Hey man :) I'm glad you made this video and glad that you understood where I was coming from too. I'm glad you talk about both sides of this - saying to have vagina pride or be proud of it and saying to not have vagina pride or to not be proud of your body are both wrong. I think telling anyone to do or say anything is pretty wrong - so I really appreciate you speaking from your own perspective about your thoughts and feelings!
My favorite part of this whole process of transition is that we get to choose how we refer to our bodies, whether or not we change them. I have a mixed relationship to how I refer to my various body parts that many would gender "female" and I definitely have a lot of respect for how people choose to define their bodies, even when it makes me uncomfortable because it's outside of my own comfort zone. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. I think the more and more perspectives we have out there, the more likely someone is to find someone that matches their own, and to also provide multiple perspectives to demonstrate just how diverse we are, even if many of us happen to call ourselves trans/transmen/transguys/FTMs!
If gender can have grey areas, all areas of gender can be grey. If you want to call your bits a flamingo, then they're a damn flamingo. Not everyone is comfortable in their own skin, or confident, or proud of their body (sticking just to the physical stuff here) but it's important that everyone supports whatever and whoever you are and whatever may be different about you. If you're missing a digit, is your hand now a paw? If you're missing a leg, are you now a pirate? Silly examples, but hopefully one day this type of conversation can be just as passive. Kudos to your channel. I landed here having maybe a 5% relevance to any of these topics, but you still convey emotions and topics that I believe everyone can relate to in some way, whether literally or emphatically or generally. Thank you for being brave from the beginning and putting yourself out there and continuing to be a supportive figure on a journey that so many people can follow without putting themselves out to a place they aren't ready to be or are just plain curious whether they can relate personally or not. As long as your wife loves you (and boy, does she!) and you love yourself, you are unstoppable!
I was actually debating whether I should make a video about this, especially with the fact this has come up so much lately with all the (slightly negative) exposure from GirlfriendsTV, but you basically summed up everything I wanted to say on the topic and I think more people need to see this reasonable sort of view. No offense to the guys who want to wear the shirts blasting it out for everyone to see, but that's just not what I'm about and I'm glad not to be alone.
You look young. There is an advantage to waiting; FTM bottom surgery will only get better and even now there are some good results. Also I've seen some odd looking junk on bio men, botched circumcisions, deformities, etc., so if "passing" is important, don't worry.
Thank you! The definition you gave of your wife was truly how I have been feeling. It has been a bumpy road for me trying to figure out who I am and how/who I love or am attracted to. I identified bisexual for years. I was only dating masculine women, and now and then would date a guy. For the last 8 years I only identified as lesbian. Now that my boyfriend has gone through transition (FTM) and identifies as a straight male. He would ask me what I see myself as, because he couldn't date a lesbian woman. That was a tuff question for me because I didn't know who I was anymore. I love him and everything about him. I just don't fit in anywhere. And I couldn't and wont say I am a straight female. So my answer has been I just love the person. Being attracted to masculinity makes more sense. Thank you!
+tana a.r All sexual orientations are acceptable, but I hope you didn't feel pressured to claim you were an androphile rather than a lesbian because of your partner's claim that he doesn't date lesbians or because he is FtM. Lesbians do sometimes get attracted to trans guys, so if you find yourself getting attracted to your FtM boyfriend, you should note that that is compatible with being a lesbian. Also some lesbians are only attracted to masculinity in female-bodied people. Of course you may be attracted to masculinity only, but I just wanted to put this out there because I don't think anyone should feel pressured to be a different orientation than they are naturally, or to deny that they are a lesbian/gay male/straight because they feel attracted to those of the same/opposite sex who identify as being of the sex other than the one they are.
I'm a cis girl, and I really appreciate you making this, because from what I understand, this is a really delicate subject for a lot of trans* people. I'm really grateful for you putting this out there for others to learn from. :)
It makes sense to me. But even if it did not make sense to me, that would not matter, because it is your life, not mine, so you get to decide how you feel about, well, about anything.
