throughout that whole journey. You’re so inspirational and raw. We love an honest queen. I dealt with my first heartbreak 5 years ago and I got so emotional watching this because old me was able to relate to you. And now healthier me is so proud of your growth and glow. Praying that Diosito upstairs te da todo lo que te mereces. Thank you for being so genuine and real. 🤍🥹
thank you so much for the love🥺🥺 i’m happy to hear that you’re in a much better place now, that really inspires me and makes me even more excited for the future! God bless you ❤️
@@paulina.torres AHHHH I LOVE YOU!! 🥹🥹
And of course. I’m in a healthier relationship now and have my own little family now. Trust me when I say things get better. You’re doing an amazing job. You’re already becoming such an amazing woman every day. Can’t wait to see what the future has in store for you. And omg you were at Disneyland in one of your vlogs and you hung out with my cousin Jocelyn and her boyfriend. Such a small world. Super random I know lol.
But sending you so many hugs! 🤍🤍
Well if she ever gets lonely I would definitely Drive the wood all the way and serve her some long hard sexy top notch dirty filthy perverted depraved man hammer hit me up sweetie
Wtf wow I didn't realize that I wasn't sending that message to the girl in the video. Everything was meant for her not whoever ended up getting my text sorry the offer was only good for her have a nice day I mean have a good day with regards Iron sheiki
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You made me cry so much. People need to see this. Seeing you vulnerable makes it more real
I had a breakup around the same time as you Pau and lemme tell you that you’ve helped me get through it frfr ❤️ thank you so much for being yourself, sending you so much love girl 🫶🏼💋
i’m really happy to hear that 🥹 thank you beautiful! sending you love and blessings🫶🏻
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i wish i could send this to him im in so much pain and it hurts to exist knowing a person i will always love exists and it’s just simply not meant to be. you’re so amazing for sharing this, i will randomly cry or feel sick to my stomach and we’ve only been apart for two weeks i cannot imagine the pain in a month, or two, or three. I will drive aimlessly crying wishing i could go see him but i know better and that’s what hurts:( thank you sm
I also had a pretty mature breakup a few weeks ago and it’s been really hard, your experience is almost identical to mine and watching this makes me feel better
How are things now ??
This is so raw and real. Thank you sm much for sharing this part of your journey girl 🥺
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@@chrismorgan2800 why so mad 😂😂😂😂
Wow I'm so lucky to have stumbled over this video today. My breakup happened almost a year ago and these past few days I have been thinking about what was and what I've learned during this year. Today I realized that I feel pain because I don't feel pain - kinda like what you said. When you've been really attached to and in love with someone, it is hard to let it go. And when you finally do let it go, it hurts because you're so used to missing that person that now it feels like you've lost a part of yourself - the part that was grieving. It helped me to hear how you have felt kinda the same, because for me it was hard to put this feeling into words for quite a long time. wishing you all the best
the way how you let yourself cry and didn’t hold anything back 🥺. i’ve been through this before and that’s exactly how i was, in the end things get better. it takes time to find yourself and get yourself back and it’s such a beautiful journey. it’s a wild ride of tears and memories but it gets better at the end i promise ❤. my love im so proud of you for everything you’ve done and the many more things you will do ✨.
IM CRYINGGG, it’s so hard losing a person who was like your security blanket and was “ home “ . Learning how to breathe by yourself , me and my ex broke up in June and to this day it still hurts , I think when the breakup ends bad it’s “ easier “ in a way to move on because it’s like yk you don’t deserve it , when it’s mutual it’s harder because there’s nth to be mad abt , I hope you heal and keep growing , we all should .
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
@Mark Reeves Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
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how are you now bro? i want to feel better, will i feel better again?
The things you were saying brought me back to my break up or the little break we had. I had lost my appetite, I couldn’t get out of bed, and he truly is and was the boy who showed me that there’s good men out there and that love is real and that love isn’t just a little feeling u have it’s something so strong something that can change your whole perspective abt things. Love you pau I hope you’re better 💗.
“It’s okay to be alone but it’s not okay to isolate yourself” well said honestly
I got out of a relationship of almost 2 years but was in love with that man since the first time I met him. After the breakup I would fall asleep crying, wake up crying, drive crying, taking breaks at work to cry. Yes, it’s ok to let everything out, it’s better doing it sooner than sucking it up and have a bigger breakdown later, but don’t let that eat up your mind, that is not healthy. I lost like 15lbs in one week, my anxiety and epilepsy got worse. Please, don’t forget you’re more important than anything else, don’t forget about yourself, don’t forget about the people around you that loves you, and don’t forget about your dreams. It feels like dying yes, but that’s not the end.
