"What if I'm just convincing myself that I love my partner?" (relationship anxiety / ROCD)

One of the most common questions I’m asked by people in committed, loving relationships who are struggling with anxiety are:
"What if I’m just convincing myself to stay? What if they’re a great partner but I just don’t really love them?"
These are valid questions, and my response is contained in this video.
You can also read the full blog post, including the beautiful letter from a long-term course/forum members who first join my course in 2006 and has been happily married ever since: conscious-tran...
Break Free From Relationship Anxiety Course: conscious-tran...
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[@lauraj.6401]

I visited that blog in 2013. I was 20 and had just left my family home to move to Ireland to the guy I loved. Fast forward, we are still together. I almost left him so many times because my anxiety was so extreme. I sometimes still visit it. I sometimes doubt everything. The best thing I learned back then was the term “when fear is in the drivers seat” - sometimes you think it’s always in the driver seat but it isn’t and those are the moments you have to hold on to. Fear will never fully leave me, and that’s okay. I can live with her. but it’s important to remind myself that it is always just temporary. It comes and goes. Thank you so much for all you’ve done to me, a total stranger, who was able to choose love ❤

[@wisdomofanxiety]

This is very beautiful to read and receive, Laura. Thank you for taking the time to express your gratitude, and I'm so glad you chose love :).

[@honeymoney23]

what if you've never had those moments of clarity you speak of? just constant anxiety

[@jorklind]

I have a new one: I’m scared to even try any new relationships because I’m afraid of this happening.

[@brideofallunquietthings888]

Thank you for sharing so honestly, it was most helpful to me

[@wisdomofanxiety]

I'm so glad it was helpful.

[@melindagaspar316]

Thank you for your sweet wise words❤️ helped me so much!

[@wisdomofanxiety]

I'm so glad 🥰