They burn bridges, they age badly, the lose and keep losing, they downgrade and lastly people see them for who they're in public as they expose themselves. No contact forever 😊. They reap what they sow as they age and their children will forever be their karma. No rest for the wicked
@@TanyaDavis954If they keep up with the Narc mask for an extended period of time and end up abusing their children because of it, then their children could possibly end up resenting them for it, which could lead to other problems for the Narc down the road, thus the “karma” aspect.
yes.....the chaos and stress for 40 plus years has made me sick. I have all auto immune health issues....and that is forever. No cure...no magic pills....I have to live the rest of my life damaged because of this despicable human being I married...He will probably divorce me soon and he is perfectly fine healthwise....according to him he is sicker than I am..... has every ailment under the sun....goes from dr. to dr. looking for some disease to have and he comes up healthy as a horse. I....on the other hand....have every illness now....I will never be good enough for anyone else . And I think secretly deep down inside he is overjoyed with that. He drained me any happiness....Gosh...where did these people come from???? They are evil!!!!
I will never look at the narc the same way I used to. I took the silent and no contact way out, its the most powerful tool to get rid of these idiots. They do try to provoke you into interacting with them using fake accounts. Just ignore any attempt to respond, all it will do is bring all those raw emotions back. They are not worth any part of your life ever again. Thanks Andrew for your exellent content.
I love your daily talks. Even after a year and a half free from twenty years of horror, my guard walls are up very high, I'll always carry the pain. You keep reminding me of what I survived and will continue to do. Thank you.
I also am about 2 years free, from a 20 year nightmare. It's so crazy how I never saw her for what she truly was until it was over. And even then it took time.
You're not alone welcome to the community Put your guard as high as you want And take all the time you want to heal You only owe to yourself Block flying monkeys Or just change your phone number and get new email if they have it Don't respond to their Hoover
The lies, even though I’m getting educated, it still blows my mind. They push you to breaking point where you react. I regret any reactions I had, it fueled their blame shifting and more lies. Thanks for all the reminders, Andrew, healing path comes with speed bumps, and your reminders help with repositioning.
I can relate. Happened just yesterday. I chose a calm response but the tension they bring is hard to ignore. No matter how soon we spot them, it's never soon enough. They know we will try not to be judgmental or overreact, don't go for it.
@@the-writerofmyownstory YOU ARE RIGHT ! Speed bumps happen through out your healing . We all experienced it !!!! HEALING TAKES TIME !! Give yourself a break!❤️ HOWEVER THERE WILL COME A DAY WHEN YOU FORGIVE YOURSELF!!!’ BECAUSE YOU DIDN’T UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU WERE LIVING!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
The devil eats out the soul of the person that had invited them in. The devil grows while the person's souls gets hollowed out ... into nothing. All that remains is the demon ... and his minions and an agung meat suit. Sad but true.
I was free from her for a year after a 20 year nightmare. Even though i had started to heal and watch Andrews videos, she hoovered me and got back into my life for a month, by pretending she wanted to see the pups (we had 2 chihuahuas that i now take care of). She pet them once and then forgot them. She was back in. They were useless once again. And for a month i let her fuck my life up again. During that time she would be on dating apps, showing me pictures of other guys. It was terrible. Finally she met some guy with big muscles, but, he had herpes. I said get out and never spoke to her again. Im still convinced she has herpes, and god knows what else. Disgusting human being. Thank you Andrew, its nice at the pinnacle of indifference. I thknk i wanna stay here. ❤
It went from "willing to take a bullet" for a Narc to possibly hearing of their demise with a "sad sigh." It's all that's left I'm able to feel. That Narc partner didn't know what they lost.
Sorry you went through that Joe. 😔 Hoping every day gets better and better for you as you continue to heal. 🙂 I can relate to the heavy sigh at the demise. ( Not that I AM looking forward to the demise, just acceptance it will happen and won't be pretty. ) At least you won't be there to watch as it is in progress.
I agree with you very much! They don’t honor anything!! I’m glad I found your Godly wisdom and teachings! You are so right about these abusers! God bless you Andrew; keep these coming; you are needed and appreciated! THANKYOU for the great tips; so needed!!
I'm over the narc, but you are absolutely correct, he tried to take my house as he worked at the bank where the mortgage was, he took my name of the mortgage with the help of his coworkers. After the divorce he tried to Sell my house and put me out on the streets. Currently he screwed himself and is the one responsible for the mortgage. I still live in my home because God watches over his own, WHILE the narc has grown withered up and thin is suffering his own fate. Amen
so glad to hear you overcame your marriage and moved along with out him. God takes care of those who love Him. And God looks over all of us here in this community and knows our hearts and who WE ARE. It seemed like I would never smile again ..( I was suicidal) ...its been a few years and I have healed...and now know who and what I was dealing with......and now I have the tools ( through this channel) on how to survive and have a better life. I thank God for everyone here looking after one another. I feel I can go on and find happiness again. May God bless ALL of you here...
Exactly. I wasted 26 years in his country. I got tired of the many promises that never happened. Then, when he cheated, that was the straw that broke the camel's back. Now, after divorcing him, I have been back home for almost 11 months and my life is so much better. I should have left years ago 😢
Over 3 yrs, post narc. No contact. Had to go dark. Found out from a reliable source, that he had a massive stroke! Had to go to a nursing home. He's 66. Then I was old tmhat almost all his belongings in his apt was stolen, and put in dumpster!! Again, karma is a bitch!!!!
@louiseedwards9589 mine took my health she seems like she's getting away with it even though she isn't in contact with me. Which is still good regardless of how I feel so I can fully heal.
Today is not a holiday but for me, it's a day to celebrate. Six months ago today my husband rolled out of my driveway. He is probably still sleeping in his van or got another woman to use and abuse.
swear to jesus, my ex narc had trusting, loving, honest, caring, bla bla bla, on her POF profile. i just busted up laughing. thank god for words to cover up their bs. she was still hot at 50 when i got rid of her. she needs those words a lot now, because at 62, she was no longer attractive at all.
I've listened to the stories of hospice nurses tell their account of individuals who had lived a life of narcissism. On their death bed the demons show up to take them. Literally, some the stories are terrifying. Lights flashing, screams, howling animals and other paranormal things. The person is aware they are being taken and fight but there is nothing to stop it, as one angry man's lasts words were, "Your not taking me!". This was several seconds after they thought he was dead, but he came back to life, stiffened his body, eyes popped opened in a rage. That was it.