This proves that Paulina also had a hard time a lot of people thought she was out partying.. I love pau and Fabio and this proves they both went through it. Glad to see you guys happy I love you guys ❤️
I love that you spoke positive to yourself when you cry, especially out loud to yourself. I have been crying and allowing myself to drown in my thoughts, thinking its my fault and I should've never left my ex. I started talking positively out loud, and I still cry as hard, but I walk away feeling so much better and hopeful about my situation
i’m going through a break up right now, and it’s one of the hardest things i’ve ever been through. i know i’m young, but i honestly truly believed that what we had was real. what hurt most was how sudden the breakup was. we had gone through many arguments over the littlest things before, but i actually thought that we could both be better. but knowing that one day i’ll look back and smile at all of the memories, instead of crying makes me feel so much better but .. sad at the same time? i’m having lots of the “what ifs” rn, which is not healthy at all, and i know that but idk, but thank you for posting this. you have no idea how helpful this was 💗
I broke up around the same time as you and I really love this, thank you for opening up it made me feel so much better. It’s been really hard on me, and even though it’s been some time I still have a lot of breakdowns. This gave me hope for the things to come. Thank you so much Pau 💕
You are so strong pau, I’ve been in a relationship of 3 years almost 4 in march, and I feel like I need a break, but it’s hard you know? I can’t see myself without this person, and just like you said, being in a relationship so young, and going into adulthood makes you feel so lost, like you don’t know who you are. I feel like this video has given me more clarity to take a stand and start advocating for myself and health. It’s been amazing seeing you grow as a person, I feel like you’ve been my friend all these years, in the highs and lows in my relationship.
Omg girl I’m in the same situation but I can’t leave it’s so hard
Ah hell nah y’all better tell your boyfriends
I was dating a girl for 2 year it's been 1 year since the break up its going to me 2 years this July coming up I'm still crying and in still healing I miss her but I guess I wasn't enough for her 💔😔
i just broke up with my boyfriend of 2 and a half years and it’s so true i just feel so lost.
As a guy its our job if we love each other to wait for the girl we really love. Loving someone gets tiring and mentally draining. If you’re meant to be for each other then it will be. Taking breaks doesn’t mean you have to end things but taking time for your own personal time and well being. You can keep that person and have your own time as long as you both agree to this. True love is in 2 not 1 . If he wants you he will wait.
Pau you’re so strong, I mean 3 yrs is a lot and honestly the breakup definitely happened for a reason because I feel like you fully found yourself after
thank you paulina,
I’m currently going through a five year relationship breakup. This has been the hardest thing i’ve ever had to experience. And i just beat thyroid cancer late last year.
I also don’t have a secure girl friend group that i can go to, and it’s been really hard. I feel so alone. But it really makes it comforting to watch a fellow latina queen going through the same thing, and being honest about how you’re feeling. It’s beautiful.
Thank you for being MY beautiful latina queen whose video i went to during my breakup.
Almost 10 months ago this video was made and I’m really hoping everyone reading this has grown from their healing process❤ you are loved, you are cared, and you are appreciated, God hears you 🙏
I’m gonna be raw and honest I started sobbing with this and I think it’s those suppressed feelings. I’ve been telling myself I don’t care or am not affected, but how could I not when it was 7 years of my life. This honestly did really help me open my eyes and heart and I’m really not just saying that. Thank you Pau heal well 🤍
literally. Everything she said i fucking sobbed my eyes out. Because i relate so bloody much. Breakups are the hardest things i think. Gut wrenching. I literally feel so nauseous watching this.
I'm touched... Honestly I experienced such. Almost made me loose focus at work..
i feel the same exact way i’m crying so much i had to leave my boyfriend of 2 years because we’re just not healthy together man and i just wish things coukdnt worked out he was my other half but i have to let go
I’m praying for whoever is going through a breakup right now don’t give up it always gets better I love how you’re so raw with the video ❤😢
Going through it rn after months of being on and off in the relationship. It was the hardest thing to say goodbye and the worst part for me is the emotional connection/attachment since I’ve only had him as a close person. I believe in myself but things are so heavy, it’s consuming me completely. Your perspective is so relatable and you are so kind. I am glad at least I found this video 🩷
Thank you so much for putting yourself out there to help others, I'm one of them.
