Agreed I’m 21 with a 6 month old and expenses is a lot. I am a nursing student about to graduate next year . And this world is just getting expense by the day . I feel I will be selfish to bring another human being into this world knowing I’m not ready . Plus my son is a handful so I think I’m one and done lol
@@emmmaklukas1853 where I live, Louisville, KY, everyone has three kids except me. Three is everyone's favorite number except me. I have one kid, and he will be ten in December. When I had him, I knew I was one and done. Proud mom of one. I love it. 🙌🏾💙
I understand her decision. I am a 50 year old woman and I had 1 child 31 years ago. I never thought about having multiples. She had a great life and I have no regrets.
I am 24 with a calm easy 10 month old . I am one and done . I'm trying to travel and have fun in my twenties and thirties and like she said in the video . Ik my limits ,me and my husbands resources and attention go straight to him . No regrets so far
People have no idea how good only kids have it unless you are one yourself. 😂Many often have a happy childhood, deep bond with their parents and grow into secure and resilient adults. We don't grow up wondering IF our parents love us, we KNOW they love us!😁
I am a single child and I never missed having siblings but I grew up in a culture where neighbors, coworkers and everybody is very open and close to each other so I always had friends to play with. My childhood was great even not having a father, most of my evenings was spent playing with the neighbors' kids in the street and in each other's houses. To this day we are still close friends. The only time I missed having siblings was after I got old and moved overseas and my mom got sick with mental issues like paranoia and delusions and I was the only person to watch and care for her. It was very stressful to carry all that load alone, not having anybody to help me with decisions about her health and to watch her. Now I have a daughter and live in a country where people don't even know their neighbors' names. I see my daughter having a lonely childhood, so different than mine that was surrounded by so many people and kids.
The key for happy children is stable loving family. Single or multiple children from abusive parents or absent parents will suffer and feel lonely etc. Connected family and community will keep the relational sphere alive.
I agree 100℅ , am one child and i grew up secure emotionnnaly, i had wonderful childhood , i love my parents and now am 47 am taking care of them will Never leave them and am married and have two kids
I would highly recommend remembering that everyone fall on hard times unless they are extremely rich, and having kids will only intensify the situation.
Yes, I am currently in the "hard times" phase and I am so happy that I only have one birthday to get ice cream, cake and presents for and only have to get school clothes for one child ONLY. Kids are expensive! Life is expensive!
Many people have kids for selfish reasons and never try to plan. You will never ready for the obstacles to raising a child but at least have finances in order . No kid deserves to be brought into this world poor or into a broken hand. Think it thru having one kid realistically is what many people should have done . I see mothers struggle thinking more is the best thing it’s not.
Exactly! I wish more people only had one child! What matters more is the parent you are towards the kid! Not all sibling relationships are positive! Believe it or not half the families in europe are one child families which is honestly really refreshing!
Partly why I had one child. I can be a great parent to one much of the time. Two or more I would be very average or even poor due to time and financial commitments. And mental health! Kids are forever!
I was very financially stable when I had my one and only child, and lost everything I had when I was diagnosed with a brain tumor. All the planning in the world can't save you when life happens.
Growing up as an only child, I knew that I would never only have a single child. Whereas a good friend who is also an only child, would only chose to have one child. Each scenario is different and it's wonderful to make the choice and not be judged.
I’m the mother of an adult female child. My husband and I planned on having two children. Due to a very difficult pregnancy, preeclampsia, we opted to not risk another pregnancy. I’m very close with my daughter, she is my best friend. It’s been difficult for me when she’s moved out. It’s makes me feel sad, but I’ve always let her do her own thing and make her own decisions. She knows that if she needs to move back in due to financial circumstances, she can. She’s not attached or dating. She just moved into an apartment and for the first time she will not have any roommates. She’s excited about doing her own thing and decorating her new place.
I had one child and my health is a wreck I can never have more. Now she is 5 and lonely leaving me guilty of if not providing a sibling. If I had known motherhood is soooo draining I would never have had one at first place. Becoming a mom is choice pls see not everyone has to have a child for completing their lives and making them happy. As people are lazy , active good bad and etc… society has to change its view on this and embrace childfree lives as equals to family with 10 kids.
Lol having a sibling doesn't guarantee your child won't be lonely let alone would they get along. Does she have any friends or cousins? Have you ever tried having regular playdates for her?
When my son was 6 I was diagnosed with a brain tumor. It was a very long and hard battle and much of the time I had little energy. He was in school when I had brain surgery so that kept him occupied much of the day, and when summer rolled around I made sure that I took him to our neighborhood park every day at lunchtime. If you're in the US, look up the summer meal sites and it will tell you where lunches are served to kids every weekday. It's always a park or school, and the lunches are free, and there's usually some sort of activity going on. We would go and stay for an hour or two. On my really horrible days I would take a blanket and nap in the sun while my son got to run and play and have a nutritious lunch that I didn't have to make lol. And even if that was the only thing that I did that day I felt good about it. It is horrible to be sick and have a young child who needs their mama, but at that age they don't need much. My son was happy with our trip to the park each day.
