So good to hear someone being unapologetic about having one child! I love having one kid. I mean, I still feel overwhelmed on an almost daily basis, lol, but especially when it's both of us parenting together, it feels so manageable and our life is so full and so fun
Thank you for being open about this. I have a few personal points: I grew up with married parents and three full siblings, all under the same roof in a traditional household. Despite this, I am not close to any of them and felt very lonely as a child. Resources were stretched extremely thin due to all the children, and my mother was shamed for having so many. My husband and I have been married for 20 years and have happily chosen not to have children. Although I love kids, I just don't want any. Approaching 40, I am extremely happy with my life, feel fulfilled, and love living on the Olympic Peninsula. Yet, people still give me a hard time about not having children. Knowing all of this, I have had coworkers in the past who went from pressuring me to have a child to arguing amongst themselves about why I need to have more than one. They then argued about how the child (that doesn't and will never exist) will suffer because this imaginary version of myself that they have created isn't having more children. Especially when it comes to the subject of parenthood, people can be crazy and love to tell others how they're doing it wrong. I wish people would put all of that judgmental energy into just being kind, decent people.
Thank you for making this video! I think is unfair to ever judge a mother that wants (insert X quantity here) children. I live in Peru and it’s usually the older generations that judge our decision to stick with one baby, he is 9 months now and because we love him so much we decided to only stick with him. We get comments like “uno no es ninguno (one is none)” or sh*t like that. My wife and I miss our days alone, we think we need them to be able to love our child even more. Having a second one will complicate everything, it’s not like the judgers will take care of him/her right? All the reasons you listed are the exact answers I wanted to give back, thank you for verbalizing them. Cheers from Peru!
Thank you so much for talking about this subject, I have a 7 year old daughter and we as a family of three feel so happy together 💓 we can handle every thing so much better have enough money and time to do what ever we want to do and whenever we want to travel, again thank you so much ❤
@@Hernandez-x9p Do your best to be your child's best friend. The truth is,she is your best person and your best friend, and you can be the best sibling for her. Do you really make time for her? Do you go camping, to the park, to the cinema, to the cafe together? Do you talk to each other from the bottom of your heart? If that's the case, there won't be any extra time left to be sad about her. ❤️ Thank you for talking about your situation ❤️
I relate a lot. I have a two year old little girl. My sister and I are not close, she’s 6 years older. She has a severe mental illness and my mom is her guardian. Growing up my sister had more needs than me. I felt like the little “big” sister a lot of times. My mom was amazing but she had so much on her plate that I didn’t get everything I needed emotionally. I am super close with my mom though. I just never want my daughter to feel that way. My mental health was awful from the lack of sleep for the first 8-9 months. It took 15 months to start feeling better. I have been thriving ever since. I can never go back to that dark place again…it was very scary. I have gone back and forth but if I am being honest, I know my marriage, daughter, and self would be happier and healthier staying just as we are. I love being able to give my daughter all my attention.
I never realized how good me and my brother have it the fact that our brotherly bond is still in tact im about to be 23 he is 25 like we have always been close no matter what mainly cause i never wanted to lose that bond i mean my brother has literally held me while i cried that i tried to end it and he’s been my rock through depression and anxiety but i understand not all siblings are the same
My mom is 1 of 9 kids and she isn’t close to any of them, she feels like the black sheep of the family. I’m an only child and I did have some lonely times (early teens) but my parents were always involved and spent time with me when they could. I did wish I had siblings at times, but for the most part I do appreciate it bc it made me who I am. I love my time alone and love to be creative.
Thank you for this video. I can relate to so much of it. I have a three year old daughter, and you are right - it does get better, and the experience just gets richer and richer. At the same time, as she gets older, I feel more and more like myself and cherish the full night sleeps, that she can play for 5 min on her own, that she has a strong relationship with her father and isn’t relying on my body for sustenance. I love our family life, as it is. I feel steady and strong and supported. I’m still wavering about having another child, but your video has been so helpful to reflect on and normalise my feelings.
