My sisters and I were always treated like a burden. I spent all my childhood and teenage years trapped in a tiny house under my parents control. We were only allowed to leave the house to go to school. Luckily my parents finally decided to leave the country and migrate to New Zealand. The first few weeks they treated us even worse because they were worried we would be “westrenised” and become “whores”. But it backfired on them because that what gave me the courage to break free and leave them. I studied, got my bachelors degree and started my career. Met an amazing man and got married and we have a beautiful daughter. I didn’t bother teaching her Arabic, I don’t want her to end up with any man from misogynistic culture. I’m atheist and raising my daughter with no religion bs. I’m giving her the life I’ve never had. I’ve been free for 21 years now and to this day I still have nightmares finding myself back in Iraq.
Your story is so sad. Bless you A loss to the Muslim community, and a loss to the NZ community. You could have became a lawyer and represent Muslim women in the local court. Get custody judgments for women.
This courageous young woman didn't just break the cycles of violence, fear and abuse. She put her family into a strong new cycle of love, kindness, acceptance and equality. I am so proud of her!
Nur Frauen können das. Ohne uns würden Männer noch in ihren Steinzeithöhlen hocken und wetteifern, wer der Stärkste ist, weil sie keine Ahnung haben, wieviel ein Leben eine Frau kostet!
I am very proud of Ellaf achievements and the fact that she was bold enough to walk away and cut people off. When people silence and shame you, you have to not care and walk away. Women who have been controlled, need to see and navigate their own paths. Because we have had the toxicity destroy us
Amazing story . I have read the life stories of several Muslim woman and this is typiical of the lives they are forced to live so multiply this by millions . Unfortunately few escape , and many are killed for these hideous males . What a victory this woman has achieved , so brave , she deserves an award for her resilience and strength may God continue to bless her . 😢
I’m Australian born, taken to Pakistan and married to my then 22 year old cousin,,, dad left me there untill I turned 18 and could apply for a visa for my husband. I had my daughter at 19 and ran to the nearest police station just before she turned 1 . Thankgod I was in Australia and Australian. Parents too my exes side becuase men can do no wrong ….. I have been remarried to a non Muslim, left Islam , my daughter is now 15 and I have a son with my current husband. I owe everything I have to australia and for helping my daughter and I. Now that she is 15 , I could never imagine forcing marriage or forcing anything on her for that matter. Listening to these women brings back memories,,, but not bag ones… just memories that it happened…. Once ur happy… things start to fade.
Wow! So happy you got away. If you’re interested in telling your story on here you can use the link in our about section to apply! ❤️🙏thanks for sharing
Im from pakistan as well and im still in such marraige and i feel traped here , i also had an Australian PR but its expired now, im planning an escape as well but i dont know how will i ? Will the local police in pakistan will help me or do i have to contact the embassy? Also i have two girls and they dont have any PR . Please if anyone can help me i would highly appreciate
@uzmakhurshid845 I feel so awful for you,. I have no idea how to help you but I will if maybe this channel can advise us. I am sure there are many more people on here who want to help but just don't know how. Anyone?Any suggestions?
@@hydratejsn, cultural trauma and trauma culture are real things. It’s sort of a feedback loop. People are traumatized and thus whatever way they learned to cope/survive, good or bad, becomes what they teach their children. A real common one is teaching kids to be tough. Some people take this too far unintentionally and traumatize their kids, even if the kids aren’t living during the same war/disaster/oppression that traumatized the parents. Whole communities feed into this loop, sometimes on purpose trying to help and also sometimes because they never learned a more healthy way to cope while they were on the run or whatever they had to do.
@@tburke3454 then they defend their violent, hideous culture! Worse still it’s politically incorrect to talk about it in the west. I got shut down many times by being told there are western men who abuse too! Imagine the refusal to accept that there are societies raising misogynists! 😡
it's shocking and sad to think that nurses in the USA did not ask a 15 year old girl if she was safe, and did she want help to escape a potentially dangerous situation.
We have teen moms in the West though. They prob acted like she was a regular teenmom with a boyfriend that is now having her first child at a younger age. And because she was in such a high control situation... if askec if she was ok I'm sure she would've lied.
Wake up, lady. YOU have teen pregnancy in the USA. You don’t even have an age limit for marrying is something states . And the age of Consent is very low IN THE USA. Fix this before being shocked
This is why assimilation needs to be required. We should not tolerate enclaves where cultural abuse that violates our laws is overlooked as if its acceptable because its not. Infuriating. Glad that lunatic self deported to a place he belongs.
I'm a proud father of a young adult woman, all I have to say that her father did not deserved her. This young lady is smart, fierce, and amazing. I love her story.
Don’t these men realize that it’s THEM not the woman who decides the gender?? That’s something that has always made me so mad, along with lots of other things, that the woman is always blamed for having a girl. The whole thing is ridiculous.
She's been through so much darkness yet still manages to be full of so much light. She's such a strong and beautiful person. Praying for more blessings upon her and her children. ❤
This interview was such a roller coaster of emotions. Right up to “he moved back to a war torn country bc he couldn’t beat me”. Wow. What a beautiful, thriving survivor. Her boys are correct, she is a queen! 👑🖤
I just want to acknowledge that being traumatized during childbirth hits so much harder and I’m so sorry that she had to go through that alone. She should’ve never had to go through that.
I'm very lucky to have no birth trauma with my 3 children but I cannot even imagine having trauma during your most vulnerable moment, I am sending love to anyone who has been through that xx
Yes I developed septic shock from my c-section fever 104-105 for days 😢 but it does interfere in that initial bond between mother & child so you do have to work harder at it.
At 53:53 a very crucial moment in this interview. (Is anyone going to ask the source of evil in those men from that part of the world?!?!?)🤔🤨🧐 Well, it is obvious to me. Dahhh!
No one should...just saw a documentary about an African village that is all women...no men allowed. Made up of everyone one of them coming from very, very abusive marriages! One said it felt good to go to sleep and not be afraid..how sad, how horrible!
@@anymjohnson1729 but in your case you get some people who are lacking in values or are cruel. In their case it’s how they raise and shape males. It is common attitude.
@@flutralena3135 the more of us who speak, the easier it becomes for others to speak. I started saying this in the early 80s and the difference between then and now is promising. We still have far to go, but we’re getting there.
@@flutralena3135 Very true, thanks to Social Media! (share with you network) . . . *Sahih al-Bukhari vol 5 bk 58:236* “Allah's Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) married Aisha when she was 6 years old, and _consummated_ when she was 9” *Qur'an 65:1, 4* "When divorcing women, know their waiting period. For women past the age of menstruation, their waiting period is 3 months - and those who have _NOT_ menstruated yet as well." *Sahih al-Bukhari vol 7 book 62 number 64:* “Allah's Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) married her when she was 6 years old and he _consummated_ his marriage when she was 9 years old” *Sahih al-Bukhari 6:298* Narrated By Aisha: "The Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) and I used to take a bath from a single pot . . . and used to fondle me." *Sahih Bukhari Vol 7, Book 62, Nr 16* "The Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) said, 'Did you marry a virgin or a matron?' I replied, 'A matron.' He said, “Why didn’t you marry a young girl so that you may play with her and she with you?'" *Sahih Bukhari Volume 8, Book 73, Nr 151* Narrated By Aisha: "I used to play with the dolls in the presence of the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him), and my girl friends also used to play with me. When Allah’s Apostle used to enter (my dwelling place) they used to hide themselves, but the Prophet would call them to join and play with me."
I cried hearing your story, Ellaf. I cannot imagine giving birth to a child, all alone, on the floor. Everybody let you down in your life. I have so much respect for your courage and your strength. Tears are streaming down my face wondering how anyone could treat a woman so cruelly. My own daughter is 22 years old and her father and I would move mountains to make sure she is safe and happy. I truly wish for you and for your children, a beautiful and peaceful life going forward, with an abundance of love and everything good this world has to offer. You deserve it all.
Hey! You must respect every religion and culture, belief and practice . . . *Sahih al-Bukhari vol 5 bk 58:236* “Allah's Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) married Aisha when she was 6 years old, and _consummated_ when she was 9” *Qur'an 65:1, 4* "When divorcing women, know their waiting period. For women past the age of menstruation, their waiting period is 3 months - and those who have _NOT_ menstruated yet as well." *Sahih al-Bukhari vol 7 book 62 number 64:* “Allah's Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) married her when she was 6 years old and he _consummated_ his marriage when she was 9 years old” *Sahih al-Bukhari 6:298* Narrated By Aisha: "The Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) and I used to take a bath from a single pot . . . and used to fondle me." *Sahih Bukhari Vol 7, Book 62, Nr 16* "The Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) said, 'Did you marry a virgin or a matron?' I replied, 'A matron.' He said, “Why didn’t you marry a young girl so that you may play with her and she with you?'" *Sahih Bukhari Volume 8, Book 73, Nr 151* Narrated By Aisha: "I used to play with the dolls in the presence of the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him), and my girl friends also used to play with me. When Allah’s Apostle used to enter (my dwelling place) they used to hide themselves, but the Prophet would call them to join and play with me."