I am also a only child for 22 years now and growing up being the only child was a blast bc I got everything that I asked for . My mom said I was a handful so I scared her into not having another one . I use to have a blast I was my own friend lol. I grew up with my boy cousins so they felt like brothers to me . But they also made me appreciate being the only child bc they will annoy the heck out me when they come over . Being the only child I didn’t have to wait for someone to get out the bathroom . I had peace and quite at night. I didn’t have to share my belongs. Now I have a son who is 6 months old in a few weeks. He is very active now and demanding so I think I am a One and Done parent bc he is a handful😂😂 plus a lot is going on in the world today and expenses
I love this ♥️ I’m a huge fan of Jen. She brings awareness to families with only children. Her page is refreshing and honest. Our daughter is an only child and we love giving her all of our love and attention xo
I’m only having one child I have older siblings that I don’t even talk too I felt like the only child growing up. My fiancé was an only child growing up and he loved it. Personally financially I think it’s best for us to have only one child I am also older and I already been through a miscarriage. I don’t want to be pregnant multiple times and it’s just the best choice for me. He wants two but financially it’s best for us to have just one child.
This was a fantastic interview. Thanks Jen for your page and for opening up about your decision to be #oneanddone. Like you, this was a conscious choice for myself and family, and I am glad you are opening the doors for this new societal norm.
Moral of the story is: MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS AND YOUR OWN HOMES!!! If the child is being raised in a heathy, stable environment, then leave them alone AND MIND YOUR OWN!!!!
It sounds really sensible to take no interest in demographic trends. They cannot be relevant to anyone, right? How could demographic be perhaps the single most important factor in how the future of society pans out. Mind our own. And don’t bother to pay tax either.
@@sunnywintermorning1941Those of you who are concerned about “demographic trends” can just have more of your own kids and quit worrying about the rest of us.
@@triggered577 in your model, would those who have kids get tax breaks equivalent to the economic contribution their children are statistically forecast to make? Or instead, those who don’t have kids get penalized, like no social security or health care or what have you? Either model sounds pretty MadMax to me. Plenty to worry about, albeit I won’t be around for when the worst of it crunches. In a society, there’s no ‘us’ & ‘them’; only ‘we’.
I never wanted kids at all, but found myself pregnant at 28 and decided to go ahead with the pregnancy. I'm glad that I did, the 18 years that I've been this boy's mama have brought me much joy. I do wish that I would have given him a sibling, though. I have been dealing with some serious health issues and my greatest fear is him being alone in the world. I know that I will die first, at least I hope so, but I worry that my time will come before he has found his village. I have friends who are my chosen family and expect that he will have the same, but until then I will worry. I just want him to be okay. It's a long walk when you're alone ❤
As a parentified child I support this message I only have one but had to help raise 4 syblings with ABSOLUTELY NO THANK YOUS so yea i definitely didn't wanna do that to my child.
My mom is an only child and she is like oh I was so lonely! Like not all sibling relationships are positive! I love onlies! Less is more! Wish there were more onlies! I’m a 2000 baby! Siblings are too expensive! If I have kids I’m only having one kid! Not only cuz cheaper but I want better relationship with my child!
I don't understand how a only child could be so lonely. They are the only child, but it's not like they are lonely on a deserted island with no people around. I doubt ONE sibling would make that much difference in helping with loneliness. For example, if you are a 13-year old girl, do you really want to hang around your 9 year old baby brother all time? I doubt it. She would probably complain about having to babysit her younger sibling and view the sibilng as a burden.
@@renealexander2703 Exactly this. My sister and I were four years apart, and we had our own social circles and peer groups. We each would have done fine as single kids. People need to stop thinking that they should have a second kid to give their first kid a playmate. Worst case scenario, the siblings may end up hating and actively trying to harm each other. I knew a pair of brothers like this because their parents only had the second so that the first wouldn't be lonely. The entire family suffered for it.
I'm pregnant with my first, and pregnancy has been really difficult, physically. I dont know whether I want to do this again. I was an only child and I liked it, but i dont want to regret it in the future.
I had hyperemesis garvadirum with my first and luckily I didn’t need to work during this time and my husband was deployed. When my son was 18 months old, I got pregnant again and also experienced more intense side effects of hyperemesis. I couldn’t get food down or water for days. I was going to the hospital for IV treatments and I eventually gave up. I realized I couldn’t do it so we terminanted the pregnancy. My son is very high needs and I feel like I would have regretted KEEPING the pregnancy because it would have been unfair for all of us. Mama, you have so much time to decide. We will most likely be fostering or adopting in the future. The child doesn’t have to come from your body either 🩷
If only my republican mother stuck to one Child. She spread her legs in the name of Christ and lived off assistance. Siblings aren’t guaranteed to love eachother and I wish people knew that
I hated my sibling the whole childhood I dreamed of being the only child. Never understood why parents had another child while they already had me. If I ever dare to have another child, my kids will have bigger age gap because I don't want them to fight and compete for attention
It is much more better to have only one child; for family, for kid, for society, for economy, for ecology, for quality of life and for all the planet! 👉👪👍
Nah sorry im in my first pregnancy (still very early) and my husband and i have arleady said we are already a one and done family. Like i couldnt imagine going through another pregnancy i have never in life felt this bad 😂-honsetly i have no idea how other women have gone through more than one pregnancy to have more children 😅 like are you crazy ? Surely its easier to have one child ? And slightly cheaper
Yep me too I'm 7 months pregnant and we have already said this is going to be our only child. The life I can give one child will be infinitely better than the one I could give to two. My husband and I will also be able to maintain our own lives and independence just having one child whereas with two or more your life pretty much ends up being all about the kids until they move out as you're so busy doing things for them. I also don't want to give up work which realistically I'd have to do if we had more than 1 kid as full time childcare costs about £1800 per child per month where I live in the UK and neither of our parents are supporting us with that. If you have parents who are happy to take care of your kids for you several days a week so you don't have to fork out thousands on childcare, or you're happy to be a stay at home parent then that's great, good for you, but that's not our situation so kindly back TF off and stop asking if we will have another!!