Glad to hear your thoughts on this, we've come across what word to call my sons parts but he's declared it a penis and we've just gone with it...he's almost 6.
This is a difficult topic that you handled very well. OTOH, the v and the penis are not the "opposite organs". The part of the body that sometimes grows on T is not the v. I think that several people doing videos have confused this. Also I don't know, I have trouble with the whole "pride" in body part thing, any more than I am proud of my ear. But I guess this is a different subject.
Amazing video bro! I love this and really am impressed with how well you handled the topic! I do have one question. Do you pack? You may have answered this in another video, and maybe I missed it. Thanks bro!
Good video! It's kind of strange and hard to explain for me. I call that area "my junk". I can't call it "my vagina" because it's too feminine and I'll get dysphoric during sex. However, at the same time, if my girlfriend called it my penis during sex, I get dysphoric about that too. I'm not sure why. I mean, when talking about doing certain things to it, I use penis-themed phrases, but when it comes to calling the individual thing a penis, it just makes me uncomfortable for some reason.
I feel the same way you do. Even before T my junk wasn't like cis vaginas, and I never liked it being called that. I call it a penis and it suits me just fine. I might get bottom surgery, I might not. But either way, I think I should be allowed to call my junk whatever I want. I don't understand the guys that call theirs a vagina. I wish we had a third word.
You were well before your time sir..this entire explanation and your story, is so amazing and it holds so true today and I hope anyone needing just even some basic understanding of stuff or themselves even can just get some great info. Love ya dude! Hope your doing well! 💙🤍 Edit: what I meant by holding true is that no one has to identify, or label, or name their private area. It's no one's business first off, and if someone even just doesn't want it to exist to them, that's their prerogative. Period. And their personal business as well..not mine, not yours, no one's but that person's. ♥️ Kk love wins! 💙
this is such a difficult topic for me because i like to use words correctly and when i speak about who i am it sort of contradicts reality which makes me feel uncomfortable. I stay away from technical terms like vagina and penis. I usually use dick or cock because its less formal and doesn't feel biological.
I so understand inside you are a man. I also understand you wanted your outside to match your inside. I am not trying to judge anyone, I am a very very open person and i have known many trans people, but my question is, . if you want the outside to match the inside, why not bottom surgery? I know the sex etc is not the same once you get it. So is that the reason? Just curious.
Phalloplasty (construction of a penis in the case of trans men) comes with a lot of complications because the science just is not yet there. For example, the main concern is that the constructed penis is essentially one flaccid piece. This is why, if deciding on bottom surgery, the vast majority of trans men prefer metoidioplasty (which involves releasing a hormonally (testosterone) enlarged clitoris, urethroplasty (lengthening the urethra to the tip of the phallus), and covering the phallus with neighboring skin. And, really, the penis equates to the clitoris, not to the vagina.
Hey there Mr. Dowling! I am what I guess you would call a MTFTM transsexual if you wanna put a label on someone who found the right blend? I saw a video this morning that made me think of you and that you should be part of such a video. th-cam.com/video/tneKwarw1Yk/w-d-xo.html
I never viewed it like that. Wow, kind of eye opening. I love how open and honest you are about this topic. Takes real guts
Hey man :) I'm glad you made this video and glad that you understood where I was coming from too. I'm glad you talk about both sides of this - saying to have vagina pride or be proud of it and saying to not have vagina pride or to not be proud of your body are both wrong. I think telling anyone to do or say anything is pretty wrong - so I really appreciate you speaking from your own perspective about your thoughts and feelings!
manfish93 rock on, as that is how I approached it and thought of it as well
skylarkeleven u have a vagina too?
My favorite part of this whole process of transition is that we get to choose how we refer to our bodies, whether or not we change them. I have a mixed relationship to how I refer to my various body parts that many would gender "female" and I definitely have a lot of respect for how people choose to define their bodies, even when it makes me uncomfortable because it's outside of my own comfort zone.