Listening to this story makes me so angry. I absolutely despise this type of patriarchal upbringing: it reduces women and girls to property and incentivizes men to behave at their worst with this macho bullshit. I feel so bad for everything Ellaf went through. Ellaf, thank you for sharing your story. Shalice, thank you for providing a platform for women to tell their stories where they shed light on the horrors of their cultish upbringing.
What’s even worse is that if any male from such cultures refuse to conform because it revolts their conscience, their peers and fellows from that same culture will taunt and shame them for not “being manly enough”.
I grew up next to a Pakistani family, the eldest daughter wasn’t allowed to go to school, have access to any phone or internet, and was sent to marry her first cousin once we got a little older. She tried to escape and was ended up in a worse situation that her family did rescue her from but her family and brothers beat her. They moved away and I think about her all the time. I pray she’s alive and wish I would’ve been able to help her.
My exhusband was Pakistan. His friends daughter was shipped back under false pretense of a family visit in 8th grade to marry her cousin. They were worried on e she went to highschool she might have a boyfriend. It took me years to escape DV and control like this. Fortunately, my kids and I are safe and he is back in Pakistan having dragged a new wife, her daughter, and whatever kids they have. I worry for that daught
Is there a way to get the message to girls (and women) living under this kind of oppression that they can escape? (I’m referring to the ones currently in America but under threat of being sent off to the Middle East to get kidnapped into marriage).
I really just feel like her father brought her back during her pregnancy just so that the kids could have American Nationality not because of him being concerned for her. I feel so sorry for the Arab women, the south Asian women, we all go through this shit.
Ellaf is so beautiful strong and special. I am privileged to have worked with her and she was at the hospital where my infant daughter was cared for after complications at birth. Weeks later, she worked at the program we were part of. She is so strong
It's so impressive for someone to suffer from so much abuse from her father and husband for so many years with no help from anyone, and have to deal with the depression, anxiety and physical issues caused by the abuse and isolation, and yet be able to rise above it all and make a good life for herself and her children. You are a testament to the resiliency and strength of women and the human spirit. You are such an inspiration to us all, and you are so deserving of every happiness and a peaceful life free of abuse. Congratulations, I'm so happy for you. Thank you for sharing your story.
In 71, there was an exchange student that was new at my high school. I was 14 also. I befriended this boy, and a few months later, he told me that he wanted me to walk outside with him. A man in a limo stepped out and nodded. He then told me he wanted me to be his first wife and give him blue eyed babies. He said my dad would be paid well for me. I was so insulted, I never spoke to him again. I cringe to think what would have happened if I had gone.
The ability for her to hold the light in such unbelievably hopeless times, it’s incredible. Her having her baby on the floor, with no one there was heartbreaking to hear. We really need to remember woman like this, when we are fighting for our rights here in the US. Keeping and expanding our rights here, well I think it gives hope to women around the world. America is the place she was able to support herself and build her own life for her family. We cannot give up fighting for each other’s safe spaces. I am so inspired by her resilience. I think she will help so many women by telling her story. Woman are superhero’s and you can never convince me otherwise!
KEEP YOUR FATHER OUT OF YOURS & YOUR CHILDRENS LIVES or you father will CORRUPT and destroy your children's lives. Be safe for you and your children's. Never ever Trust your father again. Abusers & NARCISSISTS NEVER CHANGE.
What an incredible woman.Her authenticity, courage, and strength to break away from the toxic people in her life. To have and make her own plan to get out and doing it step by step amazes me. What a great role model. Just WOW.
This is why I volunteered to teach English to women like this. Please start up or join groups and teach these ladies so that they may work, integrate and fend for themselves. They can also make friends and support one another.
How can we start? There was a Syrian girl I used to work with in similar situation. I couldn't help her because at the time I was very young myself. I will carry the guilt till the day I die.
@@pennybarker1596Look into getting a Teaching as a Second Language Certificate. There are lots of organisations, you can get a course for very cheap, and honestly it teaches teaching methodologies and is very useful in other aspects of your life regardless! It takes some time but isn't too difficult. Then you can contact volunteer organisations, or if you don't have something similar in your area, you could get in contact with local outreach programmes. I have mixed feelings on religious-motivated ones, but there's no doubt that local churches are often a hub for programmes like this and benefit can be found with ANYBODY who is disadvantaged by a lack of language.
@@kathleenchaffin2591Any non-profit that teaches English will train you to teach as a volunteer. I interned at one. Just Google English learning and your area. I saw men come to learn and they often brought their wives. All you can do is teach really, but explaining free resources like domestic violence shelters- I don't know how they could fault you for sharing that if necessary.
I am an ex-Muslim and I understand exactly what this girl went through. I was forced to take care of my mother-in-law’s children and house. They were very happy when my son was born, but nobody visited me when I had my daughter.
This has nothing to do with Religion ok, people always blame religion when they don't have the right knowledge. Men who doing these things to women are not muslim! If you only knew how our beloved Prophet Mohammed treated his women, you would cry!!!!
@@saratoukha The problem I see is women who come forward with tales of abuse even threats of death wanting help are attacked by women of the same religion and culture. This is a sickness, you’re right this has nothing to do with real religion, it is cultural and false prophet influences. To Zoella2349 Yes, Aisha was 6 years old when married to the self proclaimed false prophet Mohammed, the marriage was consummated when she was 9 years old. Mohammed incited approximately 80 wars and participated in over 30-40 of them, seems to me he was a violent man with terrorist tendencies. Marrying a child and consummating the marriage while still a child not even 10 years old is not respecting of women, it is child abuse, again, you were correct, knowing how your beloved prophet Mohammed treated women brings tears of sympathy and outrage.
@@saratoukha wrong. it has absolutely everything to do with religion. specifically, islam. i can show you the exact verses being used to justify beating of women, treating them like property, raping them as part of marriage, etc. it seems more like you do not know your own faith. leave islam if you think what happened to ellaf is wrong.
I’m disgusted that she wasn’t asked questions by the nurses every time I was in the hospital having a baby and the nurses asked me over and over if I was safe or if I had any fears about going home after I delivered I had 5 children in 3 different hospitals so I thought that was standard protocol 😢🤷🏼♀️ the fact that she wasn’t asked and given a chance to tell someone, anyone what she was going through 😢😡my heart hurts for her so badly 😮 my momma heart wants to wrap my arms around her and talk to her and give her comfort 😢
A lot of immigrants from outside the west believe where they come from is superior. They come to the U.S. because they secretly like all the options available to them. The biggest driving factor is economics. The U.S. is a rich nation, so even the majority of those who suffer aren’t suffering like the way would from where many of these immigrants come from. They want the US dollar conversion to send back to their families and to live with a possibility of more mobility than they would have back home. Because the U.S. is so economically powerful, they admire it. But many of them have a deep resentment for it because they were not primed to succeed in western culture in the way someone who grew up in it is. They feel out of place and have taken a hit to their social standing in comparison to where they come from. It makes them harbor deep resentment. It also makes them have a misaligned complex. They develop a superiority based inferiority complex. They feel so inferior about the lack of options and abundance from where they come from when they compare how things are there to many places in the west. Instead of analyzing their own cultures and fixing the things that lead to them being less abundant, they are taught to hate the U.S. and the west for everything. Their leaders do not want to do anything for them, but they are too afraid to speak up about admitting the dysfunction in their communities because to them, in a way, they are admitting defeat to places in the west. Of course, being honest about this would trigger them into stating their culture is superior as a defense mechanism. But they know that is not true. Otherwise, they would not feel compelled to come to the U.S. Obviously, if things are going well, why would you want to leave where you come from? Why are you willing to deal with ostracism and take a hit to your social standing? They don’t know how to rectify this without sounding pathetic and so they cope by doubling down on their hatred of places in the west and western culture. If the west was not so economically abundant, they would not bother trying to come. But to them, it is a paradox that it is while sustaining a “haram” culture with weak citizens who don’t know real hardship.
Hello. Their plans are to have more Muslims in the USA so they can take over eventually. We should be more informed as to what Muslims think and how they act.
Definitely a problem. They want to take what the US has but hold onto their old failed culture. A culture that never questions. No wonder their culture is so backward.
This woman should teach at university. She is so intelligent & inspirational! I am sorry she went through so much pain, but I am happy she is healthy & happy. ❤ so much respect to her!
That is the saddest bride picture I have ever seen, its like a bride at a funeral. The expression is just devastation when its suppose to be the happiest. 😒😧Just unbelievable!!! She is a survivor! 🙏🙏🙏👸🏻💃🙋🏽
@@Manchis123exactly! Some people are ill informed. That is a blanket statement saying all Muslims behave this way and believe this way. They should do more research. I suggest they research the country of Mauritania, a country where most are Muslim and women are practically placed on a pedestal.
Oh really? How many fathers (parents) ki..ed their daughters in the US, ra..ed them, had kids with them while kidnaping them, capturing them in basement. How many parents left their kids, used them just to get some benefit in their name? You can't say anything about Islam and Muslims until you study our religion. This thing this women went through has nothing to do with Islam, Quran, and God it's all about the tradition and culture.
