The Female Covert Narcissist Will Make You PROVE YOURSELF

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ความคิดเห็น • 316

  • @TheCalGore5000
    @TheCalGore5000 ปีที่แล้ว +382

    But no matter how hard you try, no matter what you do…..once she’s made that shift, you’ll NEVER prove yourself worthy enough

    • @Cowface
      @Cowface ปีที่แล้ว +38

      But still act like you ran over her mother with a tractor when you leave the relationship

    • @noname-ye7zj
      @noname-ye7zj ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Good, I don't want any sloppy 2nds anyways 😅😂

    • @PeterAcrat
      @PeterAcrat ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ✅💯⚠️

    • @edtcrandall
      @edtcrandall ปีที่แล้ว +7

      yes, and the proof will keep ratcheting up - it will be more and more extreme over time

    • @hansel7888
      @hansel7888 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      For sure men, at that point for get about it, i feel those type of women are just broken souls

  • @Zero_Zero_Zero_Zero
    @Zero_Zero_Zero_Zero ปีที่แล้ว +234

    This is real talk. That treadmill will start moving faster and faster, and you will find yourself constantly running to keep up. The target keeps moving, you can never get there, and her love is never what it once was.
    Get out.

    • @Trapanzano100
      @Trapanzano100 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      You are running like a Hamster in a wheel. It's alway something missing.

    • @johnflowers2736
      @johnflowers2736 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Been there and done that but lucky to get out of it when I did.

    • @uchithahettiarachchi8304
      @uchithahettiarachchi8304 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      There was no love to begin with. It was pure manipulation. Covert narcs are plain horrible people. Just run for your lives while you can 💯

    • @hansel7888
      @hansel7888 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      ​@@Trapanzano100yeeee ong LMAO like "she deserves better" type of shit while being unemphatic af

    • @jaybrewer3990
      @jaybrewer3990 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      The difference between a well-adjusted, conscientious woman and one who gets off on your anxiety and wasn't going to keep the relationship going on the first place...is the first woman will respond positively to your efforts to make her happy, even if the effort fails at times. A woman who cannot be made happy even with a man who breaks his back to do so is off her rocker. Run, fast.

  • @emilkadd
    @emilkadd ปีที่แล้ว +126

    Been there done that. Jesus, how naive and trusting I was. Unbelievable

    • @JohnWayne-86ed
      @JohnWayne-86ed ปีที่แล้ว +22

      They steal your innocence. My ex wife turned me into a monster in some ways.

    • @emilkadd
      @emilkadd ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@JohnWayne-86ed Thats exactly what they do my friend. They steal your innocence

    • @michaelalexander9167
      @michaelalexander9167 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I have a sister in law and I won't let her control us so she gets mad when called out about her lies etc. She opens her mouth a lie is coming out

    • @aladinshampower
      @aladinshampower ปีที่แล้ว +3

      This is the exact reason I'm heartless with women now💔 I want to love, but don't want to get hurt so I just hurt others. I'm fucked up I know.

    • @hospice8896
      @hospice8896 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      This all hitting too hard. In it

  • @CandyOnAChopstick
    @CandyOnAChopstick ปีที่แล้ว +86

    This is scarily accurate. Once I was no longer perfect, I was dead to her.

  • @larryivey8118
    @larryivey8118 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    The more you do for a narcissist they'll expect and feel entitled to more and more moving the goal post

  • @SeanOzz
    @SeanOzz 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    Emotional vampire
    Wallet vampire also. 😂

    • @JayJayson-n2o
      @JayJayson-n2o 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yeah a couple of mine were sperm vampires

  • @hwy1310
    @hwy1310 ปีที่แล้ว +81

    You’ll end up exhausted and working around her all the time to live your life.

    • @ben5966
      @ben5966 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      This exactly. Being in a relationship with her felt like a chore.

    • @anthonyinsani9914
      @anthonyinsani9914 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      No doubt

  • @pierrechevalier20
    @pierrechevalier20 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    I realize now i was a emotional slave for my covert ex..

  • @AwaOk-qh7ve
    @AwaOk-qh7ve 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    This lady is such a treasure worth protecting

  • @kayellis5575
    @kayellis5575 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    Because she lied so often, sometimes just for sport, in retrospect l just assume it was all lies, games and gaslight. Trust was a noun that never applied to her. Whenever l risked trusting her, l'd end up wanting to kick myself in the ass.