If I should have a child, I would prefer to realistically have one child for financial reasons and the energy it takes to raise a child, then have more than one. The resources dwindle and stretch thin when you expand your family. If you can afford it, have as many as you can afford. I know realistically to give a child a great life and educational experience, is to spend a certain amount of money on that.
To be fair, if I wanted to have children, I'd settle for one. Raising kids expensive and I don't know why other families care even care, it's not their life! And it's not their business either.
(I want several kids) BUT Historically multiple children were for survival of the human race & infants had died early - we are over populated globally & selfish ambition, capitalism is rife
Instead of pestering people who have been financially, mentally and emotionally responsible to know they only want to have one child and who take good care of that child - how about we question those who have multiple children without money to provide for them, who neglect them and are all around shitty parents? Just an idea...
It hurts people think this. I am happy to have one and done, however I do struggle wishing I had one more. However, I am 44 now and cannot. My daughter is always surrounded by kids and yes I am afraid she will be alone, I do feel better she has siblings from her dad side. Why dont men get asked this?
I didn't feel guilty having one child. My son is the youngest of 3. His father already had 2 girls. He didn't grow up closely with them. He is my only child but he knows he's not an only child in the world. He is well educated. No debts. Lives on his own. I don't think I could have helped him achieve that with a second child.
Having siblings are overrated. I don't know why parents assume their children will be great friends in the future. Most of my friends and I'm extremely extroverted always were surprised to learn I had multiple siblings. That's how rarely they factored into my life and we aren't even estranged. Personality determines if you will get along with your siblings not simply because we're family. I've chosen to make my best friends both male and female my family as when I've been in crisis, they have been the ones who understood and cared to help. Really don't have multiple kids assuming they will be close just because they share the same DNA. I told my dad who I am close with that unfortunately when he passes, I will probably never see my siblings again as they live in different states and we rarely talk, just the occasional text for birthdays and holidays. He seems sad but didn't push. I said I am just being honest...
Personally it’s every Woman’s choice what they do with their body. This has nothing to do with finance, especially if they have experienced this before. The show is one and done not none and done!
Pregnancy and delivery were beautiful times for me. Sleepless nights? Not beautiful. I’m debating n having another one and my husband doesn’t want another child 👧
It’s not biologically beneficial to have only one baby. I believe that industrialized birth (in hospitals) has traumatized women and babies into not wanting more kids. I have 4 and it requires every bit of me most days but I don’t regret any of it!
Yeah, so many women only want one child after experiencing traumatic hospital births. This is why I am a supporter of home births for low risk pregnancies
I am currently weighing my options, just had my first and I may have second but idk now.. I’m a second child for my parents second marriage I can’t imagine life without my big brother and he is truly my best friend. The only person we know that is a only child is an alcoholic
I was one and done but she’ll be 5 in September and I’m changing my mind. It’s not even about happiness. Life has changed and if I’m able to have another, I will.
….do you know what it’s like to always be alone to throw the football with no one to catch it,to have on every Video game that has 2 player for 99% of the time to play against a robot… Being an only child is like this one death and it’s a partnership To have a twin bed… it’s another reminder and you know Something sad most only children’s mothers and fathers are old which means by the time they are 15 their mothers are in menopause… Do you know what it’s like to watch Malcom in the middle and relate to the parents as a child You know the worst part of it…you the parent probably had siblings and you had uncles Your children’s children won’t have any of your fun whacky memories from your aunt or uncle Bottom line is being an only child is worse then being a child with siblings
I did not like having a sibling. He is five years older than me and we barely spoke to each other as children. Now we are nearing retirement and there's very little contact. His wife died and he phoned....it had been about four years.
It's called having friends and cousins! I was an only child for 12 amazing years, but I admit I would ask my mom for a sister and guess what I ended up with twin sisters that my mom dumped on me every chance that she got. Not so fun.
Nope. Two parent household with a mom who loved cooking and being a mom. Dad who is my favorite person. Sometimes different personalities mean you just won't get along. You know like the person in your office that can be nails on a chalkboard? Or someone whom is just indifferent. Siblings do not guarantee a close relationship especially when everyone lives in different states and are living their own lives. Parents hope that their kids will always get along but that unfortunately isn't always the case. You can't force closeness.
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Why is it selfish? She wants to give her daughter everything. Nothing wrong with that! I'm from a dysfunctional family of 7 and don't talk to my siblings today
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I actually think parents shouldn't have another baby if they aren't financially prepared.
Agreed I’m 21 with a 6 month old and expenses is a lot. I am a nursing student about to graduate next year . And this world is just getting expense by the day . I feel I will be selfish to bring another human being into this world knowing I’m not ready . Plus my son is a handful so I think I’m one and done lol
Lots of parents are so selfish! 3 kids is literally too many already!