Thank you so much for this video. I was specifically looking for only child videos because I couldn't seem to find the right words. My only child is 6 and thriving! She's an only child for all the same reasons you mentioned but they seemed not 'good enough'. Well we're super OK the three of us so thanks again for the video!
Bless you❤I felt this on a personal level. I also come from a broken family background, and it’s amazing how all it takes is one decision from you to be the cycle breaker and try to create a better situation for your own.
Nothing wrong at all with only one and people need to stick to their business lol. My sister is pregnant with their only one (she's too busy of a career woman and doesn't want to put her body through more than one pregnancy). My husband was an only child and turned out amazing. I was also a middle child of five in a mixed family and I was very lonely, too. I get you there so completely. I think putting all of your attention and resources into one child is a good thing.
I love this topic Alexi. I hate how the two camps are so extreme. I'm a mom of 3 as I've said, but I always get asked the question if I'm going to try for a boy because I have three girls?? I don't know why anyone assumes that if you only have girls the only logical thing to do would of course to be to try for a boy. I don't even see myself being a boy mum at all. Yes, having siblings does not guarantee they will have a good relationship at all. I've always been the black sheep personally, so I can attest to this as well. And my pregnancies were all horrible as well to the point where I'd say I prefer labor over pregnancy. Great video girl! Do youuu ❤❤❤
I think having three girls sounds perfect!! It's the patriarchy holding on by a thread that makes people think we still all need to have boys. If I didn't have to be pregnant again/or have a newborn again lol I would LOVE another girl.
Had a girl first. That was what I wanted and only wanted one child. I wound up having a boy 5 years later. Boys are the BEST! Mom’s and their sons. Don’t knock it till you try it. I am so glad I had him. I don’t think patriarchy has anything to do with wanting a boy. My opinion.
@hockeyfan1934 I would have been thankful regardless of the gender, but God gives us all different lots and I'm thankful for mine as you are for yours and as Alexi is for hers. ❤️ I don't think either of us intended to knock having a boy, but more so of the perspective that everyone is different and that's okay.
I am expecting now and I only want one child. How did it feel only having one? Did you ever want more? And how does your daughter feel with no siblings ?
Love your well thought out response to this question 🌸 it’s crazy to say but I’m so excited for olive having a mom like you in her life. I always appreciated the thoughtful comments you share about life and now motherhood- the insight is really giving me a more well rounded perspective
So true. I'm a very attentive parent and hang with my son ALOT so he shouldnt feel very lonely. And i have a mum friend with 2 children we visit now. Thanks for sharing!
I totally feel this, so many of my reasons are similar. I do struggle with guilt because my messy family is 'fAmiLy oRientEd' & I am going against that. I also get lulled by the notion of the idealized family with multiple kids- but we all know by now that image of family life is a lie. I am 31 with a 4 year old and was never sure that I wanted kids. I leaned towards no. It's so helpful for me to hear your explanation that despite having 5 siblings, you aren't close with them. Idk where this story of siblings being so important came from. Siblings can make things more negative too- like bullying & resource competition. Let me tell you those were issues in our house! I have 3 siblings. An ok / good relationship with 2 of them & a poor relationship with the third because he is prejudicial and mean. We played a lot but I grew up deeply lonely, too. That's because my parents were too busy fighting, working, drinking or being mentally ill to connect with me. This is unfortunately true. Yes, siblings were fun. But I wanted a loving & protective adult to care about me & connect with me. I have problems with overstimulation and liking a clean home too. Family life is nothing like it's depicted. 😂 I love her but it's so hard. I don't want to let go of my dreams. One is enough!
I relate. Pregnancy morning sickness and then no sleeping for years lol really put me off! And my bladder issues are worse now. I have anxiety snd insomnia and my child is 11 😅 so motherhood is tough. He's still in my bed lol sensory overload having a child. Best of luck ❤
BLESS THIS VIDEO!!!! we needed this. Exactly why we have ONE. I LOVE it! I was an only child, my husband has 2 sisters. I’ve seen both. This is what we want. Weird how it blows people’s minds.