    • @maydavis7589
      @maydavis7589 ปีที่แล้ว

      I've been manipulated, gaslighted, and threatened on a daily basis. Some of the threats were he was going to kill himself if I didn't do what was asked, he would punch pillows or sofa, stand up against me and yell at my face, stand behind the car and not let me leave, sometimes we would be driving and he would threaten to swerve and hit any truck, hold my arms and shake me, push me aside to a wall, and much more. My in-laws were also very verbally abusive towards me. I wasn’t allowed to visit my family or friends. If I did or wanted to, I had to be ready for an argument. Every day I was reminded that I am nothing and that I was not worth fighting for and that I don't meet the standards of being married to their son. Recently, I found out he was cheating on me and had a girlfriend. After seeing the texts and pictures, I became numb. I've been a good wife, I listened to every insult and fight. I never gave up what I knew, thanks to this hacker who's helped me to extract enough information from his device. Someone on here shared a link to the hacker who helped cloned his phone without physically touching it. All I did was send his phone number to him and through a remote link sent to my email, I was able to access all of his texts, emails, Facebook and Instagram chats, real-time call listening and his long deleted messages as if the phone was physically with me. Perhaps, you are in a similar situation and you need help you can get in touch with him
      Email:
      instagram.com/markclinton2424/

  • @michaeljackson7361
    @michaeljackson7361 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    She said I was trying to change her. Totally projection.

  • @carpediemarts705
    @carpediemarts705 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Each person is wholely responsibls for their emotional experience.

  • @mobileradiofitter
    @mobileradiofitter ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I disagree, the only way to get a female covert narcissist loving person they were at the beginning is to invent a time machine, heres whay you do, go back in time to day one, enjoy every moment of the relationship, on day 120 jump back into time machine and go back to day 1, just repeat this proccess going for as long as you need until shes out of your system, then go find a real woman who is mentally stable.

  • @targetedlion
    @targetedlion 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    You can never make a narcissist happy because they aren’t happy with themselves period

  • @a6a34007
    @a6a34007 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    The female covert narcissist is his new supply. He proved himself to her by aligning with her against me. He is a narcissist also and didn't figure it out. Now they are both playing each other. I am so lucky to be out of that sick situation.

  • @tylermorgan9018
    @tylermorgan9018 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Exactly what my kids mom had done to me several times. I keep letting her back in. I have to be strong and stop. It's Soo hard.

  • @MichaelBurset
    @MichaelBurset 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    If not for your informative videos I wouldn’t know what hit me. Thank you so much Lise!❤

  • @valevallo
    @valevallo ปีที่แล้ว +28

    After hearing this all I can say now is “oops”. God I was a fool to not see it at the time.

  • @ignitionrod
    @ignitionrod ปีที่แล้ว +48

    Seems like you are describing my exact situation.

    • @morenitascorp9246
      @morenitascorp9246 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      She is!

    • @Elianaalina
      @Elianaalina 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Me & My Ex Narc was Married for 12years with Children. I did all my possible best to be faithful to him and I always made my mind that I want to be the best house wife as that what I dream since college days. Nothing work out when you’re with a narcissist, My narc Ex still went ahead by threatening to file a divorce and take custody of our children because I caught him severally cheating with different lady and even my friend I also knew a lot of illegal stuffs he does and how addicted he’s to alcohol. I had no choice , friend told me about this Private Investigator which is also American Spy Guy he’s expert in tapping phone and web without leaving a trace, he got into my Husband phone and drives. I found Dirty proofs, real dirty things. All deleted Messages, chats, Videos, Call history from 16years back where unveiled to me. This proofs where helpful cos he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don’t let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more get in touch via instagram @fahad__hack👈👈
      👉👉@fahad__hack👈👈

    • @joey7824
      @joey7824 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I was just thinking the same thing

  • @kingarthur7250
    @kingarthur7250 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Listen to wveryone in comments..get out..cut all contact with them out...or it ends with them tryingvto utterly destroy u as they move to next target.

  • @Synchrothron
    @Synchrothron ปีที่แล้ว +59

    One of her most toxic strategies which I call "good, but not good enough".
    You will write secret lists about her wishes and then jump fences, break your bones, fight off bears, whatever just to make her happy and her response will be:
    "Nice, but my ex, Brian did it a lot faster."
    "Generous, but I wanted that a month ago. I've told you last week what I want now, but you never listen."
    "Very kind, but I've told you many times, I don't like this color." (She never told you)

    • @KevdogNHarmony
      @KevdogNHarmony ปีที่แล้ว +7

      That comment about the color happened to me. Heard often how she loved teriyaki, brought her to a teriyaki place and a loud scene commenced about how she hates it.

    • @alexas.5287
      @alexas.5287 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Painfully true. Sounds just like my covert Narc female family member. Even your best is NEVER enough for her… everything always just falls short, and she will always criticize and put you down. Nothing can ever make her happy. Her husband is a grade-A flying monkey and fearful-avoidant so he stays miserably in the marriage feeling like he has nowhere to go, she controls him completely and he dissociates and does all he can to avoid reality. It’s horrible.

