The covert narcissist is the worst. The gaslighting and breadcrumbing will drive a person crazy. Even during this divorce, a new mask is created and I question my reality and my past....i know what I lived with this man was real, his punishments and criticisms were real, the pain was real.... but boy is he good at controlling the narrative and rewriting the past.
Once we know there is this type of covert manipulator, I'm 100% sure they (or any of the type ) will never drive you crazy again. We know now, the sick game and it had zero concern for your well being. In fact, they "licked their despicable chops" when they had you conned. Sadists!
@BooThing14 my ex is exactly the same. Always the victim. Never contributed to the relationship only took more and more and then some more. Hold strong sister 💪 we know what we went through regardless of how they spin it. I never thought I would get away from him, I truly thought I would die, I was so so sick. Every day away is a blessing, and I feel my joy returning ✨️ 💛 I feel so much compassion and care for you and everyone who has been in this kind of abusive relationship 💔 😕 😔
43 yr old male here. I Divorced a covert female after 20 yrs and 5 children . I would agree with your take . Same experience here. The level of deception and manipulation is of another world. Been out 2 yrs now. I'm glad that she told me I was the narcissist 2.5yrs ago . Becasue I finally started getting the answers and tools I needed to reclaim my life and walk away from the abusive child. Currently I hear about the destruction she causes from the children and they are beginning to see her for who she is because of their own experiences with her.
-- and for you to be them -- yes, and this is WAY more scary to me than the envy they have that makes them take what's yours.... It's TOTAL violation of WHO YOU ARE AND crosses absolutely EVERY BOUNDARY without batting an eyelid. It's beyond abnormal.... It's INHUMANE. And crazy. 🤯🤯🤯
My devaluation started the night of our wedding. No s3x. The next day she was screaming at me on our honeymoon. When we got home she physically abused me. She took advantage of knowing I would do anything to avoid a second divorce and emotionally abused me for almost 5 years. Then had an affair with her coworker planning to have his child while married to me. She discarded me 3 months ago for her coworker hiding that she was moving to his town. Still has her mail coming to my house even though I went no contact, hiding the affair from their job. But I’m doing great now. Thanks Andrew for the daily knowledge!
This sounds like a carbon copy of my life with a narcissist,got blind drunk at out wedding,lay there snoring like a sow on our wedding night and the next day with a hangover, she actually went on to have an affair with a coworker, peace be with you 🙏
I know it’s very hard to deal with the emotional pain and even harder to accept the devastation and emotional abuse. I was there. Your post made me want to encourage you and give you some comfort. Good people get taken advantage of, no doubt. But we will recover, we will bounce back even stronger and better than we were before. Saying those words are helpful to me as well. Peace & Hugs
Dated narcissist boyfriend for two years, then he wanted to move in together. I hadn’t lived with anyone before, thought I needed to to keep the relationship going ‘forever,’ it was on the very day I moved in, devaluing started and never stopped…triangulated for five more years, reverse discard, he went on to marry and have a child with someone more accomplished than I. They quickly divorced. He can’t maintain the masks past a certain point, too much entitlement and anger is beneath and seeps through. I know I dodged a life bullet but lots of pain came with that experience, can heal now thanks to the education I’m getting here.
@@mysterious_billionaire it’s part of manipulation. Andrew mentions it in many videos and may have a video specific to it. It’s a comparison to other people, in my case other females, saying more favorable things about them to me, treating them better with more interest and respect. It chips away at your self worth if done on a regular basis, devaluing, you never measure up.
I broke “no contact” today and looked at the narcs Instagram page. I know it wasn’t the best decision to make, but I honestly felt very little “draw” or “pining” feelings towards her when I saw how she’s continuing to present herself over social media. Pictures of her drinking wine with friends at restaurants etc etc. Really gross behavior that I want nothing to do with. I’m slowly climbing the pinnacle of indifference, thank God above. Thank you Andrew. 👍🙌😁
I appreciate you so much, Andrew you explain everything so beautifully, thank you 🙏 so much!!!!!!!!!!!! You have no idea how much I am grateful and happy to be out of that sick relationship!!!!!!!!!!
@@MarkClay-f6x Hi, I totally get you. I'm female, had 20yrs with him and 4 children. But right now I'm just existing here unloved and used, stuck with eyes now open but desperately don't know how to leave, not him its my kids, my home, my friends, my community everything I've built & cared for for decades! I'm exhausted & my body reacting to the stress been hospitalised twice 8wks. How did you manage to get away?!? Were there horrendous losses?
@balanceskateboarding8807 I'm still healing been stuck here at my house all alone no friends no communication but I don't have to deal with my narcissist any more alote of Grey rocken i have had my days in the hospital more times than I can count continue on i haven't been able to go no contact yet for alote of reasons but it's coming Thanks to Andrew.
Andrew, I actually found an old video from two years ago I made when we went to the city with our daughter. In it I turned the camera on him and I saw the grimace on his face , then a couple of seconds later he sees me filming and quickly changes his face to a smile. Now to me I saw the mask in that video. I saw it. 😔
Yup the last few days I was playing house with them after discard they didn't even try to put the mask on at that point and really got to see the true colors I caught climpses of in the relationship that made me feel like something was off but couldn't put my finger on what it was. I first thought it was lack of respect but finally got my lightbulb moment.
I think the narcissist feels like they need to wear a mask in order to trap their target, then they feel rage/hatred/contempt for the target for falling in love with the mask-the false self. I think that’s why they feel entitled to behave so cruelly to the people who love them (the mask). It’s all very sick and sad. I still miss the man I thought he was. Every day I grieve for the loss of this beautiful man who didn’t even exist. The real him I pieced together after the relationship ended and I got out of the fog, and it was heartbreaking.