Im 35 soon and have 1 11 year old. Im single so i mightve missed out on having another. Few more years to find out but decided to stop rushing just for that reason. ❤ my son is very close to both me and his dad and we have lots of fun. I have 2 sisters, hated them and hated my parents lol bringing up a child with love is whats important.
Thank you so much I completely totally agree with you and I so much would love that majority of families in our world would be a family like you! Mother father and only child and you're only child will get really a wonderful development If you parents will keep going stain together this Child will developed your potential much More better than arrest of Kids because she will have enough of attention, advices from you at time love kindness at the same time she will not be Ableton Priest and egoist because except of child in the family also exist marriage and couple relationship end of course in order to have healthy relationship people have to dedicate time to each other to contribute to relationship of each other. So that's why only child incomplete family will never grow up to egoist selfishness and spoiled because exist couple relationship which will also motivate this child have San Francis share with Souls friends because mother and father and the relationship are a great example for this child to be friendly! Good luck to three of you guys! 👪
Thank you for the mental health points. I had a fantastic pregnancy and delivery but postpartum was/ is awful. My mental health and myself as a person is struggling. I can’t put myself through this again. I worry but I have to put myself first
I always thought i would have 2 children but then i had the most horrific pregency, my c-section got badly infected, the hosptial treated me like dirt and i got put on a gestional diabetes diet when i didnt need to be. Postpartum i had horrible depression and i think i went a bit mad seeing things that werent really there, i honsetly thought our flat was haunted at one point 😅😅. Also i never ever wanna go through a newborn stage again 😅😅. Plus i wanna be able to give our daughter all our energy and time. We also dont want to be struggling with money. So yeah we are 100 % one and done. 😅😅
I am an only child, and I wished I had a sibling. My mother had no time to date anyone because she had to work hard, so she could give me the best she could. I had a quiet life but felt fortunate I could go to private schools, take different classes during summer, and had babysitters. I would not describe my life as boring since I enjoyed being with myself, and I had everything I needed. I wished I had an older brother or sister so I could have someone to talk or play, but at the same time, I knew mom could not afford it, and I understood. My mother is my best friend and someone I will look after when she can't do it herself anymore.
I have 2 sisters and a half brother they all suck i grew up with the 2 sizters they madee suicidal during my teen years i hated every part of having siblings i cried alot over it they were nasty n cruel and favourited by my mother still to this day i hate it wish i was an only
My parents each have 3. My mom and her siblings wish death upon each other. I resent my dad’s for stealing our inheritance and constantly inconveniencing.
No, my child doesn’t need a sibling to fight with.!! I’m enough to fight with her. That’s me telling those who bother me with these dumb questions. 😂😂😂😂
You may have made up your mind but also dont forget in 5 or 10 yrs you can change your mind or your body might accidently change your mind for you haha
The real reason starts after 7:09 You didn’t have to provide the reasons before 7:09 because it’s simply not true. Your childhood is not normal. If your siblings were from the same mom and dad, your relationship with them would’ve been better. So please dont use your childhood as a reason to only have one child. You have other valid reasons to not want more children as your described after 7:09
I also entirely disagree. If you listened to the video you know how I understand both worlds. My siblings destroyed my confidence and sense of self. They’re the worst relationships I have. They’re definitely not always a gift
@amysill3815, I am the youngest of 5 children. I am NOT close with any of my siblings. They have all screwed me over. Giving your child a sibling is not always the greatest gift you can give your child. The greatest gifts you can give your child are a quality life and relationship with both parents. Also a healthy life and healthy relationships. Have you ever heard the story of Cain and Able ?
I'm the 3rd of 4 kids. (Would be 5/6 but mom had 2 miscarriages before me) Two older sisters and a younger brother by 1 year. Sister #1 is 8.5 years older than me. Sister #2 is 3 years, 7 months older. The oldest, we are not close at all. The second oldest, occasionally. And I absolutely loathe and despise my so called brother. He was physically abusive when we were in our teens til mid 20s when I cut off all contact. Also threatening to kill me twice. There is no benefit whatsoever to having, really any kids, but specifically more than 1. How many adults do you know that are close with their siblings? Or were growing up? My dad is the oldest of 3. He had one sister and one brother. Only ever close to his sister. Mom was the youngest of 6. She had 3 brothers and 2 sisters. She was close to one of her sisters and reasonably close to one brother. My other aunt (mom's oldest sister) and three other uncles, (dad's 1 brother and mom's other 2) I barely knew, if at all. All these arguments for having multiple kids, particularly these days when everything, from birth to medical bills to cost of living, childcare, food and college, pretty much rules out anyone not making 5 or 6 figures, minimum, a year, being able to afford a kid.