Dear God.....I never gave any of that a thought. Andrew always says if there is a dark side......the opposite is love and goodness. There has to be both. We ...here are good and kind and loving. I grew up adoring Mr. Rogers.. yes that guy....Mr. Rogers neighborhood tv show......I was attracted to his show ....his demeanor and kindness towards everyone. I was laughed at back then for watching it and feeling so good after his shows...I had to watch privately because of the bullying and ridicule. I knew I was different even then.....being young... and I cannot figure out how I wound up in such a torture chamber of a life ! I married a monster and also his entire family. I was always alone ...no one had my back ( my family is dead) so I just took all the abuse from them all and kept it to myself. So after reading this post.....I feel all of them will get whatever they deserve in the end. I know i will see my blessed Mother again...and all her cats she took in from harm....and be at total peace....
SADLY THEY ONLY REGRET THEY HAVE HAVING TO PAY MONEY OR THAT THEY. ‘ RE LIVING IN A DUMP AND DON’ T HAVE A NEW SUPPLY!!!! They NEVER REGRET HURTING YOU !!!!!!!!! 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬
SADLY THEY ONLY REGRET THEY HAVE HAVING TO PAY MONEY OR THAT THEY. ‘ RE LIVING IN A DUMP AND DON’ T HAVE A NEW SUPPLY!!!! They NEVER REGRET HURTING YOU !!!!!!!!! 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬
@@carriedillmann4455so true my Narc ex is 11k behind on child support and in addition owes for back tuition. He knows the money is due but likes to portray to his social media followers that he’s this outstanding person. I really do hope justice prevails.
Ah yes, holiday Hoover season. That wonderful time of year when I get the same text that every woman my ex-narc has ever been involved with gets from him.
Exactly. My divorce is now approaching 1 1/2 yrs and next hearing isn’t til January now. This is because he imploded the first hr of trial and the judge thought he needed a guardian to evaluate his competency. He’s competent but he overplayed and frankly he was just his normal toxic example of frustration…. Just wait til he truly goes entitled ballistic. I tell you he will spend everything we had to take me down . I’m holding firm and now that this has taken so long , I’m watching the flying monkeys getting tired of him. I’ll find peace and be fine in the end. Thank Jesus for His healing power and the warrior angels around me and thank God for you Andrew! Your videos opened my eyes and gave me answers. You are a blessing.
At first it was hard to fathom anyone so screwed up as to consider getting one over on someone who loves them a ‘Win.’ What it is is treachery. Dante put those wretched folks in the 9th Circle of Hell, frozen forever in ice as cold as their souls. Just an observation lol. Thank u Andrew!
I know the shock of realizing they have a kind of OCD concerning competition. Even creepier is the covert competitiveness and you don't know till later! I'm aware now of anyone that leans towards a "one up-manship game" in a conversation. No time for that nonsense.
Yes..I just got hovered with pics of his new grandson. Im not sure what to think of it. Probably a pathetic lure tactic. I just kept my comments on a business type of level but it set me back emotionally. He probably needs money.
You're a good guy Andrew. I'm still healing from and missing the small good side of my ex narcissist unofficial girlfriend she and I were in a situationship for 3 and a half years and I could feel her getting weary of me on new year's day this year and she discarded me in mid/late February. She took all of my light. I am still going to therapy weekly and have had 2 surgeries and have more doctor's appointments to go to. I have emailed her 3 times this year and she only responded once and that was in late July. Everytime I about her I become sad, frustrated, and felt that I had no closure from her and I have been in and out of alcholoholism (excessive wine) I thought about her birthday (7/12) So thank you for everything and now I need to go back to God for additional healing.
Stay with us and Andrew! And stay with God! You'll get through this- at the beginning ( 2 years ago after brutal discard) I never thought I would but here I am getting stronger every day- thanks to Andrew and this beautiful community! Life will be bride and beautiful for you!
Also I wanted to add that famous phrase we all know and we really should live by that: DON'T LET THE BEHAVIOUR OF OTHERS DESTROY YOUR INNER PEACE! So much truth in this affirmation! Love yourself!!!
GOD IS A HEALER OF BROKEN HEARTS., HE SAYS COME UNTO ME ALL YOU, WHO ARE LADEN AND HEAVY BURDENED, TAKE MY YOKE UPON YOU AND LEARN OF ME ,FOR I AM MEEK AND LOWLY IN HEART,FOR MY YOKE IS EASY AND MY BURDEN IS LIGHT,AND I WILL GIVE THEE REST UNTO YOUR SOULS.
You can really see Andrew has so much passion in helping people that are going through this, or to educate others (as he always say - we never do a Narcissism 101 at school). If you are new here, STAY here. You will learn so much pertinent information that would very well save you from years of disappointment. God Bless you, Andrew.
I’ve been no contact for 2 years waiting for my divorce hearing after 29 years and two beautiful children. He dragged it out unnecessarily of course. As I wait for my hearing (which is imminent) I keep coming back to your channel to listen to you. Your counsel gives me strength and reassurance that my girls and I will heal, learn, grow, and thrive. We are over-comers who are doing better now each and every day. No contact is key to healing from narcissistic abuse. Many thanks Andrew. You are an angel. God bless you. 😇❤
My parasite brother who lives with my mom convinced our elderly mother to sign over her half of the house that I bought for her! He Triangulated me with our Mom and she said yesterday if I didn’t sign it over to my brother now she would disown me! She is almost 87, had a massive heart attack last year and now has memory issues and I physically care for her and I still pay for all her utilities.
We all feel stupid about the manipulation, but we didn't know what we didn't know UNTIL we got the wisdom and the education on the narcissistic abusive cycle. Our amazing qualities were used against us - our determination, our resilience, our strength, our hope, our empathy, and so much more. And nothing made sense. Now we know. So don't give yourself a hard time about trying to do the best we could at the time.
He supplied the lion’s share of the cash, not all but more. I supplied almost everything else. It was not always that way. When we met I was a fully functioning human being. I earned my own good wage and had a very diverse lifestyle. 36 years later I do not really know when but it is so not like that.
@ valking3197 You are invaluable therefore no $ value to compare! I'm positive that you couldn't be paid enough for the work you put into him/relationship and the toxicity/abuse you endured. 💗
Greeting from LI NY 💜we are experiencing the calm before the storm, the air is still, leaves on trees are not moving. I could be wrong but I’m associating the calm before the storm with empath anger. We keep putting up with so much craps until the cup spilled over then: Rock and Roll! Make way, step aside! Let’s dance! I know the narc’s house would be flooded. He is so smart let him figures it out. I never turn my back on friends. He’s not a friend of my. We survived Sandy🙏 Going to the beach to look at the waves tomorrow. I’m always at awe how powerful nature is. Be safe everyone. This too Shall past and Thank You Andrew on your devotions of helping us the unsuspecting victims. Namaste to You🌟🙏🙏🙏
Hi Andrew, I used to follow you years ago. While, I have moved on and truly healed from that relationship, wanted to pop in and say hi. Thank you for your help during that time. 🙌
Thank you so much Andrew 😊 it’s true, being a narcissist is their worst karma. I wish them well but stay away from me! I don’t want to have anything to do with those evil predatory individuals!