@@emmmaklukas1853 where I live, Louisville, KY, everyone has three kids except me. Three is everyone's favorite number except me. I have one kid, and he will be ten in December. When I had him, I knew I was one and done.
Proud mom of one. I love it. 🙌🏾💙
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like most places. Unfortunately, “3”has become the new “2”.
@@angelaguilar2916 right. & idk why. It's scary and deranged.
I understand her decision. I am a 50 year old woman and I had 1 child 31 years ago. I never thought about having multiples. She had a great life and I have no regrets.
Agreed I’m 22 with a 6 month old boy and he is a handful I don’t think I want I want anymore 😂😂
I have a 2 year old I’m done I won’t be having anymore definitely 1 and done 🎉😂😂
I did the same. One and done 28 years ago. Guess we were ahead of our time! : )
“She had”? Did she pass? 😢
I am 24 with a calm easy 10 month old . I am one and done . I'm trying to travel and have fun in my twenties and thirties and like she said in the video . Ik my limits ,me and my husbands resources and attention go straight to him . No regrets so far
People have no idea how good only kids have it unless you are one yourself. 😂Many often have a happy childhood, deep bond with their parents and grow into secure and resilient adults. We don't grow up wondering IF our parents love us, we KNOW they love us!😁
I’m jealous of only children lol! I hated being a middle child it was horrible! And now I only have one and I give him my all he has the best life ❤
I am a single child and I never missed having siblings but I grew up in a culture where neighbors, coworkers and everybody is very open and close to each other so I always had friends to play with. My childhood was great even not having a father, most of my evenings was spent playing with the neighbors' kids in the street and in each other's houses. To this day we are still close friends. The only time I missed having siblings was after I got old and moved overseas and my mom got sick with mental issues like paranoia and delusions and I was the only person to watch and care for her. It was very stressful to carry all that load alone, not having anybody to help me with decisions about her health and to watch her. Now I have a daughter and live in a country where people don't even know their neighbors' names. I see my daughter having a lonely childhood, so different than mine that was surrounded by so many people and kids.
The key for happy children is stable loving family. Single or multiple children from abusive parents or absent parents will suffer and feel lonely etc.
Connected family and community will keep the relational sphere alive.
I agree 100℅ , am one child and i grew up secure emotionnnaly, i had wonderful childhood , i love my parents and now am 47 am taking care of them will Never leave them and am married and have two kids
Only children are actually more confident as adults.
More emotion less, stubborn and without empathy you mean right?
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@@DhavD-z7kwhy is that? Explain.
@@DhavD-z7kYes. Exactly how it should be 😊
I would highly recommend remembering that everyone fall on hard times unless they are extremely rich, and having kids will only intensify the situation.
Amen
Absolutely. You’re smart to realize this!
Yes, I am currently in the "hard times" phase and I am so happy that I only have one birthday to get ice cream, cake and presents for and only have to get school clothes for one child ONLY. Kids are expensive! Life is expensive!
Many people have kids for selfish reasons and never try to plan. You will never ready for the obstacles to raising a child but at least have finances in order . No kid deserves to be brought into this world poor or into a broken hand. Think it thru having one kid realistically is what many people should have done . I see mothers struggle thinking more is the best thing it’s not.
Exactly! I wish more people only had one child! What matters more is the parent you are towards the kid! Not all sibling relationships are positive! Believe it or not half the families in europe are one child families which is honestly really refreshing!
Partly why I had one child. I can be a great parent to one much of the time. Two or more I would be very average or even poor due to time and financial commitments. And mental health! Kids are forever!
they be trying to get income taxes
what is an example of an unselfish reason for having a child? /genq
I was very financially stable when I had my one and only child, and lost everything I had when I was diagnosed with a brain tumor. All the planning in the world can't save you when life happens.
Growing up as an only child, I knew that I would never only have a single child. Whereas a good friend who is also an only child, would only chose to have one child. Each scenario is different and it's wonderful to make the choice and not be judged.
I’m the mother of an adult female child. My husband and I planned on having two children. Due to a very difficult pregnancy, preeclampsia, we opted to not risk another pregnancy. I’m very close with my daughter, she is my best friend. It’s been difficult for me when she’s moved out. It’s makes me feel sad, but I’ve always let her do her own thing and make her own decisions. She knows that if she needs to move back in due to financial circumstances, she can. She’s not attached or dating. She just moved into an apartment and for the first time she will not have any roommates. She’s excited about doing her own thing and decorating her new place.
Comment made me cry
I had one child and my health is a wreck I can never have more. Now she is 5 and lonely leaving me guilty of if not providing a sibling. If I had known motherhood is soooo draining I would never have had one at first place. Becoming a mom is choice pls see not everyone has to have a child for completing their lives and making them happy. As people are lazy , active good bad and etc… society has to change its view on this and embrace childfree lives as equals to family with 10 kids.
They aren’t equal though, are they?
Lol having a sibling doesn't guarantee your child won't be lonely let alone would they get along. Does she have any friends or cousins? Have you ever tried having regular playdates for her?
@@arthurm.358 lol who’d ever say there are any guarantees in life? Probabilities, sure.