Rather than having just one..have NONE... that saves your child from a lifetime of misery, loneliness and missing out on the most important aspect of life: Sibling bond.
@alexirossi being selfish like that is miserable. Others will keep reminding you, if you can't admit to it. Don't think about yourself alone. Your child's future. He will hate you for what you've denied him. I'm an Only child, so I know exactly how it is.
So good to hear someone being unapologetic about having one child! I love having one kid. I mean, I still feel overwhelmed on an almost daily basis, lol, but especially when it's both of us parenting together, it feels so manageable and our life is so full and so fun
This ❤
I’m 41 . I have one. I sincerely thank you for this This is exactly the best friend talk I needed to hear. 😢
Thank you for being open about this. I have a few personal points: I grew up with married parents and three full siblings, all under the same roof in a traditional household. Despite this, I am not close to any of them and felt very lonely as a child. Resources were stretched extremely thin due to all the children, and my mother was shamed for having so many.
My husband and I have been married for 20 years and have happily chosen not to have children. Although I love kids, I just don't want any. Approaching 40, I am extremely happy with my life, feel fulfilled, and love living on the Olympic Peninsula. Yet, people still give me a hard time about not having children.
Knowing all of this, I have had coworkers in the past who went from pressuring me to have a child to arguing amongst themselves about why I need to have more than one. They then argued about how the child (that doesn't and will never exist) will suffer because this imaginary version of myself that they have created isn't having more children.
Especially when it comes to the subject of parenthood, people can be crazy and love to tell others how they're doing it wrong.
I wish people would put all of that judgmental energy into just being kind, decent people.
That last sentence is gold!!
Thank you for making this video! I think is unfair to ever judge a mother that wants (insert X quantity here) children. I live in Peru and it’s usually the older generations that judge our decision to stick with one baby, he is 9 months now and because we love him so much we decided to only stick with him. We get comments like “uno no es ninguno (one is none)” or sh*t like that.
My wife and I miss our days alone, we think we need them to be able to love our child even more. Having a second one will complicate everything, it’s not like the judgers will take care of him/her right? All the reasons you listed are the exact answers I wanted to give back, thank you for verbalizing them.
Cheers from Peru!
Thank you so much for talking about this subject, I have a 7 year old daughter and we as a family of three feel so happy together 💓 we can handle every thing so much better have enough money and time to do what ever we want to do and whenever we want to travel, again thank you so much ❤
Please have another child. My mistake was I waited a long time. My daughter is soon to be 14. I wish I gave her a sibling. I have 8 siblings.
@@Hernandez-x9p Do your best to be your child's best friend. The truth is,she is your best person and your best friend, and you can be the best sibling for her. Do you really make time for her? Do you go camping, to the park, to the cinema, to the cafe together? Do you talk to each other from the bottom of your heart? If that's the case, there won't be any extra time left to be sad about her. ❤️ Thank you for talking about your situation ❤️
Thank you for sharing mom. I am also one and done. I want to give 100% to the one I have as well. It’s not selfish it’s self full.
I relate a lot. I have a two year old little girl. My sister and I are not close, she’s 6 years older. She has a severe mental illness and my mom is her guardian. Growing up my sister had more needs than me. I felt like the little “big” sister a lot of times. My mom was amazing but she had so much on her plate that I didn’t get everything I needed emotionally. I am super close with my mom though. I just never want my daughter to feel that way. My mental health was awful from the lack of sleep for the first 8-9 months. It took 15 months to start feeling better. I have been thriving ever since. I can never go back to that dark place again…it was very scary. I have gone back and forth but if I am being honest, I know my marriage, daughter, and self would be happier and healthier staying just as we are. I love being able to give my daughter all my attention.