I’m in such a dark place right now. Watching this i couldnt stop bawling. It really made me feel less alone. 😢
You are helping me so much through my recent breakup. The reality of someone who doesn’t have a ton of friends to go out with but be by yourself and realize that I have to have my own back and interests as well. I genuinely thank you for this and helping me in my healing journey❤️❤️ I’m proud of your journey
I watched this video two weeks ago on the dot wondering when I would get to the point you did at the end and crying all day everyday wanting things to be different. I woke up this morning in peace and feeling that way about it made me sad. Bc a part of me wanted to stay in the heartbreak bc it kept us connected and i didnt wanna let go. I rly didnt want to be in peace without him, i wanted to be in peace with him. I fully understand what you meant now and resonate with it and wow….. tysm for sharing this.
Omg girl you have helped me SOOOO MUCH. I’m so grateful for kind people like you to share something that is so vulnerable. You are an amazing person and I wish the absolute best for you.
This video doesn’t have enough recognition…. So well spoken, even through the emotions
I literally love you pau . This is the most real video ever. I’m so proud of you because this is never easy and sometimes it’s a decision you have to force yourself to do because you know you don’t have a choice anymore.especially when the relationship is all you ever known and made so many future plans ,the comfort of having that person blinds you into avoiding what you really need to do for yourself especially when your afraid of change.It’s never easy and it takes a while to finally pick yourself up and leave cause people can only say so much to you but only you know when it’s your time and only you know when you ready to walk away! Your are such a strong girl and I hope your filled with all the self love queen 💕.
the idea of not feeling worthy of love really hit me, especially when you are not truly content with yourself. Thank you sm for sharing! 💕
Pau i am almost 2 years into healing from a 4 year relationship. I agree leaving while still loving the person is so hard and you are doing amazing your healing is beautiful and amazing. I am still healing but you will get to the point where you’re healing more about your past trauma. You just have to get over the loneliness part. Thank you for being so raw with us and allowing us to view this side of you. I am incredibly proud of you and who you have become the past few months. I pray you overcome all this past trauma and loneliness soon. I relate to you so much because we were in the same place at one point.
It's pretty brave to share one's pain publicly, especially for the benefit of others. I'm glad to see most of the comments are supportive.
April of 2022 I went through the worst heartbreak (and probably the only true heartbreak) of my life, it has been such a journey since then and some days are still hard but I'm doing so much better. I am a firm believer in "time heals all wounds"
Pau, I was in a relationship for 9 years. We just broke up in September. I know exactly what you mean about deserving more love in friendships. Not always isolating yourself, and giving yourself the chance to feel love elsewhere. Also knowing to love yourself all over again, after having lived life with a person you loved for so long. I also get random flashbacks of the most wonderful memories. A small thing like sitting down on our old couch that we sat together in, makes me burst out into tears. I understand you, I see you. I’m still working on my emotions and still working on myself, but I know I’m going to to be ok. You’re amazing and I live on my own too, and I understand the struggles of feeling loneliness especially rn at 24. I know that I’m young and even though I want to go back to him sometimes, growing and living my life is what brings me peace. when my friends are talking about their partners and how in love and wonderful everything is, it makes me miss what I once had too and it makes you think what if. But what I once had was beautiful & I know I can have something beautiful again. I am going on a journey of loving myself currently and it’s the most painful and meaningful one. Thank you for sharing boo💜💜 thank you for making me feel validated in this video too💜 life is scary, but we’re doing it!!
Well why did you break up ? 9 years just down the drain. I would never invest that much time on a person just to break up . That suckssss
@@valeriemarley that’s so insensitive to say. You never know what someone is going through. Especially in a relationship.
@@VereZG I’m in a 6 year relationship so far and I can’t imagine just throwing all that away. As long as nobody cheats, you can always work through any issue. Just means that only one of them wanted that and not the other person.
@@valeriemarley girl stfu up you insensitive a$s b!tch you don't even know what fcking happened, everything happens for a reason.
@@drea4946 lol why are you so mad
You are helping so many woman’s and younger girls go thru it by posting this. It takes a lot to think do i post or not. But you did! Ur amazing. Never change.
“When you know they are a good person but you can’t be with them”
That’s what I’m going through:( we care for each other so much but we are in different places in life.. that makes it so much harder to say goodbye💔 we ended things today… crying on my bathroom floor currently.
feeling better?
Same thing happened with me...
