This is real talk. That treadmill will start moving faster and faster, and you will find yourself constantly running to keep up. The target keeps moving, you can never get there, and her love is never what it once was. Get out.
The difference between a well-adjusted, conscientious woman and one who gets off on your anxiety and wasn't going to keep the relationship going on the first place...is the first woman will respond positively to your efforts to make her happy, even if the effort fails at times. A woman who cannot be made happy even with a man who breaks his back to do so is off her rocker. Run, fast.
Because she lied so often, sometimes just for sport, in retrospect l just assume it was all lies, games and gaslight. Trust was a noun that never applied to her. Whenever l risked trusting her, l'd end up wanting to kick myself in the ass.
I've been manipulated, gaslighted, and threatened on a daily basis. Some of the threats were he was going to kill himself if I didn't do what was asked, he would punch pillows or sofa, stand up against me and yell at my face, stand behind the car and not let me leave, sometimes we would be driving and he would threaten to swerve and hit any truck, hold my arms and shake me, push me aside to a wall, and much more. My in-laws were also very verbally abusive towards me. I wasn’t allowed to visit my family or friends. If I did or wanted to, I had to be ready for an argument. Every day I was reminded that I am nothing and that I was not worth fighting for and that I don't meet the standards of being married to their son. Recently, I found out he was cheating on me and had a girlfriend. After seeing the texts and pictures, I became numb. I've been a good wife, I listened to every insult and fight. I never gave up what I knew, thanks to this hacker who's helped me to extract enough information from his device. Someone on here shared a link to the hacker who helped cloned his phone without physically touching it. All I did was send his phone number to him and through a remote link sent to my email, I was able to access all of his texts, emails, Facebook and Instagram chats, real-time call listening and his long deleted messages as if the phone was physically with me. Perhaps, you are in a similar situation and you need help you can get in touch with him Email: instagram.com/markclinton2424/
The female covert narcissist is his new supply. He proved himself to her by aligning with her against me. He is a narcissist also and didn't figure it out. Now they are both playing each other. I am so lucky to be out of that sick situation.
Me & My Ex Narc was Married for 12years with Children. I did all my possible best to be faithful to him and I always made my mind that I want to be the best house wife as that what I dream since college days. Nothing work out when you’re with a narcissist, My narc Ex still went ahead by threatening to file a divorce and take custody of our children because I caught him severally cheating with different lady and even my friend I also knew a lot of illegal stuffs he does and how addicted he’s to alcohol. I had no choice , friend told me about this Private Investigator which is also American Spy Guy he’s expert in tapping phone and web without leaving a trace, he got into my Husband phone and drives. I found Dirty proofs, real dirty things. All deleted Messages, chats, Videos, Call history from 16years back where unveiled to me. This proofs where helpful cos he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don’t let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more get in touch via instagram @fahad__hack👈👈 👉👉@fahad__hack👈👈
💯% Facts!!! Describes everything I went through. After losing everything, filing bankruptcy and me having so many mental & physical issues(acquired during the relationship), she decided it would be best to move on... She said she flourishes when she is not with me.... I worked for Target Corp in the B2B GiftCard department, was attended college and life was on track.... Your content is a Gift and a blessing. Thank you!
I've been manipulated, gaslighted, and threatened on a daily basis. Some of the threats were he was going to kill himself if I didn't do what was asked, he would punch pillows or sofa, stand up against me and yell at my face, stand behind the car and not let me leave, sometimes we would be driving and he would threaten to swerve and hit any truck, hold my arms and shake me, push me aside to a wall, and much more. My in-laws were also very verbally abusive towards me. I wasn’t allowed to visit my family or friends. If I did or wanted to, I had to be ready for an argument. Every day I was reminded that I am nothing and that I was not worth fighting for and that I don't meet the standards of being married to their son. Recently, I found out he was cheating on me and had a girlfriend. After seeing the texts and pictures, I became numb. I've been a good wife, I listened to every insult and fight. I never gave up what I knew, thanks to this hacker who's helped me to extract enough information from his device. Someone on here shared a link to the hacker who helped cloned his phone without physically touching it. All I did was send his phone number to him and through a remote link sent to my email, I was able to access all of his texts, emails, Facebook and Instagram chats, real-time call listening and his long deleted messages as if the phone was physically with me. Perhaps, you are in a similar situation and you need help you can get in touch with him Email: instagram.com/markclinton2424/
Me & My Ex Narc was Married for 12years with Children. I did all my possible best to be faithful to him and I always made my mind that I want to be the best house wife as that what I dream since college days. Nothing work out when you’re with a narcissist, My narc Ex still went ahead by threatening to file a divorce and take custody of our children because I caught him severally cheating with different lady and even my friend I also knew a lot of illegal stuffs he does and how addicted he’s to alcohol. I had no choice , friend told me about this Private Investigator which is also American Spy Guy he’s expert in tapping phone and web without leaving a trace, he got into my Husband phone and drives. I found Dirty proofs, real dirty things. All deleted Messages, chats, Videos, Call history from 16years back where unveiled to me. This proofs where helpful cos he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don’t let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more get in touch via instagram @fahad__hack👈👈 👉👉@fahad__hack👈👈
One of her most toxic strategies which I call "good, but not good enough". You will write secret lists about her wishes and then jump fences, break your bones, fight off bears, whatever just to make her happy and her response will be: "Nice, but my ex, Brian did it a lot faster." "Generous, but I wanted that a month ago. I've told you last week what I want now, but you never listen." "Very kind, but I've told you many times, I don't like this color." (She never told you)
That comment about the color happened to me. Heard often how she loved teriyaki, brought her to a teriyaki place and a loud scene commenced about how she hates it.