@@jswan312 I can see that, and they also see falling for the mask as a weakness. I think to some degree we get blamed for not fostering an environment for their genuine self, when we don’t know what that is because they are wearing a mask-lies. Whatever, if any, genuine self is under there, that’s for them to work on and figure out, yet since they see themselves as perfect already, they won’t…just change masks and supply. Sorry for your pain, comes with believing and having an open heart; you will be more discerning in the future. 💜
It is. Heartbreaking. But they were an ILLUSION. HONEST. LIKE A MOVIE,,, but each day,, reality opens a new view of them. Run. Do not look back. They are dangerous monsters.
@@stephaniepiazzese2602 Hi, I totally get you. I'm female, had 20yrs with him and 4 children. But right now I'm just existing, stuck with eyes now open but desperately don't know how to leave, not him its my home, my friends, my community everything I've built & cared for for decades! I'm exhausted & body reaction to the stress been hospitalised twice 8wks. How did you manage to get away?!? Were there horrendous losses?
@marieeakin8534 It was like I married a stranger. I guess once they get what they want,they figure that they can torture you as they wish. However, they should never underestimate an empath's inner strength. Andrew explains it very well. Now that I am out of it,it is so clear!
I noticed the mask slip many times in my relationship. He was always very critical of his work bosses, claiming he did the job better than them. Eventually it was my family who he started criticising even though they were very accepting and kind to him, and of course it ended up with him chipping away at me, and my self worth. Listen to your instincts, as these are massive red flags 🚩 which I really wish I would have listened to, and saved myself and my family so much pain
My father pulled me aside when we were visiting home. My ex acted like an a hole in front of him and insulted me. My elderly and infirmed father called him out on it and said “hey buddy, yes, yes buddy get over here!“ “he said, are you really talking to my daughter like that? My ex turned beet red, he was 6 foot two and didn’t know what to say and apologized. I was mortified. My father had a fit. My sweet father pulled me aside and said “honey, are you happy?“ I didn’t know what to say. “I said I’m OK dad”. I was so embarrassed that this was my marriage. We had a two year old at the time and I didn’t know what to do. Filed for divorce twice during my marriage -he became addicted to drugs and alcohol two times. I gave up and got rid of him when our daughter was 16. Never saw him again. He died in January from drugs and alcohol. Thank God, these people are truly evil devils!
The last year or so of the marriage, he had such a dark aura around him I just couldn’t shake it off. I knew he was up to no good on the road, and it was reflecting off of him. I had nothing to do with him after that, got all the documents in order and copied documents and told him to leave. They really do have a Horrible black aura around them. Get away from them as fast as possible!
'The narcissist is a snake-oiled salesperson.. That is the absolute truth! Different masks for different people, until they can no longer maintain the juggling.
You are doing a great job andrew informing about what narcissism really is and how hurtful, destructive and painful it can be to be in a narcissistic relationship, especially as an empath. Information is important to get aware what it is all about with a narc. It took me about four years to figure out all the bs I was in. Figuring it out, I took a deep breath and left, even my seven year old daughter had to stay with the sick narc mother being one of the worst narcs you can imagine in this universe. Now my daughter is being forcrd into being an obidient slave staying with her fucked up mother and her new supply boy picked up from a years back relationship. The new guy knows already what a monster my daughters mother is, but he is never the less staying in my house and driving my car looking a big guy with his material things in place, all stolen from me..besides the mother has blocked me from seeing, being with and talking to my daughter. And my daughter being only seven years there is no salvation for her as I see it..its a tough one to swollow for me but I have to face it and fully accept it all as it is. You are right that narcissism is the worst evil on this planet because of peoples ignorance what narcissism is and how dangerous narcissism is...have you noticed that donald trump is a narcissist? Can you imagine a mentally disturbed person sitting in your white house ruling america, and with a big impact on the whole world? In europe trump will be lucky to get just four votes, and I know all four of these voters...keep up your good spirit Andrew
Losing any contact with your child is way up at the top of the Pain Chart. I've posted this before, but Hope is always there, that not all kids can be brainwashed to their core. It may take years, but kids learn, see and remember. With information way more available about Narcissism and manipulation, it just might open the window on her reality one day!
These are literally the best videos on here regarding narcissistic abuse. These are life saving for those of us dealing with it. Every time I listen to one of these, it perfectly describes my ex wife.. exactly. It’s sanity saving to see every single little thing I’ve thought and picked up on validated by another person. Crazy.
I had no idea narcissists existed. I somehow googled something when I started to realize… Wow that’s exactly what happened! I then realized, I was a serial narcissist dating empath. It all finally made sense. Self love and Boundaries are everything to me now. I say the word no and I see manipulation now. These resource robbers truly Do not care !
@@STarWalker8 yes of course that has happened too, if a narcissist really wants to change and they make that choice and they have good intentions, I still believe through God and through therapy it's possible. However unlikely it's still possible. This is based on my simple belief that through God Anything is Possible.
It's so sad anyone who has had the unfortunate experience with a narcissistic or toxic person. I was born into a narcissistic family & me being the scapegoat for everyone. I also become a people pleaser and so many more people took advantage of my kindness. Now I am learning about theses horrible disgusting 😝 snakes 🐍 thanks to all you beautiful bright 🌞 shining ✨️ lights on this wonderful channel ✨️ 🎉❤ thanks Andrew for your videos as they are helping so many wonderful souls 🙌 🌳 🌈
When I think back about my romantic partners I realized through my sister(because she is a narcissist) that I am attracted to narcissists. That thought was an extremely rude awakening for me. I think the reason I was attracted to naricissists is because I grew up with it. Once I realized that and started setting boundaries and saying "no" I became stronger and stronger. And at this point I'm back to liking myself again! I have great friends and a big family and most of us are pretty good people.(Always some bad apples in the bunch!) I really love my life now and thanks be to God that I am finally in a peaceful place!!! And I'm not giving it up for anything or anyone...