When my son was 6 I was diagnosed with a brain tumor. It was a very long and hard battle and much of the time I had little energy. He was in school when I had brain surgery so that kept him occupied much of the day, and when summer rolled around I made sure that I took him to our neighborhood park every day at lunchtime. If you're in the US, look up the summer meal sites and it will tell you where lunches are served to kids every weekday. It's always a park or school, and the lunches are free, and there's usually some sort of activity going on. We would go and stay for an hour or two. On my really horrible days I would take a blanket and nap in the sun while my son got to run and play and have a nutritious lunch that I didn't have to make lol. And even if that was the only thing that I did that day I felt good about it. It is horrible to be sick and have a young child who needs their mama, but at that age they don't need much. My son was happy with our trip to the park each day.
I am also a only child for 22 years now and growing up being the only child was a blast bc I got everything that I asked for . My mom said I was a handful so I scared her into not having another one . I use to have a blast I was my own friend lol. I grew up with my boy cousins so they felt like brothers to me . But they also made me appreciate being the only child bc they will annoy the heck out me when they come over . Being the only child I didn’t have to wait for someone to get out the bathroom . I had peace and quite at night. I didn’t have to share my belongs. Now I have a son who is 6 months old in a few weeks. He is very active now and demanding so I think I am a One and Done parent bc he is a handful😂😂 plus a lot is going on in the world today and expenses
I love this ♥️ I’m a huge fan of Jen. She brings awareness to families with only children. Her page is refreshing and honest. Our daughter is an only child and we love giving her all of our love and attention xo
I’m only having one child I have older siblings that I don’t even talk too I felt like the only child growing up. My fiancé was an only child growing up and he loved it. Personally financially I think it’s best for us to have only one child I am also older and I already been through a miscarriage. I don’t want to be pregnant multiple times and it’s just the best choice for me. He wants two but financially it’s best for us to have just one child.
Understand this completely I have 3 siblings and it’s ehhh I feel like an only child
I’m one and done and sterilized so no oops baby for me. All of my resources go to daughter and I still get to enjoy my me time.
Definitely getting sterilized after 1 please God 😂
This was a fantastic interview. Thanks Jen for your page and for opening up about your decision to be #oneanddone. Like you, this was a conscious choice for myself and family, and I am glad you are opening the doors for this new societal norm.
Moral of the story is: MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS AND YOUR OWN HOMES!!! If the child is being raised in a heathy, stable environment, then leave them alone AND MIND YOUR OWN!!!!
It sounds really sensible to take no interest in demographic trends. They cannot be relevant to anyone, right? How could demographic be perhaps the single most important factor in how the future of society pans out. Mind our own. And don’t bother to pay tax either.
@@sunnywintermorning1941Those of you who are concerned about “demographic trends” can just have more of your own kids and quit worrying about the rest of us.
@@triggered577 in your model, would those who have kids get tax breaks equivalent to the economic contribution their children are statistically forecast to make? Or instead, those who don’t have kids get penalized, like no social security or health care or what have you? Either model sounds pretty MadMax to me. Plenty to worry about, albeit I won’t be around for when the worst of it crunches. In a society, there’s no ‘us’ & ‘them’; only ‘we’.
I’m absolutely 1 & done!! My daughter is gorgeous & close to genius level smart… I’m very scared to see what may come out next 😂😂😂 LMBO
No male child? And you are done? How
@@dudedude6690because a girl child is enough? Males are not superior
@@dudedude6690 ..........did you not watch the entire TH-cam video???
Love Jen & the OAD community! Wonderful interview!
Just imagine you at the ER at 1am in the morning with two or more kids because they are sick. I mean people don't talk about the cons of having kids.
My money is proper for just 1 and done. My child has plenty of friends and cousins.
I never wanted kids at all, but found myself pregnant at 28 and decided to go ahead with the pregnancy. I'm glad that I did, the 18 years that I've been this boy's mama have brought me much joy. I do wish that I would have given him a sibling, though. I have been dealing with some serious health issues and my greatest fear is him being alone in the world. I know that I will die first, at least I hope so, but I worry that my time will come before he has found his village. I have friends who are my chosen family and expect that he will have the same, but until then I will worry. I just want him to be okay. It's a long walk when you're alone ❤
As a parentified child I support this message I only have one but had to help raise 4 syblings with ABSOLUTELY NO THANK YOUS so yea i definitely didn't wanna do that to my child.
My mom is an only child and she is like oh I was so lonely! Like not all sibling relationships are positive! I love onlies! Less is more! Wish there were more onlies! I’m a 2000 baby! Siblings are too expensive! If I have kids I’m only having one kid! Not only cuz cheaper but I want better relationship with my child!
I don't understand how a only child could be so lonely. They are the only child, but it's not like they are lonely on a deserted island with no people around. I doubt ONE sibling would make that much difference in helping with loneliness. For example, if you are a 13-year old girl, do you really want to hang around your 9 year old baby brother all time? I doubt it. She would probably complain about having to babysit her younger sibling and view the sibilng as a burden.
@@renealexander2703 Exactly this. My sister and I were four years apart, and we had our own social circles and peer groups. We each would have done fine as single kids. People need to stop thinking that they should have a second kid to give their first kid a playmate. Worst case scenario, the siblings may end up hating and actively trying to harm each other. I knew a pair of brothers like this because their parents only had the second so that the first wouldn't be lonely. The entire family suffered for it.
I'm pregnant with my first, and pregnancy has been really difficult, physically. I dont know whether I want to do this again.