Painfully true. Sounds just like my covert Narc female family member. Even your best is NEVER enough for her… everything always just falls short, and she will always criticize and put you down. Nothing can ever make her happy. Her husband is a grade-A flying monkey and fearful-avoidant so he stays miserably in the marriage feeling like he has nowhere to go, she controls him completely and he dissociates and does all he can to avoid reality. It’s horrible.
They are horrible. Even if everything seems to.have gone well they'll find something to complain about just when you've got back home and closed the door.
This woman, right here is damn narcissistic herself, feminism gone bad women protecting women. They are not gonna like the outcome of the next generation.
This is 100% my daughter in law! It’s painful, damaging & exhausting having them in your life… it’s been 2 1/2 years since I saw my granddaughter & don’t understand how she accomplished it but now my son cut us off, and had accused me of nothing but lies
God do I feel this. After treating me like I was the best thing that had ever happened to her she cheated on me, and then blame shifted, hacked my Facebook - found one thing she didn’t like (not cheating, just something that made her uncomfortable) - and used it as an emotional hammer to bludgeon me with in every single manufactured argument… eventually she began frequently telling me to kill myself. Because of the emotional bludgeoning, I made several attempts on my life. I couldn’t bare it any longer… and then the love bombing started again and I gaslit myself into submission. This cycle went on for many years until a subsequent suicide attempt and finally a separation. By the time the relationship was over, she had become physically violent and even threatened to kill me on several occasions. She was bloody good at mirroring empathy though. I had so much sympathy for her insecurities that I’d even allowed her to convince me to send daily screenshots of my messages across all apps. I couldn’t ask for help getting out of the situation because she’d have found out… and we were living together by the time we split up, so then I couldn’t even phone my parents without being overheard. Never again. Highly suggest the book “the covert passive aggressive narcissist” by Debbie Merza
men can learn from this experience, how to keep their power, and the negative effects of giving it away. I don't get my value externally, and it took Narcs abusing me to realise it. seek the positives in this. good luck, everyone.
💯 And then it becomes a One-Sided Performance Based Relationship that you can never win at; AND, it will exhaust your mind and money and time and create bizarre abandonment trauma when you “fail” her
This perfectly describes my ex best friend. She had me fooled for years and years. She got worse n worse w age. I let her go and went no contact. I had to in order to stay healthy and at peace.
Hey señorita, please try to avoid saying "I had to" like if it was bad thing. I now approach those zero cotact door slams like "this is what you get" and enjoy myself when they most deserve it. I try to have fun, because otherwise, self guiltripping takes a toll and I cannot handle lt anymore. My sanity is priotity, not their shame
Wow! My ex definitely did this. The negative shift started last June when I wouldn't move her into my house. And since then, it's like she became a different person. She discarded me in March but came back twice since. Now we're on the outs again. Appears for good this time.
I've been manipulated, gaslighted, and threatened on a daily basis. Some of the threats were he was going to kill himself if I didn't do what was asked, he would punch pillows or sofa, stand up against me and yell at my face, stand behind the car and not let me leave, sometimes we would be driving and he would threaten to swerve and hit any truck, hold my arms and shake me, push me aside to a wall, and much more. My in-laws were also very verbally abusive towards me. I wasn’t allowed to visit my family or friends. If I did or wanted to, I had to be ready for an argument. Every day I was reminded that I am nothing and that I was not worth fighting for and that I don't meet the standards of being married to their son. Recently, I found out he was cheating on me and had a girlfriend. After seeing the texts and pictures, I became numb. I've been a good wife, I listened to every insult and fight. I never gave up what I knew, thanks to this hacker who's helped me to extract enough information from his device. Someone on here shared a link to the hacker who helped cloned his phone without physically touching it. All I did was send his phone number to him and through a remote link sent to my email, I was able to access all of his texts, emails, Facebook and Instagram chats, real-time call listening and his long deleted messages as if the phone was physically with me. Perhaps, you are in a similar situation and you need help you can get in touch with him Email: instagram.com/markclinton2424/
"appears for good this time?" 'Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.' - I don't know who said it She WILL come back because YOU still have space in your heart and mind for her. I can tell by your statement; specifically, the part I quoted above. How many times, after feasting on your blood, will you invite the same vampire into your home?
This is so true .... Every secret she will reveal to you , and make your mind to make her secrets as the biggest secrets of your life . and after few days or weeks or months when you do a very tiny mistake unknowingly it just magnifies and you will turn into an enemy , that you cannot be trusted , she just met a wrong person , And now you need to prove yourself you are trustworthy, by constantly emotional abuses . You will feel it is not a big deal , but after this repeated cycles goes you will find yourself murmuring all day about your logic and reasoning “ why she is doing this , why she get so mad on these small things , where is the love and sympathy lost ? ”
Good lord….you just cleared up a behavior in someone I couldn’t understand and gave me myself back in researching what happened and the person or the version of them I’m not sure ever existed now…it was heartbreaking but, the pieces and red flags are making all the sense in the world
You are an angel. You are inspired by the Holy Spirt. I went into a marriage thinking i could handle it, for my spiritual growth, not expecting her to change, knowing I would need to become a different person more mature. Purified by fire. You are a Godsend.