I've been no contact with all bullies in my life for years...when I go out to deal with strange bullies in the public I like to attract the worst ones by acting scared/shy then switch it up + scare the living sh*t out of them 💩☕ stay blessed❤🌹
My grandfather and cousin are narcissists. While my grandfather wore his mask my whole life, my cousin's fell off years ago. When I figured her out, I began giving her less and less information about myself. She was frustrated. Finally, she and my grandfather stole part of the rest of his grandchildren's inheritance. My cousin admitted to the theft via text messages, but blamed our grandfather. I went gray rock with him and no contact with her. They thought deaths in the family would hoover me back in. Nope. Now, my cousin is doing a holiday hoover.
I always feel like a million dollars after listening to you. I remember how these narcissists made me feel worthless, always second-guessing myself, thinking I could've made things better. Now I realise that nothing I did would have changed a thing. Despite enduring their abuse, I persevered and now I'm living my best life, while they're left to moan about their loneliness. Karma isn't a bitch; it's the ultimate dispenser of justice.
Thank you Andrew for all your videos. They have helped me the most. A lot of videos talk about who the narcissist are and how best to approach them or what not to do etc but no one talks to the people who were hurt by them the way you do! I’m finally getting over the person that hurt me thank you so much
It was as soon as I had our first child things went really bad. He knew that because I had divorced parents, I didn't want that for my own kids and he just did whatever he wanted. I am 1 year away and finalising my divorce asap. Thank you, Andrew. Of course, empths exist! I am such an empath, it's my superpower 🕊🙏🏻💪✨️⚘️🐦
Your words are exactly the words going over in my head as i was coming to grips with my wife asking for divorce, i still at this stage had no idea but what really woke me up (and almost killed me) was the no closer... I remember saying wtf happened? I couldn't ever get my x to even give 1% explanation or closer. Its so horrible and cruel especially when you have no idea what a narc is....
Yeah I'm so sorry that happened to you, I myself am a self aware -diagnosed narcissist and I apologize for what's going through your head right now, but sometimes they just won't give you any explanation at all! The ultimate goal is to keep you confused and hurt and this might be a future video for my channel , God bless you ,stay safe.
I never knew because I felt this way before,from my mom who’s whole family was Narcissistic,and suicide is a family curse,now I know why my poor sister committed suicide,on Mother’s Day trying to send a message to my mom,and all she could say as we cried in church,just forget about her😎
I'm just glad you were given the "gift" of finally seeing the big picture. Your mom was the epitome of coldness.Your natural emotions survived all of that abuse and still gives me hope that being an Empath at the core is something that can't be extinguished.
@@meredithyoung9200 yeah, that was a good one too 😆👍 (T-Shirt is a good idea, for the moment i have filmed that one sentence on my smartphone 😄) ...making some fun about that serious topic anyway helps a lot^^
Once the love you full in love your finished the evil begins an boy I tell you there only there to destroy you it's there aim to see you in pain any pain gives them pleasure real pleasure it's the worse experancd anyone can go throught in life you have to of lived it for anyone to understand you thank God for these channels an coaches like you Andrew I escape with my life but I was deeply broken there evil beings .....Steve from london
Don't you just wish you'd had the report before you gave yourself to this toxic evil individual. Manipulative, calculating, destructive ....set on bringing you down at any cost. He is out of my life forever....I will never put myself through this because iv reached enlightenment 💜🌟😊
Andrew, you have such a beautiful smile! I appreciate your content and can honestly say that I’m coming to terms with what my narc ex did to me, because I’ve had you explain so much. I never have or never will get closure from my ex, but Andrew’s explanations are helping me navigate to a better place. 🌸🌸
MY narc/ sister ,, is like a OLD BOOK,,, that I have put into a box and brought it to a basement ,, which will sit there!! I & my family are 1st 2nd & 3rd!! Her mask is in the box too!! Have a wonderful.Saturday💯🇫🇷🙏🍁🇫🇷🌿🌿
Thanks Andrew, you have helped me so much to understand what I was going through. Before I knew I was dealing with someone with NPD I was caught in the fog, but I gradually figured it out and went no contact. It was not easy and it took months to recover my confidence and my identity, and I've never doubted I made the right decision. Now that I can look back with my new knowledge I can see clearly and I know myself in a way I never did before. Ironically, I am grateful for the experience because I am more confident that I can spot these people and stay away from them before they can insinuate themselves into my life and hurt me.
Well whether you're in a relationship with a narcissist or not you're still going to be lonely, narcissist love to isolate their victims, loneliness is very common... I'm so sorry to hear that though - God bless you stay safe.
In regards to women & relationships, which I have retired from the game. I found that 18 months to 2 years minimum to wait for the mask to come off. Wish I found this earlier in life than later
Just bring them in the "unknown" territory like on an island for a vacation and you will notice it much quicker. They don't respond well to new environments, and you will see that mask slip day 1.
I used to call the narcissist saying how much I love the narcissist cos when you care about someone you want to make it known occasionally, and the reply I got from the narcissist was "are you okay?" Hope you are not trying to commit suicide? , I was like no I was just calling you to tell you how much I care about you more than anything in the world why would you even think that I wanted to kill myself? , that's how you know that you've been discarded, I didn't pay much emphasis to what the narcissist said and did back then cos I was still in the fog and didn't know what was going on , but Am in a better place now but I still process all these memories cos I can't unsee and unhear those horrible words and treatment.