@Manchis123 Sahih al-Bukhari 5134 Narrated `Aisha: that the Prophet (ﷺ) married her when she was six years old and he consummated his marriage when she was nine years old. Hisham said: I have been informed that `Aisha remained with the Prophet (ﷺ) for nine years (i.e. till his death). حَدَّثَنَا مُعَلَّى بْنُ أَسَدٍ، حَدَّثَنَا وُهَيْبٌ، عَنْ هِشَامِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم تَزَوَّجَهَا وَهْىَ بِنْتُ سِتِّ سِنِينَ، وَبَنَى بِهَا وَهْىَ بِنْتُ تِسْعِ سِنِينَ. قَالَ هِشَامٌ وَأُنْبِئْتُ أَنَّهَا كَانَتْ عِنْدَهُ تِسْعَ سِنِينَ.
This young lady deserves all respect and protection. This is way too far beyond whatever you could could digest. In whose name are all these abuses done? Both husband and father deserve prison without the possibility of parole. Young woman, you are strong and I celebrate your resilient spirit. Keep on keeping on
Great interview, she is so strong. She broke that abusive cycle for her children and gave them the gift of free choice, not having to live that cruel, angry, abusive life. She's brave, driven and successful. She suffered greatly and I hope the rest of her life is filled with happiness!!
If they were here illegally or if they were on welfare illegally could possibly be why CPS wasn't aware. Also, it depends on who runs the town. Democrats tend to cover up this type of information so their towns data and statistics sound successful. These are possible scenarios.
This is horrific, to think that in a land like America a doctors sends home a 15 year old without incestigation. I imagine her 'father' talked his way out somehow, but this is unacceptable.
@serenitypeaceandcomfort3669 I live in a city that borders Dearborn in Michigan. It is not a democrat or republican issue but a cultural issue in Dearborn. More and more of the people running the city of Dearborn are of Arabic heritage so it’s considerably easier to continue this practice unseen.
I think this is the most horrific story to date on your channel. Ellaf is a warrior in every sense of the word. She should be so proud of how accomplished and beautiful she is.
I am so happy for her that she was able to get free from her husband and father's abuse and control, she is so strong and beautiful soul, God bless her and her children for all she has accomplished for them and herself, what an inspiration to all women❤️🕊️✨
Hearing about the life Ellaf has built up for her kids and how sweet and wonderful her sons are brings so much joy to my heart. The proof is in the pudding, those cycles are certifiably broken.
To think we have millions of people protesting in our streets to support these barbaric monsters practices against their wives and daughters, what the hell is wrong with the free world 😡much respect to this young lady I wish her well in life .💕
My heart is so heartbroken for Ellaf and others like her. I never could imagine how someone could survive this ordeal so young. I'm glad Ellaf is better now. Good job covering this story, Shelise. Hugs to Ellaf.
It's so refreshing to see criticism of Islam that is *truly* about uplifting the victims. It's been so frustrating to only ever hear politically motivated and dehumanizing concern-trolling about Muslims, from evangelicals and western chauvinistic atheists alike. The entire branch of Abrahamic faith needs to be examined with respect and dignity to those harmed. Thank you Shelise for continuing to platform these incredibly important conversations.
How do you propose they do that? Israel has given refuge to numerous gay Palestinian men, some of these men have later been found and murdered by their families. Yet Israel is considered the bad guy, no one else is standing up for gay Palestinians, in fact, in the West there is Queers for Palestine, despite the basic fact that they would be killed in both the West Bank and Gaza. Israel has also given refuge to Palestinian women fleeing abuse, they are then accused of stealing Palestinian women. You don’t have to believe me, Google shelters in Israel for gay and abused Palestinians. Israeli tax dollars fund these programs, name a single program funded by Palestinians for abused women or gay people. Not one funded by NGOs in the West, but actually funded by the Palestinian people You won’t find it because it doesn’t exist.
@@Catmom-gl5nt Being gay is illegal in Israel, the prime minister wanted to make it the death penalty but the US threatened to pull funding. Also you are shitting on Palestine for not getting funds together? 75% of Palestinians are literally fucking children, 50% of the country is 10 years old or less since so many of the adults have been killed
You say, “examine with respect”. But uno Muslims don’t see any kind of examination of Islam and its teachings as respectful. I do agree that it is good to see this (what Shelise, Ellaf and others are doing) instead of the fear-mongering of the far-right.
I’m from Iraq , strongly agree with everything think she said, did you know that now 2024 in parliament they are discussing the decision to marry minors from the age of 9 years old and make it legal in Iraq? Women have no rights. We are suffering.most of men is Narcissistic.
@heidimisfeldt5685 i dont know if he could manufacture a new passport, but i would gaurd the daughter , he seems to be way to involved with what his ex is doing. I wouldn't let anyone know where we are. He will kidnap that girl!!
Her young life was devastating but she took that experience and did a 180 and not many people can do that. She should be so proud of herself and the children she has raised. Such a positive interview. Sadly I can think of all these young people today supporting that culture, and all the violence that happens within in it. Eyes need to be opened and understanding you have so many rights as an American, which so many countries, religious and cultures do not have. TFS your story. I hope people actually listened to you and your plight.
Think of all of the states supporting high demand religious cultures ? There are lots of effed up institutions in the states that are owned by men who control women and children so idk what you are thinking about the states supporting women
You are phenomenal!! You accomplished more than most could in ten lifetimes! You have given your children a better life than they could ever have imagined!!!! You are my hero.!!!
Number One: every single person involved in her situation needs be charged as harshly as the law will allow. Number Two: dad, you sold her to her husband. You no longer get to use her as a work horse and income source. Maybe her husband would have treated her better If she handed her money to HIM. It is a small blessing that her first 2 children were boys.The truth seems to be that these men were fighting over WHO GETS to exploit her.. Luckily her father's greed and belief that she was a good source of income for him, she would have been "honour killed" long before she had the chance to save herself and her children. The is NO HONOUR I'm killing a woman! Someone who has been dominated, is weaker, and completely dependant on the men in their family which makes it impossible to fight back. So pathetic, these men. That's WHY people (men of course) still insist on practicing religion. They barely believe but there is so many benefits offered for men that stepping away because it's nonsense is stupid. Why give up the right to abuse your proper..I mean wife; and, ģo exploit her any way you wish
Ironically, these men wouldn’t dare fight against those who are stronger and more powerful than they are. They are COWARDS. Where was their so called bravery when the tyrant Saddam Hussain was ruling over them? Where was their so called bravery when the US invaded their country? They only know how to beat on women and use them as their punching bag.
I got goosebumps hearing her talking about breaking the cycle and knowing her daughter will get to choose who she marries, and knowing her sons strongest relationship is with their mother and breaks the cycle of how they may treat their partners in the future! ❤ So incredibly inspiring!
I cannot imagine how I could survive such a situation. I myself grew up with very abusive parents and I broke free when I was 18. The healing takes a lifetime. You are such a role model for young women. I am deeply glad you survived. You make this world a better place. Thank you so much❤
This beautiful soul walked through hell and showed the devil he has no power over her! A true survivor and a warrior. She should write a book about her story. Wishing her and her kids the very best!!!
I am from a country life, with abusive father. He would take car keys away from my mother, cut us down, kick, hit us, beat us is in bed in the night, have alcoholic rages. He is on wife #4, and he made good money in the oilfield work. My mother was oppressed, emotionally abused, used as his cook, cleaner, his slave. So this made her unloving. I cut both of them just to survive. My brother put me in a closet after telling me to undress. I escaped, so he us cut off as well. Unsafe, unloving humans, cousins drink and love my drinking dad, who also laughed at me. They just want us in the kitchen as servants. Yeah, no.
I am so sorry you went through that. Abuse is everywhere. All countries, all religions, all incomes - no group can claim they are above this behavior. It's really an abomination because what are we on this planet for, if not to take care of it and each other?
Omigod it just hurts to hear this woman’s story. It’s hard to believe a person could endure such things in this day and age. It’s impossible to express the height of admiration I have for her. Again, Shelise, thank you for another great interview.
This woman is a superhero. I'm so proud of her strength and her resilience. Expose those wicked people and that sick, demented culture as religion sis! They try to shame you to cover their MOUNTAIN of sins, evil and wickedness!
I’m in tears of anger and tears of joy!!! I am an always impressed with how women around the world in all situations desire and need to know! And be educated, that this is the one thing that keeps them safe and your experience with all that came against you in oppression and abuse you stood up and you made the best!!!! Of every situation Your children are a testament to the amazing woman you are!!!! Please write a book!!! Please keep talking about this keep sharing keep pressing into your families health and mental care.!!!
As a man who has a daughter that is something I would never put my daughter through. Women from the Middle East really go through a lot both mentally and physically very much an educational learning experience for me.