Wow this is EXACTLY what my exnarc of 7 years was. First 12 months was the love bombing stage and then everything started to change and I spent 6 years trying to fix and make everything better and do as much as I could to help her not realising it was all just a game with my heart. And when I stopped being 100% compliant and I realised more and more that I was being manipulated I started to withdraw from the relationship and got discarded promptly. Still sends me things like birthday cards declaring her love for me but never wants to see me. It would only ever work if I went back to doing everything 100% that she wants in her life, my life didn't exist. Was a very hard lesson as I thought she was the one and we were going to grow old and be happy together. It's sad and I realise now I never want her back but I would really like the 7 years I wasted back dedicated to her and her kids and her career and her life. I guess time heals all wounds but the best thing is I'm free of her now. But too scared now to look at anyone else. Will focus on me healing and my faithful soulful dog who is my best buddy.
Being a truly nice and kind man, will do the trick for them... If insecure and not so experienced, it will be even worse. I should know (now 20 years later I finally found out what the problem was - ie not me... :/ ).
Same here. I couldn't be good enough for him and it was exhausting. At the end he went to Tinder to find better women than me as I was a mess (in his words).
I am here reflecting on myself whether or not i was narcissistic in any of my relationship in the past and if i still am now as a person. My exboyfriend told me i was manipulative and narcissisric and selfish. I admit to being defensive. As i thought i was only explaining myself to him so he can hear me out. I now realized that i have been emotionally disregulated and everytime i feel that way he had to see it. I felt guilty that he had to endure that with me. I still carry shame for being emotionally immature and putting a up a wall to protect myself all the time. I truly loved him and he never felt loved even after he told me i was very submissive to him. After our break up. I completely felt lost , confused and absolutely scared that i may be narcissistic and i don't want that. I am continuosly working on myself little by little and i pray for that man to be living a happy life.
I disagree, the only way to get a female covert narcissist loving person they were at the beginning is to invent a time machine, heres whay you do, go back in time to day one, enjoy every moment of the relationship, on day 120 jump back into time machine and go back to day 1, just repeat this proccess going for as long as you need until shes out of your system, then go find a real woman who is mentally stable.
When you give them something they want, they will definitely ask for more and more until you have nothing left to give. And when you can't give what they want they start to be angry, bully, gaslight you so much you'll go crazy.
I was crying but now I’m smiling a bit in awe and feeling validated after being gaslit so hard. My ex matches EVERY one of the things you just said like what the heck. We just broke up but she was a real nut. Always played the victim and constantly brought up the past. She told her friends whom I had never met because they live far away about all of our arguments from her side of the story. She wouldn’t stop talking about her rich upbringing yet she didn’t have a job and her parents payed for her apartment even though she’s 35. She kept going on about “her trauma” and constantly talked about her ex boyfriends with whom she’s still in contact with. Her dog bit me out of nowhere while I wasn’t interacting with it because she’s a lazy owner who doesn’t train her dog to do anything and lets it poop in the house. She then proceeded to get mad at me for being upset at her and the dog. She called the police on me and I had to leave her house without my pants on the train in the cold. I now am on antibiotics and have to go to physical therapy for my dominant hand and all she said was “I’m sorry that happened to you. I’m really surprised. my dog is usually good.” Of course she blames me for everything calling me unstable and dangerous rather than upset my hard was gushing blood like a Monty python skit. She painted me as some sort of abuser after that and that would be why she broke up with me. Her ex-husband divorced her for her behavior and she of course sees herself as the victim being “thrown away like trash.” I should have took that warning.
The best remedy is🎉🎉🎉 Agree to all she's accusing you of. Then say we're all out of milk! I'll go to the store and get you the milk you want..... Then never return🎉🎉🎉🎉 & live happily ever after🎉🎉
Bah hahahaha. Yeah ive just been freed personally and mentally in the past week. I co-parent with her. Or counterparent as i have found out. She was wonderful at the start. Later she told me in an honest rage, That girl dead. Never existed 😮 I literally had the veil lifted in the past few days. Im happy now. She has a new man and everything now ! Ill watch their relationship with interest. My daughter is 6 and so kind and loving... amazingly so, talented, precocious, confident, happy, so beautiful and fun. The new guy is spending lots of time and sleeping over. I have zero problem with him. Just to find out from my daughter instead of her mother was a real deal clincher. Finally opened my eyes to what she truly is.
Going through the cicle of - everything seems fine - devaluation (constantly complaining about everything I do or say) - she getting cold - I forget something (e.g. „i told you for the last 2 weeks about and you dont seem to care, do you?) - big scene, silent treatment („i dlnt want to see see or hear from you“ almost like every week. It‘s draining and yeah, as one comment said, it feels like chores. Brain occupied the whole day with this. The hardest part is I don‘t want to say anything anymore, because everything I say is either „stupid“,„devalueing her“ or a small hill she‘s blowing up to a big mountain and a reason to complain.