I never realized how good me and my brother have it the fact that our brotherly bond is still in tact im about to be 23 he is 25 like we have always been close no matter what mainly cause i never wanted to lose that bond i mean my brother has literally held me while i cried that i tried to end it and he’s been my rock through depression and anxiety but i understand not all siblings are the same
I’m so glad that you have that bond! That’s awesome!
So sweet , glad you have such close bond with your brother. ❤❤
My mom is 1 of 9 kids and she isn’t close to any of them, she feels like the black sheep of the family. I’m an only child and I did have some lonely times (early teens) but my parents were always involved and spent time with me when they could. I did wish I had siblings at times, but for the most part I do appreciate it bc it made me who I am. I love my time alone and love to be creative.
I love to hear that! ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story. This was more helpful than you know
Thank you for this video. I can relate to so much of it. I have a three year old daughter, and you are right - it does get better, and the experience just gets richer and richer.
At the same time, as she gets older, I feel more and more like myself and cherish the full night sleeps, that she can play for 5 min on her own, that she has a strong relationship with her father and isn’t relying on my body for sustenance.
I love our family life, as it is. I feel steady and strong and supported.
I’m still wavering about having another child, but your video has been so helpful to reflect on and normalise my feelings.
Thank you so much for this video. I was specifically looking for only child videos because I couldn't seem to find the right words. My only child is 6 and thriving! She's an only child for all the same reasons you mentioned but they seemed not 'good enough'. Well we're super OK the three of us so thanks again for the video!
Bless you❤I felt this on a personal level. I also come from a broken family background, and it’s amazing how all it takes is one decision from you to be the cycle breaker and try to create a better situation for your own.
So true!
Thank you so much for pointing 3❤ I’ve always thought it but nobody talks about it. Your daughter will be so grateful❤
Nothing wrong at all with only one and people need to stick to their business lol. My sister is pregnant with their only one (she's too busy of a career woman and doesn't want to put her body through more than one pregnancy). My husband was an only child and turned out amazing. I was also a middle child of five in a mixed family and I was very lonely, too. I get you there so completely. I think putting all of your attention and resources into one child is a good thing.
Totally agree! I totally get where your sister is coming from, too! Pregnancy is so hard!
I love this topic Alexi. I hate how the two camps are so extreme. I'm a mom of 3 as I've said, but I always get asked the question if I'm going to try for a boy because I have three girls?? I don't know why anyone assumes that if you only have girls the only logical thing to do would of course to be to try for a boy. I don't even see myself being a boy mum at all. Yes, having siblings does not guarantee they will have a good relationship at all. I've always been the black sheep personally, so I can attest to this as well. And my pregnancies were all horrible as well to the point where I'd say I prefer labor over pregnancy. Great video girl! Do youuu ❤❤❤
I think having three girls sounds perfect!! It's the patriarchy holding on by a thread that makes people think we still all need to have boys. If I didn't have to be pregnant again/or have a newborn again lol I would LOVE another girl.
So true! And even my husband is happy to be a girl dad!! I actually wanted girls each time lol! @alexirossi
Had a girl first. That was what I wanted and only wanted one child. I wound up having a boy 5 years later. Boys are the BEST! Mom’s and their sons. Don’t knock it till you try it. I am so glad I had him. I don’t think patriarchy has anything to do with wanting a boy. My opinion.
@hockeyfan1934 I would have been thankful regardless of the gender, but God gives us all different lots and I'm thankful for mine as you are for yours and as Alexi is for hers. ❤️ I don't think either of us intended to knock having a boy, but more so of the perspective that everyone is different and that's okay.
That’s why I said it’s my opinion. I agree, to each her own. You do you. Nothing but happiness to all!
I have a 13 year old daughter and I’m one and done, good luck to those who want more. ❤❤
I am expecting now and I only want one child. How did it feel only having one? Did you ever want more? And how does your daughter feel with no siblings ?