Oh his realing Andrew he sent me a Hoover a couple of days ago asking "how I am he would love to hear if I'm ok" with kisses at the end of the message well I did not respond. It's been 5 months since I havnt heard from him. I so miss him but I know I have to do this for myself my well being is more important. My healing is a priority now & I will not let him break it. Mine & my kids safety is what comes first.
He’s laughing at you, probably with someone at his side, as mine did. Then he will visit for a few days and disappear, as mine did. He will eat your food and train your children to hate you, as mine did. They don’t get better, it ends in violence and cruelty and it’s more difficult to escape. Keep that door tightly closed as you are doing. It gets easier as we realise how evil these creatures are with no pity or love. Get a better life for your little family, as I did. Wishing you strength and courage for this difficult time. 🩷🍦🍦
Hey Andrew. Just wanted to say you're a pleasure and one of the people that helped educate me on what I was dealing with. I so appreciate you😊 Have a great day! All Praise To The Most High💜
OMG SO TRUE WISE BROTHER ANDREW ! You will not want to be around for the big crash because after you help them again, they'll certainly use and abuse you again and again and again.
Andrew painfully good to hear you. Not a spouse, but a family member. Too too painful. So painful to live in anger. I'll always feel like a pussy for not exacting revenge. I take some comfort in karma. Kinda hope to see it in this lifetime. But I might not. Need to contrive peace. It's okay you repeat yourself. I'm slow to get it🤣ahem It's about justice. Heaven knows so many folks live with all kinds of injustice. Good to hear you affirm no contact, saying nothing. I'm doing something right
Don't you always seem to know, that you don't know what you've got till it's gone. They've paved paradise and put up a parking lot. Oooooo la la la la la
The worst prise for them is not filling the gap inside and when growing old so lonely inside out..they never found "neverland" just destroyd both for others and ultimately themselves. This sickness escalates in socity so its good you learn us tools for self defence. I feel sorry for them since its a psychological effect of lack of early nurturing/bonding problems with mother. They never grow up ! Its like the doll saying...i love you mummy..but never got answers. So they destroy others lifes in rage..never finding the ❤they think they are entitled to.
We all must be responsible for healing our trauma… whatever that may be. Narcissistic people can only do harm on broken or lost people. FIND and HEAL YOURSELF and you will never attract one of these broken souls… ever.
Wow, what a subject... we're watching a little "catch-up" with Sarah Boone... she rejected a very generous plea deal. 🥺 Her narcissism is on full display! She can't admit to wrongdoing. You're right...The hoover can happen anytime... once, just before Thanksgiving, my narc mother tried to 'get me back'. First of all, there's no "back" to go to. There is no relationship with a narc. It is a predator-prey situation only. No thanks, I said. I still have to watch videos like this, though, to reinforce my knowledge of narcissism. Thank you for posting! 🎉
Several light bulb moments listening to this today..thanks for bringing clarity to my current situation..this mental chess game is exhausting..will be reflecting on those.. have a good evening.
The aging narcissist is almost comical in the stupid things that they do, and the pathetic competition in things that don’t even matter. I mean who cares who walks the farthest. Or does an exercise better than you. I mean if you are going for the Olympics it could matter. Now that I have the wisdom Thank you Andrew! I have to laugh at the juvenile aging narcissist who is really a 5 year old child in an old body. What a shame of a human being. Stay away from those needy bastards. They think they are so smart and they don’t know a thing. Don’t fall for the lies.
I would like to think so but mine continues to think he has done nothing wrong despite turning everyone’s life upside down. If things don’t work out he just blames other people.
The huge pricetag is a very good thought and so true! it's like people who live a life of luxury on credit until they go bankrupt and wake up from the bubble and then ask themselves how this could have happened, so of course the “circumstances” or “others” are “to blame”.
It’s taken me three years, but I’m starting to laugh again and feel joy - Andrew cracks me up ( in a good way ) Love his little idiosyncrasies and I know he’s no phoney because of his unmistakable genuine passion and you can feel his personality recollections. For the “78 Record “ (lol) scenario, I came up with “The Hamster Wheel” when I was trying to figure out what in hell I was dealing with. I knew if I didn’t get off that Hamster Wheel I would eventually lose my mind staying with this person ( Not to mention my soul ) - No Love is worth that! Keep up the great work Andrew 👌
Yes.. Andrew! Thank you.. SO TRUE ! Authentiicty is everything for and IS WHO YOU ARE ! not for them sadly (ever) can they authentically understand with TRUE integrity as you KNOW THAT YOU ARE ONCE AGAIN & ALWAYS HAVE BEEN !
I live across the street from a pastor, and I recommend your channel to help his congregation to be aware of narcissistic relationships. Power Persevering in Prayers Psalms 1-150👑🇯🇲🙌
How do you avoid all the narcissists over the holidays ???? I have cut out and cut off all of my husbands narcissistic family members. I finally went through with it this past May. Most of his family are narcissists...some worst than others. It seems impossible to sit a whole day on Thanksgiving and Christmas grey-rocking the whole family. Or giving them the silent treatment. I cannot sit a whole day and not say a word to anyone...... I was home alone last Christmas because the thought of spending a holiday with these mean evil people was too much for me. I had not found this channel until recently. So I instinctively did the right thing. I stayed away..... But I feel I am the loser if I stay home. I did have a sad day home by myself last year, what should I do? . Any suggestions from anyone out there ????
I don’t do family birthdays/holidays any more . I regard it as a normal day and keep well away from the festive fog. Clear out a cupboard, do some self care, voluntary work, go for a walk. Cook, exercise, read, listen to music…………. There are more of us than you think that avoid these times. Narcs use these times to keep people trapped with them by peer pressure. I have get togethers and social events with people I can trust at other times throughout the year. Even if it’s two or three. We can give presents at any time! They soon get used to it.🩷to you.
Give yourself a "spa" day. Soak in a bubble bath, give yourself a manicure, ditto pedicure. Drink some sparkling water/juice or whatever out of a wine glass. Splurge on your favorite foods. Either take out ( possible reheat ) or cook it yourself. 🙂 A few suggestions I have found make me feel better. 🙂
I did that years ago during my marriage when husband and children went to family gatherings I cooked a holiday dinner for myself, having a Glas of wine with it and listened to classic music while eating. You can celebrate yourself on that day and enjoy the Relief and calmness and peace❤
Narcs communicate with a predictable script; either super fake nice or gaslighting, devaluing, terrorizing & belittling. Either way, none of it is real.
♥Mr. Andrew...When you repeat information, it is referred to as the broken record technique in psychology. I have always practiced this method with patients. It is very helpful. Blessings...