To me, the dangers of these kind of videos is that narcissism is on the spectrum, so although you can see pieces of many of these subjects, those are on a spectrum an individual cell pride, personal experiences self-awareness can profoundly affect a narcissistic behavior, but I think at the end of it all, regardless, as people try and sort through all this stuff The biggest tell through it all if you're highly emotionally, intelligent independent and desire, a connection, but do not need it is the inability for that person who loves you to feel empathy toward you even if you discuss it in a profound way about how they are affecting you in a negative Way a person who truly loves you would care about that a person who is a narcissist will get defensive about that The problem is so many modern people have narcissistic tendencies. We all want to label somebody something, but in fact, I think the best way to do it is regardless what we label somebody to be is their actions consistent with what you feel is healthy open in fact, you're a healthy human being yourself Doesn't really matter of the BPD or narcissistic. It might help somebody who had little self-awareness to free themselves from the grass for somebody like this, but when you have a more profound, emotionally, intelligent perspective, you're neither cynical, nor naïve, but courageous. The bottom line should be regardless of the diagnosis is that where their behavior is acceptable to how you want to live your life and is your life better and more complete with this person or on your own and when you have codependency when you don't have great self-esteem, you'll take bread crumbs, and that to me is far more sad than the fact that a person to narcissist they became a narcissist sis, typically had a survival for their own self and we could have empathy for it not to disagree want it in your life and understand there's a human being that sadly did not get what they needed earlier on in life and now you have to protect yourself from that kind of person
2.5 years of marriage. She's been having an affair the entire time whenever I "neglected her needs" she'd talk to this other married man who was all over her social media. So much pain from all of this I feel like a crazy person and I wasn't good enough or else none of this would have happened, but now I know it was happening no matter what I did.
Accept the reality that they truly do not love you. The person you believe they are doesn't exist. There is no amount of proving you can do that will ever satisfy them. It will never be enough. They will drain you until you are broken, financially and emotionally. Then they will discard you and somehow spin it to make it your fault. Get out.
I don’t think narcissism is always the case, once woman have been betrayed there will be a shift and if an opportunity was given, there will be expectations for the man to show that they are worthy of it.
...but you'll NEVER meet her standards. The goalposts are always moving. The inconsistency is dizzying & it made me feel terrible. Even small things like some of her likes & dislikes would change once I started anticipating her needs or wants.
I got lucky-- I took it at face value when she blocked me, and I walked away. When she was done with her excursion, and wanted to meet and discuss, I was not in attendance. It wasn't easy, but given the profile of NPD, the writing was on the wall. And there is no way I'm going through another devaluation phase--ever.
But no matter how hard you try, no matter what you do…..once she’s made that shift, you’ll NEVER prove yourself worthy enough
But still act like you ran over her mother with a tractor when you leave the relationship
Good, I don't want any sloppy 2nds anyways 😅😂
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yes, and the proof will keep ratcheting up - it will be more and more extreme over time
For sure men, at that point for get about it, i feel those type of women are just broken souls
This is real talk. That treadmill will start moving faster and faster, and you will find yourself constantly running to keep up. The target keeps moving, you can never get there, and her love is never what it once was.
Get out.
You are running like a Hamster in a wheel. It's alway something missing.
Been there and done that but lucky to get out of it when I did.
There was no love to begin with. It was pure manipulation. Covert narcs are plain horrible people. Just run for your lives while you can 💯
@@Trapanzano100yeeee ong LMAO like "she deserves better" type of shit while being unemphatic af
The difference between a well-adjusted, conscientious woman and one who gets off on your anxiety and wasn't going to keep the relationship going on the first place...is the first woman will respond positively to your efforts to make her happy, even if the effort fails at times. A woman who cannot be made happy even with a man who breaks his back to do so is off her rocker. Run, fast.
This is scarily accurate. Once I was no longer perfect, I was dead to her.
Same
Same hare bro
Same here
This lady is such a treasure worth protecting
The more you do for a narcissist they'll expect and feel entitled to more and more moving the goal post
Instead
Been there done that. Jesus, how naive and trusting I was. Unbelievable
They steal your innocence. My ex wife turned me into a monster in some ways.
@@JohnWayne-86ed Thats exactly what they do my friend. They steal your innocence
I have a sister in law and I won't let her control us so she gets mad when called out about her lies etc. She opens her mouth a lie is coming out
This is the exact reason I'm heartless with women now💔 I want to love, but don't want to get hurt so I just hurt others. I'm fucked up I know.
This all hitting too hard. In it
You’ll end up exhausted and working around her all the time to live your life.
This exactly. Being in a relationship with her felt like a chore.
No doubt
I realize now i was a emotional slave for my covert ex..
She said I was trying to change her. Totally projection.
Emotional vampire
Wallet vampire also. 😂
Yeah a couple of mine were sperm vampires
If not for your informative videos I wouldn’t know what hit me. Thank you so much Lise!❤
Because she lied so often, sometimes just for sport, in retrospect l just assume it was all lies, games and gaslight. Trust was a noun that never applied to her. Whenever l risked trusting her, l'd end up wanting to kick myself in the ass.