    • @andrewnash8139
      @andrewnash8139 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      She never told you, but she'll laugh and say she's told you a hundred times.

  • @BrettSmithDaniels
    @BrettSmithDaniels ปีที่แล้ว +24

    God do I feel this. After treating me like I was the best thing that had ever happened to her she cheated on me, and then blame shifted, hacked my Facebook - found one thing she didn’t like (not cheating, just something that made her uncomfortable) - and used it as an emotional hammer to bludgeon me with in every single manufactured argument… eventually she began frequently telling me to kill myself. Because of the emotional bludgeoning, I made several attempts on my life. I couldn’t bare it any longer… and then the love bombing started again and I gaslit myself into submission.
    This cycle went on for many years until a subsequent suicide attempt and finally a separation.
    By the time the relationship was over, she had become physically violent and even threatened to kill me on several occasions.
    She was bloody good at mirroring empathy though. I had so much sympathy for her insecurities that I’d even allowed her to convince me to send daily screenshots of my messages across all apps. I couldn’t ask for help getting out of the situation because she’d have found out… and we were living together by the time we split up, so then I couldn’t even phone my parents without being overheard.
    Never again. Highly suggest the book “the covert passive aggressive narcissist” by Debbie Merza

    • @davidholmes2283
      @davidholmes2283 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm going to check that book out. Thanks!

  • @Calidore1
    @Calidore1 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    They are horrible. Even if everything seems to.have gone well they'll find something to complain about just when you've got back home and closed the door.

  • @YouilAushana
    @YouilAushana ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My eyes *_had_* to read the captions.

  • @andyearley9905
    @andyearley9905 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Bah hahahaha. Yeah ive just been freed personally and mentally in the past week. I co-parent with her. Or counterparent as i have found out.
    She was wonderful at the start. Later she told me in an honest rage, That girl dead. Never existed 😮
    I literally had the veil lifted in the past few days. Im happy now. She has a new man and everything now !
    Ill watch their relationship with interest. My daughter is 6 and so kind and loving... amazingly so, talented, precocious, confident, happy, so beautiful and fun.
    The new guy is spending lots of time and sleeping over. I have zero problem with him. Just to find out from my daughter instead of her mother was a real deal clincher.
    Finally opened my eyes to what she truly is.

  • @twf2000
    @twf2000 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    It’s incredible how accurately this describes what I went through

  • @miksi5827
    @miksi5827 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I lost contact with my 2 elder girls, worked my ass off in basement and having constant panic attacks because of poverty when i was trying to provide her. F**ng dared to express that she thought i "would be more able". Stayed for next 7 years. What a fool i was.

  • @kerrybrown4862
    @kerrybrown4862 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    💯% Facts!!! Describes everything I went through. After losing everything, filing bankruptcy and me having so many mental & physical issues(acquired during the relationship), she decided it would be best to move on... She said she flourishes when she is not with me....
    I worked for Target Corp in the B2B GiftCard department, was attended college and life was on track....
    Your content is a Gift and a blessing. Thank you!

    • @maydavis7589
      @maydavis7589 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I've been manipulated, gaslighted, and threatened on a daily basis. Some of the threats were he was going to kill himself if I didn't do what was asked, he would punch pillows or sofa, stand up against me and yell at my face, stand behind the car and not let me leave, sometimes we would be driving and he would threaten to swerve and hit any truck, hold my arms and shake me, push me aside to a wall, and much more. My in-laws were also very verbally abusive towards me. I wasn’t allowed to visit my family or friends. If I did or wanted to, I had to be ready for an argument. Every day I was reminded that I am nothing and that I was not worth fighting for and that I don't meet the standards of being married to their son. Recently, I found out he was cheating on me and had a girlfriend. After seeing the texts and pictures, I became numb. I've been a good wife, I listened to every insult and fight. I never gave up what I knew, thanks to this hacker who's helped me to extract enough information from his device. Someone on here shared a link to the hacker who helped cloned his phone without physically touching it. All I did was send his phone number to him and through a remote link sent to my email, I was able to access all of his texts, emails, Facebook and Instagram chats, real-time call listening and his long deleted messages as if the phone was physically with me. Perhaps, you are in a similar situation and you need help you can get in touch with him
      Email:
      instagram.com/markclinton2424/

    • @Elianaalina
      @Elianaalina 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Me & My Ex Narc was Married for 12years with Children. I did all my possible best to be faithful to him and I always made my mind that I want to be the best house wife as that what I dream since college days. Nothing work out when you’re with a narcissist, My narc Ex still went ahead by threatening to file a divorce and take custody of our children because I caught him severally cheating with different lady and even my friend I also knew a lot of illegal stuffs he does and how addicted he’s to alcohol. I had no choice , friend told me about this Private Investigator which is also American Spy Guy he’s expert in tapping phone and web without leaving a trace, he got into my Husband phone and drives. I found Dirty proofs, real dirty things. All deleted Messages, chats, Videos, Call history from 16years back where unveiled to me. This proofs where helpful cos he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don’t let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more get in touch via instagram @fahad__hack👈👈
      👉👉@fahad__hack👈👈