I was an only child and I liked it, but i dont want to regret it in the future.
I had hyperemesis garvadirum with my first and luckily I didn’t need to work during this time and my husband was deployed. When my son was 18 months old, I got pregnant again and also experienced more intense side effects of hyperemesis. I couldn’t get food down or water for days. I was going to the hospital for IV treatments and I eventually gave up. I realized I couldn’t do it so we terminanted the pregnancy. My son is very high needs and I feel like I would have regretted KEEPING the pregnancy because it would have been unfair for all of us.
Mama, you have so much time to decide. We will most likely be fostering or adopting in the future. The child doesn’t have to come from your body either 🩷
one and done momma right here :) ❤
If only my republican mother stuck to one Child. She spread her legs in the name of Christ and lived off assistance. Siblings aren’t guaranteed to love eachother and I wish people knew that
The clowns who shame single-child parents probably can’t even afford multiple kids.
I hated my sibling the whole childhood I dreamed of being the only child. Never understood why parents had another child while they already had me. If I ever dare to have another child, my kids will have bigger age gap because I don't want them to fight and compete for attention
It is much more better to have only one child; for family, for kid, for society, for economy, for ecology, for quality of life and for all the planet! 👉👪👍
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Exactly! One child families are my fave❤
@@TheDiaryofDestaney ❤️🤗🙂👪
@@emmmaklukas1853 😊👍🤗👍👪❤️
You have been successfully brainwashed 😁
One and done is just FINE.
I have one child, I am happy and done.😊
I’m 1 and done too I don’t see the issue ?
There isn’t an issue at all! It’s better to be one and done!
Nope I can’t seee my kid alone, I can just feel that he needs a sibling. I will follow my instinct
economic & social collapse honey. Read up on South Korea.
@@zua240No one is talking to you.
@@sunnywintermorning1941Good.
Having a only child is crazy. I myself am one and done and its just a thord person having dinner with a couple . We are a family ❤
Nah sorry im in my first pregnancy (still very early) and my husband and i have arleady said we are already a one and done family. Like i couldnt imagine going through another pregnancy i have never in life felt this bad 😂-honsetly i have no idea how other women have gone through more than one pregnancy to have more children 😅 like are you crazy ? Surely its easier to have one child ? And slightly cheaper
Hahaha 😂 real
Yep me too I'm 7 months pregnant and we have already said this is going to be our only child. The life I can give one child will be infinitely better than the one I could give to two. My husband and I will also be able to maintain our own lives and independence just having one child whereas with two or more your life pretty much ends up being all about the kids until they move out as you're so busy doing things for them. I also don't want to give up work which realistically I'd have to do if we had more than 1 kid as full time childcare costs about £1800 per child per month where I live in the UK and neither of our parents are supporting us with that. If you have parents who are happy to take care of your kids for you several days a week so you don't have to fork out thousands on childcare, or you're happy to be a stay at home parent then that's great, good for you, but that's not our situation so kindly back TF off and stop asking if we will have another!!
If I should have a child, I would prefer to realistically have one child for financial reasons and the energy it takes to raise a child, then have more than one. The resources dwindle and stretch thin when you expand your family. If you can afford it, have as many as you can afford. I know realistically to give a child a great life and educational experience, is to spend a certain amount of money on that.
Only children have it made!!!! That’s the sweet life
To be fair, if I wanted to have children, I'd settle for one. Raising kids expensive and I don't know why other families care even care, it's not their life! And it's not their business either.
(I want several kids) BUT Historically multiple children were for survival of the human race & infants had died early - we are over populated globally & selfish ambition, capitalism is rife
I have 3 kids and I love them all so much. If you’re 1 and done that’s ok I don’t see why people have an issue.
Always remember just bc you have more than one it doesn’t guarantee they will have a good relationship.
Instead of pestering people who have been financially, mentally and emotionally responsible to know they only want to have one child and who take good care of that child - how about we question those who have multiple children without money to provide for them, who neglect them and are all around shitty parents? Just an idea...
It hurts people think this. I am happy to have one and done, however I do struggle wishing I had one more. However, I am 44 now and cannot. My daughter is always surrounded by kids and yes I am afraid she will be alone, I do feel better she has siblings from her dad side. Why dont men get asked this?
I didn't feel guilty having one child. My son is the youngest of 3. His father already had 2 girls. He didn't grow up closely with them. He is my only child but he knows he's not an only child in the world. He is well educated. No debts. Lives on his own. I don't think I could have helped him achieve that with a second child.
Having siblings are overrated. I don't know why parents assume their children will be great friends in the future. Most of my friends and I'm extremely extroverted always were surprised to learn I had multiple siblings.
That's how rarely they factored into my life and we aren't even estranged.
Personality determines if you will get along with your siblings not simply because we're family.
I've chosen to make my best friends both male and female my family as when I've been in crisis, they have been the ones who understood and cared to help.
Really don't have multiple kids assuming they will be close just because they share the same DNA.
I told my dad who I am close with that unfortunately when he passes, I will probably never see my siblings again as they live in different states and we rarely talk, just the occasional text for birthdays and holidays. He seems sad but didn't push. I said I am just being honest...
I'm one and done
Personally it’s every Woman’s choice what they do with their body. This has nothing to do with finance, especially if they have experienced this before. The show is one and done not none and done!