I've been manipulated, gaslighted, and threatened on a daily basis. Some of the threats were he was going to kill himself if I didn't do what was asked, he would punch pillows or sofa, stand up against me and yell at my face, stand behind the car and not let me leave, sometimes we would be driving and he would threaten to swerve and hit any truck, hold my arms and shake me, push me aside to a wall, and much more. My in-laws were also very verbally abusive towards me. I wasn’t allowed to visit my family or friends. If I did or wanted to, I had to be ready for an argument. Every day I was reminded that I am nothing and that I was not worth fighting for and that I don't meet the standards of being married to their son. Recently, I found out he was cheating on me and had a girlfriend. After seeing the texts and pictures, I became numb. I've been a good wife, I listened to every insult and fight. I never gave up what I knew, thanks to this hacker who's helped me to extract enough information from his device. Someone on here shared a link to the hacker who helped cloned his phone without physically touching it. All I did was send his phone number to him and through a remote link sent to my email, I was able to access all of his texts, emails, Facebook and Instagram chats, real-time call listening and his long deleted messages as if the phone was physically with me. Perhaps, you are in a similar situation and you need help you can get in touch with him
Email:
instagram.com/markclinton2424/
The female covert narcissist is his new supply. He proved himself to her by aligning with her against me. He is a narcissist also and didn't figure it out. Now they are both playing each other. I am so lucky to be out of that sick situation.
Seems like you are describing my exact situation.
She is!
Me & My Ex Narc was Married for 12years with Children. I did all my possible best to be faithful to him and I always made my mind that I want to be the best house wife as that what I dream since college days. Nothing work out when you’re with a narcissist, My narc Ex still went ahead by threatening to file a divorce and take custody of our children because I caught him severally cheating with different lady and even my friend I also knew a lot of illegal stuffs he does and how addicted he’s to alcohol. I had no choice , friend told me about this Private Investigator which is also American Spy Guy he’s expert in tapping phone and web without leaving a trace, he got into my Husband phone and drives. I found Dirty proofs, real dirty things. All deleted Messages, chats, Videos, Call history from 16years back where unveiled to me. This proofs where helpful cos he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don’t let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more get in touch via instagram @fahad__hack👈👈
👉👉@fahad__hack👈👈
I was just thinking the same thing
💯% Facts!!! Describes everything I went through. After losing everything, filing bankruptcy and me having so many mental & physical issues(acquired during the relationship), she decided it would be best to move on... She said she flourishes when she is not with me....
I worked for Target Corp in the B2B GiftCard department, was attended college and life was on track....
Your content is a Gift and a blessing. Thank you!
I've been manipulated, gaslighted, and threatened on a daily basis. Some of the threats were he was going to kill himself if I didn't do what was asked, he would punch pillows or sofa, stand up against me and yell at my face, stand behind the car and not let me leave, sometimes we would be driving and he would threaten to swerve and hit any truck, hold my arms and shake me, push me aside to a wall, and much more. My in-laws were also very verbally abusive towards me. I wasn’t allowed to visit my family or friends. If I did or wanted to, I had to be ready for an argument. Every day I was reminded that I am nothing and that I was not worth fighting for and that I don't meet the standards of being married to their son. Recently, I found out he was cheating on me and had a girlfriend. After seeing the texts and pictures, I became numb. I've been a good wife, I listened to every insult and fight. I never gave up what I knew, thanks to this hacker who's helped me to extract enough information from his device. Someone on here shared a link to the hacker who helped cloned his phone without physically touching it. All I did was send his phone number to him and through a remote link sent to my email, I was able to access all of his texts, emails, Facebook and Instagram chats, real-time call listening and his long deleted messages as if the phone was physically with me. Perhaps, you are in a similar situation and you need help you can get in touch with him
Email:
instagram.com/markclinton2424/
Me & My Ex Narc was Married for 12years with Children. I did all my possible best to be faithful to him and I always made my mind that I want to be the best house wife as that what I dream since college days. Nothing work out when you’re with a narcissist, My narc Ex still went ahead by threatening to file a divorce and take custody of our children because I caught him severally cheating with different lady and even my friend I also knew a lot of illegal stuffs he does and how addicted he’s to alcohol. I had no choice , friend told me about this Private Investigator which is also American Spy Guy he’s expert in tapping phone and web without leaving a trace, he got into my Husband phone and drives. I found Dirty proofs, real dirty things. All deleted Messages, chats, Videos, Call history from 16years back where unveiled to me. This proofs where helpful cos he worked my papers for me and now I can stay with my child and have a good job. Don’t let your narcissistic partner abuse you no more get in touch via instagram @fahad__hack👈👈
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One of her most toxic strategies which I call "good, but not good enough".
You will write secret lists about her wishes and then jump fences, break your bones, fight off bears, whatever just to make her happy and her response will be:
"Nice, but my ex, Brian did it a lot faster."
"Generous, but I wanted that a month ago. I've told you last week what I want now, but you never listen."
"Very kind, but I've told you many times, I don't like this color." (She never told you)
That comment about the color happened to me. Heard often how she loved teriyaki, brought her to a teriyaki place and a loud scene commenced about how she hates it.
Painfully true. Sounds just like my covert Narc female family member. Even your best is NEVER enough for her… everything always just falls short, and she will always criticize and put you down. Nothing can ever make her happy. Her husband is a grade-A flying monkey and fearful-avoidant so he stays miserably in the marriage feeling like he has nowhere to go, she controls him completely and he dissociates and does all he can to avoid reality. It’s horrible.
She never told you, but she'll laugh and say she's told you a hundred times.
It’s incredible how accurately this describes what I went through
They are horrible. Even if everything seems to.have gone well they'll find something to complain about just when you've got back home and closed the door.
You can never make a narcissist happy because they aren’t happy with themselves period
This woman, right here is damn narcissistic herself, feminism gone bad women protecting women. They are not gonna like the outcome of the next generation.