Love your well thought out response to this question 🌸 it’s crazy to say but I’m so excited for olive having a mom like you in her life. I always appreciated the thoughtful comments you share about life and now motherhood- the insight is really giving me a more well rounded perspective
That’s such a nice thing to say. Thank you ❤️
So true. I'm a very attentive parent and hang with my son ALOT so he shouldnt feel very lonely. And i have a mum friend with 2 children we visit now. Thanks for sharing!
I totally feel this, so many of my reasons are similar. I do struggle with guilt because my messy family is 'fAmiLy oRientEd' & I am going against that. I also get lulled by the notion of the idealized family with multiple kids- but we all know by now that image of family life is a lie.
I am 31 with a 4 year old and was never sure that I wanted kids. I leaned towards no. It's so helpful for me to hear your explanation that despite having 5 siblings, you aren't close with them. Idk where this story of siblings being so important came from. Siblings can make things more negative too- like bullying & resource competition. Let me tell you those were issues in our house!
I have 3 siblings. An ok / good relationship with 2 of them & a poor relationship with the third because he is prejudicial and mean. We played a lot but I grew up deeply lonely, too. That's because my parents were too busy fighting, working, drinking or being mentally ill to connect with me. This is unfortunately true. Yes, siblings were fun. But I wanted a loving & protective adult to care about me & connect with me.
I have problems with overstimulation and liking a clean home too. Family life is nothing like it's depicted. 😂 I love her but it's so hard. I don't want to let go of my dreams. One is enough!
This is so beautiful. Thank you for your time in this video
Valued ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much for sharing this, Alexi.
I relate. Pregnancy morning sickness and then no sleeping for years lol really put me off! And my bladder issues are worse now. I have anxiety snd insomnia and my child is 11 😅 so motherhood is tough. He's still in my bed lol sensory overload having a child. Best of luck ❤
I say I’m one and done for at least 5 years. I might change my mind later and that’s okay!
Yes! That’s totally okay!
BLESS THIS VIDEO!!!! we needed this. Exactly why we have ONE. I LOVE it! I was an only child, my husband has 2 sisters. I’ve seen both. This is what we want. Weird how it blows people’s minds.
It’s so weird that people are so opinionated about it!
Im 35 soon and have 1 11 year old. Im single so i mightve missed out on having another. Few more years to find out but decided to stop rushing just for that reason. ❤ my son is very close to both me and his dad and we have lots of fun. I have 2 sisters, hated them and hated my parents lol bringing up a child with love is whats important.
Thank you so much I completely totally agree with you and I so much would love that majority of families in our world would be a family like you! Mother father and only child and you're only child will get really a wonderful development If you parents will keep going stain together this Child will developed your potential much More better than arrest of Kids because she will have enough of attention, advices from you at time love kindness at the same time she will not be Ableton Priest and egoist because except of child in the family also exist marriage and couple relationship end of course in order to have healthy relationship people have to dedicate time to each other to contribute to relationship of each other. So that's why only child incomplete family will never grow up to egoist selfishness and spoiled because exist couple relationship which will also motivate this child have San Francis share with Souls friends because mother and father and the relationship are a great example for this child to be friendly!
Good luck to three of you guys!
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Thank you for the mental health points. I had a fantastic pregnancy and delivery but postpartum was/ is awful. My mental health and myself as a person is struggling. I can’t put myself through this again. I worry but I have to put myself first
I’m 35 I’ll never have a child because I hate the idea of having to think about anyone else besides my self I’m more important then some child
At least you know what’s important to you
@@alexirossi yeah it all depends on the person
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you sound pretty selfish
@@AmazingBendyZach how we live once
I always thought i would have 2 children but then i had the most horrific pregency, my c-section got badly infected, the hosptial treated me like dirt and i got put on a gestional diabetes diet when i didnt need to be.
Postpartum i had horrible depression and i think i went a bit mad seeing things that werent really there, i honsetly thought our flat was haunted at one point 😅😅.
Also i never ever wanna go through a newborn stage again 😅😅. Plus i wanna be able to give our daughter all our energy and time. We also dont want to be struggling with money.