OMG! They do say truth comments every once and a while. I would hear things like, "you are closer to God than me."…or "you are too nice"…or "Im afraid you will wake up one day and see who I really am" Also, so funny about this all being a game to them. "Wow, my craft must be getting better"…HAHAHA
Maybe this helps to understand Supply: what you are providing. And when it runs out- discard. This is why they have multiple supply to get certain needs met. But then there is the primary who really gets the abuse. Unpaid helper, sounding board, rage fits, gas light, financial abuse they LOVE ur $$$. This is why they get so angry when you say no. They aren't getting what you are supposed to be supplying. So if you go to a store for toilet paper daily eventually it runs out so you just switch to a new fresh store with fully stocked items i.e. new supply. All the while the narcissit, him was grooming my replacement once he saw I was getting depleted & moved in.
When out the other side, making slow progress, it's incredibly difficult to establish authenticity with another. Should you open up, you're susceptible to being looked down upon. You can feel self-conscious for showing feelings. Mocked. Modern society is status-orientated. I live a simple life, yet find myself now trying to avoid a hardened heart, which has compromided my happiness in using a health centre & particular supermarket. Society is full of mixed signals, secrecy & making others feel insubordinate. I don't know if they are a narcissist or just enjoyed playing on attention, but feelings do cause setbacks when you're used to people-pleasing & being invalidated by those who brought you into the world. Thank you, Andrew 🌳
Grateful for this channel. Can't tell you enough how much it has healed and protected me from suffering from before to now and to the future moving forward.
The covert narcissist is the worst. The gaslighting and breadcrumbing will drive a person crazy. Even during this divorce, a new mask is created and I question my reality and my past....i know what I lived with this man was real, his punishments and criticisms were real, the pain was real....
but boy is he good at controlling the narrative and rewriting the past.
Yupp, we’re all terrible and didn’t do anything to them, but give and support.
Once we know there is this type of covert manipulator, I'm 100% sure they (or any of the type ) will never drive you crazy again. We know now, the sick game and it had zero concern for your well being. In fact, they "licked their despicable chops" when they had you conned. Sadists!
@BooThing14 my ex is exactly the same. Always the victim. Never contributed to the relationship only took more and more and then some more.
Hold strong sister 💪 we know what we went through regardless of how they spin it.
I never thought I would get away from him, I truly thought I would die, I was so so sick.
Every day away is a blessing, and I feel my joy returning ✨️ 💛
I feel so much compassion and care for you and everyone who has been in this kind of abusive relationship 💔 😕 😔
43 yr old male here. I Divorced a covert female after 20 yrs and 5 children . I would agree with your take . Same experience here. The level of deception and manipulation is of another world. Been out 2 yrs now. I'm glad that she told me I was the narcissist 2.5yrs ago . Becasue I finally started getting the answers and tools I needed to reclaim my life and walk away from the abusive child. Currently I hear about the destruction she causes from the children and they are beginning to see her for who she is because of their own experiences with her.
Yes we can be phenomenal actors when we need to be, I hope things have gotten better for you though.
They want to be you. And for you to be them.
-- and for you to be them -- yes, and this is WAY more scary to me than the envy they have that makes them take what's yours.... It's TOTAL violation of WHO YOU ARE AND crosses absolutely EVERY BOUNDARY without batting an eyelid. It's beyond abnormal.... It's INHUMANE. And crazy. 🤯🤯🤯
@@Might-l5m exactly very demonic.
@@user-nf79 you project all your good qualities onto them and they project all of their horrible qualities onto you. Blames everything onto you...
I listen to one of your videos every day. It always reminds me why I moved 3 states away 🎉🎉🎉
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My devaluation started the night of our wedding. No s3x. The next day she was screaming at me on our honeymoon. When we got home she physically abused me. She took advantage of knowing I would do anything to avoid a second divorce and emotionally abused me for almost 5 years. Then had an affair with her coworker planning to have his child while married to me. She discarded me 3 months ago for her coworker hiding that she was moving to his town. Still has her mail coming to my house even though I went no contact, hiding the affair from their job. But I’m doing great now. Thanks Andrew for the daily knowledge!
Sounds like you dodged not only a bullet to the head, but complete and utter nuclear warfare. God showed you who she is.
This sounds like a carbon copy of my life with a narcissist,got blind drunk at out wedding,lay there snoring like a sow on our wedding night and the next day with a hangover, she actually went on to have an affair with a coworker, peace be with you 🙏
snoring like a sow 😂 brilliant 🐖
Wow, im so sorry that happened to you! Terrible! Im hoping you are in a much better place now.Im glad you are doing great.
I know it’s very hard to deal with the emotional pain and even harder to accept the devastation and emotional abuse. I was there. Your post made me want to encourage you and give you some comfort. Good people get taken advantage of, no doubt. But we will recover, we will bounce back even stronger and better than we were before.
Saying those words are helpful to me as well.
Peace & Hugs
Dated narcissist boyfriend for two years, then he wanted to move in together. I hadn’t lived with anyone before, thought I needed to to keep the relationship going ‘forever,’ it was on the very day I moved in, devaluing started and never stopped…triangulated for five more years, reverse discard, he went on to marry and have a child with someone more accomplished than I. They quickly divorced. He can’t maintain the masks past a certain point, too much entitlement and anger is beneath and seeps through. I know I dodged a life bullet but lots of pain came with that experience, can heal now thanks to the education I’m getting here.