  • @k.j.bencephotography8852
    @k.j.bencephotography8852 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    This is 100% my daughter in law! It’s painful, damaging & exhausting having them in your life… it’s been 2 1/2 years since I saw my granddaughter & don’t understand how she accomplished it but now my son cut us off, and had accused me of nothing but lies

    • @fabianmahorn7545
      @fabianmahorn7545 ปีที่แล้ว

      We've been going through the same thing. All we can do is love from a distance, pray, and not play the game with them.

    • @davidholmes2283
      @davidholmes2283 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You both have my genuine sympathy. It must be very hard to deal with.

  • @inthemon
    @inthemon ปีที่แล้ว

    This is some unbelievable truth! Same goes for the borderline… Boom nailed it

  • @Manni_b28
    @Manni_b28 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Spot on!

  • @MHLivestreams
    @MHLivestreams ปีที่แล้ว +6

    men can learn from this experience, how to keep their power, and the negative effects of giving it away. I don't get my value externally, and it took Narcs abusing me to realise it. seek the positives in this. good luck, everyone.

  • @Matg1699
    @Matg1699 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Both my ex's and the last 3 girls I went on a date with were this way. It went from 2 years - breakup. To 6 months break up. To 3 weeks. To the most recent 1 day ghost.
    Idk why these women are so heavily attracted to me but it's very irritating and makes me want to not date anymore. I go on dating apps, put myself out there constantly and just keep getting either completely ignored or end up being lovebombed into an early grave.
    It's very disheartening and discouraging.

  • @Bluecloudprod
    @Bluecloudprod ปีที่แล้ว +2

    “God made me fall in love with the wrong man.”
    Chew on that one.

  • @jeanclaude7018
    @jeanclaude7018 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    They are wicked. The more you do for them, the MORE they suspect you are their enemy, because they think everyone is a manipulator like they are.

    • @jeanclaude7018
      @jeanclaude7018 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@MrStantma Just know that she will probably never get better. That kind are very tough to heal of their diseased behavior. It's a horrible disease.

    • @josmclove4426
      @josmclove4426 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Indeed

    • @josmclove4426
      @josmclove4426 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      ​@@jeanclaude7018Correct!👏🏽

  • @yt1283
    @yt1283 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Wow! My ex definitely did this. The negative shift started last June when I wouldn't move her into my house. And since then, it's like she became a different person. She discarded me in March but came back twice since. Now we're on the outs again. Appears for good this time.

    • @evilzinabyssranger5695
      @evilzinabyssranger5695 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      dont trust. DONT. Probably the same will repeat after some time.

    • @maydavis7589
      @maydavis7589 ปีที่แล้ว

      I've been manipulated, gaslighted, and threatened on a daily basis. Some of the threats were he was going to kill himself if I didn't do what was asked, he would punch pillows or sofa, stand up against me and yell at my face, stand behind the car and not let me leave, sometimes we would be driving and he would threaten to swerve and hit any truck, hold my arms and shake me, push me aside to a wall, and much more. My in-laws were also very verbally abusive towards me. I wasn’t allowed to visit my family or friends. If I did or wanted to, I had to be ready for an argument. Every day I was reminded that I am nothing and that I was not worth fighting for and that I don't meet the standards of being married to their son. Recently, I found out he was cheating on me and had a girlfriend. After seeing the texts and pictures, I became numb. I've been a good wife, I listened to every insult and fight. I never gave up what I knew, thanks to this hacker who's helped me to extract enough information from his device. Someone on here shared a link to the hacker who helped cloned his phone without physically touching it. All I did was send his phone number to him and through a remote link sent to my email, I was able to access all of his texts, emails, Facebook and Instagram chats, real-time call listening and his long deleted messages as if the phone was physically with me. Perhaps, you are in a similar situation and you need help you can get in touch with him
      Email:
      instagram.com/markclinton2424/

    • @GospelOfThomasMcSwain
      @GospelOfThomasMcSwain 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      "appears for good this time?"
      'Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.' - I don't know who said it
      She WILL come back because YOU still have space in your heart and mind for her. I can tell by your statement; specifically, the part I quoted above. How many times, after feasting on your blood, will you invite the same vampire into your home?