The hoover is one of the most selfish things they do. After all the manipulation, triangulation, neglect and blame shifting, psychological and emotional abuse they inflict...they have the audacity to try the hoover. So they can pretend that how they treated you was actually fine. It takes a lot of healing to get through all of it. I'll accept a hoover when hell freezes over. P.S. edit note. I was advised through a third party, after going no contact with the narcissist that they are not physically well AT ALL, and have major health issues. Big major health issues. Me: sipping coffee and grateful for the permanent no contact. If they want sympathy, they will have to look it up in a dictionary.
stay strong my friend.......hang in there and keep listening to Andrew. He is with all of us EVERY DAY because he knows how easily we can divert back to being an empath and get hoovered and sucked back into their web. . My grown daughters discarded me because of their narcissist father....who buzzed around them and fed them lies about me. Sounds crazy...but it happened. Cut ME off without any fights or argument. I didn't have Andrew back then......so they hoovered me back and forth like a yo-yo....giving me itty bitty pieces of hope to cling to ....never really wanting me back....just toying with me, I gave up on them all on my own last year and declined any opportunity to be around them. I blocked them completely .....and moved on with my life. Yep it hurt.....but I have my life back...without drama and the pain starting all over again. I tell strangers I never had children and that is my life. I stopped texting them on holidays and birthdays. It took all I had to go through with it but I see now listening to Andrew there is no other way. I have made a new life for myself and I have no more heartache and misery. One day my daughters will realize I was the best Mother they ever had...but they threw me away . I Have no remorse....and I also sit on my deck with an iced tea and good book and happy to have some peace and tranquility. I am happy for you and hope you continue along this wonderful path you are on now. Love...light and many blessings....
Me discarded by the narcissist? No Andrew, visa versa, I have some wisdom after all this, he failed me, allowed people to rob me and harass me, thank you for sharing 😊
Thank you Andrew. My ex was a huge narcissist. I’ve recently discovered a favourite cousin is too. I’m heartbroken, but she kept triggering me. I’ve gone no contact. New people, please listen to this man. He knows and cares. ❤Andrew
Seeing children grow up with narcissist among narcissists is not easy. After the inevitable divorce : the narcissist wishes bad things for the non-narcissist without realizing that the child has grown from man and woman. Family ties are difficult. I see that with attention and patience for the child’s growth it is possible. ❤😅
This video came at a perfect time. My narcissist is finally collapsing after three long years. "There's a huge price to pay for abusing people. " And oh, does she play the victim card after stealing, lying, making lies about me, copied my techniques, poisoned me, and making passive-aggressive comments to me in front of my clients.
They always lose in the end, destroying everything they touch until they are consumed by their own evil deeds
i call it burnt earth policy. this includes self destruction.
100 thumbs up 👍
They are truly evil people
Yes, the devils in
the fleshes👑🙏🏾📖
They sure are evil souls. Keep going and don't look back ❤
100 thumbs up 👍
Narcs are empty shells imposters con artists frauds ..walking talking in a human body they are not humans they are fake fraudsters 😅
They operate on demonic energy
They burn bridges, they age badly, the lose and keep losing, they downgrade and lastly people see them for who they're in public as they expose themselves. No contact forever 😊. They reap what they sow as they age and their children will forever be their karma. No rest for the wicked
How do the children become there, Karma? Curious is all as I have a children with 1
@@TanyaDavis954same here
How are their children their karma?
@@TanyaDavis954If they keep up with the Narc mask for an extended period of time and end up abusing their children because of it, then their children could possibly end up resenting them for it, which could lead to other problems for the Narc down the road, thus the “karma” aspect.
Because the poor child may take on the traits and the narc curses her bloodline. No one escapes being in contact with them long term
Chaotic evil vessels 💯the chaos is absolutely exhausting
Yes it is!
100% 👍
Yes the rodents will drain you dry always. Be good to yourself & safe yourself ❤
yes.....the chaos and stress for 40 plus years has made me sick. I have all auto immune health issues....and that is forever. No cure...no magic pills....I have to live the rest of my life damaged because of this despicable human being I married...He will probably divorce me soon and he is perfectly fine healthwise....according to him he is sicker than I am..... has every ailment under the sun....goes from dr. to dr. looking for some disease to have and he comes up healthy as a horse. I....on the other hand....have every illness now....I will never be good enough for anyone else . And I think secretly deep down inside he is overjoyed with that. He drained me any happiness....Gosh...where did these people come from???? They are evil!!!!
@@Mermaidshelly Once you see though LEAVE
We need the repetition and reminders. Otherwise we slip back into fantasy and what ifs. Thank you Andrew
100 percent
I will never look at the narc the same way I used to.
I took the silent and no contact way out, its the most powerful tool to get rid of these idiots.
They do try to provoke you into interacting with them using fake accounts.
Just ignore any attempt to respond, all it will do is bring all those raw emotions back.
They are not worth any part of your life ever again.
Thanks Andrew for your exellent content.
Very well said, been there too.
Best Quote I’ve heard that has been helping me is “ Trees don’t hang around with the grass even though they started from the same place .”
Every night i fall a sleep with your voice and your knowledge. I hear you. You are very clear. Thank you.
I love your daily talks. Even after a year and a half free from twenty years of horror, my guard walls are up very high, I'll always carry the pain. You keep reminding me of what I survived and will continue to do. Thank you.
Mine was 20 yrs also.
I also am about 2 years free, from a 20 year nightmare. It's so crazy how I never saw her for what she truly was until it was over. And even then it took time.
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You're not alone welcome to the community
Put your guard as high as you want
And take all the time you want to heal
You only owe to yourself
Block flying monkeys
Or just change your phone number and get new email if they have it
Don't respond to their Hoover
29 years, 5 kids discarded a year ago. Made it to the healing journey and thankful would be an understatement 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙏🏾🙏🏾
The lies, even though I’m getting educated, it still blows my mind. They push you to breaking point where you react. I regret any reactions I had, it fueled their blame shifting and more lies. Thanks for all the reminders, Andrew, healing path comes with speed bumps, and your reminders help with repositioning.
I can relate. Happened just yesterday. I chose a calm response but the tension they bring is hard to ignore. No matter how soon we spot them, it's never soon enough. They know we will try not to be judgmental or overreact, don't go for it.
@@the-writerofmyownstoryTheir lies still blow my mind, too.
@@the-writerofmyownstory YOU ARE RIGHT ! Speed bumps happen through out your healing .
We all experienced it !!!!
HEALING TAKES TIME !!
Give yourself a break!❤️
HOWEVER THERE WILL COME A DAY WHEN YOU FORGIVE YOURSELF!!!’
BECAUSE YOU DIDN’T UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU WERE LIVING!!!!
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@carriedillmann4455 yes looking forward to that day and some peace. Thank you ❤️
The devil eats out the soul of the person that had invited them in. The devil grows while the person's souls gets hollowed out ... into nothing. All that remains is the demon ... and his minions and an agung meat suit. Sad but true.