Thank you for sharing..😌😌💯🙏
What's triangulated
@@mysterious_billionaire it’s part of manipulation. Andrew mentions it in many videos and may have a video specific to it. It’s a comparison to other people, in my case other females, saying more favorable things about them to me, treating them better with more interest and respect. It chips away at your self worth if done on a regular basis, devaluing, you never measure up.
11 years off grid in AK. You have no idea. We all know everyone. I'm sad for them. The new woman.
A lot of pain came with me in a similar situation. Very toxic. Very hurting. Wisdom keeps us 💪
I broke “no contact” today and looked at the narcs Instagram page. I know it wasn’t the best decision to make, but I honestly felt very little “draw” or “pining” feelings towards her when I saw how she’s continuing to present herself over social media. Pictures of her drinking wine with friends at restaurants etc etc. Really gross behavior that I want nothing to do with. I’m slowly climbing the pinnacle of indifference, thank God above. Thank you Andrew. 👍🙌😁
Everyone's path is different😊
@@JLswatchthis True. Thanks for the comment, friend. 💪
I looked at a reel they projected at me on Facebook and a short on TH-cam.
I got annoyed again.
Got to stop doing it.
Trying not to beat myself up.
Hang in there. You will get there. It takes time, but you will!!
I appreciate you so much, Andrew you explain everything so beautifully, thank you 🙏 so much!!!!!!!!!!!! You have no idea how much I am grateful and happy to be out of that sick relationship!!!!!!!!!!
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How they make you feel says a lot about them and nothing about you.
Thank you Andrew!
...beautiful 🍁🍂💚🍁🍃
I have had my share of hospital stays and now I know why?
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Hi, I totally get you. I'm female, had 20yrs with him and 4 children. But right now I'm just existing here unloved and used, stuck with eyes now open but desperately don't know how to leave, not him its my kids, my home, my friends, my community everything I've built & cared for for decades! I'm exhausted & my body reacting to the stress been hospitalised twice 8wks. How did you manage to get away?!? Were there horrendous losses?
@balanceskateboarding8807 I'm still healing been stuck here at my house all alone no friends no communication but I don't have to deal with my narcissist any more alote of Grey rocken i have had my days in the hospital more times than I can count continue on i haven't been able to go no contact yet for alote of reasons but it's coming
Thanks to Andrew.
Andrew, I actually found an old video from two years ago I made when we went to the city with our daughter. In it I turned the camera on him and I saw the grimace on his face , then a couple of seconds later he sees me filming and quickly changes his face to a smile. Now to me I saw the mask in that video. I saw it. 😔
I saw a same video after we broke up in my phone. It was so unsettling!
Yup the last few days I was playing house with them after discard they didn't even try to put the mask on at that point and really got to see the true colors I caught climpses of in the relationship that made me feel like something was off but couldn't put my finger on what it was. I first thought it was lack of respect but finally got my lightbulb moment.
"Which goes on anyway..." It all goes on anyway... You can do everything they wanted, and still come up short.
a lose lose lose endeavor.
Absolutely, not worth it.
I think the narcissist feels like they need to wear a mask in order to trap their target, then they feel rage/hatred/contempt for the target for falling in love with the mask-the false self. I think that’s why they feel entitled to behave so cruelly to the people who love them (the mask). It’s all very sick and sad. I still miss the man I thought he was. Every day I grieve for the loss of this beautiful man who didn’t even exist. The real him I pieced together after the relationship ended and I got out of the fog, and it was heartbreaking.
I'm so so sorry that happened to you, I'm a self-aware diagnosed narcissist, I need to cover this on my channel as well, please take care God bless.
@@jswan312 I can see that, and they also see falling for the mask as a weakness. I think to some degree we get blamed for not fostering an environment for their genuine self, when we don’t know what that is because they are wearing a mask-lies. Whatever, if any, genuine self is under there, that’s for them to work on and figure out, yet since they see themselves as perfect already, they won’t…just change masks and supply. Sorry for your pain, comes with believing and having an open heart; you will be more discerning in the future. 💜
It is. Heartbreaking. But they were an ILLUSION. HONEST. LIKE A MOVIE,,, but each day,, reality opens a new view of them. Run. Do not look back. They are dangerous monsters.
Same. I deeply understand this 💔
@@stephaniepiazzese2602
Hi, I totally get you. I'm female, had 20yrs with him and 4 children. But right now I'm just existing, stuck with eyes now open but desperately don't know how to leave, not him its my home, my friends, my community everything I've built & cared for for decades! I'm exhausted & body reaction to the stress been hospitalised twice 8wks. How did you manage to get away?!? Were there horrendous losses?
The mask slipped on our wedding day. It was the worst day of my life! How did everybody see what I didn't?
Same thing happened to me, that day the mask fell off
Same here....the wedding day!!!
Andrew mentions this frequently.
Devastating right??? 👍🙏❤💥
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@marieeakin8534 It was like I married a stranger. I guess once they get what they want,they figure that they can torture you as they wish. However, they should never underestimate an empath's inner strength. Andrew explains it very well. Now that I am out of it,it is so clear!
@@Terbear27 I am sorry that this happened to you too. I hope that you are healing and doing well.
@@lired70 so true!!!
I noticed the mask slip many times in my relationship. He was always very critical of his work bosses, claiming he did the job better than them. Eventually it was my family who he started criticising even though they were very accepting and kind to him, and of course it ended up with him chipping away at me, and my self worth. Listen to your instincts, as these are massive red flags 🚩 which I really wish I would have listened to, and saved myself and my family so much pain
My father pulled me aside when we were visiting home. My ex acted like an a hole in front of him and insulted me. My elderly and infirmed father called him out on it and said “hey buddy, yes, yes buddy get over here!“ “he said, are you really talking to my daughter like that? My ex turned beet red, he was 6 foot two and didn’t know what to say and apologized. I was mortified.