Almost at the same time
I was married 14 years in the Lord and the only true person I really loved in life truly and now divorced. It’s been very tragic. I tell you this a lot of people who get divorced people brush them off and with kids they have nothing to do with you. I’ve been severely depressed and very lonely and feel like I’ll never love and live again. I pray you find someone else better and to find the right person. ❤❤❤❤❤
i needed this so much... cried with you most of the video. related with everything you said... i havent been with him for 8 months now and it still hurts. thank you for this. i love you girl
girl i felt that!! i left my 5 year relationship this year and man has it been a tripppp. I also went from crying every day but I realized I had to go through all those emotions because I am finally feeling peace and happiness in my life. I know I still have more growth left but I definitely still get that loneliness feeling. Thank you so much for making this video pau
Paulina, you are stronger than you think! Im not super religious but a true believer of this saying, God wouldn’t put you through anything you wouldn’t be able to handle. To anyone who needs to hear this, trust me it does get better. All those sad days will lead you to your happy days. ❤️
honestly seeing her cry made me almost cry i feel soo bad , but pau uu are soo strong .❤️ uu inspired me a lot
girl thank you so much you have no idea how amazing, beautiful and strong you are and i am so thankful that you allowed yourself to be vulnerable on here because you have helped me so much i am going through a breakup with someone that i have known and been with for over 10 years so hearing the kind words you are speaking to yourself is really giving me the strength to do the same i can’t thank you enough ❤
I'm here preparing myself to let him go. I've been in this relationship for 10 years (minus the 100 times he broke up with me), being verbally abused almost every single day. Regardless of the abuse and pain I've endured, the many times he's given me his back, my stupid heart won't let him go. Maybe I'm just afraid of never finding love again because I'm 33 already, I'm not that young anymore.
He planted the idea in my head that after him, good luck finding a good man who takes me seriously and truly loves me for who I am. 💔
You may not find the right person ever and that s fine. But you won’t be able to avoid a flow of men continuously coming to you life :) - I’m almost 42.
My dear you will find love again for sure , that too way much better than him for sure
@IhuomaChinonso where can I find his help ?
I was going through a very hard breakup a couple years ago to where I felt exactly how you felt. The grief you feel is real, you lose someone who meant the world to you and feel as if you will never be okay again. I also found someone on TH-cam who documented her breakup and it made me realize how so many other go through this exact feeling and they overcome it. It just doesn’t feel like it in the moment but it did get better after a few months. Thank you for showing this side of you and I’m happy you are doing better. You deserve it
Hey pau, i love that you made this video! I remember I was in a 2 year relationship where I put my everything into this person and I was cheated on multiple times and when I found out my entire world was falling apart. This person (girl) would also belittle me and make me feel as if I didn’t deserve love from others and how I wasn’t pretty enough to ever be in a relationship. Looking back at it I know what she was all out of spite and overall her trying to hurt me. At that point in my life I was in a different city 2hrs away from home with no car so I couldn’t be around family or friends so my feelings were messing up with my brain and I tried to overdose. It was honestly such a dark time in my life but I was able to overcome it all by watching videos similar to this one. I learned that journaling and doing things that bring peace and healing into your life is way better than dwelling on something you can no longer control or fix. Overall I was able to pick myself up, thankfully I failed at my overdosing attempt and I’m still here today! Now, 3 years later I have a boyfriend who I’ve been with for almost 2 years and I’m happy and know my own self worth and I’m able to bring greatness to my new relationship.
I love your videos and I appreciate the rawness in all your content! I bought the shirt on your shop because it resonated with me a lot ! I actually once made a shirt for myself that was pretty similar! So yours was truly something I HAD to have in my closet! Thank you for everything Paulina! I appreciate you ❤
omg🥺🥺 im sorry you had to go through that, i know it made you so much stronger though, i’m so happy to hear that you are doing so much better now and i’m so glad you are still here❤️ thank you for all the love and support beautiful i wish you the best in life and i appreciate you sooo much more than you know!!🫶🏻
Im so happy to hear this bebe. Im glad you found happiness within yourself and a partner who can love you correctly. 💗
Awe 🥺 can definitely see how much happier you’ve been lately! We love you Pau 💞 you’re strong af.
I saved this video 7 months ago thinking me and my ex would never break up but here we are it's been such a hard time and yes it's lonely. It's been hard not to reach out but I know it's better for the both of us. I hope he's doing better.