I was free from her for a year after a 20 year nightmare. Even though i had started to heal and watch Andrews videos, she hoovered me and got back into my life for a month, by pretending she wanted to see the pups (we had 2 chihuahuas that i now take care of). She pet them once and then forgot them. She was back in. They were useless once again. And for a month i let her fuck my life up again. During that time she would be on dating apps, showing me pictures of other guys. It was terrible. Finally she met some guy with big muscles, but, he had herpes. I said get out and never spoke to her again. Im still convinced she has herpes, and god knows what else. Disgusting human being. Thank you Andrew, its nice at the pinnacle of indifference. I thknk i wanna stay here. ❤
they will give you who knows what kind of stds, and do it with a smile.
That’s horrible. Your story helped me keep in mind what these people are capable of doing. You dodged a bullet
She got her just desserts and you are well rid of her ,no contact at all way to go🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Well done,stick in there & keep looking ahead.
they pay every minute of their existence. their own worst enemy, is themselves.
It went from "willing to take a bullet" for a Narc to possibly hearing of their demise with a "sad sigh." It's all that's left I'm able to feel. That Narc partner didn't know what they lost.
Very sad...sorry for what you have gone through..
I'm glad you are here 👍❤☕
Sorry you went through that Joe. 😔
Hoping every day gets better and better for you as you continue to heal. 🙂
I can relate to the heavy sigh at the demise. ( Not that I AM looking forward to the demise, just acceptance it will happen and won't be pretty. ) At least you won't be there to watch as it is in progress.
I agree with you very much!
They don’t honor anything!!
I’m glad I found your Godly wisdom and teachings!
You are so right about these abusers!
God bless you Andrew; keep these coming; you are needed and appreciated!
THANKYOU for the great tips; so needed!!
Keep educating yourself even after you think u healed. It helps you become aware so you see toxic people long before they can harm u
exactly. education is understanding. the worst part of being with one, is not knowing.
I'm over the narc, but you are absolutely correct, he tried to take my house as he worked at the bank where the mortgage was, he took my name of the mortgage with the help of his coworkers. After the divorce he tried to Sell my house and put me out on the streets. Currently he screwed himself and is the one responsible for the mortgage. I still live in my home because God watches over his own, WHILE the narc has grown withered up and thin is suffering his own fate. Amen
so glad to hear you overcame your marriage and moved along with out him. God takes care of those who love Him. And God looks over all of us here in this community and knows our hearts and who WE ARE. It seemed like I would never smile again ..( I was suicidal) ...its been a few years and I have healed...and now know who and what I was dealing with......and now I have the tools ( through this channel) on how to survive and have a better life. I thank God for everyone here looking after one another. I feel I can go on and find happiness again. May God bless ALL of you here...
100 thumbs up 👍
Still shocked i made it through devastation to start over, but thrilled to realize I'm actually just starting...who knew?
We are much better off Without them,, we're Builders of all that's Good,!!! They're Destroyers of lives,,,t.y. Andrew 💯💎💜💜👍👍
So true
Exactly. I wasted 26 years in his country. I got tired of the many promises that never happened. Then, when he cheated, that was the straw that broke the camel's back. Now, after divorcing him, I have been back home for almost 11 months and my life is so much better. I should have left years ago 😢
Welcome back.."home" where the heart is
@@MattyNelson-rs3ik Thank you & yes, home is where I will always belong 🇦🇺
You made it out ❤ Onward and upward, Hun
Happened to me, too, 20 years ago. Back then I didn't know about narcissism. Never regretted to get out 💪
God Bless you, Andrew. Thank you. You are always spot on. Listening to you gives me the strength to continue in my recovery.
Over 3 yrs, post narc. No contact. Had to go dark. Found out from a reliable source, that he had a massive stroke! Had to go to a nursing home. He's 66. Then I was old tmhat almost all his belongings in his apt was stolen, and put in dumpster!! Again, karma is a bitch!!!!
66. Sad , young still.
hes living the good life now! jesus im a sick fu ck. lol
My Narcassist took my money and my health. I am getting stronger and stronger he won’t get away with it.
@louiseedwards9589 mine took my health she seems like she's getting away with it even though she isn't in contact with me. Which is still good regardless of how I feel so I can fully heal.
My health suffered also...open heart surgery. Literally broke my heart.
@teresacastanedacastaneda6555 oh my gosh I am sorry that you went through that, healing, peace and light to you.
Say The narcopath,,not "MY" narcissist. You surely don't want them attached to you.."my" means "yours"
@@teresacastanedacastaneda6555sorry 😢 your heart does break..
You helped me so much in my journey and I want to say thank you. You really did help open my eyes. God Bless you..
Welcome..🙏💜⛰️
Today is not a holiday but for me, it's a day to celebrate. Six months ago today my husband rolled out of my driveway. He is probably still sleeping in his van or got another woman to use and abuse.
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Yeah! Congrats! 🙏🎉🎈🎊
0 contact, and best of luck living in your van. lol
What's that song? "Nah nah nah, nah nah nah nah! Wave good-bye!😂
@@williambowes-xt2sm seee yaaa.... lol
The most cruel one I ever encountered posts on her social media " where have all the good people gone , all we need is love "
swear to jesus, my ex narc had trusting, loving, honest, caring, bla bla bla, on her POF profile. i just busted up laughing. thank god for words to cover up their bs. she was still hot at 50 when i got rid of her. she needs those words a lot now, because at 62, she was no longer attractive at all.
I was told what a good person they are… just vile in reality…..
She posted “all this love used to be love and now it’s hate” she thinks I’m hating on her for staying away lmao 🤣
You're right Andrew...Become the Observer. It tells a lot. ❣️
Sadest part of it all is the lack of emotional support. These pod casts help to understand for healing and self presevation. Rebuilding takes time❤
The narcissist will never change. Their flying monkeys will always be swooped in, rotating on the carousel. They don’t care anything about you.
I've listened to the stories of hospice nurses tell their account of individuals who had lived a life of narcissism. On their death bed the demons show up to take them. Literally, some the stories are terrifying. Lights flashing, screams, howling animals and other paranormal things. The person is aware they are being taken and fight but there is nothing to stop it, as one angry man's lasts words were, "Your not taking me!". This was several seconds after they thought he was dead, but he came back to life, stiffened his body, eyes popped opened in a rage. That was it.
ive watched those vids also. we pass, the way we have lived our lives.
Dear God.....I never gave any of that a thought. Andrew always says if there is a dark side......the opposite is love and goodness. There has to be both. We ...here are good and kind and loving. I grew up adoring Mr. Rogers.. yes that guy....Mr. Rogers neighborhood tv show......I was attracted to his show ....his demeanor and kindness towards everyone. I was laughed at back then for watching it and feeling so good after his shows...I had to watch privately because of the bullying and ridicule. I knew I was different even then.....being young... and I cannot figure out how I wound up in such a torture chamber of a life ! I married a monster and also his entire family. I was always alone ...no one had my back ( my family is dead) so I just took all the abuse from them all and kept it to myself. So after reading this post.....I feel all of them will get whatever they deserve in the end. I know i will see my blessed Mother again...and all her cats she took in from harm....and be at total peace....