My father had a fit. My sweet father pulled me aside and said “honey, are you happy?“
I didn’t know what to say. “I said I’m OK dad”. I was so embarrassed that this was my marriage. We had a two year old at the time and I didn’t know what to do. Filed for divorce twice during my marriage -he became addicted to drugs and alcohol two times. I gave up and got rid of him when our daughter was 16. Never saw him again. He died in January from drugs and alcohol. Thank God, these people are truly evil devils!
They are always critical of others.🚩which means that you're next 🚩
@@DH-tp1it well done for having the strength to leave 💪
The last year or so of the marriage, he had such a dark aura around him I just couldn’t shake it off. I knew he was up to no good on the road, and it was reflecting off of him. I had nothing to do with him after that, got all the documents in order and copied documents and told him to leave. They really do have a Horrible black aura around them. Get away from them as fast as possible!
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'The narcissist is a snake-oiled salesperson.. That is the absolute truth! Different masks for different people, until they can no longer maintain the juggling.
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You are doing a great job andrew informing about what narcissism really is and how hurtful, destructive and painful it can be to be in a narcissistic relationship, especially as an empath. Information is important to get aware what it is all about with a narc. It took me about four years to figure out all the bs I was in. Figuring it out, I took a deep breath and left, even my seven year old daughter had to stay with the sick narc mother being one of the worst narcs you can imagine in this universe. Now my daughter is being forcrd into being an obidient slave staying with her fucked up mother and her new supply boy picked up from a years back relationship. The new guy knows already what a monster my daughters mother is, but he is never the less staying in my house and driving my car looking a big guy with his material things in place, all stolen from me..besides the mother has blocked me from seeing, being with and talking to my daughter. And my daughter being only seven years there is no salvation for her as I see it..its a tough one to swollow for me but I have to face it and fully accept it all as it is. You are right that narcissism is the worst evil on this planet because of peoples ignorance what narcissism is and how dangerous narcissism is...have you noticed that donald trump is a narcissist? Can you imagine a mentally disturbed person sitting in your white house ruling america, and with a big impact on the whole world? In europe trump will be lucky to get just four votes, and I know all four of these voters...keep up your good spirit Andrew
Losing any contact with your child is way up at the top of the Pain Chart. I've posted this before,
but Hope is always there, that not all kids can be brainwashed to their core. It may take years, but
kids learn, see and remember. With information way more available about Narcissism and manipulation, it just might open the window on her reality one day!
These are literally the best videos on here regarding narcissistic abuse. These are life saving for those of us dealing with it. Every time I listen to one of these, it perfectly describes my ex wife.. exactly. It’s sanity saving to see every single little thing I’ve thought and picked up on validated by another person. Crazy.
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I had no idea narcissists existed. I somehow googled something when I started to realize…
Wow that’s exactly what happened! I then realized, I was a serial narcissist dating empath.
It all finally made sense.
Self love and Boundaries are everything to me now. I say the word no and I see manipulation now. These resource robbers truly
Do not care !
This whole video is a reality heck HEEEEEYYYYYY. THX ANDREW
I tried to warn the next victim 🤷🏼♀️! Never doing that again. She will find out. They never change.
Yeah they can change it's very difficult though, it takes a long time and therapy.
Why what happens??
I did that with various people over several years.
Ended up in even more difficulty.
Never again.
@@NarcissistHex-nf9eqI don't think that works either. They just end up charming and possibly playing the therapist.
Yep I mean sex.
@@STarWalker8 yes of course that has happened too, if a narcissist really wants to change and they make that choice and they have good intentions, I still believe through God and through therapy it's possible. However unlikely it's still possible. This is based on my simple belief that through God Anything is Possible.
They have no substance. Nothing will ever happen. Nothing will ever change,
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Great informative pep talk, Andrew! You're a true Galacric Professor!✨️🌟
As always, you are spot on!!!!! Thank you so very much, Andrew !!!! 🙏
It's so sad anyone who has had the unfortunate experience with a narcissistic or toxic person. I was born into a narcissistic family & me being the scapegoat for everyone. I also become a people pleaser and so many more people took advantage of my kindness. Now I am learning about theses horrible disgusting 😝 snakes 🐍 thanks to all you beautiful bright 🌞 shining ✨️ lights on this wonderful channel ✨️ 🎉❤ thanks Andrew for your videos as they are helping so many wonderful souls 🙌 🌳 🌈
Back to keep my cup full. Thanks, Andrew.
Welcome..😊🙏💜
Looking back it was all about the 🎭🎭 empty vessels,,they are a prime target for demons, IMO,,,
T.Y. Andrew,,,💎💜💜🙏🙏
High five.....I'm with you! 👍👍👍
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When I think back about my romantic partners I realized through my sister(because she is a narcissist) that I am attracted to narcissists. That thought was an extremely rude awakening for me. I think the reason I was attracted to naricissists is because I grew up with it. Once I realized that and started setting boundaries and saying "no" I became stronger and stronger. And at this point I'm back to liking myself again! I have great friends and a big family and most of us are pretty good people.(Always some bad apples in the bunch!) I really love my life now and thanks be to God that I am finally in a peaceful place!!! And I'm not giving it up for anything or anyone...
Amen!🙏
For the sake of God ,and others ,the truth must be told. Thanks Andrew. You are a bright shinning light.🕯
Yes👍👍👍🙏
Amen! 👍💥🙏❤
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I've been no contact with all bullies in my life for years...when I go out to deal with strange bullies in the public I like to attract the worst ones by acting scared/shy then switch it up + scare the living sh*t out of them 💩☕ stay blessed❤🌹
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I wish I knew how to do that.