It's so hard when everything you do reminds you of them. Literally making food reminds me
you did so good with soaking in with your emotions! girl i give you props a lot of people suppress their emotions you accepted that you were sad and talked about it ❤ you’re strong
The way I would start crying with you because I’ve felt this way before… you’re so strong Pau 🥺 thank you for sharing this with us🫶🏽
Oh pau I cried during this whole documentary:’(I'm grateful that you shared this documentary with us, I know it's a very sensitive subject, but it's okay, pau. We're all here for you, and we will always love you. I'm so proud of you. It's always important to love yourself before loving someone else, and I really hope you find peace and happiness in your life you deserve that and much more I love you pau❤
thank you so much! i’m glad i shared it too, it is hard being so vulnerable but at the end of the day i dont want to ever give hateful people the power to stop me from opening my heart and helping others along the way. thank you so much for your love and support 🥹❤️
@@paulina.torres Omg Paulina I was hoping you would read my comment made you made my night! And you are so strong I watched you for a long time and take all the time you need to heal you are beautiful and independent woman but the power you hold is unstoppable, you’re seriously like a role model not just to me but for millions of people who watch you I hope you know you aren’t alone WE LOVE AND ADORE YOU SO MUCHHH & MERRY CHRISTMAS I hope you spend it with your loved ones💗
@@paulina.torres and I’m glad you shared this journey with all of us it truly touched my heart and we learned that we aren’t alone even if our world is falling apart we always have to keep pushing hard for ourself so thank you pau
Heartbreak is painful.. but we never realize that this pain makes us even stronger ❤️
dang girl had me crying 🥺 happy for you and your process
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One thing I love about you Pau is that you’re so wise inside. Even through the surfacing of old traumas and heartbreak, you have a self healing soul. You’re absolutely an inspiration❤️
I don’t think I’ve ever cried so much watching a video where I can place myself in the “same position”… I recently got out of a 2 year relationship it was mutual agreement to let each other achieve multiple things…it hurts that I had so much love and now it feels lonely and idk how to open up or even share my feelings it hurts but maybe taken advice might work but I need to start with self love…🙏🏻
Losing someone you love, for whatever reason, can feel like you’re dying. I am fortunate to have loved. I am fortunate to have felt so deeply.
I was attached. Super attached. And no matter how much they hurt you, u allow them back.
I love this video so much. I also went through a breakup & we recently went through no contact this September & he got a girlfriend so quick. It was the worst feeling. I decided therapy was the way to go. Therapy changed my life and made me realize this is a battle between myself & my self love journey. Once you learn to love yourself you start healing and it’s definitely a rollercoaster but you have a better understanding on why you feel the way you do & how to cope with it. I love watching your videos you’re such an open and real influencer pau 🥺🖤 we got this!
I love all the affirmations said throughout your healing. I believe that’s a really good way to keep reassuring yourself that you’ll be okay. ❤
“my heart really felt safe with him,but i’m learning to feel safe with myself” omggg pau took the words right out of my heart♥️ i love you and i love how you allow yourself to feel, it gets better i promise.
Your video is helping me so much. Especially when you said “we weren’t the best partner the other person needed” going through this exact thing right now. It’s so hard when it’s mutual 😢 it’s only been a month since we ended it after 3 years idk how to let go.
Also I hate those flashbacks, keeps coming here and there. And I start to cry
Seeing you this vulnerable especially this part 4:19 made me cry 😢 I’m so proud how far you’ve came and put yourself first to find yourself. I think you’re amazing, strong, and beautiful. Thank you for advocating for self-care, I know for sure it helped me a lot.❤Thank you for helping me to love myself ❤
i can’t believe it been 6 months🥺 but i’m so proud of you pau fr
I got out of a 2 almost 3 year relationship in November and man i relate with the rollercoaster of emotions. They come in waves but every day I love myself more because I know better things are coming. I will continue feeling my emotions and learn from them to love myself rather than be hard on myself. Thank you Pau for being raw and vulnerable, it helps validate the way i feel right now is normal and it shall pass. ❤️🙏🏼
Currently going through a break up as well. :) I'm hoping that one day it won't feel as heavy as what I'm feeling right now.
You're brave.
1 month later, I can say that I'm finally getting better. It really does get better.
@@ddalgidalhey, how are you doing now? Happy for u btw:)
@@mahtabn.b5230 Hey! Thank you ♡︎ I'm working and focusing on my growth as an individual-regaining pieces of myself that I lost when we ended. I still get random relapses from time to time but it doesn't consume me as much. I also try to remind myself every time that it's fine to still feel shit sometimes and to just trust the process. :)
@@sellinaxo hello! ♡︎ i feel a thousand times waaaay better than the day i commented here !! i shifted my focus on my growth as a person and of course, uni. ㅠㅠ as of now, i'm just really enjoying my time and trying to find joy in the simplest things in life
@@sellinaxothank you, love !! ♡︎ of course you can do it too. but until then, please don't put too much pressure on yourself. it takes time. hugs with consent !!