I hope so.@@lilfairycupcake
@@KCfan1587-r2uyou deserve better than that abuse, your wonderful, don't let anyone tell you otherwise
Newly divorced from this complete LIE. And yes, he filed & then dragged it out. NEVER again! Thanks Andrew
Hello from Ireland Andrew. I long for the day my narcissist will regret what she did to our children.
My X has to pay for what he did to the kids on my end too
Karma is aging
SADLY THEY ONLY REGRET THEY HAVE HAVING TO PAY MONEY OR THAT THEY. ‘ RE LIVING IN A DUMP AND DON’ T HAVE A NEW SUPPLY!!!!
They NEVER REGRET HURTING YOU !!!!!!!!!
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SADLY THEY ONLY REGRET THEY HAVE HAVING TO PAY MONEY OR THAT THEY. ‘ RE LIVING IN A DUMP AND DON’ T HAVE A NEW SUPPLY!!!!
They NEVER REGRET HURTING YOU !!!!!!!!!
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@@carriedillmann4455so true my Narc ex is 11k behind on child support and in addition owes for back tuition. He knows the money is due but likes to portray to his social media followers that he’s this outstanding person. I really do hope justice prevails.
Ah yes, holiday Hoover season. That wonderful time of year when I get the same text that every woman my ex-narc has ever been involved with gets from him.
Exactly. My divorce is now approaching 1 1/2 yrs and next hearing isn’t til January now. This is because he imploded the first hr of trial and the judge thought he needed a guardian to evaluate his competency. He’s competent but he overplayed and frankly he was just his normal toxic example of frustration…. Just wait til he truly goes entitled ballistic. I tell you he will spend everything we had to take me down . I’m holding firm and now that this has taken so long , I’m watching the flying monkeys getting tired of him. I’ll find peace and be fine in the end. Thank Jesus for His healing power and the warrior angels around me and thank God for you Andrew! Your videos opened my eyes and gave me answers. You are a blessing.
At first it was hard to fathom anyone so screwed up as to consider getting one over on someone who loves them a ‘Win.’ What it is is treachery. Dante put those wretched folks in the 9th Circle of Hell, frozen forever in ice as cold as their souls. Just an observation lol. Thank u Andrew!
I know the shock of realizing they have a kind of OCD concerning competition. Even creepier is the covert competitiveness and you don't know till later! I'm aware now of anyone that leans towards a "one up-manship game"
in a conversation. No time for that nonsense.
Yes..I just got hovered with pics of his new grandson. Im not sure what to think of it. Probably a pathetic lure tactic. I just kept my comments on a business type of level but it set me back emotionally. He probably needs money.
This was a great one!!!! Ty!!!! 2 year anniversary without him!!!! Ty for all you do!!!
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You're a good guy Andrew. I'm still healing from and missing the small good side of my ex narcissist unofficial girlfriend she and I were in a situationship for 3 and a half years and I could feel her getting weary of me on new year's day this year and she discarded me in mid/late February. She took all of my light. I am still going to therapy weekly and have had 2 surgeries and have more doctor's appointments to go to. I have emailed her 3 times this year and she only responded once and that was in late July. Everytime I about her I become sad, frustrated, and felt that I had no closure from her and I have been in and out of alcholoholism (excessive wine) I thought about her birthday (7/12) So thank you for everything and now I need to go back to God for additional healing.
YOU WILL HEAL
YOU WILL SURVIVE
YOU WILL BE HAPPY
LISTEN TO ANDREW AND US!!!!!!!!!
WE HAVE BEEN WHERE YOU ARE!!!!
WE CARE ABOUT YOU!!!!
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Stay with us and Andrew! And stay with God! You'll get through this- at the beginning ( 2 years ago after brutal discard) I never thought I would but here I am getting stronger every day- thanks to Andrew and this beautiful community!
Life will be bride and beautiful for you!
Also I wanted to add that famous phrase we all know and we really should live by that:
DON'T LET THE BEHAVIOUR OF OTHERS DESTROY YOUR INNER PEACE! So much truth in this affirmation!
Love yourself!!!
GOD IS A HEALER OF BROKEN HEARTS., HE SAYS COME UNTO ME ALL YOU, WHO ARE LADEN AND HEAVY BURDENED, TAKE MY YOKE UPON YOU AND LEARN OF ME ,FOR I AM MEEK AND LOWLY IN HEART,FOR MY YOKE IS EASY AND MY BURDEN IS LIGHT,AND I WILL GIVE THEE REST UNTO YOUR SOULS.
Pray that it happens in this lifetime. Let them pay and learn to flee evil, and maybe escape hell!! Your insight is awesome, Andrew!!
You can really see Andrew has so much passion in helping people that are going through this, or to educate others (as he always say - we never do a Narcissism 101 at school). If you are new here, STAY here. You will learn so much pertinent information that would very well save you from years of disappointment. God Bless you, Andrew.
Thank you for sharing..😌😌🙏💜⛰️
If she comes for a holiday Hoover, she is going to get a holiday rejection from me. Best Christmas present I can give myself.
Hello! I can easily spot liars, and future faking, which comes in helpful for job interviews 😊
You have helped me soooo much Andrew.
You truly are a beautiful soul..Gods Angel.
Thank you
I’ve been no contact for 2 years waiting for my divorce hearing after 29 years and two beautiful children. He dragged it out unnecessarily of course. As I wait for my hearing (which is imminent) I keep coming back to your channel to listen to you. Your counsel gives me strength and reassurance that my girls and I will heal, learn, grow, and thrive. We are over-comers who are doing better now each and every day. No contact is key to healing from narcissistic abuse. Many thanks Andrew. You are an angel. God bless you. 😇❤
My parasite brother who lives with my mom convinced our elderly mother to sign over her half of the house that I bought for her! He Triangulated me with our Mom and she said yesterday if I didn’t sign it over to my brother now she would disown me! She is almost 87, had a massive heart attack last year and now has memory issues and I physically care for her and I still pay for all her utilities.
Id tell her fine. Disown me. You're 87. Good luck .
We all feel stupid about the manipulation, but we didn't know what we didn't know UNTIL we got the wisdom and the education on the narcissistic abusive cycle. Our amazing qualities were used against us - our determination, our resilience, our strength, our hope, our empathy, and so much more. And nothing made sense. Now we know. So don't give yourself a hard time about trying to do the best we could at the time.