Not every woman in the Middle East go through that I don’t like how people thing all of them do it’s a minority this culture is old and happened long ago it doesn’t happen as much anymore maybe a little but it’s not as common as it was long ago it’s not a part of Islam either it’s bullshit in Islam you don’t have to get married if you don’t want someone no1 can force u our religion is fair and Allah the created is just it’s just people who are animals as u can see I’m from Middle East and my Father is amazing and followed religion and reason and cared for us and most of my cousins same thing they didn’t go through this thank god it’s vile but some people do and it’s sad they should be jailed for this shit that husband 🤬 I have no words to say
@@annetoronto5474 ok loool if you say so a lot is Christian men do that to and Jewish men so stop with ur Islamophobia ur very sickening seriously why so much hate damn 😂 I don’t get it I don’t hate any of u guys despite what church fathers do to children in many many many church’s 😳 I don’t go saying all of u are molesters and sex offenders so why the hate wow I notice this amongst a lot of white people they hate Muslims so bad it’s mad but they forget to take a look at there own culture and shit there own people do which is so hypocritical but oh well I guess u can’t change people only god can I have nothing against u at all of course the guy was bad but why would u generalize all Muslim men to be the same??? That’s not facts it’s a stereotype
This is extremely sad! I went to high school in Dearborn. Thinking now that some of my Muslim friends may have or is currently experiencing this is truly overwhelming. Love the success for you ❤
I dont think being Muslim has anything to do with this. The lady mentioned culture nothing about Islam in this interview. Islam is not a culture it's a religion and just because you are Muslim does not mean that you follow it or that it is reflected or applied in people's Cultures correctly.
@@imanlah4803 This is completely Islam. They have no respect for women, they have to do what the father says and after marriage they have to do what the husband says...
What an amazing, sad, inspirational story. Ellaf is a warrior woman. And Shelise, you're a wonderful interviewer, drawing out the people you interview with compassion and understanding.
I'm so honoring of you Shelise. You are a warrior and the world is a better place because of your work. Ellaf, I will never forget your story and your courage. Thank you.
There should never be any shame for leaving ones religion, but letting others to disrespect, mistreat and degrade ones' soul is. Mental-emotional trauma is very bonding to the abuser and will keep a person hostage, till awakening comes. Blessings to all the women and man that go through it with the courage to escape.
Hats off for you girl. Your courage is admirable. You story will inspire so many people. You never gave up. You believed in yourself. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 May you continue to have a happy life with your children.
It seems like her father's relationship with her was the classic scapegoat child relationship. Talking about the desperation to just give her away and then taking her siblings and her mother back to America. Alot of like toxic parents do have that child that for whatever reason they've just convinced themselves is the evil one or the enemy.
A woman that rose above abuse and cultral difference, I think you should definitely be a shinning light for Domestic Abuse for many women and men, you too can rise above it by taking the first step and saying ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.You my dear are an incredible, brave woman, a beautiful mother. I wish you nothing but success and happiness for the future ❤
حالتها ابد مو نادره او حاله فرديه ملاين البنات بالعالم العربي وحته الغربي الي يعيشون ببيئه مسلمه يعيشون حياتها التحكم المستمر بكل شي والعزل شي مخزي اقسم بالله
The way these eastern countries treat women is absolutely disgusting. It seriously makes the men who support & act out this behavior look pathetic! I hope they get what they’ve got coming!! Karma’s a real B!tch.
This woman and mother is so inspirational sending so much love from ireland 🇮🇪 beautiful strong sister united and use your voice for change amazing channel x
I have listened to every episode you have recorded - I am a huge fan. I was listening to this on my way to work & this was the first episode where I have cried. I feel for this woman so much. I felt so many emotions listening to this. But by the end, I was beyond proud. Women really are SO strong and such resilient people! Sending all my love to your guest!!
All these people who do not want daughters, shouldn't marry anyone's daughter either
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😂 Good one 🤙
Mem like this don't think that unfortunately. They still feel entitled to access to a woman.
That is what l always have been thinking.
I agree… Perhaps they should marry someone’s son instead. Since those men love each other so much.
The father and the ex husband both belong in jail for abuse.
That would happen only if you are from a civilized society.
Not in their religion and culture.
@@evil7529It will be our culture soon with all the mass immigration.
The religion of peace .dont think so .
@@janepearson5802 I GUESS YOU DID NOT GET MY DRIFT. THAT WAS A SARC.
My sisters and I were always treated like a burden.
I spent all my childhood and teenage years trapped in a tiny house under my parents control. We were only allowed to leave the house to go to school.
Luckily my parents finally decided to leave the country and migrate to New Zealand.
The first few weeks they treated us even worse because they were worried we would be “westrenised” and become “whores”.
But it backfired on them because that what gave me the courage to break free and leave them.
I studied, got my bachelors degree and started my career. Met an amazing man and got married and we have a beautiful daughter. I didn’t bother teaching her Arabic, I don’t want her to end up with any man from misogynistic culture.
I’m atheist and raising my daughter with no religion bs. I’m giving her the life I’ve never had.
I’ve been free for 21 years now and to this day I still have nightmares finding myself back in Iraq.
Wow that’s an powerful story! So happy you found your way out!❤️ thanks for sharing
I'm sorry you went through that. I'm glad you are okay. Don't mind me asking is your sister's okay to ?
If you could speak out to others about the truth of Islam would be great as kiwis have no idea
I am so sorry you endured that!
Your story is so sad. Bless you
A loss to the Muslim community, and a loss to the NZ community. You could have became a lawyer and represent Muslim women in the local court. Get custody judgments for women.
I don't want to call "animals" to these "men" because i don't want to offend my dog...
True .... Im just speechless .... i just dont understand why these people exist.
1000000000000% correct.
I laughed when I first saw this, but I agree 100%. My dog is a million times better than any of these "men"
I agree 100%
Fabulous
This courageous young woman didn't just break the cycles of violence, fear and abuse. She put her family into a strong new cycle of love, kindness, acceptance and equality. I am so proud of her!
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Nur Frauen können das. Ohne uns würden Männer noch in ihren Steinzeithöhlen hocken und wetteifern, wer der Stärkste ist,
weil sie keine Ahnung haben, wieviel ein Leben eine Frau kostet!
I am very proud of Ellaf achievements and the fact that she was bold enough to walk away and cut people off. When people silence and shame you, you have to not care and walk away. Women who have been controlled, need to see and navigate their own paths. Because we have had the toxicity destroy us
No freedom for Muslims woman..
Pls Research..
Amazing story . I have read the life stories of several Muslim woman and this is typiical of the lives they are forced to live so multiply this by millions . Unfortunately few escape , and many are killed for these hideous males . What a victory this woman has achieved , so brave , she deserves an award for her resilience and strength may God continue to bless her . 😢
I’m Australian born, taken to Pakistan and married to my then 22 year old cousin,,, dad left me there untill I turned 18 and could apply for a visa for my husband. I had my daughter at 19 and ran to the nearest police station just before she turned 1 . Thankgod I was in Australia and Australian. Parents too my exes side becuase men can do no wrong ….. I have been remarried to a non Muslim, left Islam , my daughter is now 15 and I have a son with my current husband. I owe everything I have to australia and for helping my daughter and I. Now that she is 15 , I could never imagine forcing marriage or forcing anything on her for that matter. Listening to these women brings back memories,,, but not bag ones… just memories that it happened…. Once ur happy… things start to fade.
Wow! So happy you got away. If you’re interested in telling your story on here you can use the link in our about section to apply! ❤️🙏thanks for sharing
So happy you' and your fanily are safe.❤
Im from pakistan as well and im still in such marraige and i feel traped here , i also had an Australian PR but its expired now, im planning an escape as well but i dont know how will i ? Will the local police in pakistan will help me or do i have to contact the embassy? Also i have two girls and they dont have any PR . Please if anyone can help me i would highly appreciate
@uzmakhurshid845 I feel so awful for you,. I have no idea how to help you but I will if maybe this channel can advise us. I am sure there are many more people on here who want to help but just don't know how. Anyone?Any suggestions?
You have done so we
Her father should be rotting in a prison.
And in hell one day as her husband 😡
A prison where they use torture.
Her father and husband both should be rotting in prison! Sounds like they are both narcissistic psychopaths!
And married to Bubba!
Even in the US, people get away with this garbage all in the name of religion. Can't hold these people accountable because it's their "beliefs."
“I had to cut off everyone in my life that would shame me for my choices”. So strong ✔️❤️
His family was awful as well. The mother walking in, seeing a young girl in labor and did nothing.
She lived thru trauma also. Figured she got thru it, this woman needs to get tough also. Gotta understand the mindset.
@laneneal3510 that was thought. They themselves were her once. It's wrong but it's their culture...sadly.
@@tburke3454 sounds more like trauma than culture
@@hydratejsn, cultural trauma and trauma culture are real things. It’s sort of a feedback loop. People are traumatized and thus whatever way they learned to cope/survive, good or bad, becomes what they teach their children. A real common one is teaching kids to be tough. Some people take this too far unintentionally and traumatize their kids, even if the kids aren’t living during the same war/disaster/oppression that traumatized the parents. Whole communities feed into this loop, sometimes on purpose trying to help and also sometimes because they never learned a more healthy way to cope while they were on the run or whatever they had to do.