    • @josmclove4426
      @josmclove4426 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@GospelOfThomasMcSwain good one❤

  • @chapo_nz
    @chapo_nz ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Why is THIS not TAUGHT in schools 😨

  • @busynana7917
    @busynana7917 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You will never be good enough for a narcissist so don’t try - walk away asap

  • @topro941
    @topro941 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Pack your bags and walk away fellas. You will be filing for bankruptcy and living with your dad once she's done with you. Just walk away.

  • @dreambeliever3652
    @dreambeliever3652 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just another absolute confirmation that I screwed up in my marriage of 16 years. This is totally her.

  • @KleeKaiPuppies
    @KleeKaiPuppies ปีที่แล้ว +26

    This perfectly describes my ex best friend. She had me fooled for years and years.
    She got worse n worse w age. I let her go and went no contact. I had to in order to stay healthy and at peace.

    • @eduardomoroyoqui622
      @eduardomoroyoqui622 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hey señorita, please try to avoid saying "I had to" like if it was bad thing. I now approach those zero cotact door slams like "this is what you get" and enjoy myself when they most deserve it. I try to have fun, because otherwise, self guiltripping takes a toll and I cannot handle lt anymore. My sanity is priotity, not their shame

    • @greghayes9118
      @greghayes9118 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I know that feeling. I have the half woman half homing pigeon. No matter how far I drop her off, she keeps coming back home.

  • @earthwatcher2012
    @earthwatcher2012 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    💯 And then it becomes a One-Sided Performance Based Relationship that you can never win at; AND, it will exhaust your mind and money and time and create bizarre abandonment trauma when you “fail” her

  • @aloner245
    @aloner245 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Dating was perfect but less than two months after marriage this pattern of behavior emerged in her/ guess wife is a narcissist

  • @noworneversoulbeach
    @noworneversoulbeach ปีที่แล้ว +2

    By this logic I’ve yet to come across a woman who isn’t highly narcissistic😒

  • @gretavains8707
    @gretavains8707 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    My mother all over. Disgraceful woman. Some women are so dangerous. I am a woman myself. I don't really trust many of them. There is definitely something seriously wrong with women. They always go on about men. Well my best friend and I stay away from women. She has 7 brother's.

    • @TallGlass-fh8qf
      @TallGlass-fh8qf ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Would you say this is the key to finding a good woman? If she stays away from most women?

  • @bentvik-strandli1680
    @bentvik-strandli1680 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Actually before the love bombing stage was over. The problem is that most people have now clue before it's too late. And the narcissist traps you with kids before you get the knowledge.

  • @skhumbuzodladla1457
    @skhumbuzodladla1457 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Sounds like she is describing a female with borderline personality disorder

    • @ianarn
      @ianarn ปีที่แล้ว

      Borderline is on the Narcissistic spectrum!

    • @skhumbuzodladla1457
      @skhumbuzodladla1457 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@ianarn , you mean Borderline and narcissistic are on the Same Cluster

  • @RadoslavNedyalkov
    @RadoslavNedyalkov 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Proving that you are good enough only to yourself..... if others doesn't like something about this ..well...that's how you filter people

  • @viral_suppressor4154
    @viral_suppressor4154 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    One and a half years, lessons learned, dearly paid for...

    • @GjnNykamp
      @GjnNykamp 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I did 18 yrs of marriage, that just about recked me. Divorced for 3 months now, man was I ever codependent never again.

  • @mysticalmisfit33
    @mysticalmisfit33 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I’m glad I’m not just crazy. The video and comments here nailed it

  • @johnvandam106
    @johnvandam106 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Sadly, after reading so many of the comments in this thread, I have to ask myself "Why would I ever dare to risk getting involved in a relationship, which could turn out as horrible as some of the ones mentioned here...
    Perhaps I'm fortunate after all, for being single...
    Again, sad, as I would love to be with that special someone, but I'm seeing that so many people thought they were with their own special someone, only to be tragically disappointed & broken. 💔
    No, thanks...
    F-off, Cupid! 🖕🏼
    Go away... 🫸🧚‍♂️

    • @HustleHabit
      @HustleHabit ปีที่แล้ว

      That's like saying, you won't drive because people get into car accidents... Live and learn. That's a part of life. Don't be afraid of it. Just do better next time.

  • @mikekey5658
    @mikekey5658 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So true...😂😂😂😂😂

  • @misterdeebs1990
    @misterdeebs1990 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    ...but you'll NEVER meet her standards. The goalposts are always moving. The inconsistency is dizzying & it made me feel terrible. Even small things like some of her likes & dislikes would change once I started anticipating her needs or wants.