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. I think the more and more perspectives we have out there, the more likely someone is to find someone that matches their own, and to also provide multiple perspectives to demonstrate just how diverse we are, even if many of us happen to call ourselves trans/transmen/transguys/FTMs!
I think you worded and expressed your opinions really well in this video. Thanks for being candid enough to share.
If gender can have grey areas, all areas of gender can be grey. If you want to call your bits a flamingo, then they're a damn flamingo. Not everyone is comfortable in their own skin, or confident, or proud of their body (sticking just to the physical stuff here) but it's important that everyone supports whatever and whoever you are and whatever may be different about you. If you're missing a digit, is your hand now a paw? If you're missing a leg, are you now a pirate? Silly examples, but hopefully one day this type of conversation can be just as passive. Kudos to your channel. I landed here having maybe a 5% relevance to any of these topics, but you still convey emotions and topics that I believe everyone can relate to in some way, whether literally or emphatically or generally. Thank you for being brave from the beginning and putting yourself out there and continuing to be a supportive figure on a journey that so many people can follow without putting themselves out to a place they aren't ready to be or are just plain curious whether they can relate personally or not. As long as your wife loves you (and boy, does she!) and you love yourself, you are unstoppable!
I was actually debating whether I should make a video about this, especially with the fact this has come up so much lately with all the (slightly negative) exposure from GirlfriendsTV, but you basically summed up everything I wanted to say on the topic and I think more people need to see this reasonable sort of view. No offense to the guys who want to wear the shirts blasting it out for everyone to see, but that's just not what I'm about and I'm glad not to be alone.
You look young. There is an advantage to waiting; FTM bottom surgery will only get better and even now there are some good results. Also I've seen some odd looking junk on bio men, botched circumcisions, deformities, etc., so if "passing" is important, don't worry.
Thank you! The definition you gave of your wife was truly how I have been feeling. It has been a bumpy road for me trying to figure out who I am and how/who I love or am attracted to. I identified bisexual for years. I was only dating masculine women, and now and then would date a guy. For the last 8 years I only identified as lesbian. Now that my boyfriend has gone through transition (FTM) and identifies as a straight male. He would ask me what I see myself as, because he couldn't date a lesbian woman. That was a tuff question for me because I didn't know who I was anymore. I love him and everything about him. I just don't fit in anywhere. And I couldn't and wont say I am a straight female. So my answer has been I just love the person. Being attracted to masculinity makes more sense. Thank you!
+tana a.r All sexual orientations are acceptable, but I hope you didn't feel pressured to claim you were an androphile rather than a lesbian because of your partner's claim that he doesn't date lesbians or because he is FtM. Lesbians do sometimes get attracted to trans guys, so if you find yourself getting attracted to your FtM boyfriend, you should note that that is compatible with being a lesbian. Also some lesbians are only attracted to masculinity in female-bodied people.
Of course you may be attracted to masculinity only, but I just wanted to put this out there because I don't think anyone should feel pressured to be a different orientation than they are naturally, or to deny that they are a lesbian/gay male/straight because they feel attracted to those of the same/opposite sex who identify as being of the sex other than the one they are.
Thank you!
I'm a cis girl, and I really appreciate you making this, because from what I understand, this is a really delicate subject for a lot of trans* people. I'm really grateful for you putting this out there for others to learn from. :)
Thanks man GREAT and positive way to address this debate.
It makes sense to me. But even if it did not make sense to me, that would not matter, because it is your life, not mine, so you get to decide how you feel about, well, about anything.
bro I think in my opinion u touched the topic perfect on how a good 80-90% of us feel..
Took the words right outta my mouth Ever word exactly. !!!!
Glad to hear your thoughts on this, we've come across what word to call my sons parts but he's declared it a penis and we've just gone with it...he's almost 6.