@@tburke3454 then they defend their violent, hideous culture! Worse still it’s politically incorrect to talk about it in the west. I got shut down many times by being told there are western men who abuse too! Imagine the refusal to accept that there are societies raising misogynists! 😡
it's shocking and sad to think that nurses in the USA did not ask a 15 year old girl if she was safe, and did she want help to escape a potentially dangerous situation.
There is no proof of no one asking.
My thoughts exactly.
You see the Sharia out here now in the USA these ppl will lie and lie more none r to be trusted
We have teen moms in the West though. They prob acted like she was a regular teenmom with a boyfriend that is now having her first child at a younger age. And because she was in such a high control situation... if askec if she was ok I'm sure she would've lied.
Wake up, lady. YOU have teen pregnancy in the USA. You don’t even have an age limit for marrying is something states . And the age of Consent is very low IN THE USA. Fix this before being shocked
I'm from Dearborn as well. Stories like this aren't too uncommon, and it's super sad. We need to lift these women's voices and break this violence.
This is why assimilation needs to be required. We should not tolerate enclaves where cultural abuse that violates our laws is overlooked as if its acceptable because its not. Infuriating. Glad that lunatic self deported to a place he belongs.
So off topic but I just love the library & really miss Borders 😢.
Tell Rashida Talib, it's her constituency.
Tell her what. She encourages it. It's just the start of world domination by 2050! 😢@amazingtopics6894
They need to leave islam
I'm a proud father of a young adult woman, all I have to say that her father did not deserved her. This young lady is smart, fierce, and amazing. I love her story.
Don’t these men realize that it’s THEM not the woman who decides the gender?? That’s something that has always made me so mad, along with lots of other things, that the woman is always blamed for having a girl. The whole thing is ridiculous.
That fact is inconvenient therefore not true.
These "MEN"are ignorant of basic facts.
I dont want to call them "animals" because i dont want to offend my dog.
They don’t Know The Almighty God Adonai, the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, the God of Israel
Not according to their religion Islam, go research it, it is laughable but millions of Muslims believe it.
How the f does a man or anyone choose the gender of their child?
She's been through so much darkness yet still manages to be full of so much light. She's such a strong and beautiful person. Praying for more blessings upon her and her children. ❤
yes I agree what an inspiration.
Sad that a so called Muslim is so abused, unfortunately this is the norm for woman in Muslim countries
Good for you what a strong woman
You did a great job sister and raised your boys to NOT be like your father and exhusband.Blessings to you all.x
her boys still carry HIS retrd gene and are more likely to rpe a girly than not
This interview was such a roller coaster of emotions. Right up to “he moved back to a war torn country bc he couldn’t beat me”. Wow. What a beautiful, thriving survivor. Her boys are correct, she is a queen! 👑🖤
Strong strong strong lady!
And her plan to escape!!! 🤯
@@arbonneladyTN buying gold on the down low just to make sure she could leave WITH her kids. Amazing. I am in absolute awe.
God bless her 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Damn. I’m at that point where she is telling her father “no” and sweet babe jesus I have been through it. My blood pressure is through the roof. 😩
I just want to acknowledge that being traumatized during childbirth hits so much harder and I’m so sorry that she had to go through that alone. She should’ve never had to go through that.
I'm very lucky to have no birth trauma with my 3 children but I cannot even imagine having trauma during your most vulnerable moment, I am sending love to anyone who has been through that xx
Yes I developed septic shock from my c-section fever 104-105 for days 😢 but it does interfere in that initial bond between mother & child so you do have to work harder at it.
I got trauma even from assisted birth. Sending love and praying god will keep you and the family safe.
At 53:53 a very crucial moment in this interview. (Is anyone going to ask the source of evil in those men from that part of the world?!?!?)🤔🤨🧐 Well, it is obvious to me. Dahhh!
No one should...just saw a documentary about an African village that is all women...no men allowed. Made up of everyone one of them coming from very, very abusive marriages! One said it felt good to go to sleep and not be afraid..how sad, how horrible!
I can’t understand how a father would send his daughter and grandchildren to live in war
Religious fundamentals😢
and with a child having medical challenges to a country with literally no health care...Grandfather of the year whooooHoooo
@@anymjohnson1729 but in your case you get some people who are lacking in values or are cruel. In their case it’s how they raise and shape males. It is common attitude.
He is a monster. Simple as. Some people do not deserve the oxygen they breathe.
@@Daaaanielle 100%!
Break the silence. Break the cycle.
True ❤
Easier said than done
I noticed that you post the same thing every time because the remedy is the same, every time.
Someday... 🙏❤️
@@flutralena3135 the more of us who speak, the easier it becomes for others to speak. I started saying this in the early 80s and the difference between then and now is promising. We still have far to go, but we’re getting there.
@@flutralena3135 Very true, thanks to Social Media! (share with you network) . . . *Sahih al-Bukhari vol 5 bk 58:236* “Allah's Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) married Aisha when she was 6 years old, and _consummated_ when she was 9”
*Qur'an 65:1, 4* "When divorcing women, know their waiting period. For women past the age of menstruation, their waiting period is 3 months - and those who have _NOT_ menstruated yet as well."
*Sahih al-Bukhari vol 7 book 62 number 64:* “Allah's Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) married her when she was 6 years old and he _consummated_ his marriage when she was 9 years old”
*Sahih al-Bukhari 6:298* Narrated By Aisha: "The Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) and I used to take a bath from a single pot . . . and used to fondle me."
*Sahih Bukhari Vol 7, Book 62, Nr 16* "The Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) said, 'Did you marry a virgin or a matron?' I replied, 'A matron.' He said, “Why didn’t you marry a young girl so that you may play with her and she with you?'"
*Sahih Bukhari Volume 8, Book 73, Nr 151* Narrated By Aisha: "I used to play with the dolls in the presence of the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him), and my girl friends also used to play with me. When Allah’s Apostle used to enter (my dwelling place) they used to hide themselves, but the Prophet would call them to join and play with me."
I cried hearing your story, Ellaf. I cannot imagine giving birth to a child, all alone, on the floor. Everybody let you down in your life. I have so much respect for your courage and your strength. Tears are streaming down my face wondering how anyone could treat a woman so cruelly. My own daughter is 22 years old and her father and I would move mountains to make sure she is safe and happy. I truly wish for you and for your children, a beautiful and peaceful life going forward, with an abundance of love and everything good this world has to offer. You deserve it all.
This infuriated me on her behalf. The abuse, neglect and control is demonic. This is wrong and breaks my heart. So glad she is free!
Yes, indeed.
Yes, it is the devil working.
Unfortunately, first the parents have to do something illegal. Now, UK and Australia have forced marriage laws.
Hey! You must respect every religion and culture, belief and practice . . . *Sahih al-Bukhari vol 5 bk 58:236* “Allah's Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) married Aisha when she was 6 years old, and _consummated_ when she was 9”
*Qur'an 65:1, 4* "When divorcing women, know their waiting period. For women past the age of menstruation, their waiting period is 3 months - and those who have _NOT_ menstruated yet as well."
*Sahih al-Bukhari vol 7 book 62 number 64:* “Allah's Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) married her when she was 6 years old and he _consummated_ his marriage when she was 9 years old”
*Sahih al-Bukhari 6:298* Narrated By Aisha: "The Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) and I used to take a bath from a single pot . . . and used to fondle me."
*Sahih Bukhari Vol 7, Book 62, Nr 16* "The Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) said, 'Did you marry a virgin or a matron?' I replied, 'A matron.' He said, “Why didn’t you marry a young girl so that you may play with her and she with you?'"
*Sahih Bukhari Volume 8, Book 73, Nr 151* Narrated By Aisha: "I used to play with the dolls in the presence of the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him), and my girl friends also used to play with me. When Allah’s Apostle used to enter (my dwelling place) they used to hide themselves, but the Prophet would call them to join and play with me."
Listening to this story makes me so angry. I absolutely despise this type of patriarchal upbringing: it reduces women and girls to property and incentivizes men to behave at their worst with this macho bullshit. I feel so bad for everything Ellaf went through.
Ellaf, thank you for sharing your story. Shalice, thank you for providing a platform for women to tell their stories where they shed light on the horrors of their cultish upbringing.
Some cults, churches, Amish, and countries are still doing this. Those that are run by men, not women. Think about that!!!
Well true !!!! But how do you fight a decades old religion ?????
Say no to sharia and to momo
What’s even worse is that if any male from such cultures refuse to conform because it revolts their conscience, their peers and fellows from that same culture will taunt and shame them for not “being manly enough”.
I love your chat response. You are absolutely right. I can't stand this belief system.
I grew up next to a Pakistani family, the eldest daughter wasn’t allowed to go to school, have access to any phone or internet, and was sent to marry her first cousin once we got a little older. She tried to escape and was ended up in a worse situation that her family did rescue her from but her family and brothers beat her. They moved away and I think about her all the time. I pray she’s alive and wish I would’ve been able to help her.