  • @dlyras
    @dlyras 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Initially the list is only 10 points long, and you wonder how nobody has managed to keep her happy with so few requirements.
    After you’ve achieved the 10 she does indeed reward you and you feel like a winner. However, it doesn’t take long before she adds just 5 more requirements. When you reach 15, she rewards you again but the list very soon grows to 20.
    Before you know it, the list of requirements to keep her happy have grown to 50, and if you drop the ball on ANY of them at any given time she will call you out on it as the reason for why she is withholding affection.
    You will die on that wheel if you don’t get off.

  • @casey1653
    @casey1653 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is there playbook. Everyone of them.

  • @intazario
    @intazario 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Best description of covert narcissists and i have seen hours of good content

  • @crush143able
    @crush143able ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hmmm, but what if you legitimately didn't protect her? When a man doesn't defend you after you let a friend of yours verbally insult her in front of you and do or say nothing, of course she would be upset, not feel safe, and want proof after that incident. Maybe more clarification of this statement would help. Narcissist love playing the victim when really they are the perpetrators.

  • @sayanstat53
    @sayanstat53 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is so true .... Every secret she will reveal to you , and make your mind to make her secrets as the biggest secrets of your life . and after few days or weeks or months when you do a very tiny mistake unknowingly it just magnifies and you will turn into an enemy , that you cannot be trusted , she just met a wrong person ,
    And now you need to prove yourself you are trustworthy, by constantly emotional abuses .
    You will feel it is not a big deal , but after this repeated cycles goes you will find yourself murmuring all day about your logic and reasoning “ why she is doing this , why she get so mad on these small things , where is the love and sympathy lost ? ”

  • @pinotwinelover
    @pinotwinelover 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    To me, the dangers of these kind of videos is that narcissism is on the spectrum, so although you can see pieces of many of these subjects, those are on a spectrum an individual cell pride, personal experiences self-awareness can profoundly affect a narcissistic behavior, but I think at the end of it all, regardless, as people try and sort through all this stuff The biggest tell through it all if you're highly emotionally, intelligent independent and desire, a connection, but do not need it is the inability for that person who loves you to feel empathy toward you even if you discuss it in a profound way about how they are affecting you in a negative Way a person who truly loves you would care about that a person who is a narcissist will get defensive about that The problem is so many modern people have narcissistic tendencies. We all want to label somebody something, but in fact, I think the best way to do it is regardless what we label somebody to be is their actions consistent with what you feel is healthy open in fact, you're a healthy human being yourself Doesn't really matter of the BPD or narcissistic. It might help somebody who had little self-awareness to free themselves from the grass for somebody like this, but when you have a more profound, emotionally, intelligent perspective, you're neither cynical, nor naïve, but courageous. The bottom line should be regardless of the diagnosis is that where their behavior is acceptable to how you want to live your life and is your life better and more complete with this person or on your own and when you have codependency when you don't have great self-esteem, you'll take bread crumbs, and that to me is far more sad than the fact that a person to narcissist they became a narcissist sis, typically had a survival for their own self and we could have empathy for it not to disagree want it in your life and understand there's a human being that sadly did not get what they needed earlier on in life and now you have to protect yourself from that kind of person

  • @mohammedzuhairy5601
    @mohammedzuhairy5601 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    so true

  • @ghy0503
    @ghy0503 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    When you give them something they want, they will definitely ask for more and more until you have nothing left to give. And when you can't give what they want they start to be angry, bully, gaslight you so much you'll go crazy.

  • @OlBlueshound
    @OlBlueshound ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow this is EXACTLY what my exnarc of 7 years was. First 12 months was the love bombing stage and then everything started to change and I spent 6 years trying to fix and make everything better and do as much as I could to help her not realising it was all just a game with my heart. And when I stopped being 100% compliant and I realised more and more that I was being manipulated I started to withdraw from the relationship and got discarded promptly. Still sends me things like birthday cards declaring her love for me but never wants to see me. It would only ever work if I went back to doing everything 100% that she wants in her life, my life didn't exist. Was a very hard lesson as I thought she was the one and we were going to grow old and be happy together. It's sad and I realise now I never want her back but I would really like the 7 years I wasted back dedicated to her and her kids and her career and her life. I guess time heals all wounds but the best thing is I'm free of her now. But too scared now to look at anyone else. Will focus on me healing and my faithful soulful dog who is my best buddy.

  • @robertthomas3364
    @robertthomas3364 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This sounds very familiar

  • @gregorysilva6287
    @gregorysilva6287 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You nailed it .thank you

  • @davidholmes2283
    @davidholmes2283 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I seem to be a magnet for this type of woman. I need to take a good look at myself to see why 😖

    • @tjteknik1
      @tjteknik1 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Being a truly nice and kind man, will do the trick for them... If insecure and not so experienced, it will be even worse. I should know (now 20 years later I finally found out what the problem was - ie not me... :/ ).