This is 100% my daughter in law! It’s painful, damaging & exhausting having them in your life… it’s been 2 1/2 years since I saw my granddaughter & don’t understand how she accomplished it but now my son cut us off, and had accused me of nothing but lies
We've been going through the same thing. All we can do is love from a distance, pray, and not play the game with them.
You both have my genuine sympathy. It must be very hard to deal with.
God do I feel this. After treating me like I was the best thing that had ever happened to her she cheated on me, and then blame shifted, hacked my Facebook - found one thing she didn’t like (not cheating, just something that made her uncomfortable) - and used it as an emotional hammer to bludgeon me with in every single manufactured argument… eventually she began frequently telling me to kill myself. Because of the emotional bludgeoning, I made several attempts on my life. I couldn’t bare it any longer… and then the love bombing started again and I gaslit myself into submission.
This cycle went on for many years until a subsequent suicide attempt and finally a separation.
By the time the relationship was over, she had become physically violent and even threatened to kill me on several occasions.
She was bloody good at mirroring empathy though. I had so much sympathy for her insecurities that I’d even allowed her to convince me to send daily screenshots of my messages across all apps. I couldn’t ask for help getting out of the situation because she’d have found out… and we were living together by the time we split up, so then I couldn’t even phone my parents without being overheard.
Never again. Highly suggest the book “the covert passive aggressive narcissist” by Debbie Merza
I'm going to check that book out. Thanks!
After hearing this all I can say now is “oops”. God I was a fool to not see it at the time.
One and a half years, lessons learned, dearly paid for...
I did 18 yrs of marriage, that just about recked me. Divorced for 3 months now, man was I ever codependent never again.
They are wicked. The more you do for them, the MORE they suspect you are their enemy, because they think everyone is a manipulator like they are.
@@MrStantma Just know that she will probably never get better. That kind are very tough to heal of their diseased behavior. It's a horrible disease.
Indeed
@@jeanclaude7018Correct!👏🏽
men can learn from this experience, how to keep their power, and the negative effects of giving it away. I don't get my value externally, and it took Narcs abusing me to realise it. seek the positives in this. good luck, everyone.
💯 And then it becomes a One-Sided Performance Based Relationship that you can never win at; AND, it will exhaust your mind and money and time and create bizarre abandonment trauma when you “fail” her
Omg lady, you help so many people realize what they are dealing with. It’s like you wake them up from a forever nightmare.
This perfectly describes my ex best friend. She had me fooled for years and years.
She got worse n worse w age. I let her go and went no contact. I had to in order to stay healthy and at peace.
Hey señorita, please try to avoid saying "I had to" like if it was bad thing. I now approach those zero cotact door slams like "this is what you get" and enjoy myself when they most deserve it. I try to have fun, because otherwise, self guiltripping takes a toll and I cannot handle lt anymore. My sanity is priotity, not their shame
I know that feeling. I have the half woman half homing pigeon. No matter how far I drop her off, she keeps coming back home.
Best description of covert narcissists and i have seen hours of good content
Literally a perfect synopsis of my last two months. Spot on.
Listen to wveryone in comments..get out..cut all contact with them out...or it ends with them tryingvto utterly destroy u as they move to next target.
I’m glad I’m not just crazy. The video and comments here nailed it
Wow! My ex definitely did this. The negative shift started last June when I wouldn't move her into my house. And since then, it's like she became a different person. She discarded me in March but came back twice since. Now we're on the outs again. Appears for good this time.
dont trust. DONT. Probably the same will repeat after some time.
I've been manipulated, gaslighted, and threatened on a daily basis. Some of the threats were he was going to kill himself if I didn't do what was asked, he would punch pillows or sofa, stand up against me and yell at my face, stand behind the car and not let me leave, sometimes we would be driving and he would threaten to swerve and hit any truck, hold my arms and shake me, push me aside to a wall, and much more. My in-laws were also very verbally abusive towards me. I wasn’t allowed to visit my family or friends. If I did or wanted to, I had to be ready for an argument. Every day I was reminded that I am nothing and that I was not worth fighting for and that I don't meet the standards of being married to their son. Recently, I found out he was cheating on me and had a girlfriend. After seeing the texts and pictures, I became numb. I've been a good wife, I listened to every insult and fight. I never gave up what I knew, thanks to this hacker who's helped me to extract enough information from his device. Someone on here shared a link to the hacker who helped cloned his phone without physically touching it. All I did was send his phone number to him and through a remote link sent to my email, I was able to access all of his texts, emails, Facebook and Instagram chats, real-time call listening and his long deleted messages as if the phone was physically with me. Perhaps, you are in a similar situation and you need help you can get in touch with him
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"appears for good this time?"
'Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.' - I don't know who said it
She WILL come back because YOU still have space in your heart and mind for her. I can tell by your statement; specifically, the part I quoted above. How many times, after feasting on your blood, will you invite the same vampire into your home?
@GospelOfThomasMcSwain good one❤
Wow. Every single word out of this woman's mouth is pure truth.
thank you for posting this, your videos are like therapy for me.
Each person is wholely responsibls for their emotional experience.
This is so true .... Every secret she will reveal to you , and make your mind to make her secrets as the biggest secrets of your life . and after few days or weeks or months when you do a very tiny mistake unknowingly it just magnifies and you will turn into an enemy , that you cannot be trusted , she just met a wrong person ,
And now you need to prove yourself you are trustworthy, by constantly emotional abuses .