Her younger sister was allowed to live a typical American life which makes her situation even more devastating
How sad
She is just AMAZING. ❤ The unseen Heroes.
How sad
My exhusband was Pakistan. His friends daughter was shipped back under false pretense of a family visit in 8th grade to marry her cousin. They were worried on e she went to highschool she might have a boyfriend. It took me years to escape DV and control like this. Fortunately, my kids and I are safe and he is back in Pakistan having dragged a new wife, her daughter, and whatever kids they have. I worry for that daught
She has the most beautiful smile! She has seen the darkest days and now she appreciates the light she learned to provide for herself. True survivor!
My story is identical to her, just like almost every Iraqi girl in Dearborn. I’m planning on building a shelter for women like us.
I hope you succeed! What a wonderful gift to women in that area❤️
That's awful and amazing
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Is there a way to get the message to girls (and women) living under this kind of oppression that they can escape? (I’m referring to the ones currently in America but under threat of being sent off to the Middle East to get kidnapped into marriage).
It’s sad that many of these women are now harassing Kamala Harris.
I'm GLAD she called the POLICE on her father so she could go out. GOOD 👌
Your son said, "The Queen deserves a day off." I am in awe. They appreciate you so much.
Fr, warmed my heart ❤
I’m so proud of you, Ellaf! You not only broke the cycle, you raised your boys to be the men YOU deserved in your life! 🖤
I was married to someone similar to her ex husband. I thank God I left that situation. I am proud of her. Her comeback story is so inspirational ❤
I really just feel like her father brought her back during her pregnancy just so that the kids could have American Nationality not because of him being concerned for her. I feel so sorry for the Arab women, the south Asian women, we all go through this shit.
You forgot about the amerikkkan woman, European women and the rest.
Don't generalize "South Asia"
@reshmaakthar6970 if the Republicans have their way I can only imagine but currently we have it amazing compared to those women she mentioned
Even though the US is a haram country, funny
Like a Phoenix rising from the ashes, you not only lived, but thrived. I'm so happy for you. You are very inspiring.
Ellaf is so beautiful strong and special. I am privileged to have worked with her and she was at the hospital where my infant daughter was cared for after complications at birth. Weeks later, she worked at the program we were part of. She is so strong
It's so impressive for someone to suffer from so much abuse from her father and husband for so many years with no help from anyone, and have to deal with the depression, anxiety and physical issues caused by the abuse and isolation, and yet be able to rise above it all and make a good life for herself and her children. You are a testament to the resiliency and strength of women and the human spirit. You are such an inspiration to us all, and you are so deserving of every happiness and a peaceful life free of abuse. Congratulations, I'm so happy for you. Thank you for sharing your story.
In 71, there was an exchange student that was new at my high school. I was 14 also. I befriended this boy, and a few months later, he told me that he wanted me to walk outside with him. A man in a limo stepped out and nodded. He then told me he wanted me to be his first wife and give him blue eyed babies. He said my dad would be paid well for me. I was so insulted, I never spoke to him again. I cringe to think what would have happened if I had gone.
That's sad though
true they have no respect for women
Im😢 choosing to believe your father would have unalived them before he let them pay him well for you
@@suddenlyoldtrue they see women as products to be sold and used
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The ability for her to hold the light in such unbelievably hopeless times, it’s incredible. Her having her baby on the floor, with no one there was heartbreaking to hear. We really need to remember woman like this, when we are fighting for our rights here in the US. Keeping and expanding our rights here, well I think it gives hope to women around the world. America is the place she was able to support herself and build her own life for her family. We cannot give up fighting for each other’s safe spaces. I am so inspired by her resilience. I think she will help so many women by telling her story. Woman are superhero’s and you can never convince me otherwise!
Agree!
You were so lucky to escape the terror, abuse and imprisonment you endured. With best wishes to you, your boys and your daughter from Ireland 🇮🇪
Thank you for giving her the platform to tell her story in a safe place. May god keep her safe now and always.
Amen
KEEP YOUR FATHER OUT OF YOURS & YOUR CHILDRENS LIVES or you father will CORRUPT and destroy your children's lives. Be safe for you and your children's. Never ever Trust your father again. Abusers & NARCISSISTS NEVER CHANGE.
What an incredible woman.Her authenticity, courage, and strength to break away from the toxic people in her life. To have and make her own plan to get out and doing it step by step amazes me. What a great role model. Just WOW.
This is why I volunteered to teach English to women like this. Please start up or join groups and teach these ladies so that they may work, integrate and fend for themselves. They can also make friends and support one another.
How?! How can I teach, please? I want nothing more than to help these ladies? No clue where to voluteer for it. Thank you.
How can we start? There was a Syrian girl I used to work with in similar situation. I couldn't help her because at the time I was very young myself. I will carry the guilt till the day I die.
@@pennybarker1596Look into getting a Teaching as a Second Language Certificate. There are lots of organisations, you can get a course for very cheap, and honestly it teaches teaching methodologies and is very useful in other aspects of your life regardless! It takes some time but isn't too difficult. Then you can contact volunteer organisations, or if you don't have something similar in your area, you could get in contact with local outreach programmes. I have mixed feelings on religious-motivated ones, but there's no doubt that local churches are often a hub for programmes like this and benefit can be found with ANYBODY who is disadvantaged by a lack of language.
@@kathleenchaffin2591Any non-profit that teaches English will train you to teach as a volunteer. I interned at one. Just Google English learning and your area. I saw men come to learn and they often brought their wives.
All you can do is teach really, but explaining free resources like domestic violence shelters- I don't know how they could fault you for sharing that if necessary.
@@pennybarker1596See my comment ^^^ you can find these nonprofits everywhere. Google English learning and your area.
I am an ex-Muslim and I understand exactly what this girl went through. I was forced to take care of my mother-in-law’s children and house. They were very happy when my son was born, but nobody visited me when I had my daughter.
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This has nothing to do with Religion ok, people always blame religion when they don't have the right knowledge. Men who doing these things to women are not muslim! If you only knew how our beloved Prophet Mohammed treated his women, you would cry!!!!
@@saratoukhawasn’t Aisha a kid though ? 🤔
@@saratoukha The problem I see is women who come forward with tales of abuse even threats of death wanting help are attacked by women of the same religion and culture. This is a sickness, you’re right this has nothing to do with real religion, it is cultural and false prophet influences.
To Zoella2349 Yes, Aisha was 6 years old when married to the self proclaimed false prophet Mohammed, the marriage was consummated when she was 9 years old.
Mohammed incited approximately 80 wars and participated in over 30-40 of them, seems to me he was a violent man with terrorist tendencies. Marrying a child and consummating the marriage while still a child not even 10 years old is not respecting of women, it is child abuse, again, you were correct, knowing how your beloved prophet Mohammed treated women brings tears of sympathy and outrage.
@@saratoukha wrong. it has absolutely everything to do with religion. specifically, islam. i can show you the exact verses being used to justify beating of women, treating them like property, raping them as part of marriage, etc. it seems more like you do not know your own faith.
leave islam if you think what happened to ellaf is wrong.
SHE'S a SAINT. ❤ I ADMIRE HER. She is incredible.
I’m disgusted that she wasn’t asked questions by the nurses every time I was in the hospital having a baby and the nurses asked me over and over if I was safe or if I had any fears about going home after I delivered I had 5 children in 3 different hospitals so I thought that was standard protocol 😢🤷🏼♀️ the fact that she wasn’t asked and given a chance to tell someone, anyone what she was going through 😢😡my heart hurts for her so badly 😮 my momma heart wants to wrap my arms around her and talk to her and give her comfort 😢
You know why she wasnt asked...same reason why black women die giving birth and after birth
I wonder why her parents even came here to the USA if they would continue to be against living here.
Money
They live off the government. Did you know that?
A lot of immigrants from outside the west believe where they come from is superior. They come to the U.S. because they secretly like all the options available to them. The biggest driving factor is economics. The U.S. is a rich nation, so even the majority of those who suffer aren’t suffering like the way would from where many of these immigrants come from. They want the US dollar conversion to send back to their families and to live with a possibility of more mobility than they would have back home.
Because the U.S. is so economically powerful, they admire it. But many of them have a deep resentment for it because they were not primed to succeed in western culture in the way someone who grew up in it is. They feel out of place and have taken a hit to their social standing in comparison to where they come from. It makes them harbor deep resentment. It also makes them have a misaligned complex.
They develop a superiority based inferiority complex. They feel so inferior about the lack of options and abundance from where they come from when they compare how things are there to many places in the west. Instead of analyzing their own cultures and fixing the things that lead to them being less abundant, they are taught to hate the U.S. and the west for everything. Their leaders do not want to do anything for them, but they are too afraid to speak up about admitting the dysfunction in their communities because to them, in a way, they are admitting defeat to places in the west.