  • @Noah_Pender
    @Noah_Pender 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    2.5 years of marriage. She's been having an affair the entire time whenever I "neglected her needs" she'd talk to this other married man who was all over her social media. So much pain from all of this I feel like a crazy person and I wasn't good enough or else none of this would have happened, but now I know it was happening no matter what I did.

  • @TheBucklandgrp
    @TheBucklandgrp 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Sad, this is me but why can’t I leave

  • @thecreativebusiness1316
    @thecreativebusiness1316 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    So glad to hear this! I’m a woman who fell for this type of man twice! To all men and women watching this: RUN! As fast as you can.

    • @kiwi1361
      @kiwi1361 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Same here. I couldn't be good enough for him and it was exhausting. At the end he went to Tinder to find better women than me as I was a mess (in his words).

  • @noneyabeeysnass8283
    @noneyabeeysnass8283 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    💯

  • @rabim106
    @rabim106 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It’s literally what I did to my ex but he was changing for the worse which made me feel these things. Am I a narc ?

  • @redefinedliving5974
    @redefinedliving5974 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    omg... what if the covert narc watch this and make her delulu mind believe that im the narcissist??? I told her that she made me feel unsafe and my body is telling me not to talk to her anymore. The message im writing i am going to say how shes not making an effort and that our relationship is imbalanced. Well who cares shes gonna believe what shes gonna believe anywyas

  • @elizabethcastro4447
    @elizabethcastro4447 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I don’t think narcissism is always the case, once woman have been betrayed there will be a shift and if an opportunity was given, there will be expectations for the man to show that they are worthy of it.

  • @MarisaPaola-um5yb
    @MarisaPaola-um5yb 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    its a bottomless pit...too much is never enough

  • @here2hear90
    @here2hear90 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wait..can't a victim of narcissism feel this way?

  • @pbonnz7389
    @pbonnz7389 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Even when and if you do prove, it's still never good enough. Literally going through this

  • @mremington8
    @mremington8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    i almost fell for that once, luckily it was vids like this that helped me escape it.

  • @michaelremillard4215
    @michaelremillard4215 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You just described my ex-wife …. After 26 years of marriage she found another supply ..took everything,left me with nothing but debt and no way can I rebuild at my age

  • @davebird534
    @davebird534 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hey lise , that is all extremely accurate however, I would like to add one more thing, she demands that you go to church marriage counseling group to get counseling on your marriage..... And on the second or third time that you attend marriage counseling classes with about 100 couples then go to the church that you attend for regular service, this woman stands up in disrespectfully interrupt the couple that is speaking and blurts out my husband is sleeping with other women and prostitutes! And starts to cry like a little girl uncontrollably!! Can you imagine being in my shoes at that moment ? Of course I didn't. But try to explain that to all the other members of Church!!! Needless to say I walked out of the room and never went back to the church .

  • @g.e.martin1723k
    @g.e.martin1723k ปีที่แล้ว +2

    thank you for posting this, your videos are like therapy for me.

  • @natethebesttt
    @natethebesttt 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I was crying but now I’m smiling a bit in awe and feeling validated after being gaslit so hard. My ex matches EVERY one of the things you just said like what the heck.
    We just broke up but she was a real nut. Always played the victim and constantly brought up the past. She told her friends whom I had never met because they live far away about all of our arguments from her side of the story.
    She wouldn’t stop talking about her rich upbringing yet she didn’t have a job and her parents payed for her apartment even though she’s 35. She kept going on about “her trauma” and constantly talked about her ex boyfriends with whom she’s still in contact with. Her dog bit me out of nowhere while I wasn’t interacting with it because she’s a lazy owner who doesn’t train her dog to do anything and lets it poop in the house.
    She then proceeded to get mad at me for being upset at her and the dog. She called the police on me and I had to leave her house without my pants on the train in the cold.
    I now am on antibiotics and have to go to physical therapy for my dominant hand and all she said was “I’m sorry that happened to you. I’m really surprised. my dog is usually good.” Of course she blames me for everything calling me unstable and dangerous rather than upset my hard was gushing blood like a Monty python skit. She painted me as some sort of abuser after that and that would be why she broke up with me.
    Her ex-husband divorced her for her behavior and she of course sees herself as the victim being “thrown away like trash.” I should have took that warning.

  • @Bibleinformationandhelp
    @Bibleinformationandhelp ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Pretty much what you are saying. She will manipulate you to get you to do whatever she wants.

  • @moorlivingholistic
    @moorlivingholistic 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Ufft! The man I'm in love with is stuck with one these women. He's trying so hard to make it work with her and what's worse his mother loves the narc, because she's one herself. I wish I could make him see but I've stepped back and focusing in my future 😢 cest la vie

  • @petemoore8923
    @petemoore8923 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    My narc discarded me. What gave me comfort and helped me heal was realizing that had I done EVERYTHING she asked, I’d still have been discarded.