Great video Andrew 🙌. Love your location. Beautiful lighting in the background. God bless
Stay strong everyone ☀️
Brilliant film thanks for the daily output andrew it really helps healing ❤❤ much appreciated it's a life saver
My grandfather and cousin are narcissists. While my grandfather wore his mask my whole life, my cousin's fell off years ago. When I figured her out, I began giving her less and less information about myself. She was frustrated. Finally, she and my grandfather stole part of the rest of his grandchildren's inheritance. My cousin admitted to the theft via text messages, but blamed our grandfather. I went gray rock with him and no contact with her. They thought deaths in the family would hoover me back in. Nope. Now, my cousin is doing a holiday hoover.
Thanks Andrew. I hope helping others blesses you!
I’m so grateful I made it out of this awful relationship. I was totally taken in
It's amazing how you explain these people and how they all do the same thing 🤡
Thank you for the work that you do and helping us to heal💛☀️💪🏻🤍
It really is amazing how they have the same behaviors.
I always feel like a million dollars after listening to you. I remember how these narcissists made me feel worthless, always second-guessing myself, thinking I could've made things better. Now I realise that nothing I did would have changed a thing. Despite enduring their abuse, I persevered and now I'm living my best life, while they're left to moan about their loneliness. Karma isn't a bitch; it's the ultimate dispenser of justice.
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P.s. absolutely excellent video Andrew,,,t.y.👏👏💎💜🙏🙏🌟
Have a fun day Flower 👍❤🙏💥
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@@marieeakin8534you too Marie,🤗💖💖💖🌺🙏
Wow. At the 13 minute mark is sooooooo on point!,,!!!!! ☹️☹️☹️☹️. Learned something new. 😓😓😓😓
Thank you Andrew for all your videos. They have helped me the most. A lot of videos talk about who the narcissist are and how best to approach them or what not to do etc but no one talks to the people who were hurt by them the way you do! I’m finally getting over the person that hurt me thank you so much
Glimpses of truth. Yeah, I had them. Do not ever distrust your guts, empaths.
It was as soon as I had our first child things went really bad. He knew that because I had divorced parents, I didn't want that for my own kids and he just did whatever he wanted.
I am 1 year away and finalising my divorce asap.
Thank you, Andrew. Of course, empths exist! I am such an empath, it's my superpower 🕊🙏🏻💪✨️⚘️🐦
CONGRATULATIONS !!!
Have a HAPPY LIFE WITHOUT THE NARC!!!!
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Good for you,,I'm very happy for you,,👍🤗💖💖💖
Your words are exactly the words going over in my head as i was coming to grips with my wife asking for divorce, i still at this stage had no idea but what really woke me up (and almost killed me) was the no closer... I remember saying wtf happened? I couldn't ever get my x to even give 1% explanation or closer. Its so horrible and cruel especially when you have no idea what a narc is....
Yeah I'm so sorry that happened to you, I myself am a self aware -diagnosed narcissist and I apologize for what's going through your head right now, but sometimes they just won't give you any explanation at all! The ultimate goal is to keep you confused and hurt and this might be a future video for my channel , God bless you ,stay safe.
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Thank you again NARCDAILY 🙏
Thankyou Andrew you have helped me emensely. Blessing to you.
"IT'S JUST AMAZING"
RIGHT?
WRONG
Thanks again for the insight Andrew 🙏
I never knew because I felt this way before,from my mom who’s whole family was Narcissistic,and suicide is a family curse,now I know why my poor sister committed suicide,on Mother’s Day trying to send a message to my mom,and all she could say as we cried in church,just forget about her😎
I'm just glad you were given the "gift" of finally seeing the big picture. Your mom was the epitome
of coldness.Your natural emotions survived all of that abuse and still gives me hope that being
an Empath at the core is something that can't be extinguished.
Your the best Andrew!
Mine hooked up with another narcissist.
THIS.
Mine did to , they are perfect for each other, feed off there toxicity
He! He! Watch the feathers 🪶
Much love Andrew. This was exactly how it was. 😢
Thanks Andrew💜. Please speak on how to escape. 🙏🙏🙏
Yes....Thats all I can say....Yes!!
Love your voice and enthusiasm in your saying,"goodbye everybody!" That's adorable! There's a happiness in your voice. ❤
@NARCDAILY -You Are Not Alone thx for your work! The Concept of getting to the "Pinnacle of indifference" is more than helpful advice 🙏
The narcissists life sucks so bad. I can’t even believe I wanted that for myself. Thanks for the reminders Andrew ❤
Welcome..🙏💯💜
Elles, ils n'ont pas de vie, ce sont des entités apparences...
Thank you for another great upload Andrew 🙏🏿🎈
Interesting topic. Thx big time for every video.
Thank you Andrew and tribe. Fighting off scammers so disgusting. I'm too old for this.❣️
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"....the narcissist is a snake-oil sales person" That`s pure Gold 🤣👍 12:25
He has so many amazing one liners…we need to make T-shirts.
I LOLLED at "Wow..This only took 2 months..I must be getting better at my craft"..haha
@@meredithyoung9200 yeah, that was a good one too 😆👍 (T-Shirt is a good idea, for the moment i have filmed that one sentence on my smartphone 😄) ...making some fun about that serious topic anyway helps a lot^^
Bless you Andrew! Your videos are amazing and so helpful!! Thank you so much.
Thank you Andrew for your informative videos. I'm sharing them in the hope that it can save people from these toxic individuals.