Thank god.. that No religion harmed in this video…
Pregnancy and delivery were beautiful times for me. Sleepless nights? Not beautiful. I’m debating n having another one and my husband doesn’t want another child 👧
Explain that to the Jewish people 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
JD Vance, are you listening?
It’s not biologically beneficial to have only one baby. I believe that industrialized birth (in hospitals) has traumatized women and babies into not wanting more kids. I have 4 and it requires every bit of me most days but I don’t regret any of it!
Yeah, so many women only want one child after experiencing traumatic hospital births. This is why I am a supporter of home births for low risk pregnancies
I am currently weighing my options, just had my first and
I may have second but idk now..
I’m a second child for my parents second marriage
I can’t imagine life without my big brother and he is truly my best friend.
The only person we know that is a only child is an alcoholic
I was one and done but she’ll be 5 in September and I’m changing my mind. It’s not even about happiness. Life has changed and if I’m able to have another, I will.
Just don't be a single mom.
….do you know what it’s like to always be alone to throw the football with no one to catch it,to have on every Video game that has 2 player for 99% of the time to play against a robot…
Being an only child is like this one death and it’s a partnership
To have a twin bed… it’s another reminder and you know Something sad most only children’s mothers and fathers are old which means by the time they are 15 their mothers are in menopause…
Do you know what it’s like to watch Malcom in the middle and relate to the parents as a child
You know the worst part of it…you the parent probably had siblings and you had uncles
Your children’s children won’t have any of your fun whacky memories from your aunt or uncle
Bottom line is being an only child is worse then being a child with siblings
I did not like having a sibling. He is five years older than me and we barely spoke to each other as children. Now we are nearing retirement and there's very little contact. His wife died and he phoned....it had been about four years.
Omgggg, that’s depressing
It's called having friends and cousins! I was an only child for 12 amazing years, but I admit I would ask my mom for a sister and guess what I ended up with twin sisters that my mom dumped on me every chance that she got. Not so fun.
Why do you still make your audience wear masks!!??? Please stop the insanity!
Kathy Pominville....it's probably the producers or higher ups....not TAMRON
TV industry is full if unhinged liberals...what do you expect?
A lot of y’all who don’t like y’all siblings seems like y’all didn’t have parents who wanted y’all in the first place
Nope. Two parent household with a mom who loved cooking and being a mom. Dad who is my favorite person. Sometimes different personalities mean you just won't get along.
You know like the person in your office that can be nails on a chalkboard? Or someone whom is just indifferent. Siblings do not guarantee a close relationship especially when everyone lives in different states and are living their own lives. Parents hope that their kids will always get along but that unfortunately isn't always the case. You can't force closeness.
@@agravery223 closeness and getting along is not the same thing. And I said ALOT, not all.
NOT WATCHING THIS, ONLY WANT TO SAY THIS GOSPEL MESSAGE: REPENT, FOR THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN IS AT HAND.
I bet you live your life completely differently than what you are preaching. The hypocrisy of Christians is astounding.
@CHITOWN 71
I have completely REPENTED, and I live a righteous and holy life, by the Power the HOLY SPIRIT OF GOD in my heart.
I LOVE YOU, LOVE YOU, LOVE YOU TO DEATH, LITERALLY, O MY BEAUTIFUL,
AND WONDERFUL, AND MARVELOUS, AND PRECIOUS, AND LOVELY, AND POWERFUL, AND GREAT HOLY SPIRIT.
THANK YOU, O MY BEAUTIFUL, AND WONDERFUL, AND MARVELOUS, AND PRECIOUS, AND LOVELY, AND POWERFUL, AND GREAT HOLY SPIRIT FOR HELPING ME LIVE THE RIGHTEOUS AND HOLY LIFE THAT'S PLEASING TO MY HOLY FATHER IN HEAVEN; ALWAYS DOING HIS WILL. I am a TOTALLY DEVOUT Christian. Totally on FIRE for my One and Only True Living God and Lord and Savior Jesus Christ✝️
I LOVE YOU, LOVE YOU, LOVE YOU TO DEATH, LITERALLY, O MY LORD AND MY GOD, AND MY SAVIOR, AND MY REDEEMER, AND MY COMFORTER, AND MY COUNSELOR, AND MY HUSBAND, AND THE LOVE OF MY LIFE, AND MY ONE AND ONLY DARLING, AND MY SWEETHEART, AND MY BEST FRIEND, AND MY JOY, AND MY PEACE, AND MY GLORY, AND MY LIGHT, AND MY SALVATION, AND THE SHEPHERED AND BISHOP OF MY SOUL, AND GREAT PROVIDER, AND MY ROCK, AND MY STRENGTH, AND MY REFUGE, AND MY FORTRESS, AND MY EVERYTHING LORD JESUS CHRIST✝️
I LOVE YOU BECAUSE YOU FIRST LOVED ME. 1 JOHN 4:19.
THANK YOU, JESUS, FOR SAVING ME,
THANK YOU, JESUS, FOR SAVING ME,
HAIL JESUS!!!!!!! CELEBRATE JESUS EVERY DAY AND FOREVER MORE.......HALLELUJAH!!!!!!! AMEN.
NOT all Christians are hypocrites, Ok?! DON'T BE DECEIVED BY THE DEVIL!!