You will feel it is not a big deal , but after this repeated cycles goes you will find yourself murmuring all day about your logic and reasoning “ why she is doing this , why she get so mad on these small things , where is the love and sympathy lost ? ”
You nailed it .thank you
Good lord….you just cleared up a behavior in someone I couldn’t understand and gave me myself back in researching what happened and the person or the version of them I’m not sure ever existed now…it was heartbreaking but, the pieces and red flags are making all the sense in the world
Exactly what my kids mom had done to me several times. I keep letting her back in. I have to be strong and stop. It's Soo hard.
I am glad I have come across this, there is alot of alignment with my current situation
i almost fell for that once, luckily it was vids like this that helped me escape it.
Thanks for the info. You’re making a difference. Please keep posting ❤️
You are an angel. You are inspired by the Holy Spirt.
I went into a marriage thinking i could handle it, for my spiritual growth, not expecting her to change, knowing I would need to become a different person more mature. Purified by fire. You are a Godsend.
Wow this is EXACTLY what my exnarc of 7 years was. First 12 months was the love bombing stage and then everything started to change and I spent 6 years trying to fix and make everything better and do as much as I could to help her not realising it was all just a game with my heart. And when I stopped being 100% compliant and I realised more and more that I was being manipulated I started to withdraw from the relationship and got discarded promptly. Still sends me things like birthday cards declaring her love for me but never wants to see me. It would only ever work if I went back to doing everything 100% that she wants in her life, my life didn't exist. Was a very hard lesson as I thought she was the one and we were going to grow old and be happy together. It's sad and I realise now I never want her back but I would really like the 7 years I wasted back dedicated to her and her kids and her career and her life. I guess time heals all wounds but the best thing is I'm free of her now. But too scared now to look at anyone else. Will focus on me healing and my faithful soulful dog who is my best buddy.
I seem to be a magnet for this type of woman. I need to take a good look at myself to see why 😖
Being a truly nice and kind man, will do the trick for them... If insecure and not so experienced, it will be even worse. I should know (now 20 years later I finally found out what the problem was - ie not me... :/ ).
Lovely hair. Thank you for your help
So glad to hear this! I’m a woman who fell for this type of man twice! To all men and women watching this: RUN! As fast as you can.
Same here. I couldn't be good enough for him and it was exhausting. At the end he went to Tinder to find better women than me as I was a mess (in his words).
Thank you. We men need someone like you.
Wow. Word for word.
Amazingly accurate! Thank you!
Thank you for your content...it's helped make so much more sense of things
This is some unbelievable truth! Same goes for the borderline… Boom nailed it
I am here reflecting on myself whether or not i was narcissistic in any of my relationship in the past and if i still am now as a person. My exboyfriend told me i was manipulative and narcissisric and selfish. I admit to being defensive.
As i thought i was only explaining myself to him so he can hear me out. I now realized that i have been emotionally disregulated and everytime i feel that way he had to see it. I felt guilty that he had to endure that with me. I still carry shame for being emotionally immature and putting a up a wall to protect myself all the time. I truly loved him and he never felt loved even after he told me i was very submissive to him. After our break up. I completely felt lost , confused and absolutely scared that i may be narcissistic and i don't want that. I am continuosly working on myself little by little and i pray for that man to be living a happy life.
Even when and if you do prove, it's still never good enough. Literally going through this
My narc discarded me. What gave me comfort and helped me heal was realizing that had I done EVERYTHING she asked, I’d still have been discarded.
Yes you are wonderful to explain the facts .
I disagree, the only way to get a female covert narcissist loving person they were at the beginning is to invent a time machine, heres whay you do, go back in time to day one, enjoy every moment of the relationship, on day 120 jump back into time machine and go back to day 1, just repeat this proccess going for as long as you need until shes out of your system, then go find a real woman who is mentally stable.
So true bro
Damn. This is _exactly_ what’s happening.
You nail it so well
Hot thumbnail, and more importantly, you’ve helped me immensely. 🤜🏼🤛🏼
Wow! Spot on. Happened exactly as you said.
When you give them something they want, they will definitely ask for more and more until you have nothing left to give. And when you can't give what they want they start to be angry, bully, gaslight you so much you'll go crazy.
Thanks. Keep em coming
Than you!
Proving that you are good enough only to yourself..... if others doesn't like something about this ..well...that's how you filter people
1000 % correct
Helpful thanks saved me a bad relationship
Yes this is what she did!
Spot On!!
I was crying but now I’m smiling a bit in awe and feeling validated after being gaslit so hard. My ex matches EVERY one of the things you just said like what the heck.
We just broke up but she was a real nut. Always played the victim and constantly brought up the past. She told her friends whom I had never met because they live far away about all of our arguments from her side of the story.
She wouldn’t stop talking about her rich upbringing yet she didn’t have a job and her parents payed for her apartment even though she’s 35. She kept going on about “her trauma” and constantly talked about her ex boyfriends with whom she’s still in contact with. Her dog bit me out of nowhere while I wasn’t interacting with it because she’s a lazy owner who doesn’t train her dog to do anything and lets it poop in the house.
She then proceeded to get mad at me for being upset at her and the dog. She called the police on me and I had to leave her house without my pants on the train in the cold.