It’s exactly like you are telling us. Thanks mate 🙏
I don’t mind being alone but it is difficult
Right
It will get easier. Hang in there ❤
Once the love you full in love your finished the evil begins an boy I tell you there only there to destroy you it's there aim to see you in pain any pain gives them pleasure real pleasure it's the worse experancd anyone can go throught in life you have to of lived it for anyone to understand you thank God for these channels an coaches like you Andrew I escape with my life but I was deeply broken there evil beings .....Steve from london
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Don't you just wish you'd had the report before you gave yourself to this toxic evil individual. Manipulative, calculating, destructive ....set on bringing you down at any cost. He is out of my life forever....I will never put myself through this because iv reached enlightenment 💜🌟😊
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Narcissists are all things demonic 👿. Power Persevering in Prayers Psalms 1-150🇯🇲👑🙏🤲
Amazing video! True words!
Andrew, you have such a beautiful smile! I appreciate your content and can honestly say that I’m coming to terms with what my narc ex did to me, because I’ve had you explain so much. I never have or never will get closure from my ex, but Andrew’s explanations are helping me navigate to a better place. 🌸🌸
MY narc/ sister ,, is like a OLD BOOK,,, that I have put into a box and brought it to a basement ,, which will sit there!! I & my family are 1st 2nd & 3rd!! Her mask is in the box too!! Have a wonderful.Saturday💯🇫🇷🙏🍁🇫🇷🌿🌿
Thanks Andrew, you have helped me so much to understand what I was going through. Before I knew I was dealing with someone with NPD I was caught in the fog, but I gradually figured it out and went no contact. It was not easy and it took months to recover my confidence and my identity, and I've never doubted I made the right decision. Now that I can look back with my new knowledge I can see clearly and I know myself in a way I never did before. Ironically, I am grateful for the experience because I am more confident that I can spot these people and stay away from them before they can insinuate themselves into my life and hurt me.
Welcome..😌💯🙏
Snickerdoodles LOL😂👶
I understand this. It is hard to let go completely. I am going to though.
Well whether you're in a relationship with a narcissist or not you're still going to be lonely, narcissist love to isolate their victims, loneliness is very common... I'm so sorry to hear that though - God bless you stay safe.
they posses many masks
and its all a act.
Thank you
Andrew said hood winked 😂 I wasn't expecting that yes thats exactly what happened.
In regards to women & relationships, which I have retired from the game. I found that 18 months to 2 years minimum to wait for the mask to come off. Wish I found this earlier in life than later
Just bring them in the "unknown" territory like on an island for a vacation and you will notice it much quicker. They don't respond well to new environments, and you will see that mask slip day 1.
I used to call the narcissist saying how much I love the narcissist cos when you care about someone you want to make it known occasionally, and the reply I got from the narcissist was "are you okay?" Hope you are not trying to commit suicide? , I was like no I was just calling you to tell you how much I care about you more than anything in the world why would you even think that I wanted to kill myself? , that's how you know that you've been discarded, I didn't pay much emphasis to what the narcissist said and did back then cos I was still in the fog and didn't know what was going on , but Am in a better place now but I still process all these memories cos I can't unsee and unhear those horrible words and treatment.
That's one agenda- a Narc wants to ram you into the "You're the crazy, unstable one," pigeon hole.
And you walk away thinking, "What??"
I had the same experience, absolute evil. Glad you are in a better place now. ❤️
I thought he’d spoken to my best friend 😢
Do you think they know who they could get away with it and others who set boundaries, they leave alone.
Thank you Andrew for your time 🎉
OMG! They do say truth comments every once and a while. I would hear things like, "you are closer to God than me."…or "you are too nice"…or "Im afraid you will wake up one day and see who I really am"
Also, so funny about this all being a game to them. "Wow, my craft must be getting better"…HAHAHA
Word
Maybe this helps to understand
Supply: what you are providing. And when it runs out- discard. This is why they have multiple supply to get certain needs met. But then there is the primary who really gets the abuse. Unpaid helper, sounding board, rage fits, gas light, financial abuse they LOVE ur $$$. This is why they get so angry when you say no. They aren't getting what you are supposed to be supplying. So if you go to a store for toilet paper daily eventually it runs out so you just switch to a new fresh store with fully stocked items i.e. new supply. All the while the narcissit, him was grooming my replacement once he saw I was getting depleted & moved in.
NO CONTACT!!!! 👍🦋❤️
Very insightful. Thanks.
So very disturbing 😢. Glad it is all over with!
Why though? Why do they want you to invest so much time into draining someone dry? I mean yeeeaarss
Hi Andrew ❤🎉
The most challenging of my life 😢
Are you safe and narcissist-free now?
Phantom of The Demonics Opera.
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Question: if the narcissist cannot maintain the mask, do they ever turn on the flying monkeys and enablers as a result?
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It is so nice to listen to Andrew's videos and see his happy smile at the end.
🙏, MMmmm
I'm not sure if these kids are really my kids?
They are the innocents!
Thank you Andrew. You have helped me so much. ❤
Andrew can you please say more about object constancy and the lack thereof for narcissists?
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Hair cut 💇 😊😊
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When out the other side, making slow progress, it's incredibly difficult to establish authenticity with another. Should you open up, you're susceptible to being looked down upon. You can feel self-conscious for showing feelings. Mocked. Modern society is status-orientated. I live a simple life, yet find myself now trying to avoid a hardened heart, which has compromided my happiness in using a health centre & particular supermarket. Society is full of mixed signals, secrecy & making others feel insubordinate. I don't know if they are a narcissist or just enjoyed playing on attention, but feelings do cause setbacks when you're used to people-pleasing & being invalidated by those who brought you into the world.
Thank you, Andrew 🌳
Grateful for this channel. Can't tell you enough how much it has healed and protected me from suffering from before to now and to the future moving forward.
Estupendo Andrew❤
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