Of course, being honest about this would trigger them into stating their culture is superior as a defense mechanism. But they know that is not true. Otherwise, they would not feel compelled to come to the U.S. Obviously, if things are going well, why would you want to leave where you come from? Why are you willing to deal with ostracism and take a hit to your social standing? They don’t know how to rectify this without sounding pathetic and so they cope by doubling down on their hatred of places in the west and western culture. If the west was not so economically abundant, they would not bother trying to come. But to them, it is a paradox that it is while sustaining a “haram” culture with weak citizens who don’t know real hardship.
Hello. Their plans are to have more Muslims in the USA so they can take over eventually.
We should be more informed as to what Muslims think and how they act.
Definitely a problem. They want to take what the US has but hold onto their old failed culture. A culture that never questions. No wonder their culture is so backward.
This woman should teach at university. She is so intelligent & inspirational! I am sorry she went through so much pain, but I am happy she is healthy & happy. ❤ so much respect to her!
It's truly heart breaking everything She went through. Gosh.
That is the saddest bride picture I have ever seen, its like a bride at a funeral. The expression is just devastation when its suppose to be the happiest. 😒😧Just unbelievable!!! She is a survivor! 🙏🙏🙏👸🏻💃🙋🏽
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Evil culture, wicked parents, demonic government. Which father sell their daughter away?
Muslim father. Unbelievable cruel culture and customs. Shame on everyone who failed that young beautiful brave woman
@@ellier21 what does being muslim have do to with this islam doesnt teach you those thing so does any other religion its people
@@Manchis123exactly! Some people are ill informed. That is a blanket statement saying all Muslims behave this way and believe this way. They should do more research. I suggest they research the country of Mauritania, a country where most are Muslim and women are practically placed on a pedestal.
Oh really? How many fathers (parents) ki..ed their daughters in the US, ra..ed them, had kids with them while kidnaping them, capturing them in basement. How many parents left their kids, used them just to get some benefit in their name? You can't say anything about Islam and Muslims until you study our religion. This thing this women went through has nothing to do with Islam, Quran, and God it's all about the tradition and culture.
@Manchis123 Sahih al-Bukhari 5134
Narrated `Aisha:
that the Prophet (ﷺ) married her when she was six years old and he consummated his marriage when she was nine years old. Hisham said: I have been informed that `Aisha remained with the Prophet (ﷺ) for nine years (i.e. till his death).
حَدَّثَنَا مُعَلَّى بْنُ أَسَدٍ، حَدَّثَنَا وُهَيْبٌ، عَنْ هِشَامِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم تَزَوَّجَهَا وَهْىَ بِنْتُ سِتِّ سِنِينَ، وَبَنَى بِهَا وَهْىَ بِنْتُ تِسْعِ سِنِينَ. قَالَ هِشَامٌ وَأُنْبِئْتُ أَنَّهَا كَانَتْ عِنْدَهُ تِسْعَ سِنِينَ.
What a horrible story. I'm so so happy that you have escaped from these horrible people. You are amazing!
This young lady deserves all respect and protection. This is way too far beyond whatever you could could digest. In whose name are all these abuses done? Both husband and father deserve prison without the possibility of parole. Young woman, you are strong and I celebrate your resilient spirit. Keep on keeping on
God blessings be upon u Make King JESUCRISTO surround with His powerful LOVE n protection divine protection amen
Great interview, she is so strong. She broke that abusive cycle for her children and gave them the gift of free choice, not having to live that cruel, angry, abusive life. She's brave, driven and successful. She suffered greatly and I hope the rest of her life is filled with happiness!!
I love Elaf’s positive mindset: whether you think you can or can’t, you’re right. It’s a mind set.
There was a Child Protection issue here. Why wasn't this investigated in the US? Such a brave lady to share her story. Greetings from Ireland. 🇨🇮
If they were here illegally or if they were on welfare illegally could possibly be why CPS wasn't aware. Also, it depends on who runs the town. Democrats tend to cover up this type of information so their towns data and statistics sound successful. These are possible scenarios.
Bc America isn’t any better when it comes to protecting children & women than a Islamic country.
This is horrific, to think that in a land like America a doctors sends home a 15 year old without incestigation. I imagine her 'father' talked his way out somehow, but this is unacceptable.
@serenitypeaceandcomfort3669 I live in a city that borders Dearborn in Michigan. It is not a democrat or republican issue but a cultural issue in Dearborn. More and more of the people running the city of Dearborn are of Arabic heritage so it’s considerably easier to continue this practice unseen.
Why is Ireland siding w Palestine Muslim. ?????
I think this is the most horrific story to date on your channel. Ellaf is a warrior in every sense of the word. She should be so proud of how accomplished and beautiful she is.
This was a shocking and sad story. This young woman came out on top. I wish her all the best in the future
I am so happy for her that she was able to get free from her husband and father's abuse and control, she is so strong and beautiful soul, God bless her and her children for all she has accomplished for them and herself, what an inspiration to all women❤️🕊️✨
Hearing about the life Ellaf has built up for her kids and how sweet and wonderful her sons are brings so much joy to my heart. The proof is in the pudding, those cycles are certifiably broken.
To think we have millions of people protesting in our streets to support these barbaric monsters practices against their wives and daughters, what the hell is wrong with the free world 😡much respect to this young lady I wish her well in life .💕
Amen
All those protesters should be forced to go live in that country.
I agree, it beggars belief.
Well, the thing is no one's doing that. Protesting against war is not protesting in support of misogyny. Wives and daughters get killed by bombs too.
Agree
My heart is so heartbroken for Ellaf and others like her. I never could imagine how someone could survive this ordeal so young. I'm glad Ellaf is better now. Good job covering this story, Shelise. Hugs to Ellaf.
It's so refreshing to see criticism of Islam that is *truly* about uplifting the victims. It's been so frustrating to only ever hear politically motivated and dehumanizing concern-trolling about Muslims, from evangelicals and western chauvinistic atheists alike. The entire branch of Abrahamic faith needs to be examined with respect and dignity to those harmed. Thank you Shelise for continuing to platform these incredibly important conversations.
How do you propose they do that? Israel has given refuge to numerous gay Palestinian men, some of these men have later been found and murdered by their families. Yet Israel is considered the bad guy, no one else is standing up for gay Palestinians, in fact, in the West there is Queers for Palestine, despite the basic fact that they would be killed in both the West Bank and Gaza. Israel has also given refuge to Palestinian women fleeing abuse, they are then accused of stealing Palestinian women. You don’t have to believe me, Google shelters in Israel for gay and abused Palestinians. Israeli tax dollars fund these programs, name a single program funded by Palestinians for abused women or gay people. Not one funded by NGOs in the West, but actually funded by the Palestinian people You won’t find it because it doesn’t exist.
I totally agree !
@@Catmom-gl5nt Being gay is illegal in Israel, the prime minister wanted to make it the death penalty but the US threatened to pull funding. Also you are shitting on Palestine for not getting funds together? 75% of Palestinians are literally fucking children, 50% of the country is 10 years old or less since so many of the adults have been killed
Conservative religion in general is really bad for women.
You say, “examine with respect”. But uno Muslims don’t see any kind of examination of Islam and its teachings as respectful. I do agree that it is good to see this (what Shelise, Ellaf and others are doing) instead of the fear-mongering of the far-right.
I’m from Iraq , strongly agree with everything think she said, did you know that now 2024 in parliament they are discussing the decision to marry minors from the age of 9 years old and make it legal in Iraq? Women have no rights. We are suffering.most of men is Narcissistic.
* are narcissists. Terrible are you as
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Keep your daughter close!!! I would not be surprised if your ex came to take her back, to keep the cycle going
That is a very scary thought. 😳
I hope for that to never happen.
@heidimisfeldt5685 i dont know if he could manufacture a new passport, but i would gaurd the daughter , he seems to be way to involved with what his ex is doing. I wouldn't let anyone know where we are. He will kidnap that girl!!
Hopefully, that jerk has no idea where she is.
He's a loser with no money.
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Men who have such terrible cultural training have traditionally caused so much pain! I feel so bad for this young woman, glad she got away😂❤🎉!!
These men must not be allowed in this country This is obscene, A father taking a 14 year old daughter and selling her in the middle east.
Those men aren't men ....they're sickos!
What a fantastic woman! Sending love and light to her! ❤
Her young life was devastating but she took that experience and did a 180 and not many people can do that. She should be so proud of herself and the children she has raised. Such a positive interview. Sadly I can think of all these young people today supporting that culture, and all the violence that happens within in it. Eyes need to be opened and understanding you have so many rights as an American, which so many countries, religious and cultures do not have. TFS your story. I hope people actually listened to you and your plight.
Think of all of the states supporting high demand religious cultures ? There are lots of effed up institutions in the states that are owned by men who control women and children so idk what you are thinking about the states supporting women
She deserve to have a movie on her life story! The world needs to see That movie!!!
I second this!
I second this!
The world knows but Jesus has a bigger plan
Absolutely!
Watch the movie " Not Without My Daughter" sums up her story very much
You are phenomenal!! You accomplished more than most could in ten lifetimes! You have given your children a better life than they could ever have imagined!!!! You are my hero.!!!
Breaking the cycle is HARD!
I had to break from my abusive addicted family. Life is sooo much better!
Blessings to you strong lady!!!