I now am on antibiotics and have to go to physical therapy for my dominant hand and all she said was “I’m sorry that happened to you. I’m really surprised. my dog is usually good.” Of course she blames me for everything calling me unstable and dangerous rather than upset my hard was gushing blood like a Monty python skit. She painted me as some sort of abuser after that and that would be why she broke up with me.
Her ex-husband divorced her for her behavior and she of course sees herself as the victim being “thrown away like trash.” I should have took that warning.
I love you Lisa ❤
My eyes *_had_* to read the captions.
its a bottomless pit...too much is never enough
The best remedy is🎉🎉🎉
Agree to all she's accusing you of.
Then say we're all out of milk!
I'll go to the store and get you the milk you want.....
Then never return🎉🎉🎉🎉
& live happily ever after🎉🎉
I love that blouse
Totally describes my last relationship.
Bah hahahaha. Yeah ive just been freed personally and mentally in the past week. I co-parent with her. Or counterparent as i have found out.
She was wonderful at the start. Later she told me in an honest rage, That girl dead. Never existed 😮
I literally had the veil lifted in the past few days. Im happy now. She has a new man and everything now !
Ill watch their relationship with interest. My daughter is 6 and so kind and loving... amazingly so, talented, precocious, confident, happy, so beautiful and fun.
The new guy is spending lots of time and sleeping over. I have zero problem with him. Just to find out from my daughter instead of her mother was a real deal clincher.
Finally opened my eyes to what she truly is.
Run Forrest. RUN.
What you thought she was is a lie. You fell in love with her reflecting your best.
50 times and its happening exactly this!!
Yep.. I am here
Yep that’s me
Going through the cicle of
- everything seems fine
- devaluation (constantly complaining about everything I do or say)
- she getting cold
- I forget something (e.g. „i told you for the last 2 weeks about and you dont seem to care, do you?)
- big scene, silent treatment („i dlnt want to see see or hear from you“
almost like every week.
It‘s draining and yeah, as one comment said, it feels like chores. Brain occupied the whole day with this.
The hardest part is I don‘t want to say anything anymore, because everything I say is either „stupid“,„devalueing her“ or a small hill she‘s blowing up to a big mountain and a reason to complain.
To me, the dangers of these kind of videos is that narcissism is on the spectrum, so although you can see pieces of many of these subjects, those are on a spectrum an individual cell pride, personal experiences self-awareness can profoundly affect a narcissistic behavior, but I think at the end of it all, regardless, as people try and sort through all this stuff The biggest tell through it all if you're highly emotionally, intelligent independent and desire, a connection, but do not need it is the inability for that person who loves you to feel empathy toward you even if you discuss it in a profound way about how they are affecting you in a negative Way a person who truly loves you would care about that a person who is a narcissist will get defensive about that The problem is so many modern people have narcissistic tendencies. We all want to label somebody something, but in fact, I think the best way to do it is regardless what we label somebody to be is their actions consistent with what you feel is healthy open in fact, you're a healthy human being yourself Doesn't really matter of the BPD or narcissistic. It might help somebody who had little self-awareness to free themselves from the grass for somebody like this, but when you have a more profound, emotionally, intelligent perspective, you're neither cynical, nor naïve, but courageous. The bottom line should be regardless of the diagnosis is that where their behavior is acceptable to how you want to live your life and is your life better and more complete with this person or on your own and when you have codependency when you don't have great self-esteem, you'll take bread crumbs, and that to me is far more sad than the fact that a person to narcissist they became a narcissist sis, typically had a survival for their own self and we could have empathy for it not to disagree want it in your life and understand there's a human being that sadly did not get what they needed earlier on in life and now you have to protect yourself from that kind of person
My Mother!
You are not alone.
Dating was perfect but less than two months after marriage this pattern of behavior emerged in her/ guess wife is a narcissist
2.5 years of marriage. She's been having an affair the entire time whenever I "neglected her needs" she'd talk to this other married man who was all over her social media. So much pain from all of this I feel like a crazy person and I wasn't good enough or else none of this would have happened, but now I know it was happening no matter what I did.
How can one snap out of this obsession to prove yourself, Lise?
Accept the reality that they truly do not love you. The person you believe they are doesn't exist. There is no amount of proving you can do that will ever satisfy them. It will never be enough. They will drain you until you are broken, financially and emotionally. Then they will discard you and somehow spin it to make it your fault. Get out.
Yes. My mother in law
I don’t think narcissism is always the case, once woman have been betrayed there will be a shift and if an opportunity was given, there will be expectations for the man to show that they are worthy of it.
This is there playbook. Everyone of them.
Yep, that sounds like my ex, a textbook example of narcissist
...but you'll NEVER meet her standards. The goalposts are always moving. The inconsistency is dizzying & it made me feel terrible. Even small things like some of her likes & dislikes would change once I started anticipating her needs or wants.
so true
Wish I knew all this
Truth
Sad, this is me but why can’t I leave
Do you have a long play version of this? I need to see the whole thing.
Yes she does. Just type female covert narcissist in the search. Lots of victim stories. A ton.
I got lucky-- I took it at face value when she blocked me, and I walked away. When she was done with her excursion, and wanted to meet and discuss, I was not in attendance.
It wasn't easy, but given the profile of NPD, the writing was on the wall. And there is no way I'm going through another devaluation phase--ever.
Yep. Things will be going well, and she will have a sudden, unexplained shift. Your only way to combat it is to end things with her.