Megan Martin thats adorable lol
This is a difficult topic that you handled very well. OTOH, the v and the penis are not the "opposite organs". The part of the body that sometimes grows on T is not the v. I think that several people doing videos have confused this. Also I don't know, I have trouble with the whole "pride" in body part thing, any more than I am proud of my ear. But I guess this is a different subject.
I think you should call it whatever you want.
Amazing video bro! I love this and really am impressed with how well you handled the topic! I do have one question. Do you pack? You may have answered this in another video, and maybe I missed it.
Thanks bro!
Good video!
It's kind of strange and hard to explain for me. I call that area "my junk". I can't call it "my vagina" because it's too feminine and I'll get dysphoric during sex. However, at the same time, if my girlfriend called it my penis during sex, I get dysphoric about that too. I'm not sure why. I mean, when talking about doing certain things to it, I use penis-themed phrases, but when it comes to calling the individual thing a penis, it just makes me uncomfortable for some reason.
live your life in a way that makes you happy
So glad you made this video :)
I feel the same way you do. Even before T my junk wasn't like cis vaginas, and I never liked it being called that. I call it a penis and it suits me just fine. I might get bottom surgery, I might not. But either way, I think I should be allowed to call my junk whatever I want. I don't understand the guys that call theirs a vagina. I wish we had a third word.
So would that mean your wife is bisexual? I'm confused
Mind if i shared this video?
I thought I was the only one .. nice video
yo dude i can totally relate, like shit my home boy done good.... proud of yah brotha, so yea...
labas rytas
ups wrong group..
k. bye
God Bless you, I wish you much happiness and good fortune.
You were well before your time sir..this entire explanation and your story, is so amazing and it holds so true today and I hope anyone needing just even some basic understanding of stuff or themselves even can just get some great info. Love ya dude! Hope your doing well! 💙🤍
Edit: what I meant by holding true is that no one has to identify, or label, or name their private area. It's no one's business first off, and if someone even just doesn't want it to exist to them, that's their prerogative. Period. And their personal business as well..not mine, not yours, no one's but that person's. ♥️ Kk love wins! 💙
this is such a difficult topic for me because i like to use words correctly and when i speak about who i am it sort of contradicts reality which makes me feel uncomfortable. I stay away from technical terms like vagina and penis. I usually use dick or cock because its less formal and doesn't feel biological.
I agree 100% with Aydian, I call mine a penis and I'm not even on t yet but I'm working on that
Everything u said in this video is so true
I really think that you have your head screwed on the right way, I like the way you think.
It's clear that you know what you're working with. Now, the next video you can tell us what makes you hard ;-)
I so understand inside you are a man. I also understand you wanted your outside to match your inside. I am not trying to judge anyone, I am a very very open person and i have known many trans people, but my question is, . if you want the outside to match the inside, why not bottom surgery? I know the sex etc is not the same once you get it. So is that the reason? Just curious.
Phalloplasty (construction of a penis in the case of trans men) comes with a lot of complications because the science just is not yet there. For example, the main concern is that the constructed penis is essentially one flaccid piece. This is why, if deciding on bottom surgery, the vast majority of trans men prefer metoidioplasty (which involves releasing a hormonally (testosterone) enlarged clitoris, urethroplasty (lengthening the urethra to the tip of the phallus), and covering the phallus with neighboring skin. And, really, the penis equates to the clitoris, not to the vagina.
I agree 100%! Genitalia doesn't define your gender in the slightest.
I feel the same way
Every*
My wife wanted me to ask if you are a Leo?
His birthday is July 16, he's a cancer
the end, you need be happy with your self.
The title tho lol
I do the same thing
Hey there Mr. Dowling! I am what I guess you would call a MTFTM transsexual if you wanna put a label on someone who found the right blend? I saw a video this morning that made me think of you and that you should be part of such a video. th-cam.com/video/tneKwarw1Yk/w-d-xo.html
we got the differenet country/nation whatever issue buutt im definately flirting you if i ever happen to step on you misterr.. so attractive :D
I do the same thing