So yeah we are 100 % one and done. 😅😅
I am an only child, and I wished I had a sibling. My mother had no time to date anyone because she had to work hard, so she could give me the best she could. I had a quiet life but felt fortunate I could go to private schools, take different classes during summer, and had babysitters. I would not describe my life as boring since I enjoyed being with myself, and I had everything I needed. I wished I had an older brother or sister so I could have someone to talk or play, but at the same time, I knew mom could not afford it, and I understood. My mother is my best friend and someone I will look after when she can't do it herself anymore.
I have 2 sisters and a half brother they all suck i grew up with the 2 sizters they madee suicidal during my teen years i hated every part of having siblings i cried alot over it they were nasty n cruel and favourited by my mother still to this day i hate it wish i was an only
I can do one. But I don’t want to do it again.
I grew up poor and teased for it so having one child is all i can handle financially while im single or always in this economy lol
My parents each have 3. My mom and her siblings wish death upon each other. I resent my dad’s for stealing our inheritance and constantly inconveniencing.
No, my child doesn’t need a sibling to fight with.!! I’m enough to fight with her. That’s me telling those who bother me with these dumb questions. 😂😂😂😂
You may have made up your mind but also dont forget in 5 or 10 yrs you can change your mind or your body might accidently change your mind for you haha
The real reason starts after 7:09
You didn’t have to provide the reasons before 7:09 because it’s simply not true. Your childhood is not normal. If your siblings were from the same mom and dad, your relationship with them would’ve been better. So please dont use your childhood as a reason to only have one child. You have other valid reasons to not want more children as your described after 7:09
It’s my story and that’s an important part of it. I can tell if however I want ❤️
@ yes you can and you did tell it however you want. I am commenting as your viewer.
A sibling is the greatest gift you can give to your child.
So is a healthy and happy mother ❤️
I also entirely disagree. If you listened to the video you know how I understand both worlds. My siblings destroyed my confidence and sense of self. They’re the worst relationships I have. They’re definitely not always a gift
@amysill3815,
I am the youngest of 5 children. I am NOT close with any of my siblings. They have all screwed me over. Giving your child a sibling is not always the greatest gift you can give your child. The greatest gifts you can give your child are a quality life and relationship with both parents. Also a healthy life and healthy relationships. Have you ever heard the story of Cain and Able ?
Not when your mother treats you all differently….
I'm the 3rd of 4 kids. (Would be 5/6 but mom had 2 miscarriages before me) Two older sisters and a younger brother by 1 year. Sister #1 is 8.5 years older than me. Sister #2 is 3 years, 7 months older.
The oldest, we are not close at all. The second oldest, occasionally. And I absolutely loathe and despise my so called brother. He was physically abusive when we were in our teens til mid 20s when I cut off all contact. Also threatening to kill me twice.
There is no benefit whatsoever to having, really any kids, but specifically more than 1.
How many adults do you know that are close with their siblings? Or were growing up?
My dad is the oldest of 3. He had one sister and one brother. Only ever close to his sister.
Mom was the youngest of 6. She had 3 brothers and 2 sisters. She was close to one of her sisters and reasonably close to one brother.
My other aunt (mom's oldest sister) and three other uncles, (dad's 1 brother and mom's other 2) I barely knew, if at all.
All these arguments for having multiple kids, particularly these days when everything, from birth to medical bills to cost of living, childcare, food and college, pretty much rules out anyone not making 5 or 6 figures, minimum, a year, being able to afford a kid.
Rather than having just one..have NONE... that saves your child from a lifetime of misery, loneliness and missing out on the most important aspect of life: Sibling bond.
I have zero sibling bonds but I can promise I’m not miserable 🙃
@alexirossi being selfish like that is miserable. Others will keep reminding you, if you can't admit to it. Don't think about yourself alone. Your child's future. He will hate you for what you've denied him. I'm an Only child, so I know exactly how it is.
@alexirossi yeah you do not need to come to me with that cr*p.
@@alexirossi people that have only one child on purpose should be criminalised.. it is beyond cruel.