  • @Mmb-k1w
    @Mmb-k1w 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Can you blame the female when covert narcissist loved bombed her then discarded her when he couldn’t get what he wanted??????!

  • @homelandfreedom
    @homelandfreedom 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yea yea true that yes yes I defended her always

  • @marcojorg7480
    @marcojorg7480 ปีที่แล้ว

    That sounds exactly life my ex wife!!

  • @jamesl1130
    @jamesl1130 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    James Michael Lovell
    Jonathan Robert Lovell
    Joseph William Lovell

  • @greghayes9118
    @greghayes9118 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I know this person. She actually thinks these types of videos are BS, but she can't actually tell me why.

  • @Clevelandsteamer324
    @Clevelandsteamer324 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    That “version” never existed. It was a character. This creature used you for emotional regulation.

  • @AmandaZ-ft2ow
    @AmandaZ-ft2ow ปีที่แล้ว

    Comments 149 w/mine 150
    I have a question. Please, when possible, reply.
    I know I am in a relationship with a "standard," narcissist. However, I have seen traits of their behaviors in myself.
    I mark on some but not all of the traits of "Covert Narcissism," I am very empathic. Sometimes, to the extent of feeling another's emotions from miles away. Sometimes, I feel like a "sponge" for other people's emotions.
    For sake of argument, let's say I am a "Covert," can a balance be found betwixt us?
    On the other hand, let's say I'm not such. Is it possible for someone to "mirror" a narcissists behavior?
    Thank you!
    With Deep Gratitude! ! !❤⚜️❤
    Blessed Be! ! !❤🙏❤

  • @gesailer
    @gesailer หลายเดือนก่อน

    Going through the cicle of
    - everything seems fine
    - devaluation (constantly complaining about everything I do or say)
    - she getting cold
    - I forget something (e.g. „i told you for the last 2 weeks about and you dont seem to care, do you?)
    - big scene, silent treatment („i dlnt want to see see or hear from you“
    almost like every week.
    It‘s draining and yeah, as one comment said, it feels like chores. Brain occupied the whole day with this.
    The hardest part is I don‘t want to say anything anymore, because everything I say is either „stupid“,„devalueing her“ or a small hill she‘s blowing up to a big mountain and a reason to complain.

  • @neodistinct
    @neodistinct 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

    10 years and then - this. Monkey branched and accuses in everything.

  • @wulfyhowls1678
    @wulfyhowls1678 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Good lord….you just cleared up a behavior in someone I couldn’t understand and gave me myself back in researching what happened and the person or the version of them I’m not sure ever existed now…it was heartbreaking but, the pieces and red flags are making all the sense in the world

  • @ericdavis681
    @ericdavis681 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I find it odd that those with NPD always are discussed as doing the same exact cycles, the big 4 as if pre-programmed. Is it really that formulaic? It’s not algebra, it’s human behavior.

  • @janstiller803
    @janstiller803 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Does this also apply to his child abuse, name-calling me (and our child), belittling, being sarcastic, sudden put-downs, public humiliation, walking far in front when family time (walking), look of contempt, out of the blue smirking, etc?
    Isnt that rather ok she feels somewhat unsafe with that man???

  • @leoantonio
    @leoantonio ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hot thumbnail, and more importantly, you’ve helped me immensely. 🤜🏼🤛🏼

  • @juliai3956
    @juliai3956 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm worried about this, because i literally told this to my partner over the last few days. He is the closest I've ever been to someone, he was my first kiss. We have kids together. But after 17 years, i feel like im going crazy because he seems to have no integrity, laughs at mine, and told me he doesn't know how to have empathy. How do you know if you're the narcissist? I feel so closed up to him and i simply cannot help it. But I'm not going out of my way to hurt him, but I'm so sick of being hurt and betrayed and feeling like I'm alone when i need someone (i rarely ask for deep conversation or anything that bothers me about him, because he gets mad and i don't want to hurt him). Thanks for reading my over shared internet ramble. I'll delete later, but i want an honest opinion before i do.

  • @Phil_1708
    @Phil_1708 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Literally exactly how it played out, the fucked thing is she new what she was doing she's been doing same thing over n over with her past relationships wer just the next sucker on the chopping block, she loved us but she also manipulated and played us aswef

  • @mehrajsultana9363
    @mehrajsultana9363 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    M not defending any one m just sharing my perspective.... Every woman in the world wants to feel loved and protected.. Even a female who has survived narcissistic abuse demands the same thing from her partner and that's the bare minimum a woman asks for.... So how is she a narc?

  • @FantasmagoriaAhoy
    @FantasmagoriaAhoy ปีที่แล้ว

    This only covers romantic relationships and very....poorly.