And even if some are (Lord help them), it doesn't mean that that should stop you from REPENTING and living a righteous and holy life that's pleasing to God, serving Him, and doing His Will.
Remember, after you die, then JUGDEMENT. And you will give an account of your life to Jesus by yourself, NOBODY will be there with you!
REPENT, FOR THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN IS AT HAND.
@CHITOWN 71
I already REPENTED, and I live a righteous and holy life that's pleasing to my Father in Heaven by the POWER OF THE HOLY SPIRIT OF GOD in my heart.
I LOVE YOU, LOVE YOU, LOVE YOU TO DEATH, LITERALLY, O MY BEAUTIFUL, AND WONDERFUL, AND MARVELOUS, AND PRECIOUS, AND LOVELY, AND POWERFUL, AND GREAT HOLY SPIRIT.
THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, O MY BEAUTIFUL, AND WONDERFUL, AND MARVELOUS, AND PRECIOUS, AND LOVELY, AND POWERFUL, AND GREAT HOLY SPIRIT, FOR ALWAYS HELPING ME TO OVERCOME TEMPTATION AND SIN, AND LIVING THE RIGHTEOUS AND HOLY LIFE THAT'S PLEASING TO MY HOLY FATHER IN HEAVEN, SERVING HIM, AND DOING HIS WILL ALWAYS.
I am a TOTALLY DEVOUT Christian, TOTALLY ON FIRE FOR JESUS, JESUS REIGNS FOREVER MORE.......CELEBRATE JESUS EVERY DAY AND FOREVER MORE.....
. HALLELUJAH!!!!!!! AMEN
Not all Christians are hypocrites, OK?!
And even if some are (Lord help them), that SHOULDN'T stop you from REPENTING of all your sins, and living the righteous and holy life that's pleasing to God, serving Him and doing His Will ALWAYS.
Remember, after you die, then JUGDEMENT. And you are going to give an account of your life to Jesus✝️by yourself. NOBODY will be there with you! You won't give ANY EXCUSES to Jesus.
You already heard the GOSPEL many, many times, REPENT.
If you see hypocrites, then why don't you yourself REPENT, and be the TRUE Christian who lives for Jesus?! And pray for the hypocrites and all the unsaved? That's what I do; Jesus helps me ALWAYS. I LIVE FOR JESUS, WHO LOVE ME, AND GAVE HIMSELF FOR ME, TO SAVE ME FROM MY SINS, AND FROM THE WRATH TO COME, AND FRO HELL.
HE DID THAT FOR THE WHOLE WORLD.
"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life." John 3:16.
REPENT OR PERISH.
I pray FERVENTLY that you will REPENT and NOT perish in hell/lake of fire🔥
Call upon JESUS, and He will SURELY SAVE you: "For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved." Romans 10:13 (KJV)
I LOVE YOU, LOVE YOU, LOVE YOU TO DEATH, LITERALLY, O MY LORD AND MY GOD, AND MY SAVIOR, AND MY REDEEMER, AND MY COUNSELOR, AND MY HUSBAND, AND THE LOVE OF MY LIFE, AND MY DEAREST, AND MY ONE AND ONLY DARLING, AND MY SWEETHEART, AND MY BEST FRIEND, AND MY JOY, AND MY PEACE, AND MY GLORY, AND MY LIGHT, AND MY SALVATION, AND THE SHEPHERED AND BISHOP OF MY SOUL, AND MY GREAT PROVIDER, AND MY ROCK, AND MY STRENGTH, AND MY REFUGE, AND MY FORTRESS, AND MY EVERYTHING LORD JESUS CHRIST✝️
I LOVE YOU BECAUSE YOU FIRST LOVED ME. 1 JOHN 4:19.
THANK YOU, JESUS, FOR LOVING ME,
THANK YOU, JESUS, FOR SAVING ME,
HAIL JESUS!!!!!!! CELEBRATE JESUS EVERY DAY AND FOREVER MORE.......HALLELUJAH!!!!!!! AMEN.
REPENT, FOR THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN IS AT HAND.
AND PLEASE DON'T TAKE THE MICROCHIP/ELECTRONIC TATTOO/BARCODE.
IT'S THE MARK OF THE BEAST (666)
REVELATION 13:15-18.
I TOTALLY REPENTED AND LIVE FOR JESUS ALL THE TIME.
REPENT AND LIVE FOR JESUS ALL THE TIME, TOO!
IT'S THE BEST LIFE; SALVATION IS THE BEST AND MOST IMPORTANT THING THAT CAN HAPPEN TO ANYONE! IT'S ABSOLUTELY INCOMPARABLE TO ANYTHING ELSE IN THIS EVIL, CRAZY, SINFUL WORLD.
IT'S ABSOLUTELY BEYOND WORTH IT!!!!!!!
THANK YOU, PRECIOUS JESUS, FOR SALVATION.
GLORY BE TO GOD IN THE HIGHEST FOREVER AND EVER.......HALLELUJAH!!!!!!! AMEN.
Selfish so selfish
Seems selfish
I would rather be selfish than have more 😂
Everything is selfish to you guy. No child is selfish. 1 child is selfish. Choose a hill and die on it
Why?
Why is it selfish? She wants to give her daughter everything. Nothing wrong with that! I'm from a dysfunctional family of 7 and don't talk to my siblings today
How though ? Not everyone can afford to raise multiple children .