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Thank you 🎉
Welcome..🙏💜😌
He supplied the lion’s share of the cash, not all but more. I supplied almost everything else. It was not always that way. When we met I was a fully functioning human being. I earned my own good wage and had a very diverse lifestyle. 36 years later I do not really know when but it is so not like that.
He calls me the parasite, he used to call me a princess.
@ valking3197 You are invaluable therefore no $ value to compare! I'm positive that you couldn't be paid enough for the work you put into him/relationship and the toxicity/abuse you endured. 💗
@@mjeff4106 No kidding. As if your time, energy and decades of commitment has no value.
Yes,,,, the light bulb moment is coming after you hear this more than once!!!!!
Greeting from LI NY 💜we are experiencing the calm before the storm, the air is still, leaves on trees are not moving. I could be wrong but I’m associating the calm before the storm with empath anger. We keep putting up with so much craps until the cup spilled over then: Rock and Roll! Make way, step aside! Let’s dance! I know the narc’s house would be flooded. He is so smart let him figures it out. I never turn my back on friends. He’s not a friend of my. We survived Sandy🙏 Going to the beach to look at the waves tomorrow. I’m always at awe how powerful nature is. Be safe everyone. This too Shall past and Thank You Andrew on your devotions of helping us the unsuspecting victims. Namaste to You🌟🙏🙏🙏
The ONLY way to get out of the cycle is to shuv the needle off the record and stop it going round and round.
Hi Andrew, I used to follow you years ago. While, I have moved on and truly healed from that relationship, wanted to pop in and say hi.
Thank you for your help during that time. 🙌
Thank you so much Andrew 😊 it’s true, being a narcissist is their worst karma. I wish them well but stay away from me! I don’t want to have anything to do with those evil predatory individuals!
Totally true , thank you Andrew for this video , I,m very certain now I will not allow a narccistist in my life again 💜🐶🙏Namaste
Oh his realing Andrew he sent me a Hoover a couple of days ago asking "how I am he would love to hear if I'm ok" with kisses at the end of the message well I did not respond. It's been 5 months since I havnt heard from him. I so miss him but I know I have to do this for myself my well being is more important. My healing is a priority now & I will not let him break it. Mine & my kids safety is what comes first.
He’s laughing at you, probably with someone at his side, as mine did. Then he will visit for a few days and disappear, as mine did. He will eat your food and train your children to hate you, as mine did. They don’t get better, it ends in violence and cruelty and it’s more difficult to escape. Keep that door tightly closed as you are doing. It gets easier as we realise how evil these creatures are with no pity or love. Get a better life for your little family, as I did. Wishing you strength and courage for this difficult time. 🩷🍦🍦
Why haven't you blocked his number? You're still trauma bonded. Playing with absolute fire. You miss a demon possessed individual?
@@livelife5890 yes your absolutely right he will be blocked everywhere.
Hey Andrew. Just wanted to say you're a pleasure and one of the people that helped educate me on what I was dealing with. I so appreciate you😊 Have a great day! All Praise To The Most High💜
Got a message the other day from my ex narc boyfriend; Remember, my birthday is coming up !lol🙊🙉🙈😈❤️‼️
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Well he can enjoy it on his own.....❤
@@Plumduff3303 And he will 🤪🙈🙉🙊❤️‼️
OMG SO TRUE WISE BROTHER ANDREW ! You will not want to be around for the big crash because after you help them again, they'll certainly use and abuse you again and again and again.
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Fantastic work andrew
Look at it like you dodged a bullet 🎉its better with time and hindsight is 20 20 😊
Hi Andrew, I'm zeldalane it's a pleasure to hear from you 😊
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Andrew painfully good to hear you. Not a spouse, but a family member. Too too painful.
So painful to live in anger. I'll always feel like a pussy for not exacting revenge. I take some comfort in karma. Kinda hope to see it in this lifetime. But I might not. Need to contrive peace.
It's okay you repeat yourself. I'm slow to get it🤣ahem
It's about justice. Heaven knows so many folks live with all kinds of injustice.
Good to hear you affirm no contact, saying nothing. I'm doing something right
Andrew thank you again. ❤
Welcome..🙏💜😌
THANK YOU ANDREW 🙏❤️💯 FOR YOUR VISION INSIGHTS AND KNOWLEDGE 💯🙏❤️... MUCH LOVE APPRECIATION PEACE GRATITUDE AND BLESSINGS TO YOU BEAUTIFUL SOUL 🙏💖💯
Happy to get away 🎉🎉❤.I left five months ago and no I will never go back .... 🎉❤❤❤
Let someone else have that narcissistic demon and pray that they know fools gold when they see it.
Don't you always seem to know, that you don't know what you've got till it's gone. They've paved paradise and put up a parking lot. Oooooo la la la la la
The worst prise for them is not filling the gap inside and when growing old so lonely inside out..they never found "neverland" just destroyd both for others and ultimately themselves. This sickness escalates in socity so its good you learn us tools for self defence. I feel sorry for them since its a psychological effect of lack of early nurturing/bonding problems with mother. They never grow up ! Its like the doll saying...i love you mummy..but never got answers. So they destroy others lifes in rage..never finding the ❤they think they are entitled to.
We all must be responsible for healing our trauma… whatever that may be. Narcissistic people can only do harm on broken or lost people. FIND and HEAL YOURSELF and you will never attract one of these broken souls… ever.
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Wow, what a subject... we're watching a little "catch-up" with Sarah Boone... she rejected a very generous plea deal. 🥺
Her narcissism is on full display! She can't admit to wrongdoing.
You're right...The hoover can happen anytime... once, just before Thanksgiving, my narc mother tried to 'get me back'. First of all, there's no "back" to go to. There is no relationship with a narc. It is a predator-prey situation only. No thanks, I said. I still have to watch videos like this, though, to reinforce my knowledge of narcissism. Thank you for posting! 🎉
Several light bulb moments listening to this today..thanks for bringing clarity to my current situation..this mental chess game is exhausting..will be reflecting on those.. have a good evening.
The aging narcissist is almost comical in the stupid things that they do, and the pathetic competition in things that don’t even matter. I mean who cares who walks the farthest. Or does an exercise better than you. I mean if you are going for the Olympics it could matter. Now that I have the wisdom
Thank you Andrew!
I have to laugh at the juvenile aging narcissist who is really a 5 year old child in an old body. What a shame of a human being. Stay away from those needy bastards. They think they are so smart and they don’t know a thing. Don’t fall for the lies.
I would like to think so but mine continues to think he has done nothing wrong despite turning everyone’s life upside down. If things don’t work out he just blames other people.
Same here.
I received my 5th Hoover today since it is John Lennon's birthday - of course i went NO CONTACT!
Its crazy how spot on you are about some of the things you say
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yes it will there is a price to pay true
That's right the narc has a personality disorder and you need to run if they minimize the fact that they do
My motto used to be “and she cleaned shit good”. It is now, “ in the end, she saved herself”. You will also.