Number One: every single person involved in her situation needs be charged as harshly as the law will allow. Number Two: dad, you sold her to her husband. You no longer get to use her as a work horse and income source. Maybe her husband would have treated her better If she handed her money to HIM. It is a small blessing that her first 2 children were boys.The truth seems to be that these men were fighting over WHO GETS to exploit her.. Luckily her father's greed and belief that she was a good source of income for him, she would have been "honour killed" long before she had the chance to save herself and her children. The is NO HONOUR I'm killing a woman! Someone who has been dominated, is weaker, and completely dependant on the men in their family which makes it impossible to fight back. So pathetic, these men. That's WHY people (men of course) still insist on practicing religion. They barely believe but there is so many benefits offered for men that stepping away because it's nonsense is stupid. Why give up the right to abuse your proper..I mean wife; and, ģo exploit her any way you wish
Without lies Islam dies
Say no to sharia
Ironically, these men wouldn’t dare fight against those who are stronger and more powerful than they are. They are COWARDS. Where was their so called bravery when the tyrant Saddam Hussain was ruling over them? Where was their so called bravery when the US invaded their country? They only know how to beat on women and use them as their punching bag.
''Maybe her husband would have treated her better If she handed her money to HIM.'' are you rtarded?
I am in awe of this woman. I hope that she went on to experience and give love and laughter and kindness and joy to herself and her children.
Ellaf, you are a warrior. You are an exceptional woman. Your fight is so brave.
I got goosebumps hearing her talking about breaking the cycle and knowing her daughter will get to choose who she marries, and knowing her sons strongest relationship is with their mother and breaks the cycle of how they may treat their partners in the future! ❤
So incredibly inspiring!
I cannot imagine how I could survive such a situation. I myself grew up with very abusive parents and I broke free when I was 18. The healing takes a lifetime. You are such a role model for young women. I am deeply glad you survived. You make this world a better place. Thank you so much❤
I’m so proud of this young lady and the best thing she has done for her children is to raise them well! Continue to Shine and stay focused! Blessings!
What a strong woman! Congratulations on taking back your power and doing what is best for your children.
This beautiful soul walked through hell and showed the devil he has no power over her! A true survivor and a warrior. She should write a book about her story. Wishing her and her kids the very best!!!
I am from a country life, with abusive father. He would take car keys away from my mother, cut us down, kick, hit us, beat us is in bed in the night, have alcoholic rages. He is on wife #4, and he made good money in the oilfield work. My mother was oppressed, emotionally abused, used as his cook, cleaner, his slave. So this made her unloving. I cut both of them just to survive. My brother put me in a closet after telling me to undress. I escaped, so he us cut off as well. Unsafe, unloving humans, cousins drink and love my drinking dad, who also laughed at me. They just want us in the kitchen as servants. Yeah, no.
I am so sorry you went through that. Abuse is everywhere. All countries, all religions, all incomes - no group can claim they are above this behavior. It's really an abomination because what are we on this planet for, if not to take care of it and each other?
Omigod it just hurts to hear this woman’s story. It’s hard to believe a person could endure such things in this day and age.
It’s impossible to express the height of admiration I have for her. Again, Shelise, thank you for another great interview.
This woman is a superhero. I'm so proud of her strength and her resilience.
Expose those wicked people and that sick, demented culture as religion sis! They try to shame you to cover their MOUNTAIN of sins, evil and wickedness!
I’m in tears of anger and tears of joy!!!
I am an always impressed with how women around the world in all situations desire and need to know! And be educated, that this is the one thing that keeps them safe and your experience with all that came against you in oppression and abuse you stood up and you made the best!!!! Of every situation
Your children are a testament to the amazing woman you are!!!!
Please write a book!!! Please keep talking about this keep sharing keep pressing into your families health and mental care.!!!
You wouldn’t treat an animal like this ! Let alone your wife and daughter
That religious/culture is so wrong. It’s it’s centuries of it.
Muslim men do every day.
So proud of you girl . Watching and listening from Jamaica. Virtual embrace.❤
As a man who has a daughter that is something I would never put my daughter through. Women from the Middle East really go through a lot both mentally and physically very much an educational learning experience for me.
Not every woman in the Middle East go through that I don’t like how people thing all of them do it’s a minority this culture is old and happened long ago it doesn’t happen as much anymore maybe a little but it’s not as common as it was long ago it’s not a part of Islam either it’s bullshit in Islam you don’t have to get married if you don’t want someone no1 can force u our religion is fair and Allah the created is just it’s just people who are animals as u can see I’m from Middle East and my
Father is amazing and followed religion and reason and cared for us and most of my cousins same thing they didn’t go through this thank god it’s vile but some people do and it’s sad they should be jailed for this shit that husband 🤬 I have no words to say
The most important lesson you can teach your children is to pick your friends and partners wisely.
@@DuaYafai , sure 👍 I’m sure all the acid attack victims will agree with you!
@@DuaYafai , yes it was Muslim men that did it, they get very upset when they get rejected by women. You know!
@@annetoronto5474 ok loool if you say so a lot is Christian men do that to and Jewish men so stop with ur Islamophobia ur very sickening seriously why so much hate damn 😂 I don’t get it I don’t hate any of u guys despite what church fathers do to children in many many many church’s 😳 I don’t go saying all of u are molesters and sex offenders so why the hate wow I notice this amongst a lot of white people they hate Muslims so bad it’s mad but they forget to take a look at there own culture and shit there own people do which is so hypocritical but oh well I guess u can’t change people only god can I have nothing against u at all of course the guy was bad but why would u generalize all Muslim men to be the same??? That’s not facts it’s a stereotype
This is extremely sad! I went to high school in Dearborn. Thinking now that some of my Muslim friends may have or is currently experiencing this is truly overwhelming. Love the success for you ❤
I dont think being Muslim has anything to do with this. The lady mentioned culture nothing about Islam in this interview. Islam is not a culture it's a religion and just because you are Muslim does not mean that you follow it or that it is reflected or applied in people's Cultures correctly.
Ask them...and if so help them!
@@imanlah4803 This is completely Islam. They have no respect for women, they have to do what the father says and after marriage they have to do what the husband says...
What an amazing, sad, inspirational story. Ellaf is a warrior woman. And Shelise, you're a wonderful interviewer, drawing out the people you interview with compassion and understanding.
I'm so honoring of you Shelise. You are a warrior and the world is a better place because of your work. Ellaf, I will never forget your story and your courage. Thank you.
Wow, thank you❤️
What a brave woman. Wishing her and her children all the best.
Courageous, beautiful, strength beyond measure despite horrific years of abuse and still loving in nature. Ellaf you are immense ❤
There should never be any shame for leaving ones religion, but letting others to disrespect, mistreat and degrade ones' soul is. Mental-emotional trauma is very bonding to the abuser and will keep a person hostage, till awakening comes. Blessings to all the women and man that go through it with the courage to escape.
What an inspirational strong woman 😭😭♥️♥️
Bravo! The end of the journey turned out so well. I am so happy for her. God bless her and her children.🥰🇵🇬🙏🏼
Ellaf, you are a WARRIOR! Shelise, please do more videos with her!
What an incredible woman. I don't know how she kept going through all of that. Her kids must be so proud of her.
Hats off for you girl. Your courage is admirable. You story will inspire so many people. You never gave up. You believed in yourself. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 May you continue to have a happy life with your children.
It seems like her father's relationship with her was the classic scapegoat child relationship. Talking about the desperation to just give her away and then taking her siblings and her mother back to America. Alot of like toxic parents do have that child that for whatever reason they've just convinced themselves is the evil one or the enemy.
I’m totally in tears. This woman’s story is so tragic and totally amazing. She is so inspiring. ❤
A woman that rose above abuse and cultral difference, I think you should definitely be a shinning light for Domestic Abuse for many women and men, you too can rise above it by taking the first step and saying ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.You my dear are an incredible, brave woman, a beautiful mother. I wish you nothing but success and happiness for the future ❤
Kudos to Ellaf for escaping and flourishing. I wish her and her family all the best. These interviews never become easier to listen to.
حالتها ابد مو نادره او حاله فرديه ملاين البنات بالعالم العربي وحته الغربي الي يعيشون ببيئه مسلمه
يعيشون حياتها
التحكم المستمر بكل شي والعزل
شي مخزي اقسم بالله
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Thank for saying that
The way these eastern countries treat women is absolutely disgusting. It seriously makes the men who support & act out this behavior look pathetic! I hope they get what they’ve got coming!! Karma’s a real B!tch.
I'm very sorry 😢
Det er mest giftemål for unge jenter fra sør irak og nord irak blandt kurdere.
This woman and mother is so inspirational sending so much love from ireland 🇮🇪 beautiful strong sister united and use your voice for change amazing channel x
I have listened to every episode you have recorded - I am a huge fan. I was listening to this on my way to work & this was the first episode where I have cried. I feel for this woman so much. I felt so many emotions listening to this. But by the end, I was beyond proud. Women really are SO strong and such resilient people! Sending all my love to your guest!!