The huge pricetag is a very good thought and so true! it's like people who live a life of luxury on credit until they go bankrupt and wake up from the bubble and then ask themselves how this could have happened, so of course the “circumstances” or “others” are “to blame”.
Only wish I had the cash to move to Barcelona
It’s taken me three years, but I’m starting to laugh again and feel joy - Andrew cracks me up ( in a good way ) Love his little idiosyncrasies and I know he’s no phoney because of his unmistakable genuine passion and you can feel his personality recollections. For the “78 Record “ (lol) scenario, I came up with “The Hamster Wheel” when I was trying to figure out what in hell I was dealing with. I knew if I didn’t get off that Hamster Wheel I would eventually lose my mind staying with this person ( Not to mention my soul ) - No Love is worth that!
Keep up the great work Andrew 👌
Thanks Andrew you help so mamy people with your on the money insight
I like the saying “You can’t live like a dog and die like a lamb”
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Bravo, Andrew! 👏👏👏. This is one of your best! BRAVO! 🙏
Thank you..😌🙏💜
Yes.. Andrew! Thank you..
SO TRUE !
Authentiicty is everything for and IS WHO YOU ARE !
not for them sadly (ever) can they authentically understand with TRUE integrity as you KNOW THAT YOU ARE ONCE AGAIN & ALWAYS HAVE BEEN !
I live across the street from a pastor, and I recommend your channel to help his congregation to be aware of narcissistic relationships. Power Persevering in Prayers Psalms 1-150👑🇯🇲🙌
Thank you, Andrew, you always cheer me up. In other words, I feel better after watching your videos. Take care, all the best to you.
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How do you avoid all the narcissists over the holidays ???? I have cut out and cut off all of my husbands narcissistic family members. I finally went through with it this past May. Most of his family are narcissists...some worst than others. It seems impossible to sit a whole day on Thanksgiving and Christmas grey-rocking the whole family. Or giving them the silent treatment. I cannot sit a whole day and not say a word to anyone...... I was home alone last Christmas because the thought of spending a holiday with these mean evil people was too much for me. I had not found this channel until recently. So I instinctively did the right thing. I stayed away..... But I feel I am the loser if I stay home. I did have a sad day home by myself last year, what should I do? . Any suggestions from anyone out there ????
Hello. You would have probably felt worse if you had attended those holiday gatherings. Sometimes, you have to choose the lesser evil. 😊
It's only a day..
I don’t do family birthdays/holidays any more . I regard it as a normal day and keep well away from the festive fog. Clear out a cupboard, do some self care, voluntary work, go for a walk. Cook, exercise, read, listen to music………….
There are more of us than you think that avoid these times.
Narcs use these times to keep people trapped with them by peer pressure.
I have get togethers and social events with people I can trust at other times throughout the year. Even if it’s two or three. We can give presents at any time!
They soon get used to it.🩷to you.
Give yourself a "spa" day.
Soak in a bubble bath, give yourself a manicure, ditto pedicure.
Drink some sparkling water/juice or whatever out of a wine glass.
Splurge on your favorite foods. Either take out ( possible reheat ) or cook it yourself. 🙂
A few suggestions I have found make me feel better. 🙂
I did that years ago during my marriage when husband and children went to family gatherings I cooked a holiday dinner for myself, having a Glas of wine with it and listened to classic music while eating. You can celebrate yourself on that day and enjoy the Relief and calmness and peace❤
The holiday mind games start in October 😂 I’m FREEEEEEE
Love your videos Andrew. Thank you for your constant support and wisdom 💙🩵💙🌸
Narcs communicate with a predictable script; either super fake nice or gaslighting, devaluing, terrorizing & belittling. Either way, none of it is real.
♥Mr. Andrew...When you repeat information, it is referred to as the broken record technique in psychology. I have always practiced this method with patients. It is very helpful. Blessings...
It's like the bible you may read it over and over,but the understanding comes clearer and clearer..
@@MattyNelson-rs3ik ♥Yes! Blessings. Amen. Xo...
It is ugly.
I know not suppose to be funny but thanks for a few laughs.
The rodents will take everything and take down anyone they can.
Yes, " play that part again'"..I love it Andrew.
The hoover is one of the most selfish things they do. After all the manipulation, triangulation, neglect and blame shifting, psychological and emotional abuse they inflict...they have the audacity to try the hoover.
So they can pretend that how they treated you was actually fine.
It takes a lot of healing to get through all of it. I'll accept a hoover when hell freezes over.
P.S. edit note. I was advised through a third party, after going no contact with the narcissist that they are not physically well AT ALL, and have major health issues. Big major health issues.
Me: sipping coffee and grateful for the permanent no contact. If they want sympathy, they will have to look it up in a dictionary.
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stay strong my friend.......hang in there and keep listening to Andrew. He is with all of us EVERY DAY because he knows how easily we can divert back to being an empath and get hoovered and sucked back into their web. . My grown daughters discarded me because of their narcissist father....who buzzed around them and fed them lies about me. Sounds crazy...but it happened. Cut ME off without any fights or argument. I didn't have Andrew back then......so they hoovered me back and forth like a yo-yo....giving me itty bitty pieces of hope to cling to ....never really wanting me back....just toying with me, I gave up on them all on my own last year and declined any opportunity to be around them. I blocked them completely .....and moved on with my life. Yep it hurt.....but I have my life back...without drama and the pain starting all over again. I tell strangers I never had children and that is my life. I stopped texting them on holidays and birthdays. It took all I had to go through with it but I see now listening to Andrew there is no other way. I have made a new life for myself and I have no more heartache and misery. One day my daughters will realize I was the best Mother they ever had...but they threw me away . I Have no remorse....and I also sit on my deck with an iced tea and good book and happy to have some peace and tranquility. I am happy for you and hope you continue along this wonderful path you are on now. Love...light and many blessings....
Me discarded by the narcissist? No Andrew, visa versa, I have some wisdom after all this, he failed me, allowed people to rob me and harass me, thank you for sharing 😊
Thank you Andrew. My ex was a huge narcissist. I’ve recently discovered a favourite cousin is too. I’m heartbroken, but she kept triggering me. I’ve gone no contact.
New people, please listen to this man. He knows and cares.
❤Andrew
Seeing children grow up with narcissist among narcissists is not easy. After the inevitable divorce : the narcissist wishes bad things for the non-narcissist without realizing that the child has grown from man and woman. Family ties are difficult. I see that with attention and patience for the child’s growth it is possible. ❤😅
Spot on as usual! Thanks Andrew.
This video came at a perfect time. My narcissist is finally collapsing after three long years. "There's a huge price to pay for abusing people. " And oh, does she play the victim card after stealing, lying, making lies about me, copied my techniques, poisoned me, and making passive-aggressive comments to me in front of my clients.